RSlash: "hamburgers are boring" Also RSlash: [rants for 5 minutes about hamburger ratios and assigns an unsolicited 5/5 buttholes to an entire category of people] This is why I watch
Not why I watch. Also he said McDonald's knows how to make a burger just *shudder* Fucking NO local burger places. Restaurant burgers are average at best. Chains almost always suck ass at making just about anything cause they AREN'T making it. Everything is shipped precooked and frozen to be assembled at the restaurant. Chef Mike in the back cranking out the dishes. I have worked in a bunch of them and let me tell you anything short of a local place that has to source its supply locally as well is the ONLY way you will get good food. Otherwise enjoy the "just within the limits to still legally be called X" food. Panera, Applebees, Chipotle, Outback, etc etc etc. There are about 3 things on the menu that are fresh(ish) Steak, Ribs, and French Fries. Just the thought of calling any of that food anything more than passable gives me a gross feeling in my stomach.
@@TheWeaponshold I'm so sorry you have had such negative experiences. I wish you the best in your journey to seek good food. Dabney's rant was adorable regardless of how you feel about his opinion.
He's right though. A lot of restaurants (especially but not exclusive to the US) seem to think they can make up for a lack of quality by adding quantity. I love burgers but I totally agree that a lot of places are making them so big you have to crush them or take them apart to even start eating them, and then they just make a huge mess. And honestly most of the time those burgers are bland and flavorless, the only thing they have going for them is they're big.
Burger story: the fact he set the boundary by saying no and her immediate response was “why” makes me feel like she doesn’t just ask and insists. Because if you respected him you would just take the no for an answer and move on, but she said WHY?! Like she was entitled to it when this man just wanted his burger?!?
she definitely expect him to always give her his food. the fact she sets it up like “i never insisted!” but basically expects the food exchange every time they go out is insane. Taking other peoples food is disrespectful especially when OP stopped considering how her boyfriend felt long ago.
If he NEVER complained about switching why wouldn't she be curious this time around? Did he just not want the calamari? Did he not like it? Not in the mood? No, he blew up on her with no prior forms of communication. If she has been insistent without realizing, yes, she's the asshole. But her believing nothing was wrong when the boyfriend didn't say anything? If anything it's everyone sucks here, he didn't talk before his boiling point and that is his problem.
@@Graves933 But she immediately went on the attack of asking "Why not?" and saying "I don't want the food to go to waste" that means she has no intention of eating the food herself and is expecting him to eat it, which is insulting. Could he say it earlier? yeah. Does this make him a butthole? no
@@Graves933 this is all assuming OP is telling the truth that he never mentioned it bothered him before. And even with that, relationships are a lot of give and take. And I find it highly unlikely he would blow up like that and just leave without prompting. I’m sure we aren’t getting the full story. OP probably continued on about why can’t I have it etc. and wouldn’t just leave him alone about wanting to have his burger. That’s the thing, there’s three sides to every story. His side, her side, and the truth.
@@GamerSapss also with that logic “I don’t want the food to go to waste” okay then YOU eat it? Why does the boyfriend have to? He doesn’t. I would be mad too. She kept insisting even after he strictly said no
The fact that the parents immediately returned home upon hearing OP had left shows that they KNOW she's the one keeping the home from falling apart and they were deliberately using her
Christ, that first story. If they abandon their dog for that long, I dread to think what they would do to a child. Just leave them at school and ghost the school’s number and then wonder why CPS take their child away? Sounds like they didn’t want to look after a badly trained dog (which is their fault) so what would they do to a badly behaved child?
at first I was 100% gonna give OP YTA but as the story went on I was getting pissed, like they basically just abandoned the dog and got mad when OP treated it like an abandoned dog
To be honest, it's like that story about OP being forced to look after a mother's kids for all day and night all over again, the one about OP and the mother agreeing to this deal, but the mother denies it and basically used OP as this long term babysitter just so that she can go have fun for as long as she wants, even refusing to answer OP's calls and ruined the plans OP had, eventually calling CPS and the mother is mad at her and so is OP's friend, the last one I'm still baffled at to this day.
Story 1: when a friend had to feed my cat for 5 days I wanted an update once every day or two to make sure he was doing well. I cant believe someone would be comfortable not knowing how their pet is for a whole month
Well, some people sadly really don't care for the animal itself😅 They just care for the idea of having a pet but don’t wanna put any afford in. It's an accessoire to them. This story just shows again that not just anyone should be allowed to own a dog. Especially, because they can actually be dangerous if not trained (properly).
When we went on a vacation one of my "friends" killed one of my rats by just blowing off either watering or feeing them. I had to nurse the other one back to health.
Considering the dog did his business in the house sounds like he's not trained. They were too lazy to put the effort in, and when they had a dog free home they felt better off. Well, if you're not willing to train your pet, don't get mad when they think the toilet is anywhere and everywhere.
OP clarified that when she was calling them was about a week after the friend had left, so half way through the 2 week vacation that OP's friend was on. The total extra time was two or three days extra due to flight problems, with OP's friend being out of the country. Not the 30 odd days R slash comes up with.
Story 3: Wow, OP is super high maintenance. It's incredibly rude to constantly ask for other people's food. If you don't like, send it back or order something else. I don't believe her that the boyfriend never had a problem with her behavior before. I imagine that he did try to say something or had communicated with facial expressions and body language that OP then ignored. People rarely just blow up like that, and unfortunately, self-absorbed and selfish people often have poor emotional intelligence. The fact that she called her sister at 5:30 am with a non-emergency further proves how self-absorbed and utterly clueless she is. I think she also failed to recognize that her boyfriend broke up with her. Yikes.
Some people don't pick up on body language and facial expression and subtle hints. If you have a problem with something your partner is doing, you need to communicate clearly. He shouldn't have waited until he was this angry. He should have had a calm talk with her about it.
@@bistestander I mean... Sure. But the fact that she was offended he said no also shows that we're not getting the full story. Why the fuck did she ask why? He said no. That should have been it.
Or the boyfriend could have just been trying to be polite and gave in, even though he was apparently irritated about her constant food switch. I think I would be, too, because in the 24 years I've been with my wife I can't remember ever switching dishes with her because she didn't like what she ordered. I could understand if it happened once, but the fact that she seems to do that every time they go out it would annoy me enough that I'd probably blow up at her too.
I want to point out something Rslash missed with the first story: OP was *blocked* by them on several places. Really hammers in the 'don't care, not our problem anymore'
That's when it is appropriate to immediately take the animal to a no kill shelter (if they would accept the animal under these condition), or just take it directly to the local government animal control facility ...... which typically holds animals for about 10 days to 2 weeks before they are put down.
i would give op .5 butthole score ONLY because he took the dog to a shelter, what if someone else bought the dog, than the friend would not have a dog anymore and would sue op. thats the only part where op was wrong
@@RiseLeon_Turtle A bit late and was going to say this to the previous commenter, but OP should've said they were going to take them to the shelter because they considered the dog abandoned because it's been x days past the two weeks they said they'd be gone for.
so charming that the older rslash gets and the more he settles into his role as a husband and father the less patience he has for shitty parents in these stories. now he knows for a fact they have no excuse
Story 3: I only order a cheese burger myself. If I could never eat what I order everytime I go out because someone keeps ordering something they don't like, I'd be pretty mad too. The fact that you think he's going to call and apologize show that you clearly don't listen, and the relationship is going well because he's basically just doing everything you want.
For the first story, it sounds like these people never trained their dog, and were sick of it pissing and shitting everywhere and being a general menace, so they decided to dump it on OP so they could get a break from it, possibly hoping OP would also fix everything with the dog, since she also has her own dog.
Burger story is so relatable. When my wife and I went on our first date, I asked her what sort of cuisine she liked. She said Indian, so I booked a table at our local Indian restaurant. As the food came out, she admitted that she'd only ever tried MILD Butter Chicken and that was what she was thinking of when she said she liked Indian food. The restaurant staff were good about it, toned down the heat in the other dishes, wife tried a few other things that night. We've been married 10 years now, and still get takeout from that restaurant from time to time. The staff still give her flack about it, pointing to butter chicken on the menu, and jokingly label her order as 'extra, extra hot vindaloo' with a smiley face, even though it's the same, mild curry as always. 🙂
this is adorable, as an indian your wife is perfectly fine in her initial belief (mostly cuz of how unfaithful american indian restaurants are). If she really does want to try authentic though, try and find a good location with a little bit of spice, though is understandable if you cannot handle it. Even today I cannot handle much either haha
Story 3, as someone who actually DOES love trying weird new foods, OP is definitely lying to herself. She's trying to come off as an adventurous eater, but suddenly wants a plain burger when the dish she wanted cones every time? Yeah no not buying it. I've eaten venison, rabbit, buffalo, gator, conch, octopus, eel, and more. This girl can't handle standard calamari. If I was your boyfriend I would have said no waaaaaaay sooner. YTA.
the best food i've eaten is also the weirdest food i've eaten. the times i had fermented vegetables in a korean restaurant and greek sun dried octopus had me dreaming of food for days🤤
Man I HATE trying new foods....but I know that. So I just stick to the same few couple of things I love eating and every once in a blue moon I'll ask to have a bit of what someone else is eating, not buy the entire thing and put it on someone else.
@@GiordanDiodato well,no. But then you should either order smth plain from the start or deal with not wanting the food you ordered. The girl in the story didn't do this. She has been ordering exotic food everytime and everytime she has pushed it off to her bf and forcing him to give his food to her. The issue in the story is that this is a pattern. She treats her bf like a garbage disposal and doesn't respect him wanting the food HE ordered for himself.
Yeah I'd bet she's just buying it to post fancy pictures on Instagram or whatever and dumping it on him. Sure sometimes we might accept to trade, but not EVERY SINGLE TIME. And no, I am going to disagree with the whole "it would be more fair to just split the portions". That's BS. If I order something it's because I want to eat that, and I order the amount I want. If you order something and don't want it when it comes out 10 minutes later, that's YOUR problem to solve.
FIrst story: NTA. Not only did the friend abandon her dog, but judging by the dog's bad behavior, she isn't responsible enough to have pet in the first place. OP did the right thing, that poor pup deserves to be in a home where he'll be properly trained and cared for. I'm sad that he ended up back with his old neglectful human
Also it was not spelled out in this post what type of shelter this dog was taken to. The one I had volunteered at was an absolutely no kill shelter. They would foster for months on end, trade with other shelters all trying to find every animal a home. The director at that time had several dogs they adopted as those pets had issues that made them "undesirable" to most people. One issue I could see if the owners did not have/want their dog 'fixed', and the shelter 'fixed' the dog as part of their intake policy, but that still does not excuse the friend who ghosted OP.
It's like, you hear the title, and the initial knee-jerk reaction is "Yes, you are the asshole. What possible reason could anyone have for giving someone else's dog to a shelter?!" Then you hear the story, and... yep, that's a pretty good reason. After she ghosted and blocked OP, there's really only one conclusion to come to, that your "friend" doesn't want the dog anymore. Also, they conveyed that in the absolutely stupidest way possible. OP is definitively *_not_* the asshole.
@@GamingForLifeGF I'm no dog expert, but I'm pretty sure hitting them doesn't solve anything, and says a lot more about you than the dog. However, either way it's irrelevant, OP is under no obligation to train their dog for them.
Burger story: I am proud of him for standing up for himself. That is one of the few rules my husband and I have with each other that we both follow without problem. If either of us were to pull that crap, the other would walk out and the relationship done. Now, to be clear, we do share meals but we discuss that prior to ordering and we usually share an appetizer and one entrée.
At first glance it seemed rash that you'd do that, but looking deeper, I see it's a matter of basic respect. It's good you both expect and give respect to one another.
Never once in the 24 years I've been with my wife have we ever asked to switch meals at a restaurant because we didn't like what we ordered. We either put our big boy/girl pants on and eat it anyway or just leave it and maybe get something later. I mean, I can understand if the dish is just totally disgusting but to order something and then wait until it arrives at the table to decide that's not what you want? That's just being spoiled.
Exactly! Me and my boyfriend always order two meals and split them both and we discuss before to make sure we agree. You can’t be like “oh it’s gross so YOU eat it” 😂
I was totally expecting OP to give the dog up when she said it was badly trained. Hearing that she waited out the two weeks and then was ghosted by the owners-- I would have claimed the dog was abandoned too. I would have assumed they did it on purpose, after it terrorized my house like that.
Waiting 10 days AFTER being ghosted (after contact at the end of their vacation) to send poopy monster to the shelter 1. More time than I would have given. 2.It's an abandoned animal, no longer a pet. And a WEEK AFTER bringing it to the shelter the "friend" decided to pick up her dog, it's been more than 2 WEEKS since her vacation ended, what is wrong with her head???
In regards to the first story: If I were the friend, I'd be asking for pictures and updates every day, not ghosting the person watching my pet. They must not care about that dog very much if they're willing to ignore any texts about him.
@@paladinboyd1228 Exactly this. First job as a dog owner is to make sure a dog is housebroken or accommodations are made in the form of doggy diapers and pee pads. Plenty of disposable or washable ones out there. The dog owners couldn't even get that right.
When I was on vacation for 1 week. I called my mom every day to see if my pupper was ok sometimes twice a day. These people should never be pet owners.
She should’ve said she likes to order exotic foods. Bet after she takes a few pics of the food to post she gets bored with it. Glad BF stood up for himself.
Yeah, that would be SO fucking annoying. Obviously OP is an inconsiderate idiot. LOL She called her sister at 5:30 AM over some incredibly NOT URGENT bullshit with her boyfriend.
The funny part is that the OP made a throwaway account for the post but just _had_ to mention that she’s a founder and mod for a subreddit, probably about exotic food but who really knows. But the thing is is that no one cares why someone made a throwaway account, they just want to read about the situation. The fact that she mentioned it just made her seem really egotistical and she got dragged in the comments for it on the post.
Anything with more than a 1/4 lb patty and not properly ratio is terrible. And i feel like the burger ends up tasting bland the bigger it gets. I prefer 2 small patties cooked and seasoned properly than a larger one
Third story: If you call me at 5:30 am because your partner didn't want to switch food with you, you are definitely the AH. I am completely on the sisters side. And yeah, I have asked my bf to switch food with me too. Like three times in over four years of relationship. If you often don't like the exotic food then don't order it.
The wedding gift story: I would've given the SIL a little higher of a score only because she called her mommy on you. If she really wants that gift, she can buy it herself like a big kid.
I 0hysically fliched when I head $700. Even for a wedding gift, holy crap! And who wants a gift to memorialize a marriage that didn't happen? Why would u want that around?
@@margaretbarra6390 And I'm thinking, what if the SIL decides to get married later on? Will she expect yet another wedding gift from the OP? The way I see it, no wedding, no wedding gift.
Third Story: This story got my blood boiling. Don’t get me wrong the boyfriend should have drawn that boundary sooner instead of waiting until he got that fed up but coming from someone who’s also had their kindness taken advantage by people who claim to care for you, it’s feels so heartless. What she needs to understand is that even if he has the ability to say no, it is seen as rude. So if you are in the early stages of your relationship the only option he really has is to agree. Then OP takes that and abuses that power every chance she gets? How could she not at the very least have had a basic level of empathy that would allow her to see the situation from her boyfriends point of view?
I'm autistic, and honestly, I can imagine having this situation. I have empathy, but I can't always parse people's emotions, so please, if I'm making you uncomfortable, tell me about it. I always try and avoid this kind of situation, and I always warn people about this, but yeah. "it is seen as rude" sure, but then bring it up like nicely, don't just explode on them. Also, if someone is prepared to ignore your boundaries to the extent of feeling really hurt to avoid being rude, I'm not sure I can have a healthy relationship with someone, as I'd never feel comfortable trying to meet my own needs for fear of trampling theirs, or I'd try and fill my own needs, and they'd feel trampled. I'd feel I was walking on eggshells, and honestly the situation could turn abusive in either direction. For the love of god, communicate with your partner. If you don't feel you can for fear of offending them, break up - it will be better for both of you. If you can't communicate your discomfort with your partners actions to your partner, then you are saying that the role of ensuring that people are happy in the relationship is entirely theirs, in the extreme, this is emotional abuse. When done mildly, its really annoying. If you really can't express your needs then you should honestly get therapy, as it will make the relationships in your life far better for everyone involved. Also, she might well not have been heartless, in the post she said she thought he was benefiting from the arrangement, and she thought she was helping him. Its obvious this was misguided, but its certainly possible that she genuinely formed this image, and was given no reason to form another. I don't know whether this is the case, but it is certainly possible. I do agree that this kind of thing can happen in the early stages of the relationship, but he still should have clarified things before just exploding on her. I mean she is in the wrong for putting that pressure on him (accidental though it may have been), but you can't just blame her.
@@deathofallthingspotato9919 Yes, I already clearly stated that I agree with he should have made his opinion known. I believe both parties had a responsibility to be aware of their own actions. You can always pose the what if of someone having a mental illness. I have to judge the situation for what I know not what is possible to happen.
@@kota_bear7174 Sure, but the idea "maybe this person isn't picking up on my hints" is really the key here. If someone isn't picking up on subtle hints, give less subtle hints, or just tell them. Just as much as it's unwarranted to assume that someone is neurodivergent, it's unwarranted to assume that they perceive social interactions in the way you do, and can pick up on clues you think you're giving. If you don't give me any reason to think of a given action specifically as special, I won't think about it specifically. I mean sure, everyone should try and be aware of their actions, but given the boyfriend appeared to justify it for her, I can't blame her for not picking up on hints... Forcing your partner to do all the work of picking up on subtle hints isn't fair, neither is forcing them to consider your feelings in every case, especially when you've actually shown yourself to be fine with stuff (and given reasons why) - as much as he should be able to rely on her caring about him, she should be able to rely on him communicating. I agree that she was on the whole in the wrong, but only contextually - she is only not justified because the whole "swapping food" thing is so unusual, and every relationship has its quirks - constantly questioning them isn't helpful. I have been in situations where I've had to constantly insist that I'm fine with something, and its really awkward, so I'd trust that they'd tell me the truth if I asked. I would have thought that was common courtesy. If you're saying I have to guess what things anyone could have lied about, when I have effectively no reason to suspect them of lying, then I basically can't function in society. "Do you want a sandwich?" "Are you sure you're ok with making me a sandwich" "Yes" "I just don't want you to feel pressured into it, it's really OK" "no, its fine..." "It's just I know you make a lot of sandwiches, and I don't want to pressure you like this" "its fine" "Are you sure, because I know I asked you to help me two years ago when we were first getting together, and I don't want to assume you're still fine with it" That isn't the best, is it? The reason I take issue with your comment is that its the kind of thing which makes life really hard for people who struggle with social queues, even when they can normally navigate everything just fine. Particularly when you take this further and ascribe active malice to her "abuses that power". Basically I'll object any time someone comes into a situation where they don't know the circumstances of the individuals involved or how their psychology works, assume things about how that interaction occurs for them, and then assign blame to the point of malice to one of the parties. Things like this are the reason life is hard for lots of neurodivergent people - or indeed anyone at least somewhat out of the ordinary.
@@deathofallthingspotato9919 Let me clarify for you, since I believe you have my opinion wrong. I don’t think anyone has a responsibility to always be aware of how they are effecting others but there’s a point where that turns to blatant selfishness. I think she should have enough common since to know that demanding that much from someone is too much and that that in itself is selfish. I think even if he was happy to switch meals every single time it was still rude to constantly take advantage of his kindness. I think she had the responsibility to know how to be a decent human being that at the very least could check in when taking when asking that much of someone. I would hope you do too.
@@kota_bear7174 I believe I do have that common sense, but I feel that that common sense can vary wildly between different people, and saying that anyone who has a different sense to you must be an actively bad person doesn't feel like a particularly fair standpoint. "could check in when taking when asking that much of someone" My reading was that she felt she had already checked in, and while I agree she didn't check in enough, I feel she did at least try, but felt any such issue was already resolved. I don't mind saying that she could have done more, but I feel that she wasn't actively responsible for what happened. Which is what you effectively said she was. I think labelling someone as abusing power or not being a decent human being is going further that I would be willing to - at least if we take the best case presented. Perhaps we are simply disagreeing about the levels of blame we are assigning, because from my perspective, saying someone "abuses that power" and is not a decent human being, is not the kind of thing I would say about someone who didn't ask enough times whether their partner wanted to swap meals... I'd be inclined to go with them both being poor at communicating, and her not putting enough thought into it. She was careless, but not malicious.
I can't believe she didn't leave and go NC at 18. This kind of abuse sickens me to the core, it would be one thing if the parents asked her to look after the youngest kid and paid her for it. But to treat her like a slave is ridiculous. On top of that with the exception of the 12 year old, the other kids are old enough to take care of themselves. I probably would have dropped my keys and just said "Piece out".
“Going out to get milk” is the new phrase kids use when they joke that their parents are leaving. When I explained to my kids it used to be cigarettes instead of milk they looked at me funny lol.
Houstonian here, and Rslash is absolutely right. I always end up ordering a kids burger at most restaurants because good Lord, I don't want to eat half a ground up cow for dinner.
Story 1: I was ready to say Op was TA but she literally abandoned her dog and actively prevented Op from contacting her by blocking them. She did this to herself. Story 2: "He's finding himself and the younger ones need to focus on school" well they can't exactly do that if they're starving because Op can't get groceries because their older brother is "finding himself" anywhere except where he should be. Edit: Astonishing how it only took 9 hours, not even a full day, for them to realize that Op was essentially a teenage parent carrying that whole family. Story 3: No because I felt that burger rant in my _soul._ I _never_ get burgers from restaurants for that _exact_ reason. A steak I'll get, but a burger? Absolutely not. I literally can't.
On 3: I mean, I think I know what he's talking about and it can get ridiculous but I don't find burgers to be that crazy unless I order them that way. While I know they exist, I haven't been server a burger taller than it is wide before. Thick burgers often come from grilling and targeting juiciness rather than the flat grill burgers. Thst being said, freshness is a factor for me and steaks are debatable, because often I can just outcook with little effort if they don't specialize and then the steak costs a fortune.
She left the dog for longer than intended. And also she clearly said 2wks and even blocked op for so many days. She can't sue since she was ghosted for literally 2 more weeks. Animal abuse, neglects, and abandoned are serious. If they was gonna be longer they should have called. They have no leg to stand on. They would be asked why didn't you respond to the calls and text. Why did you block her on Instagram. Why did your husband do the same. They got nothing since this is their own doing and they would lose regredless. Op you have nothing to worry about
I love how in the third story she makes herself into a hero by having her boyfriend try exotic foods he wouldn’t have ordered himself. BUT IF HE WANTED THEM HE WOULD JUST ORDER THEM. Also, SHE is the one wasting food. And yet she doesn’t understand that - instead she justifies her behavior.
@@mask938 hOw wAs oP sUpPoSeD tO kNoW she’s just constantly pushing him out of his comfort zone and using the fact the bf has difficulty saying no because of anxiety to switch foods.
Third story, she's definitely lying to herself, she likes the thrill of ordering something with no intent of eating it, and then palms it off on her poor bf. I'm glad he stood up for himself. Also, yes, there's an ideal ratio for burgers, but where i live in Australia has some fantastic burgers (from the local petrol station), also, big burgers, like big macs, can be split, makes eating them easier without smooshing the bread ^_^
I have a story similar to the dog one. My dad allowed my older sister to buy herself a dog since she worked hard and graduated high school. She had a streak of being very responsible, so everyone was excited. Unfortunately, when she bought the dog, she didn’t really care about it other than showing him off to friends. She didn’t potty train him or train him at all, really. Eventually, she would be gone for days and maybe weeks and I would have to watch this dog. I consider myself a dog person, and I love him, but man did he get on my nerves. Eventually I trained him to not pee or poop in my room, but I was lost on how to train him for the rest of the house. I was still in high school, and was not ready for this responsibility. Needless to say tensions were high between my sister and me. The tension spread to the rest of the house because my dad was upset that this dog was destroying everything. When she was home she still wouldn’t watch him, and would leave the door for her room open for him to run around the house peeing and pooping everywhere. She eventually moved away to a college across the state, and he was fully my responsibility. This story has kind of a good ending (ish) because although he is incredibly annoying and obnoxious and messy and weird I do love this creature. I called Shannon and said that I would be willing to save up money to purchase him from her, but she denied taking money and just let me have him. He is way better about peeing in the house but he still does it, and I’m working on it still. This boy is stubborn. I hope I can make him normal about peeing outside. He already knows the words “potty outside” and doesn’t poop in the house and only occasionally pees so I’m almost there. I’m proud of myself, a completely fresh dog owner, for getting this far on the most stubborn dog I’ve ever met
Our parents taught out dogs to rings bells on a doorknob they we open to let them into the backyard . So that way they know to ring the bells when they had to relive themselves.
Story 2: Geez, nothing like constantly tossing your responsibilities at someone while going on multiple vacations. The call proves that they're too used to OP doing all the work
Clearly this is old fashioned sexism. They assume OP should do all of that because she's female. The fact that mom and dad RAN home when they knew OP left the older brother in charge says a LOT.
Story 3: OP is literally my worst nightmare of a partner... honey, you aren't entitled to anyone else's food! And consistently making poor meal choices isn't adventurous, it's just shows that you make decisions thoughtlessly. I agree with R/slash's rant 5/5!
I'd probably be very reluctant to go out for food with this kind of person. I mean, yeah, it could happen, that something doesn't suit your tastes as much as you imagined, but that's not something that's should happen all the time.
They both suck, OP mostly because she does it every time. She thinks her boyfriend enjoys it, but never made sure. The boyfriend sucks for bottling up and exploding on her instead of just saying: "honey, I notice every time we order, you pick something you end up disliking, and I don't like having to switch out my burger all the time. So I won't do it again okay?"
I wouldn't have a problem switching meals if it happened every once in a while, but from the way she describes it she does it every-time they eat out. That makes it infuriating and her BF finally snapped. My question is, why go out to eat and get a basic cheese burger, it's literally one of the easiest things to make, I could understand if it's a fancy burger (specialty meats, cheeses, or other ingredients that are uncommon)? When I don't know what I want I just choose a random page close my eyes and point (kind-of freaks the waitresses out... In a good way), and as long as it isn't something I hate I order that (there are very few things I hate).
@@CroobieLetter honestly, i agree with you. while i think OP is more at fault than the boyfriend, i cant put the full blame on her either. yes, she is kinda dumb to be like 'oh, i love trying out exotic foods' but than not like it 9/10 times. you should kinda.. learn your lesson there?? but like.. she doesnt force her boyfriend to swap food with her. she asks and he always agreed. yes, i get that the boyfriend had a bad history and may have trouble saying 'no' and she should have thought about it, but this sounds more like her being a oblivious dumbass that doesnt think than her being malicious and an a**hole. i wouldnt call the boyfriend a a**hole, concidering i understand the bottled up frustration, not being able to say no and than just.. losing it. but i cant fully blame OP either. there are things about the boyfriend she should have known or at least expected, but she cant read minds. she should have used her brain, and he should have tried to communicate instead of blowing up.
My sister has been on two trips overseas and both times I made sure to send her pictures of her dogs. And she always responded with how much she was missing them. And she asked about them when she called. She'd never just... abandon them. And we wouldn't let her, anyway - at the bare minimum, either my parents or myself would take them in.
My dog was left with the friend of his owner while the owner was moving. He never came back for it so the friend took it to the shelter. So for over five years now I've had the most wonderful dog ever, and the butthole original owner has missed out.
story 3: you’re the AH. The fact that OP does this all the time with the exact same foods is ridiculous. Of course the boyfriend would have a rehearsed speech ready, he’s probably been holding it in for weeks. Don’t treat other people’s food like it’s yours, be responsible for yourself like an adult.
Don’t hold it in for weeks? Talk and express your feelings with you partner? Say, hey. I don’t wanna switch foods anymore, make the line. Don’t wait till they cross it and be mad that you didn’t say something sooner.
@@Snak3mast3r he did. She asked him to switch foods and he said no then she asked why. He told her no but she insisted on wanting an answer. It was literally stated that he had bad anxiety and it was obviously hard for him to express his feelings on the matter. Op sucks. Not the boyfriend. Are you Op?
Women who inherently presume a natural right to what's on their partner's plate always make so uncomfortable. Like, that's just so inappropriate a sense of entitlement; sometimes it straight-up looks like it's a dominance thing.
@@locusxe1411 What about all the times before? Why wait till hes ready to explode? She definitely shouldn't have made a scene and pushed him out of his boundaries. Im just fixated on the food aspect. Just say no. My thought was, if this was a reoccurring issue and he didn't say anything until the Nth time, then is it really a 'he's right, she's wrong' type of situation? she still gets a AH score for sure, the fact she didnt realize it was affecting him like it was. She was oblivious and a F of a girlfriend. But doesn't he get 1/5 just for waiting to explode in public instead of addressing the known issue BEFORE it happens (like he knew it will?) All it takes is being an adult one of the many times before to say. "Hey, i dont like this. I dont want to switch foods when we eat tonight/future?" But instead he goes1-100? Rslash is right on splitting the meals IF thats what they both want. Shes not entitled to his food and he doesnt have to share. But he also didn't have to freak out, anxiety or not. You cant say it was "obvious' he cant express his feelings. Many people with Anxeity disorders are able to express themselves. Also, her asking why not isn't too crazy. Just say, 'because I want to eat a burger'. She shouldn't have made an assumption, but he started the fight. They both are AH
@@Snak3mast3r I bet you’re one of those fuckers who pressures folks who have trouble speaking for themselves into giving you their stuff, assumes that their lack of resistance means they’re perfectly ok with it, and then gets mad when the person finally summons the courage to speak their mind and put their foot down. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be saying the boyfriend is an asshole.
*First OP:* OP’s “friend” technically abandoned her dog, so I get why OP took the dog to the shelter. I _do_ wonder why OP didn’t drop the dog off at her friend’s house after she and her husband returned from their vacation? OP is NTA. *Second OP:* OP’s parents dumped almost all the responsibilities on OP. She didn’t owe them a heads up. OP is NTA. LOL at OP telling her brother she’s going out to get milk! Regarding rSlash’s comment about the parents cleaning up the house: OP’s younger siblings are old enough to do chores. Have _them_ clean up after themselves! *Third OP:* Assuming OP had the money for it, why couldn’t she pay for her own burger and fries? OP is TA not only for “asking” to have her boyfriend’s food, but also for waking her sister at 5:30 because of relationship drama. I’m posting this before I hear rSlash’s verdict, so I don’t know if he read OP’s update that her boyfriend dumped her. I don’t know why, but hearing rSlash get passionate about food cracks me up. *Fourth OP:* It makes sense that OP would cancel a wedding gift when her SIL canceled the wedding, especially if the gift costs a lot of money. But I can also understand OP’s SIL being upset about OP canceling the order. OP didn’t specify if her SIL lashed out at OP. Assuming she didn’t, I’ll say NAH.
For story one: OP agreed to two weeks, then was forced into almost another two weeks before she got rid of the dog. I am totally sure this flaky friend would pay her for a whole month of dogsitting.🙄🙄
If OP were to leave the dog at a friends out, it wouldn’t be fed, watered, or taken out for a whole other week! So it was probably the best case scenario to take it to the shelter.
Damn, that burger story. When the guy said he likes exotic food but menus and ordering stresses him out. I KNOW THAT FEELING. I literally am this person because if I'm not with someone who can order for me, unless I know exactly what I want I will stress the hell out because of it. I've never shouted 'MOOD' so loud in my entire life.
The burger story really reminds me how much I love my wife. When we go out and get meals, we always split half our meals and enjoy doing so. She isn't a picky eater and I'm warming up to more food types so it's always a blast when we go out.
what worries me about story 1 is how the friend got the dog back. if anything, the 1st op gave the dog a chance at a better life than it would have had at the neglectful friend's house. that "friend" is quite undeserving of a dog
@@lorilancaster5917 it still wouldn't be OP's problem. The dog was abandoned and it trashed her house. I love dogs a lot and have rescued many of them over the years, some people just can't handle the responsibility and that's okay.
Yes. The behavioral issues she mentions point to an owner who just doesn't make any effort. Dogs are not born knowing how humans want them to behave; they need to be taught. I'm guessing that poor dog will end up in a shelter in a year or two anyway when the owner gets tired of dealing with the monster that she created.
Third story, that whole section where OP was going on about how mutually beneficial it was for the both of them to switch foods completely rubbed me off the wrong way. When I order food, that's cuz I'm craving that. If I was not only expected to give up my meal, but also forced to eat something I may have not wanted, simply because my partner wanted to feel like they like ordering exotic foods, while not having any of the consequences, I'd probably blow up like OP's partner did
I would never ask someone to trade meals. I would’ve ate what I could and order something like a dessert if still hungry. At my financial expense of course.
@@lorilancaster5917 exactly. And she didn't need to outright waste the food either. Get a to-go-box and see if anyone else wants it. Then order another dish. Don't steal ur partners food.
Your hamburger rant is absolutely 100% correct. Hamburgers were originally designed to fit in ones fist. A meal that was made fast and could be eaten fast. You know, FAST food.
That burger rant is so goddamn accurate, I could not agree with you more, every time I can't fit a burger in my mouth I get genuine anxiety about how the hell I'm going to eat it without it all exploding over the entire table
Love how RSlash got so passionate about his burger speech that he forgot to give the 3rd OP a score lol But yeah you aren't entitled to someone elses food just because you made a bad decision. You claim to like exotic food, yet you make the swap everytime. You shouldn't be surprised that he finally put his foot down. YTA
First storyl as soon as they ghosted her, she should have sent a posting that stated that they had this much time to claim their dog or that she was taking it to a shelter as an abandoned dog. This way she would have proof that she did try to contact them.
OP clarified that when she was calling them was about a week after the friend had left, so half way through the 2 week vacation that OP's friend was on. The total extra time was two or three days extra due to flight problems, with OP's friend being out of the country. Not the 30 odd days R slash comes up with. It's possible that the 'ghosting' is down to the whole "We're on vacation, out of the country, please leave us alone" for both work and anything not vacation related.
I'd like to point out a missing thing OP mentioned in this story, that friend blocked them on instagram when OP tried to contact them there. This goes beyond just ghosting. They actively didn't wanna hear anything from OP.
@@KibuFox If OP really changed the days later then how should RSlash edit his whole video after recording? Just watched it again and yes there are 2 Weeks and 10 days mentioned in what he had at the time so it is not odd if that is what it said. If they really would change it to the 1 week and couple days that would change it to an AH position as OP would now that they will be back in the next days and would see the end of such a nightmare. Edit: Even checked and dont know where you wanted to take your information. Even the original Story still states 2 weeks and 10 days so probably you try to spread missinformation.
The burger rant had me giggling! As a side note. My husband is VERY routine. He likes what he likes and never deviates from his food preferences when we have takeout or go out to dinner. I, on the other hand, always try new things. If I don't care for it, I suck it up. I'll just whip up something easy at home. Oddly enough, if I make something new at home, hubs will happily eat it. He's a quirky one!
Story 3: I’m gonna say that this is an ESH situation. A good relationship is built upon communication, and neither of them took the time to actually discuss this issue until it reached its tipping point. OP shouldn’t have been forcing the bf to eat her food for her, and bf should have told her it was bothering him, because from the way that she described it, she genuinely thought this arrangement was benefiting both of them.
Agree with this. I had a housemate blow up on me after not saying anything. I was in the wrong, and I fully acknowledge that I was a bit blind to the extent of the issue, but the fact he didn't say anything and just let it fester until he just blew up on me (honestly, I thought he was going to get violent) really threw me for a loop.
If I regularly order a burger at every restaurant I go to I obviously don’t want to eat it…. His communication was his continuing to order a burger and wanting to eat his burger because otherwise he would have ordered something else. See the thing is, it is expected that if person order something at a restaurant, the thing the order is what they want to eat. Suggesting/forcing/arguing/hinting/ demanding/asking/begging/stealing or any other action in order to get the BF to swap meals is THE EXCEPTION not the norm…. Why would he be anything other than irritated time and time and time again if this is a regular occurrence?
@Foxfire0002 It seems like he explained his consistent ordering habits as him not liking to have to choose between menu items. It seems like OP genuinely thought he enjoyed getting the variety without the stress of choosing and that instance was the first time he actually told her he didn't like it. If they've done this a bunch (and it sounds like they did), I would probably have come to the same conclusion...
@@1wolsk that was what OP said in the story, yes. But that’s obviously not the only reason. After all, he could have just as easily chosen a salad every single time or some sort of chicken dish every single time, and yet continued to choose a burger. That only indicates he enjoys his plain boring burger… As far as them swapping. Once or twice is natural. REGULARLY swapping is not. If the boyfriend wanted to be adventurous or try different things without having to make a choice then why not have the girlfriend order something for both of them and thus make the choice no longer his? Because he likes burgers and wants to eat them.
@@Foxfire-xq5ij The issue here is that it sounds like the bf has choice paralysis, so he just goes with a basic meal every time. He has no issues with eating exotic foods as far as we are to believe, he just doesn't seem to have the ability to choose something more complex than a simple burger and fries.
I once had a burger that was 1lb of meat between two grilled cheese sandwiches. It was a good ratio once split to a manageable size. Mom and pop shops can do it right if they know what they're doing.
Burger story: YTA. The fact that she's really expecting an apology from HIM and not going to apologize herself is telling. It really don't matter if he normally trades with her. This time, he didn't want to and said no. She should've accepted that and if this happens all the time, maybe she should stop ordering new things and stick to things she knows she likes.
as a never-been bride who cancelled the wedding, literally the only gift I kept was the one I got from my bff even before my bridal shower (bridal shower never happened either, but if it had I would have returned everything!) because she wanted me to have the lingerie and heels to look good in "for myself" to help feel better over everything that happened. if you cancel the thing that people are specifically getting you gifts for, you don't get the gifts. you just don't.
I can’t imagine having a partner who consistently orders food that they don’t know or care if they’ll like it or not, simply because they expect to eat my meal if they don’t.
Hey Rslash, I'll partially agree with you on burgers. Proper ratios are definitely best, but I see them generally followed pretty well by both fast food and non-fast food restaurants. The problem I most often run into is poor cook time or hold time at fast food places. There are many places I simply won't buy a burger from because I often get stale buns or burger patties that have been under the heat lamp for 30 minutes or more.
First story: NTA. OP got ghosted by her "friend," and friend's husband. You just don't do this to people. By my math, this person ghosted OP for 17 days after she was supposed to return for her dog. OP had no idea what was going on, wasn't getting paid extra for the additional inconvenience, and this just wasn't their dog. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. OP's now former friend should be lucky they're able to get their dog back after this stunt.
I totally relate to op in the second story. I ended up living with my grandparents because I was just exhausted from being 19 and taking care of my parents house, the step dad that never kept a job, my bro and his gf all who were messy. And their newborn baby. I didn't get paid for anything, didnt have a car, lived on a dirt road in the middle of nowhere and had to do so much. My grandparents saw all the hard work and unfairness and took me in
Several days ago my husband and I were at an Indian fast-casual place. I ordered paneer Tikka masala, which wasn't very spicy. He ordered their chicken Tikka masala Naan pizza, which was apparently much spicier than expected. I offered to switch since I can handle more spice than him, because that's what a good husband does.
I actually agree with you on your burger rant! Most restaurant burgers you have to eat with a knife and fork, and worse, sometimes the patties are quite obviously store-bought or frozen, or are otherwise not made fresh. But I will admit that sometimes I'll come across a pub in the UK that hand-makes the patties and it's absolutely delicious. There is something so satisfying about a simple burger made right.
yeah, there is this local 'premium' burger place that does the 'fancy' burgers, but they did them right and there was a good range, we used to go there a couple of times a month, but around 2021 they changed their menu putting this god awful honey bbq sauce on every burger and refuse not put it on. So we have not been there in a year and a half. they also started doing the thing where they put everything they can find on a burger. coleslaw, sure, mac n cheese, sure. you can no longer get a reguler cheese burger there, the bare minimum is a 'cheese burger' with honey bbq sauce and coleslaw. thats not a cheese burger. its a pitty, because they had some of the best burgers. seems people like them as they are opening a second store. wish we had wendy's here, had it in NZ and they are a great 'fast food' burger.
I’m surprised no one is also talking about how the girl in story 3 called her sister at 5 in the morning to complain about her fight with her boyfriend. It couldn’t wait or be a text? She is living in her own world
My husband and I will share bites of each other's food when we go out. In literally 10 years of us being together there's only once we switched plates, but we both agreed on the fact that we liked what the other ordered more.
The story about the couple and food: in my opinion as someone that has food texture issues and orders my comfort foods; his order sounds like a comfort food. If so then he has been suffering because he liked her and was probably hoping she’d stop ordering stuff she doesn’t like. He wanted to be sweet to her and make her comfortable by taking his comfort away. She was taking his comfort food from him if I’m understanding then ques right Again this is all if I am right about the small parts I probably read too deep into
Story 2: Dear Satan, can you please, please, PLEASE create a specific layer of Hell for parents who treats their children like unpaid live-in slaves? NTA
😆 I've never been so amused with a rant that I mostly agree with. I'm just picturing Dabney ordering a burger and sitting there skeptically to see whether it adheres to the proper ratios of sandwiches. I'm totally with you, my man. I don't order burgers from restaurants anymore because, quite simply, I haven't bothered to learn how to unhinge my jaw to eat them.
I went to an italian restaurant once but made the mistake of ordering a non Italian beefburger and chips. The burger in the buns was very fat and it looked and tasted exactly like the burgers I buy from Aldi. They are the highest quality that Aldi sells, just right for a restaurant. To be fair, the restaurant never claimed to make their own burgers. Buyer beware.
He cares so much about this and I love it! 🤣 I also agree with what he is saying. I do think the best burgers are homemade. Perfect ratio, perfect amount of time on the grill, perfect bread choice, perfect condiments, etc. *Chef's kiss* If you learn how to cook properly, nobody will ever be a better cook for you than you yourself.
His burger rant cracked me up because I’m the opposite. I agree that restaurants should use something heartier as buns, like ciabatta or something, but I can’t stand how dry and bland fast food burgers are. I love Red Robin because it’s juicy, the veggies actually crunch, everything is fresh and has flavor. McDonald’s burgers are colorful cardboard
I have a number of great (non-fast-food) burger places where I live. Sorry Dabney lives somewhere that fast food burgers are his best option...lol. But the best burgers are the ones we make at home.
When I am traveling and want a burger I have found Denny's to be the place to go (unless I am near a Fuddruckers). But Red Robin isn't bad, assuming they are still as good as they were last time I had one (25ish years ago).
Yeah, where is he going that serves "Two-foot tall burgers"? When you go to an _actual_ restaurant, you get a real burger patty, unlike... whatever those things at McDonald's/BurgerKing/etcetera are. The biggest burger I've ever seen was _as_ tall as it was wide, Slashy's was just apparently born with an underdeveloped jaw and now he's exaggerating like it's going out of style.
That fucking rant about the burgers that RSlash went on about was the funniest thing I have heard in a while. I legit laughed out loud audibly for several minutes 🤣.
First Story: If I leave my pet with someone, I'm checking in on them everyday day. What pet owner ghosts someone who has their pet and expects that to end well. Story 3: The OP likes to tell herself that she has exciting and exotic taste, but really she should just stop pretending and order a damn burger. Also, the boyfriend could have said at any point before that he doesn't like switching food. If you're partner insists on something that you don't like, then tell them that you don't like it before you get to a boiling point.
With the last story, once OP's husband's sister canceled the wedding.... that means the (would of been) couple gets no wedding gifts. So OP had every right to cancel the gift, in my mind. And if OP's MIL feels that OP should of let the SIL still get the gift.... then the MIL should pay out the $700 for the gift for her own daughter.
With the food story, one of the worst parts is ordering kalamari and wanting to trade for the burger is that kalamari is usually way more expensive then burgers at restaurants, so she is wasting more money just to not want to eat it.
how much you want to bet that switching plates also includes "switching prices" in this case meaning, *he* gets to pay for the calamari he didn't even order
@@CRSB00 I feel like they probably just split the bill. Either way they both pay the same. Although the bf is kinda dumb thinking that it’s okay to just blow up without communicating that he didn’t like swapping foods in the past
@@webe3228 1. He had anxiety 2. He most likely expressed it before and op made it sound like he didn't 3. The relationship was clearly never good as in an update the boyfriend dumped her
@@1nn1tmate well I’m not making judgments on anything other than what I was given. And you’re gonna tell me he was anxious that she was gonna ask for his food? And he still didn’t express that? If he did express himself that’s an entirely different thing, but the story never says he expressed himself before, and even hints that he didn’t, so that’s what I’m going by.
Dabney, you blew my mind when you were dissing on non-fastfood restaurant burgers! I'm literally on the autism spectrum and I've never once considered sandwich ratios. You've given me a new and healthy obsession!
For those that don't know, calamari is a fried food made by slicing the body of a small species of squid into half inch wide rings that are then battered and fried like onion rings. For those that want to try, last time I went in person, they were offered as an appetizer at Olive Garden. Also, @rSlash, have you even heard of Red Robin? Their whiskey river is one of my favorite burgers to get and I almost always order one at every opportunity. Also, if you're in Yakima, Washington, make sure to hit up Miner's, as their burgers are big, but they're a good 8 inches wide and no taller that a big mac.
I live in Bonney Lake, my husband(this was 10 years ago tho before our marriage lol) was going to Yakima every weekend(or every other I think?) For military stuffs and now I wanna go on a trip with him to try miner's lol
@@samsam699 I'd often stop at Miner's every time I'd cross the state headed your way or coming back (born, raised, and still live in Tri-Cities). Just take a 50 mile detour to the south if a trip you have planned takes you through Ellensburg.
@@1Scimetar for sure! I've been born and raised on this side of the cascades but went to ewu for a year and 1 extra quarter lol 🙃 I think we're planning a trip to Omak in the spring so maybe we will even go that way lol
First Story, NTA: She abandon this dog and she had the audacity to get mad?! She and her husband blocked OP when she was trying to get in contact with them. They both agreed for 2 weeks , then ghosted for so many extra weeks?! OP needs to ditch this "friend". OP has more patience than me Second Story, NTA: Seems like everyone in this house is trying to use OP as a maid. Obviously OP's parents are playing favorites; OP's brother is a grown man and can take care of himself. OP's parents are encouraging this man to be a freeloader. Lmaoooo, OP pulled the "We need some milk" card and left 😂😂😂😂. How is OP thoughtless when they are trying to exploit OP for free labor. Lmaoooo older brother is mad that he has to do something now?! Third Story, YTA: So because OP makes poor choices in food her boyfriend had to suffer the consequences. Literally OP does treat him like a garbage can. Why the hell would he apologize when OP is the cause?? If OP keeps this up she will eventually lose her boyfriend. OP claims to like trying exotic foods but yet almost each time she swaps it out for her boyfriend's food Fourth Story, NTA: Why get the wedding gift if the wedding is cancelled? I damn sure wouldn’t allow a $700 gift continue to get delivered after the bride and groom breaks up
@@rukiakuchiki6187the friend brought that to herself. She left the dog for 2 weeks and then the rest of the month. I would’ve done the same thing as OP
Story 1: I have a theory, your friend wanted you to train their dog so when they pick them up after a month he'd be well behaved and you have to deal with your house now clean terrible. As a pet owner I can't imagine not being in contact with someone watching my pets for over a month.
The burger story, is one of my red flags and biggest ""pep peeves" when it comes to dating. I simply can not trust someone that given all the options (menu) can not trust her own decisions and the audacity of wanting to take my food that I DID choose.
Absolutely right, Dabney, on the monster burgers! It’s insane, and what you end up having to do is split it in two, with a bottom and top half, both of which aren’t what you wanted to taste. Cutting slices is possible, but super awkward.
with the cheeseburger story, it seems go me that the boyfriend has been holding in feelings about that for a while, and that particular day was just the last straw for him. It makes sense his speech would "sound rehearsed" - he'd probably been planning it for a while, but just didn't have the confidence to say anything until that point
Story 1: 0.5 holes for not going to a rescue group and seeing if they could help. They are more likely to take it in for free and will have better luck finding it a home.
Thank you for validating my opinion of "specialty or gourmet" burgers. I totally agree with you that the size and ratio of ingredients is very important in the enjoyment of a burger. If you can't take a normal bite out of a burger without smashing the thing down then it's a failed burger.
Rule of thumb when you're eating burgers at a restaurant : The chief got black latex gloves and huge beard? Get out, that's just stacks of fat with random flavors mashed together.
The story about op's parents who can splash out cash to go to Las Vegas just to watch the NASCAR races is just so disrespectful because the parents would splash out cash for races but they can't buy their own daughter her own car and she has to share a car with her deadbeat older brother is just so stupid and disrespectful
I'm a pretty big burger person myself. I'm also a chef, so let me shine some insight. The reason the burger is bigger is to upcharge and make more profit. Unseasoned ground beef isn't that expensive commercially. It's cheap for meat, so bigger portions and then inflate the price. Then upcharge for every add on. Most food items have a 33% margin for profit. The rest is to cover costs, facility, and staff. To me, the best burgers I've ever gotten have been from five guys and steak n' shake. Both have great burgers and great fries. We don't have steak n' shake out my way, but when we travel I always have to stop at one. Proper proportions and good flavor. I don't care about the lettuce, tomato, or onion. I'm not paying 3$ for something several days old. I know. I sell the stardust and don't like it anyways. Give me the meat, cheese, and bun. Totally valid hot take. Someone's finally speaking my language. A perfect ratio patty only comes from fast food these days, because their in a rush and don't have the time to make it fancy nor upcharge. They sell thousands, so lower margins. Cheaper product, less toppings, smaller burger. Yum.
Story 3: I will say the bf needs better communication as that was clearly a bursting bubble. But Op clearly does the “order new things” as some narcissistic self indulgence to call themselves cultured. With my partner once would be fine. But repeatedly. There’s an issue. Plus OPs reaction to “no” says a lot.
The food story: Why is hard for some people to ask "I would like to try this food. Is it ok if we share in both orders?" The thing here is she might find it "sweet" that her boyfriend is sacrificing himself for her.
I’m sure the boyfriend would find it “sweet” if the girlfriend would let him eat his delicious burger instead of bringing up the idea that they should swap meals….
Rslash I respect your dedication to the burger issue. I have found one decent black bean burger place in my entire state, and I will be loyal to that spot until I die
One thing you're overlooking in the burger story is that the boyfriend should've talked to hee first as opposed to bottling everything up and exploding.
Holy cow, rslash you are absolutely right about fast food burgers! I could never put my finger on why restaurant burgers always seem less tasty than fast food burgers, but you've solved it. It's the ratio- you're a genius!
RSlash: "hamburgers are boring"
Also RSlash: [rants for 5 minutes about hamburger ratios and assigns an unsolicited 5/5 buttholes to an entire category of people]
This is why I watch
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Not why I watch. Also he said McDonald's knows how to make a burger just *shudder* Fucking NO local burger places. Restaurant burgers are average at best. Chains almost always suck ass at making just about anything cause they AREN'T making it. Everything is shipped precooked and frozen to be assembled at the restaurant. Chef Mike in the back cranking out the dishes. I have worked in a bunch of them and let me tell you anything short of a local place that has to source its supply locally as well is the ONLY way you will get good food. Otherwise enjoy the "just within the limits to still legally be called X" food. Panera, Applebees, Chipotle, Outback, etc etc etc. There are about 3 things on the menu that are fresh(ish) Steak, Ribs, and French Fries. Just the thought of calling any of that food anything more than passable gives me a gross feeling in my stomach.
@@TheWeaponshold I'm so sorry you have had such negative experiences. I wish you the best in your journey to seek good food.
Dabney's rant was adorable regardless of how you feel about his opinion.
@@TheWeaponshold Jesus fucking Christ dude chill out
He's right though. A lot of restaurants (especially but not exclusive to the US) seem to think they can make up for a lack of quality by adding quantity. I love burgers but I totally agree that a lot of places are making them so big you have to crush them or take them apart to even start eating them, and then they just make a huge mess. And honestly most of the time those burgers are bland and flavorless, the only thing they have going for them is they're big.
Burger story: the fact he set the boundary by saying no and her immediate response was “why” makes me feel like she doesn’t just ask and insists. Because if you respected him you would just take the no for an answer and move on, but she said WHY?! Like she was entitled to it when this man just wanted his burger?!?
she definitely expect him to always give her his food. the fact she sets it up like “i never insisted!” but basically expects the food exchange every time they go out is insane. Taking other peoples food is disrespectful especially when OP stopped considering how her boyfriend felt long ago.
If he NEVER complained about switching why wouldn't she be curious this time around? Did he just not want the calamari? Did he not like it? Not in the mood? No, he blew up on her with no prior forms of communication.
If she has been insistent without realizing, yes, she's the asshole. But her believing nothing was wrong when the boyfriend didn't say anything? If anything it's everyone sucks here, he didn't talk before his boiling point and that is his problem.
@@Graves933 But she immediately went on the attack of asking "Why not?" and saying "I don't want the food to go to waste" that means she has no intention of eating the food herself and is expecting him to eat it, which is insulting. Could he say it earlier? yeah. Does this make him a butthole? no
@@Graves933 this is all assuming OP is telling the truth that he never mentioned it bothered him before. And even with that, relationships are a lot of give and take. And I find it highly unlikely he would blow up like that and just leave without prompting. I’m sure we aren’t getting the full story. OP probably continued on about why can’t I have it etc. and wouldn’t just leave him alone about wanting to have his burger. That’s the thing, there’s three sides to every story. His side, her side, and the truth.
@@GamerSapss also with that logic “I don’t want the food to go to waste” okay then YOU eat it? Why does the boyfriend have to? He doesn’t. I would be mad too. She kept insisting even after he strictly said no
SHE LEFT TO "GO GET MILK" IM DEAD
I laughed when I heard that! Only way it could've been better is if she added cigarettes to the list!
I almost spit Coke hearing that she is going out to get milk know her true intentions xD
The Mother : "Well boy's from now on you have to clean and cook for yourself ,your sister have gone to get milk and just don't come back."
Pulled the Deadbeat Dad combo
Talk about foreshadowing
The fact that the parents immediately returned home upon hearing OP had left shows that they KNOW she's the one keeping the home from falling apart and they were deliberately using her
Goes to prove that OP was always made to be their free maid
Christ, that first story. If they abandon their dog for that long, I dread to think what they would do to a child. Just leave them at school and ghost the school’s number and then wonder why CPS take their child away? Sounds like they didn’t want to look after a badly trained dog (which is their fault) so what would they do to a badly behaved child?
at first I was 100% gonna give OP YTA but as the story went on I was getting pissed, like they basically just abandoned the dog and got mad when OP treated it like an abandoned dog
To be honest, it's like that story about OP being forced to look after a mother's kids for all day and night all over again, the one about OP and the mother agreeing to this deal, but the mother denies it and basically used OP as this long term babysitter just so that she can go have fun for as long as she wants, even refusing to answer OP's calls and ruined the plans OP had, eventually calling CPS and the mother is mad at her and so is OP's friend, the last one I'm still baffled at to this day.
Story 2: can we appreciate that op pulled the classic “dad went out for milk and never came back”
yeah lol
That's when I burst into laughter. Good comedic timing by OP.
I noticed that lmao
Can we agree that older brother is just lazy?
Pack of cigarettes
Story 3: There is nothing "fair" about splitting their meals. The fair thing is to eat the thing she ordered or order (and pay) for something else.
No no no the boyfriend should suffer because OP is incapable of order food she’ll eat and her unwillingness to get the waiter to change the food.
OP was entitled beyond belief!
@@MrDoverfield the waiter has nothing to do here lol she can just pay for a burger, though. 😅
Right?? Like, leftovers box is a thing...
@@fcontini genuine question can’t you ask the waiter switch the food to something you want? I’m too shy to ask
Story 1: when a friend had to feed my cat for 5 days I wanted an update once every day or two to make sure he was doing well. I cant believe someone would be comfortable not knowing how their pet is for a whole month
Well, some people sadly really don't care for the animal itself😅 They just care for the idea of having a pet but don’t wanna put any afford in. It's an accessoire to them. This story just shows again that not just anyone should be allowed to own a dog. Especially, because they can actually be dangerous if not trained (properly).
When we went on a vacation one of my "friends" killed one of my rats by just blowing off either watering or feeing them. I had to nurse the other one back to health.
They abandoned that dog. Period
Considering the dog did his business in the house sounds like he's not trained. They were too lazy to put the effort in, and when they had a dog free home they felt better off. Well, if you're not willing to train your pet, don't get mad when they think the toilet is anywhere and everywhere.
OP clarified that when she was calling them was about a week after the friend had left, so half way through the 2 week vacation that OP's friend was on. The total extra time was two or three days extra due to flight problems, with OP's friend being out of the country. Not the 30 odd days R slash comes up with.
Story 3: Wow, OP is super high maintenance. It's incredibly rude to constantly ask for other people's food. If you don't like, send it back or order something else. I don't believe her that the boyfriend never had a problem with her behavior before. I imagine that he did try to say something or had communicated with facial expressions and body language that OP then ignored. People rarely just blow up like that, and unfortunately, self-absorbed and selfish people often have poor emotional intelligence. The fact that she called her sister at 5:30 am with a non-emergency further proves how self-absorbed and utterly clueless she is. I think she also failed to recognize that her boyfriend broke up with her. Yikes.
Some people don't pick up on body language and facial expression and subtle hints.
If you have a problem with something your partner is doing, you need to communicate clearly. He shouldn't have waited until he was this angry. He should have had a calm talk with her about it.
This is correct. They call people like that OP sociopaths.
@@bistestander I mean... Sure. But the fact that she was offended he said no also shows that we're not getting the full story. Why the fuck did she ask why?
He said no. That should have been it.
Npc
Or the boyfriend could have just been trying to be polite and gave in, even though he was apparently irritated about her constant food switch. I think I would be, too, because in the 24 years I've been with my wife I can't remember ever switching dishes with her because she didn't like what she ordered. I could understand if it happened once, but the fact that she seems to do that every time they go out it would annoy me enough that I'd probably blow up at her too.
Things I've learned today: RSlash is passionate about his burgers.
Definitely
Clearly I mean I don't blame him because who isn't
5 Guys is best
@@fullmetal44509 4 guys has better meat
Had to stop all I was doing to like this video, reason: the burger rant. Could not agree more.
I want to point out something Rslash missed with the first story: OP was *blocked* by them on several places. Really hammers in the 'don't care, not our problem anymore'
That's when it is appropriate to immediately take the animal to a no kill shelter (if they would accept the animal under these condition), or just take it directly to the local government animal control facility ...... which typically holds animals for about 10 days to 2 weeks before they are put down.
i would give op .5 butthole score ONLY because he took the dog to a shelter, what if someone else bought the dog, than the friend would not have a dog anymore and would sue op. thats the only part where op was wrong
@@RiseLeon_Turtle A bit late and was going to say this to the previous commenter, but OP should've said they were going to take them to the shelter because they considered the dog abandoned because it's been x days past the two weeks they said they'd be gone for.
@@Sanodi21 yeah
@@RiseLeon_Turtle it might honestly turn out better for the dog if it went to someone who wouldn't neglect obvious training and abandon it for a month
so charming that the older rslash gets and the more he settles into his role as a husband and father the less patience he has for shitty parents in these stories. now he knows for a fact they have no excuse
Yeah I just made a similar comment about how he's been going on a lot more ranting lately.
Parenthood changes you.
Also ranting about burgers. He just needs to BBQ and have cargo shorts
@@KCCAT5 well he is a dad now so I get it.
@@audreym3908 Dad rants.
Story 3: I only order a cheese burger myself. If I could never eat what I order everytime I go out because someone keeps ordering something they don't like, I'd be pretty mad too. The fact that you think he's going to call and apologize show that you clearly don't listen, and the relationship is going well because he's basically just doing everything you want.
She talked about he’s been hurt in the past. Well he’s stronger than OP accounted for and hopes he saw her red flag for what it is!
@@lorilancaster5917 "He's been hurt in the past... So I'm gonna manipulate him and hurt him everyday. What could possibly go wrong?"
@@hiroshi7025 Right? He is only worth something to her if he is 100% compliant to her stupid requests.
That burger tirade was one of the best ‘Dad Rants’ ever.
For the first story, it sounds like these people never trained their dog, and were sick of it pissing and shitting everywhere and being a general menace, so they decided to dump it on OP so they could get a break from it, possibly hoping OP would also fix everything with the dog, since she also has her own dog.
Burger story is so relatable.
When my wife and I went on our first date, I asked her what sort of cuisine she liked. She said Indian, so I booked a table at our local Indian restaurant. As the food came out, she admitted that she'd only ever tried MILD Butter Chicken and that was what she was thinking of when she said she liked Indian food. The restaurant staff were good about it, toned down the heat in the other dishes, wife tried a few other things that night.
We've been married 10 years now, and still get takeout from that restaurant from time to time. The staff still give her flack about it, pointing to butter chicken on the menu, and jokingly label her order as 'extra, extra hot vindaloo' with a smiley face, even though it's the same, mild curry as always. 🙂
That's so sweet
this is adorable, as an indian your wife is perfectly fine in her initial belief (mostly cuz of how unfaithful american indian restaurants are). If she really does want to try authentic though, try and find a good location with a little bit of spice, though is understandable if you cannot handle it. Even today I cannot handle much either haha
Story 3, as someone who actually DOES love trying weird new foods, OP is definitely lying to herself. She's trying to come off as an adventurous eater, but suddenly wants a plain burger when the dish she wanted cones every time?
Yeah no not buying it. I've eaten venison, rabbit, buffalo, gator, conch, octopus, eel, and more. This girl can't handle standard calamari.
If I was your boyfriend I would have said no waaaaaaay sooner. YTA.
the best food i've eaten is also the weirdest food i've eaten. the times i had fermented vegetables in a korean restaurant and greek sun dried octopus had me dreaming of food for days🤤
Man I HATE trying new foods....but I know that. So I just stick to the same few couple of things I love eating and every once in a blue moon I'll ask to have a bit of what someone else is eating, not buy the entire thing and put it on someone else.
i mean, sometimes us adventurous eaters want something plain. is that a crime?
@@GiordanDiodato well,no. But then you should either order smth plain from the start or deal with not wanting the food you ordered.
The girl in the story didn't do this. She has been ordering exotic food everytime and everytime she has pushed it off to her bf and forcing him to give his food to her.
The issue in the story is that this is a pattern. She treats her bf like a garbage disposal and doesn't respect him wanting the food HE ordered for himself.
Yeah I'd bet she's just buying it to post fancy pictures on Instagram or whatever and dumping it on him. Sure sometimes we might accept to trade, but not EVERY SINGLE TIME. And no, I am going to disagree with the whole "it would be more fair to just split the portions". That's BS. If I order something it's because I want to eat that, and I order the amount I want.
If you order something and don't want it when it comes out 10 minutes later, that's YOUR problem to solve.
FIrst story: NTA. Not only did the friend abandon her dog, but judging by the dog's bad behavior, she isn't responsible enough to have pet in the first place. OP did the right thing, that poor pup deserves to be in a home where he'll be properly trained and cared for. I'm sad that he ended up back with his old neglectful human
Bet you they're going to try and get op to care for the dog again like nothing happened, what disgusting toxic people I hope they do lose the dog
Also it was not spelled out in this post what type of shelter this dog was taken to. The one I had volunteered at was an absolutely no kill shelter. They would foster for months on end, trade with other shelters all trying to find every animal a home. The director at that time had several dogs they adopted as those pets had issues that made them "undesirable" to most people. One issue I could see if the owners did not have/want their dog 'fixed', and the shelter 'fixed' the dog as part of their intake policy, but that still does not excuse the friend who ghosted OP.
@@shadowmewfred09 I bet they hoped OP would train their 🐩 since they’ve never bothered
It's like, you hear the title, and the initial knee-jerk reaction is "Yes, you are the asshole. What possible reason could anyone have for giving someone else's dog to a shelter?!" Then you hear the story, and... yep, that's a pretty good reason. After she ghosted and blocked OP, there's really only one conclusion to come to, that your "friend" doesn't want the dog anymore. Also, they conveyed that in the absolutely stupidest way possible. OP is definitively *_not_* the asshole.
@@GamingForLifeGF I'm no dog expert, but I'm pretty sure hitting them doesn't solve anything, and says a lot more about you than the dog. However, either way it's irrelevant, OP is under no obligation to train their dog for them.
Burger story: I am proud of him for standing up for himself. That is one of the few rules my husband and I have with each other that we both follow without problem. If either of us were to pull that crap, the other would walk out and the relationship done. Now, to be clear, we do share meals but we discuss that prior to ordering and we usually share an appetizer and one entrée.
At first glance it seemed rash that you'd do that, but looking deeper, I see it's a matter of basic respect. It's good you both expect and give respect to one another.
What I don't get is why doesn't she just order something she likes or just order something else 🤔
Never once in the 24 years I've been with my wife have we ever asked to switch meals at a restaurant because we didn't like what we ordered. We either put our big boy/girl pants on and eat it anyway or just leave it and maybe get something later. I mean, I can understand if the dish is just totally disgusting but to order something and then wait until it arrives at the table to decide that's not what you want? That's just being spoiled.
Exactly! Me and my boyfriend always order two meals and split them both and we discuss before to make sure we agree. You can’t be like “oh it’s gross so YOU eat it” 😂
I was totally expecting OP to give the dog up when she said it was badly trained. Hearing that she waited out the two weeks and then was ghosted by the owners-- I would have claimed the dog was abandoned too. I would have assumed they did it on purpose, after it terrorized my house like that.
I wonder if she could sue the dog owners for "bioterrorism" lol. probably not.
Waiting 10 days AFTER being ghosted (after contact at the end of their vacation) to send poopy monster to the shelter 1. More time than I would have given. 2.It's an abandoned animal, no longer a pet. And a WEEK AFTER bringing it to the shelter the "friend" decided to pick up her dog, it's been more than 2 WEEKS since her vacation ended, what is wrong with her head???
In regards to the first story: If I were the friend, I'd be asking for pictures and updates every day, not ghosting the person watching my pet. They must not care about that dog very much if they're willing to ignore any texts about him.
And videos (or clips if it's way too big to send).
Given how poorly trained it is as well, i get the sense they are not good owners.
@@paladinboyd1228 Exactly this. First job as a dog owner is to make sure a dog is housebroken or accommodations are made in the form of doggy diapers and pee pads. Plenty of disposable or washable ones out there. The dog owners couldn't even get that right.
Remind me of the gf from Boondock Saints
When I was on vacation for 1 week. I called my mom every day to see if my pupper was ok sometimes twice a day. These people should never be pet owners.
How is she going to say she likes exotic foods when she always goes for her BF's foods at least 99.97% of the time
She should’ve said she likes to order exotic foods. Bet after she takes a few pics of the food to post she gets bored with it. Glad BF stood up for himself.
@@lorilancaster5917 oh, Instagram clout. Makes sense
Yeah, that would be SO fucking annoying. Obviously OP is an inconsiderate idiot. LOL She called her sister at 5:30 AM over some incredibly NOT URGENT bullshit with her boyfriend.
The funny part is that the OP made a throwaway account for the post but just _had_ to mention that she’s a founder and mod for a subreddit, probably about exotic food but who really knows. But the thing is is that no one cares why someone made a throwaway account, they just want to read about the situation. The fact that she mentioned it just made her seem really egotistical and she got dragged in the comments for it on the post.
That woman seemed so entitled. I feel so bad for her sister, imagine at any hour this lady just calling you up to complain about this..
Dabne burger rant was honestly the star of this episode. This man genuinely cares about burger ratios, and I respect the hell out of it.
On god🙏🏼
Yeah I don't like bigger burgers it's to much
Right? He didn't even give a rating for the actual story.🤣
As someone who only eats burgers with no toppings, I can’t relate.
Anything with more than a 1/4 lb patty and not properly ratio is terrible. And i feel like the burger ends up tasting bland the bigger it gets. I prefer 2 small patties cooked and seasoned properly than a larger one
Third story: If you call me at 5:30 am because your partner didn't want to switch food with you, you are definitely the AH. I am completely on the sisters side.
And yeah, I have asked my bf to switch food with me too. Like three times in over four years of relationship. If you often don't like the exotic food then don't order it.
The wedding gift story: I would've given the SIL a little higher of a score only because she called her mommy on you. If she really wants that gift, she can buy it herself like a big kid.
I 0hysically fliched when I head $700. Even for a wedding gift, holy crap! And who wants a gift to memorialize a marriage that didn't happen? Why would u want that around?
@@margaretbarra6390 And I'm thinking, what if the SIL decides to get married later on? Will she expect yet another wedding gift from the OP? The way I see it, no wedding, no wedding gift.
Also the gift is supposed to be for the couple not just her. So no couple, no gift.
Third Story: This story got my blood boiling. Don’t get me wrong the boyfriend should have drawn that boundary sooner instead of waiting until he got that fed up but coming from someone who’s also had their kindness taken advantage by people who claim to care for you, it’s feels so heartless. What she needs to understand is that even if he has the ability to say no, it is seen as rude. So if you are in the early stages of your relationship the only option he really has is to agree. Then OP takes that and abuses that power every chance she gets? How could she not at the very least have had a basic level of empathy that would allow her to see the situation from her boyfriends point of view?
I'm autistic, and honestly, I can imagine having this situation. I have empathy, but I can't always parse people's emotions, so please, if I'm making you uncomfortable, tell me about it. I always try and avoid this kind of situation, and I always warn people about this, but yeah.
"it is seen as rude" sure, but then bring it up like nicely, don't just explode on them. Also, if someone is prepared to ignore your boundaries to the extent of feeling really hurt to avoid being rude, I'm not sure I can have a healthy relationship with someone, as I'd never feel comfortable trying to meet my own needs for fear of trampling theirs, or I'd try and fill my own needs, and they'd feel trampled.
I'd feel I was walking on eggshells, and honestly the situation could turn abusive in either direction.
For the love of god, communicate with your partner. If you don't feel you can for fear of offending them, break up - it will be better for both of you.
If you can't communicate your discomfort with your partners actions to your partner, then you are saying that the role of ensuring that people are happy in the relationship is entirely theirs, in the extreme, this is emotional abuse. When done mildly, its really annoying.
If you really can't express your needs then you should honestly get therapy, as it will make the relationships in your life far better for everyone involved.
Also, she might well not have been heartless, in the post she said she thought he was benefiting from the arrangement, and she thought she was helping him. Its obvious this was misguided, but its certainly possible that she genuinely formed this image, and was given no reason to form another. I don't know whether this is the case, but it is certainly possible.
I do agree that this kind of thing can happen in the early stages of the relationship, but he still should have clarified things before just exploding on her. I mean she is in the wrong for putting that pressure on him (accidental though it may have been), but you can't just blame her.
@@deathofallthingspotato9919 Yes, I already clearly stated that I agree with he should have made his opinion known. I believe both parties had a responsibility to be aware of their own actions. You can always pose the what if of someone having a mental illness. I have to judge the situation for what I know not what is possible to happen.
@@kota_bear7174 Sure, but the idea "maybe this person isn't picking up on my hints" is really the key here. If someone isn't picking up on subtle hints, give less subtle hints, or just tell them. Just as much as it's unwarranted to assume that someone is neurodivergent, it's unwarranted to assume that they perceive social interactions in the way you do, and can pick up on clues you think you're giving.
If you don't give me any reason to think of a given action specifically as special, I won't think about it specifically. I mean sure, everyone should try and be aware of their actions, but given the boyfriend appeared to justify it for her, I can't blame her for not picking up on hints...
Forcing your partner to do all the work of picking up on subtle hints isn't fair, neither is forcing them to consider your feelings in every case, especially when you've actually shown yourself to be fine with stuff (and given reasons why) - as much as he should be able to rely on her caring about him, she should be able to rely on him communicating.
I agree that she was on the whole in the wrong, but only contextually - she is only not justified because the whole "swapping food" thing is so unusual, and every relationship has its quirks - constantly questioning them isn't helpful. I have been in situations where I've had to constantly insist that I'm fine with something, and its really awkward, so I'd trust that they'd tell me the truth if I asked. I would have thought that was common courtesy.
If you're saying I have to guess what things anyone could have lied about, when I have effectively no reason to suspect them of lying, then I basically can't function in society.
"Do you want a sandwich?"
"Are you sure you're ok with making me a sandwich"
"Yes"
"I just don't want you to feel pressured into it, it's really OK"
"no, its fine..."
"It's just I know you make a lot of sandwiches, and I don't want to pressure you like this"
"its fine"
"Are you sure, because I know I asked you to help me two years ago when we were first getting together, and I don't want to assume you're still fine with it"
That isn't the best, is it?
The reason I take issue with your comment is that its the kind of thing which makes life really hard for people who struggle with social queues, even when they can normally navigate everything just fine. Particularly when you take this further and ascribe active malice to her "abuses that power".
Basically I'll object any time someone comes into a situation where they don't know the circumstances of the individuals involved or how their psychology works, assume things about how that interaction occurs for them, and then assign blame to the point of malice to one of the parties.
Things like this are the reason life is hard for lots of neurodivergent people - or indeed anyone at least somewhat out of the ordinary.
@@deathofallthingspotato9919 Let me clarify for you, since I believe you have my opinion wrong. I don’t think anyone has a responsibility to always be aware of how they are effecting others but there’s a point where that turns to blatant selfishness. I think she should have enough common since to know that demanding that much from someone is too much and that that in itself is selfish. I think even if he was happy to switch meals every single time it was still rude to constantly take advantage of his kindness. I think she had the responsibility to know how to be a decent human being that at the very least could check in when taking when asking that much of someone. I would hope you do too.
@@kota_bear7174 I believe I do have that common sense, but I feel that that common sense can vary wildly between different people, and saying that anyone who has a different sense to you must be an actively bad person doesn't feel like a particularly fair standpoint.
"could check in when taking when asking that much of someone" My reading was that she felt she had already checked in, and while I agree she didn't check in enough, I feel she did at least try, but felt any such issue was already resolved.
I don't mind saying that she could have done more, but I feel that she wasn't actively responsible for what happened. Which is what you effectively said she was. I think labelling someone as abusing power or not being a decent human being is going further that I would be willing to - at least if we take the best case presented.
Perhaps we are simply disagreeing about the levels of blame we are assigning, because from my perspective, saying someone "abuses that power" and is not a decent human being, is not the kind of thing I would say about someone who didn't ask enough times whether their partner wanted to swap meals... I'd be inclined to go with them both being poor at communicating, and her not putting enough thought into it. She was careless, but not malicious.
Lmao, I'm dying 🤣🤣 "I'm going out to get milk," is OP's version of the absent dad, "I'm going out to get cigarettes."
It's a common phrase in Scotland
@@johnfkennedyinanopentopcar8976 it’s common in Georgia too
@@KarmaTube5 also in Brasil
I can't believe she didn't leave and go NC at 18. This kind of abuse sickens me to the core, it would be one thing if the parents asked her to look after the youngest kid and paid her for it. But to treat her like a slave is ridiculous. On top of that with the exception of the 12 year old, the other kids are old enough to take care of themselves.
I probably would have dropped my keys and just said "Piece out".
“Going out to get milk” is the new phrase kids use when they joke that their parents are leaving. When I explained to my kids it used to be cigarettes instead of milk they looked at me funny lol.
I hate leaving my dog for more than a few days. I can't imagine leaving my boy for an entire month.
Doggo's are a damn good reason to stay home!! A vacation is to stay home and pet dog.
yeah man, i legit can't leave my dogs alone, I'm responsible for them.
Not just leaving him... have ZERO contact with the sitter. Nothing says I don't care about my pet like going off grid for a month!
@@fdm2155Well, the zero contact part is kind of the dog owners fault..
Dogs are life
I LOVE how enraged RSlash is over the daughter moving out story. Absolutely HILARIOUS!
Houstonian here, and Rslash is absolutely right. I always end up ordering a kids burger at most restaurants because good Lord, I don't want to eat half a ground up cow for dinner.
LMFAO!! The second story! She "went out for milk" and never came back! Holy cow. That had to be intentional on her part.
Story 1: I was ready to say Op was TA but she literally abandoned her dog and actively prevented Op from contacting her by blocking them. She did this to herself.
Story 2: "He's finding himself and the younger ones need to focus on school" well they can't exactly do that if they're starving because Op can't get groceries because their older brother is "finding himself" anywhere except where he should be.
Edit: Astonishing how it only took 9 hours, not even a full day, for them to realize that Op was essentially a teenage parent carrying that whole family.
Story 3: No because I felt that burger rant in my _soul._ I _never_ get burgers from restaurants for that _exact_ reason. A steak I'll get, but a burger? Absolutely not. I literally can't.
On 3:
I mean, I think I know what he's talking about and it can get ridiculous but I don't find burgers to be that crazy unless I order them that way. While I know they exist, I haven't been server a burger taller than it is wide before.
Thick burgers often come from grilling and targeting juiciness rather than the flat grill burgers.
Thst being said, freshness is a factor for me and steaks are debatable, because often I can just outcook with little effort if they don't specialize and then the steak costs a fortune.
She left the dog for longer than intended. And also she clearly said 2wks and even blocked op for so many days.
She can't sue since she was ghosted for literally 2 more weeks.
Animal abuse, neglects, and abandoned are serious. If they was gonna be longer they should have called. They have no leg to stand on. They would be asked why didn't you respond to the calls and text. Why did you block her on Instagram. Why did your husband do the same.
They got nothing since this is their own doing and they would lose regredless.
Op you have nothing to worry about
I love how in the third story she makes herself into a hero by having her boyfriend try exotic foods he wouldn’t have ordered himself. BUT IF HE WANTED THEM HE WOULD JUST ORDER THEM. Also, SHE is the one wasting food. And yet she doesn’t understand that - instead she justifies her behavior.
Her boyfriend gets to eat all the exotic food that tastes bad. She's such a caring soul.
@@OneEyeShadow And she’s forcing him out of his comfort zone in a way that doesn’t encourage him to explore on his own.
@@mask938 hOw wAs oP sUpPoSeD tO kNoW she’s just constantly pushing him out of his comfort zone and using the fact the bf has difficulty saying no because of anxiety to switch foods.
@@MrDoverfield Is this reply meant to be serious or is it sarcastic?
@@mask938 sarcastic
Third story, she's definitely lying to herself, she likes the thrill of ordering something with no intent of eating it, and then palms it off on her poor bf. I'm glad he stood up for himself.
Also, yes, there's an ideal ratio for burgers, but where i live in Australia has some fantastic burgers (from the local petrol station), also, big burgers, like big macs, can be split, makes eating them easier without smooshing the bread ^_^
I have a story similar to the dog one. My dad allowed my older sister to buy herself a dog since she worked hard and graduated high school. She had a streak of being very responsible, so everyone was excited. Unfortunately, when she bought the dog, she didn’t really care about it other than showing him off to friends. She didn’t potty train him or train him at all, really. Eventually, she would be gone for days and maybe weeks and I would have to watch this dog. I consider myself a dog person, and I love him, but man did he get on my nerves. Eventually I trained him to not pee or poop in my room, but I was lost on how to train him for the rest of the house. I was still in high school, and was not ready for this responsibility. Needless to say tensions were high between my sister and me. The tension spread to the rest of the house because my dad was upset that this dog was destroying everything. When she was home she still wouldn’t watch him, and would leave the door for her room open for him to run around the house peeing and pooping everywhere. She eventually moved away to a college across the state, and he was fully my responsibility. This story has kind of a good ending (ish) because although he is incredibly annoying and obnoxious and messy and weird I do love this creature. I called Shannon and said that I would be willing to save up money to purchase him from her, but she denied taking money and just let me have him. He is way better about peeing in the house but he still does it, and I’m working on it still. This boy is stubborn. I hope I can make him normal about peeing outside. He already knows the words “potty outside” and doesn’t poop in the house and only occasionally pees so I’m almost there. I’m proud of myself, a completely fresh dog owner, for getting this far on the most stubborn dog I’ve ever met
Our parents taught out dogs to rings bells on a doorknob they we open to let them into the backyard . So that way they know to ring the bells when they had to relive themselves.
Story 2: Geez, nothing like constantly tossing your responsibilities at someone while going on multiple vacations.
The call proves that they're too used to OP doing all the work
Parentifcation is disgusting abusive behaviour
Clearly this is old fashioned sexism. They assume OP should do all of that because she's female. The fact that mom and dad RAN home when they knew OP left the older brother in charge says a LOT.
They are the ones with guardianship over their children, they need to act like parents to them.
The sister did the “I’m going to get milk” excuse so she can run away like deadbeat dad do😂😂
Story 3: OP is literally my worst nightmare of a partner... honey, you aren't entitled to anyone else's food! And consistently making poor meal choices isn't adventurous, it's just shows that you make decisions thoughtlessly. I agree with R/slash's rant 5/5!
I'd probably be very reluctant to go out for food with this kind of person.
I mean, yeah, it could happen, that something doesn't suit your tastes as much as you imagined, but that's not something that's should happen all the time.
They both suck, OP mostly because she does it every time. She thinks her boyfriend enjoys it, but never made sure. The boyfriend sucks for bottling up and exploding on her instead of just saying: "honey, I notice every time we order, you pick something you end up disliking, and I don't like having to switch out my burger all the time. So I won't do it again okay?"
I wouldn't have a problem switching meals if it happened every once in a while, but from the way she describes it she does it every-time they eat out. That makes it infuriating and her BF finally snapped.
My question is, why go out to eat and get a basic cheese burger, it's literally one of the easiest things to make, I could understand if it's a fancy burger (specialty meats, cheeses, or other ingredients that are uncommon)? When I don't know what I want I just choose a random page close my eyes and point (kind-of freaks the waitresses out... In a good way), and as long as it isn't something I hate I order that (there are very few things I hate).
I agree but the way her boyfriend blew up at her and walked out was super extra.. i think they both suck tbh
@@CroobieLetter honestly, i agree with you. while i think OP is more at fault than the boyfriend, i cant put the full blame on her either.
yes, she is kinda dumb to be like 'oh, i love trying out exotic foods' but than not like it 9/10 times. you should kinda.. learn your lesson there?? but like.. she doesnt force her boyfriend to swap food with her. she asks and he always agreed.
yes, i get that the boyfriend had a bad history and may have trouble saying 'no' and she should have thought about it, but this sounds more like her being a oblivious dumbass that doesnt think than her being malicious and an a**hole.
i wouldnt call the boyfriend a a**hole, concidering i understand the bottled up frustration, not being able to say no and than just.. losing it. but i cant fully blame OP either. there are things about the boyfriend she should have known or at least expected, but she cant read minds. she should have used her brain, and he should have tried to communicate instead of blowing up.
My sister has been on two trips overseas and both times I made sure to send her pictures of her dogs. And she always responded with how much she was missing them. And she asked about them when she called. She'd never just... abandon them. And we wouldn't let her, anyway - at the bare minimum, either my parents or myself would take them in.
Rslash grilled a guy like a year ago for being a steak elitist only to come out as a burger elitist. Smh hypocrites😂
I mean all fathers are a burger elitist
My dog was left with the friend of his owner while the owner was moving. He never came back for it so the friend took it to the shelter. So for over five years now I've had the most wonderful dog ever, and the butthole original owner has missed out.
You are the owner apparently - so your story indicates you gave the dog to your friend.
@@mandylloyd read it again, they're talking about their dog's PREVIOUS owner
@@jessiemacd651 where is the previous lovely? It doesn't really make sense without extensive editing.
@@mandylloyd first sentence. "while the owner was moving" implies the previous owner abandoned the dog
@@mandylloyd first sentence, they didn't explicitly say "previous" but it was most definitely implied
story 3: you’re the AH. The fact that OP does this all the time with the exact same foods is ridiculous. Of course the boyfriend would have a rehearsed speech ready, he’s probably been holding it in for weeks. Don’t treat other people’s food like it’s yours, be responsible for yourself like an adult.
Don’t hold it in for weeks? Talk and express your feelings with you partner? Say, hey. I don’t wanna switch foods anymore, make the line. Don’t wait till they cross it and be mad that you didn’t say something sooner.
@@Snak3mast3r he did. She asked him to switch foods and he said no then she asked why. He told her no but she insisted on wanting an answer. It was literally stated that he had bad anxiety and it was obviously hard for him to express his feelings on the matter. Op sucks. Not the boyfriend. Are you Op?
Women who inherently presume a natural right to what's on their partner's plate always make so uncomfortable. Like, that's just so inappropriate a sense of entitlement; sometimes it straight-up looks like it's a dominance thing.
@@locusxe1411 What about all the times before? Why wait till hes ready to explode? She definitely shouldn't have made a scene and pushed him out of his boundaries. Im just fixated on the food aspect. Just say no. My thought was, if this was a reoccurring issue and he didn't say anything until the Nth time, then is it really a 'he's right, she's wrong' type of situation? she still gets a AH score for sure, the fact she didnt realize it was affecting him like it was. She was oblivious and a F of a girlfriend. But doesn't he get 1/5 just for waiting to explode in public instead of addressing the known issue BEFORE it happens (like he knew it will?)
All it takes is being an adult one of the many times before to say. "Hey, i dont like this. I dont want to switch foods when we eat tonight/future?" But instead he goes1-100? Rslash is right on splitting the meals IF thats what they both want. Shes not entitled to his food and he doesnt have to share. But he also didn't have to freak out, anxiety or not. You cant say it was "obvious' he cant express his feelings. Many people with Anxeity disorders are able to express themselves.
Also, her asking why not isn't too crazy. Just say, 'because I want to eat a burger'. She shouldn't have made an assumption, but he started the fight. They both are AH
@@Snak3mast3r I bet you’re one of those fuckers who pressures folks who have trouble speaking for themselves into giving you their stuff, assumes that their lack of resistance means they’re perfectly ok with it, and then gets mad when the person finally summons the courage to speak their mind and put their foot down. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be saying the boyfriend is an asshole.
*First OP:* OP’s “friend” technically abandoned her dog, so I get why OP took the dog to the shelter. I _do_ wonder why OP didn’t drop the dog off at her friend’s house after she and her husband returned from their vacation? OP is NTA.
*Second OP:* OP’s parents dumped almost all the responsibilities on OP. She didn’t owe them a heads up. OP is NTA. LOL at OP telling her brother she’s going out to get milk!
Regarding rSlash’s comment about the parents cleaning up the house: OP’s younger siblings are old enough to do chores. Have _them_ clean up after themselves!
*Third OP:* Assuming OP had the money for it, why couldn’t she pay for her own burger and fries? OP is TA not only for “asking” to have her boyfriend’s food, but also for waking her sister at 5:30 because of relationship drama. I’m posting this before I hear rSlash’s verdict, so I don’t know if he read OP’s update that her boyfriend dumped her.
I don’t know why, but hearing rSlash get passionate about food cracks me up.
*Fourth OP:* It makes sense that OP would cancel a wedding gift when her SIL canceled the wedding, especially if the gift costs a lot of money. But I can also understand OP’s SIL being upset about OP canceling the order. OP didn’t specify if her SIL lashed out at OP. Assuming she didn’t, I’ll say NAH.
She probably didn’t know when they will come home and didn’t want the dog to starve. She may not have a key to their place
@@lorilancaster5917 Both are good points.
She didn't technically abandon her dog, she did abandon her dog.
For story one: OP agreed to two weeks, then was forced into almost another two weeks before she got rid of the dog. I am totally sure this flaky friend would pay her for a whole month of dogsitting.🙄🙄
If OP were to leave the dog at a friends out, it wouldn’t be fed, watered, or taken out for a whole other week! So it was probably the best case scenario to take it to the shelter.
Damn, that burger story. When the guy said he likes exotic food but menus and ordering stresses him out. I KNOW THAT FEELING. I literally am this person because if I'm not with someone who can order for me, unless I know exactly what I want I will stress the hell out because of it. I've never shouted 'MOOD' so loud in my entire life.
I always look up the menu before I go lol
The burger story really reminds me how much I love my wife. When we go out and get meals, we always split half our meals and enjoy doing so. She isn't a picky eater and I'm warming up to more food types so it's always a blast when we go out.
what worries me about story 1 is how the friend got the dog back. if anything, the 1st op gave the dog a chance at a better life than it would have had at the neglectful friend's house. that "friend" is quite undeserving of a dog
The shelter likely needed the space and saw that the dog recognized them. ESH in this story because what if OP dropped dog off at a kill shelter?
Yeah, this !
@@lorilancaster5917 it still wouldn't be OP's problem. The dog was abandoned and it trashed her house. I love dogs a lot and have rescued many of them over the years, some people just can't handle the responsibility and that's okay.
Yes. The behavioral issues she mentions point to an owner who just doesn't make any effort. Dogs are not born knowing how humans want them to behave; they need to be taught. I'm guessing that poor dog will end up in a shelter in a year or two anyway when the owner gets tired of dealing with the monster that she created.
Third story, that whole section where OP was going on about how mutually beneficial it was for the both of them to switch foods completely rubbed me off the wrong way. When I order food, that's cuz I'm craving that. If I was not only expected to give up my meal, but also forced to eat something I may have not wanted, simply because my partner wanted to feel like they like ordering exotic foods, while not having any of the consequences, I'd probably blow up like OP's partner did
I would never ask someone to trade meals. I would’ve ate what I could and order something like a dessert if still hungry. At my financial expense of course.
@@lorilancaster5917 exactly. And she didn't need to outright waste the food either. Get a to-go-box and see if anyone else wants it. Then order another dish. Don't steal ur partners food.
"Order what you want, but I plan to want what I order."
2nd story she pulled the goddamn milk card that's the funniest shit i've ever seen
Story 3: I would have assumed MS meant middle school, but medical school makes more sense based on what she'd said so far. Nice.
Your hamburger rant is absolutely 100% correct. Hamburgers were originally designed to fit in ones fist. A meal that was made fast and could be eaten fast. You know, FAST food.
That burger rant is so goddamn accurate, I could not agree with you more, every time I can't fit a burger in my mouth I get genuine anxiety about how the hell I'm going to eat it without it all exploding over the entire table
Same! It was scarily accurate! 😂
Yeah, I always think I have to eat burgers the way the British do... with a knife and fork.
Same, a burger from a street vendor eat and taste better than any of those restaurants
Love how RSlash got so passionate about his burger speech that he forgot to give the 3rd OP a score lol
But yeah you aren't entitled to someone elses food just because you made a bad decision. You claim to like exotic food, yet you make the swap everytime. You shouldn't be surprised that he finally put his foot down. YTA
First storyl as soon as they ghosted her, she should have sent a posting that stated that they had this much time to claim their dog or that she was taking it to a shelter as an abandoned dog. This way she would have proof that she did try to contact them.
This.
OP clarified that when she was calling them was about a week after the friend had left, so half way through the 2 week vacation that OP's friend was on. The total extra time was two or three days extra due to flight problems, with OP's friend being out of the country. Not the 30 odd days R slash comes up with. It's possible that the 'ghosting' is down to the whole "We're on vacation, out of the country, please leave us alone" for both work and anything not vacation related.
@@KibuFox totally possible.. but I think OP tried reaching out to them at least for a week after they were back.
I'd like to point out a missing thing OP mentioned in this story, that friend blocked them on instagram when OP tried to contact them there. This goes beyond just ghosting. They actively didn't wanna hear anything from OP.
@@KibuFox If OP really changed the days later then how should RSlash edit his whole video after recording? Just watched it again and yes there are 2 Weeks and 10 days mentioned in what he had at the time so it is not odd if that is what it said. If they really would change it to the 1 week and couple days that would change it to an AH position as OP would now that they will be back in the next days and would see the end of such a nightmare.
Edit: Even checked and dont know where you wanted to take your information. Even the original Story still states 2 weeks and 10 days so probably you try to spread missinformation.
The burger rant had me giggling! As a side note. My husband is VERY routine. He likes what he likes and never deviates from his food preferences when we have takeout or go out to dinner. I, on the other hand, always try new things. If I don't care for it, I suck it up. I'll just whip up something easy at home.
Oddly enough, if I make something new at home, hubs will happily eat it. He's a quirky one!
Story 3: I’m gonna say that this is an ESH situation. A good relationship is built upon communication, and neither of them took the time to actually discuss this issue until it reached its tipping point. OP shouldn’t have been forcing the bf to eat her food for her, and bf should have told her it was bothering him, because from the way that she described it, she genuinely thought this arrangement was benefiting both of them.
Agree with this.
I had a housemate blow up on me after not saying anything. I was in the wrong, and I fully acknowledge that I was a bit blind to the extent of the issue, but the fact he didn't say anything and just let it fester until he just blew up on me (honestly, I thought he was going to get violent) really threw me for a loop.
If I regularly order a burger at every restaurant I go to I obviously don’t want to eat it….
His communication was his continuing to order a burger and wanting to eat his burger because otherwise he would have ordered something else.
See the thing is, it is expected that if person order something at a restaurant, the thing the order is what they want to eat. Suggesting/forcing/arguing/hinting/ demanding/asking/begging/stealing or any other action in order to get the BF to swap meals is THE EXCEPTION not the norm…. Why would he be anything other than irritated time and time and time again if this is a regular occurrence?
@Foxfire0002 It seems like he explained his consistent ordering habits as him not liking to have to choose between menu items. It seems like OP genuinely thought he enjoyed getting the variety without the stress of choosing and that instance was the first time he actually told her he didn't like it. If they've done this a bunch (and it sounds like they did), I would probably have come to the same conclusion...
@@1wolsk that was what OP said in the story, yes. But that’s obviously not the only reason. After all, he could have just as easily chosen a salad every single time or some sort of chicken dish every single time, and yet continued to choose a burger. That only indicates he enjoys his plain boring burger…
As far as them swapping. Once or twice is natural. REGULARLY swapping is not. If the boyfriend wanted to be adventurous or try different things without having to make a choice then why not have the girlfriend order something for both of them and thus make the choice no longer his? Because he likes burgers and wants to eat them.
@@Foxfire-xq5ij The issue here is that it sounds like the bf has choice paralysis, so he just goes with a basic meal every time. He has no issues with eating exotic foods as far as we are to believe, he just doesn't seem to have the ability to choose something more complex than a simple burger and fries.
Dabney has really put a lot of thought into his perfect burger science. I applaud you, sir.
I once had a burger that was 1lb of meat between two grilled cheese sandwiches. It was a good ratio once split to a manageable size. Mom and pop shops can do it right if they know what they're doing.
@@emileeweir7773 oh my god!! That's sounds fantastically delicious!!
Sounds more like a cardiac arrest waiting to happen
I can hear his rant all day about burgers 🤣
@@columbien10 sounds like the perfect way to die.
Burger story: YTA. The fact that she's really expecting an apology from HIM and not going to apologize herself is telling. It really don't matter if he normally trades with her. This time, he didn't want to and said no. She should've accepted that and if this happens all the time, maybe she should stop ordering new things and stick to things she knows she likes.
as a never-been bride who cancelled the wedding, literally the only gift I kept was the one I got from my bff even before my bridal shower (bridal shower never happened either, but if it had I would have returned everything!) because she wanted me to have the lingerie and heels to look good in "for myself" to help feel better over everything that happened. if you cancel the thing that people are specifically getting you gifts for, you don't get the gifts. you just don't.
Good for you! Also, I think it's kind of difficult to return lingerie unless it's exchanging it for a different size.
@@audreym3908 yeah, that's part of it but she also wouldn't let me either even though I hadn't worn it 😂
I can’t imagine having a partner who consistently orders food that they don’t know or care if they’ll like it or not, simply because they expect to eat my meal if they don’t.
Hey Rslash, I'll partially agree with you on burgers. Proper ratios are definitely best, but I see them generally followed pretty well by both fast food and non-fast food restaurants. The problem I most often run into is poor cook time or hold time at fast food places. There are many places I simply won't buy a burger from because I often get stale buns or burger patties that have been under the heat lamp for 30 minutes or more.
Dang. Dabney’s “clean your house” energy was me when I cleaned one bedroom apartments alone and did my best but still got compliments
First story: NTA. OP got ghosted by her "friend," and friend's husband. You just don't do this to people. By my math, this person ghosted OP for 17 days after she was supposed to return for her dog. OP had no idea what was going on, wasn't getting paid extra for the additional inconvenience, and this just wasn't their dog. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. OP's now former friend should be lucky they're able to get their dog back after this stunt.
I totally relate to op in the second story. I ended up living with my grandparents because I was just exhausted from being 19 and taking care of my parents house, the step dad that never kept a job, my bro and his gf all who were messy. And their newborn baby. I didn't get paid for anything, didnt have a car, lived on a dirt road in the middle of nowhere and had to do so much. My grandparents saw all the hard work and unfairness and took me in
Glad to hear your grandparents stepped up for you. What a crazy situation.
I hate you had to endure that but am thankful someone had your back. May no one ever underestimate your strength
Several days ago my husband and I were at an Indian fast-casual place. I ordered paneer Tikka masala, which wasn't very spicy. He ordered their chicken Tikka masala Naan pizza, which was apparently much spicier than expected. I offered to switch since I can handle more spice than him, because that's what a good husband does.
2:00 no, sue her, she violated your agreement and abandoned their pet to you, which counts as pet abandonment.
I actually agree with you on your burger rant! Most restaurant burgers you have to eat with a knife and fork, and worse, sometimes the patties are quite obviously store-bought or frozen, or are otherwise not made fresh. But I will admit that sometimes I'll come across a pub in the UK that hand-makes the patties and it's absolutely delicious. There is something so satisfying about a simple burger made right.
Fast food is also frozen and not fresh (Wendy’s exception applies).
yeah, there is this local 'premium' burger place that does the 'fancy' burgers, but they did them right and there was a good range, we used to go there a couple of times a month, but around 2021 they changed their menu putting this god awful honey bbq sauce on every burger and refuse not put it on. So we have not been there in a year and a half.
they also started doing the thing where they put everything they can find on a burger. coleslaw, sure, mac n cheese, sure. you can no longer get a reguler cheese burger there, the bare minimum is a 'cheese burger' with honey bbq sauce and coleslaw. thats not a cheese burger.
its a pitty, because they had some of the best burgers. seems people like them as they are opening a second store.
wish we had wendy's here, had it in NZ and they are a great 'fast food' burger.
I prefer to eat my burgers with a fork and knife anyway. I hate getting my fingers all greasy
I was thinking that this is such an American issue... I live in Latin America and I have NEVER had that size issue lol
@@rogerbayless or not even real meat 😭
I’m surprised no one is also talking about how the girl in story 3 called her sister at 5 in the morning to complain about her fight with her boyfriend. It couldn’t wait or be a text? She is living in her own world
I really thought RSlash was going to break into his Karen voice in that story
She has main character energy. Like it's her world and everyone else is just living in it.
My husband and I will share bites of each other's food when we go out. In literally 10 years of us being together there's only once we switched plates, but we both agreed on the fact that we liked what the other ordered more.
The story about the couple and food: in my opinion as someone that has food texture issues and orders my comfort foods; his order sounds like a comfort food. If so then he has been suffering because he liked her and was probably hoping she’d stop ordering stuff she doesn’t like. He wanted to be sweet to her and make her comfortable by taking his comfort away. She was taking his comfort food from him if I’m understanding then ques right
Again this is all if I am right about the small parts I probably read too deep into
The burger story boyfriend deserves a 0.5 for letting his anger build up to the point of yelling.
Story 2: Dear Satan, can you please, please, PLEASE create a specific layer of Hell for parents who treats their children like unpaid live-in slaves? NTA
It’s funny how the parents didn’t make the oldest do anything because “he’s finding himself!” Well they found him after OP escaped
@@lorilancaster5917 be like "oh look he's over there"
😆
I've never been so amused with a rant that I mostly agree with. I'm just picturing Dabney ordering a burger and sitting there skeptically to see whether it adheres to the proper ratios of sandwiches.
I'm totally with you, my man. I don't order burgers from restaurants anymore because, quite simply, I haven't bothered to learn how to unhinge my jaw to eat them.
I’m dying….😅😅 I love the ranting. I can see him getting upset and twisting in his chair.
@@CP-ho2wj
Oh, yes, there was definitely Agitated Chair Turning during that rant!
I went to an italian restaurant once but made the mistake of ordering a non Italian beefburger and chips. The burger in the buns was very fat and it looked and tasted exactly like the burgers I buy from Aldi. They are the highest quality that Aldi sells, just right for a restaurant. To be fair, the restaurant never claimed to make their own burgers. Buyer beware.
He cares so much about this and I love it! 🤣 I also agree with what he is saying. I do think the best burgers are homemade. Perfect ratio, perfect amount of time on the grill, perfect bread choice, perfect condiments, etc. *Chef's kiss* If you learn how to cook properly, nobody will ever be a better cook for you than you yourself.
His burger rant cracked me up because I’m the opposite.
I agree that restaurants should use something heartier as buns, like ciabatta or something, but I can’t stand how dry and bland fast food burgers are. I love Red Robin because it’s juicy, the veggies actually crunch, everything is fresh and has flavor.
McDonald’s burgers are colorful cardboard
I do get the rant against giant food! Seems to me that mostly so they can charge $20 for a burger.
I have a number of great (non-fast-food) burger places where I live. Sorry Dabney lives somewhere that fast food burgers are his best option...lol.
But the best burgers are the ones we make at home.
Red Robin and Five Guys are the best restaurants for burgers hands down
When I am traveling and want a burger I have found Denny's to be the place to go (unless I am near a Fuddruckers). But Red Robin isn't bad, assuming they are still as good as they were last time I had one (25ish years ago).
Yeah, where is he going that serves "Two-foot tall burgers"? When you go to an _actual_ restaurant, you get a real burger patty, unlike... whatever those things at McDonald's/BurgerKing/etcetera are. The biggest burger I've ever seen was _as_ tall as it was wide, Slashy's was just apparently born with an underdeveloped jaw and now he's exaggerating like it's going out of style.
That fucking rant about the burgers that RSlash went on about was the funniest thing I have heard in a while. I legit laughed out loud audibly for several minutes 🤣.
Story 3: She doesn't like exotic food. She likes pretending she likes exotic food, while actually eating cheese burgers.
First Story: If I leave my pet with someone, I'm checking in on them everyday day. What pet owner ghosts someone who has their pet and expects that to end well.
Story 3: The OP likes to tell herself that she has exciting and exotic taste, but really she should just stop pretending and order a damn burger. Also, the boyfriend could have said at any point before that he doesn't like switching food. If you're partner insists on something that you don't like, then tell them that you don't like it before you get to a boiling point.
With the last story, once OP's husband's sister canceled the wedding.... that means the (would of been) couple gets no wedding gifts. So OP had every right to cancel the gift, in my mind. And if OP's MIL feels that OP should of let the SIL still get the gift.... then the MIL should pay out the $700 for the gift for her own daughter.
Monster in law is a CB..
@@thetruth1223 the truth
@@NotAFanOfHandles let's just go with co CB..
With the food story, one of the worst parts is ordering kalamari and wanting to trade for the burger is that kalamari is usually way more expensive then burgers at restaurants, so she is wasting more money just to not want to eat it.
I kinda hate how she didn’t even take a bite
how much you want to bet that switching plates also includes "switching prices" in this case meaning, *he* gets to pay for the calamari he didn't even order
@@CRSB00 I feel like they probably just split the bill. Either way they both pay the same. Although the bf is kinda dumb thinking that it’s okay to just blow up without communicating that he didn’t like swapping foods in the past
@@webe3228 1. He had anxiety
2. He most likely expressed it before and op made it sound like he didn't
3. The relationship was clearly never good as in an update the boyfriend dumped her
@@1nn1tmate well I’m not making judgments on anything other than what I was given. And you’re gonna tell me he was anxious that she was gonna ask for his food? And he still didn’t express that? If he did express himself that’s an entirely different thing, but the story never says he expressed himself before, and even hints that he didn’t, so that’s what I’m going by.
Dabney, you blew my mind when you were dissing on non-fastfood restaurant burgers! I'm literally on the autism spectrum and I've never once considered sandwich ratios. You've given me a new and healthy obsession!
For those that don't know, calamari is a fried food made by slicing the body of a small species of squid into half inch wide rings that are then battered and fried like onion rings. For those that want to try, last time I went in person, they were offered as an appetizer at Olive Garden. Also, @rSlash, have you even heard of Red Robin? Their whiskey river is one of my favorite burgers to get and I almost always order one at every opportunity. Also, if you're in Yakima, Washington, make sure to hit up Miner's, as their burgers are big, but they're a good 8 inches wide and no taller that a big mac.
I live in Bonney Lake, my husband(this was 10 years ago tho before our marriage lol) was going to Yakima every weekend(or every other I think?) For military stuffs and now I wanna go on a trip with him to try miner's lol
@@samsam699 I'd often stop at Miner's every time I'd cross the state headed your way or coming back (born, raised, and still live in Tri-Cities). Just take a 50 mile detour to the south if a trip you have planned takes you through Ellensburg.
@@1Scimetar for sure! I've been born and raised on this side of the cascades but went to ewu for a year and 1 extra quarter lol 🙃 I think we're planning a trip to Omak in the spring so maybe we will even go that way lol
First Story, NTA: She abandon this dog and she had the audacity to get mad?! She and her husband blocked OP when she was trying to get in contact with them. They both agreed for 2 weeks , then ghosted for so many extra weeks?! OP needs to ditch this "friend". OP has more patience than me
Second Story, NTA: Seems like everyone in this house is trying to use OP as a maid. Obviously OP's parents are playing favorites; OP's brother is a grown man and can take care of himself. OP's parents are encouraging this man to be a freeloader. Lmaoooo, OP pulled the "We need some milk" card and left 😂😂😂😂. How is OP thoughtless when they are trying to exploit OP for free labor. Lmaoooo older brother is mad that he has to do something now?!
Third Story, YTA: So because OP makes poor choices in food her boyfriend had to suffer the consequences. Literally OP does treat him like a garbage can. Why the hell would he apologize when OP is the cause?? If OP keeps this up she will eventually lose her boyfriend. OP claims to like trying exotic foods but yet almost each time she swaps it out for her boyfriend's food
Fourth Story, NTA: Why get the wedding gift if the wedding is cancelled? I damn sure wouldn’t allow a $700 gift continue to get delivered after the bride and groom breaks up
Yeah I be mad too
@@rukiakuchiki6187the friend brought that to herself. She left the dog for 2 weeks and then the rest of the month. I would’ve done the same thing as OP
@@xKCAZxLEADER yes I do agree
She didn't try to abandon the dog. She did abandon it.
Love how to responded in real time with edits to the video. :)
Story 2 "going out for milk" nice. Just like a proper father
The proper sister in this story
Story 1: I have a theory, your friend wanted you to train their dog so when they pick them up after a month he'd be well behaved and you have to deal with your house now clean terrible. As a pet owner I can't imagine not being in contact with someone watching my pets for over a month.
I would call every evening to check on pup and thank friend
For real! I constantly call whoever is watching my pets to make sure they’re alright.
The burger story, is one of my red flags and biggest ""pep peeves" when it comes to dating. I simply can not trust someone that given all the options (menu) can not trust her own decisions and the audacity of wanting to take my food that I DID choose.
Fourth story : ???? NTA. The wedding is literally cancelled. She's not entitled to a wedding gift when there's no wedding.
I didn't wake up this morning and go, "man, i hope rslash goes on a massive rant about cheeseburger sizes" but wow i'm glad he did
Absolutely right, Dabney, on the monster burgers! It’s insane, and what you end up having to do is split it in two, with a bottom and top half, both of which aren’t what you wanted to taste. Cutting slices is possible, but super awkward.
with the cheeseburger story, it seems go me that the boyfriend has been holding in feelings about that for a while, and that particular day was just the last straw for him. It makes sense his speech would "sound rehearsed" - he'd probably been planning it for a while, but just didn't have the confidence to say anything until that point
In every non-fast food restaurant I’ve been to they’ve always burnt my patty AND they also burn my bun for no reason as well
Story 1: 0.5 holes for not going to a rescue group and seeing if they could help. They are more likely to take it in for free and will have better luck finding it a home.
Thank you for validating my opinion of "specialty or gourmet" burgers. I totally agree with you that the size and ratio of ingredients is very important in the enjoyment of a burger. If you can't take a normal bite out of a burger without smashing the thing down then it's a failed burger.
Rule of thumb when you're eating burgers at a restaurant :
The chief got black latex gloves and huge beard?
Get out, that's just stacks of fat with random flavors mashed together.
Rslashs burger rant was surprisingly only the 2nd best fast food rant I've heard on this channel
What was the best fast food rant? Lol
@@maieen2665 it was a post about some dude ranting about burritos
I've got brain damage reading this, but I'm so stupid that i don't even know if this makes sense to other people. 😭😭
The story about op's parents who can splash out cash to go to Las Vegas just to watch the NASCAR races is just so disrespectful because the parents would splash out cash for races but they can't buy their own daughter her own car and she has to share a car with her deadbeat older brother is just so stupid and disrespectful
I'm a pretty big burger person myself. I'm also a chef, so let me shine some insight.
The reason the burger is bigger is to upcharge and make more profit. Unseasoned ground beef isn't that expensive commercially. It's cheap for meat, so bigger portions and then inflate the price. Then upcharge for every add on. Most food items have a 33% margin for profit. The rest is to cover costs, facility, and staff.
To me, the best burgers I've ever gotten have been from five guys and steak n' shake. Both have great burgers and great fries. We don't have steak n' shake out my way, but when we travel I always have to stop at one. Proper proportions and good flavor. I don't care about the lettuce, tomato, or onion. I'm not paying 3$ for something several days old. I know. I sell the stardust and don't like it anyways. Give me the meat, cheese, and bun.
Totally valid hot take. Someone's finally speaking my language. A perfect ratio patty only comes from fast food these days, because their in a rush and don't have the time to make it fancy nor upcharge. They sell thousands, so lower margins. Cheaper product, less toppings, smaller burger. Yum.
Story 3: I will say the bf needs better communication as that was clearly a bursting bubble.
But Op clearly does the “order new things” as some narcissistic self indulgence to call themselves cultured.
With my partner once would be fine. But repeatedly. There’s an issue.
Plus OPs reaction to “no” says a lot.
The food story:
Why is hard for some people to ask "I would like to try this food. Is it ok if we share in both orders?" The thing here is she might find it "sweet" that her boyfriend is sacrificing himself for her.
I’m sure the boyfriend would find it “sweet” if the girlfriend would let him eat his delicious burger instead of bringing up the idea that they should swap meals….
Rslash I respect your dedication to the burger issue. I have found one decent black bean burger place in my entire state, and I will be loyal to that spot until I die
One thing you're overlooking in the burger story is that the boyfriend should've talked to hee first as opposed to bottling everything up and exploding.
Holy cow, rslash you are absolutely right about fast food burgers! I could never put my finger on why restaurant burgers always seem less tasty than fast food burgers, but you've solved it. It's the ratio- you're a genius!
Did you use the deadbeat dad line? I’m going out for milk.😂😂😂😂😂