3 common MENTAL HEALTH STRUGGLES of people in narcissistic relationships
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Our anxiety gets worse when they are going through tough times. They blame us for everything.
Learning to disengage helps immensely. Distance yourself if possible and do not react to them. I learned a long time ago that not reacting minimizes their input as you are no longer a supply source. Its like a kid getting tired of a toy.
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Yesssss!!!!
It's always my fault. Even when the milk went off it was my fault for not drinking it quick enough. I made the mistake of pointing out that the milk could have been frozen.
Getting diagnosed as depressed, bi-polar, doing whatever they can, to find a category to lump me into.
My issues come from having to interact daily, with a passive-aggressive covert narcissist.....The attempt to exert control over my entire life is bizarre.
Being with a narcissist can really take a toll on one’s mental health, especially feeling worthless because of constant criticism which creates self-doubt, and the depression that comes with it due to the emotional rollercoaster and constant stress.
I see your emotions Dr. Ramani. You deserve the same validation you've freely given to all of us who are suffering. My heart goes out to you & I just wanted to say thank you for all your time & effort you've given to those who needed to hear your messages. It's meant more to us than words could ever express & it hasn't gone unnoticed! I hope you never forget that fact! You're loved & valued more than you'll ever know Dr. Ramani.. ❤
Totally agree!!! Ty so much Dr. Ramani- prayers for u! God Bless You!! Your work is much needed in this day n time!!!
Here ye, hear ye! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💯✊🏾
She's a light for all of us. ❤😊
Love this!
When I was 4 years old, I frequently wished I had never been born. I grew up in a toxic family and married two damaged men, the second, I believe, was a really toxic narc. My entire life, I always thought I was depressed and angry. At 55 years of age, I got divorced from my narc and went no contact with my family. It was only a couple of months after I left that I realized I wasn't depressed or angry! That discovery was amazing because I had been told my entire life that I was a depressed and angry person. I am still amazed 5 years later.
I remember that feeling of praying for death as a child. It's horrible. The sad thing is in a toxic family, the non toxic person is seen as the issue even if you're a little child & they're adults who had a toxic dynamic before you were born. I'm so sorry you went through that & so pleased you got away & found yourself.
@@sallybaddeley6060 I am so sorry for you as well. I don't think there is anything in the world sadder than a child who wishes for death. Sending virtual hugs to you. I also found a wonderful man, and we are healing together. Wishing you all the wonderful things in life.
I’m sad bc I didn’t go no contact. I regret it immensely. I know the feeling you describe now that narc mother is dead. Narc brother who was coddled all his life is now on a smear campaign toward me. I feel it’s my fault for not going no contact a long time ago.
@@heymickey4125 my mother is still alive, but I know when she dies my sister will pick up the mantle and continue to smear me. It doesn't matter if you go no contact or not, they are never going to stop talking smack about you. Just live your life, apart from them. That is when you find peace.
I know exactly what you mean! Wow.
Going through a trauma can NOT be an excuse for abusing other people.
AGREE!!
I want to make a motivational poster with this quote!
Dr Ramani watching you cry broke my heart 😢 I’ve been diagnosed with complex PTSD last year . I’m seeing a fantastic psychologist for over a year , however the jumping out of my skin is still a problem, still intrusive thoughts, lots of triggers of places . Two steps forward, three steps back . Most mornings I’m so anxious takes me at least an hour to calm down , am crying just now as I feel your pain . Thank you for your honesty make me feel I’m not going nuts . You have no idea how much you have help me. I’m reading it’s not you again for the second time . Sending you heartfelt wishes of healing and hugs 🤗
Thank you , thank you , thank you 🙏
I really feel feel you. Still getting jumpy when I see a car that looks like his...
Bless you Dr Ramani! I hope your life gets better soon. Yes all the trauma response is real and frightening. Thank you for this session.
I cried with you too, thinking, crap, it can happen again after recovering to the point of being such a healed wounded healer? I don't know how many rounds of this I can take. I'm at the breaking point already. To consider this kind of trauma happening again makes me want to quit while I'm ahead.
@@victoryamartin9773 Do you mean you want to quit the relationship?
Seeing Dr Ramani triggered made me really want to be there for her, such as I am - still a bit broken, but I have made a good life for myself after learning many hard lessons. I wanted to reach out to everyone going through this. Using DEEP is so very helpful in many situations, but learning not to be triggered into anxiety is harder. I have not really fully succeeded and do lots of avoiding. Also, the bad dreams still come back sometimes, even decades after getting away from the worst situation. I try to steel myself, knowing that the sadistic malignant narcs would enjoy seeing me upset and anxious. Thinking about how sick and sad they must be inside is discomforting to an empath. Letting go is the only way. I love Dr Ramani's mantra of getting educated about narcissism, as it allows us to take back a large amount of control in our lives, and to watch for any 'fleas' we may have picked up from toxic situations.
I am 56 years old. Nearly my entire life has been being abused by narcissists. I was unable to get away from this type of people. I have 1 person left in my life. Due to legal reasons, I can't totally leave. Although, I am distancing myself over time. It took my 5 1/2 years to get over the feelings of depression and anxiety. My life is in fast foreword.
I lived on campus during college because I earned a full ride scholarship. But my narc parents would force me into their car and drive me back to their house every weekend. I wasn't allowed to drive, but I used the bus or I walked to buy my groceries and get anything else I needed: all things I bought with my money because I worked part time through school. And I did not need anything from their house. But they owned me. I was their property. Any time I said that I wanted to stay at my dorm, malignant narc father would threaten to "beat me senseless" and withdraw me from school. I said wouldn't that be throwing away free money, and he said he didn't care if it "Put Me In My Place".
The day my college counselor told me it would be better for my mental health to just lie and say I had group projects most weekends, I couldn't stop crying - not tears of sadness, tears of joy. For the first time in my life a grown up was not agreeing that I was a thing or pretending it was ok that two abusers were regularly kidnapping me from my home.
When the narc isn't around. You can actually start to gather your thoughts and goals. There is no yelling or stress. When they show up. It's all about serving their needs constantly. You start to forget important things that needed to be accomplished. Narcs seem to want turmoil and failure in everything.
I am a totally different person, healthier and happier, away from the narcissists. It’s heartbreaking to realize what they’ve done to me. Taking myself back and protecting myself. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤
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Dr Ramani watching you cry broke my heart. Thanks so much for being vulnerable and sharing from your heart. You deserve to be happy. Thanks for helping all of us understand the craziness that has become our life
Dr. Ramani-sorry for your troubles, but your people love you. Take care!❤️🩹
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❤ Thankyou for being strong enough to be vulnerable with what you're dealing with ❤️ I was diagnosed with PTSD 7 years ago - I've only found your channel over the last few months and it's explained my family situation in a way that I can stop wondering if there's a way I can fix it - I've stepped away and already my memory has improved, my sense of calm has improved, my functional gut disorder has improved - EMDR really helped me to take the sting from the original trauma - but understanding the narcissistic family system that I've been dealing with since has really helped me to take my healing into my own hands.
Thankyou so much for what you do and the hope that you give to people - I've just got your book too.
I hope you're looking after yourself like you would look after your inner child version x because you're worth it and you deserve it x thank you
❤🎉Divorced one month and feeling so much better!
Thank you for clarifying the difference between clinical depression and the depression that goes along with abuse at the hands of a narcissist. ❤
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalized
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
It seems To me like you are not talking about the same thing. Dr Ramani is talking about narcissistic abuse not little problems of ordinary couples. Way off base...Pas rapport 🙄
What a light bulb moment… I’m not
Clinically depressed. Wow it’s him not me… I really needed to hear that.
Me too. 🙏
Thank you, I am avoiding all people who reminds me of my past narcissistic abuse. I have to control myself because I go into defense mode because I’m tied of people bullying me. I just want to be alone. If you’re not good for my mind, body and soul I don’t want you around me. I didn’t know that being kind would be exhausting and abusing.
I feel the same way
Same 😢
You hit the nail on the head. This is logical thinking. After so many years, we as humans know what type of people help us and don't, and it is often based on what a person looks like, their physiognomy
When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted His free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
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Thank you so much for being so real. I'm crying with you. Don't forget that you aren't alone.🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
This is very interesting as I recently separated from my narcissistic ex.
I suffer from depression and I meditate. But when he was with me I was always tired and sometimes unable to function, but now I am sad as it was a 30 years relationship, but I am doing much better. In the energy department.
Dr. Ramani, just know that you are saving lives with your work, including this one. Much love and strength is being sent your way, to overcome your current challenges.
The most authentic doctor I’ve ever seen. Period.
I coined a phrase while learning to deal with my late malignant narcissist husband. I quit "feeding the monster" by NOT reacting. It really helped. Try not to feed the monster by being their source of supply.
It’s also called collusion & imo most marriages are simply examples of collusion between two people who simply don’t want to break up that corporation so they fake it
Or the hungry crocodile.😊
For many simply remaining within proximity is enough food for a narcissist. That you haven’t left is proof they still have your time & attention.
@@SandyBatten1962 If you are referring to me, I watched my late malignant narcissist husband die of cancer 12 years ago. Did you read what I said initially? My "late"..... Trust me. I am no longer a source of supply. His ashes still sit in my bedroom until I decide to pitch them where he wanted them to go. I don't tolerate narcissists AT ALL. I learned my lesson. I have no need to do so. I have a very strong ego strength and do not suffer fools lightly. Any.
It is incredible how similar all of our experiences are. I also call the malignant covert narcissist that I am divorcing, the monster.
Knowing what he is & what he has done to me & our son, I find it very difficult to say his given name bc his given name gives him human qualities, which he does not have
He is a monster.
It is amazing that you also referred to your late husband as the monster too.
Working in a narcissistic workplace is a nightmare. It seems like if you're at a big organization, it's impossible to avoid narcs.
You deserve to have feelings too. You deserve self love. You deserve to be proud of your accomplishments. Idk what anyone thinks if I’m a narcissist but anyone can see you’re precious in this world and help a lot of people. Thank you. 🙏
I think growing up with a narcissist parent I have had anxiety and depression from a very young age…it kinda just became my normal until I realized that it was in fact abnormal and worked on healing.
I got teary eyed when you shared your current experience. This community understands what you're going through. Thanks for sharing this, and all your knowledge. Take care ❤️
My youngest daughter used to say to me ‘mum you’re so much more fun when dad’s away!’. I think that says it all and yet when I finally left him my daughters turned against me and I’ve sadly not seen them for 11 years. I grew up with a narcissistic mother and a lot of violence. I then married a man I didn’t love to escape it and after 20 years left him and his emotional abuse. I’ve now been diagnosed with bpd and cptsd. I am currently in a historical trauma program and see the links so clearly now. My body pain is also linked to my trauma but it is starting to get better as I’ve cut all my family out of my life. I prioritise my own health and wellbeing now and am kind to myself ❤
Thank you so much for this video. And sharing your tears (I was crying right along with you). ❤❤❤
Thank You So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This After Being Horribly Abused Psychologically And Emotionally
I Suffer From Emotional Trauma Mental Health Issues And Health Issues I Also Have A Very Low Self Esteem I Have Excessive Clinginess Anxious Severe Low Self Worth Anxiety And My Worse Is OCD ..From The Horrific Abuse I Suffered Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal… DR RAMINI YOU ARE SO BEAUTIFUL WITH A BEAUTIFUL SOUL IM SO GLAD TO KNOW IM NOT ALONE...
I get nausia,, diareah, dizzyness, shortness of breath and my heart beats fast. It's awful
Same here. 😢
I would get light headed. Her mouth abuse would not stop. They time it so you can go to work everyday and they start their crap 10 min before work. Everyday driving to work angry for years. It's sick.
Oh, my heart goes out to you. We are all so grateful for your kind, kind spirit.
Thank you so much for sharing. Sometimes I think I’m just an anxious mess and it’s nice to hear that I’m not alone.
There is no one who has helped me more in the last 5 years than you , Dr. Ramani, and Dr. Les Carter. This video brought on the tears! I’m going to get your book. Thank you
I’ll see you tomorrow ❤️
Dr Ramani Your so helpful on so many different topics. Your a lifesaver. Thanks. Make sure you take care of yourself.
"life sucks and then you die" has been my mantra since i was a child. Went no contact with my mother and stopped talking to toxic people and this thought went away for the first time in my life.
I feel it more as dread than depression. It’s the knowledge that all your bread will have mold and hard as you try to get out of the well you’ll be kicked back down
I'm so sorry you are going through a tough time, Dr Ramani. Sending you a bug hug and wishing you strength to get over it 🌹
Dr Ramani, let me say how much you have influenced my life and my healing since I started watching you several years ago but this video? This is REAL! I thought I was never going to get better because I wasn't as strong as you seem to be. Dropping your shoulders and your "strong face"fall away has allowed me to recognize that I am strong and I am better! I often have days of tears and angst but knowing you do too has made it all so real for me- the pain was real and the memories will continue but we will win- in the end- we ALL win. Tears show strength, courage, and perseverance... emotions are good!
I’m sorry you’re going thru a hard time.
Breaks my heart seeing you hurt Dr. Ramani. You’ve helped me through my hardest days
Yes!!! My last counsellor says I do have anxiety in the form of a person. When he leaves so does my anxiety. The anxious depression comes when it gets to be too much. I try to carry on with my day but during farming season which is stressful for him he reminds me in words and actions that I really am nothing but a servant to him. He can even be abusive and right after stand in front of the fridge and ask "what's to drink"....yes, I did start a reaction by saying "Open the fridge and look." And then I skadiddled away. My husband says that I clearly have a mental illness with my rollercoaster of emotions. Only when I'm pushed too far. You describe it exactly. I am typically a person that sees the joy everywhere and am very resilient but I get worn down by HIM....the good news is that he does identify that we must spend as little time together as possible. We are a farm family, he goes south for the winter and likes to go camping by himself so it is more possible than in most cases. Thank you. I've been following you for a long time and you get me through a lot! I wish I could reach in and give you a big hug.
thank you for saying this… !
I think the dreadful things happening in this world are also stripping us bare. It is as if it does not get better. And yet, this too shall pass. I am sorry for whatever or whoever is hurting you. ❤
You are loved. Narcs be damned. So so maddening that they hold such power!
Thank you for being so raw and real with us Dr. Ramani. Sending you strength. ✌️❤️
Seeing you cry made me cry. This is so so bad. My narc keeps pushing and pushing. Trying to FK with me. Estate was closed in 2023. I start therapy this month. Finally took the first step. Still crying having melt downs on oublic
Ty for being vulnerable, we see you. You helped so many people.
Dr Ramani You deserve your feelings. I experienced an exaggerated startle response that recently reared its head. I believe this is happening because of dealing with the reality that I am married to vulnerable covert narcissists.
Dr. Ramani ,you are so right about this topic! Narcissists are bullies,, I have experienced this personally and professionly, It is absolutely terrible to experience this! I think they all should be accountable for the abuse tatics that they have done! I wish incarceration was possible in these circumstances! I worked for a company, that was all about this, so selfish, so self- centered, so immature, and so entitled, the true, honest and smart people are overlooked, the narcissitic people and the bullies thrive there, alot of these people should not even be in the positions that they are in! So very very backwards and dysfunctional! I felt so bad for you when you were crying, I have felt this way many times believe me! I appreciate you and what you stand for and all of your smart advice, help, and wisdom on this topic!❣️
No, they are not, they are victims. I think you just can't see it right. (note: sarcasm)
Thanks again, this puts a tremendous amount of clarity on emotions during the normal times of sadness versus deep depression and feelings of hopelessness in such relationships...
Recovering who I am with out all the toxicity has been a long road. I have to say, not over night but improvement is definitely noticable change in daily mood has shifted to genuine and healthy forms of emotions, hope, joy, inspiration. Love your channel.
The gaslighting is really soul crushing
Sending you the love. I'm sorry for your pain. Sharing it helps me, and hearing you share your pain helps me too. We learn from each other and we can lighten each other's load. I guess I will always startle easily. You might also. ❤❤❤ We will be okay, together, across the miles.❤
I knew it was him when I came back from the spa. Had a great couple hours alone. Chatting with women. Giggling, fun gossiping, relaxing. The second my foot hit the door frame on the return trip I hear “ I need you to do …..”. I deflated like a balloon without helium. It’s like living with a toddler all the time. He had the audacity to tell his daughter I treat him like a child. What the…..
I'm so sorry you are going through this, my heart is breaking for you and everyone, who's in this💔😢. Honest gentle hugs. And I also know well, how the body keeps score.
Thank you thank you sooo much!!! Thank you to be vulnerable 💞🙏💞 thank you from Tampa Fl.
You always have the exact video that I need for the day. I always save your videos 💘
I'm in a Narrcissict marriage and I am struggling with depression.
I just learned to day that the episodes in my life that I thought were depression were really a reaction to narcissistic abuse - I thought I had cycles of depression, but they were really cycles of reaction to narcissistic abuse. It is really funny, because I have had such extended periods of abuse, that I have felt almost giddy during times without abuse. It is like when I had really bad morning sickness (couldn't even keep water down, throwing up every 5-10 min all day) and I got a prescription for Zofran. My husband took me to iHop and I was raving about everything - the hash browns are incredible, this is the best toast and my husband said, "If you don't hush, people will think I never take you anywhere."
Yes, it is all of us. 🙌Thank you
I appreciate you opening up about the new thing many are going through including myself. Can’t think of much beyond how I can become a cog in the machine that exposes narcissism and its abus3 and impact on global mental health.
The work you do is moving mountains. It’s already started.
Thank you for this video and sharing your story Dr. Ramani. You are a beautiful lady with a huge heart, brilliant mind and your determination and dedication of countless hours to help people around the world struggling to cope. Without you, many would be left in the darkness, pain and grief of how to process narcissistic abuse and the effects it has on mental health.
Thank you again and please take care ❤
Love and light Dr. Ramani. Thank you for humanising mental health problems. I hope you have the strength to positively navigate this season of yo life.
Thank you for going back over PTSD and Acute Anxiety Disorder again. Its refreshing to not have someone go all over the place when addressing the many different things that can happen when trying to navigate away from narcissistic people and just every day life occurences.❤
And the toll you get from people who just don't get it, or haven't experienced enough to recognize the differences in life yet. I'm in tears too, but u have helped me get a grip a many of days. Thanks Dr Ramani
Dr. Ramani, I like how transparent you are, by using yourself saying that you, too, have mental health issues. Bravo! Thank you for supporting your own visibility in this turmoil whirlwind of the victimhood the narcissist keeps hitting us with, our mental health issues.
Role Model, Dr. ramani.
Your speaking to the heart of our healing community. 😂
Sadness from narcissistic abuse is NOT a "mental health problem. "It is NORMAL. Stop labelling the victims. Label the monster.
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Thank you for sharing this. Its painful and never gets old, unfortunately. We always have to watch out for our own mental health and calm. I believe it’s not a „mental health issue“, it’s a perfectly normal and healthy reaction and state to this constant abuse, as depression seems to be also an attempt to heal, as the polyvagal theory suggested. So, how do we safe ourselves and stop moving into any unpleasant experiences for ourselves and others while we fight the dragon?
My heart goes out to you Dr. Ramani
Hey all you fellow survivors it’s time to step and crunch all those eggshells they like to make our carpet!
C-PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Chronic Fatigue, Binge eating disorder, and then bipolar developed in response to multiple narcissists. Disability can result from years of abuse and neglect. I’m healing slowly now that there is no contact with any of them. Thank you so much! ❤
I cried with you.
Best description: depression-past crap anxiety-fear &worry about future crap
Free time from the Narc vamp = happy af 😊
Wow…. This is so much more meaningful ❤Sending love ❤️
I love your authenticity Dr. Ramani!!! Your realness helps all of us be more real in all areas of our lives. Such important work. 🙏
We love you and support you! Thank you for your open heart and willingness to be transparent with the world!
It's amazing that even well meant reassurance toward an acquaintance, or friend or even relative can invite rejection. Covert narcicism strikes again. I have often felt "wrong"not knowing why. Thanks for clarifying this point.😊
Sending support, courage, strength, and care to you (Dr. Ram)...sorry you are going through that awful abuse...👍❤❤❤
I'm so proud of you for hunkering down on pushing through the hard part... can't say - courage - enough.
Presence of mind, power your way, and above all else kindness.
Both my Narcissist have passed on now, I am so much more at ease and centered in my life now. I have also gotten to where if someone shows the narcissistic behavior I cut them off immediately.
Out of sight out of mind.Period.😃
I’ve suffered with anxiety and panic disorder for years. Narc husband triggered my panic disorder and my generalised anxiety has got 100 times worse, no brainer. I’ve existed ever since my panic disorder which is one big reason I’ve stayed in this abusive, loveless, sexless marriage 😔 Just to think of all the men out there, even had I stayed single, I’m positive I’d have not ended up in a cycle of fear and stress and deep unhappiness. The things I used to be able to do but haven’t done for 27 years, is soul destroying. My adult sons have low mood, depression, and it’s definitely the impact of their dad’s behaviour. He is giving us all the silent treatment, 2 weeks already, yet it’s our elder son’s bday tomorrow. I’m trying to motivate him to go out for lunch but he has been very down lately, not surprising. I feel helpless although I always tell my sons I’m there for them, I understand 😢💜
😭😭😭thx for sharing. So I know I’m not the only one😢
Thank you Dr. Ramani for allowing yourself to be vulnerable. It did make all the difference in the world to me, to see your strenght and clarity next to your vulnerability... because that is real, as you said... and it is always good to see real, in this very authentic way 🙏❤️
Doctor Iam sorry for your pain.
You are a Good Spirit. May God keep you safe and heal you . Thank you Dr. for sharing 🙏❤️
Dear Dr Ramany, take some time for yourself, you have given so much hope to so many. Thankyou.😊,
You beautiful lady. Thankyou for all you give to others.❤
And the mystery of my „drug ressistant depression” has been solved. ❤
Dr Ramani, sending you warm n loving thoughts for your benefit n for all that you've done for us n in the future. You deserve it just as much as we do. Please take good n gentle care of yourself!! Lots of hugs!!!
Same, so sorry this is happening to you and thank you for everything that you do, take care ❤
When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥ He is coming to avenge!
👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted His free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥🥳
As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤😊
Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥
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Thank you Dr. Ramani. My heart goes out for you , some nights I can only sleep after hearing your voice. I used to be someone who need to read romantic novel / Show before going to bed, now even hearing you talk about the heavy stuff is very calming. You’re the first person who validated my experience when I thought I was just going crazy as everyone tells me.
Thank you so much for all you do . Sending you my prayers ❤️
Dr Ramini i been there too, let it out give yourself the biggest loving hug because these experiences is what makes you the best clinical psychologist there is today 🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀🥀🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
And thank you sharing so openly your current situation (at the time of the videorecording) and how its affecting you. I recognize how maddening it is to know so much about it, having so much experience already, and still fall into the rattling surprise of yet another toxic situation and / or finding yourself experiencing trauma responses, while thinking having dealt with them for a significant part and then being blind sighted by either all of a sudden, again.
Huge hugs to you🌟🌟🌟❣
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I know Dr Ramani, my startle factor is a 10, I did not used to be this way at all. My nervous system is on overload, all the time. I so understand the jumping out of your skin feeling. It is with me all the time.
Validating the fallout of these toxic relationships has been helpful. And agreed, going to the wrong therapist can further invalidate you.
You are helping so many with your empathic style. Your new Fireside "Reality Check" channel, is my support group. Thank you for creating this community.
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Still healing …Dr . Ramani you are a blessing , the awareness is helping me tremendously.
This Podcast, is EXACTLY, how i am struggling post Narc Long term marriage.
But Dr Ramani How i wished to be able to give you a loving, warm hug All the way from Australia.
You are such a loving, meaningful, non judgemental Educator.
Bless you, and A Hug from Australia
ThankYou for being transparent and it hurts my heart to see yours hurt. 💞🙏🏻🥰❤️🙌🏻
I’ll wish I could go through this video and give you a big, tight hug!! 🫂 God bless you! This video is so profound and eye opening!
I am so sorry you are going through this, Dr. Ramani. I have gone through this also and it hurts to see you suffering when you have helped me and many others so much.
My heart goes out to you Dr. Ramani. ❤ Thank you for all you do.
Wow - just watched this and I blubbed. Thank you for making this journey so so real 🥰
This is accurate in comparison
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Im here too 🖐
Dr. Ramani you're a phenomenal human being who deserves to be celebrated SO MUCH! I'd like to send you a virtual loving embrace 🤗 you are SO STRONG and i can tell you've got a stunningly beautiful brain 😄 thank you for sharing EVERYTHING you share. Especially your cry/personal journey. Keep growing and sharing with us ❤ You are absolutely going to crush this phase of your life!!
❤🎉❤ You just described everything me and my kids have been going through and experiencing after growing up In and experiencing a toxic narcissistic family system. We are almost 5 yrs no contact and still struggling but slowly slowly we are settling down, but, we were in that dynamic for decades. I relate to everything you say in this video. We are trying to calm down our nervous systems with healing meditation music, epsom salt baths and trying to stay calm and be supportive of eachother and stay away from people and situations that are not good for us. Thank you for this video.
After many years, I've been able to carve out a life of my own, separate and yet, still together with the narcissist. It takes acknowledgement and perseverance, and it's not ideal, but it works for me.
My advice, keep those you love and trust close to you always.
After 20 years, I decided to just live my own life and chase my own dreams. I thought he was just irresponsible. I didn't know what narcissism was.
15 years later, I had my own car, I owned a little house and had also bought the little house next to me as a retirement plan.
He squandered all of his and then set his eyes on mine.. bc he thinks that is his too. He had been running up debt although he made good money. I had been responsible and sacrificed so I could live my older years comfortably and would be able to help our children and to someday leave them something.
He wrecked my car, I had to sell my rental house to pay off his debt and he hoarded the garage into a deep, dark pile of junk... He called it money in the bank... As I'm selling a paid for house to have actual money bc all of his went on buying stuff and, come to find out, lots of drugs and probably women bc he also turned out to be a creep. Watch out for men who are texting in public bc they could be pretending and actually be taking pictures.
I had a point lol .. be careful.
Each time I read , see or listen to a podcasts about a narcissist it actually puts me off even more. It’s disturbing, evil, disgusting and unforgettable. I pray to god, one day I can forget all the mental abuse I lived, not even being 30, living through hell from my previous narcissistic partner that was my first. How can you be so cruel & evil to someone so pure, naive and loving? Especially if the other person was your first ever love/ relationship/ person you’ve been with in their entire life. How do you have the thought even to do this to a beautiful and rare soul?
I can’t justify and comprehend why these individuals practise this sort of behaviour on others. The back hand storey of them going through child hood trauma or abuse does not justify this sick behaviour.
If you think neglect, trauma, child abuse does justify, then I’ll put forward that I’ve been through exactly the same thing if not worse, when I was younger I had a narcissistic parent, however I DID NOT TURN OUT TO BE FUCKED IN THE HEAD AND DELIBERATELY HARM OTHERS FOR MY OWN PERSONAL GAIN.
WHO ever is reading this, whether you are a narcissist or not, it’s awfully horrific. I don’t even wish this upon my worst enemy.
I just have one question to these disgusting demonic spirits, why do you do this to the most beautiful loving genuine person on earth? What did you achieve from this twisted disgusting behaviour besides hurt…. Was it worth it?
You are a real God sent Dr. Ramani and I pray you lived long to help all those disturbed and lost souls out there due to narcissist abuse