This is just what I needed to hear. Learning that I am not the only Woman that has felt like she is no longer wanted in her children and grandchildren‘s lives helps me a lot. I had this thought in my mind that every other family was like the Waltons where all the generations were wanted and appreciated and a part of each others lives forever. I am seeing that’s not the case and it helps to know that I am not alone. Thank you for helping us women In our 60s and beyond…
I felt better reading your reply to her reply, lol. Never having children I live with some.regret. Reading what u had to say and others really helps. Just because people have kids doesn't mean that they're close. Or get along. Thank you and I too dont feel so alone....
It's all about looking beyond youself! Get a pet, i'm sixty seven love, love, love being alone meanning with no humans....lol...i have a beautiful gold labrador, so this means two walks daily rain, shine, snow, reading is my next love, & quilting is my third love! I have family, but being alone is my later life happiness!
This is good to hear. We are forever looking outside ourselves for happiness but it really has to come from within. Would love to be where you are... ❤️
Reading these comments in 2021 and I do have a 13 year old cat I love dearly but I realize when I retire soon I won't be able to afford rising vet bill. There won't be a next pet solely for that reason.
This vid may be 7 years old but the positivity within the message has lost no relevance over time and even grown in importance in this endemic pandemic period. Thank you Margaret xx
I live 10 minutes away from my daughter her husband my grandson My son in-law doesn’t like me so I rarely see them & not included in their life . I am single & am feeling very isolated and depressed although I do work when I get home I get depressed & feel hopeless . I can’t seem to get out of this rut . I’m trying but with Covid not much to do with lockdowns & people being afraid.
Great advice! This is also the best advice for meeting a potential partner. Don't do the silly dating stuff. Volunteer! Join clubs and groups. You will then meet people who are interested in what you're interested in and who share your values. But don't be there to meet someone! Be there to live your life. Try to give someone else what you want. If you are lonely, look for someone else who is lonely and give them relief. Be in relationship with what you want: love, companionship, comfort, kindness, humour... when you can't be on the receiving end, be on the giving end; it feels so much the same. It really does. Thanks for posting this, Margaret!
I love your advice..."be there to live your life"; so good. I should write this on a sticky note and post it on my mirror and read it every morning! Thank you!
Glad to have found your site 😀 Loneliness is not a problem,but health problems are! At 78, I was able to work and now have to reorder my life. My kids want to help but can't. My husband never has nor will he. God is helping me
I''ll be 58 this month, retired early ,just bought a house in Las Vegas Nevada, relocating from california, raised a wonderful 25 yr old son, and love you channel. I stumbled upon it a couple of weeks ago. Thank you Margaret for helping and guiding us baby boomers with your great tips, info, knowlede and guest interviews.
Thanks sooo much...Dr. Dale is right on with all this. I do it all...am 64... Teach drama, act in plays (community theatre), hike, dine & chat with meetup groups...and a book club. There is so much out there when you look...volunteering, groups...old friends, new friends...plus I'm a nanny for 2 boys at present. I do love to live with other people though...so I found a nice roommate... My old girlfriends did not change WITH me...so I lost them...but I gained new ones...and will each day!
This is a very interesting and inspiring conversation. I am almost 67 and have four children plus 7 grandchildren. We are all living the same state and are logistically living within minutes of each other; but each of my children and their families are all very different from each other, with different values and beliefs, and each march to the tune of a different drummer. We all get together for family functions; i.e., Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, etc. Two years ago I sold the family home and moved into one of the apartments in the 4plex that I own--I did this for the purpose of not having all the maintenance and to be centrally located to all the kids and grandkids... All the kids agreed that I should move closer so I can be more involved in their lives, but I feel that I would like to be "invited" to their house, rather than being a "butt-in-sky" and just show up on their doorstep unannounced...I've always been that way. One of my daughters lives in the apartment downstairs and I still call or text when I want to come down, and she does the same when she wants to come up. I am coming to the realization that my kids and their families have "their own lives" and I'm not necessarily a part of the day-to-day; so now I am researching what I should do on my own not really involving my kids and grandkids; I'm researching what I want to do when I grow up!! I am alone (no sisters/brothers/parents - I have one cousin and that's IT for family). I have 4 or 5 very close friends that all live out of state. I'm really not a joiner per se. I am learning that I need to kick myself and get myself moving if I want to do anything with the rest of my life. This video was very helpful to me and is giving me the inspiration that I need to get moving! Thank you!
I have very loving adult children and close to them and their kids. ( my grandkids) I would say that part of the closeness is my total lack of neediness. I decided decades ago I would lead my own life too and have done some many awesome things with them. I took them camping in the wilderness when they were young, airplane trips, museums, taught them how to fish, ski , swim, kayak ,play baseball and all the things I was good at when I was young. I watch their movies and cartoons with them, learned how to play video games, ( they are pro’s and I am a mess at it but they laugh so hard at my failed attempts) and I do that just to see what they are doing on the internet. I took them bowling once and I was so bad at bowling they laughed so hard they couldn’t bowl great ether. I have taken them to so many places. In a big city I thought I should show them how a public bus works and it was the first time they had ever been on one. We talk about everything like birds, flowers, cooking I taught them during the pandemic on zoom. I am basically willing to do anything they want to do and I am rewarded by them teaching me a lot of things too like when I can’t figure out my cell phone. Now my grandkids all have only a few years left to the last ones are 18 and they have their own lives but they call me and text me often. I have over 8000 photos over the years just of our activities and travels. They call me all the time for a photo from a certain trip or activity. I have been fortunate that I am a big part of their lives. I think what I have done with them are the activities that their busy parents wouldn’t have the time to do. Tonight all the grandkids and I are on a connected text thread. Started by my oldest granddaughter who wants to create a list of haunted hotels that they all want to stay in this summer. I am 74, they never notice ho old I got. Ha ha
Hi Terry - my name is Jan. I just read your post and I’m wondering what activities you have discovered to do by yourself in the six years since you’ve written this post. I am in my 60s and I’m feeling very lonely. Any insight you could give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Very inspiring and always relevant several years later. Aging is a new journey and I find amazing all the new experiences and discoveries we can still have and pursue. These videos give me a time to reflect on different topics and guide me towards making my life more relevant as I go along. Life is not over until it is over. Just turned 80 😊.
Thank you so much for this post. I wasn't on TH-cam to find this. Yet, it was destiny that I did, because it's actually what I've been going through in my life. At 55 kids grown and moved on in their lives . They have nothing to do with me. I don't think nor care how lonely my life has been. They interact with me only when they need me. I've llost my will my zeal for life. I've haven't had a best friend since I was 16yrs old. Until I came across your post I thought I was the only woman going through this. I've got to get out of being and became an introvert. I'm so afraid to step out and meet people alone. Again, thanks you for this.
Hi Sandra. Thank you for your feedback. We do have a blogger who writes on the subject of estranged adult children and has written some wonderful advice - here is her latest sixtyandme.com/7-ways-therapy-can-help-estranged-parents/ You check her out on our website www.sixtyandme.com - Take good care.
I am and have been isolated so long with not having a car... I can try visiting some places in walking distance but I am having trouble pushing myself to do so.
I list my license because of my vision a few years ago. We live in a rural area and I worry what is going to happen if my husband passes before me. He’s ten years older.
Margaret You have such an infectious smile and enthusiasm. Your vids are excellent and helping so many as evidenced by the inciteful and appreciative comments. You talk and modulate PERFECTLY. I like to speed you up if anything. If anyone is having difficulty with your speed it's on them to just press the button to listen to you at half speed if they so desire. Thanks so much again....
9:25 - The best advice. I have always thought it was odd that churches divvy up people into age-based groups rather than interest-based groups. The younger generations need the older generations and vice versa. True community isn't categorized by different ages, it is enhanced by them just like in her book group.
Spot on. I would add start to identify what you like to do before you retire, start the “prep”. I developed a lot of activities and volunteer community jobs that I enjoy doing. The idea we may not be lonely but are dealing with a large amount of loss all at once and our stability tied to our former routines has changed. I did miss my life and connections even though I did not think I would so retirement meant that I had we to re-think my life and change it up. Even at my age I realize this is a whole brave new world for me. The only comment I would add also is how I embrace being a senior. I live in a small community. I decided when I go to town or events that I would flash my best smile ( lucky I have a nice smile) be friendly and respectful to all and ask the people I see how are you today. In a grocery store I offer to lend a hand to anyone that might need some help. I want to be the senior lady who goes out and people are excited to see me and love I ask them how they are and with mom’s I talk to their little kids and babies and tell them how cute they are. Smiles sure can turn things around… I recognize that some seniors are isolated and hope they will get in touch with programs that they can go out and have some company like the Senior Centers. My own dad when he was in his 80’s I came up with lots of stuff he could do. Tried is all but he remained the person he always was, a loner who only enjoyed a 1 to 1 relationship with people he was familiar with. I hired a chore agency for seniors and got him a chore worker that would do some things he needed and make his meals. She took him to the store and for haircuts and such. At the time it was about 2000. A month for 2 hours a day and he had the money to pay for that. It was perfect, he liked the ladies, he had cooked meals, he was taken out for errands and did his own grocery shopping and he always had something to talk to me about what was going on with the ladies and what he did that day. Identify a senior’s needs, their physical health and check with what services and activities could be available in their community.
When I was in my early 30s, my wonderful much older boyfriend welcomed many people into his home and life. He was still working full-time up to his early 80s. He had the joie de Vivre. He would say the most important things in life is to love and be loved.
I'm more concerned about my wife having fulness in her life, especially after I am gone. So I try to encourage her to be involved in things and to not isolate. As for me, I'm just tired at this point and want to just sit.
I just lost my husband and my live at home daughter recently married and moved away,- two big losses in just a couple months. I went from being a caregiver and having a PT job and a busy household (Hospice nurses and doctor visits), to just and my dogs. I'mtrying to figure out where I go from here.
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My sincere condolences for the loss of your husband. Hopefully, you are staying in touch with your daughter through Skype. Is there any chance you could move to her location? This might be especially helpful to both of you when your first grandchild is born. If not, please try to join an organization that is heavily involved in your community (a church, the Elks) or explore the possibility of a part-time job within your local government, which is often looking for applicants for their boards of ethics, planning, zoning or assessment review. You can also invite friends over for coffee and conversation or for whatever purpose you choose (cards, Scrabble, knitting or crocheting, etc). Try to avoid being alone too much. If you cry a lot from depression, you're in trouble and should seek out a support group. Good luck and God bless you.
Scary,new life... Like alone time. Was stressed out teacher.Now I know times I need to get out. may join church. Also hard, adult daughter to move out,grad. to be teacher. was gone for yr. before.Now I have to adjust again!
The Lord understands if you don't have money to tithe. Besides there's many ways to serve the Lord that costs nothing. Just being kind to someone who is lonely is a blessing.
Important to recreate your identity, from being a parent, just like when you went from being single, to being married, to becoming a parent, you're always you, but at different curtain calls.
I love being alone! I know…I know it is not good to isolate but you must get involved with others for your health in your senior years! Sadly as you age you need help in just living as you get weaker. ..or your memory etc. With having tv, computer, DVD exercise, audible books, there are so much to do! Also very simply when alone I find you become a target for the scams and the crooks out there…especially single woman! For me..I have become a target for hacking and am now in fear for my life! I have become a prisoner in my own home!
All of my friends have arisen from some sort of organization, institution or other place where I have been brought into contact with the same people on a regular basis. For example, I started a social work degree in Australia with lots of mature age students. I volunteered at a charity handing out food and clothes.
Congratulations Margaret! It's was a fantastic interview! But I'd like to ask you something... Could you speak a bit slower so as to able be to follow you easily since I'm not a native speaker? I must tell you I'm a member of Sixty a Me community who always joins in the conversantions. Hope you read it! Kindest regards.
I learn to appreciate my space , my peace of mind , my independance things that l couldnt have before ,, l. Connect with my friends & relative online now because of covid 19 lockdown & curfew we cant go out as before
55 yr old widower all friends gone all family turned self centered adult kids disrespectful and lazy to a not normal lazy scale and with no empathy for anything im deciding not to keep fixing others so thinking softball or bowling, fishing maybe
hey what about us men we work all of our lives we miss out on our children when they were little sometimes you couldn't go to their baseball games sometimes you couldn't go to their school recitals now we're retired maybe our wives passed away our kids don't come over and talk with oh yeah maybe they send us a birthday card maybe they call us on the phone or now they just text us you really got me that way they don't have to spend any time talking to me they just text me and that's it what goes around comes around truer words have never been spoken if you are a daughter or a son this will happen to you too
Bless your heart girl, you need to slow down when you speak. Too much coffee? I know you are excited, and your enthusiasm shows, and it is great to see you so happy...but it would be easier to follow if you speak just a little calmer. Thank you for the channel, we all need it.
if you have a senior center by you go to it you going to meet a lot of people there it'll become your friends Samuel like some you won't like but at least it's somebody to talk to and sometimes you get a pretty good meal up there for less money than what you'd have to pay so come on join the party go to a senior center and don't turn around 20 that's for old people hey you her old get over it and don't expect your kids they don't care they got their own lives to live when I get to our age what goes around comes around
Nobody wants to be around someone who is always complaining about something. We all have complaints but we love to be with happy people, people who enjoy life, people who make us smile, people who make us feel better about ourselves... Actually, I am one of the complainers but I'm trying to change that and enjoy my life as much as I can. I really appreciate this channel and plan to make more positive things happen in my life. Thank you for this great information!
This is just what I needed to hear. Learning that I am not the only Woman that has felt like she is no longer wanted in her children and grandchildren‘s lives helps me a lot. I had this thought in my mind that every other family was like the Waltons where all the generations were wanted and appreciated and a part of each others lives forever. I am seeing that’s not the case and it helps to know that I am not alone. Thank you for helping us women In our 60s and beyond…
I felt better reading your reply to her reply, lol.
Never having children I live with some.regret. Reading what u had to say and others really helps.
Just because people have kids doesn't mean that they're close.
Or get along.
Thank you and I too dont feel so alone....
It's all about looking beyond youself! Get a pet, i'm sixty seven love, love, love being alone meanning with no humans....lol...i have a beautiful gold labrador, so this means two walks daily rain, shine, snow, reading is my next love, & quilting is my third love! I have family, but being alone is my later life happiness!
This is good to hear. We are forever looking outside ourselves for happiness but it really has to come from within. Would love to be where you are... ❤️
Agree!
Reading these comments in 2021 and I do have a 13 year old cat I love dearly but I realize when I retire soon I won't be able to afford rising vet bill. There won't be a next pet solely for that reason.
Love your comments, awesome! 💌
This vid may be 7 years old but the positivity within the message has lost no relevance over time and even grown in importance in this endemic pandemic period. Thank you Margaret xx
You are so right........this information is still so valid!
I live 10 minutes away from my daughter her husband my grandson
My son in-law doesn’t like me so
I rarely see them & not included in their life . I am single & am feeling very isolated and depressed although I do work when I get home I get depressed & feel hopeless . I can’t seem to get out of this rut . I’m trying but with Covid not much to do with lockdowns & people being afraid.
just rember to SMILE cuase you are alive!!!!
Great advice! This is also the best advice for meeting a potential partner. Don't do the silly dating stuff. Volunteer! Join clubs and groups. You will then meet people who are interested in what you're interested in and who share your values. But don't be there to meet someone! Be there to live your life. Try to give someone else what you want. If you are lonely, look for someone else who is lonely and give them relief. Be in relationship with what you want: love, companionship, comfort, kindness, humour... when you can't be on the receiving end, be on the giving end; it feels so much the same. It really does.
Thanks for posting this, Margaret!
I love your advice..."be there to live your life"; so good. I should write this on a sticky note and post it on my mirror and read it every morning! Thank you!
WithMetta
This is so true. Thank you for your share. Very good advice.
@@terrycourtney8011 I didn't see this 5 years ago, but thank you!
@@Nina-gl7lo Thank you!
I live with my husband of 40 years and I am more lonely than I have ever been in my life. Truth.
What??? Why?
Glad to have found your site 😀
Loneliness is not a problem,but health problems are!
At 78, I was able to work and now have to reorder my life.
My kids want to help but can't.
My husband never has nor will he.
God is helping me
God is all you need. Blessings and pray you find genuine purpose in your life. He promised to never leave or forsake you.
I''ll be 58 this month, retired early ,just bought a house in Las Vegas Nevada, relocating from california, raised a wonderful 25 yr old son, and love you channel. I stumbled upon it a couple of weeks ago. Thank you Margaret for helping and guiding us baby boomers with your great tips, info, knowlede and guest interviews.
Thanks Astrid for being here! I hope you have a fabulous week ahead. Enjoy your new house in Las Vegas!
This video was so meaningful. So many ideas that address how i am feeling... and/or struggling in life. Thank you for caring so much Margaret. ❤😊
Thanks sooo much...Dr. Dale is right on with all this. I do it all...am 64... Teach drama, act in plays (community theatre), hike, dine & chat with meetup groups...and a book club. There is so much out there when you look...volunteering, groups...old friends, new friends...plus I'm a nanny for 2 boys at present. I do love to live with other people though...so I found a nice roommate... My old girlfriends did not change WITH me...so I lost them...but I gained new ones...and will each day!
This is a very interesting and inspiring conversation. I am almost 67 and have four children plus 7 grandchildren. We are all living the same state and are logistically living within minutes of each other; but each of my children and their families are all very different from each other, with different values and beliefs, and each march to the tune of a different drummer. We all get together for family functions; i.e., Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, etc. Two years ago I sold the family home and moved into one of the apartments in the 4plex that I own--I did this for the purpose of not having all the maintenance and to be centrally located to all the kids and grandkids... All the kids agreed that I should move closer so I can be more involved in their lives, but I feel that I would like to be "invited" to their house, rather than being a "butt-in-sky" and just show up on their doorstep unannounced...I've always been that way. One of my daughters lives in the apartment downstairs and I still call or text when I want to come down, and she does the same when she wants to come up. I am coming to the realization that my kids and their families have "their own lives" and I'm not necessarily a part of the day-to-day; so now I am researching what I should do on my own not really involving my kids and grandkids; I'm researching what I want to do when I grow up!! I am alone (no sisters/brothers/parents - I have one cousin and that's IT for family). I have 4 or 5 very close friends that all live out of state. I'm really not a joiner per se. I am learning that I need to kick myself and get myself moving if I want to do anything with the rest of my life. This video was very helpful to me and is giving me the inspiration that I need to get moving! Thank you!
Good comment Terry
I have very loving adult children and close to them and their kids. ( my grandkids) I would say that part of the closeness is my total lack of neediness. I decided decades ago I would lead my own life too and have done some many awesome things with them. I took them camping in the wilderness when they were young, airplane trips, museums, taught them how to fish, ski , swim, kayak ,play baseball and all the things I was good at when I was young. I watch their movies and cartoons with them, learned how to play video games, ( they are pro’s and I am a mess at it but they laugh so hard at my failed attempts) and I do that just to see what they are doing on the internet. I took them bowling once and I was so bad at bowling they laughed so hard they couldn’t bowl great ether. I have taken them to so many places. In a big city I thought I should show them how a public bus works and it was the first time they had ever been on one. We talk about everything like birds, flowers, cooking I taught them during the pandemic on zoom. I am basically willing to do anything they want to do and I am rewarded by them teaching me a lot of things too like when I can’t figure out my cell phone. Now my grandkids all have only a few years left to the last ones are 18 and they have their own lives but they call me and text me often. I have over 8000 photos over the years just of our activities and travels. They call me all the time for a photo from a certain trip or activity. I have been fortunate that I am a big part of their lives. I think what I have done with them are the activities that their busy parents wouldn’t have the time to do. Tonight all the grandkids and I are on a connected text thread. Started by my oldest granddaughter who wants to create a list of haunted hotels that they all want to stay in this summer. I am 74, they never notice ho old I got. Ha ha
Hi Terry - my name is Jan. I just read your post and I’m wondering what activities you have discovered to do by yourself in the six years since you’ve written this post. I am in my 60s and I’m feeling very lonely. Any insight you could give me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you
Very inspiring and always relevant several years later. Aging is a new journey and I find amazing all the new experiences and discoveries we can still have and pursue. These videos give me a time to reflect on different topics and guide me towards making my life more relevant as I go along. Life is not over until it is over. Just turned 80 😊.
Thank you so much for this post. I wasn't on TH-cam to find this. Yet, it was destiny that I did, because it's actually what I've been going through in my life. At 55 kids grown and moved on in their lives . They have nothing to do with me. I don't think nor care how lonely my life has been. They interact with me only when they need me. I've llost my will my zeal for life. I've haven't had a best friend since I was 16yrs old. Until I came across your post I thought I was the only woman going through this. I've got to get out of being and became an introvert. I'm so afraid to step out and meet people alone. Again, thanks you for this.
💕💕💕💕Thank you
Hi sandra kellar Don't be afraid to step out.. Enjoy the life while we still alive , have fun do things that make u happy. Good luck
Hi Sandra. Thank you for your feedback. We do have a blogger who writes on the subject of estranged adult children and has written some wonderful advice - here is her latest sixtyandme.com/7-ways-therapy-can-help-estranged-parents/ You check her out on our website www.sixtyandme.com - Take good care.
Going through same here.You are not alone! I pray about it!🤗
Thank you for sharing, I am experiencing the same story. Glad I have discovered this site
I am and have been isolated so long with not having a car... I can try visiting some places in walking distance but I am having trouble pushing myself to do so.
I list my license because of my vision a few years ago. We live in a rural area and I worry what is going to happen if my husband passes before me. He’s ten years older.
Vision problems here too. I couldn’t drive for a while but with help I’m seeing much better.
Margaret
You have such an infectious smile and enthusiasm. Your vids are excellent and helping so many as evidenced by the inciteful and appreciative comments.
You talk and modulate PERFECTLY. I like to speed you up if anything.
If anyone is having difficulty with your speed it's on them to just press the button to listen to you at half speed if they so desire.
Thanks so much again....
Thank you for this one. It was very helpful, if only to open my mind to possibilities.
9:25 - The best advice. I have always thought it was odd that churches divvy up people into age-based groups rather than interest-based groups. The younger generations need the older generations and vice versa. True community isn't categorized by different ages, it is enhanced by them just like in her book group.
Some parents are / were toxic and the adult kids need to get away before they can return
Spot on. I would add start to identify what you like to do before you retire, start the “prep”. I developed a lot of activities and volunteer community jobs that I enjoy doing. The idea we may not be lonely but are dealing with a large amount of loss all at once and our stability tied to our former routines has changed. I did miss my life and connections even though I did not think I would so retirement meant that I had we to re-think my life and change it up. Even at my age I realize this is a whole brave new world for me. The only comment I would add also is how I embrace being a senior. I live in a small community. I decided when I go to town or events that I would flash my best smile ( lucky I have a nice smile) be friendly and respectful to all and ask the people I see how are you today. In a grocery store I offer to lend a hand to anyone that might need some help. I want to be the senior lady who goes out and people are excited to see me and love I ask them how they are and with mom’s I talk to their little kids and babies and tell them how cute they are. Smiles sure can turn things around… I recognize that some seniors are isolated and hope they will get in touch with programs that they can go out and have some company like the Senior Centers. My own dad when he was in his 80’s I came up with lots of stuff he could do. Tried is all but he remained the person he always was, a loner who only enjoyed a 1 to 1 relationship with people he was familiar with. I hired a chore agency for seniors and got him a chore worker that would do some things he needed and make his meals. She took him to the store and for haircuts and such. At the time it was about 2000. A month for 2 hours a day and he had the money to pay for that. It was perfect, he liked the ladies, he had cooked meals, he was taken out for errands and did his own grocery shopping and he always had something to talk to me about what was going on with the ladies and what he did that day. Identify a senior’s needs, their physical health and check with what services and activities could be available in their community.
Thank you, Margaret. The topics that you voice, are of importance to women over 60. They guide us forth...
When I was in my early 30s, my wonderful much older boyfriend welcomed many people into his home and life. He was still working full-time up to his early 80s. He had the joie de Vivre. He would say the most important things in life is to love and be loved.
I'm more concerned about my wife having fulness in her life, especially after I am gone. So I try to encourage her to be involved in things and to not isolate. As for me, I'm just tired at this point and want to just sit.
A great conversation - thank you for discussing this relevant topic.
Wonderful and inspiring ideas! Thank you for what you do!
Thank you Linda!
Excellent video. It’s a great resource to go back to, as a reminder. Thank you, Margaret. ❤️
I just lost my husband and my live at home daughter recently married and moved away,- two big losses in just a couple months. I went from
being a caregiver and having a PT job and a busy household (Hospice nurses and doctor visits), to just and my dogs. I'mtrying to figure out where I go from here.
My sincere condolences for the loss of your husband. Hopefully, you are staying in touch with your daughter through Skype. Is there any chance you could move to her location? This might be especially helpful to both of you when your first grandchild is born. If not, please try to join an organization that is heavily involved in your community (a church, the Elks) or explore the possibility of a part-time job within your local government, which is often looking for applicants for their boards of ethics, planning, zoning or assessment review. You can also invite friends over for coffee and conversation or for whatever purpose you choose (cards, Scrabble, knitting or crocheting, etc). Try to avoid being alone too much. If you cry a lot from depression, you're in trouble and should seek out a support group. Good luck and God bless you.
Time. Take some time to adjust. Make no omportant decisions, except Dont call that guy who left his number
I'm so glad I met you.
Scary,new life... Like alone time. Was stressed out teacher.Now I know times I need to get out. may join church. Also hard, adult daughter to move out,grad. to be teacher. was gone for yr. before.Now I have to adjust again!
Take care Patricia. You have found a group of women here who are by your side!
I like being alone but i hate being lonely its a human nature to be with someone dont accept being by yourself you are a beautiful woman
Thank you Margaret for your great advice and ideas on retiring and loneliness...always appreciate your ideas...
I sure needed to hear this message wow
This is such a helpful and reassuring show, I am one of the few I know who wants to live alone
What about women who are older that is not financially set but yet have to be alone?
how do they survive financially?
Terry Matsusaki : Go to ⛪ church. lt gives you something to do.
Not everybody is Christian, and most places of worship expect a financial contribution.
The Lord understands if you don't have money to tithe. Besides there's many ways to serve the Lord that costs nothing. Just being kind to someone who is lonely is a blessing.
She is so wise I really enjoyed this it's endless advice
This was really good!🤗
Lovely episode! Thanks!
Important to recreate your identity, from being a parent, just like when you went from being single, to being married, to becoming a parent, you're always you, but at different curtain calls.
Marvelous guest speaker bright vision 😊
Thank you Dr. Dale
I love being alone! I know…I know it is not good to isolate but you must get involved with others for your health in your senior years! Sadly as you age you need help in just living as you get weaker. ..or your memory etc. With having tv, computer, DVD exercise, audible books, there are so much to do! Also very simply when alone I find you become a target for the scams and the crooks out there…especially single woman! For me..I have become a target for hacking and am now in fear for my life! I have become a prisoner in my own home!
Thank you Margaret- I am a new member. Thank you for your research and work.
You are so welcome
All of my friends have arisen from some sort of organization, institution or other place where I have been brought into contact with the same people on a regular basis. For example, I started a social work degree in Australia with lots of mature age students. I volunteered at a charity handing out food and clothes.
Congratulations Margaret! It's was a fantastic interview! But I'd like to ask you something... Could you speak a bit slower so as to able be to follow you easily since I'm not a native speaker? I must tell you I'm a member of Sixty a Me community who always joins in the conversantions. Hope you read it! Kindest regards.
Very helpful.
Very helpful!☺
I really like these podcasts
Thank you for this engaging interview.
I feel inspired. 👍😎🇨🇦
I learn to appreciate my space , my peace of mind , my independance things that l couldnt have before ,, l. Connect with my friends & relative online now because of covid 19 lockdown & curfew we cant go out as before
Good words. Thank you so much.
55 yr old widower all friends gone all family turned self centered adult kids disrespectful and lazy to a not normal lazy scale and with no empathy for anything im deciding not to keep fixing others
so thinking softball or bowling, fishing maybe
Good advice. Thanks.
hey what about us men we work all of our lives we miss out on our children when they were little sometimes you couldn't go to their baseball games sometimes you couldn't go to their school recitals now we're retired maybe our wives passed away our kids don't come over and talk with oh yeah maybe they send us a birthday card maybe they call us on the phone or now they just text us you really got me that way they don't have to spend any time talking to me they just text me and that's it what goes around comes around truer words have never been spoken if you are a daughter or a son this will happen to you too
6 years later and over 100k followers- just in time!
Very Interesting
The pandemic made things worse for some of us
Bless your heart girl, you need to slow down when you speak. Too much coffee? I know you are excited, and your enthusiasm shows, and it is great to see you so happy...but it would be easier to follow if you speak just a little calmer. Thank you for the channel, we all need it.
Downsized as a widow to be near my surviving child. Would love a gardening group and book club…please tell me how to find it.
when you are broke, you can't do much
Some of us are single, never married or don't have any children.
For some of us w/pre-existing medical condition, we don't go out, because COVID threatens us.
2020 addendum: In the early part of the 21st century, gyms were a place where people could congregate to work out...
Why don’t retired people just do things in retirement that they like to do? Seems so strange to not have to work and be bored.
if you have a senior center by you go to it you going to meet a lot of people there it'll become your friends Samuel like some you won't like but at least it's somebody to talk to and sometimes you get a pretty good meal up there for less money than what you'd have to pay so come on join the party go to a senior center and don't turn around 20 that's for old people hey you her old get over it and don't expect your kids they don't care they got their own lives to live when I get to our age what goes around comes around
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Nobody wants older folks
Not even older folks😀
Nobody wants to be around someone who is always complaining about something. We all have complaints but we love to be with happy people, people who enjoy life, people who make us smile, people who make us feel better about ourselves... Actually, I am one of the complainers but I'm trying to change that and enjoy my life as much as I can. I really appreciate this channel and plan to make more positive things happen in my life. Thank you for this great information!