Dates and relationships in Jewish ultra-orthodox communities | "A Match Made In Heaven" (2014)

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  • @cpbeauvoir
    @cpbeauvoir 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3728

    While I want to respect everyone's culture, I can't help but notice how the first man, the Scribe, is so full of himself. Also, my heart goes out to the divorced young lady. She is beautiful, smart, capable, and so loving. Her energy is so soothing and I hope she meets the man of her dreams.

    • @catfan5169
      @catfan5169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +215

      Every culture has people in it who are full of themselves. I think that's universal.

    • @dotheyfloat9961
      @dotheyfloat9961 3 ปีที่แล้ว +317

      He's not really, he's actually quite insecure. Just comes across as arrogant... but notice he asks her if she was disappointed a few times

    • @catfan5169
      @catfan5169 3 ปีที่แล้ว +113

      @@dotheyfloat9961 Aww. I wish him the best. He does seem like a sensitive soul.

    • @72586jejones
      @72586jejones 3 ปีที่แล้ว +134

      I think he really wants to be married but would do better in a regular dating scenario. Dating should be like trying on shoes. Find a pair that is comfy, that looks good on you and that you can wear forever. Might take a few rounds. You might wear a pair for a bit and like them at first but they might suck a few months later. Their culture expects them to just jump into marriage questions on the first date. I think he is struggling more with honoring his traditions while wanting to do what he feels would be best for him.

    • @andreaskuckuck5829
      @andreaskuckuck5829 3 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      I think he clarified it very well at the second dating, that he is very insecure, and open about the whole dating process and in fact he is obviously very rebellious and worried to what this may lead for both of them because he wants the best for the both of them.
      I think he is a very witty and sensitive person who is just looking for a girl who acknowledges and appreciates that, and being witty herself.

  • @reecee2941
    @reecee2941 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3036

    It seems the women must settle, the men are awkward and bring little to the table. It’s tragic the women are being told they are asking for too much when it’s the bare minimum.

    • @iamyourtugabro8325
      @iamyourtugabro8325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      LOL, that is exactly the opposite of what I think in western world standards. It kind of shows how diverse the world is.

    • @nicoleb1581
      @nicoleb1581 3 ปีที่แล้ว +277

      I live next to a huge orthodox community and have so many questions about how the economics and norms of their community work. But any questions or critique is labeled anti semitic regardless of intent or general curiosity to have a greater understanding of my neighbors. It’s weird to be in a community where so many want nothing to do with you socially especially because I’ve been told my whole life that segregation is wrong.

    • @josephpack7315
      @josephpack7315 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      What are the women bringing to the table?

    • @iamyourtugabro8325
      @iamyourtugabro8325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@nicoleb1581 Agreed and for some reason that segregation is still our fault. What are we suppose to do? Break into their homes and force them to talk with people whose customs are "hedious" (maybe I overeacted) to them?

    • @salinal2783
      @salinal2783 3 ปีที่แล้ว +575

      @@josephpack7315 ......THEY are the main supporters, the bread winners, of the whole family!!! Didn’t you get that from the video. Almost every guy asked the question several times of the girl, are they willing to go to work so he can just go and study the Tora!! All men do NOT work in that community. They go to “school” to study the Bible while the wife goes to work to support the family and then raises the kids, cleans the house, cooks all the meals and etc etc etc. I personally believe they bring almost 90% of the assets into the marriage!!!

  • @elizabethfeffer8285
    @elizabethfeffer8285 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3216

    I fell out my chair laughing when the first guy said, I want to know did I blow her mind. Dude! You talked to her for like 5 minutes 😂.

    • @sainiamarjeet
      @sainiamarjeet 3 ปีที่แล้ว +179

      true i was also asking same question tht wat is guy thinking abt himself ? is he james bond or casanova tht he can blow any women's mind with his 5min talk or looks

    • @coconutsoursop8539
      @coconutsoursop8539 3 ปีที่แล้ว +79

      Hot mess!

    • @jayjaylecourt9431
      @jayjaylecourt9431 3 ปีที่แล้ว +175

      Hes egotistic

    • @kathybrem880
      @kathybrem880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +96

      He. Was such a dweeb!

    • @marti-greciaodalyz77
      @marti-greciaodalyz77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      some people get blown of mind in fewer minutes than that.

  • @mimimosa259
    @mimimosa259 2 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    I can’t believe how invested I was in all of their dates. I really wanted to know how their stories ended up

    • @matthewmensah8703
      @matthewmensah8703 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      YES, me too, I was glued to it

    • @Firgunlifestyle
      @Firgunlifestyle 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Sameee! 😂

    • @Mrs.Pena-1
      @Mrs.Pena-1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Me three 😂

    • @PW-le6cr
      @PW-le6cr 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Really happy for the two young ones, I could tell right away they should be together

  • @mightyoak11111
    @mightyoak11111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1716

    I must say that this is more authentic than any dating reality show I’ve ever seen.

    • @ayylmao2190
      @ayylmao2190 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      Note that the vast majority of us are not like this at all. These ppl are basically the amish of Judaism

    • @mightyoak11111
      @mightyoak11111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      @@ayylmao2190 I meant more reflective of the values of ultra Orthodox Judaism than a secular reality tv dating show is reflective of American values. More so, I felt that the individuals being filmed were not as influenced in their actions and words by the knowledge that they were being filmed even though we know it always happens to a certain degree.

    • @ayylmao2190
      @ayylmao2190 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@mightyoak11111 I know i was just clarifying, some people think weird things about us thats all :)

    • @ImehSmith
      @ImehSmith 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      RIGHT

    • @freeto9139
      @freeto9139 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@ayylmao2190 So much pressure from their parents; that was hard, and made it harder for them to be confident ... Even tho' they kept saying "G-d willing"

  • @acerrubrum5749
    @acerrubrum5749 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1512

    He doesn't want his feelings to get in the way but he wants her to have her mind blown by him.
    Hmmm...

    • @sweettreatsoverload4296
      @sweettreatsoverload4296 3 ปีที่แล้ว +152

      I can see why the first guy was single. He judged her on a four minute conversation.

    • @emmcee662
      @emmcee662 3 ปีที่แล้ว +231

      “Am I the King”? I would run a mile from a guy with a narcissistic attitude like that! Marriage to him would be awful - he seems very egotistical and controlling

    • @Whisperwomaneq2
      @Whisperwomaneq2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      @@sweettreatsoverload4296 I totally agree he is way too full of himself.

    • @Whisperwomaneq2
      @Whisperwomaneq2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +36

      @@emmcee662 Mr know it all full of himself blew it on the 1st date. lol

    • @acerrubrum5749
      @acerrubrum5749 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      In the end his mind is blown and she says no.

  • @sparkyplug5594
    @sparkyplug5594 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1414

    First guy, the Scribe, is sad. He will never be a good partner to anyone, as he has an issue with his self confidence. He will be looking to his partner to constantly validate him and massage his ego.

    • @SuperMbprincess
      @SuperMbprincess 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      ohhhh i cant stand that he would be such an emotional vampire, he would drain any women f all her life

    • @eleanorcrawford9978
      @eleanorcrawford9978 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@SuperMbprincess YEP👍

    • @Sldindpunjab
      @Sldindpunjab 3 ปีที่แล้ว +97

      He looks like an abusive partner.

    • @MzClementine
      @MzClementine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      I don't know in the end. Him leaving his religious law studies. I think that he thinks he lost the love of his life because of how serious and overly religious he is. She may have planted his feet in the ground.

    • @Linda-vx4fn
      @Linda-vx4fn 3 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      I felt that Estis mother was too manipulative and pushy in forcing her daughter to make a decision. I think the tears she squeezed out were from her own personal frustration and that she was not so concerned with Estis happiness (as she claimed,) as with Esti marrying the guy because she was embarrassed that her daughter was still dating and she was scared of people finding out, being as they're ultra orthodox. I sure hope the marriage goes well for the couple though.
      What was the lawyer lady's name?
      What a beautiful person she is! What a shame that her reason for divorcing her husband was not made known by the dating agency! She divorced him because he did not read the Torah, she did it so soon,so she would not be pregnant and have to stay with him, because she said she wanted a husband that would read the Torah to the children.
      A beautiful, gentle, intelligent sweet lady and she is bypassed because the dating agency arent doing the job right!

  • @ellasaenz9653
    @ellasaenz9653 2 ปีที่แล้ว +179

    I really hope the divorceed-law student girl get someone that values, respects, appreciates and loves her beyond culture and beliefs.

    • @Realalma
      @Realalma 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Someone outside of this misogynistic cult hopefully.

    • @eliavgordon2108
      @eliavgordon2108 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Perhaps a good Modern Orthodox man .🔯🕎🇮🇱

    • @sally9352
      @sally9352 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@RealalmaWhat makes it misogynistic?

    • @jorge-7121
      @jorge-7121 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Realalma Holding people accountable for their actions it's not misoginistic. Stop throwing your buzz words around.

    • @jorge-7121
      @jorge-7121 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think the problem is she needs to learn to value, respect, appreciate and love someine. That's the problem.

  • @ejazamir1639
    @ejazamir1639 3 ปีที่แล้ว +811

    Calling someody "damaged goods" just because they're divorced is a disgusting way to label a women. Did nobody teach them that it takes two people to be compatable!.

    • @reema-qr5lt
      @reema-qr5lt 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Yea it’s really sad it’s just what ppl think which we should stop giving a shit about.

    • @paridecorsetti7022
      @paridecorsetti7022 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      isn't everything else disgusting as well?

    • @amariluna
      @amariluna 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@paridecorsetti7022 Yes, absolutely.

    • @FilmerOfBobcats
      @FilmerOfBobcats 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @False Profit And yet they are! They have probably learned some very bad habits that a new wife would not appreciate.

    • @YSD99999
      @YSD99999 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@paridecorsetti7022 what exactly do you mean that you find “everything else disgusting”. Please, explain.

  • @mscookiecabana
    @mscookiecabana 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1730

    I like Ariel's parents - they seem to be the chillest & most level headed people in the show. His dad was cracking jokes & even said he was still so young to be married - which is completely valid!

    • @camillaallegrucci1311
      @camillaallegrucci1311 3 ปีที่แล้ว +84

      Yeah, I really like Ariel's father. His mother is nice, too. I got the impression that they really tried to make Esti feel at ease. Her father, on the other hand, when meeting Ariel was a bit ... too direct, maybe? I would have kept that part about him not being suited to be a shochet for myself.

    • @labotraduc8448
      @labotraduc8448 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

      I also really liked Ariel and his parents. Ariel himself looks like a really nice young man, very good natured. And they are beautiful the three of them.

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +76

      Ariel almost lost a gem, that girl was way over his level. He had a good matchmaker. I think ( I want to call her ETSY LOL) esty's mom did right, Ariel needed some pushing to close the deal. Loved that Jewish momma guilt she laid on her taking her to the grave and crying. Epic JMG

    • @henessy.-.45
      @henessy.-.45 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      I agree... Im not in any way judging the religion or traditions, but I felt bad the pressure was so immense from his mother in law for them to marry.. I couldn't imagine that at 18

    • @BlessicaBlimpson
      @BlessicaBlimpson 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @@PlateletRichGel I am low key offended by the ppl coming for estys mom in these comments lolol I’m Sephardic and my dad grew up orthodox and Esty and her mom remind me of a lot of my aunties/cousins… just confident queens with killer eyeliner and emotionally authentic dramatics

  • @lucyneste7759
    @lucyneste7759 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2625

    feel so sorry for the divorced girl, smart, pretty and nice and they all make her feel worthless or like she has some kind of defect:( I wish her all the best

    • @stephj9378
      @stephj9378 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      She'll be fine.God has someone better for her.

    • @ElaAusDemTal
      @ElaAusDemTal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +80

      @@stephj9378... Exactly ! I met my husband through mutual friends, and I wasn't actively looking for Mr Right - it just happens when you're least expecting it.

    • @stephj9378
      @stephj9378 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@ElaAusDemTal yep!

    • @Lilliz91
      @Lilliz91 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Realistically, the more married you are statistically more likely you are to go through a divorce again.

    • @Gobi512
      @Gobi512 3 ปีที่แล้ว +69

      Some men might be intimidated as she has had sex and they are virgins. If he is insecure he might worry that he doesn't know what he's doing. If he gets a virgin then she won't know the difference.

  • @knmplans
    @knmplans 2 ปีที่แล้ว +280

    My husband and I met by accident, but we still handled dating this way. The day we met we ended knowing exactly what the other wanted out of life. During that dating period we met each others families and they got to know us on our own and together. We met each others friends and they gave opinions. There was no "well maybe I want this" or "I'm not so sure" it was all "this is what I want and expect". We've been together for 18 years now and no regrets.

    • @lzlz21213
      @lzlz21213 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Beautiful

    • @kellyismyname777
      @kellyismyname777 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Nothing is by accident! God has planned everything for everyone! We tend to think, as you put it, "accidental" or "coincidental"...because we are limited. God is not limited!
      Have a wonderful day, may God continue to bless your union! Amen 🙏🏼

    • @chetyoubetya8565
      @chetyoubetya8565 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      But that was you and your choice it's when you are given no choice that there becomes an issue.Who tells an 18 yr old girl go on three dates then marry the person for a lifetime.

    • @sally9352
      @sally9352 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@chetyoubetya8565 It's a different culture. I respect it.

    • @luv2travel2000
      @luv2travel2000 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @knmplans Beautiful. ❤❤❤

  • @kristinabrand8807
    @kristinabrand8807 3 ปีที่แล้ว +743

    Her: I want a strong man that tells me what to do. Him: I don’t know what to do I will ask the Rabbi. 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @HoiaPolloia
      @HoiaPolloia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      I think he sensed she was not sincere and just saying what she thought he wanted her to say. She just wanted to get married. But he didn't read the one he fell in love with very well, she never seemed interested at all.

    • @SumeyyaOcalHeyBigSpenderr
      @SumeyyaOcalHeyBigSpenderr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      LMAO🤦‍♀️

    • @rnarzu
      @rnarzu 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I wasn't sure I heard that- Thank you. So telling and humorous.

    • @PaulSmith-pr7pv
      @PaulSmith-pr7pv 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @BlimpMcGee
      @BlimpMcGee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I was about to comment on that, he told her he wanted someone who didn't need HIM to her side to direct their every step and then ended saying I'll ask the Rabbi lol

  • @doncelladurant7221
    @doncelladurant7221 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1188

    As a woman, I am appreciative that I had never been pressured into marriage by my parents or my community! Just realized that in that aspect I am lucky!

    • @elenataylor4611
      @elenataylor4611 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      I am from secular Jewish family and my parents were trying to set me up,but I didn't like the guys.They never pressured me to get married and at a right time I've met my husband. We're happily married for 17 years.

    • @MrAceman82
      @MrAceman82 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I agree with you no one should pressure into marriage...but on the other hand, there are too many single men and women above 30ties, and complain they could not find the perfect match. Even worse, cannot leave offspring.
      Regarding divorces, they should be accepted only in case of domestic violence, or cheating.
      I laughed at my friends when they told me they wished to marry earlier, now I am saying the same. The family gives you the direction and purpose of your life. The family is a sacred thing.

    • @melissasnow2980
      @melissasnow2980 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I agree with you. No one should have to pay, or go through this much. At the end of the day, men are the lucky ones to have a woman in their life. Women are stronger than this. The patriarchy stinks and we ARE ALL TIRED bc it is ruining much(wars, earth)! Women are so much stronger and better than this. Oh wait! Am I being too opinionated. I wish one of those men got in my face bc I would tell them where they can go!! This is oppression plain and simple.

    • @MrAceman82
      @MrAceman82 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@melissasnow2980 How having a family and leaving offspring can be oppressive?

    • @doncelladurant7221
      @doncelladurant7221 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@MrAceman82 I think many people have wishful thinking, but are not willing to put in the work in healing and being the best version of themselves when the right person comes around. People are more pressed about time than the quality of the relationship, which is not healthy. The right person will find you when you are ready!!

  • @martinbryan137
    @martinbryan137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +509

    That mom is so melodramatic it's hilarious. "Next, on Real Hasidic Housewives"

    • @BrilliantDesignOnline
      @BrilliantDesignOnline 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Brilliant

    • @seekay1876
      @seekay1876 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      I would 100% watch this!

    • @Bangbangshelly
      @Bangbangshelly 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      I mean, I’ve heard about jewish moms and their guilt trips, but wow.... that was next level. ‘ I want you to be happy, but hurry up and decide if you want to spend the rest of your life with this boy, you’ve had three dates already!’ No pressure.

    • @suztexas
      @suztexas 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      The manipulation by drama, she let it slip that she cares what her friends think!

    • @beagledog2001
      @beagledog2001 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@suztexas she did, didn't she? That was something! She is SO melodramatic!

  • @QuinnieMae
    @QuinnieMae 2 ปีที่แล้ว +451

    The mother and daughter talking after her date was absolutely BEAUTIFUL. The mother was SO focused on her daughter and it was just a beautiful moment.

    • @Lee935
      @Lee935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Time stamp?

    • @bubblegumbp9050
      @bubblegumbp9050 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Lee935 I think it's 14:47 they were mentioning

    • @tikusblue
      @tikusblue 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      It was lovely seeing the younger man talking to his parents too, they seem like a very sweet and loving family.

    • @alenemarie
      @alenemarie 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      As the mother of a beautiful 26 year-old young woman, I was brought to tears seeing that relationship play out. It also made me wish that my culture supported their marriages and their young people like this. The protection of “mind body spirit” by a god and family is a wonderful set of relationships.

    • @VitaKet
      @VitaKet 2 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      I guess you are ignoring where she basically said decide by 3 dates to marry the guy or not....

  • @bazoena
    @bazoena 3 ปีที่แล้ว +404

    Esty and Ariel were the best match...you could see they liked each other.
    And they genuinely looked happy on their wedding day!

    • @karinadacunha1337
      @karinadacunha1337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Ariel wasn't sure, even in his wedding he looked puzzled. Guess he was kind of forced.

    • @analiucrose9682
      @analiucrose9682 3 ปีที่แล้ว +46

      @@karinadacunha1337 that kid is stilll in love with his mom. his mom: ""who is she? is she prettier than me?"" that's utterly innapropriate.

    • @karinadacunha1337
      @karinadacunha1337 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@analiucrose9682 yes, I didn't think about it but for sure. How sad. Also in the religious communities if you are gay, you have to marry and have children and have a double life aside. I thought he might be gay too, or just not prepared ( too young) for this adult family life. Poor kid.

    • @analiucrose9682
      @analiucrose9682 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Let's just pray esty don't have problems with her mother-in-law or Ariel for that matter💕

    • @faizaanwar3662
      @faizaanwar3662 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@analiucrose9682 no it’s not it’s a innocent joke

  • @EmKnowsThings
    @EmKnowsThings 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2553

    Imagine having to marry someone you just met, have a football team worth of children with him, take care of all of the kids and the house, and work to earn all of the money so he can just read the same religious texts all day long. 😂

    • @moewilson4605
      @moewilson4605 3 ปีที่แล้ว +526

      Obviously designed by a man

    • @heatherburrell8412
      @heatherburrell8412 3 ปีที่แล้ว +207

      No...... simple no.....I will give my heart to God...........but not my entire life’s effort to man

    • @sueberry1974
      @sueberry1974 3 ปีที่แล้ว +357

      What a culture! An eye opener. The men don't work. The women have to work to take care of the men. All the men do is read the torah all year long

    • @rose4490
      @rose4490 3 ปีที่แล้ว +283

      Sounds like a nightmare!

    • @sararaftery3729
      @sararaftery3729 3 ปีที่แล้ว +285

      @@justincase7848 but i read that these men who read the torah all day and not work are a real burden on israel. which i believe as its just like having a high number of unemployed. reading wont feed and house you

  • @reinamelanizadavibe8890
    @reinamelanizadavibe8890 3 ปีที่แล้ว +124

    The pressure that these individuals have to endure for their “family” is tremendous. After 3 dates for 45 mins or less to figure out if they want to marry someone.. whoo

  • @TheBombshellBabydoll
    @TheBombshellBabydoll 2 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    This seems like an incredibly oppressive environment for women. The men keep saying they don't want a wife that basically has a mind of her own. I'd suffer greatly in a culture like this

    • @lzlz21213
      @lzlz21213 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't worry, you'll die alone or with whatever loser will settle for you

    • @waterotter3625
      @waterotter3625 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Agreed. They don't want a wife that challenges them to improve themselves and their relationships with God and other people. A marriage is a give and take, with both spouses being able to communicate and form a friendship with each other.

    • @BlackStump172
      @BlackStump172 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      The second guy was not like that !

    • @rh6625
      @rh6625 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Come on, you can't see who really runs the show, makes the decisions?

    • @hannagg9365
      @hannagg9365 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I’m sorry, but did you MISS how incredibly OPINIONATED and independent these women are?!? There is absolutely no evidence of repression! These women live in an open country. They’re around the most secular of people. They CHOOSE their own path in life, and what it is they want. It seems as though you’d suffer greatly in any “culture” or society.

  • @teganness8089
    @teganness8089 3 ปีที่แล้ว +431

    So much stress! You have to marry someone so fast but you'd better pick the perfect person so you don't divorce because then no one will want you. So. Much. Stress!!!

    • @anonymouspineapple8595
      @anonymouspineapple8595 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I like how they're supposed to decide whether or not to spend their life with someone after having only spent a total of two hours with them.

    • @imeldaflores6800
      @imeldaflores6800 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😂

    • @churblefurbles
      @churblefurbles 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@anonymouspineapple8595 The new way isn't working is it.

    • @churblefurbles
      @churblefurbles 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Hugy Ugy Easy to be smug but in the secular world in the next 10 years almost half prime age women will be single, basically civilizational failure. Who's really stupid here.

    • @10010x0x0x01101XX0X1
      @10010x0x0x01101XX0X1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@anonymouspineapple8595 at the end of the day all husbands are the same and all wifes are the same. ppl think having to find your spouse after a few dates when you're 20 is stressful. what's stressful are ppl waiting till they're at the end of their thirties to pick the perfect person who doesn't exist.

  • @sevp.8185
    @sevp.8185 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1550

    "We're 11 children, not too much" oh boi that is a culture clash, I almost fell from my bed

    • @iamyourtugabro8325
      @iamyourtugabro8325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      If you stopped using a condom, I highly doubt you would be typing that. LOL

    • @druid139
      @druid139 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

      Like an old Irish Catholic family.

    • @marsukarhu9477
      @marsukarhu9477 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Yeah! In school people thought our family was in some kind of cult because we had 'so many' children... and I have 2 sisters!! But all! the other kids' families had 1 or 2 kids...

    • @Armistead_MacSkye
      @Armistead_MacSkye 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      Those poor women ...

    • @TeeLeeMills1
      @TeeLeeMills1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      😂😂

  • @lillywang6333
    @lillywang6333 3 ปีที่แล้ว +212

    I'm pretty sure the first guy is considered difficult even by their own standards.

    • @mamamememoo
      @mamamememoo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      He is what we call an Analyser personality. Overthinker.

    • @incumbentvinyl9291
      @incumbentvinyl9291 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@mamamememoo He is a puppet. He gets this from those elders who tell him how to think and what to do.

    • @EmptyMan000
      @EmptyMan000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@incumbentvinyl9291 More like a Putz.

    • @purpleandred7
      @purpleandred7 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He definitely needs to mature more. I can't imagine him saying some of the things he said with the expectation of finding a girl to marry. He has a very warped view of a relationship, let alone a marriage, and he needs more time to grow and mature. His views resemble more like how a puppy will love you, not a woman.

  • @user-wr3vt8uq4s
    @user-wr3vt8uq4s 2 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    The young rabbi student's wife was very smart. "You can't fall in love with someone in 2 dates." You have to live together and find out. Requires some faith and nerve to jump into that.
    Merav looked like the best catch. She's so smart and radiates this wonderful energy.

    • @jasonwiley798
      @jasonwiley798 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      The matchmaker is negotiating lol

  • @peanutforever2191
    @peanutforever2191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +456

    Esty's mom is a nightmare. Ariel's parents seem really likable. The extreme orthodox dude has no idea what he wants, whatsoever. The divorced lawyer doesn't deserve all the slack she gets for being divorced after only five months, and her friend is adorable.

    • @Tunisgirl1982
      @Tunisgirl1982 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      The problem is as they called it damaged goods. A phrase I’m grown up with especially if you come from religious backgrounds and they are orthodox. She is not a virgin anymore and many man who never where married and especially their families will not like that. If he was divorced too things will get easier but for her as a woman you are less worth without that piece of skin. Nasty but true and you are potentially seen as trouble maker because you had a failed marriage.

    • @peanutforever2191
      @peanutforever2191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@Tunisgirl1982 Oh, I get it. I mean I understand the concept. I just find it highly unfair based on the little she revealed about her failed marriage.

    • @Tunisgirl1982
      @Tunisgirl1982 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      @@peanutforever2191 the fact she is a woman is enough, woman are seen as less than man. And she mentioned that her ex-husband did lie about religious aspects he said he is doing and practicing but the reality was he didn’t, well unfortunately the majority of people don’t care if it was her fault or the husband. As a woman you will carry the blame anyway

    • @sheelahales4738
      @sheelahales4738 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      To be called damaged goods because she was divorced, was terrible.

    • @TheSean7564
      @TheSean7564 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      YUP!

  • @hollyw7410
    @hollyw7410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    They don't want to waste time after 3 dates. Y'all I wasted years dating the wrong guys.

    • @Emerald707
      @Emerald707 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Lol that’s the point.

    • @hollyw7410
      @hollyw7410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@Emerald707 I know, it is just crazy only 3 dates. And what 45 minute dates, you are not even comfortable enough to fart infront of a person yet!

    • @cattycorner8
      @cattycorner8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      haven't we all!!!

    • @makepeacewithyourbrokenpieces
      @makepeacewithyourbrokenpieces 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@hollyw7410 I’ve never done that around any man.

    • @hollyw7410
      @hollyw7410 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@makepeacewithyourbrokenpieces I have been married for 8 years. We have 4 boys and burps and farts happen . . . Often.

  • @lightsinthesky4989
    @lightsinthesky4989 3 ปีที่แล้ว +416

    "I want a woman with enough intelligence to be complete without her man....I want to be at her side at all times and for it not to be the same without me." They are polar opposite philosophies lol

    • @plantdiva8472
      @plantdiva8472 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

      @Cillian Murphy smart enough to be complete without her man, but in love so much with him, that life would just not be the same without him, or each other! I think that's beautiful!

    • @austyn5004
      @austyn5004 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      @@plantdiva8472 exactly. I totally understood what he was trying to convey!

    • @nfvy8111
      @nfvy8111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +47

      He's saying he wants a woman who wants him but doesnt need him.

    • @AB-nb2ic
      @AB-nb2ic 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Clear as day... He wants to be "The King", wants her to be emotionally dependent to feed his weak ego, and he's trying to be slick and say it in another way

    • @Sarahh185
      @Sarahh185 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@AB-nb2ic said with such clarity 🧐👍
      I think it’s admirable that he has chosen to further his studies. I think his friend’s wife gave the most honest advice... she also had some very valid points :)

  • @biking-viking-claus-andersen
    @biking-viking-claus-andersen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    I am not Jewish, or religious in anyway for that matter. I was very gripped by this beautifully made documentary though. The director does an excellent job at documenting this group of people in a very non judgemental way. Something that many other documentarists fail to do, when filming. I looked up the director and is surprised to see that he has only done a total of two movies. I hope that we will get more from this guy in the future, as this was absolutely brilliant.

  • @jessiross84
    @jessiross84 3 ปีที่แล้ว +221

    I loved when the douchy dude on the second date said the girl wasn't honest and all that and she just looked at him and said, " So, what are you really looking for?"
    She seems religious yet fun and outgoing and needs a strong man who is truly confident enough to appreciate her.
    I haven't gotten to the end yet, but I hope she runs!

    • @juliegreene1844
      @juliegreene1844 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Yeah, he wants an equal partner who will not fall apart when he is not there, and she wants a confident man who can provide leadership and stability - take charge attitude but not walk all over her. They are both talking but not listening to each other. I also like them together, but sometimes, these things don't align. Better to call it quits now than down the line.

    • @PaulSmith-pr7pv
      @PaulSmith-pr7pv 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      👆

    • @bevs9995
      @bevs9995 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      He decided he's scared of her cause he's overly concerned about women who are "bossy."
      My impression was exactly the same as yours. I think she was too emotionally self-reliant for him. But he'll eventually figure out that most women will be that way.

    • @1262146
      @1262146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Hes such a douche bag and he's not even handsome, but thinks hes a big deal of a guy. Hope she runs 🏃

  • @yellowtulip4105
    @yellowtulip4105 3 ปีที่แล้ว +145

    The 1st case, she says: Tell me about yourself. He starts speaking about his rabbi! He seems insecure, and gives out little but asks a lot.
    This system isn't easy.

    • @marti-greciaodalyz77
      @marti-greciaodalyz77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Right! That's the first thing he says abut himself. So that I thought he was saying he was a Rabbi.

    • @EmptyMan000
      @EmptyMan000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      If the man had any chutzpah he would just be honest with himself and tell his interests. What a putz.

    • @abckail04
      @abckail04 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@EmptyMan000 A

  • @MadTeaMarie
    @MadTeaMarie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +418

    His fundamental misunderstanding of the courtship process boils down to a VERY powerful thing he said:
    "Yes, that you're mine.
    Even before I'm yours.""
    An incredibly beautiful and powerful phrase that I may not ever forget, but it SHOULD have been:
    "I'm yours
    even before you're mine."

    • @madisonbaker7056
      @madisonbaker7056 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I thought the same when he said that. Beautiful. But I wondered if there was a translation error. Lol.

    • @stephanieritter4771
      @stephanieritter4771 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I pray the divorced girl finds her happiness and Im thrilled for the couple that got married

    • @caromitgeige
      @caromitgeige 3 ปีที่แล้ว +43

      I find much more problematic that he says „i am the king, always“

    • @jennifergwen4754
      @jennifergwen4754 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Well actually, in context it made sense and wasn't terrible. He felt that she was the one for him even before she felt that he was the one for her. That's what he was saying I think. It's a little confusing because the subtitles don't indicate who is saying what.

    • @e701
      @e701 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      I think he actually said "That you're mine. That you're mine from before... that I am yours." kind of implying that she is his soulmate, since having a predestined soulmate is part of the belief. This video is a weird spliced together doc from a 3 part docuseries called a match made in heaven, you can find it elsewhere on youtube and it is much more enjoyable to watch than this version.

  • @user-ln6pu7kq9j
    @user-ln6pu7kq9j 2 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    I always wonder how people manage to get the permission to film such personal areas of people’s lives. I love these types of documentaries. They provide an amazing insight into the lives of others.

    • @56username
      @56username 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😃🤔
      Tender Plant Lives
      Hidden Message in the
      Torah /Tanak / Bible
      Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32
      NAMES ---- Name
      MEANINGS
      Adam - Man
      Seth - Appointed
      Enos - Mortal
      Cainan - Sarrow
      Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD
      Jared - Shall come Down
      Enoch - Teaching
      Methuselah -His Death shall
      Bring
      Lamech -To Make /Low
      Mighity
      Noah -Rest / Favor /
      Fulfilled
      Name Meanings written in a
      Sentence 😳
      Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down
      teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED
      My Interpretation:
      Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔
      Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲
      Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God !
      Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened .
      Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ?
      For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath
      No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.
      He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not.
      Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
      But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
      All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
      He was oppressed, and he was
      all .
      He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth.
      He was taken from prison
      From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For
      He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
      And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth.
      Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
      He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by
      His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
      Who is this About?
      KJV in Isaiah 53
      The Truth will set you free !
      Christ means Messiah ,
      Jesus was a Jew and still is .
      Jesus is not a religion,
      Jesus Loves You
      Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ
      You are Born Again
      Believe as a child
      Just Believe
      RAPTURE Very SOON 😳
      It is Not Death But Life
      Tuesday 30 , 2022
      Or
      3 , Elul 5782
      3:37 AM
      Control time , has not happened yet , any Second
      Are you Ready ,
      Believe ON Jesus
      Heaven
      or Outerdarkness
      God will not hear your prayers that is hell.
      TH-cam : Rapture 2022
      Please choose Jesus

    • @AmazingAmazing12345
      @AmazingAmazing12345 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Obviously a jew film company

  • @tampaguy2395
    @tampaguy2395 3 ปีที่แล้ว +858

    Etsi's Mom: "Pack your bags, we are going on a guilt trip"

    • @DClean
      @DClean 3 ปีที่แล้ว +39

      1 more date and then marriage
      or else youre never allowed to see him again

    • @Niphredyl
      @Niphredyl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      That was very manipulative on her and his mother's side.

    • @maurahilgar1586
      @maurahilgar1586 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      I can't believe how she made the whole thing about herself and her feelings!

    • @InTecknicolour
      @InTecknicolour 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      her mom probably want esty and ariel to have kids without touching each other too. yikes.

    • @tinaakasha
      @tinaakasha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      So much tears...not a Kleenex on site 😂

  • @CynthiaSusanOrtiz
    @CynthiaSusanOrtiz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +276

    I come from an Orthodox Sephardic Jewiish family on my fathers side, he was raised in the religion but my mother was not, he met my mother who was African American, he did not practice and left all together but still wanted us married off to Orthodox men, I was about these women's age when he bought one to our home to introduce to me without me knowing, his boss and him had it all planned. I was living home as most of us do and I had nothing to do with it. I was livid to say the least. Now I am 56 and divorced but I would never marry into something that would make me unhappy. My marriage was my choice and the divorce was mutual.

    • @girisha_laxmi11
      @girisha_laxmi11 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Me same my Mom married me to Orthodox Jewish Man when i was 30 and i have Jewish origin but as im in Spain assimilated to Catholicism i love Shabbat and High Holidays but disliked to Live with a man hardly know i divorced last year after 8 years and my mum feels betrayed. I came out of coma with 29 for a multiorganical failure after hospital she had all plan my now ex husband arrival and the wedding. I understand the feelings you cannot know one personality in few dates you need time to bond and grow in love.I had forced marriage not out of love and unilateral divorce they didnt want me to divorce.

    • @cynthiasommac
      @cynthiasommac 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I am tracing my family tree and I am pretty sure I also have Sepharidic Jewish blood. I do not have a religion as yet but I feel really close to Judaism for some reason, I cannot explain it. You have a great name, by the way :o)

    • @EmKnowsThings
      @EmKnowsThings 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Are there many mixed race ultra-orthodox? I ask this legitimately as I live by A LOT and I have never seen any. That’s neat if so- I didn’t realize they were open to interracial relationships. Hell, I had a boy tell me his mother would “kill him” if he brought home a Catholic girl of the same race. 🤣

    • @Sarafimm2
      @Sarafimm2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@EmKnowsThings I think this show is from Israel where mixed race would be rare. It's also from 2014 so I'd love to see an update.

    • @adibahimika6612
      @adibahimika6612 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Do you have kids ?

  • @101spacemonkey
    @101spacemonkey 3 ปีที่แล้ว +283

    Honestly with attitudes like that after the 1st date he wont find a girl who wants him and if he does she will probably be unhappy. Did he blow her mind, is he the king? Bring that ego down. Thats wild.

    • @ohmeowzer1
      @ohmeowzer1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yeah he acted like an idiot...

    • @heru-deshet359
      @heru-deshet359 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      He was raised that way.

    • @HelloNewMoon
      @HelloNewMoon 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      He’ll wind up an orthodox incel

    • @WYGTYA
      @WYGTYA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@HelloNewMoon lmao that’s funny af, an orthodox incel but he actually sounds like a future incel.

    • @caitlinsoliman1658
      @caitlinsoliman1658 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agree

  • @karenkingrey6142
    @karenkingrey6142 2 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    I wish this could have been a series. It was a wonderful glimpse into another culture!

    • @56username
      @56username 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😃🤔
      Tender Plant Lives
      Hidden Message in the
      Torah /Tanak / Bible
      Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32
      NAMES ---- Name
      MEANINGS
      Adam - Man
      Seth - Appointed
      Enos - Mortal
      Cainan - Sarrow
      Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD
      Jared - Shall come Down
      Enoch - Teaching
      Methuselah -His Death shall
      Bring
      Lamech -To Make /Low
      Mighity
      Noah -Rest / Favor /
      Fulfilled
      Name Meanings written in a
      Sentence 😳
      Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down
      teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED
      My Interpretation:
      Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔
      Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲
      Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God !
      Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened .
      Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ?
      For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath
      No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.
      He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not.
      Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
      But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
      All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
      He was oppressed, and he was
      all .
      He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth.
      He was taken from prison
      From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For
      He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
      And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth.
      Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
      He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by
      His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
      Who is this About?
      KJV in Isaiah 53
      The Truth will set you free !
      Christ means Messiah ,
      Jesus was a Jew and still is .
      Jesus is not a religion,
      Jesus Loves You
      Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ
      You are Born Again
      Believe as a child
      Just Believe
      RAPTURE Very SOON 😳
      It is Not Death But Life
      Tuesday 30 , 2022
      Or
      3 , Elul 5782
      3:37 AM
      Control time , has not happened yet , any Second
      Are you Ready ,
      Believe ON Jesus
      Heaven
      or Outerdarkness
      God will not hear your prayers that is hell.
      TH-cam : Rapture 2022
      Please choose Jesus

    • @PW-le6cr
      @PW-le6cr 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Needs to be a show

  • @marsukarhu9477
    @marsukarhu9477 3 ปีที่แล้ว +859

    I would LOVE to see an update to this. The crew visiting all the people and seeing what's up with them now in 2021.

    • @mythandmuse
      @mythandmuse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

      @@neptunedoug wow her IG is not what I expected! it looks like maybe they left the community?

    • @honey6571
      @honey6571 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@mythandmuse wow, i agree... i wonder how that happened

    • @amaiaormazabal1879
      @amaiaormazabal1879 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@mythandmuse she must have because they are not allowed to use the internet

    • @hengwin
      @hengwin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@mythandmuse right? I had to do a double take.

    • @kingan5412
      @kingan5412 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@hengwin but she has pictures with Ariel so guess they are together. Also they have kids I guess

  • @amytheshihtzumom
    @amytheshihtzumom 3 ปีที่แล้ว +98

    “My sister married a boy she dated for thirty minutes and left the room crying after the first date.” That’s concerning.

    • @EmptyMan000
      @EmptyMan000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      That's a red flag.

  • @almostthere2516
    @almostthere2516 3 ปีที่แล้ว +266

    So, let me see if I got it right;
    If you instantly fall in love, it’s not love.
    You have maximum three dates to decide how the rest of your life will be.
    Soul and religion is most important, yet the first thing these guys ask about, is how the woman looks.
    The dudes study the Torah all day, so who will feed the kids? Who will pay the rent?
    A divorced woman is damaged goods, but what is a divorced man? A god?

    • @solaccursio
      @solaccursio 2 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      You got it right. Crazy stuff. How to destroy your life in the minimum amount of time.

    • @khushboosirova4273
      @khushboosirova4273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      well Judaism and religion that emerged from are derogatory to women most religions dont fall behind much but with modernization they changed that all

    • @MrBetterThanYou77
      @MrBetterThanYou77 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Just wait until you learn what's in the Talmud

    • @uschurch
      @uschurch 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Romantic love is a very recent requirement for marriage. Outside of the West and in past times most marriages are arranged and more of a societal and economic undertaking rather than one of personal fulfillment.

    • @khushboosirova4273
      @khushboosirova4273 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      @@uschurch their is nothing wrong with arranged marriage but concept of concidering a women damaged or second hand just because she is a divorcee is determental and just because it happened for ages doesn't make it right

  • @thomasmattson2389
    @thomasmattson2389 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I thought the girl that got married was very practical and level headed. I loved how she said we are not the first to get married, implying that they will get through it like anyone else.

  • @ellegaitor2887
    @ellegaitor2887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +786

    Erm Esty’s mom crying because her 18 year old daughter didn’t want to get married after just 3 dates lasting a few minutes each.......is this real life? Lol 😂 x

    • @catherinebrookebarnes4113
      @catherinebrookebarnes4113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      She's clearly an out of control control freak. Poor daughter.

    • @MrPinoCavallo
      @MrPinoCavallo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      She's a dragon. Poor future son-in-law (whoever he is).

    • @HueyPPLong
      @HueyPPLong 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Nah the daughter seems to want the same as the mother. It’s just the guys family that is more down to earth and wanting to wait

    • @carolanne139
      @carolanne139 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      I would not like to be in this culture & be under such pressure to marry & have babies, that mother was too much, all that crying to her daughter!!!

    • @gladysatwood5897
      @gladysatwood5897 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      That woman is using manipulation, she need to smell the coffee.

  • @YulRun
    @YulRun 3 ปีที่แล้ว +414

    Despite their beliefs and upbringing, etc. I think a key take-away anyone could take away from their approach to dating is how upfront and honest they all are about what they're looking for out of the relationship and life, not something you see much anymore.

    • @carmenl163
      @carmenl163 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      I actually found that they didn't address anything really important, you know, the real questions life will throw at you. How they want to spend their days and get money and whether to allow children to watch tv or not seems rather trivial to me (and they had no consensus on that last issue).

    • @James-gy8sj
      @James-gy8sj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@carmenl163 They all came from the same community, if you pay close attention... when they are match making the first thing they ensure is that their partner is orthodox, meaning they already share same or similar values. They are not meeting / dating with other partners that come from extreme polar sets of perspectives or values.

    • @carmenl163
      @carmenl163 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@James-gy8sj You're right, I suppose they have a very narrow perspective on life. Since having individual opinions and preferences are frowned upon, these are the real questions for them.

    • @James-gy8sj
      @James-gy8sj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@carmenl163 Having large unsubstantiated opinions and preferences is not healthy. I applaud their community's prudence in guiding their families to generating meaning in life.

    • @carmenl163
      @carmenl163 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@James-gy8sj Well, I guess not everyone has the same view on what we consider to be meaningful in life.
      For me, living without questioning makes their community one that has large unsubstantiated opinions and preferences. It's the tradition that rules, not their own personal experiences. Personally, I don't believe in a ' one size fits all ' community.

  • @alyssabuffington6842
    @alyssabuffington6842 3 ปีที่แล้ว +468

    I love how honest they are while dating- it’s so refreshing seeing people out their true wants and needs on the table right away

    • @Braglemaster123
      @Braglemaster123 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Amen 🙏 ✡️✡️

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I didn't think cooking was important until I dated a girl who could really cook. After that I was like "my wife has to be a good cook." The other thing is not boring and not a dummy. So I'm single. lol.

    • @onecuet
      @onecuet 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      They have to. They only get 3 dates. Those dates are only 30 - 45 mins long each.

    • @vanessaschwartz3271
      @vanessaschwartz3271 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Incredibly immature to decide the person you want as a match for life in only three days! Like silly teens that only want to get married and not to do the actual work of getting to really know another human being and comprehend what goals and needs she/ha has! I feel sorry for couples that later are trapped when they didn't get the right partner because they haven't even seen the defects yet. To vomit your expectations like that is to not understand the process of love and to feel desperate instead of growing organically something beautiful that takes time and real effort!

    • @vanessaschwartz3271
      @vanessaschwartz3271 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@PlateletRichGel Or maybe you are single because you can afford a massive kitchen to deserve such a talented wife! What you put into this world would come back as a boomerang!

  • @Lee935
    @Lee935 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    They have a very direct way of dating. I love it. They communicate the most important things first, then just marry.

    • @MamaCat29
      @MamaCat29 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I envy them. They are not missing anything marrying young and not dating around for years. I eventually got married, but the road getting there was brutal.

  • @marianadnad1664
    @marianadnad1664 3 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    I am glad that Yehezhel decided to leave his strict religious movement. It was very clear that he didn’t want to marry and had doubts about his religious beliefs.

    • @Ken-iu2zp
      @Ken-iu2zp 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wow, he left??

    • @doroparker1702
      @doroparker1702 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Ken-iu2zp read the last minutes of the report.
      He left and started law school. He will be thirty when he graduates but he has an excuse to get support until he is thirty.
      Maybe he will grow up more.

    • @Ken-iu2zp
      @Ken-iu2zp 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@doroparker1702 Wow....But you can see the immaturity in his eyes and face. He's not ready for marriage and fatherhood. That's clear....

  • @soapiesoap5649
    @soapiesoap5649 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

    I actually saw the first guy more scared to make the wrong choice and marry the wrong person and hiding behind him being “picky” I think he was dragging it out because he wasn’t ready.

    • @mud5377
      @mud5377 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm finding it funny how so many comments seem to have him all figured out when we've probably got even less of an idea about him than these people get to learn of one another on these job interview style "dates". Quite funny when ya think about it, dating can be quite daunting sometimes and all of these people jumping to conclusions based on such little information is a great example of why that is!

    • @jenniferoneal190
      @jenniferoneal190 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree! I actually feel sorry for him, he seems sort of tormented:(

    • @emveetu3672
      @emveetu3672 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mud5377 Exactly. People are looking at it from their individual perspectives. Their perspectives are built from their experiences and environments and in the secular world, not an Orthodox community. They don't understand that if they truly are to understand him, they need to see what he sees but from his perspective. Many people are incapable of putting themselves in somebody else's shoes.

    • @mud5377
      @mud5377 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@emveetu3672 the amount of people who like to preach or lecture others on "how it is" while simultaneously projecting their own inadequacies, while disturbing at times, makes it incredibly easy to identify people to avoid these days.

    • @GRACEiisCOOL
      @GRACEiisCOOL 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jenniferoneal190 omg same! i couldn’t articulate the word until i read ur comment and tormented is exactly what i see! from the pressure and expectation. hope he finds that peace soon

  • @sharonkaczorowski8690
    @sharonkaczorowski8690 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1384

    That young man has a serious love affair going with himself.

    • @christineh2843
      @christineh2843 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

      I don't agree with you.
      He met her and fell into instant "like" with her.
      He knew what he wanted
      I applaud him for taking that risk and letting his heart open.
      More people should do that...in my opinion

    • @NeraRondine
      @NeraRondine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@christineh2843 9o

    • @sherricopeland6393
      @sherricopeland6393 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree

    • @cassandrachea8875
      @cassandrachea8875 3 ปีที่แล้ว +136

      Like 30 seconds in, and I was like..."What a douche..."

    • @PiNkNeOnz
      @PiNkNeOnz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@cassandrachea8875 this is exactly what I was thinking.

  • @flyingazorian
    @flyingazorian 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    This video has been an eye-opener for me. It's great to learn about other cultures. Thank you for posting this documentary.

  • @jayar7436
    @jayar7436 3 ปีที่แล้ว +246

    Esti is gorgeous. She has such beautiful eyes and a wonderful smile. I liked her husband as well. You could tell they really liked each other. Even if they weren’t married, I could see them as being great co-parents.

  • @salinal2783
    @salinal2783 3 ปีที่แล้ว +353

    Not impressed with they first guy whatsoever!! He went there thinking it was ALL about HIM!!! Can you imagine living with that narcissist your entire life?? Yikes!!! I love seeing these guys who are all about themselves, want perfection and beauty in their partner....and yes, I will say it....and he is SOOO unattractive himself!!! Dude, you are NOT the center of the universe!! There is a glaring reason why he is still single!!

    • @marp4735
      @marp4735 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      He dominates the conversation,not once did I hear him ask, would you like to ask me anything?

    • @leahlee2323
      @leahlee2323 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      My thoughts exactlly!! She dodge a bullet with that one!

    • @LP12191
      @LP12191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      This comment honestly made me laugh lmaooo so true

    • @rubytuesday5412
      @rubytuesday5412 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Haha, spot on. Someone give the guy a mirror!

    • @annecaulder9495
      @annecaulder9495 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      And asked if she would be the breadwinner so he can just pursue his hobbies all day? BS on that!

  • @micomalo
    @micomalo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +627

    I think the lady who is lawyer is a perfect woman, she is fantastic, i hope she could find a perfect husband she deserves a good man!

    • @thesuperspoiled301
      @thesuperspoiled301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      And a racist! There for she must be perfect!😩😝😖

    • @iamyourtugabro8325
      @iamyourtugabro8325 3 ปีที่แล้ว +55

      @@thesuperspoiled301 She just wants to marry someone of their ethnic group. I am not a jew and I aspire the same thing... oh god, does that mean I am racist too? Dang it, why did you have to be like that? :/ Not cool! >:(

    • @thesuperspoiled301
      @thesuperspoiled301 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@iamyourtugabro8325 Yourr really ignorant, it really isnt about 'her' eing an attorney. Its about her stating :'i want to stay in my own ethinic group'. That is a racists statement. But if you want to stay ignorant go live under a rock. Being a WPOC who is Jewish isn't offensive.

    • @jenniediaz2895
      @jenniediaz2895 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes, I wish that she can find a great guy, She very open minded,So Wishing She Can find One Like Her self💝, I feel that 3 Dates is too Short to Know Some One😖

    • @amazingabby25
      @amazingabby25 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      TheSuper Spoiled Ashkenazi Jew can be black, Indian. Whatever, what she meant was Sephardic or not. Sephardic Jews have diferente traditions. Love when non frum try to get our culture. In Israel, it’s NOT like the US

  • @VictoriaGirlBC
    @VictoriaGirlBC 2 ปีที่แล้ว +103

    Merav is an amazing woman with an immense amount of EVERYTHING to offer a husband. She’s drop dead gorgeous, incredibly intelligent, passionate and caring. I’d love to see an update with her married to her dream man. This doc gets 10/10, it was brilliant.

    • @Kat-nl5gh
      @Kat-nl5gh 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      💯 agree 👏👏👏👏👏

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      she was also extremely picky, and you didn't get the other side of the story from her divorced husband.

    • @VictoriaGirlBC
      @VictoriaGirlBC 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@PlateletRichGel she has every right to be picky when choosing her LIFE PARTNER. She is the entire package, she deserves a guy with equivalent attributes.

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@VictoriaGirlBC she has no "right" to be this way, She chooses to be too picky, as the matchmaker told her, and as I understand it she's alone. Marriage is not about waiting for the mythical perfect person who checkss all the perfect boxes, it's about willing to change yourself, not the other person. If one looks for the perfect person and waits for them, they'll be like Merav.

    • @VictoriaGirlBC
      @VictoriaGirlBC 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      @@PlateletRichGel I don’t believe she’s looking for perfection, she’s unwilling to compromise on her three fundamental requirements. I completely understand, that’s her prerogative.

  • @fandude7
    @fandude7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    Thank you for an 1 hour and 15 minutes of "anxiety porn." I'm exhausted now.

  • @jeanettewaverly2590
    @jeanettewaverly2590 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    This was so touching and intimate. I’m amazed that so many Orthodox Jews would allow themselves to be filmed like this.

  • @amywalker3684
    @amywalker3684 3 ปีที่แล้ว +283

    Esty's mother is quite the master manipulator. She must be exhausting to be around.

    • @babayoga4712
      @babayoga4712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I thought the same thing... I feel bad for all her children.

    • @serene5345
      @serene5345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      She was raised to behave that way and probably saw her parents doing the same thing. It goes back for who knows how many generations.

    • @denisecarpenter2981
      @denisecarpenter2981 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      She is horrible. OMG! Crying? Her daughter is 18 for frick’s sake. She needs to STFU

    • @catherinebrookebarnes4113
      @catherinebrookebarnes4113 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      She will probably cause many divorces because her sons and daughers in law won't be able to stand all her manipulation.

    • @doodoo415
      @doodoo415 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I can’t believe she’s crying over something so stupid! She’s being completely irrational! I’m exhausted just watching her.

  • @flyrican97
    @flyrican97 2 ปีที่แล้ว +209

    This is so beautiful God bless Etsi and Ariel on their beautiful family and union they seem like they were meant to marry each other their connection is apparent, this was almost 10 years ago I’m sure they have many kids by now and much happiness in their lives God bless much love 💞

    • @MulberryLover
      @MulberryLover 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      I found them to be a a good match. Etsi is a women who knows how to communicate to him what is needed and get him to do it lol.

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      @56username 2 ปีที่แล้ว

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      And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth.
      Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
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  • @CraigsOverijse
    @CraigsOverijse 3 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    I’m glad it worked out for Etsy I felt so sorry for her the pressure from her mother was immense

    • @dianapeek6936
      @dianapeek6936 3 ปีที่แล้ว +32

      Good heavens, her Mother is off the scale.

    • @blisshuthart2360
      @blisshuthart2360 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Esty is Disgusting.

    • @sweetsugar1014
      @sweetsugar1014 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@dianapeek6936 Yep!! More worried about what people would think about 'her' than she is her daughter's life.

    • @Elizuchka
      @Elizuchka ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes and when she says "Are you thinking of what it does to my emotions?" So many manipulative and toxic behaviours.. I was like : no-one else is responsible for your emotions other than yourself dear crazy lady. Deal with your fears alone and let your daughter breath 😒

  • @rashminable
    @rashminable 3 ปีที่แล้ว +250

    Etsy's mum needs to settle her own baggage without burdening her daughter. Talk about poor emotional regulation. Ariel's parents are so lovely, no wonder they raised such a chilled guy

    • @serene5345
      @serene5345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      His parents were lovely and he was very chill. I wonder what led him to want a life of slaughtering animals.

    • @iaJENKA
      @iaJENKA 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      his parents were not very lovely either. First his mom asks him if the girl is prettier than she is, to stop from fighting he doesn't answer just gives her a quick shoulder hug. Then when the girl comes over to meet the parent the mom sort of ignores her and the dad asks which one is this and names off three girls.... and then in the next second asks if she will be okay living with them or not. The girl isn't too stupid so she says she will need a minute to think, the dad continues to be an intimidating jerk and says you can even have 2 minutes. The mom asks if the girl wants a drink, the girl says no thanks, the mom says I'll get you some anyway so you won't say you weren't treated while over here, when she declines once more the mom insists you better have some so my son doesn't have to spend money on you getting you a drink while you are out. Chill? Oh yeah, super chill. Geez., what a family. Even though this girls mom is stupid and pushy, his family is worse and she married down.

    • @Michael-gu8ck
      @Michael-gu8ck 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@serene5345 The Culture, the Family business and TRADITION!

    • @Michael-gu8ck
      @Michael-gu8ck 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@iaJENKA How did Esti marry DOWN? i don't see it. she seemed way too eager to marry quickly, so she was obviously into him and thought she had to tie him up quickly.

    • @agatanakonieczny2213
      @agatanakonieczny2213 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@iaJENKA In Poland it used to be considered polite to refuse the offers of getting you anything (not to bother the host). The girl was smiling. It was a kind of joke. I do not think she felt pressured or controlled :)
      This comment about 2 minutes of thinking was also a joke.
      Farther's question was right. He wanted her to be happy with them and addressing a very probable problem (separation from her family) just shows he validates her feelings.
      The family has high emotional intelligence.

  • @angievalenccia
    @angievalenccia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +232

    I hope Merav finds someone special !! And wow yehezkel haha he got his karma with blumi- he fell so hard for her and she didn’t want him! I almost felt bad for him until I remember that narcissistic behavior he displayed on the first date we saw

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      If he kept his mouth shut, blumi would have fallen hard. Did you see her eyes on first date!

    • @angievalenccia
      @angievalenccia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Scott Johnson ohh yeah for sure! They definitely had a moment

    • @flossyraven
      @flossyraven 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@williammassimo3001 💯😂😂😂

    • @freeto9139
      @freeto9139 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      So much pressure from all sides ... UnG-dly 😟

    • @MR-nl8xr
      @MR-nl8xr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Narcissictic because he correctly wanted to make sure things were rational instead of fairy tale fee fee's, lol, yea ok. He's no angel and still needs to work on him self, but you should drop the disney movie's lady.

  • @Janjanbobaney
    @Janjanbobaney 2 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I feel so grateful I grew up in a non orthodox Jewish home … my mother or bubbi didn’t have a match maker for me… nor was anything expected from me but education to be a strong and independent woman. I should say thank you mom.. you truly were the best role model I could ever ask for. As for my bubbi, she was a trail blazer for Jewish women. Mazel Tov ladies to all my Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, and Christian women in my life. ( if I forgot your religion, I apologize). ♥️🇨🇦

  • @honeybeejourney
    @honeybeejourney 3 ปีที่แล้ว +531

    I love this! I love the transparency they have with each other from the beginning. They ask hard questions right away. Now, I understand even better the influence the Jewish culture has had on me as I grew up in NY. Directness is key in these conversations. Thank you!

    • @emveetu3672
      @emveetu3672 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Agreed. I definitely get why things happen as they do in their culture much more now.

    • @Celisar1
      @Celisar1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      That’s pure desperation. They have little to no time making a life determining decision.
      I don’t see that as positive in any way.

    • @LethalLemonLime
      @LethalLemonLime 3 ปีที่แล้ว +61

      I mean they marry after two 30 minute dates. They better be asking the hard questions.

    • @berenicececilia
      @berenicececilia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      That's the key of a healthy relationship. Ask questions, answer them and get married after 3 dates 😑

    • @11dagit
      @11dagit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I love it too. Life would be much simpler if people actually ASK hard questions and received HONEST answers

  • @badmedgirl
    @badmedgirl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +317

    “It could lead to you touching each other” could you imagine thinking that is worse than marrying someone you might not want to spend the rest of your life with?!!

    • @cattycorner8
      @cattycorner8 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      There is sooooo much more to married life than sex.

    • @annabizaro-doo-dah
      @annabizaro-doo-dah 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      This is what religious cults can do to a loving mother...she'd rather her daughter be rushed into an unhappy marriage than be sure and "touch" her fiancé !!!

    • @charliefoxx81
      @charliefoxx81 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@cattycorner8 of course but without sexual chemistry it's NOT a marriage but a sibling relationship.... no thanks.

    • @zambranovero13
      @zambranovero13 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      So interesting... my mom was crying for the opposite reason lol. I got married at 21 and she just cried and pleaded not to marry because I was too young. She actually told me to take my time in dating. Divorced now for 10+ years.

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@zambranovero13 I would cry if my son in law named you Zambrano, you're always last in attendance.

  • @SusanSez1
    @SusanSez1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +175

    Although several of these customs are foreign to me, I find it fascinating to learn of another culture, their mores, customs, ideas, etc. I really enjoyed this documentary. Excellent.

    • @stephj9378
      @stephj9378 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ditto!

    • @esebams6211
      @esebams6211 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yes it’s nice understanding a little bit more of their culture. The fact that you could ‘date’ that many people was illuminating. It also shows that it’s not forced even if there nay be pressure from some sides. I do like that both the man and the woman know what they’re trying to get out of dating

    • @ImehSmith
      @ImehSmith 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Same here!!

    • @kathybrem880
      @kathybrem880 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It creeps me out

  • @Frivillig
    @Frivillig 2 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Loved Etsi and Ariel. They seemed like the most down to earth people with great things ahead. I hope they keep on smiling on their time on earth! I never understood the pressure some orthodox Jews have. I myself felt stressed just by watching this. One mistake and you're casted away of the only thing you're taught from birth.

    • @56username
      @56username 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😃🤔
      Tender Plant Lives
      Hidden Message in the
      Torah /Tanak / Bible
      Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32
      NAMES ---- Name
      MEANINGS
      Adam - Man
      Seth - Appointed
      Enos - Mortal
      Cainan - Sarrow
      Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD
      Jared - Shall come Down
      Enoch - Teaching
      Methuselah -His Death shall
      Bring
      Lamech -To Make /Low
      Mighity
      Noah -Rest / Favor /
      Fulfilled
      Name Meanings written in a
      Sentence 😳
      Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down
      teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED
      My Interpretation:
      Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔
      Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲
      Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God !
      Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened .
      Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ?
      For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath
      No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.
      He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not.
      Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
      But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
      All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
      He was oppressed, and he was
      all .
      He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth.
      He was taken from prison
      From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For
      He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
      And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth.
      Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
      He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by
      His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
      Who is this About?
      KJV in Isaiah 53
      The Truth will set you free !
      Christ means Messiah ,
      Jesus was a Jew and still is .
      Jesus is not a religion,
      Jesus Loves You
      Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ
      You are Born Again
      Believe as a child
      Just Believe
      RAPTURE Very SOON 😳
      It is Not Death But Life
      Tuesday 30 , 2022
      Or
      3 , Elul 5782
      3:37 AM
      Control time , has not happened yet , any Second
      Are you Ready ,
      Believe ON Jesus
      Heaven
      or Outerdarkness
      God will not hear your prayers that is hell.
      TH-cam : Rapture 2022
      Please choose Jesus

  • @beth-bi9yv
    @beth-bi9yv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    The dates seem so stilted and awkward. I think I'd be terrified to marry someone after only 2-3 of those.....

    • @fairlyvague82
      @fairlyvague82 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Me too, but I guess it’s the culture in which you are raised that makes the difference. To me it seems awfully uncomfortable and impersonal and fast! But I wasn’t raised within their culture, maybe if I was then it might feel perfectly natural to me.

    • @irishcountrygirl78
      @irishcountrygirl78 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@fairlyvague82 true.

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      50% of marriages fail, so no matter what you do its 50-50. So why worry? Love... It's not about finding a perfect match.

    • @Bandomeme
      @Bandomeme 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@PlateletRichGel 50% of marriages in the US end in divorce, but only 38% of marriages in Canada, so it’s obviously not just a matter of luck (though I think there’s some luck in it). What you DO actually does matter very much. Great sex and the weak-at-the-knees feeling are good to have, but after 50 years it’s more important to communicate well, have similar likes, dislikes, and goals, and generally respect and enjoy each other’s company while allowing privacy and alone time as required.

    • @sarahfarmer7643
      @sarahfarmer7643 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Very true. This would definitely be where you have to have faith and trust that God is working to give you the right partner.

  • @krankykrista
    @krankykrista 3 ปีที่แล้ว +752

    Ariel’s dad is so entertaining - he should have his own show. Hilarious and also seems so proud of his son.

    • @robinhood2980
      @robinhood2980 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      This whole program could easily be made into a series, I would watch it.

    • @darlingdear2687
      @darlingdear2687 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      @@robinhood2980 They already have a show like that, called Shtisel

    • @morenikefashina4433
      @morenikefashina4433 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Ikr his dad seems like a good man

    • @misterstinks73
      @misterstinks73 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Like Father like son...what beautiful spirits they have!

    • @bettyraltejohn3374
      @bettyraltejohn3374 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I too love Ariel's father so much, such a great sense of humour!

  • @lizarrrdbeth
    @lizarrrdbeth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +171

    His writing in the beginning is impeccable. Gorgeous!!!

    • @dianapeek6936
      @dianapeek6936 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Thats the only thing he can do. He should stick to it, because he's not a "proper" man!!

    • @Tsubahi
      @Tsubahi 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      With a quill, too! 🙂

    • @CozierStitches
      @CozierStitches 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@dianapeek6936 Fr might he might aswell get married to the pen! 😂😂

    • @mrg8077
      @mrg8077 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      That’s his profession. He’s a scribe.

    • @frayinch
      @frayinch 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hell yes

  • @scottmescudi3423
    @scottmescudi3423 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is one of the best documentaries I’ve seen in my life and about this topic. I can see dating is also complicated among haredims. Hats off to the director.

  • @rorik.3842
    @rorik.3842 3 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    the guy who said " I don't think love important on first meeting, it comes after marriage"
    exactly the one who don't want to marry because he can't feel love few mins later 😭😭😭🤣

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      He was not true to himself. He really didn't know what he wanted.

    • @tshililomugovheli2717
      @tshililomugovheli2717 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He's so confused and likes complicating things

    • @serene5345
      @serene5345 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Some if not most of those guys are young and don't know what they want. They just know their families want them to get married, so it becomes a "hurry up and pick and choose" kind of thing, for some.

  • @taliatheman5666
    @taliatheman5666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +193

    Hebrew is my first language , and the translation is spotless .most of the time when people translate from Hebrew to English in movies\videos it sucks ass. I'm impressed

    • @netanyah613
      @netanyah613 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Your French is annoying.

    • @taliatheman5666
      @taliatheman5666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@netanyah613 איזה צרפתית חביבי

    • @pammers5588
      @pammers5588 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That's good to know

    • @shah201219
      @shah201219 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks, I was wondering if it was Hebrew or Yiddish.

    • @taliatheman5666
      @taliatheman5666 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@krzysztofniemiec1958 dude. I am not even Israeli. I haven’t lived there since I was 10. My parents are diplomats.

  • @MoonChylde0622
    @MoonChylde0622 3 ปีที่แล้ว +584

    I got a chuckle out of the first guy when his cousin was essentially like "are you for real? You think you're all that and a bag of chips after one 10 minute date and she should be fawning all over you?" 🤣

    • @robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939
      @robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939 2 ปีที่แล้ว +63

      He acts like an egomaniac, She was the lucky one to ESCAPE his clutches!!!!

    • @tikusblue
      @tikusblue 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      @@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939 it seemed like he was exaggerating to get a laugh out of her. It's his cousin after all.

    • @ashfoyowa6689
      @ashfoyowa6689 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Luxe Aux well duh he is a man

    • @babkeebabkus8177
      @babkeebabkus8177 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@robertm.-certifieddaytrade4939 this ethnicity has serious mind problems...I've never witnessed a more mentally challenged ethnic group....they overthink EVERYTHING and all appear to be neurotic...headacheville

    • @captainharlock3998
      @captainharlock3998 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ashfoyowa6689 What the fuck? sexist much?

  • @BenefitCounterbench
    @BenefitCounterbench 2 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    "Too many dates are unhealthy!" Yeah, because committing your life to someone you only know for like 2 hours is perfectly healthy...

    • @Србомбоница86
      @Србомбоница86 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      It was always like that ,dates are modern thing

    • @raimeyewens7518
      @raimeyewens7518 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I can’t imagine having to pick a spouse after a handful of 30 minute dates. And then being pressured by my parents to to marry them or move on.

    • @blackhole-chan4619
      @blackhole-chan4619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@Србомбоница86 Exactly! Society functioned just fine haha, contrary to popular belief a man and woman can actually be quite happy going into a marriage blind. Hookup culture and dating is such a recent phenomenon

    • @BenefitCounterbench
      @BenefitCounterbench 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@blackhole-chan4619 sorry but saying that "back in the days blind marriages worked fine" is a blatant lie. It's well-known that keeping a lover beside a spouse became a thing *because* forced marriages sucked. I've dated toxic people before my SO. I can't imagine myself commiting my life to a narcissistic/sociopathic/manipulative/liar/stupid/cheater/lazy/dirty/horrible in bed person (such things are not obvious even after weeks, months, or years), or to someone who differs from me in everything. We MUST know what traits we're (not) looking for in a long-term partner.

    • @blackhole-chan4619
      @blackhole-chan4619 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@BenefitCounterbench There's a difference between 'forced' and 'arranged' marriages. What is shown in the video is not forced, it's arranged by family, the participants choose whether or not to move forward with it.
      >It's well-known that keeping a lover beside a spouse became a thing because forced marriages sucked.
      People still do this even in western society where you're free to be as promiscuous as you want. Marriage rates have gone down drastically, just because people 'choose' who they date, doesn't mean they're more committed or happy. Dating as a whole is a minefield in today's age.
      If dating actually worked, divorce rates surely would be at record lows would they not? In theory, women get to choose who they marry and same with men, they should be happier, but no. Divorce rates are at record highs, people go through dozens of partners and they lose their ability to pairbond successfully with one person, which increases the rate of divorce.
      Also, arranged marriages are statistically more longer lasting and happier than 'love' marriages.

  • @Tantejuju65
    @Tantejuju65 3 ปีที่แล้ว +191

    I hope the young woman knows her worth, and keeps looking.

    • @sueberry1974
      @sueberry1974 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Does she have marry a man from the society that looks down on a divorced woman? If i were her, i will look outside the jew culture

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@sueberry1974 did you notice she wasn't also true to herself? She started out saying it didn't bother her when dates were rejected and later she said she cried after rejections. She also said she wouldn't settle until she was 30, but the thing is, it gets worse exponentially because at 30 she'll have to settle even more. It's not about finding the perfect checklist, but she can't get over that. I would think in that culture, a lady lawyer would be prized because the men don't work. But it didn't seem to matter. She should just lie about the divorce.

  • @millicentdollhouse5252
    @millicentdollhouse5252 3 ปีที่แล้ว +577

    I love the young woman who was casually late for dates and totally unbothered!! 😂❤️

    • @daw162
      @daw162 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Some things exist equally across cultures. My wife was always late (I refer to it as chronic lack of analysis).
      I was always early.
      Guess what didn't change in marriage (she is still always late, and still nearly 20 years later gets flustered and despite many of the occasions being something she does regularly, she will despises my suggestion of "make note of how early you begin to get ready. Then note how late you are for ___ in minutes, and next time, subtract that from your start time and see what happens".
      It will never happen!!
      Some of her friends are later than she is. It only gets awkward when a group gets together and someone invites another couple without warning them. They arrive at the event on time and some of the participants are over an hour late.

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      I really dislike that, it's disrespectful. In fact, at 25 minutes if the person hasn't called, I leave and go home and don't answer their calls. The next week when they call me I say "We had a date? When? Friday? Oh, I went to Lowes to look at tile, why didn't you call me? "

    • @rkeve6352
      @rkeve6352 2 ปีที่แล้ว +53

      @@PlateletRichGel and I bet you’re still single lol

    • @PlateletRichGel
      @PlateletRichGel 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@rkeve6352 Committed bachellor. The odds and opportunities get better for single bachellor's.

    • @daughterofisrael671
      @daughterofisrael671 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@PlateletRichGel Awe look at you beating or your chicken chest. I doubt that's the fact. lmao doubt you've even been on a date

  • @filipposg
    @filipposg 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    The least thing I expected when I started watching this is that I would feel a strong urge to cry. It happened a couple of times. This was a very touching documentary, as much as it was fascinating.

  • @natchats3099
    @natchats3099 3 ปีที่แล้ว +312

    If this was a dating series I would actually watch it! Very interesting.

    • @rahla53
      @rahla53 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too, :>)

  • @dianac2596
    @dianac2596 3 ปีที่แล้ว +143

    I enjoyed this video so much. It’s so interesting to see how different cultures, religion and people live their lives. With an open heart, God bless.

  • @capricornstar9803
    @capricornstar9803 3 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    Esti & Ariel were so cute . So happy for them that they are married. Yehezkel is good looking but he has that “mad” look to his eyes. Lol. He reminds me of Joaquin Phoenix

    • @orsmo7
      @orsmo7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I was thinking that he looked like Joaquin Phoenix throughout the entire thing!

    • @slynnefrizell
      @slynnefrizell 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I didn't see Joaquin but I thought Ariel looked like a baby-faced Josh Groban.

    • @ND1966p
      @ND1966p 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I kinda fancied him but he’d be scared to death of me lol

    • @kathybrem880
      @kathybrem880 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don’t think any of them are ‘cute ‘ -it’s like some creepy cult thing

  • @kcnolan3258
    @kcnolan3258 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I love this documentary! Learning about this way of finding a spouse...in the secular world, it's so chaotic, and not so nice. I feel a deep respect for this way, even though it's so different from my ways. I want to watch more docs like this!

    • @56username
      @56username 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😃🤔
      Tender Plant Lives
      Hidden Message in the
      Torah /Tanak / Bible
      Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32
      NAMES ---- Name
      MEANINGS
      Adam - Man
      Seth - Appointed
      Enos - Mortal
      Cainan - Sarrow
      Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD
      Jared - Shall come Down
      Enoch - Teaching
      Methuselah -His Death shall
      Bring
      Lamech -To Make /Low
      Mighity
      Noah -Rest / Favor /
      Fulfilled
      Name Meanings written in a
      Sentence 😳
      Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down
      teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED
      My Interpretation:
      Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔
      Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲
      Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God !
      Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened .
      Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ?
      For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath
      No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.
      He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not.
      Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
      But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
      All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
      He was oppressed, and he was
      all .
      He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth.
      He was taken from prison
      From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For
      He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
      And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth.
      Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
      He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by
      His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
      Who is this About?
      KJV in Isaiah 53
      The Truth will set you free !
      Christ means Messiah ,
      Jesus was a Jew and still is .
      Jesus is not a religion,
      Jesus Loves You
      Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ
      You are Born Again
      Believe as a child
      Just Believe
      RAPTURE Very SOON 😳
      It is Not Death But Life
      Tuesday 30 , 2022
      Or
      3 , Elul 5782
      3:37 AM
      Control time , has not happened yet , any Second
      Are you Ready ,
      Believe ON Jesus
      Heaven
      or Outerdarkness
      God will not hear your prayers that is hell.
      TH-cam : Rapture 2022
      Please choose Jesus

    • @Kat-V
      @Kat-V ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I don't think there's respect in the way young people are all forced to follow the exact path their sect decides. Their decisions are being made for them

  • @cheryl-anncampbell1318
    @cheryl-anncampbell1318 3 ปีที่แล้ว +176

    Unbelievable, practically forced into a marriage just after 3 dates and if it doesn't work out you're seen as damage goods ,MADDNESS!!

    • @dalidah.k.m.7638
      @dalidah.k.m.7638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Agree 100%

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      It's actually an improvement. In ancient times the man would wait for a bride to be chosen and brought to him by emissaries sent out by his father, therefore both would meet on their wedding day.

    • @dalidah.k.m.7638
      @dalidah.k.m.7638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Gwaycee Right, as you mentioned in ancient times, but, it's shocking to this day there are matchmakers. Also, what's with the married women should wear a wig, to me, it's just like the Hijab , both are unacceptable.

    • @Gwaycee
      @Gwaycee 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dalidah.k.m.7638 Apparently, only a husband should see his wife's hair after she's married, hence the wigs and head coverings.
      I heard it said that all men world over have an inner instinct to identify their future wives the minute they set their eyes on them, so this particular culture probably builds upon that instinct to prevent prolongued dating that would result in a physical relationship before marriage.

    • @dalidah.k.m.7638
      @dalidah.k.m.7638 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Gwaycee Obviously sometimes their instincts are wrong, just like that lovely lady who was pointed to as damaged good.

  • @Raven-te8to
    @Raven-te8to 3 ปีที่แล้ว +649

    I wish there were more episodes of this! This is the most interesting and fascinating doc I’ve watched in a long time.
    I love seeing the other side of cultures and how their beliefs are so important to them.
    Fantastic job!

    • @katetatom3682
      @katetatom3682 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Check out “arranged”!

    • @sweetenergy
      @sweetenergy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I loved this too! Learned so much. I respect Jewish culture.

    • @jamestoalan3274
      @jamestoalan3274 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes...for me as well.Understanding each other,that puts an end to that God forbidden R word. This was just Beautiful to watch.

    • @angelinajones4372
      @angelinajones4372 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@katetatom3682 Love that show!

    • @babkeebabkus8177
      @babkeebabkus8177 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      they overthink EVERYTHING...I've never seen a more internally troubled mentally challenged group of people...major neurosis

  • @luckdoc2378
    @luckdoc2378 3 ปีที่แล้ว +83

    LMAO "She's economical, she didn't drink anything" 😂🤣😂

    • @MR-nl8xr
      @MR-nl8xr 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      "you can't answer that in one minute ", " that's fine, take two " lol.

    • @damalewis9277
      @damalewis9277 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Very funny family!

  • @arrigune
    @arrigune ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The Hassidic guy, poor guy, his more open minded than his family, he'll suffer ostracism, hes questioning the tradition in a reasonable way. Revolutionary thoughts and reflections for his situation.

  • @toniaantona800
    @toniaantona800 3 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    That mother crying for her own life and projecting it onto her daughter is heartbreaking, anyway you look at it...

    • @Ken-iu2zp
      @Ken-iu2zp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You're not from their religious background. She just didn't want her daughter to fall into fornication.....

    • @LadyLyndhurst01
      @LadyLyndhurst01 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Ken-iu2zp More like SHE doesn't want the shame and pity from other women if her daughter ends up a spinster.

    • @Ken-iu2zp
      @Ken-iu2zp 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@LadyLyndhurst01 Nah, you're not a godly woman. You're probably some woman who shacks up with a man, and know nothing about Divine communities that try to observes God's law.

    • @bellona6356
      @bellona6356 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Ken-iu2zp lol. Using some religious fueled guilt to dismiss righteous critiscm about her and these traditions... sounds like the mother.

  • @vsbaretummysugastonguetech1540
    @vsbaretummysugastonguetech1540 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I mean, if you're only supposed to date for two or three days before deciding to marry, then why not make a date that lasts the whole day? That way you have more of an idea.

    • @joehaddad6276
      @joehaddad6276 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      It usually works out pretty well

    • @nomirodriguespereira
      @nomirodriguespereira 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      You can if you want I think it’s just personal preference some people feel ready after a few dates and some date for months

    • @mypointofview1111
      @mypointofview1111 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Too much, there's life out there

  • @VivaLaVittoria
    @VivaLaVittoria 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

    "did I blow her mind?" lol. Watching their conversation, I can't imagine she would have felt that way at all.

  • @townview5322
    @townview5322 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I think this is how marriage used to be for most of the world. I think you stand as much chance of creating an enduring, loving relationship this way as you would, looking for the love first.

  • @bigbarkingdog2010
    @bigbarkingdog2010 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Very good documentary. A glimpse into another world . . . great content and strong story telling . . .

  • @eulogioortiz1384
    @eulogioortiz1384 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    Excellent film! As a director myself, the editing, and how you shot this… I wanted more! A follow up please! You present at a community and especially its people and a very humane beautiful way! Thank you !

  • @mariapav97
    @mariapav97 3 ปีที่แล้ว +129

    This was the most interesting thing I’ve seen in a long long time.

  • @lifeocean1074
    @lifeocean1074 2 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    Salam I’m Muslim and mother of two
    Our daughter also met her husband and Alhumdullilah by the grace of God he is nice and respectful
    I felt sorry for Esti get pressure from her mum 🙂
    They are nice couple Esti ♥️andAriel ♥️
    May God bless them ameen🕊

    • @monodenaro2105
      @monodenaro2105 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      May G-d bless your daughter and her husband

    • @56username
      @56username 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      😃🤔
      Tender Plant Lives
      Hidden Message in the
      Torah /Tanak / Bible
      Hidden within within the genealogy first Sons from Adam. Genesis 5 : 3-32
      NAMES ---- Name
      MEANINGS
      Adam - Man
      Seth - Appointed
      Enos - Mortal
      Cainan - Sarrow
      Mahalaleel - Blessed GOD
      Jared - Shall come Down
      Enoch - Teaching
      Methuselah -His Death shall
      Bring
      Lamech -To Make /Low
      Mighity
      Noah -Rest / Favor /
      Fulfilled
      Name Meanings written in a
      Sentence 😳
      Man appointed mortal Sarrow Blessed GOD shall come down
      teaching His death shall bring to make low/MIGHTY , rest favor FULFILLED
      My Interpretation:
      Jesus given a task to preform from this earth feeling of deep distress BLESSED GOD shall come down as Jesus teaching Jews as a Rabbi His death shall bring SALVATION to make low to hang on a tree becomes MIGHTY rest/ favor/ FULFILLED HIS Purpose 🤔
      Keep this in mind 🤔all 10 generations timeline took place up to chapter 5 of Genesis ,Hidden Message telling Jesus COMING 😲
      Approximately 4 thousand years later before it HAPPENED only God !
      Ten Trillion people could not have gotten together and had have written 1 fact and placed it in a book Foretelling of there coming Christ 4K years before it Happened .
      Who hath believed our report ? For and to whom is the arm of Lord revealed ?
      For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath
      No form nor comeliness ; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.
      He is despised and rejected of men; a men of sorrows , and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised and we esteemed him not.
      Surely he hath borne our grief , and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.
      But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.
      All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.
      He was oppressed, and he was
      all .
      He was oppressed , and he was afflicted , yet he opened not his mouth : he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter , and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openers not his mouth.
      He was taken from prison
      From judgment: and who shall declare this generation? For
      He was cut off out of the land of the living: for he was cutting off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.
      And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence , neither was any deceit in his mouth.
      Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him ; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin he shall see his seed , he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.
      He shall see of the travail of his soul , and shall be satisfied : by
      His knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many ; for he shall bear their iniquities. Therefore Will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the spoil with the strong ; because he hath pored out his soul unto death : and he was numbered with the transgressor ; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.
      Who is this About?
      KJV in Isaiah 53
      The Truth will set you free !
      Christ means Messiah ,
      Jesus was a Jew and still is .
      Jesus is not a religion,
      Jesus Loves You
      Believe ON The Lord Jesus Christ
      You are Born Again
      Believe as a child
      Just Believe
      RAPTURE Very SOON 😳
      It is Not Death But Life
      Tuesday 30 , 2022
      Or
      3 , Elul 5782
      3:37 AM
      Control time , has not happened yet , any Second
      Are you Ready ,
      Believe ON Jesus
      Heaven
      or Outerdarkness
      God will not hear your prayers that is hell.
      TH-cam : Rapture 2022
      Please choose Jesus

  • @dorylavetta423
    @dorylavetta423 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    I appreciate everyone who participated and shared their lives in this documentary. With knowledge comes understanding, even if we don't always agree, and with understanding, hopefully, will come respect.

  • @mariatereza9721
    @mariatereza9721 3 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    1:06:13 Ariel playing with his baby brother was so cute, I'm sure he would be a great dad for his kids

  • @nairolfnednilruz
    @nairolfnednilruz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    Wow, what a beautiful and sometimes very intimate insight in their (marriage-) culture. Fabulous and very instructive.
    If only more documentations would been made with such passion..
    A very big thanks goes to the persons in this movie, allowing to be filmed in those moments.

  • @svemory
    @svemory ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Wow, "Do you see yourself as the breadwinner so your husband can study?" I've lived in Jerusalem, but was never aware that the Ultra Orthodox expected their wives to bear a shitton of children, cover their hair, not be ALLOWED to study in the same way men do - A N D support them. I had an Orthodox Kaballah teacher and he was being super radical for teaching a woman. We had to meet for class in the lobby of the King David, but he was fantastic. Loved him. I'm blown away that males don't go to high school, even. Just freaking wow. I know a few folks who were born Orthodox and left.

  • @lordbattlefield
    @lordbattlefield 3 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    I could really feel the whole pressure these young people are under. It's not easy to make a decision. God bless Ariel and his lovely wife. I am so happy to see there's a happy end to this story.

  • @AnnieCappuccino
    @AnnieCappuccino 3 ปีที่แล้ว +198

    Would love to see a where are they now update on all these people.

    • @mascara1777
      @mascara1777 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Esti is on Instagram @EstiZaguri

    • @petermahler5193
      @petermahler5193 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@mascara1777 Esti ans Ariel don't look orthodox anymore

    • @sitaradevan4211
      @sitaradevan4211 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@mascara1777 wow they changed a lot !

    • @Sldindpunjab
      @Sldindpunjab 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@mascara1777 did they have a baby?

    • @fairlyvague82
      @fairlyvague82 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@Sldindpunjab looks like as of Dec 2020 they have a young boy and a newborn girl acc to her IG

  • @bugsymalone1660
    @bugsymalone1660 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    My God I’m one hour & four minutes into this now and I’m starting to feel the pressure if those two kids don’t get married I myself will be distraught now.
    Great documentary I really loved seeing this.
    Hello from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

    • @abigailirvine3414
      @abigailirvine3414 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Hello back from 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😁

    • @Blondie2.0
      @Blondie2.0 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      😅🥰

  • @helenahjarta8665
    @helenahjarta8665 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Some of these young men and women speak from such a deep place. What is important to them, compared with what is important to average American men & women of their age, is astounding. I'm mesmerized. I'd certainly watch more of these.

  • @bunbun4037
    @bunbun4037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +357

    As an African woman this is a wonderful and delightful insight in to another culture! Thank you for this wonderful..funny..heartfelt exploration into the Jewish culture....And a special blessing to all the mothers in this documentary!🙏🏽🙏🏽💖💖🌺🌹⚘🌻

    • @marthaackerman1952
      @marthaackerman1952 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      You have no idea about this religion and marriages I’m coming from this and now I’m divorced because my ex husband is a psychopath
      Who beat up my kids and me too
      In this religion men who controls woman only second citizen

    • @bunbun4037
      @bunbun4037 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      @@marthaackerman1952 I stand by what I said but I also acknowledge your experience and pain.. there is good and bad in all things...in all people and in all religions and all cultures..I am sorry you had to suffer such pain..I say that to say this...I thank God for the fact that for every story of sadness there are also stories of joy..and yes let us celebrate those stories but we must also as in your case acknowledge that there is also a dark side. I wish you God's love and his protection to you and your children..continue to stay strong and may yourself and your children be blessed with all the love and warmth in the world 🙏🏽💖💖

    • @marthaackerman1952
      @marthaackerman1952 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@bunbun4037 thank you Stephanie for your kind words I wis many people would think the same way

    • @the8thchurch461
      @the8thchurch461 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@marthaackerman1952 All religions give men power over women. Disgusting.

    • @daytoday6132
      @daytoday6132 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@marthaackerman1952 Stephanie was commenting on the insight. Everything in this documentary did not make this dating and marrying process seem more perfect than in other religions/cultural. You can never know everything about your fiancée or anyone else. Naturally, there are times when something is terrible wrong with the other person. I hope you find a compassionate man who loves you and your children, if that is what you hope for in your future.