How to Drive a Narcissist Crazy
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- Narcissists expect you to lose who you are and become like them. There are certain things you can do that will drive them crazy.
Dr. Les Carter is a best selling author and therapist who has semi-retired to Waco, TX. For 40+ years he maintained a counseling practice in Dallas, conducting more than 65,000 therapy sessions and many workshops and seminars. He specializes in anger management and narcissistic personality disorder. Since creating his TH-cam channel, his videos have received more than 110 million views.
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Arguments with them get nowhere. It's a huge waste of time and energy.
I can vouch for that. You'll just go in circles with them always trying to unsuccessfully defend yourself.
@@Hatbox948 So true. You will just get into an infinite loop.
That is the truth for sure 👍
Omg Yes all the logic and patience in the world is no match for the delusion that their viewpoint and demands are right and correct. It is never anything but.
@@Crashesdown253exactly. i wish someone confirmed to me as a child that my experience of them was not my fault for not saying the right thing or being smart enough. it was just that they had a fucking personality disorder and were horrible parents.
"The wrong one will find you in peace and leave you in pieces.
The right one will find you in pieces and lead you to peace."
Excellent advice. Also, be that right one for your partner. If both of you are the right one, you have gold.
@@karenk2409 Not if they’re a narcissist I won’t!
@@elcee7800 Absolutely not! I had one of those - being loving to them is delivering yourself to slaughter.
@@karenk2409 Thank you, Karen, for your kind response 🙏 And yes, that would be gold but therefore both have to be quite healthy and mature.
@@elcee7800 When they are a Narc, they will leave you in pieces, so they will never be the right one.
"Don't jump into their mudhole" Words of wisdom.
Based, sexually as well 😂
Worms of wisdom lol dumb evil weak jealousy inferor injustice violence envy Barf narc witches lol 😂 traitors who took the easy path of ego Darvo victim bullying blaming rape murder violence lies and human trafficking what isn’t theirs for profit
Easy path looser fake fsmiky trespassimg because they are human trafficking
“Beyond that, there’s no need for you to justify who you are, they’re NOT listening anyway”
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 thank you Dr. C ❤
So true too!
@@Hatbox948 I wish I knew this a decade ago!
So grateful for Dr. C ❤️
Commonsense I love it, thankyou🙂
@@mallorykreiger Me too! I thought narcissism was just an over inflated ego. When I finally learned what it really is, it explained everything I was going through.
Amén! Amén! Amén! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
“I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.” G. B. Shaw
😂😂😅😅😊 ❤️ ❤️❤️🌹🙏🏾 AMEN
How true, thank you for the reminder.
😮😮😮 SO GOOD!
Thank you! Finished wrestling with the pig and now busy scraping the mud off! LOL
hahahah this is a great one! thank you! 🚬😂
NEVER LET A NARCISSIST STEAL YOUR JOY! YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD AND HE HAS THE BEST PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE!!
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 This is SO hard to remember
When they keep provoking, won't leave you alone to have any peace, keep crossing boundaries...I have prayed until I am blue and it doesn't change them. One right now going at it.
@@rg-mi5hh I Believe its a form of POSSESSION 👹🤡💩 🤌💫🗯🕳💨💯👋👌🤌🖖✊️🤙🤙🤙🤙🤙🐞🌺🐞
❤ Amen!
@@rg-mi5hh thumbs down that you are still there. I tried for years to believe they'd change... only after leaving did I clearly see: they DO NOT WANT TO CHANGE. And they won't. I moved on and ENJOY my life again. Bless you, and I pray you will find peace. ❤
Never let a person like this rent space in your head and heart
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“They’re not listening anyway.” 💯
No except for anything they can use.
I came to say this! I’m making a sign.
Thank you!!
Its your character they will try to damage and destroy.
Your value is not based on their inability to recognize your worth.
Double negative ,, should read “…based on their ability….”
Encompasses the fact they have little ability to judge your worth.
Yes, I got grammatical issues😅
Truth!
@@Joe-hf3cn I think it's written correctly, actually. The narc is UNable to recognise your worth, but that does not define your value, so you shouldn't let their bad treatment of you redefine you as worthless.
If it was written as "ability", that would sound as though the narc WAS able to recognise your worth. Facts matter! 😅
The alternative meaning of being hurt that they do not, and this inability being the thing that hurts you, is not the meaning of the sentence, imo. I mean, you don't recover your value by staying around them to make them value you, although that could be very satisfying. But I don't think it's the point the OP was making. Rather, that it doesn't matter that they don't value you. You have intrinsic value either way.
I've thought about this so long it's making my brain hurt now 😂 and I don't even know if I make sense to myself anymore.😅
They try to destroy everything about you.
There will be no accountability or responsibility for anything. Don't ever expect an apology..ever
"They're not the ultimate arbitrators of truth" 💯
Just treat them like their don't exist, their can't handle being ignored
@Marilyn-zv6mt I'm learning to do this 🥀
@AnnetteBird-e4p it will be so hard at first, things will get worse, as they will try and find new ways to get under your skin, too get arise out of You. That's when you
Know, ignoring them is working.
Prey on it and let it go.
@@Marilyn-zv6mt thankyou fir your help 🙏 ❤️🩹
Ive got it down pat I feel. He says I don't list3n to him so he abuses me on purpose to get mynattention. The last time he did it he got drunk peed on the toilet and all over the floor. I asked him to clean it up so my daughter could use the toulet and with wide crazy eyes stared and said no. They will dehumanize you and make you feel like utter poo if you let it get under your skin. That solidified my suspicion of him. Because wtf
God bless anyone who cannot get away.
It really feels like the more you try to move on and be happy, the more they try to shove you back down
Of course! That is why the only solution to sanity, safety, and peace is NO CONTACT FOREVER!
Yes, they will say " I don't care how you feel , just do it my way ".
@salmon
Narcs have malicious envy.
@d0v3Tai1
AGREED.
Never give up regaining your joy!
God bless you! ❤️🙏🏼❤️
‘They’re not listening anyway’ is 1000% truth and the only other thing is to walk or run away in silence with your head held high ❤🙏✌️💯🌹💪
The longer that you engage, the more insane you’ll feel. Even keeping them at an arms distance is futile. The absolute worst is attempting to co-parent. It’s awful.
Another aspect to this is just not giving them any personal information to weaponize against you. It makes what he's saying so much easier. And not caring what other people think is a superpower.
I totally agree. My mantra is 'your opinion of me is none of my buisness' 😊
They don’t need any personal information about you.
My own personal experience with them, is they make up lies about you anyway.
@@juliewhyte122 100%. With my narc mom, now I'm cold, distant, evasive, bad social skills, etc. They trash you behind your back, smear campaigns. Can't win with a narcissist. But at least I'm not giving any fodder.
@@juliewhyte122 don't worry. God will protect you from malicious people like narcs and their little games they play to stay in control, and their character assassinations of others. No matter what they do, they won't win at the end.
My Mother was same way. I did not know that she was not happy to see me, ever. We hope narcissists do better in the spirit world than they did alive with us. In the afterlife they will be on equal footing as everyone else. Makes me sad for them.
They are already nuts , get the hell away from them
😂omg this is so true. Very good advice
If only it was as easy as saying I'm going to get away from him...
“Get out of their way and let them be who they are.” Did this and the peace that came with it is divine.
Excellent!!
Once you see them for exactly what they are its really easy.
What is the worst thing about them is they don't want the people in their lives to be happy. So they'll purposely do things they know hurt you, even to the point of destroying themselves. It's 🥜 and as it's a result of childhood trauma, they never grow up or have wisdom... that alone is annoying 😂
it is so exhausting when you’re forced to live with them in the same house 😔
Just focus on cleaning the home maybe washing the dishes etc put some music on you set the tone of the home. When your so busy cleaning you'll forget about them or whatever they last said
Yes, it is! That house is Never big enough, to escape. I could feel the hate and anger through the floor. I hope you can escape.... YOU are worth it.
@@Xenlacasa45 thank you.But no, you don't want to make their life easier as a matter of fact you want to make it harder
@@Influential1blis how so? If I don't clean nobody cleans. Narcs are dirty people.
Yes. Same house. Just wish my name was on it 😪 making my plans to get out.
They most certainly are “task masters.” Like they’re the parent figure & you’re the child. Perfect description.
They will even admit that.
I think sometimes for sure but also some people are just lazy and force people to be task masters as they just don’t pull their weight.
@@lijohnyoutube101 Naw, we're talking about bullying and overlording, that's always unacceptable.
Yep even though they are the ones behaving like an adult toddler emotionally.
I feel like both his mother("take care of me") AND his child("do as I say"), but never an actual equal or partner.
Live As A FREE Person❤❤❤❤❤
The number of times I’ve told my mom “ you are you and I am me” is insane. It’s like they can’t see others as individuals separate.
100% truth ! My time & peace is not worth wasting on a narcissist. Walk away from angry miserable people !
Be you. Be independent and stop trying to reason with them. So true❤
I was always accused of starting fights. It took me years to realize that he considered a fight anytime I held a different opinion or wanted something different than he did. He’s told my kids and everyone around that I started all the fights. Now, when I hear this I proudly say yes I did. I wasn’t his slave and I had my own opinions. It’s not a fight to think for yourself.
Bingo! "Dont jump into their mud hole"! And I'm not going to let them be MY taskmaster! Thank you!
Get up early and spend time centering yourself with your goals and a healthy self care plan …for the day.
Standing up to one cost me my kids, my career and everything. They will manipulate the corrupt court systems to no end. Don't try to fight these people....I learned the hard way. Give it to God. Let him handle it.
Driving a narcissist crazy is a very short trip.
Classic ‼️
Yep! From his house to mine.😊
@@kathismith2865 LOL
Good advice
It’s kinda funny once you see.
Thank you! I’m now living free of family abusers and finding my own way…. at 60!
@@explorer_highway hey there that’s great, I’m 79 and getting ready to move on and let my little light 💡 shine ✨ I’m so great full for seeing the beautiful light 💡 ahead of me 🙏🏼💡🙏🏼
I'm waiting for mine to pass on and then I'll be free. Probably in another 5 years if I can make it.
Mine asked me early on if I was intimidated by him. That was the reddest of red flags
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“There’s no need for you to justify who you are, they aren’t listening anyway.” 👏👏👏
I spent way too long trying to tell him that all the things he made up about me weren’t me and it just got him more angry and explosive as he doubled down. They aren’t listening. They are living something out in their head and they assigned a character to you, but you will never be able to wield that character or make any conscious choices with it- it will be whatever they say it will be. None of this ever has anything to do with you or who you actually are
Respond, do not react! That want a reaction....they spin stories at every opportunity....then when they convince you, they were only kidding!!!!
They definitely think they control you. When I dumped him he screamed “you do what I say” & I replied in an antagonist way “& I do what the f I want to do” he screamed it again & I said it again then reminded him that I have surpassed him in life & that his life is in shambles. Also that he doesn’t know if he’s coming or going & don’t know who he really is. Then I said now why would I listen to you. I didn’t get this far in life by listening to you, why would I start now. He had nothing to say.
They are cowards
LOL🎉
Spot on dr Carter. Be your authentic self, live your life as a free person, don’t be intimidated by their crazy BS. Walk away from their narcissistic nonsense.
Thankyou, Your a wonderful Dr. Better than my Dr. PLEASE CONTINUE HELPING ME AS MUCH AS YOU CARE TO.I HAVE NO ONE NO ONE LEFT TO CONSULT!!! THE BOYFRIEND I HAD WHO PROPOSED MARRIAGE AND THEN WITOUT EXPLANATION MOVED OUT OF MY PLACE.TELLING ME LATER,HE COULDN'T DEAL WITH MY NEGATIVITY!!! NOW
Now , he's in love with me AGAIN AND IS TRYING FOR FRIENDSHIP. IT'S EASY TO GO FROM FRIENDS TO A COUPLE,THAN COUPLE BACK TO FRIENDS!!!
Thanks so much.....and leaving that person, I feel great. Mieke van de Molen
"Live as a free person" hit me deep. That's where I'm at right now, and it's hard but worth it ❤
I never rver stopped being who I am. Im confident, resilient, kind, and i stand in my truth. Thats why i was discarded and replaced.
Well said ! Anyone who is full of themselves should just be ignored
It took me a long, long time to figure out why my mother was so hostile to and about any friendships I formed, especially after I left home and was living on my own. She became visibly irritated and agitated any time I would talk about them. For years, I thought I was just talking too much about myself. Today, as a parent of 2 almost-30 year olds, I'm so happy and proud that my children's friends welcome us "old folks" to their celebrations and enjoy coming to our home when they're in town.
Love expands your world exponentially.
That last sentence...precisely!
@@SurvivingNarcissism Dr my entire family has been struggling with my sister, I started listening to your podcasts 2 yrs ago and it's been a game changer. I'm totally at peace for 2 years, no contact. Thankfully she lives on the other coast so that makes it easier . I started sharing your videos with my parents who as their child they choose not to ingore and I understand that but they are much happier now understanding the theory behind all the nutty behavior and don't take it personally anymore . We are team healthy here
True, true. After living a long time with a family of narcissists, I've found the best thing to do is just walk away and live a happy life!
I have lived with this for years. It is almost enough to drive the person dealing with this crazy.
They DO listen. Listening is a peak character trait; what they know about you, is what they use to control you and glorify themselves. Listening does not imply CARING, but you already know that
Why do they talk about your family ? I had a narc friend that would always bring up my female cousin and how weird she is for marrying an old man. I myself haven't even seen this female cousin in ten years yet THEY bring her up despite barely knowing her why do they do this ?
@@Xenlacasa45 I deal with 2. They do this because it's their way to justify their superiority in their lives.
@@Ioncandi guy still lives with his parents what superiority pfft lmfao 🤣🤣
After 16 years I've truly lost myself
GET AWAY FROM THEM altogether, forever, if possible!
I've found responding "lol" to every text or email is pretty triggering for them. And satisfying for me.
Grey rocking i thinknits called does work and can be very dangerous. But the panic and tantrum they resort too is kind of funny in the moment. Extremely childish
@crystalcrawford553 Yeah grey rocking can definitely be dangerous. The longer it goes on, the more wound up they get inside (I think), and then they explode after not getting a reaction for so long.
These are all excellent takeaways. To to me fear the the narcissists intills in you is the most destructive to ones quality of life. You become afraid of the narcissist, you become afraid of the life, you become afraid of going out on your own. Fear, it is a killer.
And, we are worth the time we need to heal and grow. We are worth every effort we take for ourselves. Be you. 🧡
Exactly. Well put.
Yes, the fear they instill is huge. Got to learn to not be intimidated.
"Don't jump into their MUDHOLE, ok?"
"Don't buy into their BS!"
"Your character is everything!"
"Be you."
Don't lose who you are and meld into who they are or their delusions.
Each and every direction....a live saving mantra....repeat, repeat, loop this one and you'll avoid going loopie!!😂❤ Thank you, Dr. C. You are fire! Keep burning for us. Such warmth, love it.
Been there done that lived most of my life with 2 narc parents, now I know better and can guide my children away from their kind
P.s. it f my reality up, i had to grow up with a bunch of trust issues, feeling confused not even been able to pin point the cause of it because I thought they loved me.
My son has finally figured out that his grandmother is a narcissist and doesn't care about trying to please her. He's finally listened to my stories and knows it's futile to try.
Perfect! You can do this when you have effectively split off from them emotionally and you see through their fantasy of who they have presented themselves to be... they have no control over you. You know that they are very small inside.
ALSO WHEN WALKING AWAY FROM THEIR RANTS, AND THEY SAY "ARE YOU IGNORING ME?" SIMPLY SAY "I'M TRYING." 😊 (PERSONAL EXPERIENCE) 😊
@@richardlandis793 Also, if on the receiving end of the silent treatment, ignore them for a little while and then say " If you've got a throat infection, there's some aspirin in the cupboard".
@@greenjewel509I find it it works best to just watch something funny and laugh really loudly it makes them feel weak 😂
Block, filter, no contact, DONE!
Totally agree ! This is the sensible way to deal with any narcissist, it challenges their sense of entitlement, though it is best not to deal with them at all.
“Your character is everything so hold on to that” thank you!
Very good advice! There's no meaningful communication possible with a narcissist.
This is great advice provided you don't live with them. When you live with a true narcissist, they will find a way to get to you. If you're human you will break and that's a fact. Narcissists know that you will break eventually and it's almost impossible to go on under their pressure without giving in. The only real solution is to get out before it destroys you completely. It's not easy, but there's usually a way and it comes about, especially if you've got a loved one who cares about you. I got out 2 years ago, and I'm doing well one day at a time.
Well said. Strength is needed to leave and then you become even more truly who you are.
I been dealing with a narc for 7 years and before that I dealt with family narcs and parent narcs all my life. The key when your almost about to break is to redirect that's energy into cleaning the home maybe wash the dishes just work on something that's needs to be done that gives the home better energy. You'll be so busy you forget what the narc pissed you off about and you don't give them the reaction they wanted
@Xenlacasa45 A real narc will stop at nothing to destroy you mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally. If they catch you trying to do something to ignore them they will either ask you to do something or wait and get you after. There's no time off and no way out. Just get out while you still can.
@@Niko-xz5lk well the stuff I do needs to be done because they are dirty and don't clean at all. I'm not doing it to ignore them but to keep myself busy and not thinking about the last stupid thing they said
@@Niko-xz5lk and whenever they ask me to do something I just say no or keep my headphones on. Setting firm boundaries they can't break shit
They love to instill instability in all ways... plant seeds of doubt in your mind, gaslight you into believing your peace, comfort and boundaries are pointless and weak. Genuine happiness and contentment in others always leads to rage for a Narcissist. They have too much trauma in their maladaptive ways, it must be dispersed among those close.
oh my god yes
He's right. If you just keep being you, it'll drive them crazy. Have other relationships
So true. I have said you have your truth and I have my truth and that is ok. Drives them bonkers.
..and when you do call them out on their BS in a calm, confident way, its, "you're picking on me! Why are you starting something?!" 😂 No. Not at all. I'm _finishing_ something.
It would be great if every parent who finds this in their feed could share with their kids. if 25 years ago, someone had explained this to me - I would have got out of a seriously messed up abusive relationship within a couple of months - not the years I stayed, and as you say, got completely lost in who I was. This is a conversation topic for all teens and adults alike. Thank you :-)
My experience is that people don't want to listen anyway. Everyone has their own journey.
Both of my parents were over the top narcissists and I was just another piece of "equipment" at their disposal, to generate income and status in the community. What I wanted to do, how I wanted to live my life, were simply irrelevant to them. I knew at a very early age that I needed to disappear and never go back. Even with that knowledge, it took me decades to scrape them off.
same oh my god. took me till 22 to run away and still came back at 28. now trying to get back out at 30.
@@こなた-m1o It's a nightmare. Just have a plan and make it happen. There's going to be damage all over the place. People are going to hate and shun you. Your goal is to preserve your mental health and to gain your freedom. You should not be doing anything that doesn't lead to those two things.
Still scraping!
I don't usually listen to shorts because they're a waste of time but for Dr. C I'll bend that rule. Some great nuggets of info here.
That makes me smile.
You're a lovely person doctor and a great educator
Thank you.
Thankyou so much for clarifying what I have been going through!!! It would have been easier for me if I didn't actually have feelings for him!!!
Walking away/ignoring them is one of the best tactics. I appreciate the "they aren't listening anyways" bit. That is going to help me out.
Finally❤. Someone who knows what he's talking about!
Something I find funny now that I’ve gone no contact for a few months and I’m learning about the games he played is when I was grey rocking him or just not arguing with him he would try and guilt trip me by saying I don’t care about him or anything since I’m not willing to talk about things. He actually wanted me to feel bad for not letting him criticize me and call me names and yell at me for anything and everything he could come up with. I don’t care about anything because I don’t want to argue. Now that I know what he was doing to me I can clearly see the manipulation at play. He’s gone and I’m so grateful. I give all the credit to the LORD because He saved me from that closet monster on top of saving my soul.
By don’t speak too quick from a person that knows they always come back they never leave and just when you think they did to come back
What I meant was they’ll come back when you think they’re gone. They show up when you least expect it.
So glad you're out of that situation. So toxic, damages self esteem & makes you question your memory & reasoning skills, principles, & even sanity. I've been there. He went Jeckyll/Hyde after posing as a friend & good person for 10+ yrs.
I'm not saying this was the case here, but sometimes the one who refuses to argue is the narcissist. An argument to one person is sharing their feelings and seeking resolution to another. You have to be willing to let people have feelings in front of you sometimes. I hear my mom say "I wasn't going to talk about it because I wasn't going to argue" and accuse others of calling her names, and she is unarguably the narc playing the victim.
I feel the same! Your right about God rescuing because these type of people are great pretenders! The closer you get to the the more you see the claws and fangs! Ewh!
Whenever I execute tactful exits and disengagement, I get an onslaught of the narcissists attempts to get back in and regain manipulative dominance. Its exhausting having to deflect that incessantly.
Been there done that, trued walking away saying i wiuld talk when they are sober, she grabbwd my arm, i jerked away and kept going, she followed me so i took off running and literally hid from her in some bushes, i was not going to argue with a drunk narcissist
Drunk Narrisse I had to deal with. So Happy now. No contact free
SUperb advice, and so true! I REFUSED to play a friend's bullshit game. He went mental. I kept challenging his dillusional reality
Yes! To All of what this lovely helpful man says! She Coerced and lied to me, I made the mistake of TRUSTING HER. NOW, I have only A FRACTION OF MY LIFE SAVINGS LEFT! YES. IT'S ALL ABOUT DECEIT. MY NEXT STEP IS INFORMING ALL OF THE AUTHORITIES AND SUING HER ASS!
About 50 years of living in this insanity with the narcissist, I one day said to God oh God help me he causes me to lose my peace and it just seemed like overnight things changed. It’s been wonderful.
In what way did things change.
Divorce is a wonderful place to be.🌹
I don't want to argue but he drives me nuts i lashed out and he calls me nuts 😂😅
When you wrestle a pig in the mud, only the pig comes out happy
Good one.
It's a WIN when you leave takes time but you WIN
If they're not listening. You stop talking!!!
Why should you start open your mouth when their ears are closed in the first place?!!😉
@@roxymovie3938 True 👍
The reverse is also true. If they are talking, I stop listening to them. It's just a meaningless self-talk. 😁
@@yukio_saito ha ha 😂 yes
Yep, and if they are listening it's with evil ears. They will twist what you say and weaponize it. They are not your friend. They are toxic and their agenda is to spread that toxin far and wide in YOUR life.
This is so helpful. Thank you. Basically, love your best life, unapologetically in front of the narcissist. ✅
“They’re not listening anyway” is what I had to realize when dealing with a narcissist.
Thank you for "They're not listening , anyway. "😂😂❤
“They’re not the ultimate arbitrator of truth”
They would not know the truth if it were a 6 ton bright red freight train. No, I don't feel bad for his evil self, he made that bed, now he gets to lie there, and wallow alone...
He would always say to me "Do not insult my intelligence." 😂😂
Very sensible advice : refuse to argue!! I used to leave he room and go into the garden or out and that way he'd argue with himself if that's what he wanted to do. I had removed myself from his rage. You can't win any argument with a raging bull charging at you who won't listen anyway.
Truth. Truth. Truth. I’m taking heed. ❤❤
When you are with a narcissistic individual, the only freedom you have is to follow THEIR commands! Know Better, Live Better, Stay Healthy! Thank you Dr C!
mother never forgave me for living where I live; she couldn't drive by and keep tabs on me. She kept me from every funeral in the family, and Im the last one standing. I would like to have gone to my 'real' mother's funeral, but I wasn't told about it until it was over...thanks, ma.
Thank you Dr. I thought I was the crazy one. Turns out, after gathering the facts, and examining them close up, I was being manipulated. Joyfully, he decided I'd disrespected him one last time and he cut me off. He thought he'd harm me one last time by trying to alienate family & friends. Forewarned is forearmed. Funny all I really feel is a sense of relief he is gone. You've helped me. Thank you.
Yes that is absolutely true what you're saying. It was the most heartbreaking time of my life
It blows my mind when listening to your videos how you know these people so well. Its as if you have been around my relationship all these years. " Dont jump into their mudhole.". Outstanding! Made me literally laugh outloud. He goes the extra mile to make any holiday as miserable as possible. I take my sweet doggie in the back room and just sit here as at peace as I can be. Thank you for what you do.💜🙏💜♾️
Just had a relative attempt to tear apart my character and even my spirituality. My response was "Ok. You can interpret that however you want". Silence.
This is so true. The dominance of a true narcissist is an almost unbelievable, mesmerising power. Seeing through it and not playing their game takes real strength but it’s worth breaking their stranglehold - if you can!
I think I need to save this video so I can refer to it again and again. After 18 years of marriage to a narcissist, I let him know I was on to him and demanded that we have complete autonomy. He does what he wants and I do what I want, and because he doesn’t wanna lose me through a divorce, (the house) things are going pretty well. We are cordial now and have an arrangement for expenses.
Why live a half-life? Boot that fool out and find your new future.
Don't be fooled. They will be cordial for minute and go right back to their devilish behavior.
I mean, my jaw hit the floor before you finished your 1st sentence & literally remained that way. My God, if only I'd seen this 5-6 yrs ago before learning about it the hard way. The whole "stop trying to convince them, they're not paying attention anyway" comment is particularly heartbreaking bc of so many yrs wasted. Lost much more than I was prepared for. Still having issues coping, forgiving, letting go.
This is good to remember! And practice
We have one in our house of 6 people, 5 normal and 1 narcissit, who is a control freak. She screamed she hated me over dinner. I said "Well, l must be doing someting right." Just leave me alone until you need me to get you out of trouble again.
Absolutely true
I agree 100%. That's what I do. I can see he look miserable. He want to gaslight me but I left the room. Do something else upstairs or to my garden. If he is eating himself alone, I don't care. He's doing it to himself. I know, he's looking for another supply but I don't care anymore too. I hope he leaves soon peacefully. That would be great. Thank you Sir for the advice. May God bless you for helping people who are going through narcissistic relationship. I hope they're watching to get a clue. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
It hurts me so much when I treat her so well and she just still treats me like I’m nothing!
Thank you, Dr Carter ☀️ I needed to hear “Your character is everything, so hold onto that.” 💥 My family of origin is gone now (some members figuratively, others literally). I’m left with my good character. I’m going to “lean into that.” 🙏 ❤️ ☮️ 🐕
After 46 years, and 2 years of court to get free, I have a very clear conscience.
Yes! A million times Yes!
Refusing to argue agitates the crap out of them