Thank you for watching. I hope it helped you. In case you missed it, here’s the resource I mentioned at the end of the video that helps me accept and trust what happens more: docs.google.com/document/d/1dS-et2HKf64zNO5xXGJLpsb1q5LwcBJiU3EcJDbtR9I/edit
1 minute in and you lost me. I used to be religious. You want for you struggle? Listen to Bible scholars. The book is a scam and the whole thing is infested with contradictions and holes. Religion is man made, period. Psychology...you find what you are looking. These perfect things that happen to you are not magic. They are constantly around it's just noticeable when you need/are looking for it.
When I took LSD and had an ego death I encountered the spirit from “church god heaven kingdom come” and he told me “why are you trying to escape reality in realities created by man through video games? Who do you think created your world? You are like a video game character I have created. Be happy with the character I have created for you. No one plays a game and is sad that their character is only level 1 and could be 100. People just play the game. Live life like you want to play the game.” He told me more amazing things like people attach themselves to religion without practicing the values of the religion, love and kindness is why we are on earth. I’ve noticed that this “Spirit” decided to alter my reality and universe and planted Easter eggs through coincidences as well - which helped me uncover my authentic and true self. Sounds like you are on the right track my brother - keep going until you have found your truth!
"What if you're the exact version of yourself you need to be right now?" I needed this... Thank you Cole. Keep creating light in a world with so much darkness.
This hit home. I've been so down lately. A lot of negative self talk and shame. Clinging to unhealthy habits. Progress is not linear. I am letting go of what I think my life should look like and accepting where I am. Thank you 🙏
I came to Pantheism when I was 16. I came to Taoism when I was (am) 25. Balance in all things, unity through Nature, and the path of letting go of the uncontrollable have always been principles in my life.
I watch almost all of the self improvement videos that are out there. I have to say this is probably the best and most meaningful video I have seen in years. There is so much truth and value in only 20 minutes. Good job Cole. You can be proud of yourself!
I think I have once gotten a glimpse of the spiritual paradigm. There was a time I had no friends. I had cut them all out of my life as I felt betrayed and abandoned by them and those feelings I had would follow me for 2 years. Then, I found new friends. At first I was hesitant to open up towards them but over the stretch of another 1.5 years I had built myself into a new person. I found again what I once had and even managed to improve it further. It resulted in my 30th birthday being one of the most cathartic moments I had ever experienced. I had finally found home, I accepted myself and everyone around was celebrating and cherishing me for the person I am. And it began with me, deciding that I want to take a different approach to life. It led me to my now best friend and from there everything else came together.
Cole is a humble generous soul with a destiny waiting just for him. Start noticing the absurd amount of beauty and art in the world, in people, and in most non-artificial things. Things will start unlocking for you. Try to imitate that beauty in things you create. There is a deeper meaning written in all nature.
This video was a reflection of the similar thing I am going through. The things I once feared the most have become a piece of cake presently. This is the power of acceptance. Perfection lies in imperfections. Love from India! .
One thing my father told me a few years ago is that no matter what choices we make in life we can always get something out of them, there will always be a good and a bad outcome out of our decisions, no matter how bad those decisiones may seem. That, together with what you said in this video has helped me realice that maybe we are trying to force things too much, we let ourselves be influenced by people whose path might be too different from ours and we will just end up triyng to be clones of these people, instead of being the real us on this present moment and letting the path we take forge us into whatever type of person we will become. At the end of the day, we will always be alright, we will find times of peace. I think the same as you, our body knows us better than ourselves, we should listen to our guts more often. Just like animals act on instincts, they hunt when theyre hungry and take a nap when theyre tired, I believe we should surrender a bit more to the flow of things.
wow, i just went through the exact same thing, just a few days ago when i was studying christianity. My experience is i almost lost who i was. i then decided to think back to who i was, why i was here and what i want my future to be. i then wrote down everything that made me, me before i went into this rabbit hole. i then found out i dident have as much hate, i felt my bad habits had gone and my mind was clearer. i then became prone to more overthinking or negative thoughts then aniexty kicked in but im still pushing through and staying strong. My youtube dream and other dreams will come true. for it is the memories and legacy we leave behind, not the reward.
This was great Cole! The funny thing is - you must first grab onto something else in order to fully let go. Whether you’re grabbing onto a belief in a higher power or an unwavering belief in yourself, things become easier because you trust that the decisions you’re making are intelligent ones (or placed in you by an intelligent being)! Unfortunately, intelligence is often what leads to not being able to let go because you know all the possibilities for things to go wrong. That’s just life’s way of keeping things interesting!
I really needed this video Cole, you have no idea how much this means to me. Finally letting go and saying “I’m the version of me I need right now to become the best I can be” is so powerful. I’m so grateful, thank you
This is what I needed today, having a rough start in the new year with overthinking and getting irritable and down. The "Thoughts are not truths" , really is a great platform to refresh
I've been desperately looking for a video that was "just right" for my situation and after a few times of seeing this recommended I was like screw it and clicked on it and holy shit Cole I can tell you this changed my perspective on things and made me feel a lot better unlike any other video I watched in hopes of helping.
Witnessing first hand what happens when a hyper conscious person starts the transition from believing they have full control over themselves to realizing god has the control and we have a natural calling to gravitate towards him.
Cole youre the man! We see things exactly the same way. In regards to things seemingly happening coincidentally, no lie right before this video I wrote about my flow and questions I need to consider as to whether there's a universal flow to things and whether I'm connected to it and what that means. I recently learned the expression to not "go with the flow" and instead "flow with the flow" or "lead the flow". Ive lost that spiritual side of me tbh because i hold attachment to "not knowing" but there are some bare minimum base assumptions that i can get behind. I went from christian to spititual to christian to agnostic and seeing this reminded me of whats important. I used to watch your videos all the time and ive been trying to reconnect with all the youtubers i used to watch because honestly im 22 years old and just cant help but feel i was a better man in highschool. Cant help but feel i was a better man when i was spiritual, meditating every day and collecting crystals (crystals are cringe now). I believed that meditation was bad and honestly you covered everything i needed to hear right now. The two types of meditation that are necessary are #1 mindfulness meditation, and #2 concentration meditation. My flow is something ive been thinking about a lot lately. Much love❤! Cheers to a great new year! I just subscribed
Thank you I was going to literally just fly away ya know. And I somehow found your channel. “Somehow” …. Your so right about everything you are a blessing, you are just amazing and you communicate everything so well…. You can tell you really put in the effort so much effort… absolutely amazing . Thank you so much for your channel I can’t say it enough
Cole I just wanted to say that after watching the video like you said this was the perfect time for me to watch it. I was going through a very uncertain phase in my life but this video has given me a glimpse of hope and comfort to get through it. Thank you for this video man.
Same man, I'm also going through a very uncertain phase in my life and have been worried about making the right choice but like he said in the video thsi was the perfect time to watch this. Keep going man things will reveal themselves soon and you will become a different version of yourself.
nice. I've pretty much done the same of letting myself playing video games and other "bad" habits for about 2 weeks from going all in on youtube and pretty much had no social life for a year. But I feel that childlike feeling of playing video games again and it's awsome, and at the same time I get lots of ideas for my youtube channel. I've hung out with my friend that is visiting my homecountry from Croatia and I've had this trance of just being happy. For the past week me and my dad have been making jokes to eachother again and today talking with my mom I usually feel tired when talking to her but today I was on fire not really even thinking of what I'm about to say next. It feels weird but I accept it fully
Alright. This is just what i needed. Academic guilt and stress really is holding me back. Thanks Cole! Youre the only self help TH-camr i watch! I have been having trouble letting go from years now, but here we go. Im letting go
So long as you are relating to yourself through the lens of previous pain and the projection of future fear, you will never fully come to embrace the fullness and the freedom that lives with you now. Right where you are is exactly as you need to be, even in circumstance, because Life is as it is. If it were to be different, it would be different. SO complete and total acceptance for what is IS the pre-requisite to deeper fulfilment, freedom, (fill in the blank here) Resisting this acceptance is the cause of unnecessary suffering. You can and will radically shift your life with total acceptance for what is.
I was having a difficult time a couple months back. I started to pray every so often. Typically I don’t ask for anything very obvious, but I wanted to ask for a sign (a “burning bush” was how I said it). The next morning, during my early morning paper route, I had a delay that set me back an hour. I just happened to come across, in the middle of a wealthy suburb, a burning bush and garden in someone’s front yard. Put it out with a garden hose and the help of the fire department. Since then I’ve been more devoted and will be going to mass for the first time on Sunday. Coincidence or not, I found it very interesting that everything lined up like that.
By far your most relatable video to me. My life has been going in this direction every since 2024 started but I couldn’t put it into words and this video did that. Thanks bro ❤
Yeah, there is something to what you are saying because I have been playing a lot of video games too and I've had quite a bit of depression over it, but that lead me to the realisation that I needed to focus on my motivation issues that I have and that I can use my purpose (to study philosophy and bring that to the world) as motivation to avoid my bad habits and start my good ones but not of a place of hatred, but love for my purpose
Speaking of those "coincidences" you mentioned. For the past week I've been having gut issues. Then today, I decided to click on this video, even though I already know how to let go. And then half way through, you mention a sponsor that makes a product which improves gut health. So thank you!
Cole I just want to say back In 2020 when you where still small me and you were going through something similar and brother just watching you and the channel grow has been amazing almost feels like we grew together keep doing what you doing a god is with you wherever you go love Brody
I understand what you meant by playing video games. Every time I did so I felt like I was wasting my time and I could've been doing something more useful, even though I enjoy doing it. But then I saw one quote from Ted Lasso that changed my way of thinking. It was something like this " I'm the same way with video games. It's something in my life that I really enjoy. But then I pretended that preventing myself from having it was somehow making my life better. But in reality, all I'm doing is depriving myself of something that makes me happy instead of attempting to adjust my relationship to it."
Great video! It’s all about the mentality you choose to adopt. When you accept and own your actions, you receive way more energy(testosterone) than if you were worried, anxious, or felt guilty over your actions. Doesn’t matter the action. Don’t make life any worse than it has to be for yourself
i need to get an emergency surgery done today, was not a part of the plan😢 but I am trying to find peace in letting go and trusting God and believe that everything is happening for a reason and it’s just one of those life things and not to worry!
While I'm okay with the thought of me being a puppet, I also still hold faith that whatever ending awaits me will be one that I can accept. There's a lot more to this existence than we can comprehend, but regardless I will move forward with faith and pride in the reason I exist, whatever it might be
No more Video Games, No Tv, No music (unless its for productivity), no social media, no drugs (caffiene, alcohol, weed, etc.) No PMO, No brainless surfing youtube or the browser. Best decision of my life! I am living in the now no more living in the fake reality
Dear Cole. I must say that I spend a lot of time on youtube watching genres similar of yours. But, by far, you are the most positive, encouraging, and decent contenders out there! Keep up the great work
Recently watched your video about dating in your 20s and wanted to find a more recent one to tell you how great of a find your channel is. There’s a lot of “guru/self-help” channels out there that churn out bs for guys in need of advice and your stuff is quite the opposite. Thank you for actually putting effort into these and keep it up
What a beautiful and necessary message. I was gaming a lot myself to the past few months until a week or two ago and felt guilty about it. Of course feeling that guilt can be time wasted, but that very message of you're in the right place right now makes me feel better about it. Maybe I cannot enjoy the joys of progress when not experiencing the other parts too. Thanks, Cole.
I liked how you brought up that we cant label these things as “coincidences” after they happen repeatedly. I remember being in my gym after my friend had passed and todays rap was the playlist on spotify playing in the gym. Randomly, a song him and I used to listen to by ILLENIUM in 2014 came on and I had never heard it since then. Plus it was a totally different genre. Definitely not just a “coincidence.”
Dear Cole, this video felt extremely relatable. Councidently, just what I needed to hear😂. Blessed is the one who believes without seeing. Through thousands of years, humans have started to choose darkness over light. This leads to bad things happening on earth and in our lives (darkness). A lot of these "councidences" in our life is the light. We can always return to the light through Jesus, but because of our human egos (darkness), we tend to refuse to do so. God knows what's best for us, but he understands we can't be perfect. That's why Jesus is an offering for us to go back to that light and joy of life. Remember Cole, God made you, and he truly knows what's best for you and us. All we have to do in return is trust him.
I have been struggling with the concept of god, I too grew up in a similar situation and this video has come at a time in my life where it is exactly what I need to hear. It can't be coincidence
I loved the part 15 and a half mins in when you started talking about free will and it being a two part process. That's exactly what I've found it to be too. And I loved when you started talking about the coincidences you've seen. I was like oooh yes, me too!
I used to be in lower vibrations if u will, my whole life.like carrying about others opinions , trying to control the future, not accepting my self.After alot of research the past two years about spirituallity and meditation.i finally free, kinda free for once. I just go by the flow, and do not resist positive or negative emotions. My biggest problem was, never embarrassed your self infront of others.like, be the loser, or be the failure.i could never accept that, and in my life, i was never like a successful teen/then a man. but now, i feel free. Whatever happens to me i feel ok with it.i have detached from my desire of, wanting everything to go in my way.and well, i feel awesome this days about existing. Well now, i go to college for hairdressing. But mostly want to be a barber after i finish. Tho they say u need alot of expirience first to be a good barber. ...it scares me, like what if a client will complain about my work, and that everyday i have to work, instead of playable videogames or hangout with friends...but finally i let go of the future and surrender/accept to any outcome. I can say, i feep way better than my previous self. I hope to everyone to find peace and joy in their lifes
i feel like we are all connected in some way. its all a game, a test, its all a EGO trip its so indepth and the watcher US is always watching the universe
It is ultimately about if you want to believe that things happen in favor of you or not. If you always believe that everything has a purpose, you will eventually become a happier and more fulfilled person.
This video literally all sums up the things I’ve learned the past few months up till literally today. Talk about coincidences all with uncanny timing, damn.
I am going to be honest and say I feel this video has the right info but the wrong message. That inner being inside you is trying to tell you through your thoughts and emotions that the activities of lust and video games are not serving your higher purpose. If they were, you would not be doubting your actions. It’s easy to justify present actions based on hard work done in the past but in reality the hard work should never stop. I am by no means perfect at this either but I feel it is dangerous to justify our actions as being from our inner self when a lot of them are layers of conditioning that we have not resolved. Open to being corrected if anyone feels I interpreted this wrong. Good day everyone.
I don’t think I’m necessarily justifying why people should do things not good for them, but rather, accept that they did them and keep moving forward. Of course, the hard work should never stop. Also, surprisingly I’ve found that the more I’ve accepted that I get these periods of time where I feel fine doing things that aren’t necessarily serving my higher purpose….the less I feel like doing them. So what I’m really trying to say in that part of the video is, by letting go of the guilt you feel when you do things that aren’t serving your higher purpose, the less inclined you will feel to do them. Guilt only breeds more destruction of self
@@ColeHastings appreciate the detailed response and I understand where you are coming from! It’s good to let go of the negative emotion and focus on the positivity that is on the other side. A healthy process of learning to let go of what is not serving us 👍
I love this. I believe we are all droplets of God a collective having individual experiences in order to grow and learn. I also believe in reincarnation because what sort of God just gives you one shot at this.
Wow, it just amazes me how close this is to everything I've recently learnt about Christianity. The way you describe the active choices to trust in the unknowable force guiding you is a beautiful way to explain having faith in God. And the idea that you can submit to God whilst retaining free will is something I didn't realise I was struggling with until I saw this video, but you explained it so well. And interestingly, the way you describe your non-judgemental appraisal and acceptance of the events in your life, your thoughts, and the world, is exactly what they teach in therapy. (This video def helps me see how religion functioned as therapy for thousands of yrs.) I don't usually comment, but this was exactly what I needed. (Hah, ironic). But thank you.
The crazy thing is that I just had a bad break up in the sense of a friendship I had with someone for 14 years who I was also on and off with and that happened over the last week of 2023 and I’m just now at the point of finally accepting that maybe we not only weren’t meant to be together but also that maybe we were only meant to be part of each others lives til now and honestly we’re both now on our own personal journeys and I’ve been hitting the gym and feeling the best I have since I was in the Air Force 8 years ago and I’m feeling better just about my life after reflecting on myself and accepting my own flaws and things I need to work on. This is the reason why I first subbed to this channel. It’s something I think everyone will need at some point. Some self improvement and motivation
@@bolty9850 agreed. While it does still have a bit of a sting lingering, having this happen has probably been the best thing for my life. I have more time to focus on other things that will actually benefit my own body, mind, spirit and life
Also we chose to have free will. What we choose to do with it either choose ourselves or god. God doesn’t control us he helps those and favors those willing to do use there gifts (given by him) for him instead of selfish reasons. A quote I love by “you will never be mature until someone or something is more important than yourself and your goals.”
And this is exactly what I needed to hear because this is exactly what I was thinking about for the last couple of months. The higher power. Thank you 🙏
Dude I honestly know what you're talking about because I've been through it myself when I took two gummies which was very irresponsible of me but hear me out when I say that I literally took those two and I was high off my behind but the thing that basically had me was the fact that I was inspired by something that showed me the universe where I not only thought about things but saw things differently as I saw multiple doors multiple worlds as it all felt like I was going somewhere else. I was literally talking about so many things to the girl that I was with at the time and even asked her multiple times am I back? Now I can say without a shadow of a doubt that there is something out there in the universe and we're not ready to see it as I might be autistic but I can definitely say there is definitely something out there that will truly blow our minds.
I laughed when you mentioned in the beginning how you have seen in the comments so many times people saying that your video was the exact video on the exact topic that they needed to see in that moment in their life. That’s been me for more of your videos than I can count
I kinda had a similar mindset change a few days ago!! Although I still find myself scrolling social media or going on video games, it's become so much easier to work on the videos I've been putting off.
I would add a sentence a teacher once told me in my college years : sometimes doing nothing is the most profuctive thing you can do. I was having an issue finding an idea for my project and because I was always working no stop, the day I took a pause, I found a great idea….that’s it let go if the control , relax…stop and you’ll be able to run next time !
I watch a lot of videos here on TH-cam on this topic and I am so grateful for your videos, they make so much sense to me and i just want to say thank you !!!!!! ❤❤❤
Another video about letting go? Dude this is epic, and looks a lot like your “Why you care so much (And How To Stop)” video Thank you Cole, very cool! I actually have a lot of problems of letting go relating to nostalgia lately. Time’s too quick before you know it it’s like a decade ago.
In my religion it is preached that God is in everyone and that when you are going of the right path or doing wrong thing God Will Tell you in your mind that you are doing something wrong and if that does not work he will use other people as a mean to help you if you reject it and go down the wrong path god cant really help you So in conclusion if You feel you are doing the wrong thing and People Who are close to you or far away from you also think too. It is time for you to change.
Your existence and experience is all that matters because it’s what really only exists to you. So you create the meaning. If you choose NOTHING matters then you’re right, if you choose EVERYTHING matters then you’re right, you choose, find the balance.
yo man just wanted to thank you for everything you've done in the past 2 years it really helped I'm in a much better place and u really helped me solve a lot of problems in my life W content fr lysm❤
Thank you for watching. I hope it helped you.
In case you missed it, here’s the resource I mentioned at the end of the video that helps me accept and trust what happens more: docs.google.com/document/d/1dS-et2HKf64zNO5xXGJLpsb1q5LwcBJiU3EcJDbtR9I/edit
Very well done vid. It was great man ;)
1 minute in and you lost me. I used to be religious. You want for you struggle? Listen to Bible scholars. The book is a scam and the whole thing is infested with contradictions and holes. Religion is man made, period.
Psychology...you find what you are looking. These perfect things that happen to you are not magic. They are constantly around it's just noticeable when you need/are looking for it.
Or perhaps this thing is so much simpler. Perhaps your "guilt" is your inversely showing you that you are not in line with your values or true self?
Look at the size of the universe....but on this microscopic planet, YOU are special to the creator and he secretly tells you things?... Come on Cole
Thank you it is really helpful🙏🏻
When I took LSD and had an ego death I encountered the spirit from “church god heaven kingdom come” and he told me “why are you trying to escape reality in realities created by man through video games? Who do you think created your world? You are like a video game character I have created. Be happy with the character I have created for you. No one plays a game and is sad that their character is only level 1 and could be 100. People just play the game. Live life like you want to play the game.” He told me more amazing things like people attach themselves to religion without practicing the values of the religion, love and kindness is why we are on earth.
I’ve noticed that this “Spirit” decided to alter my reality and universe and planted Easter eggs through coincidences as well - which helped me uncover my authentic and true self.
Sounds like you are on the right track my brother - keep going until you have found your truth!
"What if you're the exact version of yourself you need to be right now?"
I needed this...
Thank you Cole. Keep creating light in a world with so much darkness.
cole is so real for just openly telling us he’s been honking his tail as of late
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This hit home. I've been so down lately. A lot of negative self talk and shame. Clinging to unhealthy habits. Progress is not linear. I am letting go of what I think my life should look like and accepting where I am. Thank you 🙏
I've been depressed and down as well,I'm also trying to let go of the thought that what my life should be etc! Take care buddy! We can do this
You’re not alone bud. I’m right there with you, hang in there bro.
@@aad7451same feeling depressed, like he said “progress is not linear” got me, i need to start accepting where i am and not where i should be
the classic ``It is what it is´´
I came to Pantheism when I was 16. I came to Taoism when I was (am) 25. Balance in all things, unity through Nature, and the path of letting go of the uncontrollable have always been principles in my life.
fr taoism is the 1 fucking thing in religion i can ACTUALLY get behind bc of how closely it aligns with what i think
"Accept whatever comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny, for what could more aptly fit your needs?" -Marcus Aurelius
I watch almost all of the self improvement videos that are out there. I have to say this is probably the best and most meaningful video I have seen in years.
There is so much truth and value in only 20 minutes. Good job Cole. You can be proud of yourself!
Thank you, that means a lot
It was definitely amazing for sure ^_^
I think I have once gotten a glimpse of the spiritual paradigm. There was a time I had no friends. I had cut them all out of my life as I felt betrayed and abandoned by them and those feelings I had would follow me for 2 years.
Then, I found new friends. At first I was hesitant to open up towards them but over the stretch of another 1.5 years I had built myself into a new person. I found again what I once had and even managed to improve it further. It resulted in my 30th birthday being one of the most cathartic moments I had ever experienced. I had finally found home, I accepted myself and everyone around was celebrating and cherishing me for the person I am. And it began with me, deciding that I want to take a different approach to life. It led me to my now best friend and from there everything else came together.
Cole is a humble generous soul with a destiny waiting just for him. Start noticing the absurd amount of beauty and art in the world, in people, and in most non-artificial things. Things will start unlocking for you. Try to imitate that beauty in things you create. There is a deeper meaning written in all nature.
This video was a reflection of the similar thing I am going through. The things I once feared the most have become a piece of cake presently. This is the power of acceptance.
Perfection lies in imperfections.
Love from India!
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Much love! Glad it helped solidify what you were feeling
One thing my father told me a few years ago is that no matter what choices we make in life we can always get something out of them, there will always be a good and a bad outcome out of our decisions, no matter how bad those decisiones may seem. That, together with what you said in this video has helped me realice that maybe we are trying to force things too much, we let ourselves be influenced by people whose path might be too different from ours and we will just end up triyng to be clones of these people, instead of being the real us on this present moment and letting the path we take forge us into whatever type of person we will become. At the end of the day, we will always be alright, we will find times of peace.
I think the same as you, our body knows us better than ourselves, we should listen to our guts more often. Just like animals act on instincts, they hunt when theyre hungry and take a nap when theyre tired, I believe we should surrender a bit more to the flow of things.
wow, i just went through the exact same thing, just a few days ago when i was studying christianity.
My experience is i almost lost who i was. i then decided to think back to who i was, why i was here and what i want my future to be.
i then wrote down everything that made me, me before i went into this rabbit hole.
i then found out i dident have as much hate, i felt my bad habits had gone and my mind was clearer.
i then became prone to more overthinking or negative thoughts
then aniexty kicked in but im still pushing through and staying strong.
My youtube dream and other dreams will come true.
for it is the memories and legacy we leave behind, not the reward.
This was great Cole! The funny thing is - you must first grab onto something else in order to fully let go. Whether you’re grabbing onto a belief in a higher power or an unwavering belief in yourself, things become easier because you trust that the decisions you’re making are intelligent ones (or placed in you by an intelligent being)! Unfortunately, intelligence is often what leads to not being able to let go because you know all the possibilities for things to go wrong. That’s just life’s way of keeping things interesting!
Well said
I really needed this video Cole, you have no idea how much this means to me. Finally letting go and saying “I’m the version of me I need right now to become the best I can be” is so powerful. I’m so grateful, thank you
To my present self: you are the bestest version of yourself so far 💪
This is what I needed today, having a rough start in the new year with overthinking and getting irritable and down. The "Thoughts are not truths" , really is a great platform to refresh
I've been desperately looking for a video that was "just right" for my situation and after a few times of seeing this recommended I was like screw it and clicked on it and holy shit Cole I can tell you this changed my perspective on things and made me feel a lot better unlike any other video I watched in hopes of helping.
You are the exact person you need to be right now to become a greater version of yourself 💛 12:12
Witnessing first hand what happens when a hyper conscious person starts the transition from believing they have full control over themselves to realizing god has the control and we have a natural calling to gravitate towards him.
Cole youre the man! We see things exactly the same way. In regards to things seemingly happening coincidentally, no lie right before this video I wrote about my flow and questions I need to consider as to whether there's a universal flow to things and whether I'm connected to it and what that means. I recently learned the expression to not "go with the flow" and instead "flow with the flow" or "lead the flow". Ive lost that spiritual side of me tbh because i hold attachment to "not knowing" but there are some bare minimum base assumptions that i can get behind. I went from christian to spititual to christian to agnostic and seeing this reminded me of whats important. I used to watch your videos all the time and ive been trying to reconnect with all the youtubers i used to watch because honestly im 22 years old and just cant help but feel i was a better man in highschool. Cant help but feel i was a better man when i was spiritual, meditating every day and collecting crystals (crystals are cringe now). I believed that meditation was bad and honestly you covered everything i needed to hear right now. The two types of meditation that are necessary are #1 mindfulness meditation, and #2 concentration meditation. My flow is something ive been thinking about a lot lately. Much love❤! Cheers to a great new year! I just subscribed
Thank you I was going to literally just fly away ya know. And I somehow found your channel. “Somehow” …. Your so right about everything you are a blessing, you are just amazing and you communicate everything so well…. You can tell you really put in the effort so much effort… absolutely amazing . Thank you so much for your channel I can’t say it enough
Cole I just wanted to say that after watching the video like you said this was the perfect time for me to watch it. I was going through a very uncertain phase in my life but this video has given me a glimpse of hope and comfort to get through it. Thank you for this video man.
Same man, I'm also going through a very uncertain phase in my life and have been worried about making the right choice but like he said in the video thsi was the perfect time to watch this. Keep going man things will reveal themselves soon and you will become a different version of yourself.
Every video that you are posting is an sync to my irl understanding , and humble it ! bless you , All hail Hasting 🛐
nice. I've pretty much done the same of letting myself playing video games and other "bad" habits for about 2 weeks from going all in on youtube and pretty much had no social life for a year. But I feel that childlike feeling of playing video games again and it's awsome, and at the same time I get lots of ideas for my youtube channel. I've hung out with my friend that is visiting my homecountry from Croatia and I've had this trance of just being happy. For the past week me and my dad have been making jokes to eachother again and today talking with my mom I usually feel tired when talking to her but today I was on fire not really even thinking of what I'm about to say next. It feels weird but I accept it fully
Alright. This is just what i needed. Academic guilt and stress really is holding me back. Thanks Cole! Youre the only self help TH-camr i watch! I have been having trouble letting go from years now, but here we go. Im letting go
Everything in due time. Watch how effortless growth feels when you do the work and trust the process
So long as you are relating to yourself through the lens of previous pain and the projection of future fear, you will never fully come to embrace the fullness and the freedom that lives with you now.
Right where you are is exactly as you need to be, even in circumstance, because Life is as it is.
If it were to be different, it would be different.
SO complete and total acceptance for what is IS the pre-requisite to deeper fulfilment, freedom, (fill in the blank here)
Resisting this acceptance is the cause of unnecessary suffering.
You can and will radically shift your life with total acceptance for what is.
Beautifully said
Thank u so much, Cole. u have no idea how much this helped me.
I was having a difficult time a couple months back. I started to pray every so often. Typically I don’t ask for anything very obvious, but I wanted to ask for a sign (a “burning bush” was how I said it). The next morning, during my early morning paper route, I had a delay that set me back an hour. I just happened to come across, in the middle of a wealthy suburb, a burning bush and garden in someone’s front yard. Put it out with a garden hose and the help of the fire department. Since then I’ve been more devoted and will be going to mass for the first time on Sunday. Coincidence or not, I found it very interesting that everything lined up like that.
By far your most relatable video to me. My life has been going in this direction every since 2024 started but I couldn’t put it into words and this video did that. Thanks bro ❤
Love to hear that bro
Everything that happens to you in life is for a reason it’s just how you respond to everything with your free will
I have a terrible hypochondria(health anxiety) and youtube recommended this video of letting go. I am very thankful for this coincidence.❤
Yeah, there is something to what you are saying because I have been playing a lot of video games too and I've had quite a bit of depression over it, but that lead me to the realisation that I needed to focus on my motivation issues that I have and that I can use my purpose (to study philosophy and bring that to the world) as motivation to avoid my bad habits and start my good ones but not of a place of hatred, but love for my purpose
Speaking of those "coincidences" you mentioned. For the past week I've been having gut issues. Then today, I decided to click on this video, even though I already know how to let go. And then half way through, you mention a sponsor that makes a product which improves gut health. So thank you!
Cole I just want to say back In 2020 when you where still small me and you were going through something similar and brother just watching you and the channel grow has been amazing almost feels like we grew together keep doing what you doing a god is with you wherever you go love Brody
I understand what you meant by playing video games. Every time I did so I felt like I was wasting my time and I could've been doing something more useful, even though I enjoy doing it. But then I saw one quote from Ted Lasso that changed my way of thinking. It was something like this " I'm the same way with video games. It's something in my life that I really enjoy. But then I pretended that preventing myself from having it was somehow making my life better. But in reality, all I'm doing is depriving myself of something that makes me happy instead of attempting to adjust my relationship to it."
Great video! It’s all about the mentality you choose to adopt. When you accept and own your actions, you receive way more energy(testosterone) than if you were worried, anxious, or felt guilty over your actions. Doesn’t matter the action. Don’t make life any worse than it has to be for yourself
i need to get an emergency surgery done today, was not a part of the plan😢 but I am trying to find peace in letting go and trusting God and believe that everything is happening for a reason and it’s just one of those life things and not to worry!
I’m sure the reason you had to go through it will reveal itself to you after you go through it. I hope everything goes smoothly
this was amazing . I need now to be kind to myself and not let inner negative thoughts take over. this was the perfect video for that.
While I'm okay with the thought of me being a puppet, I also still hold faith that whatever ending awaits me will be one that I can accept. There's a lot more to this existence than we can comprehend, but regardless I will move forward with faith and pride in the reason I exist, whatever it might be
No more Video Games, No Tv, No music (unless its for productivity), no social media, no drugs (caffiene, alcohol, weed, etc.) No PMO, No brainless surfing youtube or the browser.
Best decision of my life! I am living in the now no more living in the fake reality
Dear Cole. I must say that I spend a lot of time on youtube watching genres similar of yours. But, by far, you are the most positive, encouraging, and decent contenders out there! Keep up the great work
Thank you Martin
Now this is what i was exactly looking for more than anything in life at this point . Really grateful to you !
Grateful that it found you
Recently watched your video about dating in your 20s and wanted to find a more recent one to tell you how great of a find your channel is. There’s a lot of “guru/self-help” channels out there that churn out bs for guys in need of advice and your stuff is quite the opposite. Thank you for actually putting effort into these and keep it up
What a beautiful and necessary message. I was gaming a lot myself to the past few months until a week or two ago and felt guilty about it. Of course feeling that guilt can be time wasted, but that very message of you're in the right place right now makes me feel better about it. Maybe I cannot enjoy the joys of progress when not experiencing the other parts too. Thanks, Cole.
Thank you so much for this video❤
Always good stuff Cole. Philosophical experimenting. We have our core self emerging into different situations. Thank you for this.
I liked how you brought up that we cant label these things as “coincidences” after they happen repeatedly. I remember being in my gym after my friend had passed and todays rap was the playlist on spotify playing in the gym. Randomly, a song him and I used to listen to by ILLENIUM in 2014 came on and I had never heard it since then. Plus it was a totally different genre. Definitely not just a “coincidence.”
Dear Cole, this video felt extremely relatable. Councidently, just what I needed to hear😂. Blessed is the one who believes without seeing. Through thousands of years, humans have started to choose darkness over light. This leads to bad things happening on earth and in our lives (darkness). A lot of these "councidences" in our life is the light. We can always return to the light through Jesus, but because of our human egos (darkness), we tend to refuse to do so. God knows what's best for us, but he understands we can't be perfect. That's why Jesus is an offering for us to go back to that light and joy of life. Remember Cole, God made you, and he truly knows what's best for you and us. All we have to do in return is trust him.
I find it more rational and helpful to say "I don't know" when idk, rather than assuming there's some intelligent higher power.
I have been struggling with the concept of god, I too grew up in a similar situation and this video has come at a time in my life where it is exactly what I need to hear. It can't be coincidence
I loved the part 15 and a half mins in when you started talking about free will and it being a two part process. That's exactly what I've found it to be too. And I loved when you started talking about the coincidences you've seen. I was like oooh yes, me too!
Bro took justification to play video games to a savage new level. Step aside Aristotle, Seneca, Aurelious, Buddah.
😂
Our over reliance on social media and technology in general has contributed a growing number of emotional and psychological problems in our society.
I used to be in lower vibrations if u will, my whole life.like carrying about others opinions , trying to control the future, not accepting my self.After alot of research the past two years about spirituallity and meditation.i finally free, kinda free for once. I just go by the flow, and do not resist positive or negative emotions.
My biggest problem was, never embarrassed your self infront of others.like, be the loser, or be the failure.i could never accept that, and in my life, i was never like a successful teen/then a man.
but now, i feel free. Whatever happens to me i feel ok with it.i have detached from my desire of, wanting everything to go in my way.and well, i feel awesome this days about existing.
Well now, i go to college for hairdressing. But mostly want to be a barber after i finish. Tho they say u need alot of expirience first to be a good barber. ...it scares me, like what if a client will complain about my work, and that everyday i have to work, instead of playable videogames or hangout with friends...but finally i let go of the future and surrender/accept to any outcome. I can say, i feep way better than my previous self.
I hope to everyone to find peace and joy in their lifes
Coming in 2024 with a banger. Hope to up our channel this year so we are closer to your quality. Big aim we know 😅
Thank you so much cole, this means a lot to me
exactly what i needed, was in my watch later playlist. watched it today as i unknowingly clicked on it and wow !
i feel like we are all connected in some way. its all a game, a test, its all a EGO trip its so indepth and the watcher US is always watching the universe
It is ultimately about if you want to believe that things happen in favor of you or not. If you always believe that everything has a purpose, you will eventually become a happier and more fulfilled person.
This video literally all sums up the things I’ve learned the past few months up till literally today. Talk about coincidences all with uncanny timing, damn.
Bro i wish i was your friend! Your videos helps me so much with my depressed life! Sending love from Japan bro!
ありがとうございます！
I am going to be honest and say I feel this video has the right info but the wrong message. That inner being inside you is trying to tell you through your thoughts and emotions that the activities of lust and video games are not serving your higher purpose. If they were, you would not be doubting your actions. It’s easy to justify present actions based on hard work done in the past but in reality the hard work should never stop. I am by no means perfect at this either but I feel it is dangerous to justify our actions as being from our inner self when a lot of them are layers of conditioning that we have not resolved. Open to being corrected if anyone feels I interpreted this wrong. Good day everyone.
I don’t think I’m necessarily justifying why people should do things not good for them, but rather, accept that they did them and keep moving forward. Of course, the hard work should never stop.
Also, surprisingly I’ve found that the more I’ve accepted that I get these periods of time where I feel fine doing things that aren’t necessarily serving my higher purpose….the less I feel like doing them. So what I’m really trying to say in that part of the video is, by letting go of the guilt you feel when you do things that aren’t serving your higher purpose, the less inclined you will feel to do them. Guilt only breeds more destruction of self
@@ColeHastings appreciate the detailed response and I understand where you are coming from! It’s good to let go of the negative emotion and focus on the positivity that is on the other side. A healthy process of learning to let go of what is not serving us 👍
"just accept it bro"
"wow thanks. i never thought of that."
just be confident bro
@@ColeHastings ok 👍
Just accept that you have a lazy day or unproductive day?
I love this. I believe we are all droplets of God a collective having individual experiences in order to grow and learn. I also believe in reincarnation because what sort of God just gives you one shot at this.
I respect that perspective
Such an enlightening video! 💋
Wow, it just amazes me how close this is to everything I've recently learnt about Christianity. The way you describe the active choices to trust in the unknowable force guiding you is a beautiful way to explain having faith in God. And the idea that you can submit to God whilst retaining free will is something I didn't realise I was struggling with until I saw this video, but you explained it so well.
And interestingly, the way you describe your non-judgemental appraisal and acceptance of the events in your life, your thoughts, and the world, is exactly what they teach in therapy. (This video def helps me see how religion functioned as therapy for thousands of yrs.)
I don't usually comment, but this was exactly what I needed. (Hah, ironic). But thank you.
The crazy thing is that I just had a bad break up in the sense of a friendship I had with someone for 14 years who I was also on and off with and that happened over the last week of 2023 and I’m just now at the point of finally accepting that maybe we not only weren’t meant to be together but also that maybe we were only meant to be part of each others lives til now and honestly we’re both now on our own personal journeys and I’ve been hitting the gym and feeling the best I have since I was in the Air Force 8 years ago and I’m feeling better just about my life after reflecting on myself and accepting my own flaws and things I need to work on. This is the reason why I first subbed to this channel. It’s something I think everyone will need at some point. Some self improvement and motivation
All things are temporary
@@bolty9850 agreed. While it does still have a bit of a sting lingering, having this happen has probably been the best thing for my life. I have more time to focus on other things that will actually benefit my own body, mind, spirit and life
Not gonna lie Cole , I am rn kind of in a not-so-good state lately, and for me your video is a sign in itself .
You’re tying all the lose ends in my brain. I understood all these concepts but they way you sewed them together was just so perfect ❤ thanks 😊
Completely agree with what you said here, we need to look on our negative experiences on a positive note.
Thanks Cole.
This is so eye opening I feel like this is what I needed
Also we chose to have free will. What we choose to do with it either choose ourselves or god. God doesn’t control us he helps those and favors those willing to do use there gifts (given by him) for him instead of selfish reasons. A quote I love by “you will never be mature until someone or something is more important than yourself and your goals.”
And this is exactly what I needed to hear because this is exactly what I was thinking about for the last couple of months. The higher power. Thank you 🙏
Glad it connected
Cole went 1 big round the bush and came back to say: "Go touch grass, fam."
Dude I honestly know what you're talking about because I've been through it myself when I took two gummies which was very irresponsible of me but hear me out when I say that I literally took those two and I was high off my behind but the thing that basically had me was the fact that I was inspired by something that showed me the universe where I not only thought about things but saw things differently as I saw multiple doors multiple worlds as it all felt like I was going somewhere else. I was literally talking about so many things to the girl that I was with at the time and even asked her multiple times am I back? Now I can say without a shadow of a doubt that there is something out there in the universe and we're not ready to see it as I might be autistic but I can definitely say there is definitely something out there that will truly blow our minds.
I laughed when you mentioned in the beginning how you have seen in the comments so many times people saying that your video was the exact video on the exact topic that they needed to see in that moment in their life. That’s been me for more of your videos than I can count
Hahaha
Great video cole
Thank you for these ideas and sharing this knowledge with us👍
I appreciate how real you are in this video!
I kinda had a similar mindset change a few days ago!! Although I still find myself scrolling social media or going on video games, it's become so much easier to work on the videos I've been putting off.
You are someone i strive to be and will take time to get,thank you
I would add a sentence a teacher once told me in my college years : sometimes doing nothing is the most profuctive thing you can do. I was having an issue finding an idea for my project and because I was always working no stop, the day I took a pause, I found a great idea….that’s it let go if the control , relax…stop and you’ll be able to run next time !
Bruh listen! I woke up thinking about a lot! I was up til 3am thinking! But you just made my mental so calm!!! 🙌🏿💪🏿
Happy to have done that for you, bro
Yooo, I just put my playlist of videos on shuffle and this is the first video that popped up talking about what I needed to hear
This was so comforting to hear. Thank you so much
Grateful for your open mind to some of my perspectives and ideas. Thank you for the insights and sharing!
Thanks for being a great source of light, my guy
Not every thing has a logical answer or explanation true cole
I watch a lot of videos here on TH-cam on this topic and I am so grateful for your videos, they make so much sense to me and i just want to say thank you !!!!!! ❤❤❤
3:30 all it is is literally us paying attention to certain things at certain times. And in certain circumstances you react differently.
Another video about letting go? Dude this is epic, and looks a lot like your “Why you care so much (And How To Stop)” video
Thank you Cole, very cool!
I actually have a lot of problems of letting go relating to nostalgia lately. Time’s too quick before you know it it’s like a decade ago.
In my religion it is preached that God is in everyone and that when you are going of the right path or doing wrong thing God Will Tell you in your mind that you are doing something wrong and if that does not work he will use other people as a mean to help you if you reject it and go down the wrong path god cant really help you
So in conclusion if You feel you are doing the wrong thing and People Who are close to you or far away from you also think too.
It is time for you to change.
Unexplained coincidences are relatable
This is...different, idk why it just hits different you know, thanks for this
Great video! But Please just do what you want with your life. Happiness isn’t a goal.
Nothing even matters, one day none of us will be here so just live your life
"just live your life" is such meaningless and useless phrase. It's like saying "just be happy"
Everything matters
You’re feelings matter!
God love you
Your existence and experience is all that matters because it’s what really only exists to you. So you create the meaning. If you choose NOTHING matters then you’re right, if you choose EVERYTHING matters then you’re right, you choose, find the balance.
yo man just wanted to thank you for everything you've done in the past 2 years it really helped I'm in a much better place and u really helped me solve a lot of problems in my life W content fr lysm❤
One of the best, if not the best video I've seen from you Cole, this one really hit me. Keep it up man! You are achieving greatness
I collect "Glitches in my life" for like 5 months now - and I can find at-least one every week