Detrans: The Journey to Self-Acceptance (with NJada) - shame, guilt, pornography & masculinity
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Detrans: The journey to self-acceptance (with njada) - shame, guilt, pornography & masculinity.
This is the second interview in my series of interviews with the people involved in the documentary "The Lost Boys: Searching for Manhood". In the previous interview i was joined by Ritchie Herron as well as Jennifer Lahl and Gary Powell from The Center for Bioethics and Culture (CBC). Jennifer Lahl is the creator of The Lost Boys and worked together with Gary Powell on this documentary, in which i starred.
This time the guest i have with me is NJada, a fellow male detransitioner or detransitioned male who was one of the detransitioners interviewed in the film.
In this video NJada gives us more details about his upbringing and transitioning as well as shares his thought on topics such as guilt and shame, pornography addiction, gender roles and music.
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Check out NJada's Substack: njadadetrans.substack.com/
00:00 - Intro
00:54 - NJada
01:40 - NJada's upbringing
08:18 - Asking girls out
09:24 - Full interview on Patreon
10:00 - Sexuality, attraction and pornography
12:01 - Creativity and music
13:41 - Male role in dating
16:41 - Guilt and shame around sexuality
18:34 - The desire to be a girl
22:45 - Talking to therapists
24:29 - Trans back then vs trans now
26:19 - The rush to transition
29:18 - The effects of social affirmation
31:53 - Living as a woman socially
39:37 - The metaphysics of gender
41:7 - Masculinity and sensitivity
46:46 - Music
52:25 - How pornography affects young people
57:92 - Albert Borgmann and device paradigm
59:51 - Childhood fantasy
01:02:26 - Romanticed view of women's innocence
01:06:13 - Female sexuality
01:09:00 - What do you love about being a man?
Go check out NJada's substack articles. I left the link in the description. It's definitely worth reading.
Thank you so much for highlighting the beauty of male friendship.
Thank you both for the honesty and vulnerability here.
You are doing so much good by giving these wonderful people a platform. You and All of your guests are truly saving children’s lives…. Thank you 🙏🏽☝🏾🙌🏽 God bless you All
Great interview! Glad to hear more from the detransitioners in the doc. I always find it so interesting to hear people’s different reasons for transition and detransition.
I found him attractive and with a beautiful voice.
Tysm for sharing, Njada and Alex. This is a very intelligent and informative discussion and you both are so insightful!
Don't take this on, Njada!!! Its not your fault!! They completely misled you both and society is responsible..
. I know this issue is on such a massive scale but when considering it's all so deep in the institutions, this has to be disrupted on a grand scale and every single voice that speaks out is contributing to the broader changes to come. Supposed well trained therapists pushing medical transitioning vs working thru emotional space and expression, is counterintuitive to their entire purpose. The industry itself should be brought to task.
Great idea. You will help so many through this.
Thank you guys for opening up and being honest and vulnerable.
Women being "less sexually driven" so to speak is a stereotype, but there is a reason for it. Male sexuality is direct, female sexuality is responsive and more subtile. It's less compulsive than male sexuality, but it can get very intense as well. So, everyone is to some extent sexually motivated in their lives.
It's beautiful that you guys mentioned that you find male friendships and brotherhood very important. It's unfortunately lacking these days.
Excellent, Alexander. 👍
Can totally relate to the transition from early school to middle school (called primary school and high school in Australia). had a great friendship group in primary school, then was almost completely alone in high school (no real close friends). hated puberty also, never saw anything good about it (and still don't)
It's not that women are sexually repressed. It is just not on their minds 24 hours a day 7 days a week. They talk to their other female friends about sex, men, dating relationships, but its only a small aspect of what they to their friends about.
Also women dont talk to men about sex unless its their partners. Women know how to control their conversations and sex drive.
We are in a Spiritual battle for our souls.
It was interesting when Njada talked about he didn't express things with his body or face. My boyfriend has that issue, the face thing over all
You are loved, Alexander.