These experiences are never one issue only. Emotional neglect seldom will happen in a vacuum. Other aspects of life contribute to and exacerbate CEN. For example, accidents occur, learning handicaps exist, physical disabilities exist, physical illness in one or more family member occur, money problems exist, parents experience marital problems and the emotional impact on a child is never addressed. Yes, emotional neglect alone is a recipe for a life of confusion, loneliness and unnecessary pain. Basically the child navigates life's stresses and realities without support, explanation, and preparation and is dumped out into the adult world like a feral child. Deer in the headlights are better prepared to deal with being deaf, dumb and blind. The worse part is ignorance, thinking you are defective, not knowing what is wrong with you and having no support from someone else. You never have support. You are always alone. If you are lucky enough to come across Lindsey's book, you begin to learn but you are so ill-equipped to cope while trying to simply survive.
When I joined in something or tried something new as a kid/young adult, I was always waiting for my parents approval. When I didn't get it, I assumed that that wasn't what I should be doing. This has made me switch "things" a LOT. So, I've been seen as flaky, or not following through. Because I was trained (from neglect) to seek others approval, it has kept me looking for outside validation to let me know I'm on the right track. 😮 Now, with my healing, I can see this is my OWN track! What do I want? What do I need? What are my dreams? And who cares if I still, at 43, haven't gotten my parents or families approval?!? I have my OWN. ❤❤
Topic Timestamps: Emotional Neglect vs. Physical Presence (1:30) Discussion on how physical presence of parents doesn't equate emotional connection, introducing the concept of 'Big T' and 'little t' traumas. Long-term Effects of Emotional Isolation (3:06) Overview of how childhood emotional isolation impacts adult life, leading to emotional disconnection in relationships and social interactions. Self-Awareness and Recognizing Emotional Needs (4:25) Focus on the importance of self-awareness in recognizing one's emotional needs and the detrimental effects of having emotionally immature parents. Emotional Intimacy and Security from Parents (5:47) Examination of the roles emotionally engaged and mature parents play in the emotional development and security of a child. Contrast Between Emotionally Mature and Immature Parents (7:10) Contrasts emotionally mature parents, who provide emotional security and connection, with emotionally immature parents, who fail to notice their children’s emotional states. Introduction to Book Club Discussions and Emotional Loneliness (8:25) Introduction to book club discussions on the topic and further exploration into emotional loneliness and its roots in childhood experiences. Impact of Parental Emotional Neglect on Adult Relationships (10:06) Deep dive into how emotional neglect during childhood leads to challenges in forming healthy adult relationships and the tendency to repeat patterns. Strategies for Understanding and Healing Emotional Neglect (15:09) Discussion on strategies for understanding and healing from emotional neglect, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and addressing one's emotional past. Patterns of Denial and Repetition in Adult Relationships (18:01) Analysis of how denial of childhood emotional neglect leads to repetitive patterns in adult relationships and the difficulty in recognizing harmful patterns. Overcoming Emotional Isolation and Building Healthier Relationships (21:05) Focus on overcoming emotional isolation by recognizing and validating one's feelings and building healthier, more emotionally fulfilling relationships. Reflection and Concluding Thoughts on Emotional Growth and Healing (27:05-End) Reflections on emotional growth and healing, summarizing the discussions and emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in overcoming the legacy of emotionally immature parents.
Thank you for this video. My heart and pain is validated ❤ I'm going to need to order this book. I'm in trauma therapy doing IFS (internal family systems) and it's helping a LOT, this book will be a good companion.
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These experiences are never one issue only. Emotional neglect seldom will happen in a vacuum. Other aspects of life contribute to and exacerbate CEN. For example, accidents occur, learning handicaps exist, physical disabilities exist, physical illness in one or more family member occur, money problems exist, parents experience marital problems and the emotional impact on a child is never addressed. Yes, emotional neglect alone is a recipe for a life of confusion, loneliness and unnecessary pain. Basically the child navigates life's stresses and realities without support, explanation, and preparation and is dumped out into the adult world like a feral child. Deer in the headlights are better prepared to deal with being deaf, dumb and blind. The worse part is ignorance, thinking you are defective, not knowing what is wrong with you and having no support from someone else. You never have support. You are always alone. If you are lucky enough to come across Lindsey's book, you begin to learn but you are so ill-equipped to cope while trying to simply survive.
When I joined in something or tried something new as a kid/young adult, I was always waiting for my parents approval. When I didn't get it, I assumed that that wasn't what I should be doing. This has made me switch "things" a LOT. So, I've been seen as flaky, or not following through. Because I was trained (from neglect) to seek others approval, it has kept me looking for outside validation to let me know I'm on the right track. 😮 Now, with my healing, I can see this is my OWN track! What do I want? What do I need? What are my dreams? And who cares if I still, at 43, haven't gotten my parents or families approval?!? I have my OWN. ❤❤
Topic Timestamps:
Emotional Neglect vs. Physical Presence (1:30)
Discussion on how physical presence of parents doesn't equate emotional connection, introducing the concept of 'Big T' and 'little t' traumas.
Long-term Effects of Emotional Isolation (3:06)
Overview of how childhood emotional isolation impacts adult life, leading to emotional disconnection in relationships and social interactions.
Self-Awareness and Recognizing Emotional Needs (4:25)
Focus on the importance of self-awareness in recognizing one's emotional needs and the detrimental effects of having emotionally immature parents.
Emotional Intimacy and Security from Parents (5:47)
Examination of the roles emotionally engaged and mature parents play in the emotional development and security of a child.
Contrast Between Emotionally Mature and Immature Parents (7:10)
Contrasts emotionally mature parents, who provide emotional security and connection, with emotionally immature parents, who fail to notice their children’s emotional states.
Introduction to Book Club Discussions and Emotional Loneliness (8:25)
Introduction to book club discussions on the topic and further exploration into emotional loneliness and its roots in childhood experiences.
Impact of Parental Emotional Neglect on Adult Relationships (10:06)
Deep dive into how emotional neglect during childhood leads to challenges in forming healthy adult relationships and the tendency to repeat patterns.
Strategies for Understanding and Healing Emotional Neglect (15:09)
Discussion on strategies for understanding and healing from emotional neglect, emphasizing the importance of acknowledging and addressing one's emotional past.
Patterns of Denial and Repetition in Adult Relationships (18:01)
Analysis of how denial of childhood emotional neglect leads to repetitive patterns in adult relationships and the difficulty in recognizing harmful patterns.
Overcoming Emotional Isolation and Building Healthier Relationships (21:05)
Focus on overcoming emotional isolation by recognizing and validating one's feelings and building healthier, more emotionally fulfilling relationships.
Reflection and Concluding Thoughts on Emotional Growth and Healing (27:05-End)
Reflections on emotional growth and healing, summarizing the discussions and emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in overcoming the legacy of emotionally immature parents.
Thank you for this video. My heart and pain is validated ❤
I'm going to need to order this book.
I'm in trauma therapy doing IFS (internal family systems) and it's helping a LOT, this book will be a good companion.
That makes me so happy to hear! IFS is amazing, we just read No Bad Parts in our book club last month and it was incredible!
Powerful!