Topic suggestion- what the first few days, weeks, months looks like when adoption a kiddo. What can you do to help the bond, support them in their losses, etc
I agree! This would be great info to have and so helpful for adjusting. Also, on the same topic, helping the kids you may already have to be prepared for welcoming a new sibling.
My top tip: if the child is small enough to fit in a tula carrier or tula toddler carrier, then baby wear them everywhere you go and even around the house. Next top tip: nest (or cocoon ). You don't leave the house or have visitors, you don't bring any new people into the child's world for a month or two or three. And when you do you make it clear to the child that they are coming home with you - even make plans like, after we see grandma we will play dolls in your room. If the child is under two, and maybe older, absolutely consider them sleeping in your room or in your bed (as long as this isn't tied to trauma for them). Bonding takes time but schedule, structure, routine, predictablilty and consistency are key. Firm but fair discipline is as must too.
My "Aunt" (a family friend of my actual aunt who I grew up spending a lot of time with) is single and no longer wanted to wait for "the one" to come around so she pursued adoption from Kazakhstan. Her work actually covered half the expenses. She was very blessed. She traveled there and stayed with the child for 6-ish weeks before bringing the babe (was not even a year old) home. My cousin is now 15 and the smartest, most compassionate, sweet, tender hearted, loving person I have ever met!
Thank you! You inspire me so much. I am only 22 but I really really want to adopt in the future. Please, make more Videos about adoption, it is so helpful. Even though I live in Germany and our system is different, your tips still help a ton and keep me motivated to build this dream. Thank you so so much for showing me the beauty of adoption!
I'm from Brazl and my mom has been working with adoption for over 30 years. Let me tell you what I know about adoption in Brazil. - the whole process is FREE. - there's no foster system. - there's no open adoption. - the birth mom can't choose who will adopt her kid. - you can be single or lgbtq. - you fill a form, go trough a home and psychological study then get in the line. If you want a baby under 1 year old, the waiting takes 8 to 10 years. - if you want to adopt an older kid/kids it's faster. - siblings avaible for adoption will not be separeted. - Brazil is open for international adoption, but you will have to live here for 9 month after getting your kid. - when an adopted kid is 18 they can have access to all the information about their birth parents if they want to.
Your attitude towards trying not to having regrets is amazing ❤️ You are such a wonderful person and Mother, I can only hope to have so much grace in the future!
I’m not super religious but I looooove how spiritual and faithful you are, it’s incredibly inspiring and how you live your life through god makes me so happy
Loved listening to your video, even though I'm no where near adopting a child your words can still be applied to a lot of different struggles one may be going through. Your beautiful and I love what you have done for your children. Keep up gods work❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I love how many experiences you bring into this. Already in the last video, you mentioned something was rare and you still knew multiple families in that situation. You know other people who are single parents adopting, same sex couples adopting, people with children adopted in birth order, from all sorts of different countries, with embryo adoption, who homeschool..... It's great that you can draw from so much knowledge and teach us. Also, you answered my question, so thank you!
I love your attitude and perspective on life’s journey. I feel the same. Thanks for a helpful video, I’m sure you get sick of answering these questions but it’s empowering and helpful to those of us that haven’t started the process yet. ❤️
Thank you for these videos! I started watching your channel some time ago for the homeschool videos and then was quickly pulled in when I realized your heart for adopting. I have felt a burning desire to adopt for a few years now and it keeps growing. My kids all want to (we have 4 boys) but my husband has been resistant to it. I've just kept praying over the situation and he is slowly warming to the idea and has begun asking questions and thinking about it more. He says he isn't opposed to the idea any longer, but there is still a lot to think through and figure out before we jump in. He's right of course, but his heart is being prepared and I'm very excited about that.
Oh my gosh. I'm so happy. I've been scouring This Gathered Nest looking for these types of adoption info videos. So happy I found your other channel. Also, since comments are disabled over there I just wanted to say your family is adorable, and although I don't want a big family myself, if I were to, you guys are goals.
Important disclaimer: Apparently this goes for same-sex parent adoption from citizens, not international applicants!!!! For the question about same sex parent adoption: I researched a little and found a map and most of Central and western Europe, North America and Australia allow it, as well as some South American countries including Brazil and Argentina and South Africa. Unfortunately, the rest of Africa and all of Asia aren't on the list. But most of these legislations are young and have only happened in the last ten, most even three years, so the situation might be different a couple years from now and if you were to adopt in, say, a decade chances are good you might have more options.
@@yoyoyoyo4670 I looked it up again and unfortunately, you are right! These are the countries that allow same sex adoption, not the countries that allow same sex couples to internationally adopt their children. I'll make an edit.
Great video! I loved what you said about the hard times. I also think the brokenness shows us how to be more whole. The lows make the highs even more meaningful and joyful because we know where we have been and where we are now.
Brazil allows adoption from same sex couples. In Brazil there are no agency or state fees either, so the cost would go down to a lawyer in Brazil and an agency in the US. The downside is that you have to live in Brazil for six weeks.
Thank you so much for sharing all the adoption related videos on your channels! I've been rewatching them while on Christmas break for the past few days. I decided to pursue adoption last fall and I'm officially starting paperwork this spring. You've given me a lot to think about and consider throughout my journey and I'm so grateful for the information.
Love your channel and the way you explain to the point and clear information , thank you for sharing. I've been happily married close to 4 years in November. we don't have any kids but due to my age I'm scared to have my own kids (im 30 btw, my motto is "why have a baby when there are so many babies waiting for a family" *but i respect those who decide to have their own babies) I would love to adopt a newborn baby that can grow with us and give them a loving home. But i know not much to nothing about the system and difference between domestic adoptions vs foster care. I know it can be very expensive to adopt through a private adopting agency. And I've heard that it can be very difficult to adopt a newborn baby through foster care (it may take years to make it official) and also have heard that foster babies have gone through a lot of trauma and it may be difficult for the adoptive parent to deal with drug withdrawal or abuse etc. How long in advance should we be able to get a placement through foster care vs. domestic adoption agency?? can you choose your race or gender (not that it matters to me, but would prefer them to look like us for different reasons) .. husband is open to adoption but fears that the child will have alot of physiological/health problems due to the misconceptions about foster care (mistreating/drug abuse etc) i would like to clarify a couple of things so he understands better & i would like to know which type of adoption will be best for us. Thanks
I have sent both these videos to my fiancé because I think this will help him have a little more understanding and insight to what our process will be like and explain everything I try to explain to him.
Oh wow, I was looking up videos because I'd like to adopt someday, but not any time soon. For some reason I didn't even question the idea that I'd be allowed to adopt internationally as a gay woman. Thank you for answering that question.
I have become obsessed with your channel. Love everything you post and talk about. Do you know if you adopt internationally, if there would be subsidies for a group of children with special needs?
I just watched your "our family story" over on this gathered nest. It help answer a few questions I had, since I'm relatively new to your channels. (For example, I didn't realize that Kennedy and Shelby where your biological children.) I totally understand and support that you don't share details about the kids' adoptions, but that video might be a good one to reference, or update (since it was from before the twins), for people who are new to watching your family.
Dearest Angie--- you are amazing and so inspirational! I am a single woman and felt called to adopt a daughter (or son) from an Asian country, most likely (special needs) from China. A Thai child was on my heart, but sadly there was a marriage requirement at the time for that country (and so few adoptions are done with US families.) Most relieving... I was thrilled when I heard that Vietnam was going to open up adoption with the US again. Anyhow, I was so invested, that I even chose my employer based on their benefit package that included a 5k donation for every adoption. Sadly, I was in a hit-and-run car accident in 2006 that left me with constant agonizing pain to the face. In fact, it triggered Trigeminal Neuralgia which is considered the worst pain known to mankind. It's been 12 years that I've suffered with this intractable pain, so my dream of adopting a child waiting had to end. However my interest in international adoption continues...and I'm so excited to hear your perspective and witness your beautiful children as they grow. Every waiting little one deserves a loving home...with the many loving, waiting families on hold to embrace them. God bless you and all who save a child. Lastly, I LOVE your channels -- thank you for sharing your life, family, and knowledge.
if it's for foster and then adoption and in the US, I know from Ohio laws that it's best if the dog has obedience training. We have 3 dogs, and was able to foster our daughter and then adopt her a year later.
Hi, nice Video!! I am from germany and very interested in adoption. So i love you informative Videos so much. Could you make a Video about the Matching process? How does this work? Who gets to choose? And what does homestudy mean? Love to your family!!
When we looked into same-sex International adoption, the majority of countries either don't allow or if they do it is only for hard to place children. The only international country that gave the options to same-sex couples as heterosexual was South Africa.
I don't know whether they still do international adoptions but South Africa has legalized same sex relationships, and I know some same sex couples have adopted from there in the past. And I think Taiwan has just legalized same sex marriage, I don't know what that means for adoption or if they even allow international adoption. I know there are also some countries in South America that have legalized same sex relationships/adoptions. I think, off the top of my head, that Colombia, Brazil and some parts of Mexico allow same sex adoption but I am not 100% sure.
For closed adoption domestic in the US i dont think mama’s choose you but the agency does. I’m not sure though. I’m adopted in the US as a baby and my biological grandparents did know some about my new home, I’m not sure how they knew.
Are large families ever chosen for domestic infant adoption? I’ve heard they aren’t often chosen as most birth moms want small families or childless couples
Dayanara Diaz I believe that its where the adoption agency visits your home and assesses your home and lifestyle and finances etc to make sure you are fit to bring a child home! From what Angie said it seems like every country/agency may have different requirements. I have been watching Nikki Philippi too and she said some of her homestudies have involved detailed medical questionaries too. Looking forward to the video where Angie explains in detail :)
Interesting video. I would be wary of adopting a domestic child here in the UK simply because as a teacher, I can see daily how 'difficult' children with a traumatic infancy (neglect, abuse, abandonment or attachment issues) can be like. By the time they are available to adoption, such damage is done that there is little foster or adoptive parents can do to help them. The challenge is real. Of course, these children are absolutely lovely and deserving of love. Of course they can defy all such predictions and grow to be happy. But my fiancé, who has worked as a social worker in a children home, and who can hardly be accused of being heartless, is against adoption as a result of his experience.
Topic suggestion- what the first few days, weeks, months looks like when adoption a kiddo. What can you do to help the bond, support them in their losses, etc
I agree! This would be great info to have and so helpful for adjusting. Also, on the same topic, helping the kids you may already have to be prepared for welcoming a new sibling.
My top tip: if the child is small enough to fit in a tula carrier or tula toddler carrier, then baby wear them everywhere you go and even around the house.
Next top tip: nest (or cocoon ). You don't leave the house or have visitors, you don't bring any new people into the child's world for a month or two or three. And when you do you make it clear to the child that they are coming home with you - even make plans like, after we see grandma we will play dolls in your room. If the child is under two, and maybe older, absolutely consider them sleeping in your room or in your bed (as long as this isn't tied to trauma for them).
Bonding takes time but schedule, structure, routine, predictablilty and consistency are key. Firm but fair discipline is as must too.
Co-sleeping (agreed providing not triggering for trauma) is literally amazing for any child any age
My "Aunt" (a family friend of my actual aunt who I grew up spending a lot of time with) is single and no longer wanted to wait for "the one" to come around so she pursued adoption from Kazakhstan. Her work actually covered half the expenses. She was very blessed. She traveled there and stayed with the child for 6-ish weeks before bringing the babe (was not even a year old) home. My cousin is now 15 and the smartest, most compassionate, sweet, tender hearted, loving person I have ever met!
Thank you! You inspire me so much. I am only 22 but I really really want to adopt in the future. Please, make more Videos about adoption, it is so helpful. Even though I live in Germany and our system is different, your tips still help a ton and keep me motivated to build this dream. Thank you so so much for showing me the beauty of adoption!
I'm from Brazl and my mom has been working with adoption for over 30 years. Let me tell you what I know about adoption in Brazil.
- the whole process is FREE.
- there's no foster system.
- there's no open adoption.
- the birth mom can't choose who will adopt her kid.
- you can be single or lgbtq.
- you fill a form, go trough a home and psychological study then get in the line. If you want a baby under 1 year old, the waiting takes 8 to 10 years.
- if you want to adopt an older kid/kids it's faster.
- siblings avaible for adoption will not be separeted.
- Brazil is open for international adoption, but you will have to live here for 9 month after getting your kid.
- when an adopted kid is 18 they can have access to all the information about their birth parents if they want to.
Your attitude towards trying not to having regrets is amazing ❤️ You are such a wonderful person and Mother, I can only hope to have so much grace in the future!
I’m not super religious but I looooove how spiritual and faithful you are, it’s incredibly inspiring and how you live your life through god makes me so happy
You are doing a great job with these videos and the information is very helpful for me as I would absolutely love to adopt one day.
Can you talk more about birth order in regards to adoption? Or link to reputable resources?
Loved listening to your video, even though I'm no where near adopting a child your words can still be applied to a lot of different struggles one may be going through. Your beautiful and I love what you have done for your children. Keep up gods work❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for these adoption videos Angie. They’re so helpful
I love how many experiences you bring into this. Already in the last video, you mentioned something was rare and you still knew multiple families in that situation. You know other people who are single parents adopting, same sex couples adopting, people with children adopted in birth order, from all sorts of different countries, with embryo adoption, who homeschool..... It's great that you can draw from so much knowledge and teach us. Also, you answered my question, so thank you!
We are adopting from Taiwan and there is a lot of great information here. Thank you for sharing this video!
I love your attitude and perspective on life’s journey. I feel the same. Thanks for a helpful video, I’m sure you get sick of answering these questions but it’s empowering and helpful to those of us that haven’t started the process yet. ❤️
I would like to know more about your experience with your embryo adoption, and more about it.
7Jenna7 Me too!
Thank you for these videos! I started watching your channel some time ago for the homeschool videos and then was quickly pulled in when I realized your heart for adopting. I have felt a burning desire to adopt for a few years now and it keeps growing. My kids all want to (we have 4 boys) but my husband has been resistant to it. I've just kept praying over the situation and he is slowly warming to the idea and has begun asking questions and thinking about it more. He says he isn't opposed to the idea any longer, but there is still a lot to think through and figure out before we jump in. He's right of course, but his heart is being prepared and I'm very excited about that.
Oh my gosh. I'm so happy. I've been scouring This Gathered Nest looking for these types of adoption info videos. So happy I found your other channel. Also, since comments are disabled over there I just wanted to say your family is adorable, and although I don't want a big family myself, if I were to, you guys are goals.
Important disclaimer: Apparently this goes for same-sex parent adoption from citizens, not international applicants!!!!
For the question about same sex parent adoption: I researched a little and found a map and most of Central and western Europe, North America and Australia allow it, as well as some South American countries including Brazil and Argentina and South Africa. Unfortunately, the rest of Africa and all of Asia aren't on the list. But most of these legislations are young and have only happened in the last ten, most even three years, so the situation might be different a couple years from now and if you were to adopt in, say, a decade chances are good you might have more options.
Where did you find this info because that's contradicts what I found?
@@yoyoyoyo4670 I looked it up again and unfortunately, you are right! These are the countries that allow same sex adoption, not the countries that allow same sex couples to internationally adopt their children. I'll make an edit.
@@JuMixBoox cool mate. I was just curious. It wouldn't be unlike me to have looked at out dated websites or misinterpreted what I had read lol
Great video! I loved what you said about the hard times. I also think the brokenness shows us how to be more whole. The lows make the highs even more meaningful and joyful because we know where we have been and where we are now.
Brazil allows adoption from same sex couples. In Brazil there are no agency or state fees either, so the cost would go down to a lawyer in Brazil and an agency in the US. The downside is that you have to live in Brazil for six weeks.
Your makeup in this video😍.... please note the products/do a tutorial!
It’s fab!!
Thank you so much for sharing all the adoption related videos on your channels! I've been rewatching them while on Christmas break for the past few days. I decided to pursue adoption last fall and I'm officially starting paperwork this spring. You've given me a lot to think about and consider throughout my journey and I'm so grateful for the information.
I am really looking forward to the homestudy and affording it info! Thank you so much for doing this video series. It's a blessing!
Your words at the very end reminded me of the Matthew West’s song “Broken Things”. Loved your thoughts on the “journey”.
Love your channel and the way you explain to the point and clear information , thank you for sharing. I've been happily married close to 4 years in November. we don't have any kids but due to my age I'm scared to have my own kids (im 30 btw, my motto is "why have a baby when there are so many babies waiting for a family" *but i respect those who decide to have their own babies) I would love to adopt a newborn baby that can grow with us and give them a loving home. But i know not much to nothing about the system and difference between domestic adoptions vs foster care. I know it can be very expensive to adopt through a private adopting agency. And I've heard that it can be very difficult to adopt a newborn baby through foster care (it may take years to make it official) and also have heard that foster babies have gone through a lot of trauma and it may be difficult for the adoptive parent to deal with drug withdrawal or abuse etc. How long in advance should we be able to get a placement through foster care vs. domestic adoption agency?? can you choose your race or gender (not that it matters to me, but would prefer them to look like us for different reasons) .. husband is open to adoption but fears that the child will have alot of physiological/health problems due to the misconceptions about foster care (mistreating/drug abuse etc) i would like to clarify a couple of things so he understands better & i would like to know which type of adoption will be best for us. Thanks
I have sent both these videos to my fiancé because I think this will help him have a little more understanding and insight to what our process will be like and explain everything I try to explain to him.
Wisdom is your strong suit, tempered with love and goodness and humanity
Oh wow, I was looking up videos because I'd like to adopt someday, but not any time soon. For some reason I didn't even question the idea that I'd be allowed to adopt internationally as a gay woman. Thank you for answering that question.
I seriously love you and your personality! I feel like we would be the best of friends! You just crack me up!
Also so super excited for your book!!!
I have become obsessed with your channel. Love everything you post and talk about. Do you know if you adopt internationally, if there would be subsidies for a group of children with special needs?
Thank you for sharing these videos! I hope they inspire more people to adopt 😊❤️
I believe Colombia allows same sex couples.
I just watched your "our family story" over on this gathered nest. It help answer a few questions I had, since I'm relatively new to your channels. (For example, I didn't realize that Kennedy and Shelby where your biological children.) I totally understand and support that you don't share details about the kids' adoptions, but that video might be a good one to reference, or update (since it was from before the twins), for people who are new to watching your family.
Rosebud723 she actually has an updated version of that video up on her channel! 😉
Do you know what it's called? I spent a while looking through playlist before I found the one from 2016.
@@rosebud7233 It's this one: th-cam.com/video/ybbDDX4KaSs/w-d-xo.html
Thank you!
love the video! Always here for your thoughts on adoption
Have you done how to afford and the cost video yet? I can’t seem to find it. Thank you!
We love these video you do such a great job explaining and I can’t wait to see what 2019 has in store for you and your family!
Please please a video about embryo adoption!!
Dearest Angie--- you are amazing and so inspirational! I am a single woman and felt called to adopt a daughter (or son) from an Asian country, most likely (special needs) from China. A Thai child was on my heart, but sadly there was a marriage requirement at the time for that country (and so few adoptions are done with US families.) Most relieving... I was thrilled when I heard that Vietnam was going to open up adoption with the US again. Anyhow, I was so invested, that I even chose my employer based on their benefit package that included a 5k donation for every adoption. Sadly, I was in a hit-and-run car accident in 2006 that left me with constant agonizing pain to the face. In fact, it triggered Trigeminal Neuralgia which is considered the worst pain known to mankind. It's been 12 years that I've suffered with this intractable pain, so my dream of adopting a child waiting had to end. However my interest in international adoption continues...and I'm so excited to hear your perspective and witness your beautiful children as they grow. Every waiting little one deserves a loving home...with the many loving, waiting families on hold to embrace them. God bless you and all who save a child. Lastly, I LOVE your channels -- thank you for sharing your life, family, and knowledge.
I would love a homestudy list. Im afraid my dog is going to be a problem but cant find a direct answer on the internet
if it's for foster and then adoption and in the US, I know from Ohio laws that it's best if the dog has obedience training.
We have 3 dogs, and was able to foster our daughter and then adopt her a year later.
Can you talk about books and other resources that are good to research from?
Almost all the kids available for adoption in South Korea are in foster homes. Orphanages are rarely used there😊
Have you read adopted for life by Russell Moore? I think that book would really fit your family :) You can listen to it on Audible
That makeup is pretty
Hi, nice Video!! I am from germany and very interested in adoption. So i love you informative Videos so much. Could you make a Video about the Matching process? How does this work? Who gets to choose? And what does homestudy mean? Love to your family!!
When we looked into same-sex International adoption, the majority of countries either don't allow or if they do it is only for hard to place children. The only international country that gave the options to same-sex couples as heterosexual was South Africa.
Great respect 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏
I don't know whether they still do international adoptions but South Africa has legalized same sex relationships, and I know some same sex couples have adopted from there in the past. And I think Taiwan has just legalized same sex marriage, I don't know what that means for adoption or if they even allow international adoption. I know there are also some countries in South America that have legalized same sex relationships/adoptions. I think, off the top of my head, that Colombia, Brazil and some parts of Mexico allow same sex adoption but I am not 100% sure.
For closed adoption domestic in the US i dont think mama’s choose you but the agency does. I’m not sure though. I’m adopted in the US as a baby and my biological grandparents did know some about my new home, I’m not sure how they knew.
Are large families ever chosen for domestic infant adoption? I’ve heard they aren’t often chosen as most birth moms want small families or childless couples
Another brilliant video
so is that how u got rosey(this was for the first question)
In Spain same sex couples are allowed to adopt!
S Korea uses primarily foster homes
I believe Bulgaria allows same-sex couples
Austria allows same sex couples to adopt!
I what to know how is it like when the child come home and everything
What exactly is a homestudy? Like what do they do/go through?
Dayanara Diaz I believe that its where the adoption agency visits your home and assesses your home and lifestyle and finances etc to make sure you are fit to bring a child home! From what Angie said it seems like every country/agency may have different requirements. I have been watching Nikki Philippi too and she said some of her homestudies have involved detailed medical questionaries too. Looking forward to the video where Angie explains in detail :)
You can adopt as a same sex couple in Germany
Hi south Africa allow both single and same sex married to adopt.
Interesting video. I would be wary of adopting a domestic child here in the UK simply because as a teacher, I can see daily how 'difficult' children with a traumatic infancy (neglect, abuse, abandonment or attachment issues) can be like. By the time they are available to adoption, such damage is done that there is little foster or adoptive parents can do to help them. The challenge is real. Of course, these children are absolutely lovely and deserving of love. Of course they can defy all such predictions and grow to be happy. But my fiancé, who has worked as a social worker in a children home, and who can hardly be accused of being heartless, is against adoption as a result of his experience.
Pretty sure South Africa allows same sex couples to adopt ☺️