If a woman wrote in saying she did all those things for her boyfriend, bought him a bycicle and gym membership and supplements, cooked meals for him twice a day, only to find out he still just buys junk food every day (essentially lying to her), I am sure she'd be very sympathetic and understanding for the guy, and certainly would not recommend the girl break up with him to find someone that appreciates her and takes care of himself 🙄
I know from your stand up that Nia doesn’t have it easy with you, but hearing her reactions on multiple occasions, and you trying to calm her down, to overpass the emotions and see things from another perspective, I’d say you two complete each other perfectly.
I love hearing you two talk. It is the best! Thank you for showing people how to work through disagreements. Thank you thank you thank you This is what we need right now.
I agree with the guy. 24 years old and gained 60-70 lbs. Smoking weed every night and eating like that. No excuses. He should have stayed the course and not used the jowl/saggy title language. He does care about her health or he'd blow her off and cheat. He's cooking her 2 meals a day for her, paying for supplements, gym. Come on man.... Nia is THE BEST.
Mia’s completely missing the point. Let’s just say the guy met the girl and he had a really great job, paid the bills, emotionally supportive. A couple years later he gradually stops doing all of those things and lies about looking for a job and starts doing drugs daily. Not ok. She’s taking this guy for granted and she probably expects him to be attracted to her even though she’s not attracted to herself. As a nurse that weight gain a short amount of time is very dangerous. I’d leave her. She’s a lied to his face for a year. She handles stress in a destructive way and expects him to pick up the pieces. Majority of us women are so emotional and it crowds sound judgement. This is why I laugh at women saying “we run the world” 😒
@@bambilotto This is such a great take. It's well-reasoned. People get a little out of shape, don't like the way they look, and get incredibly defensive about it. It's their insecurities exploding out of them. Like Nia just did. But, honestly, if you are not taking care of your business and expecting your partner to pick up the pieces, that is such an unhealthy expectation. Both men and women do that, and it's always unfair.
Yeah, if he's have stayed away from the jowls, he would be much more sympathetic. But the woman has a legit problem, whether it's her job or something else, and it's killing her. 60-70 lbs is no joke. For most people, anything over 20 lbs is significant.
I normally love Nia's input, shes funny and quick and a good counterbalance to bill, but i could not finish this one. She became so irrationally angry that the conversation was over before it began. Bill calmed her down but she might need to look at this one again and see how she feels about it from a fresh start. Love Nia but it was frustrating listening to her go out of her way to excuse alll the chicks flaws, the biggest of which was the lying and sneaking, and then ignore all the dude did for his girlfriend. I love the show and will keep listening and looking forward to hearing more of Nia. Cant write someone off for one conversation i didnt like.
It's not shallow at all Nia. Dude literally TRIED to help her lose weight because he didn't find it attractive. He cooked for her and made her lunches, just to find out she's throwing them away for a McDouble. He has every right to be upset and to leave if he wants to. If she wants to slowly delete herself through junk food that's on her. He shouldn't be forced to deal with that. You wouldn't want that for your son so don't shame someone else's for doing what you would tell your own son to do.
Bill, you should be a " life coach ". 💯% on target. I lost 50lb through intermittent fasting, my job was stressful but my wife sat me down, the same way buddy sat down his girlfriend. It is possible, hurts at times but doable!!
Why does it have to be a problem that he wants a hot lady? It's a big deal to be attracted to the person you're with. Why does he have to "care about her health" for his concern to be justified? Fuck that, he wants his hot lady and that's completely fine.
This is what I've been asking as well. Why can't we just say, "I was no longer attracted to my partner," and move on? She got a new job, started eating like shit, lied to her partner, and didn't really want to work on it. So she gets dumped. Big deal, happens everyday. Where's the accountability on her end? She should say, yeah I took advantage of my boyfriend's trust and effort, so he moved on. I understand I shouldn't have done those things. It's not like her life is over. She's still got a good job and her youth. Get it together and get back out there. The very root of a relationship is that you are attracted to one another. Unless... it's not? Is it possible some people enter into relationships because they crave emotional support, money, attention, etc. and don't really care about the other person or how their destructive decisions and lifestyle hurt that person? That girl who gained all the weight is worse than shallow. She expected she could do whatever she wanted and that her significant other would just deal with it, even if he didn't agree. That's called being selfish and immature.
1. Bill is a master. Wow, I didn't know he could diffuse like that 2. I don't understand why someone can't say they just aren't attracted to their partner anymore and move on. It sounds like the guy tried, and she is hell bent on destroying herself. You know if this was a woman saying her husband became a fat slob and she wasn't attracted to him anymore, her friends would be telling her to move on. Nia acts like this person got a little love handles and the man doesn't want her anymore. Absolutely not the case. 60-70 pounds is a lot of weight. It is absolutely kind, polite, and responsible to keep yourself attractive to your partner. Now, there needs to be some understanding. With age, stress, and various life factors, people won't always look like they did when they were young. But it sounds like she became obese. Quickly. And wasn't backing down. So he's supposed to stay with someone who he's not attracted to because she got a new job and can't keep it together? That's incredibly unfair. Where's the accountability on her part? Also, if you feel like someone can, 'throw you away,' then you should reconsider dating and maybe spend some time with yourself. Being strong enough to stand on your own two feet is step one in being an adult. If someone no longer wants to be with you, that does not decrease you worth. If you feel like it does, then you need to re-evaluate and probably spend some time alone figuring out who you are.
Nia was giving me head ache lol! How many legit points does Bill have to make b4 he is right. Most of us get it. Shes feeling things and trying to solve it. Yes he said things that were unneeded. Not shallow really. Being over weight at any age isnt good and whether or not its female or male having kids that worse. Everything he is saying is from a health perspesctive from how he says it any way. Its not fair to either 1 of them. She isnt feeling good and he is fustrated. If they do love each other unconditionetly they can work it out.To help out 2 people its probably easier to see both sides there Nia on this 1 at least. Yes im 28 and have nothing figured out but can have this little bit of senscability and also forgot how to spell at the same time LOL
I’m a woman and I agree with the guy. I also think what when it comes to women, emotional eating is a big issue. Sorry Bill is right. I see Nia’s point but this guy did it with such love that you can’t hate on him for that.
yes describing your loved one as "saggy tits" is showing soo much love. This guy sees his gf as a prop to his life, a trophy, not a someone he truly loves & cares about. He cares about image not her.
Agreed. The guy put in so much effort to show he cares, and she's just throwing it away. Complete disrespect to her partner. Sure it's not fair that he called her names but he's at his wits end. She needs to put in more effort and have some self-respect. It is what it is.
I have to agree with Bill she will not lose that weight because she already created bad habits of eating which is hard to break. If she no longer active at 24 where it's easier to be she definitely won't be motivated after 30 and especially with kids. She need to drop that weight like it's hot. And I am a female who believes keeping it sexy as long as you can. If I'm no longer physically attracted to you what are we doing.
Exactly! My extremely Christian mother once told me, "You have to be attracted to your partner. Sure, you need to connect intellectually and emotionally, but at the end of the day, if you aren't attracted to each other it's never going to work." And that's from a conservative Baptist
No dude was worried about how she looked. He wasn’t worried about her health. He was worried about how she looked. I look good and I want someone who looks good like me. I am healthy and I want someone who’s healthy like me. He has a standard he wants her to live up to that standard. Don’t get me wrong. It sounds good. What are you saying but sometimes it’s not what you say how do you say it. He could’ve easily approached her and said honey I think you’re gaining too much weight you’re putting yourself your health on the line. I’m worried about the hyper tension. I’m worried about diabetes. I’m worried about heart disease, but instead look at his comments that he wrote in, he’s talking about looks he’s not talking about health. He’s talking about saggy breast, and a beer belly. He’s not talking about poking yourself to check your insulin level
Bill gave sage advice here. I had a GF who I tried to help with some of her problems and she barely made any effort to change so after about 1.5 years of it I had no choice but to break up with her. Love is really NOT unconditional. No matter what anyone says. If someone isn't going to make the effort to change for someone they love, and it's for their benefit, then the relationship is on the rocks and it's a matter of time before it ends. I feel like a lot of people have a hard time comprehending this and they're like "oh you didn't really love them." No, if I didn't love them I would have left right away. You cannot help someone who doesn't want help.
😂 😂 😂 WOW, He hits a nerve 😂 😂 😂 He didn't mean it that way! But he should have said it open "We spoke about it and I love you but this is a problem", that he has invested the money, time and effort to cook and look out for her should be a reason for her to think about it! Yes, he is asking "where is the girl that I meet", but he spoke with her about it!
He met the girl she was healthy and athletic no woman encouragement. The moment the guy says she got, stressed, and smoked weed everyday.. so much encouragement from Nia.. strange.
She’s completely blind to the fact that the woman hid fast wrappers from him and was being dishonest about sticking to her diet. Lying to your significant other is a bigger problem than “being shallow”.
lol Bill. The older a women gets the more she will not care about her diet. She will work out less, she will eat less healthy. The fact you're married is blowing me away. Great show you did in Asheville NC you did a couple years back, my brother and I were there 3 rows back.
I cannot grasp why Nia defends the fact that she gained 70 lbs. that’s almost an extra person😅. Everybody has to realize the only unconditional love came from our mother. If you gain 70 lbs, man or woman.. you can’t expect your partner to be okay with that.
Thank you Bill! Truth!!! Extra weight is no joke. Either you take care of yourself or you dont. And weed makes you seditary and makes you want to eat. Multiple problems here. Guess who has to take care of the person who does not take of themselves??
Nia is a great person, but she identified herself too much with the girl, which made her assume what the guy meant behind his words and the overall context (which noone knows for sure). Because she got so angry it was hard for her to be rational again. But this can happen to any of us + I can understand where she's coming from and she's still an awesome person for me I'm actually glad we got to hear what Nia thinks, because there's a chance she's right, who knows...
Both males & females have needs that require extended wise intellectual and/or emotional support from outside of the relationship; I.e. community, Therapuetic modalities, and dealing with their own life, in order to truly honor anything worth having. Thx for posting this display of committed communication and their interdependence that springs from the personal investment in a functioning partnership. What a wild ride, yet seemingly doable… yet ultimately the choice is yours, infinite possibilities
Yeah, my HS sweetheart had this going on. We fought like cats and dogs as teenagers, but our personalities meshed really well and that kind of thing can be fun when you're young. We stayed in touch, and were reconnecting in our early-30's. She had a corporate job and had gained a ton of weight. I mean to the point I wasn't super attracted to her anymore, but I was still trying to figure it out. If there was anything still there. And the more I talked to her, the more I realized she was bitter, mean, and self-centered. And it made so much sense that she gained a bunch of weight. Because she had no discipline and everything was about her, so if she wanted to eat a cheeseburger and get drunk, she would. Every day. And just like you're saying, having known her for over ten years at that point I just stepped back and said, "huh, all this has been in the making."
Nia has a big head start over many women. Yes, she tries to save herself or the situation, although everything is already lost and she knows it, as all women do. But she does not stop listening and allows herself to be convinced on many points. I agreed with her at the beginning 💯, but then Bill went ahead and made a lot of points that can't be refuted. The point of Nia that remains is the emotional level of the problem and she 💯 is right. Not a word from the man who goes into the cause of her eating behavior. Instead of caring about his girlfriend's emotions as well, he is only concerned with physical appearance and physical health. But not about the true cause, which lies in the psyche.
Nia got irrationally emotional, one of the reasons i never ask women for advice about anything important... How much more does a guy have to do she put on 70lbs!!! he talked to her probably many times, he bought her expensive dietary supplements, he even made her healthy lunches, she is in the wrong here sneaking fast food and lying to him women never take accountability for their shitty behavior, I would leave her it only gets worse from here bro...
lmao if it bothers you so much, break up with her. Her appearance is obviously important to you. But understand that you and your reasons for doing it are shallow. She’s stressed. Not once did he mention addressing the stress directly or trying to help relieve it. In fact, all this attention you’re putting on her diet and appearance is just piling on. Her throwing out your food and lying is rude but you haven’t created an environment where she feels comfortable being honest with you.
Don’t get me wrong, I love Bill and Nia’s podcast, makes me laugh every time and I think they’re great people. But I got kind of annoyed at how Nia ignored everything the guy wrote before his angry comments. I understand why, but still though
He doesn't care if he did he would of started therapy with her then try the exercising and diet again when she had the clear head to know if she likes her body or not doctors are starting to say people are obis just for having a little gut yet theirs body builders with guts that due strong man competitions and don't get call obis just because of muscled arms and legs
Just have the woman drink Japanese h2, it’s amazing for health and I’ve seen it help people loose a lot of weight. I use a Japanese 2021 lourdes hydrofix premium. But I find it funny that she is freaking out over someone she doesn’t even know. She got more angry than bill lol. Great couple. But I agree with bill. We should all do our best to be our best.
See if she can get a doctor to give her Majorna injections. I am a big fat pig as well! But, have started this medication and it is working very well! It is a diabete medication. But, it was just approved for obesity in 2021! That will not only help her loss weight. But, also, help with blood sugar. Call a doctor and get this! It will help!!
It's a shame Nia is poisoned by the media and the feminist movement so baddly that she is so aggressive when it comes to emotional issues. I am affraied Bill is right that ladies do not respect or appreciate any mans point of veiw. When iit comes to honesty and emotional stability. The bottom line is if you want the repect and privileges of a man. You also have to take the responsibility and tough love men must endure everyday. Face it! If a man does not step up and pay and protect as well as keep himself healthly. The lady is going to steal as much as she can and try and find a replacement!!! I understand you have been taught a differant message. But, in the end you may find that in your own life things may not workout! Ladie in the USA may not need a man for money like they did in 1950's. But, men never needed a woman. You may say "Oh But they want a woman" however, if they get hurt enough. The will just get a girl by the hour!!! So, the message is the guy needs to want he and the girl has to repect him enough to make more of an effort!!! An yes I know!!! Drop dead!!!!! ;-)
there's a huge problem with women being able to vote since they're too damn emotional. you can see it when you hear how people like nia fee about things. you can tell nia would let the whole country burn down just because somwone told her a sob story if she was in charge.
All right, take it easy, buddy. There's a whole lot of really level-headed women in these very comments. There's also plenty of emotional men who all you'd have to tell them is a war story and they'd vote for you. I will say, though, hearing Nia wind up like that was incredibly irrational and kind of eye-widening. Just don't think everyone is that way.
The way bill diffused nia's inane ranting like a bomb. Absolutely masterful.
If a woman wrote in saying she did all those things for her boyfriend, bought him a bycicle and gym membership and supplements, cooked meals for him twice a day, only to find out he still just buys junk food every day (essentially lying to her), I am sure she'd be very sympathetic and understanding for the guy, and certainly would not recommend the girl break up with him to find someone that appreciates her and takes care of himself 🙄
“Women” bro
She might blame the girl for not being a feminatsie enough though
I know from your stand up that Nia doesn’t have it easy with you, but hearing her reactions on multiple occasions, and you trying to calm her down, to overpass the emotions and see things from another perspective, I’d say you two complete each other perfectly.
I'd say this is really accurate
This is true but he's not gonna read this. Write to his podcast
Nia has Emotional DAMAGE LOL 🤣😂🤣she not listening to BILL at ALL LOL 🤣😂🤣
I am with Bill on this one.
Nia has Emotional DAMAGE LOL 🤣😂🤣she not listening to BILL at ALL LOL 🤣😂🤣
I love hearing you two talk. It is the best! Thank you for showing people how to work through disagreements. Thank you thank you thank you
This is what we need right now.
I agree with the guy. 24 years old and gained 60-70 lbs. Smoking weed every night and eating like that. No excuses. He should have stayed the course and not used the jowl/saggy title language. He does care about her health or he'd blow her off and cheat. He's cooking her 2 meals a day for her, paying for supplements, gym. Come on man.... Nia is THE BEST.
Mia’s completely missing the point.
Let’s just say the guy met the girl and he had a really great job, paid the bills, emotionally supportive. A couple years later he gradually stops doing all of those things and lies about looking for a job and starts doing drugs daily. Not ok.
She’s taking this guy for granted and she probably expects him to be attracted to her even though she’s not attracted to herself.
As a nurse that weight gain a short amount of time is very dangerous.
I’d leave her. She’s a lied to his face for a year. She handles stress in a destructive way and expects him to pick up the pieces.
Majority of us women are so emotional and it crowds sound judgement. This is why I laugh at women saying “we run the world” 😒
@@bambilotto most people set the bar higher than simply being employable.
@@bambilotto This is such a great take. It's well-reasoned. People get a little out of shape, don't like the way they look, and get incredibly defensive about it. It's their insecurities exploding out of them. Like Nia just did. But, honestly, if you are not taking care of your business and expecting your partner to pick up the pieces, that is such an unhealthy expectation. Both men and women do that, and it's always unfair.
Nia has Emotional DAMAGE LOL 🤣😂🤣she not listening to BILL at ALL LOL 🤣😂🤣
Yeah, if he's have stayed away from the jowls, he would be much more sympathetic. But the woman has a legit problem, whether it's her job or something else, and it's killing her. 60-70 lbs is no joke. For most people, anything over 20 lbs is significant.
Flip it round if it was the guy who was 60lbs overweight and smoking weed, the woman would call him a degenerate.
Exactly!
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I normally love Nia's input, shes funny and quick and a good counterbalance to bill, but i could not finish this one. She became so irrationally angry that the conversation was over before it began. Bill calmed her down but she might need to look at this one again and see how she feels about it from a fresh start. Love Nia but it was frustrating listening to her go out of her way to excuse alll the chicks flaws, the biggest of which was the lying and sneaking, and then ignore all the dude did for his girlfriend.
I love the show and will keep listening and looking forward to hearing more of Nia. Cant write someone off for one conversation i didnt like.
Imagine being Nia and explaining how the guy is selfish and ignoring everything the guy wrote that he did to help being healthy. Women..
It's not shallow at all Nia. Dude literally TRIED to help her lose weight because he didn't find it attractive. He cooked for her and made her lunches, just to find out she's throwing them away for a McDouble. He has every right to be upset and to leave if he wants to. If she wants to slowly delete herself through junk food that's on her. He shouldn't be forced to deal with that. You wouldn't want that for your son so don't shame someone else's for doing what you would tell your own son to do.
This is it!
Bill should've asked Nia what if I lost 70% of our financial future. 🏃♀️💨
Bill, you should be a " life coach ". 💯% on target. I lost 50lb through intermittent fasting, my job was stressful but my wife sat me down, the same way buddy sat down his girlfriend. It is possible, hurts at times but doable!!
Funny how Nia added 'Full head of hair' to the list of hot guy traits
Nia is highly confused. She's def a women.
Damn, this conversation got deep. These two really compliment eachother in a weird way lol
That man doing the family's taxes while the woman crashes their car against a wall, inside the garage.
Why does it have to be a problem that he wants a hot lady? It's a big deal to be attracted to the person you're with. Why does he have to "care about her health" for his concern to be justified? Fuck that, he wants his hot lady and that's completely fine.
This is what I've been asking as well. Why can't we just say, "I was no longer attracted to my partner," and move on? She got a new job, started eating like shit, lied to her partner, and didn't really want to work on it. So she gets dumped. Big deal, happens everyday. Where's the accountability on her end? She should say, yeah I took advantage of my boyfriend's trust and effort, so he moved on. I understand I shouldn't have done those things. It's not like her life is over. She's still got a good job and her youth. Get it together and get back out there.
The very root of a relationship is that you are attracted to one another. Unless... it's not? Is it possible some people enter into relationships because they crave emotional support, money, attention, etc. and don't really care about the other person or how their destructive decisions and lifestyle hurt that person? That girl who gained all the weight is worse than shallow. She expected she could do whatever she wanted and that her significant other would just deal with it, even if he didn't agree. That's called being selfish and immature.
1. Bill is a master. Wow, I didn't know he could diffuse like that
2. I don't understand why someone can't say they just aren't attracted to their partner anymore and move on. It sounds like the guy tried, and she is hell bent on destroying herself. You know if this was a woman saying her husband became a fat slob and she wasn't attracted to him anymore, her friends would be telling her to move on. Nia acts like this person got a little love handles and the man doesn't want her anymore. Absolutely not the case. 60-70 pounds is a lot of weight.
It is absolutely kind, polite, and responsible to keep yourself attractive to your partner. Now, there needs to be some understanding. With age, stress, and various life factors, people won't always look like they did when they were young. But it sounds like she became obese. Quickly. And wasn't backing down. So he's supposed to stay with someone who he's not attracted to because she got a new job and can't keep it together? That's incredibly unfair. Where's the accountability on her part?
Also, if you feel like someone can, 'throw you away,' then you should reconsider dating and maybe spend some time with yourself. Being strong enough to stand on your own two feet is step one in being an adult. If someone no longer wants to be with you, that does not decrease you worth. If you feel like it does, then you need to re-evaluate and probably spend some time alone figuring out who you are.
Nia has Emotional DAMAGE LOL 🤣😂🤣she not listening to BILL at ALL LOL 🤣😂🤣
If you're not allowed to question your partner's health/weight.Just leave
This is so great. I haven’t listened to your show since you brought Nia on! I like it so much better…
"-you with your basic... Basicness-" The higher being everybody XD
This is hilarious and indicative of differences in people
Nia was giving me head ache lol! How many legit points does Bill have to make b4 he is right. Most of us get it. Shes feeling things and trying to solve it. Yes he said things that were unneeded. Not shallow really. Being over weight at any age isnt good and whether or not its female or male having kids that worse. Everything he is saying is from a health perspesctive from how he says it any way. Its not fair to either 1 of them. She isnt feeling good and he is fustrated. If they do love each other unconditionetly they can work it out.To help out 2 people its probably easier to see both sides there Nia on this 1 at least. Yes im 28 and have nothing figured out but can have this little bit of senscability and also forgot how to spell at the same time LOL
When Bills the pacifist you know Nia going off
This is exactly why I stay alone. Nobody listens.
I hear you. I was that way for a long time. Hoping you find someone who turns it around for you. ❤
It’s like Nia didn’t even listen to the story
I’m a woman and I agree with the guy. I also think what when it comes to women, emotional eating is a big issue. Sorry Bill is right. I see Nia’s point but this guy did it with such love that you can’t hate on him for that.
yes describing your loved one as "saggy tits" is showing soo much love. This guy sees his gf as a prop to his life, a trophy, not a someone he truly loves & cares about. He cares about image not her.
Agreed. The guy put in so much effort to show he cares, and she's just throwing it away. Complete disrespect to her partner. Sure it's not fair that he called her names but he's at his wits end. She needs to put in more effort and have some self-respect. It is what it is.
I have to agree with Bill she will not lose that weight because she already created bad habits of eating which is hard to break. If she no longer active at 24 where it's easier to be she definitely won't be motivated after 30 and especially with kids. She need to drop that weight like it's hot. And I am a female who believes keeping it sexy as long as you can. If I'm no longer physically attracted to you what are we doing.
Exactly! My extremely Christian mother once told me, "You have to be attracted to your partner. Sure, you need to connect intellectually and emotionally, but at the end of the day, if you aren't attracted to each other it's never going to work." And that's from a conservative Baptist
Great comments Bill!
No dude was worried about how she looked. He wasn’t worried about her health. He was worried about how she looked. I look good and I want someone who looks good like me. I am healthy and I want someone who’s healthy like me. He has a standard he wants her to live up to that standard. Don’t get me wrong. It sounds good. What are you saying but sometimes it’s not what you say how do you say it.
He could’ve easily approached her and said honey I think you’re gaining too much weight you’re putting yourself your health on the line. I’m worried about the hyper tension. I’m worried about diabetes. I’m worried about heart disease, but instead look at his comments that he wrote in, he’s talking about looks he’s not talking about health. He’s talking about saggy breast, and a beer belly. He’s not talking about poking yourself to check your insulin level
Bill gave sage advice here. I had a GF who I tried to help with some of her problems and she barely made any effort to change so after about 1.5 years of it I had no choice but to break up with her. Love is really NOT unconditional. No matter what anyone says. If someone isn't going to make the effort to change for someone they love, and it's for their benefit, then the relationship is on the rocks and it's a matter of time before it ends. I feel like a lot of people have a hard time comprehending this and they're like "oh you didn't really love them." No, if I didn't love them I would have left right away. You cannot help someone who doesn't want help.
😂 😂 😂
WOW,
He hits a nerve
😂 😂 😂
He didn't mean it that way!
But he should have said it open "We spoke about it and I love you but this is a problem", that he has invested the money, time and effort to cook and look out for her should be a reason for her to think about it!
Yes, he is asking "where is the girl that I meet", but he spoke with her about it!
Nia has Emotional DAMAGE LOL 🤣😂🤣she not listening to BILL at ALL LOL 🤣😂🤣
He met the girl she was healthy and athletic no woman encouragement. The moment the guy says she got, stressed, and smoked weed everyday.. so much encouragement from Nia.. strange.
I'd have no patience for someone like Nia
She’s completely blind to the fact that the woman hid fast wrappers from him and was being dishonest about sticking to her diet. Lying to your significant other is a bigger problem than “being shallow”.
lol Bill. The older a women gets the more she will not care about her diet. She will work out less, she will eat less healthy. The fact you're married is blowing me away. Great show you did in Asheville NC you did a couple years back, my brother and I were there 3 rows back.
How is that specific to women?
Nia so so wrong
I cannot grasp why Nia defends the fact that she gained 70 lbs. that’s almost an extra person😅.
Everybody has to realize the only unconditional love came from our mother.
If you gain 70 lbs, man or woman.. you can’t expect your partner to be okay with that.
Thank you Bill! Truth!!! Extra weight is no joke. Either you take care of yourself or you dont. And weed makes you seditary and makes you want to eat. Multiple problems here. Guess who has to take care of the person who does not take of themselves??
sounds like Nia is preparing to be fatter
😅 oh my gosh, I feel women like to have that option of letting themselves go.
Trust us!
(😂😂😂🤙🏻, we have basic spiritual things going on too)
Nia is a great person, but she identified herself too much with the girl, which made her assume what the guy meant behind his words and the overall context (which noone knows for sure).
Because she got so angry it was hard for her to be rational again.
But this can happen to any of us
+ I can understand where she's coming from and she's still an awesome person for me
I'm actually glad we got to hear what Nia thinks, because there's a chance she's right, who knows...
Imagine if a guy just quit his job
Nia has Emotional DAMAGE LOL 🤣😂🤣she not listening to BILL at ALL LOL 🤣😂🤣
Good luck Bill!! 😳
First of Nia’s opinions I’ve ever disagreed with
Jenny Sack with the candy bars downstairs
I agree with the guy that
sent the EMAIL
11:26 it gets good
i really don't like nia sometimes
A beautiful profile lol
Oh fuckin WAAAAAAAAAAA
Johnny Sac wrote this email?
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The problem was in the making before she gained weight. The weight gain is probably misdirected sublimation.
Yeah, my HS sweetheart had this going on. We fought like cats and dogs as teenagers, but our personalities meshed really well and that kind of thing can be fun when you're young. We stayed in touch, and were reconnecting in our early-30's. She had a corporate job and had gained a ton of weight. I mean to the point I wasn't super attracted to her anymore, but I was still trying to figure it out. If there was anything still there.
And the more I talked to her, the more I realized she was bitter, mean, and self-centered. And it made so much sense that she gained a bunch of weight. Because she had no discipline and everything was about her, so if she wanted to eat a cheeseburger and get drunk, she would. Every day. And just like you're saying, having known her for over ten years at that point I just stepped back and said, "huh, all this has been in the making."
I love Nia
Best podcast in a while, LOL.
Yeah if my GF gains like 70 pounds and starts smoking weed, I'm out.
Nia has a big head start over many women. Yes, she tries to save herself or the situation, although everything is already lost and she knows it, as all women do. But she does not stop listening and allows herself to be convinced on many points.
I agreed with her at the beginning 💯, but then Bill went ahead and made a lot of points that can't be refuted.
The point of Nia that remains is the emotional level of the problem and she 💯 is right. Not a word from the man who goes into the cause of her eating behavior. Instead of caring about his girlfriend's emotions as well, he is only concerned with physical appearance and physical health. But not about the true cause, which lies in the psyche.
Women cant see the truth on their own their emotions scews their judgment.
Nia got irrationally emotional, one of the reasons i never ask women for advice about anything important...
How much more does a guy have to do she put on 70lbs!!! he talked to her probably many times, he bought her expensive dietary supplements, he even made her healthy lunches, she is in the wrong here sneaking fast food and lying to him women never take accountability for their shitty behavior, I would leave her it only gets worse from here bro...
Lmao imagine if the roles were reversed and instead of a food, the guy was a drunk.. how would Nia react
lmao if it bothers you so much, break up with her. Her appearance is obviously important to you. But understand that you and your reasons for doing it are shallow. She’s stressed. Not once did he mention addressing the stress directly or trying to help relieve it. In fact, all this attention you’re putting on her diet and appearance is just piling on. Her throwing out your food and lying is rude but you haven’t created an environment where she feels comfortable being honest with you.
Nia's right. Dude who wrote in is emotionally useless.
Found the soy boy simp
Hope she sees this bro
Nia don't just laugh it out, you lost all my respect
Nia is wrong in this one
Someone got triggered~
Don’t get me wrong, I love Bill and Nia’s podcast, makes me laugh every time and I think they’re great people.
But I got kind of annoyed at how Nia ignored everything the guy wrote before his angry comments. I understand why, but still though
He doesn't care if he did he would of started therapy with her then try the exercising and diet again when she had the clear head to know if she likes her body or not doctors are starting to say people are obis just for having a little gut yet theirs body builders with guts that due strong man competitions and don't get call obis just because of muscled arms and legs
Just have the woman drink Japanese h2, it’s amazing for health and I’ve seen it help people loose a lot of weight. I use a Japanese 2021 lourdes hydrofix premium. But I find it funny that she is freaking out over someone she doesn’t even know. She got more angry than bill lol. Great couple. But I agree with bill. We should all do our best to be our best.
Well? ? ? I must say the guy is right.
See if she can get a doctor to give her Majorna injections. I am a big fat pig as well! But, have started this medication and it is working very well! It is a diabete medication. But, it was just approved for obesity in 2021! That will not only help her loss weight. But, also, help with blood sugar. Call a doctor and get this! It will help!!
He should just leave her, gaining that much weight is selfish and shows you don’t care about your partners pov imo
Nia is so annoying
I'm at the beginning. Here's my question, is he a feeder? Is he like Misery, but instead of hobbling her, her fattens her up so she can't run away.
Omg your wife is right Bill.
It's a shame Nia is poisoned by the media and the feminist movement so baddly that she is so aggressive when it comes to emotional issues. I am affraied Bill is right that ladies do not respect or appreciate any mans point of veiw. When iit comes to honesty and emotional stability. The bottom line is if you want the repect and privileges of a man. You also have to take the responsibility and tough love men must endure everyday. Face it! If a man does not step up and pay and protect as well as keep himself healthly. The lady is going to steal as much as she can and try and find a replacement!!! I understand you have been taught a differant message. But, in the end you may find that in your own life things may not workout! Ladie in the USA may not need a man for money like they did in 1950's. But, men never needed a woman. You may say "Oh But they want a woman" however, if they get hurt enough. The will just get a girl by the hour!!! So, the message is the guy needs to want he and the girl has to repect him enough to make more of an effort!!! An yes I know!!! Drop dead!!!!! ;-)
there's a huge problem with women being able to vote since they're too damn emotional. you can see it when you hear how people like nia fee about things. you can tell nia would let the whole country burn down just because somwone told her a sob story if she was in charge.
All right, take it easy, buddy. There's a whole lot of really level-headed women in these very comments. There's also plenty of emotional men who all you'd have to tell them is a war story and they'd vote for you.
I will say, though, hearing Nia wind up like that was incredibly irrational and kind of eye-widening. Just don't think everyone is that way.
Love you Nia but you are so wrong, the guy did what he could do, you westerners triggered for illogical reasons
I love Nia