Dyna what you’re feeling is very normal. Even couples living together go through this phase. It’s called MARRIAGE. It’s not supposed to be all rosy. It’s not age gap or friendship, it’s the fact that you’re growing, your husband is growing and the kids are also growing. I admire the fact that you’re not scared to share this aspect of your life but believe me it’s very normal. It’s called life. Continue trying and building rapport with your husband at every stage. Do not lose communication even if it’s hard and with time you all will adjust. I’ve been here since your single days and it’s inspiring to see every stage of life since I subscribed. You make motherhood look really easy and from my point of view you’re not lost in it. You really balance your life out even with how difficult it is. Sending you so much love❤
Yeah communication is key and many people think regular communication in a long distance marriage/relationship is unsustainable. However, if you spoke with couples living together, you'll be surprised majority don't even talk and are more of roommates than lovers.
Mama dyna you will knock of juice ooo if you go to the gym and want to shed weight. Salad cream is a NO NO too. Drink water or eat fresh fruits like apple and all the berries not mango, pineapple or watermelon
Dyna, I am Kenyan and I love following your channel. What if I suggest that you visit your husband in Saudi let’s say two weeks. This time do not go with your children but live them with your mum. This two weeks will be good for just you and your husband to bond without kids around. Your kids love their grandma and I believe they will be fine.
By far one of your best videos: The honesty, vulnerability, personal rebranding and your quest for balance is surely remarkable. You ll find yourself as you go on.
Thanks for being vulnerable dyna❤ I am 23 and my husband is older by 8 years and I know it’s not easy. It is not easy ooo eh! If I can advise you on one thing from the little I know so far, it takes two willing people to make a relationship work. Yes you will fight, infact e go belle full you, but as long as you both are willing to work and fight for what you have everything will be alright. As for that finding yourself topic… it’s is a table I am currently balancing on - please don’t break it😂 but I know we will figure this out! Weldone mama ❤ sending hugs from my side!
I can relate to the gap between partners. My mum worked and lived in a different city while we lived with our dad in another city. Although my mum came home every weekend. When I got married I told myself I would never stay away from my spouse for any reason. My mum also strongly advised me to at all cost stick with my husband. Even though giving up my NYSC to relocate with hubby was a HARD decision in reality, I’m happy I moved with him. We saw the relocation shege together. I’m grateful it made us stronger. I can also relate to getting to know each other well before kids. I’m happy our plan of not having kids immediately worked. We had our first child in year 4 of our wedding. My husband is 9 years older than I am and honestly I don’t see the gap now. We’re more like mates. Well, marriage made up mates 😂. Keep up the good work Dyna. You’re doing well honestly.
Dyna, remember you said you wanted to do an msc. I think its time to do it now. You said sometimes feel like you are looking for what to do when your kids are at school. Please restart school, maybe msc and phd, it might help. I am rooting for you🎉
Ever Heard of the 5yr Itch. Look it up. It's real and lots of married couples go through it. Need to try and reconnect with your spouse so you both dont drift apart
I have a baby less than 2years old and my husband keeps motivating me not to focus on our child but on myself and US as couples and I think he’s right so I have learned to focus on myself while he help out
Take a deep breath, it is a phase, even for we that live together. Pray, pray and pray. This phase will pass. When you come out of this phase, it will be like a rebirth for your relationship but you need the Holy Spirit s guidance and presence in your hearts. That third cord is needed in this phase now than ever.❤
You are so honest and I respect this fact a lot, distance marriage can make a human insane if not carefully handled, you have no one except a few friends that are also busy most of the time with their own life, generally dear life is not easy...
The way I love Dyna’s “over sharing” cos it shows her vulnerable side and human side. Your honesty is invaluable. Nne m all you discussed is all valid and true! Once you have kids, one does loose oneself in the process especially, if you’re an intentional and present parent. Study shows that postpartum lasts for as long as your last child is about 3 years old. So, be kind to yourself and take baby steps in rediscovering yourself. With time, you’ll become a whole new better human being xx hugs hugs Dyna xx
Your feelings are valid mama and its great that you can articulate your feelings ❤❤❤. Long distance marriages can be tough, but I know you"ll both look back on this time in the future and be proud of yourselves for making it work and pulling through. You both just need to ensure that you're constantly communicating your feelings to each other and finding ways to make each other feel like a priority even though you're miles apart. All is well! ❤❤❤
Honestly Dyna, long distance marriage is not easy and also like u said having kids back to back, there is always a tendency to loose yourself. You’re doing a good job as a mum! You’re a super mum and don’t worry everything will fall in place with time❤
Since 2015 that i became a mother i am still finding myself 🙄 had kids back to back. My dear people of God, back to back is not for tge weak especially if you are in abroad.
Hhmmm this is my story. I had my 3 kids under 3years in the abroad, and my life hasn't been the same. I keep screaming out my lungs every day. Although, a lot of people have assured me that things will get better as they grow, and I honestly hope it does cos at this point, it feels like I am going mental. Let's not even speak about how this has affected my bond with my husband.
My dear even if you don't have kid's back to back once you become a mother it's never the same most especially abroad the lord is our strength just that it get to a point you are use to it
@@evanonyinye2898 you see that bonding part with your husband, start working on it my sister especially & not forgetting to prioritize YOU. Self care/self love is our therapy in this journey of motherhood 🙏❤️
We value your honesty, Dyna honestly! We women need to see both sides of marriage, when it's sweet and when it's not so sweet, and when it's sweet again. We are not judging you. We are here for more honest discussions. Honestly, love your vlogs - especially when you go to the village!
I kind of understand how you feel, I was in similar situation with long distance marriage, a 14 years age gap with kids very young and I can tell you that this situation is part of the dynamics in marriage. The only difference is that I am now in my early 40's and I'll do things differently if I was 25 again or even 30! I'll separate motherhood from love and marriage and remember to always think of what the initial attraction was and create time. When the kids grow up you will have a big void otherwise. I might throw some more light on this topic in my next few TH-cam Videos. Very brave of you to share
Dyna, this is quite a vulnerable period and a little bit of being more intentional from both of you will make all things perfect again. Never forget to set aside time no matter how little to pray together at your convenience. Your husband appears not to be as extroverted as you are so please bear that in mind and try to strike a balance. You are a smart young lady! I am sure the separation is transient and soon you both will figure out what works in the best interest of everyone. All the best! As a doctor working in a foreign country, he will also be faced with the pressure of work and foreign work-place dynamics, so always gently check up on him by dropping kind messages of how much he is appreciated by his family, I am sure he will reciprocate in applauding how you are taking care of the kids as well. As for finding your true self, personal purpose and fulfillment, just sit back, get a dairy and pen down in a prioritized manner what you think you derive joy doing then pursue it. If you know your strength and can multitask then go ahead and pursue.
Hey Dyna, I just want to let you know that you're not alone in feeling the strain of being apart from your husband. Long-distance marriages can be so challenging, especially when you crave that daily connection and companionship. The love and commitment you both have for each other are truly special, and it’s okay to feel a bit out of sync sometimes-it doesn't mean the bond is any less strong. Remember, it’s natural to have moments of frustration or loneliness, but it’s in those moments that you can find new ways to connect, like sharing a regular "date" time for just the two of you, or surprising each other with messages that remind each other of what you love about being together. These efforts may feel small, but they really do make a difference in keeping the warmth and closeness alive. This distance won’t last forever, and every day you're apart is one day closer to being together again. You’ve got an amazing strength to stay committed to each other despite the miles in between, and it’s that strength that will see you through. You’re doing so well, and I admire your resilience!
Dyna when you were talking it was like you were describing my situation. I did long distance for 6years the age gap is huge is bigger than yours started motherhood at 21 almost immediately after the marriage, and I married my husband 6months after we met. I have 3 kids which I had them back to backnow and it's so hard. I don't recognize myself don't even know what to do with myself. I recently started my faceless youtube channel(am Camera shy) and I pray it grows so that atleast I have some distractions.
Dyna, it is because of your brutal open intentional honesty that I started following you over 6 years ago. I've Iived the US all my life. I very much Enjoy watching your day to day of your life. Even though our lifestyles are different I'm so comfortable watching you live your life without judgment. You don't pretend like so many and that's what I enjoy the most.
Your honesty is so refreshing. I really appreciate your openness. Rough times in marriage are so hard to navigate especially in young marriages. Thank you for sharing Dyna.
As for gym, hunger and nutrition, plan morning , afternoon and night snacks with your 3 square meals. Prioritise protein and vegetables. Greek Yogurt is a great snack to consider. Have a daily calorie budget
You aren't alone dear, keep doing your best Am in the same situation right, and I feel so confused and feel lonely You are doing great really and I wish to pick up myself just like you're doing and try to enjoy my life while motherhood and long-distance relationship is dealing with me Much love to you from here in ph ❤️
Dyna I can relate very well my husband is 13years older than me but my husband don't even look like is age at all my marriage is 6years with to two beautiful kids my husband have been gone for 3month and it's looking like three years at first I cried most especially when the kids where back from holiday always crying my daddy I literally had to do every single thing myself oh my goodness and I realised my first 6 years of marriage have been centred around my children not having a life of our own now I even realise the things we don't do before like communicating real deep get to know things about each other always wanting to hear from each other is happening now it's made the bound so strong so I can relate so well may God keep blessing our man
What you are feeling is very normal so give yourself some Grace. Long distance relationship are very difficult and add children to the mix takes things up a notch. The good thing is that you are being honest about your feelings. That is a step in the right direction toward communication. Marriage takes constant work and it is never 50/50. But at least you are taking the right step by being honest and open. And marrying young and to someone that you didn't get a chance to get to know and grow a friendship before marriage, you tend to loose yourself. Glad you are taking the steps to get to know you, what you want and desire.
A lot of my friends that married in their 20s say they struggle to find themselves after marriage and childbirth. So I find that getting married and having babies in my 30s gave me a chance to find myself before the craziness. So I’m able to just balance and enjoy this phase without scrambling for pieces of myself to hold on to. At the same time, a part of me misses the whole me before the chaos but I find consolation that this is a season in its own so I just relax and enjoy it while it lasts. As for the long distance marriage part, God is your muscle!!! I did it for 3 months and I almost craze. Na so I carry my load run come Qatar. I can’t even imagine doing it alone with kids. You’re strong!
@@Anjiexpicey you never forget if you really found yourself. It’ll only take you a while but slowly you’ll find your way back to who you were before kids. Took me over a year after my first baby to even begin to feel like myself again. But you will. Also the good thing about humans is the ability to always begin anew. You can rediscover yourself, you did it before, it’ll be much easier the second or third time around.
Thats like thesame thing i was complaining to my husband today, i am five years in marriage too and the communication has dropped, alot has dropped and i was blaming him initially but hearing that i am not the only pne in this im kinda relaxed now.... I hope we all pass this phase strong and much more wiser ❤
Hey sis ♥️ i love your vlogs so much, makes me feel like how i would be enjoying life when i go back home again😍 (i’m Ghanaian by the way). I went through that 5th year marriage caos as well and i really felt like it was over. I prayed like never before and put all my marriage issues in the hands of God and God indeed showed Himself strongly in my marriage that season. Its just a difficult season but just pray and trust God, once you pass this season your marriage will just be amazing again and better and stronger than it has ever been💯💯. The devil is just a liar‼️‼️ Its only God that saved ny marriage m, looking back now, if it wasn’t for God i would have called it quit, but i thank God for so much patient that he gave us both. We have now embarked into our 10th year of marriage beautifully, i love my hubby soo much and wouldn’t replace him for nobody else ♥️♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾…. I wish you the very best sis i know that it is well with your family and your marriage 💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾
All I can say to you. you the most amazing sweet loving Mum. You are raising those Angels very well. God made you a stay at home Mum for a reason and it is evident of how you are in the motherhood journey. Hubby can be far but how you both love your Angels is so amazing. I believe when you reunite it will all about the two of you, strengthening your marriage. May God keep blessing you in Jesus Mighty Name....Hugs from South Africa my dear sis
Dyna long distance relationship is not for the weak. I really understand everything you’re saying, my boyfriend and I have been in this long distance relationships and trust me is not easy. But all is well, I know both of you are really trying but all is well ❤❤❤❤❤
Awww... Dyna. It's normal. I don't think it's because of a long-distance relationship or age difference. My hubby and I married late and started having children late (not our wish), but we some sometimes disconnect, especially when both of us want to be by ourselves. You are a good mother 👩. Keep it up 👍🏾😍❤️👌🏾!!! Please add yoga to your gym things. It will help you relax. That your homemade food looks good, send me a recipe, please 🙏🏾 !!! Love❤ and hugs 🫂 Dyna!!!
When you understand what is mariage according to God designs, you can understand why being appart one from the other for a long time feels like you're losing yourself. Pray that you will both be able to go through this phase and keep on growing your bond
I know there's no way Odogwu will let his Oriaku slip off his hand. I think he's just gotten comfortable and is focused on the money. Hopefully this will be a wake up call for him, both of you.
Everything seems to be happening fast right. It will pass once your kids are a bit grown, Say the last one be like 6yrs. Just consider this time as a sacrifice time and it’s good you are doing it early at your age . So don’t blame it on anyone, just engage yourself on something like a study or a professional prog and don’t get distracted. Take care of yourself 👍
Yes I will give you all the hugs if I ever saw you you have such a great soul and wonderful in side and out ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ take your time it gonna be fine you and your marriage and all its undersandments god willwork it got love you
It feels that way at a point you will definitely be fine and try and communicate more and just say things the way it is. I trust you to do that you definitely know how to de- stress as a mom❤❤
Dyna, you are doing you best. Although it’s not easy, God is your strength. Surely, everything will work out for you and your husband. You’ve come a long way but you are really doing your best. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing 🥁🤗.
I remember her years back making a video saying a woman is nothing without a man . I may be wrong but she made it seem like a woman’s worth depends on a man or marriage. Now she entered deeply into marriage and understood the wired dynamics.
We choose to enjoy the journey of motherhood despite the challenges that come with it. It never ends , so enjoying it is a must #softlifemummy era❤. Welldone coachD🙌🏾
Mama dyna u are in stage 2 in marriage i ve tried sharing with u a video but i cant on Instagram probably is large. You will get thru it. I sometimes feel same asking my self is this how my life will be. I got married 1 week later my husband travelled. We reunited after 7 months. 1 year later i left back to cmr bc i was pregnant. After 1 yr we travelled together here i am again bck to cmr having a baby. And all the times i had to quite my job. We dont talk often but we keep going. I dont keep that in time. We talk when we fit available. Relax and dont look much into that. It will pass. Pls share with me ur enail so i can share with u e video about stages in marriages 😊
Marriage requires a lot from both parties to work. Sometimes you lose yourself but it's good to find ways to find yourself back and find happiness within you so you grow as a person and in your marriage too.
12:55 sis not only long distance relationship,even when you guys are together the communication is far away now,i even beg for attention, after 3 months we met i got pregnant, we did introduction, my first child was about 2years i got my second child, we did our wedding after 5years i had my last child 2years ago afyer 4years of my second child,now we are 9years in this thing called togetherness,sometimes you feel like giving up,its MARRIAGE either staying together or not that feeling alone will happen
When your husband has a break, both of you fly and meet up somewhere and spend a week together, without chn! Honeymoon You must schedule talk time too without chn
Very relatable blog, I don't think it's just about long distance because you can live in the same house with your spouse and be long distance if you get what I mean. For me, all I can see is growth. Most times when our expectations don't match our reality, it could be frustrating but I think it shows how far we've come. You've grown Dyna, and it's beautiful to see.
Long distance has never been easy for anymore. When you have kids it is better for everyone to be together because when you feel tired of running after the kids, hubby can take over. May God strengthen your family! 🥰🥰🥰
Mama Dyna it’s the social life that affected the kids. I pray God to increase your strength. What you’re doing is called sacrifice. The Lord is with you so please hang in there. 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️.
I had to do this, remind yourself you have the greatest husband, you are blessed, everything you get a chance, was sap chat with your hubby. Its not easy. This is temporary
It’s not easy , even for simple boyfriend girlfriend situation. Communication changes and life is still happening for both parties sometimes you have to let things slide or else it will be arguments all the time.
It is well my dear sis, most time we are lost in motherhood trying to find ourselves in as much as we are taking care of our kids. That phase of communication will be sorted out, some days are like that. Just keep doing you and what keeps you happy, you will be fine nne.
Motherhood is a great blessing and yes when you have kids back to back the tendency to lose yourself in raising kids is very high. Marriage is not easy but it will settle as the kids grow. I had my kids back to back especially the first 2, the toddler stage seemed to be the hardest. But it will get better don't worry, God always makes a way
Dyna what you’re feeling is very normal. Even couples living together go through this phase. It’s called MARRIAGE. It’s not supposed to be all rosy. It’s not age gap or friendship, it’s the fact that you’re growing, your husband is growing and the kids are also growing. I admire the fact that you’re not scared to share this aspect of your life but believe me it’s very normal. It’s called life. Continue trying and building rapport with your husband at every stage. Do not lose communication even if it’s hard and with time you all will adjust. I’ve been here since your single days and it’s inspiring to see every stage of life since I subscribed. You make motherhood look really easy and from my point of view you’re not lost in it. You really balance your life out even with how difficult it is. Sending you so much love❤
I could not have said this better. Well said. Please load up on what @Tinfoil said.
Yeah communication is key and many people think regular communication in a long distance marriage/relationship is unsustainable. However, if you spoke with couples living together, you'll be surprised majority don't even talk and are more of roommates than lovers.
Mama dyna you will knock of juice ooo if you go to the gym and want to shed weight. Salad cream is a NO NO too. Drink water or eat fresh fruits like apple and all the berries not mango, pineapple or watermelon
Beautiful response. I fully support this.
Thanks for a beautiful comment for our momma Dyna!
Dyna, I am Kenyan and I love following your channel. What if I suggest that you visit your husband in Saudi let’s say two weeks. This time do not go with your children but live them with your mum. This two weeks will be good for just you and your husband to bond without kids around. Your kids love their grandma and I believe they will be fine.
Nice constructive suggestion
Yes this is a great Idea. Making the sacrifice to show him that you're still his woman even without the children.
Tuko huku pia😅, anyways I am for your suggestion too
I like that you strive to make honest content. Marriage is no cakewalk
By far one of your best videos: The honesty, vulnerability, personal rebranding and your quest for balance is surely remarkable. You ll find yourself as you go on.
Thanks for being vulnerable dyna❤ I am 23 and my husband is older by 8 years and I know it’s not easy. It is not easy ooo eh! If I can advise you on one thing from the little I know so far, it takes two willing people to make a relationship work. Yes you will fight, infact e go belle full you, but as long as you both are willing to work and fight for what you have everything will be alright.
As for that finding yourself topic… it’s is a table I am currently balancing on - please don’t break it😂 but I know we will figure this out! Weldone mama ❤ sending hugs from my side!
I can relate to the gap between partners. My mum worked and lived in a different city while we lived with our dad in another city. Although my mum came home every weekend. When I got married I told myself I would never stay away from my spouse for any reason. My mum also strongly advised me to at all cost stick with my husband. Even though giving up my NYSC to relocate with hubby was a HARD decision in reality, I’m happy I moved with him. We saw the relocation shege together. I’m grateful it made us stronger. I can also relate to getting to know each other well before kids. I’m happy our plan of not having kids immediately worked. We had our first child in year 4 of our wedding. My husband is 9 years older than I am and honestly I don’t see the gap now. We’re more like mates. Well, marriage made up mates 😂.
Keep up the good work Dyna. You’re doing well honestly.
Dyna, remember you said you wanted to do an msc. I think its time to do it now. You said sometimes feel like you are looking for what to do when your kids are at school. Please restart school, maybe msc and phd, it might help. I am rooting for you🎉
You are not alone. We give so much into "building family" that we forget our own needs or purpose.
It really takes a strong and genuine heart to say all this. Sending you all the love and hugs dearest ❤❤❤
Ever Heard of the 5yr Itch. Look it up. It's real and lots of married couples go through it. Need to try and reconnect with your spouse so you both dont drift apart
I have a baby less than 2years old and my husband keeps motivating me not to focus on our child but on myself and US as couples and I think he’s right so I have learned to focus on myself while he help out
Dyna your honesty is remarkable. I hope you find yourself through all these changes and your marriage unravels beautifully
Take a deep breath, it is a phase, even for we that live together. Pray, pray and pray. This phase will pass. When you come out of this phase, it will be like a rebirth for your relationship but you need the Holy Spirit s guidance and presence in your hearts. That third cord is needed in this phase now than ever.❤
You are so honest and I respect this fact a lot, distance marriage can make a human insane if not carefully handled, you have no one except a few friends that are also busy most of the time with their own life, generally dear life is not easy...
The way I love Dyna’s “over sharing” cos it shows her vulnerable side and human side. Your honesty is invaluable. Nne m all you discussed is all valid and true! Once you have kids, one does loose oneself in the process especially, if you’re an intentional and present parent.
Study shows that postpartum lasts for as long as your last child is about 3 years old. So, be kind to yourself and take baby steps in rediscovering yourself. With time, you’ll become a whole new better human being xx hugs hugs Dyna xx
Your feelings are valid mama and its great that you can articulate your feelings ❤❤❤. Long distance marriages can be tough, but I know you"ll both look back on this time in the future and be proud of yourselves for making it work and pulling through. You both just need to ensure that you're constantly communicating your feelings to each other and finding ways to make each other feel like a priority even though you're miles apart. All is well! ❤❤❤
you are indeed an open book..
Honestly Dyna, long distance marriage is not easy and also like u said having kids back to back, there is always a tendency to loose yourself. You’re doing a good job as a mum! You’re a super mum and don’t worry everything will fall in place with time❤
Having to create contents having kids back to back is a while lot of hard work.
She tried
Since 2015 that i became a mother i am still finding myself 🙄 had kids back to back. My dear people of God, back to back is not for tge weak especially if you are in abroad.
Hhmmm this is my story. I had my 3 kids under 3years in the abroad, and my life hasn't been the same. I keep screaming out my lungs every day. Although, a lot of people have assured me that things will get better as they grow, and I honestly hope it does cos at this point, it feels like I am going mental. Let's not even speak about how this has affected my bond with my husband.
My dear even if you don't have kid's back to back once you become a mother it's never the same most especially abroad the lord is our strength just that it get to a point you are use to it
@@evanonyinye2898 you see that bonding part with your husband, start working on it my sister especially & not forgetting to prioritize YOU. Self care/self love is our therapy in this journey of motherhood 🙏❤️
@@MrsAngieonewithchrist Amen my dear. It will definitely get better IJN AMEN 🙏 😍
Same here my sister@@evanonyinye2898
We value your honesty, Dyna honestly! We women need to see both sides of marriage, when it's sweet and when it's not so sweet, and when it's sweet again. We are not judging you. We are here for more honest discussions. Honestly, love your vlogs - especially when you go to the village!
I kind of understand how you feel, I was in similar situation with long distance marriage, a 14 years age gap with kids very young and I can tell you that this situation is part of the dynamics in marriage.
The only difference is that I am now in my early 40's and I'll do things differently if I was 25 again or even 30! I'll separate motherhood from love and marriage and remember to always think of what the initial attraction was and create time. When the kids grow up you will have a big void otherwise. I might throw some more light on this topic in my next few TH-cam Videos.
Very brave of you to share
Motherhood + Marriage = it is well ❤
Dyna, this is quite a vulnerable period and a little bit of being more intentional from both of you will make all things perfect again. Never forget to set aside time no matter how little to pray together at your convenience.
Your husband appears not to be as extroverted as you are so please bear that in mind and try to strike a balance. You are a smart young lady!
I am sure the separation is transient and soon you both will figure out what works in the best interest of everyone. All the best!
As a doctor working in a foreign country, he will also be faced with the pressure of work and foreign work-place dynamics, so always gently check up on him by dropping kind messages of how much he is appreciated by his family, I am sure he will reciprocate in applauding how you are taking care of the kids as well. As for finding your true self, personal purpose and fulfillment, just sit back, get a dairy and pen down in a prioritized manner what you think you derive joy doing then pursue it. If you know your strength and can multitask then go ahead and pursue.
You hit the nail on the head mama🔥
Hey Dyna,
I just want to let you know that you're not alone in feeling the strain of being apart from your husband. Long-distance marriages can be so challenging, especially when you crave that daily connection and companionship. The love and commitment you both have for each other are truly special, and it’s okay to feel a bit out of sync sometimes-it doesn't mean the bond is any less strong. Remember, it’s natural to have moments of frustration or loneliness, but it’s in those moments that you can find new ways to connect, like sharing a regular "date" time for just the two of you, or surprising each other with messages that remind each other of what you love about being together. These efforts may feel small, but they really do make a difference in keeping the warmth and closeness alive. This distance won’t last forever, and every day you're apart is one day closer to being together again. You’ve got an amazing strength to stay committed to each other despite the miles in between, and it’s that strength that will see you through. You’re doing so well, and I admire your resilience!
Dyna when you were talking it was like you were describing my situation. I did long distance for 6years the age gap is huge is bigger than yours started motherhood at 21 almost immediately after the marriage, and I married my husband 6months after we met. I have 3 kids which I had them back to backnow and it's so hard. I don't recognize myself don't even know what to do with myself. I recently started my faceless youtube channel(am Camera shy) and I pray it grows so that atleast I have some distractions.
I Just followed you.
I want to start mine too but I don't even know where to start from.
Dyna, it is because of your brutal open intentional honesty that I started following you over 6 years ago. I've Iived the US all my life. I very much Enjoy watching your day to day of your life. Even though our lifestyles are different I'm so comfortable watching you live your life without judgment. You don't pretend like so many and that's what I enjoy the most.
Your honesty is so refreshing. I really appreciate your openness. Rough times in marriage are so hard to navigate especially in young marriages. Thank you for sharing Dyna.
I can totally relate cos I've done long-distance marriage before, and hmm,it's not easy😊 I'm sending you hugs from here.
The Lord is your strength
As for gym, hunger and nutrition, plan morning , afternoon and night snacks with your 3 square meals. Prioritise protein and vegetables. Greek Yogurt is a great snack to consider. Have a daily calorie budget
You aren't alone dear, keep doing your best
Am in the same situation right, and I feel so confused and feel lonely
You are doing great really and I wish to pick up myself just like you're doing and try to enjoy my life while motherhood and long-distance relationship is dealing with me
Much love to you from here in ph ❤️
Dyna is eating chicken mama and chicken pikin together...😂😂😂😂
U both will be fine....the Lord's ur strength 🧡🧡🧡
Dyna I can relate very well my husband is 13years older than me but my husband don't even look like is age at all my marriage is 6years with to two beautiful kids my husband have been gone for 3month and it's looking like three years at first I cried most especially when the kids where back from holiday always crying my daddy I literally had to do every single thing myself oh my goodness and I realised my first 6 years of marriage have been centred around my children not having a life of our own now I even realise the things we don't do before like communicating real deep get to know things about each other always wanting to hear from each other is happening now it's made the bound so strong so I can relate so well may God keep blessing our man
First person here today,❤❤❤,God is your straight okay
What you are feeling is very normal so give yourself some Grace. Long distance relationship are very difficult and add children to the mix takes things up a notch. The good thing is that you are being honest about your feelings. That is a step in the right direction toward communication. Marriage takes constant work and it is never 50/50. But at least you are taking the right step by being honest and open. And marrying young and to someone that you didn't get a chance to get to know and grow a friendship before marriage, you tend to loose yourself. Glad you are taking the steps to get to know you, what you want and desire.
A lot of my friends that married in their 20s say they struggle to find themselves after marriage and childbirth.
So I find that getting married and having babies in my 30s gave me a chance to find myself before the craziness.
So I’m able to just balance and enjoy this phase without scrambling for pieces of myself to hold on to.
At the same time, a part of me misses the whole me before the chaos but I find consolation that this is a season in its own so I just relax and enjoy it while it lasts.
As for the long distance marriage part, God is your muscle!!!
I did it for 3 months and I almost craze. Na so I carry my load run come Qatar.
I can’t even imagine doing it alone with kids. You’re strong!
God is your Muscle, I like that.
Yea but motherhood takes over the. U forget how you were b4kids
@@Anjiexpicey you never forget if you really found yourself. It’ll only take you a while but slowly you’ll find your way back to who you were before kids.
Took me over a year after my first baby to even begin to feel like myself again. But you will.
Also the good thing about humans is the ability to always begin anew. You can rediscover yourself, you did it before, it’ll be much easier the second or third time around.
@@justporsh_ that’s very interesting and it makes sense a lot
mama hope you are using sunscreen?
The balance ‼️
Love that for you 🫶🫶
Dyna you are authentic 🎉🎉🎉seriously I appreciate you so much dear.
South Africa
Thats like thesame thing i was complaining to my husband today, i am five years in marriage too and the communication has dropped, alot has dropped and i was blaming him initially but hearing that i am not the only pne in this im kinda relaxed now....
I hope we all pass this phase strong and much more wiser ❤
Love ❤️ ❤❤❤
Hey sis ♥️ i love your vlogs so much, makes me feel like how i would be enjoying life when i go back home again😍 (i’m Ghanaian by the way).
I went through that 5th year marriage caos as well and i really felt like it was over. I prayed like never before and put all my marriage issues in the hands of God and God indeed showed Himself strongly in my marriage that season.
Its just a difficult season but just pray and trust God, once you pass this season your marriage will just be amazing again and better and stronger than it has ever been💯💯.
The devil is just a liar‼️‼️
Its only God that saved ny marriage m, looking back now, if it wasn’t for God i would have called it quit, but i thank God for so much patient that he gave us both. We have now embarked into our 10th year of marriage beautifully, i love my hubby soo much and wouldn’t replace him for nobody else ♥️♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾…. I wish you the very best sis i know that it is well with your family and your marriage 💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾
It's nice to see you making time for yourself.
Sending loads of Love ❤❤❤❤
Your meal looks yummy 😋 nice having this conversation with us ❤
I miss you 😢lost my IG page and haven’t really created a new one! Your skin is looking beautiful 😍
All I can say to you. you the most amazing sweet loving Mum. You are raising those Angels very well. God made you a stay at home Mum for a reason and it is evident of how you are in the motherhood journey. Hubby can be far but how you both love your Angels is so amazing. I believe when you reunite it will all about the two of you, strengthening your marriage. May God keep blessing you in Jesus Mighty Name....Hugs from South Africa my dear sis
It's well my dear, you are so true about it...some times you know we can't help the situation ❤😊 delicious breakfast 😅
Dyna long distance relationship is not for the weak. I really understand everything you’re saying, my boyfriend and I have been in this long distance relationships and trust me is not easy. But all is well, I know both of you are really trying but all is well ❤❤❤❤❤
I can relate,hmm its not easy at all...this my situation right now .....I'm sending my hug from here dear
You are doing your best my sister love you jare
thanks for talking about this Dyna, i needed to hear this and understand i'm not alone.
good to know i am not alone ,long distance marriage is not for the faint hearted
Awww... Dyna. It's normal. I don't think it's because of a long-distance relationship or age difference. My hubby and I married late and started having children late (not our wish), but we some sometimes disconnect, especially when both of us want to be by ourselves.
You are a good mother 👩. Keep it up 👍🏾😍❤️👌🏾!!! Please add yoga to your gym things. It will help you relax. That your homemade food looks good, send me a recipe, please 🙏🏾 !!!
Love❤ and hugs 🫂 Dyna!!!
When you understand what is mariage according to God designs, you can understand why being appart one from the other for a long time feels like you're losing yourself. Pray that you will both be able to go through this phase and keep on growing your bond
I know there's no way Odogwu will let his Oriaku slip off his hand. I think he's just gotten comfortable and is focused on the money. Hopefully this will be a wake up call for him, both of you.
Everything seems to be happening fast right. It will pass once your kids are a bit grown, Say the last one be like 6yrs. Just consider this time as a sacrifice time and it’s good you are doing it early at your age . So don’t blame it on anyone, just engage yourself on something like a study or a professional prog and don’t get distracted. Take care of yourself 👍
So happy to see your post
Yes I will give you all the hugs if I ever saw you you have such a great soul and wonderful in side and out ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ take your time it gonna be fine you and your marriage and all its undersandments god willwork it got love you
Out
HUGS….🤗
Do What Excites
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From here,I can relate to everything you said
So relatable my marriage is in 6 years and going through similar, so relatable, thank you for being so vulnerable love your content 💕😘
You’ve been a wonderful mum and this is cheers to being your authentic self in all of this❤️
Is like that when I visited i was free same too do worry the kids will be fine ❤❤loving every video of you 🎉🎉🎉🎉
Bless you Dyna ..... It gets better, it will get Better
It feels that way at a point you will definitely be fine and try and communicate more and just say things the way it is. I trust you to do that you definitely know how to de- stress as a mom❤❤
I love this vlog.mama dyna u are doing well. I love u
Dyna, you are doing you best. Although it’s not easy, God is your strength. Surely, everything will work out for you and your husband. You’ve come a long way but you are really doing your best. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing 🥁🤗.
Dyna baby get sunscreen for your self and Maamaamaa🙏.
22:57 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👌🏽
I remember her years back making a video saying a woman is nothing without a man .
I may be wrong but she made it seem like a woman’s worth depends on a man or marriage.
Now she entered deeply into marriage and understood the wired dynamics.
We choose to enjoy the journey of motherhood despite the challenges that come with it. It never ends , so enjoying it is a must #softlifemummy era❤. Welldone coachD🙌🏾
❤ Also, is that Queensly?
Mama dyna u are in stage 2 in marriage i ve tried sharing with u a video but i cant on Instagram probably is large. You will get thru it. I sometimes feel same asking my self is this how my life will be. I got married 1 week later my husband travelled. We reunited after 7 months. 1 year later i left back to cmr bc i was pregnant. After 1 yr we travelled together here i am again bck to cmr having a baby. And all the times i had to quite my job. We dont talk often but we keep going. I dont keep that in time. We talk when we fit available. Relax and dont look much into that. It will pass. Pls share with me ur enail so i can share with u e video about stages in marriages 😊
Hmmm I can relate with frustration of not having time for you’re own things hmm back to back is not easy❤
LOT'S OF LOVE BEAUTIFUL QUEEN 🫡👑❤️💯
I appreciate your honesty
You are not alone Daina❤️
Marriage requires a lot from both parties to work. Sometimes you lose yourself but it's good to find ways to find yourself back and find happiness within you so you grow as a person and in your marriage too.
Yes it happened to my relationship too, until finally we reconnected.
The distance marriage is not a joke, I can relate but try to communicate even if is message then he will reply you when his free ❤
Sending you virtual hugs 🤗.
12:55 sis not only long distance relationship,even when you guys are together the communication is far away now,i even beg for attention, after 3 months we met i got pregnant, we did introduction, my first child was about 2years i got my second child, we did our wedding after 5years i had my last child 2years ago afyer 4years of my second child,now we are 9years in this thing called togetherness,sometimes you feel like giving up,its MARRIAGE either staying together or not that feeling alone will happen
When your husband has a break, both of you fly and meet up somewhere and spend a week together, without chn! Honeymoon
You must schedule talk time too without chn
Very relatable blog, I don't think it's just about long distance because you can live in the same house with your spouse and be long distance if you get what I mean.
For me, all I can see is growth. Most times when our expectations don't match our reality, it could be frustrating but I think it shows how far we've come.
You've grown Dyna, and it's beautiful to see.
Long distance has never been easy for anymore. When you have kids it is better for everyone to be together because when you feel tired of running after the kids, hubby can take over. May God strengthen your family! 🥰🥰🥰
Mama Dyna it’s the social life that affected the kids. I pray God to increase your strength. What you’re doing is called sacrifice. The Lord is with you so please hang in there.
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I thought of you yesterday or earlier today. I was just wondering how you are doing.and then later today, I saw your video
You are beautiful. The Lord is your strength
I get the same reaction after being in the sun for hours
I had to do this, remind yourself you have the greatest husband, you are blessed, everything you get a chance, was sap chat with your hubby. Its not easy. This is temporary
Don’t worry you will over come that soon. And 10 years is not that much you will enjoy yourselves later.
Very matured conversation. I did long distance marraige for 2 years I can tell you , it is not for the weak
Madam Okafor it is a phase that always take away our own desires and race children. we all go through that. sending hugs and kisses.
It’s not easy , even for simple boyfriend girlfriend situation. Communication changes and life is still happening for both parties sometimes you have to let things slide or else it will be arguments all the time.
The lord is your strength, just remain positive.marriage is not easy, I relate with your story
Dyna ❤️❤️❤️
It is well my dear sis, most time we are lost in motherhood trying to find ourselves in as much as we are taking care of our kids. That phase of communication will be sorted out, some days are like that. Just keep doing you and what keeps you happy, you will be fine nne.
The Lord is your strenght. With time everything will be alright many people are also pass through this condition, keep loving your family. ❤❤❤❤
I share your video done❤🎉🎉
I understood u perfectly well because I'm in this distance nightmare marriage too,its really killing my sister
Motherhood is a great blessing and yes when you have kids back to back the tendency to lose yourself in raising kids is very high. Marriage is not easy but it will settle as the kids grow. I had my kids back to back especially the first 2, the toddler stage seemed to be the hardest. But it will get better don't worry, God always makes a way