How To Trust People - Even When You've Been Burned By Relationships Before
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- “Insecurity vs. Intuition - How to Trust”
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In this video, Clayton and Jack unpacks the concept about Insecurity versus Intuition.
This video was inspired from the question that came up from a woman who had been in a relationship and she was at this place where she was wondering whether she should open or not.
What she was faced was if she should open-up to a guy or not.
This is a very common problem. This is about how much can I trust certain things in your life?
People who have the best intuition are the ones who most likely don’t listen to them.
This is a permission to learn how to trust yourself in a deeper context. And what does that take?
How do you know if it's INTUITION or INSECURITY?
Learning how to quiet the mind enough to distinguish intuition from insecurity is the challenge. You get a schematic response to a mental anticipation. And you slow it down enough and you notice the inception, you notice the starting point of something. Your intuition. Often the mind will then get in the way of this simple intuition.
There's this very quick mental interference. Part of what we're talking about is how to not interfere with your own process too much so that you can just read it more clearly.
Intuition is a gut thing.
It's a bodily thing. It's not typically a mental thing. Maybe your heart also knows some things to be true, but we would particularly encourage you to pay attention to your body. And intuition tends to have a slower maybe just a little bit more opening quality rather than kind of a contracting and fearful quality. This is an important discernment.
Your intuition is almost like your gut knowing. Your body is picking up these different stimuli and algorithms and it's forming into a feeling. Just like the dog just knows who to trust.
Doubt Versus Curiosity
Doubt is likely to be in the head and it tends to have a closing contracting quality. We think it’s just being smart but being able to distinguish doubt from curiosity is that curiosity has this kind of opening quality to it.
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When you can't figure out the difference between your intuition or brain, wait and let them SHOW you who they are. People are consistent in their behavior-good or bad.
exactly
I don't remember my intuition ever being wrong but because I know I'm insecure I've ignored it and got burned every time :(
Kate B that’s why you should always trust your first initial gut instinct/that voice in your head saying something just isn’t right! Regardless of your insecurities or not. Don’t let another person tell you otherwise or make you feel that it’s your insecurities either...That’s something that narcissists are great at (making you question your intuition by brainwashing). Trust me, I’ve been burned a few times due to this fact just like you. I will not question my gut again!!! Think of it this way,”You, myself and others have become insecure due to another making us question our own gut, thus resulting into uncertainty of ourselves and becoming insecure”. Tell that insecurity to kiss your a** and never let it question your strong gut feeling ever again! ❤️❤️❤️
Me too girl!! I’m learning yes, I may be broken in some ways, but my intuition is always right!! So I need to trust it over trying to take the blame for something feeling “off” for it being my own insecurity or brokenness.
That's why I'm here. I blindly trusted in my past relationship and just lost my new last relationship because I expressed some suspicion in something that may have been innocent 🤷🏾♀️ I don't know...I'm sad though😔
The big difference for me is that my intuition gives me a good sense of peace about something *I* should DO - whereas my fear / anxiety is usually worried about what *someone else* is going to do that is going to somehow be bad for me. My intuition usually gives me intent and conviction because it's like I KNOW what I need to do to be at peace. IF I doubt my intuition, it is usually just knowledge of the consequences - but leads me to be ready to accept that and do it anyway. Fear just freezes me.
I think intuition is more in our minds and insecurity more in our bodies.
Insecurity - we sweat, we feel axious, we can't sleep, etc.
Intuition - we just know or have a feeling that we don't really admire the person. There is something in his/ her character or personality that bothers us.
Monica Levy Tyler sorry but this is not my experience. I know how an emotion pass through my body, I know this sensations. But there is differents sensation in my.gut. when i want to take a decision, I'm waiting for a moment where my emotions are in peace. And in the calm, I ask myself "if I decide ...situation A, how do I feel ?" And I put my attentions o my feelings.... And just after "if I decide ... the opposite of situation A..., how do I feel ?" I listen To my feelings too.
And my intuition (the "yes answer") is found on at which question my body was relax, and happy, and simply receipt a "yes".
The other question, the opposite, my body answer differently : the idea make me.feel edgy, forced or under strong willness (the opposite of adandonment, relaxing...). So for me, i understand : it's a no.
Sorry for my english ! I hope you will test it and be usefull !
Bises de Paris
Everyone experiences things differently. If this works for you, than awesome. I am trying to tap into my body to read what works for me
Monica Levy Tyler great advice!!!
I love these higher consciousness conversations. This is very attractive to me as a woman to see men who are aware of what is going through their mind and body. Thank you to you both.💗✨🙏
Thank you 🙏
Thanks for sharing that 😊. Wishing you as many of these conversations in your life as possible
Both intuition and insecurity will come mostly from the lymbic parts of the brain, which have learned the association between environmental cues and pleasure / pain. If you write things down and / or express facts in a different language (a non native one, if you know another language even not very fluently) will force the activation of the prefrontal cortex and the more rational parts of the brain. This allows to shift the analysis from the emotional level to the mature, rational level.
Wow. Never thought about a process like that. Thanks for sharing.
Interesting no one's ever distinguished to me before the differences between something in my head vs something that comes from my gut intuition, thank you so much! And the idea that intuition has more of an openness & head has more to do with fear... interesting! I love it so much!
This has been a question of mine for 33 years. I finally have a better understanding of how each differs from the other. 👍🏾👍🏾 Thank you.
I am so fed up with my insecurities!!! in all honesty, datingadvise increased my insecurities...
to get a man to commit, do this, do that, watch our for these signs, if he does this he is playing you... I notice that I am fooling with myself.
Intuition is a soft voice not creating a body reaction!
Fear is sweat, heart racing, going dizzy - and it is really ugly!
I've always doubted my decisions, I am very bad at making decisions.
O my goodness this is going to be a daily watch for me! I've just experienced something difficult and I honoured my intuition with much more confidence than I ever could have before developing an awareness and this video teases it apart in such an understandable and self compassionate way. Thank you so much.
Claire Lariviere Awesome! Love that you are getting out there & practising this! Well done!
I have a tendency to doubt, worry and second guess things due to having a bad picker. My goal for 2018 is to trust my own intuition more. It is vital to staying connected to my higher self and listen to my body too. 💓🎵💓
Great goal. Thanks for sharing!
:)
What a brilliant way to frame the new year. Wishing you courage and discernment!
Jack Butler Thank you so much for your encouraging words!
Clayton Olson Coaching Thank you Clayton! Your channel is truly awesome!
Dear Clayton,
The whole video was amazing but you REALLY helped me there when you explained where intuition or insecure thoughts phisically come from your body. Wow! Thank you! xoxo
I love this! This helped me to not jump to conclusions because of insecurities I have from my last relationship. Thank you!
Agree, intuition is about the gut feeling, not by logical thinking. Intuition can tell me things either good or bad. For example, although he may show he likes me, I could sense something was off (just didn't know why). It turned out I was right. Intuition develops with time. Now I can trust more my intuition than before, it helps a lot when make decisions.
I'm so glad I came across your youtube/website Clayton!!
Immense value you have added to my understanding of how our mind and physiology of our body works....deep, I keep watching this over as reflection brings new insights💛💛💛
Jack and u make a dynamic pairing, love the authentic vibes I see in your dialogues👌☺
Found your videos a couple days ago and have been clicking around. Your advice is actually helpful and insightful. I had never made such a distinction before.
I love when these two are together!!!
excellent... incredibly enlightening... to bring your awareness to what you are feeling... turning doubt into curiosity... geez, learned so much! You're both amazing and I feel privileged and fortunate to have found you! :)
Aww... really appreciate that. Happy that we can help.
Heidi Schweichler Love hearing that!! Hope you keep tuning in & we can continue to provide enlightening content to you and a widening community 🙏
The bodily sensations are key! This is everything. Thank you.
Nice one. Thanks for tuning in.
I feel I released something just now and feel empowered after watching this. Thank you!
Loving this 💖💖💖. Thank you for this video. Such great medicine
"Curiosity being a connection into intuition." Wow! 😍
One of the very best videos I've seen on intuition!! Love! ✨
Absolutely love this video, you guys have the best content, always addressing topics I need guidance on. So glad to have come across you two. BTO was absolutely amazing ❤️
You guys are a wonderful team! You complement each other so well! I learn a lot from your videos. Thanks a million!
Thank you very much for that reflection. I feel the same. :)
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This is great. Thanks Clayton and Jack.
New Vibes Health & Acupuncture thanks brother
ugggghhhh! So perfect. Thanks guys.
Thankyou 2018 is my year of meditation and intuition on relationship in my life thanks for sharing.
This video is excellent. Food for thought for me, around how to be more in tune with my intuition. I have been practicing trusting my gut for 30 some years...I started practicing it when I got more deep in emotional healing work for myself. Actually, I used my intuition a lot as a leader in my computer business career...very helpful in leading a team and knowing who would back me up. I especially liked the doubt versus curiosity, if this is the right guy for me....noodling over a connection with a guy on a dating app, where he dropped the ball and didn't call when he said he would. In reality, I am still curious, underneath the internal "no way Jose!" Now, I am thinking I don't ask Divine Spirit enough to guide me in situations where i feel nervous about whether it is good to do something i am planning or not.
I love this type of definition of intuition and insecurity..Ive got a clearer picture now..thanx very well said.
Like the idea of being curious and not doubting. But its still hard work to be more in my heart area and not being anxious and more vulnerable. But its going better and better
I love your channel thank you so much I suffer from insecurity very bad and I’m just trying to better myself in my relationship the man I’m with did me wrong but I know he is trying and wants things to be better in our relationship
Brilliant Clayton thank you
Great video, but it's still very hard for me to distinguish these because I have OCD and I'm subconsciously afraid pretty much 24/7. Maybe the difference for me is, did the fear follow the thought/image (= insecurity), or did the thought follow the fear/feeling of discomfort (intuition)? I often used to try to talk myself out of correct intuitions, whereas my brain slips into a train of panicky, fearful thoughts whenever I have an unfounded insecure one. Experience taught me that my intuition is usually right, so I'm definitely trying to trust myself more, while also not go down that rabbit hole each time my brain jumps to some outlandish conclusion. (But there is still that "what if"...)
Intuition can be also through the mind
This is so incredibly practical and vital! Wow. Thank you, guys.
Thanks, Autumnpixx
I really love hearing it lands that way for you. It's important to me that stuff is useable. Yay!
I like your conversations. so genuine. so deep. Thank you
habibe Eroğlu Yay! That's the intention! Thanks 😊
you didn't answer the question.
do you follow your heart or head ?
Powerful teamwork i appreciate your lifetime principles.intuition is very important works in system.
This was so good! Thank you🙂👍👍
Great video!!
Thanks Mark!
I'm back with my ex he was in a relationship but he still wanted me telling me he loved me. He went back to her then to me couple of times I ended up with anxiety but my intuition cones from myself gut that I don't trust him. He denies seing her but I have proof he was in her house seing her don't trust him everything your saying is true I still love him my family say he's playing me he loves me but it's the lies and me not trusting him
I know I should bin him and respect myself but it's hard even friends say I should finish it
@@claytonolsoncoaching My situation is complicated. But here goes nothing... I'm dealing with a perdicament that I believe could be easily resolved. My father and I have been living with each other on and off and on the same land at least in 2 different locations for most of my 28 years of life. I recently know I've messed up bad and I mean bad. I was going to throw out some trash which involved my piss jugs that I had since I was living in my travel trailer and didn't want to go outside at night to urinate being I had to put all my clothes on belt, walk outside in the poor weather multiple times a night due to health reasons.
I also suffer from (not diagnosed yet) CPTSD from trauma related to jail guards and the system. I do at times hide from the world in my travel trailer so this also contributes to the piss jugs as I don't even want to go outside and I don't have water hooked up in my travel trailer yet...
Now where it gets bad is my dad actually when I went to take that garbage out I had a few of my piss jugs in the basket where today on the Fourth of July he had to empty them out and then throw them away bring it to the dump and as you can tell already this is really sad.
I talked to him today without even really seeing the severity of this until I got to my travel trailer and thought about what i had said. Being that "Oh gary when he was here he'd play these stupid games with you when you were the mouth that feeds" which was my cousin and his nephew that used to try and walk on him when he was being helped by my father. So this obviously looks like a poor attempt to excuse myself by comparison. And also I said that the garbage cans were full that's why I wasn't able to deal with it properly. And he said at least I could've emptied out the piss jugs but instead I left them there.
He didn't even seem that angry it just looked like disgust as it should have. Not trying to excuse anything but the most underlying issue within myself that I've noticed is huge trust issues. Something I've been reluctant to fix. I believe that being in jail where they would force me into a restraint chair and I would urinate on myself cause I couldn't get to the hole in the ground (solitary confinement) they would then wreslte me to the floor and strip me of my clothes and then throw towels in there telling me I had to clean up my own urine if I wanted the padded clothes to be warm.
That was only a very short explanation of what had all happened but this is what I've been faced with dealing with between being in there with them and the mental health professionals playing mind games with me so damn much. Now I feel as if when my father asks or tells me to do something it's in a controlling type of way and I'm unsure if it really is sometimes. But most of the time I feel like that's what's happening and I read too much into peoples facial expressions thinking they are laughing cause they got away with controlling me in some way. I've grown past a lot of this . but this for me seems to be my biggest...
Hurtle in dealing with these easy to do every day things. And to make the situation worse. For some reasons I'm unsure about but he had his friend move in with him and his friends daughter. And now it feels to me like they are making a point to "Look were here in your space haha" by their body language etc. I've had this happen where my dad makes a point to tell me that even though the place is in his name that it's actually mine as soon as we get financially stable and he sells his other property blah blah. But I won't go into that. He tells everyone it's mine, he tells them it's mine. Then his friends or whatever will show up, right in the middle of me and...
Him talking and then they'll stare at me and then sit down and he'll just start talking with them even though me and him were just there talking to each other. And I asked "Are we going to finish our conversation or?" He replies "no I'm talking with my friend right now"
Of course I don't understand this. I do feel walked on. But I try to see where he's coming from as well I try to reason with all of it, and do my best but simply he's just exhausted at this point and just flat out disapointed. Dealing with all these things makes me wanna retract more and I've talked with him a few times now the best way I coujld without making him feel attacked in any way. Now I almost feel like the people around us now is out of spite for a few days before this all happened with the garbage I got angry with him. Telling him I can't help but to be that way when I feel pushed around Eventually speaking. I bottle it up instead of talking cause I don't know what else to do, then I explode. And this makes him angry probably cause he feels like he does nothing but help me.
The whole picture is a little more complicated. So what do I do just suck it up and bend over when he demands I do things, or maybe I can talk to him after this blows over and ask if he could talk to me in a different way that helps me understand that it's ok. But then again that seems selfish even though it's not it's for the both of us. I'm still trying to figure out how to convey myself without him feeling attacked. I think I would need to just do things before he even asks that way this isn't even a possiblity. But I've had instances where people talk about things that happened the night before almost like they were watching me do them. So now I feel taken advantage of even when people might not even really be around. And that prevents me from even doing anything even in my own travel trailer cuz it feels like they are watching me or having me do something.
Not sure what I can do to remedy all this and not feel controlled while keeping him happy so he doesn't get up and leave me high and dry and then I'm stuck in an even worse spot
Such an important subject!
Agreed! Thanks :)
he was wrong for me , i left and never looked back.
You were so accurate about my situation I'm suffering from insecurity
OMG exactly what I need. 💯 Gold
This was so helpful for me thank you so much
It took me 40 plus years to realize that although my intuition constantly spoke, I could never truly listen to it until I learned how to trust myself. When I am unsure what to do, I've to get still, quiet and to ask the universe to guide and allow me to see things for what they are versus what I want them them to be. Dating in many ways has become so much easier because I am no longer relying on the other person's action or response to navigate what I should do. Instead I am able to make decisions that are right for me. My life is no longer in the hands of someone else...for all that I need to navigate through life starts from within.
This was amazing and I love you guys accent thank you for this
Extremely useful info.
Shari Able Like hearing that!
its deep pain
Great video!
I love the way you speak, Clayton, very charming :)
Thanks!
Thank you i need this right now
“Never distrust, just expect the unexpected.
Lol expecting the unexpected is very painful
very enlightening thanks for sharing
Glad you experienced it that way. Thanks for watching!
Such great content!!!!
The idea of somatic responses, amazing. Would love to learn more about intuition with cpstd, or dissociation, relationship ocd. If you have trauma, how do you tap into intuition. Would love to hear your thoughts. Fun video.
Wow! I definitely need the webinar....lol .. That is intense....! I need a power point course with notes, Q & A Time😬🌷 ....lol....would be interesting to know if you have a book on the Market? Great advice for so many
I just want to say, I love how interactive you two are in conversation. The body language and short verbal responses are so encouraging towards one another. I love it, and wish I could find that!
I love this. Very helpful.
Beautiful
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This is one of the best TH-cam I've ever watched I've spent 20 years learning about boundaries and narcissism and Jezebel codependency abuse generational curses and all kinds of stuff trying to figure out that all I needed to do was trust my intuition but because I was abused as a child and neglected grossly and emotionally I never learn to trust my intuition and 20 years of studying and praying and crying has taught me what you guys just said in about 10 minutes LOL thank you so much I hope someday if I ever have a Ministry in this area that I can use this TH-cam it's one of the greatest tools I've ever ran across God bless
WOW this is spot on to exactly what I’ve been going through.... I didn’t even tell anyone this... is my iPhone reading my mind now?! 😱😱😱😱😱
Also, thank you guys for this!! You are exactly correct and I have FINALLY learned this in my life, to trust my intuition and stop attributing it to my own insecurity or brokenness. You are completely right that intuition feels more like an unexplainable feeling that something is WRONG.
Interesting, thank you.
My mind seems to be questioning so trusting my gut is key. So true, having intuition and ignoring it is a pattern I have found myself repeating, no wonder I'm so disconnected, lol. Why do people choose the more challenging path than following innate flow? Life is not meant to be struggle but going down the wrong path is soooo common
Like that you are exploring this territory. I agree that life is not meant to be a struggle. That said, developing ourselves and trusting often is difficult work as we have to be with difficult experiences as we grow our awareness of what's really going on.
Thank you Jack.
Clarity and a desire to course correct is quite difficult, challenging indeed.
I resonate with your statement of irony that people with strong intuition rarely listen to it, lol. In my case I usually ignore it to my own detriment, perhaps that's a big reason I feel disconnected and living out of alignment . Wonder why this inner rebel prevents me from obtaining but holds me back. Self sabotage of sorts...??
My ex-husband told me to kill myself while I was married to him
I divorced him. I dated one guy since that divorce.
And have figured out I have serious trust issues.
So yeah let me just build that trust up again out of no where again just like I have never been hurt like an idiot. All because a guy says that I need to trust again and then get hurt again because he just wants to play me
When we learn to trust ourselves it helps us to trust others. Trusting ourselves allows us to make decisions based on what is truly best for ourselves versus what someone else is telling us. When we trust ourselves we can value ourselves which creates more energy to attract others who will add to that.
Lori Owens
I'm so sorry you endured that sort of behaviour. Trust or the lack of it, comes from an early beginning which is a learned behaviour. The distrust manifests around the ages of 8yrs - before this happens very young children absorb their environment and have no understanding of boundary settings.
They learn to distrust at this age and use boundaries to keep others at arms length.
We also draw the wrong types of people into our lives (and here is the irony), that they are the very ones which on paper, we would avoid at all costs. Distrust also has an impact on you and a healthy adult coming into your life.
Others see our vulnerability and can and do harness it for their own benefit and to our detriment.
Intuition can be a snap thought, instantly telling you there is a threat of some kind, trust it every time it is there for a reason as the brain remembers past threats and reminds us of them.
Work on ourselves, see a good schema therapist, heal ourselves and be ready to make clear distinction from users and losers to quality people in our lives and more importantly, to know who we are as a person.
Take care.
This is my daily battle. Ughhhh
tee bee What if you could frame it as your growth opportunity vs battle? Metaphors can matter. Wishing you courage & discernment
Thank you.
Exactly is what I am going through too.
I had lots of intuition gut feelings and red flags and I got so burned by a female narc.
What if the hurt came from the same person you’re still with? I have insecurities about the same thing happening again or I’ll find out something else that’s hurtful.
That’s my problem right now. I see this comment was two years ago- any update on how it played out for you ?
@@Mars0823 if you’re choosing to trust someone from the past you’re choosing to do just that. You have to let the past go, that’s part of what you’re agreeing to. If it happens again WHEN or IF it does address it then. This is part of the reason people don’t go back to people who betrayed trust. They’d rather have peace with someone new. Sometimes it’s not worth the risk again.
Excellent
thank you
This is really interesting. I was dating this guy and every time I went around him by body would respond in this very weird way. It was like disgust but I couldn’t figure out why. I stopped dating him because I really just couldn’t take the bodily response I was getting anymore. To this day, I don’t know why I was feeling those things. I’m hopeful that this video out my experience into perspective.
When there's doubt
Then there's no doubt
Great, now I know I can't trust myself & him. I'm screwed.
Thank you guys that's exactly what I needed to hear I needed how that it would exactly look like to me and I've been there before and since I can be co-dependent sometimes I can get into that magical thinking stage where I'm yeah this is going to work out or I can fix this or all we have to do all he has to do is just fill in the blank and so I keep myself accountable to my friends and I will say to them hey look I met this guy we were talking this is what was said is it just me or am I overanalyzing this or over protecting and my friends are good enough friends they know they can tell me the truth in love lol but that's what I rely on a lot and it's helped me in the past so keep on keeping on your doing a great job
This is on point. I once when on a date with someone who made me anxious through the entire date. He crepes me the hell out. Needless to say, I was glad when the date was over. I never reached the point of relaxation during the date. At the end of the date he was pushy about the kiss, and trying to push his young in my mouth, yuck!
it takes alot to say...
okay im going to try again...
but to me it is a completely different ball game, to say okay... im going to trust again.
I’m 20 and I’m very new to relationships. Could someone spare some advice cause it’s overwhelming to me thx!
I needed to hear this! Thank you! Wondering if you can tell me where you bought the beautiful plant and pot behind you, pretty please? It would make a girl’s day! Odd how I have been pondering on this particular subject (over analyzing Virgo here) this truly helps irt (intuition VS insecurity and fear!
I trust myself.
It made sense why the heart is at war with the mind. How do you make peace with those 2?
Perfect
I admit I have trust issues when it comes to a guy wanting to date me or get serious with me.
After divorce I just don't trust as much as I used to.
Head , heart and body ... opening and not contracting .... curiosity v doubt ... . Receive v reject ...
i guess what im trying to say is, i realize alot of people think i need to be dating. and thats fine, or that i need to hrry up and get married again... that is fine also... they can want that for me all they want.
but what i dont get, is how people can have this idea that i should just shake off everything like i have never been hurt... when i know anhyone that has ever been hurt it takes them quite awhile to heal and recover...
but then again there are some people that could be absolutely devastated by ssomeone and get right bak out there...
i just dont get it... im not one of those kinds of people that can just get back out there date, fall in love... blah blah blah, like nothing ever happened to me...
What’s Jacks full name? I’d like to hear more of what he has to say about either this subject or the subject of human framework
I try trusting people, and then i have to regret who i trusted because i can tell how i get treated. Besides I'm still dealing with family stuff frist.
Intuition gets in the way of thoughts when the other has denied when told what yur feeling?
Thoughts vs feelings vs intuition - all different information channels. We are saying that thoughts and feelings can often stop us hearing and heeding our intuition.
Most people’s intuition is broken from broken trust previously… doesn’t sound like a good idea to just trust your “intuition “
Yea I think it’s more fear or anxiety can be confused with it. I go more with the person’s actions and if my thoughts or feelings match. I’ve had some pretty off fears before Bc of my past. It’s hard to decipher the two at times .
does it ever get to a point with an abuser that they realize, your trust in them is never gooing to be the same again, or that u have gotted to the point that u have lost trust for them completely?
when does an abuser ever realize this about the person or persons they choose to abuse?
The time an abuser realize the trust is gone is when you decide to leave.
Trying to trust would be like me trusting my ex completely again. Shit isn't going to happen. I won't allow it.
intuition come to the brain too
I have a boyfriend, we are almost a year,he is good,he plans for our future,he already ask me to marry him,but I doubt of his love bcuz he is asking, money from me,but he also buy things in the house,he tried to stay for a month with me and we often fight,but it will last only for hours we both say sorry to each other whoever make mistake we don't care,and he said he really lives me and he wants to live with me forever,but I doubt .please I need an advice cuz I really love him.
Ernyn Laudenorio
Here is a way to tell what your life will be like with him.
Tell him no. Watch his reactions. Actions speak louder than words, and if you say no and he just says okay and doesn't push the issue its because he understands boundaries. If he flips out, treats you badly, talks down to you, it is who he will be every time you disagree with him or stand up for yourself. If you feel unsettled over an argument think about if you feel the argument was settled, or if you just gave in to stop the fight? If its just to stop the fight and nothing ever gets settled in a satisfactory manner for both parties its probably time to walk away... Its huge red flags...
What I think would be more helpful is to offer an example of what you mean or what you're talkin about
How do you know if it's intuition or insecurity? Check his credit score. If he has bad credit there's a good chance he lacks integrity on some level or lacks the ability to manage his life. Not just that but check objective, factual things -- his past relationships, does he do what he says etc.
I think my intuition is starting to make me insecure if that's possible?
Every time I meet a man it's within hours they start talking about sex. The last guy I was interested in and thought we might start dating: I told him I need to get to know you I don't want to talk about intimacy and my passion other than what I clearly stated.
Why do men always have to talk about sex. Especially when you just meet them it's such a turn off. After two dates I told him he can go find himself a woman that wants to "fuck him" today.
These guys don't seem interested in getting to know a woman to see if there's anything there.
Before you go on the first date do you ask them what they're looking for? (Something casual, or if they're in a spot in their life where they're open to a relationship) That will weed out a lot of guys!
Clearly you have a type. Or something you’re putting out there is sending the wrong vibe (for instance suggestive clothing or leading with sexuality or suggestive photos ).
Pleese make something aimed towards men. I enjoy your talks, and I think you make better and moe sound advices than any other source out there. I find your videos very helpfull. But I do need something aimed towards a mans perspective. Thank you.
This is just for me, even my comment is 100th
pg ang lalake ay insecure s isang guy at nmay gf ung kinaiinsecuran pgseselosan nia ung guy.lalo n at npamahal n s knia ung girl.gagawin nia pr mkalamang xa s guy gagawa xa ng paraan pr msolo ung girl kc ngseselos xa pg mgksama ung guy at ung girl.
I have forgiven my ex for saying that too me. I'm just still angry though.
I have been hurt all my life my mum my ex husband some friends