That is litterally me right now. Haven't watched the whole video yet. This comment was just at the top, so I spotted it. It's now on my playlist of the videos, I'm checking this week. Can't wait... but I have to for now... limited ability to focus, consume, and to digest in-depth information. So, I have to take this sort of information/help in in manageable chunks.
I feel for all the people with sleep issues. I'm autistic and used to have difficulty sleeping as a child. Fortunately, not as much now. Thinking deeply about my special interests is what helps me drift off the most... I guess autistic problems require autistic solutions. 🙂
Yes! That's exactly what's helped me since I was a young child, focusing my thoughts on things I wanted to do, long before I knew I was autistic- (only just recently diagnosed at 53)💯💖🤟🏼✌🏼
My pillow of choice is a pure duck down-filled, 80 x 80 cm one I brought from Germany. I love the generous proportion and softness (that still gives support because it's also generously filled), it's like sinking into a cloud. It didn't come cheap but worth every penny.
My place needs improvement (dusty piles that need to be gone through especially), but I've always avoided some of the key missteps: 1. Laundry goes to the laundry baskets; never to the floor. 2. Dishes always go to the sink; never left outside the kitchen. That right there solves 95% of the problems most people have with messy bedrooms.
The biggest takeaway from this was that I need to take things seriously. I need to think about chores & improvements as something positive and exciting, because it is. Right now I undermine the importance of sleep and other things. I keep thinking it's not > a thing < I need to put my mind to, but it is
The full-grown man sitting in a play tent - autism means never having to grow up all the way. I'm over 60 and I still climb trees, because I like to climb trees.
I have been a chronic insomniac seemingly forever. I have both ASD and ADHD. I did a sleep study in 2022, the result of which was that my sleep issues relate to having a neuro-diverse brain (no surprise there). Out of that experience, I made a concerted effort to find my natural sleep cycle. I've always felt like I needed a 26 or 28 hour day, as I'm not tired when 'other' people go to bed. So, I followed my natural rhythm and have settled into a cycle where I go to bed between 1 and 2, and then get up between 9 and 9.30. I don't set an alarm (to avoid expectation anxiety), and I don't schedule appointments before 10.30am. Yes, it still takes me 15-30 minutes to fall asleep, but that is much better than 2-3 hours. I'm not sure if that will help anyone else, but it has made an immeasurable difference to me 🙃
I must confess I found your messy bedroom to be very tidy compared with the absolute mountain in my bedroom. But, the difference is, it is YOUR room and the level of tidyness someone can or can't tolerate is of course very individual. I have this amazing power of being able to 'nest' in a space within a very short period of time. I share my room with my husband and he is long suffering of my hoarding. I have planned to clear a decent sized area for almost 2 years. I finally did it and it was traumatising. Still glad it is done. But my brain is definitely not ok with it yet.
I feel weird in a room that isn't crowded and have worse trouble trying to sleep. I was raised in abuse and having stuff piled around me meant no one could sneak up on me while I was sleeping! So yes, different strokes...
I absolutely empathize with your struggles with sleep. I’ve had insomnia since I was seven or eight as my earliest recollection. I can’t turn my brain off and am so sensitive to touch and struggle to find a comfortable position. I’ve had problems with sleepwalking from the time I was a toddler and am prone to nightmares and night terrors even in my 50s. I’ve recently also worked with the 4-7-8 breathing technique, but just kind of internally time it since focusing on counting distracts me from sleeping. I’ve used fans for white noise for years and because I tend to be super sensitive to heat/being warm. I’ve had some success recently with a guided meditation sleep countdown followed by thunderstorm recordings or ocean noises all night and have recently been sleeping at least eight hours at night. I have various health conditions that make falling asleep difficult, but I find the guided meditation in conjunction with my religious beliefs and spiritual practices have made the falling asleep portion less anxious. I’ve also used my spiritual practices and religious beliefs to empower myself and feel I can exert a certain amount of control in these matters. Finding out I was autistic four years ago in my late forties really helped me understand myself and be less judgmental about my struggles. Thank you for sharing your struggles with us so we may know we’re not alone. Take care.
Thank you for this and sharing some of what worked for you! The struggle with temperature when trying to sleep and the difficulty of getting comfortable is hard to explain sometimes, esp to people who don’t have those challenges. Glad you found some ways that work for you!
I learned to sleep on my back with a pillow that has cushion and wedges to support my head correctly. Put a thicker pillow below my knees for back support. I have luxurious Egyptian cotton sheets, thick soft comforter , firm Japanese mattress with a foam topper. But my game changer was the Loop Quite earplugs. I don’t wake up at all since wearing those to sleep. I’m a very light sleeper with an adventurous night owl fur baby. Combine with a sleep mask that puts slight pressure on my eyes and I’m set. Thanks for the tips. 😊
I’m so laughing. All those things… but I took 10 years to figure it out. We made many of the same choices. Breathing, pillow (down of course), temperature (we put in a new heat pump that has a head in the bedroom so I can cool it in the summer and heat it on winter mornings), sound (live in a very quiet area now but I use rain sound and a fan), and routine. I have kept the room tidy for years and I make the bed every day. All of it really helps. Sweet dreams! 💤
Sure! Here’s your daily routine translated into English: --- **Morning (**6:59** - **11:00**)** 1. ****6:59** - **7:15** - Morning stretches and breathing exercises** **Goal:** Wake up and start the day relaxed. **Details:** Do light stretches and 5 minutes of deep breathing exercises. 2. ****7:15** - **7:30** - Shower and refresh** **Goal:** Feel energized. **Details:** Shower daily, without deodorant due to your allergy. 3. ****7:30** - **8:00** - Breakfast (sandwich with cucumber, cheese, egg, orange, walnut)** **Goal:** Nutritious start to the day. **Details:** Eat slowly and drink a glass of water with it. 4. ****8:00** - **8:30** - Sit quietly for digestion** **Goal:** Promote digestion and prevent stomach issues. 5. ****8:30** - **9:00** - Get dressed and groomed** **Details:** Choose comfortable, fresh clothing that fits your plans for the day. 6. ****9:00** - **9:15** - Short mindfulness or meditation exercise** **Goal:** Calm the mind and focus on the day. + Smile 😊 7. ****9:15** - **10:15** - First activity or work block** **Goal:** Be productive and focused. **Tip:** Work with focus and avoid distractions. 8. ****10:15** - **10:30** - Short break with water or tea and possibly a healthy snack (like fruit)** **Goal:** Hydration and replenishing energy. --- **Afternoon (**11:00** - **17:00**)** 1. ****11:00** - **12:30** - Second activity or work block** **Goal:** Make progress on morning tasks. 2. ****12:30** - **13:00** - Lunch with extra vegetables** **Details:** Think of a salad or vegetable soup alongside your regular meal. 3. ****13:00** - **13:30** - Sit quietly after lunch for digestion** **Goal:** Support digestion as you want after each meal. 4. ****13:30** - **15:00** - Third activity or work block** **Tip:** Try to stay focused and take a short break if needed. 5. ****15:00** - **15:15** - Break with mindfulness or meditation (5-10 min)** **Goal:** Refresh the mind. + Smile 😊 6. ****15:15** - **16:30** - Walk or get some fresh air** **Goal:** Fresh air and physical activity. **Tip:** Enjoy your surroundings and notice small details, like nearby animals. 7. ****16:30** - **17:00** - Rest break or power nap (90 minutes if needed)** **Goal:** Recover energy. --- **Evening (**17:00** - **23:00**)** 1. ****17:00** - **18:00** - Free time for relaxation** **Tip:** Choose an activity like reading or stargazing, without too many stimuli. 2. ****18:00** - **18:30** - Dinner with a variety of nutrients** **Details:** Add a variety of vegetables and drink a glass of water. 3. ****18:30** - **19:00** - Sit quietly for digestion** **Goal:** Like after every meal for calm digestion. 4. ****19:00** - **20:00** - Activity for mental relaxation** **Example:** Watch a movie, possibly with healthy snacks like nuts. 5. ****20:00** - **20:30** - Journal or emotion journal** **Goal:** Reflect on your day and feelings. 6. ****20:30** - **21:00** - Short stretch and breathing exercises** **Goal:** Relaxation before bedtime. 7. ****21:00** - **22:00** - Quiet activity, like stargazing or relaxing without screens** **Goal:** Smooth transition to bedtime. 8. ****22:00** - **22:15** - Brush teeth and finish evening routine** **Details:** Brush your teeth and mentally prepare for sleep. 9. ****22:15** - **23:00** - Bedtime** **Details:** Relax in bed without screens. So after you've slept, you're free to be a night owl! As long as you've gotten some sleep, you can wake up as early as you want! P.S.: Everything can happen earlier; nothing can happen later! --- I hope this helps you maintain your lovely routine! 🌟
This video is such a delightful little masterpiece! You somehow managed to get both motivational AND cozy vibes into one video! Thank you, this was fun and quite helpful.
Add in a nice weighted blanket and a huggy pillow for me, and except for that occasional bladder run I do sleep well most of the time. That bedtime routine is a key...for me it's knowing I have coffee in the maker to start in the morning. I also do a calendar check so I know what is coming up next day. My pillow choice is an organic latex molded one...but I had a neck injury and need that firmness with softness too. It has been a problem for MANY years to find a good pillow for my neck. Your segment at IKEA was a delight to watch! Heading to do my routine now...Sleep well, friend! How did Debbie take your moving all her stuff???
I hear ya on the messy room. My husband and I have been in a house without any of our furniture and there is not enough room for all our clothes or things in general and there a mess throughout because nothing has a home. It drives in nuts in general but even more so that my room is messy because I don’t have a clean place to retreat to. He doesn’t get it and he doesn’t care that everything is messy because he can’t see the mess as he says but our entire place is messier then your bedroom. I never want to have anyone over because it’s embarrassing.
Thank you for cleaning! I was debating whether to clean or not before bed. But when you started cleaning, I did too. I didnt get a lot done, but its better than nothing. To fall asleep, I either listen to soft thunder/rain or deep brown noise. I have the temp at 67° and have two fans going in whichever room I'm in . I have a cooling mattress pad, cooling pillow w/cooling pillowcase, and best of all, a cooling comforter! So, I can fall asleep much quicker, but I still wake up in the middle of the night for around 3 hours. Turns out, Im a biphasic sleeper.
I have to have 3 soft pillows, soft mattress protector, one lightweight quilt that I wrap around me, especially my torso. Then I have my heavy quilt on the top, for the weight. I leave it loose around my lower legs and feet as I can't bear them being hot and makes them restless!! I wish I had bedding like my nan had... All sheets and when they were tucked tight, it was the most calming feeling ever😍😍😍😍
11:16 OMG IN THE BACKGOUND they have big orca plushies!!! For years I've been looking for my small orca plushie's mother in order to adopt her !!! Edit : well, I've just looked on their website, it's more like the father, but it will be better than no relatives at all. THANK YOU SO MUCH !!! (well, that's probably not the thanks you expected, and your video is great and helpful but less exciting to me than an orca plushie)
In addition to getting a better mattress, pillows and pillow cases, I also have learned that I need to create a cocoon around me when I sleep. I surround my whole body with the pillows on my bed and make them into dug out type of situation. I also turn my fan towards my feet. I love the white noise of the fan too because it calms my brain and and helps me meditate before I fall asleep. Love the video! I wish I could sound proof my bedroom buy luckily my room only has one window and I have heavy curtains and a block out shade on it.
For years, i've been sleeping in a room, that i have built into my sleeping room around my king sized bed. Inside, it is absolutely dark, the walls are insulated against outside noise and covered with dark green fluffy faux fur. All i hear is the very quiet fan for ventilation, that i now really like, after getting used to it. It masks remaining outside sounds with its gentle white noise. The inside is full of plushies that i love, from small ones to really big ones like a life sized panda. They are one of the best stimming methods for me, also at daytime. Sometimes, i take a smaller one with me when driving my car or when going for a walk. I calm down, when i touch them and in my bed, i love to be completely surrounded by these lovely stuffed animals, as long as it does not get to warm. This now is my favorite and best safe place and i also get into it at daytime, if i need some rest. Most of the times, at night i fall asleep in under 30 minutes. The best thing is, that i enjoy being around my plushies so much, that i don't bother about insomnia anymore. I never get bored with them and only feel love (they are one of my special interests and craft many of them myself). Even if i can't sleep, my body can relax and i feel less tired the next day. Owning a very large collection, I also have some IKEA plushies :)
@@ChrisandDebby I’ve never been able to sleep for a long time, but the older I got the less I could sleep. Nothing healthy and legal was ever able to help me so I just accepted maybe I really don’t need to sleep all that much :)
@DottyDolly-39 Well, that adds up to a good amount of sleep. I've always been a night 🦉 owl, as they say. 3am is my bedtime, too. With all the things I've managed to figure out about myself since I found out I'm audhd, I'm sleeping by 4am. I give myself 9 hrs to sleep, but I usually wake up after 8 on my own. I bet your after tea nap is your best or favorite sleep of the day. I'm so glad I don't have to work anymore. I had a skill regression of sorts and have been in a burnout, I believe, for a few years. I always pick up tips in comment sections. 😃
@@Sunnyflower67 Do you wish you could sleep earlier or are you happy with the 3 am? I used to be similar but it was affecting my health..The optimal time that the body spends its time recovering and healing is between 10 pm and 2 am. I aim for much earlier now between 9:30 pm and 10:30 pm most days but occasionally it's 11/11:30.
Gotta block the light too! They make stickers to put over LED lights. I also wear a sleep mask and loop earplugs. Also a bed that doesn't move when you do! I got Thuma. And a mattress from Tuft and Needle.
Chris, I’ve always had trouble sleeping. And now I don’t have it anymore. I’m in the process of autism diagnosis. Try looking for a specialist in sleeping. For me it worked neatdly! It envolves what you did with a little bit more of strategies, like mind exercises and activation of the parasympathetic system. I hope you get it too. Cheers! ✌️ I’m very fond of your videos! Thanks!
I've bought all my current bed room stuff at Ikea! My bedroom walls are TARDIS blue (I've had this colour custom mixed at the nearest Gamma hardware store in my town) and my funriture is all white (brimnes bed, hauga wardrobes). I ordered the furniture online (delivery actually arrived half an hour before observing the national May 4th war memorial and there was more stuff than just the bed room so they took half an hour shoving it all into the temporary elevator(flat was undergoing renovations), headed back to the van to observe two minutes of silence (I was watching a memorial stream), then came back to unload all the stuff from the elevator. These guys are awesome! Before that, I tried several mattresses at the store and noted the one that was most comfy. I don't have issues with fabric textures, but prefer plain cotton since that both breathes and is absorbent when you sweat a lot. With the renovation, we also got new windows which are more insulating and reduce the noise from outside. I live across a school and three flats surround that school in a sort of U-shape. Imagine the fricking reverb of screaming kids in the school yard every day. It has been quite a nuisance while working from home, but now it's usually much more bearable. I hardly hear them now. Although, one teacher claps hands when calling them inside. That bloody hurts! But aside from that this neighbourhood is fairly quiet and this city doesn't have a lot of noise at night.
@@ChrisandDebby every time 🤣 I can't help but to touch and jump over and test every single texture in sight, specially if I'm thinking about taking it home. Also, questioning the plushies is just a must
I know it may not be a popular opinion, but THC has helped me a lot to sleep. Trazodone, melatonin, etc didn't cut it. I really appreciated your bed trying, though.
I'm not jealous, nope, not at all. Okay, maybe a wee bit. 😜 It's decades since I slept for more than a hour without waking, and I'm lucky if I'm asleep before 3am. Like you I've realised that I dread going to bed as it's such a head f* when I get there. Hope you continue to get good results.
I tried everything else you mentioned, and then some, including a cornucopia of prescription meds(everything from sleeping meds to off label use of antihistamines, mental health meds, muscle relaxants, and heart meds to slow your heart rate). None of it ever did anything but make me tired, even when done/taken together. I also don't have time to take an hour to go to sleep - I'm on an every-4-hours medication schedule for the other things that are wrong with me. Pot does it for me. High potency Indica. Gets me down for 4 hours at a stretch, instantly, every single time. I have to get up every 4 hours to take other medication so it probably works for longer, I just wouldn't know. Now I'm slowly reducing my meds and still sleeping soundly on pot. I have PTSD resulting from crime in addition to that caused by existing while autistic, and it's the only thing that shuts my brain off. If you don't respond to everything else and you have serious health problems and/or severe trauma in your past AND it's legal where you live I highly suggest trying a low dose and ramp up if/as necessary. But MOST people will respond well to what's talked about in this vid so commit to trying it diligently first before you try my method. Trust me when I say you don't want to be that outlier. It suuuuucks.
I have one specific brand and type of pillow. I got 4 of them: 1 for my own place, 1 for my girlfriend's place, 1 for my mom's place at the country side and 1 for my work place (for the break time, when I can have some rest). And I need my teddy bear, wich is the same pillows' brand. And I have 3 of them (yes, one for each home, I don't have a teddy at work).
Your noise part made me remember when I lived in a high rise that had TRAINS going THROUGH the building. All day and night, all the time, but not with any discernable pattern one might get used to like I got used to living across the street from a major airport when I was a kid. You didn't just HEAR it, you FELT it = and not just me, even the NTs were bothered by it. ... I'm starting to think this insomnia thing might not have only been a me problem. Not to start with anyway.
How do you manage hyperfocusing when you do these 10-15 min tasks? If it was me, 30m would pass without even noticing and i'd want to spend more time, probably.
I bought a Rest comforter too! I love it. We loved 😍 this video. The humor was great 👍🏼 👌🏻 including the rock music, f bomb, and teasing Debby about her side.😅 She'll appropriately getcha back! ❤ I have a problem with humidity, too! Either too dry or too wet. How's your machine working out and what is it? (If you don't mind the question.)😅 Is it a type of machine that can handle both situations? Btw, I'm so sorry for forgetting to answer your lovely email. I appreciated it so much. (I'm Kelly R. from 3 weeks ago.) My dr appt turned out to just be a referral to another dr, and I'm still really upset. 🙃Ya wanna talk about dropping a few f bombs!! I waited til I got home. Barely. 😮
I hate breathing exercises because they make me manually breathe which just gives me anxiety and makes me scared to fall asleep… also I’m watching this video as I’m trying to get ready for sleep, my only two tasks in my routine as of now are 1. take my meds and 2. Brush my teeth. I’m hoping to implement some of these ideas from this video 😁
I need my sleeping room to be very orderly like the rest of my appartment. It has to have a good temperature - but in Germany we usually don't have air conditioning. I need my dental splint and my ear plugs and before I fall asleep I am wearing my noise cancelling headphones. I have to prepare for sleeping two hours, in this time I am also eating my warm meal. If I don't I can't sleep because I am hungry. I watch an episode of one of my favorite series with my headphones on. I cuddle with my little cute grumpy old dog before sleeping. I sleep so much better since he is with me. ❤ But to fall asleep I need medical cannabis, it's the only thing that's helping me without having bad side effects. I have a serious case of insomnia going on and without medication I just don't fall asleep, I would just lay there until the next day. And I go to sleep most times in between 10 p.m. and midnight, I need my 8 hours. AuDHD with restless legs here.😉
Oooh, question about rls. Do you, or anyone that you might have heard of, have any problems with taking adhd stimulant meds when you have rls? I'm trying to get a prescription, and I'm worried about my legs. They're perfectly controlled right now and I am SO afraid to mess that up! 🫣 I like cannibas gummies for depression. No side effects. Thank you. 😊
@@Sunnyflower67 I don't take any meds for my ADHD besides my medical cannabis on very hyperactiv days. I am a non responder to methylphenidat, so stuff like ritalin doesn't work but it had very bad side effects like depression and insomnia that lastet days. And I couldn't even sit still or lay down. (They gave it to me once during the diagnosis.) I also tried venlafaxin, it was pure horror. I took some promethazin for my anxiety, it made my restless legs very bad, too. I don't know anyone who takes stimulants for ADHD, sorry. It's very individual, so if you really want to know if you can take stimulants and being well, you have to try. Personally I didn't want classic medication for my ADHD, I have better ways to cope with it. I trained myself, my mom is my coach, I am a freelancer and I work only at home...
@@Sunnyflower67@Flopsi80 Hi! Auadhd ER here. I wanted to ask, since you both have RLS - have you had your iron (specifically, ferritin) levels checked? I've had RLS for 20+ years and discovered a ferritin level above 70 units made mine go away completely. I just wonder how many of us have RLS because of that....
When I was a kid I had many sleep issues from not being able to get to sleep to nightmares. As a younger adult I also had some sleep issues which were mainly not being able to make that transition from activity to getting into bed. As a 46 year old I do still have some struggles with the transition period but I wouldn't be able to sleep that well if I didn't have my in-ear phones and my sleep story podcast. I'm now usually asleep after 10-15 mins. P.s Homemaker Chic recommend Birch mattresses (organic) and American Blossom Linens. They're all natural, no nasty chemicals and are apparently excellent quality. Feel free to investigate.
My sleep was so bad I started doing expensive sleep studies to find out what was wrong... Turns out that while I do have a sleep disorder (circadian rhythm isnt standard), my biggest problem was my living situation. I didn't feel safe at home, I was depressed and anxious AF and even when I wasn't dealing with revenge sleep procrastination, my brain simple wouldn't settle because of the constant fight or flight state. And even when I could quiet my brain, there was still so much pent up stress, I'd be tired enough to feel like I was dreaming, but still be aware of the real world... Then that became hallucinations, dreams of waking up and starting my day so convincing when I actually woke for real it was heart breaking. Or laying there, knowing I was asleep and desperately trying to wake up but being completely unable to combined with sleep paralysis. Oh! And the there was the exploding head syndrome moments that would interrupt the very rare times I DID get to sleep. Good fun. I thought my brain was truly f*cked. Hence expensive studies trying to work out what we could do since sleeping meds made waking impossible and hallucinations worse. But no medication meant no sleep and slowly dying. Then... I moved away from where I had been living, in with friends, in a home we are paying off the mortgage on and will one day co-own. It wasn't immediate, but it was quick. I started slowly being able to fall asleep faster, earlier. The first 2 months I would struggle with getting up still, sometimes sleep for days. But gradually, I started being able to wake up at a more reasonable time and still have energy to do stuff through the day. Now I get between 8 and 9 hours sleep most nights. I still need help waking up, I simply can't wake without help yet. But when my carer comes to wake me in the morning, I don't dread it, and I don't have dreams about struggling to wake but being unable to. I can usually sit up, recieve my morning coffee and breakfast and stay awake. On the days where I can't, I can at least let my carer know to give me another hour or two since I do still get nightmares and I've had exploding head syndrome events for as long as I can remember. But unless I seriously overworked the day before, or I'm sick... I now consistently sleep a healthy amount and can get out of bed to live. All because I moved to a safer home. So to anyone having consistent sleep trouble despite sleep hygiene and good routines, don't give up! I knew where I was living wasn't great for me... But I never would have guessed it was the reason my sleep was completely and utterly disfunctional. I genuinely never realized just how bad that house had been making me feel and the amount of stress it was putting me under. I the moment if someone had said I wasn't sleeping die to where I lived, I wouldn't have believed them... But it appears that is indeed why my sleep was so screwed. I'm not saying if your sleeps screwed it's your living situation! It's more to do with that constant state of fight or flight. The ongoing depression and extreme anxiety that many of us are experiencing due to various world and life stresses. If you manage to remove enough stress, your sleep routines, hygiene can start actually working. So don't give up
You poor thing. 😔[a bit of sympathy may not help, but it can't hurt] My husband developed pulsitive tinnitus about 18mths ago after a diagnostic procedure to check for changes in the size of his aneurysm. They've discovered recently using a CT scan, a pocket of air, and some fluid behind the offending side's eardrum. He's getting tubes put in this coming week. He's got a good chance of at least quieting it down considerably, I believe. I'm glad they're taking this condition seriously. Of course, it took a number of deaths attributed to living with tinnitus before doctors DID take it seriously. It's the same with RLS, I don't think I'd be here now if I hadn't found my sleep neurologist. I'm glad you've found some ways to live with it. Here's to finding a cure soon. 🥂😊
Autistic advice for surviving shopping at IKEA: 1) If possible, don't choose while you're there... Bring a list, 2) Go alone, 3) Get one of those carts that spin in all directions, 4) Push it a little too fast, 5) Pretend you're playing Asteroids. Pew Pew.
Have you tried white noise machine or simmilar for the noise outside? Silk pillow cases, satin cotton sheets are really nice. Or bamboo or with lyocell are good options. Still struggling with the pillows filling/shape, depends on the day... I'm so curious again about your fidgeting toys, so sad not available in my country 😢
Sad for you about the Nee-doh cubes! Which country is that? Just wondering if it's one that will get them soon. (Hope so for you!) I haven't tried a white noise machine but I have a hard time with even consistent noises sometimes - like my fan sometimes on the wrong setting will be too loud. Same with the air purifier, so I have to turn it off at night. And the pillow struggle is so hard!! I have a collection of pillows too because yes, it definitely depends on the day. Hope you find some good options for yourself!
IKEA needs to invest in getting some bamboo sheets, pillowcases and duvet covers. When it is hot out, living in the EU with no AC, cotton just does not cut it, and heck with polyesters. I cannot sleep if my body temperature is too warm or if the room temperature goes above 17 C, which it does this time of year. Heck why am I returning to the EU from my mom’s nice AC home? Don’t even get me started on no window screens to keep the bugs out… Yeah I have some sleep issues. Falling asleep if I use the calm app does not work. Breathing exercises does not work because I love counting, and I will count until I am in the 1000s. So, I listen to a calm sleep story before bed all the way through so i know the story.I play the same rotation, so the voice helps me fall asleep. If I have a story to focus my listening on, my ADHD brain shuts the heck up. If I wake up at 4 or something, I just do my business and play another well loved story and fall easily back to sleep.
To avoid waking up to go to the toilet, I drink lots of water during the day so I can stop drinking water about 4 hours before going to bed. That way I am hydrated but don't have a full bladder.
Marijuana alcohol and sleeping pills all worked for a while, but all lost their ability to make me sleep and just kept me intoxicated. The trick for me is physical exhaustion. I just work out every day, and eventually i wear myself out
I’ve been using wearing a mask, and yoga Nidra body scan with a guided meditation but I find I constantly need to find a new coach doing the guided meditation. I’m going to try the cleaning and bedding stuff now!
I bought my middle kid the Kingston t-shirts after you mentioned them once - do they make that hoodie shirt you are wearing too? cant find it on amazon
To me it would somewhat feel like sleeping in a grave with those windows sealed. 😨 In fact, I don't think I'd be able to sleep there. Otherwise it's a nice bedroom. 😊 Thanks for the video. I've been trying all sorts of stuff in order to improve my sleeping routine, but I still haven't managed. The first step is to take it really serious and make it a top priority, like you did. I function so much better after only a good night's sleep. How much better could life be, if I slept well and sufficiently long most nights? 🤔
It’s also really important for me that I accomplish a certain amount each day. If I reach my goals for the day, I sleep better at night. It also helps me going to bed knowing what my plan for the next day is.
@@ChrisandDebby It's a vicious circle. If you don't accomplish much during the day, sleep at night will be worse ending up in accomplishing less the next day. If you accomplish a sufficient number of things to your satisfaction, sleep will be better. So having a good and sensible plan with realistic goals can be really helpful. Setting realistic goals is important. If someone is very exhausted it may be realistic to start off with only very few goals for the day, which can be accomplished more easily, thus increasing chances for better sleep at night.
I started to take melatonin and it helped me start sleeping normal hours. Then I found it made me feel sick and the nausea was horrendous. I also have to stop playing video games at night. I found watching the same movie every night on my iPad. I turn the brightness all the way down and the volume just loud enough to shut my brain off and I am asleep within 5mins of shark tale lol I have hard pillows for between my legs because I have sciatica and 3 softer pillows with different densities and I switch between them depending on how I am feeling. I have a pillow under my head and I cuddle one. I also have a cuddle buddy for sensory sensitive nights, it helps me stay calm.
@jacqpinks Yes, definitely turning off the blue light from various screens helps sleep so much! As you found out. I take melatonin, too. I use the gummies and a few crackers right before stops nausea. Also, I only take 2.5 mg. I've read that most people take too much because stores are pushing amounts up to 15mg. (We only need 1 or 2.) It doesn't matter, though, as long as you've found a way to sleep better.😊
My friends always say, pull up the blinds for the sun😁Now I see you blinding everything for sound😁How did your wife find your solution?? Was she happy with it too? Sleeping is a Thing Apart for Autism and Others. At high voltage I sleep very poorly and the event is over, I sleep through 1.5 days❣️
For me, my main problem with trying to get to sleep is I have racing thoughts. I sometimes wear earphones and listen to movie commentary or a compilation video's audio for something to focus on.
I know exactly what you mean. My brain is always running crazy at night. I’m worried about wearing earphones because I can’t sleep with them on. How does that work for you? Do you keep the earphones on while you sleep?
I hear that melatonin needs to be taken a "certain way." For one thing, it seems that we only need half a milligram instead of the 5mg most supplements contain. Timing is important, too. I read about it on a circadian disorder website. Good sleep, everyone! ❤
My son diagnose with ASD 10 year old will take 1 mg and after 30 minutes he can goes to sleep. If he will not want to he will be sleepy but can stay awake. So this is not some kind of sleep pill that knock you down. I taking 1-2 melatonin gummies 2mg. For me also after 30 minutes I will me groggy but if will not go to bed I can stay I watch movie or play games. Before meeting my son fall asleep after 2-3 hour in bed and it was exhausting for us. I always struggle with insomnia and as a kid it took me also hours to fall asleep and as adult it was worse. And melatonin will help you fall asleep but it will not keep you a sleep if you have strong anxiety you will wake up but also in first 2-3 of the sleep it is easier to fall back asleep
Aww I'm dealing with the bed and pillow problem too. My bed is ancient, pillow doesn't support my head and neck properly and everything remotely connected to my vertebrae hurt like heck 😭
My bedroom is too small for even the smallest AC unit. I’m tempted to try a heat pump, but that’s an experiment that will cost well over a thousand dollars for just one tiny room. Probably more like two thousand. But they both cool by removing humidity, which is a problem. My bedroom is also too small for a humidifier. And window AC lets in light, which is a big issue, and a heat pump is even more of an overkill in a small room. 😢
I used to sleep in a really tiny room and it drove me crazy. Oddly enough, if the room is too big it also bothers me. Are you in a geographic location that gets hot?
@@ChrisandDebby It's temperate humid mountains here. Last week we had temperatures between 40 and 85F. It can get over 100 in summer and below -10 in winter.
Omg… that’s insane. I can’t do hot temperatures anymore. I stop sleeping and my body slowly breaks down. You gotta get a bigger bedroom so you can get some proper AC!! 🧊🧊
I pull up a comedy routine on TH-cam to calm down my brain. It works pretty quick most of the time, but I don't stay asleep for 8 hours. BTW, listening to trump drone on and on, puts me to sleep even faster😂😂 Yeah, you're supposed to clean the filters once a year😂😂😂
I have this nasty little problem where my eyes don’t stay shut! 😡 As soon as I fall asleep, my eyes pop open and if there’s ANY light in the room it will wake me up! I have to wear a mask and take sleeping aids!
If you have a partner, make sure you are 'on a promise', that should firstly, get you into bed, and secondly sleep afterwards! Lol! If not, take care of yourself...that is if you have the motivation to do so. That is where, if you have a great partner, THEY force you to 'enjoy' yourself! Lol!
I was with you until you covered all the windows that would send me absolutely over the edge I have to have natural light to rise 😱😱😱 Other than that, great video, very entertaining 😂
I know!! It wasn’t an easy decision to cover the windows. I felt like I didn’t have any other options because the noise was so loud. Its helped me stay asleep longer, but I also like natural light. I’ve been able to spend long periods of time outside Taiwan so that also has helped. Thanks for sharing!
Ok this is going to sound like a planned plug, but I swear it’s not. Yes to all of the above that you have done, but add in one thing. TH-cam channel called Get Sleepy. For me, I am asleep in 5 minutes and I sleep well for at least 5-6 hours. When I wake up, if I am still tired, I roll over and re run the TH-cam video, and , again, I am out in 5 minutes! Maybe it can work for you, who knows. I do know it has been working for me!
I appreciate this content- but there is a part about this that felt unfair to Debby. Did anyone else wonder about this? It’s like all these decisions were made and she wasn’t engaged or participating- I mean she sleeps in there too. I’m confused and concerned 🤔
Are you kidding me?? 😂😂😂 You do not know my wife Debby!! If Debby didn’t want the windows covered or a fan in the room, there wouldn’t be. Deb might be tiny… but she packs a punch!! What never made the video is Debby helping me set up most of the sound insulation. Deb picked out and ordered the fan. Deb told me exactly where she wanted things when I was cleaning up her nightstand… she was literally in the room laughing and having a great time as I was doing it. We are partners and best friends and just because she’s not in all the videos doesn’t mean she’s not included. Not one of my videos would happen without Deb. Deb wants you to know that she’s high-fiving you though for having her back and if I ever leave her out of an important decision, you’ll be the first to know. 🙌🙌
My mostly successful, though not foolproof, plan for getting to sleep effectively with AuDHD: 1. Set an alarm to start bedtime routine. I'm not good at promptly wrapping up what I'm doing in response to this alarm, but it's a start. 2. Read. Ideally 15-30 minutes, though sometimes I conk out early. This decelerates my brain. 3. Once my head hits the pillow and I close my eyes, I give my brain one thing to focus on. This is the ideal behind counting sleep, although that's too boring for me. I usually either write a mental draft of something I need to write, or I mentally rehearse a presentation I'm going to be giving in the near future. Before I had a career where I wrote and spoke frequently I had a fictional world in my head and I would imagine something set in that world (I guess I was writing before I was writing). If I'm not asleep within about 15 minutes, I go back to step 2. I usually have a book around for secondary reading which is a bit dry - something I do want to read but which isn't particularly engaging (ex: encyclopedia). Fortunately I've never needed hours to fall asleep.
Hi Chris.. yep! Falling asleep is challenging for me, too and liked your suggestions. One suggestion is that we enjoy watching, but could do without the f-bomb. We love the channel besides that, though.
oh my god, are you trying to kill us with extra loud unequalized electric guitar music that went on for way too many seconds? i jumped out of my skin and turned you off. i came back a day later and kept the volume off until after the black and white horror scene. my side, debbys side went on and on too, but was pleasant. thanks for the research. i had visceral empathy for you at IKEA. im a visual thinker, so now ive seen your butt sticking out of the sheets. have you tried a nightguard? get it from a reputable dentist. dont bother with the do it yourself. they can wreck your bite and give you TMJ. Also, you might like a weighted body pillow to provide side support. Definitely get a few large squishmellows (without protrusions). Awesome comminity here.
Ah, I see. This is nu-autism, where you're just a reddit user with a film degree, not classic autism, where you would communicate this stuff as a series of bullet points.
I’ve suffered with insomnia for decades, but it wasn’t until I realized I am Autistic that I started looking for ways to take back control of my (lack of) sleep. Since my brain refuses to shut down and be quiet so that I can fall asleep, I’ve been experimenting with listening to different ‘sound baths’. I thought I would share my favorite channel as his work and my soul and brain seem to vibe more than any other one I’ve found! He actually has two channels: one for healing and one for sleep sound baths. My favorite so far was the New Moon sound bath he released on his Healing Vibrations channel ❤ youtube.com/@healingvibrations?si=dsuS0WMNVAJzS1PF youtube.com/@sleepingvibrations?si=yrsi2F4nMkBNYdtC
"If something didn't change, I wasn't gonna survive. " Yeah, I feel that.
That is litterally me right now. Haven't watched the whole video yet. This comment was just at the top, so I spotted it. It's now on my playlist of the videos, I'm checking this week. Can't wait... but I have to for now... limited ability to focus, consume, and to digest in-depth information. So, I have to take this sort of information/help in in manageable chunks.
I feel for all the people with sleep issues. I'm autistic and used to have difficulty sleeping as a child. Fortunately, not as much now. Thinking deeply about my special interests is what helps me drift off the most... I guess autistic problems require autistic solutions. 🙂
Yes! That's exactly what's helped me since I was a young child, focusing my thoughts on things I wanted to do, long before I knew I was autistic- (only just recently diagnosed at 53)💯💖🤟🏼✌🏼
@@rushfan1970 Dx same age. Now 65. Dx. Was a game changer in a powerful and positive way!
Pillow problem- it is, it always has been and will bee, but for now I solved it with Squishmallow 🐶 yes! A big one!
My pillow of choice is a pure duck down-filled, 80 x 80 cm one I brought from Germany. I love the generous proportion and softness (that still gives support because it's also generously filled), it's like sinking into a cloud. It didn't come cheap but worth every penny.
My place needs improvement (dusty piles that need to be gone through especially), but I've always avoided some of the key missteps:
1. Laundry goes to the laundry baskets; never to the floor.
2. Dishes always go to the sink; never left outside the kitchen.
That right there solves 95% of the problems most people have with messy bedrooms.
The biggest takeaway from this was that I need to take things seriously. I need to think about chores & improvements as something positive and exciting, because it is. Right now I undermine the importance of sleep and other things. I keep thinking it's not > a thing < I need to put my mind to, but it is
The full-grown man sitting in a play tent - autism means never having to grow up all the way. I'm over 60 and I still climb trees, because I like to climb trees.
I LOVE CLIMBING TREES. Almost 50, I am. A full grown woman. :D
I have been a chronic insomniac seemingly forever. I have both ASD and ADHD. I did a sleep study in 2022, the result of which was that my sleep issues relate to having a neuro-diverse brain (no surprise there). Out of that experience, I made a concerted effort to find my natural sleep cycle. I've always felt like I needed a 26 or 28 hour day, as I'm not tired when 'other' people go to bed. So, I followed my natural rhythm and have settled into a cycle where I go to bed between 1 and 2, and then get up between 9 and 9.30. I don't set an alarm (to avoid expectation anxiety), and I don't schedule appointments before 10.30am. Yes, it still takes me 15-30 minutes to fall asleep, but that is much better than 2-3 hours. I'm not sure if that will help anyone else, but it has made an immeasurable difference to me 🙃
My sleep schedule is the same/close to yours. The same is true for appointments and no alarms.
@@jacquelinewillems981 Life's too short to follow the pack. You have to find what works for you 🙂
I must confess I found your messy bedroom to be very tidy compared with the absolute mountain in my bedroom. But, the difference is, it is YOUR room and the level of tidyness someone can or can't tolerate is of course very individual. I have this amazing power of being able to 'nest' in a space within a very short period of time. I share my room with my husband and he is long suffering of my hoarding. I have planned to clear a decent sized area for almost 2 years. I finally did it and it was traumatising. Still glad it is done. But my brain is definitely not ok with it yet.
I feel weird in a room that isn't crowded and have worse trouble trying to sleep. I was raised in abuse and having stuff piled around me meant no one could sneak up on me while I was sleeping! So yes, different strokes...
I absolutely empathize with your struggles with sleep. I’ve had insomnia since I was seven or eight as my earliest recollection. I can’t turn my brain off and am so sensitive to touch and struggle to find a comfortable position. I’ve had problems with sleepwalking from the time I was a toddler and am prone to nightmares and night terrors even in my 50s. I’ve recently also worked with the 4-7-8 breathing technique, but just kind of internally time it since focusing on counting distracts me from sleeping. I’ve used fans for white noise for years and because I tend to be super sensitive to heat/being warm. I’ve had some success recently with a guided meditation sleep countdown followed by thunderstorm recordings or ocean noises all night and have recently been sleeping at least eight hours at night. I have various health conditions that make falling asleep difficult, but I find the guided meditation in conjunction with my religious beliefs and spiritual practices have made the falling asleep portion less anxious. I’ve also used my spiritual practices and religious beliefs to empower myself and feel I can exert a certain amount of control in these matters. Finding out I was autistic four years ago in my late forties really helped me understand myself and be less judgmental about my struggles. Thank you for sharing your struggles with us so we may know we’re not alone. Take care.
Thank you for this and sharing some of what worked for you! The struggle with temperature when trying to sleep and the difficulty of getting comfortable is hard to explain sometimes, esp to people who don’t have those challenges. Glad you found some ways that work for you!
I learned to sleep on my back with a pillow that has cushion and wedges to support my head correctly. Put a thicker pillow below my knees for back support. I have luxurious Egyptian cotton sheets, thick soft comforter , firm Japanese mattress with a foam topper. But my game changer was the Loop Quite earplugs. I don’t wake up at all since wearing those to sleep. I’m a very light sleeper with an adventurous night owl fur baby. Combine with a sleep mask that puts slight pressure on my eyes and I’m set. Thanks for the tips. 😊
I’m so laughing. All those things… but I took 10 years to figure it out.
We made many of the same choices. Breathing, pillow (down of course), temperature (we put in a new heat pump that has a head in the bedroom so I can cool it in the summer and heat it on winter mornings), sound (live in a very quiet area now but I use rain sound and a fan), and routine. I have kept the room tidy for years and I make the bed every day.
All of it really helps.
Sweet dreams! 💤
Sure! Here’s your daily routine translated into English:
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**Morning (**6:59** - **11:00**)**
1. ****6:59** - **7:15** - Morning stretches and breathing exercises**
**Goal:** Wake up and start the day relaxed.
**Details:** Do light stretches and 5 minutes of deep breathing exercises.
2. ****7:15** - **7:30** - Shower and refresh**
**Goal:** Feel energized.
**Details:** Shower daily, without deodorant due to your allergy.
3. ****7:30** - **8:00** - Breakfast (sandwich with cucumber, cheese, egg, orange, walnut)**
**Goal:** Nutritious start to the day.
**Details:** Eat slowly and drink a glass of water with it.
4. ****8:00** - **8:30** - Sit quietly for digestion**
**Goal:** Promote digestion and prevent stomach issues.
5. ****8:30** - **9:00** - Get dressed and groomed**
**Details:** Choose comfortable, fresh clothing that fits your plans for the day.
6. ****9:00** - **9:15** - Short mindfulness or meditation exercise**
**Goal:** Calm the mind and focus on the day.
+ Smile 😊
7. ****9:15** - **10:15** - First activity or work block**
**Goal:** Be productive and focused.
**Tip:** Work with focus and avoid distractions.
8. ****10:15** - **10:30** - Short break with water or tea and possibly a healthy snack (like fruit)**
**Goal:** Hydration and replenishing energy.
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**Afternoon (**11:00** - **17:00**)**
1. ****11:00** - **12:30** - Second activity or work block**
**Goal:** Make progress on morning tasks.
2. ****12:30** - **13:00** - Lunch with extra vegetables**
**Details:** Think of a salad or vegetable soup alongside your regular meal.
3. ****13:00** - **13:30** - Sit quietly after lunch for digestion**
**Goal:** Support digestion as you want after each meal.
4. ****13:30** - **15:00** - Third activity or work block**
**Tip:** Try to stay focused and take a short break if needed.
5. ****15:00** - **15:15** - Break with mindfulness or meditation (5-10 min)**
**Goal:** Refresh the mind.
+ Smile 😊
6. ****15:15** - **16:30** - Walk or get some fresh air**
**Goal:** Fresh air and physical activity.
**Tip:** Enjoy your surroundings and notice small details, like nearby animals.
7. ****16:30** - **17:00** - Rest break or power nap (90 minutes if needed)**
**Goal:** Recover energy.
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**Evening (**17:00** - **23:00**)**
1. ****17:00** - **18:00** - Free time for relaxation**
**Tip:** Choose an activity like reading or stargazing, without too many stimuli.
2. ****18:00** - **18:30** - Dinner with a variety of nutrients**
**Details:** Add a variety of vegetables and drink a glass of water.
3. ****18:30** - **19:00** - Sit quietly for digestion**
**Goal:** Like after every meal for calm digestion.
4. ****19:00** - **20:00** - Activity for mental relaxation**
**Example:** Watch a movie, possibly with healthy snacks like nuts.
5. ****20:00** - **20:30** - Journal or emotion journal**
**Goal:** Reflect on your day and feelings.
6. ****20:30** - **21:00** - Short stretch and breathing exercises**
**Goal:** Relaxation before bedtime.
7. ****21:00** - **22:00** - Quiet activity, like stargazing or relaxing without screens**
**Goal:** Smooth transition to bedtime.
8. ****22:00** - **22:15** - Brush teeth and finish evening routine**
**Details:** Brush your teeth and mentally prepare for sleep.
9. ****22:15** - **23:00** - Bedtime**
**Details:** Relax in bed without screens.
So after you've slept, you're free to be a night owl! As long as you've gotten some sleep, you can wake up as early as you want!
P.S.: Everything can happen earlier; nothing can happen later!
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I hope this helps you maintain your lovely routine! 🌟
This video is such a delightful little masterpiece! You somehow managed to get both motivational AND cozy vibes into one video! Thank you, this was fun and quite helpful.
Add in a nice weighted blanket and a huggy pillow for me, and except for that occasional bladder run I do sleep well most of the time.
That bedtime routine is a key...for me it's knowing I have coffee in the maker to start in the morning. I also do a calendar check so I know what is coming up next day.
My pillow choice is an organic latex molded one...but I had a neck injury and need that firmness with softness too. It has been a problem for MANY years to find a good pillow for my neck. Your segment at IKEA was a delight to watch!
Heading to do my routine now...Sleep well, friend! How did Debbie take your moving all her stuff???
Thank you for the modified 4-7-8. I always felt like the holding part is too long. Never thought about easing into it.
I hear ya on the messy room. My husband and I have been in a house without any of our furniture and there is not enough room for all our clothes or things in general and there a mess throughout because nothing has a home. It drives in nuts in general but even more so that my room is messy because I don’t have a clean place to retreat to. He doesn’t get it and he doesn’t care that everything is messy because he can’t see the mess as he says but our entire place is messier then your bedroom. I never want to have anyone over because it’s embarrassing.
63.7 degrees and 45% humidity. it's also the perfect atmosphere to dry weed.
Hahahaha I just made an entry about weed - high potency Indica works every time to put me to sleep.
Love my hemp! I want a farm. 73 and Edible/Medicinal Wildcrafter for 54 years!
@@burnyizland Me, too! Indica is so good for pain!
Thank you for cleaning! I was debating whether to clean or not before bed. But when you started cleaning, I did too. I didnt get a lot done, but its better than nothing.
To fall asleep, I either listen to soft thunder/rain or deep brown noise. I have the temp at 67° and have two fans going in whichever room I'm in . I have a cooling mattress pad, cooling pillow w/cooling pillowcase, and best of all, a cooling comforter!
So, I can fall asleep much quicker, but I still wake up in the middle of the night for around 3 hours. Turns out, Im a biphasic sleeper.
I have to have 3 soft pillows, soft mattress protector, one lightweight quilt that I wrap around me, especially my torso. Then I have my heavy quilt on the top, for the weight. I leave it loose around my lower legs and feet as I can't bear them being hot and makes them restless!! I wish I had bedding like my nan had... All sheets and when they were tucked tight, it was the most calming feeling ever😍😍😍😍
11:16 OMG IN THE BACKGOUND they have big orca plushies!!! For years I've been looking for my small orca plushie's mother in order to adopt her !!! Edit : well, I've just looked on their website, it's more like the father, but it will be better than no relatives at all. THANK YOU SO MUCH !!! (well, that's probably not the thanks you expected, and your video is great and helpful but less exciting to me than an orca plushie)
Haha that is awesome! Glad this was helpful to you in multiple ways 😊 I have a penguin plushie named Pudge
In addition to getting a better mattress, pillows and pillow cases, I also have learned that I need to create a cocoon around me when I sleep. I surround my whole body with the pillows on my bed and make them into dug out type of situation. I also turn my fan towards my feet. I love the white noise of the fan too because it calms my brain and and helps me meditate before I fall asleep. Love the video! I wish I could sound proof my bedroom buy luckily my room only has one window and I have heavy curtains and a block out shade on it.
I do the exact same thing with the pillows😂❤ it makes you feel so comfortable and secure. As you said a “cocoon” 🫶
For years, i've been sleeping in a room, that i have built into my sleeping room around my king sized bed. Inside, it is absolutely dark, the walls are insulated against outside noise and covered with dark green fluffy faux fur. All i hear is the very quiet fan for ventilation, that i now really like, after getting used to it. It masks remaining outside sounds with its gentle white noise.
The inside is full of plushies that i love, from small ones to really big ones like a life sized panda. They are one of the best stimming methods for me, also at daytime. Sometimes, i take a smaller one with me when driving my car or when going for a walk. I calm down, when i touch them and in my bed, i love to be completely surrounded by these lovely stuffed animals, as long as it does not get to warm. This now is my favorite and best safe place and i also get into it at daytime, if i need some rest.
Most of the times, at night i fall asleep in under 30 minutes. The best thing is, that i enjoy being around my plushies so much, that i don't bother about insomnia anymore. I never get bored with them and only feel love (they are one of my special interests and craft many of them myself). Even if i can't sleep, my body can relax and i feel less tired the next day.
Owning a very large collection, I also have some IKEA plushies :)
Ive found for me is shredded memory foam is the best for me. It keeps its shape and therefore my head in the position I want.
Tbh I’m autistic and my brain needs to catch a break, but I can hardly ever sleep more than four or five hours per night, I’m going insane 😂
Yes! The sleep struggles are so hard, even when exhausted. Hard to shut our brains off! Have you found anything that helps?
@@ChrisandDebby I’ve never been able to sleep for a long time, but the older I got the less I could sleep. Nothing healthy and legal was ever able to help me so I just accepted maybe I really don’t need to sleep all that much :)
Btw, I really love u guys ❤️
@DottyDolly-39 Well, that adds up to a good amount of sleep. I've always been a night 🦉 owl, as they say. 3am is my bedtime, too. With all the things I've managed to figure out about myself since I found out I'm audhd, I'm sleeping by 4am. I give myself 9 hrs to sleep, but I usually wake up after 8 on my own. I bet your after tea nap is your best or favorite sleep of the day. I'm so glad I don't have to work anymore. I had a skill regression of sorts and have been in a burnout, I believe, for a few years.
I always pick up tips in comment sections. 😃
@@Sunnyflower67 Do you wish you could sleep earlier or are you happy with the 3 am?
I used to be similar but it was affecting my health..The optimal time that the body spends its time recovering and healing is between 10 pm and 2 am. I aim for much earlier now between 9:30 pm and 10:30 pm most days but occasionally it's 11/11:30.
Gotta block the light too! They make stickers to put over LED lights. I also wear a sleep mask and loop earplugs. Also a bed that doesn't move when you do! I got Thuma. And a mattress from Tuft and Needle.
Chris, I’ve always had trouble sleeping. And now I don’t have it anymore. I’m in the process of autism diagnosis. Try looking for a specialist in sleeping. For me it worked neatdly! It envolves what you did with a little bit more of strategies, like mind exercises and activation of the parasympathetic system. I hope you get it too. Cheers! ✌️ I’m very fond of your videos! Thanks!
Release this just in time. Been having one of those nights
I've bought all my current bed room stuff at Ikea! My bedroom walls are TARDIS blue (I've had this colour custom mixed at the nearest Gamma hardware store in my town) and my funriture is all white (brimnes bed, hauga wardrobes). I ordered the furniture online (delivery actually arrived half an hour before observing the national May 4th war memorial and there was more stuff than just the bed room so they took half an hour shoving it all into the temporary elevator(flat was undergoing renovations), headed back to the van to observe two minutes of silence (I was watching a memorial stream), then came back to unload all the stuff from the elevator. These guys are awesome!
Before that, I tried several mattresses at the store and noted the one that was most comfy. I don't have issues with fabric textures, but prefer plain cotton since that both breathes and is absorbent when you sweat a lot.
With the renovation, we also got new windows which are more insulating and reduce the noise from outside. I live across a school and three flats surround that school in a sort of U-shape. Imagine the fricking reverb of screaming kids in the school yard every day. It has been quite a nuisance while working from home, but now it's usually much more bearable. I hardly hear them now. Although, one teacher claps hands when calling them inside. That bloody hurts! But aside from that this neighbourhood is fairly quiet and this city doesn't have a lot of noise at night.
The ikea shopping moment felt so damn relatable 😂
Sounds like you’ve had those IKEA moments too? 🤣
@@ChrisandDebby every time 🤣 I can't help but to touch and jump over and test every single texture in sight, specially if I'm thinking about taking it home. Also, questioning the plushies is just a must
I sleep in my oversized overstuffed rocker recliner (have back stenosis)
I know it may not be a popular opinion, but THC has helped me a lot to sleep. Trazodone, melatonin, etc didn't cut it.
I really appreciated your bed trying, though.
I'm not jealous, nope, not at all. Okay, maybe a wee bit. 😜 It's decades since I slept for more than a hour without waking, and I'm lucky if I'm asleep before 3am. Like you I've realised that I dread going to bed as it's such a head f* when I get there. Hope you continue to get good results.
I tried everything else you mentioned, and then some, including a cornucopia of prescription meds(everything from sleeping meds to off label use of antihistamines, mental health meds, muscle relaxants, and heart meds to slow your heart rate). None of it ever did anything but make me tired, even when done/taken together.
I also don't have time to take an hour to go to sleep - I'm on an every-4-hours medication schedule for the other things that are wrong with me.
Pot does it for me. High potency Indica. Gets me down for 4 hours at a stretch, instantly, every single time. I have to get up every 4 hours to take other medication so it probably works for longer, I just wouldn't know.
Now I'm slowly reducing my meds and still sleeping soundly on pot. I have PTSD resulting from crime in addition to that caused by existing while autistic, and it's the only thing that shuts my brain off.
If you don't respond to everything else and you have serious health problems and/or severe trauma in your past AND it's legal where you live I highly suggest trying a low dose and ramp up if/as necessary. But MOST people will respond well to what's talked about in this vid so commit to trying it diligently first before you try my method. Trust me when I say you don't want to be that outlier. It suuuuucks.
I have one specific brand and type of pillow. I got 4 of them: 1 for my own place, 1 for my girlfriend's place, 1 for my mom's place at the country side and 1 for my work place (for the break time, when I can have some rest).
And I need my teddy bear, wich is the same pillows' brand. And I have 3 of them (yes, one for each home, I don't have a teddy at work).
Your noise part made me remember when I lived in a high rise that had TRAINS going THROUGH the building. All day and night, all the time, but not with any discernable pattern one might get used to like I got used to living across the street from a major airport when I was a kid. You didn't just HEAR it, you FELT it = and not just me, even the NTs were bothered by it.
... I'm starting to think this insomnia thing might not have only been a me problem. Not to start with anyway.
How do you manage hyperfocusing when you do these 10-15 min tasks? If it was me, 30m would pass without even noticing and i'd want to spend more time, probably.
I bought a Rest comforter too! I love it. We loved 😍 this video. The humor was great 👍🏼 👌🏻 including the rock music, f bomb, and teasing Debby about her side.😅 She'll appropriately getcha back! ❤
I have a problem with humidity, too! Either too dry or too wet. How's your machine working out and what is it? (If you don't mind the question.)😅 Is it a type of machine that can handle both situations?
Btw, I'm so sorry for forgetting to answer your lovely email. I appreciated it so much. (I'm Kelly R. from 3 weeks ago.) My dr appt turned out to just be a referral to another dr, and I'm still really upset. 🙃Ya wanna talk about dropping a few f bombs!! I waited til I got home. Barely. 😮
I hate breathing exercises because they make me manually breathe which just gives me anxiety and makes me scared to fall asleep… also I’m watching this video as I’m trying to get ready for sleep, my only two tasks in my routine as of now are 1. take my meds and 2. Brush my teeth. I’m hoping to implement some of these ideas from this video 😁
I need my sleeping room to be very orderly like the rest of my appartment. It has to have a good temperature - but in Germany we usually don't have air conditioning. I need my dental splint and my ear plugs and before I fall asleep I am wearing my noise cancelling headphones. I have to prepare for sleeping two hours, in this time I am also eating my warm meal. If I don't I can't sleep because I am hungry. I watch an episode of one of my favorite series with my headphones on. I cuddle with my little cute grumpy old dog before sleeping. I sleep so much better since he is with me. ❤ But to fall asleep I need medical cannabis, it's the only thing that's helping me without having bad side effects. I have a serious case of insomnia going on and without medication I just don't fall asleep, I would just lay there until the next day. And I go to sleep most times in between 10 p.m. and midnight, I need my 8 hours. AuDHD with restless legs here.😉
Oooh, question about rls. Do you, or anyone that you might have heard of, have any problems with taking adhd stimulant meds when you have rls?
I'm trying to get a prescription, and I'm worried about my legs. They're perfectly controlled right now and I am SO afraid to mess that up! 🫣
I like cannibas gummies for depression. No side effects. Thank you. 😊
@@Sunnyflower67 I don't take any meds for my ADHD besides my medical cannabis on very hyperactiv days. I am a non responder to methylphenidat, so stuff like ritalin doesn't work but it had very bad side effects like depression and insomnia that lastet days. And I couldn't even sit still or lay down. (They gave it to me once during the diagnosis.)
I also tried venlafaxin, it was pure horror.
I took some promethazin for my anxiety, it made my restless legs very bad, too.
I don't know anyone who takes stimulants for ADHD, sorry.
It's very individual, so if you really want to know if you can take stimulants and being well, you have to try.
Personally I didn't want classic medication for my ADHD, I have better ways to cope with it. I trained myself, my mom is my coach, I am a freelancer and I work only at home...
@@Sunnyflower67@Flopsi80 Hi! Auadhd ER here. I wanted to ask, since you both have RLS - have you had your iron (specifically, ferritin) levels checked? I've had RLS for 20+ years and discovered a ferritin level above 70 units made mine go away completely. I just wonder how many of us have RLS because of that....
When I was a kid I had many sleep issues from not being able to get to sleep to nightmares. As a younger adult I also had some sleep issues which were mainly not being able to make that transition from activity to getting into bed. As a 46 year old I do still have some struggles with the transition period but I wouldn't be able to sleep that well if I didn't have my in-ear phones and my sleep story podcast. I'm now usually asleep after 10-15 mins.
P.s Homemaker Chic recommend Birch mattresses (organic) and American Blossom Linens. They're all natural, no nasty chemicals and are apparently excellent quality. Feel free to investigate.
Thanks for the recommendations!!! 😍😍
My sleep was so bad I started doing expensive sleep studies to find out what was wrong... Turns out that while I do have a sleep disorder (circadian rhythm isnt standard), my biggest problem was my living situation.
I didn't feel safe at home, I was depressed and anxious AF and even when I wasn't dealing with revenge sleep procrastination, my brain simple wouldn't settle because of the constant fight or flight state. And even when I could quiet my brain, there was still so much pent up stress, I'd be tired enough to feel like I was dreaming, but still be aware of the real world... Then that became hallucinations, dreams of waking up and starting my day so convincing when I actually woke for real it was heart breaking. Or laying there, knowing I was asleep and desperately trying to wake up but being completely unable to combined with sleep paralysis. Oh! And the there was the exploding head syndrome moments that would interrupt the very rare times I DID get to sleep. Good fun.
I thought my brain was truly f*cked. Hence expensive studies trying to work out what we could do since sleeping meds made waking impossible and hallucinations worse. But no medication meant no sleep and slowly dying.
Then... I moved away from where I had been living, in with friends, in a home we are paying off the mortgage on and will one day co-own. It wasn't immediate, but it was quick. I started slowly being able to fall asleep faster, earlier. The first 2 months I would struggle with getting up still, sometimes sleep for days. But gradually, I started being able to wake up at a more reasonable time and still have energy to do stuff through the day. Now I get between 8 and 9 hours sleep most nights. I still need help waking up, I simply can't wake without help yet. But when my carer comes to wake me in the morning, I don't dread it, and I don't have dreams about struggling to wake but being unable to. I can usually sit up, recieve my morning coffee and breakfast and stay awake.
On the days where I can't, I can at least let my carer know to give me another hour or two since I do still get nightmares and I've had exploding head syndrome events for as long as I can remember. But unless I seriously overworked the day before, or I'm sick... I now consistently sleep a healthy amount and can get out of bed to live. All because I moved to a safer home.
So to anyone having consistent sleep trouble despite sleep hygiene and good routines, don't give up! I knew where I was living wasn't great for me... But I never would have guessed it was the reason my sleep was completely and utterly disfunctional. I genuinely never realized just how bad that house had been making me feel and the amount of stress it was putting me under. I the moment if someone had said I wasn't sleeping die to where I lived, I wouldn't have believed them... But it appears that is indeed why my sleep was so screwed. I'm not saying if your sleeps screwed it's your living situation! It's more to do with that constant state of fight or flight. The ongoing depression and extreme anxiety that many of us are experiencing due to various world and life stresses. If you manage to remove enough stress, your sleep routines, hygiene can start actually working. So don't give up
“My Pillow Smelt Like An Elephant Fart!”…🤣🤣🤣
I have tinnitus... Outside noises help me sleep otherwise the crickets in my head keep me awake.
You poor thing. 😔[a bit of sympathy may not help, but it can't hurt] My husband developed pulsitive tinnitus about 18mths ago after a diagnostic procedure to check for changes in the size of his aneurysm. They've discovered recently using a CT scan, a pocket of air, and some fluid behind the offending side's eardrum. He's getting tubes put in this coming week. He's got a good chance of at least quieting it down considerably, I believe. I'm glad they're taking this condition seriously. Of course, it took a number of deaths attributed to living with tinnitus before doctors DID take it seriously. It's the same with RLS, I don't think I'd be here now if I hadn't found my sleep neurologist.
I'm glad you've found some ways to live with it. Here's to finding a cure soon. 🥂😊
I watch this at 12:18 am... when I should be sleeping. 👀
Autistic advice for surviving shopping at IKEA: 1) If possible, don't choose while you're there... Bring a list, 2) Go alone, 3) Get one of those carts that spin in all directions, 4) Push it a little too fast, 5) Pretend you're playing Asteroids. Pew Pew.
For me, showers help prep me for sleep more than anything else.
Are your hoodies the same brand as the recommended t shirts? They look so comfortable.
Where did you decide to get the pillows ?
Have you tried white noise machine or simmilar for the noise outside?
Silk pillow cases, satin cotton sheets are really nice. Or bamboo or with lyocell are good options.
Still struggling with the pillows filling/shape, depends on the day...
I'm so curious again about your fidgeting toys, so sad not available in my country 😢
Sad for you about the Nee-doh cubes! Which country is that? Just wondering if it's one that will get them soon. (Hope so for you!)
I haven't tried a white noise machine but I have a hard time with even consistent noises sometimes - like my fan sometimes on the wrong setting will be too loud. Same with the air purifier, so I have to turn it off at night. And the pillow struggle is so hard!! I have a collection of pillows too because yes, it definitely depends on the day. Hope you find some good options for yourself!
IKEA needs to invest in getting some bamboo sheets, pillowcases and duvet covers. When it is hot out, living in the EU with no AC, cotton just does not cut it, and heck with polyesters. I cannot sleep if my body temperature is too warm or if the room temperature goes above 17 C, which it does this time of year. Heck why am I returning to the EU from my mom’s nice AC home? Don’t even get me started on no window screens to keep the bugs out… Yeah I have some sleep issues. Falling asleep if I use the calm app does not work. Breathing exercises does not work because I love counting, and I will count until I am in the 1000s. So, I listen to a calm sleep story before bed all the way through so i know the story.I play the same rotation, so the voice helps me fall asleep. If I have a story to focus my listening on, my ADHD brain shuts the heck up. If I wake up at 4 or something, I just do my business and play another well loved story and fall easily back to sleep.
Lyocell is a good alternative to bamboo rayon. I got a pillowcase from Muji and it's cool and comfortable during our humid summer.
To avoid waking up to go to the toilet, I drink lots of water during the day so I can stop drinking water about 4 hours before going to bed. That way I am hydrated but don't have a full bladder.
Marijuana alcohol and sleeping pills all worked for a while, but all lost their ability to make me sleep and just kept me intoxicated. The trick for me is physical exhaustion. I just work out every day, and eventually i wear myself out
But Chris I’m not sleeping now! Lol😢can’t wait.
Same!
Not long now!!! Hope you managed to get a little sleep - even with the anticipation building 😅
Loved, all of these ideas! BRILLIANT! ❤
I’ve been using wearing a mask, and yoga Nidra body scan with a guided meditation but I find I constantly need to find a new coach doing the guided meditation. I’m going to try the cleaning and bedding stuff now!
I bought my middle kid the Kingston t-shirts after you mentioned them once - do they make that hoodie shirt you are wearing too? cant find it on amazon
To me it would somewhat feel like sleeping in a grave with those windows sealed. 😨 In fact, I don't think I'd be able to sleep there.
Otherwise it's a nice bedroom. 😊
Thanks for the video. I've been trying all sorts of stuff in order to improve my sleeping routine, but I still haven't managed. The first step is to take it really serious and make it a top priority, like you did.
I function so much better after only a good night's sleep. How much better could life be, if I slept well and sufficiently long most nights? 🤔
It’s also really important for me that I accomplish a certain amount each day. If I reach my goals for the day, I sleep better at night. It also helps me going to bed knowing what my plan for the next day is.
@@ChrisandDebby It's a vicious circle. If you don't accomplish much during the day, sleep at night will be worse ending up in accomplishing less the next day.
If you accomplish a sufficient number of things to your satisfaction, sleep will be better.
So having a good and sensible plan with realistic goals can be really helpful. Setting realistic goals is important. If someone is very exhausted it may be realistic to start off with only very few goals for the day, which can be accomplished more easily, thus increasing chances for better sleep at night.
I started to take melatonin and it helped me start sleeping normal hours. Then I found it made me feel sick and the nausea was horrendous. I also have to stop playing video games at night. I found watching the same movie every night on my iPad. I turn the brightness all the way down and the volume just loud enough to shut my brain off and I am asleep within 5mins of shark tale lol I have hard pillows for between my legs because I have sciatica and 3 softer pillows with different densities and I switch between them depending on how I am feeling. I have a pillow under my head and I cuddle one. I also have a cuddle buddy for sensory sensitive nights, it helps me stay calm.
@jacqpinks Yes, definitely turning off the blue light from various screens helps sleep so much! As you found out. I take melatonin, too. I use the gummies and a few crackers right before stops nausea. Also, I only take 2.5 mg. I've read that most people take too much because stores are pushing amounts up to 15mg. (We only need 1 or 2.)
It doesn't matter, though, as long as you've found a way to sleep better.😊
It’s the elephant fart ikea pillows for me 😂
My friends always say, pull up the blinds for the sun😁Now I see you blinding everything for sound😁How did your wife find your solution?? Was she happy with it too? Sleeping is a Thing Apart for Autism and Others. At high voltage I sleep very poorly and the event is over, I sleep through 1.5 days❣️
I don’t want to diminish your struggle but my first thought was, “That’s nothing.”
I have issues.
For me, my main problem with trying to get to sleep is I have racing thoughts. I sometimes wear earphones and listen to movie commentary or a compilation video's audio for something to focus on.
I know exactly what you mean. My brain is always running crazy at night. I’m worried about wearing earphones because I can’t sleep with them on. How does that work for you? Do you keep the earphones on while you sleep?
Is it bad that I take Seroquel every night to sleep if I don’t I won’t even get drowsy
I’ve been working on cleaning and organizing my bedroom for a year now. I’ve accomplished nothing. It has gotten worse somehow. I give up.
Dana K White "No Mess Method" was an absolute game changer for me! She has videos of her doing it with people so you can body double.
Did you try melatonin supplements?
I had struggle with insomnia until I started to use melatonin gummies.
I tried them too, it doesn't do anything for me at all.
Haven't yet - not easy to find certain supplements overseas sometimes. Does it help you also stay asleep?
Melatonin doesn't work for everyone . They do nothing for me. Possibly because of the CPTSD.
I hear that melatonin needs to be taken a "certain way." For one thing, it seems that we only need half a milligram instead of the 5mg most supplements contain. Timing is important, too. I read about it on a circadian disorder website. Good sleep, everyone! ❤
My son diagnose with ASD 10 year old will take 1 mg and after 30 minutes he can goes to sleep. If he will not want to he will be sleepy but can stay awake.
So this is not some kind of sleep pill that knock you down.
I taking 1-2 melatonin gummies 2mg. For me also after 30 minutes I will me groggy but if will not go to bed I can stay I watch movie or play games.
Before meeting my son fall asleep after 2-3 hour in bed and it was exhausting for us.
I always struggle with insomnia and as a kid it took me also hours to fall asleep and as adult it was worse.
And melatonin will help you fall asleep but it will not keep you a sleep if you have strong anxiety you will wake up but also in first 2-3 of the sleep it is easier to fall back asleep
I once drank a whole 5thnof liquer trying to make myself pass out and i still didnt sleep even though i was completely trashed
Aww I'm dealing with the bed and pillow problem too. My bed is ancient, pillow doesn't support my head and neck properly and everything remotely connected to my vertebrae hurt like heck 😭
Oh no I have the Dvalla sheets. I made the mistake of only feeling the sample swatch. It was much softer than the actual sheets.
My bedroom is too small for even the smallest AC unit. I’m tempted to try a heat pump, but that’s an experiment that will cost well over a thousand dollars for just one tiny room. Probably more like two thousand. But they both cool by removing humidity, which is a problem. My bedroom is also too small for a humidifier. And window AC lets in light, which is a big issue, and a heat pump is even more of an overkill in a small room. 😢
I used to sleep in a really tiny room and it drove me crazy. Oddly enough, if the room is too big it also bothers me. Are you in a geographic location that gets hot?
@@ChrisandDebby It's temperate humid mountains here. Last week we had temperatures between 40 and 85F. It can get over 100 in summer and below -10 in winter.
Omg… that’s insane. I can’t do hot temperatures anymore. I stop sleeping and my body slowly breaks down. You gotta get a bigger bedroom so you can get some proper AC!! 🧊🧊
@@ChrisandDebby I wish, but I'm not rich enough for that.
@@ShadoeLandman I understand. It's hard to navigate these things when you're on a budget! I wish you well. 😊
I pull up a comedy routine on TH-cam to calm down my brain. It works pretty quick most of the time, but I don't stay asleep for 8 hours.
BTW, listening to trump drone on and on, puts me to sleep even faster😂😂
Yeah, you're supposed to clean the filters once a year😂😂😂
Just be careful not to "take in" anything he says. 😂😂
Listening to that fear mongering he does would make me too stressed to sleep! ❤
Omgod no fresh air, and sealed windows!? I would hyper ventilate into a claustrophobic black hole
There’s no such thing as fresh air in Taipei
@ChrisandDebby ah, that's true, didn't know u lived there. Tokyo was same way
I don’t like having to seal the windows, but I felt like there wasn’t any other options for me unless I moved out of the city. Tokyo is huge!!!
So you're telling me there's a reason that I've only slept with a pillow pet for over ten years 😭🤣
1 Benadryl at bedtime is my bestie…
What's that squishy thing in your hand?
It’s called a Needoh! Its really good for stimming
I would love to send you something if you have a pobox.
Melatonin
I have this nasty little problem where my eyes don’t stay shut! 😡 As soon as I fall asleep, my eyes pop open and if there’s ANY light in the room it will wake me up! I have to wear a mask and take sleeping aids!
If you have a partner, make sure you are 'on a promise', that should firstly, get you into bed, and secondly sleep afterwards! Lol! If not, take care of yourself...that is if you have the motivation to do so. That is where, if you have a great partner, THEY force you to 'enjoy' yourself! Lol!
I was with you until you covered all the windows that would send me absolutely over the edge I have to have natural light to rise 😱😱😱
Other than that, great video, very entertaining 😂
I know!! It wasn’t an easy decision to cover the windows. I felt like I didn’t have any other options because the noise was so loud. Its helped me stay asleep longer, but I also like natural light. I’ve been able to spend long periods of time outside Taiwan so that also has helped. Thanks for sharing!
@@ChrisandDebby Have you tried using earplugs to assist with noise? I know they can be sensorially very difficult for some people.
IKEA is a grown-up playground
Only when I can go at the quiet times - otherwise, it's worse than the dentist!
It's hell on busy weekends.
IKEA is actually a labyrinth. I saw a Minotaur once but somehow found the exit before it got me.
@@ChrisandDebbyI go an hour or 2 before it closes. Always quite! 😊
I don't like fans blowing in my face either.
Ok this is going to sound like a planned plug, but I swear it’s not. Yes to all of the above that you have done, but add in one thing. TH-cam channel called Get Sleepy. For me, I am asleep in 5 minutes and I sleep well for at least 5-6 hours. When I wake up, if I am still tired, I roll over and re run the TH-cam video, and , again, I am out in 5 minutes! Maybe it can work for you, who knows. I do know it has been working for me!
I appreciate this content- but there is a part about this that felt unfair to Debby. Did anyone else wonder about this? It’s like all these decisions were made and she wasn’t engaged or participating- I mean she sleeps in there too. I’m confused and concerned 🤔
Are you kidding me?? 😂😂😂 You do not know my wife Debby!! If Debby didn’t want the windows covered or a fan in the room, there wouldn’t be. Deb might be tiny… but she packs a punch!! What never made the video is Debby helping me set up most of the sound insulation. Deb picked out and ordered the fan. Deb told me exactly where she wanted things when I was cleaning up her nightstand… she was literally in the room laughing and having a great time as I was doing it. We are partners and best friends and just because she’s not in all the videos doesn’t mean she’s not included. Not one of my videos would happen without Deb.
Deb wants you to know that she’s high-fiving you though for having her back and if I ever leave her out of an important decision, you’ll be the first to know. 🙌🙌
My mostly successful, though not foolproof, plan for getting to sleep effectively with AuDHD:
1. Set an alarm to start bedtime routine. I'm not good at promptly wrapping up what I'm doing in response to this alarm, but it's a start.
2. Read. Ideally 15-30 minutes, though sometimes I conk out early. This decelerates my brain.
3. Once my head hits the pillow and I close my eyes, I give my brain one thing to focus on. This is the ideal behind counting sleep, although that's too boring for me. I usually either write a mental draft of something I need to write, or I mentally rehearse a presentation I'm going to be giving in the near future. Before I had a career where I wrote and spoke frequently I had a fictional world in my head and I would imagine something set in that world (I guess I was writing before I was writing).
If I'm not asleep within about 15 minutes, I go back to step 2. I usually have a book around for secondary reading which is a bit dry - something I do want to read but which isn't particularly engaging (ex: encyclopedia).
Fortunately I've never needed hours to fall asleep.
Hi Chris.. yep! Falling asleep is challenging for me, too and liked your suggestions. One suggestion is that we enjoy watching, but could do without the f-bomb. We love the channel besides that, though.
oh my god, are you trying to kill us with extra loud unequalized electric guitar music that went on for way too many seconds? i jumped out of my skin and turned you off. i came back a day later and kept the volume off until after the black and white horror scene. my side, debbys side went on and on too, but was pleasant. thanks for the research. i had visceral empathy for you at IKEA. im a visual thinker, so now ive seen your butt sticking out of the sheets. have you tried a nightguard? get it from a reputable dentist. dont bother with the do it yourself. they can wreck your bite and give you TMJ. Also, you might like a weighted body pillow to provide side support. Definitely get a few large squishmellows (without protrusions). Awesome comminity here.
Chris, have you given up on the no-music video versions? I had difficulty with most of the music in this one. Great otherwise. Cheers
Ah, I see. This is nu-autism, where you're just a reddit user with a film degree, not classic autism, where you would communicate this stuff as a series of bullet points.
If your identity is “Chris and Debby” who are you going to be when Debbie leaves you?
I’ve suffered with insomnia for decades, but it wasn’t until I realized I am Autistic that I started looking for ways to take back control of my (lack of) sleep. Since my brain refuses to shut down and be quiet so that I can fall asleep, I’ve been experimenting with listening to different ‘sound baths’. I thought I would share my favorite channel as his work and my soul and brain seem to vibe more than any other one I’ve found!
He actually has two channels: one for healing and one for sleep sound baths. My favorite so far was the New Moon sound bath he released on his Healing Vibrations channel ❤
youtube.com/@healingvibrations?si=dsuS0WMNVAJzS1PF
youtube.com/@sleepingvibrations?si=yrsi2F4nMkBNYdtC
I’m going to check these out. I appreciate you sharing!!