My ex husband was a narcissist, too. 8 years of breaking my bones, trapping me at home, keeping me off birth control and had children when I wasn't ready. I love my children, please don't mistake that, but I married him when I was 18 and he was 30
@@bennycb6256 they didn't want to live anymore. A malignant sadistic covert narc (in my opinion based on the consistent personality and research I've done over the years (5). This experience has brought me closer to God, and the interests to help others.
So sorry to hear that. If you can’t move, then perhaps it would be a good idea to start documenting everything. Keep a diary, get a camera put on your house etc. And talk to the other neighbours, share with them what is going on. You might hear some interesting stories and will feel better. And try not to let your neighbour make your life miserable.
Also, they will always be having a drawn out argument with someone but never be able to explain why. This is because they are the cause of the argument but cannot admit it as they want to play the victim.
Yes! My narcissistic had long drawn out arguments with different people in different cities and even different countries. She could never give an explanation. I truly believe the day she decided to leave was the day I stopped siding with her. I was done being one of her flying monkeys.
Jim, you’re amazing. I thank you so much for your wonderful videos. They’re helpful to those who like me have dealt with at least one evil narcissist and psychopath. Thank you again, and may God bless you.
More red flags: -Something about them or a situations feels...off. Every once in a while things will feel...dark. You will feel like a mouse does being cornered by a cat. Sometimes they might play a "joke" such as hiding behind something and scaring the f out of you, or they might suddenly chase you for no reason. Scary situations. -Another is they might blatantly tell you, such as "You know, you really should stay away from me. I am not to be trusted." or "Yeah, my last ex barely made it out alive. Hee hee" These are times when they are ACTUALLY confessing how evil they are. -Different emotions or confusing actions. For example, you may notice them crying about something but then suddenly 5 minutes later they are fine, like they hadn't been crying at all, when normal people take muchhh longer to stop being emotional. Or if you and the psychopath and another person are talking at a cafe and then a big lie accidentally gets found out, the psychopath may go silent and then get up and leave, only to come back later and deny what just happened or say they "don't even know what you are talking about?? What lie??" They will say "I'm confused. I thought it was this this and this. Not that. You must have heard wrong." They will try to confuse you and you will feel confused.
Thank you for these tips! From my experience in dealing with one particular psychopath, it was unfortunate because they would withhold information from me and only tell me long after the fact. I thought they needed someone and tried to be there for them. I thought we were friends, but I guess we weren’t. I should have listened and separated from them when I felt your first sign, that something was off and something was dark. You can’t let those sorts of people make you lose trust in others who are truly good and who truly need help though.
I live like this because it was how I was born, I could say the same about your many failings. But I agree, this man is doing good work here, a world where we can see each other is a world where we can begin to build trust
@@VM-123 wrong we are indifferent, we dont care about anything we do punching people in the face is the same impact as brushing our teeth, you guys fail to wrap your heads around these concepts because you cant relate to that
we can stand ourselves because we are indifferent about it, when I was younger i was extremely violent always getting in fights etc punching someone has the same impact to me as brushing my teeth its a none event, especially after the fact, you cant make yourself care about things if your brain wont let you
I had a woman neighbor like that . I eventually decided to move from her city not only neighborhood ! She was a phatalogical liar. Lied about everything . Hid all her past . All her past !!! Never ever agreed to tell where she lived before . She wanted to know everything about other people in order to use it against them , as she always did with a lot heavy exetarations /lies . If she had to pay some bills she was tearing everything she could & destroy everything she could , put garbage in front of your front door in order not to pay her Bill's. Many people left the building and moved to other cities because of her . She still leaving in that building and is carrying on going through life using and destroying everyone she can . She is so crafty , such a good liar and so manipulative that she succeeds in most cases . She has no conscious what so ever. The police never have enough proves to put there hands on her . In some cases the law isn't good enough. Sge is very macyavelisitic. She is frightening . No concetious , you are just a toy for her to be used as much as she can and if in order to achieve her ends she thinks it's better to destroy you , destroy your life . She will go for it with no hesitation. No second thoughts .Never any real feeling . Never feeling sorry or guilty for anything she did or does .
I now live in a retirement village. I have 2 "neighbors," close to my apt. They're not mere bullies, but they're in it together and I'm their target right now. So, I have 2 such "people," to deal with. 🙄🙄🙄 THEY need to move out. Not me.
My Dad who everyone really liked had enough traits that I think he was a psychopath-He was excessively abusive to me and my brother-he just beat my brother daily which he did me as well-but he tried to murder me multiple times when I was young. suffocation, drowning, driving me in front of cars. My grandma told mom “Richard is trying to kill Barbara.”. Mom immediately just told him she said that…but the car accidents stopped at least. The drowning attempts escalated until some man charged at him to make him let me up out of the death grip. I never was sure if the dud landed a punch or not as I was swimming away as fast as I could. But he was insidiously cruel to me every day. Psycho freak. He had my mom snowed until the day he died this year. She is still proud of him actually. If I was complaining to her about his abusive treatment of me she would always turn it around so that he was the victim. I was “dramatic.”
So many people that go through what you went through talk like there's such a victim you don't you can tell you're someone that would help people that's went through that type of childhood because you understand it You're very strong person thank you for sharing all of this
I didn't live in a home with both parents so I can't relate but I'm always angry at the parent that allows these things to happen that doesn't stop them I feel like I'd walk out of the house with the shirt on my back with my kids I don't know.... I've never lived in it I don't want to judge I have a good friend whose mom allowed her brother and her father to sexually abuse her she had four sisters they picked on her only When her mom was dying she was sitting right there by her mom's bed side loving her I thought I would put a pillow over her head because of all the hurt she caused
Sending you & your brother hugs and prayers. I'm so sorry you went through this abuse without the support of your Mom. Remember you didn't cause this abuse. There are truly evil people in this world & some happen to be called parents.
100% my ex and kids dad... and his charisma everyone falls for it without hesitation. He lies like it's a language he starts every conversation with a lie with new people to see how far they can go with lie with you immediatly and if you catch him he will contort what he was saying to mean something else. It's soo messed up when you watch some one do it and people just don't even see what he didm
This is my ex..very vindictive...lied about everything!!!...very charming...very secretive about his past...but listened attentively to everything about my past only to use it against me later in therapy & conversations...holds grudges to later get revenge...very insecure...passive aggressive...took no accountability for anything he did wrong....gave false apologies...very emotionally withdrawn...lacked empathy...emotionally abusive...high strung...and manipulative
I have been the target for my sister in law. I moved an hour away, a small town. A few years later, she moved to the same town when I stoped speaking to her. She literally turned what I thought was friends against my children, husband, and I. This is a small community, I don’t understand how she was able to do that. These are people that I have known for more than 18 years! I thought they knew us. We bought a property 30 minutes away to build a house and get away from her and her children, as they also attack my children and I. I just found out she just bought a lot less than five minutes away from that same location. Nobody seems to understand nor see how she is literally following us! I still don’t understand how everything turns out so fine for her. I feel so helpless.
identical twin sister, who is a narcissist and a psychopath I had noticed, even as we were as young as 9 and 10 years old, she enjoyed what would be machiavellianism, gaining pleasure from hurting others, causing others pain, embarrassing others. she punched a neighbor boy about our our age but in fact, a couple of years older in the face making his nose bleed and laughed about it. he ran away stating "my father told me I can't hit girls". some 40 years later after he was convicted of murder, shooting a man that he worked with in feigned self-defense, she commented, "I wonder if what I done to him made him do what he did". documentation from The Trial, the judge made several solid and clear statements pointing to him being a true narcissist.
to note, I realize what she did to him, a boy who was adopted into his family along with an adopted sister, did not make him a narcissist, did not make him murder someone but fair enough to say it added to it - it all added up. his name is David Newman in Savannah Georgia and he murdered Jason.
That 100% sums up my brother. It takes a goid while to get over being brought up with a psychopath and not being protected from him by your parents. So sad that his now wife and her kids are suffering under him... if they are still together that is because once every so many months he is ready near the front door with his suitcase threatening to leave.
True ! This happened in my life while I was involved with my former narcissist girlfriend at the time we probly had been together for 14 yrs a huge tree fell on our lake mobile home at 4 am on my grandsons bday in 2019 it destroyed the place but it fell ontop of her God was truly looking out four us I honestly though she would change after this nerdeath experience but she still kept attacking me. ! I finally got away from her over nine months ago Thank you
And never never let on that you’re figuring them out. They will do absolutely anything to destroy you and end you if they think you have the ability to out them. And I mean anything.
I’m figuring that out now…after speaking up about their scapegoating and caught my mother spreading lies to antagonize my brother who shoots up drugs and is her baby…he’s insane already now he thinks umm out to get him …she is trying to cause him to lose his mind and it would take care of two of her perceived problems and she’s finally have some peace…I honestly think my mother didn’t want kids but did because my dad did want kids…
@@w8what575 moms probably a covert narcissist, brother sounds like an idiot I’m in a similar situation lol. It’s like I was born into a family of covert and overt narcissists hurting me and tricking me every chance they got.
@@w8what575 I'm sorry you're going through this. Best to let them think they're so smart and give 'em enough rope, as they say. Refocus on your health, your purpose, your goals, your peace, and ignore everybody else. The less they know the better.
Damn you telling me my coworker is a psychopath? I just dismiss her as crazy.... She is four out of five of those things. Wow thanks for the information
Start researching Cluster B disorders.... they ALL have these behaviors except for Borderline Personality Disorder. They will destroy you but they don't get pleasure from it unlike Narcissistic Personality Disorder where they thrive in harming and confusing you. In my personal opinion...NPD are the MOST dangerous on this spectrum. Many many suicides are caused from interacting with them for long periods. Almost every rapist and murder is one of these
Excellent, mine for sure is psychopath as he is Narcissist and I found article he hide for 20 years Title Beyond Machiavelli. I lived with this man 27 years without knowing him. Now I know. Exit.
Sounds like my ex. The type to piss the bed and blame the blanket or in his case murder his fiancee and blamed me for it. Yeah if i hadnt left him he wouldnt of met her or murdered her.. rip diane nichol
Cruelty to pets especially if it causes slow painful death. I know two outwardly nice people like that and they are obvious criminal-class psychopaths.
My "uncle". I would be very surprised if he didn't have a body count on him. He died before forensics could catch up to him. He helped raise my mom. She had serious issues of her own.
@@ambriadaniels-dovolis7496 just realize its not your fault and nothing you could do or have done would have changed anything, also know never trust we constantly lie literally all the time even when we tell the truth
😮😊 well I'm learning to understand the terminology now and oh my God I've wasted so much of my life dealing with these kind of people thinking I could help them in some way all along not understanding the character assassination
I am very suspicious of my coworker. He uses insincere flattery towards important people in the workplace and it seems he's doing it just to get an advantage to obtain information. He has a hard on for giving orders to other workers and always avoids getting his hands dirty. He has a strange tendency to avoid any act of selflessness and waits for someone else to respond and than has the audacity to act as if the gesture was a service to him by thanking them. I have also noticed a few acts of manipulation.
When you look into their eyes and see no spark of light or life dead eyes like a shark's. Like all the lights are on but ain't nobody home, because nobody is home they have no Soul.
I got $5,000 and I got a new house for me and my daughter thinking that I could out love anything that was wrong with her. the day after we moved in, she got drunk. she didn't like what I had to say about that and beat me up pretty bad. I had barricaded myself in my room. she called the police and said I tried to stab her with an eyebrow razor. she was cold and calculating and they believed her. I lost everything. Everything. I'm facing 15 years for this. I was crying and my 16 year old step son said to me, "you know she's a psychopath, right?" I started to laugh when I happened to look up at him. The smile faded from my face really quickly. He was serious. He meant it, and he meant to point out my obvious denial. The moment we locked eyes, my heart dropped. She doesn't love me or anyone else. Please, if you're a parent of a psychopath, sociopath, or form of narcissist, don't make the same mistake I did. You cannot fix them, they are not fixable and you will be little more than a martyr in your own life story. I lost 60lbs from the stress. I don't eat much bc I'm physically sick over this, and when I do, it comes back up, gross sorry, just trying to highlight the severity of the effects this has had on me. In addition, most of my hair has fallen out or is broken. I really had catatonic depression. It got so bad that I was calling the suicide hotline nightly. It was all I could do, everything I did felt like I was moving through quicksand. I remember vividly that I would cry if I had to do the smallest thing. Just realizing that I was going to have to use the restroom would bring me to tears bc it was physically exhausting. Again, you cannot fix this. It doesn't matter if you love or hate that person, your feelings are irrelevant here. I eventually had to be hospitalized. I have lupus and the bumps where she was pummeling me with punches got super inflammed and it took multiple rounds of IV steroids and other meds to get control before the inflammation spread down my spinal cord and throughout my joints and body. I loved my daughter. Past tense. She destroyed everything and the person who you are struggling with will do the same. Unless that person is engaged in an intensive multi- pronged therapy program, and you're seeing tangible, permanent progress, RUN. No person is worth your life or your liberty. Both of which are at stake if you decide to keep messing with these types. Don't be stupid. Don't be me, it could cost you everything. Her and her two boyfriends (they are poly) ruined the house & never paid the rent. I'm in over 17k dollars of damage and an eviction on the place. I was there less than 24 hours. My life is in utter shambles and abject poverty does not accurately describe the suffering she has caused financially and otherwise. Protect yourself at all times friends!❤️Please. At the very least, I'm begging you to do some research about these "dark triad" personality disorders. Educate yourself so you know exactly what is going on and cannot be gaslit or emotionally manipulated. A good therapist is integral for anyone who has regular interactions with people like this. Often, these people know exactly which words and actions are going to make you lose your sh*t and a good therapist can teach us how to have good boundaries and good self esteem to combat the negativity.
The main identifying trait I feel is a cold, scary lack of empathy or concern for others, people and animals….a complete lack of conscience. They are always malignant narcissists too which makes them VERY cold, calculating, violent people.
I've seen these traits in people usually only an individual trait rather than a cluster of them in one person ..does one of the traits still mean a possible psycopath?
Maybe...but most likely not. With one of these traits has there been things such as cheating, other romances? Or possibly various addictions like alchohol or gambling? Or has the person had a bad childhood? (Didn't do well in school, got into trouble a lot...) If it's just 1 trait I would say "no". But 1 trait with what I just mentioned, then "maybe".
Im at the point where I just say to my family "i dont wanna talk about it" easy to lie when you dont tell them anything, they dont need to know shit anyway im sure they are happier for it
I thought my ex was malignant narcissistic personality disorder..he's actually a psychopath. Favorite saying was the end justifies the means.. I had to tell him who Machiavelli was.
The red flags you say is basically a shortened biography of mine 😂. But yeah, I am a psychopath. Many of my family, employees, neighbor love me, but I do not give anF to any of them at all.
Paranoia is one, speaking bad about cops too or making justifications for someones crime....laughing at your pain ridiculing you if you are hurt those too, thats coldness i think
After litterally running for my life during a gruesome divorce to a malignant psychopath Narcissist who has Machiavellinism for years.. it's truly sad to think he suffers with this. The devil uses his wounds and addictions, entry ways, to control him and ruin his life. I saw his pain and wanted to be there for him, he destroyed me in every way. This is truly the devil's playground. I look at him like a Fallen soldier who got bit by a zombie and became one..
They talk about how wonderful they are, wack conversations which are inappropriate, want to know everything about you, but won't tell you anything about themselves, will lie on you, and say you want them, and you get a sick feeling whenever they talk to you.
all right except the last one, most people love to talk about themselves its actually a weakness we prey on, let someone stroke their own ego and they will think your encounter with them was all positive "we the date with Dave when great he was really into me we spoke alot of my hobbies and he was really into my work" blah blah
Wow that’s my ex girlfriend to a tee. Was aware she was a narcissist when I broke up w her but she also had every single of these traits - and very strongly so! So happy I got away from that crazy experience 🤡🎪
Oh, I thought this was the British guy from the Lost In The Pond videos. But this guy seems to know my dad. He describes him quite accurately and now I'm a new sub
😳🫣 how could one get a mandate the other one to get tested. We have a child together and he takes her now and then. I worry for her well being. But courts won't listen. I'm glad i seen this video. Cause i couldn't put my finger on what type he is. Other then a narcissist 😢 I've watched order videos on sociopath and psychopath... But couldn't still see the difference. 😮
nope. psychopathy is sth you born with. it basically means that the person has no empathy and doesnt feel emotions. narcissism is sth that develops due to trauma and abuse in childhood
Preying on you, being on top of you, taking such position above you. Trying to find your buttons, pressing the buttons. Inflicting pain. You not trusting the person to be safe.
Psychopaths are sneaky violent narcissits.
Yep my husband
All psychopaths are narcissists but not all narcissists are psychopaths.
being a psychopath is a daily struggle that leads into depression. fix yourself
@@kaiju5892 true, being psychopath not cool
It’s a mental illness that they can barely help
Sounds to me like he’s describing a narcissist which is exactly what my ex-husband is
You and I should get drunk and compare. My nasty narcissist was also a psychologist. Total psycho.
A Narc has got psychopathy within themselves..
@@CO2isfake OMG !! Now that's dreadful.. imagine being treated by one of those ! 👀
My ex husband was a narcissist, too. 8 years of breaking my bones, trapping me at home, keeping me off birth control and had children when I wasn't ready. I love my children, please don't mistake that, but I married him when I was 18 and he was 30
Same!
She found me. I survived while other men in her past are not alive today
Glad you made it. 🙏
What the hell happened to them?
@@bennycb6256 they didn't want to live anymore. A malignant sadistic covert narc (in my opinion based on the consistent personality and research I've done over the years (5). This experience has brought me closer to God, and the interests to help others.
@@bennycb6256that's a question that needs to be answered lmao
@@bennycb6256Guessing suicide
You just described my neighbor. When I moved in a year ago I thought she was a Karen but it’s turned out to be much worse than that. Scared of her.
Watch every move. Got one living next to me. She shines a laser pen at me. Which is assault.
So sorry to hear that. If you can’t move, then perhaps it would be a good idea to start documenting everything. Keep a diary, get a camera put on your house etc.
And talk to the other neighbours, share with them what is going on. You might hear some interesting stories and will feel better.
And try not to let your neighbour make your life miserable.
Damn you guys are that scared? As people say survival of the fittest what i would is ingore it, or scare them or much worst.
I have one too living across the hall. Have to walk on eggshells.
@@blitzandchitzgaming2584 She may be stealing Amazon packages or worse.
Also, they will always be having a drawn out argument with someone but never be able to explain why. This is because they are the cause of the argument but cannot admit it as they want to play the victim.
Yes! My narcissistic had long drawn out arguments with different people in different cities and even different countries. She could never give an explanation. I truly believe the day she decided to leave was the day I stopped siding with her. I was done being one of her flying monkeys.
A pathological liar is someone who lies for their own personal gain. A compulsive liar is someone who lies about everything.
Wrong
Most politicians. Not all but most.
Jim, you’re amazing.
I thank you so much for your wonderful videos.
They’re helpful to those who like me have dealt with at least one evil narcissist and psychopath.
Thank you again, and may God bless you.
More red flags:
-Something about them or a situations feels...off.
Every once in a while things will feel...dark.
You will feel like a mouse does being cornered by a cat. Sometimes they might play a "joke" such as hiding behind something and scaring the f out of you, or they might suddenly chase you for no reason. Scary situations.
-Another is they might blatantly tell you, such as "You know, you really should stay away from me. I am not to be trusted." or "Yeah, my last ex barely made it out alive. Hee hee"
These are times when they are ACTUALLY confessing how evil they are.
-Different emotions or confusing actions.
For example, you may notice them crying about something but then suddenly 5 minutes later they are fine, like they hadn't been crying at all, when normal people take muchhh longer to stop being emotional.
Or if you and the psychopath and another person are talking at a cafe and then a big lie accidentally gets found out, the psychopath may go silent and then get up and leave, only to come back later and deny what just happened or say they "don't even know what you are talking about?? What lie??"
They will say "I'm confused. I thought it was this this and this. Not that. You must have heard wrong."
They will try to confuse you and you will feel confused.
Thank you for these tips! From my experience in dealing with one particular psychopath, it was unfortunate because they would withhold information from me and only tell me long after the fact. I thought they needed someone and tried to be there for them. I thought we were friends, but I guess we weren’t. I should have listened and separated from them when I felt your first sign, that something was off and something was dark. You can’t let those sorts of people make you lose trust in others who are truly good and who truly need help though.
They followed your quotes almost to a T.
Hiding behind things?. Well perhaps I'm even hiding from myself, what a surprise that would be
Thank you for helping me. I don't get how these people can stand themselves. You are helping so many people.
They actually hate themselves. Their life is a constant projection.
I live like this because it was how I was born, I could say the same about your many failings. But I agree, this man is doing good work here, a world where we can see each other is a world where we can begin to build trust
@@VM-123 wrong we are indifferent, we dont care about anything we do punching people in the face is the same impact as brushing our teeth, you guys fail to wrap your heads around these concepts because you cant relate to that
we can stand ourselves because we are indifferent about it, when I was younger i was extremely violent always getting in fights etc punching someone has the same impact to me as brushing my teeth its a none event, especially after the fact, you cant make yourself care about things if your brain wont let you
I had a woman neighbor like that . I eventually decided to move from her city not only neighborhood ! She was a phatalogical liar. Lied about everything . Hid all her past . All her past !!! Never ever agreed to tell where she lived before . She wanted to know everything about other people in order to use it against them , as she always did with a lot heavy exetarations /lies . If she had to pay some bills she was tearing everything she could & destroy everything she could , put garbage in front of your front door in order not to pay her Bill's. Many people left the building and moved to other cities because of her . She still leaving in that building and is carrying on going through life using and destroying everyone she can . She is so crafty , such a good liar and so manipulative that she succeeds in most cases . She has no conscious what so ever. The police never have enough proves to put there hands on her . In some cases the law isn't good enough. Sge is very macyavelisitic. She is frightening . No concetious , you are just a toy for her to be used as much as she can and if in order to achieve her ends she thinks it's better to destroy you , destroy your life . She will go for it with no hesitation. No second thoughts .Never any real feeling . Never feeling sorry or guilty
for anything she did or does .
Pathological
Exaggerate
Machiavellian
Conscience
@@angeritchie4034 English is obviously their second language. Lay off only one language controlling narcissist ange.
@@1ofDVSurvivorJohnnyDeppsRandos or maybe I'm autistic and trying to help - don't judge people you dont know - narcissist yourself!
Wow we have the exact same neighbor...
I now live in a retirement village. I have 2 "neighbors," close to my apt. They're not mere bullies, but they're in it together and I'm their target right now. So, I have 2 such "people," to deal with. 🙄🙄🙄 THEY need to move out. Not me.
My Dad who everyone really liked had enough traits that I think he was a psychopath-He was excessively abusive to me and my brother-he just beat my brother daily which he did me as well-but he tried to murder me multiple times when I was young. suffocation, drowning, driving me in front of cars. My grandma told mom “Richard is trying to kill Barbara.”. Mom immediately just told him she said that…but the car accidents stopped at least. The drowning attempts escalated until some man charged at him to make him let me up out of the death grip. I never was sure if the dud landed a punch or not as I was swimming away as fast as I could. But he was insidiously cruel to me every day. Psycho freak. He had my mom snowed until the day he died this year. She is still proud of him actually. If I was complaining to her about his abusive treatment of me she would always turn it around so that he was the victim. I was “dramatic.”
So many people that go through what you went through talk like there's such a victim you don't you can tell you're someone that would help people that's went through that type of childhood because you understand it You're very strong person thank you for sharing all of this
I didn't live in a home with both parents so I can't relate but I'm always angry at the parent that allows these things to happen that doesn't stop them
I feel like I'd walk out of the house with the shirt on my back with my kids
I don't know....
I've never lived in it
I don't want to judge
I have a good friend whose mom allowed her brother and her father to sexually abuse her she had four sisters they picked on her only When her mom was dying she was sitting right there by her mom's bed side loving her I thought I would put a pillow over her head because of all the hurt she caused
I'm sorry, sister from another mother. I fully believe you. you are amazing, we are both survivers.
A mom that does that is a mom I don't wanna have a relationship with.
Sending you & your brother hugs and prayers. I'm so sorry you went through this abuse without the support of your Mom. Remember you didn't cause this abuse. There are truly evil people in this world & some happen to be called parents.
100% my ex and kids dad... and his charisma everyone falls for it without hesitation. He lies like it's a language he starts every conversation with a lie with new people to see how far they can go with lie with you immediatly and if you catch him he will contort what he was saying to mean something else. It's soo messed up when you watch some one do it and people just don't even see what he didm
And you married him.
@@dahliafiendwow you're evil, is it nice?
Do we have the same ex haha
I'm so sick of women abusing the narcissist word you all think every man is a damn narcissist. The biggest narcissist is women
Just like the guy I dated!
This is my ex..very vindictive...lied about everything!!!...very charming...very secretive about his past...but listened attentively to everything about my past only to use it against me later in therapy & conversations...holds grudges to later get revenge...very insecure...passive aggressive...took no accountability for anything he did wrong....gave false apologies...very emotionally withdrawn...lacked empathy...emotionally abusive...high strung...and manipulative
So, is he a psychopath or a narcissist?
@@sabaidee5587
Sociopath/covert narc
I have been the target for my sister in law. I moved an hour away, a small town. A few years later, she moved to the same town when I stoped speaking to her. She literally turned what I thought was friends against my children, husband, and I. This is a small community, I don’t understand how she was able to do that. These are people that I have known for more than 18 years! I thought they knew us. We bought a property 30 minutes away to build a house and get away from her and her children, as they also attack my children and I. I just found out she just bought a lot less than five minutes away from that same location. Nobody seems to understand nor see how she is literally following us! I still don’t understand how everything turns out so fine for her. I feel so helpless.
identical twin sister, who is a narcissist and a psychopath I had noticed, even as we were as young as 9 and 10 years old, she enjoyed what would be machiavellianism, gaining pleasure from hurting others, causing others pain, embarrassing others. she punched a neighbor boy about our our age but in fact, a couple of years older in the face making his nose bleed and laughed about it. he ran away stating "my father told me I can't hit girls". some 40 years later after he was convicted of murder, shooting a man that he worked with in feigned self-defense, she commented, "I wonder if what I done to him made him do what he did". documentation from The Trial, the judge made several solid and clear statements pointing to him being a true narcissist.
to note, I realize what she did to him, a boy who was adopted into his family along with an adopted sister, did not make him a narcissist, did not make him murder someone but fair enough to say it added to it - it all added up.
his name is David Newman in Savannah Georgia and he murdered Jason.
I am sorry. Thank you for sharing your story.
Chilling realisation that my late husband had all 5!!
He missed one key element to their arrogance and domination - They always seek and achieve power positions in school and career.. ALWAYS!
That 100% sums up my brother. It takes a goid while to get over being brought up with a psychopath and not being protected from him by your parents. So sad that his now wife and her kids are suffering under him... if they are still together that is because once every so many months he is ready near the front door with his suitcase threatening to leave.
Wow. I met someone that way. Needless to say it was a super short time spent together. I was gone FAST! LOL
True !
This happened in my life while I was involved with my former narcissist girlfriend at the time we probly had been together for 14 yrs a huge tree fell on our lake mobile home at 4 am on my grandsons bday in 2019 it destroyed the place but it fell ontop of her God was truly looking out four us I honestly though she would change after this nerdeath experience but she still kept attacking me. !
I finally got away from her over nine months ago
Thank you
Get the book Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Bill Eddy, LCSW 🙏
Like, lie, till the day you die. Deny,deny, till the day you die. A psychopath told me that.
Right to the point.
I’d also add need to hurt others and then enjoying it, having an overdeveloped sense of self.
He missed one key element to their arrogance and domination - They always seek and achieve power positions in school and career.. ALWAYS!
And never never let on that you’re figuring them out. They will do absolutely anything to destroy you and end you if they think you have the ability to out them. And I mean anything.
So true.
Oops 😂
I’m figuring that out now…after speaking up about their scapegoating and caught my mother spreading lies to antagonize my brother who shoots up drugs and is her baby…he’s insane already now he thinks umm out to get him …she is trying to cause him to lose his mind and it would take care of two of her perceived problems and she’s finally have some peace…I honestly think my mother didn’t want kids but did because my dad did want kids…
@@w8what575 moms probably a covert narcissist, brother sounds like an idiot I’m in a similar situation lol. It’s like I was born into a family of covert and overt narcissists hurting me and tricking me every chance they got.
@@w8what575 I'm sorry you're going through this. Best to let them think they're so smart and give 'em enough rope, as they say. Refocus on your health, your purpose, your goals, your peace, and ignore everybody else. The less they know the better.
These videos have helped me make crucial behavioral changes. Thank you.
I like this format. Lovely little garden too.
The Inability To Put One's Feet In Another's Shoes! Definitely No Conscious!
Lol yep right here. When u have no family or friends life becomes a game of survival. I've done everything in the name of winning and survival.
Damn you telling me my coworker is a psychopath? I just dismiss her as crazy.... She is four out of five of those things. Wow thanks for the information
Start researching Cluster B disorders.... they ALL have these behaviors except for Borderline Personality Disorder. They will destroy you but they don't get pleasure from it unlike Narcissistic Personality Disorder where they thrive in harming and confusing you. In my personal opinion...NPD are the MOST dangerous on this spectrum. Many many suicides are caused from interacting with them for long periods. Almost every rapist and murder is one of these
Loved this!
Often these red flags can go unnoticed...and can be totally deceptive
That sounds like my narcissistic husband!!! I do not trust him at all.
Did you not see through it when meeting him?
Casual cruelty and elaborate disproportionate revenge plans?
the cruelty thing isnt in all of us, but yes for sure the revenge thing
Excellent, mine for sure is psychopath as he is Narcissist and I found article he hide for 20 years Title Beyond Machiavelli. I lived with this man 27 years without knowing him. Now I know. Exit.
Get out now !
Hugs, 🥰
All psychopaths and sociopaths are narcissists - its the baseline of the personality disorder and then it builds from there to psychopathy.
I love your garden ☺️💜✌🏽
Omg...you described my narcissistic husband...he constantly hurts me every chance he can
Thank You! All of these red flags have been present in a suitor for the past 3 1/2 years. I am very grateful I am still alive!
You just described my supervisor at my previous job.
My past three supervisors 😮
Sounds like my ex. The type to piss the bed and blame the blanket or in his case murder his fiancee and blamed me for it. Yeah if i hadnt left him he wouldnt of met her or murdered her.. rip diane nichol
Cruelty to pets especially if it causes slow painful death. I know two outwardly nice people like that and they are obvious criminal-class psychopaths.
Dark Triad of shared traits in Cluster B disorders: Narcissism, Sociopathy and Psychopathy
this is closer to sociopath honestly
They lie about everything & have NO empathy!
Aww I love this guy ❤ subscribed I look forward to seeing more of him.
Indeed they want to know everything about your past while not speaking about their own life 😊😊😊
The way he keeps looking to the lower left makes me think hes reading what to say
My "uncle". I would be very surprised if he didn't have a body count on him. He died before forensics could catch up to him. He helped raise my mom. She had serious issues of her own.
Sounds like my younger son, whom I no longer will have contact with
I have a son like this too. Sorry for us both
@@ambriadaniels-dovolis7496 just realize its not your fault and nothing you could do or have done would have changed anything, also know never trust we constantly lie literally all the time even when we tell the truth
😮😊 well I'm learning to understand the terminology now and oh my God I've wasted so much of my life dealing with these kind of people thinking I could help them in some way all along not understanding the character assassination
I am very suspicious of my coworker. He uses insincere flattery towards important people in the workplace and it seems he's doing it just to get an advantage to obtain information. He has a hard on for giving orders to other workers and always avoids getting his hands dirty. He has a strange tendency to avoid any act of selflessness and waits for someone else to respond and than has the audacity to act as if the gesture was a service to him by thanking them. I have also noticed a few acts of manipulation.
They try to get info for manipulation.
When you look into their eyes and see no spark of light or life dead eyes like a shark's. Like all the lights are on but ain't nobody home, because nobody is home they have no Soul.
we are chameleons, we are who we need to be in whatever situation we are in
my current teenage son. pray for me 🙏🏻
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Well said, best description about yourself thru experience
I got $5,000 and I got a new house for me and my daughter thinking that I could out love anything that was wrong with her. the day after we moved in, she got drunk. she didn't like what I had to say about that and beat me up pretty bad. I had barricaded myself in my room. she called the police and said I tried to stab her with an eyebrow razor. she was cold and calculating and they believed her. I lost everything. Everything. I'm facing 15 years for this. I was crying and my 16 year old step son said to me, "you know she's a psychopath, right?" I started to laugh when I happened to look up at him. The smile faded from my face really quickly. He was serious. He meant it, and he meant to point out my obvious denial. The moment we locked eyes, my heart dropped. She doesn't love me or anyone else. Please, if you're a parent of a psychopath, sociopath, or form of narcissist, don't make the same mistake I did. You cannot fix them, they are not fixable and you will be little more than a martyr in your own life story. I lost 60lbs from the stress. I don't eat much bc I'm physically sick over this, and when I do, it comes back up, gross sorry, just trying to highlight the severity of the effects this has had on me. In addition, most of my hair has fallen out or is broken. I really had catatonic depression. It got so bad that I was calling the suicide hotline nightly. It was all I could do, everything I did felt like I was moving through quicksand. I remember vividly that I would cry if I had to do the smallest thing. Just realizing that I was going to have to use the restroom would bring me to tears bc it was physically exhausting. Again, you cannot fix this. It doesn't matter if you love or hate that person, your feelings are irrelevant here. I eventually had to be hospitalized. I have lupus and the bumps where she was pummeling me with punches got super inflammed and it took multiple rounds of IV steroids and other meds to get control before the inflammation spread down my spinal cord and throughout my joints and body. I loved my daughter. Past tense. She destroyed everything and the person who you are struggling with will do the same. Unless that person is engaged in an intensive multi- pronged therapy program, and you're seeing tangible, permanent progress, RUN. No person is worth your life or your liberty. Both of which are at stake if you decide to keep messing with these types. Don't be stupid. Don't be me, it could cost you everything. Her and her two boyfriends (they are poly) ruined the house & never paid the rent. I'm in over 17k dollars of damage and an eviction on the place. I was there less than 24 hours. My life is in utter shambles and abject poverty does not accurately describe the suffering she has caused financially and otherwise. Protect yourself at all times friends!❤️Please. At the very least, I'm begging you to do some research about these
"dark triad" personality disorders. Educate yourself so you know exactly what is going on and cannot be gaslit or emotionally manipulated. A good therapist is integral for anyone who has regular interactions with people like this. Often, these people know exactly which words and actions are going to make you lose your sh*t and a good therapist can teach us how to have good boundaries and good self esteem to combat the negativity.
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Sounds like previous president
Yeah biden, I agree!
The main identifying trait I feel is a cold, scary lack of empathy or concern for others, people and animals….a complete lack of conscience. They are always malignant narcissists too which makes them VERY cold, calculating, violent people.
We are shaped by our experiences the same as you are, but nobody hears about the average upstanding citizen do they?.
I've seen these traits in people usually only an individual trait rather than a cluster of them in one person ..does one of the traits still mean a possible psycopath?
Maybe...but most likely not.
With one of these traits has there been things such as cheating, other romances? Or possibly various addictions like alchohol or gambling? Or has the person had a bad childhood? (Didn't do well in school, got into trouble a lot...)
If it's just 1 trait I would say "no". But 1 trait with what I just mentioned, then "maybe".
Sometimes very few traits show through, this is because of careful refinement over time. We all learn social rules at some point after all
@@theeguy9022 also people have to really get to know us and be in our lives alot to start seeing it, most people arent paying attention
He is describing the ex. Malignant narcissistic personality. I found out the hard way.
He just described my sister.
That all applies to my sister,, now I know where her bad behavior comes from,, she is a psychopath
Well, that gentleman doesn't seem too normal either😄, his eyes look is a bit scary
Nailed it 💯 Jim!
This sounds 100% like Narcissist! This is exactly what I dealt with 3 years ago and finally stopped about 6 months ago... I hope!
Good to know! Thanks for this info!😊
Bro basically just described me😂 The only difference is I don’t lie about little things, it makes it easier to lie about big things.
Im at the point where I just say to my family "i dont wanna talk about it" easy to lie when you dont tell them anything, they dont need to know shit anyway im sure they are happier for it
I thought my ex was malignant narcissistic personality disorder..he's actually a psychopath. Favorite saying was the end justifies the means.. I had to tell him who Machiavelli was.
The red flags you say is basically a shortened biography of mine 😂. But yeah, I am a psychopath. Many of my family, employees, neighbor love me, but I do not give anF to any of them at all.
I know so many people with these traits 😅
Paranoia is one, speaking bad about cops too or making justifications for someones crime....laughing at your pain ridiculing you if you are hurt those too, thats coldness i think
I know a person like this for REAL.😢
Yep I was with one. He has all these traits.
After litterally running for my life during a gruesome divorce to a malignant psychopath Narcissist who has Machiavellinism for years.. it's truly sad to think he suffers with this. The devil uses his wounds and addictions, entry ways, to control him and ruin his life. I saw his pain and wanted to be there for him, he destroyed me in every way. This is truly the devil's playground. I look at him like a Fallen soldier who got bit by a zombie and became one..
They talk about how wonderful they are, wack conversations which are inappropriate, want to know everything about you, but won't tell you anything about themselves, will lie on you, and say you want them, and you get a sick feeling whenever they talk to you.
all right except the last one, most people love to talk about themselves its actually a weakness we prey on, let someone stroke their own ego and they will think your encounter with them was all positive "we the date with Dave when great he was really into me we spoke alot of my hobbies and he was really into my work" blah blah
wow. Im very shy. Bt i try to talk by asking questions? I guess im fkd
should i get rid of myself Now? so i dont hurt anyone?🙁
*WHOA!!! He just described my wasband 💯%!!! 😮 This TOTALLY explains so MUCH!!!*
Wow that’s my ex girlfriend to a tee. Was aware she was a narcissist when I broke up w her but she also had every single of these traits - and very strongly so! So happy I got away from that crazy experience 🤡🎪
This video is pointing at me ... and i dont even wanna kill or hurt anybody
pathological lying is funny as hell cmon
True, thank you
That sound exactly what my brother is going right now:)...destroying my life and still thinking that he is doing it right :)
Watching this video I felt like I was being diagnosed
Well hells bells! I never talk about my childhood because I didn’t think it was all that interesting!
End of video is cut off.
Same for some of your other videos.
My dad is like this
You just described my cat😼🔪😱
Oh, I thought this was the British guy from the Lost In The Pond videos. But this guy seems to know my dad. He describes him quite accurately and now I'm a new sub
😳🫣 how could one get a mandate the other one to get tested. We have a child together and he takes her now and then. I worry for her well being. But courts won't listen. I'm glad i seen this video. Cause i couldn't put my finger on what type he is. Other then a narcissist 😢 I've watched order videos on sociopath and psychopath... But couldn't still see the difference. 😮
No difference ( Except of degree…. )
Thank you ❤️
How to spot a psychopath 101:
Someone who puts milk first then cereal.
So are all narcs one then? Because mine was. And he liked inflicting pain.
nope.
psychopathy is sth you born with. it basically means that the person has no empathy and doesnt feel emotions.
narcissism is sth that develops due to trauma and abuse in childhood
@@maneyarain I know all about it now. Had to learn about it to get over it. Thanks to for your comment.
Why did you cut him off THERE? 😮
Trying to manipulate you is what I think he was going to say next and was cut off.
He’s talking about Herschel Walker
I was going to say he's talking about 90% of the Republican Party.
@@leonajones4702 : Trump to a T.
Both Clinton's, both Bushes and both Obamas.
How would this not be sociopathic? Doctors, lawyers, politicians..etc
Okay I might be a psychopath 💀
Ong me too😂
Also if a person tortures or kills animals that is a sign of them being a serial killer or psychopath
Preying on you, being on top of you, taking such position above you. Trying to find your buttons, pressing the buttons. Inflicting pain. You not trusting the person to be safe.
Whats the difference between a psychopath & a narcissist?? They sound the same
The final thing you were saying was cut off.
Yes! I wanted to hear the last statement too!!!
Sounds exactly like my sister.