How to HURT a Narcissist

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ความคิดเห็น • 96

  • @tamtamz8733
    @tamtamz8733 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Narcs have feelings and emotions….for themselves.

    • @LoudonMetal
      @LoudonMetal 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ON point !!

  • @oliver1224
    @oliver1224 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    You can wound them but you have to be blunt with them.. This is how you hurt them. They may appear tough on the outside but they are fragile on the inside......

  • @himadrimishra
    @himadrimishra 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    When you are trauma bonded.....it's really really difficult, may be next to impossible to detach from that person. But we have to .....have to.....have to......break that bond....

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  หลายเดือนก่อน

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  • @100logic8
    @100logic8 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I blocked HER on everything i never want to speak to HER again she’s sick.

    • @jeskahaley9616
      @jeskahaley9616 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yea I blocked him on everything a couple days ago.

  • @teresadvorak6145
    @teresadvorak6145 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    I don't want to hurt the narc. I want to stop them,repel them & disconnect. Tryin to take care of the hurt the narc puts on me.♡♡♡♡

  • @aliciashort
    @aliciashort 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Thanks Ben. I needed this today. I keep going back and forth thinking maybe I should unblock him and tell him I’m done (for my closure) then I realize that this is my closure. I need to just stay focused on me and realize there is no real closure. I have to create it myself and heal. ❤

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You can tell him, and get a very effective closure. Blocking is great buy saying goodbye before is closure for you. He will get the message.

    • @jeskahaley9616
      @jeskahaley9616 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@therollingstone9701unless he doesn’t…

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You get the closure, when you close the book on them permanently, move on and become the best version of yourself, reaching your full potential as a human being in this lifetime. You know you've arrived! 😊❤😊

    • @eamarc9mm106
      @eamarc9mm106 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Wigga u on the female side SMH smfh

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  12 วันที่ผ่านมา

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  • @patriziastella6564
    @patriziastella6564 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I dont believe in chasing someone that used & abused me. The last time he hoovered me was 6 mnths & i did not respond.
    I've come to realize that his not the right person for me i certainly deserve better. My self love & self worth is my priority now.

  • @turthgod1917
    @turthgod1917 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    You have great information! The only drawback is that I am a male victim so every time you say "He" or Him" I have to say "Her"

  • @sonlightpsalm942
    @sonlightpsalm942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Very simple and direct. When you can grow past the hatred and resentment of a past partner that is incapable of growing emotionally and spiritually because they're emotionally unable to cope and refuse to look inward because of their fragile ego, that they've protected at all cost their whole life. When you can do that, you know in your heart that you've arrived at another level in your growth process that they'll never achieve. 😊❤😊 When you can become thankful that you've gone through the very fires of emotional hell that they've put you through to help develop you into the human being that God intended you to become. Not needing anyone else's affirmations or validation......you know, you've begun the most beautiful and important step in your life. To grow into the best version of you!
    Be thankful. Your amasing! ❤

  • @shannonadler5479
    @shannonadler5479 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    😢25 years, I can't. I now know I have my power 😊. God bless y'all 🙏

  • @dcikaruga
    @dcikaruga 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    It has crossed my mind though, they're already in pain anyway, that's part of the reason why they do what they do.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

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    • @amiravdic7451
      @amiravdic7451 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Idk if that’s the reason buddy. Or if it is I’d like to know what pain. Cuz I myself was molested from 3-7. War started at 8 so watching nonstop beheadings killing n shit I can’t write here all while starving not knowing if I’m next to be offed. Came here with 0 English n a buncha bullies. Can’t imagine being a narcissist for the life of me. So I ain’t condescending I’m genuinely curious what this greater pain than mine is which causes that shit n didn’t cause it in me. I wanna have a lightbulb moment n go “AAAAAA HOW TF DID I THINK WHAT I WENT THROUGH IS ABUSE!!!!???? WHEN THE NARCISSIST IS THE MEANING OF WHAT GOING THROUGH SUFFERING N SHIT IS N BECOMING AN INHUMAN POS DUE TO IT!!!!”
      Whenever I read anyone write they end up that way due to neglect or poor/shitty upbringing my mind goes completely blank n calls bs on it cuz I already know it’s 💯 fact that 99.9999999999 of narcs didn’t have the misfortune to see what real shit is. I’m in several Chicago Tribune 1993 papers which I doubt any narcissists can relate to such inhumane experiences. What’s ironic is she hurt me more than any of those experiences cuz they were ordered to carry out massacres but she did it sneakily like a wolf in sheep’s clothing

    • @Virtualdell73
      @Virtualdell73 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Many people go through terrible hardship and abuse and trauma, even as children, and don’t choose to treat people the way narcissists do… Experiencing personal pain is zero excuse for inflicting pain on others.

    • @dcikaruga
      @dcikaruga 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Virtualdell73 Agreed, there's enough pain and suffering in the world as it is, and we don't need anymore, but you try telling that to these morons.......

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Virtualdell73 I agree

  • @1111spiritualone
    @1111spiritualone 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Ben, you’re speaking on the narcissist being discarded first. We all know that drives the narcissist crazy. However, when we are discarded first they no longer care what you do or if you go no contact because they feel in control. It’s a big difference when we are discarded.

  • @anneroseweiler3869
    @anneroseweiler3869 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    There's a lot of beauty in this conundrum. The saddest thing would be to get lost in an abyss of hatred and revenge. It's great when the meanest thing you can do to someone else is to take care of yourself and become free! 😊 it helps you refocus in your darkest moments and reminds you of who you really want to be.

  • @kellyl1457
    @kellyl1457 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The narc feels no guilt and they certainly do not care about you. Just get away and stay away!

  • @anissaholmes4495
    @anissaholmes4495 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Exactly! Once you don’t give a care what happens and you mentally ‘let go’ of the relationship l. The narcissist is cooked. Stick a fork in him,he’s done. you don’t really care anymore. So 🤷🏼‍♀️.

    • @cashkonvirterz8696
      @cashkonvirterz8696 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This... ma'am.. is what I REALLY needed to hear 👍💯👍 thank you

  • @sherriprentice5892
    @sherriprentice5892 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    One day Karma will serve him everything he gave ten fold. And I will pray for the sob not 4 him but for me... May they all answer to the Boss when our lifetimes are done.

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @sherriprentice5892 As you let go of the past and embrace your future, and heal from the trauma, to come, and become the victorious overcomer that you are....to embrace all that life is meant to be, with gratitude for the experiences, good and bad, along this journey called life, may you be filled with, and embrace the love that's meant to be yours. It's starts with unconditional love for yourself along this journey called life.

    • @miller5170
      @miller5170 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think they are their own karma already. They live in denial bc they do feel shame they feel awful about themselves and have to constantly malfunction bc of it they lose friends and family and love they lose it all people will usually figure them out they usually don’t have real friends that will be there for them over time they get old and less attractive they have nothing left to offer when it really matters

  • @ronitgilboa8315
    @ronitgilboa8315 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    One of ur best videos. So so true , I was and went through all the stages realizing that I that matter is me all I need to focus is on me , no time to spend on feeling pity or want revenge or closure, me me for the first time in my life loving and nurturing myself, not easy having kids and business together but I’m learning to play it right staying together giving no reaction, staying centered and keep working on my growth , thank u thank u
    Love ur passion we need one like u so helpful knowledge is power 😊💖👏🏻🙌🏻🙏🏻🌸

  • @kellyhall4589
    @kellyhall4589 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He was so abusive I fainted and hurt myself. Still recovering from surgery.
    I texted him I never fainted like that before and it almost happened again. He is one of the most toxic people I've known. I would never forgive him. Then I blocked his number.

  • @shamama1834
    @shamama1834 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The titled scared me to listen to it bcuz it’s not right to seek revenge, but I was relieved to hear you explain that we need to heal & this is what actually hurts a narcissist. Bazaar. Thank you for explaining it so well.

  • @marciehamilton-graves5036
    @marciehamilton-graves5036 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You speak so much truth. It’s alllll about valuing yourself, healing, caring about yourself enough to turn away from such games playing and immaturity.

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  7 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Very true!! Would love to help you on your healing journey. Check out this video to see if you connect: www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

  • @vikkibmspoetry
    @vikkibmspoetry 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    I needed to hear this today!! Been fighting myself to set boundaries and learn how to parent with him without him having access to me.

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Parenting someone without granting access is not parenting.

    • @vikkibmspoetry
      @vikkibmspoetry 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@therollingstone9701 he doesn't need access to me to be a good father to his children.

    • @empressb444
      @empressb444 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Firm parenting plan, specific drop off location, only communicate in parenting app or text only, limit to 1x a week- don’t speak at drop off

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@empressb444 Man, I had to write this down, I have learned a lot in 3 years of separation, but that comment is really what needs to be done. She stills tries to make drama at dropoff, but I stay calm and she slams the door eventually and then I go back to my car. I never raise my voice, she gets tired easily. What a nutjob experience.

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Cool 😊❤😊 Grey rock all the way!
      You're amasing.

  • @lynnschaeferle-zh4go
    @lynnschaeferle-zh4go หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I was lucky because the narcissist I dealt with was way to proud to care. He was so special he would never Hoover. After doing all the work and being treated poorly all I can say is he’s pathetically stuck at age three.

  • @therollingstone9701
    @therollingstone9701 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    You are a good teacher bro. That helps.

  • @Denzella2154
    @Denzella2154 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Preach it Ben 👏👏👏👏👏❤ you ain’t dropping nothing but TRUTH 🎯

  • @msavandeventer690
    @msavandeventer690 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    We crossed paths today driving passed each other. I was triggered, he was not bothered!

    • @NMTDelightfulMusic
      @NMTDelightfulMusic 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      In time it will reverse, beleive me 😆😅🤣😅😆

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  7 วันที่ผ่านมา

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  • @joeg297
    @joeg297 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Why would you want to stoop to a narcissist's level? Why would you want to purposely hurt someone?

  • @sharonb519
    @sharonb519 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    You have no idea how much I needed to hear this. Thank you. 💕

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      We're here to support your healing journey. Come join us in this free masterclass to learn about the secret methods on breaking free from the toxic, break the bond and empower yourself once more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass

  • @beverleysilcock9135
    @beverleysilcock9135 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    They always have to win

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Or else they collapse. Stay away is best for you.

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Unfortunately, they don't understand that what they think is winning, is them actually losing! lol 😊 They lost you. It's their karma.

  • @FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv
    @FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Can’t do it. One who spends their time fighting monsters needs to be careful they don’t become a monster themselves.

  • @jayTee-zp1jn
    @jayTee-zp1jn หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just stay the **ck from them, I know easier said than done but work towards this.
    I don’t mean this to you Ben - you are very helpful and I really respect the fact that you share awareness and help on this issue.

  • @a.llewellyn
    @a.llewellyn หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thank you for this

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  หลายเดือนก่อน

      My pleasure! I'm happy to hear that you're finding our content valuable! I'd like to extend an invitation for you to join our free masterclass. In it, we'll explore methods for breaking free from toxic relationships. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass.

  • @swatiahuja7758
    @swatiahuja7758 หลายเดือนก่อน

    this is good , thank you. I don't want to cling anymore

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Would love to help you on your healing journey. Check out this video to see if you connect: www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

  • @Danny-pc8mw
    @Danny-pc8mw หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    But what to do if you are married 😢

  • @sumairae1078
    @sumairae1078 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is good

  • @trishitaghosh7408
    @trishitaghosh7408 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I am still trying to reach him out. it's been six months. Am I the narc? every night I am suffering from anxiety and panic attack, it feels I can't breathe if I don't text him and he blocked me from everywhere

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  หลายเดือนก่อน

      You have a trauma bond/addiction to him. Check this out www.rawmotivations.com/breakthrough

  • @mortischahicks5341
    @mortischahicks5341 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing another wonderful video 🫶

  • @swatiahuja7758
    @swatiahuja7758 หลายเดือนก่อน

    why do we have to hurt them to make them realize. why should we hurt them

  • @karmabender
    @karmabender 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    awesome

  • @beverleysilcock9135
    @beverleysilcock9135 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Dont play the game

    • @therollingstone9701
      @therollingstone9701 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Right.

    • @RobNiser
      @RobNiser 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@therollingstone9701 Never

    • @sonlightpsalm942
      @sonlightpsalm942 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amen. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes! 😊

  • @foxygayla
    @foxygayla 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    If he really wanted to reach out to me, he could have mailed a letter. I made that mistake and mailed him a letter when he ghosted me. Unbelievable.

  • @m.o.s.h.1836
    @m.o.s.h.1836 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    don't hurt them because God will punish them.

  • @jedwin4491
    @jedwin4491 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I been discarded by a my ex he continues to breadcrumb me and has multiple supply’s now but I depend on him finically and continue to beg. What do you do when you need them still I’m scared if I stop pursuing him he will stop helping and forget about me. We have two kids 😢

    • @seameology
      @seameology 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Get out. He will eventually abandon you, anyway. You will still be struggling. But it's on your terms. If you wait until he discards you, then you won't be prepared, even mentally.
      🙏 praying for you. I've been there.

    • @NMTDelightfulMusic
      @NMTDelightfulMusic 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Find cousins to help you, start looking for a job, plan exit. Listen to H.G.Tudor how to do that

    • @charlottestaley-yz9tu
      @charlottestaley-yz9tu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He will abandon you, get a plan together to make sure you you are ok when he drops you or plan and run , you are in discard stage as you are aware xxx

  • @anons000
    @anons000 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Stop saying HE. Many many many female narcissists too

    • @RawMotivations
      @RawMotivations  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Not who I work with… so you can switch the gender in your mind or… idk cause I’m not
      Changing who I talk to :)

  • @JosephMercieca-l6m
    @JosephMercieca-l6m 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hello Ben can hurt a narcissist even if she loose interest? Thanks

    • @miller5170
      @miller5170 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Do good for yourself be the best happiest you ❤

    • @JosephMercieca-l6m
      @JosephMercieca-l6m หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@miller5170 thanks

    • @JosephMercieca-l6m
      @JosephMercieca-l6m หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@miller5170 thanks

  • @emavanstek5442
    @emavanstek5442 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I think he is an silence narcissist
    I wan to break up
    An find a place for my own
    I’m a little bit nervous about his reaction
    Nobody knows it just a couple of friends
    It’s hard
    But I don’t feel a connection

  • @tammyfitzgerald5336
    @tammyfitzgerald5336 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    🎤🎤🎤💯💯💯🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰