Overall, a very good introduction. One note: Around 1:01:00 Ms. Sanderson contends that people who were sexually abused, and then fear that other people would judge them if they were to reveal that abuse, suffer from a 'lack of mentalization'. She suggested this is because the survivor feels ashamed, and so they imagine everyone else would react identically. More nuance could be used there. In fact, survivors of abuse *are* often shamed by people outside of them 1. when they experience the abuse 2. when they reveal the abuse. Expecting another person to react in a shaming way can be a sensible expectation. Certainly, the assumption that *all* people would react shamingly would potentially be a 'lack of mentalization'. However, being afraid of someone reacting shamingly is often reasonable to an abuse survivor's experience, and treating that as a kind of 'thought mistake' can be inaccurate and harmful.
Thank you for making this excellent point! I was thinking the same thing when I heard that. Victims of abuse, especially r@pe, are regularly and intensely shamed by society, so of course, it's expected when that's been their experience and the experience of so many victims/survivors they know or see in highly publicized celebrity court cases being shamed, demonized, and even accused of making false allegations!
Overall, a very good introduction. One note:
Around 1:01:00 Ms. Sanderson contends that people who were sexually abused, and then fear that other people would judge them if they were to reveal that abuse, suffer from a 'lack of mentalization'. She suggested this is because the survivor feels ashamed, and so they imagine everyone else would react identically.
More nuance could be used there. In fact, survivors of abuse *are* often shamed by people outside of them 1. when they experience the abuse 2. when they reveal the abuse. Expecting another person to react in a shaming way can be a sensible expectation.
Certainly, the assumption that *all* people would react shamingly would potentially be a 'lack of mentalization'. However, being afraid of someone reacting shamingly is often reasonable to an abuse survivor's experience, and treating that as a kind of 'thought mistake' can be inaccurate and harmful.
Thank you for making this excellent point! I was thinking the same thing when I heard that. Victims of abuse, especially r@pe, are regularly and intensely shamed by society, so of course, it's expected when that's been their experience and the experience of so many victims/survivors they know or see in highly publicized celebrity court cases being shamed, demonized, and even accused of making false allegations!