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I used to get sick but now I just get angry. I'm actually pretty chill but I hate the fact that there are movies made to unecessaryily portray such ugly nasty violent things and even more that people willingly expose themselves and act like no big deal. It's the one thing that makes me go 0 to 100.
SAME BRO, trying not to withdraw is not helping, I give up. Imma just drown in other ppls emotions and have my fun almost puking after fast rides and trampolines for 6 hours
Also! Reminder to all of y’all, the whole HSP thing is a real phenomenon, but a LOT of us, if not the vast majority, have autism or ADHD. That’s what can cause the sensitivity! If you’re a HSP, make sure to look into both of those things! :)
Im so glad you said this, is there any way you can give me some differences? I don’t want to self diagnose as autistic if I’m not, but man do I feel like it’s very possible
Your analysis is so spot on! I get so worked up at certain times that I get panicked and my thoughts just run away! Lately it got so bad I had a mild heart attack. I’m recovering now and have changed my attitude and way of perceiving everything for my own sake not others. Thank you for this important video.
HSP often struggel with mental health issues because of their sensitivity and many believe they are wrong somehow. I'm diagnosed with burnout, depression and anxiety. Luckily i have an amazing therapist who sees my sensitivity as a strength and something positiv even thought it effects my mh struggels. There is nothing i can do to change my high sensitivity, but i can change things about my enviroment to make it easier for me.
I relate to all of these except hating change. I actually like change because it makes me feel refreshed and like I can get away from the energy that was dragging me down
me too... BUT I think she could have said instead "you hate unexpected change out of the blue"... still feel the same? or is it change you choose, expect, prepared for and were in control of that you feel those ways about. I'm definitely HSP and it is nature and nurture in its creation. Unexpected change... I definitely hate. Then I process it, rationalize it, make it bite size and THEN deal with it embrace it even. Food for thought. ❤
I haven't read this on an article, but on the blog style page of a psychological expert, some hsp show seeking behaviours for novelty I think we can take their word for it. Obviously, not knowing if it's peer reviewed can mean there are biases and etc, but still
I agree with you ! Also the last one about competing …I’m the least competitive person ever but I do enjoy performing as part of a dance group …it gives me life and energy 💪❤️
Brother, protect her heart. She's your other half. You were created by GOD/ALLAH from the same one breath. So, protect her, love her deeply, cheer her up, make her happy, stay loyal, make her feel valuable with beautiful words, sharing your thoughts with her, by listening to her, by complimenting her, giving her small gifts, show her your love in every opportunity. Stick to her side and enjoy every moment with her. Together enjoy your paradise in this world. This life doesn't worth it. Don't fight. Love
the thing about being a emotional person is our emotions are a lot more strong and it’s easy for us to cry which makes us seem really week but in our head we are saying “why are you crying your not even sad? tf..” but the upside to being emontial is when we are happy we are extremely happy which means small happiness is the same as being really happy. so a lot of times it hard to control our emotions but there is a lot of upsides and downside
When I cry, I am sad. But I often can't understand why something touched/hurt me so deeply. One small thing happens and it can make me feel down for days. Happy? Honestly I lately felt happy for the first time in many years, so I don't know. It was a surprise to me. Was it intense? I wouldn't say so. But it was uhm idk I'm slightly tearing up when thinking about this moment. I guess it kinda proves me wrong. I don't want to cry right now because I'm sad. I want to cry because I've lately felt happy and I kinda miss this feeling and that moment, but I am sad in a way, that this moment is gone. Does it even makes sense? 😅 Also why do I often write so long messages? And why do I often end up telling half of my life story in yt comments? Getting back to the day I felt happy. I was just so glad, so comfortable, laughing so much with the people I was spending time that day. 8 hours passed like it's nothing
@@veni5126don’t worry you’re not alone!! me too 😭😭 for me, EVERYTIME I’m around a person with low energy or they seem rlly sad I feel so so soo like sad and I never understood why or other things.. i also feel like i experience and feel emotions more than others. I never tried to solve my emotions in the past, I just held them in because I believed that “I was being too sensitive and that I was such a crybaby” like it was a bad thing bc ppl wld say it like that.. but now I solve my emotions properly, I’m 14 and I am getting therapy due to the depression and anxiety being ashamed for being “too sensitive” caused me
Same as whenever you do something and people are watching, my hand shakes a looooooot, but in my head, i tell myself, “there’s literally nothing to be nervous about, so why’s my hand shaking?”
No one will do! You shouldn't expect much now from others. You have to start self love and try to do what you like the most. Try to connect with nature, traveling, working on skills and helping people (Donate food, clothes and some money to needy one)
This is so true! I always have been and always will be. This has made trauma and also choosing the most accepting people to be with very challenging. Thank you Dr. Julie for bringing such clarity to so many different aspects of our lives. 🙏
Number 1 is true for me. Can you make a video on how to stop getting affected by people around us? I try but it's really hard not to get affected by people
I hope this helps some what. Tell me if I got it right or if I am totally off track. We are hypersensitive to others because its something we learned to do in our childhood - we hyperattuned to our caregiver(s) because they were not emotionally stable. We had to feel and predict their behaviour in order to avoid getting caught in all the negative emotions. As children we were hijacked into these situations with no power to set boundaries. So we are hypersensitive to other people's emotions as adults but mostly the negative ones. This drains us because we are trying be ready for ANYTHING and our nervous system overheats. Awareness is the first step towards improvement. Knowing that this is WHY I am being so affected by others. Just that alone will work wonders. However I'd like to add that as adults we can try consciously set boundaries and taking our own wellbeing as priority - for example, leave a situation if you want to without having to bend over backwards to justify it.
Why do you want to become a cold person, will it be better? You have one heart with both warm and cold abilities in it together. Stop being an egoist and thinking that everyone around wants to affect you or even notice you. But don't become cold too.
Give yourself enough room to breathe and recharge. Don't avoid people, but allow yourself breaks. E.g., when you're at a party, allow yourself to do something quiet for a while (volunteer doing the dishes, man the bbq, find the house pet, walk around the block with your favourite person), or when you go on holiday with others plan in some alone time (afternoon naps, an independent exploration day - great when you have different interests, ...)
Dr Julie, why do we avoid going to sleep at night even when we want to and or we have lots to do the next day? For example I know I need to get rest but I will stay up and watch TV or TH-cam videos for hours, almost as if I don't want tomorrow to come?
For me, it was because night time is when everyone is away and will not bother you. This means no arguments, no parents scolding you, no bosses messaging you... That was "me" time. I could study without screaming in the background, I could watch TV without being interrupted...
Maybe you're a night owl person. Or you have mental health issues, which make your sleep schedule mess up. Usually people said we should stay away with phone and related to your works/tasks (don't forget to avoid heavy meals) for a few minutes or hours to get good enough sleep but.. Even though some people did it but fail. I did it and I'm the one of them who fail to get sleep earlier. No matter how hard I try, but it didn't work. I consider myself as a night owl person and embrace it. Usually I fall asleep past midnight. Yeah, I wake up at day time but nobody never try to understand me. Usually I wake up at 9 in the morning. Answering for we do many things at next day, people still hold the concept, "No matter what happened to you, please wake up and don't be lazy. You need to get paid, you act like that. Nobody can be gentle on you and fix your problems. Go find the solutions or face it everyday and your need to get used to it." People still resist to change and take a lot of times and efforts to change or fix the issues as much as we can. No wonder many people have mental health issues, burnout and etc. Put the rules that the company put every single staffs who work there as their priority, but how many people who get oppressed by their workplace? Many companies have millions and billions profit but used a little bit amount of the profit to treat their staffs. Shame on them. At night time, trust me many people become passive so they don't waste their times and energy but they forgot people who tend to be stay active at night need to do everything and go to bed at day time. This world always be in difficult situations and never ever try to solve it/fail to solve it.
Usually it's like my time for me, most cases it's bcz , over thinking, some unsolved issues(emotional one) which dnt let u sleep even u can't open your eyes bcz of physical tiredness n i just beg for sleep..... For me i have to become calm mentally n emotional then I can go to sleep. It's gift and blessing for me if I sleep immediately or peaceful and in morning literally I'll be so happy...
being a HSP and having PTSD are rough!! because even when you withdraw, your mind never does. sending love to all the other highly sensitive people on here 💜💜
@@seekfindshare Basically you have to try and detach yourself from others' problems, when there is nothing you can do to help. For example, I was once to the vet for a check up for my cat and I heard this poor man crying after loosing his beloved pet. I felt his pain and my first instinct was to console him but I didn't know if it would have helped or the opposite, so I instead "detached" myself from that situation and concetrated on my cat, while in the waiting room.
I feel that being a waiter has helped with my sensitivity issues. I have no choice but to “perform” in high stress situations and be around tons of people. Things change drastically in my job too.
Also a waiter here.I’m mostly struggling with the co-workers as a sensitive person.I’m seeing customers as a part of the job..but the coworkers! They’re the worst. I always think that they’re out of their minds.
@@stfu3471 facts!!! It’s tough when you work with a mixture of older people and college age kids as well as moody lifers and those who don’t GAF all working together… add in a crazy boss or chef and it’s a nightmare situation
I find that kind of pressure actually helps me to give presentations to others. I absolutely must know the material - and surely that is the same for anyone(?)
5/5. Sometimes your videos touch me right in my heart because I see myself in them and my eyes get teary. But I'm in therapy and work on myself but when It comes to those signs where i see myself I get really emotional. Not in a bad way, in a good way. It sounds wierd I know. But the way you describe it. It makes me feel less alone and understood so... Thank you, Julie 💕
that's how I know my sister is a strong person. she's a hypersensitive person and yet in college, when she had to do a presentation, most of the time, teachers praised her performance. she can catch her audience's attention and talk very well, even though it's the most stressful thing for her 😅
It took me a while to actually agree. I was always in denial, always thought it was just my self esteem. now I understand, and can admit.. I may have a diagnosis. I feel I have ADD, OCD, Depression, anxiety AND ADHD. Took me a while to realise it, until now. Thank you very much for helping me realise it. Amen. 🙏
Yup. Sounds like me. No wonder I'm not doing great in college. I feel so overwhelmed and ended feeling extremely drained after the day end For those that wants to read (I'm not forcing anyone to read so I put it in read more) : I just want to say , thank you all of you wonderful people.. all my life ever since I'm a kid , I can't find anyone to relate too , so I can't share what I feel , everytime I can only bottle up my feelings until it explode and then repeat.. always feel like I don't have anyone , but I'm glad there's so many of y'all that feel the same as me , finally I feel like I'm seen.. I'm an introvert , all my life I've struggled with socializing , always find it difficult , I also hate loud noises and crowded places make me feel dizzy and uncomfortable.. I've also struggled with all of these emotions that I didn't ask for , it's like these emotions stick to me and make me feel overwhelmed.. they're not my emotions , it's others.. for example , when I listen to music , often found myself feeling extremely sad , angry or overjoyed.. then later I get overwhelmed and drained out.. idk how to fix this.. I also have eating disorder , I eat when I feel stressed out.. I have anxiety from drinking coffee and socializing in college.. but I need coffee to stay awake.. apparently I choose a bad college , they doesn't seem to care about their students mental health.. assignments are rushed , so I feel even more overwhelmed.. cuz I'm the type to procrastinate and take my time to develop and make a good quality work.. the fact that I know everything wrong with me but I can't do anything to help myself.. all I can do is cry it out , at least that makes it more bearable.. I'm not as privileged as other people , don't have money to afford a therapy , barely survive to eat in college and pay dorm rent , where I live , it's hard to find jobs , it's not like in America where u can get job from nearby grocery store or something like that.. jobs aren't plenty here.. also I can't make driving license or any driving license , I'm colorblind.. so I can't go out to find job.. my parents and family aren't rich.. so asking them money , I feel like a burden.. they're supporting me going to college already , so I can't ask for more.. I also can't quit college either ,since I've to pay thousands of money in 14 days.. that's the rule there.. and I've already sign the contract.. so I have to endure and continue studying and graduate degree , find a job and pay loans
No. 5 has been an issue for... how long I've been able to remember things. Sudden black outs or other physical reactions. This has been my companion for so so long.
Feeling grateful to have gotten to such a relaxed safe and authentic state to see this in myself. I was so good at putting on a face for the world and doing what I was ‘supposed’ to do to fit in with society/ family. There’s definitely pros to being HSP as well I don’t feel it needs to be looked at as negative
That is definitely me, all of them!! So what should a highly sensitive person do? When I'm at a busy place like the mall, there's so much going on I just get really nervous
I see this comment is 9 months old. I hope you are doing okay 🥺 What works for me in these situations is well going to the bathroom for a moment (or a longer moment) or just listening to the music. It kinda depends what are you in the mall for, but I'm pretty sure you can have headphones on for the most (or atleast a part) of the time spent there. Personally, music helps me to disconnect in a way from the noice etc.. I sometimes also just turn off kinda unconsciously and I "wake up" when someone says my name 😅 I just noticed that your comment is mainly about stress. Well I've never been too good at managing stress. I just recently learned a breathing method to calm myself a bit, it doesn't always work. You inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. I usually just focus on the task and this way I'm able to do whatever I'm supposed to be doing. I just focus 100% of my brain on it. Of course it won't work for everyone, but if anyone's looking for ideas, why not give it a try.
Do you need any of the crap there? Cause it's gonna do the same thing to your house. I mean I'm not going to avoid everything but I'm not going to run myself down for no meaningful reason either. Purpose and rest are my things. If you have a lower energy level like I do you just gotta pick your battles.
Woooow I'm 27 and just realizing that I'm a "highly sensitive person" my family always said I'm too sensitive but yeah this is what I do alot, I withdraw and cry but I thought I was just too lazy to deal with my emotions.... idk all of my siblings have more tough skin than I do and they manage under pressure way better than me I don't where the heck I came from cause I'm the softest person ever. And it sucks for now I just swallow all my emotions and suck it up cause I don't want to disappoint or let my sisters down.
Shutting down will not help bcoz that how you were made just learn how be calm and understand youe emotions instead of pushing bcoz the more you push it worst it gets and am sure u experience that just learn to handle and be your own bestee and guide yourself like “we got this we can do this we need time” then your will guide your emotions , thoughts and yourself also listen your instinct thats very important bcoz it is always right i wish u all the best am also HSP but am learning process
The number 3 was so trueeee!!!! Most relatable thing ever, My parents thought I was depressed bcs I was really angry and sad when they told me to do many things at once
I use to be all five. Past few years I've had to learn to accept change (#4) and used CBT to improve accepting change. And my work requires me to speak in front of hundreds of people (#5). I've realized that one on one convos are similar to speaking to many people too because I've convinced myself that deep down we are all the same. Yes, I might be deluding myself (as we aren't exactly the same) but, it works for me.
That's totally me. And i feel so great for being that person... its not weak as people think its at the same highly mental processes going on not necessarily negative in terms you want to offer the best.
Yeah I get it I'm tired of it most of the time feels like it's only a good thing for others because I'm caring to them but for myself I wish I wasn't highly sensitive not much I can do bout it.
@@manseesharma2911 I thought I had replied to u but forgot to 🤦♀️😅 We are good selfless people but I think that's what makes it not so good for us. Whats helped me greatly is having boundaries, having quite time and being a bit selfish and knowing I'm doing it all for my health We hav to be good to ourselves. Peace
@@manseesharma2911 it will get easier slowly changing our nature and nurture taxes time and its exhausting but its so worth it. I can see the results now in little and it feels so good hang in there. Rifath 😀
Being highly sensitive is no disease. It doesn't need therapy. Only adjustments to your life. Less stress, more relaxing, never watch or listen to the news etc. Accepting who you are. Take care of yourself ❤
As an HSP who is also HSS (high sensation seeking) and ambivert, I am always seeking out (qualified, tempered, accessible) novelty. Like always taking a different route to familiar places, or ordering different dishes at restaurants. I'm not as averse to change or activity as is expected of a typical HSP. For anyone here interested in HSP, Elaine Aron's is the seminal work/book, and there's lots of great resources!
I'm 69yo. Last year, I found out I'm an HSP. When I Googled it, I found out that 15 to 20% of people are born HSPs. I now understand so much more about myself. As HSPs, we're not like others. Also, HSPs very in sensitivity, so not all HSPs are the same, but we all have a lot in common.
I am definitly of this sort, I had a panic attack durring my english exam of which consisted of filling out a whole thing along with presenting infront of everyone :|
I love being highly sensitive always have been always will be being understanding kind empathetic loving patience is a gift wish all worldwide were like this then would be no more suffering hardship. Saying this isn't a sign you're weak these days can face handle cope believe having these attributes bring with them great resilience & can make you actually a stronger human being.
1: Yes 2: It depends on the surroundings 3: No (I thrive in chaotic environments) 4: No (I actually think that if we don't change we don't grow) 5: No (I do get a bit of stage fright but it isn't unmanageable) I guess I'm not as sensitive as I thought? Thanks Doc.🙂 🙃 🙂
All of these describe me. This correlates with my ASD, I've found that Therapy, Mindfulness, and Journaling help a lot! Therapy for anxiety reduction and personal growth, Mindfulness for mental clarity, and journaling for emotional regulation. Handling all of these this way has dramatically improved these issues.
I would only add one thing - 5 signs of a highly sensitive person, who hasn’t yet embraced their power and learned to hold space for/within themselves. Once you start calling your energy back into your body and feeling secure in your own energy/frame, you can start feeling safe to have your own embodied experience while allowing others to have theirs. No more taking responsibility for the emotions of others. You can hold space for your own, and for theirs. No more taking on the projections of others, note projecting upon them; you own your emotional experience and make no one else responsible for it. You can learn that change is more illusory than it really appears; only forms fade, the essential and true never changes, nothing real is ever threatened. Recognizing that you have a choice in thoughts and beliefs helps a lot. I’m actively practicing all of this and I can promise you it makes a difference. Do I still experience the things Dr Julie has mentioned? Absolutely. But so much less often, and even when I do, I’m not disempowered in them. I can embrace the experience and learn, grow, in acceptance of myself and others. I become bigger and more powerful every time. You start to learn the true boundlessness of yourself when you actually stay within your own body and energetic frame. I highly recommend the candle meditation that Aaron Doughty has here on TH-cam. Feeling is your super power, when you embrace it. Also helps to understand that a lot of what you feel isn’t yours. It doesn’t actually matter though, it’s all about accepting feeling as sensation and embracing what’s in the present moment. Ground, ground, ground. You got this ❤
where were you when I needed help. I had a burn out and had such a bad experience with a psychologist that I will never go to one again. she said things like "you shouldn't complain so much and don't act like that" thank you for your tips.
1. If it's someone I know (like family member), then somewhat yes. Not so much for complete strangers. 2. Very much yes. It's not very comfortable then much more is going on than my brain can handle. 3. Yes. Also, my short term memory is not as capacious as some people think, so demanding too much at once is pretty much pointless - either I do nothing or just a few things that I do remember. 4. Yes, I like routine and familiarity. It makes me less anxious when I know where things are and what I'm going to do at the time. Sudden change can be very unnerving. 5. Yes. Performing in front of others is the easiest way to screw things up. I work best when nobody sees what I'm doing, as doing things in front of others feels like scolding waiting to happend.
That's me Dr. , thank you Dr Julie but I have changed jobs totally different from one another. I did it to make me stronger, I love music, I love life I love art and poetry and physics, precious moments in time is all we have , so we have to make more precious moments in time never stop.
I learn a lot by watching your videos. You bring awareness to things, however, it would be helpful to have a solution to this issue. Thank you in advance!
1. Other people' s moods and pain affect you deepky. 2. In a busy environment you Withdraw to get relief from the stimulation of those surroundings. 3.. You get overwhelmed when ppl try to get you to do too many things. 4. You hate change and this invokes strong emotions. 5. When you have to conpete or perform in front of other people, you become nervous.
I always thought I'm not that sensitive kinda person but now that I'm feeling overwhelmed by everything and these symptoms are extremely relatable, I've to reconsider.
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The way you feel free to explain these things to us and give us your time makes my heart brighten ❤
Thank you for helping me know that i may be this person, thank you very much
Uhmm how to avoid it?
Good afternoon Dr Julie
I have the 1,2,3,4,5
That's all
I am highly sensitive and i anxiety
Exactly, now tell us how to manage it 🤔
Amen. I just shut down.
@@charlotted6247 same!
All five of those were absolutely spot on for us…. I too would love how to manage all these it is more difficult than people believe.
Same… I need management strategies 😔
Yes!!!! Thank you!!
6; can't handle violence and gore. Makes me physically sick and I can't let go of it for days.
Me too….. it actually makes me sick as well.
omg yes
That's not sensitive enough.
I used to get sick but now I just get angry. I'm actually pretty chill but I hate the fact that there are movies made to unecessaryily portray such ugly nasty violent things and even more that people willingly expose themselves and act like no big deal. It's the one thing that makes me go 0 to 100.
Sounds like autism
I Love being a sensitive person (an Empath) we are a gift to the world.♥️🙌🏽🕊️🌹🤩
“An empath”💀💀💀
But used and abused!
Sadly.
It's our Super Power!💜💫☮️
The devil is in the 'over'
Sometimes even watching movies feels exhausting or like a chore because of the intensity of emotions it makes me feel
OH MY GOD YES NO ONE HAS EVER RELATED TO ME WITH THIS BEFORE
Sometimes I watch the same movies over and again because the stress of not knowing a character’s fate is overwhelming.
@@Wallywest215 yes!!!!
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same I can only watch movies that soothe me
HELP I WENT “nahhh I’m not” and then presented all 5 of theseee 😂
same 😭
SAME BRO, trying not to withdraw is not helping, I give up. Imma just drown in other ppls emotions and have my fun almost puking after fast rides and trampolines for 6 hours
me too lmao
Same
Same
That's me. Perfectly explained.
I feel like every time I watch these she is talking directly to me.
Also! Reminder to all of y’all, the whole HSP thing is a real phenomenon, but a LOT of us, if not the vast majority, have autism or ADHD. That’s what can cause the sensitivity! If you’re a HSP, make sure to look into both of those things! :)
Yep was about to comment this! Most of the things listed in the video are accurate to my experience and it's because I'm autistic :)
@@magentafox1657 Same LMAO. That hyper empathy thooooo. A blessing and a curse. 😭😅
I love this comment! Especially because my sensitivity likely comes from ADHD ✌️
Im so glad you said this, is there any way you can give me some differences? I don’t want to self diagnose as autistic if I’m not, but man do I feel like it’s very possible
What about OCD?
Your analysis is so spot on! I get so worked up at certain times that I get panicked and my thoughts just run away! Lately it got so bad I had a mild heart attack. I’m recovering now and have changed my attitude and way of perceiving everything for my own sake not others.
Thank you for this important video.
What I understood by watching 2 of her videos is *I'm an highly sensitive depressed person who needs a doctor right now.*
- Thanks to Dr.Julie
HSP often struggel with mental health issues because of their sensitivity and many believe they are wrong somehow. I'm diagnosed with burnout, depression and anxiety. Luckily i have an amazing therapist who sees my sensitivity as a strength and something positiv even thought it effects my mh struggels. There is nothing i can do to change my high sensitivity, but i can change things about my enviroment to make it easier for me.
I relate to all of these except hating change. I actually like change because it makes me feel refreshed and like I can get away from the energy that was dragging me down
I feel the exact same way😌
me too... BUT I think she could have said instead "you hate unexpected change out of the blue"... still feel the same? or is it change you choose, expect, prepared for and were in control of that you feel those ways about. I'm definitely HSP and it is nature and nurture in its creation. Unexpected change... I definitely hate. Then I process it, rationalize it, make it bite size and THEN deal with it embrace it even. Food for thought. ❤
i hate change, even if is expected, i know im going to pass it but anxies me to get there
I haven't read this on an article, but on the blog style page of a psychological expert, some hsp show seeking behaviours for novelty
I think we can take their word for it. Obviously, not knowing if it's peer reviewed can mean there are biases and etc, but still
I agree with you ! Also the last one about competing …I’m the least competitive person ever but I do enjoy performing as part of a dance group …it gives me life and energy 💪❤️
My wife shared this when we had an argument. Thank you for being her voice
Brother, protect her heart. She's your other half. You were created by GOD/ALLAH from the same one breath. So, protect her, love her deeply, cheer her up, make her happy, stay loyal, make her feel valuable with beautiful words, sharing your thoughts with her, by listening to her, by complimenting her, giving her small gifts, show her your love in every opportunity. Stick to her side and enjoy every moment with her. Together enjoy your paradise in this world.
This life doesn't worth it. Don't fight. Love
@@melekehmedova165 ☺️🤍
the thing about being a emotional person is our emotions are a lot more strong and it’s easy for us to cry which makes us seem really week but in our head we are saying “why are you crying your not even sad? tf..”
but the upside to being emontial is when we are happy we are extremely happy which means small happiness is the same as being really happy. so a lot of times it hard to control our emotions but there is a lot of upsides and downside
When I cry, I am sad. But I often can't understand why something touched/hurt me so deeply. One small thing happens and it can make me feel down for days.
Happy? Honestly I lately felt happy for the first time in many years, so I don't know. It was a surprise to me. Was it intense? I wouldn't say so. But it was uhm idk I'm slightly tearing up when thinking about this moment.
I guess it kinda proves me wrong. I don't want to cry right now because I'm sad. I want to cry because I've lately felt happy and I kinda miss this feeling and that moment, but I am sad in a way, that this moment is gone.
Does it even makes sense? 😅
Also why do I often write so long messages? And why do I often end up telling half of my life story in yt comments?
Getting back to the day I felt happy. I was just so glad, so comfortable, laughing so much with the people I was spending time that day. 8 hours passed like it's nothing
@@veni5126don’t worry you’re not alone!! me too 😭😭 for me, EVERYTIME I’m around a person with low energy or they seem rlly sad I feel so so soo like sad and I never understood why or other things.. i also feel like i experience and feel emotions more than others. I never tried to solve my emotions in the past, I just held them in because I believed that “I was being too sensitive and that I was such a crybaby” like it was a bad thing bc ppl wld say it like that.. but now I solve my emotions properly, I’m 14 and I am getting therapy due to the depression and anxiety being ashamed for being “too sensitive” caused me
I always cry at the movies when an emotional scene comes on, happy or sad. I try to explain that I'm fine. I'm not upset. I can't help it.
Same as whenever you do something and people are watching, my hand shakes a looooooot, but in my head, i tell myself, “there’s literally nothing to be nervous about, so why’s my hand shaking?”
Now I finally understand myself. Thanks a lot. Now I know there's nothing wrong with me.
So true!!! Just wish i wasn't so sensitive...life would have been easier
yes i agree that about you
i’ve never related more to something in my life. Nobody understands me
You’re so “edgy”
Same
No one will do!
You shouldn't expect much now from others.
You have to start self love and try to do what you like the most.
Try to connect with nature, traveling, working on skills and helping people (Donate food, clothes and some money to needy one)
keep going someday you'll find someone who will care the way you wanted and understand the deeper you! cheers!!! wish you all the best!!! @Arianna
I do
All of this happens to me! It means I am highly sensitive.
Me too
It means you are a human and this is your ways. You aren't Highly Sensitive
This is so true! I always have been and always will be. This has made trauma and also choosing the most accepting people to be with very challenging. Thank you Dr. Julie for bringing such clarity to so many different aspects of our lives. 🙏
The last one is so true.. then my gym teacher gave me a few words of kindness and i burst into happy tears she was so kind and still is-
Number 1 is true for me. Can you make a video on how to stop getting affected by people around us? I try but it's really hard not to get affected by people
I hope this helps some what. Tell me if I got it right or if I am totally off track.
We are hypersensitive to others because its something we learned to do in our childhood - we hyperattuned to our caregiver(s) because they were not emotionally stable. We had to feel and predict their behaviour in order to avoid getting caught in all the negative emotions. As children we were hijacked into these situations with no power to set boundaries.
So we are hypersensitive to other people's emotions as adults but mostly the negative ones. This drains us because we are trying be ready for ANYTHING and our nervous system overheats.
Awareness is the first step towards improvement. Knowing that this is WHY I am being so affected by others. Just that alone will work wonders. However I'd like to add that as adults we can try consciously set boundaries and taking our own wellbeing as priority - for example, leave a situation if you want to without having to bend over backwards to justify it.
Why do you want to become a cold person, will it be better? You have one heart with both warm and cold abilities in it together. Stop being an egoist and thinking that everyone around wants to affect you or even notice you. But don't become cold too.
Give yourself enough room to breathe and recharge. Don't avoid people, but allow yourself breaks.
E.g., when you're at a party, allow yourself to do something quiet for a while (volunteer doing the dishes, man the bbq, find the house pet, walk around the block with your favourite person), or when you go on holiday with others plan in some alone time (afternoon naps, an independent exploration day - great when you have different interests, ...)
This explains the root of constant readiness very nicely. Thank you.
Exactly!@@thingsIdoforlove
Thankyou Julie. I love this no. 4 point! God Bless Julie because no one like another Julie on this whole planet Earth!
Dr Julie, why do we avoid going to sleep at night even when we want to and or we have lots to do the next day? For example I know I need to get rest but I will stay up and watch TV or TH-cam videos for hours, almost as if I don't want tomorrow to come?
I NEED THE ANSWER TO THIS
For me, it was because night time is when everyone is away and will not bother you. This means no arguments, no parents scolding you, no bosses messaging you... That was "me" time. I could study without screaming in the background, I could watch TV without being interrupted...
Maybe you're a night owl person. Or you have mental health issues, which make your sleep schedule mess up.
Usually people said we should stay away with phone and related to your works/tasks (don't forget to avoid heavy meals) for a few minutes or hours to get good enough sleep but.. Even though some people did it but fail.
I did it and I'm the one of them who fail to get sleep earlier. No matter how hard I try, but it didn't work. I consider myself as a night owl person and embrace it. Usually I fall asleep past midnight.
Yeah, I wake up at day time but nobody never try to understand me. Usually I wake up at 9 in the morning.
Answering for we do many things at next day, people still hold the concept, "No matter what happened to you, please wake up and don't be lazy. You need to get paid, you act like that. Nobody can be gentle on you and fix your problems. Go find the solutions or face it everyday and your need to get used to it."
People still resist to change and take a lot of times and efforts to change or fix the issues as much as we can. No wonder many people have mental health issues, burnout and etc. Put the rules that the company put every single staffs who work there as their priority, but how many people who get oppressed by their workplace? Many companies have millions and billions profit but used a little bit amount of the profit to treat their staffs. Shame on them.
At night time, trust me many people become passive so they don't waste their times and energy but they forgot people who tend to be stay active at night need to do everything and go to bed at day time. This world always be in difficult situations and never ever try to solve it/fail to solve it.
Usually it's like my time for me,
most cases it's bcz , over thinking, some unsolved issues(emotional one) which dnt let u sleep even u can't open your eyes bcz of physical tiredness n i just beg for sleep..... For me i have to become calm mentally n emotional then I can go to sleep.
It's gift and blessing for me if I sleep immediately or peaceful and in morning literally I'll be so happy...
SAMEEE
being a HSP and having PTSD are rough!! because even when you withdraw, your mind never does. sending love to all the other highly sensitive people on here 💜💜
I think there might be a correlation with hsp and trauma
@@pinkroses135 I mean theoretically, it's easier to be traumatized by things when you're more sensitive. So that would make sense👍
What's PTSD?
@@DietrightwithPriyanka Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
@@DietrightwithPriyanka post traumatic stress disorder. It's painful emotionally .
That's extremely accurate.
I definitely have that sometimes.
Same
As a very sensitive person, I found out that there are ways to "desensitize" ourselves from others emotions, when needed
What are they?
@@seekfindshare Basically you have to try and detach yourself from others' problems, when there is nothing you can do to help.
For example, I was once to the vet for a check up for my cat and I heard this poor man crying after loosing his beloved pet. I felt his pain and my first instinct was to console him but I didn't know if it would have helped or the opposite, so I instead "detached" myself from that situation and concetrated on my cat, while in the waiting room.
@@Alice-the-Bibi Thank you dear
@@seekfindshare 😊
@@user-kb4vq Good for you ! 😍
I feel that being a waiter has helped with my sensitivity issues. I have no choice but to “perform” in high stress situations and be around tons of people. Things change drastically in my job too.
Also a waiter here.I’m mostly struggling with the co-workers as a sensitive person.I’m seeing customers as a part of the job..but the coworkers! They’re the worst. I always think that they’re out of their minds.
@@stfu3471 facts!!! It’s tough when you work with a mixture of older people and college age kids as well as moody lifers and those who don’t GAF all working together… add in a crazy boss or chef and it’s a nightmare situation
same I put myself up to the challenge when I was 17 because being shy was ruining my confidence
I find that kind of pressure actually helps me to give presentations to others. I absolutely must know the material - and surely that is the same for anyone(?)
5/5. Sometimes your videos touch me right in my heart because I see myself in them and my eyes get teary. But I'm in therapy and work on myself but when It comes to those signs where i see myself I get really emotional. Not in a bad way, in a good way. It sounds wierd I know. But the way you describe it. It makes me feel less alone and understood so... Thank you, Julie 💕
That exactly what i feel 🥺
that's how I know my sister is a strong person. she's a hypersensitive person and yet in college, when she had to do a presentation, most of the time, teachers praised her performance. she can catch her audience's attention and talk very well, even though it's the most stressful thing for her 😅
It took me a while to actually agree. I was always in denial, always thought it was just my self esteem. now I understand, and can admit.. I may have a diagnosis. I feel I have ADD, OCD, Depression, anxiety AND ADHD. Took me a while to realise it, until now. Thank you very much for helping me realise it. Amen. 🙏
Im number 4, changes to me makes me overwhelmed and i have that feeling like a rock in my throat
i just down right blow up when i get asked for too much, like i just leave, i forget to care
Thank you, especially for not making me feel weak, a doormat, etc. Bless You dear lady. ❤
Well, yes, yes, yes, absolutely, most certainly! Yep, that’s me to a tee!
It's important to take care of yourself
Meeeee I’ve been told I’m a highly sensitive person before but this makes a lot of sense now
Yea
Thanks!
Yup. Sounds like me. No wonder I'm not doing great in college. I feel so overwhelmed and ended feeling extremely drained after the day end
For those that wants to read (I'm not forcing anyone to read so I put it in read more) :
I just want to say , thank you all of you wonderful people.. all my life ever since I'm a kid , I can't find anyone to relate too , so I can't share what I feel , everytime I can only bottle up my feelings until it explode and then repeat.. always feel like I don't have anyone , but I'm glad there's so many of y'all that feel the same as me , finally I feel like I'm seen.. I'm an introvert , all my life I've struggled with socializing , always find it difficult , I also hate loud noises and crowded places make me feel dizzy and uncomfortable.. I've also struggled with all of these emotions that I didn't ask for , it's like these emotions stick to me and make me feel overwhelmed.. they're not my emotions , it's others.. for example , when I listen to music , often found myself feeling extremely sad , angry or overjoyed.. then later I get overwhelmed and drained out.. idk how to fix this.. I also have eating disorder , I eat when I feel stressed out.. I have anxiety from drinking coffee and socializing in college.. but I need coffee to stay awake.. apparently I choose a bad college , they doesn't seem to care about their students mental health.. assignments are rushed , so I feel even more overwhelmed.. cuz I'm the type to procrastinate and take my time to develop and make a good quality work.. the fact that I know everything wrong with me but I can't do anything to help myself.. all I can do is cry it out , at least that makes it more bearable..
I'm not as privileged as other people , don't have money to afford a therapy , barely survive to eat in college and pay dorm rent , where I live , it's hard to find jobs , it's not like in America where u can get job from nearby grocery store or something like that.. jobs aren't plenty here.. also I can't make driving license or any driving license , I'm colorblind.. so I can't go out to find job.. my parents and family aren't rich.. so asking them money , I feel like a burden.. they're supporting me going to college already , so I can't ask for more.. I also can't quit college either ,since I've to pay thousands of money in 14 days.. that's the rule there.. and I've already sign the contract.. so I have to endure and continue studying and graduate degree , find a job and pay loans
Sounds like me, i didn't know im sensitive
and have ADHD
Yup, I also check all those boxes and I'm in college and it's affecting me
Fuck... sounds like me
But! I guess there is many ppl on that page
Definitely sounds like me.
5/5 I passed🙂
Lets goo me too😀
Sounds like me but I barely cry or break down
@@AL_1000 d insde feelings is so painful so sucked unlawfully painfully based ..crying not come out that way..
Neorodiversity??
No. 5 has been an issue for... how long I've been able to remember things. Sudden black outs or other physical reactions. This has been my companion for so so long.
Feeling grateful to have gotten to such a relaxed safe and authentic state to see this in myself. I was so good at putting on a face for the world and doing what I was ‘supposed’ to do to fit in with society/ family. There’s definitely pros to being HSP as well I don’t feel it needs to be looked at as negative
That is definitely me, all of them!! So what should a highly sensitive person do? When I'm at a busy place like the mall, there's so much going on I just get really nervous
I see this comment is 9 months old. I hope you are doing okay 🥺
What works for me in these situations is well going to the bathroom for a moment (or a longer moment) or just listening to the music. It kinda depends what are you in the mall for, but I'm pretty sure you can have headphones on for the most (or atleast a part) of the time spent there. Personally, music helps me to disconnect in a way from the noice etc.. I sometimes also just turn off kinda unconsciously and I "wake up" when someone says my name 😅
I just noticed that your comment is mainly about stress. Well I've never been too good at managing stress. I just recently learned a breathing method to calm myself a bit, it doesn't always work. You inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. I usually just focus on the task and this way I'm able to do whatever I'm supposed to be doing. I just focus 100% of my brain on it.
Of course it won't work for everyone, but if anyone's looking for ideas, why not give it a try.
Do you need any of the crap there? Cause it's gonna do the same thing to your house. I mean I'm not going to avoid everything but I'm not going to run myself down for no meaningful reason either. Purpose and rest are my things. If you have a lower energy level like I do you just gotta pick your battles.
Also they tend to avoid conflicts or speak for themselves their mind.
Woooow I'm 27 and just realizing that I'm a "highly sensitive person" my family always said I'm too sensitive but yeah this is what I do alot, I withdraw and cry but I thought I was just too lazy to deal with my emotions.... idk all of my siblings have more tough skin than I do and they manage under pressure way better than me I don't where the heck I came from cause I'm the softest person ever. And it sucks for now I just swallow all my emotions and suck it up cause I don't want to disappoint or let my sisters down.
I even cry seeing people struggle..so I have decided to look other direction now it's less overwhelming
Shutting down will not help bcoz that how you were made just learn how be calm and understand youe emotions instead of pushing bcoz the more you push it worst it gets and am sure u experience that just learn to handle and be your own bestee and guide yourself like “we got this we can do this we need time” then your will guide your emotions , thoughts and yourself also listen your instinct thats very important bcoz it is always right i wish u all the best am also HSP but am learning process
Embrace who you are! Accept your sensitivity
@@payelhaque7 you are showing empathy and compassion
I relate to you so much
The number 3 was so trueeee!!!! Most relatable thing ever, My parents thought I was depressed bcs I was really angry and sad when they told me to do many things at once
I use to be all five. Past few years I've had to learn to accept change (#4) and used CBT to improve accepting change. And my work requires me to speak in front of hundreds of people (#5). I've realized that one on one convos are similar to speaking to many people too because I've convinced myself that deep down we are all the same. Yes, I might be deluding myself (as we aren't exactly the same) but, it works for me.
Wow I feel so seen ♥️ Thanks for sharing!
This is me..
I feel so understood ♡︎
That's totally me. And i feel so great for being that person... its not weak as people think its at the same highly mental processes going on not necessarily negative in terms you want to offer the best.
This is totally me.... I dunno if it's bad or good... But I gotta say.... This makes me tired of myself sometimes
Yeah I get it I'm tired of it most of the time feels like it's only a good thing for others because I'm caring to them but for myself I wish I wasn't highly sensitive not much I can do bout it.
@@peacelove4215 totally relatable.... It's like... One time I'm thinking... I'm a good person..... Other time.... But it isn't good for me at all.
@@manseesharma2911 I thought I had replied to u but forgot to 🤦♀️😅
We are good selfless people but I think that's what makes it not so good for us.
Whats helped me greatly is having boundaries, having quite time and being a bit selfish and knowing I'm doing it all for my health
We hav to be good to ourselves.
Peace
@@peacelove4215 got you..... I do the same but it gets difficult everyday
@@manseesharma2911 it will get easier slowly changing our nature and nurture taxes time and its exhausting but its so worth it.
I can see the results now in little and it feels so good hang in there.
Rifath 😀
Can you please upload some therapy sessions for extreme sensitive people
Being highly sensitive is no disease. It doesn't need therapy. Only adjustments to your life. Less stress, more relaxing, never watch or listen to the news etc. Accepting who you are. Take care of yourself ❤
As an HSP who is also HSS (high sensation seeking) and ambivert, I am always seeking out (qualified, tempered, accessible) novelty. Like always taking a different route to familiar places, or ordering different dishes at restaurants. I'm not as averse to change or activity as is expected of a typical HSP.
For anyone here interested in HSP, Elaine Aron's is the seminal work/book, and there's lots of great resources!
I'm 69yo. Last year, I found out I'm an HSP. When I Googled it, I found out that 15 to 20% of people are born HSPs. I now understand so much more about myself. As HSPs, we're not like others. Also, HSPs very in sensitivity, so not all HSPs are the same, but we all have a lot in common.
I am definitly of this sort, I had a panic attack durring my english exam of which consisted of filling out a whole thing along with presenting infront of everyone :|
I love being highly sensitive always have been always will be being understanding kind empathetic loving patience is a gift wish all worldwide were like this then would be no more suffering hardship. Saying this isn't a sign you're weak these days can face handle cope believe having these attributes bring with them great resilience & can make you actually a stronger human being.
this is so accurate, it's scary 👀
Not even close
This so insanly spot on
Yes definitely me. With age and spiritual awareness I’m able to not let it drown me like it used too.🙏
4/5
With me it's like I get nervous at start
But after some time get settled
I'm highly sensitive
I get overwhelmed all the time and when my parents make their tone higher i always get so sad thinking they're mad at me
The book to read THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON to get the assistance to cope
@@laurafeher9694 🤨
Currently dealing with ADHD, schizophrenia, OCD. For me you're the best. Thank you so much Doc. ❤
So true!!! We are also called empaths. 😁🧘♀️
Lmfao….😂
What's the solution, can you make a video on it?
Read the book The Highly Sensitive Person...will help you 😎
Thank you for mirroring myself in your nice way. As how you say these things sounds much more likable than I feel myself because of these signs.
4/5 , I have confirmed I am indeed sensitive
I just realized I'm a highly sensitive person😓
Your not alone bro/sis
It's not a bad thing to be. Don't take it as negative ☺️
@@Missnidski Yeah, Thanks 🙃💛
I learned how to manage No. 4 and No.5. Just need an open mind, and repetitive exposure and reassurance to build your confidence.
Well most relatable thing I’ve heard today 😐
I feel called out
Same
1: Yes 2: It depends on the surroundings 3: No (I thrive in chaotic environments) 4: No (I actually think that if we don't change we don't grow) 5: No (I do get a bit of stage fright but it isn't unmanageable)
I guess I'm not as sensitive as I thought? Thanks Doc.🙂 🙃 🙂
You just explained everything wrong with me 😭👍🏻
Not all negative
It’s me 🥺
Dr Julie is always reading my mail!🤷🏻♀️
Me being bipolar also me
All of these describe me. This correlates with my ASD, I've found that Therapy, Mindfulness, and Journaling help a lot! Therapy for anxiety reduction and personal growth, Mindfulness for mental clarity, and journaling for emotional regulation. Handling all of these this way has dramatically improved these issues.
I would only add one thing - 5 signs of a highly sensitive person, who hasn’t yet embraced their power and learned to hold space for/within themselves. Once you start calling your energy back into your body and feeling secure in your own energy/frame, you can start feeling safe to have your own embodied experience while allowing others to have theirs. No more taking responsibility for the emotions of others. You can hold space for your own, and for theirs. No more taking on the projections of others, note projecting upon them; you own your emotional experience and make no one else responsible for it. You can learn that change is more illusory than it really appears; only forms fade, the essential and true never changes, nothing real is ever threatened. Recognizing that you have a choice in thoughts and beliefs helps a lot. I’m actively practicing all of this and I can promise you it makes a difference. Do I still experience the things Dr Julie has mentioned? Absolutely. But so much less often, and even when I do, I’m not disempowered in them. I can embrace the experience and learn, grow, in acceptance of myself and others. I become bigger and more powerful every time. You start to learn the true boundlessness of yourself when you actually stay within your own body and energetic frame. I highly recommend the candle meditation that Aaron Doughty has here on TH-cam. Feeling is your super power, when you embrace it. Also helps to understand that a lot of what you feel isn’t yours. It doesn’t actually matter though, it’s all about accepting feeling as sensation and embracing what’s in the present moment. Ground, ground, ground. You got this ❤
where were you when I needed help. I had a burn out and had such a bad experience with a psychologist that I will never go to one again. she said things like "you shouldn't complain so much and don't act like that" thank you for your tips.
Hi! Now I knew why I get so nervous in front of audience and why I get frustrated by many people's demands. All 5 signs apply to me perfectly.
I don't know why but I just started crying watching your videos. Because it so relatable
1. If it's someone I know (like family member), then somewhat yes. Not so much for complete strangers.
2. Very much yes. It's not very comfortable then much more is going on than my brain can handle.
3. Yes. Also, my short term memory is not as capacious as some people think, so demanding too much at once is pretty much pointless - either I do nothing or just a few things that I do remember.
4. Yes, I like routine and familiarity. It makes me less anxious when I know where things are and what I'm going to do at the time. Sudden change can be very unnerving.
5. Yes. Performing in front of others is the easiest way to screw things up. I work best when nobody sees what I'm doing, as doing things in front of others feels like scolding waiting to happend.
Omg you bore into my head and describe what I see and feel!
This is me!! You made me realise what i am struggling with🤧
It will be helpful if you make a video on how to manage it..
I thought I wasn’t sensitive, but this completely changed my mind 😮
Thank you for the great work - these videos are highly informative.
That's me Dr. , thank you Dr Julie but I have changed jobs totally different from one another. I did it to make me stronger, I love music, I love life I love art and poetry and physics, precious moments in time is all we have , so we have to make more precious moments in time never stop.
Yes please. Tell us how to manage it.
She literally just explained my whole personality .
I learn a lot by watching your videos. You bring awareness to things, however, it would be helpful to have a solution to this issue. Thank you in advance!
She nailed it again!
YOU JUST NAILED ME! So how do I cope? Being very aware & sensitive is a burden
🙋🏻♀️totally resonate! I choose not to watch tv and have plenty of alone time which restores my energy. Great vid. Thank you xx
You are one hundred 💯 percent right. Amen. Have a beautiful day 🌞.
1. Other people' s moods and pain affect you deepky.
2. In a busy environment you Withdraw to get relief from the stimulation of those surroundings.
3.. You get overwhelmed when ppl try to get you to do too many things.
4. You hate change and this invokes strong emotions.
5. When you have to conpete or perform in front of other people, you become nervous.
yes, i know im very sensitive and this described it perfectly. Thank you
Very interresting! Thanks Julie!❤
I always thought I'm not that sensitive kinda person but now that I'm feeling overwhelmed by everything and these symptoms are extremely relatable, I've to reconsider.
I learnt something today. I'm a sensitive person. Thanks for your knowledge.
It’s a living hell… but thankful to be alive for now. Your videos are amazing.
Yes , good time talking about . Thx
Absolutely true for me. See that introverts are very much this way too...