I can say "YES!" one can die from grief from a broken heart. After I lost my husband my heart deteriorated quickly and now I'm a heart patient. Before I used to think of all the things I might die from but now, my heart will take me out. So I no longer worry about cancer, dementia or other horrible diseases. I try to move on and find a new joy, but I miss him everyday as if I'd just lost him. NO ONE understood me like he did, accepted my flaws, my eccentrics. He was amazing. NOW his service dog is sick and the toll it's taking on me is like something horrible. I love that dog because he was such an awesome service to my husband and to me. The stress and unhappiness is like a never-ending nightmare. Please pray for me.
May I ask how long ago it was that your husband passed? I lost mine many, many years ago, and for the first couple of years I thought for sure my heart would never survive the terrible beating. So yes, it does get more bearable as time marches on. But it usually takes a LOT of Time.💜
P@@RepentfollowJesusPrayer UP to Him who has the POWER TO HEAL YOU FROM THE INSIDE OUT. I KNOW I will be with those whom I have Loved SO deeply and their Loss would have destroyed me. There is no more grief after our death to This life. My faith is in GOD WHO created us all, from the inside out. HE WILL GIVE YOU THE PEACE YOU NEED THAT PASSES ALL UNDER- STANDING. As a Christian, I know he healed me and gave me the assurance that I WILL be with my loved ones and never parted again. That knowledge planted deep within me, has sustained me over many years. If you are not a Child of God please open the door to the only healing force there is. Just talk to HIM telling him about your crushing pain. He under- stands. He too has experienced a Crushing Loss when his only Son died on the Cross. His Son gave up His Life to Save us Eternally if we will accept Him and Trust in Him. Invite Him In...and he will heal your brokenness. May God Bless You through your grief and allow you to heal.
Actress and Entertainer Debbie Reynolds died one day after Carrie Fisher, her daughter. Debbie had a stroke from the stress of learning that Carrie died.
Yes I remember that aweful time. I just loved Miss Fisher, and it was huge loss. And taking care who has autism is a struggle too. I have a daughter who has autism, and it is a challenge.
when my son died in 2018 i thought id surely die from grief. my health has never been the same in fact. I sat in my doctors office and told my doctor I do think I have a broken heart and when I die it will be from my broken heart. he told me that that was a real thing. frankly Im surprised im still here. losing a child is the hardest of all losses.
I wrote this for a charity movie I am working on called The White River prophecies. Nullus the guardian angel sy's this like shakespear would : " Grief,......oh,.... grief! " " It is that long lonely climb to the summit." " And , if you work very,...... very hard and get to the top." " Then , you will truly know,...... who you lost..... and what they ment to you in this life." I give this to you to put on your mirror to say those words to your son .....with love.
Not necessarily. Pets and other deaths are as hard, maybe harder. People on FB were being superior with the parent thing but some pets are the kids. Some parents have no bond w their kid (murder, neglect). There are so many variables so do not say you know the worst loss or grief as it's VERY incorrect.
@@zenawarrior7442. Hello. You are correct Zenawarrior7442. I recently had to rather unexpectedly put down a VERY DEAR cat, my Tigre was like my child. In my 64+ years I have never had an understanding and communication with any human or another animal Ike I had with him. I feel it in my chest as if my heart is being torn and shredded to pieces. It is an all consuming grief. Such a BIG SPIRIT, how could he be gone?!
When my grandmother was murdered, her sister died just 3 days later. They had lived together since birth. Even after they married, the two couples lived together. No reason could be found as to why my great aunt died. She just sat in her chair and cried for three days until she died.
Boy can I relate. I lost my son to cancer when he was 11 years old. I was devastated and my blood pressure plummeted to 45/35 while he was in the last stage of his transition. The intense grief lasted 2 years, and did not normalize for probably 5 years. It was the worst event of my 66 years, including the death of my husband. I am lucky to have had good friends to bring me out of it, and cannot emphasize the importance of finding a supportive community.
I lost my mother to cancer and then lost my housing twice during the pandemic and then got into two separate car crashes... My cat also died during all of this. I still cry about my cat. I'm homeless now and barely hanging onto life... I already feel dead inside. I'm an only child and all alone. Never even married.
@@Network126 I'm so sorry. Not sure where you are, but try to reach out to the homeless shelter in your area. They can hook you up with counseling and day services and food banks. This country sucks for services to the homeless but I hope you keep trying. Bless you.
In the years that I worked in Hospice, I saw several cases where a caretaker (either a parent or child) died shortly after their loved one passed from some awful disease. Grieving oneself to death is very much a real thing.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
@@TH-eb5ro You can see when people are not making it up. Real folks and real situations. Two people in my bff's family died during that, both labelled as the ''spikey ball illness'' when one was heart and the other was a medicine-induced allergy. When my best friend told the doctor ''look her mouth is swelling'' they told her to sit down and stay quiet because they are the medical professionals and not her. She had just taken her mom there to pick up the usual arthritis meds. No funerals allowed, their family went through intense grief.
I was a pharmacist for 34 years, and I noticed another trend for caregivers and the loved ones they are taking care of. Many times I saw my patient caregivers die before their sick loved one. This is probably because of stress and neglecting themselves over their loved one. I saw this over and over, including my own parents. My Mom cared for my Dad for many years. Then she broke her thigh bone up close to her hip. The surgeon replaced her hip also during the surgery. She left the hospital in 2 days and only stayed in rehab for 1 day, to get home to care for my Dad. She died 2 days later. Then my Dad willed himself to die 4 months later. I think this type of relationship tragedy happens much more than people realize.
I saw this happen. I was a support person to two lovely elderly ladies who had known each other for decades and had also lived together for some time. One had unfortunately developed breast cancer. The other lady became the main support person and a couple of us caregivers from the outside came in regularly to assist. All our focus was on the breast cancer patient. The other lady was desperate not to lose who long time, beloved friend. But then more bad news...the caregiving friend was diagnosed with liver cancer. She rapidly deteriorated and died in a few weeks, leaving the one we thought would go first to live on without her friend. I was so shocked at this turn of events. I had to move house so I didn't stay until that lady too died about a year or so after her friend..😥
My MIL went before my FIL tho she cared for him for 10 yrs & died 4 yrs before him. After her passing, we found nitro hidden throughout the house & basement. They even had their 50th anniversary party a few yrs early as she thought he would go 1st with liver disease.
My Mother passed in Jan of 22...in June of 22 very unexpectedly, My oldest Son passed away.... This destroyed me. I suffered severely. Still am. I took care of my Mother during a terminal illness , so had time to accept her diagnosis. I was decompressing my grief when I got the call about my Son's passing away , having a parent pass away is nothing compared to having one of your children pass.... it's really incomprehensible. I can really tell the difference in my health especially with my heart.
My sincere condolences. There are no words other than I am deeply sorry for your loss. Your mother was huge. The loss of your son as you said I am sure is beyond incomprehensible for a mother. I think we never can be prepared. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you lots of love.
There’s another factor. Often, after losing a partner, especially if you are older, people become incredibly isolated. Not only have they lost a loved one, but they have lost their world. This happened to me. It is real. It becomes less and less obvious that life is worth living. If anything, you lose friends not gain them, unless you are very social, because single people are less frequently included in social gatherings when they are older. It’s definitely worse for women, as there are more of us. Men are in a better position to find new partners as there are more available women. It isn’t a kind world. I’ve experienced both memory loss and depression. Those of us with insecure attachments are, for sure, far less able to feel comforted with the occasional reaching out of others.
I am going through that. I only have my disabled hubby and I'm disabled and gave no family or friends. I know everything you are saying. I'm sorry. If it weren't for the Lord im sure I would be dead by now.
One of my co workers died a couple of months ago from "heart related" problems. His wife left him with their 2 kids while she ran off to another state. She drained their bank account and he got help from his church to pay rent and she took that too. His kids found him in the shower. He was 42. I never thought you could actually die from a broken heart but you can't tell me that doesn't sound like exactly what happened to my co worker.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
@@bohofoto6929 from what I was told she came and got the kids from his mom and she took them to the other state. They didn't even get to go to their dad's funeral. It's really messed up and I don't know how people can be so heartless.
I thoroughly agree! When my husband of 18 years left me for a younger woman, it nearly killed me. I had a broken heart so bad I developed breast cancer and had the left side removed. Years before I had so much grief over him being an alcoholic and the money he used. We are divorced and I am alive and well. All due to the Lord Jesus Christ in my life. Praise God!!! ✝️👑💖
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
My daughter was electrocuted 2 months ago. She is paralyzed on her left & right aarm amputated. Im in grief. She is 54 & will need care for the rest of her life. I'm not capable to take care of her and I'm full of guilt. I ask ppl to pray for her.
Father Yahweh there isn't anything which exists u cant fix, Lord u r alpha and omega dad change life for your child so they can testify. I believe that u have heard my prayer and healing is restored in Jesus christ name. Amen
Divine favour and supernatural intervention right now , for your daughter, in the name of JESUS 🙌 May she be healed and be well . There is nothing impossible for our mighty big God
My husband’s uncle died within the same hour that his wife passed in the base hospital. He never even knew she had passed. He went home to take a break from sitting by her bedside..and she passed shortly after he left. His daughter stayed with her Mom and tried to phone home to talk to him and after not getting an answer, she called the neighbor to go over and check on him. Neighbor had seen him carrying a cup of coffee and picking up the newspaper from the driveway. Neighbor didn’t get an answer at the door, but it was open so he went inside to check. Uncle had passed on living room couch. Absolutely incredible ❤️
I was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer two years after my son suffered a severe TBI. He cannot speak and has a stomach tube. My husband and I are his sole caregivers. The car crash was 12 years ago. He was hit by a drunk driver. I am now in remission but still on chemo. I taught yoga for 26 years and learned how to stay in the present. It is the only way I can stay sane.
Your spirit and soul can never die, even if it feels like it. You - who you are - is your spirit and soul and it is eternal. We are spirit beings - like God himself is Spirit. That is WHAT we are. And we have a soul - our mind, will and emotions - that is WHO we are. We are just temporarily housed in a mortal physical body. Death releases us to our heavenly home if you choose Jesus as your Lord and Saviour. If we look at the soul as our mind, will and emotions - then if we give up the will to go on, to live, then that is what is called the death of the soul...it is a shutting down of who we are. But there remains a spark of life from God for all of us - we just have to seek it and nurture it and trust in God to restore it like a sad neglected plant in a garden of thorns and briars. I speak from experience having lost my 23 year old son to suicide just 4 years ago. God is still GOOD and he loves us even in our darkest moments.
My wife and I lost our baby boy last year. Not a day has gone by without me having a heavy heart and overall brokenness. I feel so lost. I get overwhelmed a lot with crippling depression, and just a broken heart. I've been coasting through on muscle memory 😔🥺😭 Thank you for speaking on this topic. I've been doing my best to work on my mental health.
i too lost my son. my relationship with Jesus is what gets me up in morning.. I know Im going to heaven when I die after such a painful life here on earth and that brings me hope. without Jesus' forgiveness however Id go from bad(life on this earth) to worse (hell for eternity) yikes.
In the early 1950's my parents lost thier baby days before her birth.8 years later I was born in 1959 after my two older brothers 52/57. Oddly I was a sensitive kid and in the early 60's I kept saying I miss my sister ? My mother kept saying that I don't have a sister and so I eventually stopped. In 1995 I was flying in a Air Transit 10-11 in first class at 30,000 feet when I had a spiritual experience and then I suddenly fell asleep. When I woke up we were landing in Toronto when a flight attendant asked me what I was doing up there ? The first class had been closes for the flight due to technical problems with head sets. Your child will grow up on the other side surrounded by family and you will meet again I know that now.Live the best life and talk to your child they can feel and hear you.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢. My eldest sister lost two of her daughters and ended up dying from grief. My mother who was relatively old's health rapidly deteriorated soon after her passing and left us too 3 years later from health-related ssues fuelled by grief. Two years ago, we had mourn the untimely passing our very first nephew who was the very first baby I hold in my arms when I was only 7 years! To this very moment I am overwhelmed by the sadness attributable to the loss of the people I cherished the most. Although I know that one can only depart this world on one's time, it is difficult for me to accept they are gone. 😢😢😢
@@veroniquendambo3242my dear father passed away 12 years ago at age 62. He was my best friend and I was his only baby girl. Now my mom is bedridden with dementia at 69. It’s like whatever I thought was the foundation of my life security is crumbling. I am married and have a toddler but being an orphan is something that I can’t fathom🥲 Ny parents were always there for me when I needed them. They saved me from becoming homeless in another country. They flew there to help me settle down. I don’t know if there will me anyone else in this world that will love me as much as they did 😢😢😢😢 I only have one brother. When I look at people my age whose even their grandparents are still alive I get so angry at the fact that I lost my parents at such a young age. This morning when I opened my eyes I thought to myself: Here we go again another miserable day. I’m still in bed crying.
I agree that grief is an underrated killer. When my sister died from a chronic illness in 2015 I couldn’t believe the circumstances in how she died. I went into auto pilot mode to organise her funeral and resolve her complex domestic affairs. In fact I didn’t work for nearly a year after that dramatic and exhausting episode. I struggled to nourish myself properly losing a lot in weight and my wife was very concerned. She didn’t understand that I had no motive to eat nor taste in my mouth for food and drink. Everything in conscious life seemed utterly meaningless and unimportant. I never considered that a first death in my immediate family could be a sibling even though her illness was prolonged over some years but not life threatening if managed well. Only watching my child grow rapidly into a wonderful curious and energetic little human being helped me through. It made me realise that he’s still got his whole life to live. I don’t have any right to stain it with my own misery, depression and selfish suicidal thoughts. Looking out for someone else who’s permanently in your heart is a way through the abyss of grief.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress on their body especially the lungs. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop brought on by narcissists and psychopaths.
@@MM-qp4pd wrong, isolation was the only way to protect the population. Hospitals were already overwhelmed. Cities like New York had portable freezer truck trailers for overflow. At the very least the spread had to be slowed so we could care for the sick. People didn’t get needed surgeries because hospital beds were taken. We also needed the distance to reduce the heavy viral load that got people VERY sick instead of sick, but less. severe. The shut down was awful but it would have been much worse otherwise.
I knew my mother would die and when she was diagnosed with lung cancer,I was not prepared for it to happen within 2 months . I’m 5 years out and only in the last 6 months I’ve been able to mention her without crying. Still can’t talk about her but it’s a start.
My mother died 5 mos after a diagnosis. It took me a couple of years to recover. It takes time and some grief’s therapy. I’ll pray and pass some love your way ❤
You can also die drom a broken heart. I had a heart attack while going through a very hard break up w someone i loved deeply. I was only 40 years old at the time. Its only been about 15 months ago.
I agree with this information but my son committed suicide last year. He was only 23 years old. He graduated from University, he worked at Google. He was smart, kind and talented and he was the best son in the world. And now I try to live. Step by step. I’m trying to breathe. I don’t know what else to do. I take pills, attend psychological groups, do sports. But my heart still hurts.There are probably moments in life when you can’t help yourself.
I know what it feels like when I was so heart broken thati felt that I was going to die of a broken heart so I can testify of it.but praise the Lord ,the Lord healed and restored my family ❤❤❤
My mom placed my dad in a care center for people with Alzheimer’s. She had a stroke two days later. Then my brother, who had been commuting to see my mom to help her with her finances, died from a stroke within months of my mom’s death.
My younger brother also died just 4 months after my mother died from cancer…it was a horrible time. His heart just stopped one morning, and I woke up to find his lifeless body in the bathroom. He was physically healthy, so I never saw it coming in a million years. He was the youngest and the only boy in the family, so him and our mom were very close. So much grief. May they rest in peace.
I totally agree. Social media caters to loneliness. I used to have many friends back in the 80's. I also have no family as they have narcissism and mental illness. Then my successful son abandoned me. I lost my job in 2010 during the recession and had to live in my car. At that time, he stopped all communication. 7 yrs now. I reach out on his birthday and holidays but he does not respond. I was a good mother. His father and my ex mother in law turned my son against me.
My mother, may G_D rest her heart, used to say, isolation leads to loneliness, loneliness leads to depression, depression leads to chronic illness and chronic illness leads to an early demise.
I worked in hospitals & nursing homes. I have seen several times, when one partner dies, the other dies within the year. They had NO obvious illnesses. Love is a POWERFUL EMOTION. And losing a loved one- closet to you, can cause unfathomable grief. 💔
I lost my daughter and almost lost my mind. Words can’t explain that pain. I became physically ill due to grief. Sharp pains in my chest became the norm. It was hard to function. I couldn’t remember or comprehend most things. I felt vulnerable and stupid but I know it was all part of grief. Randomly crying at grocery stores. Hiding in my car at work so no one could see me cry. I pray that no one else ever has to experience this. I’ve learn to cope better but that grief is permanently embedded inside me.
YES! When my Son, and only child died, the excruciating pain your heart feels every minute of everyday is enough to break down the entire system that keeps us going! And as his mother, they literally take a piece of you with them! It’s a horrific feeling I would never wish on anyone. And for all those who say it will get better in time….it never gets better, you just learn how to adjust to your new life..if you can call it that!
My sister died at 62 right before retirement. My father died 3 mths prior she was the health freak in the family . She was itching severly and went to ER, thought it was from mowing grass. She was diagnosed with choleangio carcinoma ( cancer of the bile duct) . I grieved terrible, barely functioned. But i kept praying to God , im way better and know i will see them in heaven one day .
I want to say how important mental health support is so important. After caring for my husband’s battle with Lewy Body dementia (4 years). I had support during his diagnosis and for several yrs after. Hugs to those going through this difficult time.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
Thank you for educating people on the broken heart syndrome. We lost my mom to late diagnosis cancer, compounded by my dad's dementia, in 1999. In 2000, we lost my dad mid-year. It was a chaotic time overall, AND I was running a business with my husband and homeschooling 2 teenagers. Afterward, I was just exhausted. People noticed, but said to snap out of it and get on with life. I started to cough and a GP sent me to a cardiologist when usual cold meds did nothing. I remember taking a stress test and very quickly that wonderful doctor sat me down and carefully explained broken heart syndrome. "You don't have a sick heart; you have a broken heart. It is time to take time for you to get some psychological rest. You need to take your spouse and go on a long weekend away." Best medicine I ever had prescribed! Her concern told me this was no joke. It was critical to ditch the critics and take that time for my heart to be restored.
Lost my 23 year old son to cancer. I know I will die of a broken heart, but in the meantime I will wander around this earth until my time comes. Take care
A part of you dies when your child dies! No one realizes how deep grief goes! It is a pain within yourself that never goes away! If you don't have a faith or something or someone to cling to, it is very hard to recover! Some never do!
actually you will never recover, you lived it everyday and everyday is a battle of survival, i lost my only son too, and my life is never the same, yeah you laugh sometimes pretending that you are happy but you know your not. there are no days that pass by that i am not thinking of killing my self its just, i love my mother and i don't want her to feel what i experience, she suffered too much already..
I won't/can't listen to this, as I am afraid of what he's going to say. I will volunteer this, after my 27 yr old, beautiful, bright son died from S, 7 years ago, I was well on my way to dying of stress & grief. As an HSP - highly sensitive person - I knew every nuance of my body & mind. I could feel the cortisol being released. From it's release I could track the stages: extremely uncomfortable rush of panic & anxiety & fear, racing heart, heart pain, followed by a warm exhaustion through my body. Around that time I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes, Stage 2 Melanoma, HBP. My grief was killing me. And weight gain around belly. Cortisol is not good for your heart or your blood and I was bathing in it numerous times a day. This went on for years before I dragged myself out of the depths. I knew if I didn't get a grip I would die. So, I made a concerted effort to stop ruminating over my son's death. It was a traumatic one. I designed my own cognitive behavioral therapy and immediately redirected those thoughts known to trigger a cortisol rush and panic attacks. I spent too long in extreme sadness w/ noone to talk to or look in. Isolation is also not great for a person in Depression, Complicated Grief & PTSD. But it is what it is. I am still grief stricken and cry every day. But I no longer have those cortisol dumps. (actual squirting of cortisol into my abdomen from adrenals; I would hear & feel)
I understand this very well. My son passed. I was his caregiver as well. I also have autoimmune issues. It has been very hard on my body but I'm pushing forward. I can completely understand the Broken heart syndrome.
Broken heart syndrome ( takosobu cardiomypothy),it hit me from a terrible case of covid this Jan. Crazy. I do not recall any pain. I had great Dr's @ ER who worked together with another hospital, got me transport to a better cardio setting. My heart is 100 % healed & fully working . I'm on some meds for it for probably a few more years. Glad to be here & blessed I had such skilled caring folks tending to me.
My bro died of that. Our mother did it to him. Long story involving rich mom screwing poor brother for $40,000..he died within 12 hours at 44..never had any health issues, was strong as hell....all other guys in family live past 80.
What i saw when i went to recover my son's body in a neighbouring country in December 2023 never gets out of my memory and my health is deteriorating day by day. As a parent i never expected to outlive our children, grief and burial remains in the heart. Thank you for this i just learned that i am not alone in this situation.
I lost my dear 11yr old husky Xmas eve 2021. I’ve never felt grief like that, I’m still grieving and not over him. He may be just a dog to some, but to me he was my soul mate, my son. This January I was diagnosed with severe heart failure because of dilated cardiomyopathy, brought on by the grief of losing my boy. I’m sick, my heart is weak and my EF is at 25%
I am blessed to have a soul dog: a beautiful mini husky. I try to stay mindful of this: it is God’s plan that our dogs & cats have a shorter lifespan than us. God’s plan. I hope this meditation protects my heart if & when she goes. I hope this helps you. ❤
Just recently I had to put my 15 year old dog to sleep because his illness finally caught up with him. I had him since he was a baby. It's been as hard as grieving the loss of my mother. I feel the presence of his absence, and the silence is deafening. I can't imagine what it might be like losing a child because even having a pet is a highway to heartbreak.
I’m so sorry. I lost my dog, my cat, and my mother-in-law, in one month, in 2016. It took meds to bring me out of it. This year, we lost one dog 9 yr old) unexpectedly on jan 23rd, and my little dog (16 yr old) 2 months later, also unexpectedly. Its a sorrow that I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy. You’re not my friend. I still cry over losing my gizmo. You’re not alone. I’m thinking of you ❤ and keeping you in my prayers too ❤❤❤
@@skipper523I am so sorry, I also lost my little Gizmo, and thought that I would die from pain. She was my little girl and I delivered her 15yrs before.
I feel for you they are unconditional love non judgemental pure love.Joyful ❤️ So amazing God sent them to comfort our souls with great companionship! When you are ready rescue one in your dogs honor ❤
People said I am ridiculous but after my 18 year old PoMeranian passed away (naturally)... I could not function I barely ate, laid in bed crying almost constantly and I called in sick from work for 2 weeks. I even went to see my physician to seek help for depression/grief. When I went back to work others assumed that when I called out after I told my "boss" that I had a death in the family that it must have been my mom or my husband. I said No it was my PoMeranian but I had 'sick time' accrued and used it rightfully so. Even NOW, just writing this, I have tears running down my cheeks. YES grief can possibly kill a person!!
You are right. My 13 year old Chow Chow died in April last year. I was gutted and couldn't function for 3 months at least, during which time I cried incessantly. Even now, more than a year later, I still miss him and tear up every time I think of him. And I am not living alone, nor am I lonely. My heart was truly broken.
I lost my mother to cancer and then lost my housing twice during the pandemic and then got into two separate car crashes... My cat also died during all of this. I still cry about my cat. I'm homeless now and barely hanging onto life... I already feel dead inside. I'm an only child and all alone. Never even married.
@@Network126get involved in a church. They’ll support you socially and maybe even help you get on your feet. It doesn’t hurt to try. I’m sorry to hear about your situation and wish you well
I cared for my Dad when he had cancer. He was my best friend and an amazing Dad. Since then, I have been experiencing all of these symptoms! I lost my Golden 4 days before my Dad called saying they found immature white blood cells-leukemia. She had been with me for 10 years and my Dad was close to her too. He died a month later. I moved and 5 months ago had to return back to AZ because my mother almost died of sepsis. I’ve been traveling back and forth every 3-4 weeks to be with her. My son was suicidal recently and thankfully checked himself in for help. I’m at my limit of grief and the reality that things change so damned fast sometimes. My family means everything to me. I realize I need help or I will end up as an example for this video. Memory loss is a real thing! I’m in my early 50’s and sometimes I can’t recall what I did early in the morning.
That's a whole lot to deal with, hun! Yes, you've got to find a way and find some time to take care of YOU. You're of no help to anybody if you collapse and wind up in hospital, disabled, or even dead! Sending warm wishes and prayers your way.🙏
After a decade if caring for my husband as he slowly died of Alzheimer's, I reached the lowest point in my life, mentally, physically and spiritually. Since January of this year, I've been slowly rebuilding. I'm following Dr Mark Hyman, functional medicine doctor. Whether I'll get back on my feet before I die remains to be seen.
I’m sorry to here you are going through this. My heart goes out to you. You aren’t alone ❤ I cared for my mom and dad for many years. They died nine months apart last year and I’m at my lowest point too. It’s a process trying to regain my health. Ironically my doctor is checking my heart next week. Prayers you get the help you need. I see a herbalist who has helped me a great deal.
My next door neighbors growing up were quite old and when the husband passed, his wife passed away during his funeral. She put her head on her son’s shoulder and died right then. I can’t even imagine how the family felt. It happens.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
My cousins wife passed away from pancreatic cancer and we knew it was coming. They were together 41 years and were like newlyweds and behaved like young lovers. She passed away and one month later we all thought my cousin was coping with the help of his 3 adult sons and one day he just passed away and he he was very healthy. We all know it was a broken heart
There’s a group of people who defy broken heart syndrome… women whose newborn babies were stolen and put up for adoption. The need to find their child overrides physically dying, for some at any rate. Those who have a why to live will find any how. Death is less painful but love is more powerful than death.
I was diagnosed with Heartbreak Syndrome after my half sisters groomed and took my son by force from my arms. Groomed him to stay away from Mom and his Home. We will always love each other beyond their hate and envy.
I am a twinless twin. My beloved identical twin very suddenly died 4 years ago. Our identity was of 1 person-everything about us was the same-our looks, voice , what we loved - her passing has left me broken and the person I was is gone . I rarely look in the mirror as most times I see her and not myself. There are days that I do see myself but not many. I cry everyday and have had illness . I’ve told the doctor at every visit while crying and even being hysterical - and what does the doctor do-NOTHING-maybe offer me a tissue. I have talked to 2 therapists and they both recommended books-yes, books about losing a spouse. Not helpful. Being an identical twin is so different. We were so close and talked many times per day and were together every weekend. What do you suggest? How can I ever get over the loss of who I am without her? I just assume I never will and I’m trying to accept that. I’m so touched by what you are sharing but I just don’t see how to recover from such loss. If you know about loss of an identical twin please let me know. Denise S.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have lost a sibling but not a twin so the hurt must be infinite. I recognise that I will never get over the loss but walk each day knowing that my loved one would want me to find the joy in each day because we are here for a good time, not a long one. I hope you can find the strength to embrace if not the day, the minute or the hour as your loved one would wish you to. You will meet again ❤️🌈🙏🏻
My big sister was murdered in 99..she was 12 years older and was more like a mother figure...there is nothing anyone can say that will make you feel better unfortunately..I look at the world today and I'm grateful that she is not here to see this mess! It still hurts but as time goes by ..it gets more manageable. I'm truly sorry for your loss..you will always have her with you and I promise you you will see her again.. Big hug and praise Yahshua Jesus
This is why having some personal values or core beliefs are critical. It doesn't mean we necessarily need a religion, just some underlying belief that provides relief and support through tremendous strain. I told myself that in my father's passing i could more readily access him with my memories and thoughts of him. That got me through. My cat was a rescue that wouldn't allow any touch in her first 5 years with us. I learned to hug her with my voice, eyes, and imagination. That helped me when my father died too. I used the same process to imagine sharing a hug with him. I still felt his loss for over a year intensely, but i managed due to these coping mechanisms. Best wishes to all who read this. 🙏🏾💝
After my 2 year old daughter passed away from Cancer I developed extreme Panic Disorder. After I had neck surgery I was traumatized from the anesthesia and developed Fibromyalgia. I have never been able to rebalance or reregulate myself again. My daughter passed away over 30 years ago. I have had a heart attack and have Diabetes, Metabolic Disorder, etc.
The Bible says it all the time: A broken spirit dries the bones. Sorrow will lead to death from the inside and then to the outside. That's why Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and give us the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.
This is what happened to some dear friends. She had cancer and other debilitating illnesses. She suffered for years and finally passed after a valiant effort. Her husband was grieving after her passing and had a void in his heart. He was found one day, dead on the floor. Everyone who knew him said he died of a broken heart.💔 He spoke to my sister every night, constantly asking how long it would take to stop hurting. (My sister had lost her husband a few years earlier.) Hundreds of people in our town believe he died from a broken heart. He didn't feel he had any purpose after his wife passed. Grieving is a strong emotion and can change your life. Grieving support groups are very important and helpful for people who are dealing with a loss. Learning how to talk to people who have had a loss can be crucial. Not everyone will go to a support group. Sometimes talking to someone who has experienced the same thing can help a grieving person. Thanks for sharing your amazing video!
I also have to watch my stress levels bc i do get sick. I lost 60lbs, my kidneys shut down. That was really bad bc i couldn't drink. Eventually ive had 3 heart attacks. I now care for both my folks. I cant do this. Its exhausting and bc of my medical issues i cant cont to do this. They are going into assisted living for a couple months so not only they can get better but so can i. Its hard when you do a 24/7 shifts and no breaks.
Yes, you and they need a break and you can't do it on your own, that's not going to work. Way too much stress on your body and mind. Take it from someone who has been there, I didn't accept any help when my parents were ill and I regret it. I don't regret taking care of them because I didn't want them to go into assisted living but I have learned to ask for help. If you hire help, make sure they are doing what they're supposed to and treating your parents right. Good luck to you and blessings to heal
@@loubock3238 my folks had a hhc (home health care) but he slept 4 out of 6hrs. So everything fell on me. I was pissed! I told my mom she could hire me, pay me half as much and I'm here 24/7. They'd rather waste the money. That's another reason for assisted living. One person can't do it esp for 2 ppl.
A true broken heart feels like a heart attack. My first assist dog passed i thought i would too. It was horrible. It hurt. Thats a broken heart. I cried in my sleep. It seemed the tears would never stop. After 4 months and listening to a song (i thought once i got thru that song without crying id go see the vet that killed my best friend). The vet retired shortly after i got done with him. The tears started again...
Condolences to you, that is a heavy heart. If the vet was responsible, he will carry that guilt with him for the rest of his life, if he has a heart ant hat's what we hope. You made your point valid when they retired shortly after you got done with him. Bravo for standing up for your beloved pup, he or she knows you loved them that much, they are family. I hope you will find the strength to carry on and in the future open your heart to another companion, he would want that for you. Peace to you
My dog also gave me a lasting broken heart. When I think of her I say out loud "I love you (her name)" saying that out loud when I think of her helps a bit to relieve the feeling of grief. I was also driving across the country and a wolf stopped on the side of the road, a trucker ahead of me pointed out his window at the wolf to make sure I saw it. I felt that my dog's spirit still lives on and was living free in that wolf. It's been 6 years and it still hurts. The experience seems to amplify any other feeling of loss that I experience. Not being able to see someone for 6 months is unbearable and hurts me many times through out the day. I wish you peace and comfort.
We lost our Husky unexpectedly ,he is in my pic, my husband and I cried every single day multiple times a day for over a year and still have moments when we cry and it's been 5 years. I have lost other animals that hurt me deeply as well. I have lost all of my family and a 5 year long boyfriend to sui....I have lost so many people and pets to death and then lost 40 year long friends I thought were friends that turned out not to be and was betrayed by a stepson and dil horribly. Broke my heart. Lost my mom at 7. It's a wonder I'm still alive at 61.
My soul cries for you and the loss of your beautiful, big, green eyed daddy...I can not imagine your pain. I pray that God comforts and embraces you...🙏🏻🕊❤️
My mom just passed 92 married 70yrs. To my dad. He’s beyond devastated. I’m with him every day at 63 and its the least I can do . Most days I wish that I was gone too
As a Mom who lost my beloved Son to suicide (the Son who made me smile), i have been diagnosed with several things; cancer, HBP, migraines, emphysema, copd, neck injury etc. yeah, grief does manifest through the body. 😢💔
I've had a near death experience from this type of deadly grief. I didn't lose someone due to death, but I did lose a 6 year-long relationship. I sacrificed my young adulthood, missed the college experience, abandoned my professional and career opportunities, broke family relationships, moved to the other side of the world, resisted high amounts of stress and physical violence and emotional manipulation from others. All of that to stay with this person, only for them to dispose of me because I was starting to feel the psychological effects from it 5 years after the incidents. The grief of that breakup was so great that I went to the ER 2 times. First time was for severe Hypokalemia and Long QT syndrome, and the 2nd time was from pancreatitis. I don't drink nor have a "SAD" way of eating, so those factors were not relevant. It was only when I began to forgive myself and accept the loss that everything was able to resolve. Deadly grief is scary. I didn't know Susan lost her son 6 months prior, I feel so sad for her
Yes, break ups can even some times be worse cause you put your heart into someone who only takes advantage and you feel more lonely. This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
I almost died with pneumonia from stress. I was working full time with a stressful job and taking care of my husband who had Lewey Body dementia. I didn’t know I was seriously ill. I blamed myself with being lazy. I finally collapsed and was rushed to the ER and was hospitalized for 5 days I was sent home with a respirator and had to be on oxygen 24 hours a day for two weeks. The ER doctor scolded me for not getting treatment sooner. Heck. I didn’t realize I was sick.My husband’s care giver ended up taking care of both of us. So yes stress can be life threatening.
My Big Brother died by his own hand, I can't get over it. It was 2 years and 4 months ago. I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, MDD and S. Idealization years ago. After my Brother left and the way he left, I no longer care about anything else. I just keep thinking I need to go find him.
My co-teacher died due to cancer. Two months later, the husband died, too. I have seen a lot of events like this since I am already a senior citizen. Those strong-willed people, like my mother, who lived up to 88 yrs old, despite losing her husband at age 52, survived grief. She told us, she has no time to grieve because she still has 4 children to look after. Having a very good reason to survive will defeat whatever grief we have. And also, having strong faith to God matters a lot.
My Mother was recently killed by a MD, (aka Murder Doctor). I have Broken Heart/ Stress Myocarditis. I have had a major list of major symptoms. I will NEVER go to an MD for help. I am treating myself with help from God, Who is the Great Physician. My Dad was killed by staff at the Clarksburg VA. Many patients were murdered by a nurse there who was one of them convicted. Biggest story in the Dominion Post that year. The staff was horible in large part. My uncle was killed by the Baltimore VA who witheld food and water until the geriatric department killed him. Hospitals are the one place that MDs can get away with murder.
Right!! My husband was killed at Largo Medical by a Dr. who on Thanksgiving day suddenly decided to do a heart catheter on him, nobody called me to tell me he was going to have it done. This was not an emergency either. Unless it is an absolute emergency they do not operate on a holiday, this was Thanksgiving Day. Less staff. My husband was in the hospital for a hernia repair, lost some of his bowels, and was a having hallucinations and fever since Sunday night hernia surgery. Doctor ball faced lied to cover his butt because HE KNOWS WAT HE DID WAS WRONG. Needed to save his butt. A lot more to this story.
My mom went for hip surgery and the doc came out and said everything went well. Right after, a nurse told me and my sister to come tell her bye. She was dying. I did a sternum rub on her and woke her up. After, they were supposed to be doing rehab but instead was keeping her drugged up saying it was comfort care (like hospice). I know truly that if we hadn't stayed with her around the clock, they would have killed her.😢
@@heatherbennett6036 I can feel your pain. The surgeons talk about "routine surgeries" as if they are going to clip your nails. They actually amputated the largest joint in the body and it's a very high risk as also knee amputations. My Mom went through the same thing after I warned her about the risks. It was kept from me until she nearly died twice. I was called in for last goodbye. She survived that year by the grace of God. This time she rolled outta bed and cut her forehead. I would have bandaged it and she would be ok. Instead, my evil brother made sure he hid her from me until the hospital nearly killed her. I begged to get her out and care for her, but the Dr decided to murder her instead.
Grief is one of the most painful things in the world. I honestly still don’t know how people continue to live after the death of a loved one. I’ll never understand death and have always been afraid and super sad of anyone dying. When my mother passed it felt like this can’t happen it happens to other people not me. There were extremely dark days didn’t think I would make it. Anyone that has felt like that or gone through any struggles or grief my heart goes out to you. Life is so damn hard.
My son (my oldest child) died 11/15/2022. I don't know how I've survived since then. Physically I'm still here but it's like every other part of my being is dead & just waiting for my physical body to realize it and let go. I didn't know how I felt about a broken heart being a cause of death for people even after my grandmother passing one day after my grandfather (her husband). But after losing my son, I have no doubt about it. Even though I'm not physically dead, I certainly am dead inside & everywhere that counts. Maybe the reason I'm still stuck here is for my other children.
I’m so very sorry for your son’s passing. My son died years ago from SIDS and if it hadn’t been for my other children, I probably could not have survived. Allow yourself to grieve without and with your other children 💕
@@moniquebalmer9390 It definitely can seem unbearable especially since your loss is so recent. My son passed 30 years ago at 5 weeks old. My other children were 20 months old, 10 years old and 14 years old. Night time was the worst. I do clearly remember one night falling on my knees beside my bed anticipating another sleepless night. All I could speak was God please help me. I wasn’t angry with God-I was angry with myself. When I climbed into bed, an incredible peace came over me and I was astonished but not afraid. I went to sleep immediately. I knew that was God’s presence comforting me. I have always been so reluctant to share my story because not everyone has the same experiences and I don’t want to cause harm or confusion to someone in such deep grief. I will tell you, though, that He is real and He will give you comfort that nobody else can
Just a suggestion: It may help you to talk with your other children about the loss of your son, their brother. I'm sure they are probably hurting and confused and grieving as well. It's a way of connecting your feelings together and honoring your sons memory.🙏
My heart breaks into pieces, it is soul crushing, and would do anything for animals to not be brutally abused. Because of our country’s rapid decline, it is getting worse, the animals, especially dogs, will suffer the most. 💔
Both my son's had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and it progressed at 6 they are not twins. My grief began 14 years before they passed away. .Due to muscle weakness and physical changes in their bodies. I have worked really hard to walk victoriously through my.grief. God is the answer to a joy unstoppable that out pours out of me.
OMG! You have described me to a T! Retired RN and was married to chronic addict and alcoholic who passed in 1/2020 from lung cancer. I have Fibromyalgia and had a very physical reaction to his death with elevated BP & HR. Then after the funeral service I had a period of insomnia for 25 nights! Just started feeling sort of human again when I got Covid. Symptomatic for 9 weeks, then morphed into long Covid. 2020 was brutal! Love your videos.
I absolutely knew after a very big betrayal shock & traumatic loss that I was literally fighting for my life w B H Syndrome. 6+ yrs later & after much care & diligence I'm recovering.( I was 60 yrs old at time )Thank God PS I had already had an ablasion for W P W & ventricular Tach. Now I have SVT. Have been caregiving my demented Mom since my loss as well. Have to really be aware of my day to day health
My brother died of that at 44...i almost died of it a few years later at 45...our parents were psychopaths..neither of us had any idea..he found out first..then i did..it was astonishing..they were never a couple..it was all a scam...we were products for perverts. They only covered it once cops got involved and my mafia grandmother paid them millions to play the part and raise us until we were 18..then ditch us. Which they did but we didn't get the message until ouir 40s.
I knew a very elderly couple who moved across the country to live with their children. The wife was bedridden and unable to communicate. The husband was in good health, when he suddenly died. It was agreed that no one mention his death within earshot of his wife. Unfortunately, one son decided it was only right to tell his mother and within hours she died also!! A broken heart?? It is stronly believed by doctors that this is what happened to this dear woman 😢 Such a sad story😢
When my husband passed away in 2022, after several years of struggling, it was still a shock to me, and I thought I was probably gonna die as well. It was months of intense grief later that I felt I had a chance to live on.
After my husband died, I was manipulated out of everything I had left and loved. My mother was a narcissist and after all she’s done to me, when I think of it, I start sobbing and my face, jaw, chest hurt so much. Doctor told me that is a broken heart.
Dr Karlen, thanks for talking about something most docs do not care about…I’ve had 3 situations that caused HEART-BROKEN consequences in last 10yrs. My will to LIVE is what keeps me going and in total remission of my health issues! I had pneumonia, RA, and severe AFIV. All resolved, and now better than ever. I understood that not all have the capacity to truly LOVE. It requires above all, generosity and sanity to know how to love❤
After 57 years of a good marriage my husband passed away. At the time the grief was almost unbearable and a month after his passing I was suddenly diagnosed with AFIB. I had been a runner for 37 years and was very fit. I really feel my sudden change in my heartbeat was due to my husbands passing. Susan Dee Gomm (South Africa)
I believe this. Grief of all kinds can cause heart issues, and stress can cause autoimmune diseases and endocrine and more. I had a hard breakup two years ago and had a dog die soon after and my heart felt physical pain for over a year. I’m still hurting tbh but not to that extent.
De Kaveh - you know that I credit you and Clarus for interrupting my path which was leading to my demise. I’ve worked very hard to continue the insights we found together. I believe with all my heart and soul that grief has a physical manifestation that must be recognized.
I’ve lost most of my small family to various cancers in the few years before pandemic. Then isolated and went back to work in 2021. The grief and isolation has changed me and greatly affected my health. The part few years having lots of issues. I will never be the same and now have no support system.
When I was 5 my grandmother died 4 months after my father killed himself. She had a brain tumor and it was removed. They said keep her from any stress. Then her only son died. Grief can definitely kill.
It has been 10 long miserable years since I lost my husband of 38 years suddenly and unexpectedly. He had just turned 57 and passed an 8 hour physical. We were both “healthy” and had begun traveling and celebrating our love. I had battled severe depression for decades but had finally beaten it. Since he passed I have developed a plethora of diseases and illnesses and my depression rules my world; I.e., I now have a pacemaker for sic sinus syndrome, Idiopathic Chronic Pancreatitis, high blood pressure, osteoporosis, gastroparesis, DVT’s and a clotting disorder to name a few.😅
I can tell you, grief kills. I lost my husband to cancer, I was hospital with flat effect depression, and the doctor told my mom if I didn't snap out of the grief, it would kill me. I got on antidepressants and I got better, but then my 33 year old daughter passed away, I'm depressed again even though I'm on antidepressants. I cry so much that my chest hurts
Try deep breathing when you feel like crying, do it instead of crying. I learned this many years ago. It really helps process the emotions in a much healthier way.
Yes, there were countless times I thought I was going to die from grief! It was never ending - 24/7! People who have never experienced grief simply cannot fathom grief as a life shattering non-stop uncontrollable "darkest hour" experience. It takes many years to heal b/c you never forgetva significant loved one. (HUGS) to those grieving without care & support.
I ended up with broken heart syndrome after my mom died in Oct 2021. She was 53 and I was 32. I miss her so much. I was in the ER almost 2 weeks after she passed. When she coded the first time I threw up blood and then when we took her off life support I had the worst crushing pain in my chest and I couldn't breathe.
@@spunkysparks1779My heart goes out to both of you in this difficult time❤️🩹🙏❤️🩹 Keep praying 🙏 and remember that your not alone🙏 The memories of your wonderful son will always be with you💙in the deepest of your heart💙
Grief is killing Me. Ive been a Widower for a year and 8 days. Within a couple months of her passing I lost my step mom and my Sister. Its been a rough year and Im not getting any better. I almost never sleep in my bed cause Im afraid to go to sleep. I need to sleep in bed cause my legs dont have good blood flow and a bacterial infection is taking over my leg. I havent left the house except to the store in a year. I have no Idea how to fix any of it
For anyone reading this and also having poor blood flow or circulation problems. In the morning make yourself a cup of hot cocoa and try to relax with your hands around the warm mug. Do the same thing a couple hours before bedtime. Use real dark cocoa powder. Not a mix. Try to not use sugar. If you need it to be sweeter try blending it with dates or even prunes 😂 Cocoa or cacao is very very good for your heart and arteries. Its calming and reminds us that we are loved and still have love to give. If you are suffering from heartbreak there is no better way to heal than to find someone who needs your love. Share a cup of cocoa and give yourself to some other hurting soul. They aren't hard to find. They're everywhere! ❤🎉 cocoa
Finding a need, a want or even the slightest desire to care for yourself become a colossal endeavor when loneliness and grief are your only sustinence. For me, the first realization that i needed to find a way back to life was when I thought about how badly i would crush them if they saw me destroying myself in this manner. Then I started small, one task. When I wake up, I'll brush my hair. The next day, I added washing my face. The next, getting dressed to go out. I ever so slowly built up to have a routine. When that routine actually became a routine, instead of forced acts, I made a plan to leave the house. I went for a walk. It was sunny and very hot with a whole bunch of mugy. Minutes after leaving, i was miserable, anxious, grumpy and had sweat pooling into my clothes, causing them to be uncomfortablely sticky. Despite all my excuses to go back, I made the choice to go for a walk that day and I was taking a walk. I remember that day so clearly, especially when my body adjusted to the heat, the sun evaporated some of the ick off my clothes, i began to just be.. my thoughts and worries diminished, then i started to feel nice things, the air as i breathed, the sun's rays penetrating deep into my skin, and then i saw the tiniest bird perching on a thorny thistle and was outsatnded by how his tiny feet gripped between the thorns.. i almost smiled. The next day i woke with a need to feel that way again, so I began walking, I like the woods the best, but I crave the sun. When I'm feeling particularly bad, I walk at night, and stare at the sky. I've seen a few strange things in the night that make me feel insignifactly small, so now I try to better the day of any one I come across, I try to help animals, wild, stray and pets and I try to be thankful that I have this time and can feel, be it pain, loss, guilt, loneliness, the joy of others and on the rare occasion, my own joy. I'm sorry for going on in length, but I worry for you. If you are not able to go to dr for your leg maybe see a virtual one or worst case, order the needed supplies online. Also, I came across quite a few studies, particularly of diabetics, having their difficult to heal wounds treated with gauze wraps soaked in vinegar. I used this method when I had gotten blood poisoning from a cat bite to the wrist, the antibiotics the Dr gave me weren't touching the growing area. By day four, the swelling was increasing rapidly and red lines were spreading, I was told the next step was admitting me for debridment and iv antibiotics. I couldnt do this, i had a child who was going through an extreme mental hardship and i needed to be there. I gave this method a try, within 12 hrs of placing the wraps the swelling had lessened, the lines faded and began to recede. It probably wouldn't have worked without the antibiotics. So please, please find a way to care for your leg infection, can become serious quickly.
I can say "YES!" one can die from grief from a broken heart. After I lost my husband my heart deteriorated quickly and now I'm a heart patient. Before I used to think of all the things I might die from but now, my heart will take me out. So I no longer worry about cancer, dementia or other horrible diseases. I try to move on and find a new joy, but I miss him everyday as if I'd just lost him. NO ONE understood me like he did, accepted my flaws, my eccentrics. He was amazing. NOW his service dog is sick and the toll it's taking on me is like something horrible. I love that dog because he was such an awesome service to my husband and to me. The stress and unhappiness is like a never-ending nightmare. Please pray for me.
May I ask how long ago it was that your husband passed? I lost mine many, many years ago, and for the first couple of years I thought for sure my heart would never survive the terrible beating.
So yes, it does get more bearable as time marches on. But it usually takes a LOT of Time.💜
I'm praying for you. Please pray for my heart issues from so much grief from many losses.
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P@@RepentfollowJesusPrayer UP to Him who has the POWER TO HEAL YOU FROM THE INSIDE OUT. I KNOW I will be with those whom I have Loved SO deeply and their Loss would have destroyed me. There is no more grief after our death to This life. My faith is in GOD WHO created us all, from the inside out. HE WILL GIVE YOU THE PEACE YOU NEED THAT PASSES ALL UNDER-
STANDING. As a Christian, I know he healed me and gave me the assurance that I WILL be with my loved ones and never parted again. That knowledge planted deep within me, has sustained me over many years. If you are not a Child of God please open the door to the only healing force there is. Just talk to HIM telling him about your crushing pain. He under-
stands. He too has experienced a Crushing Loss when his only Son died on the Cross. His Son gave up His Life to Save us Eternally if we will accept Him and Trust in Him. Invite Him In...and he will heal your brokenness. May God Bless You through your grief and allow you to heal.
Actress and Entertainer Debbie Reynolds died one day after Carrie Fisher, her daughter. Debbie had a stroke from the stress of learning that Carrie died.
Yes I remember that aweful time. I just loved Miss Fisher, and it was huge loss. And taking care who has autism is a struggle too. I have a daughter who has autism, and it is a challenge.
Yup
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Sinead O'Connor too
@@08prema Carrie fisher had Autism?
when my son died in 2018 i thought id surely die from grief. my health has never been the same in fact. I sat in my doctors office and told my doctor I do think I have a broken heart and when I die it will be from my broken heart. he told me that that was a real thing. frankly Im surprised im still here. losing a child is the hardest of all losses.
Yes, it is. It is the greatest pain a person can suffer.
I wrote this for a charity movie I am working on called The White River prophecies.
Nullus the guardian angel sy's this like shakespear would : " Grief,......oh,.... grief! " " It is that long lonely climb to the summit." " And , if you work very,...... very hard and get to the top." " Then , you will truly know,...... who you lost..... and what they ment to you in this life."
I give this to you to put on your mirror to say those words to your son .....with love.
Me too, you are so spot on. Lost my son in 2015. You will never be the same again. Hang in there and do good things for yourself.❤
Not necessarily. Pets and other deaths are as hard, maybe harder. People on FB were being superior with the parent thing but some pets are the kids. Some parents have no bond w their kid (murder, neglect). There are so many variables so do not say you know the worst loss or grief as it's VERY incorrect.
@@zenawarrior7442. Hello. You are correct Zenawarrior7442. I recently had to rather unexpectedly put down a VERY DEAR cat, my Tigre was like my child. In my 64+ years I have never had an understanding and communication with any human or another animal Ike I had with him. I feel it in my chest as if my heart is being torn and shredded to pieces. It is an all consuming grief. Such a BIG SPIRIT, how could he be gone?!
When my grandmother was murdered, her sister died just 3 days later. They had lived together since birth. Even after they married, the two couples lived together. No reason could be found as to why my great aunt died. She just sat in her chair and cried for three days until she died.
Oooh. I'm so sorry. That's just so heartbreaking. Blessing to you all.
I am so, so very sorry. I understand how you would want to just sit until you died. I’ve been there.
The murderer should have been charged for both fatalities.
Heartbreaking
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Boy can I relate. I lost my son to cancer when he was 11 years old. I was devastated and my blood pressure plummeted to 45/35 while he was in the last stage of his transition. The intense grief lasted 2 years, and did not normalize for probably 5 years. It was the worst event of my 66 years, including the death of my husband. I am lucky to have had good friends to bring me out of it, and cannot emphasize the importance of finding a supportive community.
I lost my mother to cancer and then lost my housing twice during the pandemic and then got into two separate car crashes... My cat also died during all of this. I still cry about my cat. I'm homeless now and barely hanging onto life... I already feel dead inside. I'm an only child and all alone. Never even married.
@@Network126 I'm so sorry. Not sure where you are, but try to reach out to the homeless shelter in your area. They can hook you up with counseling and day services and food banks. This country sucks for services to the homeless but I hope you keep trying. Bless you.
I'm in year 4 of losing my
son so this gives me hope
My dad passed 43 days after my mom. He said he didn't want to live without her and we believe he died from a broken heart.
😢😢😢😢I'm so sorry. 💔
I understand completely my wife passed away 2 weeks ago and I just want to die
This what happens when 2 flesh becomes 1
BROKEN HEART SYNDROME 💔
We will miss them. but looking from a positive perspective, your dad and mum are reunited in heaven. be happy for them.
In the years that I worked in Hospice, I saw several cases where a caretaker (either a parent or child) died shortly after their loved one passed from some awful disease. Grieving oneself to death is very much a real thing.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
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@@MM-qp4pdexactly. It was criminal.
@@MM-qp4pd Do you have the data on that?
@@TH-eb5ro You can see when people are not making it up. Real folks and real situations. Two people in my bff's family died during that, both labelled as the ''spikey ball illness'' when one was heart and the other was a medicine-induced allergy. When my best friend told the doctor ''look her mouth is swelling'' they told her to sit down and stay quiet because they are the medical professionals and not her. She had just taken her mom there to pick up the usual arthritis meds. No funerals allowed, their family went through intense grief.
I was a pharmacist for 34 years, and I noticed another trend for caregivers and the loved ones they are taking care of. Many times I saw my patient caregivers die before their sick loved one. This is probably because of stress and neglecting themselves over their loved one. I saw this over and over, including my own parents. My Mom cared for my Dad for many years. Then she broke her thigh bone up close to her hip. The surgeon replaced her hip also during the surgery. She left the hospital in 2 days and only stayed in rehab for 1 day, to get home to care for my Dad. She died 2 days later. Then my Dad willed himself to die 4 months later. I think this type of relationship tragedy happens much more than people realize.
I require much from my caregiver who is very skilled yet know the impact it has on them... 😮💨
I saw this happen. I was a support person to two lovely elderly ladies who had known each other for decades and had also lived together for some time. One had unfortunately developed breast cancer. The other lady became the main support person and a couple of us caregivers from the outside came in regularly to assist. All our focus was on the breast cancer patient. The other lady was desperate not to lose who long time, beloved friend. But then more bad news...the caregiving friend was diagnosed with liver cancer. She rapidly deteriorated and died in a few weeks, leaving the one we thought would go first to live on without her friend. I was so shocked at this turn of events. I had to move house so I didn't stay until that lady too died about a year or so after her friend..😥
My grandparents passed 30 days apart
My MIL went before my FIL tho she cared for him for 10 yrs & died 4 yrs before him.
After her passing, we found nitro hidden throughout the house & basement. They even had their 50th anniversary party a few yrs early as she thought he would go 1st with liver disease.
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Our daughter passed away on September 2023. Since then, I have never been the same. Please pray for me. 🙏🙏🙏😢😢😢
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This breaks my heart even more.i wish i could hug you dear!
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I’ll pray for you. 🙏🏼
My Mother passed in Jan of 22...in June of 22 very unexpectedly, My oldest Son passed away.... This destroyed me. I suffered severely. Still am. I took care of my Mother during a terminal illness , so had time to accept her diagnosis. I was decompressing my grief when I got the call about my Son's passing away , having a parent pass away is nothing compared to having one of your children pass.... it's really incomprehensible. I can really tell the difference in my health especially with my heart.
My sincere condolences. There are no words other than I am deeply sorry for your loss. Your mother was huge. The loss of your son as you said I am sure is beyond incomprehensible for a mother. I think we never can be prepared. You’re in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you lots of love.
Sending love
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having a kid there is always a risk that the kid passes away.
Pray for you dear
There’s another factor. Often, after losing a partner, especially if you are older, people become incredibly isolated. Not only have they lost a loved one, but they have lost their world. This happened to me. It is real. It becomes less and less obvious that life is worth living. If anything, you lose friends not gain them, unless you are very social, because single people are less frequently included in social gatherings when they are older. It’s definitely worse for women, as there are more of us. Men are in a better position to find new partners as there are more available women. It isn’t a kind world. I’ve experienced both memory loss and depression. Those of us with insecure attachments are, for sure, far less able to feel comforted with the occasional reaching out of others.
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My heart goes out to you. Here grandma a hug from me though I couldn't do anything much better than this🫂🫂
I am going through that. I only have my disabled hubby and I'm disabled and gave no family or friends. I know everything you are saying. I'm sorry. If it weren't for the Lord im sure I would be dead by now.
Bless your dear heart. I hear you and send you love and wishes for the support you need. 🫂
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One of my co workers died a couple of months ago from "heart related" problems. His wife left him with their 2 kids while she ran off to another state. She drained their bank account and he got help from his church to pay rent and she took that too. His kids found him in the shower. He was 42. I never thought you could actually die from a broken heart but you can't tell me that doesn't sound like exactly what happened to my co worker.
Tragic, it's shocking the grief some people cause.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
I’m sure she’s an awful mother, too. Hopefully they live somewhere else
@@bohofoto6929 from what I was told she came and got the kids from his mom and she took them to the other state. They didn't even get to go to their dad's funeral. It's really messed up and I don't know how people can be so heartless.
@@heatherbrenner8275That is horrible
I thoroughly agree! When my husband of 18 years left me for a younger woman, it nearly killed me. I had a broken heart so bad I developed breast cancer and had the left side removed. Years before I had so much grief over him being an alcoholic and the money he used.
We are divorced and I am alive and well. All due to the Lord Jesus Christ in my life. Praise God!!! ✝️👑💖
It's terrible what one person can do, and cause so much heartbreak
Jesus .. never leaves us. He is healing and joy.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
Yo my Ex did the same thing! Made it 15 yrs. I have Fibro and this last year has been the worst health and pain wise
Yeah,God helped you not Jesus (As), Jesus (As) has no power ,he's one of many prophets he's not God ,I am glad you are doing ok Hun
My daughter was electrocuted 2 months ago. She is paralyzed on her left & right aarm amputated. Im in grief. She is 54 & will need care for the rest of her life. I'm not capable to take care of her and I'm full of guilt. I ask ppl to pray for her.
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Father Yahweh there isn't anything which exists u cant fix, Lord u r alpha and omega dad change life for your child so they can testify. I believe that u have heard my prayer and healing is restored in Jesus christ name. Amen
@@africansister thank you for your kind words 🙏🏻 May God bless you 🙏🏻
Divine favour and supernatural intervention right now , for your daughter, in the name of JESUS 🙌
May she be healed and be well .
There is nothing impossible for our mighty big God
@@Julie-pb7fe thank you Julie
My husband’s uncle died within the same hour that his wife passed in the base hospital. He never even knew she had passed. He went home to take a break from sitting by her bedside..and she passed shortly after he left. His daughter stayed with her Mom and tried to phone home to talk to him and after not getting an answer, she called the neighbor to go over and check on him. Neighbor had seen him carrying a cup of coffee and picking up the newspaper from the driveway. Neighbor didn’t get an answer at the door, but it was open so he went inside to check. Uncle had passed on living room couch. Absolutely incredible ❤️
wow. god blessed both their ascension
Oh my Lord. I am so sorry! Jesus
How is this incredible for the daughter who lost both parents on the same day??
I was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer two years after my son suffered a severe TBI. He cannot speak and has a stomach tube. My husband and I are his sole caregivers. The car crash was 12 years ago. He was hit by a drunk driver. I am now in remission but still on chemo. I taught yoga for 26 years and learned how to stay in the present. It is the only way I can stay sane.
I have noticed a correlation with yoga and lung cancer. Could maybe be deep breathing and the rubber yoga mats? Just a thought.
So wonderful that you had that training, I am sure that helps you.
I’m sorry. So very sorry.
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You lived 10 years with stage 4 lung cancer!? That’s amazing
Once your soul dies, your body follows.
Do you realize what you just said is scriptural?
@@JoBerry-q7h No... thought it was just off the top of my head.
Look at 3 John:1-2, I think
😢 that’s me.
Your spirit and soul can never die, even if it feels like it. You - who you are - is your spirit and soul and it is eternal.
We are spirit beings - like God himself is Spirit. That is WHAT we are.
And we have a soul - our mind, will and emotions - that is WHO we are.
We are just temporarily housed in a mortal physical body. Death releases us to our heavenly home if you choose Jesus as your Lord and Saviour.
If we look at the soul as our mind, will and emotions - then if we give up the will to go on, to live, then that is what is called the death of the soul...it is a shutting down of who we are. But there remains a spark of life from God for all of us - we just have to seek it and nurture it and trust in God to restore it like a sad neglected plant in a garden of thorns and briars.
I speak from experience having lost my 23 year old son to suicide just 4 years ago. God is still GOOD and he loves us even in our darkest moments.
My wife and I lost our baby boy last year. Not a day has gone by without me having a heavy heart and overall brokenness. I feel so lost. I get overwhelmed a lot with crippling depression, and just a broken heart. I've been coasting through on muscle memory 😔🥺😭
Thank you for speaking on this topic. I've been doing my best to work on my mental health.
i too lost my son. my relationship with Jesus is what gets me up in morning.. I know Im going to heaven when I die after such a painful life here on earth and that brings me hope. without Jesus' forgiveness however Id go from bad(life on this earth) to worse (hell for eternity) yikes.
In the early 1950's my parents lost thier baby days before her birth.8 years later I was born in 1959 after my two older brothers 52/57. Oddly I was a sensitive kid and in the early 60's I kept saying I miss my sister ? My mother kept saying that I don't have a sister and so I eventually stopped.
In 1995 I was flying in a Air Transit 10-11 in first class at 30,000 feet when I had a spiritual experience and then I suddenly fell asleep. When I woke up we were landing in Toronto when a flight attendant asked me what I was doing up there ? The first class had been closes for the flight due to technical problems with head sets.
Your child will grow up on the other side surrounded by family and you will meet again I know that now.Live the best life and talk to your child they can feel and hear you.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢. My eldest sister lost two of her daughters and ended up dying from grief. My mother who was relatively old's health rapidly deteriorated soon after her passing and left us too 3 years later from health-related ssues fuelled by grief. Two years ago, we had mourn the untimely passing our very first nephew who was the very first baby I hold in my arms when I was only 7 years!
To this very moment I am overwhelmed by the sadness attributable to the loss of the people I cherished the most. Although I know that one can only depart this world on one's time, it is difficult for me to accept they are gone. 😢😢😢
@@veroniquendambo3242my dear father passed away 12 years ago at age 62. He was my best friend and I was his only baby girl. Now my mom is bedridden with dementia at 69. It’s like whatever I thought was the foundation of my life security is crumbling. I am married and have a toddler but being an orphan is something that I can’t fathom🥲 Ny parents were always there for me when I needed them. They saved me from becoming homeless in another country. They flew there to help me settle down. I don’t know if there will me anyone else in this world that will love me as much as they did 😢😢😢😢 I only have one brother.
When I look at people my age whose even their grandparents are still alive I get so angry at the fact that I lost my parents at such a young age. This morning when I opened my eyes I thought to myself: Here we go again another miserable day. I’m still in bed crying.
Losing a child is possibly the worse trauma someone can go through. May God guide you through these difficult times.
I agree that grief is an underrated killer. When my sister died from a chronic illness in 2015 I couldn’t believe the circumstances in how she died. I went into auto pilot mode to organise her funeral and resolve her complex domestic affairs. In fact I didn’t work for nearly a year after that dramatic and exhausting episode. I struggled to nourish myself properly losing a lot in weight and my wife was very concerned. She didn’t understand that I had no motive to eat nor taste in my mouth for food and drink. Everything in conscious life seemed utterly meaningless and unimportant. I never considered that a first death in my immediate family could be a sibling even though her illness was prolonged over some years but not life threatening if managed well. Only watching my child grow rapidly into a wonderful curious and energetic little human being helped me through. It made me realise that he’s still got his whole life to live. I don’t have any right to stain it with my own misery, depression and selfish suicidal thoughts. Looking out for someone else who’s permanently in your heart is a way through the abyss of grief.
When I read the comments and see how some people suffer, I wish I had the ability to make life great for them.
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@@deekang6244 thank you.
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According to Traditional Chinese Medicine System grief is linked to lungs that's why experiencing lots of grief can cause lungs problems
Its true
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress on their body especially the lungs. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop brought on by narcissists and psychopaths.
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@@MM-qp4pd wrong, isolation was the only way to protect the population. Hospitals were already overwhelmed. Cities like New York had portable freezer truck trailers for overflow. At the very least the spread had to be slowed so we could care for the sick. People didn’t get needed surgeries because hospital beds were taken. We also needed the distance to reduce the heavy viral load that got people VERY sick instead of sick, but less. severe. The shut down was awful but it would have been much worse otherwise.
So true, I just lost my husband two years ago and I’m recovering from a pneumonia. I totally agree.
I knew my mother would die and when she was diagnosed with lung cancer,I was not prepared for it to happen within 2 months . I’m 5 years out and only in the last 6 months I’ve been able to mention her without crying. Still can’t talk about her but it’s a start.
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😢💔 Sending my condolences to you. I pray the memories of your mom will comfort you. I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔😢
@@CatalinaFOIA Thank you so much🥰
My fibromyalgia was triggered by the loss of the love of my life.😞
My mother died 5 mos after a diagnosis. It took me a couple of years to recover. It takes time and some grief’s therapy. I’ll pray and pass some love your way ❤
You can also die drom a broken heart. I had a heart attack while going through a very hard break up w someone i loved deeply. I was only 40 years old at the time. Its only been about 15 months ago.
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Thats a terribly stressful thing.
I hope you are feeling better in body and soul now 🩷
@@suzannearsenault3342 Suz , I'm sure all your friends confess that your a well full of emotion.
I feel you. Hugs
agreed, very stressful
I agree with this information but my son committed suicide last year. He was only 23 years old. He graduated from University, he worked at Google. He was smart, kind and talented and he was the best son in the world. And now I try to live. Step by step. I’m trying to breathe. I don’t know what else to do. I take pills, attend psychological groups, do sports. But my heart still hurts.There are probably moments in life when you can’t help yourself.
So sorry for your loss
Such a terrible loss, young soul so needlessly lost, my heart goes out to you, may God help you to stay strong❤❤
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Sorrry 😢
I'm so sorry,but if ask God to help,he will and your heart will stop hurting
I know what it feels like when I was so heart broken thati felt that I was going to die of a broken heart so I can testify of it.but praise the Lord ,the Lord healed and restored my family ❤❤❤
My mom placed my dad in a care center for people with Alzheimer’s. She had a stroke two days later. Then my brother, who had been commuting to see my mom to help her with her finances, died from a stroke within months of my mom’s death.
I hope you are supported in some way to get through so much loss. 💝
We're they all jabbed?
My younger brother also died just 4 months after my mother died from cancer…it was a horrible time. His heart just stopped one morning, and I woke up to find his lifeless body in the bathroom. He was physically healthy, so I never saw it coming in a million years. He was the youngest and the only boy in the family, so him and our mom were very close. So much grief. May they rest in peace.
@@fatiq8297 wow what a story...i'm soo sorry for your loss...keeping you in my prayers for strength to keep going..
@@helenpartridge4100 tragic. I’m so sorry.
I believe it. I'm also positive that loneliness is also a killer. A very slow and very painful killer...😐
I totally agree. Social media caters to loneliness. I used to have many friends back in the 80's. I also have no family as they have narcissism and mental illness. Then my successful son abandoned me. I lost my job in 2010 during the recession and had to live in my car. At that time, he stopped all communication. 7 yrs now. I reach out on his birthday and holidays but he does not respond. I was a good mother. His father and my ex mother in law turned my son against me.
@@lindaschultz7900So sorry.
My mother, may G_D rest her heart, used to say, isolation leads to loneliness, loneliness leads to depression, depression leads to chronic illness and chronic illness leads to an early demise.
Nope. Some of us thrive in loneliness.
I get sooo many things accomplished being by yourself!
…but that’s just me. 🤷🏻♀️♥️
@TLW369 That is solitude, which can be appreciated. It is different from loneliness, which is painful.
I worked in hospitals & nursing homes. I have seen several times, when one partner dies, the other dies within the year. They had NO obvious illnesses. Love is a POWERFUL EMOTION. And losing a loved one- closet to you, can cause unfathomable grief. 💔
I lost my daughter and almost lost my mind. Words can’t explain that pain. I became physically ill due to grief. Sharp pains in my chest became the norm. It was hard to function. I couldn’t remember or comprehend most things. I felt vulnerable and stupid but I know it was all part of grief. Randomly crying at grocery stores. Hiding in my car at work so no one could see me cry. I pray that no one else ever has to experience this. I’ve learn to cope better but that grief is permanently embedded inside me.
My total condolences. I can’t fathom your pain. I’ve had losses, but not a child. I will pray for your strength and comfort.
I am so very sorry! GOD BLESS YOU DEAR ONE! I pray for Peace For You that surpasses all understanding! In Jesus Name I Pray, Amen, 🙏
YES! When my Son, and only child died, the excruciating pain your heart
feels every minute of everyday is enough to break down the entire system
that keeps us going! And as his mother, they literally take a piece of you
with them! It’s a horrific feeling I would never wish on anyone. And for
all those who say it will get better in time….it never gets better, you just
learn how to adjust to your new life..if you can call it that!
My sister died at 62 right before retirement. My father died 3 mths prior she was the health freak in the family . She was itching severly and went to ER, thought it was from mowing grass. She was diagnosed with choleangio carcinoma ( cancer of the bile duct) . I grieved terrible, barely functioned. But i kept praying to God , im way better and know i will see them in heaven one day .
I want to say how important mental health support is so important. After caring for my husband’s battle with Lewy Body dementia (4 years). I had support during his diagnosis and for several yrs after. Hugs to those going through this difficult time.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
Hi, from Oakland County, Michigan. I do recognize that a lot of stress affects you. Been there. I am a widow now too.
Thank you for educating people on the broken heart syndrome. We lost my mom to late diagnosis cancer, compounded by my dad's dementia, in 1999. In 2000, we lost my dad mid-year. It was a chaotic time overall, AND I was running a business with my husband and homeschooling 2 teenagers. Afterward, I was just exhausted. People noticed, but said to snap out of it and get on with life. I started to cough and a GP sent me to a cardiologist when usual cold meds did nothing. I remember taking a stress test and very quickly that wonderful doctor sat me down and carefully explained broken heart syndrome. "You don't have a sick heart; you have a broken heart. It is time to take time for you to get some psychological rest. You need to take your spouse and go on a long weekend away." Best medicine I ever had prescribed! Her concern told me this was no joke. It was critical to ditch the critics and take that time for my heart to be restored.
Miss him - the most important thing I ever did --- Be a Dad
Lost my 23 year old son to cancer. I know I will die of a broken heart, but in the meantime I will wander around this earth until my time comes. Take care
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So sorry for your lost. Please "live" for him. Go places and have new and amazing experiences!
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A part of you dies when your child dies! No one realizes how deep grief goes! It is a pain within yourself that never goes away! If you don't have a faith or something or someone to cling to, it is very hard to recover! Some never do!
actually you will never recover, you lived it everyday and everyday is a battle of survival, i lost my only son too, and my life is never the same, yeah you laugh sometimes pretending that you are happy but you know your not. there are no days that pass by that i am not thinking of killing my self its just, i love my mother and i don't want her to feel what i experience, she suffered too much already..
It's good to read Bible verses and to pray 🙏
I won't/can't listen to this, as I am afraid of what he's going to say. I will volunteer this, after my 27 yr old, beautiful, bright son died from S, 7 years ago, I was well on my way to dying of stress & grief. As an HSP - highly sensitive person - I knew every nuance of my body & mind. I could feel the cortisol being released. From it's release I could track the stages: extremely uncomfortable rush of panic & anxiety & fear, racing heart, heart pain, followed by a warm exhaustion through my body.
Around that time I was diagnosed with pre-diabetes, Stage 2 Melanoma, HBP. My grief was killing me. And weight gain around belly.
Cortisol is not good for your heart or your blood and I was bathing in it numerous times a day. This went on for years before I dragged myself out of the depths. I knew if I didn't get a grip I would die. So, I made a concerted effort to stop ruminating over my son's death. It was a traumatic one. I designed my own cognitive behavioral therapy and immediately redirected those thoughts known to trigger a cortisol rush and panic attacks. I spent too long in extreme sadness w/ noone to talk to or look in. Isolation is also not great for a person in Depression, Complicated Grief & PTSD. But it is what it is.
I am still grief stricken and cry every day. But I no longer have those cortisol dumps. (actual squirting of cortisol into my abdomen from adrenals; I would hear & feel)
Please tell me how you redirected and designed your own CBT plan. Do you have a blog?
I understand this very well. My son passed. I was his caregiver as well. I also have autoimmune issues. It has been very hard on my body but I'm pushing forward. I can completely understand the Broken heart syndrome.
I'm sorry.
Peace and healing wishes
Broken heart syndrome ( takosobu cardiomypothy),it hit me from a terrible case of covid this Jan. Crazy. I do not recall any pain. I had great Dr's @ ER who worked together with another hospital, got me transport to a better cardio setting. My heart is 100 % healed & fully working . I'm on some meds for it for probably a few more years. Glad to be here & blessed I had such skilled caring folks tending to me.
I have it too. Happened after my Mom died.
Im sorry to hear about your mother. Hoping you are taking care & recovering well. @mango14th76
My bro died of that. Our mother did it to him. Long story involving rich mom screwing poor brother for $40,000..he died within 12 hours at 44..never had any health issues, was strong as hell....all other guys in family live past 80.
@@Laura-hc5pq Thank you. I wish you good health too!
@@stoneneils My Narcissistic Mother did me in too. 70 years of hellish mothering. She died at 90. I almost did then too.
What i saw when i went to recover my son's body in a neighbouring country in December 2023 never gets out of my memory and my health is deteriorating day by day. As a parent i never expected to outlive our children, grief and burial remains in the heart.
Thank you for this i just learned that i am not alone in this situation.
I lost my dear 11yr old husky Xmas eve 2021. I’ve never felt grief like that, I’m still grieving and not over him. He may be just a dog to some, but to me he was my soul mate, my son. This January I was diagnosed with severe heart failure because of dilated cardiomyopathy, brought on by the grief of losing my boy. I’m sick, my heart is weak and my EF is at 25%
I am blessed to have a soul dog: a beautiful mini husky. I try to stay mindful of this: it is God’s plan that our dogs & cats have a shorter lifespan than us. God’s plan. I hope this meditation protects my heart if & when she goes. I hope this helps you. ❤
Just recently I had to put my 15 year old dog to sleep because his illness finally caught up with him. I had him since he was a baby. It's been as hard as grieving the loss of my mother. I feel the presence of his absence, and the silence is deafening. I can't imagine what it might be like losing a child because even having a pet is a highway to heartbreak.
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I’m so sorry. I lost my dog, my cat, and my mother-in-law, in one month, in 2016. It took meds to bring me out of it. This year, we lost one dog 9 yr old) unexpectedly on jan 23rd, and my little dog (16 yr old) 2 months later, also unexpectedly. Its a sorrow that I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemy. You’re not my friend. I still cry over losing my gizmo. You’re not alone. I’m thinking of you ❤ and keeping you in my prayers too ❤❤❤
@@skipper523I am so sorry, I also lost my little Gizmo, and thought that I would die from pain. She was my little girl and I delivered her 15yrs before.
you had him since he was a puppy. Baby is a human child.
I feel for you they are unconditional love non judgemental pure love.Joyful ❤️ So amazing God sent them to comfort our souls with great companionship! When you are ready rescue one in your dogs honor ❤
People said I am ridiculous but after my 18 year old PoMeranian passed away (naturally)... I could not function I barely ate, laid in bed crying almost constantly and I called in sick from work for 2 weeks.
I even went to see my physician to seek help for depression/grief.
When I went back to work others assumed that when I called out after I told my "boss" that I had a death in the family that it must have been my mom or my husband. I said No it was my PoMeranian but I had 'sick time' accrued and used it rightfully so.
Even NOW, just writing this,
I have tears running down my cheeks. YES grief can possibly kill a person!!
You are right. My 13 year old Chow Chow died in April last year. I was gutted and couldn't function for 3 months at least, during which time I cried incessantly. Even now, more than a year later, I still miss him and tear up every time I think of him. And I am not living alone, nor am I lonely. My heart was truly broken.
I lost my mother to cancer and then lost my housing twice during the pandemic and then got into two separate car crashes... My cat also died during all of this. I still cry about my cat. I'm homeless now and barely hanging onto life... I already feel dead inside. I'm an only child and all alone. Never even married.
@@Network126get involved in a church. They’ll support you socially and maybe even help you get on your feet. It doesn’t hurt to try. I’m sorry to hear about your situation and wish you well
I cared for my Dad when he had cancer. He was my best friend and an amazing Dad. Since then, I have been experiencing all of these symptoms! I lost my Golden 4 days before my Dad called saying they found immature white blood cells-leukemia. She had been with me for 10 years and my Dad was close to her too. He died a month later. I moved and 5 months ago had to return back to AZ because my mother almost died of sepsis. I’ve been traveling back and forth every 3-4 weeks to be with her. My son was suicidal recently and thankfully checked himself in for help. I’m at my limit of grief and the reality that things change so damned fast sometimes. My family means everything to me. I realize I need help or I will end up as an example for this video. Memory loss is a real thing! I’m in my early 50’s and sometimes I can’t recall what I did early in the morning.
Sending warm support and grit 🙏🏾
That's a whole lot to deal with, hun! Yes, you've got to find a way and find some time to take care of YOU. You're of no help to anybody if you collapse and wind up in hospital, disabled, or even dead!
Sending warm wishes and prayers your way.🙏
Being in a relationship with a covert or malignant narcissist can literally kill you
💯 agree, I was completely healthy young female, within few years got really sick a lot of complications
This doctor is taking like EVERYTHING into effect. So rare. Good to see this and hope it helps so many people
After a decade if caring for my husband as he slowly died of Alzheimer's, I reached the lowest point in my life, mentally, physically and spiritually. Since January of this year, I've been slowly rebuilding. I'm following Dr Mark Hyman, functional medicine doctor. Whether I'll get back on my feet before I die remains to be seen.
Same here
Be strong
Sending you much love healing energy & Light 💜🌹💐
❤ I luv Dr. M Hyman! Stay strong
I’m sorry to here you are going through this. My heart goes out to you. You aren’t alone ❤
I cared for my mom and dad for many years. They died nine months apart last year and I’m at my lowest point too. It’s a process trying to regain my health. Ironically my doctor is checking my heart next week. Prayers you get the help you need. I see a herbalist who has helped me a great deal.
My next door neighbors growing up were quite old and when the husband passed, his wife passed away during his funeral. She put her head on her son’s shoulder and died right then. I can’t even imagine how the family felt. It happens.
Wow...
Probably later they were thankful. Maybe happy for her. She obviously could not live without her Husband.
I had heard that ones heart can actually break from being so sad overwhelmed from loss and grief.
Look up the Hebrew meaning of the words Broken, and Heart. The pain will make sense
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
My cousins wife passed away from pancreatic cancer and we knew it was coming. They were together 41 years and were like newlyweds and behaved like young lovers. She passed away and one month later we all thought my cousin was coping with the help of his 3 adult sons and one day he just passed away and he he was very healthy. We all know it was a broken heart
There’s a group of people who defy broken heart syndrome… women whose newborn babies were stolen and put up for adoption. The need to find their child overrides physically dying, for some at any rate. Those who have a why to live will find any how. Death is less painful but love is more powerful than death.
My doctor told me this after my husband passed. We did everything together, we were truly one.
I was diagnosed with Heartbreak Syndrome after my half sisters groomed and took my son by force from my arms. Groomed him to stay away from Mom and his Home. We will always love each other beyond their hate and envy.
Parental Alienation is severe child abuse. I'm so sorry. Lost my kids in a bad divorce, to their abuser. I'm trying to hang on.
I am a twinless twin. My beloved identical twin very suddenly died 4 years ago. Our identity was of 1 person-everything about us was the same-our looks, voice , what we loved - her passing has left me broken and the person I was is gone . I rarely look in the mirror as most times I see her and not myself. There are days that I do see myself but not many. I cry everyday and have had illness . I’ve told the doctor at every visit while crying and even being hysterical - and what does the doctor do-NOTHING-maybe offer me a tissue. I have talked to 2 therapists and they both recommended books-yes, books about losing a spouse. Not helpful.
Being an identical twin is so different. We were so close and talked many times per day and were together every weekend.
What do you suggest? How can I ever get over the loss of who I am without her? I just assume I never will and I’m trying to accept that.
I’m so touched by what you are sharing but I just don’t see how to recover from such loss.
If you know about loss of an identical twin please let me know. Denise S.
I am so very sorry for your loss. I have lost a sibling but not a twin so the hurt must be infinite. I recognise that I will never get over the loss but walk each day knowing that my loved one would want me to find the joy in each day because we are here for a good time, not a long one. I hope you can find the strength to embrace if not the day, the minute or the hour as your loved one would wish you to. You will meet again ❤️🌈🙏🏻
Hooray a Doc who knows humans are a whole integrated system and not a collection of bits!
Live for her. See for her, be for her, gather experiences for her so you can tell her all about it later.
My big sister was murdered in 99..she was 12 years older and was more like a mother figure...there is nothing anyone can say that will make you feel better unfortunately..I look at the world today and I'm grateful that she is not here to see this mess! It still hurts but as time goes by ..it gets more manageable. I'm truly sorry for your loss..you will always have her with you and I promise you you will see her again..
Big hug and praise Yahshua Jesus
For identical twins, the death of one is almost losing a half of the body...it's very crushing for twins to lose the partnership
Reminds me of of a verse, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.”
Proverbs 17:22
This is why having some personal values or core beliefs are critical. It doesn't mean we necessarily need a religion, just some underlying belief that provides relief and support through tremendous strain. I told myself that in my father's passing i could more readily access him with my memories and thoughts of him. That got me through.
My cat was a rescue that wouldn't allow any touch in her first 5 years with us. I learned to hug her with my voice, eyes, and imagination. That helped me when my father died too. I used the same process to imagine sharing a hug with him. I still felt his loss for over a year intensely, but i managed due to these coping mechanisms.
Best wishes to all who read this. 🙏🏾💝
Dana Reeve, wife of Christopher Reeve, died (Mar. 2006) w/in 1 1/2 yrs - of lung cancer - after her husband died (Oct. 2004).
Wow in the book "somewhere in Heaven" I thought it was the result of 2nd hand smoke Dana had breathed in for years during her singing career?
@@lindaschultz7900
Linda, that may have contributed to it.
After my 2 year old daughter passed away from Cancer I developed extreme Panic Disorder. After I had neck surgery I was traumatized from the anesthesia and developed Fibromyalgia. I have never been able to rebalance or reregulate myself again. My daughter passed away over 30 years ago. I have had a heart attack and have Diabetes, Metabolic Disorder, etc.
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I'm. Very sorry. Please look into tapping. Also vit c and heart health
A war can trigger stress and health deterioration.
The Bible says it all the time: A broken spirit dries the bones. Sorrow will lead to death from the inside and then to the outside. That's why Jesus came to heal the brokenhearted and give us the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness.
This is what happened to some dear friends.
She had cancer and other debilitating illnesses. She suffered for years and finally passed after a valiant effort.
Her husband was grieving after her passing and had a void in his heart.
He was found one day, dead on the floor. Everyone who knew him said he died of a broken heart.💔
He spoke to my sister every night, constantly asking how long it would take to stop hurting. (My sister had lost her husband a few years earlier.)
Hundreds of people in our town believe he died from a broken heart.
He didn't feel he had any purpose after his wife passed.
Grieving is a strong emotion and can change your life.
Grieving support groups are very important and helpful for people who are dealing with a loss.
Learning how to talk to people who have had a loss can be crucial. Not everyone will go to a support group. Sometimes talking to someone who has experienced the same thing can help a grieving person.
Thanks for sharing your amazing video!
I also have to watch my stress levels bc i do get sick. I lost 60lbs, my kidneys shut down. That was really bad bc i couldn't drink. Eventually ive had 3 heart attacks. I now care for both my folks. I cant do this. Its exhausting and bc of my medical issues i cant cont to do this. They are going into assisted living for a couple months so not only they can get better but so can i. Its hard when you do a 24/7 shifts and no breaks.
Yes, you and they need a break and you can't do it on your own, that's not going to work. Way too much stress on your body and mind. Take it from someone who has been there, I didn't accept any help when my parents were ill and I regret it. I don't regret taking care of them because I didn't want them to go into assisted living but I have learned to ask for help. If you hire help, make sure they are doing what they're supposed to and treating your parents right. Good luck to you and blessings to heal
@@loubock3238 my folks had a hhc (home health care) but he slept 4 out of 6hrs. So everything fell on me. I was pissed! I told my mom she could hire me, pay me half as much and I'm here 24/7. They'd rather waste the money. That's another reason for assisted living. One person can't do it esp for 2 ppl.
Google heart health and vit C. I hope everything works out for you
A true broken heart feels like a heart attack. My first assist dog passed i thought i would too. It was horrible. It hurt. Thats a broken heart. I cried in my sleep. It seemed the tears would never stop. After 4 months and listening to a song (i thought once i got thru that song without crying id go see the vet that killed my best friend). The vet retired shortly after i got done with him. The tears started again...
I'd love to join but truly can not afford it since my husband passed. Does this channel ever gift membership?
Condolences to you, that is a heavy heart. If the vet was responsible, he will carry that guilt with him for the rest of his life, if he has a heart ant hat's what we hope. You made your point valid when they retired shortly after you got done with him. Bravo for standing up for your beloved pup, he or she knows you loved them that much, they are family. I hope you will find the strength to carry on and in the future open your heart to another companion, he would want that for you. Peace to you
My dog also gave me a lasting broken heart. When I think of her I say out loud "I love you (her name)" saying that out loud when I think of her helps a bit to relieve the feeling of grief. I was also driving across the country and a wolf stopped on the side of the road, a trucker ahead of me pointed out his window at the wolf to make sure I saw it. I felt that my dog's spirit still lives on and was living free in that wolf. It's been 6 years and it still hurts. The experience seems to amplify any other feeling of loss that I experience. Not being able to see someone for 6 months is unbearable and hurts me many times through out the day. I wish you peace and comfort.
We lost our Husky unexpectedly ,he is in my pic, my husband and I cried every single day multiple times a day for over a year and still have moments when we cry and it's been 5 years. I have lost other animals that hurt me deeply as well. I have lost all of my family and a 5 year long boyfriend to sui....I have lost so many people and pets to death and then lost 40 year long friends I thought were friends that turned out not to be and was betrayed by a stepson and dil horribly. Broke my heart. Lost my mom at 7. It's a wonder I'm still alive at 61.
@@RepentfollowJesuswow, that’s a lot you’ve endured…. Sending good thoughts and prayers your way :-)
My beloved dad with big, green eyes died from cancer after a long battle.
I'm so sorry
My soul cries for you and the loss of your beautiful, big, green eyed daddy...I can not imagine your pain. I pray that God comforts and embraces you...🙏🏻🕊❤️
My mom just passed 92 married 70yrs. To my dad. He’s beyond devastated.
I’m with him every day at 63 and its the least I can do .
Most days I wish that I was gone too
Plz stay strong 🙏❤
As a Mom who lost my beloved Son to suicide (the Son who made me smile), i have been diagnosed with several things; cancer, HBP, migraines, emphysema, copd, neck injury etc. yeah, grief does manifest through the body. 😢💔
I've had a near death experience from this type of deadly grief. I didn't lose someone due to death, but I did lose a 6 year-long relationship. I sacrificed my young adulthood, missed the college experience, abandoned my professional and career opportunities, broke family relationships, moved to the other side of the world, resisted high amounts of stress and physical violence and emotional manipulation from others. All of that to stay with this person, only for them to dispose of me because I was starting to feel the psychological effects from it 5 years after the incidents. The grief of that breakup was so great that I went to the ER 2 times. First time was for severe Hypokalemia and Long QT syndrome, and the 2nd time was from pancreatitis. I don't drink nor have a "SAD" way of eating, so those factors were not relevant. It was only when I began to forgive myself and accept the loss that everything was able to resolve. Deadly grief is scary. I didn't know Susan lost her son 6 months prior, I feel so sad for her
Yes, break ups can even some times be worse cause you put your heart into someone who only takes advantage and you feel more lonely.
This is why a lot of people died during pandemic, because they were separated from their loved ones and couldn't handle that kind of stress. Especially the ones in nursing homes who weren't allowed to accept visitors. They had to die alone. That social distance experiment was a big flop.
I heard once, when you are faced with an intolerable situation, that will not change, you must change yourself. I might add, and to walk with God.
I almost died with pneumonia from stress. I was working full time with a stressful job and taking care of my husband who had Lewey Body dementia. I didn’t know I was seriously ill. I blamed myself with being lazy. I finally collapsed and was rushed to the ER and was hospitalized for 5 days I was sent home with a respirator and had to be on oxygen 24 hours a day for two weeks. The ER doctor scolded me for not getting treatment sooner. Heck. I didn’t realize I was sick.My husband’s care giver ended up taking care of both of us. So yes stress can be life threatening.
My Big Brother died by his own hand, I can't get over it. It was 2 years and 4 months ago. I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder, Panic Attacks, MDD and S. Idealization years ago. After my Brother left and the way he left, I no longer care about anything else. I just keep thinking I need to go find him.
I'm so sorry. I'm very close to my brother, I can't imagine. Try to live for him until it's time to go.
My co-teacher died due to cancer. Two months later, the husband died, too. I have seen a lot of events like this since I am already a senior citizen. Those strong-willed people, like my mother, who lived up to 88 yrs old, despite losing her husband at age 52, survived grief. She told us, she has no time to grieve because she still has 4 children to look after. Having a very good reason to survive will defeat whatever grief we have. And also, having strong faith to God matters a lot.
My Mother was recently killed by a MD, (aka Murder Doctor). I have Broken Heart/ Stress Myocarditis. I have had a major list of major symptoms. I will NEVER go to an MD for help. I am treating myself with help from God, Who is the Great Physician.
My Dad was killed by staff at the Clarksburg VA. Many patients were murdered by a nurse there who was one of them convicted. Biggest story in the Dominion Post that year. The staff was horible in large part. My uncle was killed by the Baltimore VA who witheld food and water until the geriatric department killed him. Hospitals are the one place that MDs can get away with murder.
Right!! My husband was killed at Largo Medical by a Dr. who on Thanksgiving day suddenly decided to do a heart catheter on him, nobody called me to tell me he was going to have it done. This was not an emergency either. Unless it is an absolute emergency they do not operate on a holiday, this was Thanksgiving Day. Less staff. My husband was in the hospital for a hernia repair, lost some of his bowels, and was a having hallucinations and fever since Sunday night hernia surgery. Doctor ball faced lied to cover his butt because HE KNOWS WAT HE DID WAS WRONG. Needed to save his butt. A lot more to this story.
My mom went for hip surgery and the doc came out and said everything went well. Right after, a nurse told me and my sister to come tell her bye. She was dying. I did a sternum rub on her and woke her up. After, they were supposed to be doing rehab but instead was keeping her drugged up saying it was comfort care (like hospice). I know truly that if we hadn't stayed with her around the clock, they would have killed her.😢
@@heatherbennett6036 I can feel your pain. The surgeons talk about "routine surgeries" as if they are going to clip your nails. They actually amputated the largest joint in the body and it's a very high risk as also knee amputations. My Mom went through the same thing after I warned her about the risks. It was kept from me until she nearly died twice. I was called in for last goodbye. She survived that year by the grace of God. This time she rolled outta bed and cut her forehead. I would have bandaged it and she would be ok. Instead, my evil brother made sure he hid her from me until the hospital nearly killed her. I begged to get her out and care for her, but the Dr decided to murder her instead.
Widow, widower, orphan… what word do we have for the parent who has lost a child?
There is a word, it's Alomah. I just call myself a bereaved parent 😔💔
Yes, we need a word.
@@deekang6244 bereaved parent ,dats de word,what else do U want?a word won't make a difference anyway,
Thank you for all your time spent giving hope
Grief is one of the most painful things in the world. I honestly still don’t know how people continue to live after the death of a loved one. I’ll never understand death and have always been afraid and super sad of anyone dying. When my mother passed it felt like this can’t happen it happens to other people not me. There were extremely dark days didn’t think I would make it. Anyone that has felt like that or gone through any struggles or grief my heart goes out to you. Life is so damn hard.
The Bible promises that sin and death will be a thing of the past
Psalms 37;10-11, 29.
Revelation 21;3-4
1 Corinthians 15:28
Yes you can. My mom died soon after my dad. They were inseparable. She was so so so sad she didn't want to live without him.
My son (my oldest child) died 11/15/2022. I don't know how I've survived since then. Physically I'm still here but it's like every other part of my being is dead & just waiting for my physical body to realize it and let go. I didn't know how I felt about a broken heart being a cause of death for people even after my grandmother passing one day after my grandfather (her husband). But after losing my son, I have no doubt about it.
Even though I'm not physically dead, I certainly am dead inside & everywhere that counts. Maybe the reason I'm still stuck here is for my other children.
I’m so very sorry for your son’s passing. My son died years ago from SIDS and if it hadn’t been for my other children, I probably could not have survived. Allow yourself to grieve without and with your other children 💕
@@Denise-yj3se thank you. I'm really sorry for your loss as well. This is unbearable, isn't it?
@@moniquebalmer9390 It definitely can seem unbearable especially since your loss is so recent. My son passed 30 years ago at 5 weeks old. My other children were 20 months old, 10 years old and 14 years old. Night time was the worst. I do clearly remember one night falling on my knees beside my bed anticipating another sleepless night. All I could speak was God please help me. I wasn’t angry with God-I was angry with myself. When I climbed into bed, an incredible peace came over me and I was astonished but not afraid. I went to sleep immediately. I knew that was God’s presence comforting me. I have always been so reluctant to share my story because not everyone has the same experiences and I don’t want to cause harm or confusion to someone in such deep grief. I will tell you, though, that He is real and He will give you comfort that nobody else can
Just a suggestion: It may help you to talk with your other children about the loss of your son, their brother. I'm sure they are probably hurting and confused and grieving as well. It's a way of connecting your feelings together and honoring your sons memory.🙏
My heart breaks into pieces, it is soul crushing, and would do anything
for animals to not be brutally abused.
Because of our country’s rapid decline, it is getting worse, the animals,
especially dogs, will suffer the most. 💔
The best thing of all would be a trustworthy friend who could give you extra emotional support for awhile.
Both my son's had Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy and it progressed at 6 they are not twins. My grief began 14 years before they passed away. .Due to muscle weakness and physical changes in their bodies.
I have worked really hard to walk victoriously through my.grief. God is the answer to a joy unstoppable that out pours out of me.
My younger son was spent 3 weeks on life support 10 days prior to being taken off he was slowly dying
OMG! You have described me to a T! Retired RN and was married to chronic addict and alcoholic who passed in 1/2020 from lung cancer. I have Fibromyalgia and had a very physical reaction to his death with elevated BP & HR. Then after the funeral service I had a period of insomnia for 25 nights! Just started feeling sort of human again when I got Covid. Symptomatic for 9 weeks, then morphed into long Covid. 2020 was brutal! Love your videos.
I absolutely knew after a very big betrayal shock & traumatic loss that I was literally fighting for my life w B H Syndrome. 6+ yrs later & after much care & diligence I'm recovering.( I was 60 yrs old at time )Thank God PS I had already had an ablasion for W P W & ventricular Tach. Now I have SVT. Have been caregiving my demented Mom since my loss as well. Have to really be aware of my day to day health
My brother died of that at 44...i almost died of it a few years later at 45...our parents were psychopaths..neither of us had any idea..he found out first..then i did..it was astonishing..they were never a couple..it was all a scam...we were products for perverts. They only covered it once cops got involved and my mafia grandmother paid them millions to play the part and raise us until we were 18..then ditch us. Which they did but we didn't get the message until ouir 40s.
I knew a very elderly couple who moved across the country to live with their children. The wife was bedridden and unable to communicate. The husband was in good health, when he suddenly died. It was agreed that no one mention his death within earshot of his wife. Unfortunately, one son decided it was only right to tell his mother and within hours she died also!! A broken heart?? It is stronly believed by doctors that this is what happened to this dear woman
😢 Such a sad story😢
This happened to Carroll O'Connor. He was so distraught after his son's death that he died shortly after.
When my husband passed away in 2022, after several years of struggling, it was still a shock to me, and I thought I was probably gonna die as well. It was months of intense grief later that I felt I had a chance to live on.
After my husband died, I was manipulated out of everything I had left and loved. My mother was a narcissist and after all she’s done to me, when I think of it, I start sobbing and my face, jaw, chest hurt so much. Doctor told me that is a broken heart.
My mother is also a narcissist, they make things worse in everyway.
I don't believe it's a coincidence. Dying from a broken heart is real.
Yep!
Dr Karlen, thanks for talking about something most docs do not care about…I’ve had 3 situations that caused HEART-BROKEN consequences in last 10yrs. My will to LIVE is what keeps me going and in total remission of my health issues! I had pneumonia, RA, and severe AFIV. All resolved, and now better than ever. I understood that not all have the capacity to truly LOVE. It requires above all, generosity and sanity to know how to love❤
After 57 years of a good marriage my husband passed away. At the time the grief was almost unbearable and a month after his passing I was suddenly diagnosed with AFIB. I had been a runner for 37 years and was very fit. I really feel my sudden change in my heartbeat was due to my husbands passing. Susan Dee Gomm (South Africa)
My husband was my soul mate. My cardiologist watches my heart condition because my grief is so deep. How I miss him!
I’m so sorry for your loss. Everyone grieves differently.❤
I believe this. Grief of all kinds can cause heart issues, and stress can cause autoimmune diseases and endocrine and more. I had a hard breakup two years ago and had a dog die soon after and my heart felt physical pain for over a year. I’m still hurting tbh but not to that extent.
I'm wishing you the best in your healing journey. Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing 🙏
De Kaveh - you know that I credit you and Clarus for interrupting my path which was leading to my demise. I’ve worked very hard to continue the insights we found together. I believe with all my heart and soul that grief has a physical manifestation that must be recognized.
I’ve lost most of my small family to various cancers in the few years before pandemic. Then isolated and went back to work in 2021. The grief and isolation has changed me and greatly affected my health. The part few years having lots of issues. I will never be the same and now have no support system.
I am sorry for your loss. I hope you will be able to build a support network soon
When I was 5 my grandmother died 4 months after my father killed himself. She had a brain tumor and it was removed. They said keep her from any stress. Then her only son died. Grief can definitely kill.
Incredibly Insightful, Several Doctors have shared this too… thank you for sharing this
I grieved for my mother throughout her 12 year stay in an Alzheimer's unit. It was unendurable.
Same
It has been 10 long miserable years since I lost my husband of 38 years suddenly and unexpectedly. He had just turned 57 and passed an 8 hour physical. We were both “healthy” and had begun traveling and celebrating our love. I had battled severe depression for decades but had finally beaten it. Since he passed I have developed a plethora of diseases and illnesses and my depression rules my world; I.e., I now have a pacemaker for sic sinus syndrome, Idiopathic Chronic Pancreatitis, high blood pressure, osteoporosis, gastroparesis, DVT’s and a clotting disorder to name a few.😅
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I can tell you, grief kills. I lost my husband to cancer, I was hospital with flat effect depression, and the doctor told my mom if I didn't snap out of the grief, it would kill me. I got on antidepressants and I got better, but then my 33 year old daughter passed away, I'm depressed again even though I'm on antidepressants. I cry so much that my chest hurts
I am so sorry :( good vibes your way :(
I understand your grief. I'm sorry for anyone going through this.
@margaretr5701 sometimes I feel like I just get out of bed and can't find a reason to.
I’m so sorry 😢
Try deep breathing when you feel like crying, do it instead of crying. I learned this many years ago. It really helps process the emotions in a much healthier way.
Yes, there were countless times I thought I was going to die from grief! It was never ending - 24/7!
People who have never experienced grief simply cannot fathom grief as a life shattering non-stop uncontrollable "darkest hour" experience. It takes many years to heal b/c you never forgetva significant loved one.
(HUGS) to those grieving without care & support.
I ended up with broken heart syndrome after my mom died in Oct 2021. She was 53 and I was 32. I miss her so much. I was in the ER almost 2 weeks after she passed. When she coded the first time I threw up blood and then when we took her off life support I had the worst crushing pain in my chest and I couldn't breathe.
I know I wanted to die after I lost my son.
I'm so sorry. I know I'd feel the same.
I completely understand. I loss my son too. I feel the same way. I hope that you've been able to identify memories to be grateful for 🧡
@@busy_b22Beautiful words of strength and empath🙏❤️🩹💙❤️🩹🙏
@@spunkysparks1779My heart goes out to both of you in this difficult time❤️🩹🙏❤️🩹
Keep praying 🙏 and remember that your not alone🙏
The memories of your wonderful son will always be with you💙in the deepest of your heart💙
I still do.
Grief is killing Me. Ive been a Widower for a year and 8 days. Within a couple months of her passing I lost my step mom and my Sister. Its been a rough year and Im not getting any better. I almost never sleep in my bed cause Im afraid to go to sleep. I need to sleep in bed cause my legs dont have good blood flow and a bacterial infection is taking over my leg. I havent left the house except to the store in a year. I have no Idea how to fix any of it
For anyone reading this and also having poor blood flow or circulation problems. In the morning make yourself a cup of hot cocoa and try to relax with your hands around the warm mug. Do the same thing a couple hours before bedtime.
Use real dark cocoa powder. Not a mix. Try to not use sugar. If you need it to be sweeter try blending it with dates or even prunes 😂
Cocoa or cacao is very very good for your heart and arteries. Its calming and reminds us that we are loved and still have love to give.
If you are suffering from heartbreak there is no better way to heal than to find someone who needs your love.
Share a cup of cocoa and give yourself to some other hurting soul. They aren't hard to find. They're everywhere!
❤🎉 cocoa
Finding a need, a want or even the slightest desire to care for yourself become a colossal endeavor when loneliness and grief are your only sustinence. For me, the first realization that i needed to find a way back to life was when I thought about how badly i would crush them if they saw me destroying myself in this manner. Then I started small, one task. When I wake up, I'll brush my hair. The next day, I added washing my face. The next, getting dressed to go out. I ever so slowly built up to have a routine. When that routine actually became a routine, instead of forced acts, I made a plan to leave the house. I went for a walk. It was sunny and very hot with a whole bunch of mugy. Minutes after leaving, i was miserable, anxious, grumpy and had sweat pooling into my clothes, causing them to be uncomfortablely sticky. Despite all my excuses to go back, I made the choice to go for a walk that day and I was taking a walk. I remember that day so clearly, especially when my body adjusted to the heat, the sun evaporated some of the ick off my clothes, i began to just be.. my thoughts and worries diminished, then i started to feel nice things, the air as i breathed, the sun's rays penetrating deep into my skin, and then i saw the tiniest bird perching on a thorny thistle and was outsatnded by how his tiny feet gripped between the thorns.. i almost smiled. The next day i woke with a need to feel that way again, so I began walking, I like the woods the best, but I crave the sun. When I'm feeling particularly bad, I walk at night, and stare at the sky. I've seen a few strange things in the night that make me feel insignifactly small, so now I try to better the day of any one I come across, I try to help animals, wild, stray and pets and I try to be thankful that I have this time and can feel, be it pain, loss, guilt, loneliness, the joy of others and on the rare occasion, my own joy.
I'm sorry for going on in length, but I worry for you. If you are not able to go to dr for your leg maybe see a virtual one or worst case, order the needed supplies online. Also, I came across quite a few studies, particularly of diabetics, having their difficult to heal wounds treated with gauze wraps soaked in vinegar. I used this method when I had gotten blood poisoning from a cat bite to the wrist, the antibiotics the Dr gave me weren't touching the growing area. By day four, the swelling was increasing rapidly and red lines were spreading, I was told the next step was admitting me for debridment and iv antibiotics. I couldnt do this, i had a child who was going through an extreme mental hardship and i needed to be there. I gave this method a try, within 12 hrs of placing the wraps the swelling had lessened, the lines faded and began to recede. It probably wouldn't have worked without the antibiotics. So please, please find a way to care for your leg infection, can become serious quickly.
I am so very sorry; you are truly in profound pain. Please join a church surrounding yourself with those who can support you. Please.