The History Of Just Girly Things
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Ironicaly the original "justgirlythings" aged WAY better that the "edgy" Parodies. Turns out, from the standpoint of a queer woman, the original creator was really just admiring all those little things about girls that make your heart jump. Wholesome content ages best.
The edgy ones sucked even back then, but the contrasting ones with war imagery were oftentimes brilliant (if we ignore the male vs female angle some of those were probably made with)
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"All those little things about girls that make your heart jump"
Glances to the multiple justgirlythings posts about finding things exclusive to men/masc people attractive
[Not to say she's not lgbt, just that there's not actually very many examples of what you're trying to say. The blog wasn't about girls, it was about things girls, specifically implied and assumed to be cishet girls, are interested in.]
What a plot twist
The parodies are still great tho
and honestly, while it was a bit cringe, the amount of hate and ridicule it got just for unironically pointing out things many girls like in a very wholesome way is... interresting
I work at a Starbucks: fun fact: Most complicated/ very specific orders come from middle aged white men. Most younger teens/ girls in their 20s order a refresher with coconut milk and no berries (aka one of the easiest things to make). These young girls/young women then apologize for having a "complicated drink".
for me it's usually the upper middle aged women making insane orders 😩
Middle-aged white men talking in Starbucks... Sounds funny. Not in a *"omg it's not real"* kinda way, but on a *"actually? LoL"* kinda way
@@nicolasgalviza7948 how are they supposed to order then
@@metromortem9449 Telepathy, obviously.
@@UshioKiss like, “upper” class of society, “middle aged women” or “upper middle” social class, “aged” women?
What is “upper middle age”?
Honestly, for me the "not like other girls," pipeline went directly to "I like other girls" lmao 😭❤️
SAME
My experience as a trans guy is similar. "Not like other girls" to "of course I'm not like other girls, I'm not a girl period".
Omg never related more
I took a detour in my twenties.
There are some posts with the illustrations of the two stereotypes of girls actually getting together and they're so cute! They mirrored that evolution
I had a hidden pinterest board named "just girly things" where i would secretly save the quotes but it HAD to be secret,,, because i wasnt like other girls
I was a secret girly girl too. Had a bunch of these quotes saved on my laptop and liked to play online dress up games when I wasn’t around my (former) friends who looked down on girly things.
me maturing up was actually reconnecting with the fact that i like girly girly things
The fact that this blog was ran by a lesbian makes me so happy
I knowwww
she liked the girliest things, girls!
Whats girlier than two girls@@dhakahealth5935
You study Tumblr like a palaeo-ecologist. This is part of tumblr's biogeographical history.
Their the tumblorian! Tumblr historian
the information will be vital for the history books when tumblr gets deactivated
She's like the Tumblr Historian, meanwhile what I want is to get a Tumblr linguist and/or sociiologist because being avtually on there, it's a wild ride on how a subculture can form around the last relic of Web 2.0.
Historians in the future will reference her research a lot.
she should be on ologies as a tumblrologist
The “girls like this, so it’s bad” thing was really prevalent in music as well. When I was in high school, every dude trashed on bands like My Chemical Romance as “music for teen girls” as if that were the most insulting thing ever.
i still remember the badge of honour i gave myself when some random dude tried to talk to me on our lunch break during the TAKS tests (texas standardized testing at the time) and he gave me this huge horrified open mouth disgusted face and wordlessly got up and left when i told him i listened to MCR instead of Taylor Swift (i actually liked both at the time but eventually started resenting taylor swift bc everyone for some reason wanted to come up and guess what music i listened to all smugly and they'd all guess taylor swift ... literally at least 3 or 4 times this happened to me and they all said the same thing) so i'd proudly say nope! MCR and the one time i got that horrified face idk why, i remembered feeling so proud of that 😂😂😅😅😅😅😭😭😭😭 it was in 2014 exactly bc i remember it was my senior year of hs. i haven't listened to taylor swift in years at this point but she's so popular still i should prob get over it and cave already 😂
I’m 61 and music for teen girls has been an insult as far back as I can remember. It’s pretty sad we hate teen girls so much
Music, movies, books… Anything really. Little did I know back then that Twilight was actually a bit bad. Not the end of civilization, just a bit bad.
Now, I've heard mcr being trashed on for being emo music but "girly?!" (I know what you said but) what would some song names be for a theoretical pink glitter mcr?
Yeah, not “girly” per se but the whole 2000s emo scene was very often hated on by gatekeeper dudes who dismissed it because of its association with teenage girls who shopped at Hot Topic and crushed on people like Gerard Way and Pete Wentz. Thankfully I’ve seen a lot less of that toxic attitude in recent years.
I stand by the idea that “I’m not like other girls” often leads to either “I like girls” or “I’m not a girl”
Or both in my case lol
@@Cilibi same
I’m from the opposite side of things. My “I’m not like other guys,” recently became, “I’m not a guy.”
It is such a strange but profound pipeline like how did we get to this point (from someone who is not girl and like girls)
or maybe its just internalized misogynia and/or trying to stand out. it doesn't determine your sexual identity
gosh watching this video made me realize how much of my personality was gleaned from tumblr culture. I hated EVERYTHING all the “normal” girls liked and I thought I was sooo cool all while secretly wishing I was allowed to read the twilight books. I’m so happy to see the creator of just girly things doing so well!!
I wasn’t even on tublur but dude same
I was absolutely one of those "I'm not like other girls" types. Then I realized I was trans. So in my case, I *really* wasn't like other girls.
@@CommanderWiggins Sometimes there's a reason for feeling different, glad you found yourself :)
I was also one of those 'not like the other girls'. Got diagnosed with ASD years later, so I guess I now found the reason for feeling different too.
That’s funny because Twilight was well liked on tumblr. So it’s interesting to hear you say you felt you had to
Hide that because of tumblr
@@nowey2251 there was two different sides on Tumblr those who were obsessed with twilight and those who despised it
weirdly I remember in 2014, you know, where being "basic" was the worst crime a girl could commit, I actually tried to be very basic because I saw that "edgy" people didn't like them and I thought "if the small group hates this, then this is how I get lots of people to like me" but I was also trying to be like a "nerd girl" and "not like other girls" but also very much so like the other girls so people would like me. Twas a mess!
You guys better be saying twas ironically
@@madelinecoleman1967 Any reason why? 🤨
Schrodinger's not like other girl
@@usagitsukinooo Yeah. Looking back i have no idea where the guys rocking the print-t jeans combo with the same haircuts got the audacity to call girls basic for certain fashion or drink choices.
@@Robiness If they call you basic you just gotta hit them with "Ok, you default character lookin ass." Lol
The flower crown, the “stay weird” shirt, the Starbucks drinks… this was everything I wanted to be in 2014 😩
weird to say im still a fan of flower crowns LOL something about them is just nice
@@ckalashnikov I like them too. They're cute!
the big skulled alien....the galaxy template......
"liking girls...the most girly thing of all!" I love that so much 😭
I remember a justgirlythings post that was "naturally curly hair" and featured a picture of a girl who had very obviously curled her hair with an iron and all the comments were ROASTING it.
Omg when that happened I was 14, on tumblr, and very insecure about my naturally curly that I hadn’t fully learned to take care of. I saw that picture and got ridiculously stupidly angry I was a mess🤦♀️
@@emilyb3875 Literally, same. I was so insecure and angry as a teen.
even i was angry with that post, good times
Oh damn this just reminded me of something! One day in eighth grade a friend of mine came to school with really curly hair. I was all, "Whoa, did you perm it?" and she was all, "Nah, I just got tired of straightening it every morning" AND I BELIEVED HER 😂
@@emilyrln someone said this to me too and i believed it for years
"Tumblr's identity is now completely incoherent and insane" tell that to blorbo from my shows
You're forgetting scrimblo bimblo from my games!
and maybe the real glup shittos are just the horses we plinkoed along the eeby deeby
You cannot kill tumblr in a way that matters.
how could you forget eeby deeby :
@@fitheflea9091 to anyone else that sounds like you’re having a stroke.
My fave JustGirlyThings parody was "reciting latin backwards so that Satan worships you instead" and I still think about it from time to time
This time period was catastrophic for finding your identity. I remember both #justgirlythings and "not like other girls" being huge around the time I was in middle school and going into high school, and I hated both of them because I wasn't girly enough to be a girly girl, and I was too girly to be not like other girls. And that made me wanna attack both groups because I didn't like them, but it also made me wanna defend each group from being attacked by the other, and I had no idea what the fuck I was doing.
Can relate even though I'm a man
Seeing opposite groups and not completely fitting into either felt so bad. My own solution was to decide to not care about whatever anyone was thinking of me and living my best life along with my brother. (Which was a great decision looking back)
me being a fruit trans dude! like, im a lil bit girly, but not the "girly things" type of girly, but i also could sense that i wasnt like other girls (because i..... wasnt a girl lol)
@@scottydog6713 My younger brother has has somehow mastered the art of stomping right the fuck over gender stereotypes and seeming cool about it. He's a relatively typical male but he has a bunch of random ass feminine things about him and somehow makes it seem effortlessly suave. I envy him for that; I'm still stumbling around trying to not look like a dork on both sides.
I never used Tumblr. I was intrigued by this particular "Tumblr aesthetic" and opened an account but couldn't make a head or toe of how the site was supposed to function. Now I only live the Tumblr life vicariously through Strange's videos.
Your first mistake was having an expectation that it functions lmao
i still don’t know how it works
Yeah I didn't get it either.
i've been on tumblr for almost a decade and i still don't know where to find the interesting blogs and such. but that's ok. i can find them elsewhere while my tumblr feed is just fandoms, art and photography
omg i had literally the exact same experience
I like Tumblr's current identity. Or lack thereof. It sure is a thing of it's own still and feels a lot safer to be in than most internet spaces.
yeah, tumblr's really nice now. it's like a safe space.
It's hilarious to me just how accurate "Tumblr is the new LiveJournal" turned out to be.
The vibe of tumblr right now is great. Truly living for it
100% I love finding blogs about new fandoms, because it's way more accepting and positive than any other platform from the last 20 years.
"Here's my shitty art of Blorbo in Eeby Deeby."
> "No! That's the best Blorbo!"
> "I always imagined Eeby Deeby in red, but this purple/pink/black thing? OMG, that's beautiful!"
> "Can I commission you to do Glup Shitto in this Eeby Deeby??? I think he'd be right at home!"
agreed. it's batshit insane and I love it, especially my own little niche corners of desi blogs & writing blogs & podcast blogs.
i fell into the whole “not like other girls” thing until i realized the intense isolation from the “female experience” i felt was because i am a lesbian and later because i am nonbinary
"im a button salesman on the side" just made me imagine that as soon as shes done filming videos, she goes back to pushing her wheelbarrow of buttons around the bustling market streets, calling out "BUTTONS! BUTTONS! QUALITY BRAINROT FOR SALE!!"
isn't that a haberdasherist?
I feel that your efforts to document these elements of internet culture will be cherished by many in old age
Omg yes. Take heart for we shall meet again one day in remembrance of our shared history.
Not to mention future historians will love coming across her channel
Honestly this was such a refresher of the vibes of my teen years, part of me now wants to show it to my offspring one day and be like "this is what it was like to be twelve years old in my time"
It’s just so fucking hard to grow up as a girl. The older I get the more I realize there’s just no way to ‘win’ at being a teen girl. Like, this type of blog would definitely have been something I would have loudly rejected as a middle schooler because it would have made me self conscious in a number of ways, one of them being that I could never afford to be in on the trends. That sort of “aesthetic” life with all the expensive coffee and buying fashionable clothes was not at all something I could participate in, and as a kid that made me feel super disconnected from femininity. I saw it as there was one way to be “girly” and it involved having a bunch of stuff I couldn’t buy, and so I reacted by telling myself I never wanted it anyways, it was dumb and I didn’t need it. Coming out of that NLOG phase, my relationship to femininity has been complicated and is still evolving, but like damn I hope we can make things less horrible for young girls where we feel like we are going to be ridiculed about whatever we choose to do.
This comment makes such an excellent point. I really hadn't analyzed how much this has affected me until now. Whatever relationship you have with your feminity, let's all collectively stop confusing or conflating gender identity expression with consumerism!!
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I never realized before how NLOG isn't necessarily about holding a lot of internalized mysogyny, or even being non-binary and not understanding that some girls aren't, but potentially about just owning the fact that "other girls" are middle class and you aren't.
That's it, this comment is eye-opening. Back then I always wanted to be feminine like other girls are, but couldn't afford it and did my best to convince I didn't need it and I should own it like it's a good thing and be proud of it? Somehow. Just to not feel incomplete.
@Miku Hatsune, foraging and gardening?
I think there's also something to be said about the whiteness of it. I'm mixed race but I have black features and even though I'm pretty femme, I never felt like I conformed to girl-ness because I didn't look like the girls in those posts
Right! Whenever I saw those posts back in the day I didn't think girly, I thought caucasity.
mhm! I remember being a kid and being very stressed that I could never be that type of girl
Yeah i was hoping for something on that. I associate justgirlythings and pretty much all just_things with white teens almost exclusively
as an athletic teen asian at the time, same. i was super muscular and those lowrise skinny jeans and a&f shirts that were always too tight on my arms always looked and felt wrong on me
@@littlegreenclementine you know what, that probably saved you plenty of embarassing pictures when they began being seen as ridiculous like 3 years after they came out.
Sorta off-topic but I feel like the reactionary "eww Twilight's girly haha sparkly gay vampires" stuff drowned out a lot of legitimate criticism such as the actual cultural appropriation and warping of the Quileute people's history and traditions + awful stereotyping. They were never asked, consulted or compensated for that stuff.
Or you know, the director of the first Twilight film mentioning that Stephanie Meyer would only allow one non-white vampire in the role of an antagonist.
Or the heavily misogynous themes throughout the series etc.
Or how vampirism literally white-washes people.
"Regardless of original ethnicity, a vampire's skin will be exceptionally pale. The hue varies slightly, with darker-skinned humans having a barely discernible olive tone to their vampire skin, but the light shade remains the same." - Twilight Saga guidebook.
Tho iirc in Breaking Dawn that was run back?
There are actual you know, PROBLEMS with those books, and dismissing criticism out of hand makes me feel super uncomf
.....okay that guidebook detail just feels. so icky wtf
like sure fuck it you could go with 'all vampires are pale a.f.' as a lore thing, just have them be albinos?? or have hardcore vitiligo????? idk how they would've pulled it off in the movies but having a vampire slowly lose all the color in their hair and skin (unless they dye their hair and use makeup to not look COMPLETELY like corpses, nevermind the stigma and superstition that exists towards albinism and people with vitiligo in... many parts of the world) would've been a much more interesting take AND mostly circumvented the white-washing implications. now, getting hollywood or meyer to cast albino actors/actors with vitiligo would've been a whole other can of worms.
literally agree with everything in the post but the "vampirism makes u white" thing made my worldbuilding brain just go 'WTF'
I know this sounds kinda random, but The Sims 3's vampires would get "dewy" or "glowy" skin while maintaining a lot of melanin. I just think it's interesting considering that game poked a lot of at the Twilight series, having literal parodies of Bella, Jacob, and Edward.
you...you know vampires are dead, right? And when you die your skin becomes more pale because blood isn't being circulated around your body. I feel like there are a lot of other geniune complaints to make besides "vampires are white-washing"
Fucking thank you. I have a laundry list of criticisms of Twilight and none of them are "ha ha sparkly gay guy bad".
@@HappyLarry. in Stephenie Meyers extended universe lore book there was a lot about how she didn’t want any poc vampires because in twilight when you turn you lose all melanin or something. Couple that with having one of her vampires(jasper) being a confederate soldier and with her being Mormon and the Mormon church’ history.. yeah the white washing is a bit of a problem.
omg -- I was a deeply closeted bisexual at this time, and me and my other downlow bi friends would reblog the FUCK out of justgirlythings, since so many of the posts were subtly about loving um... girly things lol. Amazing to hear the creator has come out since, she was such a friendly presence for me when I was a bb bi
I have a post that I submitted to JustGurlyThingz parody account that is about "shoving popcorn up your boyfriend's [redacted] at the movies" that I didn't think would ever get traction. It ended up getting over 11k notes and I got 500+ followers overnight. In that same year, I also created one of those hand-drawn conversation hearts (it says "you suck a lot" on it) that has 600k notes and has had the source has been changed so many times that you can't trace it back to my blog anymore. I still have the original drawing, which was done in Crayola markers in about 5 minutes, in a folder in my basement somewhere. Basically, 2013 Tumblr was a wild place that we need to talk about more.
omg are you talking about that 3d-ish pink heart with black outline?
@@egyptianpools Yep, that'd be the one
I had a makeup teacher make a “just girly things” reference and half the class DIDNT GET IT because they were too young to have experience it at its peak 😭
Oh god this comment made me feel old
this made me feel old and im only 20
This was really interesting!! I feel like the modern equivalent is "the feminine urge to..." posts.
Also "This weird queer little worm flopping around on the floor" is my favorite quote. Now that's #justgirlythings
Oh I never thought of it that way. Makes me happy that something from my adolescence is making a comeback
I sometimes see very unironic 'feminine urge' posts with a lot of unironic replies and they're always absolutely incomprehensible to me. In a way that can be weirdly validating as an AFAB nonbinary person like "ok, I absolutely don't feel... whatever that's about. So I definitely am having a different internal experience." Same way I felt about #justgirlythings as a teenager, but back then I was much deeper in the closet so it was more alienating and dysphoria-inducing.
Honestly I've only seen parodies of "the feminine urge to ", like. The feminine urge to summon cuthulu or something. The feminine urge to bite and kill
I love the terms "tumblr ecosystem" and "tumblr containment"
"Sir, it's an emergency! It... it escaped tumblr containment!"
*dramatic look*
"...we have a meme."
I remember the era of making fun of "just girly things" very vividly. Being a 12-13 year old boy at the time it was sort of unavoidable. But I always remember seeing posts about being attracted to boys/men and slowly realizing my queerness as well through that or at the very least thinking it wasn't bad to think of boys in that way.
Justgirlythings shaped my aspirations growing up. I grew up pretty poor and I was so jealous of the girls who had the iphones and ugg boots, who got to get ice cream with their friends and take silly polaroids with their friends.
Now that I'm older and financially stable I'm living out my teenage fantasies. I bought an Iphone, I got Uggs for christmas, etc etc. It's made me so happy that I'm now fulfilling my dreams
I actually embraced the “basic” girl aesthetic when I was in middle school and especially in high school. Partially because I am biracial and felt it was the way to fit in. I was drawn to more alternative styles like grunge, goth and punk. I just didn’t have the confidence or allowance to try them out. That’s probably from mostly attending Catholic schools that didn’t allow me to experiment with my look. I literally got in trouble for wearing a headband with skulls on it.🙃 I love your videos btw❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🖤🤍💖
there was something about that era of tumblr that just polarized people and what they liked so much-- i wish i could go and tell my past self "yes you can be nerdy and yes you can like skirts and dresses and yes you can like obscure stupid bands and girls at the same time its literally not that big of an issue"
Me too! I think learning about girly cos players via the Comic-Con fashion show is what ultimately made me realize I can be girly and nerdy. And that I could like bubble gum pop and emo/pop punk music at the same time.
I remember working out in an entirely pink outfit while listening to Lauren Babic’s cover of The Kill.
It was very much fashion blog vs fandom blog
I can't believe I'm saying this but we didn't learn anything from High School Musical 😩
We could have it both ways
hearing somebody finally say "twilight is written better than most marvel movies" out loud cleansed my soul and added like 3 years to my life
I honestly don’t know about that but it is a funny thing to say
I gotta disagree, twilight was so problematic for young girls and idealized abusive relationships. Marvel stuff is just OK but at least they don't usually cause damage
Based
@@narcopsy plus it lead directly to 50 shades of grey so it must atone for that unholy monster
I enjoyed twilight more than any of the mcu movies
Who knew all those years my sister spent on that computer were so meaningful to so many. Love ya Beck!
♥️🥺
this is so wholesome
I remember loving "just girly things", but thinking that I was too ugly to get the privilege of enjoying it. I wasn't very attractive in high school, and I thought I wasn't pretty enough or feminine enough to enjoy traditionally feminine things. Now, as an adult, I enjoy being feminine, and I don't care as much if I'm pretty enough to try and be more feminine and enjoy myself. I know how it feels to be excluded. Now, I've decided to keep enjoying these things no matter how I look.
When you said "Oh this is so Tumblr" A CORE MEMORY UNLOCKED. Me and my friends used this so much. I live in Brazil so things aways get a little "late" and "processed" here and this Tumblr era was MASSIVE and HUGE like, a lot of girls in Brazil embraced this aesthetic, and some boys too, was kind of the teenage vibe in general on Internet. Simpler times I must admit. Where people just need Vans or All-star sneakers to be happy and some random deep quote in photo with a yellowish filter.
simmm e a culpa é das estrelas foi grande aqui tambem. eu to assistindo vlogbrothers (que eh um canal do john green com o irmao dele) e o jeito que eles falam dessa epoca eh igualzinho o que a gente passou aqui dbksbdkd eh engraçado pq nao eh sempre assim que acontece, que nem tu falou
@@evariste_galois Eu realmente acho incrível como essa era do Tumblr teve um impacto tão profundo aqui no Brasil mesmo com gente que NEM sabia oq era Tumblr e muito menos usava. Hoje em dia mesmo que as pessoas estão mais conectadas na Internet as coisas do EUA demora chegar aq e serem adaptadas mas era da Tumblr foi quase instantânea. Sdds devo admitir kkkkkkkk
This is so accurate kkkkkkk cara eu lembro que quando eu tava no 9º Ano eu tinha uma colega chamada Joyce que não perdia a oportunidade de falar de John Green, do gênio da obra dele e o impacto gigante dele na vida dela. I personally never got into the platform of Tumblr itself but I did see bits and pieces of the culture all over the place growing up, both in Rio de Janeiro where I spent most of my childhood and in Santa Catarina where I am now and spent my teen years. As a gay man who grew up in a typically Christian household I wouldn't have dreamed of even enjoying "girly things" but today, where I feel fairly comfortable in myself and my own tastes, and really enjoy looking back at the stuff from the time I was growing up with new perspective.
Exatamente, eu na época era um gay encubado, porem eu tinha essa conta no Tumblr onde eu sempre reblogava esse tipo de coisa, a única coisa que eu não gostava era de "A culpa é das estrelas" mas fora isso eu amava essa estética Tumblr, o jeito que o povo era obcecado com Nova York e Londres também me deixava confuso kkkkkkkk
Nossa eu lembro que eu e minhas amigas chamávamos um monte de coisa de tumblr. Felizmente a maioria de nós perdeu um bocado de oportunidade de passar mico porque ninguém tinha idade ainda pra realmente escolher o próprio estilo
I'm nonbinary but definitely fell into that role of rejecting all girly thing in high school because I thought it was somehow fake and cheap and dumb or something. I'm basically living a yassified big-hatted sweater-filled aesthetic Tumblr life now that I really figured out by bias and realized I missed out on stuff I did like just because I thought it would make me look dumb.
i love you
I’m a genderqueer/butch woman and used to hate the colour pink because it was too girly and off-putting, but I also found the pink in a sunset the prettiest thing. I think I resented what these things represented, a gender binary pushed on to me that I did not fit within nor want to fit within, and so I felt the need to distance myself from even things like the colour pink. That seems odd to me now that one of the most traditionally masculine shirts I own is probably a pink “mens” shirt (not my favourite shirt; my favourites are purple though). I think that once I felt comfortable exploring my own identity (and embracing things I truly liked outside of the norms for what girls were supposed to like) then I could start re-examining the more feminine things that had been pushed on me when I was younger. They no longer represented a lack of choice, a box I’m arbitrarily placed in, or a category I’m pushed to conform to despite my peers recognising I clearly didn’t quite fit in. Now those traditionally feminine things don’t represent any of that and are just things I enjoy. I’m way more stylish now that I’m not insecurely avoiding feminine things because I’m not “girly” or insecurely avoiding masculine things because I’m not a guy; now I’m confidently wearing cool things because I’m cool, _and_ I’m enjoying reasonably sized pockets.
@@genericname8727 Are you me???? I have written basically the same comment before on Reddit.
Honestly coming to terms with my gender has helped me embrace my femininity and enjoy the things I rejected as a child. Realizing that the issue was society's overall negative treatment of being feminine and not the feminine things themselves opened up a whole world of new experiences
Haha, another enby here :D I... was an awkward blob during my teen years :'D Absolutely no idea about really any part of my identity, just the vague feeling of looking at other kids doing things and relating to this or that, and just having no idea why all of it seemed so disjointed to what I was feeling... And the thing was, I genuinely liked some colorful and "girly" things, I would have loved to just wear skirts to school and all that... if it didn't mean every single classmate would comment on it. So yeah I basically just tried to blend into the walls with a book in hand :'D Then obviously, after starting uni and moving to a new place, my style just kind of went haywire for a while with all the colors and skirts and everything xD But yeah. I wasn't a tumblr kid, just kinda followed that happening from the sidelines, but the "justgirlythings" type posts and the aesthetic being prevalent in school, did make me vaguely uncomfortable, because there were just so many layers of disconnect and vague longing. Hoo boy, the weird journey of acceptance related to being afab enby who likes mostly "feminine" styles!
I am 24 years old, I work in the museum and library fields, and I genuinely love John Green. Is it the most intellectually challenging thing I’ve ever read? No. But it’s comforting and a little nostalgic for me and no one is gonna talk me out of it. Cringe culture is dead in this Chilis tonight and I will not apologize.
I was on Tumblr in 2011... I thought this identity was the best thing you *could* be so I leaned so hard into it and there are photos of me in high school looking and acting like that and it drives me nuts nowadays because I sit here with my demonia boots and my split dyed hair and the mulitple piercings and realising that I was trying so hard to fit in because being "goth was weird." That era of tumblr really did prey on the insecurities of young, especially mentally ill, girls (which I am not anymore) and the desire to fit in.
Literally made a Just Girly Things joke about how sleep deprived I am this morning. I think my Spidey Senses were tingling for this video
I literally used to go to those “80’s day”s at school where I’d wear my parents clothes, and I’d constantly wonder: hey, what if there was a 2010’s day for MY kids in the future? What would I send them with? and this culture was one of the top ones to come to mind.
Flower crown, Vans/Converse, red-black flannel and a 5SOS tshirt
Hey OP? Not cool, I just had a minor brain break as this thought rattled through my neurons.
@@spntageous5249 That or galaxy leggings, uggs, flower crown, sharpie cat whiskers, eyeliner, and a Phan shirt
Don't forget the hydro flask
@@Blwbelle I feel like that was more VSCO 2017/18ish era, but that’d also be a fun/easy one to dress for!
I love how she says at the beginning "you can watch this even if you know nothing about tumblr" and then casually drops stuff like the John Green cock monologue and Sonic For Real Justice with no context
my first exposure to just girly things was a spoof of the posts that said “dying your hair with your period blood” and that has haunted me for almost a decade
“I was like this weird queer little worm flopping around on the floor” omg I have never related to something so much in my life
Man this was a confusing time of my life. There was one crowd that wanted everyone to be ultra feminine, one crowd that wanted to be "not like other girls." I was always too much of a tomboy for the first crowd, but then way too girly for the second. Hell -- my friends managed to criticize me on both sides of it. Stop wearing makeup that's gross, but shave your legs and brush your hair already! Bah. Then when I came out as a lesbian, I felt pressured to be "butch" or "femme." And it was the same problem. I just don't really fit in either category and I have no desire to. I much prefer the way these kinds of discussions tend to pan out now.
Omg same! For so long I felt like I didn't know how to be a woman, and realizing I was bi only made things worse. I'm glad to know there's other people in the world like this. I feel so much less alone
I can relate on this one, homegirl. I couldn't be a "girly girl" because I liked car racing video games and rode a skateboard, but I couldn't be a "not like other girls girl" because I did my hair and wore eyeliner and liked shopping at the mall. I hated the #justgirlythings crowd for taking filtered pictures of pumpkin patches and Starbucks drinks but I also wanted to defend the girls doing those things because they were constantly under siege from the NLOG girls, and I hated the NLOGs for being loud and obnoxious about how much they loved true crime and eating pizza and not wearing makeup. But then I wanted to defend the NLOGs because the girly girls were always hating on them and I didn't like them either...
That's the thing, people always try to put others in boxes, when they should just focus on themselves. I'm pretty girly, but I also like things that might not be as "girly". I love makeup, skirts, dresses, cute handbags and sweet-smelling perfumes, but at the same time, I love RPG's and different types of video games, sometimes just wearing comfy pyjama bottoms and a hoodie, plush toys (Which some people would call childish or immature, which annoys me, since adults can like plush toys too, it's not just for children!) Honestly, I want a world where people can just be left to express themselves as they wish, without close-minded people being obnoxious and loudly judging others. As long as people aren't causing any harm, then I don't see why people can't just be themselves in flippin' peace!
@@fleshbirdie i relate to you so much!
@@borednerd5767 it's so nice to not feel alone in this 😭
I feel like I was alienated from girlhood because of adhd and being bullied so I was very much a not like other girls girl in my early teens. It took me years to fully embrace girly stuff (and liking girls) and it makes me so happy to look back on this trend. I definitely used to mock it but it also helped me feel connected to girly girls and helped me conquer my internalized misogyny little by little, looking back now gives me tons of joy and I actually went back and tried to remember all the stuff I wanted to be or do as a teen to help me with healing. I have a color changing reusable Starbucks cup now that I use regularly, it's a little sparkly and I can put my little gay iced caramel macchiatos in it and I love it.
I've never related to a comment more than this. I felt this in my soul. Sincerely, an autistic and gay person who has started embracing my girliness
“I’m happy to report that every once in a while we are blessed………with a girly thing” that has taken a permanent residence in my head, thank you
It's videos like these that give me joy - media made for and by girls and women is often looked down upon as "trashy" or "cringe," and I just recently realized how prevalent this attitude is in a lot of Western culture. I spent many of my childhood and teenage years playing the part of a "tomboy" because I wanted to be taken seriously, and I felt that if I were girly, adults and my peers would look at me differently just because I liked pastel pink.
Strange, you look really cute in a flower crown. Just sayin.
It's not just western culture though. In large parts of the east and south, such things don't even really exist.
The only place I can think of were that stuff isn't a bad thing would be South America I guess? But their cultures are also very sexist towards both men and women, so not any better really.
What I'm saying, feminism still has such a long way to go.
@@steinistein8611 That's true, you're definitely right. I only specified Western culture because I'm admittedly not very familiar with anything else, and I did not think it was right for me to say "culture" in general when I don't claim to know more than I do. There's a lot of work to do everywhere!
@@steinistein8611 what things don't exist?
@@nm9688 media and products specifically made for women. At least not on a scale like the west
@@steinistein8611 true true. I wish it did
been waiting for a new Strange video, thanks Abby Shapiro!
And sh0eonhead is Belle delphine
My haters throw rocks at me and IT hurts. I hope they don't throw The Rock at me because I like him as an actor. GAGAGAGAGA!!! I am funny!!! I am the funniest TH-camr EVAH! Please agree, dear bre
@@AxxLAfriku first time I've ever gotten a bot comment. feels good. this is a milestone, to me.
@@brennuswhite1845 im proud
@@brennawenger4091 are we listing sins? if so, I'm gluttonous.
I am glad to hear that a lot of other people's queerness also felt... idk, validated? by JGT. It helped me realize that being "basic" is okay, and that so much of the hate towards the blog was just internalized misogyny. I'm so happy for her that she's engaged!
I wasn't even on the internet at that time, but once I was, I remember rejecting anything girly and went through an extreme "not like other girls phase"
If only I could explain to my old self that I was a trans guy, and I didn't have to put down women or girls to be valid in my masculinity
'... Twilight is better written then most marvel movies.' Out here with the hottest of takes
She's not wrong though, and i don't even like Twilight🤣
Nothing in Twilight is as problematic as being officially subsidised by the US military-
@@morinomajou arguable. Werewold attraction to magic baby.
@@morinomajou who cares. Whiney little sjw
@@briandavid7849 we're all sjws here
That not-at-all subtle critique of Rupi Kaur. Yes please. So tired of her stuff being held up as the height of poetry.
literally. people can enjoy rupi kaur but like,,,,objectively it’s not that good at all🗿
I love all the 2014ish Tumblr Stuff to this day but remember not being a fan of her work back then, rather looked at moodboards, edits and Supernatural stuff - so I recentley checked out her work again and - Lets just say: My opinion has not changed. 💀
@@m00nrac00n lmao im watching supernatural for the first time rn
her stuff hasn't be held up as the height of poetry since like 2016
TheBookGoddess you’d think that that would be true but last year we were made to do a literary analysis of her writing and my teacher talked about her like she was a poetical genius
I never even realized that 'justgirlythings' was someone's personal blog, I always kinda assumed it was meme or something lol
there's something so comforting about these videos, specifically where you defend teenage girls. i spent so much of my life hating all the things about me that were girly, from being too much of a girl or not enough. it really soothes the teenage part of my soul to hear someone validate the parts of myself that i was so ashamed of.
i was on PINTEREST which is barely even a form of social media, but was a subset of the tumblr fandoms and trends, and didn't know tumblr existed until years later. terrifying to know that i thought justgirlythings, harry potter, and "deep quotes" were the absolute peak of online culture
pinterest borrows most of its content from tumblr LMFAO especially fandom stuff
Yeah there are fandom subjects you can search for where literally 90% of the results are just screenshots of tumblr conversations.
@@thatb1h855 really tho, once some internet users called another someone "who'd learnt feminism through tumblr posts on pinterest", and called me out so badly my ears are still ringing.
Remember when even Blizzard Entertainment itself made some parodies of justgirlythings for World of Warcraft? They were icky and misogynistic at the time, but man they've aged even more poorly when all their behavior has been brought under scrutiny and just how bad things are over there keep getting brought to light.
People like to claim that jokes are "just jokes," but oftentimes the "jokes" they make are simply statements of their actual beliefs with the veneer or format of humor. In other words, if a man makes misogynistic "jokes," it's very likely he believes what he's saying.
What were these? I googled it and couldn't find anything about these WoW meme and now I want to see the misogyny
@@MasoTrumoi same here
"Twilight has better writing than most marvel movies"
"I love twilight"
i'm loving this energy
I was too cis man boy guy and too young to experience this at the time it was happening but I love these little internet culture analysis videos, they are amazing.
The SHAME that I felt when you called out “the girl who would tell you Looking For Alaska was life changing literary genesis” because I was that girl… 😥🥴
its ok. you are not alone. i was also that girl and i also felt extremely seen in that moment.
I remember I used to say you could know everything about a person by if they liked or disliked Alaska 🙄🙄🙄 I'm glad we have collectively grown lol
Samee
Dont feel ashamed for liking a YA book as a teenager! You were the intended audience.
I have not had a single original experience
Really enjoying that royalty free jam in the intro! Oh the memories of old TH-cam.
Hey cool pfp what is it?
saw this comment before the video started and immediatly knew what the song was gonna be
@@gamernerd299 the gay flag
@@tutsbrasilio like exclusive gay or lgbt in general?
@@gamernerd299 specifically male gay. the rainbow one represents all of lgbt
Oh god. I was in high school from 2012-2016. I started Tumblr around the same time. I literally couldn't escape Just Girly Things. I've probably reblogged post like this a LOT.
Also I hate that this is like, 7 years old at this point.... But I love how we've gone from Just Girly Things to Blorbo from my favorite show. Completely incomprehensible. I love it.
i will regularly say something unhinged or ridiculous and follow it up with "haha just girly things"
my justgirlythings flashbacks were parodies where the image in the backround would be edited into nagito komaeda and i completely forgot about it until now
But what you don't know is that his real name is Strange Aeons....
this will always have a special place in my heart cuz as a trans guy who didn’t know I was allowed to have my own identity saw posts like that about things I like/liked and was like huh. guess im for realsies a girl and as I was coming to terms with not actually being cis my brain did a 180 for a few years and anything “girly” was awful and dumb etc etc and now. I am free and cringe is no longer a word I fear #girlboss (sorry)
I have a kind of weird relationship with justgirlythings, like... as a trans girl who was super in the closet/denial (up until age 24 when I had an "oh fuuuuuuuu" moment when the dam of repression I'd built in my head broke), growing up I sort of used it as something of a touchstone to define myself in opposition to, if that makes sense? Like "Oh, see, I'm not (ie didn't allow myself to be) like that, I'm not a girly girl, I'm obviously not a girl lol, it doesn't matter what those nasty bullies say", almost using it as a way to unhealthily define myself in opposition, despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
... which in hindsight is all kinda hilarious, as I'm A) now one of the most femme girls I know, B) like... *super* gay, could not be more of a lesbian if I tried, and C) I actually find quite a lot of catharsis in actually allowing myself to enjoy that side of myself and who I am, just... enjoying being me :)
I never allowed myself tumblr as a teen (I have a lot of unhealthy trauma responses regarding it now, there was a lot of nonsense going on in baby hannah's head), so seeing an empathetic examination of justgirlythings' history like this is surprisingly cathartic, thank you :)
Glad you can enjoy being yourself now
Seems like that website took a mental toll to your mental health...
strange always posts right when math class ends. good job strange
i just got out of math too 😵💫
Your pfp is amazing
@@rx500android tyy
Wow high praise from the Lesbian Shogun lol
Woah, it came out when my math ended too. Weird…
For me, justgirlythings coming out really turned around my whole perception of it.
Suddenly, it all made sense, and it didn't feel like someone was trying to put people into boxes anymore.
Amazing how this stuff can change. In my defense, i only ever liked the most absurd parodies of justgirlythings.
I teach at high school and for whatever reason John Green books are gaining popularity again with teenage girls, i have a class of 15 year olds who bought a bunch and they formed a small book club and they exchange them and discuss the plot and it's so wild to me seeing '' The fault in our stars '' being on desks and hearing them rave to me about how much it's a masterpiece. It's really wholesome in a time where teenage media is just sex and drugs
Read john green, there is sex and drugs in his books
I think something that's overlooked a lot is that a lot of afab teens felt/feel "not like other girls" because they weren't straight or cis
I've seen so many comments on this video that are people saying just that. They were either NB or a trans man all along so you're definitely right
A note: libby also does audiobooks, but through the library. They never do sponsorships so i like to bring them up often
Yessss!!!
I fully agree and support this message, but you do need a library card. But to be fair, then you have a library card and can use the library and they're usually free
@@madtheorist1856 yes but at least there I am you don’t have to actually go to the library to Get the audiobooks so that is a pro.
Libby is the best
I worked at a public library in 2014-2015. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone asked where the John Green books were. We had a sign that said “it’s been ____ days since someone requested The Fault in Our Stars” at the circulation desk. Shit was wild
Gods, maybe there's been a resurgence or maybe schools are assigning for reading because at my library I've had so many kids ask ''hey do you have The Fault in Our Stars?'' or ''Turtles all the Way Down?''' or any other John Green book. I cannot you how many times I've had to say I could put it on hold for them.
@@katefresina832 I’d be very interested in any schools that are requiring it for reading because quite a few of them have sex scenes. I do think that while they are absolutely not the best literature in the world they are definitely fun simple reads and the most latest (Turtles All the Way Down) is heavily based on John Green’s experiences with his OCD
oh wow that takes me back to a weird place wow. I'm a transfem lesbian and I remember in high school being deep in denial having such weird and conflicted feelings around those. Like, on the one hand I was yearning so so hard for any sort of "girl" experience, but at the same time I was also a very "not like other girls" sort of egg, so it was a very weird mix of queer yearning and disdain.
I had a strong "not like other girls" and "girly=ewwww gross get it away from me right now" far longer than I'm proud to admit to.
In fact, I had an undercurrent of it until I figured out I'm not a girl. Even still, claims that make AFAB people into a monolith make me pretty mad.
The fact that this may one day be used by future Anthropologists as a legit source is kinda cool and funny
Don’t give me any ideas… aw shit, too late
We can't really, it's second hand information, plus this topic has been written to death for a long time so its lost a lot of its appeal to us. I understand the masses don''t read the stuff we do so they're not as exposed, but if you are curious check out Sherry Ortner, Val Plumwood, and Elanor Leacock. All of these anthropologists directly write about everything covered in this video. Plumwood's "Feminism and the Mastery of Nature" is a great source.
The justgirlythings parodies remind me of the boys vs girls memes that circulate nowadays.
i know right, i hate those so much too because they always depict girls as being boring and guys as being funny… makes me feel even more isolated as a girl tbh
I think the boys vs girls memes are an improvement. They are no longer about girls, they just use this stereotype to have something to juxtapose the quirky boys things to (and yes, quirky is a shokingly accurate description). Still bad but no longer outright hostile
@@aphrog649 same here, im an enby trans guy but i remember before i realized im trans i felt so left out and upset by those memes, especially because i was already feeling insecure about the few """girly""" things i like (that werent even girly at all, just a few male kpop groups lmao) because i felt like i was just "basic" or something. even now i still get upset by those memes, not only having experienced first-hand how shitty it made me feel, but also seeing how much it can really hurt other people too.
Whether shamefully or not, I was a part of that "hipster Arizona Ice Tea and Galaxy print" aesthetic for my Tumblr blog as well - we truly had no chill with the Nashville Instagram filter around that time and similar looking ones
Yea, cringe or not I feel like 2012 Tumblr until about Pokemon Go 2016 was the happiest a lot of us have been.
I’m not gonna lie I really enjoyed perks of being a wallflower overall and I read it in 2019. Yes it’s cringy in many parts but it’s a hectic story. But I COULD NOT with paper towns
My Christian parents wouldn’t let me read John Green and I felt so left out all of middle school 😭. This was such a fun and nostalgic video. I haven’t thought about these posts in years.
John Green is also a Christian
@@2bitmarketanarchist337 that very well might be true but his books had mildly sexual content in them so they were not allowed.
Meh, you weren't really missing out. They all had the same quirky comin-of-age protag with really quirky quirks but also they're dying/have trauma and they usually have a thing for the manic pixie girl BUT WHAT IF THE MANIC PIXIE CHICK WAS A DUDE?!?! in one of his books.
Your parents did the right thing.
@@monkeybench hahaha that’s good to know. I thought about trying to read them as an adult but I think I’m just going to accept my life with no John Green in it.
I can't watch this right now but I just KNOW you're gonna talk about the gay twist ending. that shit was incredible
Justgirlythings is SO ingrained into my brain that, from time to time, when I do stupid shit I say: "well, it's just girly things!"
This video made me gain a whole new appreciation for the blog. Specially after so many years, where I became a very feminine and a very, very lesbian woman
i wasn't on tumblr at the time, but i didn't like the "girly stuff", so obviously that made me "not like other girls". turns out, i was *not* a girl, but at the time i had no idea i was nonbinary and didn't have the words to explain how i felt.
"Tumblr's identity is now completely incoherent and insane." Huh, I don't have an account but that sounds like my kind of place now.
Honestly I still have an account and tbh tumblr is much more fun now. Especially no that supernatural is dead and in superhell
As someone who made a blog again in 2020, I can confirm it's quite fun. Of course there are still serious blogs and posts but the tumblr community as a whole has just loosened up and is quite chill. People are just having fun making up obscure and incoherent memes.
My guess is that most of the people who wanted to spread hate(or similar things) moved onto twitter but that's again, just my opinion.
10/10, would reccomend :)
plinko scrungle blorbo from my shows. that is tumblr identity now, good luck!
@@obsceniities make sure to eeby deeby everyday
Ssshhh! Don't let everyone know how much fun it is.
they rlly took just ͟gi͟r͟l͟y things quite literally 👩❤️💋👩
I mean, what's more girly than TWO girls? :)
@@robinchesterfield42 ikr :)
I find it interesting to point out how these posts were not supposed to be things that only girls were allowed to love. I still see posts now (on tiktok for example) about people who make content for one group of people that involve relatable experiences. People who don't fit into the specific target audience (e.g. lesbian, autistic, etc) question how posts are so relatable and even question their own identities after relating to it because the delivery almost seems like "if you relate then you must be this blog/video's target audience". I guess I wonder how this small issue could be resolved
I also really loved that Tumblr had a very strong culture of "submissions" and "requests", the anonymous ask feature was super good at encouraging engagement (for better or worse lollll)
This is what i really enjoyed about the spirit of these types of blogs.... they just liked interacting and having fun and spreading joy and not being mean like people are in the real world.
I really liked this look-back. I wasnt really aware of the creator’s intentions or story until now. I think my perspective (as someone who historically saw those posts as cringey or basic) was similar to that of the girl who made the post about how the girls who bullied her shared justgirlythings posts. But more than that in recent years the reason i still tend to be critical of “basic” things is not because its just the interests of girls, but that it tends to be very consumerist. Now its evolved into the “target girl” archetype: the posts about needing a $7 starbucks drink every day and jokes about going into crippling debt because you shop at target every day makes me kindof sad and infuriated, especially because brands like Target encourage that behavior. Everyone is entitled to like feminine things and should not be shamed for it, but its the side of it that is perpetually consumerist that grinds my gears.
I felt the bullying on a lot too. I’m a cis girl but I always had traditionally masculine interests and the girls at school didn’t like that at all. I was routinely bullied, ostracized, I had basically no friends. I started hanging out with boys almost exclusively because they were accepting of my hobbies.
Blogs like Justgirlythings kinda became a stand-in for me for everyone who belittled me for my interests.
I still have my masculine interests and guy friends and I’ve come to realize it’s actually very difficult for me to try to connect with other girls but I am trying to because I’ve also accepted that I do have a lot of very feminine interests too and I wish I had more people to talk with about that. I wish there hadn’t been so much animosity when I was little. We can all learn a lot from each other.
You eating a carrot inspired me to eat a carrot too, so thank you for that.
Oh my god this whole video shot me right back to 6th grade this aesthetic had a death grip on me and my friends and that whole “travel, wanderlust, pics of clouds from airplanes” vibe I was OBSESSED with omg it was my whole Pinterest
"Twilight is better written than most Marvel movies."
"Why would you say something so controversial yet so brave."
👍👍
I saw those posts on Tumblr and Facebook a lot when I was younger, I hated them with everything I had. They made me feel like everyone was rejecting my identity, simply because I felt uncomfortable with the overly effeminate nature of the posts, and it gave me a sense of, "this is what people expect from me because I'm a girl" 2012 was not a good time to be a confused trans-ace person
same hat! I couldn't relate to any of the romance posts or the experience of being a girl so those posts made me viscerally uncomfortable ... little did I know then that I was actually a boy and also ace-spec 😅
Justgirlythings has always been an odd comfort to me even when I thought I was a boy. I'm not really sure why. Maybe it was a way for me to consume femininity safely in its occasional appearance.
That was honestly a huge draw to Tumblr in general to me back in the day!
I completely get how you feel, though I mainly indulged in them because I thought they were pretty cool and because they made (at the time) good and funny memes.
I love the way her hair moves like an angry bar code.
God, I REMEMBER JUSTGIRLYTHINGS. I remember I was a fandom blog, I remember the fandom blog vs hipster blog "enmity", and man, this really does bring up a lot of things I have tried burying. But in fact, I do adhere to the "not like other girls" philosophy. Not because I despise girly girls, but because... I really am not the image of what a woman should look like. I absolutely do remember feeling alienated from normalcy and popularity because I was... well, not like the popular kind of girl. I'm not skinny, don't like pink clothes, am not interested in romantic relationships (gay or straight or anything), don't wear make-up, don't care for fashion much, don't have long hair, in terms of style I'm actually a very gender-indifferent person but I know I'm perceived as a woman and am expected to perform as a girl. This was always the case, I feel like people have been baffled and disappointed with me for not relating to gender the way most other women do. So of course, justgirlythings was the least interesting and most unrelatable thing to me. Not just because of my queerness, but specifically because of the aesthetic it was "pushing".
I never harassed them or anything like that, I just wasn't interested in their (well, her) blog, or anyone who would reblog that kind of thing.
And man, I did not expect a justgirlythings retrospective to bring all of this out of me. It's just, you know, when weirdness is looked at with any amount of contempt it just gets me defensive.
As for her being a lesbian... well, good for her. That was unexpected, if anything. I like this kind of unexpected development. :)
Just thought I would defend the other side a bit, because I know "not being like other girls" is seen as a misogynistic stance, but for me it was always, legitimately, about not feeling like I'm welcome among femmes, and that any friendliness on their part was always fake. That's because, legitimately, a lot of girls would pretend to be my friend in school and then throw me away and bully me the next moment. I don't mean to hate on anyone specifically, but I've never stopped associating feminine popularity with cruelty and I've never stopped not trusting it, and according to my later experiences that was for good reason. Am I that wrong?
this gay comment section makes me so happy about who i am. i recently did my trans coming out to my family after 5 years spent in fear- i don't wanna admit it but i often hate myself for being trans and generally queer. but seeing so many people with pride flags, talking about being gay openly in your comment sections, makes me feel so nice about myself. thank you :)
Hang in there sib, this too shall pass 🏳️🌈
These experiences are why I think representation is so important. I really struggled with my gender and sexuality and then I went to a panic at the disco concert and they played girls girls boys and everyone had their pride flags and the paper hears made a pride flag over the audience and it was honestly really validation. It really helped me
Bless you, Teya, for covering this historically crucial topic
the absolute grip that ‘not like other girls’ mentality had on our consciousness back then
Sometimes I forget how formative tumblr culture was for me growing up, I was only 14 in 2014 and just coming to terms with my queer identity at a very young age. Just girly things represented something I felt I could never be. I let the stereotype not like other girls kinda rule over me in those early years. Obviously now as an adult I have come to terms with this being yet another symptom of internalized misogyny as well as feeling outcasted from the stereotypical girl because I was queer. Looking back at it now I am glad just girly things existed as an unashamed representation of femininity, even though all the hate. Although I never felt as though I could relate I know many girls did and needed someone to show them hey its ok to like girly things and express yourself. I honestly am shocked how many memories this had brought up for me and its wild just how different the landscape of social media is compared to how it was while I was growing up.