As a 21 year old gent , I really appreciate the fact that you pointed out one of the problems that we as young gents have to face or compete with in the dating game, because honestly at this state I gave up on dating 😂
So i'm a 25 year old girl and I just want to agree and substantiate on what you said. I've met guys my age or a few years older who like to lead with their pockets . They brag about how much money they make, trips they've been on, how they take care of the girls they're screwing. What kills me the most ( in a funny way) is that they act surprised when they realize the girl they are speaking to used him for money 😂 you did it to yourself! Also these guys like to speak a loot about themselves on these dates to show off and impress! With flashy dates of course ( to obviously to try have sex with her) . They could avoid this by being modest, have decent date suggestions and focus on being fun and engaging company. Everytime I try to ask these people and ask introspective questions they always have a way of diverting the convo to sex. But hey maybe that's their objective and didn't have any intention of getting to know me. Either way they all act surprised when they realize that girls that they romantically like conned them and used them for money. Also I just want to point out that if you are a young guy looking to date seriously now , please consider dating in your tax bracket. I know these IG girlies look gorgeous but they are high maintenance. You as a 25 year old guy going for a 22 year old IG girlie with 50K followers is going to cost you. These girls are rolling with ballers. You can't really compete with that. Focus on building your wealth and date your more modest girl with a 9-5 job who's willing to relationship with you genuinely and modestly without breaking your bank. It's not neccessary chasing expensive girls when you can't afford them because now how will you maintain them?! It's not condusive. Anyways date smart gents! 😊 Love this video ❤
i don't believe in the term "dating within a tax bracket" that makes dating sound like prostitutions hence why most guys just hook up for sex and have no commitment because nowadays i can meet a girl i can sleep with her on the first night just by paying her the amount instead of buying her flowers and gifts all that tax bracket nonsense and sweet talk wasting my time these days because we know what you want so why cant i have my way cuz in the end i worked my ass to get to where i'm at and besides i'm not even sure if she likes me enough tha'ts why nowadays guys have discovered that hook up option is better and also ladies have allowed it if i'm broke you wont date me so now that im in the required tax bracket why should i
chances are they were dumped or couldnt get girls because they had no money so now their making up fo it but they only developed their pocets and not their personality
Lol. Most men don't earn much salary now. Most men start earning a good chunk of money after their 30s. Men actually lose virginity late than women. And stats says most men are now losing their virginity becuz of hookers. Cuz they ain't getting any girl due to dating websites and social media. As girls are getting any men they want. Those days of asking out a girl at pub or bar are almost gone.
Penson, Ngizok'shaya! Blaming men on current dating environment is some simp shit! Blame Social media rather, Because it's the one dictating relationships and modern women succumb to it. You said it yourself that it's only a few percentage of men that have the money, Or that are able to provide these women with resources, Hence you see them sharing! An average man, Which is a big percentage! Has the wrong end of the stick in all this. A big chunk of the average men is sexless! Not because they want to, But because they aren't able to keep up with the ridiculous standards of mjolo! The other average Joes that have decent income will pop out that 2k Up "girlfriend allowance" And do all the extra shit! Not because they want to, Or from the goodness of their hearts, But because they kinda have to, Atleast if they want to get laid. It is so absurd to blame a group that is at the wrong end of the stick really. The danger in all of this is that this few percentage of men with the money/blessers will find it hard to commit to these women because 1. They know had it not be for the money they wouldn't be around. 2.They have all these options, Because the average woman think they deserve better than the average man, Until they realize that they aren't getting any younger, Finding themselves unmarried, Probably childless! Then blame all the men, Including the ones they didn't want when they thought they could do better than.
Point number 1. Is the reason I don't want to get married. If The only way to get a woman is if I'm successful then I'd rather be alone because she there for the money. Simping men have also contributed to this issue. Giving below average women compliments now they all think they're 10s
This was my exact reaction when seeing this video, Pen should stop simping, cool dude, but don't be a simp. Unfortunately this is a societal issue, at least for me. We can only fix this by women and men becoming better people in general. Women stop being bought with money to be in a relationship with man and man stop spending money in order to get to know and be with woman, if she doesn't appreciate you just for spending time with her it's clear that she's using you for personal gain. Let's not beat around the bush.
Most woman won’t stay if you don’t spoil them. We just can’t solve this problem anymore bro, we just need to accept that beautiful woman have all these expectations.
The solution here is that, young ladies need to get married in their early 20s. If a young girl can get marry early, she will be protected from sexual predators(older men who only want to smash)..... The earlier a young later get married, the less likely it is that she will have high body count..
that wont work because they are already choosing older men. actualy if they take ur advice older men will be chosen most times to be the husbands. but if the issue is preditors then definetly preditors will nolonger have acces
😂. My question is why do a woman’s body count matter yet for guys it’s not even a topic….what’s the difference between a woman with a body count of 30 and a guy with the same amount? Great video!
Its biology and women are naturally not attracted to men who are not experienced with sex hence they laugh and shame guys who not getting sex ,men its opposite we don't like or commit to a women who is accessible easily to protect risks with spread of our DNA and biology aka providing and protecting kids that are not your bloodline , at the end of day we are animals and our insticts are driving most of our behaviors no matter how much social constructs or shaming , laws we put to curb them they are primary driving forces and motivations behind our actions .
it's the same as broke men. a woman who barely has any prospects will shame a broke man. a man generally also prefers a woman with minimal to no sexual past, that's the way of life. a man's value lies on his prospects, a woman's value lies on how many guys she gives easy access to from the everlasting pool of guys she generally has, as the gatekeeper of sex
Sex is easier to get for women than for men. We all value that which is harder to get. Women get pregnant men don't. There are fundamental differences between men and women
I never thought I'd disagree with Penson. Dating today is completely free market just like in the jungle. In the jungle, there are no hunting rules. There's no competition commission. There's no BEE. It's 100% opportunistic. Everyone is fair game. If a crocodile sees a lion swimming across the lake, that lion is the crocodile's dinner. If a crocodile chills next to a pride of lion on land, lions are having delicious crocodile for dinner. There are no regulations (viz culture and religion) governing dating today so it was bound to go haywire as we see it. What you're proposing Penson is like asking a crocodile to not attack the lion crossing its lake. That aint gon' happen homie! Women who receive these lavish gifts/money from these older dudes could reject them if they wanted to. It's that simple. Men who give these women money and gifts could not do it if they wanted. They all understand the terms and conditions of the exchange. So in the grand scheme of things, there is no victim here. We all have choices. There are pros and cons with dating as a lady. There are pros and cons with dating as a gent. Your job is to figure out a way to win in the long run in this free market. No victim. Everyone is fair game.
Sure you think this way, doesn’t make it true. Anyone with intellectual capacity can understand that it is much more nuanced than “dating is like the jungle.” There are 100% victims when grown men preying on young girls using money, knowing they come from less so will probably fall for it. And the ages are getting younger… grooming kids is normalised in this country
@@tshegom03 no no no, don't twist it like that. No one is talking about kids. We are talking about adult women who happen to be young and attractive (in their early or mid 20's). They are not hungry or destitute. They have food, clothes and shelter. They have autonomy. They have choice. They have options. They know what they are getting into. They choose what they choose and there's nothing wrong with that. BUT, we all face must face consequences of our choices. I have a problem with Penson blaming men for what women soberly choose. What they keep on choosing.
Well you are firstly speaking about a specific kind woman. On average there is a certain pool of 20-25 year old girls who choose these kinds of men, but men within the same age group and older will lust over the same type. I say lust because they do not respect them as human beings but as girls that can be bought and used(which they unfortunately are in this regard).He points it to men because historically, culturally and biologically men “lead” no? So if men are choosing to lust over and spend more money on young pretty girls than they do on their own mother is the issue. Men lacking fundamental principles is the reason behind that issue. I would argue that this choosing you spoke of shouldn’t be an option. Young girls shouldn’t have access to men who are fathers and even married in some cases. 20-25 is young and is the time where a girl isn’t even matured scientifically speaking, so I will always point the finger to the older individual. Young also equals less life experience and intellect(in some regard) therefore delusional in thinking the more he spends the more he cares. A young girl happily receiving from a grown man and giving access to her body because of that, will never be the same as a grown man seeking out and using money to attract these kind of girls and then sleep with them. It is a predator and prey dynamic because age and money immediately create that power dynamic, no matter how much she benefits. It was easier for you to emphasise choice and not consider context.
Brother, gosh I have so much more to say just to ukongeza on all that you have so beautifully said, this type of content siyayidinga especially kuthi luhlanga olu ntsundu because the marriage rate or family unit scores are very low in our society. I've subscribed, will be following your content more to help the message get out there than just to consume the content. These are the points I always echo in conversations and would love to get out there but I'm no fan of cameras and here you are! Dope ndoda, siyabonga!
Growing up game won a brother a girl but now a brother with no game but got cash gets all the girls. I blamw both sister and brother for handing out and receiving of this transaction
as much as i agree with most of what u said there is something amiss in ur argument. if women refuse to date their age mates at 24 like u said, then surely they can refuse to date men that are 34. This means women set the standard, if that standard is based on comparison from social media thats not the mans fault. The man will always come with his best foot foward. And alot of men will want more than they already have. so men are definetly part of the problem but thy are not the where the problem startd
Well-spoken my brother, however I'll slightly disagree with you on the point that we as men are fully to blame for the current state of dating in our country. Our sisters need to take full accountability for their dating choices and own up when they mess up. There's a book called Briffault's Law as well the Rational Male that will teach you everything you need to know about female nature and how you should move accordingly, not to mention the fact that we live in the age of third wave feminism where social media has encouraged our sisters to behave ratchet Ly without consequence. S.A is a third world nation with first world problems believe it or not, it's not uncommon now to see sisters in their 30's having successful careers but struggling in the sexual marketplace of dating. It is unfortunate but it is what it is.
Nah bro...i will forever be karma for grown women who had they chance as youngins. I am gonna keep selling them a dream but marry a younger woman. Unfortunately i am part of their lesson. I am not mad about girls hypergamy--we as men should use that as motivation to be better versions of ourselves and then we can compete and BE THE KARMA for older girls in our age bracket. RESPECTFULLY
I appreciate your viewpoint, but it appears somewhat narrow-minded. Consider delving into more research to broaden your perspective, addressing a range of factors for a more nuanced understanding of the evolving dating landscape and how it impacts young men, aiding them in navigating these dynamics effectively.
As a 21 year old gent , I really appreciate the fact that you pointed out one of the problems that we as young gents have to face or compete with in the dating game, because honestly at this state I gave up on dating 😂
You're still young to give up bro. 21 you still have a lot to learn, the good thing is you still have a lot of time.
Focus more on your health, increasing your wealth dating will just waste your time at this moment
Simps and Hoe-flation
So i'm a 25 year old girl and I just want to agree and substantiate on what you said. I've met guys my age or a few years older who like to lead with their pockets . They brag about how much money they make, trips they've been on, how they take care of the girls they're screwing. What kills me the most ( in a funny way) is that they act surprised when they realize the girl they are speaking to used him for money 😂 you did it to yourself!
Also these guys like to speak a loot about themselves on these dates to show off and impress! With flashy dates of course ( to obviously to try have sex with her) . They could avoid this by being modest, have decent date suggestions and focus on being fun and engaging company. Everytime I try to ask these people and ask introspective questions they always have a way of diverting the convo to sex. But hey maybe that's their objective and didn't have any intention of getting to know me. Either way they all act surprised when they realize that girls that they romantically like conned them and used them for money.
Also I just want to point out that if you are a young guy looking to date seriously now , please consider dating in your tax bracket. I know these IG girlies look gorgeous but they are high maintenance. You as a 25 year old guy going for a 22 year old IG girlie with 50K followers is going to cost you. These girls are rolling with ballers. You can't really compete with that. Focus on building your wealth and date your more modest girl with a 9-5 job who's willing to relationship with you genuinely and modestly without breaking your bank. It's not neccessary chasing expensive girls when you can't afford them because now how will you maintain them?! It's not condusive.
Anyways date smart gents! 😊
Love this video ❤
i don't believe in the term "dating within a tax bracket" that makes dating sound like prostitutions hence why most guys just hook up for sex and have no commitment because nowadays i can meet a girl i can sleep with her on the first night just by paying her the amount instead of buying her flowers and gifts all that tax bracket nonsense and sweet talk wasting my time these days because we know what you want so why cant i have my way cuz in the end i worked my ass to get to where i'm at and besides i'm not even sure if she likes me enough tha'ts why nowadays guys have discovered that hook up option is better and also ladies have allowed it if i'm broke you wont date me so now that im in the required tax bracket why should i
Great advice.
You cooking
chances are they were dumped or couldnt get girls because they had no money so now their making up fo it but they only developed their pocets and not their personality
Lol. Most men don't earn much salary now. Most men start earning a good chunk of money after their 30s. Men actually lose virginity late than women. And stats says most men are now losing their virginity becuz of hookers. Cuz they ain't getting any girl due to dating websites and social media. As girls are getting any men they want. Those days of asking out a girl at pub or bar are almost gone.
Penson, Ngizok'shaya! Blaming men on current dating environment is some simp shit!
Blame Social media rather, Because it's the one dictating relationships and modern women succumb to it.
You said it yourself that it's only a few percentage of men that have the money, Or that are able to provide these women with resources, Hence you see them sharing!
An average man, Which is a big percentage! Has the wrong end of the stick in all this.
A big chunk of the average men is sexless! Not because they want to, But because they aren't able to keep up with the ridiculous standards of mjolo!
The other average Joes that have decent income will pop out that 2k Up "girlfriend allowance" And do all the extra shit! Not because they want to, Or from the goodness of their hearts, But because they kinda have to, Atleast if they want to get laid.
It is so absurd to blame a group that is at the wrong end of the stick really.
The danger in all of this is that this few percentage of men with the money/blessers will find it hard to commit to these women because 1. They know had it not be for the money they wouldn't be around.
2.They have all these options, Because the average woman think they deserve better than the average man, Until they realize that they aren't getting any younger, Finding themselves unmarried, Probably childless! Then blame all the men, Including the ones they didn't want when they thought they could do better than.
Point number 1. Is the reason I don't want to get married. If The only way to get a woman is if I'm successful then I'd rather be alone because she there for the money. Simping men have also contributed to this issue. Giving below average women compliments now they all think they're 10s
This was my exact reaction when seeing this video, Pen should stop simping, cool dude, but don't be a simp. Unfortunately this is a societal issue, at least for me. We can only fix this by women and men becoming better people in general. Women stop being bought with money to be in a relationship with man and man stop spending money in order to get to know and be with woman, if she doesn't appreciate you just for spending time with her it's clear that she's using you for personal gain. Let's not beat around the bush.
Most woman won’t stay if you don’t spoil them. We just can’t solve this problem anymore bro, we just need to accept that beautiful woman have all these expectations.
Not only beautiful women, most women
@@zimasajam Yip and only way men are to blame is for creating a social media and become weak. When men are weak, society become weak.
I won't lie you made me laugh with the let's tone it down chats😂😂😂
But on the real, let's do better gents.
The solution here is that, young ladies need to get married in their early 20s. If a young girl can get marry early, she will be protected from sexual predators(older men who only want to smash).....
The earlier a young later get married, the less likely it is that she will have high body count..
Totally agree.
that wont work because they are already choosing older men. actualy if they take ur advice older men will be chosen most times to be the husbands. but if the issue is preditors then definetly preditors will nolonger have acces
You Never Cease To Tell The Truth, I Hate To Love It.
We need to be responsible as gents.Thanks Penson
😂. My question is why do a woman’s body count matter yet for guys it’s not even a topic….what’s the difference between a woman with a body count of 30 and a guy with the same amount?
Great video!
Its biology and women are naturally not attracted to men who are not experienced with sex hence they laugh and shame guys who not getting sex ,men its opposite we don't like or commit to a women who is accessible easily to protect risks with spread of our DNA and biology aka providing and protecting kids that are not your bloodline , at the end of day we are animals and our insticts are driving most of our behaviors no matter how much social constructs or shaming , laws we put to curb them they are primary driving forces and motivations behind our actions .
it's the same as broke men. a woman who barely has any prospects will shame a broke man. a man generally also prefers a woman with minimal to no sexual past, that's the way of life. a man's value lies on his prospects, a woman's value lies on how many guys she gives easy access to from the everlasting pool of guys she generally has, as the gatekeeper of sex
Sex is easier to get for women than for men. We all value that which is harder to get. Women get pregnant men don't. There are fundamental differences between men and women
@@nicosekano5942 Well said.
as a 24 year old i resonated a lot with what you said, another great one
I never thought I'd disagree with Penson.
Dating today is completely free market just like in the jungle.
In the jungle, there are no hunting rules. There's no competition commission. There's no BEE. It's 100% opportunistic. Everyone is fair game.
If a crocodile sees a lion swimming across the lake, that lion is the crocodile's dinner. If a crocodile chills next to a pride of lion on land, lions are having delicious crocodile for dinner.
There are no regulations (viz culture and religion) governing dating today so it was bound to go haywire as we see it.
What you're proposing Penson is like asking a crocodile to not attack the lion crossing its lake. That aint gon' happen homie!
Women who receive these lavish gifts/money from these older dudes could reject them if they wanted to. It's that simple. Men who give these women money and gifts could not do it if they wanted. They all understand the terms and conditions of the exchange.
So in the grand scheme of things, there is no victim here. We all have choices. There are pros and cons with dating as a lady. There are pros and cons with dating as a gent.
Your job is to figure out a way to win in the long run in this free market. No victim. Everyone is fair game.
Dankie siyabonga
Sure you think this way, doesn’t make it true.
Anyone with intellectual capacity can understand that it is much more nuanced than “dating is like the jungle.”
There are 100% victims when grown men preying on young girls using money, knowing they come from less so will probably fall for it. And the ages are getting younger… grooming kids is normalised in this country
@@tshegom03 no no no, don't twist it like that. No one is talking about kids. We are talking about adult women who happen to be young and attractive (in their early or mid 20's).
They are not hungry or destitute. They have food, clothes and shelter. They have autonomy. They have choice. They have options. They know what they are getting into. They choose what they choose and there's nothing wrong with that.
BUT, we all face must face consequences of our choices. I have a problem with Penson blaming men for what women soberly choose. What they keep on choosing.
Well you are firstly speaking about a specific kind woman. On average there is a certain pool of 20-25 year old girls who choose these kinds of men, but men within the same age group and older will lust over the same type. I say lust because they do not respect them as human beings but as girls that can be bought and used(which they unfortunately are in this regard).He points it to men because historically, culturally and biologically men “lead” no? So if men are choosing to lust over and spend more money on young pretty girls than they do on their own mother is the issue. Men lacking fundamental principles is the reason behind that issue. I would argue that this choosing you spoke of shouldn’t be an option. Young girls shouldn’t have access to men who are fathers and even married in some cases. 20-25 is young and is the time where a girl isn’t even matured scientifically speaking, so I will always point the finger to the older individual. Young also equals less life experience and intellect(in some regard) therefore delusional in thinking the more he spends the more he cares. A young girl happily receiving from a grown man and giving access to her body because of that, will never be the same as a grown man seeking out and using money to attract these kind of girls and then sleep with them. It is a predator and prey dynamic because age and money immediately create that power dynamic, no matter how much she benefits. It was easier for you to emphasise choice and not consider context.
Why do men want to be "kept"? Don't they want to stay?
Brother, gosh I have so much more to say just to ukongeza on all that you have so beautifully said, this type of content siyayidinga especially kuthi luhlanga olu ntsundu because the marriage rate or family unit scores are very low in our society. I've subscribed, will be following your content more to help the message get out there than just to consume the content. These are the points I always echo in conversations and would love to get out there but I'm no fan of cameras and here you are! Dope ndoda, siyabonga!
Here I was thinking today you will be fully on ladies team but ai otherwise true statement 👏
This simp culture is making women entitled!
Growing up game won a brother a girl but now a brother with no game but got cash gets all the girls. I blamw both sister and brother for handing out and receiving of this transaction
😂😂😂😂😂... Okay, in all seriousness, FACTS!!!! We need de-simpification as brothers man.
as much as i agree with most of what u said there is something amiss in ur argument. if women refuse to date their age mates at 24 like u said, then surely they can refuse to date men that are 34. This means women set the standard, if that standard is based on comparison from social media thats not the mans fault. The man will always come with his best foot foward. And alot of men will want more than they already have. so men are definetly part of the problem but thy are not the where the problem startd
Bro i agree with you we make this ladies flourish in this environment we have created
We need to do better as gents!
Can’t stop liking . We need to do better. Get back to principles. 🤞🏾😮💨
Ei! Kwaze kwanzima... 🫢
🤝🤝 thank you big brother for the wise words
Well-spoken my brother, however I'll slightly disagree with you on the point that we as men are fully to blame for the current state of dating in our country. Our sisters need to take full accountability for their dating choices and own up when they mess up. There's a book called Briffault's Law as well the Rational Male that will teach you everything you need to know about female nature and how you should move accordingly, not to mention the fact that we live in the age of third wave feminism where social media has encouraged our sisters to behave ratchet Ly without consequence. S.A is a third world nation with first world problems believe it or not, it's not uncommon now to see sisters in their 30's having successful careers but struggling in the sexual marketplace of dating. It is unfortunate but it is what it is.
Eish! guys , yazi ukukholwa , nokuziphatha kahle , is enough, wamukele uJesu , ufunde ibible wenza elokushoyo ungaphikisan nalo uzenza uclever. ube umntwana.. ay usiyaz. ukuzijabulisa akusho ukudakwa , nokulalana.
Nah bro...i will forever be karma for grown women who had they chance as youngins. I am gonna keep selling them a dream but marry a younger woman. Unfortunately i am part of their lesson. I am not mad about girls hypergamy--we as men should use that as motivation to be better versions of ourselves and then we can compete and BE THE KARMA for older girls in our age bracket. RESPECTFULLY
"Idla ushiyele abanye" 😂😂. Simps are the problem.
Siyizinkinga sonke, asenzeni kancono
We all have to do better!
simoshile bro loool
Leaving a comment!... to be editted later
Banger!!!💯💥💥💥
❤❤I will forever clap for others until it's my turn 🎉🎉
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Nah
hahahahahahahahaha ey lol
We did not create them, go speak to top 10% of top earning men and SIMPs.
I appreciate your viewpoint, but it appears somewhat narrow-minded. Consider delving into more research to broaden your perspective, addressing a range of factors for a more nuanced understanding of the evolving dating landscape and how it impacts young men, aiding them in navigating these dynamics effectively.