What strikes me is that she might feel this pull towards House because he wants nothing from her, iot, he wants nothing "to do with her". From her standpoint, he represents a safe space.
@felgper01 you know what, I think you are spot on. He made it clear from the get go he want's nothing to do with her, he's not interested in her, does not want to know her because she is healthy and he is not interested in the healthy, only the physically sick. This get's her brain sending out signals that this is a safe man to be around because he is not going to hurt her or try to get to her talk about the incident or pressure her in any way because she knows he has no interest in her. This makes her feel completely safe and that is extremely important to her. Her subconscious is saying it is safe to be around House but her subconscious is not communicating this to her brain hence why she keeps saying 'I don't know' when Houses ask her why does she want him to be the doctor attending to her.
@@dodgem259 @dodgem259 You and @felgper01 are correct. She senses safety from him in his brutal honesty. She senses he's not going to BS her then turn around and try to get in her pants, like so many do who pretend to care at first. We need people to believe in. If we don't have someone, even just one person we can believe in, we die either physically or metaphorically - or we turn into hard, ugly people, always in defense mode, believing in no one.
I love that expression of pure curiosity when she screams at house, he's not even thinking about what just happened, he's analyzing what caused that reaction to begin with
@@alphacode5your missing the point, he’s an actor in a show that’s why he responded that way. Any real doctor will just lock you up or kick you out for outbursts like that regardless if they’re justified
@@PuddingTaToRnAtOr I think you're kinda missing the point if you watch House MD to see real doctor reactions, it's a show about a guy that hates people and only becomes a doctor to solve medical mysteries. That's what my comment was about, how that reaction reflects the character perfectly
She wanted to talk to him because he completely understood the assignment from the get-go. Another man who acts the opposite of the others that you dont trust can be a terribly hopeful light you cant turn away from. Edit: masterful writing.
She insisted on talking to him because he is the one who needs help, not her. She is a natural empath who represents House's inner child, he is talking to himself throughout. You are correct about one thing: masterful writing.
@@slamkam07 I agree that it's both, and even more. Every line is open for interpretation from ''the blue curtains represent the unattainable freedom'' to ''the curtains are fucking blue''. If people got a message or have felt something through film as an artform, it's safe to say that it's as personal and as truthful as it gets. 👍
My favorite thing about House is that his cold indifference to people/patients isn’t because he hates people, it’s just that he actually cares too much. I just wish we could have seen more of a friendship between him and this patient throughout the series
No i think he doesn't care, and the fact that he doesn't makes her 'trust him' since she's so full of self-disgust, he affirms her indifference to herself while also making her feel like she can combat evil itself, i guess it makes her feel strong in a way
he hates people who lie and BS, and almost everyone does that. But when he meets the rare few who are honest with him, his attitude is completely different.
Undoubtedly, this has always been and will always be my absolute favorite episode of the show. Something about how real their interactions were, the conversations they got into. All of it was just so incredible
The real reason she wants him to treat her is because she sees pain in his eyes. Pain is something others can recognise. It's why she trusts him and why she's trying to connect with him. She wants his answers to how to deal with this pain, to give her the strength to move on.
I don't think that's the reason, from people that I know in similar situations (maybe not r**e but some similarities) is because House is the opposite of the one who did that to her (usually people they know) so fake kindness and those stuff, so House is not only outside of her circle (usually harder to open up with people you care at first) So to sum up House is hostile yet understanding without any fakeness and easier to talk to
The storyline of this episode could have been a story for an oscar nominated drama film. Just imagine this being a full studio film. A doctor and a patient.
One of the most beautiful women in Hollywood, in my opinion. Did you ever see her on Craig Ferguson's show? Holy crap. She went on offense and flirted her butt off and he didn't know what to do. Hilarious.
That whole interchange was a beautiful illustration of stoicism. It isn't about not caring, it's about recognizing that you can't be everywhere at once and that the thing in front of you might not be the most important thing, no matter how much it seems like it. Sure, House uses this philosophy to keep distance, aloof in his own suffering, but there is also an objective truth in what he's describing. Our sympathy and care doesn't 'belong' to any one particular person, proximate or unknown at a distance. The stoics understood that one's sense of morality comes before action, and even perception. When you know the futility or proper context of your action, only then can you act with compassion and no blindness, no hypocrisy. She saw all that in him; Underneath it all is House's willingness to face the truth of existence and a smart person will always respect that, and trust it.
true. you gotta be selective in what you care about. caring about each random person you meet just means you're burdening yourself with things that aren't your problem. If you're the type to help a person that's cool. I do that sometimes, but that doesn't mean i actually care about the person i helped. once it's done, their outta my mind and im back to just focusing on my business.
I agree as well yeah. There's too much suffering in the world to think about, stress and get depressed about. If we worried every single time we got some bad news, we'd just break down. Its why sometimes whenever I hear awful news about something happening in some part of the world I try to just disconnect myself. While it might be a tragedy, at least I don't wanna be sad about it
If someone understands House' implications of irony suggesting a counter 'r*pe' and reaches that conclusion IN A SINGLE SENTENCE?.. she is extremely smart
Luring someone into such an act and not telling them you switch genders... is also considered grape... As under law, the person can't rightfully make a decision if there's deceit.
From all the interacting, i gather she's very smart. The incident is her handicap, for life. The doctor she talks to is witty and immediately catches her pain from her reaction. And instead of forceful empathy or simping over her, he walk out on her. She knows at a deeper level that nobody else can understand her like he does. He left because he cared, because he's aware it's beyond his capability. It's like a gifted child meeting a grandmaster. The fascination, the intrique, the unanswered questions to life... Maybe it started with a tragedy, but the possibilities brought forward by it, of meeting her spiritual teacher is something she doesn't want to let go.
True, but he's there in a professional capacity. The only issue she has that he can professionally treat is her Chlamydia. He's not trained to help her with the trauma she has, so she really should have a good reason why she wants an MD and not a psychiatrist to treat her. If she wants to just talk, surely she has friends and relatives for that. He could have been treating patients whom he's actually qualified to help. This isn't just an "I don't know why I like to sleep in this position or why I like the color red.", something more mundane.
@LAKnightAuthor the point was that an MD isn't the answer to what is a mental issue. If it had to be a doctor, Dr. Stone was a better fit, but the patient didn't want that.
One of the major approaches to treating depressive spells is to find distraction in things you don't feel bad or ideally even fell good about. Hobbies, games, and the like. You need to manage that it doesn't become a deleterious escape but just spending that time with your brain not fixated on the issues that triggered the episode helps your brain to quietly process them. Obviously, depression is a complex neurological malady and "just do what makes you happy" isn't going to cure it alone, but it does give credence to the idea that "time" by itself, not focusing on the trauma, will help in the long run.
Speaking from experience, you're right. Being idle and bored holds the door open for depression. Which is what it wants, so it makes you too tired or apathetic to do stuff. But I've found it's almost impossible to have intrusive thoughts while playing an engaging video game, watching a good movie, or working with my hands while listening to music or even at the gym with a semi-decent podcast. Time doesn't always heal but distance always provides perspective.
In my experience, not being able to sit and process something and think about it just leads to it being repressed. Maybe I feel this way because of my ADHD, but I don't know. For as long as I remember, I've been able to overcome and process things if I just give myself the time to cry or be angry instead of distracting myself. Distracting myself just leads to me feeling built-up and unregulated which causes my emotional reaction to be worse than it would've been beforehand. Coping strategies and ways of processing emotions/events differs hugely from person to person. I think having this realisation about how I process things has also made me understand why therapy did not work for me when I was a teenager.
@@dars5229 Years ago a friend I only knew via online gaming admitted to me I had saved him from suicide. He had never even said he was depressed. He did just go missing and never logged on for nearly an entire month and I was genuinely worried for him, and I think perhaps he wanted to play one day and saw the flood of unread messages I had sent asking if he was ok. Now even though we've never met, we're pretty much best friends.
I think she intuitively recognized that House was different. That he had his own pain to deal with, and therefore she connected with him in a way that she couldn’t put into words, hence her repeated “I don’t know” answers.
I was thinking about this episode last week. Excellent timing. One Day One Room. Really wish this show would come back. Even the doctors who see me for organ failure and the vets who treat my pups loved it. Bought the whole series on DVD. Phenomenal.
I think its moreso that House treated her like a person, not a victim and thats what she really want, just being able to connect with someone and not have them console her or give the "Its not your fault" speech, some people just want to be treated normally and not like something bad happened...even though it did.
I think she wanted House because he was the only one who didn't show even a shed of pity. He was cruel and straight forward, no beating around bushes. Statistically speaking, victims don't need pity, they need time and normality to move on from the state of being a victim. Pity is the one thing they keep reminding them that they're victims
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One of the best hours of broadcasting ever presented.
House's insistence on not caring about people makes him perhaps the best in the world in differentiating between who you are and what happened to you. Because he wants to care only about what happened, not at all about who you are. In doing that, he's the only one who treats her exactly as he would in any other situation. He's a glimpse of normalcy to her - the thing that's affecting her every moment is irrelevant when she's talking to House. It affects her treatment, not her person. It's a reprieve from her experience, like an oasis in the desert.
No such word as normalcy.... The word is normality..... and yes you will find it in the dictionary.But it is not proper English.... American educational system strikes again 👍
@@PATRICKFRANCIS-bt4hs It's earliest recorded use was in 1855 in a math book, and then used in 1920 during an election race, of which it started to see more use after. At bare minimum it's been a word "normalized" for a hundred years. Plenty of words get created or changed over the years. It's how language works. I'm sure if we look at the "PROPER ENGLISH" of old, you'll find the current iteration of it making liberties or being changed. Good job on making an ass of yourself though.
You guys see that PSP house is using? That's the one the autistic child gave him as a thank you for curing him. House keeps it with him till end of series....
I have seen this episode. And its one of the best in Television history, imo. It explores the human condition and vulnerability with smart dialogue and all done earnestly.
If I remember correctly, he got that PSP from the autustic kid with parasites in his eyes that ended up trusting him; the kid would not make eye contact with anyone and absorbed himself in the PSP, but he looked House in his eyes after he treated him and gave him his PSP - House always held onto that PSP. Phenomenal writing and acting throughout the series
Cuddy, Wilson, Cameron, etc.: "How could Dr. House have so little care for his patients??!!!! D: Dr. House: *Nearly falls on his face to help a patient*
Time and process. She scares him. They both have fear in common so she can borrow from his ego and vice verse. She knows it but she doesn't know what or how she knows it. Confused? It'll sort out.
@stefangla6878 So, my DVDs only run up to season 4. And whenever I have a streaming service & start watching, I start from the beginning & inevitably get distracted by or before that point too, until I cancel the streaming service. So I've never actually seen any episodes beyond then, despite multiple tries. Lol I've heard that's a really good one, though!
When the doctor said "Pretending this didn't happen is the best thing she could do" to me that felt like bad advice because wouldn't be pretending make the trauma worse by not dealing with it? Then again I'm not a SA victim, so I wouldn't know if this method helps or not.
Yeah definitely not great advice. I was SA'd and I tried to pretend it never happened. That subconscious trauma eventually manifested into physical symptoms, known as FND. I lost the use of my legs, had cognitive issues, and more. I only got physically better as I forced myself to work on my mental trauma. Long story short - everyone's different, but as a rule of thumb, don't ignore your trauma. It'll come back and bite you even harder.
Foreman is usually the one saying & doing the worst things while pretending he has the moral high ground over everyone else. The series ends with him in Cuddy's position, running the hospital, about as bad a job as he can do. Then again, despite Cuddy hiring House & often insisting he's a super-genius, she was often belittling his actions, going behind his back to prevent him from doing his job & playing it safe. TV shows generally do this- treat the main character like a renegade, treat everyone who disagrees with him as if they have some moral superiority yet in the end the main character ends up in the right, everyone else looks like a fool, but no one learns anything so repeat again in the next episode.
That's actually the worst advice that you can give to any victim of trauma. You wouldn't try to heal an open wound by pretending it isn't there, would you? Of course, you wouldn't because #1, you can't because they pain is still there to remind you that it's there and #2, it would get infected if you don't take proper care of it. It's the same with trauma. Processing what happened to you is painful, but you can't heal if you don't take that step.
I disagree. It is true that time is a common factor, but that is a side effect of action and understanding and sometimes emotional desensitization. The only reason time is involved is because that stuff can't happen all at once.
@@jaylambert2838 It seems that way cause you both stumbled upon a philosophical time paradox. Time is an illusion of Space and Velocity, our brains, thought of time, as a concept to explain our perception of reality though all we experience is the state of now. So what I am basically trying to explain is that you are both right from a certain point of view ;D If the passing of time is observer-relevant, is it truly there or just an illusion? and if it's not really there it is not a factor in healing.
This patient is wrapped in about 6 miles of scar tissue, just like Dr. House..he's perfect person to talk to. If we know anything about House, he understands pain. Both emotional and physical. And that's why I love him.
I dont think anybody else has said it, and I am not reading the comments to figure out if they have. I think she wanted him right away because he recognized what happened to her, and immediately respected her space and boundaries.. It may have made her feel safe in his space that he knew what had happened to her, what her mindset was, didnt judge her, and then tried his best to treat her professionally and 'with care' ... at least as much care as House provides emotionally. She needed that.. to feel safe with at doctor that was not treating her with pity, but by the books.. He is a living book of knowledge.. an inanimate object of 'fix me' that cant and wont hurt her.
She’s wielding power over him. Knowing his job requires him to acquiesce to her frankly unusual requests. She also wants to dominate the time of the most valuable doctor at the hospital just to “talk”.
Well, at least she is advocating for herself by asking for what she senses could give her the best chance of recovery. That is what the healing profession is supposed to be about - not about getting in line and not asking for what you actually need and passively taking whatever "help" you are given even if it's not what will work for you and you know it. Oh, yes, he's a very busy and important doctor, let's not have an actual patient in actual need actually ask for what they need from those who are tasked with facilitating healing. How dare she "waste his valuable time".
Bc he was the only person willing to treat her normally. My friend was the same, she clung to a stranger from the hospital bc she spoke normally to her and didn't treat her like a survivor or a victim or a patient. After a few weeks, it really sunk in and she switched to me and her sister. But she wasn't ready to face that for a few weeks and that's okay. You're allowed a break from reality after that happens to you
A man who DOESNT want her for her looks, body, or sex. A man who she WANTS to be around for what she WANTS. To have control in a relationship of her making. She manipulated her situation to get what she wants. In the end she got what she wanted and she was safe.
Just noticed that everytime he sees her he unties her from the bed, nice touch, he's conisidered the lack of control she has at being bound and testing the ease she has being around him for a way out.
Time dilutes things, i guess :D any one experience becomes a smaller and smaller part of the whole as the whole increases. Not to mention the distance in time from said experience.
In a world where very few people are blatantly honest, House was always straight up truthful. And there's a certain amount of trustworthiness that comes with that.
Katheryn Winnick was so incredible in this part. It was painful to watch but her and Hugh Laurie were well matched. I assumed she trusted House because she recognized he was damaged even if she wasn’t fully aware of the reason.
Misery loves company. If misery sees misery they wonder what justify them to keep going and what tools to use. I know, I have seen kids (9-13 years old) trying trying to comit suicide only wanted to talk with me because they see my suffering.
Take this episode out of the series and it stands by its own as a truly brilliant piece of writing. As someone who was subject to repeat abuse for a number of years I know this to be true.
@@duckmeat4674 Sorry, so, HOW is it that having to google to try to find out the information "faster" than if the information is provided in the first place?
I remember this same stubbornness from a close relative: no matter how hard I tried, he couldn’t even begin to comprehend the importance of talking. “You act with facts, not words”: one who really doesn’t understand the importance of speech
I wonder if what draws her to House is that he is a jerk, but she also knows that he will never intentionally hurt her. He is a safe lab specimen for her to study and come to understand the monster who actually did hurt her.
House never wants to get inside anyone. She feels comfortable around him because even though he's cruel, he doesn't want to invade anyone's inner self. He does not want intimacy. Therefore, she does not have to worry about protecting herself from that sort of invasion.
What strikes me is that she might feel this pull towards House because he wants nothing from her, iot, he wants nothing "to do with her".
From her standpoint, he represents a safe space.
Brilliant. I wouldn't have found out. I think you're the only one who nailed it.
@felgper01 you know what, I think you are spot on. He made it clear from the get go he want's nothing to do with her, he's not interested in her, does not want to know her because she is healthy and he is not interested in the healthy, only the physically sick. This get's her brain sending out signals that this is a safe man to be around because he is not going to hurt her or try to get to her talk about the incident or pressure her in any way because she knows he has no interest in her. This makes her feel completely safe and that is extremely important to her. Her subconscious is saying it is safe to be around House but her subconscious is not communicating this to her brain hence why she keeps saying 'I don't know' when Houses ask her why does she want him to be the doctor attending to her.
@@dodgem259 @dodgem259 You and @felgper01 are correct. She senses safety from him in his brutal honesty. She senses he's not going to BS her then turn around and try to get in her pants, like so many do who pretend to care at first. We need people to believe in. If we don't have someone, even just one person we can believe in, we die either physically or metaphorically - or we turn into hard, ugly people, always in defense mode, believing in no one.
This kind of explains religion also.
We feel pulled towards something that seems safe
@felgper01 Yes, that's what I was thinking too.
I love that expression of pure curiosity when she screams at house, he's not even thinking about what just happened, he's analyzing what caused that reaction to begin with
Insightful, right there.
He is just doing what the director told him to do.
@@qing9367 well yeah, that's his job. I'm saying he did a good job at it
@@alphacode5your missing the point, he’s an actor in a show that’s why he responded that way. Any real doctor will just lock you up or kick you out for outbursts like that regardless if they’re justified
@@PuddingTaToRnAtOr I think you're kinda missing the point if you watch House MD to see real doctor reactions, it's a show about a guy that hates people and only becomes a doctor to solve medical mysteries. That's what my comment was about, how that reaction reflects the character perfectly
She wanted to talk to him because he completely understood the assignment from the get-go. Another man who acts the opposite of the others that you dont trust can be a terribly hopeful light you cant turn away from.
Edit: masterful writing.
She insisted on talking to him because he is the one who needs help, not her. She is a natural empath who represents House's inner child, he is talking to himself throughout.
You are correct about one thing: masterful writing.
@pjeffries301 I mean I don't see why it can't be both. Let's just say it's both.
@@slamkam07 I agree that it's both, and even more. Every line is open for interpretation from ''the blue curtains represent the unattainable freedom'' to ''the curtains are fucking blue''. If people got a message or have felt something through film as an artform, it's safe to say that it's as personal and as truthful as it gets. 👍
@@stantheman143😂 in a hilariously serious way what you said is true.
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My favorite thing about House is that his cold indifference to people/patients isn’t because he hates people, it’s just that he actually cares too much. I just wish we could have seen more of a friendship between him and this patient throughout the series
I think it's cuz he is always in pain from his legs
@@ellevillamor4454 even when he wasn’t in pain from his leg (for like 2 episodes) he was really caring to the patients he saw
No i think he doesn't care, and the fact that he doesn't makes her 'trust him' since she's so full of self-disgust, he affirms her indifference to herself while also making her feel like she can combat evil itself, i guess it makes her feel strong in a way
@@joel6633Not everyone’s that dumb
he hates people who lie and BS, and almost everyone does that. But when he meets the rare few who are honest with him, his attitude is completely different.
Undoubtedly, this has always been and will always be my absolute favorite episode of the show. Something about how real their interactions were, the conversations they got into. All of it was just so incredible
Its also because it was a breath of fresh air considering the usual dinamic of every house episode. It felt different.
Yes, Great Dialogue and Acting by both Katherine Winnick and Hugh Laurie. Lots of life lessons to learn here. From tragedy comes hope.
When the chips are down House cares about his patients on a deeper level than most doctors.
This was always the element of the show I admired. The idea that he's rebellious and addicted to the puzzle, while in the end, he's invested.
The real reason she wants him to treat her is because she sees pain in his eyes. Pain is something others can recognise. It's why she trusts him and why she's trying to connect with him. She wants his answers to how to deal with this pain, to give her the strength to move on.
I don't think that's the reason, from people that I know in similar situations (maybe not r**e but some similarities) is because House is the opposite of the one who did that to her (usually people they know) so fake kindness and those stuff, so House is not only outside of her circle (usually harder to open up with people you care at first)
So to sum up House is hostile yet understanding without any fakeness and easier to talk to
no one owes you anything
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@@cosmicreef5858everyone owes everything to me. Even you do.
@@cosmicreef5858 okk
The storyline of this episode could have been a story for an oscar nominated drama film. Just imagine this being a full studio film. A doctor and a patient.
@@oscarwilde5473that was a great film
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Was this not the Story of the Movie good will hunting ???
Katheryn Winnick is one of my favorite actors. She was great in Vikings. I also have a tremendous crush on her
me as well lol
Omg she was on Bones and she was so great on there that developed a crush as well
Beautiful ukrainian girl ❤
@@knightofren1915 Ukrainians are born in Ukraine, this lady is Canadian.
One of the most beautiful women in Hollywood, in my opinion. Did you ever see her on Craig Ferguson's show? Holy crap. She went on offense and flirted her butt off and he didn't know what to do. Hilarious.
"If you were to care about every person suffering on the planet, life would shut down". Gotta agree with him on that one
That whole interchange was a beautiful illustration of stoicism. It isn't about not caring, it's about recognizing that you can't be everywhere at once and that the thing in front of you might not be the most important thing, no matter how much it seems like it. Sure, House uses this philosophy to keep distance, aloof in his own suffering, but there is also an objective truth in what he's describing. Our sympathy and care doesn't 'belong' to any one particular person, proximate or unknown at a distance. The stoics understood that one's sense of morality comes before action, and even perception. When you know the futility or proper context of your action, only then can you act with compassion and no blindness, no hypocrisy. She saw all that in him; Underneath it all is House's willingness to face the truth of existence and a smart person will always respect that, and trust it.
If you dont care about anyone though you very quickly become a villain though.
Thsts called lack of empathy. Human race can't survive without it
true. you gotta be selective in what you care about. caring about each random person you meet just means you're burdening yourself with things that aren't your problem. If you're the type to help a person that's cool. I do that sometimes, but that doesn't mean i actually care about the person i helped. once it's done, their outta my mind and im back to just focusing on my business.
I agree as well yeah. There's too much suffering in the world to think about, stress and get depressed about. If we worried every single time we got some bad news, we'd just break down. Its why sometimes whenever I hear awful news about something happening in some part of the world I try to just disconnect myself. While it might be a tragedy, at least I don't wanna be sad about it
If someone understands House' implications of irony suggesting a counter 'r*pe' and reaches that conclusion IN A SINGLE SENTENCE?.. she is extremely smart
Luring someone into such an act and not telling them you switch genders... is also considered grape... As under law, the person can't rightfully make a decision if there's deceit.
traumatized people tend to be smart
From all the interacting, i gather she's very smart. The incident is her handicap, for life. The doctor she talks to is witty and immediately catches her pain from her reaction. And instead of forceful empathy or simping over her, he walk out on her.
She knows at a deeper level that nobody else can understand her like he does. He left because he cared, because he's aware it's beyond his capability.
It's like a gifted child meeting a grandmaster. The fascination, the intrique, the unanswered questions to life... Maybe it started with a tragedy, but the possibilities brought forward by it, of meeting her spiritual teacher is something she doesn't want to let go.
😂 had to look it up... And damn!
Edit: I** was so closed to the scriptwriter' thoughts.
I think this is a pretty fitting description of the situation, yes.
Gotta love how the comments with a few dozen likes are more insightful than the ones with thousands of likes
STUNNING performances of all of these actors HOUSE WAS BEYOND most series,HUGH will never equal this,he was born to play this part
"You have to have a reason. Everything has a reason."
Yeah but it takes a lot of self-knowledge to know every reason you have for what you do.
That comes with being Self-aware... Which I'm not sure if you're aware, not many people are.
True, but he's there in a professional capacity. The only issue she has that he can professionally treat is her Chlamydia. He's not trained to help her with the trauma she has, so she really should have a good reason why she wants an MD and not a psychiatrist to treat her. If she wants to just talk, surely she has friends and relatives for that. He could have been treating patients whom he's actually qualified to help. This isn't just an "I don't know why I like to sleep in this position or why I like the color red.", something more mundane.
@drl5002 "why doesn't she talk to family or friends" because in the aftermath some of us can't bear it.
@LAKnightAuthor the point was that an MD isn't the answer to what is a mental issue. If it had to be a doctor, Dr. Stone was a better fit, but the patient didn't want that.
Katheryn Winnick is a tremendous actress.
One of the major approaches to treating depressive spells is to find distraction in things you don't feel bad or ideally even fell good about. Hobbies, games, and the like. You need to manage that it doesn't become a deleterious escape but just spending that time with your brain not fixated on the issues that triggered the episode helps your brain to quietly process them. Obviously, depression is a complex neurological malady and "just do what makes you happy" isn't going to cure it alone, but it does give credence to the idea that "time" by itself, not focusing on the trauma, will help in the long run.
Speaking from experience, you're right. Being idle and bored holds the door open for depression. Which is what it wants, so it makes you too tired or apathetic to do stuff. But I've found it's almost impossible to have intrusive thoughts while playing an engaging video game, watching a good movie, or working with my hands while listening to music or even at the gym with a semi-decent podcast. Time doesn't always heal but distance always provides perspective.
@@dars5229Or PTSD
In my experience, not being able to sit and process something and think about it just leads to it being repressed. Maybe I feel this way because of my ADHD, but I don't know. For as long as I remember, I've been able to overcome and process things if I just give myself the time to cry or be angry instead of distracting myself. Distracting myself just leads to me feeling built-up and unregulated which causes my emotional reaction to be worse than it would've been beforehand. Coping strategies and ways of processing emotions/events differs hugely from person to person. I think having this realisation about how I process things has also made me understand why therapy did not work for me when I was a teenager.
@@amebunni Yeah, it's not a cure-all, it's just one tool in the box.
@@dars5229 Years ago a friend I only knew via online gaming admitted to me I had saved him from suicide. He had never even said he was depressed. He did just go missing and never logged on for nearly an entire month and I was genuinely worried for him, and I think perhaps he wanted to play one day and saw the flood of unread messages I had sent asking if he was ok.
Now even though we've never met, we're pretty much best friends.
I think she intuitively recognized that House was different. That he had his own pain to deal with, and therefore she connected with him in a way that she couldn’t put into words, hence her repeated “I don’t know” answers.
I was thinking about this episode last week. Excellent timing. One Day One Room. Really wish this show would come back. Even the doctors who see me for organ failure and the vets who treat my pups loved it. Bought the whole series on DVD. Phenomenal.
Katheryn Winnick has always looked a decade younger than what she is.
It's a shame she never had kids
@@ZeeZed153 That, is probably one of the reasons why she looks young. Pooping out parasites does some serious harm to the female body.
@@Smonjirez Ya but it's a waste she never passed that beauty on and knew the joys and life balance of fulfilling her maternal instinct.
@@ZeeZed153 Some people find fulfillment in life in different ways than following their biological pre-programmed instructions.
@@Smonjirez No they don't. Rejecting and suppressing the natural instinct is a recipe for disaster.
I think its moreso that House treated her like a person, not a victim and thats what she really want, just being able to connect with someone and not have them console her or give the "Its not your fault" speech, some people just want to be treated normally and not like something bad happened...even though it did.
I think she wanted House because he was the only one who didn't show even a shed of pity. He was cruel and straight forward, no beating around bushes.
Statistically speaking, victims don't need pity, they need time and normality to move on from the state of being a victim. Pity is the one thing they keep reminding them that they're victims
One of the best hours of broadcasting ever presented.
House's insistence on not caring about people makes him perhaps the best in the world in differentiating between who you are and what happened to you. Because he wants to care only about what happened, not at all about who you are.
In doing that, he's the only one who treats her exactly as he would in any other situation. He's a glimpse of normalcy to her - the thing that's affecting her every moment is irrelevant when she's talking to House. It affects her treatment, not her person.
It's a reprieve from her experience, like an oasis in the desert.
No such word as normalcy.... The word is normality..... and yes you will find it in the dictionary.But it is not proper English.... American educational system strikes again 👍
@@PATRICKFRANCIS-bt4hs It's earliest recorded use was in 1855 in a math book, and then used in 1920 during an election race, of which it started to see more use after.
At bare minimum it's been a word "normalized" for a hundred years. Plenty of words get created or changed over the years. It's how language works. I'm sure if we look at the "PROPER ENGLISH" of old, you'll find the current iteration of it making liberties or being changed.
Good job on making an ass of yourself though.
Bad take @@PATRICKFRANCIS-bt4hs
Bad take @@PATRICKFRANCIS-bt4hs
Yeah that's a bad thing for a doctor. We treat not the ailment, but the patient.
You guys see that PSP house is using? That's the one the autistic child gave him as a thank you for curing him.
House keeps it with him till end of series....
Katheryn Winnick is a great actress. I did not want this clip to end.
I have seen this episode. And its one of the best in Television history, imo. It explores the human condition and vulnerability with smart dialogue and all done earnestly.
Bottom line … you cannot force someone to deal with something before they are ready. Patience and sensitivity are the keys.
One of the very few times House sincerely, "Oh God"
💜
One of my favorite episodes of the series. Kathryn Winnick was great in the episode.
3:03, Trusting a doctor is the primary reason that motivates any patient to get treated.
4:50 house is playing a psp nice to still see them, still got mine to this day🤣💀
Me too
If I remember correctly, he got that PSP from the autustic kid with parasites in his eyes that ended up trusting him; the kid would not make eye contact with anyone and absorbed himself in the PSP, but he looked House in his eyes after he treated him and gave him his PSP - House always held onto that PSP.
Phenomenal writing and acting throughout the series
Hardly seen any actress dominating Dr. House like her, she was so intimidating.
Cuddy, Wilson, Cameron, etc.: "How could Dr. House have so little care for his patients??!!!! D:
Dr. House: *Nearly falls on his face to help a patient*
She was heartbreaking on Bones
...and on Criminal Minds as well!
Time and process. She scares him. They both have fear in common so she can borrow from his ego and vice verse. She knows it but she doesn't know what or how she knows it.
Confused? It'll sort out.
This is still one of my favorites of the House episodes. Brilliantly written and strangely keeps you watching.
She wanted to talk, she said because time changes, House said doing something changes ... But talking is doing something ...
"Time by itself, changes nothing." -Thrall
Is that... Is that from World of Warcraft?
@@StanHowse yes. Thrall is our Green Jesus. Fills every plothole ever
That Woman can act..
Lisa Edelstein did such a great job on this show.
Easily one of my favorite episodes. Katheryn Winnick delivers such a phenomenal performance.
"House's Head"/"Wilson's Heart", "Three Stories," & this episode are my favorites from the entire series, in that order.
Add, was it "help me"? (The one where the building collapsed), to that list.
@stefangla6878 So, my DVDs only run up to season 4. And whenever I have a streaming service & start watching, I start from the beginning & inevitably get distracted by or before that point too, until I cancel the streaming service.
So I've never actually seen any episodes beyond then, despite multiple tries. Lol
I've heard that's a really good one, though!
@@TinKnight It's the season 6 final, so you'll get to it.
I would add "fetal position" to this list.
When the doctor said "Pretending this didn't happen is the best thing she could do" to me that felt like bad advice because wouldn't be pretending make the trauma worse by not dealing with it? Then again I'm not a SA victim, so I wouldn't know if this method helps or not.
Yeah definitely not great advice. I was SA'd and I tried to pretend it never happened. That subconscious trauma eventually manifested into physical symptoms, known as FND. I lost the use of my legs, had cognitive issues, and more. I only got physically better as I forced myself to work on my mental trauma. Long story short - everyone's different, but as a rule of thumb, don't ignore your trauma. It'll come back and bite you even harder.
@@clairesmiley_ I am so sorry that happened to you, and I hope you continue healing from it.
Foreman is usually the one saying & doing the worst things while pretending he has the moral high ground over everyone else. The series ends with him in Cuddy's position, running the hospital, about as bad a job as he can do. Then again, despite Cuddy hiring House & often insisting he's a super-genius, she was often belittling his actions, going behind his back to prevent him from doing his job & playing it safe. TV shows generally do this- treat the main character like a renegade, treat everyone who disagrees with him as if they have some moral superiority yet in the end the main character ends up in the right, everyone else looks like a fool, but no one learns anything so repeat again in the next episode.
I don't have trauma - but we all require empathy...,plus respect.
That's actually the worst advice that you can give to any victim of trauma. You wouldn't try to heal an open wound by pretending it isn't there, would you? Of course, you wouldn't because #1, you can't because they pain is still there to remind you that it's there and #2, it would get infected if you don't take proper care of it. It's the same with trauma. Processing what happened to you is painful, but you can't heal if you don't take that step.
I love Katheryn Winnick. What a natural beauty and fine actress.
One of the best television series, I have ever watched.
Any doctor worth his salt would NEVER suggest time isn’t important in healing. If anything, it is the one factor in all healing that ALWAYS applies.
I disagree. It is true that time is a common factor, but that is a side effect of action and understanding and sometimes emotional desensitization. The only reason time is involved is because that stuff can't happen all at once.
@@jefflittle8913 It sounds like you are agreeing with me, actually.
@@jaylambert2838 It seems that way cause you both stumbled upon a philosophical time paradox. Time is an illusion of Space and Velocity, our brains, thought of time, as a concept to explain our perception of reality though all we experience is the state of now. So what I am basically trying to explain is that you are both right from a certain point of view ;D If the passing of time is observer-relevant, is it truly there or just an illusion? and if it's not really there it is not a factor in healing.
@@SirBritishful Oh, I’m sorry, I didn’t know you were nuts. Never mind.
@@SirBritishfulI came to this chat to see how long it would take someone to say time is a construct. You won in three.
This patient is wrapped in about 6 miles of scar tissue, just like Dr. House..he's perfect person to talk to. If we know anything about House, he understands pain. Both emotional and physical. And that's why I love him.
if you can't take it. He doesn't give it.
I dont think anybody else has said it, and I am not reading the comments to figure out if they have.
I think she wanted him right away because he recognized what happened to her, and immediately respected her space and boundaries.. It may have made her feel safe in his space that he knew what had happened to her, what her mindset was, didnt judge her, and then tried his best to treat her professionally and 'with care' ... at least as much care as House provides emotionally. She needed that.. to feel safe with at doctor that was not treating her with pity, but by the books.. He is a living book of knowledge.. an inanimate object of 'fix me' that cant and wont hurt her.
"im graping you?"
LMAOOO
why was that so funny
Katheryn Winnick is so beautiful
Not all people want a fake compassion. Some prefer more honesty even if it's not comfortable.
I really like this title where you state the name of the Guest Star actor.
I like the nod to the autistic kid that gave him the PSP
This was a really good episode
This, IMO, is the greatest episode of the entire series. Katheryn Winnick really did a great piece of acting.
She’s wielding power over him. Knowing his job requires him to acquiesce to her frankly unusual requests. She also wants to dominate the time of the most valuable doctor at the hospital just to “talk”.
Well, at least she is advocating for herself by asking for what she senses could give her the best chance of recovery. That is what the healing profession is supposed to be about - not about getting in line and not asking for what you actually need and passively taking whatever "help" you are given even if it's not what will work for you and you know it. Oh, yes, he's a very busy and important doctor, let's not have an actual patient in actual need actually ask for what they need from those who are tasked with facilitating healing. How dare she "waste his valuable time".
I have the complete series at my fingertips, so...why do I watch the "shorts" & be completely enthralled?
Bc he was the only person willing to treat her normally. My friend was the same, she clung to a stranger from the hospital bc she spoke normally to her and didn't treat her like a survivor or a victim or a patient. After a few weeks, it really sunk in and she switched to me and her sister. But she wasn't ready to face that for a few weeks and that's okay. You're allowed a break from reality after that happens to you
What I love most about this episode is that even though House is usually an ass to everyone around him even his team, he still cares for them.
A man who DOESNT want her for her looks, body, or sex. A man who she WANTS to be around for what she WANTS. To have control in a relationship of her making. She manipulated her situation to get what she wants. In the end she got what she wanted and she was safe.
Just noticed that everytime he sees her he unties her from the bed, nice touch, he's conisidered the lack of control she has at being bound and testing the ease she has being around him for a way out.
Nice to see he still plays with the psp
My fav episode!! It's just so good.
1:06 Thats the most self-aware thing House has ever said.
I would listen to Lagertha all day! Lol
Logic meets emotion. This is a great episode.
Great and meaningful performance and for the first time I know that the phrase I don't know is in itself a sufficient answer to a question.
Video released 6 days ago and im just getting the notification
Time dilutes things, i guess :D any one experience becomes a smaller and smaller part of the whole as the whole increases. Not to mention the distance in time from said experience.
That may be true most of the time. But now I am old, I remember me 6 years old as yesterday. Cliche but true.
@@Mutineer9 Well i'm talking based on a sample size of one 35 year old so not really a universal truth :D
One of the most cases I have ever loved in dr. House .
most famous shield-maiden in the world
In a world where very few people are blatantly honest, House was always straight up truthful. And there's a certain amount of trustworthiness that comes with that.
It's a crime that this series never won an Emmy
Fantastic show and this is probably the best episode.
She's on a heart monitor he has no need to check her pulse...it's a test of trust.
She represents House's inner child. He is talking to himself throughout the episode. Abuse, in all forms, is terrible.
Great writing.
She wanted to talk to him because his name is House in the show called House. There, you’re welcome. 🍻
I KNEW IT!!!!! Katheryn Winnick is a immortal
She really played this part well
Even though she went through a very traumatic thing in her life, she wants to help the pain she sees in him.
one of my three favorite episodes!
Holy crap, I didn't know who Katheryn Winnick was until way afterward and never put this together.
She's fantastic.
I absolutely forgot it was Katheryn, the acting in this episode was superb
Katheryn Winnick was so incredible in this part. It was painful to watch but her and Hugh Laurie were well matched.
I assumed she trusted House because she recognized he was damaged even if she wasn’t fully aware of the reason.
Misery loves company.
If misery sees misery they wonder what justify them to keep going and what tools to use.
I know, I have seen kids (9-13 years old) trying trying to comit suicide only wanted to talk with me because they see my suffering.
Katheryn Winnick is an amazing actor ❤ loved her in Vikings and she was also in an episode of Law & Order
I really like her natural powers and passion when she is acting. Bit like the early Anna Torv.
The way she lowered her voice andsaid “ why dose there have to be a reason”.
I dont understand, but what happens at the end?
Take this episode out of the series and it stands by its own as a truly brilliant piece of writing.
As someone who was subject to repeat abuse for a number of years I know this to be true.
That doc has no compassion!
who is Katheryn Winnick? and what is 'Vickings'??
She (the patient here) played one of the main characters (Lagertha wife of Ragnar Lothbrok) on the TV series Vikings (2010s).
Do you not have Google where you are from?
@@duckmeat4674 why do we have to google when basic info should be provided with these shorts.
@@usualsuspects42 because it provides information faster, and explains better....
@@duckmeat4674 Sorry, so, HOW is it that having to google to try to find out the information "faster" than if the information is provided in the first place?
Well she got him to talk a whole lot with her
House may seem like a bad person but he genuinely cares about everyone’s wellbeing
how Queen Lagertha recruits her personal shaman...
I remember this same stubbornness from a close relative: no matter how hard I tried, he couldn’t even begin to comprehend the importance of talking. “You act with facts, not words”: one who really doesn’t understand the importance of speech
I wonder if what draws her to House is that he is a jerk, but she also knows that he will never intentionally hurt her. He is a safe lab specimen for her to study and come to understand the monster who actually did hurt her.
House is being very nice i like that
House never wants to get inside anyone. She feels comfortable around him because even though he's cruel, he doesn't want to invade anyone's inner self. He does not want intimacy.
Therefore, she does not have to worry about protecting herself from that sort of invasion.
My first encounter with Winnick... she was so insanely good here!