You can think you would love the stepchild as your own cause you might get close up until your own child comes into the picture. It’s a little better if you’re not gonna have your own
I completely digress if you are a competent man, never settle for being a step dad thats for losers, there is no benefit to that. Imagine with all the beautiful young women you choose to be a step father, its a disgrace to your lineage.
Relationships are dead guys 🤣 we pay mavuso now 🤣 just go out to the club/bar and get a slay queen for R1500 😂 even married women are selling it nowadays 😂 otherwise there's no going back 😂 commitment is dead
Very important topic to address! Thank you… It’s important to be real with oneself - especially when kids are involved. I naively always was under the impression that I am more than capable of loving a step child as much as I love my own; in fact, at my age and as a single mother, I decided to only engage myself in a (serious) relationship with someone who already has a child/children (who is a responsible parent). But I found myself asking if I would be a good step parent emotionally?! Am I able to love a child who is not my own as much as I love my own? My answer is yes - I can love a step child but realistically, not the same way I love my own. But I can love them enough to be a good parent to them and genuinely want the best for them as much as I want for my own… is the level or type of love going to be the same - no. But it can still be beautiful and fulfill above average requirements. As for the table thing, I no longer understand what that entails 😅 so will leave that there… somebody must just throw these tables away! Respectfully
Imagine being a step dad, to kids who are disrespectful and you are not allowed to discipline them... MOER....You simp of simps, Your ancestors are disowning you, meanwhile the mother of those kids tells you that she doesn't want a more kids, that time you have don't kids. I'd rather stay single chief. So champ thinks society will applaud you not having your own legacy, even amadlozi will frown. The Pain of being reminded "YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER" that time you put them through school and did the best for them. Miss me with that. I say people with kids must just date folk with kids. Gents espeacially young gents, DO NOT, I WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN , DO NOT BECOME A STEP DAD AT YOUR AGE. AFRICAN CULTURES AND TRADITIONS FROWN UPON THAT.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 who came up with these thing of who brings what to the table 😂😂😂😂😂 haik the world can be delusional sometimes. my own genuine advice is to try to marry a your partner whilst your broke because that brings trust atleast you have got something to build with each other.
@@brianmolele7264 I'm not saying that buy you judge a old person by their fruits their produce . We all assume some with a kid and wife is more responsible compared to a play boy .
@@Mr_Shuku That's the problem with assumptions. How can a older man who is independent be irresponsible ? I don't get it. Having a kid doesn't automatically make you responsible. There are tons of people with kids who are irresponsible.
I think you loose alot of guys when you make the "what do you bring to the table" comment seem like its about money when guys ask it. Most guys ask or think of what a women brings to the table is rarely materialistic as for men its more a question of finding out character and morals and personality wereas for women they ask the same question from a materialistic point of view and its not a bad thing coz its how they are built.
We all need to ask ourselves what we bring to the table for sure. I am triggered simply because we are weighing each other based on how much we bring to the table, surely money does not measure worth does it?
I got it! Totally off topic but I think this guy should start a segment or a completely different channel where he overcomes his fear/s (he can choose to make it either silly and entertaining, like, I have a fear of spiders so now I'm going to let a spider walk up my arm or serious and challenging ) and then he helps other men overcome their fears. I'm a creative with a busy mind and short attention span, while watching this I kept thinking: this guy would do so well as a reality tv presenter 🤔
Not triggered but your logic is flawed, if a person can't afford to date a woman without children, then he definitely can't afford to date a woman with children.
Your table setup is way squeaky clean man, unlike the almighty Penuel who leaves us some crumbs to fight over. You left the rest of the religious people who are asking for purity from the lady...
a lot of people skip the older videos of Kevin Samuels he used to give reality checks just like this one to men and he would teach, like actually teach developing proper careers and what not but most lads only focus on what was the most recent, checking women & HVM/Alpha nonsense
Being a step dad you wont get respect from the child and even the mother of that child its a lose lose situation for you but if you're ohk with that go ahead its fine
Awesome thought provoking viewpoints as always bafo. But i would argue no one is really saying a guy just needs to be older and they're "dating market value" increase. I suspect the whole argument is, although as a man u are getting older and deteriorating physically, ur value can still be high if u got the bag. I think that's all the red pill is preaching: get your bag and you'll be the prize. If someone takes from that message and interprets that they just need to get older, they're not really listening. I think.
All i can say unless you get married u r not a step dad i can date people with kids but have absolutely nothing to do wirh their children not even meet them because we not engaged or married im very clear on that. At dating level your kids are none of my business.
I stopped watching those Life Self Help /Gurus Videos when i realised these people what they are talking about only applies to a certain Group of Men and not all Men also I like to say Perception vs Reality most of The things they say is often Online and lets not forget the Internet is not a real Place.
Red pill 💊 you talking about is teaching men know your story and work hard but you're saying jitas has to go and date single parents that's your teaching cha uyi feminist langampelaa bo!
He is trying to tell people that they should focus on reality. The Redpill can make you see some of the realities of the world but they don't tell you everything you NEED to know about reality. What Pen is talking about is the reality of the world.
@@siyandamasala1136 these people think people can't think for themselves, he was trying to be loved by girls but now he's showing us that his a feminist
But middle class black women are in the minority! Most black women are not earning well! Check the stats bro! So yes, middle class black men have options!
Hahahaha. A step-dad is a man that is being stepped on.
I would rather be a long life bachelor, respectfully. And just have temporary relationships. Because I don't think I would love the child as my own
There's too many ways to prevent conception
Thank u 4 being honest with yourself. A lot of step parents don't like the step kid the way they like their own
I'll rather stay single until I die if Impilo ingihlula than being a step dad!!!
The "partner" standards in this age are ridiculous and unrealistic sometimes.
What she brings to the table is not in financial terms for me
Was looking for this comment thank you
You can think you would love the stepchild as your own cause you might get close up until your own child comes into the picture. It’s a little better if you’re not gonna have your own
hahahaha yerrrr I felt that "you are just a ntanga just a ntanga"🤣🤣🤣🤣
I completely digress if you are a competent man, never settle for being a step dad thats for losers, there is no benefit to that. Imagine with all the beautiful young women you choose to be a step father, its a disgrace to your lineage.
"You just a nthanga like me🤣" nice one Pen😂
Lol looks like the 30s are a tricky age group
Relationships are dead guys 🤣 we pay mavuso now 🤣 just go out to the club/bar and get a slay queen for R1500 😂 even married women are selling it nowadays 😂 otherwise there's no going back 😂 commitment is dead
Very important topic to address! Thank you…
It’s important to be real with oneself - especially when kids are involved. I naively always was under the impression that I am more than capable of loving a step child as much as I love my own; in fact, at my age and as a single mother, I decided to only engage myself in a (serious) relationship with someone who already has a child/children (who is a responsible parent). But I found myself asking if I would be a good step parent emotionally?! Am I able to love a child who is not my own as much as I love my own? My answer is yes - I can love a step child but realistically, not the same way I love my own. But I can love them enough to be a good parent to them and genuinely want the best for them as much as I want for my own… is the level or type of love going to be the same - no. But it can still be beautiful and fulfill above average requirements.
As for the table thing, I no longer understand what that entails 😅 so will leave that there… somebody must just throw these tables away! Respectfully
a "ntanga"🤣🤣
What does this mean?
@@Rhenadhis ntanga=mjita=a guy
may trigger some men, but there is no lie here at all
You've changed my perception ...
nah once you become a step parent it automatically means you are the altenative me personally no way as a guy especially a provider take that decision
Nothing but facts.
Someone had to say it!🤝🏾
Imagine being a step dad, to kids who are disrespectful and you are not allowed to discipline them... MOER....You simp of simps, Your ancestors are disowning you, meanwhile the mother of those kids tells you that she doesn't want a more kids, that time you have don't kids. I'd rather stay single chief. So champ thinks society will applaud you not having your own legacy, even amadlozi will frown. The Pain of being reminded "YOU ARE NOT MY FATHER" that time you put them through school and did the best for them. Miss me with that. I say people with kids must just date folk with kids. Gents espeacially young gents, DO NOT, I WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN , DO NOT BECOME A STEP DAD AT YOUR AGE. AFRICAN CULTURES AND TRADITIONS FROWN UPON THAT.
Lol many men struggle to raise thier own kids I wonder where they get the power to raise other mens kids
Kwa....I like this guy. Weh Ntanga🤣
6:10- many ppl STILLdont understand diffwrences bwtwwwn Middle class & lower n upper working class
😂😂😂😂😂😂 who came up with these thing of who brings what to the table 😂😂😂😂😂 haik the world can be delusional sometimes. my own genuine advice is to try to marry a your partner whilst your broke because that brings trust atleast you have got something to build with each other.
I agree with you champ.
Yes, old single men with no children look reckless
So you prefer them to raise another mans kids while he has none of his own ?
@@brianmolele7264 I'm not saying that buy you judge a old person by their fruits their produce .
We all assume some with a kid and wife is more responsible compared to a play boy .
@@Mr_Shuku That's the problem with assumptions. How can a older man who is independent be irresponsible ? I don't get it. Having a kid doesn't automatically make you responsible. There are tons of people with kids who are irresponsible.
@@brianmolele7264 yes it's a bad assumption.
I think you loose alot of guys when you make the "what do you bring to the table" comment seem like its about money when guys ask it. Most guys ask or think of what a women brings to the table is rarely materialistic as for men its more a question of finding out character and morals and personality wereas for women they ask the same question from a materialistic point of view and its not a bad thing coz its how they are built.
I think the guys misunderstood the context of the tweet.
There was no context to refare to...
We all need to ask ourselves what we bring to the table for sure. I am triggered simply because we are weighing each other based on how much we bring to the table, surely money does not measure worth does it?
I got it!
Totally off topic but I think this guy should start a segment or a completely different channel where he overcomes his fear/s (he can choose to make it either silly and entertaining, like, I have a fear of spiders so now I'm going to let a spider walk up my arm or serious and challenging ) and then he helps other men overcome their fears. I'm a creative with a busy mind and short attention span, while watching this I kept thinking: this guy would do so well as a reality tv presenter 🤔
60% agree with you. Lapho okunye qha ngiyala. However, great content, it's helping us to grow. 🤙
Not triggered but your logic is flawed, if a person can't afford to date a woman without children, then he definitely can't afford to date a woman with children.
Your table setup is way squeaky clean man, unlike the almighty Penuel who leaves us some crumbs to fight over.
You left the rest of the religious people who are asking for purity from the lady...
Bro, just because you're a step father please don't try to force us to be like you.
Yoh Bhuti🙌🙌
I like how realistic your are..
Your perception of life is amazing🔥🔥...
a lot of people skip the older videos of Kevin Samuels
he used to give reality checks just like this one to men and he would teach, like actually teach
developing proper careers and what not
but most lads only focus on what was the most recent, checking women & HVM/Alpha nonsense
Live us alone bro 😂😂we are not stepfathers
True💯
Bhuti, ungalisho uliphinde lelo. Mina ngiyaye ngisho ukuthi into eyenza baye kakhulu kuma redpills yingoba abakho abantu abanjengathi kulilakithi abazositshela lento oyishoyo. ngiyabonga ukuthi sewukhona njenge sibonelo
Being a step dad you wont get respect from the child and even the mother of that child its a lose lose situation for you but if you're ohk with that go ahead its fine
Awesome thought provoking viewpoints as always bafo. But i would argue no one is really saying a guy just needs to be older and they're "dating market value" increase. I suspect the whole argument is, although as a man u are getting older and deteriorating physically, ur value can still be high if u got the bag.
I think that's all the red pill is preaching: get your bag and you'll be the prize.
If someone takes from that message and interprets that they just need to get older, they're not really listening. I think.
All i can say unless you get married u r not a step dad i can date people with kids but have absolutely nothing to do wirh their children not even meet them because we not engaged or married im very clear on that. At dating level your kids are none of my business.
I stopped watching those Life Self Help /Gurus Videos when i realised these people what they are talking about only applies to a certain Group of Men and not all Men also I like to say Perception vs Reality most of The things they say is often Online and lets not forget the Internet is not a real Place.
💯
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
True
you look like Penuel, must be related
Biological brothers
Red pill 💊 you talking about is teaching men know your story and work hard but you're saying jitas has to go and date single parents that's your teaching cha uyi feminist langampelaa bo!
He is trying to tell people that they should focus on reality. The Redpill can make you see some of the realities of the world but they don't tell you everything you NEED to know about reality. What Pen is talking about is the reality of the world.
He is the one who is delusional😂😂
@@siyandamasala1136 these people think people can't think for themselves, he was trying to be loved by girls but now he's showing us that his a feminist
Udlala ngathi lo😂😂@@siyandamasala1136
He's the one who is delusional on this matter.
But middle class black women are in the minority! Most black women are not earning well! Check the stats bro! So yes, middle class black men have options!
The delusion he’s talking about 😅😢
Lolest😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂. Atleast an honest fellow man has spoken.