This was such a fun video to make so I hope you enjoy it! Stay tuned for my next video which will be a big 4 month recap! Love you guys so much! 💋😘 **Timestamps** ▹What was your initial reaction to when I told you I was going "all in"? 1:00 ▹Did you think going "all in" was going to fix my extreme hunger? 1:38 ▹Can you share your experience with going "all in"? 2:57 ▹How much weight would you gain going "all in"? 5:32 ▹What happened to your appetite after gaining weight? 6:28 ▹How long did it take for your hunger levels to go down? 8:04 ▹Are binge episodes common in bodybuilding? 11:42 ▹What are your eating behaviors like now? 11:42 ▹Most reception has been positive, but my biggest critics are ALL men, why do you think that is? 15:52 ▹Based on being around me, do you think going "all in" worked or is working for me? 19:09 ▹What do you think about my weight gain? 20:58
Thank you for acknowledging that purging does not always mean vomiting. It can be over exercising, restricting certain macros (carbs/fat), and a lot of negative self talk and food guilt after a binge.
You and Jeff have such a kind and informative way of explaining things. I really enjoy the way you go about teaching. So respectful! Been following your journey and I just think you’re so strong and beautiful 👏🏻❤️
I cannot comment on youtube vid for sum reason but can only comment replies. Anyway it was so triggering&relatable when jeff spoke about hıs binge eating and i still dont think i stopped it even tho i did unplanned "all in" for about a year now way b4 stephanie and idk how i can stop for good
everyone praising the boyfriend for being a decent person... can we just agree that everyone should be understanding and sensitive towards their partner?
Nalababy I think he’s gone above being a decent person. Most people are not willing to open up about something as personal as binge eating to the internet b/c their spouse asked. That was really brave and awesome of him.
I don't think most men would be happy if their girlfriend tells them "I wanna gain 35 pounds of weight". It depends on the circumstances. In her case I think it was definitely necessary for her to gain weight, because she was unhealthily lean. I think she looks happier and healthier now. But: If your partner is already overweight that's a totally different situation. In that case a weight gain would be unhealthy for her and to be completely honest, I would try to talk to her and try to convince her not to do it. You can be understanding and sensitive towards your partner even though you have a different opinion.
Yes everyone should be understanding but that doesn't mean anyone should like and accept anything. Anyone would be just right to feel that he doesn't like his boy/girlfriend to gain weight.
Venus What do you think he is going to say, only one answer if he wants to stay with her. She needed more weight, but 35 pounds is too much for a small girl.
Don’t Worry About it people have different preferences, i don’t think thick women are better than skinny, and I don’t think skinny people are better than thick. Everyone’s different. No reason to fat shame or skinny shame.
Coming from years of an abusive relationship, just watching how you both listen to each other before speaking and the support given shows me that their are men out there who respect women. I hope I can come across this one day ❤️
It all comes down to a lot of self-love. Which sounds condescending as fuck coming from a stranger on the internet, but it really does. You gotta watch out for yourself and be yourself. Be genuine and look for genuine people, which is a lot easier to do when you're 100% willing to be you without compromise. Good luck in finding the person that loves you for... well, you.
As someone who has really struggled with binge eating disorder it makes me so happy to hear Jeff talk about his struggles. It isn’t something that is talked about enough.
@Jennifer DeBold I've been in therapy with a psychologist and dietician for almost a year now and it been truly lifechanging. The hardest bit was reaching out for help but once I started getting help I was so much more motivated to get better.
@Jennifer DeBold I would also recommend reading Brain Over Binge by Kathryn Hansen, it goes into the neurobiology behind binge eating. Life changing for me.
Mahtab Amelia, I agree so much! You might like youtuber mamaswole also since she has a degree in exercise physiology and talks about the science to health and fitness!
prettypetite - if she keeps packing on the pounds, i think he'll dump her i know they have a good relationship, but he's a fitness guy and he'd want a woman with a good physique, not one with a frumpy figure
MO JO no she looks great after going all-in cuz she’s more curvy right now. They’re able to enjoy more delicious food together which makes their relationship even better! Don’t judge sb with only their body shape
wow, it was so liberating when jeff talked about his binges - it's such a important thing to talk about that not a lot of people have the guts to share. Im unfortunately right in that process where i binge extreme amounts 4-6 days a week and don't know how to stop it, but it was so motivational hearing that it can be fixed and i'm not alone. lots of love!!
just try and go one more day without binging, and keep teetering up the same way you increase strength in the gym, push your mind and make it stronger.
Hi! I know you posted this two months ago but I'd like to share my experience with you in case it might still be of some help. I started binging this summer almost every night due to dieting and I think it's been two or three months since my last binge. What I did was stop denying myself certain categories of food because the more I restricted the more I wanted. That's how our brains works: what do you think of if I tell you not to think of a red ball? I used to binge on milk and cookies, so I incorporated these foods into my meals again and ate them with no guilt. That's the key: you have to remove any moral judgement from food.... There's no such thing as good or bad food... It's all just food and you can't allow it to define the kind of person you are. You can be bad for stealing etc, not for eating a donut! After I ate a portion of the foods I used to consider as "bad" everyday, I stopped wanting them. They were not special anymore because I knew I could have them whenever I wanted. I had a mindset of abundance, whereas before my subconscious thought that whenever I had the chance to eat milk and cookies I should eat as much as I could, fearing it was the last time I would have the chance. There's nothing wrong with that: it used to be a survival technique for our ancestors who starved everyday until they caught a prey and ate as much as they could because they did not know when their next meal would be. This kind of mentality comes back when we start to restrict our food... It's our brain fearing starvation and protecting us. Just believe that you live in abundance and that all the foods you want are always available, which is the thruth about nowadays society.... food is everywhere. So just wait till you're hungry, sit at a table, plate those foods and eat them just like any normal food. No shame, no guilt. It's a conscious choice you've made. Do this everyday and you'll stop craving and binging. I binged a lot when I started this but making some mistakes is part of every process. I don't even like milk and cookies anymore, they're just like any other food for me now. Sorry for the very long message, but, in case you're still struggling with binge eating, I just wanted you to know you're not alone and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Jeff's answers to the last question quite literally had me crying. Stephanie, I have been with the opposite. And girl, let me tell you, you are so blessed. ♡♡♡
The Fox bruh being an alcoholic and trying to fix your eating disorder are two different things she lost her period because of the way she used to restrict herself. Alcoholics hurt not only themselves but everybody else around them stop comparing these two shes not overweight and now she doesnt eat as much as she used to eat when she began this type of diet.
@@genesisgenesiss6853 sorry my bad. I wasn't having a go at Stephanie and do in fact think she looks fantastic however I also think makeup can be just as much an issue as dieting in terms of impacting women's expectations and their self esteem. We do have to recognise she is heavily made up and it isn't natural for ones skin to look so flawless.
Nick Perry I agree but if she wants to wear makeup, then that’s her choice. Whether it’s heavy or light. Personally, I don’t wear makeup but that’s my choice lol. Thanks for clarifying, have a nice day:))
wow I'm totally speechless how Jeff is talking! He's so understanding and such a huge supporter in what you do! There should be more guys out there just like him :)
you’re helping me through my personal journey too my boyfriend is just as supportive as jeff and it’s so important to have a support system that loves you regardless
@@zeon_trl1326 true. She needs Jeff to lie. The truth would destroy her. He's a bodybuilder. You can bet that, even though he loves her (which is most important), he would prefer leaner over fatter. Jeff wants her to be happy, so he plays the game as most people would, when asked, to keep their partners happy.
Gunner that is a pretty shallow and fucked up thing to assume. Just because he is a body builder doesn’t mean that he doesn’t enjoy having his woman happy (or enjoying that junk in the trunk). He is a MAN, not a child/boy. A man loves his woman in every single stage that she does through in life and supports her and her changes physically aren’t going to do anything but bring them closer and make them fall even more in love. That’s is what going through a journey in a relationship does..bring two people closer, not to mention, she is somebody that actually follows through, just like a bodybuilder does with bulking and leaning. She isn’t doing this with zero goals in mind. She’s a fucking PhD..she is a dedicated, strong woman that know hat she wants and has goals she is working towards, and right now those the goals are health oriented and also includes gaining that control back over her health and body. Just because that is the way you think means that her man thinks that way. He is in no way a shallow man. I mean..he called her a freaking PIONEER for women...pretty sure he is more in love with her than ever before.
I’d be so afraid of allowing myself to eat at full satiety because I’ve had binge eating disorder in the past and I feel like everyday would be a binge for me.. food can be scary man 😫😫 eating intuitively by listening to your body has to be the hardest thing
it's tough but POSSIBLE. try and get some professional help if you don't think you can do it alone! there's also many good resources online if you're careful.
same here! Even if I'm not trying to lose weight I still prefer to count calories/control my eating in some other may because if I don't set a limit for myself (sometimes even if I do lol) I will binge until I feel sick
It's definitely a process of multiple months. Stephanie is eating pretty damn healthy, and is working out during the whole process, and that's a major help. Doing something that's this drastic should definitely be paired with professional guidance.
I struggle with binging and I've started giving myself permission to eat anything (its hard and you constantly have to remind yourself you're allowed to eat) and within even a few days I already felt a million times better, less inclined to binge, healthier and like food isn't torturing me everyday near as much. The key is to quiet your mind when you feel the urger to binge OR restrict and keep practicing eating until you're full. And remember you're eating might be really all over the place and unhealthy for a while until you settle! you've got this, you'll feel so free
Binge eating is usually caused by a history of restriction. For myself I found that focusing on Whole Foods and not limiting myself with food rules about what is healthy and what is “bad” helped me change my mindset a lot about eating
i relate so much to jeff when he talked about binging disorter. like foreal when you "restrict" yourself into having only one (etc. cookie) and then going back for another one and another one without feeling any kind of satisfaction and after you finish the whole pack, you are left feeling SO MUCH guilt. its crazy.
Unless you want to be ripped it doesn’t really matter how many cookies as long it’s not a daily thing If I want to eat sweet I’ll just lower my carbs for the day
CALICOTV301 you clearly don’t understand. You don’t enjoy or hardly even taste the food during the binge last maybe the first bite or two, it’s a frantic, out of control, hazy experience. It’s very different from just wanting a good pig out session. Accept that maybe you don’t know everything.
@@littlelam3691 fr I will binge on half frozen shit just because I cant wait for it to unfreeze It’s gotten a lot better since moving out of my parents home because I’m happier and can remove my main trigger foods, I hope you’re getting better too :)
It is so obvious how unconditionally he loves you and it is just so heartwarming and precious. Everyone deserves a love like the one you have for each other! And happy birthday, Jeff!
I just wanted to pop in and say thank you. You’ve inspired me to not fear food / weight gain any more. You’ve made my ana recovery a lot “easier” for me by talking about how weight gain is something that we need and that everything will redistribute and its nothing to fear. Health over starvation any day. (Also I’m choked because I was just in ktown and missed you!😫) come to North Vancouver some time! Love you and keep up the amazing work you’ve always done❤️
I'm sharing this with ED clients of mine. I like how Jeff described his disordered eating and that you call out how taboo it is to discuss it. I see more people in therapy who come in for feelings of anxiety or depression and we uncover that they restrict, over exercise and don't sleep well. Altering all three of those things will reduce strain on the body, mind, nervous system and allow the body time to heal. I think people are being mis-diagnosed and subsequently medicated when the key to a lot of change is in the basics. Thank you for making this video!
keckk22 just a quick question: often people struggling with eating disorders consume calories on a deficit.. during the recovery process of an ED, is it normal for the person to have a larger appetite for let’s say 3 years even if the person becomes at a healthy weight and has progressed really well in recovery?
@@hannahdun7283 Usually your stomach is supposed to become smaller when you're not in recovery cause you're not eating alot but as you eat more it gets bigger so maybe you're still not eating enough if you're still hungry because if your body is telling you you're hungry then you are but if it's just comfort eating then maybe you're not actually hungry.
@@hannahdun7283 Hey Hannah. When I've worked with ED clients and nutritionists at the same time they often tell me the damage done to a metabolism can take a long time to recover from. Long time meaning years so I wouldn't be surprised at all to find an increased level of hunger for quite a while. At the same time the brain needs to learn and understand healthy hunger and fullness cues and that can take a while as well.
For some reason I always thought Jeff never really cared to eat. But now I see he just has a really good relationship with food. I hope you get there in the end Steph!
@@zeon_trl1326 Of course. Relationship is the interaction of two objects and their outcome. An outcome can be positive, negative or neutral. Thus, a relationship with food is achieved when a human eats or does not eat said food. When you have body issues, you tend to create a negative relationship with food. But, Jeff has gotten to a point in life where he can eat whats hee wants without feeling guilty. Healthy relationship!
I loved being able to hear his perspective on this "all in" and especially his thoughts about the weight gain. Thank you for sharing. All boyfriends take note: be more like Jeff.
i would say Jeff is lucky to have a woman like Stephanie, but Stephanie is so lucky to have a boyfriend like Jeff, too. They're just so perfect together and have such an inspiring, loving, communicative, and comforting, and supportive relationship it makes me wanna cry
You two are very cute, it’s obvious that he just adores you! Woman to woman, congratulations on feeling happy and healthy. Food issues are tough so when you find what works for you and makes you genuinely content it’s a truly powerful place! 💜
@Amanda R All in will be able to put an e brake on the bulimia as long as you're keeping your mental health in check and are prepared for letting go of your weight. You will peak with weight and hunger and then it starts to regulate, which can take a year give or take. Its a journey but will open your world up to having better relationships, more mental space, heart, energy and positive experience! Best of luck :)
@@CassandraMac thank you for sharing this experience! I'm early into real recovery - finally giving in to the extreme hunger after years of treatment and folks attempting to supervise a reverse-diet. (Fascinating to me that this reverse dieting didn't work for myself or many with EDs and that many body building folks struggle with this approach as well). Accepting the weight-gain and over-shoot is turning out to be the hardest part. Congrats on your recovery, it's always inspiring to hear people make it.
I'm not necessarily going "all in," but I've recently stopped dieting, after a couple of years of dieting/binging, and it's been life-changing for me, as has you sharing your all in experience. It's so hard to be accepting of your body and to resist the temptation of going back, but at this time in my life, I think listening to my body is the best thing I can do. Thanks for sharing, Steph!
Stephanie, you’re such a ray of sunshine and I love you and Jeff together!! You’re such and inspiration and my life goals truly!! I wish there was somehow we could meet you, been watching you since the beginning!! 😍😍
I would LOVE to see Jeff do a science based video/videos on his binge eating to intuitive eating journey. I've struggled with BED for most of my life (since I was 6) so obviously our journeys are drastically different, but getting to a point of being able to eat intuitively seems like such a fairy tale to me. I'd love to see some of his research and tips on it as it is such a taboo subject that no one wants to talk about and people just suffer in silence as a result.
I compete in fitness competitions from time to time, and I'm SO GLAD that there was a discussion about the binges that can follow a competition. Like Jeff said, it's often the "dark side of fitness."
I can't believe I teared up when she gave him a hug and said "You're a good boyfriend" after he said he liked her more now and that he doesn't care if she gain more weight, and the way he looked so humble after she said it @22:02 .....that was the best part of the video for me!
You have no idea how much I needed to see this. I recently had my second child and I am back to my pre pregnancy weight but due to some complications I havent been able to workout. I feel so insecure. My husband however tells me how much he love my body now and how he prefers me this way. I was very thin and lean before. I however am having a very difficult time. It hard to adjust to this new body and let myself heal.
This is so helpful having Jeff share his eating behavior around body building. It’s so crazy to hear about people who look super fit and are even able to get to 5% body fat also have issues with food. I always assumed those people had ironclad wills.
"Might be" a double standard? Jeff, so polite. Some of the things you describe are true, but the vast majority are not thinking beyond what it means to their eyeballs and how it feels to look at bodies. They might be able to dress it up in "health" or scientific concern but that's only because they know on some level that they can't say it out loud.
Yeah, I was hesitant to say it, but you've inspired me. They're interacting with it almost 100% on a superficial level. I'm sure some are fitness guys who just aren't paying attention and there are even a few who are trying to help in earnest, although they're apparently unconcerned that nobody asked for their advice. But the majority from my perspective are just bummed that she's not as lean and really, really want her to know what they think of her physique right now. If they know her struggles with hunger, then it's even more fucked up to say. Would you really want someone to go to bed painfully hungry and lack the energy to go about her day just because you prefer Lean Stephanie? Get a hobby that isn't ogling strangers on the internet and trolling them when they "fail" you. She has to live in her body and her health and feelings are what matter. She's also absolutely gorgeous at this weight, so I didn't want to imply there's anything wrong with how she looks. You're beautiful, Stephanie, but how you look is just so not the point. You're on a health journey.
YES. My first thoughts as well were that the critics are just upset they can't "enjoy" her leaner physique anymore because that's what they find attractive. It's gross. So many men think women exist for their viewing pleasure and need to fit their mold of what women should look like, not realizing she is a human being and this goes way deeper than they are capable of thinking.
Jeff loves that booty gain girl! Joke aside, Jeff put it best, you’re a pioneer for us women. I struggle so much with binge eating and extreme hunger (I recently lost about 45/50lbs) and now I trying to find the medium where I am no longer food focused but still maintaining/losing. I am not sure if that is even a possibility. But as someone who is also required to be under a set weight (military) Its a real struggle. But I love your content and your bravery. Sharing your life with such a mass audience is brave. Especially sharing such a unique and taboo journey as intentional weight gain for the benefit of health. I am very grateful and look forward to seeing more content.
I cannot tell you how much this video opened my eyes. I have binge eating disorder with some purging and it makes me hopeful that I can overcome. Thank you Stephanie and Jeff!
This whole “all in” series has been amazing !!! I binged so bad after my shows and gained but my hunger stopped just like yours - my battle now with me is not feeling like i look good without being “stage lean” - struggle is real! Love you steph!!
I just started catching up on your All In journey, and it’s been incredibly interesting. Good for you for doing what’s best for YOU even though you knew there would be critics. Also, Jeff is so sweet and supportive of you, and it makes my heart so happy 😭❤️
I can’t believe how much I related to what Jeff said... I just competed in my first figure bodybuilding show in June of this year and I’ve battled with some binge eating, feeling guilty about it and try to compensate with cutting my food the next day. I was severely overweight at one point (200lbs @ 5’2”) in end of 2017/early 2018 so its scary! Thankfully I have a coach who doesn’t believe in a strict reverse diet so I avoided that. I loved this video, thank you for letting me feel not alone!!
For someone who has went through this process herself and struggled with binge eating for years this video is so related and you both have such a great relationship.
I appreciate that you guys are using such terms as "extreme hunger" and not labelling this lifestyle as an eating disorder. I think it's important to talk about this kind of stuff with out immediately labeling it as a mental illness. It's something that a lot of people go through, especially those who are involved in sports or fitness. Many don't even realize what's happening while they are going through it. It's also super important to explain the reasons behind why the body will binge or what actually goes on "behind the scenes" when people are going through this.
Man just now getting over an extreme cut from 240 dropping to 185. Have been suffering from extreme hunger for almost 2 years now and watching your videos and content is comforting! Love it!
I have a question: how do you feel, when you see your slimmer self in old videos or when you edit in some old footage? Are you becoming more neutral about your physique or is it still hard? I personally think that you look so radiant since you're all in :)
Linda S very good question. I can’t look at my pictures from pre-recovery from anorexia without crying, wishing I had the same physique I had 3 years ago (but as for me I guess I’m not there “mentally”, yet)
Hey Stephanie! I just wanted to tell you that I am going to do an “All In” experience. I am currently in recovery for anorexia! You have motivated me and I am so excited!! Please wish me luck!!! I would love to receive some advice!! 👍🏻
I know this comment is old but same. I was restricting myself so much I went into a deep depression from the result of binge eating. I would read books about how to stop and gained weight and it was just all horrible. I would eat like over 6 donuts just all to myself in one session and finally I don’t really remember how but after I gained a lot of weight I finally stopped and completely stopped restricting myself.
I recently discovered you and I just wanted to say that I love your content, the way you express to your viewers and the amount of work that goes in your videos is impressive! Love, love, love them!!!! 💛😍 Keep it up on your all in progress you’re doing doing great. I hope it keeps working on you and most importantly that you’re happy 😃
Few things: A) Cutest couple ever. EVER. B) Seeing you both "show lean" makes me realize how much better yall both look now. Not that you looked bad then, but ya know what I mean. C) I truly feel the male critics are either just unhappy to see any woman not strive to be a bikini model, OR you were right in the fact that they cant help but get unsolicited advice. I get it all day every day in Insta so I feel you.
Breck Kane fam idk what you’re talking about but she looked disgusting super lean and 2nd no ones wants someone to be unhealthy and always eating trash
Love that you’re doing these videos. Such a positive influence for women. Just wanted to say that while the “all in approach” will help with your hunger cues and help with a healthier mindset around food, it’s important to get help around the psychological component of why there were challenges around eating. Just changing ones eating cannot change why a person was restricting in the first place if that makes sense. Keep it up 💕
Today's my birthday and I've already eaten so much and you've helped me a lot along the way. I also have trouble getting full as I also have extreme hunger after a year of restricting, but being able to eat today without fear has been lovely and i've noticed my weight gain has finally plateau'd and i get full after eating a normal amount of food vs binging. Love you lots Steph. I love seeing you and your All In journey more than I can explain 💕💕💕
What a great communication line between you two and hearing Jeff's honest option of what he sees is breathtaking. Great woman. Great man. Loved this video so much!
Hey girl, please, please keep making fitness content through this whole experience!! It’s so helpful being able to watch another athlete go through this process, and it’s just kinda nice to be able to have someone (with a background in science as well as someone who’s just physically similar:)) who’s dealing with similar physical symptoms throughout their training. Love what you’re doing!! Keep it up💕
I love how nice Jeff is trying to about how MAYBE there is a double standard. Lol. There is SUCH a double standard! A woman who wants to gain weight? And above and beyond that is fine with gaining fat? Heck no! You'll wind up fat and gross and valueless in our society. I loved this video SO MUCH. I have been following along with you and have gained 27 pounds myself and my husband says the same thing. That I'm happier and we are able to enjoy food as a family together again. My brain is free. And also I have boobs again. Woo-hooo!
When I first started losing weight I started already at a lower calorie point so I got to a point where I just wasnt losing any more weight and I was going to the gym all the time and if I cut my calories any lower I’d just be under eating(I lost weight a healthy way but plateaud and didn’t have much more room to cut from)....a couple months ago I decided to increase my calories knowing I’d gain some weight in the process but I know in the long run it’ll be worth it once I start a cut again...thank you for being so open about you’re all in Journey it really helps....I also started TH-cam a couple months ago after losing 40 pounds
Omg I relate so much ! I’m a petite gal (only 5’2) so my maintenance calories are naturally lower . Been slowly reducing calories .. went from 1900 to 1700 in the span of three months but I feel like I definitely don’t wanna go below 1600
I’m on the same journey I feel. These videos are giving me freedom to realize I just need to listen to my body and give it more versus depriving it and being infatuated with food all the time
@@alisonthao4500 Being petite it is still healthy to eat about 1,200-1,400 even. I am 5'8 and I am on a calorie diet of around 1,560 and it is plenty for me. I would recommend getting the app Lose It, it helps a lot to find the best amount for you.
What you're doing must take an immense amount of patience and trust in the process. It would probably wreck my confidence, if I'm honest. How do you deal with that side of it? But its very interesting/cool to see how things are going, so thank you for sharing your experience with us. :) Can't wait to see what the end result is!
I’m a guy and I’ve been following JEff for a long time now. It was my wife that introduced me to your all in. I’m 100% supportive and have also struggled with all the symptoms you’ve mentioned and it was actually very refreshing to hear Jeff share some of his binge/shame issues as I’ve also felt the same way. I’m definitely considering the all in approach now in order to get myself back to intuitive eating as a goal.
This was such a fun video to make so I hope you enjoy it! Stay tuned for my next video which will be a big 4 month recap! Love you guys so much! 💋😘
**Timestamps**
▹What was your initial reaction to when I told you I was going "all in"? 1:00
▹Did you think going "all in" was going to fix my extreme hunger? 1:38
▹Can you share your experience with going "all in"? 2:57
▹How much weight would you gain going "all in"? 5:32
▹What happened to your appetite after gaining weight? 6:28
▹How long did it take for your hunger levels to go down? 8:04
▹Are binge episodes common in bodybuilding? 11:42
▹What are your eating behaviors like now? 11:42
▹Most reception has been positive, but my biggest critics are ALL men, why do you think that is? 15:52
▹Based on being around me, do you think going "all in" worked or is working for me? 19:09
▹What do you think about my weight gain? 20:58
Thank you for acknowledging that purging does not always mean vomiting. It can be over exercising, restricting certain macros (carbs/fat), and a lot of negative self talk and food guilt after a binge.
Hurry up ... I love watching 😄👍🏽
You and Jeff have such a kind and informative way of explaining things. I really enjoy the way you go about teaching. So respectful! Been following your journey and I just think you’re so strong and beautiful 👏🏻❤️
I cannot comment on youtube vid for sum reason but can only comment replies. Anyway it was so triggering&relatable when jeff spoke about hıs binge eating and i still dont think i stopped it even tho i did unplanned "all in" for about a year now way b4 stephanie and idk how i can stop for good
@Stephanie Buttermore "protocol"? Eating like a pig is a protocol now?
Using me for clickbait I see... oh how the turntables...
💋💋💋💋you stole the show
@@StephanieButtermore He is fans idol too 😍😅
Hahahahaha ok Michael 🤣🤣🤣
Happy birthday Jeff🥳🥳
Jeff Nippard the fact that he’s an Office fan means he’s a keeper 💜
everyone praising the boyfriend for being a decent person... can we just agree that everyone should be understanding and sensitive towards their partner?
Nalababy I think he’s gone above being a decent person. Most people are not willing to open up about something as personal as binge eating to the internet b/c their spouse asked. That was really brave and awesome of him.
I don't think most men would be happy if their girlfriend tells them "I wanna gain 35 pounds of weight". It depends on the circumstances. In her case I think it was definitely necessary for her to gain weight, because she was unhealthily lean. I think she looks happier and healthier now. But: If your partner is already overweight that's a totally different situation. In that case a weight gain would be unhealthy for her and to be completely honest, I would try to talk to her and try to convince her not to do it. You can be understanding and sensitive towards your partner even though you have a different opinion.
Yes everyone should be understanding but that doesn't mean anyone should like and accept anything. Anyone would be just right to feel that he doesn't like his boy/girlfriend to gain weight.
Because he has experienced even worse of himself. But he recovered quite well.
Venus
What do you think he is going to say, only one answer if he wants to stay with her. She needed more weight, but 35 pounds is too much for a small girl.
He’s such a thoughtful evolved man. How refreshing!
He's being nice for TH-cam. On the inside he's like damn fat ass. Lose weight asap.
@@androidgeeking damn u can read minds bruh?
@@bso1469 Can you?
Evolved? We guys are simple and will bang almost anything lol
Pprdro Lshfgh nah it might be just you that is pretty toxic youre supposed to put love first not sex
I’m so impressed by you putting your health before vanity. It’s extremely difficult for most women. Me included. Good job.
If you and Jeff weren’t meant to be together... then there is no hope for the rest of us!!
Ryan Craig agree, sad the divorce rate is over 50%
wow Ryan. what a comment lol
I see this man everywhere 😂👍
Jeff is like lowkey, "I like them thicc" 😂
Nathan Amos all men should 🤷🏻♀️ Thick women (not fat) are much better than skinny
@@elisew1783 I agree, I just like how he is kinda shy about. I think Stephenie looks better now BTW.
@@elisew1783 everyone has their personal preference, just because you think thick women are somehow better doesn't mean it's facts :)
@@elisew1783 I wouldn't call one body type better than the other. It's all about personal preference and what is healthiest for that person.
Don’t Worry About it people have different preferences, i don’t think thick women are better than skinny, and I don’t think skinny people are better than thick. Everyone’s different. No reason to fat shame or skinny shame.
I'm about 99.9% certain you have the best boyfriend in the world.
also, you're a great gf for him and your both lucky to have each other ^^
Fucking weirdo.
@Teringventje
I agree with PCY21, and I am 48.
@Savannah Longest It's sad if he thinks what?
Coming from years of an abusive relationship, just watching how you both listen to each other before speaking and the support given shows me that their are men out there who respect women. I hope I can come across this one day ❤️
It all comes down to a lot of self-love. Which sounds condescending as fuck coming from a stranger on the internet, but it really does.
You gotta watch out for yourself and be yourself. Be genuine and look for genuine people, which is a lot easier to do when you're 100% willing to be you without compromise.
Good luck in finding the person that loves you for... well, you.
You definitely will! They are out there, and you deserve wonderful, honoring, compassionate, beautiful love!!
Sami’s TattooRemovalChannel it’s beautiful ❤️
Arnab Chakraborty classic victim-blaming huh? have several seats sir
TheSwoleBroscientist u got some brainrot going on
As someone who has really struggled with binge eating disorder it makes me so happy to hear Jeff talk about his struggles. It isn’t something that is talked about enough.
@Jennifer DeBold I've been in therapy with a psychologist and dietician for almost a year now and it been truly lifechanging. The hardest bit was reaching out for help but once I started getting help I was so much more motivated to get better.
Bronte Jane I never knew this man would eat I the bathroom to hide the fact I totally know what he means though to feel like you have to hide
@Jennifer DeBold I would also recommend reading Brain Over Binge by Kathryn Hansen, it goes into the neurobiology behind binge eating. Life changing for me.
It works for binging to 😅. Honor your hunger.
I love the way science-minded people speak. it's so refreshing to listen to.
Refreshingly gay
@@joebob978 Haha, that caught me off guard.
Mahtab Amelia, I agree so much! You might like youtuber mamaswole also since she has a degree in exercise physiology and talks about the science to health and fitness!
Living with someone stupid-minded, I completely agree.
He likes her even more now because there’s more of her to like. It’s science.
Hudson Taber lolllll😂😂
they'll break up soon
MO JO what makes you say that??
prettypetite - if she keeps packing on the pounds, i think he'll dump her
i know they have a good relationship, but he's a fitness guy and he'd want a woman with a good physique, not one with a frumpy figure
MO JO no she looks great after going all-in cuz she’s more curvy right now. They’re able to enjoy more delicious food together which makes their relationship even better! Don’t judge sb with only their body shape
wow, it was so liberating when jeff talked about his binges - it's such a important thing to talk about that not a lot of people have the guts to share. Im unfortunately right in that process where i binge extreme amounts 4-6 days a week and don't know how to stop it, but it was so motivational hearing that it can be fixed and i'm not alone. lots of love!!
just try and go one more day without binging, and keep teetering up the same way you increase strength in the gym, push your mind and make it stronger.
Hey the brain over binge podcast and book really helped me ♥️
Binging is probably just your bodys way of replenishing your glyphosate
Joe Bob I think you mean glycogen, glyphosate is a herbicide.
Hi! I know you posted this two months ago but I'd like to share my experience with you in case it might still be of some help. I started binging this summer almost every night due to dieting and I think it's been two or three months since my last binge. What I did was stop denying myself certain categories of food because the more I restricted the more I wanted. That's how our brains works: what do you think of if I tell you not to think of a red ball? I used to binge on milk and cookies, so I incorporated these foods into my meals again and ate them with no guilt. That's the key: you have to remove any moral judgement from food.... There's no such thing as good or bad food... It's all just food and you can't allow it to define the kind of person you are. You can be bad for stealing etc, not for eating a donut! After I ate a portion of the foods I used to consider as "bad" everyday, I stopped wanting them. They were not special anymore because I knew I could have them whenever I wanted. I had a mindset of abundance, whereas before my subconscious thought that whenever I had the chance to eat milk and cookies I should eat as much as I could, fearing it was the last time I would have the chance. There's nothing wrong with that: it used to be a survival technique for our ancestors who starved everyday until they caught a prey and ate as much as they could because they did not know when their next meal would be. This kind of mentality comes back when we start to restrict our food... It's our brain fearing starvation and protecting us. Just believe that you live in abundance and that all the foods you want are always available, which is the thruth about nowadays society.... food is everywhere. So just wait till you're hungry, sit at a table, plate those foods and eat them just like any normal food. No shame, no guilt. It's a conscious choice you've made. Do this everyday and you'll stop craving and binging. I binged a lot when I started this but making some mistakes is part of every process. I don't even like milk and cookies anymore, they're just like any other food for me now. Sorry for the very long message, but, in case you're still struggling with binge eating, I just wanted you to know you're not alone and that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Jeff's answers to the last question quite literally had me crying. Stephanie, I have been with the opposite. And girl, let me tell you, you are so blessed. ♡♡♡
So sorry to hear you were with the opposite. That sucks. Hopefully you are with someone far better now! :)
Oh my God me too crying at the last bit
Jehan Music nah fam women be choosing wrong
Clearly he was lying !! That’s how men lie
I’ve been with the opposite too. It sucked. His answer shows yet again that that’s real love right there. He’s a real keeper 😊
I love how y’all listen and don’t interrupt each other!! 🥰❤️
Soooo cute!
Princess Pris so true !!!! Gosh, I didn’t even notice until I saw your comment.
Yes she is so good at looking attentive but not butting in, I need to be like that
Alicia Ryan I like how attentive she’s being that’s very attractive
I think that's basic human deceny.
_Zeon _ exactly! 😭😭🙏🏼
You’re really helping me to recognize how disordered my thinking about food is.
Guess the first step to tackling any issue is acceptance
Good luck on your journey 😉
Yeuuuuup called us out in the most non-calling out way possible 😂 I love them
Imagine if she had an uneducated partner who didn't have this experience. This process would've been excruciating
I gave this video a big fat like because you guys are my favorite fitness couple
Awwww thank you!! Love you!!
Me too. They're so real.
Dunjii yeaaaahh!! Them two and Natacha Oceane and Mario🥰
👌👌👌👌👌👌
Of course! 😍 You're right! 😊
Jeff's glow up is something else
Hahaha
True though
Stephanie: "Is there a cap?"
Jeff: "There's no cap."
Awww! He's so supportive. 💖
*off camera* there is a definite cap.
@@stevenhewes1990 I think we all intuitively know there is a cap somewhere.
The Fox bruh being an alcoholic and trying to fix your eating disorder are two different things she lost her period because of the way she used to restrict herself. Alcoholics hurt not only themselves but everybody else around them stop comparing these two shes not overweight and now she doesnt eat as much as she used to eat when she began this type of diet.
Stephanie, looks sooo amazing with her current weight right now. She’s glowing!
Uhh no that's makeup
Nick Perry if you have nothing nice to say then don’t , it’s your opinion but be positive.
@@genesisgenesiss6853 sorry my bad. I wasn't having a go at Stephanie and do in fact think she looks fantastic however I also think makeup can be just as much an issue as dieting in terms of impacting women's expectations and their self esteem. We do have to recognise she is heavily made up and it isn't natural for ones skin to look so flawless.
Nick Perry I agree but if she wants to wear makeup, then that’s her choice. Whether it’s heavy or light. Personally, I don’t wear makeup but that’s my choice lol. Thanks for clarifying, have a nice day:))
I hope you get married with him. You guys are so mature and serious about the relationship. Hope the best for you guys!
Its not like theyre that young. Why wouldnt they be serious about their relationship? They do live together
@@Jess-Rabbit And they never said they weren't so what r u on about? Obv.
Awesomeness well it says boyfriend in the title so
@@Zzapi That doesn't have to do anything with what they said or what I said. We know they're dating lmho 😂
@TheSwoleBroscientist 16:00
Usually a silent subscriber, but just popping in to say I love how respectfully and maturely you both discuss and approach things. Love you both!
I totally agree, you too are triggering my sweet tooth 😍😍😍
wow I'm totally speechless how Jeff is talking! He's so understanding and such a huge supporter in what you do! There should be more guys out there just like him :)
Love this. Love seeing a guy's perspective on eating psychology.
you’re helping me through my personal journey too my boyfriend is just as supportive as jeff and it’s so important to have a support system that loves you regardless
First I ever heard a male youtube bodybuilder being so dman honest about this subject. 1:0 to Jeff
Such a handsome, intelligent, sensible guy... impressed
Stop trying to steal her man
@@atherton7662 even if that's what she was trying to do, she could never. He is devoted to Stephanie
@@kaylasheppard7746 hahaha i was jk
Find a man who looks at you like Jeff looks at Steph 😍
He only does it because its scientifically the most optimal way to get the approval of his old lady
Kate Black #legit ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Who wouldn't look at her like that?
Right- they are adorable
Stephanie: he liked me before but he likes me more now. Oh, you're a good boyfriend
Me: *drowning in tears *
Милый Ластик I think it’s mainly from the fact SHES Happier and feeling better etc no man likes when his women hates herself or is miserable.
@@zeon_trl1326 true. She needs Jeff to lie. The truth would destroy her. He's a bodybuilder. You can bet that, even though he loves her (which is most important), he would prefer leaner over fatter. Jeff wants her to be happy, so he plays the game as most people would, when asked, to keep their partners happy.
Gunner what the fuck are you saying
Gunner that is a pretty shallow and fucked up thing to assume. Just because he is a body builder doesn’t mean that he doesn’t enjoy having his woman happy (or enjoying that junk in the trunk). He is a MAN, not a child/boy. A man loves his woman in every single stage that she does through in life and supports her and her changes physically aren’t going to do anything but bring them closer and make them fall even more in love. That’s is what going through a journey in a relationship does..bring two people closer, not to mention, she is somebody that actually follows through, just like a bodybuilder does with bulking and leaning. She isn’t doing this with zero goals in mind. She’s a fucking PhD..she is a dedicated, strong woman that know hat she wants and has goals she is working towards, and right now those the goals are health oriented and also includes gaining that control back over her health and body. Just because that is the way you think means that her man thinks that way. He is in no way a shallow man. I mean..he called her a freaking PIONEER for women...pretty sure he is more in love with her than ever before.
@@gunner5916 believe it or not, when you truly love a person, the size they are doesn't matter. Healthy looks different on every person.
Can everyone have a Jeff boyfriend 😊 it’s truly good to see how supportive he is of you
His tired of her ass being miserable and hating herself and suffering fam
I’d be so afraid of allowing myself to eat at full satiety because I’ve had binge eating disorder in the past and I feel like everyday would be a binge for me.. food can be scary man 😫😫 eating intuitively by listening to your body has to be the hardest thing
it's tough but POSSIBLE. try and get some professional help if you don't think you can do it alone! there's also many good resources online if you're careful.
same here! Even if I'm not trying to lose weight I still prefer to count calories/control my eating in some other may because if I don't set a limit for myself (sometimes even if I do lol) I will binge until I feel sick
It's definitely a process of multiple months.
Stephanie is eating pretty damn healthy, and is working out during the whole process, and that's a major help.
Doing something that's this drastic should definitely be paired with professional guidance.
I struggle with binging and I've started giving myself permission to eat anything (its hard and you constantly have to remind yourself you're allowed to eat) and within even a few days I already felt a million times better, less inclined to binge, healthier and like food isn't torturing me everyday near as much. The key is to quiet your mind when you feel the urger to binge OR restrict and keep practicing eating until you're full. And remember you're eating might be really all over the place and unhealthy for a while until you settle! you've got this, you'll feel so free
Binge eating is usually caused by a history of restriction.
For myself I found that focusing on Whole Foods and not limiting myself with food rules about what is healthy and what is “bad” helped me change my mindset a lot about eating
i relate so much to jeff when he talked about binging disorter. like foreal when you "restrict" yourself into having only one (etc. cookie) and then going back for another one and another one without feeling any kind of satisfaction and after you finish the whole pack, you are left feeling SO MUCH guilt. its crazy.
Unless you want to be ripped it doesn’t really matter how many cookies as long it’s not a daily thing
If I want to eat sweet I’ll just lower my carbs for the day
CALICOTV301 you clearly don’t understand. You don’t enjoy or hardly even taste the food during the binge last maybe the first bite or two, it’s a frantic, out of control, hazy experience. It’s very different from just wanting a good pig out session. Accept that maybe you don’t know everything.
CALICOTV301 it feels pain and you keep going..
CALICOTV301 thank you 😊 it slowly is
@@littlelam3691 fr I will binge on half frozen shit just because I cant wait for it to unfreeze
It’s gotten a lot better since moving out of my parents home because I’m happier and can remove my main trigger foods, I hope you’re getting better too :)
I just know despite Jeffs responses, he adores you and can see how he looks at you 💕
I love how he called you a pioneer for women. Its so true. You are changing my life.
Jeff is a prime example of a man! Being so supportive of you and loving you for who you are not how you look. We all need a Jeff in our lives :)
It is so obvious how unconditionally he loves you and it is just so heartwarming and precious. Everyone deserves a love like the one you have for each other! And happy birthday, Jeff!
Steph, I can tell he loves you so very much. He’s a keeper and you should know you both r incredibly lucky to have each other. Xoxo love you!❤️
I just wanted to pop in and say thank you. You’ve inspired me to not fear food / weight gain any more. You’ve made my ana recovery a lot “easier” for me by talking about how weight gain is something that we need and that everything will redistribute and its nothing to fear. Health over starvation any day. (Also I’m choked because I was just in ktown and missed you!😫) come to North Vancouver some time! Love you and keep up the amazing work you’ve always done❤️
Exactly girl! That makes me so happy! And we love Van, I'm sure we'll be there again soon!
omg I live in Vancouver and she has helped me with anorexia as well :)
She helped me too . ❤️
I think I can speak for everyone here when I say that we're all wishing you the best on your journey. Hope you're well, big hug from Australia!
Amanda Molina you should definitely fear fat, that shit ain’t no joke I guess hang around more fat people then see how much you don’t have to fear 😂
Jeff*looks at her but*
Jeff:It's better now
Stephanie:There's even more now
Jeff:Yea:)
Best thing i've seen all day
My gosh, he is adorable. You two make a beautiful couple.
I'm sharing this with ED clients of mine. I like how Jeff described his disordered eating and that you call out how taboo it is to discuss it. I see more people in therapy who come in for feelings of anxiety or depression and we uncover that they restrict, over exercise and don't sleep well. Altering all three of those things will reduce strain on the body, mind, nervous system and allow the body time to heal. I think people are being mis-diagnosed and subsequently medicated when the key to a lot of change is in the basics. Thank you for making this video!
keckk22 just a quick question: often people struggling with eating disorders consume calories on a deficit.. during the recovery process of an ED, is it normal for the person to have a larger appetite for let’s say 3 years even if the person becomes at a healthy weight and has progressed really well in recovery?
@@hannahdun7283 Usually your stomach is supposed to become smaller when you're not in recovery cause you're not eating alot but as you eat more it gets bigger so maybe you're still not eating enough if you're still hungry because if your body is telling you you're hungry then you are but if it's just comfort eating then maybe you're not actually hungry.
@@hannahdun7283 Hey Hannah. When I've worked with ED clients and nutritionists at the same time they often tell me the damage done to a metabolism can take a long time to recover from. Long time meaning years so I wouldn't be surprised at all to find an increased level of hunger for quite a while. At the same time the brain needs to learn and understand healthy hunger and fullness cues and that can take a while as well.
For some reason I always thought Jeff never really cared to eat. But now I see he just has a really good relationship with food.
I hope you get there in the end Steph!
You have a relationship with your food?
@@zeon_trl1326 Of course. Relationship is the interaction of two objects and their outcome. An outcome can be positive, negative or neutral. Thus, a relationship with food is achieved when a human eats or does not eat said food. When you have body issues, you tend to create a negative relationship with food. But, Jeff has gotten to a point in life where he can eat whats hee wants without feeling guilty. Healthy relationship!
This Jeff guy seems like a knowledgeable person. He should make a TH-cam channel
he has one
@@lisgoldqn sarcasm dunking on you
@@nannoreul 💀
I loved being able to hear his perspective on this "all in" and especially his thoughts about the weight gain. Thank you for sharing. All boyfriends take note: be more like Jeff.
i would say Jeff is lucky to have a woman like Stephanie, but Stephanie is so lucky to have a boyfriend like Jeff, too. They're just so perfect together and have such an inspiring, loving, communicative, and comforting, and supportive relationship it makes me wanna cry
Kira Kusumi the fact you said Jeff is lucky to have someone like steph first lol
@@zeon_trl1326
I'd say Jeff and Stephanie are lucky to have each other.
He’s really sweet and he clearly adores you just by the way he looks at you. Hope you guys will be happy forever and ever and ever ❤️
Seriously Jeff is such an angel. Very thankful for men like him.
You two are very cute, it’s obvious that he just adores you! Woman to woman, congratulations on feeling happy and healthy. Food issues are tough so when you find what works for you and makes you genuinely content it’s a truly powerful place! 💜
So nice to hear Jeff talking about binge eating. That shit is sadly all too common.
*from someone who had an ed during her teens and was underrating for years, this whole series is so interesting!!* thanks Steph! :)
I had bulimia for 10 years and the binge/purge cycle was SO addictive.
@Amanda R All in will be able to put an e brake on the bulimia as long as you're keeping your mental health in check and are prepared for letting go of your weight. You will peak with weight and hunger and then it starts to regulate, which can take a year give or take. Its a journey but will open your world up to having better relationships, more mental space, heart, energy and positive experience! Best of luck :)
@@CassandraMac thank you for sharing this experience! I'm early into real recovery - finally giving in to the extreme hunger after years of treatment and folks attempting to supervise a reverse-diet. (Fascinating to me that this reverse dieting didn't work for myself or many with EDs and that many body building folks struggle with this approach as well). Accepting the weight-gain and over-shoot is turning out to be the hardest part. Congrats on your recovery, it's always inspiring to hear people make it.
Everyone needs to find themselves a Jeff!!
Very “charitable “ 😂😂 I’m definitely a fan of Jeff being more vulnerable and open
Watching the quality of this relationship is so heartwarming
I'm not necessarily going "all in," but I've recently stopped dieting, after a couple of years of dieting/binging, and it's been life-changing for me, as has you sharing your all in experience. It's so hard to be accepting of your body and to resist the temptation of going back, but at this time in my life, I think listening to my body is the best thing I can do. Thanks for sharing, Steph!
Stephanie, you’re such a ray of sunshine and I love you and Jeff together!! You’re such and inspiration and my life goals truly!! I wish there was somehow we could meet you, been watching you since the beginning!! 😍😍
I would LOVE to see Jeff do a science based video/videos on his binge eating to intuitive eating journey. I've struggled with BED for most of my life (since I was 6) so obviously our journeys are drastically different, but getting to a point of being able to eat intuitively seems like such a fairy tale to me. I'd love to see some of his research and tips on it as it is such a taboo subject that no one wants to talk about and people just suffer in silence as a result.
Jeff's shy, cheeky answer to the last question tho!! How cuuuuuute!
I compete in fitness competitions from time to time, and I'm SO GLAD that there was a discussion about the binges that can follow a competition. Like Jeff said, it's often the "dark side of fitness."
I used to binge and “purge” all the time and still do occasionally and that section of this video is honestly so helpful
I can't believe I teared up when she gave him a hug and said "You're a good boyfriend" after he said he liked her more now and that he doesn't care if she gain more weight, and the way he looked so humble after she said it @22:02 .....that was the best part of the video for me!
quietstormaps read this and starting tearing up too 😢!! #weallneedajeff
Lol Guys always say that when your overweight while thier eye drifts elsewhere.
quietstormaps I saw that as her petting him and seeing him as a pet 😂
Denise _fit 😂😂😂😂😂😂
So glad Jeff opened up about this behavior. People need to know about binge eating and that it affects a lot of us
He IS a good boyfriend, you two are so sweet
Before I even watch, I ADORE YOU STEPHANIE AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL MIND AND BODY
THANK YOU!!!! Love you!
I have never heard Jeff speak this much, but now I can really hear the eastern Canadian in his accent!
bootstrappers isn’t he from Kelowna? That’s about as far West as Canada goes...
You have no idea how much I needed to see this. I recently had my second child and I am back to my pre pregnancy weight but due to some complications I havent been able to workout. I feel so insecure. My husband however tells me how much he love my body now and how he prefers me this way. I was very thin and lean before. I however am having a very difficult time. It hard to adjust to this new body and let myself heal.
This is so helpful having Jeff share his eating behavior around body building. It’s so crazy to hear about people who look super fit and are even able to get to 5% body fat also have issues with food. I always assumed those people had ironclad wills.
All Bodybuilder have food issues all of them
"Might be" a double standard? Jeff, so polite. Some of the things you describe are true, but the vast majority are not thinking beyond what it means to their eyeballs and how it feels to look at bodies. They might be able to dress it up in "health" or scientific concern but that's only because they know on some level that they can't say it out loud.
Yeah, I was hesitant to say it, but you've inspired me. They're interacting with it almost 100% on a superficial level.
I'm sure some are fitness guys who just aren't paying attention and there are even a few who are trying to help in earnest, although they're apparently unconcerned that nobody asked for their advice.
But the majority from my perspective are just bummed that she's not as lean and really, really want her to know what they think of her physique right now.
If they know her struggles with hunger, then it's even more fucked up to say. Would you really want someone to go to bed painfully hungry and lack the energy to go about her day just because you prefer Lean Stephanie? Get a hobby that isn't ogling strangers on the internet and trolling them when they "fail" you.
She has to live in her body and her health and feelings are what matter.
She's also absolutely gorgeous at this weight, so I didn't want to imply there's anything wrong with how she looks. You're beautiful, Stephanie, but how you look is just so not the point. You're on a health journey.
This
Most guys are still cavemen and women are here to please and be ogled. I don’t give most guys much credit.
Melanie Clarkson pop off
YES. My first thoughts as well were that the critics are just upset they can't "enjoy" her leaner physique anymore because that's what they find attractive. It's gross. So many men think women exist for their viewing pleasure and need to fit their mold of what women should look like, not realizing she is a human being and this goes way deeper than they are capable of thinking.
Jeff loves that booty gain girl! Joke aside, Jeff put it best, you’re a pioneer for us women. I struggle so much with binge eating and extreme hunger (I recently lost about 45/50lbs) and now I trying to find the medium where I am no longer food focused but still maintaining/losing. I am not sure if that is even a possibility. But as someone who is also required to be under a set weight (military) Its a real struggle. But I love your content and your bravery. Sharing your life with such a mass audience is brave. Especially sharing such a unique and taboo journey as intentional weight gain for the benefit of health. I am very grateful and look forward to seeing more content.
Natalia Santiago what was the set weight ?
Jeff has the most amazing smile I've ever seen. I love your relationship, you're both lucky to have each other ❤️
I cannot tell you how much this video opened my eyes. I have binge eating disorder with some purging and it makes me hopeful that I can overcome. Thank you Stephanie and Jeff!
This whole “all in” series has been amazing !!! I binged so bad after my shows and gained but my hunger stopped just like yours - my battle now with me is not feeling like i look good without being “stage lean” - struggle is real! Love you steph!!
You’re incredible and have helped with my body image so incredibly much.
I just started catching up on your All In journey, and it’s been incredibly interesting. Good for you for doing what’s best for YOU even though you knew there would be critics. Also, Jeff is so sweet and supportive of you, and it makes my heart so happy 😭❤️
Jeff is so supportive and just genuinely cares about your well-being, it’s so refreshing to see😊I hope this brave journey only gets better for you!!
I can’t believe how much I related to what Jeff said... I just competed in my first figure bodybuilding show in June of this year and I’ve battled with some binge eating, feeling guilty about it and try to compensate with cutting my food the next day. I was severely overweight at one point (200lbs @ 5’2”) in end of 2017/early 2018 so its scary! Thankfully I have a coach who doesn’t believe in a strict reverse diet so I avoided that. I loved this video, thank you for letting me feel not alone!!
For someone who has went through this process herself and struggled with binge eating for years this video is so related and you both have such a great relationship.
I appreciate that you guys are using such terms as "extreme hunger" and not labelling this lifestyle as an eating disorder. I think it's important to talk about this kind of stuff with out immediately labeling it as a mental illness. It's something that a lot of people go through, especially those who are involved in sports or fitness. Many don't even realize what's happening while they are going through it. It's also super important to explain the reasons behind why the body will binge or what actually goes on "behind the scenes" when people are going through this.
Man just now getting over an extreme cut from 240 dropping to 185. Have been suffering from extreme hunger for almost 2 years now and watching your videos and content is comforting! Love it!
I have a question: how do you feel, when you see your slimmer self in old videos or when you edit in some old footage? Are you becoming more neutral about your physique or is it still hard? I personally think that you look so radiant since you're all in :)
Linda S very good question. I can’t look at my pictures from pre-recovery from anorexia without crying, wishing I had the same physique I had 3 years ago (but as for me I guess I’m not there “mentally”, yet)
Hey Stephanie! I just wanted to tell you that I am going to do an “All In” experience. I am currently in recovery for anorexia! You have motivated me and I am so excited!! Please wish me luck!!! I would love to receive some advice!! 👍🏻
Hey Fatima, good luck!!! We're rooting for you ❤️
2 months late but good luck
you're beautiful
Maybe the title of your next video should be “IM NOT BULKING” 😂
Katiabulks Hahahha this comment is underrated
jj squad?
When binge eating I could eat a whole cake easily and by the the end, I’ll say oh no what have I done.
be kind to yourself
I'm like that with ice cream. I will eat a whole gallon of ice cream if it's in my house.
A whole cake like for several people? Wow that’s a lot of sugar
Mel B that’s what binge eating is I could eat the whole cake and then eat more
I know this comment is old but same. I was restricting myself so much I went into a deep depression from the result of binge eating. I would read books about how to stop and gained weight and it was just all horrible. I would eat like over 6 donuts just all to myself in one session and finally I don’t really remember how but after I gained a lot of weight I finally stopped and completely stopped restricting myself.
I recently discovered you and I just wanted to say that I love your content, the way you express to your viewers and the amount of work that goes in your videos is impressive! Love, love, love them!!!! 💛😍
Keep it up on your all in progress you’re doing doing great. I hope it keeps working on you and most importantly that you’re happy 😃
Thank you so much! That really means a lot to me. My viewers are my family and you guys only deserve the best 💋
Few things: A) Cutest couple ever. EVER.
B) Seeing you both "show lean" makes me realize how much better yall both look now. Not that you looked bad then, but ya know what I mean.
C) I truly feel the male critics are either just unhappy to see any woman not strive to be a bikini model, OR you were right in the fact that they cant help but get unsolicited advice. I get it all day every day in Insta so I feel you.
Breck Kane fam idk what you’re talking about but she looked disgusting super lean and 2nd no ones wants someone to be unhealthy and always eating trash
_Zeon _ why are you being so rude?
@@zeon_trl1326 That's incredibly rude. She's such a sweet human being and doesn't deserve comments like that.
Love that you’re doing these videos. Such a positive influence for women. Just wanted to say that while the “all in approach” will help with your hunger cues and help with a healthier mindset around food, it’s important to get help around the psychological component of why there were challenges around eating. Just changing ones eating cannot change why a person was restricting in the first place if that makes sense. Keep it up 💕
This is the first video I have watched with Jeff and I just want to say im so happy for you both, you seem so good for each other
Today's my birthday and I've already eaten so much and you've helped me a lot along the way. I also have trouble getting full as I also have extreme hunger after a year of restricting, but being able to eat today without fear has been lovely and i've noticed my weight gain has finally plateau'd and i get full after eating a normal amount of food vs binging. Love you lots Steph. I love seeing you and your All In journey more than I can explain 💕💕💕
Amy Dam happy Birthday!
@@itzel2895 thank you so much!!! this means a lot💞💞
What a great communication line between you two and hearing Jeff's honest option of what he sees is breathtaking. Great woman. Great man. Loved this video so much!
Hey girl, please, please keep making fitness content through this whole experience!! It’s so helpful being able to watch another athlete go through this process, and it’s just kinda nice to be able to have someone (with a background in science as well as someone who’s just physically similar:)) who’s dealing with similar physical symptoms throughout their training. Love what you’re doing!! Keep it up💕
Don’t you just love a man who supports his lady regardless 💕💕
Jessica Cunningham yes. Enabling and encouraging her to to add 35 pounds of fat is very healthy.
Your couple dynamic is absolutely beautiful and raw. Thank you for sharing this with us🧡
I adore your guys relationship! So much strength and pure love!!
I love how nice Jeff is trying to about how MAYBE there is a double standard. Lol. There is SUCH a double standard! A woman who wants to gain weight? And above and beyond that is fine with gaining fat? Heck no! You'll wind up fat and gross and valueless in our society. I loved this video SO MUCH. I have been following along with you and have gained 27 pounds myself and my husband says the same thing. That I'm happier and we are able to enjoy food as a family together again. My brain is free. And also I have boobs again. Woo-hooo!
Team free brains 🥰
Sweetest and beautiful couple ever !! Jeff made me get all teary eyed on how he spoke so lovingly about you at the end. #couplegoals
When I first started losing weight I started already at a lower calorie point so I got to a point where I just wasnt losing any more weight and I was going to the gym all the time and if I cut my calories any lower I’d just be under eating(I lost weight a healthy way but plateaud and didn’t have much more room to cut from)....a couple months ago I decided to increase my calories knowing I’d gain some weight in the process but I know in the long run it’ll be worth it once I start a cut again...thank you for being so open about you’re all in Journey it really helps....I also started TH-cam a couple months ago after losing 40 pounds
Omg I relate so much ! I’m a petite gal (only 5’2) so my maintenance calories are naturally lower . Been slowly reducing calories .. went from 1900 to 1700 in the span of three months but I feel like I definitely don’t wanna go below 1600
Alison Thao yeah so when I start a cut again I’m going to start with higher calories
I’m on the same journey I feel. These videos are giving me freedom to realize I just need to listen to my body and give it more versus depriving it and being infatuated with food all the time
Andrea Gardner yes!
@@alisonthao4500 Being petite it is still healthy to eat about 1,200-1,400 even. I am 5'8 and I am on a calorie diet of around 1,560 and it is plenty for me. I would recommend getting the app Lose It, it helps a lot to find the best amount for you.
What you're doing must take an immense amount of patience and trust in the process. It would probably wreck my confidence, if I'm honest. How do you deal with that side of it? But its very interesting/cool to see how things are going, so thank you for sharing your experience with us. :) Can't wait to see what the end result is!
I’m a guy and I’ve been following JEff for a long time now. It was my wife that introduced me to your all in. I’m 100% supportive and have also struggled with all the symptoms you’ve mentioned and it was actually very refreshing to hear Jeff share some of his binge/shame issues as I’ve also felt the same way. I’m definitely considering the all in approach now in order to get myself back to intuitive eating as a goal.
You guys have such a healthy relationship and way of communicating with each other! Jeff is a keeper.