How Do People See INFPs? Here's what they LIKE and DISLIKE about the Dreamers
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- Do people like INFP? Some say yes, others say no. Their reasons? Let’s talk about it. In this video, we’ll talk about:
What frustrates people about INFPs
Best things people see in INFPs
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“Being easily overjoyed” is too accurate. I’ll be excited over a toy car 😂
Ikr lol
Lol ikr
Ikr, I play my niece's lego more then she does
Trueeee😂
Hehehe yes i am like that too 😏
"INFP golden rule"
I didn't know that all INFPs followed this rule. This is literally my life moto 😅
Literally me:
Same
Adding to the pot
Samee
Same😊❤️❤️❤️ sending love my brothers and sisters infps❤️
People usually tell me I'm too serious when they first meet me. They say I'm intimidating because, usually, I just sit there observing everyone or absorbed in my phone and ignoring them. A few people have even told me they were scared of me, which confuses me because I'm the one scared of them 😂😂
Then, after they talk to me for the first time, they tell me I'm actually nice and they didn't expect that. This one girl actually told me she thought I was a b*tch before talking to me, only to find out we have the same interests and humor, and she became one of my "babies" afterwards.
The "I'm the one scared of them" part is so relatable. 😂
The accuracy of this is baffling to me lmao the amount of times people (later friends or even partners) have told me they found me intimidating or even scary at first... Later on as we grew closer they see who I really am and call me all types of cute names, it's like night and day to them but I can't just see myself from their perspective, it's so strange 😂
My goodness 100 % same story exactly same 😅 wth
This has literally happened to me. On several occasions. 😂
My best friend literally told me exactly this
Some say I'm too sensitive, awkward, cute, and very good listener to other people's troubles but never share my own.
Easily overjoyed is funny some tell me is easy to please me or make me happy instantly lol 😂😂😂
you have such a beautiful name
@@RogerNewcomb-lj4jj Thank you! 🤗
As an INFP, people always tell me that I'm a ball of sunshine and that they feel happy when they see me.
Same here
At 41, I seriously don't care what others think of me. I'm true to myself and treat others the way I want to be treated. That's more than enough for me.
Same here😊
People see me as very awkward at first.
I accidentally fooled some introverts into thinking I was an extrovert because of how bubbly and chatty I get when I'm comfortable and happy. My best friend still believes I'm an extrovert because she's really timorous and much more introverted than most introverts I know! And the kindness is also one that gets mentioned so many times just because I'm trying to be a good friend people I care about and that comes with acceptance and understanding. These are the two things that people mostly point out about me, an INFP
We as INFPs get that a lot. We put ALL of our energy into making sure we 'fit in' with the energy and that 'Nothing is wrong! Everything's great!' then we go home, flop on the bed, and shout 'WHY DID I DO THAT' before chilling for the night and saying you're gonna be more real next time- to which they ask you how you're doin- "NO NO EVERYTHING'S GREAT!' hahah. It's a never ending cycle of pushing ourselves out there and being absolute hermits at home to recharge that it really is a complete opposite
Yeah I wonder how confusing we must be. At a friends house Im the group clown talking the whole time and coming up with ideas and when there are just 2 strangers joining in, I suddenly shut down and just be there.
I'm an open book with MOST people. But it took me a long time to learn that many people don't know how to read me or don't want to even try, and that's NOT my fault (might not be theirs either... it just is). There are people I DO actively shut out of my inner life, but that's specifically because THEY have shown themselves to be untrustworthy, not because I'm naturally closed-off.
easily overjoyed hit hard because i want to appreciate everyone and everything
Too serious and arrogant 😬 And that is why I have no close friends in college
I am an INFP, but I also have ADHD... I overshare... WAY too much lol... also a part of ADHD is rejection sensitive dysphoria (often think everyone hates me, very sensitive to people getting angry/conflict) so I try to resolve conflicts quickly they feel horrible if they stretch on
When i was a kid: quiet, sweet, shy, nice, smart
When i got older: intimidating, mean, stuck up, a b*tch (thanks to my RBF and chronic daydreaming)
All my school friends learned how dark, emo, and sarcastic i really was. And everyone that got to know me as an adult learned im actually a goofy sweetheart 😂
I'm an INFP and you nailed the personality traits so well in this video.
Okay, I just had a burst of energy and made this list.
4 Things people find frustrating about INFPs:
Too nonconformists
May be seen as
Selfish
Stubbornness
2. Too private
I. To others
A. Standoffish
II. To them
A. Selectively kind
B. Serious
C. Unapproachable
3. Self-absored
I. Pointing at their flaws may deem as
A. Offensive
B. Humiliating
II. Have to be more sensitive around INFPs to
A. Say anything
4. Avoidant
I. Uses avoidance to keep the peace
A. Some people find this more frustrating
B. INFPs uses it as a coping mechanism
I. Some people find INFPs coping mechanism as
A. Misleading
B. Guilting
5 Best things people see in INFPs
Easily overjoyed
Smile the brightest when immersed with
Passion
Company of their beloved
II. To others they are
They are contagious
III. When they are filled with excitement, they become
A. Vibrant
B. Extroverted
C. Goofy
2. Very supportive
INFPs are genuinely very supportive friends
They treat your win as theirs
Get excited ahead of anyone
II. Once INFPS acknowledges your skills
A. They will push you to develop it
B. They will shower you with ideas related to your skill and genuinely wanted to see you grow
C. They will hype you up like no other
Life long friends
INFPs make their friends feel valued
They express their emotions through words, which is rare
They are one of the few who actually prove it
II. The more years you go through, the more we cherish our friendships
Loyalty, as long as you don’t betray them
4. INFPS are kind souls and they don’t try hard to show it
People appreciate them of their
Compassion
Disregard for recognition
5. INFPs care about other people’s feelings
They are sensitive to people of their
Tone
Gesture
And intention
II. Due to their sensitivity
They apply the same treatment to other
III. INFPs treat you the way they want to be treated
Careful to not offend anyone
Don’t retaliate for the sake of saving themselves
INFPs golden rule
“Do unto others as you want others do unto you”
Even it feels overwhelming at this point to know that these are accurate as hell!
I have no clue what people really think of me and why cuz nobody talks to me. They ignore me and avoid me. The only thing ive ever heard them say about me is that im weird and very closed up. Currently im not genuinely nice to people anymore cuz im starting to hate them for not being able to accept me just the way i am. And i refuse to hate myself any longer. The rest fits my personality incredibly well. So I am definetly an INFP. Maybe im a broken INFP or something since some of the appreciated aspects dont apply to me anymore.
That kindness is a genuine part of you tho. By suppressing because of others, you're kinda letting others dictate who you are.
If you want people to accept you for who you are, that must mean you like who you are and dont want to change despite what others think. But if that was the case you wouldn't hate yourself. It sounds like you're letting other people's thoughts about you determine YOUR thoughts about you, which is a hole a lot of us have fallen into - myself included.
Just remember that no one gets the final say on who you are but you. But you also remember that if you are different than what others say and you care about what they think, you need to prove them wrong. If you don't care then you have nothing to worry about. You don't owe anyone your time and energy.
However, just how you don't owe others things, they don't owe you anything either. Not understanding, not friendship, not a pleasant conversation - nothing. These are things you need to take action to obtain (assuming you want them). This doesn't mean becoming someone you don't want to be, it means building yourself into the version of you that people will feel comfortable around enough to talk to. This'll take a lot self evaluation. Just be honest with yourself about what isn't working and then work on fixing it little by little. 😊
Too sensitive. Funny movement. Clumsy. Aloof. Intimidating. Cute. Lonewolf
My family doesn't understand me. I am soooo different from all of them. I possibly come across as lazy to them, have no direction. Etc.. But all of this is untrue. I am non conformist but I also have traditional values for marriage and children after marriage rather then before. I take life seriously at times yet Im also very childlike and fun. For the last two decades I have struggled with my immediate family and how much I feel an outsider. Yet it was even incredibly noticable to me when I was a child and I tried to run away once, I have often had times of yearning total escapism. If I wasn't getting that escapism from my creativity then I would take time out to be by myself in some remote place to gain a sense of self and recover from
Conformity, hide from society and instead nurture my own sense of self by being totally introverted until i felt able to return to the real world. Often not much fills me with total content. I am forever looking to evolve myself as a better version of me, being a Pisces too my spirituality fuels me, and the need to be entertained and to entertain others with my bubbly personality not quite the class clown I was never that at school where I only rebled in subtle ways. In my twenties is where I discovered a lot about myself until the mid to late twenties were cut when became unwell and the next 11 years was full of struggle to strength, alot of dark times, I grew up in that time but had a lot of missed opportunities and missed out on some fun and exploring. Im becoming more content now, I have actually always had a sense of direction in life I knew I wanted to help people. That along with my creativity is my lagacey to the world.
Avoiding conflict is not in itself a pattern directly related to being an INFP. Avoiding conflict with others is a pattern that shows up in large populations of people and is often correlated to what was modeled to the person in their family of origin. People who tend to avoid conflict have learned to deal with problems in this way, in sum, it could be related to how they grew up, what was modeled in their family of origin, or a conditioned response etc.
Am easily overjoyed. I usually say this like" Ah, its the little things". One of my bosses thinks she has me pegged without really knowing or understanding me. She says I'm closed off. Yes, I'm closed off to her because I feel like in private discussions, she's always trying to manipulate me emotionally. She doesn't have a clue how self-reflective I am so she's always trying to make me understand how another might think and feel. Like duh! Shes always trying to get me to accept mistreatment through this "relate to others" crap and making excuses for them. She's pretty much cut-off! Im re-annoyed all over again just thinking about this!
My moto is: your and my freedom ends where other people’s freedom starts and this includes everybody not just the strongest or those that gets along better with the modern way of thinking
I always seen infp’s infj’s isfj’s &intp’s &empath as peaceful caring compassionate cosiderate emotional open-minded peaceful safe&tranquil…
I read this article on your website
and now it's a video
:)
I’m really insensitive sometimes so i tend to hurt people without knowing that it hurt but if they do confront me i will always do as they said ig i just haven’t really know much
Love how accurate this is.
I feel attacked 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
My friends usually call me extrovert because of my crazy ideal, motivation and joy i give them. Hah, hope you can make me do it my not friend 😊
#2 i experience a lot, and the more they pick at my about it less of a chance they have of getting into my world. If they put an effort into getting to know me and take time rather than simply straight up asking me something and then instantly giving up or get frustrated then, they would most likely get in eventually. I see people as a trap, being careful of what I say due to past experiences so most of the time I just don’t speak at all unless you’ve allowed me to observe you and gain your trust. For those with the most popularity, I’ll ignore because I know they spread the most word and are the ones who usually have the traits dislike such as the ones I’ve already mentioned.
I tent to push those people away which leads to false rumors being spread about me making everyone stay away from me. I do enjoy solitude which I had when I transferred schools for a year but returning it actually felt kinda lonely. Good thing I met my fellow percussionist in school, they’ve become some of the closest people to me I’ve had my whole life
The golden rule hurts, so many times I’ve offered friendship and they spat in my face. It’s even sadder when you try to help someone but instead they attack because they are afraid of you probably due to some past trauma (or false rumor like I’ve mentioned earlier)
Why am I in your post😅
People's first impression about me is unapproachable, quiet. I'm quite offended by being told unapproachable 😅
I find it surprising, tho maybe it is only fitting, that you use the phrase "you can't please everyone" at the end. A simple saying, but almost always true, in almost all situations. It is in my favorite parable of Aesop, chronicling a man and his son taking a donkey to market. That is easy to look up if interested. It is the most universal and consistant observation of human nature that I know of, and a favorite parable. As someone who tries to bring comfort and peace, it's important to realize, that sometimes...people won't let this happen.
So I feel with a lot of these lol
also on the matter of my expierience of what people have told me about what they see of me here is a story:
i once was listening to someone who was trying to decide their career path (not like a for sure decision but just thinking) and so I suggested they try the mbti test and while not definitive and may not always work it can be helpful in finding a few more career options etc... and they asked what I got for career suggestions and said the 2 I could remember(idk if there are more than this or not) , writer or counselor. and they responded with oh huh counselor, I could see you doing that. Honestly that made my day.
I kinda got into wrong profession, when I started the apprenticeship of sales assistant. It always gave a somewhat good feeling, but the one part really actually annoys me: Convincing ppl to get something they dont need. Im happy to give them what they need, but insurancies are things which matters the most fir our company and even if I excel at selling those, it really leaves me a bad feeling. I regularly stop myself from selling to many insurancies, even if the company would love to see it.
@@chomp5558 gosh that must be hard I've always thought I would be fine with any job as long as I knew I was helping people or something. I've always thought it would be so hard to have a job that is just selling for selling sake. But at least you are selling insurance. I'm sorry
I was writing and was about to post my comment that I disagree with you that INFP's are self-absorbed. Then the number 5 video began to play that which I totally agree with.
Bye this is scarily accurate
What are people's other impressions about you? 🤔
my best friend, an INTJ, says that I am one of two people in his life that he can be himself with, and that he trusts me to allow himself as a person to flourish in his true identity expressively without judging him, and that just makes me feel really great inside because he hides his inner world so much from others
that's his impression. we're both incredibly chaotic yet deeply reserved at once, and i think he sees me as a guy who understands him, as he has told me.
Since I'm sensitive to tone gesture and intention I'm deemed as too sensitive. But also nonchalant in other cases when I don't respond emotionally.
Someone said I was wonderful last week. I was surprised. Not sure why exactly I was surprised. Still trying to figure that out.
Shy, too sensitive, quiet. Until they speak to my friends who say I'm funny and loud XD haha. It's funny to watch their puzzled faces each time
Those that know me well; Procrastinator
For anyone who notices me at all, they LOVE me or they are really uncomfortable around me. And I think that has to do with authenticity.
INFPs treat others as they want to be treated...but do they? I can't stand being ignored. Thus, I cannot ignore someone, even when I need time to myself. I'm not talking about those one or two people with whom I feel very close. I'm talking about everyone, even that person I'd rather avoid because they are obnoxious--and especially children (though some have put me to the test with their incessant questions!). I do like having a close friend just be there with me, if they can be quiet yet supportive. But then, I'm an INFJ...are INFPs like this too?
My close friend actually once told me that i am more intelligent than i take credit for....
i feel so recognized and seen HI GUYS this is so cool
Damn, that was my golden rule. 😂😂😂😂😂
io sono una infp, mi rivedo in quasi tutto ciò che spieghi in questo video, a perte che a volte capita che dopo essere provocata per un po, o uno dei miei amici lo è io parto subito all attacco cercando di allontanarli, ed inoltre sono estremamente testarda nelle mie decisioni
Everyone say I'm cute this year, that is a compliment but sometimes that makes me angry, because it's like I'm underestimated (I'm more than a little cute animal hanging among grown-up people).
People that doesn't know me are often surprised when I say swear words or show any sexual knowledge😁. But that.s funny!
Literally me. I don't swear a lot on the regular, but sometimes it slips. My friends always act like it's the end of the world (DON'T MURDER ANYBODY!!!!) or like they've just witnessed the rarest phenomenon in history (Is that a cute little bean telling me to f*ck off? HOW CAN THIS BE???). There's no in-between!
@blessme7853 16 year old, why?
Ok yes, but I prefer "Treat others as they treat you" >:)
I hate my personality.... It's worst.... I m INFP... I am 30 year old... And no job and no relationship yet.... Never experience both things in my life..... I always have problem focusing things..... My free bird nature always stay away me from this world system.... You can say.. Ohh dont think that you r unique you have this quality you have that quality as an INFP.... But shut up... All these quality won't help me to live my life like other people.....
I always have countless negative thoughts over a day..... I can't help.... I have no goal, no focus, no carrier.... Nothing.... And no relationship...
Please try to seek some advice from a mental health professional... too much rumination on negative thoughts is NOT a personality trait... depressive mood is NOT a personality trait... Please take care of yourself. I wish you luck in your life. I'm sure you more than deserve it!
I totally agree with @kindness... here . The right therapist can help you find focus in live, embrace your characteristics and learn how to make the best of them. Learn to accept your strenghts and weaknessess. With a positive attitude you will see positive things happen in your life.
@@kindnessasgreatasthesea1158 thanks for the advice..... I will go to mental health professional
@@kindnessasgreatasthesea1158 8 out of 10 INFP have same mood bro.... No job and unfocus mindset and no goal in life...... If you think negative thoughts are not the personality trait then you r wrong....... Only INFP can understand this........ You are not
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I find it really funny that all videos or article that criticise infp in anyway has to put an affirmation note at the end😂
I have a question, I have given so many random personality tests and they all say that I am an INFP and whenever I read about it, it feels really relatable but sometimes or in some particular instances I can remember, I am not like this at all, for example, I will roast people to hide my sensitive nature, I will seek for revenge if someone hurts me (in a sneaky manner but I do eventually stop and tell myself that it's wrong to take revenge and I should just forgive them) basically, I really think I have different set of personalities for different kind of people and instances, so is that normal? Are all INFP's like this?
Probably a lot of them are.
@@kalulu1675 are you goin through the same thing? Does all this feels relatable?
@@Tony-xe5bj I think INFPs want to believe they are kind, compassionate, etc., but the truth is that we all have human failings and beat ourselves up for it when we can no longer deny our own misconduct. I wouldn't say I go through the same thing all the time, but I do find that because I'm so much older than the median age now that I've dealt with a lot of spiritual angst that many are still going through (and which many are still in denial about).
I disagree with INFPs are selectively kind and unapproachable. I try to be kind to everyone. As for unapproachable, I think we can range from unapproachable to very approachable, depending on our age and social skills and comfort level.
This is all true 😅😅
I think my mom sees me as the negative infp
but when the darks sides show up, it is a disaster n hell for myself n people who close to me😅
Evry thing is too accurate
strongly disagree with the joke thing, it is probably something specific the video maker is thinking of. Because honestly me and my boyfriend whom are both INFP's joke the heck out of each other. I think it just depends on if they are close enough too.
As an INFP i can say faxs
Very accurate