As a Christian man who's recently found myself back in the position of maybe looking for someone, here's a few reasons that have stopped me from approaching women: 1) She's not physically attractive or my type 2) My own fear of rejection or disqualifying myself over something like "I'm probably not tall enough or rich enough" etc. 3) She's not very feminine (with the way she dresses, behaves, or acts too "matey"). 4) She is so involved with her girlfriends that it's impossible to even get into a conversation with her or she arrives at church at the last minute and disappears immediately (i.e. makes herself unavailable). 5) Acts a bit super spiritual and intimidating to the point where I feel like I probably wouldn't be good enough for her. There's probably other reasons, but those are just the ones coming to my mind right now.
All of the reasons are lies from the pit of hell. Silence those voices whenever you hear them speak. You are good enough, rich enough, spiritual enough and may you get the courage to ask that one God has for you!
Be equally yoked brother. Just because someone is physically good looking does not mean they will be a good wife. I don’t expect a body builder for a husband lol ya know? It’s hard to find other Christian singles period! Lol
I have declined women for all the reasons you mentioned. The "arriving at church last minute, booking it during the closing hymn" phenomenon is painfully common with the few 20-somethings at my parish. Between that and always surrounding yourself with family/friends, you aren't creating opportunities for men to meet you beyond superficial (passing) interactions. If you always go to church together as a family, then you might as well make the best of it and ask your most trusted family member "Hey, I like that guy over there. Could you introduce me to him?", because there's almost no chance of him asking you out in front of your family of 14. 😛Likewise, if you go alone, sit near the guy you like and pay him a compliment after the Mass or service. Those are guaranteed ways to show your romantic interest and get the ball rolling.
@@MyriadLove Possibly true, although I disagree on the "matey" one. The person I'm thinking of is physically attractive but she dresses in baggy clothes and gives me hi fives and calls me "mate". It's off putting/unnatractibve, but maybe she's just not interested and she'd behave differently around a guy she likes.
@@mdhazeldine I know what you mean. There is a guy I'm friends with who accidentally called me "bro" but then caught himself and apologized. We are just too familiar with each other.
1) Men may not be asking you out because you are hiding yourself (0.56) 2) Men may not be asking you out because you are taking on the wrong role in their life (2.14) 3) Men may nothe asking you out if you are spending all your time with a guy who is scaring other ken away (4.28) 4) Men may not be asking you out because they sense you dont want them to ask you out (6.15) Another helpful video; straight to the point. Thanks Mark! ;)
I enjoy your videos very much. I am not looking for a man, I just enjoy listening to you. I was married for 43 years to the love of my life. He's gone, but I still love him. No one else could take his place. God bless you. Rosie
AS A MAN I used to pursue and ask out women and found it to be horrible experiences. BUT THANK GOD I finally did it HIS Way and Prayed and waited... HE showed me that a man does not pursue the woman. Instead, GOD will bring the woman to the man (because a GODLY woman obeys GOD first...and NOT her flesh). I waited....and HE brought me a woman straight to my work place. Listen to GOD folks. Stop following the ways of men.
I have a disability with muliple conditions who is unable to work. It makes things harder. I keep praying that a guy will come into my life. I haven't been with anybody in almost two decades.
Growing up in a bit sheltered home. I don’t really have much experience in knowing when a guy is interested or not. I wasn’t allowed to date during my teens. So topic 4 was somewhat relatable to me because I’d experienced it not too long ago. I was a bit fearful when I sensed a guy might’ve been interested in me. Will be watching more videos to know how to improve in myself.
I’m 29, I’ve never been asked out. So the intro made me laugh, admittedly in a cynical way, but also genuinely giggling. However, your first point felt like you were directly speaking to me. I have a joyful personality, I’m pretty outgoing and love being around others! But, when a man I’m attracted to enters the conversation or the room I hide. Makes me sad now that there are no men in my current church around my age who are single. I was also told in college by two guy friends in my church that I was “such a bro.” And I knew then I was doing something wrong.
I used to be one of the guys too. It can change God has brought me on a journey to being more feminine. I don't play violent video games anymore or kick it with the guys per se binging on some demonic anime and hanging with the guys in a man cave for goodness sake. I have boundaries with the opposite sex and I also started wearing more feminine clothing like skirts and dresses.
Right on time! I have been definitely been guilty of topic 1 especially at the beginning of the year. I was unintentionally hiding myself start this year and it doesn’t help that I’m an introvert. God has been helping me gain confidence despite being an introvert to go out more and get involved in church activities, make friends, and more.
One reason that the video did not really mention (at least, not in enough specificity), is that a lot of women act cold and defensive when a guy approaches her - probably because she’s been hurt before, or someone told her that playing “hard to get” was attractive, or maybe she just wants to be pursued to get the guy to prove his intentions (or to feed her ego). If a man does not know you, then he probably will never pursue you or try to tear down your emotional walls to try to convince you to like him, because he has no incentive to do so (Romance novels and movies lied to you about how relationships work). First of all, he doesn’t know you, so he has no idea of what he is missing out on, so he has no incentive to pursue a complete stranger who has never given him any kind of warn or friendly feelings, ever. Why would he waste time trying to convince a hostile stranger (namely you), a stranger that he has no emotional connection to (at least not yet), that he is worthy of being given a chance? Men have pride too, and he is not going to waste his time trying to win you over if you make a bad first impression by acting distant, cold, defensive, or excessively quiet & shy when he comes over to introduce himself (Nervous behavior often comes across as rude and/or disrespectful, I’m afraid). If a woman acts like she has no basic social skills around the men that she likes, then she gives the impression that she has poor relationship skills, and will be difficult to get along with. What man wants that kind of spouse? And besides, if a woman acts disinterested, cold, or just plain bored, it makes the guy feel unwanted and unwelcome, and no one likes that feeling; he will, most likely, assume that you are just not interested in him (because he is ugly, he is not your type, he said something wrong, you heard a rumor about him, you already have a man, etc.), and he will just move on to someone who does make him feel welcome and wanted. No guy wants to stay where he is not wanted, because no one wants to feel like he is boring you, or harassing you, or intruding on your personal space, and so on, as that makes him feel like a creep, and no one likes that feeling. Usually when a person is glad to see you, then she usually ACTS like she is glad to see you (crazy, I know) by: smiling at you, laughing at your jokes, asking you questions, responding to your questions with long answers (instead of just giving abrupt one or two word answers), and so on. By contrast, a woman who ACTS like she doesn’t like you, will give you the impression that she doesn’t like you (crazy, I know). A woman who likes you will try to make you feel comfortable in her presence, while a woman who acts guarded, and acts like she is suspicious of your motives, will make you feel uncomfortable in her presence. If you, the lady, make a guy feel uncomfortable then he will, probably, never speak to you again as no one likes that feeling. If you make a person feel bad when they are around you, then they don’t want to be around you anymore. A person who wants friends must act friendly (Proverbs 18:24). Standing in the corner with your arms crossed and giving the world a sour, stern, unhappy look will scare people away (no one approaches someone who looks unhappy, as they assume that you will snap at them), while smiling, happy people who seem to be having a good time and who act happy to meet everyone will attract people. If you are depressed a lot, get some help and do something about that, as unhappy people scare other people away. Bad feelings are contagious (and happy feelings are, too). If you had a choice, would you want to approach a happy person, or would you prefer to approach an unhappy one?
It could also just not be the right time yet if God is hiding you especially if you are in a wilderness season. It also helps to not have an overly masculine attitude because of work and lack of a feminine demeanor. These 2 things I have noticed a lot.
Remember when Jesus was Baptized but didn’t immediately go right into ministry and was instead led into the wilderness for 40 days to be tempted by Satan and then released into ministry? Remember when the Israelites were supposed to be in the wilderness for only 2 weeks but it lasted 40 years until they were finally ready and prepared to go into the Promise land? Remember how David was anointed King of Israel at a young age but went through a season where he was running away from Saul in the wilderness until he became old enough I think either at age 30 Or 40 to then be King of Israel? All these people went through a season in the wilderness where nothing was really happening in their lives and even in the case of David being hunted down with only suffering and moving from place to place and they didn’t immediately receive the promises God had for them because they all needed to go though a purification and preparation period to get rid of fear, worry, temptation. God used the 40 years of the wandering of the Israelites to build up an obedient, strong, faithful, and believing nation while the old generation fearful and anxious disobeyed God and didn’t trust Him even though he showed them the promises He had for them. The wilderness is where God safely kept Jesus, David, the Israelites, and Moses to mold their character into the character He wanted and released them to do the work and receive the Promises He had prepared when they could handle it only after growing deep and intimate with Him in a relationship that they all needed in the wilderness and beyond to survive and flourish. The wilderness is God’s testing ground for His anointed when they aren’t ready most times to keep them safe and mold their character and teach them all kinds of critical things they need to succeed for what He has planned for them releasing them only at the appointed time when their hearts, minds, and souls are strong and ready to overcome anything.
So timely! I was just thinking about this today, it’s been a while since I’ve gone out on a date 😅 Though I really think God is hiding me and saving me for the right one 🙏🏻
@@ethanplacella Oh yes of course...that's the worldy way to find a wife...."duh...you're cute so men MUST be asking you out!" So the question is...why don't YOU ask her out ethan? 🤔
@@moistlivesmatter umm no it’s not. The majority of people see each others looks first and decide to approach or not. Should looks be the ONLY or MOST important thing in seeking a spouse? Of course not. But it’s important, read Song of Solomon. Isaac didn’t KNOW Rachel. But when he saw her and her sister as part of the deal to marry Rachel he “waited another 7 years which seemed to him only a few days.” Isaac was overwhelmed by Rachel’s beauty. The point I was trying to make which you clearly missed was that I was complimenting her on being very beautiful. She’s NOT some hideous or unattractive person. I’m surprised more men are not approaching her. If it WAS being worldly then her looks would be the only thing that matters or the only reason why someone might pursue her, which is clearly wrong. But approaching someone because you’re physically attracted to them isn’t WORLDLY. Marks even talked about this in other videos.
@@sovereigniam777 you’re taking that verse out of context. Did you forget Paul says to test the spirits? In order to do that you must be engaging with other people in the first place. And I never said to just trust your eyes. If you see someone who you find attractive and want to go talk to them, then do it. You won’t know if that person is good or bad unless you talk to them. To wait for a word from God or an inner voice for him to lead you whom to talk to or not every single time is deceiving and not biblical. Does God speak through a still small voice? Yes. But God usually shows us the steps to take when we start moving. You can’t steer a ship that’s parked in the harbor.
Once again another video came through with confirmation of what I'm going through. I am definitely guilty from #1. I am a shy introverted person and when it comes to social events, especially within the church, I tend to get social anxiety due to past trauma from my past. I'm going to continue to ask God to gain more confidence in this area of my life because I am a very shy introverted person that needs to get over this fear of people so I can build better relationships.
#1 for me too 😅 I have a guy that God seems to be telling me over and over is the right one. I'm pretty friendly, but my problem is I always feel like I need an excuse to talk to him- and I'm also prone to being nervous that others will realize I like him, which is kind of ridiculous lol but anyway... 😅
The word is discerning. A woman I was pursuing talked herself out of it because of fear from being cautious. At the first sign she felt afraid, she gave up without even to ask questions. She overthought it in her mind and missed a blessing in her life.
To be candid, that's a pretty gross way to look at it. Imagine if a single woman asked "where are all the men" and some dude chimed in saying "well God is just keeping his sons safe." Like that sounds kind of messed up to look at it like that. And it doesn't even make sense. Plenty of Christian women date nonbelievers because they feel as if that's what they have to do to get a relationship these days... Is God protecting them there? Does He just not care when we date nonbelievers? Like really sit and think about what is acusing christian men of when someone says that. I don't know. This comment threw me off and rubbed me wrong...
@@Zayindjejfjsorry you felt that way. If you heard the many terrible situations some women go thru you would understand. Even I was assaulted by an older man who was perfect ‘on paper’. By a city council man who was held in high esteem in our city. He was completely different in private. I would not have been able to handle it if I were younger. I avoided rape because I knew how to listen to the Holy Spirit. I stand by my statement. God does indeed protect His daughters. I am living proof.
Looks is everything for men. I know plenty of mean women who snagged successful husbands. Why? Because they are gorgeous. God favours the beautiful not the ugly.
Wow thanks Mark. The first point is literally me cause I have known for some time now that I am hiding myself, my mom and boss actually pointed that out to me. I am an introvert and I love my space so don't really spend time at places where I come in contact with men. Another thing is I have this prayer that I used to pray that God will make make me invisible to all the wrong men around me and only make me visible to my rightful husband. So I trust God and His timing but I'm also confused as to what to do so I'm thinking of going out more and making myself visible and let God take care of the rest coz I am tired of being single😂
I laughed when you used the teacher example. I remember the time I saw my principal in regular clothes and not a suit! 😂 This is helpful information, though, as I reflect on mistakes I made with someone who I really liked recently. Thank you, right on time as usual!
This video is definitely two thumbs up! What is the mindset and the unspoken language saying? We must be mindful. How we carry ourselves says a lot. Ruth was groomed by a very sophisticated and wise mother-in-law. Thank you for this.
Ladies stop asking GOD for a man then be afraid to invite him when u see him in public give him a hint. Speak to him. Flirt a little but always be sincere know what you want and don’t play games I’ve heard some women tell other women that they were scared to talk to me because I’m muscular and idk if that’s intimidating or what
Good point. But another poster said that God is trying to protect His daughters. Any person who views another as primarily a sex object is a predator and is someone to avoid.
@@ValSMITH-it4lg true. Like Mark says, all I need is one person, and honestly may need to work on myself and my relationship with God in the meantime. The last guy I dated was a narcissist, and did his best to pull me away.
Numbers 1 and 3. I have been told that I was smothering a love suitor and he needed space, so I gave him all the space he needed by leaving him alone. However, I am trying to put myself out there, in the different spaces other than social media because I've ran into some predators.
Seek and asked the RUACH HA-KODESH ( Holy Spirit) to lead you to where you should go to, we can recommend places to you but that might not be the place that you'll meet your kingdom spouse.
Yeah, be sure not to direct, correct or be braggadocio or arrogant! Oh yeah, do not hang out with a feminine man that you consider a friend. They OFTEN block guy friends by putting them down. Truth there… Non verbal, I can always sense when a guy is getting ready to ask me out.
What kind of hidden me was the false accusations in the communities and me not really being able to connect healthily with other Christians. Now I may go out and all I may be attractive by the Grace of God, but God allowed me not to see God fearing men around me. Or to be hit on by one of them up till now. But God is Faithful🎉
Number 3 goes both ways, which often leads to number 4. If there is a questionable so called friendship, a wise woman will be extra cautious not to give off any signs of interest ullnless the man speaks up first. So if a man has genuine interest in woman he needs to be careful whom he is close friends with, otherwise he shouldn't expect to see green light.
Showing interest can be good. She should not pursue but if she is acting uninterested a man may see that as he doesn't have a chance. As you said, it goes both ways. Ruth 3 is a good chapter to read :)
I have high standards and boundaries I’m wife material and don’t want a long term dating relationship. Like many men want because they’re not attune to the leading of the Lord
I can relate to the 1st one.. ide like to find a Christian husband but between working for God and my job my schedules so busy I barely got time to socialize outside home 😵💫 and being in a small town don’t help but what can I do but pray and keep working for God 💖
I’m so hoping that everyone who desires a spouse to have one if it is Will of God. Until then, making God your spouse can removes loneliness & allow contentment! Blessings. 🇨🇦
@@lashondarochell7584 I understand my dear, but the church is the bride of Christ *2 Corinthians 11:2* *For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.* We are headed to the marriage supper of the Lamb. *Revelation 19:7* *Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.* It will be something that you grow into. Give God a chance. An intimate relationship with Him, not only knowing that You are His, but feeling in your Spirit that He is yours in a personal, exclusive relationship that affects others is beautiful. *Numbers **6:24**-26* *24 The Lord bless thee, and keep thee: 25 the Lord make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: 26 the Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.* 🇨🇦
Oftentimes, a woman’s reputation can harm her romantic possibilities greatly. If you’re known as the difficult or dramatic one in your social circle, men will find out, often fast from other guys in the group, and will scurry quickly from you.
I’ve hidden on purpose. I haven’t known a kind man…. a genuine kind man. Never met a man who wanted to pray with me. Never met a man who would defend or protect me. I’ve only known One who has loved me no matter what and that’s Jesus. It has been a pretty broken road, but the Lord is so good and faithful. He’s spared me so many times from bad situations. I’m grateful I’m still single and not end up with someone because I was lonely. I honestly enjoy my alone time with the Lord. I’m not the best at picking a man lol So I’m leaving that up to the Lord. I’m not hiding any more lol but sometimes want to…. It gets scary out there!
When I first saw the title and started watching i had thought this would have been speaking from the man's point of view, i.e. what within HIM stops him from asking out a woman (e.g. past experiences, insecurities, been out of the dating scene a long time, etc). Can you do a video like this for the MEN Mark?😄
It is just like you said 🙏🤍, there are some parts within me, who really enjoy being single and this pure freedom. I love it... i am not used to be in a relationship. But at the same time there are parts within me, which suffer to not be with that one guy ❤. So do I need to change the part which likes to be alone!? 😕
Life is full of choices. Ask the Lord to lead you in His path and ask Him to help you be comfortable in that path. He will lead you into His best will for you and make you able to truly rejoice in it. 2:03
@@ValSMITH-it4lg thank you soo so much 🤍🤍🙏 Sometimes I struggel with hearing god's voice, to be sure, that it is really god and not the devil or something else. But I guess this is also a process of finding out...!? 💫🙏❤
#2. Nope Noaz did not saw Ruth as a sister. Read the chapter 1&2, you will see Boaz was observing her and asking his servants about her as she qas gleaning in the field.
The realest advice is that men are visually stimulated... so, getting in the best shape possible, looking your best and putting yourself around men is the best and most actionable advice in my opinion.
There's actually only one thing that would prevent me from asking a single attractive woman out: attitude (Too many women want to act cold and stern, then wonder why men don't come up and talk to them lol. We want a sweet girl, not a grouchy grade school librarian who's gonna tell us to keep our voice down)
Girls today are pretty bossy too! I was noticing a lady in the grocery store with her husband and she was just so incredibly bossy to him. He did nothing. She barged in front of people and took over the isle. I tried so hard not to laugh out loud in disbelief lol I’m sure someone heard me (pffffttss) trying to keep the giggling in haha it was so strange! Why are girls so bossy these days!?
@@orchidsnviolets lol! Man you got that right. 100%. Sometimes I think I'd be better off if I was gay. Gay dudes are so nice to me, but all I get with women is bossiness and attitude! They're lucky they're so damn pretty
The pretty ones who know they are pretty will just take advantage. Got to know Jesus and be more like him in order to meet someone like minded. Ya know…. “Equally yoked”. The Bible has some pretty good advice. Just saying. But do not “be gay”. You’ll open up to more pain and heartache than you ever thought possible. Get close to the Lord, work on being a good husband to a woman one day, and read what it says in the Bible on how to do it!
You know as a Christian teen dating is hard and complicated. Especially dating just to date, I don't understand why people waste their time getting to know someone and sharing time with them in a romantic capacity if they know they will never take it farther than just being boyfriend and girlfriend. Not many people my age consider dating this seriously or even really looking at someone as a potential wife or husband down the line. Aside from that, I need to fix my self esteem and my weight. 😔 At present I'm not super attractive or really the kind of person who'd turn a head even if I was a bit lighter. Despite knowing that appearance isn't everything and that such shallow interests or concerns aren't going to be needed in Heaven, I still worry that nobody will ever even be interested enough in my appearance to consider getting to know me on a non superficial level. Kinda sucks. :/ (I'm also somewhat active in social groups like youth groups, but that's quite recent) Does anybody have advice for me?
I've heard worry be equated to praying for what you don't want. So leave it to God instead. And don't feel like you need the attention from everyone to be of value or worthwhile. You really just need to turn the head of the right one, ya know? Let that be the focus, being the right one for the right one.
@@QuantumCoyote Thank you! :) I've been praying for that last part actually it just gets a little discouraging sometimes when no one shows interest in you despite you being present and available. I do my best to not let my worth be defined by it, so thank you for that reminder. :)
Look up Dr Eric Berg for healthy tips on you tube. Get a hobby like hiking, photography outdoors, volunteer where you’re around healthy people, and don’t worry about the looks thing. Your confidence and the light of God will outshine anything. I’ve known women 2 times my size get married to the love of their life. They were loving, kind, and wonderful to their now husbands. And remember our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit- we must treat it how God created us to. ❤️ I hope some of that helps.
And be patient. See how women in the Bible trusted God. Do not settle for anyone who is pushy, makes you compromise your beliefs and purity, and watch out for red flags.
I am purposefully not looking enticing to any creep I am in a serious situation of stalking the young to look unattractive to keep them away!!!! If a man would be In treated in me it would be a miracle I look very ugly
We have different perspectives and experiences. Why woman show signs that if you were in a drinking party she'll get pregnant tomorrow. Instant jackpot. The devil sends someone your way too. Very beautiful like a hot dragon and flirting words. Be careful.
I won't show any interest if... You don't love Jesus You have bigger arms than I do You're plastered with tattoos You have facial piercings You dress for attention ...
Have women forgot they can be like Ruth and make the first move with Boaz! Crazy idea right, women can also make the first move on a man last I remember. And Ruth is a Biblical example of that!
I'm almost 49, yes that's me in the profile pic. No man has ever asked me out on date. Every date I ever went on is because I asked the guy out. Where did all the real men go? I miss them. ❤
This has nothing to do with the topic of this video but anyways I have to ask! 😅 A few weeks ago I met a guy who follows Jesus and he serves a lot at church. He seems like a good guy and that he has a relationship with Jesus. Im waiting for marriage and have never slept with anyone but he did in his past relationships with other girls. He said that he regretted that and that he stopped and ended things 1,5 years ago. On one side it doesn’t bother me that he has that past, on the other side it kinda feels unfair that he had that past while I intentionally waited for so long. Do you think it’s worth for me giving him a chance and date him? (We are both still young both 21 years old btw)
As a man who intentionally has been waiting I am being chased by women who have a past. It almost always discourage me to pursue them back. Just a thought for you, if it doesn't feel right it ain't right. It makes me think of people being unequally yorked. Definitely seek advice from older married godlymen and women.
@@timypaul thank you for your honesty! It’s nice to know that other dudes out there wait for marriage too! one side of me wants my future husband to be a virgin like I’m because I intentionally wait. The other side of me sees that that specific guy has regretted his past and wants a wife now. I mean if Jesus can forgive us for the sins we did in the past, then I shouldn’t hold that against him? I want to ask Godly people at church but they all know both of us and I don’t want to expose him and his past… 😅
@@dimitra3574 I see, you can ask advice from people of your church without mentioning the guy's name. Just someone who is pursuing you. And it is wise if they don't know who he is so the advice will be more likely without any biases. Also two sisters in Christ who are after me recently told me about forgiveness in Jesus. I personally don't think these two are related, if people have a past it is not about me to give forgiveness to. That's God's business, because they didn't commit that sin against me as I wasn't married to them. As a believer, your present choice is based upon your judgment of who can be a godly and loyal partner to you. One or two years observing people may reveal who people are by looking at what they do rather than what they say. May God's wisdom be with you!
Mark, do you think it would be unfair to continue an online friendship with a man that you have no desire to be in a relationship with and marry? This is my situation now and God has clearly shown me he’s not the one but I don’t have many friends. He lives in another state and we’ve been only emailing.
@@Consecrated_vessel I appreciate it but I've had a long history of having toxic friendships that have come out of the church. It would be nice to be in a community but I seem to draw people with certain characteristics like control and a tendency to argue or people who discourage me. As a result, I've been out of church for almost 10 years because I had to disconnect from so many people. Maybe you could pray for me if you think about it.
I read ruth 3:9 in the NIV translation, that is not what it says. Everyone make sure to read the bible for yourself so you can fact check statments on scripture.
Why are you switching up and addressing women directly when it takes 2 be in a relationship Don't genderize your topics speak generally So it can be useful for both man and woman who desired to be married.
Mark has addressed men in videos. Men and women are different and have different roles to play in a relationship, so naturally Mark is giving specific advice to men and women. 2:03
mark's teachings are contrary to the Word of God. GOD expects the woman to go find the Man He has planned for her...and NOT the other way around. *men will consistently pursue the WRONG woman. CLEARLY, mark is teaching the worldly ways of dating and NOT GOD's Will concerning matchmaking. If you sit around expecting GOD to bring you a man like prince charming to Rapunzel...you are sadly mistaken. And obeying mark's teachings over GOD's Word (The Lord JESUS CHRIST) will only lead you to disaster/frustration and misery. (Mark himself receives your money and lives a comfortable life-style at your expense.) Get rid of your itching ears and ignore the fairy tale (Fables) teaching and PRAY and HEAR GOD's guidance instead. His Word is FREE and costs you nothing but obedience in LOVE. "But refuse profane and old wives' fables, and exercise thyself rather unto godliness." -TIMOTHY 1 4 : 7 "Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not upon thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and HE SHALL DIRECT THY PATHS! Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil. -PROVERBS 3: 5-7
@@Rere1997_x Adam FOUND eve (waiting for him) when he woke up from a deep sleep. The King FOUND Esther prepared and ready for him. Isaac FOUND Leah brought to him by Abraham's servant. Boaz FOUND Ruth at the foot of his bed. The LORD JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF FOUND Mary Magdalene at his feet. no effort was made to pursue these women like the world wants men to do. Proverbs 18 : 22 is for Men who obey GOD and do NOT follow the lust in his own heart to go chasing after women. FINDING a wife is like when you FIND a Christmas gift under a Holiday tree. If you believe otherwise, you are not Hearing and Obeying the Word of GOD. Lean not to your own understanding and be not wise in YOUR OWN eyes. (Proverbs 3 : 5-7) GOD's Will is for the woman to OBEY HIM and follow HIM to the man HE has planned for marriage. Any other way is ungodly and is not from THE FATHER.
I literally open the window & say its a beautiful day to go have a coffee/ just to be out there....until after the shower 🚿 I'm like nah ,it's probably to poeply out there 😅
GOD instructs us to get OUT of our hiding place. He does not want us to remain hidden: "Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven." -MATTHEW 5 : 16 Pray to the Lord Jesus Christ to give you strength and courage. HE never fails. 😇
I feel like God is hiding me lol😅
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Yes, protection! 🌺
God is Hiding/ Protecting me from all:
Imposters
Counterfeits
Gas lighters
those who are not Worthy of my heart.
As a Christian man who's recently found myself back in the position of maybe looking for someone, here's a few reasons that have stopped me from approaching women: 1) She's not physically attractive or my type 2) My own fear of rejection or disqualifying myself over something like "I'm probably not tall enough or rich enough" etc. 3) She's not very feminine (with the way she dresses, behaves, or acts too "matey"). 4) She is so involved with her girlfriends that it's impossible to even get into a conversation with her or she arrives at church at the last minute and disappears immediately (i.e. makes herself unavailable). 5) Acts a bit super spiritual and intimidating to the point where I feel like I probably wouldn't be good enough for her. There's probably other reasons, but those are just the ones coming to my mind right now.
All of the reasons are lies from the pit of hell. Silence those voices whenever you hear them speak. You are good enough, rich enough, spiritual enough and may you get the courage to ask that one God has for you!
Be equally yoked brother. Just because someone is physically good looking does not mean they will be a good wife. I don’t expect a body builder for a husband lol ya know? It’s hard to find other Christian singles period! Lol
I have declined women for all the reasons you mentioned. The "arriving at church last minute, booking it during the closing hymn" phenomenon is painfully common with the few 20-somethings at my parish. Between that and always surrounding yourself with family/friends, you aren't creating opportunities for men to meet you beyond superficial (passing) interactions.
If you always go to church together as a family, then you might as well make the best of it and ask your most trusted family member "Hey, I like that guy over there. Could you introduce me to him?", because there's almost no chance of him asking you out in front of your family of 14. 😛Likewise, if you go alone, sit near the guy you like and pay him a compliment after the Mass or service. Those are guaranteed ways to show your romantic interest and get the ball rolling.
@@MyriadLove Possibly true, although I disagree on the "matey" one. The person I'm thinking of is physically attractive but she dresses in baggy clothes and gives me hi fives and calls me "mate". It's off putting/unnatractibve, but maybe she's just not interested and she'd behave differently around a guy she likes.
@@mdhazeldine I know what you mean. There is a guy I'm friends with who accidentally called me "bro" but then caught himself and apologized. We are just too familiar with each other.
1) Men may not be asking you out because you are hiding yourself (0.56)
2) Men may not be asking you out because you are taking on the wrong role in their life (2.14)
3) Men may nothe asking you out if you are spending all your time with a guy who is scaring other ken away (4.28)
4) Men may not be asking you out because they sense you dont want them to ask you out (6.15)
Another helpful video; straight to the point. Thanks Mark! ;)
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I enjoy your videos very much. I am not looking for a man, I just enjoy listening to you. I was married for 43 years to the love of my life. He's gone, but I still love him. No one else could take his place. God bless you. Rosie
“In the end it all comes to God can overcome the imperfections” well said 👏
AS A MAN I used to pursue and ask out women and found it to be horrible experiences.
BUT THANK GOD I finally did it HIS Way and Prayed and waited...
HE showed me that a man does not pursue the woman.
Instead, GOD will bring the woman to the man (because a GODLY woman obeys GOD first...and NOT her flesh).
I waited....and HE brought me a woman straight to my work place.
Listen to GOD folks. Stop following the ways of men.
That's Awesome I needed that encouragement God Bless 🙏
So we pray and wait? Seems easy enough, no effort putting?
In order to find the right one, you must BE the right one.
Maybe that's what God wanted for you. BUT for the most part, pray, become closer to what He wants you to be and pursue the kind of women God loves
I appreciate your transparency as a man.
I have a disability with muliple conditions who is unable to work. It makes things harder. I keep praying that a guy will come into my life. I haven't been with anybody in almost two decades.
sherilyn do not give up, God has someone out there for You, and they are perfect for You.
Been stung too many times so I'll leave it to God to direct me to the correct woman 🤷🏼♂️🤷🏼♂️
God bless!
That is wisdom.
Anen
Blessings!
Growing up in a bit sheltered home. I don’t really have much experience in knowing when a guy is interested or not. I wasn’t allowed to date during my teens. So topic 4 was somewhat relatable to me because I’d experienced it not too long ago. I was a bit fearful when I sensed a guy might’ve been interested in me. Will be watching more videos to know how to improve in myself.
I’m 29, I’ve never been asked out. So the intro made me laugh, admittedly in a cynical way, but also genuinely giggling. However, your first point felt like you were directly speaking to me. I have a joyful personality, I’m pretty outgoing and love being around others! But, when a man I’m attracted to enters the conversation or the room I hide. Makes me sad now that there are no men in my current church around my age who are single. I was also told in college by two guy friends in my church that I was “such a bro.” And I knew then I was doing something wrong.
I used to be one of the guys too. It can change God has brought me on a journey to being more feminine. I don't play violent video games anymore or kick it with the guys per se binging on some demonic anime and hanging with the guys in a man cave for goodness sake. I have boundaries with the opposite sex and I also started wearing more feminine clothing like skirts and dresses.
Right on time! I have been definitely been guilty of topic 1 especially at the beginning of the year. I was unintentionally hiding myself start this year and it doesn’t help that I’m an introvert. God has been helping me gain confidence despite being an introvert to go out more and get involved in church activities, make friends, and more.
On time God!!!❤❤❤❤
God bless!
One reason that the video did not really mention (at least, not in enough specificity), is that a lot of women act cold and defensive when a guy approaches her - probably because she’s been hurt before, or someone told her that playing “hard to get” was attractive, or maybe she just wants to be pursued to get the guy to prove his intentions (or to feed her ego). If a man does not know you, then he probably will never pursue you or try to tear down your emotional walls to try to convince you to like him, because he has no incentive to do so (Romance novels and movies lied to you about how relationships work). First of all, he doesn’t know you, so he has no idea of what he is missing out on, so he has no incentive to pursue a complete stranger who has never given him any kind of warn or friendly feelings, ever. Why would he waste time trying to convince a hostile stranger (namely you), a stranger that he has no emotional connection to (at least not yet), that he is worthy of being given a chance? Men have pride too, and he is not going to waste his time trying to win you over if you make a bad first impression by acting distant, cold, defensive, or excessively quiet & shy when he comes over to introduce himself (Nervous behavior often comes across as rude and/or disrespectful, I’m afraid). If a woman acts like she has no basic social skills around the men that she likes, then she gives the impression that she has poor relationship skills, and will be difficult to get along with. What man wants that kind of spouse?
And besides, if a woman acts disinterested, cold, or just plain bored, it makes the guy feel unwanted and unwelcome, and no one likes that feeling; he will, most likely, assume that you are just not interested in him (because he is ugly, he is not your type, he said something wrong, you heard a rumor about him, you already have a man, etc.), and he will just move on to someone who does make him feel welcome and wanted. No guy wants to stay where he is not wanted, because no one wants to feel like he is boring you, or harassing you, or intruding on your personal space, and so on, as that makes him feel like a creep, and no one likes that feeling. Usually when a person is glad to see you, then she usually ACTS like she is glad to see you (crazy, I know) by: smiling at you, laughing at your jokes, asking you questions, responding to your questions with long answers (instead of just giving abrupt one or two word answers), and so on. By contrast, a woman who ACTS like she doesn’t like you, will give you the impression that she doesn’t like you (crazy, I know). A woman who likes you will try to make you feel comfortable in her presence, while a woman who acts guarded, and acts like she is suspicious of your motives, will make you feel uncomfortable in her presence. If you, the lady, make a guy feel uncomfortable then he will, probably, never speak to you again as no one likes that feeling. If you make a person feel bad when they are around you, then they don’t want to be around you anymore.
A person who wants friends must act friendly (Proverbs 18:24). Standing in the corner with your arms crossed and giving the world a sour, stern, unhappy look will scare people away (no one approaches someone who looks unhappy, as they assume that you will snap at them), while smiling, happy people who seem to be having a good time and who act happy to meet everyone will attract people. If you are depressed a lot, get some help and do something about that, as unhappy people scare other people away. Bad feelings are contagious (and happy feelings are, too). If you had a choice, would you want to approach a happy person, or would you prefer to approach an unhappy one?
It could also just not be the right time yet if God is hiding you especially if you are in a wilderness season. It also helps to not have an overly masculine attitude because of work and lack of a feminine demeanor. These 2 things I have noticed a lot.
Interesting 🤔
What's a wilderness season lol.
Remember when Jesus was Baptized but didn’t immediately go right into ministry and was instead led into the wilderness for 40 days to be tempted by Satan and then released into ministry? Remember when the Israelites were supposed to be in the wilderness for only 2 weeks but it lasted 40 years until they were finally ready and prepared to go into the Promise land? Remember how David was anointed King of Israel at a young age but went through a season where he was running away from Saul in the wilderness until he became old enough I think either at age 30
Or 40 to then be King of Israel?
All these people went through a season in the wilderness where nothing was really happening in their lives and even in the case of David being hunted down with only suffering and moving from place to place and they didn’t immediately receive the promises God had for them because they all needed to go though a purification and preparation period to get rid of fear, worry, temptation. God used the 40 years of the wandering of the Israelites to build up an obedient, strong, faithful, and believing nation while the old generation fearful and anxious disobeyed God and didn’t trust Him even though he showed them the promises He had for them. The wilderness is where God safely kept Jesus, David, the Israelites, and Moses to mold their character into the character He wanted and released them to do the work and receive the Promises He had prepared when they could handle it only after growing deep and intimate with Him in a relationship that they all needed in the wilderness and beyond to survive and flourish. The wilderness is God’s testing ground for His anointed when they aren’t ready most times to keep them safe and mold their character and teach them all kinds of critical things they need to succeed for what He has planned for them releasing them only at the appointed time when their hearts, minds, and souls are strong and ready to overcome anything.
So timely! I was just thinking about this today, it’s been a while since I’ve gone out on a date 😅 Though I really think God is hiding me and saving me for the right one 🙏🏻
Nelle, just going by your photo you’re super cute. Not sure how guys aren’t approaching you.
@@ethanplacella Oh yes of course...that's the worldy way to find a wife...."duh...you're cute so men MUST be asking you out!"
So the question is...why don't YOU ask her out ethan? 🤔
@@moistlivesmatter umm no it’s not. The majority of people see each others looks first and decide to approach or not. Should looks be the ONLY or MOST important thing in seeking a spouse? Of course not. But it’s important, read Song of Solomon. Isaac didn’t KNOW Rachel. But when he saw her and her sister as part of the deal to marry Rachel he “waited another 7 years which seemed to him only a few days.” Isaac was overwhelmed by Rachel’s beauty.
The point I was trying to make which you clearly missed was that I was complimenting her on being very beautiful. She’s NOT some hideous or unattractive person. I’m surprised more men are not approaching her.
If it WAS being worldly then her looks would be the only thing that matters or the only reason why someone might pursue her, which is clearly wrong. But approaching someone because you’re physically attracted to them isn’t WORLDLY. Marks even talked about this in other videos.
@@ethanplacella I disagree. We should not be trusting our own eyes in order to decide if someone is sent from GOD. We walk by FAITH not by sight.
@@sovereigniam777 you’re taking that verse out of context. Did you forget Paul says to test the spirits? In order to do that you must be engaging with other people in the first place. And I never said to just trust your eyes. If you see someone who you find attractive and want to go talk to them, then do it. You won’t know if that person is good or bad unless you talk to them. To wait for a word from God or an inner voice for him to lead you whom to talk to or not every single time is deceiving and not biblical. Does God speak through a still small voice? Yes. But God usually shows us the steps to take when we start moving. You can’t steer a ship that’s parked in the harbor.
Once again another video came through with confirmation of what I'm going through. I am definitely guilty from #1. I am a shy introverted person and when it comes to social events, especially within the church, I tend to get social anxiety due to past trauma from my past. I'm going to continue to ask God to gain more confidence in this area of my life because I am a very shy introverted person that needs to get over this fear of people so I can build better relationships.
#1 for me too 😅 I have a guy that God seems to be telling me over and over is the right one. I'm pretty friendly, but my problem is I always feel like I need an excuse to talk to him- and I'm also prone to being nervous that others will realize I like him, which is kind of ridiculous lol but anyway... 😅
I love how my pastor explained it: God is protecting His daughters. It’s a mess out there! Be wise and cautious girlfriends!
The word is discerning. A woman I was pursuing talked herself out of it because of fear from being cautious. At the first sign she felt afraid, she gave up without even to ask questions. She overthought it in her mind and missed a blessing in her life.
To be candid, that's a pretty gross way to look at it. Imagine if a single woman asked "where are all the men" and some dude chimed in saying "well God is just keeping his sons safe." Like that sounds kind of messed up to look at it like that. And it doesn't even make sense. Plenty of Christian women date nonbelievers because they feel as if that's what they have to do to get a relationship these days... Is God protecting them there? Does He just not care when we date nonbelievers?
Like really sit and think about what is acusing christian men of when someone says that.
I don't know. This comment threw me off and rubbed me wrong...
@@Zayindjejfjsorry you felt that way. If you heard the many terrible situations some women go thru you would understand. Even I was assaulted by an older man who was perfect ‘on paper’. By a city council man who was held in high esteem in our city. He was completely different in private. I would not have been able to handle it if I were younger. I avoided rape because I knew how to listen to the Holy Spirit. I stand by my statement. God does indeed protect His daughters. I am living proof.
Looks is everything for men. I know plenty of mean women who snagged successful husbands. Why? Because they are gorgeous. God favours the beautiful not the ugly.
Wow thanks Mark. The first point is literally me cause I have known for some time now that I am hiding myself, my mom and boss actually pointed that out to me. I am an introvert and I love my space so don't really spend time at places where I come in contact with men. Another thing is I have this prayer that I used to pray that God will make make me invisible to all the wrong men around me and only make me visible to my rightful husband. So I trust God and His timing but I'm also confused as to what to do so I'm thinking of going out more and making myself visible and let God take care of the rest coz I am tired of being single😂
I laughed when you used the teacher example. I remember the time I saw my principal in regular clothes and not a suit! 😂 This is helpful information, though, as I reflect on mistakes I made with someone who I really liked recently. Thank you, right on time as usual!
This video is definitely two thumbs up! What is the mindset and the unspoken language saying? We must be mindful. How we carry ourselves says a lot. Ruth was groomed by a very sophisticated and wise mother-in-law. Thank you for this.
Good. Thank you. I will use these methods to get rid of the guys at work that I really don't want to date. 😂
Ladies stop asking GOD for a man then be afraid to invite him when u see him in public give him a hint. Speak to him. Flirt a little but always be sincere know what you want and don’t play games I’ve heard some women tell other women that they were scared to talk to me because I’m muscular and idk if that’s intimidating or what
Thank you for your words of wisdom 🙏🏽 I’m number 1 lol 😂 I don’t hide emotionally though. I’m usually the one asking friends to hang out 🙏🏽..
So glad this was useful, God bless!
I used to get asked out ALL the time, and still do, but I don't have many dates when I explain Im trying to save myself....
Good point.
But another poster said that God is trying to protect His daughters.
Any person who views another as primarily a sex object is a predator and is someone to avoid.
@@ValSMITH-it4lg true. Like Mark says, all I need is one person, and honestly may need to work on myself and my relationship with God in the meantime. The last guy I dated was a narcissist, and did his best to pull me away.
Wow! Very good, thank you God!
Numbers 1 and 3. I have been told that I was smothering a love suitor and he needed space, so I gave him all the space he needed by leaving him alone. However, I am trying to put myself out there, in the different spaces other than social media because I've ran into some predators.
God bless as you seek the Lord's leading!
ASK GOD to send u the right man; and DONT go the bars or clubs to find him. thats a red flag right there.
Have you made a video on the best places to show up to be seen? I don’t know where to go!! Spent my whole life at church and work and occasional gym
Seek and asked the RUACH HA-KODESH ( Holy Spirit) to lead you to where you should go to, we can recommend places to you but that might not be the place that you'll meet your kingdom spouse.
Very helpful video! God has been making it clear for me to take a leap of faith and this confirms it.
You are right👍
Yeah, be sure not to direct, correct or be braggadocio or arrogant! Oh yeah, do not hang out with a feminine man that you consider a friend. They OFTEN block guy friends by putting them down. Truth there… Non verbal, I can always sense when a guy is getting ready to ask me out.
God bless!
Insightful , thank you.
Yup I can sense when females don’t want to be asked out. Ladies pay attention 👍
What kind of hidden me was the false accusations in the communities and me not really being able to connect healthily with other Christians.
Now I may go out and all I may be attractive by the Grace of God, but God allowed me not to see God fearing men around me. Or to be hit on by one of them up till now. But God is Faithful🎉
Number 3 goes both ways, which often leads to number 4. If there is a questionable so called friendship, a wise woman will be extra cautious not to give off any signs of interest ullnless the man speaks up first. So if a man has genuine interest in woman he needs to be careful whom he is close friends with, otherwise he shouldn't expect to see green light.
Showing interest can be good. She should not pursue but if she is acting uninterested a man may see that as he doesn't have a chance. As you said, it goes both ways. Ruth 3 is a good chapter to read :)
I have high standards
and boundaries
I’m wife material and don’t want a long term dating relationship. Like many men want because they’re not attune to the leading of the Lord
I can relate to the 1st one.. ide like to find a Christian husband but between working for God and my job my schedules so busy I barely got time to socialize outside home 😵💫 and being in a small town don’t help but what can I do but pray and keep working for God 💖
5:30 hit me hard
Thank you so much!
*As I watch your videos about God, I feel His spirit moving within me. May He grant you strength and guidance as you continue to share His word.*
Thank you. 🙏🏾
So many pat answers
I’m so hoping that everyone who desires a spouse to have one if it is Will of God. Until then, making God your spouse can removes loneliness & allow contentment! Blessings.
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Thanks for those encouraging words I don't want God as my spouse but as my Father thinking of God as stand in husband never set well with me
@@lashondarochell7584 I understand my dear, but the church is the bride of Christ *2 Corinthians 11:2* *For I am jealous over you with godly jealousy: for I have espoused you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.* We are headed to the marriage supper of the Lamb. *Revelation 19:7* *Let us be glad and rejoice, and give honour to him: for the marriage of the Lamb is come, and his wife hath made herself ready.* It will be something that you grow into. Give God a chance. An intimate relationship with Him, not only knowing that You are His, but feeling in your Spirit that He is yours in a personal, exclusive relationship that affects others is beautiful. *Numbers **6:24**-26* *24 The Lord bless thee, and keep thee: 25 the Lord make his face shine upon thee, and be gracious unto thee: 26 the Lord lift up his countenance upon thee, and give thee peace.*
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Thanks Mark!!!
I work from home . This definitely doesn’t help and I don’t go out socializing.
Oftentimes, a woman’s reputation can harm her romantic possibilities greatly. If you’re known as the difficult or dramatic one in your social circle, men will find out, often fast from other guys in the group, and will scurry quickly from you.
...or from other women.
@@YeshuaHaMaschiahVery true.
@@g.williams2047 you are very Wise my friend. God bless you and family.
Scurry…. Scurry….
I’ve hidden on purpose. I haven’t known a kind man…. a genuine kind man. Never met a man who wanted to pray with me. Never met a man who would defend or protect me. I’ve only known One who has loved me no matter what and that’s Jesus. It has been a pretty broken road, but the Lord is so good and faithful. He’s spared me so many times from bad situations. I’m grateful I’m still single and not end up with someone because I was lonely. I honestly enjoy my alone time with the Lord. I’m not the best at picking a man lol So I’m leaving that up to the Lord. I’m not hiding any more lol but sometimes want to…. It gets scary out there!
R.L.H Because women only look physical appearance or money in a man basically they chase after bad men😐
Amen 🙏❤️🙏✝️😇
God bless!
I've been hiding since my divorce 13 years ago. It has been deliberate, but recently, I have been considering trying to date again.
When I first saw the title and started watching i had thought this would have been speaking from the man's point of view, i.e. what within HIM stops him from asking out a woman (e.g. past experiences, insecurities, been out of the dating scene a long time, etc).
Can you do a video like this for the MEN Mark?😄
It is just like you said 🙏🤍, there are some parts within me, who really enjoy being single and this pure freedom. I love it... i am not used to be in a relationship. But at the same time there are parts within me, which suffer to not be with that one guy ❤. So do I need to change the part which likes to be alone!? 😕
Life is full of choices.
Ask the Lord to lead you in His path and ask Him to help you be comfortable in that path.
He will lead you into His best will for you and make you able to truly rejoice in it. 2:03
@@ValSMITH-it4lg thank you soo so much 🤍🤍🙏
Sometimes I struggel with hearing god's voice, to be sure, that it is really god and not the devil or something else.
But I guess this is also a process of finding out...!? 💫🙏❤
#2. Nope Noaz did not saw Ruth as a sister. Read the chapter 1&2, you will see Boaz was observing her and asking his servants about her as she qas gleaning in the field.
Amen 🙏🙏🙏
God bless!
The last three women I asked out all said no.
I don’t want to ask anyone out now.
Be friends first & gauge how the lady feels about you. Don't give up!!!
The realest advice is that men are visually stimulated... so, getting in the best shape possible, looking your best and putting yourself around men is the best and most actionable advice in my opinion.
Lol, that's an issue there. What's on the outside may not match what's on the inside.
There's actually only one thing that would prevent me from asking a single attractive woman out: attitude
(Too many women want to act cold and stern, then wonder why men don't come up and talk to them lol. We want a sweet girl, not a grouchy grade school librarian who's gonna tell us to keep our voice down)
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Girls today are pretty bossy too! I was noticing a lady in the grocery store with her husband and she was just so incredibly bossy to him. He did nothing. She barged in front of people and took over the isle. I tried so hard not to laugh out loud in disbelief lol I’m sure someone heard me (pffffttss) trying to keep the giggling in haha it was so strange! Why are girls so bossy these days!?
@@orchidsnviolets lol! Man you got that right. 100%. Sometimes I think I'd be better off if I was gay. Gay dudes are so nice to me, but all I get with women is bossiness and attitude! They're lucky they're so damn pretty
No do NOT be gay!
The pretty ones who know they are pretty will just take advantage. Got to know Jesus and be more like him in order to meet someone like minded. Ya know…. “Equally yoked”. The Bible has some pretty good advice. Just saying. But do not “be gay”. You’ll open up to more pain and heartache than you ever thought possible. Get close to the Lord, work on being a good husband to a woman one day, and read what it says in the Bible on how to do it!
How do i open up emotionally???
Amen.
You know as a Christian teen dating is hard and complicated. Especially dating just to date, I don't understand why people waste their time getting to know someone and sharing time with them in a romantic capacity if they know they will never take it farther than just being boyfriend and girlfriend. Not many people my age consider dating this seriously or even really looking at someone as a potential wife or husband down the line. Aside from that, I need to fix my self esteem and my weight. 😔 At present I'm not super attractive or really the kind of person who'd turn a head even if I was a bit lighter. Despite knowing that appearance isn't everything and that such shallow interests or concerns aren't going to be needed in Heaven, I still worry that nobody will ever even be interested enough in my appearance to consider getting to know me on a non superficial level. Kinda sucks. :/ (I'm also somewhat active in social groups like youth groups, but that's quite recent) Does anybody have advice for me?
I've heard worry be equated to praying for what you don't want. So leave it to God instead. And don't feel like you need the attention from everyone to be of value or worthwhile. You really just need to turn the head of the right one, ya know? Let that be the focus, being the right one for the right one.
@@QuantumCoyote Thank you! :) I've been praying for that last part actually it just gets a little discouraging sometimes when no one shows interest in you despite you being present and available. I do my best to not let my worth be defined by it, so thank you for that reminder. :)
Look up Dr Eric Berg for healthy tips on you tube. Get a hobby like hiking, photography outdoors, volunteer where you’re around healthy people, and don’t worry about the looks thing. Your confidence and the light of God will outshine anything. I’ve known women 2 times my size get married to the love of their life. They were loving, kind, and wonderful to their now husbands. And remember our bodies are the temple of the Holy Spirit- we must treat it how God created us to. ❤️ I hope some of that helps.
And be patient. See how women in the Bible trusted God. Do not settle for anyone who is pushy, makes you compromise your beliefs and purity, and watch out for red flags.
@@orchidsnviolets yes very true thank you :)
I am purposefully not looking enticing to any creep I am in a serious situation of stalking the young to look unattractive to keep them away!!!! If a man would be In treated in me it would be a miracle I look very ugly
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We have different perspectives and experiences. Why woman show signs that if you were in a drinking party she'll get pregnant tomorrow. Instant jackpot. The devil sends someone your way too. Very beautiful like a hot dragon and flirting words. Be careful.
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Common sense
I won't show any interest if...
You don't love Jesus
You have bigger arms than I do
You're plastered with tattoos
You have facial piercings
You dress for attention
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Feminism / MeToo!
Have women forgot they can be like Ruth and make the first move with Boaz! Crazy idea right, women can also make the first move on a man last I remember. And Ruth is a Biblical example of that!
I'm almost 49, yes that's me in the profile pic. No man has ever asked me out on date. Every date I ever went on is because I asked the guy out. Where did all the real men go? I miss them. ❤
The West is trying to feminize all of us men. Please pray for us.
This has nothing to do with the topic of this video but anyways I have to ask! 😅
A few weeks ago I met a guy who follows Jesus and he serves a lot at church. He seems like a good guy and that he has a relationship with Jesus. Im waiting for marriage and have never slept with anyone but he did in his past relationships with other girls. He said that he regretted that and that he stopped and ended things 1,5 years ago. On one side it doesn’t bother me that he has that past, on the other side it kinda feels unfair that he had that past while I intentionally waited for so long. Do you think it’s worth for me giving him a chance and date him? (We are both still young both 21 years old btw)
As a man who intentionally has been waiting I am being chased by women who have a past. It almost always discourage me to pursue them back. Just a thought for you, if it doesn't feel right it ain't right. It makes me think of people being unequally yorked. Definitely seek advice from older married godlymen and women.
@@timypaul thank you for your honesty! It’s nice to know that other dudes out there wait for marriage too! one side of me wants my future husband to be a virgin like I’m because I intentionally wait. The other side of me sees that that specific guy has regretted his past and wants a wife now. I mean if Jesus can forgive us for the sins we did in the past, then I shouldn’t hold that against him? I want to ask Godly people at church but they all know both of us and I don’t want to expose him and his past… 😅
@@dimitra3574 I see, you can ask advice from people of your church without mentioning the guy's name. Just someone who is pursuing you. And it is wise if they don't know who he is so the advice will be more likely without any biases. Also two sisters in Christ who are after me recently told me about forgiveness in Jesus. I personally don't think these two are related, if people have a past it is not about me to give forgiveness to. That's God's business, because they didn't commit that sin against me as I wasn't married to them. As a believer, your present choice is based upon your judgment of who can be a godly and loyal partner to you. One or two years observing people may reveal who people are by looking at what they do rather than what they say. May God's wisdom be with you!
Mark, do you think it would be unfair to continue an online friendship with a man that you have no desire to be in a relationship with and marry? This is my situation now and God has clearly shown me he’s not the one but I don’t have many friends. He lives in another state and we’ve been only emailing.
@@Consecrated_vessel I appreciate it but I've had a long history of having toxic friendships that have come out of the church. It would be nice to be in a community but I seem to draw people with certain characteristics like control and a tendency to argue or people who discourage me. As a result, I've been out of church for almost 10 years because I had to disconnect from so many people. Maybe you could pray for me if you think about it.
Don't lead him on. Be straight up with him.
Nothing stops a man that is interested.
I’ve been alone for 30 freaking years, so what is Gods grand ole plan for me? Die a lonely bitter man?
I read ruth 3:9 in the NIV translation, that is not what it says. Everyone make sure to read the bible for yourself so you can fact check statments on scripture.
1. Divorce rape, 2. Divorce rape, 3. Divorce rape, and 4. Divorce rape.
Not no.1 😂 🏃♀️
The person in your thumbnail is not a woman.
Why are you switching up and addressing women directly when it takes 2 be in a relationship Don't genderize your topics speak generally So it can be useful for both man and woman who desired to be married.
Mark has addressed men in videos.
Men and women are different and have different roles to play in a relationship, so naturally Mark is giving specific advice to men and women. 2:03
1. The Wall
2. Unrealistic Expectations
3. Resting Beotch Face
4. Multiple Red Flags
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mark's teachings are contrary to the Word of God.
GOD expects the woman to go find the Man He has planned for her...and NOT the other way around.
*men will consistently pursue the WRONG woman.
CLEARLY, mark is teaching the worldly ways of dating and NOT GOD's Will concerning matchmaking.
If you sit around expecting GOD to bring you a man like prince charming to Rapunzel...you are sadly mistaken. And obeying mark's teachings over GOD's Word (The Lord JESUS CHRIST) will only lead you to disaster/frustration and misery. (Mark himself receives your money and lives a comfortable life-style at your expense.)
Get rid of your itching ears and ignore the fairy tale (Fables) teaching and PRAY and HEAR GOD's guidance instead. His Word is FREE and costs you nothing but obedience in LOVE.
"But refuse profane and old wives' fables, and exercise thyself rather unto godliness."
-TIMOTHY 1 4 : 7
"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not upon thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and HE SHALL DIRECT THY PATHS!
Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.
-PROVERBS 3: 5-7
This is poor advice, women should never chase a man. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing". Proverbs 18:22.
@@Rere1997_x Adam FOUND eve (waiting for him) when he woke up from a deep sleep.
The King FOUND Esther prepared and ready for him.
Isaac FOUND Leah brought to him by Abraham's servant.
Boaz FOUND Ruth at the foot of his bed.
The LORD JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF FOUND Mary Magdalene at his feet.
no effort was made to pursue these women like the world wants men to do.
Proverbs 18 : 22 is for Men who obey GOD and do NOT follow the lust in his own heart to go chasing after women. FINDING a wife is like when you FIND a Christmas gift under a Holiday tree.
If you believe otherwise, you are not Hearing and Obeying the Word of GOD.
Lean not to your own understanding and be not wise in YOUR OWN eyes.
(Proverbs 3 : 5-7)
GOD's Will is for the woman to OBEY HIM and follow HIM to the man HE has planned for marriage.
Any other way is ungodly and is not from THE FATHER.
@@Rere1997_x🎯🎯🎯
@@Rere1997_x even more poor advice from a poor woman who does not obey GOD's Holy Spirit.
Shem😢I just don't know how to get out of my hiding place😂🫣
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I literally open the window & say its a beautiful day to go have a coffee/ just to be out there....until after the shower 🚿 I'm like nah ,it's probably to poeply out there 😅
If y'all like hiding in pride....please for The sake of all of us...
STAY HIDDEN.
GOD instructs us to get OUT of our hiding place. He does not want us to remain hidden:
"Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven." -MATTHEW 5 : 16
Pray to the Lord Jesus Christ to give you strength and courage. HE never fails. 😇
@@YeshuaHaMaschiah thank you, I know I can do all things through Christ how strengthens me 🙌 I'm hard on it starting this festive season 😊
Thanks!