The Friends-With-Benefits Experience
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OMG 😳😯! You're killing me! These girls in your videos are beautiful beyond words!! 😍💞 I've dated Pinay here in the US, but only a couple came close to them!
FWB or not, she can drop you for any reason, at any time. She's in the relationship only as long as it benefits her (if you are her best option at the current time). If you want absolute ironclad loyalty, get a dog.
Filipinas have short attention spans especially when you leave for a few months!!! It won’t last
Obviously, that doesn't take care of the physical need.
No gaurantees in life. I you don't want to grt dumped, be someone desirable.
It can go both ways
Completely true for the majority of women.Its the men that struggle with the truth
I am an old man now in my 70's but when I see this beautiful Filipina at the beginning of this video she brings back memories of Filipinas I dated back in the 70's and 80's. Mid 80's I married a beautiful Filipina in the mid 80's and lived there for 8 years until Pinatubo blow it's top back in 1991. Things have worked out well. Men and ladies still call her a beautiful woman. 104 lbs. and a better figure then most 20 year old's. New people in my life still ask me where did I find her. And old men ask if we are married. LOL. But there are those who have tried to break us up. But she has no interest in dating someone else as we are together for life. Like I said your video brings back so many memories. Thank you.
As a guy who has a friend with benefits the main problem nowadays is your friend is most likely doing the same thing with 3 or 4 other guys which will only get you some kinda venereal disease
after i divorced my 1st filipina wife of 6 years (cheated) I ended up dating my ex wife's best friend for quite a while, ex found out and became angry at her and they no longer speak, we continued dating on -off and I have had a couple of other filipinas ( ex's friends) approach me and i dated them also for several months, come to find out the filipinas i've been dating were gossiping with one another about our dates and bedroom adventures, as long as they are ok with it, I'm ok with. plus side is that its infuriating my ex even more
FWB has never worked for me. It has always gotten complicated and the lines get blurred, even when she initially agreed, she will almost certainly “catch feelings”.
Basically, for 99% of people, doesn't work.
You are correct - the woman will develop feelings.
Women release big amounts of oxytocin when mating, the bonding hormone. So they’re pretty much bound to become attached unless they’ve had many many partners already at which point the oxytocine release might be a little less heavy..
Good advice.. That's my biggest issue going there in the near future is STD's. I just waisted a few months talking with a Pinay to have her tell me she has a uncurable, possibly cancer causing version of STD's and that she hopes I will overlook that.... It may sound heartless but that's not what I signed up/looking for. Meanwhile she's out there stalking her future possible next victim, unknowingly to him.. Maybe she won't disclose that information next time around? How does a person date someone (serious dating) and know if they are clean or not without seriously offending them? I have yet to find a good answer to this.. Most just say: "Stay away from the bar girls" and sneer about it. The problem is; Not just bar girls have STD's. Great videos always.. Thank you. 😁
Spending thousands on air travel and accommodation to pick up an STD from a FWB. 😂
@@ajw9377that same form is also a pre-requisite for visas and immigration. I would say: just pay for the clinic visit and go together get tested together 😅
If you look for a serious relationship this is not a problem. Just both get a STD test done early and before moving out of the dating phase. You can decide after the results come in.
You could even do this with a potential friend with benefits but it might be a hassle and costly if you go through a lot of them lol..
That’s why being single in PHL as a foreigner, even an older retired and disabled old man. Those guys too can date! What a concept, you’re an old man that gets no attention in your own country but somehow you are Huge Hefner and a playboy in PHL. Except in PHL you don’t have mansion and grotto. Perhaps a luxury condo and a scooter or take Grab or Taxi ride everywhere. Maybe a trike or Jeepney and bring your date to Jolly Bee lol. Go to PHL and live your fantasy life until you die or get stuck sponsoring an entire family and being a start over dad baby paying for your child’s needs.
Great points, really enjoyed this topic. I like the 10 -15 min. videos, doesn't take a major commitment to listen, sounds like dating...lol.
I hope you realize how many guys you actually help with your videos thanks again
I have had some very enjoyable friends with benefits relationships. In fact FWB was some of the best relationships I have ever had. We did everything for each other. Someone moving away or getting in a committed relationship is what ended all of them. There are more women then you can believe who are only looking for a friends with benefits relationship. Sometimes a woman with a good job, very busy or in school is the main one looking for a friends with benefits relationship.
Dating one at a time may reduce, but doesn't quite eliminate the complicating factors. "One at a time" presumes honesty from both sides.
there is always some level of risk when interacting with strangers.
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Good solid advice come on guys get this guy to 1 million subs he deserves it. 😀🌴🌴🍺🍺
Great breakdown and advice on the situation
Glad it was helpful!
Love your new format! I've been watching your channel for many years. Could you slow down the photos please. So much beauty to take in.
I will try! until then, use the Pause button. ha!
@@Lifebeyondthesea I like the ones where the lady appears to move relative to the background. It kind of gives off a 3D effect!
Great vlog! Thanks again
Good advice. I like the hairball analogy. Thanks for the good laugh.
Yeah, I agree!!
Very important point you made - that one must establish this relationship at the beginning. I once was able to transition from dating to FWB because the girl - apparently - was in financial straights. But it was the exception.
You left out the possibility that either she or You starts developing emotions to the other person and wants to shift over into an exclusive relationship.
As long as he understands it is temporary and he maintains an indifferent attitude these relationships work great. In my case, I always would try and see at least two at the same time which helps keep me from thinking it is more that what it is.
I agree 👍 The first time u meet her in LDR relationships 68% of the time it doesn't work out because we spend so much time on line knowing each other theirs no mystery no more when u meet in person. When I go to Philippines I always talk to 3 or 4 women first.
No judgement but FWB is a soft way of saying sleeping around and seems to focus on sex. I have heard, and I may be wrong, that people who have done a lot of sleeping around have a harder time with personal and physical intimacy. I have also heard that there is a higher chance of a relationship splitting up, the more partners one has had. I don't know if that is true but if it is, maybe the old fashioned way of courting someone isn't so old fashioned after all.
56 percent of marriages get divorced in the US
correct .
It's true...a kind of addiction...many can't settle into a relationship..."too boring".
I have heard much the same. And it makes sense, if you don't invest much in an individual relationship because you have four, you have less to lose by dropping that one person. And the reverse is true as well.
The used car with many owners is never a good deal choose wisely once like your soul depends on it because it does!!!
As a 76-year-old retiree, this appeals to me. I don't want to move to the Phils permanently, probably wouldn't date around, and don't have the income or energy to support a wife with kids. I know two women who might go for it, too. All I've got to do is get over there.
Here in the US, I've been ghosted before. My psyche has callouses, so I half-expect it, and only get a little sad for a little while. Then, it's "On to the next adventure."
@Kurt... just follow the 2 day rule. Only two days with the same girl... then disappear. OMG who wants to support a kid & mother 'till the day you die over there in the Pines.
The reality is there are all types of relationships and arrangements and they are all going to end. Be honest about what you want and have a great time until it ends.
Side note: Do you disclose that you’ve had a vasectomy up front or is this a conversation for later on…in the Philippines?
This is just me but I find out if I like them first and also if they have kids/want kids. If I like her and she wants kids I tell her right then. Many Filipinas really want kids, especially mixed babies, so I think it is only fair. Also, if you wait too long she could be very upset with you. Cam
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there is no such thing as a free lunch.
I'm here for the photos because the women in them are hotter than the ones in the many live videos I have seen about the Philippines.
That are AI generated.. Gio is doing the same… rather see the real girl!
because there no such thing as casual sex always someone will get hurt in the end its a double edge sword
FWB may be fine until a baby comes along, either by accident or purpose, then it all changes. Are you ready for that? Baby comes first.
i'd say the two biggest sources of high stress i've seen with any expat have been;
-- running out of money
-- an unplanned pregnancy
Unplanned by the man.
Easy solution….vasectomy prior to moving to the PI. If he is older, 60+, and wants to f-around, just take care of it and no worries.
Great content. I look forward to your content. How easy is it or is it possible to take a Filipina I just met to a SE Asian country if she has a passport? Thank you Reekay
prior to her boarding her flight, expect that PH immigration will pull her to the side and question her. they will want to know if she has enough money to return to the PH.
how much money she has in the bank. where, specifically, will she be living at her destination.. with proof of reservation at the hotel, resort, etc.
they will ask who she is traveling with and how long she's known him. providing photos from more than 6 months ago is helpful.
@@Lifebeyondthesea Thank you Reekay!
Mate: sound advice from you. Prob best to follow the 2 day rule (only 2 days with same girl) and not be contactable ever after.
Friends with benefits don't really benefits. It's going to cost you money in the long run. They always want to borrow money. I stopped having FWB. I rather traveled and Pump and dump! Or just date them for a little then ghost them. That's just me.
news flash... you've never had a FWB. what you had was a freelancer hitting you up for money. and then you gave it to them.
a real FBW, no money is ever involved. ever. it's a mutual hookup with no strings attached, including no money involved.
Been there in 70s this guys right they come a dime a dozen be plain be up front talk it out with her it's a man's paradise be honest with her
Better to reserve going all the way for marriage. The law of chastity protects you and her. There are moral reasons for it and safety reasons for it. If you are not willing to support a possible pregnancy, better to abstain until marriage.
@layneewilson I don’t disagree with you, honestly. When young men are taught “follow rules” about this sort of thing, I’ve found that a really important reason often gets left out of the lecture: BOTH parties have feelings !! That being said, physical compatibility does mean quite a lot in romantic relationships, soooo on the flip side, it could be important to discover if both the guy & the woman are on the “same page.” It’s totally possible to meet a partner who’s preferences and needs are super-congruent with your own.
It was a good video and I am different than alot of men and when quite a bit younger I had sex twice while still single and then only after that sex in marriage !!!
Reekay, so you would recommend only dating 1 woman at a time, even if I don't see myself wanting a permanent life partner?
yes, less drama that way.
Take it slow learn to say no
What a beautiful advice
I have a question for you here
How is a Prenuptial agreement here in Philippines?
Is it good to have one ? Is it well recognised here
The Filipina pea channel has a video on this. Get a prenup! The Philippines assumes you are married after awhile. Ck with a lawyer!
money whats drives them. This has been seen and heard
*lick the cupcakes" 😂
Some great photos.
ENJOY your content......
You think you could SLIP in some advice & stories, *for us mid 40's & early 50's blue collar fellas,* who have to court Filipinas on-line, and will only have 2 WEEKS of vacation time to see them.
Ps. I'm lookin to bring one back to the US for marriage.
Bringing them back to the US usually a very bad idea, regardless of what you think. Do your research.
Not for me .heck no
Okay I am an old man now but at 50 I never had a problem having a date. I had seven women I went out with regularly and four of which I slept with regularly and was completly honest with them. Not sure about this "you probably coundn't get a date anyway".
Mark Thornton watched this channel before he came to Philippines and claims he had no idea older guys dated younger women 😂😂😂😂
like my ex said f**k and forget. I should have listen to that advice and I would have been much happier
It's just a dream
Man that's dangerous living.
This reminds me of a woman that said. ‘You are not Mister Right, You are Mister Right now!’ …lol
This could happen in a loving relationship anyway. There is no guarantees!!!….lol
FWB = pretend youre dating when youre really just a john.
All this based on the silly assumption that your perceived "exclusive" relationship will preclude her from random sex partners...
You don’t recommend it but did it four times
i don't recommend it for anyone that falls in love easily. or for anyone thinking they can transform it into a real relationship. they will end up heartbroken.
a real, long-term relationship is far better.
I'm sure she'd want some funds as part of the arrangement. That's sugar daddying. Eh, been there. I mean if it's affordable and if it's not obvious to me that she really actually only tolerates me, then yeah.
Who is she?
Sounds like a US marriage it can end anytime , better than 50 percent chance.
Correct. Or as divorce attorney put it, 54 % 1st marriages divorce, then there are all the people who stay married for financial/kid reasons and don't forget 70% of divorces are filed by women. Such good odds
👍🔥....U.S. MARRIAGE is a minefield......best move ,not to play.....
I don't know where you get all these stills of hot women, but my screen is smoking after I watch one your videos. :)
Please correct me if I'm wrong, but I seem to recall Reekay once mentioning in one of the comment sections that these were A.I.-generated images.🤔 I'd like to have that program!😍
Thats right @@glenncoody
There's a word for a woman who sleeps around and to be honest I don't want to have anything to do with her. If she's willing to have FWB with you and who knows how many others it has disaster written all over it for so many reasons. What seems great at first can turn into a nightmare in the blink of an eye. It's like playing russian roulette, no thank you.....I'd like to keep my health, money and sanity ! JMHO
I don't recommend it either. These 'poly' arrangements reduce intimacy to a commodity. And it denies everyone involved, a deeper relationship. We only have so much time and if you're spreading it thin, those resulting relationships will be shallow. And far more drama than if you were dealing with one person who knew you far better.
Nope
My guess is, any woman who is up for this arrangement is not going to look like the models in your video.
in that case, you would be pleasantly surprised. as i mentioned, these women have their reasons for wanting a no-strings-attached situation for a while. these are not fugly girls who can't get a man, like some in the states.
these are often hot women who have simply been burned hoping for real love from one jerk after another. now, they just want something temporary. one of my FWB in the ph told me on our first date, she was still in love with the father of her young kid and was hoping he would return some day. (he was a drug addict.) she wanted intimacy in the mean time from me. (he did come back but was violent to her, so she gave up on him and actually married one of the viewers of my channel. now lives in usa.)
point is, she's a beautiful filipina most any guy would want to be with.
if she gets pregnant won't her husband take care of her
AI photos ?
all the images in the vids, i create with AI.
but in the PH.. i'd say about 6% are a 7 thru a 10. with maybe 1% being a 10. but, they are very approachable.
Don't
I'm out.
Look like AI 'photos'
Thing i find funny you cant take most of your last few videos and change the wording from filapina to westeran man and market them to western gals.
Keep licking those cupcakes fella's!!😂🎂
Met my wife in 91 before internet no bs put all your cards on the table at the start been married 31 years we go to cebu or cdo
congratulations to you both! excellent to hear. :)
Bottom line: WITHDRAW.
hey are these girls real on your channel or are they AI generated if they are real dear lord Jesus :) they do look AI
yes, i create them with AI.. but women just as beautiful can be found in the PH. i'd say maybe 5%-8%.
I'm to the point in life where this does not interest me at all. If I was living in the Philippines, I would be looking for that great woman to settle down with.