Young men, these modern "lovely ladies" are competing (your competitors, NOT partners) with you in ALL aspects of life. They are in the game (relationship) to WIN by any means necessary. Ignore this observation at your own peril. Protect everything you value, and don't invest/spend more than you can afford to lose in/on these renegades. Clarity is our friend. The environment has CHANGED... adapt, grow, and thrive. Happy trails!!!
I dnt think it's more of a competition, it's jst a situation where a woman is elevating nd stuff, a man shld ensure he is 5x bigger than his gal/ wife. Fr instance if ur gal is getting her masters get it too even ur PhD, so that ur bigger than her. Whatever she does ensure urs is bigger, its not a competition per se, have u seen those women that got their PhD Nd now felt like they didn't want their hubby anymore, they were not competing thy were just tryna do smthing Fr themselves then they luckily got bigger hence why most husband wld refuse their women to go back to school coz they'll disrespect them even some married women refuse high paying jobs to save their marriage (which is good) but if y'all r not married yet nd she's still under her father's authority she can study or get bigger however she likes, get bigger with her and ensure to never be left behind. Another thing that messes up men is them taking their gals to school or helping them to start their business while they have nothing, she'll leave u fr some1 bigger. Hypergamy dsnt play.
I got her while she was still studying also in 2022 and then she left 3 weeks ago, she told me she was about to buy a car, all of a sudden, there's no more love 😂, NO! It's because i don't have a car also, she now wants someone at her own level, who's working, I'm in my 3rd year now. Let me try to get my things right first before another relationship comes my way.
Thank you 🙏🏾 for the message my brother. We don’t have people we can talk to around us but God made it possible for us to meet people like you on TH-cam and you are one of the rear once’s . I wanna thank you for being the person that you are starting this TH-cam and telling your self that you gonna help men in South Africa the consistency ahhhhh come on my brother your much .i hope God gives many more years in this world so that you can change as many lives as you can ……..thank you for now and thank you in advance
@pensonmlotshwa but looking back, neh, it goes to the point you mentioned, date people on your level. She was way ahead of me in terms of life. She came from a well-off family . My mistake was believing that she really would stick around. I'm never allowing any women near me ever again.
@@dazemedia1818Eish I'm a 3rd year student and I found her while she was still studying also in 2022 November, and then she found a job this year January she stayed for a few months until June then she startes losing love for me. She ended it three weeks back 😂 man i thought she would wait for me to finish my 4 year degree 😂man was I so stupid. If i got the job i was gonna try to uplift her kodwa keh it was it is 💯 we'll get better slowly but surely
@@dazemedia1818 Not sure how far back this was, but do you remember if YOU changed when you lost your job? Slept more, got short tempered etc. That is who women leave, not you. I ask if you remember because I think sometimes you would not be aware.
This has been an ongoing discussion for the longest time. This conversation reminds me of the ones Kevin Samuels used to have when he was alive and he always said, never go to a woman as a safe space, they will see you as weak and if not much use. There are books on the subject of how boys are raised and treated by society all the way into manhood, from education to social life to employment, we are treated horribly. The book is called “Of Boys and Men-Why the Modern Male is struggling, why it matters and what to do about it” by Richard V. Reeves. Very good book.
True, most of us women we'll say noo a man shld come Nd cry to us then we change, it's true we can't handle men's problems no matter what we say as women. You guys also need to create groups where you can vent to ur bros, friends whoever, coz that's why y'all end up being depressed, everybody is keeping to themselves, one man is like "Ahh Thabo will laugh at me" another one is like "John will laugh at me." Then both Thabo and John end up not confining in each other. It all starts with you guys.
Hey Penson, so i look at this a few ways but let me mention 2. One: I personally have had men ask me how much i pay for rent and that he would pay ON THE FIRST DAY I MET HIM. I never even asked, but alot of gents create that kind of expectation themselves so obviously some women would be like damn okay pay then. Some men lay a materialistic foundation for women to build on and then complain when times get rough and the woman leaves. Accountability needs to also be taken in these cases instead of blame that women are all materialistic. Two: Social media can be poison to a point where men feel the need to prove themselves to women who have been swallowed up and conformed by social media standards, many females dont even know what experience means anymore. What they like and dont like, they are fed and fed online on end results and not process. This is why you need to have conversations on the first date and not go out to party and drink on the first date and get drunk and have sex, you need to hear where her head is and where his head is, but alot of gents just see nyash and are taken by a cute face and alot of women use it to their advantage. Life is hard and shit can and will happen to you whether youre rich, poor, middle class etc. Thats why you choose your partner soberly even if it takes time.
Indeed ,Insecure men create a materialistic foundation as a bait to lure women into their net,because they know without those materialistic gestures they wouldn't even be in a same room with the intended woman .Chris Rock said it"Only dogs ,women and children are loved unconditionally ,Men are loved on the basis of provision"
You have to cultivate psychological safety in a relationship to earn the right to be vulnerable… being open, mutual respect, active listening and consistency in your thoughts, words & deeds, intimacy… too many women (and men) have been hurt or taken advantage of (& arguably damaged)and have numbed certain parts of themselves and it comes across as being cold/not understanding & it translates to being an unsafe space for their partners.
@@matselisomasimula1603 I hear you, and agree to an extent… Men can be in “loving” relationships but don’t have the same advantages as his wife/gf… one that I’m talking about is emotional security… a husband can only be vulnerable to a point…
Ngiyezwa Bab’ Mlotshwa… the boundaries in relationships are to a large extent “man made”, sometimes (rarely) you find that person and that sweet spot where all these things are just tossed out the window & you can’t help but be yourself & be vulnerable… from a women’s perspective there’s nothing better than when you can be there for the person you love especially for the moments that truly matter
Praying for the day you release a video dedicated to some of us who actually stand up for the men in our lives, our brothers, our husbands, our souns. To the great women before us who knew how to warm up a home and are teaching us the same form of humility. Social media generalizes ( such as this title) and thats sad.😢
I hear you bro but I think you might be conflating things that are usually very nuanced. Being vulnerable to your wife or girlfriend over being laid off is something they would generally support you through... the operative word there being "Through". And even if they aren't there after 6 months of your dwelling in self pity, and all women seemingly jump ship in that scenario, then you know for sure that nature has something to do with it. It's not malicious. There are many other things we go through as men that only other men would understand, so I struggle to understand why the constant push to be vulnerable with women specifically. Men can, and should speak to other men about their issues!
King you're spot on, I've been binging your content, you need to start a mens group, monetize this following and help us navigate life. The how to date in your lane could be a seperate course on its own. If you're keen let me know perhaps we can partner in the setting up of this thing
I think you're too literal in your interpretation of manhood. The base role of manhood is to Love, Protect and Provide. Love firstly yourself and 2nd others, you love by understanding and going deep on anything. You protect her heart, mind and psychology. You provide Strategy, Wisdom and thought leadership. However, you can't give what you don't have. I find man are failing the most in lack of self-knowledge and shying away from whatever pain comes up when going into yourself brings. Leave woman, for now, go build yourself, your home and if you're blessed to have a companion, give her the above, but be ready to be challenged, because that is a woman's role. Also, let's stop comparing women's behaviors with men. Keep focused on your target. Again,it's You.
youtube need vn option for comments 😂😂, I have sm to say because I feel I've been this space for men in my life but I do understand the perspective and empathise. Had a conversation w my colleague about this exact topic about how men seek safe spaces in women but how they aren't given reciprocation to be open and vulnerable as women are with their partners.
I don't have much value to add but in my own research on this, because I've been burned so many times. It was something that DR Sadia Khan, she's a psychologist that has high profile clients, she said that most men need to find emotionally soothing women. It's so eye opening hearing that. As guys we just want the best spec or the freak in the sheets and it ends there and that's a problem. It's too surface level to ever build something something meaningful and long lasting. We go crashing from one relationship to the next not fixing this glaring issue on our part. That being said soothing could be mean a lot of things to so many people but personally I don't want to be babied. Personally soothing would be someone emotionally resilient while I'm building. Imbokoto emotionally, but I don't think that exists these days or is super hard to find because of all of the comparison we do.
Dr Sadia Khan is proper! She drops some gems… I agree… men need emotionally soothing women… We keep chasing freaks hey! And lapho we keep getting hurt!!!
@@pensonmlotshwa Yup we keep getting hurt over and over. That pain should be a wake up call to all of us to evolve, grow and change how we move, if not then we are doomed to repeat the cycle. Not changing gives some people trauma, low self-esteem, makes them bitter and who knows what else depending on the person
Women are tired guys. We are working. We are helping our families and taking care of our kids. Ai, me personally I have no energy left for a man. I reserve the little bit of energy left for myself.
Women are not a safe space for men because we are wired differently, if I ask my partner if he is ok and he says yes I don't know what else to do even though I can see that he is not, because as a woman we solve our issues by talking, if you ask me if I'm ok I will give you a list of reasons why I am not ok. If men could open up to us and not think that maybe we'll see them as weak perhaps, things would be different.
@@sikelelwafoslara2688 grow up and be honest. The problem isn't that men aren't opening to women. The problem is that women far too many women aren't safe space for men.. Even your example is terrible cos men complain a lot of times about how women don't communicate when they aren't okay, instead they want you to somehow read their minds and know
Met someone years back who couldn't talk at all, she would go on to say that she felt drained every time she started talking, a minute into a conversation lol, I tried to be thorough with her but it was too much for her P.S she was not my safe space.
Eh bro, this one just said "or are you going to cry again lol... You cry baby." that time I've only shed a tear once in front of her after something really terrible had happened to my father ONCE
Haha women are built different! I always say never be vulnerable to a woman coz she will use it against you one day! If you really need to get something off your chest that is burning you rather speak to another male you trust! It could be a friend, uncle, brother etc.
Women can be a safe space for me. Depending on the title they have in a man’s life. There’s a woman who’s a friend in your life who sit with you and give you advice, proper advice and there won’t be any changes in how she sees you. I’m not saying that men should have a a female friend to talk to outside the relationship. I’m saying there are women you can talk to out there.
And you are appreciated, it's a pity that the rhetoric of being there for your man even at his lowest, isn't normalized especially in this current generation.
Hey Pen. I, as a woman, have to disagree when you generalize it as ALL women. I am a nurturer at heart. My ex used to be closed off due to how you explained it. Society and the unfair standards that they placed on how men should behave. Complete hate that stance. We would even fight because of it. Not talking to me when he has a problem, etc. I then encouraged him to start talking and sharing because I care. Would even encourage him to find an outlet to express his emotions so that he doesn't carry this load by himself. I encourage, I listen, I try to help to the best of my ability. He then started getting better and opened up more. Women definitely need to do better in terms of how we change 5his whole narrative, and that will in turn help men because better, in every sense of the word.
Majority of women will abandon you and exercise their options as soon as you face temporary setbacks in life... A majority of men will most likely support women at their lowest 🤞
Just know you are valued this side Grootman. I give you your flowers. Thank you for being there for amajita. Im sure kevin samuels is watching over you.
That's why men need Brotherhood and I'm not talking about the Surface Level Relationships we have For the sake of UbuPantsula or Bojita. Jewish or White Men get along because they realize they are in a War not because they want to but because we're human and we're Preconditioned for Tribalism and I'm not saying don't get along with other races I'm saying Charity starts at HOME , GET ALONG WITH YOUR OWN PEOPLE MORE. ❤
Are men able to function more effectively in safe spaces created by women, without letting their ego become a barrier? Women can serve as strong pillars of support, but can men be vulnerable enough in these spaces while still maintaining their masculinity? generally, men often change when they achieve financial success, sometimes making the environment unsafe, even though women served as pillars of support during the difficult times.
Woman Have to Taught, If U Look at every successful woman ;at some There was A Man Involved, Some Where funded By Guys, Lawyers Had a Male Mentor that Helped them to To become the independent woman They are
I think these two types of people don't get to meet often enough. Because you find a mbokodo but the man is lost doesn't know how to use that In a progressive way for both in a relationship. On the other hand you find guys hurt coz they were left because genuinely he lost his job, or he went through a difficult time, personally I have never experienced a man that I was there for and he appreciates that . You understand his background (mostly from humble homes), at times they are not educated, you like oh, let's register or anything like that. Father is alive but never played a role, all that and more. I never had a positive experience after understanding a man. But I now say kshuthi we just don't get to meet because so far I have never met a man that appreciated support in their hard times
I always tell my boys. Nobody cares about men. Im broke and invinsible to the women and i absolutely understand why I'm unattractive to them as a man. Its war in life as a man. Zakhala ethuneni bafanas we grind to death. work on yourself
~13:00~ even when u date it you lane ... she will STILL LEAVE you if it ever happens that $he ever earns more than you! A man has to make peace with that ... bkoz, hypergamy!
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Young men, these modern "lovely ladies" are competing (your competitors, NOT partners) with you in ALL aspects of life. They are in the game (relationship) to WIN by any means necessary. Ignore this observation at your own peril. Protect everything you value, and don't invest/spend more than you can afford to lose in/on these renegades. Clarity is our friend. The environment has CHANGED... adapt, grow, and thrive. Happy trails!!!
I dnt think it's more of a competition, it's jst a situation where a woman is elevating nd stuff, a man shld ensure he is 5x bigger than his gal/ wife. Fr instance if ur gal is getting her masters get it too even ur PhD, so that ur bigger than her. Whatever she does ensure urs is bigger, its not a competition per se, have u seen those women that got their PhD Nd now felt like they didn't want their hubby anymore, they were not competing thy were just tryna do smthing Fr themselves then they luckily got bigger hence why most husband wld refuse their women to go back to school coz they'll disrespect them even some married women refuse high paying jobs to save their marriage (which is good) but if y'all r not married yet nd she's still under her father's authority she can study or get bigger however she likes, get bigger with her and ensure to never be left behind.
Another thing that messes up men is them taking their gals to school or helping them to start their business while they have nothing, she'll leave u fr some1 bigger. Hypergamy dsnt play.
I got her while she was still studying also in 2022 and then she left 3 weeks ago, she told me she was about to buy a car, all of a sudden, there's no more love 😂, NO! It's because i don't have a car also, she now wants someone at her own level, who's working, I'm in my 3rd year now. Let me try to get my things right first before another relationship comes my way.
Date in your lane...I like that. Nailed it!
Can’t be fighting all the time with someone who honestly doesn’t get you.
Thank you 🙏🏾 for the message my brother. We don’t have people we can talk to around us but God made it possible for us to meet people like you on TH-cam and you are one of the rear once’s . I wanna thank you for being the person that you are starting this TH-cam and telling your self that you gonna help men in South Africa the consistency ahhhhh come on my brother your much .i hope God gives many more years in this world so that you can change as many lives as you can ……..thank you for now and thank you in advance
What kind words!
Thank you so much for the message! I truly appreciate you 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
ey honestly had a first hand experience, she left when i lost my job. still healing from this
SHIT!!! I’m so sorry brother 🙏🏽
All we can do it heal 😢
@pensonmlotshwa but looking back, neh, it goes to the point you mentioned, date people on your level. She was way ahead of me in terms of life. She came from a well-off family . My mistake was believing that she really would stick around. I'm never allowing any women near me ever again.
@@dazemedia1818Eish I'm a 3rd year student and I found her while she was still studying also in 2022 November, and then she found a job this year January she stayed for a few months until June then she startes losing love for me. She ended it three weeks back 😂 man i thought she would wait for me to finish my 4 year degree 😂man was I so stupid. If i got the job i was gonna try to uplift her kodwa keh it was it is 💯 we'll get better slowly but surely
@@dazemedia1818 Not sure how far back this was, but do you remember if YOU changed when you lost your job? Slept more, got short tempered etc. That is who women leave, not you. I ask if you remember because I think sometimes you would not be aware.
I think I was stressed due to the fact that I just lost my job, and the primary thing for me was to get another one.
This has been an ongoing discussion for the longest time. This conversation reminds me of the ones Kevin Samuels used to have when he was alive and he always said, never go to a woman as a safe space, they will see you as weak and if not much use. There are books on the subject of how boys are raised and treated by society all the way into manhood, from education to social life to employment, we are treated horribly. The book is called “Of Boys and Men-Why the Modern Male is struggling, why it matters and what to do about it” by Richard V. Reeves. Very good book.
True, most of us women we'll say noo a man shld come Nd cry to us then we change, it's true we can't handle men's problems no matter what we say as women.
You guys also need to create groups where you can vent to ur bros, friends whoever, coz that's why y'all end up being depressed, everybody is keeping to themselves, one man is like "Ahh Thabo will laugh at me" another one is like "John will laugh at me." Then both Thabo and John end up not confining in each other. It all starts with you guys.
Youd think the gender thats revered as nurturing, sympathetic and "matures quicker" would show more compassion but nix 😂😂
NOTHING!!!!! 😅
Hey Penson, so i look at this a few ways but let me mention 2. One: I personally have had men ask me how much i pay for rent and that he would pay ON THE FIRST DAY I MET HIM. I never even asked, but alot of gents create that kind of expectation themselves so obviously some women would be like damn okay pay then. Some men lay a materialistic foundation for women to build on and then complain when times get rough and the woman leaves. Accountability needs to also be taken in these cases instead of blame that women are all materialistic.
Two: Social media can be poison to a point where men feel the need to prove themselves to women who have been swallowed up and conformed by social media standards, many females dont even know what experience means anymore. What they like and dont like, they are fed and fed online on end results and not process. This is why you need to have conversations on the first date and not go out to party and drink on the first date and get drunk and have sex, you need to hear where her head is and where his head is, but alot of gents just see nyash and are taken by a cute face and alot of women use it to their advantage. Life is hard and shit can and will happen to you whether youre rich, poor, middle class etc. Thats why you choose your partner soberly even if it takes time.
This has opened my mind as a man my sister you have just educated me shame God bless you
Indeed ,Insecure men create a materialistic foundation as a bait to lure women into their net,because they know without those materialistic gestures they wouldn't even be in a same room with the intended woman .Chris Rock said it"Only dogs ,women and children are loved unconditionally ,Men are loved on the basis of provision"
You have to cultivate psychological safety in a relationship to earn the right to be vulnerable… being open, mutual respect, active listening and consistency in your thoughts, words & deeds, intimacy… too many women (and men) have been hurt or taken advantage of (& arguably damaged)and have numbed certain parts of themselves and it comes across as being cold/not understanding & it translates to being an unsafe space for their partners.
@@matselisomasimula1603 I hear you, and agree to an extent… Men can be in “loving” relationships but don’t have the same advantages as his wife/gf… one that I’m talking about is emotional security… a husband can only be vulnerable to a point…
Ngiyezwa Bab’ Mlotshwa… the boundaries in relationships are to a large extent “man made”, sometimes (rarely) you find that person and that sweet spot where all these things are just tossed out the window & you can’t help but be yourself & be vulnerable… from a women’s perspective there’s nothing better than when you can be there for the person you love especially for the moments that truly matter
It's a hard pill to swallow but very true and very relatable.
@@sea_pour It’s a very hard pill 😔
True story, most times we find this out when it is too late but again it is never too late to start working on your self
Bro I'm begging you please bring us a video on dating within your lane!!!!
I'll drop it soon soon!
Praying for the day you release a video dedicated to some of us who actually stand up for the men in our lives, our brothers, our husbands, our souns. To the great women before us who knew how to warm up a home and are teaching us the same form of humility. Social media generalizes ( such as this title) and thats sad.😢
But Zoe...why are you real women letting the feminist destructive women speak for yall? Take over the social media narrative..lets meet in the middle.
I hear you bro but I think you might be conflating things that are usually very nuanced. Being vulnerable to your wife or girlfriend over being laid off is something they would generally support you through... the operative word there being "Through". And even if they aren't there after 6 months of your dwelling in self pity, and all women seemingly jump ship in that scenario, then you know for sure that nature has something to do with it. It's not malicious. There are many other things we go through as men that only other men would understand, so I struggle to understand why the constant push to be vulnerable with women specifically. Men can, and should speak to other men about their issues!
King you're spot on, I've been binging your content, you need to start a mens group, monetize this following and help us navigate life. The how to date in your lane could be a seperate course on its own. If you're keen let me know perhaps we can partner in the setting up of this thing
You struck a nerve with this one bro. Sheesh!
i am a woman and i can’t be vulnerable around my mother 😂
U can be vulnerable around man
Real talk brother 💯
THANK YOU!!! 🙏🏽
I think you're too literal in your interpretation of manhood.
The base role of manhood is to Love, Protect and Provide. Love firstly yourself and 2nd others, you love by understanding and going deep on anything. You protect her heart, mind and psychology. You provide Strategy, Wisdom and thought leadership.
However, you can't give what you don't have.
I find man are failing the most in lack of self-knowledge and shying away from whatever pain comes up when going into yourself brings.
Leave woman, for now, go build yourself, your home and if you're blessed to have a companion, give her the above, but be ready to be challenged, because that is a woman's role.
Also, let's stop comparing women's behaviors with men. Keep focused on your target. Again,it's You.
youtube need vn option for comments 😂😂, I have sm to say because I feel I've been this space for men in my life but I do understand the perspective and empathise. Had a conversation w my colleague about this exact topic about how men seek safe spaces in women but how they aren't given reciprocation to be open and vulnerable as women are with their partners.
I don't have much value to add but in my own research on this, because I've been burned so many times. It was something that DR Sadia Khan, she's a psychologist that has high profile clients, she said that most men need to find emotionally soothing women. It's so eye opening hearing that. As guys we just want the best spec or the freak in the sheets and it ends there and that's a problem. It's too surface level to ever build something something meaningful and long lasting. We go crashing from one relationship to the next not fixing this glaring issue on our part. That being said soothing could be mean a lot of things to so many people but personally I don't want to be babied. Personally soothing would be someone emotionally resilient while I'm building. Imbokoto emotionally, but I don't think that exists these days or is super hard to find because of all of the comparison we do.
Dr Sadia Khan is proper!
She drops some gems… I agree… men need emotionally soothing women…
We keep chasing freaks hey! And lapho we keep getting hurt!!!
@@pensonmlotshwa Yup we keep getting hurt over and over. That pain should be a wake up call to all of us to evolve, grow and change how we move, if not then we are doomed to repeat the cycle. Not changing gives some people trauma, low self-esteem, makes them bitter and who knows what else depending on the person
Well-Put!!! Exactly!! I agree on all the points!!
Don't compromise, serve Enterprise. 😂😂
😂😂😂
Women are tired guys. We are working. We are helping our families and taking care of our kids. Ai, me personally I have no energy left for a man. I reserve the little bit of energy left for myself.
The audience is now international bro, please insert captions for "amajita"
Majita= the gents.
I hope he sees your comment bro.
Women are not a safe space for men because we are wired differently, if I ask my partner if he is ok and he says yes I don't know what else to do even though I can see that he is not, because as a woman we solve our issues by talking, if you ask me if I'm ok I will give you a list of reasons why I am not ok. If men could open up to us and not think that maybe we'll see them as weak perhaps, things would be different.
@@sikelelwafoslara2688 grow up and be honest. The problem isn't that men aren't opening to women. The problem is that women far too many women aren't safe space for men..
Even your example is terrible cos men complain a lot of times about how women don't communicate when they aren't okay, instead they want you to somehow read their minds and know
Met someone years back who couldn't talk at all, she would go on to say that she felt drained every time she started talking, a minute into a conversation lol, I tried to be thorough with her but it was too much for her
P.S she was not my safe space.
Eh bro, this one just said "or are you going to cry again lol... You cry baby." that time I've only shed a tear once in front of her after something really terrible had happened to my father ONCE
Yho! Harde bro. Stay strong 💪
Its not nice when someone you were open to uses that against you in the future.
Haha women are built different! I always say never be vulnerable to a woman coz she will use it against you one day! If you really need to get something off your chest that is burning you rather speak to another male you trust! It could be a friend, uncle, brother etc.
15:58 Looking forward to this video cause some of us have been looking for the kind of partner you're describing 😅
@@sea_pour There’s pros and cons about staying in your lane… but I’ll get a video out soon!
Couldn't have said it any better bro. Syabonga🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽, been 5 months following you and ive become a much better man dànkie Bru Wami🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽.
Women can be a safe space for me. Depending on the title they have in a man’s life. There’s a woman who’s a friend in your life who sit with you and give you advice, proper advice and there won’t be any changes in how she sees you. I’m not saying that men should have a a female friend to talk to outside the relationship. I’m saying there are women you can talk to out there.
DEEP Topic!! 😢
Awusho uliphinde...mina I'm at a position where I just have a cold heart,idc anymore 😂
Honestly you guys give women too much credit. If you want to understand female nature, study history. The will always be who they are.
True, nature doesn't change only time does.
I must be a different kind of sister then, there is no ways my man will suffer with me by his side... NEVER EVER!!! Not my soldier 🪖❤
And you are appreciated, it's a pity that the rhetoric of being there for your man even at his lowest, isn't normalized especially in this current generation.
@@sandilesibeko25 That's so true... There's a lot of internal healing that needs to take place... I still believe that men and women need each other.
God is the one we cry to.People are unreliable
Yah zinja ngilokshini
Hey Pen. I, as a woman, have to disagree when you generalize it as ALL women. I am a nurturer at heart. My ex used to be closed off due to how you explained it. Society and the unfair standards that they placed on how men should behave. Complete hate that stance. We would even fight because of it. Not talking to me when he has a problem, etc. I then encouraged him to start talking and sharing because I care. Would even encourage him to find an outlet to express his emotions so that he doesn't carry this load by himself. I encourage, I listen, I try to help to the best of my ability. He then started getting better and opened up more. Women definitely need to do better in terms of how we change 5his whole narrative, and that will in turn help men because better, in every sense of the word.
Why is he an ex then? SOund like bullshit
@@wicket_gate He just didn't treat me right.
@@DineoMpala-qg7bl lies. You didn’t have to bring it up then. It sounds contradictory and false
@@wicket_gate sure.
Majority of women will abandon you and exercise their options as soon as you face temporary setbacks in life... A majority of men will most likely support women at their lowest 🤞
I intentionally tell ezway ;
1)Im broke
2)ion got no car
3)no matric
4)span eChurch as keyboardist
........BOOM cats out of the bag
Just know you are valued this side Grootman. I give you your flowers. Thank you for being there for amajita. Im sure kevin samuels is watching over you.
Thank you Penson
Thank you 🙏🏽
That's why men need Brotherhood and I'm not talking about the Surface Level Relationships we have For the sake of UbuPantsula or Bojita. Jewish or White Men get along because they realize they are in a War not because they want to but because we're human and we're Preconditioned for Tribalism and I'm not saying don't get along with other races I'm saying Charity starts at HOME , GET ALONG WITH YOUR OWN PEOPLE MORE. ❤
Are men able to function more effectively in safe spaces created by women, without letting their ego become a barrier? Women can serve as strong pillars of support, but can men be vulnerable enough in these spaces while still maintaining their masculinity? generally, men often change when they achieve financial success, sometimes making the environment unsafe, even though women served as pillars of support during the difficult times.
Woman Have to Taught, If U Look at every successful woman ;at some There was A Man Involved, Some Where funded By Guys, Lawyers Had a Male Mentor that Helped them to To become the independent woman They are
I think these two types of people don't get to meet often enough. Because you find a mbokodo but the man is lost doesn't know how to use that In a progressive way for both in a relationship. On the other hand you find guys hurt coz they were left because genuinely he lost his job, or he went through a difficult time, personally I have never experienced a man that I was there for and he appreciates that .
You understand his background (mostly from humble homes), at times they are not educated, you like oh, let's register or anything like that. Father is alive but never played a role, all that and more. I never had a positive experience after understanding a man. But I now say kshuthi we just don't get to meet because so far I have never met a man that appreciated support in their hard times
WE SEE YOU! LEAVE WOMEN ALONE.
How to know which lane to date if you don't even know yourself though?
is the episode out?
OVER
💯
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
can't wait for the video about dating in your lane
@@khensk I will def get it done!
Penuel why you paint your nails 💅 ?
@@_geab__ I’m Penson 🙈
Who’s Penuel? 😅
Started off as a MMA thing… now it’s something I do with my gf…
🤞🏿🤞🏿🤞🏿
I always tell my boys. Nobody cares about men.
Im broke and invinsible to the women and i absolutely understand why I'm unattractive to them as a man.
Its war in life as a man. Zakhala ethuneni bafanas we grind to death. work on yourself
The blue nails though
LEAVE us alone! Dunisa
~13:00~ even when u date it you lane ... she will STILL LEAVE you if it ever happens that $he ever earns more than you! A man has to make peace with that ... bkoz, hypergamy!
Find that girl in your lane
Leave us Alone.
Majita siya laagana usaphila
Girl, you seem to love me now...
Would you love me if I was down and out?
Would you still have love for me?
Q. Where do you guys meet these women? 😂
@@siphokazidepa they are everywhere... You might be one of them. Your friends too
A. You
@@gintoki_sakata__I am sorry but your experience and that of others around you does not equate to the experience within my circle.
@@siyabongamagitshima5072Penson said it well sana, date within your lane then maybe you'll find your safe space.
Date within your lane ❤️🙏🏼
Leave us the fuck alone
You make me sick siyazi uyadunasa stop attacking us
Leave women alone udle ipipi msunu
You need to heal, this is for men, it’s not for you
You confuse me so much. On some occasions, you simply relate like a brash youth, and on others offer the wisdom fostered through the ages.
Duality of man
I can be brash… I can be “wise”…
@@1684-v9qLOVE THIS!!!
Go bend ove
Go paint your Nails or something..