This is very helpful to people who have obsessive compulsive disorder who literally beat themselves up for thoughts they can’t control, thank you for hearing us and being human. The ppl in the comments are very unaware of what it’s like for ppl like us
I’m pretty sure I have ocd . These comments really help me calm myself because I feel so connected and understanding of what they say . Because I’m the same way
Broo this is so relatable ... OCD causes false attraction I feel like what if I'm in love with someone what If I did this did that .. I just know one thing that I love my partner and my brain keeps tricking me but I won't give up cause I love my partner
Here's the thing. If you're truely in love, you fall in love with that person over and over again. You don't get to entertain thoughts with someone else. What's indeed natural is to find people attractive physically and mentally. But it should not get to the point where you're having fantasies of being with them. If this is totally normal, then you'd probably consider it cool to have fantasies with your best friends spouse. There's boundaries for a reason. A healthy person keeps them effortlessly
Yes, it's going to happen. Just set boundaries for yourself. If you really love your significant other, then that love and respect for that person should keep you faithful, but you are out of love with your mate or have no emotional connection, then you might have issues.
Wrongo bongo. If you sit and think about hooking up with someone else you have issues. Thoughts become words.... Words become actions.... Actions become habits.... Habits define our character....
@@Benaiahmane lol nobody has that much self control, can you accept it if the girl you love is hooking up with another guy? That's such a ridiculous theory bruh. Don't normalise this things!!!!
I rather b single than b w anybody who's wishing they were w someone else, fantasizing abt someone else, craving someone else, misses someone else ect.
Wait till you actually love yourself, set standards, boundaries & not settle for less in life. I'm not the only loyal mf on this earth just like you're not the only prick nasty pig in this world.(: There's someone for everyone.
okay, i'm not used to comment, but I feel now like I should. I'm in really healthy, wonderful, 6 years relationship. We talk, communicate, looking for answears together. We both have our experiences, habits, advantages and disadvantages. We never deceive each other, we don't lie, try to take care of the relation we have, maintain passion, but base everything on deep, mature love. Indeed, sometimes it's difficult to maintain a state of young love/passion in a long-term relationship, but we are trying together, we have our wisecrack - "teamwork". Do I ever think about other hot guys/what if? Hell yes I do. And I'm sure my partner does as well. But everything is fine as long as you don't cross some healthy limits - you just have to define your own limits with your partner.
And yes,it magically goes of once u find your right person...coz there's no much energy investment in others and other so called "hot" ppl r out of vision to u wen u truly fall head over heels for someone
It’s absurd to think it just “magically” shuts of. You might not want to believe that you could be attracted to someone else. But in reality, you’ll most definitely still be attracted to other people. Life isn’t some fairytale
What If your partner has secret conversations with this person? What if your partner mentions to you that that person is suddenly single? What if that crush has you blocked on sm and hearts and leaves comments on your dig others fb. What if you calmly confront your sig other and they deny everything and then blame you for crush being secretive?
It's called emotional cheating & micro cheating. But in my opinion anything that they do that they wouldn't want you doing is considered cheating. Please leave. 💙 You'll be better off.
You can teach yourself to not care or look. Especially when you are in love and believe that doing that is dishonoring. Why would we let ourselves think about that? To each their own. But that’s just what I think and do in my relationship.
This is the worst advice! The bible says lust with the eyes is a sin and u commit adultery with ur eyes, if u don’t know how to have boundaries then thoughts become actions. If ur attracted to other people either get counselling or leave cus that’s not the way MARRIAGE is supposed to be.
Religion is not good for moral guidance. Marriage is not a cookie cutter thing. No relationship will ever be as cookie cutter as religion makes it out to be. Relationships are difficult. Religion preaches perfection while humans are anything but perfect it’s detrimental
This advice is really useful for filling therapists' offices... We all have compulsive desires, but we don't have to follow them if they hurt our partner and don't conform to our moral values. Instinctive impulses can be useful, but they can also plunge our lives into senseless chaos, so you should think about them rationally in order to regain your inner freedom.
Don't teach wrong...yeah,think of spending time wid someone else and kissing them and go get tempted...no imagine your partner just all by himself or herself njoying you in their imaginations and you craving another person...beat it,muchacho It's not fine with everyone other than open relationships or frnds wid benefits...you won't notice any hot perfections wen u hv urs😏💯I was such a perv before n I can guarantee u with my current self😇 Dun encourage cheating and couple fights
I have no one to tell thing about other than my gf so im just telling everything that's in my heart here.some times back i had a crush on a girl. I've had for a long time but then i had to accept that she didn't like me. But then this girl came into my life. I was sooo happy. She was the most perfect human being ever. She made me feel soo loved and cared for. I've never felt that way even around my parents. But for some days she stopped showing interest. She didn't want to talk to me or even look at me. If she did talk to me,it felt like it was forced. And then she said she had lost interest and she had a crush on someone else. My heart literally just stopped. I dont know how just how. She said she wanted to spent the rest of her life with me. That she loved me. She was lieing wasn't she. I just cant stop thinking about the best times that we had. I cried a lot. Some horrible thoughts just came into my mind like "who will i talk to now","I dont have anyone","what did i do wrong","why did she suddenly lose feelings","was this new guy Better than me". But atleast i know that I've loved her with everything i have. I will try my best not to lose this relationship. I cant live without her. She's my everything. I hope that we are together forever. I just love her soo much. I just hope she's just confused. And if somewhere in there she loves me and she really meant what she said i think we have a chance.
This is soooooooooo relatable man... I can totally feel you... That one person they make u feel, that u dont need the rest of the world anymore... All u need is them! You feel that you are the luckiest guy in the entire world! You share each nd every god damn thing in your life to her, ONLY HER! She's your Best friend, your mentor, your teacher, cares like your mom, corrects like your dad, plays with u like your friend, fights with u like your sibling... You feel she's your Everything! You thank the God The Universe for having brought her into your life... You feel on cloud nine, You feel like you found your soul mate! Nd then finally one day they come up with this, nd u have no one to tell your grief to, no one to cry with, no one to console u Or pacify you... You feel sooooo betrayed, confused, heartbroken, hopeless, clueless... You feel you are nothing... Bcuz all that mattered to you was that one person, nd that one person tells u you are not important... I can very badly relate to what u r going through...
@@ashifameer5030 I'm truly sad for you, you've been through a lot. As a girl, who's in a committed relationship, I really think that may not be the end for the two of you. Sometimes, when you're lost in your life, when you don't set up goals with your partner or else those thought can reach your mind. For sure, you two should talk this out, be open about her flaws and yours, and judge if you two can handle this as a unity. Even if she broke something really important. And what I think is more important, it's the way that you love her. Your feelings for her are so beautiful, but they will hurt you really bad in the future. Try to put yourself, your family and Friends if you are in good therms with them first. You have to be fulfilled with life before open the door to a partner. I hope you do well, and sorry if I don't write well, english isn't my native language. Take Care
@@goku-dn2nf thanks a lot,all this support really means a lot to me,and english isn't my native language either. thank you for the beautiful advise. May god bless you and give you a bright future.
You are so sweat, i felt desperate in the past and Also a Lot of hatred, but you seems to stay kind despite the situation. I don’t know what else to tell you though, i am often scared of scenarios like this in my relationship even if i haven’t experienced one yet
I have this problem I love someone but whenever I see someone attractive or beautiful I was attracted to them. I felt guilty about this. I don't want to cheat. I don't want to feel attraction towards another woman except from my girlfriend. But it's so hard to resist. I don't know if it's normal ??
I don‘t think it‘s too wrong - well it might be but you‘re def not alone with that. I have the same issue and it sometimes does get in the way because I get caught up in guilt and shame because everyone tells me it‘s wrong but as long as you don‘t act on it and really think about what you have with your current partner you can get through it. There are so many interesting people in our lifetime and it‘s normal to get caught up and have a weak moment but you just gotta decide for yourself if your relationship is worth fighting for and then try to disconnect from these other people. Or if the relationship is lacking something major then it might be a sign that you do have to change something. But don‘t beat yourself up for it because everyone is different and I know it‘s not nice to admit flaws like this but I talked to so many people that experienced similar things. We‘re not alone. ❤
An attractive person is an attractive person. We all have compulsive desire unto something that our brain considers “attractive”. You have to have a strong will to not follow these desires because u certainly don't want to betray the person you love. And, set boundaries. It's actually good that you felt guilty about that.
totally agree!! but if you love and respect your partner it will always only be looking and no touch or reaching out & you’d never want anything else or feel the urge to act on it. period.
Totally disagree. According to bible Matthew 5:27-29. “You have heard it said of old, 'You shall not commit adultery. ' But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. And if you truly love your husband/wife you wouldn't like someone else and imagine such things.
Thank you I guess I got mad over nothing recently me and my boyfriend got together and he meet someone else and call them bfsbut they say it’s a joke but it rly hurt la a lot and they never even say ily to me anymore and more and basically forgot abt me I thought he was a bad bf but thanks for making this video now I can finally tell what was wrong with our relationship..me I guess I just got jealous for no reason
I think it's wrong, according to my opinion, attracted to someone also means cheating your partner, because if you are having eyes on someone else that made you attract is totally not fine. To overcome this you have to be honest conversation with your partner if you truly love him/her and also be honest to the person you are attracted with. Have distance with attraction
Loyalty ,communication, mutuality , a sense of direction and belonging, love , affection, support , Ann vulnerability, are the basis of a healthy long lasting relationship
but if you’re constantly having fantasies about other people you’re probably not with the right person and want something different, but it is completely normal to find other people attractive in a relationship
But the thing is that i want to be with them i didnt just imagined being with them i want to be with them. But i feel guilty if i broke up with my partner
My boyfriend just did this to me. I don’t know about it being “fine” when he was attracted to this cashier chick at the market. You can pick up on the attraction. Now I have nothing but doubts and may break up now. Maybe in your opinion it’s fine but when you’re on the other side, it’s pretty much a dealbreaker or a planted seed of doubt in the relationship
Hell naw I’m good, ima keep loving my wife and only my wife till the day I die, I’ve taught myself to hate all other women who aren’t her, it was worth ittt
My girl loves me and attarctetd to an another guy she lied and slept with him and now she is confessing what to do im suffering deep pain after knowing she slept with somenone by cheating
It's over mate if she slept with that guy. And there's high chance that she is also emotionally bonded. Now if she really wants to be with you she will hide certain things if she does not then that's the only reason she is not hiding it. I know it's hurting now but in a span of 3 months you will feel better just drop her dude
Someone help me, 8 years with the same guy, we had sex at the beginning but then stopped, I hate smoking and he got a stomach disease where someone gave him weed to try and fix his problem, it did ( the whole stomach thing is a long story) so he actually had never gone to an actual doctor to get diagnosed because weed helps him. But my whole problem is that he snow I don't like smokers, and he keeps smoking that crap and we stopped having sex like 6 years ago, he never shows interest and I feel disgusting unattractive unattended and alone, I have asked him about why and he says he doesn't know why we stopped and I've asked him what he likes about me and how is it possible that he is still with me and he says he loves me but never gives me a more detailed answer, he also was a physique, his body was the bomb when we met, now he is a bit chubby which I don't care but I've thought that maybe since he doesn't feel with himself could be the issue but I can't keep making excuses for him. I feel that I'm wasting my time, for the rest he is awsome but I dont know if I wanna continue with a man that doesn't like me, that is just used to being with me, I'm only 33
This is true but i think u can suppress ur feelings my bf told me 3 yrs ago that he like someone else we fought nd broke up he came back after a week and asked me for a second chance that i also goven bit rn evrn after 3 years i m not able forget those things and i donno wht to do next he's changes really nd l love him too he treats me well actually more than well, could u guys wht should i do .
@AliSand Well first of all, non-monogamous does not = promiscuous, the same way that monogamy and promiscuosity are not mutually exclusive. I suppose I don't deserve to get a nuanced response to a condescending, loaded comment, but I just think investigating stuff like relationship anarchy, for example, is interesting for a lot of reasons. Sorry for my judgemental comment!
I have a bf but I'm in love with my friend, I feel so bad but I rly love my friend, and I love my bf, but it's different. I don't want to hurt my bf feelings, I already feel so bad that I'm in love with my friend. I don't know how to tell my friend the truth about my feeling for him, and I don't know how to tell my bf I'm in love with another person. He would be so mad at me, last time we 'broke up' in an argument, he was so mean and he did his best to bully me and make me miserable, but that was a year ago. I just know know my friend, and I love the person that he is. He's so kind and empathetic, funny, all these great things, but my bf really does try, he buys me things, invites me ovr to his house, but our relationship seems so awkward, unnatural. With my friend, I feel free to be myself fully and feel safe and normal. Can anyone shout out to me and give me some ideas? And remember, I feel so bad, but I can't control my feelings...I just need help. I'm so so stuck. Thank you all❤
I know you feel really bad and confused. I went through this about 3 years ago. I ended up hurting people that I never wanted to hurt and feeling like a total piece of s##t for it. Right now it's hard for you to see this, but it's probably a good idea to take some time to be alone, just for a little while. This is not doing anything good for you, your bf or your friend, is it? If you are having intense feelings for your friend it's not likely that things will work out with your bf. Maybe for a little while but this really puts doubt into your relationship that will build up over time and become overwhelming. And if you dump your bf for your friend, you start that relationship on the wrong foot right away and that doesn't end well either. I feel empathy for you bc I know it sucks. I know I'm a stranger to you, but I'm wondering if you were ever in a relationship with someone who was emotionally abusive to you. Maybe physically abusive as well, maybe not. I get the feeling that you had some kind of trauma. Like maybe you were very attached to someone who constantly abandoned you, left you stranded when you needed them the most, loved you then hated you then loved you....repeat. Do you mind if I ask you how are you doing now? Still in the same situation? I'm sorry if I've said anything out of the way. I just wanted to help and let you know you're not all alone out there
@@a.reallymcrealperson256 thank you, and I'm rly glad you understand. That rly makes me feel better. And yes, I have been mentally abused before. By my step father. He always picked favorites, me at the bottom, he ignored me....and a whole lotta f up stuff. I actually just got outta the relationship today. He kept telling lies about how "it was my fault for the breakup" when I've literally said nothing. So I'm single now ig. And ur fine btw, you haven't said anything out of the way. Thank you so much for caring and understanding❤️
You keep yourself stuck. If u actually "love" ur bf leave him & tell him the truth. Then go b happy w ur bestie & pray he doesn't do the same 2 u bc karma's a b!tch.
Man, i just almost cheated on my GF last night while being drunk... Thank god i have strong valies but let me say... It was definetly at the border of what counts as cheating. Idk what to do.
This is very helpful to people who have obsessive compulsive disorder who literally beat themselves up for thoughts they can’t control, thank you for hearing us and being human. The ppl in the comments are very unaware of what it’s like for ppl like us
I’m pretty sure I have ocd . These comments really help me calm myself because I feel so connected and understanding of what they say . Because I’m the same way
Broo this is so relatable ... OCD causes false attraction I feel like what if I'm in love with someone what If I did this did that .. I just know one thing that I love my partner and my brain keeps tricking me but I won't give up cause I love my partner
Here's the thing. If you're truely in love, you fall in love with that person over and over again. You don't get to entertain thoughts with someone else. What's indeed natural is to find people attractive physically and mentally. But it should not get to the point where you're having fantasies of being with them. If this is totally normal, then you'd probably consider it cool to have fantasies with your best friends spouse. There's boundaries for a reason. A healthy person keeps them effortlessly
Ty!
Tell this to my ex that broke up with me and immediately got with the guy she caught feelings for.
Bro there is defienetly underlying problem with this girl.
Some people live in limerence .
You should actually thank God for this .
Now you are free to look around for who you want.
@@noneofyourbuiznesswhat is limerence?
Yep
@@angelafuller8746 romantic obsession
Yes, it's going to happen. Just set boundaries for yourself. If you really love your significant other, then that love and respect for that person should keep you faithful, but you are out of love with your mate or have no emotional connection, then you might have issues.
When I’m in love I literally don’t have attraction for anyone else.
Wrongo bongo.
If you sit and think about hooking up with someone else you have issues.
Thoughts become words....
Words become actions....
Actions become habits....
Habits define our character....
Yupp this guy is juz mad😌😏
What's next? An ant turns into a fucking giant? Shut up man
Appreciate your comment. Highly disagree with this short, lol 🤔
i agree with you Robert ❤️
@@Benaiahmane lol nobody has that much self control, can you accept it if the girl you love is hooking up with another guy? That's such a ridiculous theory bruh. Don't normalise this things!!!!
I rather b single than b w anybody who's wishing they were w someone else, fantasizing abt someone else, craving someone else, misses someone else ect.
Wait till you get in an actual relationship lmao
Wait till you actually love yourself, set standards, boundaries & not settle for less in life. I'm not the only loyal mf on this earth just like you're not the only prick nasty pig in this world.(: There's someone for everyone.
ong I agree
okay, i'm not used to comment, but I feel now like I should. I'm in really healthy, wonderful, 6 years relationship. We talk, communicate, looking for answears together. We both have our experiences, habits, advantages and disadvantages. We never deceive each other, we don't lie, try to take care of the relation we have, maintain passion, but base everything on deep, mature love. Indeed, sometimes it's difficult to maintain a state of young love/passion in a long-term relationship, but we are trying together, we have our wisecrack - "teamwork". Do I ever think about other hot guys/what if? Hell yes I do. And I'm sure my partner does as well. But everything is fine as long as you don't cross some healthy limits - you just have to define your own limits with your partner.
As lomg as your not cheating on them in the relationship, then yes, I agree it's totally natural at times.
Maybe this is true but dang. Reality makes me a nihilist bruh
His mother had hooked up with many ❤😂
And yes,it magically goes of once u find your right person...coz there's no much energy investment in others and other so called "hot" ppl r out of vision to u wen u truly fall head over heels for someone
Thanks. I disagree with him too, holy shit.
Yess plsss🫂💯
It’s absurd to think it just “magically” shuts of. You might not want to believe that you could be attracted to someone else. But in reality, you’ll most definitely still be attracted to other people. Life isn’t some fairytale
What If your partner has secret conversations with this person? What if your partner mentions to you that that person is suddenly single? What if that crush has you blocked on sm and hearts and leaves comments on your dig others fb. What if you calmly confront your sig other and they deny everything and then blame you for crush being secretive?
You leave them
It's called emotional cheating & micro cheating. But in my opinion anything that they do that they wouldn't want you doing is considered cheating. Please leave. 💙 You'll be better off.
Cheating doesn’t have to be physical
You can teach yourself to not care or look. Especially when you are in love and believe that doing that is dishonoring. Why would we let ourselves think about that? To each their own. But that’s just what I think and do in my relationship.
This is the worst advice! The bible says lust with the eyes is a sin and u commit adultery with ur eyes, if u don’t know how to have boundaries then thoughts become actions. If ur attracted to other people either get counselling or leave cus that’s not the way MARRIAGE is supposed to be.
Religion is not good for moral guidance. Marriage is not a cookie cutter thing. No relationship will ever be as cookie cutter as religion makes it out to be. Relationships are difficult. Religion preaches perfection while humans are anything but perfect it’s detrimental
I would still be jealous
This guy has some pretty serious issues.
Fr lmao
This guys dad is so proud😂
This advice is really useful for filling therapists' offices...
We all have compulsive desires, but we don't have to follow them if they hurt our partner and don't conform to our moral values.
Instinctive impulses can be useful, but they can also plunge our lives into senseless chaos, so you should think about them rationally in order to regain your inner freedom.
Yes!
Thank you! I needed this
Don't teach wrong...yeah,think of spending time wid someone else and kissing them and go get tempted...no imagine your partner just all by himself or herself njoying you in their imaginations and you craving another person...beat it,muchacho
It's not fine with everyone other than open relationships or frnds wid benefits...you won't notice any hot perfections wen u hv urs😏💯I was such a perv before n I can guarantee u with my current self😇
Dun encourage cheating and couple fights
Can you comfort me by any chance
I have no one to tell thing about other than my gf so im just telling everything that's in my heart here.some times back i had a crush on a girl. I've had for a long time but then i had to accept that she didn't like me. But then this girl came into my life. I was sooo happy. She was the most perfect human being ever. She made me feel soo loved and cared for. I've never felt that way even around my parents. But for some days she stopped showing interest. She didn't want to talk to me or even look at me. If she did talk to me,it felt like it was forced. And then she said she had lost interest and she had a crush on someone else. My heart literally just stopped. I dont know how just how. She said she wanted to spent the rest of her life with me. That she loved me. She was lieing wasn't she. I just cant stop thinking about the best times that we had. I cried a lot. Some horrible thoughts just came into my mind like "who will i talk to now","I dont have anyone","what did i do wrong","why did she suddenly lose feelings","was this new guy Better than me". But atleast i know that I've loved her with everything i have. I will try my best not to lose this relationship. I cant live without her. She's my everything. I hope that we are together forever. I just love her soo much. I just hope she's just confused. And if somewhere in there she loves me and she really meant what she said i think we have a chance.
This is soooooooooo relatable man... I can totally feel you... That one person they make u feel, that u dont need the rest of the world anymore... All u need is them! You feel that you are the luckiest guy in the entire world! You share each nd every god damn thing in your life to her, ONLY HER! She's your Best friend, your mentor, your teacher, cares like your mom, corrects like your dad, plays with u like your friend, fights with u like your sibling... You feel she's your Everything! You thank the God The Universe for having brought her into your life... You feel on cloud nine, You feel like you found your soul mate! Nd then finally one day they come up with this, nd u have no one to tell your grief to, no one to cry with, no one to console u Or pacify you... You feel sooooo betrayed, confused, heartbroken, hopeless, clueless... You feel you are nothing... Bcuz all that mattered to you was that one person, nd that one person tells u you are not important... I can very badly relate to what u r going through...
@@Jai-ol8ty thankss maann!!
@@ashifameer5030 I'm truly sad for you, you've been through a lot. As a girl, who's in a committed relationship, I really think that may not be the end for the two of you. Sometimes, when you're lost in your life, when you don't set up goals with your partner or else those thought can reach your mind. For sure, you two should talk this out, be open about her flaws and yours, and judge if you two can handle this as a unity. Even if she broke something really important. And what I think is more important, it's the way that you love her. Your feelings for her are so beautiful, but they will hurt you really bad in the future. Try to put yourself, your family and Friends if you are in good therms with them first. You have to be fulfilled with life before open the door to a partner. I hope you do well, and sorry if I don't write well, english isn't my native language. Take Care
@@goku-dn2nf thanks a lot,all this support really means a lot to me,and english isn't my native language either. thank you for the beautiful advise. May god bless you and give you a bright future.
You are so sweat, i felt desperate in the past and Also a Lot of hatred, but you seems to stay kind despite the situation. I don’t know what else to tell you though, i am often scared of scenarios like this in my relationship even if i haven’t experienced one yet
Thank you for this
I have this problem I love someone but whenever I see someone attractive or beautiful I was attracted to them. I felt guilty about this. I don't want to cheat. I don't want to feel attraction towards another woman except from my girlfriend. But it's so hard to resist. I don't know if it's normal ??
I don’t think it’s normal what if your girl do the same how do you feel
I don‘t think it‘s too wrong - well it might be but you‘re def not alone with that. I have the same issue and it sometimes does get in the way because I get caught up in guilt and shame because everyone tells me it‘s wrong but as long as you don‘t act on it and really think about what you have with your current partner you can get through it. There are so many interesting people in our lifetime and it‘s normal to get caught up and have a weak moment but you just gotta decide for yourself if your relationship is worth fighting for and then try to disconnect from these other people.
Or if the relationship is lacking something major then it might be a sign that you do have to change something. But don‘t beat yourself up for it because everyone is different and I know it‘s not nice to admit flaws like this but I talked to so many people that experienced similar things. We‘re not alone. ❤
The same way you look at other whores is the same way MANY other men who are better than you in every way look at your girl.🤷🏻♀️
An attractive person is an attractive person. We all have compulsive desire unto something that our brain considers “attractive”. You have to have a strong will to not follow these desires because u certainly don't want to betray the person you love. And, set boundaries. It's actually good that you felt guilty about that.
I think it would be healthy to deep dive into attachment theory and also how your childhood affected the way you love others.
totally agree!! but if you love and respect your partner it will always only be looking and no touch or reaching out & you’d never want anything else or feel the urge to act on it. period.
Totally disagree. According to bible Matthew 5:27-29. “You have heard it said of old, 'You shall not commit adultery. ' But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
And if you truly love your husband/wife you wouldn't like someone else and imagine such things.
Thank you I guess I got mad over nothing recently me and my boyfriend got together and he meet someone else and call them bfsbut they say it’s a joke but it rly hurt la a lot and they never even say ily to me anymore and more and basically forgot abt me I thought he was a bad bf but thanks for making this video now I can finally tell what was wrong with our relationship..me I guess I just got jealous for no reason
No they shouldn't b meeting up w other girl's if they're in a committed relationship w you. Don't let guys like this manipulate you.
Have some self-control, maybe not thinking about "hooking up" with someone else whilst you're with your partner.
what should I do about it?
Nope. Disagree.
I think it's wrong, according to my opinion, attracted to someone also means cheating your partner, because if you are having eyes on someone else that made you attract is totally not fine. To overcome this you have to be honest conversation with your partner if you truly love him/her and also be honest to the person you are attracted with. Have distance with attraction
Nope, this is bullshit, keep being loyal, loyalty and communication are the basis of a long lasting relationship.
how does this compromise loyalty if you are not cheating, physically nor emotionally?
Loyalty ,communication, mutuality , a sense of direction and belonging, love , affection, support , Ann vulnerability, are the basis of a healthy long lasting relationship
but if you’re constantly having fantasies about other people you’re probably not with the right person and want something different, but it is completely normal to find other people attractive in a relationship
That's wrong to me .
My ex just travel to meet her so, i mean thoughts turns into actions so
This is the reason why we need more people like Top G.
But the thing is that i want to be with them i didnt just imagined being with them i want to be with them. But i feel guilty if i broke up with my partner
This is the worst advice ever omao
My boyfriend just did this to me. I don’t know about it being “fine” when he was attracted to this cashier chick at the market. You can pick up on the attraction. Now I have nothing but doubts and may break up now. Maybe in your opinion it’s fine but when you’re on the other side, it’s pretty much a dealbreaker or a planted seed of doubt in the relationship
Hell naw I’m good, ima keep loving my wife and only my wife till the day I die, I’ve taught myself to hate all other women who aren’t her, it was worth ittt
My girl loves me and attarctetd to an another guy she lied and slept with him and now she is confessing what to do im suffering deep pain after knowing she slept with somenone by cheating
It's over mate if she slept with that guy. And there's high chance that she is also emotionally bonded. Now if she really wants to be with you she will hide certain things if she does not then that's the only reason she is not hiding it. I know it's hurting now but in a span of 3 months you will feel better just drop her dude
Just don't make it yourself a second option buddy
Thank you so much
Wrong. Next
Someone help me, 8 years with the same guy, we had sex at the beginning but then stopped, I hate smoking and he got a stomach disease where someone gave him weed to try and fix his problem, it did ( the whole stomach thing is a long story) so he actually had never gone to an actual doctor to get diagnosed because weed helps him. But my whole problem is that he snow I don't like smokers, and he keeps smoking that crap and we stopped having sex like 6 years ago, he never shows interest and I feel disgusting unattractive unattended and alone, I have asked him about why and he says he doesn't know why we stopped and I've asked him what he likes about me and how is it possible that he is still with me and he says he loves me but never gives me a more detailed answer, he also was a physique, his body was the bomb when we met, now he is a bit chubby which I don't care but I've thought that maybe since he doesn't feel with himself could be the issue but I can't keep making excuses for him. I feel that I'm wasting my time, for the rest he is awsome but I dont know if I wanna continue with a man that doesn't like me, that is just used to being with me, I'm only 33
Wow. Just wow 🤡
Totally we are human I love my boyfriend ❤️
Guessing you had a crush on someone else?
@@paddaaweh obviously, I wonder if theyre still together now
This is true but i think u can suppress ur feelings my bf told me 3 yrs ago that he like someone else we fought nd broke up he came back after a week and asked me for a second chance that i also goven bit rn evrn after 3 years i m not able forget those things and i donno wht to do next he's changes really nd l love him too he treats me well actually more than well, could u guys wht should i do .
I look at my partner differently and will become repulsed.
… and that opens the door…
What a fucked up world we live in
Only think and imagine , okay soldiers
But what if you are in madly love with multiple women
Thanks dude
But to me it's not stay safe yall
no its not, my boyfriend liked other women while being with me
This is idiotic if you are in a relationship you shouldn’t be be focusing your attention elsewhere and only on the person you are with.
Or you just drop the antiquated concept of monogamy :)
@AliSand Well first of all, non-monogamous does not = promiscuous, the same way that monogamy and promiscuosity are not mutually exclusive.
I suppose I don't deserve to get a nuanced response to a condescending, loaded comment, but I just think investigating stuff like relationship anarchy, for example, is interesting for a lot of reasons.
Sorry for my judgemental comment!
@@voisinage17 no, do go on and tells us more, i find your banter very interesting 🤔
Never
Do you guys seriously think someone is gonna love just you, forever? That's kind of a idiotic expectation to have...
We can't all be so lucky...
😂😂😂
Sin
I have a bf but I'm in love with my friend, I feel so bad but I rly love my friend, and I love my bf, but it's different. I don't want to hurt my bf feelings, I already feel so bad that I'm in love with my friend. I don't know how to tell my friend the truth about my feeling for him, and I don't know how to tell my bf I'm in love with another person. He would be so mad at me, last time we 'broke up' in an argument, he was so mean and he did his best to bully me and make me miserable, but that was a year ago. I just know know my friend, and I love the person that he is. He's so kind and empathetic, funny, all these great things, but my bf really does try, he buys me things, invites me ovr to his house, but our relationship seems so awkward, unnatural. With my friend, I feel free to be myself fully and feel safe and normal. Can anyone shout out to me and give me some ideas? And remember, I feel so bad, but I can't control my feelings...I just need help. I'm so so stuck. Thank you all❤
I know you feel really bad and confused. I went through this about 3 years ago. I ended up hurting people that I never wanted to hurt and feeling like a total piece of s##t for it. Right now it's hard for you to see this, but it's probably a good idea to take some time to be alone, just for a little while. This is not doing anything good for you, your bf or your friend, is it? If you are having intense feelings for your friend it's not likely that things will work out with your bf. Maybe for a little while but this really puts doubt into your relationship that will build up over time and become overwhelming. And if you dump your bf for your friend, you start that relationship on the wrong foot right away and that doesn't end well either. I feel empathy for you bc I know it sucks. I know I'm a stranger to you, but I'm wondering if you were ever in a relationship with someone who was emotionally abusive to you. Maybe physically abusive as well, maybe not. I get the feeling that you had some kind of trauma. Like maybe you were very attached to someone who constantly abandoned you, left you stranded when you needed them the most, loved you then hated you then loved you....repeat. Do you mind if I ask you how are you doing now? Still in the same situation? I'm sorry if I've said anything out of the way. I just wanted to help and let you know you're not all alone out there
@@a.reallymcrealperson256 thank you, and I'm rly glad you understand. That rly makes me feel better. And yes, I have been mentally abused before. By my step father. He always picked favorites, me at the bottom, he ignored me....and a whole lotta f up stuff. I actually just got outta the relationship today. He kept telling lies about how "it was my fault for the breakup" when I've literally said nothing. So I'm single now ig. And ur fine btw, you haven't said anything out of the way. Thank you so much for caring and understanding❤️
You keep yourself stuck. If u actually "love" ur bf leave him & tell him the truth. Then go b happy w ur bestie & pray he doesn't do the same 2 u bc karma's a b!tch.
So wrong lmao
Amen 🙏🙏♥️
Man, i just almost cheated on my GF last night while being drunk... Thank god i have strong valies but let me say... It was definetly at the border of what counts as cheating. Idk what to do.
Gay
😅 Anyone else find themselves oddly attracted to this guy? Just me?? 🫠