Ep 11: Separation, Trauma, and Healing in Adoption with Dr. Gordon Neufeld

Gordon Neufeld, PhD joins Sara (adoptee), Kelsey (birth mom), and Lori (adoptive mom) to talk about attachment and healing that can come -- or not -- after trauma. He provides validation for adoptees that separation is, in fact, a wound that needs tending. He provides wisdom for birth parents on how to incorporate the melancholy thread that becomes part of a life’s tapestry once you place a child for adoption. He provides guidance for adoptive parents on how to help a child who is having big, hard emotions.
In short, Dr Neufeld advises that we “feel the shape of the hole of the loss” as a healthy way of proceeding from the brokenness that adoption arises from.
Resources mentioned:
• Neufeld Institute (neufeldinstitute.org/)
• Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Gordon Neufeld, PhD (www.amazon.com/Hold-Your-Kids...)
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