10 Coping Skills When You're Feeling Down
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Coming back after a week off, I've been thinking a lot about what mentally strong people do & how I can become more mentally strong, increase my emotional, physical and mental balance. Motivating myself to be better, stronger and frankly more motivated. I started doing research into this topic of mental strength in an attempt to become more mentally strong, and I thought this might be an interesting video for my audience. If you're like me and are prone to burnout, exhaustion, feeling overwhelmed, or just down on yourself, there are a ton of tips that can help you become more mentally strong or motivated, so you can be like the motivated people you see on TV or in your real life. So dive on in to the video 10 things mentally strong and motivated people do. What motivates you? What tips have helped you to become more motivated or mentally strong in your life?
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Beautiful reminders Kati - thank you.
If you haven't already Kati, try to get an appointment (via doc/reputable blood lab) to have your thyroid checked + a general blood panel test.
Much 💛 ☀️ 🕊
SO glad to see you back both because I enjoy your content that it means you are feeling better! :)
Just what I needed to hear thank you katie ☺️
Good to see you Kati! I will add, mentally strong people take breaks! ❤️❤️❤️
Definitely do NOT go to a western doctor when you feel sick. They know nothing.
1. They look for positive confirmation bias. 0:25
2. They Focus on things that they can control. 3:10
3. They have healthy boundaries. 4:17
4. They take responsibility. 5:39
5. They have built fulfilling relationships. 6:43
6. They Learn from past mistakes. 7:33
7. They are not entitled. 8:18
8. They know they can't please everyone. 9:08
9. They practice gratitude. 10:24
10. They prioritize their basic needs. 11:29
Nicely done.
Thank you ❤️
Thanks
Thx a lot for the list!
As a people-pleaser, I've struggled to set boundaries but I'm much better at it now after lots of work with my psychologist. I'm much happier ☺
My therapist said to me today...it’s easier to set boundaries with people who aren’t close to you. And start with friends before family. This piece of advice feels more attainable than trying to tackle all of it.❤️
Men or women? Men make friends thru work and school I don't know how women make friends but in man world its f up.
I regained my mental strength through therapy. I lost it after being so beaten down by life around me: my now ex- boyfriend, employer, healthcare, public benefits, insurance, half the doctors I saw, and so on. People say what I've been through would kill another person. I say, "Before it makes you stronger, what doesn't kill you hurts like hell," - song by Michelle Branch
@@JoseRRodriguez Spoken like someone who either hasn't experienced severe longterm pain or likes to be in/see others in pain. Suffering is not necessary.
Happy to see you back. Make sure you don't push yourself too hard. ❤
Now I’m at the point of my life where I going out and doing activities. Still my anxiety tries to tear me down. A lot of people are surprised when they hear my struggles 😢 Thankyou kati binge watching your videos ❤
Welcome back! Glad you are ok! ❤️😊
Hi Lauren! Thank you. 🙌🙌
Regarding the saying no to people. Since I know I struggle with people pleasing issues.
My trick to make it easier on me and say No, is, before hand whenever someone approaches me and i have the hint they are going to ask for something, in a funny approach I say “No, I can’t ” then laugh it off and ask them to tell me whatever they were going to tell me… it makes it easier to put a boundary there and actually help myself say the real No, if I need to.
This is usually with peers and family, when It comes to my boss, I learned to straight forward to say another task I have at hand. And if it is needed rush ask what should I do with the task I had before.
Hope this helps to anyone.
I didn't get the chance to expand on this earlier, but something that helped me with that people pleasing issue is to focus on making myself somebody I like. I like me, and people who don't like me have their own problems. My own mother doesn't like me and continuously rejects me, so healing this wound has been particularly difficult for me. ❤️
Yes!! exactly! You're your #1 best friend first and foremost
Well said you have to like you first ❤💯
Hi Kati, new here, subbed because I really need this. Love ya and thanks for the encouragement .💕
wow kati! the quality, the content, the editing! such a difference from a few years ago! hope you're ok now❤
Ms. Morton glad you recognized your own limits and took time off to get better. Hope you had a good rest 😘
Setting boundaries remains a mindblowing challenge for me, partly due to my autism, but also because I've long been around people who promoted the view of "be able to handle what others think of and say about you". I've never distinguished between taking the hit and speaking up because as far as the other person is concerned, their thoughts about me are their truth and "who am I to change that"?
No idea if this makes any sense, but it was a thought I just had!
well here a gift that I'm grateful that I decided to open youtube before I start my day. wow thanks for reiterating and also reminding of the things that I'm working on that maybe some people in my life don't realize that I am doing slowly and making changes into the positive. But one thing that I've learned is the only thing I can control is my reaction to anything. the power of no, Boundaries. I'm not going to write a book but there's a lot of things that you say that people actually don't want to actually acknowledge they'll say the opposite. And me I'm very much a realist and the fact that hey we want to think in the negative about things, but let's try to work on being positive and putting that energy out there. I want to say your energy came across to me very genuinely happy upbeat and energized so I hope you got what you needed and that you're still taking time for yourself. your an amazing person. I really appreciate how you reinforce the things that I'm working on, but you also remind me of things that I need to improve on. And also thank you for never coming down on anybody you come across as you're talking to me not at me. That's my personal perspective on what I have watched throughout youtube.
I’m really working on number 2. I do know not everything is in my control. But I could work a little bit harder. Number 10, I could list a lot of things I’m grateful for. I’m grateful for the loving mom and husband I have, I’m grateful for being here on this earth, despite the fact that I’m totally blind autistic and have CPTSD. My disabilities are not a burden nor are they a tragity in my life. And I don’t like it when people give me special treatment. I might need more help being that I do have special needs, but I don’t want special treatment at all!
Great list. But consider the strength that can be found in balancing some of your advice.
We are strong when we can be honest about the negatives in life while recognizing negatives are always in the mix and being adequate to life does not require an absence of negative features. When we are strong we can be comfortable with a realistic awareness of the pro and con mix. We can rejoice on positives without hiding from negatives.
There are meaningful ways of responding to things we cannot control. I can talk clearly and strongly about political corruption, racism, and many other social issues that are not going to change any time soon due to my efforts without feeling as though life sucks or that I need settle in a sour disposition, there are wonderful things even in the lives of the disenfranchised. I can fight these things that are culturally wrong simply because they are wrong even if I make no headway. There can be peace in having clarity over unmovable problems, they are not the whole of life and need not rob me of gratitude for what is still wonderful.
Feeling entitled is definitely a problem that hides a weakness, but I know too many people who will not accept help or gifts even when they are overwhelmed. Accepting unearned kindness and favors from people who have the capacity to give and feel the desire to be generous is part of returning the kindness.
Excellent video! I'll start paying attention to those more. I do tend to get caught up in all the bad things and forget what is going well. I hope your break was restful!
Glad to see you back! 👑
So glad to see you back!! ❤
Very helpful & much needed to hear today! TY!
Always enjoy your videos. Great to still see you going strong 💪🏻💪🏻
Love you Kati! Glad your back and better, this is a great example of showing self care and we appreciate you for it ❤
Glad to have you back Kati, your a real one 👌
This video was amazing. Thank you!!
I am so glad to see you back!!! You seem well rested and in better spirits, and I am just so glad! I will be so glad to see you taking breaks in the future, as well. Just so happy that you are feeling better!!!
Thank you for this.
Thank you Kati ! This was so helpful to me
I am so happy to see you back.
Good to see you back on youtube Katie ...Looking healthy & lovely
God bless you Kati :) so glad you are back - having a symptomatic night with my anxiety and depression - and this helped me tonight :) Thank you!!
Thanks for everything Kati🥰
Brilliant! All of these have been key for my psychosis recovery 👌🏻
Thank you katie.
10/10 video Kati! And thank you for letting us in on some of your personal experiences. I like the way you explained taking responsibility.
Thank you, Kati!
You have been such a light and blessing to me. I appreciate you . Thank you for all that you do in helping those who need it.
Kati, you preaching girl! MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP ON KEEPIN YOU!!
Thanks, Kati!
this was good and thanks for sharing this. welcome back we missed you :)
Thank you for coming back so soon :)
You’re such a stunner. Thanks for your videos
Great Scott! We all need to work on these.
Hii kati glad your back hope your recharged and feel better love you❤
10:24
The white noise instead of some sound clip was hilarious.
I’m presuming though, that this wasn’t intentional.
For what it’s worth though, it made my day. Thanks
Thank you. The logic and strategies are vital to cutting through the noise.
Hi! Good to still see videos. Good to see you getting better too.
I love coping skills❤! Thank you for being honest to us on other videos too!
This is a great video Kati! Thank you!
Glad you liked it Brittany :)
You look great! Happy to see you!
Wonderful “recap” of the ABSOLUTE BASICS of getting ourselves healthy in our head..& that BREATH visualization is powerful! Thank you!
Glad to see you kat and glad your doing better ❤️
I've been watching a lot of anti-MLM (multi level marketing/network marketin/ social marketing/ semi-legal pyramid schemes) over the past few weeks. There seem to be a ton of common tactics that these companies promote (love-bombing, cutting out "unsupportive" friends and family, pushing past objections, etc) and I kept being reminded of the Stanford Prison exparament. If you are sucked into an mlm, you are told by your up-line to do all of these inappropriate things in order to recruit new people. Your goal isn't even selling the product. It's literally people under you, so you get paid for their work. You start coaching your down-line to do the same slimy, inauthentic, morally repugnant tactics in-turn. It gives people false hopee and victims are blamed for their lack of success for just not working hard enough. It preys on women especially. It would be so interesting to hear about the psychology of MLMs and how to respond to pushy sales people while holding your own boundaries. I would love to see your take on this topic if you were ever interested. I know it's a big topic and I know you just took a break, so no biggie if it's not in the cards.
Thanks!
One key is to disengage from people who don't treat you well. That can be done using the 10 things in this video. For me, especially when it's a professional setting, filling a complaint where I share my experience, including how it made me feel, gets it off my shoulders and into the hands of people who are trained to evaluate and remedy the problem. In other words, I don't try to force someone to behave or treat me better.
Hiii friend, welcome back!! I've missed you lots!!
Good to see you, Kati, I hope you're feeling a bit better? Please take care of yourself.
Heyyy how ya doing? Been thinking of you.... honestly don't be afraid to take more breaks more often, I have a whole lot of your other videos to watch!
I hope you’re taking good breaks and being good to you!!! ✌️😌
Bravo, another informative and fruitful video about our mental health and how to increase our Emotional intelligence.
Enjoyed the video
I'm glad you liked it Ryanne :)
terima kasih telah berbagi ilmunya..
I would say I'm mentally strong as I dealt with my hubby on a ventilator for 11 days with covid while my narcissistic mother and brother were of zero support. I was at home for 90 days alone. Their total lack of support was a wakeup call for me. I went no-contact months ago. Found out I didn't need them.
So being transparent, all the times Kati mentions "choosing to be with people" or "surrounding ourselves with people" who "care about us," it's very painful to hear. After four+ years in this city, trying several groups of different interests, starting my own groups, and trying several churches no one has stuck, and I literally have one friend I go on a walk with every week or two, and a couple acquaintances who will co-work in a coffee shop with me, but don't want to talk about anything personal. It's to the point I've decided to look for a different city/town to move to. I am isolated and have no caring people who know me well to choose (besides one half-hour walk every week or two). And (ironically) the longer I remain isolated, the less energy or motivation or non-depression time I have to try another group, another church, another class. I don't know that there is any kind of social "safety net" organization or etc. to help reverse this downward spiral. It makes everything else feel put-on-hold, which does feel disempowering. I'm even without a therapist right now, and struggling to find one in this entire State who will take medicaid (I'm on disability). I don't mean any of this to sound complain-y or woe-as-me; these are the actual circumstances, and I feel at a lack of ideas for what to try next. I'm glad for some powerful resonance I've felt in some of Kati's videos (especially around forgiveness); this is mostly a cry-into-the-wind about my current situation, as I'm sure I'm not the only one.
Coping skills:
We can’t control the world, but we can control how we RESPOND.
1. Look out for good things, qualities, behavior and good things
2. Healthy strong boundaries
noone has ever put forth any effort to get to know who i am and i almost instantly know everyone that i meet for just a few minutes.
Here’s my experience with learning to stick up for myself. At first it feels like you’re being an absolute asshole but you’ll see that people aren’t as hurt (or hurt at all really) as you think they’ll be after you stand up for yourself. This is most of the time. Of course there are those rare scenarios where you’re dealing with a psychopath/narcissist/sociopath/etc who does not respect your boundaries or who overreacts to you enforcing your boundaries. Most people will be like 😟👂when you stand up for yourself, they won’t usually be like 🤬👊.
Is like you know what i am Going through.❤😊
Clever teacher 77
Hello, can you create a video about coping skills/strategy when suddenly get triggered and you get extremely mad or angry? Like comprehensive ones. maybe also 10-30 copig strategies.
question! do you still work in practice or what it's called? or just from home?
Thanks for the last sentence in number 7. I seem to both be tendencially (word?) entitled, but also easily expecting of judgement. So it sounded to me like I was being told not to be so arrogant and crybabylike. But the last sentence "they think we all deserve the same" showed me a much needed "what" and "why".
To be honest I still don't really understand it
Hii, glad to see you're back, hope you enjoyed your break! I think it would be interesting to see your opinions on videos about mental health on tiktok, as theres a lot (an unbelievable amount actually) of people having discussions about it and misinformation spreads quickly. Also hearing what you think someone in their positions next step should be would be really interesting! These tiktoks would be quite easy to find just by a few keywords, anyway this was just an idea I got intrigued by, since I have seen other licensed therapists doing this on tiktok too. Of course it's never an attack on the creator of the video just an objective view of what's going on
No, no tik tok it's mentally leukemia.
Kati is posting very serious content & tik tok should not even be considered an option.
@@O_Cum_O_Cum_Emmanuel see that's why it would be interesting. there's a lot of young people pretty lost on there. Your so-called "leukemia" is caused my misinformation and misunderstandings
@@O_Cum_O_Cum_Emmanuel Fair point, but I do think it would bring a lot of perspective for young people
I tried that app and I found the constant notifications, and they have to be on, really annoying and added stress trying to keep up with the constant nagging. Then I didn't want to even use it and uninstalled it. I might try it again some other time, but I think it's effectiveness has A LOT to do with how well you can focus on all those notifications and messages to tick each task off. Not only that, the better features have to be paid for anyway, so overall I found a dissatisfactory app *for me*. :)
I'd like some advice on whether your (my) therapist sucks or whether I don't like the truth or whether the therapy is only getting started.
I went since exactly a year ago and now she's in parent time (german social safety net) and will be back in 6 months. And as mentioned, I don't know whether or not she is a bad fit or if I am impacient or stubborn.
Who else comes to Kati on their bad days
ps Great to see you back but please don't overdo it. If you need more rest / time out then please do so ❤❤❤
I love the video but i feel like the title doesn’t match the content, but still loved the vid❤
Responsibility: the ability to respond.
It is even more what you don't do that makes a mentally strong person.
I thought you were taking a break?
Hey Kati! I recently heard about something called the deity/villain cycle, which I took to mean the cycle where we idolize our partners one day, and then totally hate them the next. The person who told me about this has BPD, but I've done this myself and I don't have the disorder. This is an unhealthy eay to go about relationships of course, but why does this happen? I would love to know your take on it.
When I talk to my therapist about my depression I feel like I am whining and wonder if she thinks so as well. This makes being open difficult. Is this common or am I more dain Bramaged than I thought?
How do you beat fear?
Thought you were taking a break
Thx for this list! I would prefere if you wouldn't say "people who ARE mentally strong" which implies in contrast "people who are mentally not strong" and connecting one status to a certain set of behaviour. It is difficult to change one's ideas about one's identity / personality / character. It is way easier especially when we feel weak, vulnerable, non-resilient to hear "if you want to learn to be more resilient take actions to do those 10 steps". This would shift the conversation from being to doing and latter is easier to conceive as changeable.
No offence meant, only a hint what I think is more helpful.
Maybe I've just been here so long I'm hoping for something that isn't here. - Much of these suggestions are good. Just that what I can get from them seems so obvious, and like things I've already been doing. That it's disheartening listening to a list of things that haven't helped me reach where I want to be yet.
I thought you were on a break, Kati. Hope you’re doing well.
Back much closer than I expected. Hope this is good for you and that you're not pushing too hard for the sponsor. This is an obviously complex bit of editing up to your usually high standards, but I hope that your basic needs are really being met.
Not sure if it's the whole video. Or just #1, and especially the add. But the two things that come to mind are big-wordy and inaccessible.
Another thing that helps me is returning to the deeper truth spiritually speaking, or in psychology talk the most realistic. It's a mix of truths: some people like me and some people don't. Or a mix of potential between the best and worst that could happen: this could go really bad or really well, and the most realistic is that some things will go well and some things won't go so well. I have support to draw upon, usually learn from my mistakes, and am thankful for what goes well.
I found it helpful to rewatch Kati's video on Speaking Up for Yourself. She also reminds us of Chapter 10 in her book. th-cam.com/video/dqzxwcOSjuM/w-d-xo.html
I find it easier to start with close people and move on to strangers haha
Katie I absolutely love listening to you you bring out a lot of things that people live through life. . But one thing I have to say man or woman would like to say I've had it I'm done with this TH-cam or any other profession. I'm taking a break but most people can't they have to push forward you can't take two or three weeks off. This is TH-cam your second job if you lost it it wouldn't make any difference why would you get stressed out on this. . I can't take off like this I've got a family to support. Like thousands of other people. Maybe you can give me some insight on what I can do. Thanks
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Point 3 is great! Until you're asked to do the dishes this time, right?
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BOUNDARIES ARE BADASS!! love em! great video ❤
I’m weak
We all are.