This is so true! I felt like the kids and I were living in poverty while he spent whatever he wanted to on himself! I am a careful spender and would get physically sick every time I went out and spent a little bit of money on myself 😢 I left 2 months ago, and the peace is wonderful!!
They will actually only spend money on themselves. IF they spent anything on others it’s minimal and only to garner admiration or to manipulate a situation.
Don’t buy me anything anymore I stop asking for money and things but out the blue buys me a 500 dollar robe from a Versace brand first thing he did was post it on the internet I didn’t ask for the robe nor do I care for it but he had to make the world see his robe and my robe so they know he has money smh Aw yeah that’s all I got for Christmas and he also can’t wait until it’s over lol can’t wait to leave this situation
I support him for 15 years. He cheated the whole time. He never said thank you and I was never good enough 😔 but God saved my life..thank you .Kiki PR leo ♌️
@@empress9857I tried I tried but I definitely not spending my birthday which is in March with him my mind is made up been made up before thanksgiving I’m just waiting to leave
He refused to spend his own but demanded complete access to mine he even stole my kids inheritance that I was going to use to buy a tiny house for them and me!
I had a few little tiny presents in the beginning of the relationship. After a few months…nothing…never again. Not even for my birthday, no Christmas, no flower, nothing.. nada… Even exposed himself how he is doing it with others as well: „I will show them who I am in the beginning and that they can trust me, and later I can allow myself things.“ 😅 Actually he shows who he is after the beginning.
Yes and then they are so dominating taking you out for dinner, you are not aloud to refuse, then you will be punished. And then you eat that food, so they can say - we went out for dinner - you participated in this too, because you wanted to go out and eat, Meanwhile they dont pay for grocery, electricity, childcare, medicin, presents..... Also breadcromes, very difficult in the law system.
Or want xes because they took you out and only did it because they wanted to try the restaurant out or so you can stop saying he e ever take you out lol
I wonder what his side of the story is.? I mean, cause as a man might radar goes off He quit spending all his money on me.I gotta go, don't he know he owe me?How much money did you spend on him
Yup, you'll have a running argument in a store over an out of date coupon for a small amount of money where the manager threatens to call the police then they'll buy a tonne of house decorating stuff and expect you to do the work. If you do you'll be micromanaged through the whole process and they will criticise the end result even though it's their tacky choice of decor. If you show the least pride in what you did you will arrive home about 6 weeks later and the decor will be torn down and left in the middle of the room. They will then expect you to go through all that money and time consuming process all over again.
Yup, he would give me a very small budget for groceries and necessities. He would then tell me to buy things that weren’t with my “allowance”. After a very short while I didn’t care what he said about what I was “allowed” to spend. I bought what we needed and always a little treat for the kids. Later I found out he spent all of our savings (thousands and thousands of dollars) on his new supply. I’m glad he got so flustered with me when I spent money on our daily living expenses :). It warms my heart to know it was for my kids and not his new supply.
This is exactly what used to happen to me and my kids 😮😮😮😢😢 The N of a husband would spend money on the bills and his siblings back home but nothing on us or home renovations.
He’d take every dollar from me and still expect me to pay for everything whenever we needed something. He makes thousands a week as a mechanic and tow truck driver yet refused to pay even his own cell phone bill much less rent, power, car insurance and groceries. I was thinking the other day trying to remember a single gift he bought me in the 21 years we were married and I can’t remember anything. I do remember him saying every Christmas that he didn’t realize I had nothing to open with the children and him all having their stack of gifts beside them. He’d look slightly ashamed but would never remember that feeling the next year before Christmas and making sure it didn’t happen again. I got nothing for my birthday or mother’s day or just randomly
My narc ex literally didn't spend $1 on me while we dated for several months. Everything is transactional to them and if they're getting the return they want (attention, validation, meals, gifts, intimacy, etc.) then they don't spend. It's so true
this is my life married a covert husband. he always impressed others by neglecting my and our child needs, he will rage when’s i call him out this behaviour
If I ever needed anything (underwear, socks, medicine, etc) he would say, "sure buy it", but before I could, he would spend hundreds so there wasn't enough to pay the bills and get the things I needed. This was only one of the many issues. I still struggle with the fear of "will I have enough in the bank?"
Absolutely so true, I was the only one working very hard over time and making my money and my big mistake it was to have a share bank account when I realized that demon was in control of all my money. Thanks To God who gives me the courage, the strength, the resilience to fight in name of Jesus for my freedom. I lost a lot of money but my freedom and my individuality as a person, my dignity all that part it's just mine. Today I'm unstoppable 🎉💪🏼👊🏻💫🙏🏼
As a daughter of a narcissistic father... Please run, no matter how hard it is, YOU have a choice, your daughter not! His behavior will have a massive impact on your child! Speaking as a now 34 year old mom myself without contact toy father for more than 15 years. He destroyed my childhood. Please save your child!
Going through this now. At this point I am putting in applications anywhere that I can so that he can take his money that he's so obsessed with and shove it where the sun doesn’t shine.
I have 2 covert narcs in my family, both of whom are kept women with millions. They don't have to pay any bills. And both selectively choose not to pay me back if I go to the grocery store, run errands, or buy things for their family. One narc has taken 6 years to pay me back $113.10 and got mad at me for not reminding her, although I have. And when I made it transparent to the family she took action, but apparently it'll take up to five business days for her PayPal. So, two things. First, I assume it will conveniently arrive to my PayPal on Christmas Eve making it appear as a Christmas gift that I should be thankful for. Second, it will be down to the penny, not rounded up to $115 or $120 to say sorry here's a little extra. I wish I had the luxury of being a married well kept woman.
My gosh. I know this first hand ! Glad someone knows this !! 50 years with one of these cruel people taught me everything about them. So sad to have put up with awful life for so long!. Anyone in this situation should RUNAS FAST AS YOU CAN NEVER LOOKING BACK!
My X-Husband also had to give him a receipt and the change. My Mom bought me clothes and a little mad money. 30 years ago and he's still the same. Thank God I got out.
After gaslighting myself for years I knew it was over when I bought him an expensive gold leaf gilded jade elephant figurine and I got a $13.00 rock from Amazon for our 38th wedding anniversary.
This is so true, I've spent a lot of money on my ex over and over and he never buys me anything. He just wants me to buy everything for him while I get nothing from him
I had to comment on this due to life experience. They will use your money you bring to the table and say it is OUR money. The minute they come to the table with their money it is now MY money. They won’t spend a dime on you and if they do? They will take whatever they gave you back or destroy it. For me I want nothing but inner peace.
Broken bones life ruined siblings turned against me with lies property destroyed health gone and when I approached my Mother at any time -I DIDN’T DO THAT,I NEVER SAID THAT.AFTER TRYING TO TAKE MY OWN LIFE SHE LOOKED ME IN THE EYES AND SIAD ITS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU…I FOUND GOD AND HE IS HELPING ME.❤..
This is so true, smh my ex narcissist stop buying me stuff and said I was using him even though I gave him two kids and I took care of all of the household stuff, but paying the mortgage and bills was me using him smh!
My brother spent half a million from our "business" and I got less than 5% of that. 💔 I'm deeply hurt this December but I will be okay I'm still blessed more than He could ever understand. Most importantly now I know exactly who I'm up against. I don't have much money right now but my soul full. 💪
They value money over everything else, including you.
💯💯💯💯
Won't agree with you paying someone to cut the grass because they won't . What a miserable creep.
Yes exactly.
They’re stealing my money lol
This is so true! I felt like the kids and I were living in poverty while he spent whatever he wanted to on himself! I am a careful spender and would get physically sick every time I went out and spent a little bit of money on myself 😢
I left 2 months ago, and the peace is wonderful!!
Glad for you, same pattern here you are not the only one. Bless you.
Exactly😢
@@rubiahaneef8675lord give me strength 💪🙏🙏💪 freedom sounds good 👍
Me too I asked him to leave and I worked hard and made so much money without him and raised our kids alone.
Same here.
My husband, my husband. This is so on point, thank God im working
Yes. You owe them everything. Your money/attention & anything else they can get out of you.
This was my life for over 20 years.
It was 17 years for me 😢
Mine over 35 yrs.
😪😥
I feel for you😊 onward, and upward is my hope for you
@@mikerawn3960 Thank you so much.
God bless you.
They will actually only spend money on themselves. IF they spent anything on others it’s minimal and only to garner admiration or to manipulate a situation.
Don’t buy me anything anymore I stop asking for money and things but out the blue buys me a 500 dollar robe from a Versace brand first thing he did was post it on the internet I didn’t ask for the robe nor do I care for it but he had to make the world see his robe and my robe so they know he has money smh Aw yeah that’s all I got for Christmas and he also can’t wait until it’s over lol can’t wait to leave this situation
Just another reason I'm staying single. This is just to much stress to deal with, yuck 🤢.
Please stay single it’s disgusting af Frfr don’t let the devil in please don’t
This hits so hard omg
You are absolutely right, they do not like spending their own money but have no problem been generous and spending with yours
Oh, they are democrats I see 😂
They have double standards for everything.
People, who have double standards, are dangerous.
"Rules for thee but none for me"
absolutely true, kicked him out yesterday with the help of cops ... now im free
awesome - all happiness to you in 2025
@denisem6790 thank you so much and bless you too dear Denise ❤️🫶🏼💯 have a great 2025
I support him for 15 years. He cheated the whole time. He never said thank you and I was never good enough 😔 but God saved my life..thank you .Kiki PR leo ♌️
I’m going through this exact thing now 💯
I had to return a bag of nuts that I wasn't allowed to purchase. So embarrassing!😢
❤️
Trust me I believe you it’s horrible however I left the ex narc before Xmas I could care less
@@empress9857I tried I tried but I definitely not spending my birthday which is in March with him my mind is made up been made up before thanksgiving I’m just waiting to leave
Lived like this for to long glad its over ..😢😮
I thank God for saving out of this trap...I listened to Him and followed guidance...You can too
Regardless they are extremely STINGY and keep tabs on receipts of every penny they spend 🎯🎯
My sister will call you crying that her teeth hurt..she needs money..anything for money..the stories are amazing.
Yep I paid for a teeth to be pulled they still owe me 250 right nah 🤦
FACTS!!!🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 He gave me a list of everything he's done for me down to the candy he bought me😳
Leave the bastard
Once My husband told me Im using too much Shampoo. 😮
It actually worse they have no money for anything. Then when THEY want something the sky is the limit
He refused to spend his own but demanded complete access to mine he even stole my kids inheritance that I was going to use to buy a tiny house for them and me!
Very true ❤
I had a few little tiny presents in the beginning of the relationship. After a few months…nothing…never again. Not even for my birthday, no Christmas, no flower, nothing.. nada…
Even exposed himself how he is doing it with others as well: „I will show them who I am in the beginning and that they can trust me, and later I can allow myself things.“ 😅
Actually he shows who he is after the beginning.
I been experiencing it for the past 27 years😢
Then it's your own stupidity
Yes and then they are so dominating taking you out for dinner, you are not aloud to refuse, then you will be punished. And then you eat that food, so they can say - we went out for dinner - you participated in this too, because you wanted to go out and eat, Meanwhile they dont pay for grocery, electricity, childcare, medicin, presents..... Also breadcromes, very difficult in the law system.
Or want xes because they took you out and only did it because they wanted to try the restaurant out or so you can stop saying he e ever take you out lol
@2014moon Yes, that too because they want to go out and it just not alone.
@@MagnysAaexactly because deep inside they are a nervous wreck shaking and stuff smh lol
@@2014moon Yes. The false personality/ facade that works as a shield for what you just said.
That ain't no lie. It's. 100% TRUE ‼️😭‼️😭💔
🎯The accuracy.
Yes...my ex stopped spending money for me n my children.....so eventually I had to divorce him....he was just useless
I wonder what his side of the story is.? I mean, cause as a man might radar goes off He quit spending all his money on me.I gotta go, don't he know he owe me?How much money did you spend on him
I’m glad to be out of the situation I was in. What a lesson and a blessing. The wrong people will teach you the right things.🎉❤😢😊
I love your channel. Accurate.
Yup, you'll have a running argument in a store over an out of date coupon for a small amount of money where the manager threatens to call the police then they'll buy a tonne of house decorating stuff and expect you to do the work. If you do you'll be micromanaged through the whole process and they will criticise the end result even though it's their tacky choice of decor. If you show the least pride in what you did you will arrive home about 6 weeks later and the decor will be torn down and left in the middle of the room. They will then expect you to go through all that money and time consuming process all over again.
So wahr. Jahrzehnte gebraucht um letztendlich zu verstehen, was dort abgeht.
100 percent true.
Yup, he would give me a very small budget for groceries and necessities. He would then tell me to buy things that weren’t with my “allowance”. After a very short while I didn’t care what he said about what I was “allowed” to spend. I bought what we needed and always a little treat for the kids. Later I found out he spent all of our savings (thousands and thousands of dollars) on his new supply. I’m glad he got so flustered with me when I spent money on our daily living expenses :). It warms my heart to know it was for my kids and not his new supply.
Yes still struggling 😢
This is exactly what used to happen to me and my kids 😮😮😮😢😢
The N of a husband would spend money on the bills and his siblings back home but nothing on us or home renovations.
This is what my husband does
I have to be careful not to do this when I start a relationship
I'm one of those people who doesn't want to be a narcissist like my mother
Wow! This is exactly how it is. So true.
He’d take every dollar from me and still expect me to pay for everything whenever we needed something. He makes thousands a week as a mechanic and tow truck driver yet refused to pay even his own cell phone bill much less rent, power, car insurance and groceries. I was thinking the other day trying to remember a single gift he bought me in the 21 years we were married and I can’t remember anything. I do remember him saying every Christmas that he didn’t realize I had nothing to open with the children and him all having their stack of gifts beside them. He’d look slightly ashamed but would never remember that feeling the next year before Christmas and making sure it didn’t happen again. I got nothing for my birthday or mother’s day or just randomly
My narc ex literally didn't spend $1 on me while we dated for several months. Everything is transactional to them and if they're getting the return they want (attention, validation, meals, gifts, intimacy, etc.) then they don't spend. It's so true
this is my life married a covert husband. he always impressed others by neglecting my and our child needs, he will rage when’s i call him out this behaviour
If I ever needed anything (underwear, socks, medicine, etc) he would say, "sure buy it", but before I could, he would spend hundreds so there wasn't enough to pay the bills and get the things I needed. This was only one of the many issues. I still struggle with the fear of "will I have enough in the bank?"
This his dead on in my life
Absolutely so true, I was the only one working very hard over time and making my money and my big mistake it was to have a share bank account when I realized that demon was in control of all my money. Thanks To God who gives me the courage, the strength, the resilience to fight in name of Jesus for my freedom. I lost a lot of money but my freedom and my individuality as a person, my dignity all that part it's just mine. Today I'm unstoppable 🎉💪🏼👊🏻💫🙏🏼
Oh God, yes! This explains why I ended up paying for everything when we went out, but only got a free coffee out of him once a month!
100%That's them.
Trapped with babies from day 1
This is my husband does he don’t even give me money to buy sanitary things I told in my daughter’s school then they provide us stuff
As a daughter of a narcissistic father... Please run, no matter how hard it is, YOU have a choice, your daughter not! His behavior will have a massive impact on your child! Speaking as a now 34 year old mom myself without contact toy father for more than 15 years. He destroyed my childhood. Please save your child!
So,so true. This is fact based information! So grateful for this.
Going through this now. At this point I am putting in applications anywhere that I can so that he can take his money that he's so obsessed with and shove it where the sun doesn’t shine.
I am too
So incredibly true!
I have 2 covert narcs in my family, both of whom are kept women with millions. They don't have to pay any bills. And both selectively choose not to pay me back if I go to the grocery store, run errands, or buy things for their family. One narc has taken 6 years to pay me back $113.10 and got mad at me for not reminding her, although I have. And when I made it transparent to the family she took action, but apparently it'll take up to five business days for her PayPal. So, two things. First, I assume it will conveniently arrive to my PayPal on Christmas Eve making it appear as a Christmas gift that I should be thankful for. Second, it will be down to the penny, not rounded up to $115 or $120 to say sorry here's a little extra. I wish I had the luxury of being a married well kept woman.
Reminds me of a politician when donating for charity
You are quite observant.👍🏾💯
Even during birthdays they were reluctant to give me money and when they did it was always, "Don't spend it on nothing stupid"
The exception is the altruistic narcissist and regular narcs who are trying to hoover.
Spot on love bombed mr with gift and dinners past 2 years taking everything back bc I’m setting boundaries and calling out infidelity
So true,, it takes time to know such people.....
Spot on.
This made me take deep breaths and release truama😢❤
He isn’t lying
Exactly..And, I'm a disgusting excuse of a human being just because I made one small mistake.
He only ever spent money on himself. He was far too selfish to give anything to charity or other people.
Exactly
Facts I appreciate you sharing all the low down dirty tricks of a narc❤
I am experiencing this today, 😢
OMG!!! When my Mother Did this to me I was 😳🤯🤯🤯💔💔💔💔💔 Word for Word Truth!!!
So true. And they buy friends and make you the spender
So true Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤
This is so true 😢
Very sad..😢😢😢 very true..
I work, yet he wants me to work more overtime.
FACTS
You are right
So true
So v true! I hav even got a Cheque for a dollar and 50 cents so that I don't "overspend"! Totally relatable! 😂🤣👍
Mother pretending money for my medicines and food she bought for me after my c section, not thinking i cant have money in my poket in that moment...
Yes 💯 💯 💯 💯
My gosh. I know this first hand ! Glad someone knows this !! 50 years with one of these cruel people taught me everything about them. So sad to have put up with awful life for so long!. Anyone in this situation should RUNAS FAST AS YOU CAN NEVER LOOKING BACK!
Thats my mother.... 😂😂😂😂 I gave all money what i earned through my work. Now i have penniless. She wants me to move out from home. 😂😂😂😂😂
😂 I do love that we are laughing about it just shows you how tough God made us. ❤
@VICK18009 hahahahaha.. now I am the villain to the society because of leaving parents
Sounds familiar to me. Could it be a possible Narcissist creeping in my life? I think so. Proof of purchase is not my job.❤❤❤
Truth as always
...my Ex-Husband does this
My X-Husband also had to give him a receipt and the change. My Mom bought me clothes and a little mad money. 30 years ago and he's still the same. Thank God I got out.
yes. every word is true
Yes like my husband.
This is absolutely 💯 true
After gaslighting myself for years I knew it was over when I bought him an expensive gold leaf gilded jade elephant figurine and I got a $13.00 rock from Amazon for our 38th wedding anniversary.
How is this so spot on!!!!
This is so true
very true👍
💯 true . I got the dressing down at the grocery store for just basic necessities
omg, so damn true
This is so true, I've spent a lot of money on my ex over and over and he never buys me anything. He just wants me to buy everything for him while I get nothing from him
This is 💯% true unfortunately. 😢😢😢
I had to comment on this due to life experience. They will use your money you bring to the table and say it is OUR money. The minute they come to the table with their money it is now MY money. They won’t spend a dime on you and if they do? They will take whatever they gave you back or destroy it. For me I want nothing but inner peace.
Broken bones life ruined siblings turned against me with lies property destroyed health gone and when I approached my Mother at any time -I DIDN’T DO THAT,I NEVER SAID THAT.AFTER TRYING TO TAKE MY OWN LIFE SHE LOOKED ME IN THE EYES AND SIAD ITS NOT ALL ABOUT YOU…I FOUND GOD AND HE IS HELPING ME.❤..
This is so true, smh my ex narcissist stop buying me stuff and said I was using him even though I gave him two kids and I took care of all of the household stuff, but paying the mortgage and bills was me using him smh!
I got asked for gas money to go out to dinner on our anniversary
My brother spent half a million from our "business" and I got less than 5% of that. 💔 I'm deeply hurt this December but I will be okay I'm still blessed more than He could ever understand. Most importantly now I know exactly who I'm up against. I don't have much money right now but my soul full. 💪
Thank you God for the escape 🎉
So very true. That’s my husband behaviour 100%.
So true!