Almost this exact situation happened to my father almost 40 years ago. He never got over it and has a crippling fear of fire. I hope she finds peace one day
She should do EMDR. I drove up to the scene of a double fatality accident and knew one of the drivers. I started therapy right away and did EMDR. It has changed my life. ❤ hope you find peace and healing, trauma is a beast.
Listening to a man burn to death screaming has to be the hardest thing to live with, and then to realize that man could have saved the other man and it would have been you burning to death.
I’ve heard it on a 911 call and can’t forget it. Nothing more horrific besides listening to someone succumb to rising water and drowning. We don’t wish such things on our worst enemies.
I hope the Woman truck driver reads this! You are alive because ALMIGHTY GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! Best thing is to get SPIRITUAL COUNSELING by a Christian who can pray with you, and for you. “””THE LORD GOD LOVES YOU-Turn to HIM””” 📖PSALM 121:1-2
Shawn Ryan, former navy seal and CIA targeter, is a massive proponent for therapy. He will be the first person to tell you therapy saves souls. Don’t power through trauma. Please get help. Whoever you are and whatever you are going through remember that even the strongest among us needs help. Don’t be ashamed. End the stigma of mental health help being a weakness. It takes a very strong person to admit they are hurting and need help.
Geez, I may have actually seen this. Never knew what happened exactly though. Scary stuff I hope the best for all parties involved in their time of healing
@@marjbiehler7628 nope not at all what I think. I have zero guilt not even emotionally. My truck never left my lane. My question of course is how did I survive that incredibly violent crash. I’m mad that I’m not able to sit down with that man and ask him WHY was he driving like that?!
@@truckingwithtobeehey if this is the real tobee from the story, I feel like I gotta apologize for Dr. John, he kept interrupting you when you wanted to tell your story. He fumbled in that aspect. I personally feel that if someone is sharing a traumatic story with you, your job is to listen, not tell them to HOLD ON HOLD ON HOLD ON, you know? I hope you're doing well now.
I used to be a paramedic. The sounds of a dying person are something she wont ever forget. Screams, snores or silence.... it all haunts you. I feel terribly for her. I chose to carry it. She didnt.
Snores. I heard my sister passing in her sleep and I had no idea. I'll never forget that sound. Any form of snoring bothers me 19 years later...even though the sound is distinctly different from what I heard at 15 years old around 1 AM.
My best friend is a paramedic and an er nurse just because she loves the madness and is passionate about it. I salute her so much, such a respectful role, thank you for your services!
@sc00b3rt Or don't pass when there are no passing lanes. Some drivers just can't psychologically deal with there being any vehicles in front of them. Always trying to get to the non-existent front of the line. And, then, when something bad happens, they start making excuses for each other and blaming everyone but the thrill-seekers. The guy being passed was in "a race," but the guy passing in the on-coming traffic lane wasn't?!
I can understand her anger that people were too busy “filming” to actually help. Spectator syndrome is a terror that makes victims helpless even when surrounded by a crowd.
It was very frustrating that he wouldn't acknowledge that this and the robotic cop were part of the trauma. Not just some petty things she's hung up on.
@@truckingwithtobee Oh my gosh, it's honestly a relief to hear from you. I wondered how you were after this call. I felt so uneasy after watching this video because I did not like how he treated you. I was hoping I was just projecting and that maybe you experienced the call differently, but I see from your comments that you felt the same way. I'm sorry that's the case, but I certainly understand why you feel that way. For what it's worth, I wanted you to be able to speak and share your story. He interrupted at some critical moments, like when you said your daughter was on the phone with you at the time of the accident. It seemed he was rushing to fit your experience into the narrative he wanted to deal with - a gross thing to do to anyone, especially someone who's been through what you've been through. Thank you for the comments you're posting. Sending my support through the wires!
@@mindianaj0nes Your comment means a lot. There are so many nasty comments. I just now sent an email to Dr. John’s producer and ask that they remove my episode. Some person even insinuated that I was lying and making up this story. Another person disclosed the name of the gentleman that passed away.
This poor woman is so traumatized, and I think it's more that she HEARD a man burn to death, and not that she survived and he didn't. She needs counseling very bad, and doesn't realize it.
@@bettysmith4527 I think she realizes, but is afraid of what is underneath all the “robotic recitations” as Dr. DeLony called them. Looking inside is soooo….scary.
@@truckingwithtobeeprayers n blessings to you. You are 💯 right in. Of taking prescription drugs from these legal drug dealers. Stay strong n do it the right way over time. Glad you made it it
As a truck driver of 25 years and counting, the thought of this stuff happening scares the crap out of me. I'm only 3 minutes into the video and I'm tearing up. I just want to give her a big hug.
I decided to get my CDL two years ago to help our business so we didn’t have to hire a driver. I was doing everything like I was supposed to that day and it still happened . I appreciate you listening to my episode and for taking the time to comment it means more to me than you know.❤ as you can tell from this episode, I’m still trying to mentally get over this. I still have lots of injuries that I’m trying to overcome as well.
She has PTSD, not just from the accident but hearing the other guy burn alive. It's horrendous and will haunt her forever. She needs professional help or this can develop into serious depression.
What I hear when she talks is that it seems she hasn't fully processed this and is very traumatized. She hasn't sat with it long enough yet and released all of it. I think once she releases it and completely comes "undone" with it all, is when healing will begin.
Tobee sounds like she may have PTSD, the way she’s having a difficult time discussing with little emotion, sounds like disassociating from this horrific incident. I hope that she’s working with a good trauma therapist. I don’t know that she’ll ever “get over it” but it’s my hope that she can heal, and feel safe again. I’m really sorry this happened, and someone lost their life in this tragic accident. But yours was spared by a man that cared enough to help you. Thank God for him! I hope and pray for your continued healing and recovery. Keep shining!
What do you mean I wasn’t talking with any emotion in the beginning of course I was telling the story but the middle and the ending. I was actually crying. You need to listen a little bit closer. I was very much showing emotion.
She mentions being a business owner and a truck driver. She is used to being in control of things. She's used to wearing many different hats and expecting others to do everything she does or at least know what to do. This situation was completely out of her control and she doesn't know how to cope with it.
My son’s climbing friend fell to his death 44 hours ago. I believe it took a few hours to get the other climber down. I can’t imagine the trauma for the surviving climber. RIP Stewart. You left your friends far soon. (21 years young)
His responses are actually so incredibly tone deaf on every level… hardest watch ever. I don’t understand why they even thought this was a good idea to post, my heart goes out to the caller
Less than a month before I started 2nd grade I was in a fatal accident. My grandmother made a left turn through a red light and collided with another vehicle. This was in 1968. No seat belts. My grandmother was thrown from the car and never woke up. I was in my cousins child protection seat and only got a bruised arm. I'm now in my 60's and still remember this event like it was yesterday. As an adult I looked up the newspaper article which confirmed many of my memories. I'm still impacted by what happened to me. I hope the caller gets the right type of therapy and can process what happened to her.
Dr.john Delony seriously screwed this situation up horribly n it shocked me bcuz Dr.john usually says the best intelligent things but in this particular situation he misjudged by telling this girl to write Martinez who saved her life a letter n this girl told Dr.john she already thanked Martinez face to face n Dr.john told her that her way wasn't good enough instead she needs to write him a letter n instead Dr.john could have told her to do both bcuz a letter definitely is not better than a face to face in person thank you plus thru the entire phone call Dr.john kept cutting her off that was disrespectful to her n he kept telling her to calm down instead of realizing anyone wud talk a little faster if their upset plus Dr.john instantly told this girl its not the cops fault for anything when this girl said the cop was cold telling her to not worry. about the older man who was dying screaming for his life but the cop acted casual n relaxed about how horrible the man yelled for help n this is bcuz Dr.john's father was a cop or detective plus Dr.john is also friends with alot of cops too n Dr.john got highly offended when she said the cop was cold hearted n acted as if she shouldn't be bothered to even worry or care at all for the man yelling all bcuz Dr.Dr.john loves n highly admires cops the entire law enforcement bcuz his own father was in law enforcement yet cops suck their liars very corrupt even child molesters too n total scumbags too n Dr.john acted like this girl wasn't being compassionate just bcuz she was talking excitable which is normal to act this way n Dr.john did not have none zero compassion towards this woman n even worse Dr.john proved he's absolutely running low on ideas of what to say to people n he kept repeating himself n correcting this girl n Dr.john was acting ridiculous he kept saying unnecessary things like I love you toby n slow down n literally dumb crap so Dr.john needs a break to come up with more loving suitable things to say n Dr.john truthfully made sure he protected cops saying lets not blame the cop the law enforcement bcuz the cop didn't do anything wrong but the cop positively did alot wrong the way the cop talked to toby n ignored the man dying was screaming for his life so this is the first time Dr.john handled this situation like an amateur he said dumb crap n said things that stupid people would say he totally was disappointing in this situation n he needs help waking up his mind n I know he's human but he still is expected to be more accountable so this time it sucked how he handled this woman it was terrible n unprofessional.
Hmm. "He shows his love in other ways." I've always been conflicted by this proclamation. Maybe she believes that n is actually ok with it but I've never met someone who didn't long to ne loved in the way they actually want. This is often an excuse people give yo justify in their own minds n also to others ( though of course they dont need to) why they are still with someone. You usually only hear it when they are divorced. I could understand her not saying much at this point especially when John made the recommendations.of what she should ask her husband to do. I'm not aure that's even the right course of action depending on the husbands personality n limitations n facing rejection from her husband and learning that he wouldn't do this even for her is maybe not something she should have to deal with right now. I completely agree with her decision not to take drugs prescribed by psychiatrist. What a sham occupation. Smart woman n dont think for a second they would proactively warn her that' she could be sued even if she jas a prescription and is ever the cause of an accident herself no matter how responsible or not she actually is for the accident. They call them accidents for a reason. Not every terrible accident involves risk taking n impatience like the accident the man caused.
This is a huge fear of mine. A car pulled out in front of me a few weeks back and I swerved to miss them and almost rolled my truck with a heavy load. I had to pull over to catch my breath bc I knew that person almost died in a split second. It hits harder the older I get. I'm glad the caller is back out there and has a new truck. Definitely a tough lady, but bypassing grief is not healthy. My heart goes out to her. ❤️ 🚚
@HorseLady1109 Any kind of medication that breaks the blpod/brain barrier makes my brain not function right. Even just allergy medication gives me high anxiety and makes me agitated and depressed. I hope she can handle medication better than me, but its always the last resort.
What a horror for this woman n if course the man. Kudos to the bero guy. I have to say I really don't like the way John handled this call. I do recognize and appreciate him trying and it's certainly a difficult call. I felt he cut her off far too many times to take control of the call unnecessarily. Let her speak how she wants. I did not think she was speaking too fast. Just the way most aware people are that there is very limited time. He likes to say "Sit with me sit with me don't run off into... But he is not her long term therapist that she will be seeing next week. It's perfectly normal n understandable that as she is speaking she would mention the cop being like a robot even after hearing what happened to the other driver n the number of people filming with only one person helping. Sure shes grateful to that one person but you can't help but notice that dicotomy. Sure in the future that should be the part she most focused on but she is not a robot n ok if she gives voice even a little bit about ber dispapointme t in hee fellow man n humanity in general. We all see it n love stories of people doing a great thing partly bc we need to hear it since it's helps offset our disbelief n upset regarding the masses. I would find it very difficult to speak with someone controlling or consistently interrupting. She wants to know what to do to get over this I guess n there are no easy answers but certainly time n the ability to talk with others about it however she chooses is a step in the right direction.
One of my dearest friend’s son was visiting me and my daughter from Austria. He was like my own son and I loved him dearly too. He died in a car wreck between my house and my daughter’s. The details of everything is horrible and so hard. There was no way around survivors guilt. Why did her son die while visiting me and my is fine. The grief and the guilt was so hard. There was no way around it. It hits you even though your mind knows you have no part of what happened. It took 10 years before the residue of the guilt was gone. He was an amazing beautiful human being and was only 27. He blessed all those in his life. I was the last one to hug him and our last conversation was how important God is in our lives. You can’t go around the guilt. It just is and you just have to go through it like grief.
Thank you for your caring. I am doing well now. I will alway miss him, but who he was has brought so much good to my perception of the world, I am so much better for him in my life and he has left me many good memories and life. None of which I would have had if I had tried to bypass grief or the natural survivors guilt; or remain stuck in grief and guilt. I am so thankful to have done through it and made it to the other side.
She needed to just tell her story. I wish she wasn’t interrupted so much. If this woman is reading this please seek professional help for the trauma you endured. I am sorry if Dr. John didn’t help you on this call. Sending my love to you ❤️🩹
I was hit head on by a drunk driver on a freeway. I expected to die and just prayed to God and said “please God, not now” 4 times (I had dogs alone and they only had me). Cars were totaled and flipped , spun and all the stuff that goes with head on collisions. I felt warm ‘arms’ wrap around my body and had no fear… everything was in slow motion. The drunk driver died in hospital and I walked away without a scratch (not. A. Scratch). I heard him alive after the accident and was devastated when I learned he died… nothing like this accident, but the PTSD stayed with me for the longest time (even though I was so happy to be alive). Her experience is so much worse and she is so used to being tough… she needs someone to listen to her and comfort her and I don’t think she is getting that. She needs someone to understand what she is going through. I feel like Doc John really cut her off a lot and this is too serious to be cut off…
Also sadly, many many Truck drivers are pushed relentlessly by heartless companies that are clocking every second and every movement they make. Many encourage cheating on their log books but will deny if that overly stressed driver is involved in an accident. It’s a pretty hazardous very stressful and many times very physically and mentally demanding and taxing…hard to be healthy with that kind of stress and the lifestyle it promotes is pretty sad..
Same thing Amazon does with their DSP drivers. There’s official rules in the book but we are told to cut corners and do things that are unsafe then when something happens they make it seem like the driver just wasn’t following the rules. lol smh
It's not just truck drivers unfortunately. But truck drivers and companies know that their days are numbered and within a decade, will be replaced by self-driving trucks (Walmart and Amazon already have almost 100). Sadly, it's a symptom. The disease is late stage capitalism (that,s when people serve capitalism instead of capitalism serving people). Doesn't change this lady's suffering and probably her entire family. Her kid(s) probably need therapy as well. It's sad and they probably can't afford it in this financial mess. Society is sick.
@@ElimEx1 AGREED… Capitalism should be renamed Cannibalism.. I’ve gone so far as to reword the Nat’l Anthem in part to, “Ohh the land of the GREEED… and the home… of the.. SLAVE..”
@@YcMdattGUY I worked for UPS… same thing they did. One of their computer employees told his wife that the guys in his department think that management purposely tries to push these guys to the breaking point, actually trying to kill some of them. I have family members that work on Trains.. they do the same things to them..
@@truckingwithtobeeI am so sorry you went through this!! I was so pissed John kept interrupting you; I feel like you just needed to get it out! My heart goes out for you and I pray you find some peace. 🙏🏻
I'm so sorry that this happened to you and that you felt stupid during the call. My heart truly went out to you, and I felt your anxiety. I hope that you and your family are doing okay. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I watched the call twice, and I heard a brave woman facing a horrible tradigy. @truckingwithtobee
Such great advice, Dr. Delony! The only thing that helped me get through survivor's guilt was deciding the best thing I could do to honor my friend who lost her battle to cancer at the same time I survived mine was to continue helping those I can and building a life of purpose and live each day cherishing my loved ones. My heart breaks for this lady. Truly a tragedy that she had no control over. Wishing her the best and inner peace soon.
This is exactly how I “process” things- squirrel brain constant avoidance and endless analyzing and rehashing but still trying to magically emotionally avoid it. ❤
I don't think there was much point in talking to Tobee, she is completely stuck in fight or flight, obviously not her fault. A trauma specialist should be #1 on the agenda, after that maybe reenter the scene and its aftermath (writing letters), although I understand why Dr. John did try it.
My thoughts exactly. The constant interruptions of this woman bravely sharing her story was painful to listen to. I'm not sure that judging her on the details she remembered & was choosing to share was at all helpful or insightful. These details were part of her story - they were clearly contributing to her misery & preventing her from healing. Rather than cutting her off, the proper thing to do would be to let her share whatever she needs to & help her work through those painful memories. It felt so invalidating & rude. Those details might not matter to him, but they mattered to HER. I think this call was far beyond his scope. Very uncomfortable listen, totally missed the mark on this call.
NGL Dr. John pissed me smooth off because he wouldn't shut up for 2 seconds when the girl was getting to her points of trauma. Literally telling her HOLD ON HOLD ON HOLD ON!! Ist helping AT ALL. When someone is laying out what traumatized them, you shut up and listen. Its about them not some weird analogy you want to spit at them. AFTER they are done talking, then you give a compassionate response. Try your best to not do this again. NEVER interrupt a traumatized person in the middle of sharing their trauma with you.
I am absolutely bawling my eyes out listening to her. I'm so sorry I am so so sorry this happened to you. I can only imagine how terrifying that was and how that fear is haunting you. I am so grateful you survived so grateful.
Not everyone standing by knows what to do or feels they can help, especially in something as horrific as this. I agree with helping absolutely, if you CAN.
Having survived a crash with a semi, like her, I grieve with her. Survivor guilt is real and vicious and i really wish I could sit down and talk with her survivor to survivor.
This is incredibly disrespectful to people with ptsd and you should be ashamed. That treatment is pseudoscience. There is no “do this thing bfore it turns into ptsd” if someone suffers a traumatic event, that ship is sailed. Your attitude is exactly what prevents people from getting the help they need.
@@Peanutbutta-ct4vn my statement wasn’t toward people that have PTSD or trying to shame them in any way. It was about helping this caller. And I would venture to guess that most people who have PTSD would prefer not to have it and the suffering that goes with it, and would have appreciated being offered something that could have helped them experience less pain. When traumatic events are new (less than 6 months) there is a window to step in and help someone process the trauma before it becomes more engrained into their nervous system. Also, not everyone who experienced trauma develops PTSD. There are specific criteria that go with that diagnosis. EMDR is not “pseudoscience “ There is actually quite a large body of research supporting it’s effectiveness.
Hello! MD here- numerous randomized controlled trials and meta-analyses have demonstrated efficacy of eye movement reprocessing and densensitization therapy. Do we know why it works? No. Is it effective against placebo at reducing symptoms of PTSD? Yes. Also, EMDR and cognitive behavioral therapy with a trauma focus has shown benefit in preventing development of PTSD in those with acute stress disorder. Also, please stop diagnosing people on the internet with medical problems. You have absolutely no clue if she has PTSD. Neither do I. Stop it.
Sorry John. This was your worst call yet. You literally asked her, “what happened,” and then cut her off and criticized her for the details she continued to give. It had to have been very confusing for her. She wanted to tell you how she was processing all of this by listing all the details. You should’ve listened to everything she wanted to say, and then told her the ruminating component is not healthy for her. As you say, it could’ve been “both and.” The call could’ve been handled better IMO. Nonetheless, still a fan.
Did not a single one of you saying this actually hear her voice, tone and inflection? I’m sorry, but you all are dead wrong. He did a good job in a very short time with a severly traumatized woman.
I agree. It was pretty rude. Talking over her. I'm so sry for the heartache and guilt that you place on yourself. I heard my boyfriends last breaths not knowing that he was dying. i literally walked to kitchen for a snack when I heard what I thought was snoring loudly and making funny noises and faces . I was sadly mistaken and thought oh wait til I see him tomorrow and tell him how funny he sounded and ask what kind of dreams were you having . But I never got this chance because that snoring is what I know now to be the death rattle. Had I known this he may still be here today but instead I am still grieving him and what ifs. Sucks! 😢
My older brother died at age 22 from a head injury from a pretty bad incident. While I wasn’t there physically, turning 23 some year back started giving me some sort of survivor’s guilt. Questions like, “He’s the eldest, he should be here getting older with us. Why am I the older one now? I shouldn’t be. Why him?” I’m 27 now, and I still miss him. I’ll miss the older brother advice he would’ve had. Especially when it comes to dealing with mom. 🤣 I spoke with my mom about my feelings, and she told me she had the same questions like “Why him and not me?” Her advice was to just live how they would’ve wanted you to. Keep them alive in memory.
This lady has CPTSD… I know what that’s like, I was in an auto accident too. She has actual brain damage from this experience which will make her hyper vigilant and more likely ( imo) to be in another accident.. possibly her fault next time. She should absolutely NOT be getting back in a semi truck. Brain trauma of this nature can and should be treated and she also should be compensated as with any other injury. I feel for her so deeply..
No, it is not post traumatic stress disorder, complex in nature… that is reserved for REPEATED traumatic events, over a long period of time, as stated above.
CPTSD is “small t” trauma, sustained over long periods of time. (being told “be quiet”, “stop being so loud” as a kid from ages 6-10. not huge by itself, but over time, aggregates to big behavioral changes, or self beliefs) “big t” Trauma (PTSD) is one very traumatizing event (or many huge traumatizing events over a period of time)
@@louisvuitton1859 let’s not minimize the CPTSD. CPTSD is being assaulted and impregnated on Monday, nose busted off face on Tuesday, chased off the road on wed, spat on face on thurs, strangled until wet on friday, walls and doors broken on Sat, leg broken on Sunday. Repeat until the law finally decides to not allow bail, while society tells you, you deserved it and enjoy being abused, stalked and terrorized… now THATS CPTSD! Don’t minimize the diagnosis. When someone gets a criminal diagnosis of CPTSD… that’s means TERRORIZED!!
I cried the whole video long... sending this lady and her family many prayers...you deserve your place on earth toby you survived a heck of a terrifying ordeal but you are just as worthy of everything as you were one second before your life changed..go get everything you wish for ...all the best
My aunt passed away in a drowning last month at 40. Her boyfriend was totally fine … they were on a catamaran (for intermediate- experienced sailors). She’s inexperienced, he has 25+ years experience. They flipped over, he didn’t check to see if she was fine, tried to flip the boat over, found her face down, pulled her 50 ft to shore, didn’t provide chest compressions, remove her life jacket nor her wetsuit… I’m unsure if I should blame him in any way or just accept that it was an accident…
Don’t blame him. You didn’t experience that. He did and it’s not fair for you to decide what should have and could have been done in a situation you couldn’t even imagine being in. It sucks, but don’t blame him.
Unfortunately quite typical for men to drag their girlfriend on activities that they have no experience with and don't provide any training beforehand.
If I followed her narrative correctly, then the driver that died was the one who caused it, two run off the road, Tobee's truck incinerated. As bad as that is that he died, at least it was not an innocent victim in the wrong place at the wrong time - which was effectively Tobee's position. He could well have been having a medical episode which caused it. Very sad nothing could be done to get him out in time.
Agreed. In Therapy, sometimes it’s good for the therapist to interrupt you if they can tell that you actually do need to take a deep breath and acknowledge the core of the issue and other times they realize the patient actually needs to get whatever it is off their chest and let them talk. John is always interrupting and should know that everyone’s situation is different. He seems to have one approach with callers and never deviates.
Odd man out here. No, yep, I agree. I hate it when he does that, but she needs to be. She came on to get help. It kinda just seems like she's on to tell a story she's told so much she has a script. It doesn't even sound like she's listening to him. I feel for her. She is much stronger than I am.
Let her speak. Stop cutting her off and let her talk. He's accusing her of being a robot, but he's actually being the robot and doing what he thinks he should do by cutting Toby off and how he thinks other people should feel. Let her speak and get it out.
I did not like the way John handled this call. He projected a narrative on to her, talked over & almost scolded her for being numb. He could've been far more patient.
It may seem that way but he is trying to counsel a trauma survivor in 20min. Every step me made and constantly interrupting was important to ensure she stops for a second to process. Not bad for the time he had with her.
I was in a head-on. He pulled out to pass. I had 1.4 seconds to react. We were trapped in the vehicle for 30 minutes before they cut us out. I saw my passenger’s bones sticking out, and bleeding. I listened to her moan and call out in pain. She passed away. She was my mother.
I am so sorry you went through that. That must have been horrific for you. I hope that you have found some peace and comfort since then. God bless you 💕
Yes. It has been horrible and terrifying. When my mind flashes back to the sights, sounds, and smells, I practice the “Delony Nope!”, but that doesn’t seem to work very well for the nightmare terrors! Hopefully it will eventually pass.
Get a special candlestick and light a candle whenever you think of this event, and feel grateful for living another day. We have a small candle on the piano after our still-born son. We still light it at times after 20 years.
Well… this was a disappointing episode. You interrupted her so many times and belittled parts of her story that clearly made a huge impact on her. Let her talk…geesh
@@truckingwithtobeeI’m so sorry for what happened and for your experience on this show. Wishing you peace of mind and body as you process and begin your healing journey. ❤
@truckingwithtobee I am very sorry that this ended up being an upsetting experience for you. He did his outro thing that he always does in order to end the call. It is, unfortunately, a radio show where there isn't much time to fully deal with heavy issues. I'm not making excuses for him but I think everyone watching understands and wants the best for you. To me, he seemed like he just wanted you to process what happened and sit in the emotions which can be hard.. Truthfully, you need more than a call on this show to be helpful to you. Please don't let the frustration over this be another thing you feel burdened by, because we all understand that you genuinely need help and want what's best for you as we all can't imagine trying to process something so heavy. I hope you find the support and help you need, sending prayers and kind thoughts to you. Please take care of yourself. All the best ❤
i drive that stretch of road often and there are too many horrible accidents on it. i actually remember hearing about this one on the news but it's so different to actually hear her perspective. my heart breaks for her and everyone involved.
Sometimes I get when John does this, but I think constantly cutting off or stopping the person is off putting. Let them vent, get the story out and then you can pivot but 3-4 times of doing and his tone, was a bit disrespectful. She's clearly still dealing with a lot and wants an outlet, let her say what she needs to.
Regardless of whether she's judging the cop (it's not clear to me that she was, but even if she was, geez give her the space to feel some feelings), it's relevant that his lack of attunement was part of her experience. The people filming, too. Those things are part of the trauma. They're not just little things she's being petty about. It's super jarring when your experience and the behavior of the people around you are so discordant.
If I was a solo bystander to an accident like that I would absolutely be helping the driver who caused the accident last. Not that I’d wish anything bad on him/her, but that’s just the way my brain would process the situation.
@@mf8125 Yes my point was there are 1000 legitimate reasons why no one helped that guy that have nothing to do with her. Or like they mentioned, maybe they tried and couldn’t.
Survivors guilt is real. Been there. PTSD will be creeping in. Get therapy ASAP. Recovery takes a long time. Robot regurgitation is a thing. It keeps it as a story instead of what actually happened to her.
I don't know if anybody else is having the same issue but... The way John talked to this caller was BS! If this would have been your mother or your sister John would you have treated her that way? The amount of times you interrupted her! Not to mention the tone of your voice! I don't know I just did not care for it!
Disagree. She called a show hosted by a counselor talking about survivor's guilt. As a counselor he needs to help her deal with the EMOTIONS of the trauma not the factual details. Being still and letting herself feel the horror is critical to her healing.
He was trying to get her to slow stop reciting the story robotically, her way of dealing up until now and to deal with the guilt she was feeling. She wasn't listening to him until she slowed down.
Nobody's could have saved the other driver. Even if they had pulled him out, he would be in excruciating pain, and in the ICU for years, if he even survived those burns.
I think it is instructive to observe the idiots hanging around taking pictures rather than trying to help. It says a lot about the society we live in today and everyone wanting to carve out their little moment of glory on Social Media. Sorry, Doc, you might not want to hear but it is really dysfuncitional society we live in and it is getting worse, which alienation, and insensitivity. She sounds like a really sensitive and caring human being and that kind of behavior bothers her, so let her talk about it, rather she can change it or not. She has right to rant.
This poor woman has serious PTSD - I hope she can work with a therapist who can offer multiple therapies (talk, EMDR, possibly ketamine, etc.) Poor thing - so sorry for you emotional distress and the loss you have experienced.
My husband was in a car crash with a semi , his little sister and his mom and step dad they hit the semi and hit the side rails and the engine crushed his moms legs , step dad was less injured (driver) husband was behind driver he had his spleen, removed two floating ribs and was told that he if he lives the surgery he’s only gonna live to 30 and right now he is 22 and has kids with me .his sister. She broke her neck and if she wasn’t wearing a seatbelt and she was sleeping and she ended up on the floor, crushed in between the driver and the passenger seats and the back seats , but his sister was airlifted to the next city over and she was in critical condition and we thought we were gonna lose his sister and him the same night but luckily they are still alive. All just cause his step dad wanted to hit a dab pen and it fell on the floor
My fiancés dad passed from a sudden cardiac arrest and she had to do cpr on her own father, that was four years ago now and she still can’t forgive herself :/. Tough
I know this may not help because TV shows make it seem like CPR works more often than it does, but she really did everything right! Most of the time, there's nothing we could do even though we are doing everything for them. As someone who used to work in law enforcement, dealing with life & death, I hope she knows that she did everything right by doing CPR on her own Dad! She is beyond brave for having the wherewithal & fortitude to jump into action for her own dad. My heart goes out to her, I hope that she realizes just how amazing she is!
He's giving her the advice she needs, but many are not likely to heed. Many people are not habituated to process pain...slowly. But she HAS to do this to [begin] purging this experience from her soul. I pray her husband joins her in the writing exercise as well. There's a shared trauma here he has to acknowledge and process for her/his/their sake as well.
This hit me in the gotchas. I'm an OTR driver, only got to drive one yr. Been back home because the hubby's health was worsening and I just couldn't throw him under the bus. I've driven that route and it, and so many other routes like it, can be utterly treacherous. I narrowly escaped going thru our truck's windshield on Donner Pass, my codriver was finishing up his shift but he had to lock up the brakes with everything he had to avoid hitting a terrible 18 wheeler wreck that had totally blocked the road... on a downslope. Our trailer almost jackknifed. I was coming down the ladder but lost my grip and went airborne off that ladder. All we could smell afterwards was the smoke from burning tire rubber. It's amazing how fast 80k lbs can move when you're praying for a couple more seconds of braking time to avoid the wreck and not go off the cliff. I also had someone pull a gun on me at a stoplight because they were drunk and pissed off. But the nottom line was that we survived. Maybe telling this tale will help the next driver slow down and think twice before driving so recklessly. Extra important what with new drivers with lots to learn. Bless your heart. You will find peace.
He’s doing that on purpose to STOP her from continuing to replay the trauma. Do you see how he keeps asking “ are you with me?” Or “sit with me?” He’s trying to get her to stay present and not get back on the replay of the accident. Delony knows what he is going. To the average person listening him interrupting may seem rude but there’s a greater purpose for it!
Seriously!!! She is rambling and needs to slow down and breathe. He’s the professional let him do his job and you stay in your lane. Ok? He’s got a handle on this.
He is having her slow down her roll. She is speed talking and speeding through the all the various events that happened. She needs to do more introspection.
@@Thesussysuscat the biggest advice I can give you from somebody that thought the same way every single morning that I left is always always always make sure that seatbelt is on as much as the seatbelt hurt me in the crash. It still saved my life because of the sheer force of this crash. I would’ve literally been thrown out the window had I not had my seatbelt on. Now when I speak to people and I tell them my story I always emphasize to make sure that seatbelt is on! I always knew that the highway that I drive on was more dangerous than others. We all know that these types of accidents can happen anywhere at any time but on this particular US 93 referred to as “blood Alley” every day when I was on that stretch of road, I would be vigilant watching every single thing that was going on watching cars and even other truck drivers going well over 80 miles an hour. everything was going good that morning. It was a beautiful day. I was enjoying the scenery and every day that I left the yard my husband would always give me a kiss and tell me to be careful. I would always almost get irritated when he said that to me and would tell him, I am careful! But now moving forward, I will never let something like that irritate me again because that may have been the last time that I saw him and he saw me. I didn’t have any time to do anything that day. All I could do is brace myself hold onto the steering wheel as tight as I could, and literally close my eyes when the impact happened. The next thing I knew. My truck was at a complete stop like I said in the video, I could hear the man. It also dawned upon me that my truck wasn’t running. We both know how loud those semis are. My glasses had been knocked off my face so of course my vision wasn’t the greatest at that point, but I didn’t even realize it. I was looking around trying to assess my situation at the same time that I couldn’t breathe, I was trying to catch my breath. There were 1 million things going through my head at that point I was even thinking to myself. I wonder if we can fix our truck. I didn’t know how bad it was outside,there was smoke a little bit to the right of my window. It still wasn’t enough to get me out of the truck, I didn’t realize how incredibly close I was to burning up at that point . So the point of my story is. You hug your kids and wife you tell them you love them every single time you leave for work. It doesn’t hurt to say a prayer every time you get on that road you’re doing the best that you can you’re supporting your family the best that you know how don’t think of the bad things that can happen because like I found out the hard way we can’t control any of that if it’s gonna happen it’s gonna happen. Accidents happen every second of the day even if you’re being so careful you’re sitting at your desk in an office that things can happen as we saw on 9/11. So as a truck driver, you can’t go with that mentality every day thinking something bad will happen, I know so many truck drivers that have driven for 25 or 30 years and never been in so much as a fender bender. I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. God had other plans for me. Be safe out there. Make sure to wear your seatbelt! God bless you.
I just got chills. Baby you cant blame yourself. What could you have done? Nothing. God saved you, this happened for a reason. Please Please Please Don't forget to love yourself and understands god has a plan. I'm so so sorry.
Wow this one hits home I’m a truck driver as well last month I was going to work. I was on the 215 freeway 2 lane highway 3am in my personal vehicle and a car was parked in the number 1 lane no hazard lights no running lights and if anyone knows that freeway in Cali by San Bernardino knows it’s really dark area by the time I seen the car I swerved and ended up rolling and everything turned into slow motion sparks everywhere while I’m sliding upside down finally my car stoped and I ended up on the right shoulder my adrenaline kicked in my window was busted I took off my seatbelt some bystanders let me use there phone and next thing you know the bystander says oh another one I hear screeching the car I hit another car hit that one and ended up 10 feet from my car. Everyone was fine and I only got a broken foot but I’m scared to drive now and I can still smell that burning smell. Prayers to all in this video that’s traumatic.
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Almost this exact situation happened to my father almost 40 years ago. He never got over it and has a crippling fear of fire. I hope she finds peace one day
She should do EMDR. I drove up to the scene of a double fatality accident and knew one of the drivers. I started therapy right away and did EMDR. It has changed my life. ❤ hope you find peace and healing, trauma is a beast.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. 😢.
Breaks my heart for everyone involved 😢
Listening to a man burn to death screaming has to be the hardest thing to live with, and then to realize that man could have saved the other man and it would have been you burning to death.
I’ve heard it on a 911 call and can’t forget it. Nothing more horrific besides listening to someone succumb to rising water and drowning. We don’t wish such things on our worst enemies.
Overdramatic
@@John-c3z2p weird comments on this channel there bud. someone’s bored
Nope we have found out that there was absolutely no way to save that man because the fire was completely around him.
I hope the Woman truck driver reads this!
You are alive because ALMIGHTY GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE!
Best thing is to get SPIRITUAL COUNSELING by a Christian who can pray with you, and for you.
“””THE LORD GOD LOVES YOU-Turn to HIM”””
📖PSALM 121:1-2
Shawn Ryan, former navy seal and CIA targeter, is a massive proponent for therapy. He will be the first person to tell you therapy saves souls. Don’t power through trauma. Please get help. Whoever you are and whatever you are going through remember that even the strongest among us needs help. Don’t be ashamed.
End the stigma of mental health help being a weakness. It takes a very strong person to admit they are hurting and need help.
Geez, I may have actually seen this. Never knew what happened exactly though. Scary stuff I hope the best for all parties involved in their time of healing
She knows it's not her fault mentally, but not emotionally.
Thank you doctor
@@marjbiehler7628 nope not at all what I think. I have zero guilt not even emotionally. My truck never left my lane. My question of course is how did I survive that incredibly violent crash. I’m mad that I’m not able to sit down with that man and ask him WHY was he driving like that?!
Survivor's guilt.
@@truckingwithtobeehey if this is the real tobee from the story, I feel like I gotta apologize for Dr. John, he kept interrupting you when you wanted to tell your story. He fumbled in that aspect. I personally feel that if someone is sharing a traumatic story with you, your job is to listen, not tell them to HOLD ON HOLD ON HOLD ON, you know? I hope you're doing well now.
@@SomethingInTheGround yes this is the “real” Tobee. Thank u for your comment.
I used to be a paramedic. The sounds of a dying person are something she wont ever forget. Screams, snores or silence.... it all haunts you. I feel terribly for her. I chose to carry it. She didnt.
Thank you for your service. I commend all first response personal. You are important and should be acknowledged more often
Thank you for carrying this for us, too. I couldn’t. I don’t have that strength.
Snores. I heard my sister passing in her sleep and I had no idea. I'll never forget that sound.
Any form of snoring bothers me 19 years later...even though the sound is distinctly different from what I heard at 15 years old around 1 AM.
My best friend is a paramedic and an er nurse just because she loves the madness and is passionate about it. I salute her so much, such a respectful role, thank you for your services!
If someone is trying to pass you, PLEASE slow down and let them pass….it’s not a race.
or dont pass like an idiot. if u have dont balls or knowledge to do it. dont do it
Exactly!!!!!
Or..don't try to pass at all when there is that many other cars around you.
Amen 🙏
@sc00b3rt Or don't pass when there are no passing lanes.
Some drivers just can't psychologically deal with there being any vehicles in front of them. Always trying to get to the non-existent front of the line. And, then, when something bad happens, they start making excuses for each other and blaming everyone but the thrill-seekers. The guy being passed was in "a race," but the guy passing in the on-coming traffic lane wasn't?!
I can understand her anger that people were too busy “filming” to actually help. Spectator syndrome is a terror that makes victims helpless even when surrounded by a crowd.
I wonder too if no one could help due to the flames and fire...?
It was very frustrating that he wouldn't acknowledge that this and the robotic cop were part of the trauma. Not just some petty things she's hung up on.
@@mindianaj0nesI 💯 agree with you. It irritated me when he told me that.
@@truckingwithtobee Oh my gosh, it's honestly a relief to hear from you. I wondered how you were after this call. I felt so uneasy after watching this video because I did not like how he treated you. I was hoping I was just projecting and that maybe you experienced the call differently, but I see from your comments that you felt the same way. I'm sorry that's the case, but I certainly understand why you feel that way. For what it's worth, I wanted you to be able to speak and share your story. He interrupted at some critical moments, like when you said your daughter was on the phone with you at the time of the accident. It seemed he was rushing to fit your experience into the narrative he wanted to deal with - a gross thing to do to anyone, especially someone who's been through what you've been through. Thank you for the comments you're posting. Sending my support through the wires!
@@mindianaj0nes Your comment means a lot. There are so many nasty comments. I just now sent an email to Dr. John’s producer and ask that they remove my episode. Some person even insinuated that I was lying and making up this story. Another person disclosed the name of the gentleman that passed away.
This poor woman is so traumatized, and I think it's more that she HEARD a man burn to death, and not that she survived and he didn't. She needs counseling very bad, and doesn't realize it.
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I’m getting counseling 🥰
@@truckingwithtobeeI’m sorry that happened to you
@@bettysmith4527 I think she realizes, but is afraid of what is underneath all the “robotic recitations” as Dr. DeLony called them. Looking inside is soooo….scary.
@@truckingwithtobeeprayers n blessings to you. You are 💯 right in. Of taking prescription drugs from these legal drug dealers. Stay strong n do it the right way over time. Glad you made it it
As a truck driver of 25 years and counting, the thought of this stuff happening scares the crap out of me. I'm only 3 minutes into the video and I'm tearing up. I just want to give her a big hug.
I decided to get my CDL two years ago to help our business so we didn’t have to hire a driver. I was doing everything like I was supposed to that day and it still happened . I appreciate you listening to my episode and for taking the time to comment it means more to me than you know.❤ as you can tell from this episode, I’m still trying to mentally get over this. I still have lots of injuries that I’m trying to overcome as well.
*Guy who saved her life’s last name is martinez* john - “say gracias amigo”
She has PTSD, not just from the accident but hearing the other guy burn alive. It's horrendous and will haunt her forever. She needs professional help or this can develop into serious depression.
she can sleep well at night. his fault = his burn
@@supernotnaturalyeah, logic always wins over feelings…🤡
What I hear when she talks is that it seems she hasn't fully processed this and is very traumatized. She hasn't sat with it long enough yet and released all of it. I think once she releases it and completely comes "undone" with it all, is when healing will begin.
Oh good grief! Let this girl tell her story!
Tobee sounds like she may have PTSD, the way she’s having a difficult time discussing with little emotion, sounds like disassociating from this horrific incident. I hope that she’s working with a good trauma therapist. I don’t know that she’ll ever “get over it” but it’s my hope that she can heal, and feel safe again.
I’m really sorry this happened, and someone lost their life in this tragic accident. But yours was spared by a man that cared enough to help you. Thank God for him! I hope and pray for your continued healing and recovery. Keep shining!
What do you mean I wasn’t talking with any emotion in the beginning of course I was telling the story but the middle and the ending. I was actually crying. You need to listen a little bit closer. I was very much showing emotion.
Dear John. (LOL) you do some HEAVY You Tube shows
She mentions being a business owner and a truck driver. She is used to being in control of things. She's used to wearing many different hats and expecting others to do everything she does or at least know what to do.
This situation was completely out of her control and she doesn't know how to cope with it.
Excellent incite.
However, she can find PEACE and find a Christian Woman who will counsel her, and pray for her.🙏
@@FLIPPER1439 I AM a Christian woman.💕
@@truckingwithtobeeshe is saying you need community with other Christian women who will listen and pray with you.
As a daughter of a truck driver and a wife of a truck driver … my heart is breaking . 😔😔😔
Dang you’re a part of a dynasty
Her mind is going a million miles per hour. 💔
This brought me to tears.
My son’s climbing friend fell to his death 44 hours ago. I believe it took a few hours to get the other climber down. I can’t imagine the trauma for the surviving climber. RIP Stewart. You left your friends far soon. (21 years young)
RIP
wow the one from the devils tower? i saw that story earlier. so sorry for your loss.
play stupid games and win stupid prices.
@@supernotnatural 🤦🏻♀️ you sound like a really fun, nice guy. Have fun being angry while living in your bubble of safety. What a sad way to live.
@@supernotnaturalAre you Autistic or something? 🫣
His responses are actually so incredibly tone deaf on every level… hardest watch ever. I don’t understand why they even thought this was a good idea to post, my heart goes out to the caller
Less than a month before I started 2nd grade I was in a fatal accident. My grandmother made a left turn through a red light and collided with another vehicle. This was in 1968. No seat belts. My grandmother was thrown from the car and never woke up. I was in my cousins child protection seat and only got a bruised arm. I'm now in my 60's and still remember this event like it was yesterday. As an adult I looked up the newspaper article which confirmed many of my memories. I'm still impacted by what happened to me. I hope the caller gets the right type of therapy and can process what happened to her.
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Wow that's something it gives a new look on things for me ❤
I'm so so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤
I am so sorry you are still impacted by this tragic accident that took your grandmother. Condolences on her loss.
Dr.john Delony seriously screwed this situation up horribly n it shocked me bcuz Dr.john usually says the best intelligent things but in this particular situation he misjudged by telling this girl to write Martinez who saved her life a letter n this girl told Dr.john she already thanked Martinez face to face n Dr.john told her that her way wasn't good enough instead she needs to write him a letter n instead Dr.john could have told her to do both bcuz a letter definitely is not better than a face to face in person thank you plus thru the entire phone call Dr.john kept cutting her off that was disrespectful to her n he kept telling her to calm down instead of realizing anyone wud talk a little faster if their upset plus Dr.john instantly told this girl its not the cops fault for anything when this girl said the cop was cold telling her to not worry. about the older man who was dying screaming for his life but the cop acted casual n relaxed about how horrible the man yelled for help n this is bcuz Dr.john's father was a cop or detective plus Dr.john is also friends with alot of cops too n Dr.john got highly offended when she said the cop was cold hearted n acted as if she shouldn't be bothered to even worry or care at all for the man yelling all bcuz Dr.Dr.john loves n highly admires cops the entire law enforcement bcuz his own father was in law enforcement yet cops suck their liars very corrupt even child molesters too n total scumbags too n Dr.john acted like this girl wasn't being compassionate just bcuz she was talking excitable which is normal to act this way n Dr.john did not have none zero compassion towards this woman n even worse Dr.john proved he's absolutely running low on ideas of what to say to people n he kept repeating himself n correcting this girl n Dr.john was acting ridiculous he kept saying unnecessary things like I love you toby n slow down n literally dumb crap so Dr.john needs a break to come up with more loving suitable things to say n Dr.john truthfully made sure he protected cops saying lets not blame the cop the law enforcement bcuz the cop didn't do anything wrong but the cop positively did alot wrong the way the cop talked to toby n ignored the man dying was screaming for his life so this is the first time Dr.john handled this situation like an amateur he said dumb crap n said things that stupid people would say he totally was disappointing in this situation n he needs help waking up his mind n I know he's human but he still is expected to be more accountable so this time it sucked how he handled this woman it was terrible n unprofessional.
Hmm. "He shows his love in other ways." I've always been conflicted by this proclamation. Maybe she believes that n is actually ok with it but I've never met someone who didn't long to ne loved in the way they actually want. This is often an excuse people give yo justify in their own minds n also to others ( though of course they dont need to) why they are still with someone. You usually only hear it when they are divorced. I could understand her not saying much at this point especially when John made the recommendations.of what she should ask her husband to do. I'm not aure that's even the right course of action depending on the husbands personality n limitations n facing rejection from her husband and learning that he wouldn't do this even for her is maybe not something she should have to deal with right now. I completely agree with her decision not to take drugs prescribed by psychiatrist. What a sham occupation. Smart woman n dont think for a second they would proactively warn her that' she could be sued even if she jas a prescription and is ever the cause of an accident herself no matter how responsible or not she actually is for the accident. They call them accidents for a reason. Not every terrible accident involves risk taking n impatience like the accident the man caused.
It's clear that this woman has to keep talking as a way to not sit and think about and internalize the horrible tragedy that happened.
I remember seeing this on the news. Prayers to her and the other driver
This is a huge fear of mine. A car pulled out in front of me a few weeks back and I swerved to miss them and almost rolled my truck with a heavy load. I had to pull over to catch my breath bc I knew that person almost died in a split second. It hits harder the older I get. I'm glad the caller is back out there and has a new truck. Definitely a tough lady, but bypassing grief is not healthy. My heart goes out to her. ❤️ 🚚
I hope she gets real help! Drugs just dull, never heal emotional trauma.
@HorseLady1109 Any kind of medication that breaks the blpod/brain barrier makes my brain not function right. Even just allergy medication gives me high anxiety and makes me agitated and depressed. I hope she can handle medication better than me, but its always the last resort.
@@aftersolo It should be, but it didn’t sound like it in this case.
@HorseLady1109 Sadly, medication seems to be the first thing doctors try anymore and everything is considered "alternative." Makes it sound inferior.
@@aftersoloclaritin?
What a horror for this woman n if course the man. Kudos to the bero guy. I have to say I really don't like the way John handled this call. I do recognize and appreciate him trying and it's certainly a difficult call. I felt he cut her off far too many times to take control of the call unnecessarily. Let her speak how she wants. I did not think she was speaking too fast. Just the way most aware people are that there is very limited time. He likes to say "Sit with me sit with me don't run off into... But he is not her long term therapist that she will be seeing next week. It's perfectly normal n understandable that as she is speaking she would mention the cop being like a robot even after hearing what happened to the other driver n the number of people filming with only one person helping. Sure shes grateful to that one person but you can't help but notice that dicotomy. Sure in the future that should be the part she most focused on but she is not a robot n ok if she gives voice even a little bit about ber dispapointme t in hee fellow man n humanity in general. We all see it n love stories of people doing a great thing partly bc we need to hear it since it's helps offset our disbelief n upset regarding the masses. I would find it very difficult to speak with someone controlling or consistently interrupting. She wants to know what to do to get over this I guess n there are no easy answers but certainly time n the ability to talk with others about it however she chooses is a step in the right direction.
Semi’s passing is a very bad decision. So sorry he paid with his life.
One of my dearest friend’s son was visiting me and my daughter from Austria. He was like my own son and I loved him dearly too. He died in a car wreck between my house and my daughter’s. The details of everything is horrible and so hard. There was no way around survivors guilt. Why did her son die while visiting me and my is fine. The grief and the guilt was so hard. There was no way around it. It hits you even though your mind knows you have no part of what happened. It took 10 years before the residue of the guilt was gone. He was an amazing beautiful human being and was only 27. He blessed all those in his life. I was the last one to hug him and our last conversation was how important God is in our lives. You can’t go around the guilt. It just is and you just have to go through it like grief.
I'm so very sorry. What a terrible tragedy for all that loved him. My condolences 🙏 😢
I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤
I'm so sorry.😢 My condolences and prayers for you.💓🙏💓
Thank you for your caring. I am doing well now. I will alway miss him, but who he was has brought so much good to my perception of the world, I am so much better for him in my life and he has left me many good memories and life. None of which I would have had if I had tried to bypass grief or the natural survivors guilt; or remain stuck in grief and guilt. I am so thankful to have done through it and made it to the other side.
This is heartbreaking. I wish he let her speak more instead of interrupting. 😢
She needed to just tell her story. I wish she wasn’t interrupted so much. If this woman is reading this please seek professional help for the trauma you endured. I am sorry if Dr. John didn’t help you on this call. Sending my love to you ❤️🩹
I was hit head on by a drunk driver on a freeway. I expected to die and just prayed to God and said “please God, not now” 4 times (I had dogs alone and they only had me). Cars were totaled and flipped , spun and all the stuff that goes with head on collisions. I felt warm ‘arms’ wrap around my body and had no fear… everything was in slow motion. The drunk driver died in hospital and I walked away without a scratch (not. A. Scratch). I heard him alive after the accident and was devastated when I learned he died… nothing like this accident, but the PTSD stayed with me for the longest time (even though I was so happy to be alive). Her experience is so much worse and she is so used to being tough… she needs someone to listen to her and comfort her and I don’t think she is getting that. She needs someone to understand what she is going through. I feel like Doc John really cut her off a lot and this is too serious to be cut off…
Also sadly, many many Truck drivers are pushed relentlessly by heartless companies that are clocking every second and every movement they make. Many encourage cheating on their log books but will deny if that overly stressed driver is involved in an accident. It’s a pretty hazardous very stressful and many times very physically and mentally demanding and taxing…hard to be healthy with that kind of stress and the lifestyle it promotes is pretty sad..
Same thing Amazon does with their DSP drivers. There’s official rules in the book but we are told to cut corners and do things that are unsafe then when something happens they make it seem like the driver just wasn’t following the rules. lol smh
It's not just truck drivers unfortunately. But truck drivers and companies know that their days are numbered and within a decade, will be replaced by self-driving trucks (Walmart and Amazon already have almost 100). Sadly, it's a symptom. The disease is late stage capitalism (that,s when people serve capitalism instead of capitalism serving people). Doesn't change this lady's suffering and probably her entire family. Her kid(s) probably need therapy as well. It's sad and they probably can't afford it in this financial mess. Society is sick.
@@ElimEx1 AGREED… Capitalism should be renamed Cannibalism.. I’ve gone so far as to reword the Nat’l Anthem in part to, “Ohh the land of the GREEED… and the home… of the.. SLAVE..”
“ WAKE UP YOU SLEEPERS!!!!”
@@YcMdattGUY I worked for UPS… same thing they did. One of their computer employees told his wife that the guys in his department think that management purposely tries to push these guys to the breaking point, actually trying to kill some of them. I have family members that work on Trains.. they do the same things to them..
I hated that he didn't really let her talk :/
John is annoying me in this call
I don’t like the way he interrupts people
Me too, me too. I didn’t want this episode to air because I was actually embarrassed by the way he was making me feel like an idiot. I’m the caller.
@@truckingwithtobeeI am so sorry you went through this!! I was so pissed John kept interrupting you; I feel like you just needed to get it out! My heart goes out for you and I pray you find some peace. 🙏🏻
I'm so sorry that this happened to you and that you felt stupid during the call. My heart truly went out to you, and I felt your anxiety. I hope that you and your family are doing okay. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I watched the call twice, and I heard a brave woman facing a horrible tradigy. @truckingwithtobee
I’ll pray for you. I hope you can find peace and strength to get through this ❤️
I am crying just listing to this story. Toby, I hope you find peace
Me too. 😭 This is so sad and she is so traumatized. I hope she gets a good therapist and can work through this.
Such great advice, Dr. Delony! The only thing that helped me get through survivor's guilt was deciding the best thing I could do to honor my friend who lost her battle to cancer at the same time I survived mine was to continue helping those I can and building a life of purpose and live each day cherishing my loved ones. My heart breaks for this lady. Truly a tragedy that she had no control over. Wishing her the best and inner peace soon.
This is exactly how I “process” things- squirrel brain constant avoidance and endless analyzing and rehashing but still trying to magically emotionally avoid it. ❤
Same here ❤❤
Me too, I think it's a type of processing of trying to accept each little piece of it. Takes a while though.
I don't think there was much point in talking to Tobee, she is completely stuck in fight or flight, obviously not her fault. A trauma specialist should be #1 on the agenda, after that maybe reenter the scene and its aftermath (writing letters), although I understand why Dr. John did try it.
She wanted a space to let it all out but he didn't give her one.
That's how it felt to me too. I hope it didn't feel that way to her.
My thoughts exactly. The constant interruptions of this woman bravely sharing her story was painful to listen to. I'm not sure that judging her on the details she remembered & was choosing to share was at all helpful or insightful. These details were part of her story - they were clearly contributing to her misery & preventing her from healing. Rather than cutting her off, the proper thing to do would be to let her share whatever she needs to & help her work through those painful memories. It felt so invalidating & rude. Those details might not matter to him, but they mattered to HER. I think this call was far beyond his scope. Very uncomfortable listen, totally missed the mark on this call.
@@lelalulynI AGREE 💯. I’m the caller.
@@mindianaj0nesplease see statement below😊
@@truckingwithtobeeI'm so sorry that the help you sought wasn't there for you in this call. I hope you're doing better now. ❤️
Did she say she was married at 16?
US 93 from phoenix to las Vegas is such a dangerous road, im glad she made it out ok.
When she told the road, that was my first thought.
I am sorry she was in this.
Survivors guilt
My heart breaks for her.
NGL Dr. John pissed me smooth off because he wouldn't shut up for 2 seconds when the girl was getting to her points of trauma. Literally telling her HOLD ON HOLD ON HOLD ON!! Ist helping AT ALL. When someone is laying out what traumatized them, you shut up and listen. Its about them not some weird analogy you want to spit at them. AFTER they are done talking, then you give a compassionate response. Try your best to not do this again. NEVER interrupt a traumatized person in the middle of sharing their trauma with you.
John shut up and let the poor girl talk!
I am absolutely bawling my eyes out listening to her. I'm so sorry I am so so sorry this happened to you. I can only imagine how terrifying that was and how that fear is haunting you. I am so grateful you survived so grateful.
Thank you
@@truckingwithtobee ❤️❤️❤️
Aww man Tobee. Massive hugs. I'm crying for you. Prayers you for you.
Yes
Almighty God has a plan for her life.
She needs Spiritual Counsel~~find a Christian woman who will pray for her, and with her.
people stand and watch and film rather than help and nothing irritated me more than that…. i hate the bystander effect so much
Not everyone standing by knows what to do or feels they can help, especially in something as horrific as this. I agree with helping absolutely, if you CAN.
What a load to bear-she narrowly missed a horrible death but she heard someone else dying like that and then the financial devastation
Dark pun 😂💀
Having survived a crash with a semi, like her, I grieve with her. Survivor guilt is real and vicious and i really wish I could sit down and talk with her survivor to survivor.
Please see a therapist trained in EMDR. This event needs to be processed before it develops into PTSD.
@@crazeekids9744 I think it already has.. I’m sure of it.
@@Kathy-qu8zjthanks Dr TH-camr.
This is incredibly disrespectful to people with ptsd and you should be ashamed. That treatment is pseudoscience. There is no “do this thing bfore it turns into ptsd” if someone suffers a traumatic event, that ship is sailed. Your attitude is exactly what prevents people from getting the help they need.
@@Peanutbutta-ct4vn my statement wasn’t toward people that have PTSD or trying to shame them in any way. It was about helping this caller. And I would venture to guess that most people who have PTSD would prefer not to have it and the suffering that goes with it, and would have appreciated being offered something that could have helped them experience less pain. When traumatic events are new (less than 6 months) there is a window to step in and help someone process the trauma before it becomes more engrained into their nervous system.
Also, not everyone who experienced trauma develops PTSD. There are specific criteria that go with that diagnosis.
EMDR is not “pseudoscience “
There is actually quite a large body of research supporting it’s effectiveness.
Hello! MD here- numerous randomized controlled trials and meta-analyses have demonstrated efficacy of eye movement reprocessing and densensitization therapy. Do we know why it works? No. Is it effective against placebo at reducing symptoms of PTSD? Yes. Also, EMDR and cognitive behavioral therapy with a trauma focus has shown benefit in preventing development of PTSD in those with acute stress disorder.
Also, please stop diagnosing people on the internet with medical problems. You have absolutely no clue if she has PTSD. Neither do I. Stop it.
Sorry John. This was your worst call yet. You literally asked her, “what happened,” and then cut her off and criticized her for the details she continued to give. It had to have been very confusing for her. She wanted to tell you how she was processing all of this by listing all the details. You should’ve listened to everything she wanted to say, and then told her the ruminating component is not healthy for her. As you say, it could’ve been “both and.” The call could’ve been handled better IMO. Nonetheless, still a fan.
Did not a single one of you saying this actually hear her voice, tone and inflection? I’m sorry, but you all are dead wrong. He did a good job in a very short time with a severly traumatized woman.
I agree. It was pretty rude. Talking over her. I'm so sry for the heartache and guilt that you place on yourself. I heard my boyfriends last breaths not knowing that he was dying. i literally walked to kitchen for a snack when I heard what I thought was snoring loudly and making funny noises and faces . I was sadly mistaken and thought oh wait til I see him tomorrow and tell him how funny he sounded and ask what kind of dreams were you having . But I never got this chance because that snoring is what I know now to be the death rattle. Had I known this he may still be here today but instead I am still grieving him and what ifs. Sucks! 😢
Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Tobee.
Thank you❤
My older brother died at age 22 from a head injury from a pretty bad incident. While I wasn’t there physically, turning 23 some year back started giving me some sort of survivor’s guilt. Questions like, “He’s the eldest, he should be here getting older with us. Why am I the older one now? I shouldn’t be. Why him?” I’m 27 now, and I still miss him. I’ll miss the older brother advice he would’ve had. Especially when it comes to dealing with mom. 🤣 I spoke with my mom about my feelings, and she told me she had the same questions like “Why him and not me?” Her advice was to just live how they would’ve wanted you to. Keep them alive in memory.
This lady has CPTSD… I know what that’s like, I was in an auto accident too. She has actual brain damage from this experience which will make her hyper vigilant and more likely ( imo) to be in another accident.. possibly her fault next time. She should absolutely NOT be getting back in a semi truck. Brain trauma of this nature can and should be treated and she also should be compensated as with any other injury. I feel for her so deeply..
She has PTSD. CPTSD developed after long periods of sustained trauma and abuse.
@@crazeekids9744 OK
No, it is not post traumatic stress disorder, complex in nature… that is reserved for REPEATED traumatic events, over a long period of time, as stated above.
CPTSD is “small t” trauma, sustained over long periods of time. (being told “be quiet”, “stop being so loud” as a kid from ages 6-10. not huge by itself, but over time, aggregates to big behavioral changes, or self beliefs)
“big t” Trauma (PTSD) is one very traumatizing event (or many huge traumatizing events over a period of time)
@@louisvuitton1859 let’s not minimize the CPTSD. CPTSD is being assaulted and impregnated on Monday, nose busted off face on Tuesday, chased off the road on wed, spat on face on thurs, strangled until wet on friday, walls and doors broken on Sat, leg broken on Sunday. Repeat until the law finally decides to not allow bail, while society tells you, you deserved it and enjoy being abused, stalked and terrorized… now THATS CPTSD! Don’t minimize the diagnosis. When someone gets a criminal diagnosis of CPTSD… that’s means TERRORIZED!!
Damn. You need to enter robot mode just to watch this video.
I cried the whole video long... sending this lady and her family many prayers...you deserve your place on earth toby you survived a heck of a terrifying ordeal but you are just as worthy of everything as you were one second before your life changed..go get everything you wish for ...all the best
My aunt passed away in a drowning last month at 40. Her boyfriend was totally fine … they were on a catamaran (for intermediate- experienced sailors). She’s inexperienced, he has 25+ years experience. They flipped over, he didn’t check to see if she was fine, tried to flip the boat over, found her face down, pulled her 50 ft to shore, didn’t provide chest compressions, remove her life jacket nor her wetsuit… I’m unsure if I should blame him in any way or just accept that it was an accident…
Don’t blame him. You didn’t experience that. He did and it’s not fair for you to decide what should have and could have been done in a situation you couldn’t even imagine being in. It sucks, but don’t blame him.
Unfortunately quite typical for men to drag their girlfriend on activities that they have no experience with and don't provide any training beforehand.
How about both and as John likes to say
@@susanlovesjava4961 you have issues.
If I followed her narrative correctly, then the driver that died was the one who caused it, two run off the road, Tobee's truck incinerated. As bad as that is that he died, at least it was not an innocent victim in the wrong place at the wrong time - which was effectively Tobee's position. He could well have been having a medical episode which caused it. Very sad nothing could be done to get him out in time.
Survivor's guilt is hell
John stop interrupting
It was so cringey to watch him silence her over and over.
He pisses me off to no end when he does this! Let her talk and get it out !!
Agreed. In Therapy, sometimes it’s good for the therapist to interrupt you if they can tell that you actually do need to take a deep breath and acknowledge the core of the issue and other times they realize the patient actually needs to get whatever it is off their chest and let them talk. John is always interrupting and should know that everyone’s situation is different. He seems to have one approach with callers and never deviates.
Odd man out here. No, yep, I agree. I hate it when he does that, but she needs to be. She came on to get help. It kinda just seems like she's on to tell a story she's told so much she has a script. It doesn't even sound like she's listening to him. I feel for her. She is much stronger than I am.
Let her speak. Stop cutting her off and let her talk. He's accusing her of being a robot, but he's actually being the robot and doing what he thinks he should do by cutting Toby off and how he thinks other people should feel. Let her speak and get it out.
Thank you ! Exactly !!
I did not like the way John handled this call. He projected a narrative on to her, talked over & almost scolded her for being numb. He could've been far more patient.
100%
I agree
Agree… What did he expect? She needed to share the story and what happened. Of course she is going to rush a little bit..
It may seem that way but he is trying to counsel a trauma survivor in 20min. Every step me made and constantly interrupting was important to ensure she stops for a second to process. Not bad for the time he had with her.
John: What happened?
This lady: So anyways I-
John: Stop stop stop you’re talking again
I was in a head-on. He pulled out to pass. I had 1.4 seconds to react. We were trapped in the vehicle for 30 minutes before they cut us out. I saw my passenger’s bones sticking out, and bleeding. I listened to her moan and call out in pain. She passed away. She was my mother.
I am so sorry you went through that. That must have been horrific for you. I hope that you have found some peace and comfort since then. God bless you 💕
Okay that was absolutely hard to read… my goodness the description. My condolences to your mama 🩷
That’s terrifying
Yes. It has been horrible and terrifying. When my mind flashes back to the sights, sounds, and smells, I practice the “Delony Nope!”, but that doesn’t seem to work very well for the nightmare terrors! Hopefully it will eventually pass.
@@wrjsn231 I’m so sorry. Nobody should EVER experience a trauma like that.
Get a special candlestick and light a candle whenever you think of this event, and feel grateful for living another day.
We have a small candle on the piano after our still-born son. We still light it at times after 20 years.
I am waiting for the book ‘6 seconds away’ Writing a book heals a lot 🙏
As a wife who almost lost her husband, it is vital that he takes the time to heal as well. The trauma hits just as much but in different ways.
Well… this was a disappointing episode. You interrupted her so many times and belittled parts of her story that clearly made a huge impact on her. Let her talk…geesh
I think John would turn to dust and fly away, if he had to go 5 consecutive minutes without interrupting one of his callers
It was particularly frustrating in this episode.
@@truckingwithtobeeI’m so sorry. He was very disrespectful all throughout this call.
@@truckingwithtobeeI’m so sorry for what happened and for your experience on this show. Wishing you peace of mind and body as you process and begin your healing journey. ❤
@@sadiemarbee7273 TY
@truckingwithtobee
I am very sorry that this ended up being an upsetting experience for you.
He did his outro thing that he always does in order to end the call. It is, unfortunately, a radio show where there isn't much time to fully deal with heavy issues. I'm not making excuses for him but I think everyone watching understands and wants the best for you. To me, he seemed like he just wanted you to process what happened and sit in the emotions which can be hard.. Truthfully, you need more than a call on this show to be helpful to you. Please don't let the frustration over this be another thing you feel burdened by, because we all understand that you genuinely need help and want what's best for you as we all can't imagine trying to process something so heavy. I hope you find the support and help you need, sending prayers and kind thoughts to you. Please take care of yourself. All the best ❤
i drive that stretch of road often and there are too many horrible accidents on it. i actually remember hearing about this one on the news but it's so different to actually hear her perspective. my heart breaks for her and everyone involved.
An Over trained therapist
Sometimes I get when John does this, but I think constantly cutting off or stopping the person is off putting. Let them vent, get the story out and then you can pivot but 3-4 times of doing and his tone, was a bit disrespectful. She's clearly still dealing with a lot and wants an outlet, let her say what she needs to.
Yes thank you !! I was thinking like hey man let her vent maybe she needs it. Let her say what she hasn’t been able to. Damn
Why? So she can have a panic attack on the phone? After repeating the same script that sends her into trauma? John HAS to get her to slow down
Regardless of whether she's judging the cop (it's not clear to me that she was, but even if she was, geez give her the space to feel some feelings), it's relevant that his lack of attunement was part of her experience. The people filming, too. Those things are part of the trauma. They're not just little things she's being petty about. It's super jarring when your experience and the behavior of the people around you are so discordant.
If I was a solo bystander to an accident like that I would absolutely be helping the driver who caused the accident last. Not that I’d wish anything bad on him/her, but that’s just the way my brain would process the situation.
Sometimes you don't know
@@mf8125 Yes my point was there are 1000 legitimate reasons why no one helped that guy that have nothing to do with her. Or like they mentioned, maybe they tried and couldn’t.
I cannot imagine getting my phone out to film in a situation like that. I would be immediately looking for how I can help
Survivors guilt is real. Been there. PTSD will be creeping in. Get therapy ASAP. Recovery takes a long time. Robot regurgitation is a thing. It keeps it as a story instead of what actually happened to her.
I don't know if anybody else is having the same issue but... The way John talked to this caller was BS! If this would have been your mother or your sister John would you have treated her that way? The amount of times you interrupted her! Not to mention the tone of your voice! I don't know I just did not care for it!
I think maybe he was just trying to follow the story. I know I was having a hard time because she talked to fast
Why are you here. It’s his method to help gain control of a situation
Same, wrote something similar above. He handled this call terribly, that poor lady.
Disagree. She called a show hosted by a counselor talking about survivor's guilt. As a counselor he needs to help her deal with the EMOTIONS of the trauma not the factual details. Being still and letting herself feel the horror is critical to her healing.
He was trying to get her to slow stop reciting the story robotically, her way of dealing up until now and to deal with the guilt she was feeling. She wasn't listening to him until she slowed down.
Dude let her talk
Nobody's could have saved the other driver. Even if they had pulled him out, he would be in excruciating pain, and in the ICU for years, if he even survived those burns.
John was so f-ing annoying on this call. Just shut up and let her let it out.
I think it is instructive to observe the idiots hanging around taking pictures rather than trying to help. It says a lot about the society we live in today and everyone wanting to carve out their little moment of glory on Social Media. Sorry, Doc, you might not want to hear but it is really dysfuncitional society we live in and it is getting worse, which alienation, and insensitivity. She sounds like a really sensitive and caring human being and that kind of behavior bothers her, so let her talk about it, rather she can change it or not. She has right to rant.
I 💯 agree with you! I walked away from this call with a bitter taste in my mouth.
This poor woman has serious PTSD - I hope she can work with a therapist who can offer multiple therapies (talk, EMDR, possibly ketamine, etc.) Poor thing - so sorry for you emotional distress and the loss you have experienced.
I find John’s interruptions extremely annoying and frustrating in this call.
she needs to see a professional therapist
He's not?
I was thinking the same. @ brandon I'm sure she doesn't see this dude regularly. Therapists you usually have appointments with every so often.
@Brandon-qr6rg Over time, in-person sessions.
I am.
@@Brandon-qr6rgNo, he's not
My husband was in a car crash with a semi , his little sister and his mom and step dad they hit the semi and hit the side rails and the engine crushed his moms legs , step dad was less injured (driver) husband was behind driver he had his spleen, removed two floating ribs and was told that he if he lives the surgery he’s only gonna live to 30 and right now he is 22 and has kids with me .his sister. She broke her neck and if she wasn’t wearing a seatbelt and she was sleeping and she ended up on the floor, crushed in between the driver and the passenger seats and the back seats , but his sister was airlifted to the next city over and she was in critical condition and we thought we were gonna lose his sister and him the same night but luckily they are still alive. All just cause his step dad wanted to hit a dab pen and it fell on the floor
Omg!!!! What??? A dab pen with kiddos in the back? Thank goodness they’re alive!!! 🩷
My fiancés dad passed from a sudden cardiac arrest and she had to do cpr on her own father, that was four years ago now and she still can’t forgive herself :/. Tough
I know this may not help because TV shows make it seem like CPR works more often than it does, but she really did everything right! Most of the time, there's nothing we could do even though we are doing everything for them. As someone who used to work in law enforcement, dealing with life & death, I hope she knows that she did everything right by doing CPR on her own Dad! She is beyond brave for having the wherewithal & fortitude to jump into action for her own dad. My heart goes out to her, I hope that she realizes just how amazing she is!
He's giving her the advice she needs, but many are not likely to heed. Many people are not habituated to process pain...slowly. But she HAS to do this to [begin] purging this experience from her soul. I pray her husband joins her in the writing exercise as well. There's a shared trauma here he has to acknowledge and process for her/his/their sake as well.
This hit me in the gotchas. I'm an OTR driver, only got to drive one yr. Been back home because the hubby's health was worsening and I just couldn't throw him under the bus. I've driven that route and it, and so many other routes like it, can be utterly treacherous. I narrowly escaped going thru our truck's windshield on Donner Pass, my codriver was finishing up his shift but he had to lock up the brakes with everything he had to avoid hitting a terrible 18 wheeler wreck that had totally blocked the road... on a downslope. Our trailer almost jackknifed. I was coming down the ladder but lost my grip and went airborne off that ladder. All we could smell afterwards was the smoke from burning tire rubber. It's amazing how fast 80k lbs can move when you're praying for a couple more seconds of braking time to avoid the wreck and not go off the cliff. I also had someone pull a gun on me at a stoplight because they were drunk and pissed off. But the nottom line was that we survived. Maybe telling this tale will help the next driver slow down and think twice before driving so recklessly. Extra important what with new drivers with lots to learn. Bless your heart. You will find peace.
John stop interrupting the caller. What's your deal man?
He’s doing that on purpose to STOP her from continuing to replay the trauma. Do you see how he keeps asking “ are you with me?” Or “sit with me?” He’s trying to get her to stay present and not get back on the replay of the accident. Delony knows what he is going. To the average person listening him interrupting may seem rude but there’s a greater purpose for it!
Seriously!!! She is rambling and needs to slow down and breathe. He’s the professional let him do his job and you stay in your lane. Ok? He’s got a handle on this.
He is having her slow down her roll. She is speed talking and speeding through the all the various events that happened. She needs to do more introspection.
@@11plus3 Let him do his job? Well, it's not like my comment after the fact STOPPED him during the video. Dumb rabbit!
@@soulserenade.kcn1992 Since when are you a professional to make that assessment? Slow your roll & stay in your lane.
As a semi driver this head on collusion is one of my big fears. Think about it alot when leaving my kids in the morning
Pray for your safety always 🩷
@@Thesussysuscat the biggest advice I can give you from somebody that thought the same way every single morning that I left is always always always make sure that seatbelt is on as much as the seatbelt hurt me in the crash. It still saved my life because of the sheer force of this crash. I would’ve literally been thrown out the window had I not had my seatbelt on. Now when I speak to people and I tell them my story I always emphasize to make sure that seatbelt is on! I always knew that the highway that I drive on was more dangerous than others. We all know that these types of accidents can happen anywhere at any time but on this particular US 93 referred to as “blood Alley” every day when I was on that stretch of road, I would be vigilant watching every single thing that was going on watching cars and even other truck drivers going well over 80 miles an hour. everything was going good that morning. It was a beautiful day. I was enjoying the scenery and every day that I left the yard my husband would always give me a kiss and tell me to be careful. I would always almost get irritated when he said that to me and would tell him, I am careful! But now moving forward, I will never let something like that irritate me again because that may have been the last time that I saw him and he saw me. I didn’t have any time to do anything that day. All I could do is brace myself hold onto the steering wheel as tight as I could, and literally close my eyes when the impact happened. The next thing I knew. My truck was at a complete stop like I said in the video, I could hear the man. It also dawned upon me that my truck wasn’t running. We both know how loud those semis are. My glasses had been knocked off my face so of course my vision wasn’t the greatest at that point, but I didn’t even realize it. I was looking around trying to assess my situation at the same time that I couldn’t breathe, I was trying to catch my breath. There were 1 million things going through my head at that point I was even thinking to myself. I wonder if we can fix our truck. I didn’t know how bad it was outside,there was smoke a little bit to the right of my window. It still wasn’t enough to get me out of the truck, I didn’t realize how incredibly close I was to burning up at that point . So the point of my story is. You hug your kids and wife you tell them you love them every single time you leave for work. It doesn’t hurt to say a prayer every time you get on that road you’re doing the best that you can you’re supporting your family the best that you know how don’t think of the bad things that can happen because like I found out the hard way we can’t control any of that if it’s gonna happen it’s gonna happen. Accidents happen every second of the day even if you’re being so careful you’re sitting at your desk in an office that things can happen as we saw on 9/11. So as a truck driver, you can’t go with that mentality every day thinking something bad will happen, I know so many truck drivers that have driven for 25 or 30 years and never been in so much as a fender bender. I was just in the wrong place at the wrong time. God had other plans for me. Be safe out there. Make sure to wear your seatbelt! God bless you.
John is so annoying in this call with his stop stop stop stoooppp whoa whoa whoaaaaa shut up shut up hold on hoooooold on. 😡
I just got chills. Baby you cant blame yourself. What could you have done? Nothing. God saved you, this happened for a reason. Please Please Please Don't forget to love yourself and understands god has a plan. I'm so so sorry.
Wow this one hits home I’m a truck driver as well last month I was going to work. I was on the 215 freeway 2 lane highway 3am in my personal vehicle and a car was parked in the number 1 lane no hazard lights no running lights and if anyone knows that freeway in Cali by San Bernardino knows it’s really dark area by the time I seen the car I swerved and ended up rolling and everything turned into slow motion sparks everywhere while I’m sliding upside down finally my car stoped and I ended up on the right shoulder my adrenaline kicked in my window was busted I took off my seatbelt some bystanders let me use there phone and next thing you know the bystander says oh another one I hear screeching the car I hit another car hit that one and ended up 10 feet from my car. Everyone was fine and I only got a broken foot but I’m scared to drive now and I can still smell that burning smell. Prayers to all in this video that’s traumatic.