The 3 Basic Rules For Successful Dating in the Philippines
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Seen Cebu 7 yrs ago at 65, 6ft, 170lb, I felt like a rock star, even when on dates with one girl I would get looks from others. Just been back from Cebu and have notice less expats than before. So the numbers are still great, I have been married to my filipina now 7rs
I am in Cebu now and slowly getting over my shyness with women. Takes work and a change of outlook.
REJECTION SHOULD BE CONSIDERED AS A NEW MEDAL TO YOUR EXPERIENCE. EXCELLENT INFORMATION. YOU ARE THE BEST. THANK YOU VERY MUCH.
Wow! I never realized how difficult dating is in the US. (haven't dated since about 2003. By choice) I would be so over whelmed in the Philippines
i gave up on dating in the usa way back in 2009. soon after i met the filipina (in calif) that i began a 2.5 year relationship with which led me to the PH. :)
Reekay, your videos are home runs! This one is a grand slam! What great content! So much of the risk US men carry with them abroad is home country bias. Men are so effected by dating in the US they limit themselves by responding to any Filipina who offers any better than their precious experiences in the US. For myself I recognized I had this so I worked to deprogram myself so I could show up for a complete, fulfilling and memorable first experience in the Olympics of dating in SE Asia. Great content! Thank you 🙏🏼
I never realized our dating culture (US) was so bad off & unnerving!
i gave up on usa dating back around 2009. it was already a waste of time back then. too many older women who want everything from a man, while offering little in return other than their financial debt and emotional baggage from one or two previous divorces.
@@LifebeyondtheseaVery well said and realistic.
@@Lifebeyondthesea MGTOW 👍
Good presentation and basic set of good rules which should be common knowledge but unfortunately that's not always the case from what I've read/watched regarding dating in the Philippines. When I get out to the Philippines in late 2024, I plan to stay for 3-4 months to evaluate the Philippines for my retirement. I'm not sure where I'll live yet but will probably travel around a bit to see what places I like best. On my list are BGC, Cebu, Bohol, island of Negros and maybe Iloilo if I get time. After that exploratory visit, I should have a good idea of if & where I want to be retired in the Philippines. I don't know yet if I'll try dating during that first trip due to being busy and visiting places but maybe a cute Filipina would show me around a bit, especially with visiting enjoyable places that I didn't know about.
Very good vid man, ya I could never juggle even two 😂 like you said it’s all fun and games until the weekend when they all expect to be with you. One at a time works better anyway. You really made me laugh about if she had a boyfriend before you asked her out she didn’t anymore 😂.
Couldn't agree more. :)
The Philippines sounds like paradise!!!!
I think you might seriously want to change your "3 rules."
1. Get over the hurts so you're not dragging every x with you on every new encounter.
2. Work on yourself so you're going to the PI with your best self, not a broken boy looking to sob in his Philapina's arms.
3. Since when is rejection bad for men? If we do not get rejected repeated as boys, we would still all be living at home with our parents. Allan Harper anyone??
I think you point on dating unemployed younger Pinays here that's why it's not hard to find one.. try meeting career driven Pinays they won't choose you over their careers. You can't blame some.. they want to upgrade their life situations that's why they maybe find you "hot commodity" as you mentioned.
Great advice Henry and glad you are doing well! Have a blessed weekend!
Thanks Reekay….love the talks….
Filipinas that want to date expats will put themselves in your path . Don't be disillusioned that every Filipina wants a foreign guy, and many will not give you the time of day. Those with lighter skin do have an advantage because it is deemed to be desirable in their culture, and this goes way back when the Chinese first stepped on the islands centuries ago. Blue eyes are even more of a bonus as these women are looking at what their children might look like and their daughters becoming beauty queens. Now, just like anywhere else, people have preferences but may step outside of their box if you seem to be a good catch .
Very true
Most women anywhere want the guy to take charge, and start conversation.
Women of course will start conversation in the Philippines especially if they make eye contact.
However saying not to walk up to a Filipina is absolutely ridiculous, and wrong.
😃 As usual some pretty good advice
to play the game the right way ...
in the Philippines 😉
Thanks! 😃
I sure hope it is this way, it's absolutely what I need, because I've been on the dating sight for two months and it's ruining my idea of what these women were supposed to be like. It just feels like they have so many men chasing them it's hard to compete.
the dating sites are the worst place to meet anyone decent. once you are in the ph, you can meet and date women just about anywhere. asking for their number is a very casual thing here.
Great advice
Thank you for your teaching
Any time
thank you for this video
Thank you for this video as have had results and think you are very accurate to effect of being eerie! Your message is right on track and accurate to us men, especially those visiting or wanting to be a expat. Very good video and i love the photo montage you present. This lady i think is a Filipino girl and very lovely. I will look at your other video commentaries, if the message is this good and vital to us. Peace
glad to be of help.
Good stuff..
Your comments are very sharp
Hi Reekay. The dating situation you describe is hard for me to even imagine. You are absolutely right, I’ve never, ever experienced what you have described. Just a FYI, the countryside of Shikoku, Japan is the complete polar opposite - I’ve almost never even met any single women here. They all tend to either get married very young or they leave for the bigger cities. Dating women where I live in Japan is next to impossible. I’ll admit, I think I’ve had less than half a dozen dates in over 12 years. 😂
Sounds horrible.
@@scottpull12 Well, it’s not ideal and really not sustainable. Yes, horrible in many ways. It’s like I’ve been forced to live like a monk. I haven’t as much as touched a woman’s hand in at least 9~10 years. I’m intelligent, kind, considerate, tall, fit, athletic, own my own house and small farm and not bad looking 😆 all of which is meaningless in Japan because I’m an expat.
@@ShikokuFoodForestAre you in Canada or Japan now? Japan sounds like not a candidate for moving to Asia then. Have you tried stating in the other countries yet?
Sounds like paradise!
it takes a while to really comprehend once you're here, but the dating possibilities are seemingly endless.
@@Lifebeyondthesea; wow!
good advice!
-Nils
Absolutely love the photos!
And, of course, your wise advice.
thanks. the images i create each one using AI.
the content... came with years of watching what goes on here in PH since 2012. :)
Sounds like Valhalla
I hope this is true. I'm going there next year. I'm looking forward to it.
you are in for a treat. pace yourself. :)
Hi Reekay, nice to see you. The Mrs. asked me if you still have your site so I looked you up. I'll tell her you're still kicking it.
yes! still here, and married as of 18-months ago. :)
@@Lifebeyondthesea I must have missed why you married this one than the others you had lived with you before?
WHAT???? Congrats! Wait until I tell the Mrs. Is you wife a Filipina?@@Lifebeyondthesea
it was just the right time, place, and person. we met in davao in 2019 and it's been the most natural thing to stay together. the others were wonderful women also, but there were other considerations that played into making a commitment, so we parted ways.
Thx for the great tips, Reekay. I’m going to look for a ❤serious❤️relationship. So, dating someone who is married/separated, is an immediate 👎🏼deal breaker👎🏼. It’s the kind of thing, I’d want to know, on the first date, or maybe even, as I’m initially asking her out? What’s your best advice, regarding that?
this is why, if you're dating to find a relationship.. you spend a lot of time with them before making any commitments. even the first 3 months will tell you a lot. like.. are they married.
asking them is pointless. she could just lie about it. you have to go by evidence, not just believe anything she says.
@@Lifebeyondthesea thx for the great advice, Reekay, and the great info you share, 😎😉👍🏼.
Hi Reekay, long time listener and fan of your content here. Just a quick question: What Ai do you use to create these pictures?
No worries, I am not planning on copying your channel, I just want to play around with it for another project😄
Greetings
i never found one generator that could do everything. i've used everything from Dall-e, which just had a major upgrade, to midjourney, and leonardo combined with chatgpt and other prompt engineering websites. it's kinda like throwing together a recipe for chicken soup. ha!
but what i've found in almost a year of working with AI is that even a good generator is only as good as the prompts you give it. that takes a lot of trial and error to 'learn' how to speak to it for the results you want. best thing you can do is pick one, like say.. midjourney, and just keep smashing at it until you get the results you're looking for.
@@Lifebeyondthesea Thank you for this thorough response. I get all that. If you are still reading this though, i would love to know which specific AI you used for these pictures in your recent videos. I know, that there is a lot more going into this, but i just would love to know with which AI you could at least theoretically accomplish these results! :)
Thank you Reekay!
I am 55 and physically disabled, missing fingers and damaged arms with lots of scars. I am not handsome but I am fiercely independent and capable of providing for myself and a family with the right woman. My question that never seems to get answered is do/can a Filipino woman accept and love such a person? In America I am invisible unless curiosity brings an inquiry. And it is always curiosity not genuine care or concern that I face.
So I take it, I'd have A Far easier time getting a date in the Philippines than I would here in the states
absolutely. it's like night and day comparison.
Wow, you make it sound so easy. Im 65 and haven't dated over 20 in my life. Im afraid these beautiful women would laugh at me and tell me to get lost😢
understandable. but when you get here, take a look around and it is very rare that an expat is dating a woman his own age. i'd say maybe 10% of the time. the other 90%, there is an age-gap of at least 10 years between them.
@@Lifebeyondthesea thanks. Maybe you're right. Either way, I'm shy and unconfident. Im a born loser
i don't believe that. solomon said, "as a man believes within himself, so he is."
life is all about decisions. we can choose to make things happen.
@@Lifebeyondthesea excuse me. I'm drunk and feeling pity. But, I still think all women demand perfection and a super confident man
there are so many loving filipinas who know to not expect perfection. but most filipinas see excessive drinking as a dealkiller for a good relationship.
there are many good women in the PH. i've been meeting them for years.
First you have to check their qualifications. Be sure to prepare your cash for spending. If they come from poor family forget them. When dating ,be generous on food ,drinks and some gifts.
I have curiosity when is the rainy season in the Philippines and Thailand? In other words what months are the best to travel there? Thank you, your videos are very informative
i don't know about thailand, but in the PH.. rains start up around mid-Sept through late January. (give or take, seasonally) but even in the wet season, it might only rain an hour during the day, or three hours heavily at night. it doesn't necessarily rain every day, but will be overcast.
i cant even imagine this "roles reversed" situation you are talking about in the beginning... cant wait to see for myself, working on it
i'm living in thailand, looking for a change, maybe a move to Phil's would be a good alternative
I hear in Pattatya and Bangkok majority dating options for farangs/ foreign men are …..ladyboys, prostitutes and single moms
What are the best locations?
Do you see this supply ratio still holding up 10 years from now?
yes. however, due to the internet i do see a shift where more filipinas are becoming just a bit more choosier about the caliber of expat she knows she can get. a direct result of realizing she, as a Filipina is also a hot commodity in the dating realm. much of this has come from discussions among the Passport Bros movement.
but for now, nothing major has changed. there is still an insanely huge ratio of filipinas looking for a relationship with the relative few expats that expats are still in very high demand now, and looking well into the next ten years. at worst, men will simply need to up-their-game a bit and stop shuffling around as the scruffy-expat with booze on his breath. a man who knows how to present himself well is always in demand among women.
As I said above I saw less expats in Cebu last month than I did 7 yrs ago
@@Lifebeyondthesea 😃Especially in the countryside ... In bigger cities i can see some changes already compared to 15 years ago ... 😪
What he says is true. So easy to get a babe.
Hey Reekay, I just want to know where to meet the women pictured in your videos 🙂
every island in the PH has beautiful women. :) nobody has a monopoly on that. ha! as for the same women in the images here, i create them using AI. but in the PH, i'd say about 8% are just as beautiful on any island.
I don't have a problem approaching women in the West. The problem is closing the deal if you are not a Chad. Your internal mind set of not worrying about a script or rejection is true where ever you are.
The photos of Filipinas we view as you speak look super high quality in terms of looks. Are you saying that there is an abundance of these high level girls walking around hoping to be picked up? I have a feeling that I may be disappointed by the actual level of beauty. What do you think?
no. i'd say the 9's and 10's in the PH make up maybe 6% of the women you'll see. that's about most anywhere except usa where 1/3rd are overweight. generally speaking, in Asia the obesity rate is much less meaning... far more slender women.
@@Lifebeyondthesea That sounds similar to Thailand; I live on Jomtien Beach; Pattaya.
Where do you get these pretty photos from? I know they have filters on them but they are still different from the average Philippine girl I've seen walking on the streets.
the images are created by AI. it is still 'learning' what a filipina looks like, but is improving every few months. however, i have seen about 6% of the women in the PH who are every bit as stunning.
That's crazy. Yeah I've seen A.I. photo editors that do the same to your past photos. It might be the new catfish lol. I've spent a long time traveling throughout south America but I'm really interested in the Philippines. I also spent two weeks in Thailand and liked it.
I've been listening to you for probably 5 years now, and it still sounds too good to be true lol.
My plans have been to move to Panama, but I'd really like to experience a land of milk and honey with endless options just once in my life. The end goal would be a relationship. I kinda doubt Central/South America is quite like that.
it's def worth the trip to PH. many guys living here already tried south america first and are still here in the PH. :)
South America in my mind sounds too dangerous.
Panama is not what is advertised. Been here three years and planning to leave. Can't do anything right now as protests, common here, have all travel in the country shutdown. There are beautiful women here, many are Colombian or Venezuelan, and all speak Spanish
Yes on Many - No on High Quality Beauties ... More HQ than in the West ..
not only that but women there treat you better
This sounds too good to be true. If the M/F ratio is one to one in a population, why are there so many "surplus" Filipinas? Aren't attractive women of any race or nationality used to being approached and soon grow used to rejecting many of the men who approach them? It can't just be Western/American women who take men for granted. And a woman who'll break up with her boyfriend at the drop of a hat will break up with you just as quick, no? it's common for older American women to feel, "If you're older and single, you must not be much of a catch." Not so among Filipinas? True, it's my American mindset talking, but a Filipina needn't be young or beautiful. Decent, kind, honorable and loving would be a gift from God.
just think of it as same in the west... but reversed. older, financially established, more knowledgeable expat men are the desired catch for a filipina.
they are the ones clamoring for us because we are in short supply. a filipino younger man struggling to put rice on the table is a peso a dozen. but a 'rich' expat who actually possess some maturity... we are in high demand.
LOL--so 4 filipinas followed you over to the cologne area of the store--admit it, you are a "Chad" in the Philippines!
the girls on your vlogs are so nice 😀
they are AI generated, but still nice to look at. :)
Does the onward throw away ticket really work when you arrive at the airport in Cebu? And if you’re going to be in the Philippines more than 29 days, why can’t you just tell the immigration people that you are leaving but haven’t booked a ticket yet. Evidently they don’t check your passport when you exit the Philippines to see if you have a stamp in your passport for that other country you were supposed to have gone to.
if you have a return flight booked within 30-days, that will count as your onward-ticket. if it leaves not until after 30-days, sometimes that is accepted.. other times not. just depends on which immigration agent you get.
if they ask you for an onward ticket and you tell them, "i haven't booked it yet." it begs the question, "why not? you knew you needed it as part of entry to the PH." in my opinion the whole onward ticket requirement is pointless, but it is the policy for entry to the PH.
Ok Tnx …. From my understanding, they do not check your passport when you exit the Philippines to see if you actually have a stamp for the country. You supposedly went to within the first 29 days to qualify for injury or exit.
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Which is better;
Vietnamese
Or
Phillipina
depends on which pros/cons matter to you most.
vietnamese... language barrier and not into age-gap relationships. so plan on dating one over 35 who has low english ability. however, most vietnamese women are slender and enjoy dressing nice in heels and dresses.
filipinas... about 85% proficient in english, so that's a huge plus. much more playful than viet women. highly romantic but also highly emotional. many do put on some weight after they get past 35.
@@Lifebeyondthesea thanks bro!
What about Lao women?
Have you ever been stood up?
not once since 2012. but i have had them show up ridiculously late. they got there but with pisspoor planning. i eventually had a 30-minute grace period and would cancel via text if they went over that. some filipinas have zero concept of time managment.
having a date at 5pm does not mean... take a shower at 5pm and then wait for a jeepney to come by. ugh!
How do Filipinas feel about moving to a European country, for example? my children study in Europe and I can’t imagine how I could make money in the Philippines.How do Filipinas feel about moving to a European country, for example?
my children study in Europe and I can’t imagine how I could make money in the Philippines.
it's really a case by case basis on this. my wife, for instance, has always been opposed to leaving the PH. she's never had any interest in living in any other country.
but other filipinas are eager to leave the PH. not all, but many. so it's something you should inquire about with any filipina you might get serious about.
Aren't the store employees too busy to talk to ex pats?
the young women working in the dept stores have basically two tasks... keep the shelves organized and assist customers. as long as it 'looks' like you're asking her to help you as a store customer, all is fine. i've never, ever had any issue with management for chatting with a store employee.
plus, we're talking about maybe a 3 to 5 minute interaction. talking for half an hour.. yah, that'd catch some attention.
@@Lifebeyondthesea 😊 thanks
Good motivation video but your percentage doesn't make sense. You say in 11 years only 3 of them said no? So where are all the married women or the ones with a boyfriend? Are they all just going to hid that and go out with you anyways?
essentially, yes. remember that i wasn't asking out random women. i wasn't asking women to meet for a date who were married. i was asking Filipinas mostly in the 20 to 25 range. i've always said to observe a woman a few minutes before approaching her. if i saw she had a husband or b/f, i'd move on.
in the beginning, i used to ask a filipina, "so.. you have boyfriend?" and i too was shocked that 99% said, 'No'.. no b/f. so i asked other filipinas about it and that's when it became clear from them that they were just dumping the filipino b/f for an expat. it was no-contest for most filipinas as a decision.
Sorry I didn't see the last 60 second of your Vlog, I got it, all good advise.
99% of Filipinas either have boyfriends or husbands, or they’re single mothers. Then it becomes a moral issue if it’s worth it to pursue further even though the relationship is consensual, especially if you’re not serious. Not to mention the economic motive involved with these types of dating.
Reekay your the man!Yes however Only 75% of single non married women because approximately 25% (generally) of women and men too cannot have children! So there are more women without children
But I thought you said, these girls are going to come up to you within 5 minutes of standing around 🤔 ?? so how could this guy Not have One date after being there for Two weeks??
i also said the ones who 'come around' after seeing you alone at the mall in 5-minutes are the land-sharks you want nothing to do with.
in the PH.. you need to be the Man. the good ones expect you to approach them.
I'm left "wondering" how many of these Filipinas (who you met) you actually "plowed".....
since 2012, it would be simpler to count the ones i did not take home. (all the rest of them chose to be intimate.)
thinking back on it, there was one who held out at the last moment saying she was a virgin and would only be intimate if we got married first. like, get married that week. so i respected that, parted as friends, but i went on to date other women again.
i also knew a filipina who became a really good friend. she had no interest in dating anybody, filipino or foreigner. we didn't "date".. we just hung out as good friends. i struggle to even think of any others who turned down intimacy.
I don't think it's a question of Filipinas wanting to date and go out with foreigners. Foreigners will get stares and attention mostly due to curiosity on the Filipina's part. Not many Filipinas want to have a relationship with a foreigner.
it's been the opposite experience for me and others in the PH. i've never had so any young, beautiful women so eager to spend time together. never had it this good in the States. ever.
@@Lifebeyondthesea That's good to hear! I suppose it also depends on the location (city vs province) and the girls' social status..
Unbelievable. 😮
Those same guys probably never ever dated in the USA. I have male family members and friends who are terrified of woman. They cannot just walk up to a woman and just small talk.
So then they go to the Philippines with the same fear of woman and are single there too. It’s really unbelievable what’s happened to these men in the west. They are not men anymore 😂
8:40 She is smiling at you, but after learning that you don't have a wife, "she has an even bigger smile on her face." 🤣🤣
14:55 There is not point asking her if she has a boyfriend, because she'll dump the boyfriend in her mind if you ask her out. That is so sad. At 10:51, the girl admits to having a boyfriend after deciding she was better off staying with him [maybe another ex-pat?] than switching over to you. On the ex-pat side, he is also playing many candidates as possible. How fickle and cynical the dating scene is on both sides . . . . As a male ex-pat genuinely wanting a relationship on a limited time budget, how can one quickly screen out such girls?
quickly?? not possible. assessing a stranger's character takes time and observation. there is no shortcut to knowing a person's inner motives apart from seeing how they handle real life on a consistent basis over time.
taking shortcuts, or using "blind faith" is how these expat horror stories always begin.
@@Lifebeyondthesea What security search firms can help verify the identity and claims of the Filipina?
I really like the wisdom in your videos. But once in a while, you make a claim without giving a sentence on why the claim is true. For example, in this video you say that the ratio is 100:1 Filipinas:expats/men without saying anything about where all the Filipino guys are. How can so many Filipinas be on the loose when birth rates are about even 1:1 in a country? You made me laugh at the idea of trying to manage more than three at a time---it's hard enough to manage one! :-) And it's too bad that they all want the weekend - that creates a serialization conflict that makes all the threads collide during that time interval. I imagine if they all know where you live, they'll all be watching for who you leave with for the weekend. Does it help any if you tell them up front that you're a "chicks boy"? Will they cut you some slack on the weekend time slot? I'm still smiling at the thought (although I wouldn't be smiling in the heat of the moment with a jealous Filipina... 😞
Great advice