I have a question, so me and my ex were together for 8 1/2 years. I recently cheated, and it’s been almost two months. Throughout this time. We were able to remain friends and even hung out on several occasions where we went out, he came over, but he he’s been hot and cold saying he sees us getting back together with time, then he says he doesn’t. He’s nice than mean sometimes, I get it. He’s hurt but I stayed through many of the challenges he put me through. He said he wanted to date and I know he is right now, a few days ago he texted me he missed me and goodnight, I replied the next morning, “ i miss you too good morning” then he went MIA again, I was doing the no contact when he reached out on day 3. Today at church he didn’t sit next to me, which he always had; then left before the service even ended like he didn’t even want to see me, but how can he miss me, and then not talk to me or ignore me, it’s so confusing, I’ve tried everything
Hey Craig I would like it if you could make a video on, is your ex really over you if he hasn’t rebounded right away but is starting to look at people a month 1/2 later. I was with my boyfriend for 4 months and we hit it off.When we came up to anniversaries he would always say it felt like we’ve been dating 6 months not 3.He left me because both of our lives were really complicated at the time which I don’t know was entirely true. He started a new job and had lost his grandpa, but I on the other hand was only moving on into my family’s new house nothing to big was happening in my life. Please help me understand what to do
Francis Cartagena a woman giving her body to another man is the most brutal thing you can do to hurt a guy. You’re honestly lucky he is giving you a chance at all. Be patient.
Francis Cartagena it’s going to take a long time to re-establish trust with him. You broke his heart when you cheated. Give it time and he will turn around if your relationship is meant to be.
What a wonderful Video Yes I can certainly relate too this persons fear and loss I can also relate too his success aswell I think he’s doing a bit better then me ATM. As I still havnt quiet let go of my Ex I’m getting there It’s taken me one yr 🤪 I’m so happy for this person Well done Thankyou so much Craig and Margaret Your blood needs bottling 👍🏻
You nailed it. My ex took 8 months before she decide to reach out and we are now back together. I have massively improved my life, including body, mind and lifestyle.
@@ett2 No, you don’t have a chance, it’s high time you should move on and show you’re ex that you can lead a happy and independent life. All the best. Take care. Bye.
Give it time...you win either way...you will either get back again or find someone new and love in such a way you are going to look back and wonder why you even bothered on feeling so destroyed.
And hopefully also be more resilient to these circumstances in the future due to the new understanding and tools that your personal growth work has produced.
@tom I don't know about you but i've never seen myself or another guy, where the girl breaks up with you and she comes back or makes contact. Women just don't do it if they were the dumper
@tom i don't chase. I did many years ago and learnt my lesson. Now i just walk. I'm just refuting what these coaches say. Yes i watch the Red Pill stuff too. I don't necessarily believe there's always another guy, some relationships just end badly but i do agree that even shortly after they'll be another guy
@@danielgallo4587 But girls DO come back to you. Out of all the girlfriends I've had, 4 of them came back. One even came back after 14 years. No joke. No lie. I wish she hadn't have come back. She was fat and was a liar and she was doing drugs. It didn't last long.
Success story! My wife left me 7 weeks ago and said we"d never get back together. I found Coach Craig and started watching his videos non stop and taking his advice. I made a few mistakes in no contact but stayed the course. She finally started making small talk a few days ago, we spent this weekend together, and about an hour ago she said she wants to work on our marriage! I NEVER thought we'd get here after the way things were going. Trust Coach Craig and Margaret and take their advice to heart. It works!!!!!
SFFM good luck to you, your story was inspiring, I'm at 1 month NC, well I broke once but I'm trying, I'm also wishing myself luck, it hurts and sad, but I'm hopeful.
Great success story! I can totally relate to his situation. My ex is dating someone else and hasn’t reached out in a while, but I’ve watched your videos and been going to the gym and lost 22 lbs! I’m feeling physically and mentally stronger than I ever have before. I finally have my confidence back! So even if I don’t get my ex back, I know I will be happy and make someone really happy one day! Thanks Coaches, you guys have truly changed my life!
It's been a year since my breakup and have taken this time to heal, learn about self love, concentrate on my career and start a new workout routine. I can now actually say that I believe the breakup was a blessing. I am ready to move onto the next chapter in my life!
I feel better now that I made a decision to not go back. I'm glad for my breakup and that I told him I didn't want communication. I am prepared to hear from him. But I am not holding my breath. I had a long relationship, too and complicated. I feel more like myself these days. I have grieved it all and am over it. I treat myself better. I deserve better. I owe it to Coach and Margaret. They taught me how to handle my anxiety and fear. I no longer put an expectation on anything. It gives me the freedom to live for right now. Not fretting over yesterday or tomorrow. I still have goals and dreams, I just dont freak out if it doesnt happen the way I planned it. Good luck to everyone! These coaches are for real!
Geez. It's been 4 months with no contact. I'm doing pretty good but I still keep thinking about her, wondering if she'll ever reach out. I'm continuing to work on improving myself. Sometimes I get depressed and lose my motivation. Then something kicks in. Maybe just going to this site and going over and over this stuff again, works. I'm keeping up the faith. Thanks guys.
@@UpUpDnDnLtRtLtRtBAStart No contact, still. It will be 9 months in about a week or so. It doesn't hurt as much but I still think about her. She let go of a good thing, me. :) She lives 30 mins away. I've driven by her place a few times. I have a new car with tinted windows all around so she'd never know it was me. Just twice. I've been meeting a lot of nice people so that's a plus and it helps out a lot. :) Thanks. :)
Joe B I think you should not wait for her to reach out. Even tho you are focusing on yourself You are still lingering for her to reach out. What would u feel if she has another man?
@@joeb5578 Your experience is my experience and that sounds like what happens in most cases,the dumper is probably gone for good. You gotta keep moving forward and be open to meeting new people.I believe ex's coming back is the exception and not the rule , begging and pleading are no goes and unfortunately watching break up videos doesn't advance your personal healing and at some point we have to let that go also.Good luck there's definitely something better out there.
My ex hasn’t reached out but I found out recently that she had very difficult time after the break up as well. Everything you guys say is true. The only thing that hasn’t happened is her reaching out. It’s been 6 months now since we broke up. I’m in a much better place now. I’m just trying to focus on myself, not thinking about my ex and see what happens. Thank you
You are right Coach Craig. My ex is now posting indications on social media of her rebound relationship breaking up. While I have been working on self improvement. And I am a much better man since the break up. Seeking professional counseling, working on my career in real estate investing, and earning my yellow belt in Tae Kwon Do last month. Also playing jazz guitar and learning trombone. She broke up with me after a five year relationship. The break up has been five moths. For a petty reason. Time time give it time....THANKS COACH!
4 months of NC, it gets easier. I still think about her often but I'm focused on improving myself. She won't come back but I won't make the same mistakes again with the next person.
@@lukass64She never came back, disappeared from all social media, I'm healthier, wealthier and less stressed, I'm also with someone new - so all I can say is stay strong and have faith. It will improve.
@@stefanviljoen2415 Thank you. This helps me and everyone else who reads your story. I appreciate it very much. I'm very happy to hear how well you are doing now.
Yeah, the woman went out with another guy. When it didn't work, she realized she threw away a good man. I would be done with her too! Good job to this guy for staying firm and not letting her have her cake and eat it too.
It’s been 2 weeks. I haven’t heard from him and I’m trying to stop thinking about him. So far, it’s been a struggle, he just pops into my mind from time time, but the more I think of what I really want in life, it somehow soothes the obssessive thinking.
Eggsthetic Guy thank you! I am allowing only the good stuff in my life! I am practicing more self-love, focusing my mind on what I really want, sort of living in the end (law of attraction speak) lol if this person is meant to come back, he will come back in his own volition, regardless of time and space. And when he comes back, he will find a completely different person. I love him from where I am now and I appreciate his existence. He will come to me on his own free will. thank you again for the encouragement!
Always lead your best life! I'm divorcing a narcissist after 31 years of marriage. My life began to change for the better the minute I signed the divorce papers. I'm not sure what the future holds but I know it will be better than what it would have been if I chose to stay in a toxic and unhealthy marriage. I just tell myself that things are always working out for me and it helps!!
I AM mmmm know the feeling, however my ex is now gunning for my career as well as trying to destroy me on a personal level. That is a person I wish when I met them I just kept walking
This is by FAR the BEST video....I am conflicted......i was so anxious in my relationship....my ex partner was not talking to me very well, communication fizzled out, he started pushing me away so far where he was not listening and I felt I had to "nag" to have basic relationship needs met. I decided to end things its ripped my heart out to do it and I'm grieving so badly but he was starting to show anger and resentment and I am not here to fix people
I love this video because I can really relate to this. It's been 8 months since I was broken up with my boyfriend and have been waiting for him to reach out. But I have been doing tremendous work on my personal growth, physically, emotionally, and intellectually. Now, I'm feeling a lot more confident with myself and feeling a lot happier now with my single life. If he reaches out for some reason, fine, but I think I don't want to get back to him anymore...thank you Coach Craig and Margaret.
Time, patience and all of that is fine and dandy but at some point you have to come to the realization that it may simply not be in the cards for you. I'm at 14 months NC/since the breakup. Not a single word. False hope can be dangerous. Be warned people. We're in our mid 20s and we were each others first in everything, lasted together for 2 years. So yeah, they don't always come back/reach out.
Thank you, thank you so much for your videos. You were 100 percent right. I got a phone call today after 3.5 months from her. 2 days after Christmas day. I didn't wish her happy Christmas as hard as that was. She basically said she missed me. ❤️. You are a very skilled relationship expert.
Wow. During the time this video was posted I was in the best relationship I could’ve possibly imagined. I lived in the clouds and saw my entire future with this girl and she felt the same, if not more. 2 years after this video was posted and she ended up breaking up with me just a day ago after 3 years together and now I’m in no contact and unexpectedly needing these videos right now. The pain is overwhelming but these videos help me to cope and motivate me to better myself and hold on to the hope that someday she will come back to me and we can resume the amazing fairy tale we were living in.
Same situation as you man, 3 years down the drain. She broke it off with me 4 months ago. I am slowly getting better, made lots of mistakes but now in one month no contact and I am excited to keep going to learn more about myself.
@@nhx180 it’s been just a bit more than a month and I’m genuinely feeling better. Still have bad days here and there and I haven’t given up hope that she’ll come back someday but for now I’m strictly trying to focus on myself and that keeps me motivated and positive.
@@LuisMartinez_1095 you and me are in the same boat. I haven't given up hope yet, although in a way I'm trying to. Because ultimately I know that's how I move on. It hurts, it's painful but we will get there man. I look forward to coming back to these comments in 3, or even 6 months time and know we have both probably grown so much
@@nhx180 well said. I hope I can learn to move on but in a weird way also don’t. I want her to return to me but I also don’t want to depend on that. I hope after some time we’ve both grown enough to finally find a sense of happiness within ourselves regardless wether they come back or not.
@@LuisMartinez_1095 you couldn't have said that any better. It's crazy to think that I am not alone, not that I wish this on anyone else. But just know somewhere in the world I am fighting the same battle as you, you aren't alone.
Wow this is so encouraging 🥰 The peace you feel is so, so, so priceless. Yes, there are bound to be bad days, and sometimes it’s difficult to move on, but keep moving forward. And yes, it is THEIR time to feel anxiety! I relate to him so much. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Been healing without watching videos but I saw this notification and I just had to check back. It's interesting how you go from watching this nonstop to living without it to coming back to it :) Even I'm glad for my breakup and I've changed my entire life around as a 19 year old I feel truly enlightened!
I’ve had an ex come back almost always but only once they’ve had time without me in their life. Sometimes months, or years but they will rethink you as an addition to their life.
This is me: once I go no contact, I really don't count the days anymore. If I don't want to hear from a man, he has lost me for ever. There's a disgust that settles in, where I'm happier without them. I Loved my previous person more than anyone, but he shattered my trust so much I still want to throw up when I think of him. But my main feeling is indifference now and that took me 8 months.
Cant let emotions and thoughts get the better of you. In any case that happens, “shhhh” your mind is always loud and thoughts tend to cloud your mind. -Chris Evans. Work on yourself make yourself a better person. Give yourself a punch in the face if you start to feel depressed, whatever you do dont give up, accept that its over and make yourself a better. Confuse them with your absence, and shock them with your results
I think I could give it a 1000 years and I’ll still not hear from my ex, which breaks my heart but I’ll just carry on growing. It’s been 2.5 years since we broke up and she’s now dating a new guy. I’ve tried so hard to forget about her but I still think of her a lot.
The weirdest thing is my ex text me while I was watching this video after 4 months of NC. Now huge disclaimer this does not mean anyone’s getting back together, I know folks search for hope in the comments but really weird how that happened.
pushing through no contact when you have the feeling your ex found someone new is the worst feeling, I hope it’s all worth it in the end bc this is tough.
These videos are saving my life.my husband of 22 yrs walked out on me 3 times in the last few months this is both our second marriage.he went through a tragic loss of his mother last year and has not been the same since.he says he no longer wants to be married or beca father he just wants to be alone..he came back the first 2 times but things didn't change .he left me again last Saturday while I was at work..I'm crushed but I have been staying on the no contact with him as hard as it is to do .he came over yesterday because he thought I was at work and wanted to make sure the dog was ok. He left again and before he walked out he said I won't be hearing from him again..I'm lost ,I'm empty .we have a son together who lives at home with me. I love him so much and I just don't understand why he left
Shawna T Me too I have an ex when I was 15 and she was 13 Now I’m 42 and she cried saying I was her first love. Kind of nice at least she cried for me and yet my ex doesn’t even move a rock and I move mountains to be with her and we have a baby that I never met. Today he is 5 months I moved back to Canada after she kept discarding me and leaving me alone in a huge house I have in Ecuador And nothing I do she ever opens up to me. She doesn’t say sorry, she never admits anything except that she does admit she never valued me. She promised to not argue and she kept pushing me away more and more. I’m at the point where I think she is a clinical narcissist. She was abandoned by her parents from 3 years old till about 15. She shows all the signs every single one. We are in no contact since like February It’s like our 3 no contact in a one year span I’m using this no contact to move on and forget her She also claims she doesn’t need me to raise the child And I’m so hurt by all her devaluation that I’m at the point where I have no choice but just leave both of their lives And I’m the type of guy that HATES men that abandon their children. I hate that a lot And I find myself doing the same thing out of so much pain But I’m much better now And she still doesn’t reach out
ClaudiaClaudia oi I did laugh haha I was like you’re going to regret that I’m the morning ;.he was drunk I’m sure... and my ex (the good one) reached out to me tonight :) I’m so loved hahah jk
I just. came upon this video two years after it was posted but at the perfect time for me. I am recently out of a 30+-year relationship after my ex left me for someone else. I am using the time to work on myself and Margaret you are right… it’s never too late to start over!
It was good to hear this today I have to keep from getting hung up on the length of time it’s been 5.5 months since my ex broke up with me but I see people reconcile long after this time period. I will keep working on myself and be the best I can be regardless.
I am really longing to have that independence and growth for myself. I want to be able to say I can be alone and be happy and find that inner peace and inner happiness. I want to be grateful it happened. So reassuring to hear these stories. Thanks for everything!
Same here. I've been so codependent and caught myself begging and pleading. That shows desperation and lack of respect and dignity for yourself. I too will be so relieved and thankful for the moment in my life where I can say im truly happy with myself and myself alone and discover that inner peace. I've always been in relationship after relationship so its definitely hard but there's work to be done. We will get through and be grateful we did.
Thank you for all your videos. You're both awesome. You both give so much info without charging, God bless you for helping so many people that feel broken. I fall asleep listening to you both. It helps so much. You both really know what you're talking about. ♥️
I love you guys I really appreciate you’re videos because I’m learning to let her go & walk away. & I felt like she was already my wife & it felt like she was my home. But I’m feeling a lot better because all these videos have been giving me peace & help me collect myself & learn where I went wrong. & giving space my ex texted me today still trying to hurt me because I think she’s still hurt. But I do love & adore her & space has really helped me realize of those feelings again.
She lives an hour away. Not driving past her work or home. Stopped checking her IG after a few weeks. It did look like she had been back with someone whom she was once with. Almost six months now.
As I was watching this video, my ex texted me. I'm in the no contact zone and it was a picture she found of me when I was a kid. It's small but I'll take it. I'm going to continue to work on me and let her reach out to me. Love and peace to you all!❤🙏
Your so theraputical. It's greatly appreciated. I wish I found you sooner. I feel like before you I listened to so many toxic coachs or just not my kind of character. You put so much logic knowledge and sympathy behind your work. Its appreciated beyond words. You have a great team nd weather or not I get or want my ex back. I know for certain I am and will be a even better person studying your work. Thank you guys so much.
Hi Coach Craig & Coach Margaret. Thank you for all your advices. I've learned a lot. I followed all your advices, and he contacted me again but the thing is I don't want him back anymore. I'm pretty good! Still watching your videos 😘
This is the video i love the most because the ex came back and the dumpee went such a way and he didn’t want to get back together with the ex. It is so inspiring and encouraging. Everyone in breakup pain feels that the ex was the one, was the greatest, was the most wonderful, funniest, smartest, was as scarce as hen's teeth. It makes feel good to hear that time changes everything…
Good morning to Margaret and Craig. I just love this video as all of the others as well. It makes me even work harder then before. I am learning from this highway in life this ex was toxic to me. My only regret is that I did not know this some decades ago. What a waste thinking about a person loving that person that was no good for me. I will never put myself second again in any relationship ever. God bless you both!
Time will pass. Work on yourself. Sometimes- they do not come back. Grow and keep moving forward. Trust in the process and be open to new experiences. You absolutely may hear from them again at some point-but that doesn’t mean they are coming back to you.
@@gwynbleiddroach2589 shit test to see if youre still on the hook cos things are looking grim with the guy she cheated with... do not rise to it and see it for what it is
Killed it on this video coaches, been helping out a a buddy of mine going through a break up , and this video came at the right time for him you don't even know!!
Well yes, thats true, time has also shown me something. She broke up with me cause I wasn't showing enough love and was neglecting her. Well first I was like oh damn, she is right (which well she indeed is in certain parts) but! I had my problems at that time and was focused on fixing them. I also must say, that I have learned and realized a lot now, thanks to you. She has a really strong anxious attachment style and issues with anger. The worst about this all is, looking back I really was not that bad and that cold, I did so many things for her, I was caring, I was loving! No idea if she will ever get to the point of understanding that, but I did a lot! I even neglected my friends and sometimes my work, to have time with her! I truly hope it reaches her some day! Me, the way I am, will forgive her and let her back in my life, because I know, that I can help her getting over her traumas and love her in the way she needs. I am conscious that it will take a lot of my energy, but she is worth it. She herself said it was really intense and yes, our love really was something I have not experienced before, we will see where it goes... but right now I really am hurt, she seems to jump in a rebound soon, obviously cause of her anxiety problems.
Sounds like my story, me being the girlfriend! I broke up with him because I was scared he doesnt have any feelings for me, he was also going through something then. We broke up in anger, with him saying that Im not important to him, so maybe I was right to walk away. Now that time has passed (1 week) I am not angry anymore and see it in a different light, and can definetly see where I went wrong, but sometimes the regret consumes me and I think I was to fault, forgetting that it was probably right to walk away. I doubt he will ever reach out to me, I really think he was acting this way so I break up with him and he doesnt care about me at all.
@@ronmexico8383 my update is, that the breakup changed me as a person. Made me learn how to control my emotions, I can happily say that I did focus on personal growth and that my next relationship will be even more fantastic. But I am not forcing anything, my life is the nr. 1 priority, I will need to find a woman that fits in it. Never forget who you are and what you stand for, you have one life, dont throw your time away, stay focused and things will come naturally.
@@Innerstanding_mind Not chasing or not being desperate, hes got plenty of space. Like you said, this break up changed me and this is the first time where I actually decided to really work on myself, self reflect and heal after a break up. Also not forcing anything, just letting it come naturally.. Whatever will happen will happen! Glad you were also able to focus on personal development and are looking forwards to your future! And thanks for responding, honestly I just blankly wrote that comment expecting it to get lost in the youtube void!
@@malyasiolek welcome, yea I have been through it all myself, it hurts. Took me over 6 months to set myself free from the attachment. I have always been that anxious attachment style dude. Glad I made this huge jump in emotional maturity
Coach Craig and Margaret. You are amazing. I can watch your videos all the day. My ex has broken with me after 10 years and after few days went to live with a woman that he always said ..she is just a family friend. .Almost 10 months have passed and I'm still totally broken. He wanted us to be friends, but I decided to go no contact with him. It has been one month of no contact as I didn't answer last time.Its so difficult for me as I used to speak with him 3 times a day. I hope I can go on with it ...and maybe smile one day...Thank you again
My ex broke up with me 15 months ago after 18 years. We have had minimum contact since and none at all for six months, (he has been in another relationship for a while with a work colleague) It's still as almost unbearable as day one. Was wondering what your situation now is?
I'm trying to see the positivity in this process... But it's hard. As if I'm going back and forth. 3 years long distance takes a special group of people to want to be in such a relationship. A real bond and connection that go beyond logical reasoning. But obstacles came and knocked us down with his triggering depression from recent events. It has been four months + since no contact. I am more secure with my anxiety where I can control myself to behave the right way but everyday is a blur like a nightmare. I want him than I need him. He's everything and I'm losing hope. Again.
Wow...my ex left me after 10 years also! He doesn’t want to talk to me as he says he needs space and that it will sway his decision making. I’ve made mistakes when he decided to reach out to me by crying and asking him to please not push me away but he has no desire to talk to me. It’s amazing how he doesn’t care how i am, what I’m doing, if anyone has approached me since he left. But I’m trying to not focus on that although it’s very hard. I haven’t reached out to him and am trying to stay strong and believe in the processes of time healing wounds. I wish that he could feel the pain and loss I feel.
😂maybe I'm being irrational ,I'm willing to give it two years / three , what if my feelings have died but I still haven't gotten closure . I don't wanna be accused of being unfaithful
I love coach Margaret!! Thank you both for your compassion for many of us going through a hard time in life. What if i think i was the rebound?!?! 8 months of deep conversations, vulnerability, commitments, future planning, and absolute bliss, only to wake up one day for her to tell me she's confused and has things from her past to deal with and may go back to her ex. Then she cut off all communication. Ugh. After a week or so of being VERY down, i actually felt like i was in shock, i listened to all your podcasts among a lot of other things and took it upon myself to really look at my anxious attachment style and spend a lot of time completely alone, which i'd never really been before. I saw how i've projected my needs on others, which is why when i lose them it hurts so much, so i'm taking it upon myself to be responsible for my needs and fulfill them myself and not need someone else to fill my voids. I'm still hurting because we really were amazing together, but i'm proud of who i was in that relationship and i know that she has her stuff to deal with and it wasn't about me. I hope to be much stronger and less needy in future relationships because of it. :)
I love your videos! It’s been almost 3 months since my breakup and I’m the one who broke it off , it was a rash and abrupt decision and I regret it. I made a lot of mistakes since this is my first break up and I was with him for 6 years. I’m letting go and giving it time. Really difficult but I’ve been focused on myself and I’ve been feeling a lot better.
Keeper of Knowledge soooo lol I tried to get him back like 5 days after the breakup. I begged and pleaded. This is BEFORE I started to watch these videos. I broke up with him in a depression phase. The last time I talked to him which was like 3 weeks ago he told me he’s hurting too but he’s trying to move on and live his life. Haven’t talked to him since. Well, I had to talk to him about the WiFi the other day but it’s cancelled and I no longer have to deal with him about that and I didn’t respond to him I just wanted the convo to be over. He’s been really angry and hurt and has treated me pretty bad during this whole process. I understand it but also I don’t. There’s so much to it that’s it’s over whelming but I’m trying to tell myself that it’s not in my control and I have to let him go.
Mauser 96 I’ve tried to reach out on my part and the responses weren’t always bad. He’s going through a lot of hurt as am I. I can’t be the one to reach out anymore. He’s really made this breakup messy by being really immature and sharing our business with mutual friends. Therefore, I’m letting it go completely. If he wants to talk eventually , he will. If not, then oh well.
Honestly, I did so many things wrong that I apparently wasn't supposed to do to stay on track with the program...oops! But I did pay attention, and had gotten a few things in line with myself yay... So, the girl that my boyfriend left me for is no longer in the picture at all.. He completely dumped her cold to come back to me, and truthfully I've never seen someone so in love ' as he truly seems to be with me!!! It's freakng shocking, and it's soo beautiful no doubt. I'm in aww I'm so in love! 💞 He has never ever ever treated me better than he has for awhile now... Wowwwerz! Thank you so much for your advice in your videos. Or I'm just one Lucky son of a bit** ha 😊 ThaNk yOu!!!!!
I am changed a lot since 2 guys gave me Time and Space. I thought one guy was showing signs of coming back but was acting hot and cold and advoidant attachment style. Now I here he is in a relationship or a rebound relationship. I haven't seen or heard from him since August of 2019.
14 years of marriage down the drain. Now she's seeing someone else. I made all the mistakes and nothing worked. Going no contact now, except contact that is truly for our children's sake.
What a great success story!! That's what I hope happens to me, that i move on, because right now, its been really hard and I want relief. Then, I will depend on time, becasue I'm in the "no contact" mode and intend to stay there.
I am 60 years old and time is really short. My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for a year. We text sometimes and are friends on Facebook. The first time I ever posted another guy with me on Facebook which was new year's. He asked me to lunch, acted very jealous about the guy. Said a prayer before we are lunch thanking God I came back to him. I said nothing about the prayer but he did kiss me bye. The weekend came and no contact from him. I will not reach out he has to win me back. How long for the next date?
@@Spookyaki1 not all men! My wife left me after 17 years together and I'm not sleeping around!! I'm completely heartbroken that she's in a rebound relationship and wish she would come back to me and we can become a family again!!
Thank you for all your informative videos. I’ve learned a lot from your videos and has given me a new perspective on my life and has giving me clarity and direction. I’ve been following your no contact approach and now she’s been texting me. I’ve been going to the gym and doing things that I enjoy 😊. Thank you.
I'm so impatient!! Probably a reason why she wanted to break up with me 😔 But! Now I am showing her how patient I can be by committing to NC. I hope I can bring back a happy update
Yes. 2 weeks into NC she messaged me "hey." I replied with the same and we ended up doing a "check in." Kept it cordial and made her laugh. I did ask "what made her decide to message me" (idk if that was a good or bad thing) but like I said she was just "checking in" I said a thank you and she finished with a "yeah". So I left it at that and going back to no contact. I dont want to pressure her but I also don't want to seem like I'm desperately waiting around for her either. I truly don't need her but I certainly do want her. Maybe we both just need a little more time is where I am at now. Thanks for being interested in my breakup, haha, I'll keep updating if I remember to
I have watched a ton of relationship videos following my heartbroken divorce in Sep 2018. Affairs happened and he quit on our marriage for his much younger co worker affair. Well of course that relationship is already over. Me and my 4 kids have a lot of heeling to do since I had been w their daddy for 19 yrs.i have taken this time to start my second college degree, I’ve lost 80 lbs:) I’ve continued with my counseling. As of he and I we are talking, sharing our love but haven’t got back together just yet:) any advice
Eight days ago my boyfriend broke things off with me, giving me no reason or explanation. We only dated for eight months and talked or saw each other almost daily. I am feeling very lost and an emotional wreck. In order to keep my chin up and not bawling my head off every minute of every day I stay focused by listening to your videos. I can definitely say I feel I have better control emotionally when listening to the great advise you offer. I want and plan on growing as a individual that will be fine what ever the out come of this chapter brings. Thank you again Margaret and Craig. 👍
I have a very big change in my attitude over the last day and a half. I’m not so sure I want him back any more. The night he broke up with me, I asked if there was someone he was seeing and he said NO, but that there was a lady that was interested in him. He said that when he and I went into our relationship that we knew it was a temporary THING! Whatever, I’m not one to invest time for a “temporary thing”! I’m 58 yrs old and if you don’t want something permanent then forget it. Meantime I’m waiting to hear from him when he realizes what we had. If I get the chance to talk to him I’m going to let him know I’m not interested. Had my heart broke once by him, why would I set myself up for the disappointment again. Meantime, I went home a couple of weekends again and happen to run into a boyfriend from when I was in my early 20’s. That was 37 years ago and we both still have that spark for each other. Going home again this weekend and hoping to see him again. He will always be a life long friend if anything else doesn’t come about.
Hope is a dangerous thing. I gave her time. Two years of taking your advice. She used that time to get back with her ex-husband and now they are married again.
I'm very happy from everything I've learned from these channels even though I don't want to get back w/ my ex. I found out she has way too many problems, I was probably a rebound and later I found out she got married more than likely just to get married just so she doesn't have to go through the stress and sadness of going in and out of relationships. I'd like to talk to her again as a friend yet im going to wait until she comes around.
Yesterday i saw the movie Pride and Prejudice. What a movie, yes time is everything. Watch that movie ❤ when you are in love and hope you come back 2gether😊 Love your video's so much!
Thanks for all the knowledge you share. Now I feel I understand my self. I have 8 months watching the videos. It takes me more time understanding cause I do not speak English very much .
We were together 3 years, and suddenly she broke up with me. Due to some personal stuff that she said made it hard to continue together. and she said she still loved me and was sorry but that she thought it was for the best. I begged,we talked for a bit. last sunday she asked me to stop being flirty in comments and conversations. I just began duing NC, but I kinda feel like she doesn't love me or care as she says she does.
Not that I care if she came back or not anymore, we were together 3 years. Just curious, she met the guy second week we broke up, and then left the rebound. She dated a second guy, and guess what? she broke up with the second guy and went back to the first guy. Thank you for all the video you made, but I don't see anything explaining her weird behavior. Thank you for all the videos that helps me moving on.
Listen to this man he is a legend, my ex reached out today told me she is not ready to talk to me yet but promises me she reach out soon when she gets more time. While I wait I’ll focus on bettering myself couldn’t have done it without watching these videos
Joey Kwan not good at the moment I made a wrong move to be told too much has happened and she is learning to be happy on her own with the usual I’m still hurt and I have made my decision and caring things in the middle of texts so not sure if mixed signals or guilt, so haven’t giving up all hope, 3 weeks ago I was told I would have married you in the morning but not changing my mind go figure
It's been 4 1/2 months since my wife left me, she has been dating this guy for last 3 months...i've worked on myself. I've watched every video on here...but still nothing!! She's even introducing my 2 kids (haven't been able to do NC because of the children) to him soon (worst feeling EVER!). I've pretty much lost all hope + I'm still completely heartbroken as I was on day 1 of the split!! I still love her so much but 17 years together seems absolutely nothing to her! 😭
@Mauser 96 that's the mother of my children you are talking about and unless this has happened to you (I pray it hasn't!) then please don't call her that!
So sorry for you... Same things here, same feelings. 15 years together, a good life, 2 young kids, no problems. And, 5 months ago, she decided to leave me for a guy 20 years older that she just met. 2 weeks after leaving the house, they were already set up together, meeting each other kids and families, living like an old couple... 3 months after the breakup, I even saw them together, hands in hands, at a party : the school party of my children... I'm with you. I understand what you're going throught. Hang up. Try to focus on you and on your kids. Take care.
I watch this video over and over again ... it helps so much .... i wish i could buy the workbooks but i can only pay via PayPal . Pls add this payment option coach !
Hi guys and girls... I am used to being ignored when I comment on topics. English is not my native lng so I apologize for mistakes. I have watched many of Craig's videos and I have been through shit because of my breakup. I even went for a holiday by myself and I felt so lonely in the hotel and depressed that after I came back it was even worst. My life is quiet tough. I go to dialysis and I live with my parents. But I study IT at uni and going to get a good job in this industry, for sure. The reason why I comment on this video is... that... I really can not take this situation anymore. I was on the bottom already, after my lonelly holiday. And I have to say, I can not think about my ex anymore. I am giving up on her! This video says... time time time... give it time... But I have spent already three months waiting for my ex to reach out but nothing happened. Only I was stressing myself all the time... thinking about her. I can't do this anymore. I can not wait for my ex and at the same time trying to move on, it does not make sense... I just need to accept the fact that she is not comming back. That's all... I mean... really not comming back!!! Not like, hoping maybe she comes back one day. NO!!! She has not comming back anymore. There is no hope... the hope can only stress me out. I am throwing away the hope and really moving on. It is the only chance for me to live my life a nice way again... Bye bye my ex!!! Have a happy life!!! I loved you, but you broke my heart and now I do not want to suffer anymore because of you!!!
I feel you buddy! My ex won t come back either...he s been sleeping around non stop since he broke up with me...i study hard to get in the IT industry also and i m doing my best to move on and also been in no contact with him since the moment he broke it off...keep up the good work and live your life. We will forget about them in some time
@@AncaB18 Thank You for your comment. It is nice. Keep on study! But choose what you love, not like but love... you really have to love what you do. I am trying to move towards IT but also I love photography so I try to combine these things. And well, guess what, my ex made contact :D She wants to inteview me for her kind of an online show. She did the same show last year, I attended, so this year I also accepted the invitation when she asked me. I am one of 100 people she is going to be interviewing. Well, I am really nervous about it. And I also know that I do not want to go through the stress again. Even though I am in stress all the time. :) But still, it is going to be weird to talk to her after 5 months.
@@sakmario2 I do love working in IT...working hard to become a great front end developer :D and thank you for advice... i m very happy for you honestly..make sure you look at your best and now that you are a NEW YOU i'm sure she will have a hard time not focusing on you..be confident because i'm sure you grew a lot since she saw you...the fact that she reached out gives me a little hope :) maybe one day my ex will come around also
@@AncaB18 Thank You for the kind message. Wish you good luck with, at first, with your work then with your ex. For me, it really took time to heal from the breakup. Even though it has been 5 months already, I still dream sometimes about my ex. Once a fortnight in average. Dreamt about her the other day. Sometimes I really want to take a bit from the possitive days, save it, and use it in the negative days :) And when you say, it is NEW ME... I really do not feel like I have grown. I have just overcomed the stress and pain from the breakup. My ex might still see the old me in her eyes. But the good thing it that now I do not care if she feels that I have not changed :)
@@sakmario2 the fact that you overcomed your stress and pain does make you a new grown person trust me. Funny, i dreamed about my ex a day ago, messed me up a little more than i tought, made me miss him even more (it s been only a month since he left me)...hope the pain goes away soon. I hope for you that you will find someone who is right for you and that special someone will make you forget about the bad times..good people deserve good people :)
Hi! Just started watching your videos, and I love them! I know your very busy and can't really talk about any personal problems without a coaching session, but i hope you could talk about what to do when your partner (pretty much out of the blue) breaks up with you and says that you've done nothing wrong, but that they just don't love you anymore? (sorry for any mistakes, english isn't my first language)
@@adamalpha9150 But what should I do if I want them back? Is no contact the way to go? I don't know what to change or develop about myself, as he said I've done nothing wrong and that there's nothing wrong about me..
Love your channel and advice Would love some insight but just cant afford your coaching sessions Im super committed to no contact, but in my situation I happen to run into them every few days because we work in the same building. Do I ignore them? avoid them? Say hi and keep walking? Also how does this impact their grieving process? Thank you
Like you said in a previous video, time seems like an eternity during a breakup when you’ve been with the person for so many years. For me, it’s only been three weeks, but it seems longer than that
Got a bunch of great success stories coming up. I would love for you ALL to have a success story. STAY MOTIVATED!
I have a question, so me and my ex were together for 8 1/2 years. I recently cheated, and it’s been almost two months. Throughout this time. We were able to remain friends and even hung out on several occasions where we went out, he came over, but he he’s been hot and cold saying he sees us getting back together with time, then he says he doesn’t. He’s nice than mean sometimes, I get it. He’s hurt but I stayed through many of the challenges he put me through. He said he wanted to date and I know he is right now, a few days ago he texted me he missed me and goodnight, I replied the next morning, “ i miss you too good morning” then he went MIA again, I was doing the no contact when he reached out on day 3. Today at church he didn’t sit next to me, which he always had; then left before the service even ended like he didn’t even want to see me, but how can he miss me, and then not talk to me or ignore me, it’s so confusing, I’ve tried everything
Hey Craig I would like it if you could make a video on, is your ex really over you if he hasn’t rebounded right away but is starting to look at people a month 1/2 later. I was with my boyfriend for 4 months and we hit it off.When we came up to anniversaries he would always say it felt like we’ve been dating 6 months not 3.He left me because both of our lives were really complicated at the time which I don’t know was entirely true. He started a new job and had lost his grandpa, but I on the other hand was only moving on into my family’s new house nothing to big was happening in my life. Please help me understand what to do
Francis Cartagena a woman giving her body to another man is the most brutal thing you can do to hurt a guy. You’re honestly lucky he is giving you a chance at all. Be patient.
Francis Cartagena it’s going to take a long time to re-establish trust with him. You broke his heart when you cheated. Give it time and he will turn around if your relationship is meant to be.
What a wonderful Video
Yes I can certainly relate too this persons fear and loss
I can also relate too his success aswell
I think he’s doing a bit better then me ATM.
As I still havnt quiet let go of my Ex
I’m getting there
It’s taken me one yr 🤪
I’m so happy for this person
Well done
Thankyou so much Craig and Margaret
Your blood needs bottling 👍🏻
You nailed it. My ex took 8 months before she decide to reach out and we are now back together. I have massively improved my life, including body, mind and lifestyle.
8 months!? My ex broke up with me 4 months ago but we are 7 weeks NC. She didn't wish me happy birthday this week... Thoughts?
Malik Best Miller stay in no contact
Oh don't you worry bro. You think I still have a chance?
@@ett2 No, you don’t have a chance, it’s high time you should move on and show you’re ex that you can lead a happy and independent life.
All the best. Take care. Bye.
@@tejaswinishankar1820 don't talk bullshit. He has a chance. But yes, he needs to improve his life & move on. If it's meant to be, she will come back.
I’m 71 1/2 and still changing AND growing every day!
Amen
How are you now?
i thought at 30 i was too late.
This comment makes me happy 🤗
@@sydneyc3259I’m sure he’s still changing and growing 🙏 and has no time for social media 😅
Give it time...you win either way...you will either get back again or find someone new and love in such a way you are going to look back and wonder why you even bothered on feeling so destroyed.
yesssss
And hopefully also be more resilient to these circumstances in the future due to the new understanding and tools that your personal growth work has produced.
@tom I don't know about you but i've never seen myself or another guy, where the girl breaks up with you and she comes back or makes contact. Women just don't do it if they were the dumper
@tom i don't chase. I did many years ago and learnt my lesson. Now i just walk. I'm just refuting what these coaches say. Yes i watch the Red Pill stuff too.
I don't necessarily believe there's always another guy, some relationships just end badly but i do agree that even shortly after they'll be another guy
@@danielgallo4587 But girls DO come back to you. Out of all the girlfriends I've had, 4 of them came back. One even came back after 14 years. No joke. No lie. I wish she hadn't have come back. She was fat and was a liar and she was doing drugs. It didn't last long.
I have learned over many disappointments that time is the god of all things.
Well put.
But it's the time in between the time that hurts so fucking bad
@@brittanydaniels7189 excruciating
Success story! My wife left me 7 weeks ago and said we"d never get back together. I found Coach Craig and started watching his videos non stop and taking his advice. I made a few mistakes in no contact but stayed the course. She finally started making small talk a few days ago, we spent this weekend together, and about an hour ago she said she wants to work on our marriage! I NEVER thought we'd get here after the way things were going. Trust Coach Craig and Margaret and take their advice to heart. It works!!!!!
So, basically the person she was interested in wasn't available or didn't care for her after all. Wake up dude.
@@tomobedlam9045 sounds like someone's relationship didn't work out
@@Nomad-yn7pv Yours won't. Give it time.
@@tomobedlam9045 I feel sorry for you. Hope things better for you.
SFFM good luck to you, your story was inspiring, I'm at 1 month NC, well I broke once but I'm trying, I'm also wishing myself luck, it hurts and sad, but I'm hopeful.
I love the way you give hope when people are in pain
Great success story! I can totally relate to his situation. My ex is dating someone else and hasn’t reached out in a while, but I’ve watched your videos and been going to the gym and lost 22 lbs! I’m feeling physically and mentally stronger than I ever have before. I finally have my confidence back! So even if I don’t get my ex back, I know I will be happy and make someone really happy one day! Thanks Coaches, you guys have truly changed my life!
Congrats to you! Keep it up!
how'd it go?
Update
Update
Updates?
It's been a year since my breakup and have taken this time to heal, learn about self love, concentrate on my career and start a new workout routine. I can now actually say that I believe the breakup was a blessing. I am ready to move onto the next chapter in my life!
I'm happy for you cause you are healed. I hope one day i will be too
Full respect to you Shine On ✨️ 🥰
everytime i watched these two coaches, i feel like a child who's about to cry while talking to a parents.
Same, Pinoy ka? Mga gago talaga yang mga ex na yan
@@ninetail3dfox lol
I feel better now that I made a decision to not go back. I'm glad for my breakup and that I told him I didn't want communication. I am prepared to hear from him. But I am not holding my breath. I had a long relationship, too and complicated. I feel more like myself these days. I have grieved it all and am over it. I treat myself better. I deserve better. I owe it to Coach and Margaret. They taught me how to handle my anxiety and fear. I no longer put an expectation on anything. It gives me the freedom to live for right now. Not fretting over yesterday or tomorrow. I still have goals and dreams, I just dont freak out if it doesnt happen the way I planned it. Good luck to everyone! These coaches are for real!
Geez. It's been 4 months with no contact. I'm doing pretty good but I still keep thinking about her, wondering if she'll ever reach out. I'm continuing to work on improving myself. Sometimes I get depressed and lose my motivation. Then something kicks in. Maybe just going to this site and going over and over this stuff again, works. I'm keeping up the faith. Thanks guys.
any update??
@@UpUpDnDnLtRtLtRtBAStart No contact, still. It will be 9 months in about a week or so. It doesn't hurt as much but I still think about her. She let go of a good thing, me. :) She lives 30 mins away. I've driven by her place a few times. I have a new car with tinted windows all around so she'd never know it was me. Just twice. I've been meeting a lot of nice people so that's a plus and it helps out a lot. :) Thanks. :)
Joe B I think you should not wait for her to reach out. Even tho you are focusing on yourself You are still lingering for her to reach out.
What would u feel if she has another man?
Same thing man. I hear ya😔
@@joeb5578 Your experience is my experience and that sounds like what happens in most cases,the dumper is probably gone for good. You gotta keep moving forward and be open to meeting new people.I believe ex's coming back is the exception and not the rule , begging and pleading are no goes and unfortunately watching break up videos doesn't advance your personal healing and at some point we have to let that go also.Good luck there's definitely something better out there.
My ex hasn’t reached out but I found out recently that she had very difficult time after the break up as well. Everything you guys say is true. The only thing that hasn’t happened is her reaching out. It’s been 6 months now since we broke up. I’m in a much better place now. I’m just trying to focus on myself, not thinking about my ex and see what happens. Thank you
Did u beg and plead?
Any updates?
Any update... what's up?
Uodate
You are right Coach Craig. My ex is now posting indications on social media of her rebound relationship breaking up. While I have been working on self improvement. And I am a much better man since the break up. Seeking professional counseling, working on my career in real estate investing, and earning my yellow belt in Tae Kwon Do last month. Also playing jazz guitar and learning trombone. She broke up with me after a five year relationship. The break up has been five moths. For a petty reason. Time time give it time....THANKS COACH!
4 months of NC, it gets easier. I still think about her often but I'm focused on improving myself. She won't come back but I won't make the same mistakes again with the next person.
Update please
@@lukass64She never came back, disappeared from all social media, I'm healthier, wealthier and less stressed, I'm also with someone new - so all I can say is stay strong and have faith. It will improve.
@@stefanviljoen2415 Thank you. This helps me and everyone else who reads your story. I appreciate it very much. I'm very happy to hear how well you are doing now.
I can’t take the pain anymore. I just want to be loved. I don’t understand why it’s so hard for a girl to love me indefinitely. I’m such a mellow guy.
Stay strong
Yeah, the woman went out with another guy. When it didn't work, she realized she threw away a good man. I would be done with her too! Good job to this guy for staying firm and not letting her have her cake and eat it too.
yep the moment my wife sees another guy i dont care what happens with her life anymore its over , im not a back up option
It’s been 2 weeks. I haven’t heard from him and I’m trying to stop thinking about him. So far, it’s been a struggle, he just pops into my mind from time time, but the more I think of what I really want in life, it somehow soothes the obssessive thinking.
Don't give up, I've heard of many no contact success stories where people had to wait 5-8 months. Hang in there 💪😎
Eggsthetic Guy thank you! I am allowing only the good stuff in my life! I am practicing more self-love, focusing my mind on what I really want, sort of living in the end (law of attraction speak) lol if this person is meant to come back, he will come back in his own volition, regardless of time and space. And when he comes back, he will find a completely different person. I love him from where I am now and I appreciate his existence. He will come to me on his own free will. thank you again for the encouragement!
brattybaby I hope you are better? Has he contacted you?
@@brattybaby any update?? Did he come back???
I am now 2 weeks no contact:( any update?❤
Always lead your best life! I'm divorcing a narcissist after 31 years of marriage. My life began to change for the better the minute I signed the divorce papers. I'm not sure what the future holds but I know it will be better than what it would have been if I chose to stay in a toxic and unhealthy marriage. I just tell myself that things are always working out for me and it helps!!
I AM mmmm know the feeling, however my ex is now gunning for my career as well as trying to destroy me on a personal level. That is a person I wish when I met them I just kept walking
And here's another woman throwing the word narcissist around, who regrets her divorce.
This is by FAR the BEST video....I am conflicted......i was so anxious in my relationship....my ex partner was not talking to me very well, communication fizzled out, he started pushing me away so far where he was not listening and I felt I had to "nag" to have basic relationship needs met. I decided to end things its ripped my heart out to do it and I'm grieving so badly but he was starting to show anger and resentment and I am not here to fix people
I love this video because I can really relate to this. It's been 8 months since I was broken up with my boyfriend and have been waiting for him to reach out. But I have been doing tremendous work on my personal growth, physically, emotionally, and intellectually. Now, I'm feeling a lot more confident with myself and feeling a lot happier now with my single life. If he reaches out for some reason, fine, but I think I don't want to get back to him anymore...thank you Coach Craig and Margaret.
Time, patience and all of that is fine and dandy but at some point you have to come to the realization that it may simply not be in the cards for you. I'm at 14 months NC/since the breakup. Not a single word. False hope can be dangerous. Be warned people. We're in our mid 20s and we were each others first in everything, lasted together for 2 years. So yeah, they don't always come back/reach out.
Aldro what’s meant to be will return. each other’s first everything??? you have to be separate to grow
If they never contact you again, that means their interest in you was at almost zero percent when they left.
@@gmoney5173 What if I was the one who left?
Aldro then it’s up to you to reach out, I got dumped and I’ll never, ever reach out to my ex again, if she wants to talk then balls in here court.
@@thesockdoctorr Right and I tried. But ignored for 14 months.
Thank you, thank you so much for your videos. You were 100 percent right. I got a phone call today after 3.5 months from her. 2 days after Christmas day. I didn't wish her happy Christmas as hard as that was. She basically said she missed me. ❤️. You are a very skilled relationship expert.
Wow. During the time this video was posted I was in the best relationship I could’ve possibly imagined. I lived in the clouds and saw my entire future with this girl and she felt the same, if not more. 2 years after this video was posted and she ended up breaking up with me just a day ago after 3 years together and now I’m in no contact and unexpectedly needing these videos right now. The pain is overwhelming but these videos help me to cope and motivate me to better myself and hold on to the hope that someday she will come back to me and we can resume the amazing fairy tale we were living in.
Same situation as you man, 3 years down the drain. She broke it off with me 4 months ago. I am slowly getting better, made lots of mistakes but now in one month no contact and I am excited to keep going to learn more about myself.
@@nhx180 it’s been just a bit more than a month and I’m genuinely feeling better. Still have bad days here and there and I haven’t given up hope that she’ll come back someday but for now I’m strictly trying to focus on myself and that keeps me motivated and positive.
@@LuisMartinez_1095 you and me are in the same boat. I haven't given up hope yet, although in a way I'm trying to. Because ultimately I know that's how I move on. It hurts, it's painful but we will get there man. I look forward to coming back to these comments in 3, or even 6 months time and know we have both probably grown so much
@@nhx180 well said. I hope I can learn to move on but in a weird way also don’t. I want her to return to me but I also don’t want to depend on that. I hope after some time we’ve both grown enough to finally find a sense of happiness within ourselves regardless wether they come back or not.
@@LuisMartinez_1095 you couldn't have said that any better. It's crazy to think that I am not alone, not that I wish this on anyone else. But just know somewhere in the world I am fighting the same battle as you, you aren't alone.
Wow this is so encouraging 🥰 The peace you feel is so, so, so priceless. Yes, there are bound to be bad days, and sometimes it’s difficult to move on, but keep moving forward. And yes, it is THEIR time to feel anxiety! I relate to him so much. Thank you for sharing. ❤️
Hi Wendy! Hope ur doing good ❤️💪
Been healing without watching videos but I saw this notification and I just had to check back. It's interesting how you go from watching this nonstop to living without it to coming back to it :)
Even I'm glad for my breakup and I've changed my entire life around as a 19 year old I feel truly enlightened!
I’ve had an ex come back almost always but only once they’ve had time without me in their life. Sometimes months, or years but they will rethink you as an addition to their life.
What about short term?
@@azazel3944 no, just your ex isn't coming back because she hates you.
@@gmoney5173 😂😂
I agree. I had exes come back usually 3-6 months later or a year.
@@SquiggyAmy What is the question? Sorry.
This is me: once I go no contact, I really don't count the days anymore. If I don't want to hear from a man, he has lost me for ever. There's a disgust that settles in, where I'm happier without them. I Loved my previous person more than anyone, but he shattered my trust so much I still want to throw up when I think of him. But my main feeling is indifference now and that took me 8 months.
Hope are doing well now.
Cant let emotions and thoughts get the better of you. In any case that happens, “shhhh” your mind is always loud and thoughts tend to cloud your mind. -Chris Evans. Work on yourself make yourself a better person. Give yourself a punch in the face if you start to feel depressed, whatever you do dont give up, accept that its over and make yourself a better. Confuse them with your absence, and shock them with your results
I’m healing day by day like 1%
By listening .. thank you
I’ve being listening for 2 months
I think I could give it a 1000 years and I’ll still not hear from my ex, which breaks my heart but I’ll just carry on growing. It’s been 2.5 years since we broke up and she’s now dating a new guy. I’ve tried so hard to forget about her but I still think of her a lot.
Same you're not alone
The weirdest thing is my ex text me while I was watching this video after 4 months of NC. Now huge disclaimer this does not mean anyone’s getting back together, I know folks search for hope in the comments but really weird how that happened.
pushing through no contact when you have the feeling your ex found someone new is the worst feeling, I hope it’s all worth it in the end bc this is tough.
Yes it’s what I’m going thru🙏🏼
These videos are saving my life.my husband of 22 yrs walked out on me 3 times in the last few months this is both our second marriage.he went through a tragic loss of his mother last year and has not been the same since.he says he no longer wants to be married or beca father he just wants to be alone..he came back the first 2 times but things didn't change .he left me again last Saturday while I was at work..I'm crushed but I have been staying on the no contact with him as hard as it is to do .he came over yesterday because he thought I was at work and wanted to make sure the dog was ok. He left again and before he walked out he said I won't be hearing from him again..I'm lost ,I'm empty .we have a son together who lives at home with me. I love him so much and I just don't understand why he left
update?❤
My ex from 20 years ago told me tonight that he still loves me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 haha WTF?! No thanks...
20 years! Love it
Shawna T
Me too
I have an ex when I was 15 and she was 13
Now I’m 42 and she cried saying I was her first love. Kind of nice at least she cried for me and yet my ex doesn’t even move a rock and I move mountains to be with her and we have a baby that I never met. Today he is 5 months
I moved back to Canada after she kept discarding me and leaving me alone in a huge house I have in Ecuador
And nothing I do she ever opens up to me. She doesn’t say sorry, she never admits anything except that she does admit she never valued me. She promised to not argue and she kept pushing me away more and more.
I’m at the point where I think she is a clinical narcissist. She was abandoned by her parents from 3 years old till about 15. She shows all the signs every single one.
We are in no contact since like February
It’s like our 3 no contact in a one year span
I’m using this no contact to move on and forget her
She also claims she doesn’t need me to raise the child
And I’m so hurt by all her devaluation that I’m at the point where I have no choice but just leave both of their lives
And I’m the type of guy that HATES men that abandon their children. I hate that a lot
And I find myself doing the same thing out of so much pain
But I’m much better now
And she still doesn’t reach out
hahahahahahahhahahahahaha
ClaudiaClaudia oi I did laugh haha I was like you’re going to regret that I’m the morning ;.he was drunk I’m sure... and my ex (the good one) reached out to me tonight :) I’m so loved hahah jk
@@tacobelle69 it was so funny hahahaha but that's awesome! as you work on yourself everything changes! kepp this good energy!
I just. came upon this video two years after it was posted but at the perfect time for me. I am recently out of a 30+-year relationship after my ex left me for someone else. I am using the time to work on myself and Margaret you are right… it’s never too late to start over!
I don't know what's happening in her mind? But, I m feeling positive hearing you. It's giving me hope.
It was good to hear this today I have to keep from getting hung up on the length of time it’s been 5.5 months since my ex broke up with me but I see people reconcile long after this time period. I will keep working on myself and be the best I can be regardless.
Any update?
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I am really longing to have that independence and growth for myself. I want to be able to say I can be alone and be happy and find that inner peace and inner happiness. I want to be grateful it happened. So reassuring to hear these stories. Thanks for everything!
Same here. I've been so codependent and caught myself begging and pleading. That shows desperation and lack of respect and dignity for yourself. I too will be so relieved and thankful for the moment in my life where I can say im truly happy with myself and myself alone and discover that inner peace. I've always been in relationship after relationship so its definitely hard but there's work to be done. We will get through and be grateful we did.
Thank you for all your videos. You're both awesome. You both give so much info without charging, God bless you for helping so many people that feel broken. I fall asleep listening to you both. It helps so much. You both really know what you're talking about. ♥️
I just had so much lifted off my emotional shoulders. That guy that wrote the letter was phenom
I love you guys I really appreciate you’re videos because I’m learning to let her go & walk away. & I felt like she was already my wife & it felt like she was my home. But I’m feeling a lot better because all these videos have been giving me peace & help me collect myself & learn where I went wrong. & giving space my ex texted me today still trying to hurt me because I think she’s still hurt. But I do love & adore her & space has really helped me realize of those feelings again.
She lives an hour away. Not driving past her work or home. Stopped checking her IG after a few weeks. It did look like she had been back with someone whom she was once with.
Almost six months now.
As I was watching this video, my ex texted me. I'm in the no contact zone and it was a picture she found of me when I was a kid. It's small but I'll take it. I'm going to continue to work on me and let her reach out to me. Love and peace to you all!❤🙏
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Your so theraputical. It's greatly appreciated. I wish I found you sooner. I feel like before you I listened to so many toxic coachs or just not my kind of character. You put so much logic knowledge and sympathy behind your work. Its appreciated beyond words. You have a great team nd weather or not I get or want my ex back. I know for certain I am and will be a even better person studying your work. Thank you guys so much.
Hi Coach Craig & Coach Margaret. Thank you for all your advices. I've learned a lot. I followed all your advices, and he contacted me again but the thing is I don't want him back anymore. I'm pretty good! Still watching your videos 😘
How much time did it take???
This is the video i love the most because the ex came back and the dumpee went such a way and he didn’t want to get back together with the ex. It is so inspiring and encouraging. Everyone in breakup pain feels that the ex was the one, was the greatest, was the most wonderful, funniest, smartest, was as scarce as hen's teeth. It makes feel good to hear that time changes everything…
Good morning to Margaret and Craig. I just love this video as all of the others as well. It makes me even work harder then before. I am learning from this highway in life this ex was toxic to me. My only regret is that I did not know this some decades ago. What a waste thinking about a person loving that person that was no good for me. I will never put myself second again in any relationship ever. God bless you both!
Time will pass. Work on yourself. Sometimes- they do not come back. Grow and keep moving forward. Trust in the process and be open to new experiences. You absolutely may hear from them again at some point-but that doesn’t mean they are coming back to you.
She said "I know it's hard on you, but don't worry, you're going to get over me"
Arrogant? I was baffled to say the least!
@@hgzmatt my ex texted me about advice on the guy she cheated on me with......
@@gwynbleiddroach2589 shit test to see if youre still on the hook cos things are looking grim with the guy she cheated with... do not rise to it and see it for what it is
How was that arrogant?! You don’t like honesty and truth??? 🤦🏾♀️
Killed it on this video coaches, been helping out a a buddy of mine going through a break up , and this video came at the right time for him you don't even know!!
Well yes, thats true, time has also shown me something. She broke up with me cause I wasn't showing enough love and was neglecting her. Well first I was like oh damn, she is right (which well she indeed is in certain parts) but! I had my problems at that time and was focused on fixing them. I also must say, that I have learned and realized a lot now, thanks to you. She has a really strong anxious attachment style and issues with anger. The worst about this all is, looking back I really was not that bad and that cold, I did so many things for her, I was caring, I was loving! No idea if she will ever get to the point of understanding that, but I did a lot! I even neglected my friends and sometimes my work, to have time with her! I truly hope it reaches her some day! Me, the way I am, will forgive her and let her back in my life, because I know, that I can help her getting over her traumas and love her in the way she needs. I am conscious that it will take a lot of my energy, but she is worth it. She herself said it was really intense and yes, our love really was something I have not experienced before, we will see where it goes... but right now I really am hurt, she seems to jump in a rebound soon, obviously cause of her anxiety problems.
Sounds like my story, me being the girlfriend! I broke up with him because I was scared he doesnt have any feelings for me, he was also going through something then. We broke up in anger, with him saying that Im not important to him, so maybe I was right to walk away. Now that time has passed (1 week) I am not angry anymore and see it in a different light, and can definetly see where I went wrong, but sometimes the regret consumes me and I think I was to fault, forgetting that it was probably right to walk away. I doubt he will ever reach out to me, I really think he was acting this way so I break up with him and he doesnt care about me at all.
@@ronmexico8383 my update is, that the breakup changed me as a person. Made me learn how to control my emotions, I can happily say that I did focus on personal growth and that my next relationship will be even more fantastic. But I am not forcing anything, my life is the nr. 1 priority, I will need to find a woman that fits in it. Never forget who you are and what you stand for, you have one life, dont throw your time away, stay focused and things will come naturally.
@@malyasiolek well just give him some space, dont be desperate and dont chase.
@@Innerstanding_mind Not chasing or not being desperate, hes got plenty of space. Like you said, this break up changed me and this is the first time where I actually decided to really work on myself, self reflect and heal after a break up. Also not forcing anything, just letting it come naturally.. Whatever will happen will happen! Glad you were also able to focus on personal development and are looking forwards to your future! And thanks for responding, honestly I just blankly wrote that comment expecting it to get lost in the youtube void!
@@malyasiolek welcome, yea I have been through it all myself, it hurts. Took me over 6 months to set myself free from the attachment. I have always been that anxious attachment style dude. Glad I made this huge jump in emotional maturity
Coach Craig and Margaret. You are amazing. I can watch your videos all the day. My ex has broken with me after 10 years and after few days went to live with a woman that he always said ..she is just a family friend. .Almost 10 months have passed and I'm still totally broken. He wanted us to be friends, but I decided to go no contact with him. It has been one month of no contact as I didn't answer last time.Its so difficult for me as I used to speak with him 3 times a day. I hope I can go on with it ...and maybe smile one day...Thank you again
My ex broke up with me 15 months ago after 18 years. We have had minimum contact since and none at all for six months, (he has been in another relationship for a while with a work colleague)
It's still as almost unbearable as day one.
Was wondering what your situation now is?
Stay strong, continue the personal growth you can not go wrong with that.
Coach Margaret was
And still is
Such a gift
I'm trying to see the positivity in this process... But it's hard. As if I'm going back and forth.
3 years long distance takes a special group of people to want to be in such a relationship. A real bond and connection that go beyond logical reasoning. But obstacles came and knocked us down with his triggering depression from recent events. It has been four months + since no contact. I am more secure with my anxiety where I can control myself to behave the right way but everyday is a blur like a nightmare. I want him than I need him. He's everything and I'm losing hope. Again.
Wow...my ex left me after 10 years also! He doesn’t want to talk to me as he says he needs space and that it will sway his decision making. I’ve made mistakes when he decided to reach out to me by crying and asking him to please not push me away but he has no desire to talk to me. It’s amazing how he doesn’t care how i am, what I’m doing, if anyone has approached me since he left. But I’m trying to not focus on that although it’s very hard. I haven’t reached out to him and am trying to stay strong and believe in the processes of time healing wounds. I wish that he could feel the pain and loss I feel.
Yes it takes time to heal a broken heart. I watched all your videos and all your advice guys are very inspiring ♥♥♥.
Truly one of the very best videos you have posted IMHO. Thank you so much. Cheers, Rob
😂maybe I'm being irrational ,I'm willing to give it two years / three , what if my feelings have died but I still haven't gotten closure . I don't wanna be accused of being unfaithful
I love coach Margaret!! Thank you both for your compassion for many of us going through a hard time in life. What if i think i was the rebound?!?! 8 months of deep conversations, vulnerability, commitments, future planning, and absolute bliss, only to wake up one day for her to tell me she's confused and has things from her past to deal with and may go back to her ex. Then she cut off all communication. Ugh. After a week or so of being VERY down, i actually felt like i was in shock, i listened to all your podcasts among a lot of other things and took it upon myself to really look at my anxious attachment style and spend a lot of time completely alone, which i'd never really been before. I saw how i've projected my needs on others, which is why when i lose them it hurts so much, so i'm taking it upon myself to be responsible for my needs and fulfill them myself and not need someone else to fill my voids. I'm still hurting because we really were amazing together, but i'm proud of who i was in that relationship and i know that she has her stuff to deal with and it wasn't about me. I hope to be much stronger and less needy in future relationships because of it. :)
I need this success story. He nailed it. I m really happy for him.
I love your videos! It’s been almost 3 months since my breakup and I’m the one who broke it off , it was a rash and abrupt decision and I regret it. I made a lot of mistakes since this is my first break up and I was with him for 6 years. I’m letting go and giving it time. Really difficult but I’ve been focused on myself and I’ve been feeling a lot better.
Have you tried to get him back? Or are you saying you're not ready to contact him about reconciling yet?
Keeper of Knowledge soooo lol I tried to get him back like 5 days after the breakup. I begged and pleaded. This is BEFORE I started to watch these videos. I broke up with him in a depression phase. The last time I talked to him which was like 3 weeks ago he told me he’s hurting too but he’s trying to move on and live his life. Haven’t talked to him since. Well, I had to talk to him about the WiFi the other day but it’s cancelled and I no longer have to deal with him about that and I didn’t respond to him I just wanted the convo to be over. He’s been really angry and hurt and has treated me pretty bad during this whole process. I understand it but also I don’t. There’s so much to it that’s it’s over whelming but I’m trying to tell myself that it’s not in my control and I have to let him go.
@@iveheardthenews Yes, NC is needed to allow emotions to cool. Then you both can have time to think clearly.
Keeper of Knowledge and thank you for your comment!
Mauser 96 I’ve tried to reach out on my part and the responses weren’t always bad. He’s going through a lot of hurt as am I. I can’t be the one to reach out anymore. He’s really made this breakup messy by being really immature and sharing our business with mutual friends. Therefore, I’m letting it go completely. If he wants to talk eventually , he will. If not, then oh well.
Honestly, I did so many things wrong that I apparently wasn't supposed to do to stay on track with the program...oops!
But I did pay attention, and had gotten a few things in line with myself yay...
So, the girl that my boyfriend left me for is no longer in the picture at all..
He completely dumped her cold to come back to me, and truthfully I've never seen someone so in love ' as he truly seems to be with me!!!
It's freakng shocking, and it's soo beautiful no doubt. I'm in aww
I'm so in love! 💞
He has never ever ever treated me better than he has for awhile now...
Wowwwerz!
Thank you so much for your advice in your videos. Or I'm just one Lucky son of a bit** ha 😊 ThaNk yOu!!!!!
Time heals all wounds. Great information I appreciate it.
I am changed a lot since 2 guys gave me Time and Space. I thought one guy was showing signs of coming back but was acting hot and cold and advoidant attachment style. Now I here he is in a relationship or a rebound relationship. I haven't seen or heard from him since August of 2019.
14 years of marriage down the drain. Now she's seeing someone else. I made all the mistakes and nothing worked. Going no contact now, except contact that is truly for our children's sake.
I glad I ran across ur videos just going thru a breakup and learning the new approaches on how to deal with it one day at a time thank you both
What a great success story!! That's what I hope happens to me, that i move on, because right now, its been really hard and I want relief. Then, I will depend on time, becasue I'm in the "no contact" mode and intend to stay there.
I am 60 years old and time is really short. My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for a year. We text sometimes and are friends on Facebook. The first time I ever posted another guy with me on Facebook which was new year's. He asked me to lunch, acted very jealous about the guy. Said a prayer before we are lunch thanking God I came back to him. I said nothing about the prayer but he did kiss me bye. The weekend came and no contact from him. I will not reach out he has to win me back. How long for the next date?
1 year broken up, 9 months no contact (and since been blocked) .... Do I still have a chance at all? Even just to hear from him again would be nice 😕
LottieLizzy11 it’s over, time to move on. He would’ve reached out by now if he had any feelings for you.
What in earth even happened to make him go that way, not trying to blame, but that is super harsh.
@@Spookyaki1 not all men! My wife left me after 17 years together and I'm not sleeping around!! I'm completely heartbroken that she's in a rebound relationship and wish she would come back to me and we can become a family again!!
If you still love him...then fight for him...loneliness is the hardest things in this world....i am going Through the same path...
@@ronmexico8383 stay strong brotha...update??
Thank you for all your informative videos. I’ve learned a lot from your videos and has given me a new perspective on my life and has giving me clarity and direction. I’ve been following your no contact approach and now she’s been texting me. I’ve been going to the gym and doing things that I enjoy 😊. Thank you.
I'm so impatient!! Probably a reason why she wanted to break up with me 😔 But! Now I am showing her how patient I can be by committing to NC. I hope I can bring back a happy update
Any update?
Yes. 2 weeks into NC she messaged me "hey." I replied with the same and we ended up doing a "check in." Kept it cordial and made her laugh. I did ask "what made her decide to message me" (idk if that was a good or bad thing) but like I said she was just "checking in" I said a thank you and she finished with a "yeah". So I left it at that and going back to no contact. I dont want to pressure her but I also don't want to seem like I'm desperately waiting around for her either. I truly don't need her but I certainly do want her. Maybe we both just need a little more time is where I am at now. Thanks for being interested in my breakup, haha, I'll keep updating if I remember to
@@gordon12121212 Text him would explain how it works +1 2 0 4 8 0 8 2 2 3 4..!!!!!!!!
@@gordon12121212 He is indeed problem a problem solve
Hi coaches. Btw, have you ever watched a movie "500 days of summer" ? The best part is expectation vs reality.
I have watched a ton of relationship videos following my heartbroken divorce in Sep 2018. Affairs happened and he quit on our marriage for his much younger co worker affair. Well of course that relationship is already over. Me and my 4 kids have a lot of heeling to do since I had been w their daddy for 19 yrs.i have taken this time to start my second college degree, I’ve lost 80 lbs:) I’ve continued with my counseling. As of he and I we are talking, sharing our love but haven’t got back together just yet:) any advice
Eight days ago my boyfriend broke things off with me, giving me no reason or explanation. We only dated for eight months and talked or saw each other almost daily. I am feeling very lost and an emotional wreck. In order to keep my chin up and not bawling my head off every minute of every day I stay focused by listening to your videos. I can definitely say I feel I have better control emotionally when listening to the great advise you offer. I want and plan on growing as a individual that will be fine what ever the out come of this chapter brings. Thank you again Margaret and Craig. 👍
LESA Johnson how are you?
I have a very big change in my attitude over the last day and a half. I’m not so sure I want him back any more. The night he broke up with me, I asked if there was someone he was seeing and he said NO, but that there was a lady that was interested in him. He said that when he and I went into our relationship that we knew it was a temporary THING! Whatever, I’m not one to invest time for a “temporary thing”! I’m 58 yrs old and if you don’t want something permanent then forget it. Meantime I’m waiting to hear from him when he realizes what we had. If I get the chance to talk to him I’m going to let him know I’m not interested. Had my heart broke once by him, why would I set myself up for the disappointment again. Meantime, I went home a couple of weekends again and happen to run into a boyfriend from when I was in my early 20’s. That was 37 years ago and we both still have that spark for each other. Going home again this weekend and hoping to see him again. He will always be a life long friend if anything else doesn’t come about.
Hope is a dangerous thing. I gave her time. Two years of taking your advice. She used that time to get back with her ex-husband and now they are married again.
That’s bc you were the rebound
I agree with the other comment. I think you were the rebound.
I'm very happy from everything I've learned from these channels even though I don't want to get back w/ my ex. I found out she has way too many problems, I was probably a rebound and later I found out she got married more than likely just to get married just so she doesn't have to go through the stress and sadness of going in and out of relationships.
I'd like to talk to her again as a friend yet im going to wait until she comes around.
Thank you. I really like both of your style.
Margaret is greatly missed 🙏
Yesterday i saw the movie Pride and Prejudice.
What a movie, yes time is everything.
Watch that movie ❤ when you are in love and hope you come back 2gether😊
Love your video's so much!
Coach ur work is unbelievable....wish u many years of blessings
I am so desperate i am tottaly wreck and hopelles by my break up ! last 4 month i am keep crying what should i do? i lost love of my life
Margaret is a star.
The Sun 🌞
Great advice, BEST coaches here. You are something else 😘😘
Thanks for all the knowledge you share. Now I feel I understand my self. I have 8 months watching the videos. It takes me more time understanding cause I do not speak English very much .
No homo. Love you Craig you’re my friend. And Margaret you’re like the grandma I never had. Love you guys
I wish one day I will send my success story too. I don’t want him back, no ever.
Thank you for sharing. I really can't wait to get to this point ❤
We were together 3 years, and suddenly she broke up with me. Due to some personal stuff that she said made it hard to continue together. and she said she still loved me and was sorry but that she thought it was for the best. I begged,we talked for a bit. last sunday she asked me to stop being flirty in comments and conversations. I just began duing NC, but I kinda feel like she doesn't love me or care as she says she does.
Not that I care if she came back or not anymore, we were together 3 years. Just curious, she met the guy second week we broke up, and then left the rebound. She dated a second guy, and guess what? she broke up with the second guy and went back to the first guy. Thank you for all the video you made, but I don't see anything explaining her weird behavior. Thank you for all the videos that helps me moving on.
You two are wonderful.
thank you so much for your time.
Almost 60 days of NC. I still love my girl, but my heart still hurts
She's not your girl anymore. Destroy that old mindset
How did it go?? Did she come back??
Listen to this man he is a legend, my ex reached out today told me she is not ready to talk to me yet but promises me she reach out soon when she gets more time. While I wait I’ll focus on bettering myself couldn’t have done it without watching these videos
How are things?
Joey Kwan not good at the moment I made a wrong move to be told too much has happened and she is learning to be happy on her own with the usual I’m still hurt and I have made my decision and caring things in the middle of texts so not sure if mixed signals or guilt, so haven’t giving up all hope, 3 weeks ago I was told I would have married you in the morning but not changing my mind go figure
It's been 4 1/2 months since my wife left me, she has been dating this guy for last 3 months...i've worked on myself. I've watched every video on here...but still nothing!! She's even introducing my 2 kids (haven't been able to do NC because of the children) to him soon (worst feeling EVER!). I've pretty much lost all hope + I'm still completely heartbroken as I was on day 1 of the split!! I still love her so much but 17 years together seems absolutely nothing to her! 😭
Sorry bro ,she will come around,I'm praying for you
@Mauser 96 that's the mother of my children you are talking about and unless this has happened to you (I pray it hasn't!) then please don't call her that!
Give it time. Like coach said. I am so sorry. Day by day my friend and sending you love.
So sorry for you... Same things here, same feelings.
15 years together, a good life, 2 young kids, no problems. And, 5 months ago, she decided to leave me for a guy 20 years older that she just met. 2 weeks after leaving the house, they were already set up together, meeting each other kids and families, living like an old couple...
3 months after the breakup, I even saw them together, hands in hands, at a party : the school party of my children...
I'm with you. I understand what you're going throught. Hang up. Try to focus on you and on your kids. Take care.
Neil Jones Update?
I watch this video over and over again ... it helps so much .... i wish i could buy the workbooks but i can only pay via PayPal . Pls add this payment option coach !
Tons of congratulations to the guy. One day each dumpee will sing this swan song to the dumper.
I love your styles ...avoidance types and anxious types etc...
Hi guys and girls... I am used to being ignored when I comment on topics. English is not my native lng so I apologize for mistakes. I have watched many of Craig's videos and I have been through shit because of my breakup. I even went for a holiday by myself and I felt so lonely in the hotel and depressed that after I came back it was even worst. My life is quiet tough. I go to dialysis and I live with my parents. But I study IT at uni and going to get a good job in this industry, for sure. The reason why I comment on this video is... that... I really can not take this situation anymore. I was on the bottom already, after my lonelly holiday. And I have to say, I can not think about my ex anymore. I am giving up on her! This video says... time time time... give it time... But I have spent already three months waiting for my ex to reach out but nothing happened. Only I was stressing myself all the time... thinking about her. I can't do this anymore. I can not wait for my ex and at the same time trying to move on, it does not make sense... I just need to accept the fact that she is not comming back. That's all... I mean... really not comming back!!! Not like, hoping maybe she comes back one day. NO!!! She has not comming back anymore. There is no hope... the hope can only stress me out. I am throwing away the hope and really moving on. It is the only chance for me to live my life a nice way again... Bye bye my ex!!! Have a happy life!!! I loved you, but you broke my heart and now I do not want to suffer anymore because of you!!!
I feel you buddy! My ex won t come back either...he s been sleeping around non stop since he broke up with me...i study hard to get in the IT industry also and i m doing my best to move on and also been in no contact with him since the moment he broke it off...keep up the good work and live your life. We will forget about them in some time
@@AncaB18 Thank You for your comment. It is nice. Keep on study! But choose what you love, not like but love... you really have to love what you do. I am trying to move towards IT but also I love photography so I try to combine these things. And well, guess what, my ex made contact :D She wants to inteview me for her kind of an online show. She did the same show last year, I attended, so this year I also accepted the invitation when she asked me. I am one of 100 people she is going to be interviewing. Well, I am really nervous about it. And I also know that I do not want to go through the stress again. Even though I am in stress all the time. :) But still, it is going to be weird to talk to her after 5 months.
@@sakmario2 I do love working in IT...working hard to become a great front end developer :D and thank you for advice... i m very happy for you honestly..make sure you look at your best and now that you are a NEW YOU i'm sure she will have a hard time not focusing on you..be confident because i'm sure you grew a lot since she saw you...the fact that she reached out gives me a little hope :) maybe one day my ex will come around also
@@AncaB18 Thank You for the kind message. Wish you good luck with, at first, with your work then with your ex. For me, it really took time to heal from the breakup. Even though it has been 5 months already, I still dream sometimes about my ex. Once a fortnight in average. Dreamt about her the other day. Sometimes I really want to take a bit from the possitive days, save it, and use it in the negative days :) And when you say, it is NEW ME... I really do not feel like I have grown. I have just overcomed the stress and pain from the breakup. My ex might still see the old me in her eyes. But the good thing it that now I do not care if she feels that I have not changed :)
@@sakmario2 the fact that you overcomed your stress and pain does make you a new grown person trust me. Funny, i dreamed about my ex a day ago, messed me up a little more than i tought, made me miss him even more (it s been only a month since he left me)...hope the pain goes away soon. I hope for you that you will find someone who is right for you and that special someone will make you forget about the bad times..good people deserve good people :)
Hi! Just started watching your videos, and I love them!
I know your very busy and can't really talk about any personal problems without a coaching session, but i hope you could talk about what to do when your partner (pretty much out of the blue) breaks up with you and says that you've done nothing wrong, but that they just don't love you anymore?
(sorry for any mistakes, english isn't my first language)
@@adamalpha9150 thank you! :)
@@adamalpha9150 But what should I do if I want them back? Is no contact the way to go? I don't know what to change or develop about myself, as he said I've done nothing wrong and that there's nothing wrong about me..
@@adamalpha9150 thank you so so so much for your help!
It’s been 4 months but he did reach out 3 month mark to wish me happy Thanksgiving but was still angry so
we are not speaking again 😢
So hard to wait
Love your channel and advice
Would love some insight but just cant afford your coaching sessions
Im super committed to no contact, but in my situation I happen to run into them every few days because we work in the same building.
Do I ignore them? avoid them? Say hi and keep walking?
Also how does this impact their grieving process?
Thank you
Like you said in a previous video, time seems like an eternity during a breakup when you’ve been with the person for so many years. For me, it’s only been three weeks, but it seems longer than that
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