Navigating a Breakup: Processing the Pain (Stage 02)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ม.ค. 2025
- a month after the breakup, the difficult emotions start surfacing...but this time I don't want to be emotionally avoidant like I've been in past relationships
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been feeling deeply appreciative of this online space where I can share my emotions honestly 🥺 it's been really healing reading your stories & editing this footage after 1.5 months has reminded me of how much my emotions have evolved these past weeks ~
thank you so much sharing your most vulnerable moments with us, Leah. we love youuu 🥺
Youre 100% safe here leah
I really wana know why did you guys breakup if you love so much, please be together
@@geetanjalipradhan1440 she already explained it in a previous video. you shouldn’t comment about what people have to do with their lives
Thank you Leah, you’re helping people all over the world🥺❤️
the respect I have for you sharing this journey so vulnerably is immense. you make us all feel human and seen
thank you jade for supporting her
Rt! (by the way, who else wants to see Jade and Leah together in Germany one day!)
same sentiments damn it takes a lot of courage, strength, and introspection to share something as vulnerable & personal as a breakup - wishing you AAAAAAAAAALL the best things, Leah!!
I'd be lying if I said I didn't tear up at the part where you and Andrew hugged. It's such a familiar, heartbreaking, but beautiful feeling that I can relate to. Always cheering you two on! Sending love~
Thank u Tiffany 🫂❤️🥺
same here, i was sobbing like a baby…
Same, I loved their relationship 🥺 but I hope that they both remain happy in their separate lives now💕
this type of breakups are scary. when you still have so much love for someone but for some reasons you have to let go of the "us" and focus on the "me". i never had the chance to process all the breakups i had properly because I was always afraid of facing the pain. Seeing someone do it, makes me feel a little bit lighter. Thank you for sharing this.
you worded it so lovely :( these type of breakups are scary and hard, i’ve been through it, but i know they will get through it and i’m so proud of the mature and healthy way they are processing it. May God bless them both and bring them joy!
you explained exactly how i felt i’m crying 😭 in a good way tho thank you 🌸
Man, Andrew is such a good guy...I’m never advocating for anyone to get back with their ex but if you guys want to get back together in the future, then I would not object
this is honestly the healthiest breakup I've come across, wishing you both much love as you continue with ur lives ☺🌿
Saying good bye without hatred is honestly so difficult, especially when you have spent so much time with them. It's natural to feel anxious and worry about what the future holds and if you are doing the right thing. It is just part of the process. I heard somewhere that worrying is like a rocking chair, it keeps you in motion but it does not take you anywhere, later when you look back at what seems impossible right now you will realise it was not that difficult. You are much more stronger and capable of what you think you are leah ^^ I just hope you give your heart and mind the time it needs. Wishing the best for you and Andrew. I love you to eternity.
‘worrying is like a rocking chair, it keeps you in motion but does not take you anywhere’ truly
andrew is so mature I wish the best for him
When couples break up people always ask for the definitive 'why' as if all the intricacies of a relationship can be summed into one word or phrase. People ask questions like, "if you still love each other why break up?", and this was such a good representation of a healthy relationship. It's really amazing how you're able to portray your experience so honestly, this is probably one of the most relatable breakups I've ever seen. It's painful and sad, but still so full of love. Thank you for sharing your vulnerability with us. Sending you huggggsss from across the globe!!!
My soul is wishing the absolute best for the both of you. I would be lying if I said I didn’t cry along with you and Andrew. You both are such special beings and it’s truly been an honor to watch you together for the past year or so since I discovered your channel!! My favorite mem of Andrew was when you and him and your grandma were singing together. That lil performance was so precious. Sending all the love to you both 🤍🤍🤍🤍 also as always, amazing video Leah *hugs*
omg so true!!!!
i experienced a break up last year and i could not believe the pain i felt. i couldnt eat for weeks and i would breakdown crying multiple times in a day. It was so excruciating. But eventually it made me love myself more and get to know myself better. Praying for your healing, Leah.
@chanceof_rain im so sorry youre going through such a hard time. It is really hard esp while still loving that person. It will not be an easy journey, there would be days that you will feel fine but there will be days when you feel like it's the first day of the break up all over again. Praying for your healing as well.
Same 🥺
@chanceof_rain so proud of u 🥺
@chanceof_rain such a kind and mature way of thinking, wishing the best for you and her :) hope you're doing okay today :D
“I know wherever I’ll go I’ll be okay and I’ll find a way” literally has me in tears right now. I’ve been having a hard time the last few weeks both mentally and emotionally, and this made me feel so much better ;-;
I hope you get better.. Stay strong and i love u beautiful being💜
This couldn't have come at a better time. I'm (22) going through a break up too. A divorce, actually. My husband neglected me, and used me for citizenship, then stopped speaking to me once I decided to stop signing stuff for him until he treated me better. Guess that was too much to ask. He ignored for over a month and now he's abandoned me. I've hurt myself, cried, had several panic attacks and now I'm going back and forth on an emotional roller coaster. But I'm talking about it in counseling. I'm trying to work through it.
I'm sorry you're going thru a breakup as well. I wish you nothing but the best, and for tons of happiness in the future 💛💛💛💛
I'm sorry that you're going through all of this. Just want to say that i am really proud of you for choosing to heal everyday. It takes a lot of courage to do that. You can do this ❤️
Hey love, this is exteemely hard to go through, but i am very glad you let go of that man so soon, because he would only bring you pain. You are now going to heal and find a better space for love, if in community, friendships or romantic partnership, it doesnt matter, you are so worthy and beautiful. 💙💙💙💙💙
Omg I am dating a guy from Colombia Ifeel like he is playing me because he wants my citizenship I finally decided to block him today
You did what was right for you and I hope you are so proud of yourself! I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through. You can do hard things and things will not only get better, things will be GREAT
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crying w u bby girl, u have such a special heart
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@@lovenature1919 ?? she’s supporting her
@@natashadahle9628 ??? she’s supporting her
@@urangmyphone265 she cheated on her u must be new
Hi Leah. I want to say that I felt so touched by this video. The way it was made, from the choice of shots to the beautiful music that has made me tear up for some reason, and vulnerability most of all. I'm a newish viewer, and I just want to say that your soul is one of honesty, beauty, and kindness for those who need it across the web. It is really cool of you to be able to be this open with the world, and I want to thank you for giving me inspiration to live life, and know that we all go through this human experience, filled with beautiful moments, both wonderful and painful. We're all in this together. Thank you!
thank you 🥺🤍
@@leahsfieldnotes we love you
I truly appreciate how respectful you are towards Andrew. I, myself, am going through a breakup too. My ex-boyfriend was not only a lover but also a soulmate. However, we both know it was better for us to part ways. We still love each other a lot and remain friends, but it is really hard for me to face my emotions when I am alone. So thank you for sharing your vulnerable journey, I feel like having a friend accompanying me on this path. I hope you will soon be steady on your feet and move forward. Love, Charli 💖 Sending you some of my positive energy, it should arrive tomorrow bc I packed it and sent it with Amazon Prime speed 😂
I'm sure i speak for all of us when I say i am insanely proud of you and the way you have allowed yourself to heal and feel these emotions that are absolutely valid. It's easier said then done. I am going through a rough breakup right now that's emotionally and physically drained me, leaving me stuck, hopefully I can channel some of you to try and get through this too. lots of love MUAH
I totally agree. I think she is doing amazing and I wish you the best too 💗
This is probably one of the most real portrayals of a breakup I've ever seen! Leah, this is amazing, so glad you guys are still friends and can hang out with each other and talk about all of it and be at peace with each other about it. love the both of you!
If nothing is fundamentally wrong in a relationship, sometimes it’s better to just take a break and pursue different things apart but still together. You know. Especially if there’s so much love. Me and my partner have been in an ldr relationship for years now and we talk everyday and share to each other our current struggles and victories. You learn to be more expressive too. And then we plan every meetup and dates and the planning just add more to the excitement and fun. I hope you guys find the best for both of you.
Not to sound like a skeptic but I'm genuinely curious...if you spend so much time apart, does the relationship even feel like a serious one? Don't you have times where you feel frustrated with the distance and your partner not being there physically close to you?
@@Sunshine-yk2eg even if I’m far I still love the person the same.. nothing change the love I have for them cause this is true love..
real love..
@@Sunshine-yk2eg not the OP but I can very much relate to what they said in their comment. Sometimes it is incredibly difficult and things feel very grim for the relationship due to the distance especially ESPECIALLY during covid. There were many times of pure uncertainty of when we would meet again and its really a horrible feeling.
@@Sunshine-yk2eg hi guys, your stories reminded me that me and my partner are about to start a ldr : honestly it was heartwarming to read your point of view ! I saw mostly reviews of people who were only finding negative sides in ldr and how it was almost impossible to keep it up...ngl it kinda scared me. We both agree and communicate on various subjects while also loving each other dearly, so I feel like ldr just changes the perception. You are no longer able to see the person you cherish but feelings are still here and you get excited to meet them !
Anyways thank you for these comments it gave me some hope !
What about physical intimacy? Don't you miss that?
aww leah this was so beautifully documented!!! i literally cried the entire way through. wishing u all the healing energy in the world
going through a breakup is extremely hard and difficult, sending you a virtual hug & thank you for sharing these bittersweet moments ;) we all are extremely proud of you
I cried pretty much the whole way through this video. I graduate in a few months and will then have to leave this town and the the wonderful people I live with who I absolutely adore. The feelings you shared in this video are exactly what I feel already and I haven’t even finished. It’s so beautiful to see how good natured you both are and how much love you evidently still have. It makes me hopeful that the way I feel for the people in my life today won’t go away with us all moving away. :)
I feel you so much. I'm in a very similar situation. I hate leaving places and I struggle a lot with change and new beginnings. I send you so much warmth.
i graduated from uni this past summer and my partner and i decided to part ways. we were together since we were 17. it's my first time experiencing a truly mutual, peaceful breakup and frankly it has been tougher than any breakup i've ever experienced because the quiet, lingering sadness that i feel comes from love instead of anger or hate. but i'm growing. thank you for making this video Leah, sending you love and light 🤍💫
Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. For those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.
-rumi
Hi Leah and Andrew.
I usually always have some little nuggets of wisdom to cheer you up, but not this time.
Going through this wave of emotions is part of the process, so "enjoy" it (I guess ?).
And although I'm obviously sad for you, I'm also really happy for you 2 beautiful souls to be able to handle it with such openness and grace. Your relationship really was something beautifully special, down to the breakup, and it's really not everybody on this planet that had this kind of luck. Most breakups are much more messy and tend to really wreck people's lives, so seeing one that's done in such a healthy way, qi believe it can help a lot of people in their own process, to try and find some peace that somewhere in the world, some people can make it in good terms and beautifully stay friends.
So even if it hurts, you can be proud and grateful for having experienced such a beautiful and unique chapter of your book, that you can now close to start writing the next one (that I wish you to be as beautiful as well, even if it's very different). And thanks for having invited us all to have a few regular sneak peeks into your little bubble for 2, these past couple of years. You 2 brought a little bit of calm and soothing sunshine in a time where people needed it the most, and unlike the Avatar, you didn't vanish ^^.
Take good care of you.
Sending you massive virtual hugs from Brussels !
Ps : my favorite moments of Andrew on your channel : Gosh, there are so many...
I loved his insights whenever you've got some adulting talk, he always come up with some real kind wisdom for such a young man, which always impressed me (qi completely understand why you guys were together). I also always loved when you had various clothes tryouts, and he was your jury, always waow first, then grade your fit in the most thoughtful and analytical fashion. That was so refreshing to see a young dude actually putting a lot of thoughts on how his girlfriend's fashion.
PPS : 哈屁牛夜！Enjoy the tiger !
11:16 this is the most beautiful relationship. Andrew is still calling Leah Mishu also made me tear up. you both are beautiful human beings. sending positive vibes and love to you two
My heart 🥺💔😭
It's so good to see such a stable relationship and how healthy the break up can be in a relationship like that. I am so sad to see your pain, but I can tell it's part of the healing. Seeing what we did of this relationship really made me believe in healthy relationships, a type of relationship I would want that I hadn't seen any examples of, and I thank you both for that and the fact you were willing to share. But that's what you get with two great people who truly care about eachother and vibe so well. I'm sure you will both grow so much through this and I'm excited to see how you grow and what you do. Glad to see your season of change beginning and you still feeling stable that you have Andrews support through it. Love you lots! Excited to see the little key bear! You are doing great, you are beautiful and strong and vulnerable in such an important way.
It's so weird... I'm going through the exact same thing. I broke up with my boyfriend a month ago cause we were parting ways for personal growth. We ended well. Like friends, just like you guys. And today I was just crying with nostalgia, and I opened youtube and your video was on my recommended. I feel you girl. It's so hard when the reason for breaking up is not because you're no longer in love...
The irony is you need to grow outside of a relationship so sometimes a breakup is necessary. With maturity and independence from time alone it can set you up for more success when in a relationship.Remember a girl keen on me but couldn’t go there because she knew very little. Once she came back after time abroad she was way more mature and I felt more into her .Didn’t happen for various reasons but knew I made the right decision. All a big lesson really is the gist of it .
So happy for you and Andrew to have such respect and care for one another during your breakup. Relationships teach us more about ourselves than being a couple, especially the healthier ones. Wishing you both more care and comfort as you navigate the next phase of your journeys.
ive never cried so much seeing another's person breakup but you guys, it just hurts and i get your pain.
sending both of you so much love and hope for the better, you will get through this
I'm 18 years old and had my first boyfriend when I was 16. All the boys that I've dated treated me like trash and I thought back then that THAT was the standard. I've started watching your videos more when Andrew came into the picture. I've admired your relationship's simplicity and beauty. I like how you both go hang out in the picnic and just talk then make dinner in the apartment. Whenever I watch those videos, I manifest to have that relationship as well. You guys were so well balanced even in this video. Leah, I don't know what's more into the relationship you and Andrew have but I respect this journey that you both are partaking in. I saw that all the love that you have for each other seems hard to let go. I hope this new chapter gives you more positivity and light !! I hope the both of you can overcome anything ❤️ we will be always by your side (/･ω･(-ω-)
I'm going through a break up rn that mirrors this so much. I suddenly remembered this series and went back to it. It's super comforting to know that there is someone out there who knows how I'm feeling rn, went through it, and still is able to encourage others during tough times that everything is gonna be okay. It really sucks rn. But I know I'll be okay. Thanks for making vulnerable and authentic content, Leah ❤️
This is the first time I'm having a hard time dealing with somebody else's breakup, sounds ridiculous but got so attached to you both....but anyway I'm sure you both made the right decision for yourselves. I wish nothing but the best to both Leah and Andrew.
same
I cried so hard watching two people I've never met say their goodbyes. The fact that you're both so kind and respectful about the breakup is so admirable. It's like you're best friends still.
I'm in a midst of going through a healthy breakup. Its my first time ending it on good terms with someone and it is so difficult because being able to talk to them feels like hope yet it isnt and you can't really simply push them out of your life, so you have no choice but to face it. We would call and cry our eyeballs out everyday. Your videos comfort me. I'm glad I found your channel! Stay healthy Leah
why did i want to cry when Andrew popped into the studio and when he prayed before you both shared a meal together 🥺🥺🥺❤️❤️❤️ thank for sharing this. Its so touching and honest
And when he embraced Leah *sniffs*
This is such a bittersweet moment that I’m watching. So many emotions and maturity. Breakups are extremely hard and I too have faced it. But I never saw someone so strong like you Leah. We may not know the things that you’ve been going through every single day and I admire how you’re letting yourself heal and process the breakup. This feels so new to me because I never thought breakups can be something that you and your ex may or can experience together. Allowing yourself to be vulnerable once more with the person you’re about to say goodbye is such a refreshing sight to see. I still have a lot of things to say but I genuinely wish I had this moment with my ex. Love you Leah!
this one hurts. Grieving over on leaving such great relationship is so hard especially being together for a long time and living together gave both of you an immeasurable amount of grow as person be it together or alone. Growth is difficult and doing it alone is much more difficult. Moving away from comfort is insufferable but needed. Thank you for sharing this vulnerable experience.
Leah I just want to say how proud I am for you to have the courage to be this vulnerable with us, I’m sure it wasn’t an easy decision. Your advice and transparency is why I love your channel. I wish you nothing but continued healing and happiness 💜
The gratitude of Andrew was so hard to watch . I mean it is so heartbreaking and I can’t imagine how they going through it
hey leah do not forget that you are very strong person and I really wanted to tell you everything is gonna be alright :)
thank you 🥺
This makes me realize how toxic relationships I had before like I literally wish I had this kind of healthy relationship even though it's gonna break up!!! I'm sending you so much love from afar!!!! Everything's gonna be so okay!
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Processing my breakup was like this. I kept myself busy both mentally and physically to avoid pain. While I was avoiding the pain I was also avoiding the reflection needed to move on properly. Go Leah! Love for you and Andrew
I cried with you so many times through this video, I understand deeply the feeling of loss when that person is still there. It is a really deep pain, to have to leave something or somewhere or someone that used to feel so permanent.
The timing of this video is perfect. I am also going through a break up where we parted ways because we needed space to grow and find ourselves outside of each other. I have been taking my time to grieve the relationship and establish my boundaries for both myself and within the relationship that we still have. It's been a lot of crying and lonely nights. However, I know I am not alone. It is simply a matter of taking things day by day. Watching this video was the reminder I needed. I am doing the right thing for myself.
I've been so emotionally stagnant for weeks now, but watching this made me cry my eyes out because of all the times I've watched your channel and it made me think of the first video of yours I saw, the 5am Morning Routines and how Andrew was such a big part of your video and how happy everything was even though you guys were dragging yourself out of bed and into cold showers every morning lmao. It's been a real pleasure watching your relationship with each other and I know that it's an emotional time but I'm looking forward to seeing you thrive on your own as well. Best of luck to Andrew, and I hope we get to see him again in the future. Thank you for sharing this raw period of emotion in your life right now, it can't be easy.
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i'm completely in awe of how the two of you are handling your break up- sending so much love to you both 💗
24:38 gave big "this is fine" while surrounded by flames energy
Anyways, I'm so proud of both of you. Breaking up while still having so much love for your partner is hard to walk away from. I'm glad to see you both providing a safe space for each other as you are both going through these emotions, and I know you will both be ok. I'm excited for what the future holds for you both and can't wait to see Andrew again one day. Until then, take care!
Now this is what I call brave. Showing emotions, being vulnerable and being yourself. I’m so glad you’re taking your time and letting yourself feel. Also it was wholesome to watch you and Andrew spend time together in such an honest, healthy way before you left. I wish more people were this mature. Wishing you healing and happiness and everything that you want🙏🏽♥️
This was so tender and honest... when Andrew says "you can cry if you want to" as Leah was packing just made me tear and cry. Felt the raw emotions and truly respect this kind of pure love. I think what I found the most inspiring yet hard to comprehend was how you guys were so happy spending time together yet still chose to break up. It really showed me how much one can be in tune with their personal happiness and to acknowledge that within the relationship. I feel like the most of us push through relationships when the pros outweigh the cons. But maybe it's not just about whether that partner is good to you or how compatible you are but how much you allow each other to grow and how much you grow individually.
Thank you for displaying such a mature breakup and for sharing that with us. Definitely learning a lot from this process.
hey leah!! just wanted to thank you for showing us that's its okay to be vulnerable and healing is a gradual process. thank you for sharing this with us and just remember that we're all here for you. we love you!
My boyfriend of 5 years and I decided to part ways a month ago, and your videos are making me feel supported through this strange, scary and beautiful time. Seeing you both laugh and hug in the studio reminded me that loving times post break up can be enjoyed without it meaning that you have to get "back together". It's been hard, to love someone so deeply but still knowing that you have to let them go. Something in me knows its the right decision, but I keep wanting to negotiate that feeling.
I can't thank you enough for sharing this with all of us, and I thank the universe to have guided me to your story. I mean it when I say that you are making a difference in my life right now. Sending you love and strength
Dear Leah,
I am also currently going through a breakup, my girlfriend is moving back home to Laos and I live in Thailand. We felt ready to end things, even though I love her so much, this wasn’t the right time for us. I just wanted to say thank you, because watching your videos and seeing another person also going through a breakup with a person they truly treasure and they know will be in their future is really encouraging. I hope we can find peace soon. Thank you so much for sharing your journey.
I really like Andrew and I really like you, Leah. Also, I loved seeing you two together. It's hard to see you separating, such a great human beings with so much love for each other. Of course, I don't know all the reasons of your break up, but it remains me so much of myself and my boyfriend ten years ago (also artists the two of us :). I can tell after all this time, the love last but the pain eventually stop. I wish for both of you the best and hope you find what you are looking for. I can't say I did, but we are not quiting yet!
leah... your feelings are beautiful. i'm navigating a breakup with an andrew as well. you're not alone -- we're not alone. the sadness and pain and love that we feel are a part of the path we're on
This is One of the most beautiful representations of change I have ever seen!!! Going through a situation where I’m experiencing such similar emotions so thank you for making me (any everyone) feel so seen and not alone. Can’t explain how deeply I mean that
literally cried a little :’ wishing u all the best in this new chapter of life Leah
I really don't know how to start, i just want you and Andrew to know how much you tough me about a healthy relationship. I could never understand my value and the fact that i deserve to be loved by myself and by people who i love
Thank you for sharing your experience and moments w us
Felt really sad to see you cry, but I'm so happy to see you two grow and become happier day by day 💕
Luv you, take care ´꒳`
I knew you guys from the apartment hunting video and I started comforting myself that one day i will have a relationship like you guys because it’s so healthy grateful and caring relationship. Now i love you guys even more but not as a couple but as the most 2 beautiful and mature people , people like you guys inspire people to believe in love and believe that we all deserve to be loved. I love you all. Please be happy.
I've never even been in a relationship, I've never went through a break-up, don't know how it feels but I was crying with you the whole time
Your vulnerability is an embrace for the aching heart, wishing you the best Leah 🌿
I’ve never fallen in love and gone through a mutual break up… but I imagine it’s one of the most painful things ever.
going through something similar right now and the way you handled letting go so maturely and optimistically makes me feel like everything will be okay eventually for me as well. we can go through this together
i broke up with someone who was a very good friend to me. i passed over this series a few months earlier, bc i wan't quite in the mindset at the time, but i'm coming back to them now. i am grateful to be in the same space as you, and i am grateful to hear these reflective, quiet, mindful thoughts. it feels healing to hear about loss together, to hear about good memories and growth. thanks leah. i send u warmth and good wishes
its so good to see that you 2 are dealing with this in such a healthy way, talking to each other and being there for one antoher. so proud
IDK why but I started tearing up when you both were hugging eachother in silence. I definitely cannot feel what you guys are going thru, I can only assume. But I'm sending all my love and virtual hugs to you both .
On another note, Leah never stop sharing your life /experiences with us(as long as you enjoy and are comfortable) . I am grateful to have come across your channel and this amazing community I found within this channel. Love ya. 😊
Absolutely sobbed through this whole video honestly. This gave me so much room to grieve my past relationships, and all of the bitter sweet feelings that come with remembering time spent with someone you’ve loved deeply, and what it’s like to end things with somebody when you love each other and want each other to grow. So proud of you and your courage through this process. your growth and healing and authenticity heals all the people around you. Grateful that you felt safe enough to share this. you’re loved, far and near. I’m so glad you exist
Going through my own healing journey and started going to therapy has been a quite a journey for me. I won't trauma dump here because Leah is going through her own battles. But when she started crying, I started crying too. Also I felt so emotional watching Andrew too. It felt like I'm a mutual friend and I'm seeing two of my close friends discovering themselves and fighting their own demons. I wish I could hug you both and say you are brave and it might be hurting now and it's okay to feel sad. But both of you will be okay. Both of you will learn and grow more in your life.
I cried so hard the entire time omg. Hope you guys cary this amazing love for each other during your own journeys, because a love like that is very rare and pure and I'm so glad that you were both vulnerable to share this with us. Take care of yourself Andrew, we're gonna miss you so much!
i really hope the best for both of them, they deserve nothing less than a good life and success in their personal projects
Wow that video was so touching it made me cry 😢 thank you Leah for being such a beautiful human being and staying true to yourself on top of being brave to show the harder aspects of life ❤️ Your channel is really amazing and a safe place
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Sending all the love and virtual hugs needed ❤️💖🧸
I’ve been going through a parting of partnership with the love of my life. Thank you for sharing and creating a space for me to appreciate, reflect, and the let the tears flow. I don’t really know anyone else parting with someone that they don’t want to part with but intuitively know it’s what’s best for our growth and our lives. So, this space is very special and sacred and healing. 🙏💗 Sending the biggest hug to you.
I had my first break up last year and this video brought back so many emotions. Thank you Leah for sharing these hard times with us, I feel like I am not alone when I see people going through the same things as me. Sending much love
This made me cry, you captured that feeling of parting so well in this video. I remember the time I discovered your channel you were doing these morning routine videos, and I enjoyed your dynamic with Andrew a lot. So that's gotta be my favorite memory of him. I hope you are doing well, and I wish only the best for the both of you!
Dear Leah & Andrew, thank you so much to choose the healthy way break up, such a brave and wise decisions :)
kinda teared up multiple times watching leah cry and when u hugged andrew. i hope ur feeling some what better now thank you for sharing this journey with us i hope u find peace and balance soon
Leah thank you so much for making this video. I am 28 and 2 weeks ago my bf and I decided to end our 7 year relationship. I’ve never felt so much heartbreak and pain in my entire life, and I feel you when you said you felt like you’ve never cried this much. The most painful breakup is the mutual one where you both love each other endlessly but you know that in order to grow as individuals, you have to separate. It hurts, but goes with the whole “if you love someone, set them free” vibe.
I’m on the same path as you, going to be moving to the other side of the country to start fresh because the memories of the city you shared together are painful. Thank you for helping me process my own breakup with your videos. I’ve never felt so in tune with an online creator before. We will get through this, and we will be better people in the end, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now. ❤️❤️❤️ sending you so much love
i really love how this channel has become a safe place for so many people, myself included 💌 my comfort and favorite content creator
I rewatched the breakup videos as im going trough one myself now. thank you so much for sharing your journey leah, it is so healing to see this and it has really helped me. all the love from NL.
You two are warriors! Breaking up on common agreement in order to grow and not because of a fight or a drop of attraction is so much more difficult. I'm going through the same thing and it's worth it, for both parts but man, this video did make me cry! Stay strong, and keep growing! 2022 is the year of growth, good vibes and balance. You have a whole community supporting you through this! You made the right choice and everything will work out in your favor. Much love and take care! ❤
thank you leah! currently going to the process of moving to a new city and let me tell you: crying so much every other day just being overhelmed by the big chances this year. i read somewhere that a good author needs to let the reader feel something. anything. thank you for doing that today.
oh my leah. i've been dealing with something similar in my personal life. it's hard ending a chapter that was so so good while it lasted. that's the part i'm doing the worst at. i just keep looking back and wishing i could go back to that since looking ahead seems so scary. it's truly a time of mourning for me. thank you for this video and for allowing us into your life in such a vulnerable way. i'm sending you a big big hug. we'll get through this, one cry session at a time
Dear Leah,
I haven't cried in a long time. This past weeks have been very tough and I never took the time to process my emotions. Especially this weekend I was very confused and irritated by myself. While watching the video I just began crying so much and letting out so much things I held on to. Thank you so much for sharing, I appreciate it very much.
it is very brave for you to share your emotions and private life with random strangers on youtube and i have been a more reclusive person in terms of emotion outlet but i truly admire your courage for sharing and this video really connects with a lot of other women who are going through emotion hurdles. thanks for the love
I’m going through a breakup and this video series has really helped me and comforted me and made me feel not alone in my process of healing. Thank you Leah
leah and andrew, thank you for sharing your feelings and showing this kind of break up. i think a lot of people know break up as something bad, that someone in these relationships is a "bad one", toxic, so as the reason of break up. i really appreciate that you show us that sometimes it can just happen, the reason is to grow apart, become a better version of yourself because of this unconditional love that you have for each other and "end" on a good note. i hope you will become a better version of yourself, process this situation fully and just be happy. lots of love and hugs to both of you!
Such a beautiful video Leah. Thank you for being brave and sharing this with all the wounded and wistful hearts out there.
I’m sure so many of us can relate that breakups are one of the hardest and expanding parts of life. You can miss someone as if they died but they haven’t. The ghosts of exes pass by me daily. I am not able to talk to some of my old boyfriends anymore and I still miss parts and snippets of their character and being more than I can ever express. The only way I can keep them alive in my mind is to turn them into characters in novels and poetry.
We grow and overcome and learn so much through partnership and equally as much through separation. I’ve had moments in breakups where I didn’t see the point of living without that man, and through that I had to learn the lesson of self-love (and what that genuinely means) and how to self-soothe (and how to actually do that.)
I’ve had moments of extreme betrayal and cheat and anger in breakups and through that I learned that under all anger is sadness and like you beautifully expressed it, you have to feel all those deep emotions, eventually. We have to let it pour out of us until time heals and we find our way again.
We have to allow ourselves to cry and wail and mourn like the wild animals and human souls we are.
We have to allow ourselves to continuously heal.
I turned my heartbreak into my favourite song I’ve ever written, I’ve turned another into an award winning film I wrote and acted in, I’ve turned one into an art show of a country I couldn’t be apart of anymore, a language I learned and could no longer speak for him. I travelled solo around the world and started the rib cage of my novel, the skeleton of my story because of another breakup. Breakups have been so important in my growth and self awareness and in my art. To be able to share and express our grief through creating is the most vital and important part of the healing process (to me.)
Expression seems to be the key here.
It’s so much a part of life.
It helps us appreciate the healthy relationships that we are learning to attract. It helps us be grateful for how far we’ve come. It helps us learn to go easy on ourselves. It helps us change in ways we didn’t think possible, in ways we didn’t know we needed.
It’s like a dark murky medicine that strips away the layers of false comfort and illusions of permanence and ideas of the future that we can’t control.
We don’t know anything other than our present selves.
And nothing is guaranteed. Stranger things have happened. No one knows the future and what possibilities there is. I am currently in a situation where my partner wants to grow on his own and move somewhere alone, and we are in a similar place as you two, where we both want to stay in each others lives and wish each other the best. He will leave next month and I cry all the time knowing this. Its so very hard. But also beautiful. That we know we can still love each other but also want to grow alone.
But,
you know,
we really don’t know! We could very well come back together one day. I don’t like the prescription of false hope with thinking that way, but it also lightens the load on my little heart late at night through tears when I whisper and plead about how I’ll never see him again, but I don’t know. We never know. There are friends my age that have been in 6 year long relationships that also don’t know. No one knows what may happen. So we may as well enjoy the ride. Appreciate the beautiful conversations and connections we have had and will have!
I will be alone this year with you, we can date ourselves. We can make art and cry when the tears need to let loose and sing when humour needs to take over and write when we need a counsellor and scream when we need to let our wild women out. The support of women supporting women is sacred.
And I think breakups are mirrors that allow us to see into ourselves for the very first time, into this very present moment, and ask ourselves what we really need. How to really look after ourselves and enjoy solitude and feel wonderfully content alone. Forever. Not just until we meet another man, no, this lesson is life long. We need to learn for life how to self love and self soothe and self comfort and know we are enough as we are, we are complete on our own, our lives are special and unique and brilliant in whatever way they are led. Alone or together. With that person or without.
At least, we have felt love and know how powerful it is, at least, we can say we have tried our best, at least, nothing is lost or regretful if we put our whole hearts into it. ♥️
Everything is as it is meant to be. Everyone in our lives are perfect. Our hearts are growing bigger. We’re all going to be alright. ♥️
I cried the entire video but I'm also so greatful for it! A year ago me and my best friend split up and I would be lying if I said I was over it but it still physically hurts thinking about it. Seeing you be so open with your feelings is really helpful and something I definitely need to do. My best friend of 6 years left me without any explination or closure so moving on has been hell because there were so many questions unanswered but seeing how healthy and open your break up is, made me realise that we definitely were not the right people for each other if we couldn't even communicate at the end of it all. I want the absolute best for you two and I know you will find your strength and peace as time goes by!
when you both hugged it made my heart ache but knowing that this is what a healthy break up is and that experiencing pain and grief is normal even though it was the right decision is such a good lesson. i love this sm especially with all the toxic and cruel portrayals of toxic love this is such a breath of fresh air. pain is normal and is part of life and embracing it instead of ignoring and masking it can be so dangerous i just love how open you two are to what you two are feeling and i am still learning to open up to ppl and to not bottle everything up. baby steps but still its progress
this video made me weep openly. I don't even know why. there's just a thing about the way you put words and things together that it just feels too human. you both have so courageous and beautiful souls that it made my heart broken to see you sad. but also at the same time it is life, you know... what you show us is just too familiar to deny it. thanks for sharing your true, authentic self with us
Things that belong to you will always come back to you. Leah, you are such a beautiful soul and women, inside and outside. I cried while I watching this video, i can see your sorrow and the complicated feelings you have. Everytime watching your videos is like talking or listening to a friend. Thank you very much for sharing all these personal stuff. I hope you are doing ok!
i cried so much especially when you were cleaning your apartment :(( we're with you, leah. i love you and i wish you more strength and healing 💖
dios mio, que visaje que a veces las decisiones mas dolorosas son las correctas. No diré que ojalá en un futuro el mundo conspire para que esten juntos de nuevo, porque esa sería yo aferrándome a un amor que no me pertenece.
Asi que solo espero que ambos esten bien donde esten, mucha fuerza y mucho amor, Leah.
Gracias por los lindos videos.
This was a very sad but also comforting video. I'm going through a breakup right now too and it's kicking my butt even though it was the best thing to do for both of us. Thank you for being so open and honest with us and letting us come with you in this experience. Sending you lots of love and I wish the absolute best for both you and Andrew.
This is such a very mature breakup, and a beautiful one too, thanks for sharing this with us, i wish both of you a lots of love and happiness for the futur, it's going to be ok.
i've recently moved out of my family home. living alone for the first time has been so good in terms of growth, responsibility and learning new things, but it also really takes getting used to. i suppose this truly is a season of new beginnings!
My boyfriend and I decided to part ways last night for our own growth, similarly to you and Andrew. It ended on really good terms.. but I kept thinking that the next step was to simply cut off communication for a bit to let ourselves reassess our lives, which is not what I wanted at all. I thought it was the only way. Your videos showed me something I’ve never seen, watching you both keep in contact, reminiscing together, talking about your feelings, keeping each other updated.. it was exactly what I needed to see. Thank you for posting your journey in full vulnerability. I hope you’re doing well Leah, and are healing each day :)
LEAH this moved me so much. ive never cried so much watching a youtube video. the vulnerability, honesty, and compassion you each showed each other is so touching. change is tough (trust it's my struggle all the time).. but the only certainty is uncertainty and life is all but the ebb and flow of ups and downs. this is a tough period for you, but just know that (like everything is life) it is temporary and there are brighter days to come.
this video was 27:01 long and i cried all 27:01 of it. this is my favourite video of yours, leah! thank you so much for your vulnerability, and for showing us the most beautiful and painful moments of your wonderful relationship together. i'm so, so grateful to have come across your channel, and this wonderful, safe space. 💛
When you first posted this, I avoided your breakup videos as I was in a relationship and I didn't want to make myself sad with this content, but fast forward to now and I'm going through the exact same thing and we're actually processing the breakup like this as well. I'm so grateful for you sharing your experience