Shadow work has been the most key part of my growth! Very painful and bitter at some points, but very healing at the same time. A bridge to a deep, calm, and peaceful mind.
Just starting out on this journey. I’m blown away by how the shadow is essentially a mirror into ourselves and what needs to be healed. Mind blown! Time to get to work! 💙
I think you forgot to mention the subconscious anger which is also a critical part of one's shadow. I've come to realize over time that releasing my anger via exercise or sports is very important for my well-being so that I don't end up releasing it randomly on someone else.
Wow. Mind blown- this is definitely one for the rewatching for all the value in it. Also it is so powerful to link this up with my previous experience with your content on shadow work- I am thinking about your IG post from a few months back where my take home was to study my projections and visceral annoyances... Now with this video I see that positive idealizations of others can provide me with info in the same sort of ballpark. Absolutely grateful for this Nicole, thank you! Side note: Jung recorded himself saying he had never met his shadow except second or thirdhand in the reflections and reactions of people close to him. This work has come along since his time but just to throw it out there I would love to hear if you had a passing thought at all on how far our understanding of shadow work has come since those early times. No big, just curious, and again very appreciative of your work!
Shadow work is THE key to knowing, accepting and loving one's true, authentic self, and therefore the key to self growth. I've met many of my shadows, some have been understood and embraced, with some I still might struggle from time to time, but it's absolutely worth it
Very interesting again . When I first started working for myself in the 70s everyday after getting back home I used to question myself had I been polite to the customer done what they had asked dealt with criticisms etc. I found it helped a great deal in forming a working relation with the customer as I would see them every week.. Looking at your video about my shadow made me realise how useful my actions where in those days. Of course I was not aware of the "shadow" until your video , I remember what is now called overthinking a great deal then. Thanks Nicole
I haven’t done this work, I’m going to definitely try those prompts. Thank you 🙏 I have your premier audiobook, and the book doing the work which I can’t wait to star using for my personal growth journey.
I expected the shadow to be our own latent potential for darkness. I think what we project isn't always translated one-to-one to others, but mirrored. I.e., I'm afraid of abandonment, so I accuse someone of being distant. I'm afraid of my instinct for cruelty, so I might perceive another as weak or sensitive. The second one has been bothering me a lot. I sometimes feel like the protections of having an inner self that is shadowed is necessary because it is suppressing impulses that are self-destructive or socially inappropriate. On the other hand, suppressing them causes pain and leads to more anger. I'm not sure how to work with that, especially since I think my morbid thoughts are caused by my trauma.
Yes, I’ve!heard of the shadow process. The late great Debbie Ford introduced me to the Shadow Effect. I’m not sure I’ve met my own. I’m afraid of what might be found.
Yes, it is very scary. I’ve found the results of not doing it to be way more painful and destructive than actually facing it. Just a little at a time. And lots of self-compassion is needed 🤗
It's really common to feel afraid to look at our shadows (as in the case with many aspects of becoming conscious) though as with most practices becomes less intimidating with time!
Thank you so much Nicole for this video!!.. I’ve always wanted to meet my shadow. I’ve heard other ppl talk about it, but I’ve never done shadow work myself. Thank you so much for helping find another way to meet myself and become whole by ‘doing the work’ 😊🤗
I like to do a clearing process where I remove my projections of my own shadow from someone I’m judging or have a ‘charge’ with (something I feel coming up in my body when I see them / think of them), so that I can start to see that person more clearly for who they really are, without my projections and stories on top of them. Also, “if I spot it, I got it” - when I judge and point a finger at someone else, there’s three fingers pointing back at me. After I’ve removed that projection I can shine a light on my shadow belief that’s causing it, then look at my truth or gold that’s being hidden by that shadow. I’ve found this to be a very powerful and freeing practice 🙏🏻🧡
@@TheHolisticPsychologist Indeed! Sometimes it’s a strong energetic charge that quickly activates my primordial brain into reaction, anger and judgement, when really I’m reacting to something within myself that I’m suppressing or denying. Other times it’s more subtle, but my body can be a great indicator if something is coming up for me. I learnt that term and the clearing process (and many other things) through the ManKind Project - who I do the weekly men’s group with. It’s been huge for my personal work and growth to be vulnerable with a group of men in a safe container.
I have heard of Shadow. I’m very interested in inner child work for myself, however I have trouble answering questions like that about my parents what I wanted from them or didn’t. Some reason it’s hard for me to connect, although I know I have some trauma.
We blame words for our feelings. How can a word be bad? History doesn't repeat itself. Dark side of the moon is where the shadow lives. No thing to fear. I dance with my Shadow. We play together. Even named my vehicle Shadow. It's toothless. Nothing to fear. We enjoy each other's attention. 🙃
Thank you for this video. I want to ask you Nicole isn't seeing our shadow is a part of comparing let's say me to others which is that one of my ego stories which are destructive for the self.
Both our ego + shadow love to compare ourselves to others-- learning how to objectively witness when this is happening then allows us to make choices outside of these comparison if we wish!
@@kristidin1983 I hear ya. Well, maybe the shadow then is about a lack of competence and experience, and maybe that’s something you’ve judged yourself about. I know my inner critic can be harsh on myself. This work gets quite deep and this medium is not ideal to do it through, obviously, but hopefully that’s given you a little insight into what might be underneath that for you 🙏🏻
When i was a child my father would repeat over and over and over … “You think you’re so clever” My mother continued with it, my siblings followed. As an adult i discovered i have been offered a educational bursary as a child. I thought i,d dreamt the headmistress had called me to her office to remark on how well i had performed and how proud of me she was. My mother kept it from me, it suddenly came up in my late 20s. She said that even with the bursary she could not afford to send me to the school so she thought it was best not to say anything to me. In my dream i remember the headmistress telling me i had done exceptionally well. As a teenager i thought this was the evidence my family was probably right. I was deluded about my abilities. I am 60 now and not sure i have ever really expressed my full potential. I went on to art college as an adult and would love to sell my art and generate a supplementary income. It would be a huge achievement. I just dont ever think my art is good enough. ❤️🩹
janjan, will give you something. expressive art, where you write a thought or word on canvas then cover with *your expression* over the word ie: via paint or any medium you choose. then see if others can relate and/or express something related to the word/phrase that you covered up. recall what you *already know* , we are our own worst critics [hence, you say what you wrote towards the end of your post about your art]
Thank you for your posting… I can totally relate. I’m trying not to think about whether I’m good enough… and focusing more on the fact I love doing it… and always have. Do what you love and see where it takes you. Best of luck.
Shadow work has been the most key part of my growth! Very painful and bitter at some points, but very healing at the same time. A bridge to a deep, calm, and peaceful mind.
So glad to hear it's been so helpful to you S.A! 🙌❤
@@TheHolisticPsychologist Thank you, dear Nicole. 🙏🏻😊❤
Wow. That is my goal. Great job.
Just starting out on this journey. I’m blown away by how the shadow is essentially a mirror into ourselves and what needs to be healed.
Mind blown!
Time to get to work! 💙
I think you forgot to mention the subconscious anger which is also a critical part of one's shadow. I've come to realize over time that releasing my anger via exercise or sports is very important for my well-being so that I don't end up releasing it randomly on someone else.
Yes anger (+ really deeper hurt) if often what fuels all of our shadow's reactions!
Thank you so much for sharing your effective exercises for free. You give access to healing to a lot of people who cannot get therapy for some reason
Wow. Mind blown- this is definitely one for the rewatching for all the value in it. Also it is so powerful to link this up with my previous experience with your content on shadow work- I am thinking about your IG post from a few months back where my take home was to study my projections and visceral annoyances... Now with this video I see that positive idealizations of others can provide me with info in the same sort of ballpark. Absolutely grateful for this Nicole, thank you!
Side note: Jung recorded himself saying he had never met his shadow except second or thirdhand in the reflections and reactions of people close to him. This work has come along since his time but just to throw it out there I would love to hear if you had a passing thought at all on how far our understanding of shadow work has come since those early times. No big, just curious, and again very appreciative of your work!
So glad you're resonating with this video Justyn! ❤
i love shadow work, liberates us and with self compassion is a great tool. thank you for so much inspo and healing.
So liberating for sure! 🙌❤
Shadow work is THE key to knowing, accepting and loving one's true, authentic self, and therefore the key to self growth. I've met many of my shadows, some have been understood and embraced, with some I still might struggle from time to time, but it's absolutely worth it
Couldn't agree more Jelena--Accepting ALL of ourselves is what healing is all about! ❤
Very interesting again . When I first started working for myself in the 70s everyday after getting back home I used to question myself had I been polite to the customer done what they had asked dealt with criticisms etc. I found it helped a great deal in forming a working relation with the customer as I would see them every week.. Looking at your video about my shadow made me realise how useful my actions where in those days. Of course I was not aware of the "shadow" until your video , I remember what is now called overthinking a great deal then. Thanks Nicole
I had no idea it applies to idealizing as well. it all makes perfect sense. Thank you for this video and for your overall contribution.
Thank you. I needed this. You have no idea how timely this video has been. Thank you.
Having watched this video a few times changed my outlooks on a lot of things,Wonderful video !
I'm so glad to hear Paul! ❤
This is a great video, you explained it perfectly in 5 mins and gave me questions to ponder and journal about! Thank you! Subscribed 🎉
Thank you for your thoughtfully concise explanation!
I haven’t done this work, I’m going to definitely try those prompts. Thank you 🙏 I have your premier audiobook, and the book doing the work which I can’t wait to star using for my personal growth journey.
Currently been doing shadow work for 2 1/2 years now. Not consistently but I'm on my second journal and it's amazing to reflect back and learn.
I expected the shadow to be our own latent potential for darkness. I think what we project isn't always translated one-to-one to others, but mirrored. I.e., I'm afraid of abandonment, so I accuse someone of being distant. I'm afraid of my instinct for cruelty, so I might perceive another as weak or sensitive. The second one has been bothering me a lot. I sometimes feel like the protections of having an inner self that is shadowed is necessary because it is suppressing impulses that are self-destructive or socially inappropriate. On the other hand, suppressing them causes pain and leads to more anger. I'm not sure how to work with that, especially since I think my morbid thoughts are caused by my trauma.
Wow. Thank you !! I have heard of it and read about it but you ur explanation is really great thanks will do that
Thank you so much!
Yes, I’ve!heard of the shadow process. The late great Debbie Ford introduced me to the Shadow Effect. I’m not sure I’ve met my own. I’m afraid of what might be found.
Yes, it is very scary. I’ve found the results of not doing it to be way more painful and destructive than actually facing it. Just a little at a time. And lots of self-compassion is needed 🤗
It's really common to feel afraid to look at our shadows (as in the case with many aspects of becoming conscious) though as with most practices becomes less intimidating with time!
@@J1M0TEE for sure, self-compassion is such a big part of the journey! ❤
That's a great book by Debbie Ford.
Thank you so much Nicole for this video!!.. I’ve always wanted to meet my shadow. I’ve heard other ppl talk about it, but I’ve never done shadow work myself. Thank you so much for helping find another way to meet myself and become whole by ‘doing the work’ 😊🤗
So glad "meeting your shadow" feels more understandable to you Ryanne! ❤
I like to do a clearing process where I remove my projections of my own shadow from someone I’m judging or have a ‘charge’ with (something I feel coming up in my body when I see them / think of them), so that I can start to see that person more clearly for who they really are, without my projections and stories on top of them.
Also, “if I spot it, I got it” - when I judge and point a finger at someone else, there’s three fingers pointing back at me. After I’ve removed that projection I can shine a light on my shadow belief that’s causing it, then look at my truth or gold that’s being hidden by that shadow. I’ve found this to be a very powerful and freeing practice 🙏🏻🧡
A "charge"-- what a great way to describe shadow's activation!! 🙌
@@TheHolisticPsychologist Indeed! Sometimes it’s a strong energetic charge that quickly activates my primordial brain into reaction, anger and judgement, when really I’m reacting to something within myself that I’m suppressing or denying. Other times it’s more subtle, but my body can be a great indicator if something is coming up for me.
I learnt that term and the clearing process (and many other things) through the ManKind Project - who I do the weekly men’s group with. It’s been huge for my personal work and growth to be vulnerable with a group of men in a safe container.
I have heard of Shadow. I’m very interested in inner child work for myself, however I have trouble answering questions like that about my parents what I wanted from them or didn’t. Some reason it’s hard for me to connect, although I know I have some trauma.
What is the difference between inner child and a shadow ?
🙏for sharing.
We blame words for our feelings. How can a word be bad? History doesn't repeat itself.
Dark side of the moon is where the shadow lives.
No thing to fear. I dance with my Shadow. We play together. Even named my vehicle Shadow. It's toothless. Nothing to fear. We enjoy each other's attention. 🙃
Thank you
Love you so so much
Thank you for this video. I want to ask you Nicole isn't seeing our shadow is a part of comparing let's say me to others which is that one of my ego stories which are destructive for the self.
Both our ego + shadow love to compare ourselves to others-- learning how to objectively witness when this is happening then allows us to make choices outside of these comparison if we wish!
I have heard of the shadow but am clueless about my own =(
I have no idea what this is/how it translates to me
My biggest petpeev is people that use the word "like "way too often in normal conversation.
I'm judgmental of filler words as well, especially in standup comedy.
Thanks for sharing! ❤
Bad eyebrows. Like overpowering painted on eyebrows or single line eyebrows. So what does that say about me? Besides I like a natural look? Lol
What judgements and feelings come up for you when you see bad eyebrows?
@@J1M0TEE that they're ugly. Lol I also work in the beauty industry so there's that...
@@kristidin1983 What kind of person has ugly eyebrows?
@@J1M0TEE someone who doesn't know how to do their eyebrows in a way that compliments their natural beauty.
@@kristidin1983 I hear ya. Well, maybe the shadow then is about a lack of competence and experience, and maybe that’s something you’ve judged yourself about. I know my inner critic can be harsh on myself.
This work gets quite deep and this medium is not ideal to do it through, obviously, but hopefully that’s given you a little insight into what might be underneath that for you 🙏🏻
When i was a child my father would repeat over and over and over … “You think you’re so clever” My mother continued with it, my siblings followed. As an adult i discovered i have been offered a educational bursary as a child. I thought i,d dreamt the headmistress had called me to her office to remark on how well i had performed and how proud of me she was. My mother kept it from me, it suddenly came up in my late 20s. She said that even with the bursary she could not afford to send me to the school so she thought it was best not to say anything to me. In my dream i remember the headmistress telling me i had done exceptionally well. As a teenager i thought this was the evidence my family was probably right. I was deluded about my abilities. I am 60 now and not sure i have ever really expressed my full potential. I went on to art college as an adult and would love to sell my art and generate a supplementary income. It would be a huge achievement. I just dont ever think my art is good enough. ❤️🩹
janjan, will give you something. expressive art, where you write a thought or word on canvas then cover with *your expression* over the word ie: via paint or any medium you choose. then see if others can relate and/or express something related to the word/phrase that you covered up.
recall what you *already know* , we are our own worst critics [hence, you say what you wrote towards the end of your post about your art]
Thank you for your posting… I can totally relate. I’m trying not to think about whether I’m good enough… and focusing more on the fact I love doing it… and always have.
Do what you love and see where it takes you.
Best of luck.