A shout out from an older Lone Wolf here. It is not always the easiest path, but it can be very rewarding in the end. At 23, I moved to a foreign country where I knew no one and everything was completely different. I only survived because I was a lone wolf and was able to take full responsibility for my actions and ask really deep questions. I am always supportive of those few individuals who, when they come to a fork in the road, take the path less trodden.
Very true about having multiple communities in life. I’ve always believed we have a relationship with everyone we see regularly; the barista who makes your coffee, the guy at the counter at your gym, the librarian… and of course your family. I’ve always felt like a lone wolf too even though I’ve craved being in the company of other people and being accepted. I’ve always been extroverted but learned to enjoy my alone time.
Thanks for the advice you made, before i was always scared of losing relationships and being alone but now i live with the idea that being alone doesnt mean being lonely😅
Been there, done that, going through another cycle of lone wolf mode right now for sure. Literally taking a dopamine detox after moving out of Sydney. 💪
Same bro Im used to chilling by myself. Best summer memories is me skating alone at a empty skatepark. I tend to think deep about things so I started learning about The Bible. A relationship with God made me more peaceful and diminished anger, and made me more calm and positive. The Bible is actually a very wise book. All glory to God, man (: John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. Jesus loves you
Yo Derek I just wanted to say I’m literally in this situation right now. I’m always alone and I’m in college but nobody I try to talk to wants to talk to me and views me as annoying, and I always thought what’s wrong with me but this video you created helped me a lot you helped me bro I always wanted a girlfriend but I don’t know how to talk to girls what should I do?
what are your hobbies / interests? I would say try to immerse yourself in those and join clubs related. Before wanting a girlfriend I would say first build your social life a bit; Theres really no secret on how to talk to girls you just have to put yourself out there. Lead with intent to have a conversation as opposed to what you can get out of it . That way it gets you out of the mindset of "if i say something weird or stutter shes not going to want to give her number or my chances are ruined". When you do talk to them whether its at social gathering, club event, or even in class try to remember theyre not better than you in anyway theyre just people with the same worries stresses and anxieties that you do have. youll be good bro theres no secret just try to put yourself out there and since youre in college theres alot of avenues to do that
i need help. im 40 years old with no friends or experience in going out, so i have no way to meet women, or even new people. bars/clubs? don't work, i just go and there is noting for me to do. since i am not a social person. activities/clubs to register? not good because i am a person that is hard to me to start connecting to people. dating apps? i am not going to even try this sad joke. i am alone since mid 20s, and the toxic work environment drowned the fact that i was alone, and now that i left work, it hit me like a truck how i am missing my only chance to ever find relationship. here is the thing, my standards are very low. as long as a woman dont make me trow up by thinking on being with her she pass. and i am disgusted by old women. so, in short, i am a loser in 40 that have 0 intimate experience, not a lot of money, no friends or social skills, some game but no one to practice on, no motivation on working on my self long term, and want someone less then 30 for a serious relationship. how the hell do i start climbing out of the hole? what the point of working on myself if there is no opportunity to leverage that?
@@DanielR.122 If you don't want to improve, then it means that you have already reached the level of development that you wanted to reach. So all's well.
completely unrelated but i was talking to a girl and she said i was asking too many questions (i see how i messed up there). she said dosen't want to rush things too much bc it happened to her before and she got played. our texts are not dry but said said she wanted to take things slow and not rush it too much until she gets to know me better. idk what to do bc i dont want to ask too many questions but i dont wanna let the convo die either.... what should i do?
Let her do the talking girls like talking about themselves get to know her for who she genuinely is. And if she doesn’t like you don’t worry there’s a lot of women out there and when you focus on yourself and improve the quality and quantity of women will skyrocket
Also being a listener shows that you genuinely are interested in her so just be yourself and I feel like taking it slow is the answer because going to fast can mess up the connection
A shout out from an older Lone Wolf here. It is not always the easiest path, but it can be very rewarding in the end. At 23, I moved to a foreign country where I knew no one and everything was completely different. I only survived because I was a lone wolf and was able to take full responsibility for my actions and ask really deep questions. I am always supportive of those few individuals who, when they come to a fork in the road, take the path less trodden.
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Very true about having multiple communities in life. I’ve always believed we have a relationship with everyone we see regularly; the barista who makes your coffee, the guy at the counter at your gym, the librarian… and of course your family. I’ve always felt like a lone wolf too even though I’ve craved being in the company of other people and being accepted. I’ve always been extroverted but learned to enjoy my alone time.
Just found ur channel recently. As a guy in his late 20s. Ur view on different aspects of life really resonates with me.
Thanks for the advice you made, before i was always scared of losing relationships and being alone but now i live with the idea that being alone doesnt mean being lonely😅
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Been there, done that, going through another cycle of lone wolf mode right now for sure. Literally taking a dopamine detox after moving out of Sydney. 💪
Same bro Im used to chilling by myself. Best summer memories is me skating alone at a empty skatepark.
I tend to think deep about things so I started learning about The Bible. A relationship with God made me more peaceful and diminished anger, and made me more calm and positive. The Bible is actually a very wise book.
All glory to God, man (:
John 3:16 For God so loved the world that He sent His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
Jesus loves you
I always look forward to hearing your wisdom bro!
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Thanks for the subtitles! Really helped a lot
This young buck is wise beyond his years!
Great video
Kudos to you for doing it sober.
Good vid
Yo Derek I just wanted to say I’m literally in this situation right now. I’m always alone and I’m in college but nobody I try to talk to wants to talk to me and views me as annoying, and I always thought what’s wrong with me but this video you created helped me a lot you helped me bro I always wanted a girlfriend but I don’t know how to talk to girls what should I do?
what are your hobbies / interests? I would say try to immerse yourself in those and join clubs related. Before wanting a girlfriend I would say first build your social life a bit; Theres really no secret on how to talk to girls you just have to put yourself out there. Lead with intent to have a conversation as opposed to what you can get out of it . That way it gets you out of the mindset of "if i say something weird or stutter shes not going to want to give her number or my chances are ruined". When you do talk to them whether its at social gathering, club event, or even in class try to remember theyre not better than you in anyway theyre just people with the same worries stresses and anxieties that you do have. youll be good bro theres no secret just try to put yourself out there and since youre in college theres alot of avenues to do that
@@Dereksilver0Thanks Derek I’m doing law so I’m already in some law clubs I’ll try it out thanks
Well said 👍🙂
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i need help.
im 40 years old with no friends or experience in going out, so i have no way to meet women, or even new people.
bars/clubs? don't work, i just go and there is noting for me to do. since i am not a social person.
activities/clubs to register? not good because i am a person that is hard to me to start connecting to people.
dating apps? i am not going to even try this sad joke.
i am alone since mid 20s, and the toxic work environment drowned the fact that i was alone, and now that i left work, it hit me like a truck how i am missing my only chance to ever find relationship.
here is the thing, my standards are very low. as long as a woman dont make me trow up by thinking on being with her she pass. and i am disgusted by old women.
so, in short, i am a loser in 40 that have 0 intimate experience, not a lot of money, no friends or social skills, some game but no one to practice on, no motivation on working on my self long term, and want someone less then 30 for a serious relationship.
how the hell do i start climbing out of the hole?
what the point of working on myself if there is no opportunity to leverage that?
Same
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It does not matter wether you are alone or not, so long as you are working on your self-development 😊
what if we can't or don't want to improve? I just don't care
@@DanielR.122 If you don't want to improve, then it means that you have already reached the level of development that you wanted to reach. So all's well.
everytime you make a video i feel like im talking myself
You're not weird I am the exact same way and I love my life. Do you.
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completely unrelated but i was talking to a girl and she said i was asking too many questions (i see how i messed up there). she said dosen't want to rush things too much bc it happened to her before and she got played. our texts are not dry but said said she wanted to take things slow and not rush it too much until she gets to know me better. idk what to do bc i dont want to ask too many questions but i dont wanna let the convo die either.... what should i do?
Let her do the talking girls like talking about themselves get to know her for who she genuinely is. And if she doesn’t like you don’t worry there’s a lot of women out there and when you focus on yourself and improve the quality and quantity of women will skyrocket
Also being a listener shows that you genuinely are interested in her so just be yourself and I feel like taking it slow is the answer because going to fast can mess up the connection
@@kaidenjarrett23 true true. but like shes not ghosting me or replying dryly but idk how to continue. talk about mixed signals 💀
@@Im_Frustrated45sorry I couldn’t help more I don’t get girls unfortunately
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