My niece Maryam, I’m so proud of you for sharing your story with the world. I remember when you got married at 18 at that time, and believe me, this girl was incredibly strong even at such a young age. You never showed the pain you were carrying, you always looked happy and beautiful, as you still do. To everyone watching, I encourage you to subscribe and like this channel to hear more about how she healed, grew, and built a beautiful life with her three amazing daughters. Her journey is truly inspiring, and there’s so much we can all learn from her resilience Wlhi. Habo Anna halkaan ban kala socdaa, I can’t wait your vlogs with caruurta ayeeyada u ahay. ❤
Omg you just gave me the courage to speak about my experience..sudani sis here.. Thank you for sharing. I was there too, making decisions that did not serve me...Thank God for growth.
Somalia has changed a lot!! The first time I went was 2017 and saw so much corruption but 2024 I saw sooo many changes Alhamdullilah…my mom used to always say Somalia will get better, Somalia will get better. Never believed it until I went back in 2024
Yeah, sister that's wright. People have to look where we come from. There's a big difference so we have to thank to Allah who gave us that Alxamdullilah.
Your story is inspiring. Proud of you for making the decision to choose you and your children no matter the cost. Bravo! cheers to an amazing future.....
You live and you learn sis. People marrying in their 30s have experienced this. Allways know your self worth and allways strive to be better. If you partner dont align with your values, its better to let them go. God bless you and yout family
@@zenmama2107 Senegal! Welcome sister! Alhamdulillah it’s good that you found my channel xabiibti. We need a space where we can get information and learn as divorcees single mothers and young women who need guidance ❤️
Such incredible young lady. Proud of you sis 👏🏾🙌🏾🤩 and believe me Allah allowed divorce for a reason. Happy mother produce happy kids, you are a role model for your daughters and the young survivors out there 🙏🏾👏🏾👍🏾🤴🏾😍
Masha Allah you are strong mother ❤ To girls out there never marry if you see a man who pushes to marry quickly. If Someone wanting get married quickly is a big red flag 🚩 take your time and do your own research on them.
I can some how relate to the story as I had decided to get married to someone abroad.I immediately regreted it.The stress of getting their papers,the fact that they became dependent on me and did mot want to work took a toll on me.I was able to get the papers and stayed with him for 9 years .I should have ended it sooner.I lost my youth through my stupidity and my chance to a happy life. The only thing left is my son that I live for but I guess when he is grown,I will be left on my own.
Masha’allah, I am so happy to hear that you had the courage to leave all that toxicity for both for you and your children. They’re lucky to have a strong mama . Wishing you all the best sis with university and balancing mom life. Allah knows it’s not easy. May Allah bless you all. Sending you so many prayers your way sis. Amin🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕
Sis your story sounds almost identical to mine. From getting married at 18 to the silent treatment to the pressure to bring him over to the country. This is the first time ever that I feel like I related to someone. Alhamdulillah I was able to get out of that
@@Pearrlsdimondz alhamdulillah sis! I’m so proud of you. I would like to hear more about your story. Follow me on TikTok and message me xabiibti. I started this channel for someone like you. ❤️
Just stumbled across this and I admire your strength and courage, may Allah bless you and your children❤ also to hear you managed to learn swedish and somali around the same age i am now was inspiring lol i thought it would be quite difficult to learn my language
Masha Allah sister, you are very smart and beautiful, keep going. Many Somali women's mental health and the mental health of their children gets destroyed because they stay in abusive marriages as they desperately try to avoid the Single Mother Label. I would love to remind my Somali sisters that a marriage supposed to be beneficial to all, spouses and children so if it's harmful to anyone involved, please don't overthink, just get out while you are able.
@@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d yes sis I am scared to marry them because of my experience from my own father and the women around me. They don’t seem to be good fathers and they are not good husbands either. I don’t see them as romantic, nurturing etc. I can’t blame them too much though because I think it might be the cultural influence and maybe how their moms raise them. Unfortunately at this point sis due to all the negativity I feel towards them I don’t even feel attraction when I see them even if they are good looking. Of course at the end of the day it is all up to Allah but I want to live a peaceful and long lasting marriage and I don’t feel like they offer that.
I promise you...try ajenabi and you will be traumatised 10 times more. Dont generelise everyone bec of your past experience. If you think the other side is green you will be dissappointed. Ajenabi will never treat as his own .As years go on a d we age in a mix race marriage everyone tends to be drawn back to his identity and culture...so man will Definitly want have relationship with his own kind hence divorce. Remember that. 90-95% of mix race relationship fail. Thats is just the statistics.
As Somalia man, we aren't perfect but please don't generalize all the Men's, Sorry for the experience you had with your father, but Insha'Allah I wish you will find a good Somali men who will show you love,compassion and a good father to your future kids, stay blessed
MashaAllah abaayo, may Allah make it easy for. I am around same age as you, also with 3kids. And as a married woman, I know that marriage is hard but in some cases not something one can bear or deal with. So more power to you and your journey 🌸
Marian Sh Hussein A Somali Lady with very beautiful story telling, a very strong artistically Narrated . As film maker I would Mss.Marian call her our next documentary maker. Thank you for been able simple diary to deliver fabulously. I am a male .and you owned my ears to listen from now on all your future story telling. Keep the faith and never give up I see in you higher prospect in play film documentary. .
Walalu, I am very proud of you. You should keep your achievements to yourself. Our community may talk behind your back. Social media is evil. but good luck with whatever you do. The market for finding a good man is tough ❤❤❤❤
Somali’s have the most single moms and it’s not good usually it happens because they think the grass is greener on the other side but not really. Your problem was being married while being in separate countries and usually long distance relationships never work. You were basically a single mom while living separately.
@@FirdousDreamer absolutely correct in the fact that I was a single mum while I Was still with him. The part about greener grass on the other side, I’m on the other side. I have 3 beautiful healthy daughter who are academically achieving and we have our Lord.
Not single mom most of the men are in multiple marriages even in the western because they marry in mosques. And the men some will neglect the feelings of their wives disapproval of Co -Wives. The men move on in less than months and wife someone else’s like they first wife meant nothing. I knew one who beat hell out of his wife and blew out her tooth. She narrated how he used her to pay his loans and she is in depts while he marry another. It’s many bad stories I heard. Another just dump his wife who bought him from somalia and marry another Somalia he saw stating she look better
@@Golden-ls1sb wow thank you for sharing these accounts. Unfortunately many men will look at my content and immediately think something negative or to attack. However, this issue regarding divorce, although it’s high, there’s stories like the ones you said now and I don’t believe any women should have to stay in a marriage unhappy or abused. So let’s keep sharing! 💪
Alhamdulillah you have such a positive mentality and you have 2 beautiful girls may Allah protect you all. This was all destined by Allah (swt), that no good will come your way without the permission of Allah and no evil will come your way without the permission of Allah.
I travelled to Somalia many times, i never saw people sitting on the floor in the plane. Were you in a plane or a small helicopter when you saw some people sitting on the floor?.
Masha Allah Allahuma Barik so proud of you huno ❤ I have an amazing husband masha Allah but I would like to learn about the schema to raise my baby boy really healthy and happy ☺
First off, your are so beautiful allahuma barik. I am glad I watched this video, you are so inspirational. I just wonder though, did this experience put you off Somali men in general? Would it have been better if the man you married was a Somali who grew up in the west?
@@Nomad332 jazzakhallahu qeyran sis. I don’t think it put me off Somali men but I am extremely cautious hence why I have chosen to be single and it’s over 8 years now. I love my culture and I love Somali people. I went through phases where I was angry and healed, attended therapy and prayed. My view is much more broad as a result. What about you?
@@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Alhamdulillah! To be honest I would love to marry a Somali man but I feel like I have been disrespected by them the most, just because I’m not your typical Somali girl I feel like non Somali men are more respectful, maybe cos Somali men are more comfortable around me and feel like they can treat me anyhow. Perhaps I’ve just not met the right type but to be honest it hasn’t put me off them completely.
@@Nomad332 sax abaayo I get you. One thing I always love by is: focus on your life and build a life and career you enjoy, open yourself up to new things. When the time is right, the right person will join your life, and if it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world xabiibti. Have some to inf for yourself to fall back on and build your life then you have more choices. ❤️
Hi sis did you make a mistake when you said 2012 because we are of similar age (32)and I was 18 2010 😅😅 and not 2012 (funny got also married when I was 18).
Wow sis your strong keep going and Yh I went to bosaaso with my 2 older brothers and cousin we stayed there 10 years honestly but alhamdulilah my elders brother looked after us he was in his early twenties I was there from the age of 7 to 17. one of my successful mashallah 32 year old bro went to a horrible famous boarding school for a year in Bosaso omg the manager was horrible but anyways, I had arranged marriage at the age of 14 to one relative auntie’s son. My mum was just super strict religious and just wanted me to get married. Didn’t work out It was a couple of months and I was just young and confused and never understood what was happening, anyways I got back to the Uk and education then I got married at 18. I had my son was married 5 years got divorced and single mother 4 years my boy is now 8 years old but yeah I enjoyed life with my family in the UK all my siblings came back went back to education got good jobs and kids and they are happily married but if I could look back and change things would be if I had a choice I would not want to be there from a young age back home for a very long time and not to be forced I am against arrange marriage totally it shouldn’t be allowed even in back home because your just a kid not mentally mature to decide what your doing or consequences it could have on you. I am a mother that is 27 today I would not wanna leave my child’s side or leave him but I guess back in the days it was difficult my mum was a single mother obviously working providing for us, we had an amazing childhood overall and always got what we wanted in life and I’m grateful to her always and we all appreciate hooyo regardless but it was just probably the only way she knew doing things but the impact it had on my mental health I can’t lie growing up from the age of 22 I was really depressed It took me years of therapy healing depressed it affected my mental health and yeah, I’m glad I’m better today. It was amazing watching your story time I enjoyed it to fullest. I’m looking forward to watch your other videos thank you so much sis 💕👑🙌
Wow thank you for sharing your story it’s crazy you got married at 14 maskiin. Alhamdullillah I’m so happy you’re doing better sis may Allah bless you ❤
Hi girl! It's wonderful to see Somali sisters sharing their stories. I have a question because I've never been to Somalia, but my partner needs to go to Bosaso soon, inshallah, for about a year. I'm considering going with him, but we have young children, and I'm feeling anxious. I have a lot of thoughts, mainly about the healthcare system. What if we get sick? There are no GPs or NHS services with reliable doctors. I know I'm making assumptions, but I'm really worried. How easy was it for you to settle in? How hot is a HOT? Do you think it would be beneficial for us? Also, my Somali isn’t great, and I'm concerned about struggling with the dialect and accent. Thanks!
@@falishahusseinable hey sis. Firstly thank you so much for your kind words and support. Before I answer this question I want to ask: How long are you and your kids staying there for? Where is it? Boss’s was HOT HOT. In terms of healthcare, get them vaccinated before you go and speak to your GP about this. Discuss with your husband. Please answer my question more in depth and I can provide my advice of what I think. ❤️
@@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Hey girl. So, I would be staying in Bosaso for 1 to 2 years. If I don’t like it then I could relocate to Xamar for the remaining time (that’s where my parents originate and by extension me). I think I also want to see Garowe, I’m strong believer of investing in my country rather then staying other African or Middle Eastern countries). We will be there for business but I’m hoping my son could benefit from starting Quran (he is six now). My girls are only 2 and 4 years old so for them it’s more about just learning some little Somali.
Hey, sis! You are a very beautiful woman. You don't need all these men lusting on you. From sister to sister, please cover yourself because you are a gem. Not just from men but from women too. Evil eye is real, my dear.
@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Yes, I like your videos a lot! Ma Sha Allah, you have so much Imaan in your words and face. All you have to do is dress the part, my dear.
@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d sorry I'm not revealing my full name...why do you want my name? I was born there, its normal to marry young in the poor areas, I claimed asylum with my mum after. It's less common now though
Alhamdulilah I married out. Faraxs nowadays r a pain. If you want to sign up to life of poverty and unhappiness, marry them. The good ones r super rare
I listen first 2 minutes about complaining about hot water…on that region of the planet there’s no water straight three years no rain…thank god you got hot water instead no water
Feel sorry for the children. Just make sure children have relationship with their father. The statistics regarding single parent children are not good. Google it. If you have girls protect them from your future potential husband. Keep your eyes wide open. Be a role model for your children and stay close to Allah. If you are in right frame both with regards mentally, spiritually ( salah) and physically you will find a good man - preferably divorced with children.
Here we go another Somali man being triggered by my story. It is what it is, we need to share our stories to help others and make changes. Sending you positive energy.
So meaning she is a bad woman? You never seen or heard of evil bad men always going for good women to enslave and oppress them? Evil men fear evil women and sought out for good women to oppress.
I think you should learn more about your deen and make duas to Allah to guide you, you wear your head scarf as a Muslim and as a role model to your children. May Allah guide you. Ameen
And I think u should that u should not judge other mums every one has there own way of learning and every one has there own guidelines OK so fix urs and leave others, alone OK ☺️🙄😒
Abaayo ,,Great job in letting the public know. The message is getting out. Mental health is key. To the people telling you to wear hijab, this is between you and Allah. Please ignore these useless judgemental people. Secondly, our culture needs to be studied, the good, bad and indifferent. Those of us who are 2nd and 3rd generation living in the West need to be schooled on the dangers of marrying men who are not equally yoked. The culture itself is not supportive of women and girls, we are 2nd class citizens in our own culture. Ladies, get your education, collect your passports and choose your husband( if you choose) wisely. Many men do not qualify to be anyone husbands, they are far to coddled and entitled. The grandmothers and mothers are all male centered and expect you to continue turning a blind eye. Go to university, live with girlfriends travel, and create your wealth. Choose you and choose the man that will give you the life you want. If he is not solving YOUR problems, he will become your biggest problem. Love from the States!!
@@ultimateenigma6038 thank you so much abaayo for this amazing message. It definitely needs to be studied, our culture. This is what people in particular men get triggered by, however it is for the good. I hold myself accountable for my choices and that is why I am able to share my story understanding that I may be under scrutiny. However l, we need to tell so other women are aware of the dangers and also aware of the reality of motherhood and marriage. We are not getting married to live a fairytale which is what we have been fed as the masses for decades through media… anyways you get my drift thanks xabiibti🌹
Who are you as a random man to tell her to wear hijab? You should fear Allah and learn your deen before speaking. Islamically you don’t speak to non-mahram women about their hijab. The only right you have is talking to the women you have rights over-not her!
To wear hijab is command from ALLAH to all muslin women and is the quran and Hadith this is the true and know your religion don’t be feminist come back to your religion
Evil men still treat the hijab wearing ones bad.Most High looks at the mind, hearts, behavior of the woman meaning a woman who doesn’t sleeps around. Hair coverings isn’t a rightsful way to prove to God of being a good woman. There is a reason the private parts of human is hidden between the legs but on the head is covering with full hair up on the body.There are some that cover hair and still men sleep with them at the backside just to protect their virginity. I support covering up the body but the head it’s your choice. Because God want women to dress modesty.
@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d I am a parole man and a Community liaison officer. You could not imagine the children held in the youth detention centres from around here. Study is strongly showing correlation between single mother and juvenile delinquency. It has to slow down or stopped one way or another.SM is child abuse period.
@@kamungangane221 first of all, nobody is upset. Second of all, this type of content is for my target audience, individuals who may have been through similar experiences or not. To teach women to not make the same decisions that I did and also learn lessons from each other. So, please, do the honours and don’t spend time watching content that’s not for you.
My niece Maryam, I’m so proud of you for sharing your story with the world.
I remember when you got married at 18 at that time, and believe me, this girl was incredibly strong even at such a young age. You never showed the pain you were carrying, you always looked happy and beautiful, as you still do. To everyone watching, I encourage you to subscribe and like this channel to hear more about how she healed, grew, and built a beautiful life with her three amazing daughters. Her journey is truly inspiring, and there’s so much we can all learn from her resilience Wlhi.
Habo Anna halkaan ban kala socdaa, I can’t wait your vlogs with caruurta ayeeyada u ahay. ❤
@@XUBI12345 thank you Habo Macaan ❤️
Omg you just gave me the courage to speak about my experience..sudani sis here.. Thank you for sharing. I was there too, making decisions that did not serve me...Thank God for growth.
Yes it’s so prevalent in many communities I’m happy this pushed you to finally speak up ❤
Somalia has changed a lot!! The first time I went was 2017 and saw so much corruption but 2024 I saw sooo many changes Alhamdullilah…my mom used to always say Somalia will get better, Somalia will get better. Never believed it until I went back in 2024
Wow I can’t wait to go back! ❤
Yeah, sister that's wright. People have to look where we come from. There's a big difference so we have to thank to Allah who gave us that Alxamdullilah.
Thanks for sharing sis! There are many who have similar stories. May Allah protect you and your family.
@@ademzh amiin! ❤️
AMAZING STORY! Please more stories. Your sooo goood. Cant stop listening ❤❤❤
Your story is inspiring. Proud of you for making the decision to choose you and your children no matter the cost. Bravo! cheers to an amazing future.....
Mental health is very important and you’re very strong.
You live and you learn sis. People marrying in their 30s have experienced this. Allways know your self worth and allways strive to be better. If you partner dont align with your values, its better to let them go. God bless you and yout family
So true ❤❤❤
We have so much in common I am 31 and got married in Sénégal at 19 with a lot of trauma as well. Make Allah SWT protect and heal you 🙏🏾 Amine
@@zenmama2107 Senegal! Welcome sister! Alhamdulillah it’s good that you found my channel xabiibti. We need a space where we can get information and learn as divorcees single mothers and young women who need guidance ❤️
You are a brave woman to share your story, and I hope it will help those who are going through the same difficulties that went through.
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Such incredible young lady. Proud of you sis 👏🏾🙌🏾🤩 and believe me Allah allowed divorce for a reason. Happy mother produce happy kids, you are a role model for your daughters and the young survivors out there 🙏🏾👏🏾👍🏾🤴🏾😍
Mashallah sis I'm so proud of you. You're so beautiful and strong. May Allah bless you and your daughters 😭💚
@@ashmonbebe4life299 thank you amiin 🤲🏾
Masha Allah you are strong mother ❤
To girls out there never marry if you see a man who pushes to marry quickly. If Someone wanting get married quickly is a big red flag 🚩 take your time and do your own research on them.
Yes abaayo you’re so right that’s great advice! ❤
I can some how relate to the story as I had decided to get married to someone abroad.I immediately regreted it.The stress of getting their papers,the fact that they became dependent on me and did mot want to work took a toll on me.I was able to get the papers and stayed with him for 9 years .I should have ended it sooner.I lost my youth through my stupidity and my chance to a happy life.
The only thing left is my son that I live for but I guess when he is grown,I will be left on my own.
Masha’allah, I am so happy to hear that you had the courage to leave all that toxicity for both for you and your children. They’re lucky to have a strong mama . Wishing you all the best sis with university and balancing mom life. Allah knows it’s not easy. May Allah bless you all. Sending you so many prayers your way sis. Amin🙏🏽🙏🏽💕💕
Sis your story sounds almost identical to mine. From getting married at 18 to the silent treatment to the pressure to bring him over to the country.
This is the first time ever that I feel like I related to someone. Alhamdulillah I was able to get out of that
@@Pearrlsdimondz alhamdulillah sis! I’m so proud of you. I would like to hear more about your story. Follow me on TikTok and message me xabiibti. I started this channel for someone like you. ❤️
My beautiful sister. I am very proud of you so much. Keep going and don't let anyone or farah lugu istakiin dim your light.
@@shukrimohamed8004 😂😂😂amiin xabiibti
Unfortunately, this is very common in our community. I'm glad you survived it. Many young Somali women will appreciate you sharing your story!
@@kafiya_may thanks xabiibti ❤️
Who is breathing behind the camera? I think you need to get a camera stand.
😂😂😂😂😂
@@mizzhelloo 😂😂😂
Keep going beautiful. Allah has a better life planned for you, insh'allah ❤❤❤
Thank you so much 🤗
Just stumbled across this and I admire your strength and courage, may Allah bless you and your children❤ also to hear you managed to learn swedish and somali around the same age i am now was inspiring lol i thought it would be quite difficult to learn my language
@@c.sar6242 abaayo you can learn anything if you put your mind to it!
Habo, you're a young lady who is strong & intelligent ❤❤❤
@@zahrasiman5369 awe thank you habo I appreciate this❤️
Masha Allah sister, you are very smart and beautiful, keep going.
Many Somali women's mental health and the mental health of their children gets destroyed because they stay in abusive marriages as they desperately try to avoid the Single Mother Label.
I would love to remind my Somali sisters that a marriage supposed to be beneficial to all, spouses and children so if it's harmful to anyone involved, please don't overthink, just get out while you are able.
@@farahegeh7475 wallahi you said so much in short words. Thank you sis and you’re so right. I agree with you xabiibti ❤️
I can’t imagine marrying a Somali man let alone one back home. I am glad you survived sis. ❤
@@ss41697 awe thank you lovely. Maskiin do you have any reasons why you would never marry a Somali. I’m interested. ❤️
@@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d yes sis I am scared to marry them because of my experience from my own father and the women around me. They don’t seem to be good fathers and they are not good husbands either. I don’t see them as romantic, nurturing etc. I can’t blame them too much though because I think it might be the cultural influence and maybe how their moms raise them. Unfortunately at this point sis due to all the negativity I feel towards them I don’t even feel attraction when I see them even if they are good looking. Of course at the end of the day it is all up to Allah but I want to live a peaceful and long lasting marriage and I don’t feel like they offer that.
I promise you...try ajenabi and you will be traumatised 10 times more. Dont generelise everyone bec of your past experience. If you think the other side is green you will be dissappointed. Ajenabi will never treat as his own .As years go on a d we age in a mix race marriage everyone tends to be drawn back to his identity and culture...so man will Definitly want have relationship with his own kind hence divorce.
Remember that. 90-95% of mix race relationship fail. Thats is just the statistics.
As Somalia man, we aren't perfect but please don't generalize all the Men's,
Sorry for the experience you had with your father, but Insha'Allah I wish you will find a good Somali men who will show you love,compassion and a good father to your future kids, stay blessed
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MashaAllah abaayo, may Allah make it easy for. I am around same age as you, also with 3kids.
And as a married woman, I know that marriage is hard but in some cases not something one can bear or deal with. So more power to you and your journey 🌸
@@StoriesForKids-v8f ❤️❤️❤️
Marian Sh Hussein
A Somali Lady with very beautiful story telling, a very strong artistically Narrated .
As film maker I would Mss.Marian call her our next documentary maker. Thank you for been able simple diary to deliver fabulously.
I am a male .and you owned my ears to listen from now on all your future story telling. Keep the faith and never give up
I see in you higher prospect in play film documentary. .
Extremely courageous ❤
@@Raumatijd jazzakhallahu qeyran ❤️
So lovely and genuine girl, is such a pleasure listening to your story. You should be proud of yourself Masha Allah 💝💝
@@Teleutibes10kko thank you Walaalo
Hi sis
You look amazing 😍
I hope you well.
I am soo proud of you.
Keep going GIRL 🙌🙌🙌
@@naimaabdalle5129 abaayo naciimo buncun Miyaa 😘
@ yes sis
It’s me
@ mashallah sis I made it! 😂
Walalu, I am very proud of you. You should keep your achievements to yourself. Our community may talk behind your back. Social media is evil. but good luck with whatever you do. The market for finding a good man is tough ❤❤❤❤
The market for finding a good husband is tough and vice versa
Thanks xabiibti
Somali’s have the most single moms and it’s not good usually it happens because they think the grass is greener on the other side but not really. Your problem was being married while being in separate countries and usually long distance relationships never work. You were basically a single mom while living separately.
@@FirdousDreamer absolutely correct in the fact that I was a single mum while I
Was still with him. The part about greener grass on the other side, I’m on the other side. I have 3 beautiful healthy daughter who are academically achieving and we have our Lord.
@@FirdousDreamer it’s definitely a prominent issue in our community.
Not single mom most of the men are in multiple marriages even in the western because they marry in mosques. And the men some will neglect the feelings of their wives disapproval of Co -Wives.
The men move on in less than months and wife someone else’s like they first wife meant nothing.
I knew one who beat hell out of his wife and blew out her tooth. She narrated how he used her to pay his loans and she is in depts while he marry another. It’s many bad stories I heard. Another just dump his wife who bought him from somalia and marry another Somalia he saw stating she look better
@@Golden-ls1sb wow thank you for sharing these accounts. Unfortunately many men will look at my content and immediately think something negative or to attack. However, this issue regarding divorce, although it’s high, there’s stories like the ones you said now and I don’t believe any women should have to stay in a marriage unhappy or abused. So let’s keep sharing! 💪
Alhamdulillah you have such a positive mentality and you have 2 beautiful girls may Allah protect you all.
This was all destined by Allah (swt), that no good will come your way without the permission of Allah and no evil will come your way without the permission of Allah.
@@Withkawsar24 sis jazzakhallahu qeyran for this. You’re absolutely right, if it wasn’t for my faith, I don’t know what I would do. ❤️
Love all your videos sis
I travelled to Somalia many times, i never saw people sitting on the floor in the plane.
Were you in a plane or a small helicopter when you saw some people sitting on the floor?.
Abaayo it was Jubba Airways around 2011 I made a mistake by saying 2012 because my daughter was born late 2012 ❤. It was maddd
Beautiful, I was thinking the same. Our people love to put sugar to the story.
You are young smart girl you are so beautiful mashallah,may Allah heal you and thank you for sharing your story. ❤❤
Thank you!!!❤
Thank you so much for sharing your story ❤
Thank you for watching my love ❤
All blessings to you sisters.
Girl you still look 18!!!!
@@Sophiamor-b7n thanks 🙏 😂
How old is she?
@ 32
I like your story very interesting ❤ no insult no anger.
Maansh ALLAAH habo I feel your pain I go tru something like that
@@ashaqaar7330 subhanaAllah Habo ❤️
Masha Allah Allahuma Barik so proud of you huno ❤ I have an amazing husband masha Allah but I would like to learn about the schema to raise my baby boy really healthy and happy ☺
Of course xabiibti I will upload videos on that
First off, your are so beautiful allahuma barik. I am glad I watched this video, you are so inspirational. I just wonder though, did this experience put you off Somali men in general? Would it have been better if the man you married was a Somali who grew up in the west?
@@Nomad332 jazzakhallahu qeyran sis. I don’t think it put me off Somali men but I am extremely cautious hence why I have chosen to be single and it’s over 8 years now. I love my culture and I love Somali people. I went through phases where I was angry and healed, attended therapy and prayed. My view is much more broad as a result. What about you?
@@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Alhamdulillah! To be honest I would love to marry a Somali man but I feel like I have been disrespected by them the most, just because I’m not your typical Somali girl I feel like non Somali men are more respectful, maybe cos Somali men are more comfortable around me and feel like they can treat me anyhow. Perhaps I’ve just not met the right type but to be honest it hasn’t put me off them completely.
@@Nomad332 sax abaayo I get you. One thing I always love by is: focus on your life and build a life and career you enjoy, open yourself up to new things. When the time is right, the right person will join your life, and if it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world xabiibti. Have some to inf for yourself to fall back on and build your life then you have more choices. ❤️
@@Nomad332sister I hope you one day to marry a good somali man.
Hi sis did you make a mistake when you said 2012 because we are of similar age (32)and I was 18 2010 😅😅 and not 2012 (funny got also married when I was 18).
Yes I made a mistake, my apologies. It must have been 2010-11 because I have birth to my daughter in end of 2012 ❤
Wow sis your strong keep going and Yh I went to bosaaso with my 2 older brothers and cousin we stayed there 10 years honestly but alhamdulilah my elders brother looked after us he was in his early twenties I was there from the age of 7 to 17. one of my successful mashallah 32 year old bro went to a horrible famous boarding school for a year in Bosaso omg the manager was horrible but anyways, I had arranged marriage at the age of 14 to one relative auntie’s son. My mum was just super strict religious and just wanted me to get married. Didn’t work out It was a couple of months and I was just young and confused and never understood what was happening, anyways I got back to the Uk and education then I got married at 18. I had my son was married 5 years got divorced and single mother 4 years my boy is now 8 years old but yeah I enjoyed life with my family in the UK all my siblings came back went back to education got good jobs and kids and they are happily married but if I could look back and change things would be if I had a choice I would not want to be there from a young age back home for a very long time and not to be forced I am against arrange marriage totally it shouldn’t be allowed even in back home because your just a kid not mentally mature to decide what your doing or consequences it could have on you. I am a mother that is 27 today I would not wanna leave my child’s side or leave him but I guess back in the days it was difficult my mum was a single mother obviously working providing for us, we had an amazing childhood overall and always got what we wanted in life and I’m grateful to her always and we all appreciate hooyo regardless but it was just probably the only way she knew doing things but the impact it had on my mental health I can’t lie growing up from the age of 22 I was really depressed It took me years of therapy healing depressed it affected my mental health and yeah, I’m glad I’m better today.
It was amazing watching your story time I enjoyed it to fullest. I’m looking forward to watch your other videos thank you so much sis 💕👑🙌
Wow thank you for sharing your story it’s crazy you got married at 14 maskiin. Alhamdullillah I’m so happy you’re doing better sis may Allah bless you ❤
You are a beautiful girl, so May Allah (SWT) guide you in hijab and privacy and make you one who is always grateful to him
@@Caliya7 amiin ❤️
ASLM Sister Maryam I love you for the sake of Allah. Sis I would love to see with Hijab on your next story. May Allah bless you Ameen
Hi girl!
It's wonderful to see Somali sisters sharing their stories. I have a question because I've never been to Somalia, but my partner needs to go to Bosaso soon, inshallah, for about a year. I'm considering going with him, but we have young children, and I'm feeling anxious. I have a lot of thoughts, mainly about the healthcare system. What if we get sick? There are no GPs or NHS services with reliable doctors. I know I'm making assumptions, but I'm really worried.
How easy was it for you to settle in? How hot is a HOT? Do you think it would be beneficial for us? Also, my Somali isn’t great, and I'm concerned about struggling with the dialect and accent.
Thanks!
@@falishahusseinable hey sis. Firstly thank you so much for your kind words and support. Before I answer this question I want to ask:
How long are you and your kids staying there for? Where is it? Boss’s was HOT HOT. In terms of healthcare, get them vaccinated before you go and speak to your GP about this. Discuss with your husband.
Please answer my question more in depth and I can provide my advice of what I think. ❤️
@@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Hey girl. So, I would be staying in Bosaso for 1 to 2 years. If I don’t like it then I could relocate to Xamar for the remaining time (that’s where my parents originate and by extension me). I think I also want to see Garowe, I’m strong believer of investing in my country rather then staying other African or Middle Eastern countries). We will be there for business but I’m hoping my son could benefit from starting Quran (he is six now). My girls are only 2 and 4 years old so for them it’s more about just learning some little Somali.
Believe it or not from somalia and you are Somali. It’s our culture to get marry young age so we don’t sin..
Hey, sis!
You are a very beautiful woman. You don't need all these men lusting on you. From sister to sister, please cover yourself because you are a gem.
Not just from men but from women too. Evil eye is real, my dear.
Okay abaayo in sha Allah thank you so much for your kind advice ❤
@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d Yes, I like your videos a lot! Ma Sha Allah, you have so much Imaan in your words and face. All you have to do is dress the part, my dear.
The video is too short sis. Thank you for sharing
Didn’t you manage to watch all 19 minutes? ❤
Love the story, please add some subtitles for the none English parts 😅
@@justaminan okay sweetheart
I got married at 13 in yemen 😢
@@tomatofeind2019 subhanaAllah how did that happen? If you don’t mind, tell me more since you’re anonymous and your name is not on your profile. 💕
@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d sorry I'm not revealing my full name...why do you want my name? I was born there, its normal to marry young in the poor areas, I claimed asylum with my mum after. It's less common now though
@tomatofeind2019 she wasn't asking for your name sister. Read what she said properly. She's asking fr your story if you're willing to share.
@ okay sis sorry if I offended you. Happy you’re good now.
@ spot on! 👌🏾
Abayo I love your video. Just find a way to block the background noises. I'm just trying to help love 💗
You’re right sis. I’m getting a mic soon. Sorry ❤
Alhamdulilah I married out. Faraxs nowadays r a pain. If you want to sign up to life of poverty and unhappiness, marry them. The good ones r super rare
Beautiful story but this video is to short darling and keep going.
@@Moonlight-l1i did you watch the full channel? My last video was 19 minutes
@ yes I did walalo.
Gabadhan waa iska jechly❤
@@AyaanDahir-rk3bu Anna wan kujeclahay ❤️
People sitting on the floor of the plane😮
😂😂😂 true story wallah
People back home are different breed😭
@@yma9078 😂
Lol @different breed.
Wow crazy 😮
Keep it cominggggg but the sound behind ruined it
@@Hamda-w5z sorry xabiibti I have a mic on the way so soon the sound will be better. Thank you for watching ❤️
I listen first 2 minutes about complaining about hot water…on that region of the planet there’s no water straight three years no rain…thank god you got hot water instead no water
Feel sorry for the children. Just make sure children have relationship with their father. The statistics regarding single parent children are not good. Google it.
If you have girls protect them from your future potential husband. Keep your eyes wide open. Be a role model for your children and stay close to Allah. If you are in right frame both with regards mentally, spiritually ( salah) and physically you will find a good man - preferably divorced with children.
@@mufasaleebah3156 in sha Aah thanks for sharing your advice, I appreciate it a lot and amiin!
Y divorced with children lol farax fool farax
Are you Ethiopian? Why did you go to Somalia to marry?
Why don’t you put on hijab abaayo? This world is temporary and we will all meet with our creator one day.
i wish i was maried at that age, it would have spare me from alot of stupidity
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@@fatimalove965 ❤️❤️❤️
Here we have another women with another drama story about marriage and divorce and how bad the somali.man was blah blah
Here we go another Somali man being triggered by my story. It is what it is, we need to share our stories to help others and make changes. Sending you positive energy.
Y r u scared?
Of what
@@xalimox3525
Good woman are for good men, and Bad men are for bad woman. It's in the Quran.
Black and white thinking without context. Here it goes again…
Fat men r for fat women
So meaning she is a bad woman? You never seen or heard of evil bad men always going for good women to enslave and oppress them? Evil men fear evil women and sought out for good women to oppress.
I think you should learn more about your deen and make duas to Allah to guide you, you wear your head scarf as a Muslim and as a role model to your children. May Allah guide you. Ameen
May Allah guide you too
And I think u should that u should not judge other mums every one has there own way of learning and every one has there own guidelines OK so fix urs and leave others, alone OK ☺️🙄😒
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As a haliima, I wouldn't do that to my daughter.
@@zainababdi781 it’s good that you would prevent anything and for your daughter and want the best for her. This is why I made this channel! Welcome.
your beautiful
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Hello
@@AdanAbaka Hello.
Biiyo kuleel hadaad caabi leheed waad catoowi leheey, gabadha yar aad sheeganeyso baad u ekaan leheeyd 😅
Wllo taladaada yaa ku weydistay?
You are a woman yourself and shaming another woman? May Allah help you. It's giving pick me but nobody laughed.
Abaayo ,,Great job in letting the public know. The message is getting out. Mental health is key. To the people telling you to wear hijab, this is between you and Allah. Please ignore these useless judgemental people. Secondly, our culture needs to be studied, the good, bad and indifferent. Those of us who are 2nd and 3rd generation living in the West need to be schooled on the dangers of marrying men who are not equally yoked. The culture itself is not supportive of women and girls, we are 2nd class citizens in our own culture. Ladies, get your education, collect your passports and choose your husband( if you choose) wisely. Many men do not qualify to be anyone husbands, they are far to coddled and entitled. The grandmothers and mothers are all male centered and expect you to continue turning a blind eye. Go to university, live with girlfriends travel, and create your wealth. Choose you and choose the man that will give you the life you want. If he is not solving YOUR problems, he will become your biggest problem. Love from the States!!
@@ultimateenigma6038 thank you so much abaayo for this amazing message. It definitely needs to be studied, our culture. This is what people in particular men get triggered by, however it is for the good.
I hold myself accountable for my choices and that is why I am able to share my story understanding that I may be under scrutiny. However l, we need to tell so other women are aware of the dangers and also aware of the reality of motherhood and marriage. We are not getting married to live a fairytale which is what we have been fed as the masses for decades through media… anyways you get my drift thanks xabiibti🌹
This chic is so annoying
@@eagledice2008 is it? Why are you watching? 🤔
What is new. Somali girls at home marry young. At 14 they get married and many has successful marriages ma sha Allah
You can’t seriously believe 14 is a good or adequate age to get married?
first of all wear hijab 🧕 please if you are Muslim women and Somalia Muslim women
No.
Who are you as a random man to tell her to wear hijab? You should fear Allah and learn your deen before speaking. Islamically you don’t speak to non-mahram women about their hijab. The only right you have is talking to the women you have rights over-not her!
To wear hijab is command from ALLAH
to all muslin women and is the quran and Hadith this is the true and know your religion don’t be feminist come back to your religion
Negative
Evil men still treat the hijab wearing ones bad.Most High looks at the mind, hearts, behavior of the woman meaning a woman who doesn’t sleeps around. Hair coverings isn’t a rightsful way to prove to God of being a good woman. There is a reason the private parts of human is hidden between the legs but on the head is covering with full hair up on the body.There are some that cover hair and still men sleep with them at the backside just to protect their virginity. I support covering up the body but the head it’s your choice. Because God want women to dress modesty.
Cover your head sister
All we have here is a single mother as a result. It is criminal to premeditate a divorce.
@@gudbifariinta3958 is it? Then hancuff me
@Diaryofasinglemother-s7d
I am a parole man and a Community liaison officer. You could not imagine the children held in the youth detention centres from around here. Study is strongly showing correlation between single mother and juvenile delinquency. It has to slow down or stopped one way or another.SM is child abuse period.
Before we got to listen please sister cover your hair
It seems that suffering is a form of respecting Allah in Islam. Why is everyone upset about her own decisions?
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@@kamungangane221 first of all, nobody is upset. Second of all, this type of content is for my target audience, individuals who may have been through similar experiences or not. To teach women to not make the same decisions that I did and also learn lessons from each other. So, please, do the honours and don’t spend time watching content that’s not for you.
You threw your whole life away and no one stopped you
Cover you head fear Allah,
Cover your mind
Lol this is all u people come to say. Go control ur children not a stranger
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