The Lost Boys: Searching for Manhood
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- The Lost Boys: Searching for Manhood. In The Lost Boys five young men describe their experiences with gender dysphoria as they wrestled with feelings of inadequacy as men, and their ultimate pursuit to find peace in their natural bodies.
The Lost Boys completes the trilogy of films which explore the topic of the transgender gender affirmation therapy as the main treatment for minors and young adults experiencing a misalignment between their body and their feelings. The film, Trans Mission: What’s the Rush to Reassign Gender? explored the medical ethics of puberty blocking and cross-sex hormones in children. This film was quickly followed with the release of The Detransition Diaries: Saving our Sisters, told through the stories of three young women who felt their life would be easier if they transitioned to living life as if they were men. With the release of The Detransition Diaries, parents of young men, experiencing similar feelings of distress encouraged the making of this film to tell their stories of their sons who are growing up against the backdrop of the negative attitudes towards maleness and masculinity and confusing messages around what it means to be a man who may or may not conform to traditional views of manhood.
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It was a pleasure participating in this film.
As a parent, i want to thank you for speaking up. The kids need to hear the truth instead of the false promises they are being fed about how awesome transition is.
In the past, you've supported adult transitioners who take appropriate steps. However you said you couldn't see how you could make a rational decision with the estrogen you took. So now the argument is that transgender people on HRT can not make medical decisions about their health because they are basically made incompetent much like a child. This is how we'll be stripped of our professional licenses and even driver's license. As a matter of fact, when your done with it we won't be able to drive a car thanks to your testimony. You say you are neutral then you throw this bombshell at us. This is war! I know people who are 15 plus years into transition and can't now get health care in their state because health care providers can't react to a hundred demands made from them. You offered no solution other than elimination of health care at the point of a gun. These issues need to be addressed with medical boards and not legislators and psychologists who believe in the "live in your own skin only" approach. This is why detransitioners are hated because the Right uses anything anybody says to justify eliminating gender affirming care!
Thank you so much for your important voice and your courage.
Thank you so much!
Thank You for speaking truthfully .
What a relief to see this film! The tide IS turning. Protect boys & girls from this industry!
The tide is growing higher by the day. You’ve obviously not got teenage kids.
But resistance is growing every day @@hugolindum7728
I've just finished watching the documentary and I'd like to express my deepest admiration for the bravery and honesty of the men interviewed. My highest respect to you!
well said.
Graham Lineham gets it: "the opposition are so dumb. Dumb and mean." Good to have one laugh amidst such unnecessary suffering. Well done, great film.
Thanks for having me xo
Thank you for sharing your story. I hope my son sees this, and it plants a seed of doubt about wanting to transition.
You were awesome and have a great accent!
thank you for commenting. I was trying to remember the name of your youtube channel. You did a great job on such a tough subject. ♥
Ritchie you were brilliant. I'm gonna email everyone I know and beg them to watch this.
Thanks Ritchie, you are very courageous for speaking out and you’re a beautiful human. You will help so many others by being so honest about your experience. All the best
well done everyone involved, especially the detransitioners
I have so many thoughts about these articulate, sincere, and truly authentic men! No one wants to read my thoughts, though. Bravo for making this! This world is better because of media such as this. Thank you for documenting the experience, strength, and hope of these men.
Are they only brave because they denounced the medication they took and the life they led in the past? This is how this is being used for political tempo gains. You know nothing of these people's current lives. Transgender people were criticized for being brave for coming out. It seems you've made that assumption here.
@@DorianPaige00You've missed the whole human aspect of the so called 'transitioning' and 'de transitioning issue..
@@DorianPaige00 Hello again Aarilyn. How have you been? I agree with you. I don't think anyone is brave for being open about being detrans, trans or gay unless they live in a place where being open about it can lead to the concern for thei safety and/or life.
I appreciate hearing the perspectives of my male detrans friends. I am grateful for this opportunity to do so. ❤
There was a very feminine boy at my school in the 80s. He didn't get on well with boys, didn't like rough games, liked sewing (he later became a designer), used to hang about with us girls and is now a very happy gay man who has been in a same sex relationship, happily, for over 20 years. He struggled greatly with how other boys teased him, they used to call him a girl. That boy would likely have been pushed down the trans route now.
Thank you to the filmmakers of this powerful, sensitive, and heartbreaking film. Thanks and deep gratitude to the brave men interviewed. May your lives be easier going forward, knowing you are helping save children and young people from this harmful ideology.
This moving film makes it clear that hormones and surgery should never be prescribed for mental issues.
Tell that to Stonewall, the BBC, mermaids, the musical profession and the host of charities making xx
Excellent work….This needs to be shown in schools.
100% agree.
I second that!@@shireenmcquade1951
Thank you for everyone that took part in being in the video.
I think many people might not realize how difficult it is to be a man / boy.
You’re being told on a daily basis that you’re privileged, inherently racist (if you’re white), sexist, part of the patriarchy, and so on.
If you’re not a typical manly man then you’re probably bullied by other men / boys.
In the liberal world, certain things are looked down on, like strength and wealth.
As a man, how can you be oppressed when you are the enemy? You have no liberal social credit.
Come out as trans and you are told you’re brave and how proud everyone is of you, not for your actions, but simply how you identify.
Who do you have to blame if you struggle in life as a man? You’re privileged, so it’s your own fault you’re not succeeding in life.
Trans gives an excuse and direction in life. Transitioning becomes your obsession. Work, school, cleaning, all take a back seat.
If you’re trans you have an instant connection and friend group no matter where you go. If you already don’t fit in with men, that can be a huge comfort.
The problem is of course that that friend group becomes a feedback cycle. Everyone is trying to outdo each other with their openness. Everyone is trans, poly, pansexual, gender fluid. The more things you are the higher liberal social credit that you have.
Most of these things don’t happen on a conscious level. You have a group that’s all doing these things, you’re going to give in to peer pressure, especially when it’s an obsession. Of course the group is going to praise you for coming out as trans, changing your name, getting on hormones, seeing if each other “passes”.
It’s a way of delaying adulthood and denying reality. It’s not fair you’re doing poorly in life. It’s not fair you can’t be a girl. Well you can be trans and be a girl. Nobody can tell you differently because if you’re not trans you can’t understand.
You already have low self esteem from being bullied and from doing poorly in life. You’re a liberal and you’re told from all directions that you’re the worst thing there is in society.
It’s an escape into being someone else. You think you’re becoming the real you and you get to be proud of that real you. You think you’re thinking for yourself and you’re really just going along with the group. You try to be the most open minded to prove you’re not this sexist, racist, close minded person. Everything the right admires becomes a badge of honor to dislike. It’s not just you don’t like sports, it becomes anyone that likes sports is dumb. Liking someone for their physical attributes is dumb.
Now, I am not saying this is everyone out there that’s a guy and comes out as trans. There’s also those that are gay and in denial, autogynephilia, probably more and overlapping reasons.
These are more observations based on groups I have seen. I am not sure I probably explained things, but it’s a certain obsessive mindset dealing with gender, liberalism, what’s good and bad in the world, group think.
I don’t think that makes anyone a bad person, just caught up in the right vs left battle of ideas. Being straight and male is seen as good on the right, so it’s automatically bad if you’re on the left.
I wish I could explain better the feelings of being worthlessness as a failure of a man to the value you have as a trans woman. No direction in life to a path in life. Feelings of fighting against the patriarchy that you are no longer a part of. Being able to separate yourself from all the toxic male aspects. Feeling validated no matter what you do (except detransition). Going from nobody to somebody.
It’s tough to find self value when you feel the world doesn’t value you. You want to be valued by others so you’re going to try and be what you think they value.
I am probably talking in circles.
thank you for saying this, and so well.
So beautifully articulated, thank you.
So glad these young men have had an opportunity to get their stories out. Such a well-presented documentary. All the best to all involved. Healing and happiness to them all.
This is all so sad. It needs to be shown everywhere. I was a RMN for 35 years and saw trauma in girls and fetishisism in boys but this documentary taught me so much more. All of These lovely lads have had GBH committed against them. These men are truly brave. Thankyou.
thank you for this brilliant film . i wish this nightmare wasn't really happening.
Thanks for showing the tip of the ice of the truth ,absurdity, and cruelty of the trans movement/cult.
Thank you for this excellent documentary. It’s very well done. These young men are all so brave and amazing.
I could have listened to these men for hours - what honesty, such bravery and heartfelt reflections on the most intimate experiences of their lives.
same. i felt it could have been twice, three times as long and i would still want to listen longer. there is so much that needs to be said.
Thank you to everyone involved, this is such an important piece of work ❤
Great video. Thank you to everyone involved.
I wish health and happiness to those who were injured by this insanity.
Thank you for producing another excellent documentary. There isn't enough available information about boys. Hopefully this will begin a much needed conversation.
You are all so brave for sharing this.
I love the idea of calling it ‘recovery’ rather than ‘detransition’. Much more appropriate.
What happened to you was criminal. You were lied to and pushed into a one way funnel. I’m so sorry.
I hope you go on to live fulfilling lives despite this.
We must stop lying to children.
We could start by telling them the truth... like for example, we could tell boys: "the world needs you to become the man you were born to be".
What a great film! Thanks so much to everyone. I'm a gender critical psychotherapist who started off more than 50 years ago, in my early 20s, as a grassroots lesbian/feminist activist, when those "labels" actually meant something. The pushback I have received for daring to state that there is no such thing as being born in the wrong body, has cost me clients, friends and collegial support for decades. I live in Halifax, Nova Scotia and though I have no regret for standing on the side of biological reality, it has often been a lonely journey. Not nearly as destructive as what these young men have experienced. I am grateful for their courage and challenge to what are destructive gender roles and expectations of boys and girls, women and men. Growing communities, in whatever ways possible, is the only real way forward as far as I am concerned. Whether that takes the form of group therapy, peer support, parents hanging out together, artist's projects, whatever our creative imaginations can conjure ... there is a way forward and we are part of it. My deep gratitude. 🔥
Благодарим за вашу ценную жизненную позицию ! Вы человек с большой буквы!
Низкий поклон от матерей России!
That must have been a very difficult row to hoe. It is so hard to stand against a tide of irrationality. Full marks to you.
Trans ideology is the latest iteration of the misanthropic scourge that has been being propagated for decades within mainstream feminism, that prior iteration of feminism mutated into the current gender ideology the second it got bored of beating the male dead horse... it doesn't surprise me that you don't recognize the innate misandry of that feminism, what mysogny you are observing now is an echo of that misandry you remain so myopically and contemptuously blind to in feminism. This ideology hates humanity, men and boys were the easier target throughout the 90s and 2000s, now it's moved onto the more challenging victim: women and girls.
You are amazing. I think of the many lives you've saved with your guidance. And think of how your patients, in turn, influenced others!
Thank you so much for your kind words. If I have been able to create a good ripple effect, then it will have been well worth it. @@pathuey7194 💗
Thank you to all the detransitioners especially - this was very brave of you, understatement of the era. Thanks also to Dr Az, as well as the writers and producers.
Well done... thank you!
And to the young fellows who bravely told their stories, your courage will take you far and lead the way for others.
I’m so grateful to those who give a platform to these men. They seem all to be doing okay/good, but that wouldn’t be the case if it weren’t for this support.
Thank you for making this very honest film. I truly am grateful. All of the participants are extremely brave. Graham Lineham deserves all the accolade we can give. Thank you.
So great to see Men's stories and experiences being told 🙌 🙏 👏
We agree!
@@Cbc-networkOrg just curious do you agree only stories of de-trans stories should be told or successful transition stories as well?
@Jasminestealth1
There aren't any successful transactions Stories, many
@@sonjahart7913 your saying there are not many "successful transsexual stories"? Aka you think every person who has had surgery regrets it?
I hope you will do a part 2 with detransitioned mend like Shape shifter and Nicolas Bloom and Coreye Cohn
Great work from the producers and men who shared their experiences.
these guys are really strong. deep respect for all of them. and thank you for this piece. it was powerful.
Wow. When that one man was describing his bottom surgery I got shivers down my spine.
Affirmation is not a solution. I will always remember his story of him saying how much he secretly wanted someone to stop him next time I get told to use someone’s “proper pronouns”. Shameful these Drs should be in jail.
"Affirmation" is what you do with dementia patients. There's no point in upsetting them or arguing, so you just go along. But children have their lives ahead of them. How can it be right to lie to them?
I watched this video yesterday and have been struggling to find the right words for a comment - I'm still lost for words - what a powerful documentary it is and I feel humbled by your courage and truly hope your future is less fraught.
Alexander's recalling his feeling when on the operating table...utterly heartbreaking. I truly hope he gets his therapy clinic started in Norway.
I cried while watching this film. I have two great-grandsons. They go to public school in California - a hotbed for forcing transitions.
Thank you for your generosity and strength. May God bless you all and keep you.
Thank you for educating me (wife) I passed this documentary to 17k people in my FB group of world concerns going on right now.
You should start using alternative media hosting and leave links in descriptions with teaser submissions. Ron Vaillant does and informs others while leading others away from this fascist platform. M
Thank you. This story needs to be told. A society that does not protect their children needs to look deep inside and ask why. Why don’t we love and care enough about our children to stop this insanity. These brave men are doing their part to save children (and young people.) God bless them. We can’t sit back and do nothing. What are we afraid of? Being called a name? Please, for the young men’s sake, do something. Start at the local school boards. Find out what their policies are. Parents have rights and we’d better exercise them before they are taken away. Children have no advocates if we are not their advocates. We see what happens when we abdicate our responsibilities and let society choose what’s “best” for them. Right now, the loudest crowd is winning. We who truly love and care for children have to become louder, more organized, more committed. We can’t loose this fight for the children. We can’t give them to the wolves. Be brave like these amazing men in this documentary!
In UK Kelly jay Keene is organising helping get support for parents who want to question and challenge schools.. Endeavouring to get someone to accompany parents to meetings..
Thank you for talking about our boys. They have been severely overlooked. Thank you to all the detransitioners who are telling their stories. I hope their voices are heard so they can get the care they need.
Brilliant and startling - This must end.
Many thanks to all involved in making this project. I commend these young men for speaking out about such personal and challenging life changes. Thank YOU.
Excellent film. This needs to be presented to a massive audience to help stop this marxist influence of social contagion from destroying any more of our young people.
Thats an amazing documentary. My heart was breaking watching it. Never worry about acceptance back into society. We are all here for you.
Fantastic review of different stories with similar themes. Why oh why weren’t these mentally challenged people not being helped and supported as they deserve. The medical and mental health professions have so much to answer for. I hope the men have a successful ‘recovery’. 🇬🇧
Thank you for making this video ... as a mom of a young man who has become trans - I have been certain that the man-hating attitude society is dishing out is a big part of the problem. He is not trans ... he is a wonderful young man. I am hoping and praying that he will recognize his wonderful maleness. He has nothing to be ashamed of. Neither do any of the participants in this film. You are wonderful in your maleness and you have so much to offer the world! The world needs men!
Thanks for taking the time to watch and share your experience. All the best to you and your son.
The autogynephilia aspect is very troubling and seems to be behind quite a big part of the aggression behind some trans activists. Our local pool and gym had a 64 year old man who came into the women and children's changing room, including young girls, stripped off naked in front of anyone in the changing room put on a (woman's) costume and went into the pool. The female swimmers were up in arms about it, complained and the gym didn't allow it to happen again, but the transwoman was absolutely furious. the transwoman was offered a private changing area with a private shower, but the individual was furious at that suggestion and considered it an insult and complained to head office. the individual was very clearly a large male, fully intact and not passing at all. The individual wanted acceptance into the changing area, didn't care at all about how it made actual females and children feel, nor how inappropriate it was to be a fully naked male in front of children who are also naked. I really felt like there was a male aggressive fetish power play going on because I think a true transexual woman would be sensitive to women's feelings and just want to live their life, not create scenes.
Yes, the behaviour of male predator. That other men don't understand this is evidence of their innate goodness as their own minds aren't capable of such deviousness/deviance
Thank you for this film. Thank you to everyone who participated and shared very honestly all you have experienced. I believe with all my heart each of you will help so many others and have a fulfilling and precious life! ❤
My daughter is currently in university, she will be a sexologist therefore I send her your video, it’s important to show it to all professionals, doctors, therapists etc…and to all parents, teens…this film should be mandatory, ….your stories and personalities touches me and hopefully many many others,…I hope all of you find happiness and peace in yourself 💕
As a male who never fit into the "boys club" and had a period of gender dysphoria as an adult, I relate to these stories. Thanks for making this film!
Thank you for making this.
Wow. Fantastic documentary. My focus has been on ♀️ and children. My daughter identifies as TM ... so much heartbreak. I am GC and 2nd wave feminist so very ♀️ directed. These young men so much harmed by toxic ideas of manhood and trying to escape... abetted by unbelievably insane blanket affirmation protocols. A very different perspective for me..
Thanks for sharing your experience!
Very well done highlighting a tragic situation. Hoping that these young men can continue to move on and make the most of their life despite the medical problems they have.
So good! Well done and God bless all of you! ❤
Thank you Jennifer, another brilliant documentary!
This story has a wider angle... Not only does it affect young people and children, but it has a HUGE, ADVERSE effect on us WOMEN.. Do men that pretend to be women, ever once consider what their actions are doing to women...? 🙄 Even before Lockdown, I was finding it difficult to access HRT.... Turns out, the reason was that so many selfish men were demanding it in the USA, Canada, Australia, New Zealand and Brazil, that we women were left short of these hormones... 🤬 How selfish is that? Men need to get over themselves and accept themselves as they are... NOBODY is born in the wrong body... NOBODY..
Excellent work. So impressed by how well these guys articulate a lifetime of experiences that brought them to where they are now, and how they are using the wisdom they’ve gained to help others and build new lives for themselves.
Well done. Well done!
Excellent documentary! I'm glad these men had a chance to tell their stories.
Found it interesting to hear that one of these young men said he was pleased to have such a low sex drive.
I've been wondering for some time whether this trend might be partly driven by a rejection of the over-sexualisation of society...
I would suggest that secrecy/privacy of the sex act is a deep need in human beings, just as in some animals who will not breed if they are being watched. We have turned sex into a public performance, something that has to be talked about explicitly, and exhibited in films and further in pornography. All this removes the mystery of sex and the exploration of desire - not of kink but of desire for intimacy with another.
Where generations of young people felt they had "discovered" sex, and thought their parents had never really experienced sex before them (indeed the idea was revolting) - they now have to face a world where sex is everywhere. This is exacerbated by the high divorce rates - with the accompanying demand for acceptance of parents' sexuality when they find a new partner - thus removing the rights from young people to rediscover the world anew. Their parents have usurped the "romantic lead" role from them. The only way left for these youngsters (perhaps) to rebel sexually is to reject sex altogether.
Additionally, kids are often (I would argue) having sex before they have ever felt DESIRE because they have been taught to see it as a physical function, often linked with fantasy, rather than an instinctive desire for intimacy which is deeply personal and essentially secretive (even sometimes from ourselves).
Just thoughts...probably not well enough expressed!
All good points.
I saw a conversation with him (and have seen one or two others which expressed the same), and the impression that I got was that he didn't like having a sex drive because it was so powerful. I mean, it was probably similar to that of most teenage boys, which can be pretty consuming and perhaps overwhelming. I'm not sure about this but it was the impression I got.
I've spoken online to a few trans identifying males that are adults and have less of an ideological bent.
The overwhelming impression I get is that they like oestrogen because it kills their sex drive and means they aren't driven by it. I get a sense of shame from a few of them and I'm not sure if this is connected to homosexuality or autogynephilic or other paraphilic tendencies (one suggested castrating young boys) or just normal masculinity that they find disturbing. They feel very uncomfortable with their "brain on T" like they lose control.
I can't help but feel like they're self-medicating for something under the surface that they won't face. It's certainly easier to identify as trans than as an autogynephile for example.
I think the hormones might also be linked to a solution to porn addictions too. Maybe this is unfair but with one or two I get the sense of the "virtuous pdf files" who don't trust what they might do (e.g. Commit a sexual crime) if they don't take drastic steps to avoid all temptation.
Porn at an early age is clearly screwing up children to devastating effect.
I really appreciate your thoughtful observations, I have two adult children and two teens and the difference between their socialisation is striking (to me).
@@robertmarshall2502 They have been made to feel that their maleness is anathema to their humanity, the misandry is so ubiquitous in our culture that mothers will literally dress their little boys in shirts that say: "boys we NOT be boys".
The only transition adolescents should be attempting is the one to adulthood. That was the most important message I took from this..
Possibly your most important documentary to date. Thank you to all involved, especially your courageous detransitioners.
This was so well done--yet painful to watch. Thank you to the brave young men who participated. Your voices are so important in this fight to address the mental health of our youth before pushing them into irreversible medical procedures.
What an impactful and heartbreaking film. Thank you so much to everyone who took part - I’ll be sure to share it with as many people as I can 💜
My heart aches for these young men. And to think that they are actually relatively lucky because with all the physical loss, their spirit was not destroyed, they did not lose their souls - their humanity, generosity, kindness in persevering in the fight against this evil. They are trying to prevent this evil from happening to others. Meanwhile, I think of those who are not as strong, whose souls were damaged and who are either too angry to try to help others or too desperate to go on with their own lives.
Well done CBC, it's a tragedy that films like this have become a necessity.
Bravo! Well done! I felt disappointed that it was a bit short on content (48 mins) since my expectations had been really high for this documentary, but all in all, a really great and important first step for the forgotten boys! Yay!! Thank you to Jennifer Lahl, the production crew, Dr. Joe Burgo, Dr. Az Hakeem, Graham Linehan, Ritchie
Our experience as filmmakers is that people have shorter attention spans and that long format doesn't keep audience retention. It is a sad but true fact.
@@Cbc-networkOrg who then was your objective audience? Did you make this to help questioning people? Are you looking for general public to just go... ah..interesting? would a longer format for those, like the guys in this video could find strength in those that felt the same?
Definitely needs a part 2. Hope Shape-shifter will be included
@@Jasminestealth1you are welcome to make your own longer documentary. They have put out many and have obviously seen that people don’t finish watching the longer ones. If being more concise can allow for people to hear the whole story then that’s a good plan.
Part 2
Needs interviews with the psychologists and the surgeons.
This docu-film is much needed. So informative to hear these men’s feelings and experiences around boyhood to manhood transition through their puberty. Gender ideology uses innocents as fodder to survive the fallacy of gender identities. Older predatory men are extremely interested in keeping children prepubertal. Porn has a big connection to the growth of gender ideology - sissy porn and fetishisation of male ennuchs is so embedded. It’s all so awful. These men speaking out here are brave and deserve every ounce of support. Well done.👏
Trans ideology is the latest iteration of the misanthropic scourge that has been being propagated for decades within mainstream feminism, that prior iteration of feminism mutated into the current gender ideology the second it got bored of beating the male dead horse... it doesn't surprise me that you don't recognize the innate misandry of that feminism, what mysogny you are observing now is an echo of that misandry you remain so myopically and contemptuously blind to in feminism. This ideology hates humanity, men and boys were the easier target throughout the 90s and 2000s, now it's moved onto the more challenging victim: women and girls.
Such an important film. Thank you to the participants and filmmakers. Your voices are heard, and your honesty and bravery are appreciated.
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This was absorbing to watch, I hope one day things will turn around and more and more detransitioners are heard and respected.
Good to see Torren on here.
Thank you, was an honor to take part! Just curious- had we interacted over one of the podcasts, etc that I had been on?
I want to leave my experience here in case it'll help someone.
I've been suffering from atypical depression with symptoms of depersonalization and derealization. Few people know, but the symptoms of depersonalization include “feeling like a different sex” or even “genderless.” I didn’t know this then... I went on the Internet, and the sites there convinced me that I was an agender homosexual person (although homosexuality was caused by the same disorders). I couldn't find a place for myself. I will never forget those few days when I was trying to figure out who I was, whether I was really agender, etc. Then only the words of my psychologist that there are only two genders finally calmed me down. I’m easily suggestible, you know, that’s why I so easily believed in this nonsense gender ideology.
I live in Russia, and I'm happy for that. I'm happy for what I've been through. I'm still recovering from derealization. I'm fighting, and you have to. Remember that everything will always be fine in the end. If it’s bad now, it means it’s not the end yet! ❤❤❤
What got me through very dangerous times in my life was the simple words "Tomorrow is a new day"
It really is. If I was lucky enough to have somewhere safe to lay my head to sleep, I could wake up to a whole new day to try again. And keep trying. Yesterday was gone. Today I can start over, new day new me 🙏
Thank you for watching and sharing your experience. Best wishes for your recovery.
Thank you all for your testimonies. They are powerful and they reach. I hope this ideological insanity ends soon, both at the societal level and at the personal level. May we all learn to live peaceful, authentic lives rooted in a genuine understanding of human nature. May there be compassion and healing for all past all this grief.
Thank you for making this. One theme I noticed is that….. We need nuanced archetypes for men and women and losing our cultures means we have lost them. The impact is incredibly drastic and personal.
Thanks for your comment. Yes, there is not just one way to be a man or a woman, the expression of manhood and womanhood can and should be varied.
Great job, everyone. I hope this brings light to boy's issues which are wrongfully ignored.
Just heard about this on Kellie Jay Keen's Terf Talk Tuesday!
Affirming strategy is extremely destructive. The top battle against this ideology is to prioritize Safeguarding over Affirming. The problem ?? So many people have bought into the ideology and virtue signalled about it publicly that reversing course is and admission they were compliant to the abuse.
Just watched. An incredibly powerful documentary which I really hope will be picked up for mainstream TV viewing. More people need access to this. And thank you to the young men who participated in this, it takes courage to speak out against this current mad ideology that has seemingly hijacked professionals and sections of society.
As utterly cancerous as "gender" ideology is, the issue (causing both boys AND girls desire to """"transition""'') is deeper than just "gender" ideology.
I suspect the issue is with how western society sees the sexes, overall.
We have this model, where one side of politics says "traditional sex roles are great; Men should be tough and stoic. Women should be caring and nurturing".
While the other side of politics see's women as perma-victims, and "the good ones", to be condescended to and showered with endless participation trophies. While men are "the bad ones", who must endlessly apologize for their own existence (even though the ideology says men can never be forgiven, so it dis-incentivizes the same behaviour it demands. It's all a very weird outlook, that nobody ever planned, or thought out; It's just kinda "where we ended up")
And we treat this dichotomy, as if these are the ONLY two options- You either join conservatives, in assuming traditional sex roles are perfect. Or else you join the left, in the "men are evil (unless they're gay, maybe), and women need to be condescended to, like they're special-needs children" attitude.
But I don't think EITHER of these two approaches to the sexes are ideal. Or that they do any favours for boys OR girls, who aren't sure how much they fit in with the expectations of their sex.
Personally, I think BOTH sides of the political divide hold some responsibility here- The conservatives' rigid, narrow norms don't help those kids who have always defies the norms of their sex. But the left's resentment of those traditional norms, just because they ARE traditional norms, isn't much better; Those norms exist in every human culture, for a REASON; that doesn't mean we should demand conformity to those norms, by EVERY individual... But we also shouldn't beat people up, for being what they're naturally statistically predisposed to be.
That said, "gender" ideology is like a combination of the WORST aspects of all the above.
The FIRST priority is obviously stopping this insane ideology, of mutilating healthy people, to make them (superficially APPEAR to) conform to wrong-sex stereotypes, in a false promise that can NEVER, EVER be fulfilled (ie turning men into "women", and vice versa).
But the horrors of ",gender" ideology are less a CAUSE in themselves, than they are a SYMPTOM of a wider issue, of how we see the sexes, and especially, that segment of each sex, who don't conform to the standard norms of their own sex, and may even fit better with opposite-sex norms.
No, most people who transition don't want the secondary sex characteristics of their birth sex.
Trans ideology is successful because of deep homophobia
Another excellent and crucial documentary.
Engaging, heartbreaking and hopeful. Thank you to the filmmakers, subjects and experts involved in this film. The wellbeing of boys has been neglected over the past 3 decades. Time to change that.
Thank you!
Thank you so much for making this movie and thank you to all of the people who are in the film.
My deepest admiration for this documentary! Hugh respect for the men who told us their story!
Thank you so much for this important education. Exquisitely presented and truly powerful. Because of it I will not be one more person adding to the falsehoods around this subject.
Thanks for your comment and support, Elaine!
Great film, very moving and informative. Thank you to all involved in participating in and making this film.
This is amazing. Thank you for putting this out there.
Thank you to everyone involved in making this film and to those young men for speaking so articulately about their experiences. Some of it is truly shocking and this film needs to be shown widely as many people just do not get it.
What a wonderful production. Thank you to all for their candor, honesty, and courage in sharing their stories.
Brilliant documentary, thank you. People need to start listening to these stories
This documentary should be required viewing at every school and clinic. Excellent work.
The world is letting our youth down a horrible irreversible path. So sad. Praying for our children
None of them were children when they transitioned.
@@DorianPaige00 you are aware that they are someone’s children. Clearly you didn’t read my comment correctly
@@angelesangeles7515 Yes, Captain Obvious. Everyone who has ever been born is someone's child.
This is part of the battle for the narrative. You use the words "children" and "youth" to say these people are vulnerable like the Klan used "boy" to say certain people are inferior and need strong guidance. Same playbook! Regarding the transgender issue in particular, I've heard it argued that you are considered an adolescent until 25-30. However a man's conscription liability is from 18-25 with the first round at 20. If they can't make medical decisions, will they bring mommy along to the battlefield or is gender affirming care the only exception to where everyone has to wait until they are 25-30? Furthermore if an 16 year old adolescent stole a car, he'd be tried as an adult. Increasing the voting age and age for medical transition in adulthood is the next push before a complete ban on gender affirming care in the US and a revisit of Lawrence V Texas which will again criminalize homosexuality as the statutes already on the books in several states carry 20 years in prison for sodomy.
@@DorianPaige00groomed
@@hannahb9061 As one of the participants in this documentary i can confirm i wasn't groomed into it. The whole topic was almost unheard of where i grew up.
Thank you for your vulnerability, honesty, and integrity
Heartbreaking. Lives changed forever in pursuit of an illusion. I wish health and happiness to all the young men in this documentary. ❤
thank you for making this film.
this needs to be seen everywhere. thank you to those who told their stories and those who talked about their experience supporting these young people. If you support trans people you need to face that these young people were trans for a while (which also happens with very young kids) and what they got was not support, but drugs and surgeries. It's shameful and inexcusable. it's on the MDs pushing this, they should be regulating themselves--saying--something terrible is happening--how do we make sure this never ever ever happens again.
These are never events. Where are the surgeons and clinicians following up on these patients to try to support them and to make sure it doesn't happen again?
The surgeons, mds, therapists don't even know how many have found that these interventions were a mistake, something that they would not do again if they knew where it would take them--why didn't anyone tell them the risks? Why don't the doctors even know the risks?
Please share it widely. We made it available for free so that anyone can watch it without any barriers.
I got kicked out of my therapy office for discussing concerns of detransitioners and the affirming model. Isolated because I demand harm reduction research and following up with every patient. The medical industrial complex is sociopathic. WPATH and Diane Ehrensaft are psychopaths.
All of the detrans men in this video were awesome. I loved it! I'm a transgender woman and see this as an individual issue. Some people are happy with their transition and others are not. Either way, it's not a black and white issue. Thank you for the lovely documentary.
And they deserve l9ts of emotional support and friendship from the community instead of detransphobia and contempt. I'm finding it hard to have a conversation about harm reduction with other therapists and allies.
@@jcimsn8464- Trans activists think of public detransitioners as "useful idiots" to the transphobes. Once one allows him or herself to be used, they are harming transgender people. I can understand this thought process, but it's too ideological and war-like for me. Gender critical people can be very nasty and rude to transgender people, but transgender activists can be equally nasty to anyone who doesn't agree with them. It's complex.
@@RachelRichards i just watched one of your videos.. why do you think of gender dysphoria as a mental disorder?
@@Jasminestealth1 Isn't it in the DSM5 as such? Isn't the point of any treatment, even if the evidence is shaky, about dealing with the dysphoria?
I find lots of contradictory views on this idea in the trans community. Simultaneously wanting all trans identifying kids to access puberty blockers, hormones and surgeries but also not wanting to call it a mental disorder at the same time (not saying that's necessarily your view).
For me trans is a social identity. Gender dysphoria is a mental disorder which doesn't affect only trans ppl or all trans ppl.
What's your view?
@@robertmarshall2502 I think there is a difference between coining a descriptor of a condition - transvestite - transsexual - transgender - cross dresser ... etc but then giving it a label of disorder ... such as being heterosexual is not defined as a disorder? When racist people were against interracial partnership didn't define it in a medical journal as a disorder... if I understand how your accepting it is to say - the only way they can get medical intervention there has to be a medical condition that needs to be fixed... I think that's bad form... I say that because it's insurance that is a for profit companies trying to avoid paying... I just think that's a bad reason to call a group of people "disordered" ... neg... that's why people use it to fight against treating people with respect and be able to discriminate ... a transwoman can't use women's room because they are men with a mental disorder... that's terrible...
Brilliant documentary! I'm so very happy this was made! ❤
Thank you to everyone involved in this film.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing your stories so bravely, honestly, and boldly.
Well done! ❤ Thanks for the truth
Saw this last night at a special screening in London. So important that this was made. My heart goes out to the young men in this film and all the others sucked into this horrible cult. Sending care and empathy to you all.
I want all therapists to be prosecuted.