“Someone despises me. That’s their problem.” | How to Build Stoic Fortitude
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- What exactly does ‘fortitude’ mean? The definition of fortitude according to the online dictionary Merriam Webster is: “strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or bear pain or adversity with courage.”
Stoic fortitude, therefore, is the art of strengthening the mind with Stoic principles, so we become less inclined to hide away in our fortresses, and live life more fully.
According to the Stoics, we can’t change the world, but we can change our mindset and, thus, the position we take towards the world. With the right mindset, we can overcome any adversity. Of course, this isn’t easy. It takes a lot of practice.
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I just bought the book, I'll be starting to read it from today. My wife is also excited about it.
Reading this book now and loving it 💖
"A wise man can always be found alone. A weak man can always be found in a crowd." ~Bruce Lee
@@Thecrazyassrussian
Silly 😃
@@franksimmons9242 Not silly at all, that is why the term 'sheople' exists - the sheep follow the herd.
Now get in line and follow along.
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Bruce Lee epicness
@@NickNicometi tell em bro, the only reason they think it's silly is because they're one of em
@@NickNicometi I think his reply was directed towards someone who has deleted their initial reply.
As someone with social anxiety the stoic Philosophy is my cure.
Why
Ethan Anderson why not?
It seems everyone in the world suffers from social anxiety...😒
Ethan Anderson through the stoic philosophy and ways he is able to implement the rudiments of stoicism into his own life, allowing him to overcome his social anxiety
"Stoicism, understood properly, is a cure for a disease. The disease in question is the anxiety, grief, fear, and various other negative emotions that plague humans and prevent them from experiencing a joyful existence." William B. Irvine
As someone born with Autism growing up bullied and abused by all around me, I find Stoicism fascinating in how it deals with suffering and external things holding control over you. I always felt trapped by how others saw, treated and ostracized me and felt I had no future.
Isn’t it weird that we can control how critical we think of others and turn it off at any moment but when it comes to self critical thoughts it’s very difficult to control?
@@nsmilitia absolutely..we are our own worst enemies..I used to need approval so badly until I realised I only need my own approval
You need to lift weights. Stop letting whatever your mom and some dumb ass doctor told you.
Man this resonated with me hard
Be mentally strong, so that nothing can spoil your peace of mind 😇😇
@@varna8918 🥰🥰
Much love ❤ 2 u 2....
yeah except when a cop bundles you to the floor cos youre not wearing a face mask eh?
Or soft like water and no object can obstruct you.
@@johns7272 true.. Means they wear masks 😷on masks😅
@Use Your Brain They Live Huh? dont get how that works. By wearing a mask you are just playing into their hands. Everyone should stoicly REFUSE to wear a mask
Best retort to anyone who says something stupid to you: "You could be right." There IS no answer to that and the person usually just starts to sputter. In any case, if you concede that they "could" be right, then it can't touch you. It's a friggin' force-field.
Jenna Caruthers I’m saving this tip. 😅
I did that not so long ago (I even said "Yeah, you're right"), the guy still came round hitting me with insulting insinuations three more times. Some people just have an endless drive of envy and spite.
You could be right
I friggin love this !
This is great if you wish to keep the engagement short. But if you have the time and the person in question is willing, I think it's best to start a Socratic dialogue, starting with the question, "What makes you think that?" This fosters introspection, and may not only help them re-evaluate their "stupid" way of thinking, but help correct errors in your thinking as well. After all, you've already admitted that they "could be right."
I'm a serial isolationist but not because of fear or powerlessness but rather it's just so much simpler. Tranquil.
Me too. ☺
I know my limitations. I don't have the patience or tools to deal with society.
Right on!
Inner peace is everything but so is human connection. Balance is key.
@@tnt01 True, I love my alone time, but frankly, humans are not meant to try and survive alone on this earth. Can it be done? Sure. But it does nothing to enhance your experience on earth. Nor, is it healthy.
There’s a quote…” your job on this earth is not to make people love you… Your job on this earth is to love yourself” 😉👌🏻
Yet bullies are found to have the highest self-esteem.
And by perfecting (as much as it is possible) a healthy self-love- measured, humble, self-reflective-you inevitably attract others and are thus often loved.
Anita Carter you’re right.ℹ️💯✅❤️✝️🙏🏿👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
Why?
@@thormanfield1305 Narcissists love themselves
My favorite quote from Marcus Aurelius: "Is it endurable? So endure it!".
It also is important that people act stoic from a place of wisdom.
Not ignorance, lack of self awareness, unwilling to evolve for the better.
True. Otherwise, you are not going to have many friends or be successful with your career, building support base, etc....
Wisdom is one of the cardinal stoic virtues as well!
Actually it's only necessary to improve in order to meet moral obligations in soticism
..... how others treat you, is their path… How you react, is yours… 😬 ✌🏻
Nice!
My isolation comes from, yes, a desire to separate from the evil world, but also because I have never felt a part of the world anyway. At 63 I am tired of partaking in something that I see no purpose in fitting into. As far as a happy life - I honestly don't know what that means. I have had periods of excitement and anticipation, but for the most part I have endured life. I am in the middle of purchasing a remote, small house to live out the balance of my life, confronting only what I absolutely have to, which will be minimal. I will not have Internet or phone access and my vision is to fill my days with taking care of what I need to survive and filling my mind with positivity. I want watching a bee to be as interesting as watching a video. I am building a small library of the best things to fill my mind with and a music collection that I will never get tired of. Nothing to do with the topic at hand, I suppose, but I started typing and began rambling.
Did you ever do this? Can you tell me how it went if you ever read this?
Just as Lord Tywin once said, " A lion doesn't concerns himself with the opinions of the sheep."
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you don't have to wish to be the lion
@@JLchevz we are😎.
It's a dumb quote. Since, you know, a lion certainly concerns himself with what other LIONS in the pack think.
@@omkarunde2040 no you're not, it's okay to not care what people think, but you don't care not because you're better, but because what they say geniuinely has no power over your state of mind, that's not being better than them, it's just a good mindset to have.
“Evil only comes hard upon those who have lived without giving it a thought and whose attention has been exclusively directed to happiness.” -Seneca
You got to face ur anxieties, dont fight, freeze or flee from it. "You will never do anything in this world without courage, it is the greatest quality of the mind next to honor." Aristotle
So I asked a girl out and she said she don’t wanna go out cause of corona, now I’m kinda sad cause who knows when corona gonna end, I still wanna talk to her but I don’t know what to text her? What should I do? Just wait till corona is over or text her but I’m scared she won’t reply or the text is boring
@@bryanbarrera1561 text her about non-stressful things or things you have in common; no pressure. Corona is a legitimate concern. If she doesn't respond it may be because of what's going on in her life or where she is in her life and nothing to do with you. This is a good chance to practice some stoic principles. Good luck to you!
I am pure cosmic consciousness moving and grooving with the universe.
Yes, we are, my friend.
This comment made my day.
Pure energy....
LSD is one hell of a drug
easy to say lol
I simply don't believe in forcing anything. If it flows then great but if I feel myself trying to paddle upstream I stop and visualize letting go of the paddles, then the kayak naturally turns itself back into flow. Making myself actually visualize this really helps bring me back to the present moment. This also extends to people and things outside of my control in that, since I know I can't control them, then I redirect my focus back to how I can best manage myself in the situation to achieve the most peaceful outcome. This helps me ensure that those things don't push or pull me out of my calm because I remember that they aren't my source of it in the first place.
I like your imagery of the kayak in the water. I think I'll try that. Thank you.
Being alone is actually more fun than being in a crowd making you feel lonely. I've been suffering from people outcasting me because of my interest so I just immerses myself with hobbies and studying. I expect less from people and only have few close friends.
In 13 years as a gravedigger and 9 years as a crematory operator I've learned no one is too young to die, there are many ways to die, everyone dies- it's just a matter of time. People say tomorrow is not guaranteed, I say today is not guaranteed.
Absolutely! We are all only one breath away from death.
*700 books and none of it survives.*
_No cheatcodes. Enjoy the game of life._
-_The Universe_
Imagine writing 700 volumes of insight and none of it survives.
I would argue nothing survives. It's just a matter of how long it will take until everything and everyone will be forgotten.
A beautiful example of Memento Mori.
It's perfect that it happened that way. 700 volumes may have been lost, but 700,000 volumes have been created in the vein of rediscovering the meaning of those original volumes.
Imagine being a presidential candidate and not having 35,000 emails survive
@@TrekCompsport how you ended up on a stoic principle video is beyond me
I think it's a genuine sickness to be that bothered about someone, when you literally have the option to just disengage. 😩
Especially, on TH-cam. People let the slightest comment that just states their opinion actually bother them!
How about it is a noisy neighbor singing in the morning?
@@mightyobserver12 Just buy a white noise machine or earplugs!
@Summerhd420 There's obviously context to everything. I'm speaking more to jealous people... or hateful people who spread rumours about you etc. N it's usually people who don't even know you. N I don't engage in that bullshit! At all. 😝
@Summerhd420 But even then, you have to agree on which God or no God for Atheists, lol. So there goes that theory.
I stopped focusing on external things and everything has become so full of peace. The Enchiridion is so amazing!
Can u quote some example?
@@Ilovecats922 I used to be blinded by Marketing. Women suffer a lot under this system, being told what to wear, what to say, what to eat. I don't care anymore I've found peace in stoicism.
@@liafuentes326 Good for you. I love Stoicism as well. It's the best philosophy to live by imo.
Focus on yourself and set up a stong structure within yourself, by doing that the ever changing world won't throw you around
I’m currently reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius. It’s changing my life. Ultimately, ”the material world doesn’t have a hold on the soul”.
If there ever was a way to create the perfect human being, free from self-sabotage, Stoicism is it. Thanks for another great commentary.
Batman.
As the Buddhist says "NOTHING LAST FOREVER. We have to manage our expectations. The less we crave the less we suffer. In this way we awaken the right understanding, thought, speech, action, livelihood, effort, mindfulness, and focus". Thank u Einzelganger u are appreciated. I will continue to soak up this precious game (uncommon info).
You are quite skilled at turning heavy philosophy into tiny, meaningful chunks. Thank you for doing so!!
Imagine the tranquility of not paying attention to the media, news, competition.
You're ment to fulfill your duties in the face of danger, in stoicism. You should use the media to stay informed while maintaining tranquility.
Rightly said, sometimes it becomes a difficult task to merely live your life...
I love your channel. Really hope more people will find this beautiful place.
Theirs no need to face someone elses fears when youve conquered them within...big love from another youtuber 🔥🤘🔥🤘 ALWAYS PROGRESSING
Love back to you!
@ what Einzelgänger means??
@@azadprasad856 it means a person who follows independent thoughts and different approach from the herd mentality
I do not care who likes me, who loves me, who hates me, who does not know me, who wants to know me. As long as people do not touch me nor interact with me, I do not care who feels what about me.
Lmao, why even bother writing this then?
Socrate is says : The great wisdom is when you know you know nothing
Simple
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In order to bring someone down you must first be beneath them.💪⚡🌋
They will throw all the hate, guilt, filth at you...keep being a star and keep shining shine for everyone
Just like Donald Trump.
Being a writer, I often come across people who find my works sour, distasteful, or just bad. But watching this has given me the confidence to step back up and do what makes me happy despite how vitriol people may seem.
I am surprised you haven’t had more views. As far as I am concerned this is a very beautiful and well done video, it has helped me a lot. Thank you so much for taking the effort of making it. Sometimes they say.. if you can do but one right thing and touch another person it was well worth it. As for me brother yes your video has helped me a lot thank you and to all who helped you.
Listening to this video as many times as possible until implementing this mindset is as easy as breathing.
I'm an introvert so I 'm usually at home and alone. But do I feel lonely? No, not since I studied Stoic philosophy. Now people can yell insults at me and I will carry on mindless of they're assault.
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Every time i finish his videos, i have the feeling that i owe him money for all this knowledge and hapiness he brought to my little life.
Keep these habits up guys, your mind really will change. As a favour to yourself, keep putting the effort in. Stay true to yourself!
I had this the other day when some dude trashed my TH-cam channel and ripped on me hard. It felt kind of extreme as I'm a small channel with a niche following talking about issues that have strongly affected me and even killed friends and family (addiction, lack of fathers, purposeless, etc).
Anyway, I've been engaging in spiritual detachment / stoicism for a while so could see the guy clearly had anger issues so I responded with zero aggression/ego (the temptation was there tho, believe me) giving him full right to his opinion that I'm a total shit, but then explaining my backstory and passion for what I do calmly, clearly and with no judgement. The dude just deleted his comment and never wrote back.
It was a good part of growth for me as the anger was still there inside to 'defend' my own ego and fight back, yet the inner stillness I've been focusing on has taught me just enough patience to be calm/assertive/loving in response. I think I have to accept some people will just dislike you and others will warm to you, and that's more to do with them than you. I kind of think that's maybe something like what Jesus meant when he said 'turn the other cheek' - not to literally accept violence, but to see anger and aggression and let it pass, as indulging in it creates such a toxic cycle.
Anyway, great content on this channel. Einzelganger is an inspiration.
Well done!! good on u for the control, awareness & compassion, it is not easy when things like that happen, but u obviously are the better person & look what happened....They know! & they learnt a valuable lesson & retreated, so continue with your utube channel, strength & rise high above!! Unfortunately the world is full of judgement & opinions, we r guilty of it also...
Take Care...🙏 Oh by the way im interested in the spiritual detachment, do u have any recommendations pls?
@@pure-pisces9470 Thanks for your comment mate, much appreciated :)
Regarding spiritual detachment I'm quite into nondual meditation teachers such as Adyanshanti and Rupert Spira, however, they can be a bit heavy to start with so Eckhart Tolle is pretty accessible to begin with
@@AwakenedMan You're welcome & Thankyou, I'm listening to Eckharts audio "The Power of Now" atm 🙂🙏
@@pure-pisces9470 Awesome man, it's a classic!
@@AwakenedManHi, Yes It was a classic, might listen to it again sometime, just to see if i can pick up on anything i missed👍🙂
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I'm so glad I stumbled upon this channel
This video answers a lot of my inner demons. I will reflect on this video every chance I get.
i’ve been following your videos for some months and it’s kinda changing my life...for someone to anger issues (and quite ignorant to philosophy) this is mind
blowing and i hope i can learn more
I used to get angry at video games every time I died, now I'm 100% neutral even when the death is due to lag.
@@christiantaylor1495 Yes! Ever had those moments where you were stuck on one particular part of the game and you just *kept* dying? And wanted to break the remote?
Im glad I have grown past the need for senseless anger. I admit, I get angry sometimes, like when someone talks to me for too long about unconcerned things, or when I witness unjustified violent acts.
Good luck on your journey, stranger.
I also have serious anger issues and he’s helping me a lot.
That is a quite appropriate meditation for facing challenges on a daily basis..."Morning has broken..." Thanks for the uplifting video.
The more I listen to these videos, the more I realize I have been living a stoic lifestyle, for years now. Hell I was born with a stoic mind. Humanity and it's various dramas, insecurities, indoctrination, fearfulness just never interested me. I have always walked my own solitary path.
Im very grateful for these videos!
I can't even have pictures of myself displayed on facebook or mention my successes because I expect and know that people, even those closest to me, grow envious in an instant and contemptuous at the first sign of failure. Idiots and lunatics are not beyond bludgeoning you to death simply because you possess something they would want for themselves. And the more attention you draw to yourself, the more at risk you are.
Invisibility is the way. Why make great efforts to relate and associate with disgusting people who care not for your best interest and would slander you with any and all information you provide? Consider isolation and privacy just another sacrifice for the greater good.
Our business is with things that really matter.
That's right,thief!
I wholeheartedly agree! I too choose invisibility and solitude
Even Marcus' face is saying "I've had enough of this shit, why do I care"
“If we let our mood depend on things that are not up to us, we find ourselves in quite a feeble position. Therefore, according to Epictetus, we should be indifferent towards anything independent of our own will, because if we aren’t, we let external factors rule over our ability to be happy.” 💯 Thanks mate!
Very nice effort Mr.Einzelganer. Tranquility is the way of life
Thank you so much for the videos you upload, the work and wisdom you put into them, they honestly are changing my life for the better.
Glad you like them! You're welcome!
Thanks for reassuring me that Courage is needed in order to make the choices and reinforce our Mental Fortitude. I wish you a Happy Life. Grateful
Truly helpful and amazing videos, thank you for sharing helpful information 🙌
Keep your true self in place... Stay the course... There will be roadbacks... But your road will eventually work for the better...
I always say to others that how other people see me in any negative way is no longer my problem. Lol. I have a coworker said to me "fix ur hair, u look crazy." and i said "well, thats not my problem." where deep inside i dont really have the energy to do so because i was going through something.
@bruce banner easy for u to say.
One should worry about things within the bounds of it's control. One of the virtues of stoicism.
My gratitude towards you cannot be expressed through words!
I found some of this very nice to hear, considering my father passed recently and I have managed myself well.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
@@katherineg9396 ah thanks mate. That whole bit back then was quite tough, but damn did i grit through it haha. I feel on top of it all now, it isnt as painfully heavy anymore for me.
Stoicism helped me so much, Now I do not mind people complaining about why I always bring my Medieval Cannon and Broad Sword with me
My family motto is 'Endure Fort' (Endure with strength). This video gave me new insights into how to make fortitude a proactive frame of mind rather than a fortress mentality. The first image in the video was Edinburgh Castle. Nice choice. It's a historic fortress that welcomes visitors from all over the world.
Yes, let your virtue guide your decisions.
I am a spirit in search of experience.
I embrace the highest motives of man to create.
I have faith which signifies that I live a spiritual life.
I overcome adversity with an open heart and an open mind.
Everything for better or worse is exactly as it should be until it changes for better or worse when it becomes exactly as it should be.
Be blessed y'all 🙏
The peace that enters my mind after understanding with the right perspective is amazing.
It is strange how being autistic has let me discover these lessons at a much younger age. I am a naturally defiant person so when my mom said not to do something I always asked why I could not understand why I should care about what random strangers thought about me. maybe it's more something taught generationally maybe all children were like me and I just resisted the culture. I was a pretty defiant kid either way tough getting a medical diagnosis for being defiant even. I'm actually quite proud of it.
This perspective is very helpful to me in my current state of living as well as any other point in my life. Thank you for this useful contribution
So glad I found this channel. Thank you for this
I've been living my life with somewhat stoic beliefs without being aware of it for a while now. Your channel makes the best philosophy videos on youtube, next to pewdiepie lmao. The last line you said "The less we care about things that don't matter, the stronger our determination will be." This is really accurate and really well put. The problem for me is that I cant seem care about some of my highschool courses that I know will never ever be of importance. Pros and cons to the lifestyle haha
Your videos are a blessing, thank you for literally saving me from losing my mind. You're just as important as the books are for me in my quest for self control and inner peace. Your channel is one of the best gifts the internet gave me.
Dude, you one of the best man. Really enjoy your videos. Thank you and much love from South Africa
This is pure divine msg ♥️
Does Msg stand for Mobile Suit Gundam? ☝🏾😅
@@machabeleloka318 haha
I love this channel, it's helping me a lot in this quarantine!
Could you make a video about your understanding of mortality and ethics (if you think it’s worth having such a differentiation) please? Thank you for all your sharings :)
I loved this type of approach. Compilation of various philosophers with the wrap up is very helping. Just a small suggestion that you should explore more philosophers like Cicero, Socrates, Plato, Diogenes, aristotle. I know they're well known but their thoughts are worth exploring. I loved knowing about chrysippus. Great video.
Recently finished unoffendable and it helped change my perspective. Always loved your references to guys like David Goggins and Jordan Peterson.
This is a stoicism channel, so he references stoic philosophers.
The ego has never been an issue for me, but rather I was emotionally repressed and being autistic, I was always diving head first into knowledge. Now as a man I am reaching inside to release my emotions from the prison of my heart, stoicism comes easy to me but I am incomplete while I am not experiencing all that life has to offer.
Thanks for your videos sir! Always useful!. They should teach this on high school. They should have different philosophies to teach the teens.
What a time to go back to what really matters. Thank you for sharing!!
Favorite video of yours I’ve seen so far. Apropos wisdom for my current situation, and for long after. Thank you for sharing 🌱
I've started to get to know myself trough philosophy and you've been a big help.
Thank you for this! Need it to get thru my stressful job
You have no idea how much I needed to hear all of this! Thank you so much for the wisdom and insight.
Fortitude just means you can endure difficult people and times learning a different perspective and maybe taking a different approach. Virtue is it's own reward. Not the victory of others.
Indeed other peoples options only hurt if you let them and if you don't you find out they are powerless over you. They only have power YOU give them
I find that Stoic philosophy shares some of its tenets with Absurdism. So grateful for your content!
Seneca. ! His View of. Life was so Clear
and. still fit's perfect into our Daily. Life !
His mindset is full of. Fruit's. !
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Good timing with this video as I am struggling a lot with resentment and hostility of my daughter. It is hard to stay peaceful and cheerful when she aims for distance in disrespectful and hurtful ways... I find that it is easier to let go and be the bigger person with people who do not live with you and matter less to you. But I am willing to keep trying....for her and my sake
Videos like this are based on the premise that people should like or long to be with other people. Why not accepting that in many cases there are people who enjoy their time by themselves, without having to interact or socialize with others?.
Sooner or later, external circumstances will force you to interact with other people. When that time comes, you have to be ready.
God protect and guide us to goodness and love forever ...
There is no goodness and love forever lol
With God and infinite consciousness , everything is possible ...
Your work has taught me more about life than school ever did. I really appreciate these videos. Keep it up👍
This channel itself is a source of tranquility & peace of mind that is much appreciated.
What I really love is the simple & non-judgmental way it encourages people to accept the harsh reality of the world but also honestly study themselves & seek self-improvement for a happier life.
I swear even since I took this up; I care less and much happier. Of course I falter sometimes but it’s great advice from the stoics!
I just started listening to stoic philosophy and videos in the last month. It has really relaxed me, and made me think a lot different than I used too. I'm going to practice this mindset everyday and try to be the best I can be. Thank you for this inspiring video keep up the good work.
Your channel deserves a bunch of awards. So empowering! Thanks 💞
Thank you so much ! Super helpful
Your videos are amazing sir. They're so peaceful and insightful. I especially appreciate your use of calming music and imagery. These videos will be great supplementary material to my stoic learnings. Much thanks 👍👍
I really appreciate this information, these philosophies and world views are known to me, but not so in-depth and well explained, thank you!
Your content is amazing! I love listening to your videos while working out. I just got Meditations in the mail and am excited to read it! :)