At around 3 or 4 I started to realize my dad is treating me like the annoyance I obviously am. But as a responsible hard working man of principle he was always going to provide clothing, food and shelter which I took for granted. And mom was a great housekeeper and if you needed something to cry about she'd be more than happy to give to you in the form of "wait until father comes homes". I don't get too close to people and I'm sure that's fine with everybody.
Another fantastic video. I especially like your referencing in order to backup your arguments. This allows me to further follow up on what you are saying.
How to deal with high withdrawal personality? I've done a lot of withdrawing all my life. It doesnt help that I cant seem to find people that like me. I was told at work that "nobody likes me" but when I ask why, they never give any answers. I was willing to make any change they wanted me to, but they acted like it was inevitable and I couldnt do anything even if they told me why.
Where do you work? What I've found is that words like teamskill and stuff are at least partly a lie. There's teams where you fit in and teams where you don't. Maybe sometimes you are also in the wrong business, I am a programmer. I think there's three types of programmers: hackers (artsy), engineers (science) and business-oriented (greedy 😅). I'm in the first group, I can get along with engineers even though there's sometimes clashes, but I have always had problems with the MBAs. Still, I like my job. But I've had to do quite a few switches before I found something.
Being aware of your automatic response to withdraw is the first step. The only way to deal with it is to start making small steps that help you move forward, take action, approach rather than avoid others. The small steps build up. By doing this, you retrain yourself to respond with action and engagement rather than withdrawal.
You can heal! There's so much healing you can do, you just need to believe it. Don't give up. There's so much time left, every single day is another day to be a tiny bit more content within.
I’m 27 and it feels this way. That doesn’t make it true. That feeling of hopelessness is sadly just part of the condition, which makes it so much harder to climb out.
This describes me to a tee. I was neglected and subjected to a household where I saw and experienced conflict and violence, including animal abuse. I even once killed a rabbit with my bare hands as a mechanism that I didn't understand. Fast forward to my adulthood, I hated violence despite joining the military and being deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan. Mainting healthy relationships with women was tough because I didn't want to hurt them, but I didn't want to use them for sex, and I didn't feel worthy or capable of love. I even lived by myself for years. I excelled with education, joined the reserves, and had a great career, but people couldnt phathom why I was single. I ended up getting married and being an animal lover, but this describes me perfectly.
Thank you for your story, I have had similar experiences. I hope you can come to terms with things in proportion. I genuinely hope you have love and joy in your life. God bless you.
can i just make a suggestion. when u make these shorter snippet videos of ur longer completed video, could u add a link in the description to it? sumtimes i click on these wondering if its a brand new vid but realize its from ur previous video
Well, I already generalized that view of myself and others to Humankind. It creates a manifestation feed-back loop that makes me realize I dont want to be in this life, neither be human, or in this timeline for that matter. I cannot wait to die of age.
Well, sure AF checks out for me. My childhood was about as poor and dysfunctional as it gets. My parents were never really even together and didn't even live in the same state any point while I was growing up. Neither of them cared much about what I was doing unless they needed another drink poured or wanted to "borrow" the $20 that I had been carefully saving. Drunken fights, moving every year, never having enough money...really the only thing that I could count on was instability. I still managed to make my way into college and got the engineering degree I always wanted. I even graduated with honors. Unfortunately, the job I thought I had lined up at Honda fell through, and I was never able to get in anywhere. Now I'm living in a car more depressed than I ever could've imagined and don't interact with anyone for weeks or months at a time... basically just waiting for the end.
nobody at the VA has ever properly explained PTSD to me, now it makes sense why I feel like this all the time.
I really recommend the book The Body Keeps the Score 🙏🏻 It really helped me understand PTSD more deeply. Much love to you ♥️
At around 3 or 4 I started to realize my dad is treating me like the annoyance I obviously am. But as a responsible hard working man of principle he was always going to provide clothing, food and shelter which I took for granted. And mom was a great housekeeper and if you needed something to cry about she'd be more than happy to give to you in the form of "wait until father comes homes". I don't get too close to people and I'm sure that's fine with everybody.
I feel sad for you, to have suffered. I hope you find peace and joy in your life. God bless.
I just found your channel and I have to say, thank you and well done.
Another fantastic video. I especially like your referencing in order to backup your arguments. This allows me to further follow up on what you are saying.
Nothing will make you more depressed than having no purpose or direction in life.
How to deal with high withdrawal personality? I've done a lot of withdrawing all my life. It doesnt help that I cant seem to find people that like me. I was told at work that "nobody likes me" but when I ask why, they never give any answers. I was willing to make any change they wanted me to, but they acted like it was inevitable and I couldnt do anything even if they told me why.
Where do you work? What I've found is that words like teamskill and stuff are at least partly a lie. There's teams where you fit in and teams where you don't. Maybe sometimes you are also in the wrong business, I am a programmer. I think there's three types of programmers: hackers (artsy), engineers (science) and business-oriented (greedy 😅). I'm in the first group, I can get along with engineers even though there's sometimes clashes, but I have always had problems with the MBAs. Still, I like my job. But I've had to do quite a few switches before I found something.
Being aware of your automatic response to withdraw is the first step. The only way to deal with it is to start making small steps that help you move forward, take action, approach rather than avoid others. The small steps build up. By doing this, you retrain yourself to respond with action and engagement rather than withdrawal.
I imagine that there are a lot of children in Gaza and Lebanon who will grow up to be depressed adults. Worse for those with no living relatives.
Self-loathing, too... Children believing that if they're bombed, they must deserve it because they're bad...
I know my parents love me but I did feel "helpless" due to overbearing behavior. Maybe that explains it
I'm 68 - there's no healing of depression or trauma, or anything else at my age. Maybe in the next lifetime.
You’re not alone 💕
I'm 63 and I am healing
You can heal! There's so much healing you can do, you just need to believe it. Don't give up. There's so much time left, every single day is another day to be a tiny bit more content within.
I hope you find happiness my friend.
I’m 27 and it feels this way. That doesn’t make it true. That feeling of hopelessness is sadly just part of the condition, which makes it so much harder to climb out.
Finding someone else who wants to grow seems nearly impossible
This describes me to a tee. I was neglected and subjected to a household where I saw and experienced conflict and violence, including animal abuse. I even once killed a rabbit with my bare hands as a mechanism that I didn't understand. Fast forward to my adulthood, I hated violence despite joining the military and being deployed to Iraq and Afghanistan. Mainting healthy relationships with women was tough because I didn't want to hurt them, but I didn't want to use them for sex, and I didn't feel worthy or capable of love. I even lived by myself for years. I excelled with education, joined the reserves, and had a great career, but people couldnt phathom why I was single.
I ended up getting married and being an animal lover, but this describes me perfectly.
Thank you for your story, I have had similar experiences. I hope you can come to terms with things in proportion. I genuinely hope you have love and joy in your life. God bless you.
My parents were horrible, I had PTSD at age ten
Yes complex
I hope you find the healing you need. I know your pain well. God please bless this person.
can i just make a suggestion. when u make these shorter snippet videos of ur longer completed video, could u add a link in the description to it? sumtimes i click on these wondering if its a brand new vid but realize its from ur previous video
Thanks!
Well, I already generalized that view of myself and others to Humankind. It creates a manifestation feed-back loop that makes me realize I dont want to be in this life, neither be human, or in this timeline for that matter. I cannot wait to die of age.
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Well, sure AF checks out for me. My childhood was about as poor and dysfunctional as it gets. My parents were never really even together and didn't even live in the same state any point while I was growing up. Neither of them cared much about what I was doing unless they needed another drink poured or wanted to "borrow" the $20 that I had been carefully saving. Drunken fights, moving every year, never having enough money...really the only thing that I could count on was instability.
I still managed to make my way into college and got the engineering degree I always wanted. I even graduated with honors. Unfortunately, the job I thought I had lined up at Honda fell through, and I was never able to get in anywhere.
Now I'm living in a car more depressed than I ever could've imagined and don't interact with anyone for weeks or months at a time... basically just waiting for the end.
He believes.
I had a trauma after divorce. PDSD.
Why is everyone and everywhere talking about childhood? This is crazy.
I love doing nothing and being lazy
Is attachment theory unique to humans or does it apply to animals as well?
you treat depression as a psychological issue, I think for most cases thats not true.
@zelareka . Please say more ? Titillating. 🎉