So she broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years because by year 8 he wanted to start raising a family. How did you date past year 1 not understanding this?
O believe that’s because in their interpretation the men aren’t married because there are no marriageable women. And the women are considered they aren’t worth marrying to.
My female cousins in the US are 29 ,26 living at home unmarried but, with careers. I think my uncle and aunt are disappointed but, thankful they make their own money. 🤷♀️ In Hispanic culture we say “ se le fue el tren” - “ her train left “ 🤦♀️
In general I think an arranged marriage or using a matchmaker to find the one is not a bad idea as parents and professionals can often judge who would be a good match.Provided the arrangement is voluntary I see it as just another way of meeting a mate.However in some societies I think parents and the society itself such as China,India and Pakistan put too much pressure on young women to marry,and should take a step back.
What's the difference between a China Chinese and a Singaporean Chinese? China Chinese tend to replace certain Chinese expression to English, just to show others that they are conversant with English. Singaporean Chinese tend to replace certain Chinese expression to English when they are unsure of certain Chinese expressions.
its true, some idiots do speak like that, some even go to the extent to mix English- chinese and accidently use shanghainese to literally speak martian, its insane
You can date someone and still have a career and plan for marriage in your 30s. I met my wife at 25. We worked on our careers and made money and bought a house then traveled. Then we got married at 32 and kids by 37. Been together 20 years. My sister in law is 36. Asian. No husband or kids. Still lives at home. She is going through a meltdown. It’s the millennials who caused this. They though they could work on careers first.Then marry in their 30s. You can do both. I have seen women in their 30s find a husband. Most are divorced or have kids. This is where the women get picky. I have met many women in their 30s who are American and single. They all go on wine tasting tours and enjoy the single simple life. They have given up on looking for a husband.
Why should they settle for someone who doesn't impress them sufficiently, though? Women have the upper hand there, they can choose who to be with, and whether they want to get married, which, lets be real, disproportionately puts THEM at a disadvantage.
@@franzschuhmacher2385 Your punctuation makes reading the sentence difficult. Too many commas. Also, my comment was sarcasm (note:the drama reference ).
@@franzschuhmacher2385 Actually bad grammar means you failed to communicate. Now if your goal was to state gibberish then it is "my" problem. However, I assume you had a point to share and I can't understand because your sentence is terribly written. That's "your" problem. Based on your reply. I now know it is the former and you had nothing to say but gibberish. Therefore continuing to engage you is "my" problem as you have clearly stated in your last reply.
@@Dryltd You're too emotional. There's no need to, though. Everybody has weaknesses. Just work on your reading comprehension and I promise it will improve.
Nice video. Good pacing good editing good video quality. The audio is at times a little lacking but overall very high standard. Keep up the great work!
A memory of mine: I'll never forget this and my mother has yet for forgive me for it. Once my mum and I flew to Japan to visit her relatives. So we get there and what does she do? She sets me up on a date with her sisters friends daughter without telling me. This girl just showed up one day She looked like the Japanese version of a young Jennifer Connelly. Just gorgeous.. I was single and I was absolutely furious at my mom for trying this. My mum always wanted me to marry a nice traditional Japanese girl and have Japanese kids. But the last girl I brought home was an "Iowa Farmers Daughter".. I remember pointing at my mum and saying: "I can see right through this. Your not getting away with it!." So this girl and I went to this Indian restaurant a block away (In Hiroshima City, Japan) and I wanted to make sure this girl never wanted to talk to me again just to prove a point to my mum so in the middle of dinner I ripped the most massive, loud obnoxious fart I could muster and loudly moaned in front of all these people. I laughed my *ss off and when my mom heard I did that, she burst into flames and started yelling at me how embarrassed she was to her family. I remember at the end of that utter verbal whipping I got saying "Well that'll learn ya. Your not going to try this again !" To this day my mom sometimes gives me a bad time about it.
My God! China 2021 parents pushing people to marry. Brazil (my country) my mom: "Don't get marry, don't have children, travel, enjoy your life, be happy".
@@2804Freedom Based on your name you are not chinese, even western even from a developed country. Based on your comment, you got very offended with my speech, in any moment I was talking about those things. So: You have low self confidence, you don't like people to be free (explained why you are defending China) but I didn't offended china in my comment🤔 What's left? From midle or africa living in china? Anyway...I don't wanna know. Goodbye!
As a human, I am worry that I am alone WITHOUT BLOOD FAMILY someday (first is husband as life partner and if God wants, kid(s)). So for me, honestly I want to have marriage which till the end and I never plan living alone in this world.
@@andrewd5135 No, it's very sad because I am type human who needs at least 1 other fellow human (spouse) and of course I wish from God some biological kids
@@rinioktapianainggolanron4967 you should work on yourself in the mean time im sure you will be able to find a husband after, if your going to bring kids into poverty dont have them.
Because, unfortunately, not being married in a third world country is akin to a death sentence. I know in the more up-to-date world women have nothing but governmental assistance and ancillary resources to behave autonomously but the same does not apply to places like China, Africa, Japan, etc. and that's just how it is. Not saying it's a good thing but it is the truth.
It's more the rising standards to remain competitive against upcoming technological replacements. The "shèngnǚ" remain single mainly because they haven't found a man who has a high enough socioeconomic potential needed to have a life together going forward.
Why there is a lot of women can't find or married? As I am a man, guy try to find a serious relationship but end up fall into a scam. Last year I fall into a scam and that how I realise that good woman hard to find there when I realised, it already too late. How are we going to trust when scammer everywhere and it is not safe anymore.
WOW!!! Amazing story, Boo 💕 U continue to Brighten My World Everyday 💖 Soooo Beautiful, Smart & Talented 😍 Stay safe 🙏🏼💞 and Hopefully I'll see U soon 😘💋🥰
The ending I felt sad. Pushing another wage slave into Earth. Repeating the same dumb cycle. Y'all not tired of suffering here on this Earth? Keeping it real 💯!
Judgement with out know is the issue also. i leverage this via foods and especially for the adult male 3 liters of mineraled water sloes to rivber and estruary then i change my foods for the head and the feet and the middle and the time is important to walk and not be insode if inside be better to take time out soide in the evening walking near treesad plants and nature and the morning also if possible. the army is ok they will know sense when they see the nature of life . turnig off the CPu screen is important and thhe phone eeds to be left at hom so walign with others integrated is a sign of l;eace not as a gang. teh army bows. as i and the female needs 2.5 liters for the feamle . keep you rseills and travel with to tested plans and join others sibgle or wotherwose life is fun. sometines there is arguemnt
ifthe male is it and finds it difficult to bow then it can have a belt it is ot a death but not to bow with true respect is the hit not a death just a fact. a gun will kill me not a look to my death but a bow to open the tap for a drink huh ? a lion to the deer
Dear Linda, There are numerous scientific research that explains why parents worry about their daughters being "leftover women". It's not just because traditions. Here in my comment, I will present to you some of those scientific evidences and not just my own opinion. A lot of women may feel uncomfortable about these truths and some may even say that these truths are hateful; however, truths do not know hate or love. The truth sounds like hate to many people who hate the truth. The truth is just what it is. Many women will say that what I'm about to say is "harmful" and "damaging" but is it more damaging to tell women the fantasy that they want to believe or is it more damaging to tell women how reality really is? Think about it. First, men are attracted to young women. Now, you're probably going to say that there are men who prefer older women. You're right, but think of a normal distribution where the x-axis is a woman's age and the y-axis is how attractive men find her in the dating market. The higher her attractiveness, the more options for men she has. In this normal distribution there is a "peak". This "peak" is the age in women that men find women most attractive. As women deviated away from that "peak", less men are attracted to women of that age. The vast majority of men prefer young women. The men who like old women are outliers. They are not the general population of men. It is similar to how women prefer tall men. Yes, there are women who prefer short men but they are outliers; they're not the general population of women. I'm talking about the majority of the population, not the rare exceptions. According to a 2018 study by Bruch and Newman, “the average woman’s desirability drops from the time she is 18 until she is 60. For men, desirability peaks around 50 and then declines.” Women hit their "peak" at a much younger age than men. Why? Men and women are attracted to different things. Because women peak at an early age, it makes sense for her to find a man and have a family at an early age. As a woman becomes older, her options in men dwindle away, she becomes more invisible to men, men are less tolerant of her bad behaviors, and men are less willing to put her on a pedestal. Think about it. It makes sense. As women become less fertile, they become less attractive. The purpose of life from a biological view is to reproduce and pass on your genes. Failure to do so will have your genes eliminated from the gene pool. It's called "sexual selection", and it is a form of natural selection. In the same study by Bruch and Newman, they found that “desirability is associated with education most strongly for men, for whom more education is always more desirable. For women, an undergraduate degree is most desirable; postgraduate education is associated with decreased desirability among women.” Like I said earlier, men and women are attracted to different things. Men are valued by their resources and their ability to provide; not women. Men don't care about a woman's college degree, job title, how much money she makes, or what car she drives. It is women who cares about those things in a man, not the other way around. All through the millions of years of human history, men have been valued for their ability to provide. Men who were successful hunters and were able to bring back a lot of resources had the most sexual partners. Women have historically always relied on a man's resources for the survival of them and their offspring. This is especially true during their most vulnerable times - pregnancy and when their child is small, vulnerable, and needs resources. It is for this reason that women have evolved to seek a provider and men are evolved to seek young women who are fertile. A young women who has a small waist, large hips, and large breasts are some of the indicators that she is fertile and healthy for child bearing. This is why when it comes to finding a partner, men place physical appearance as one of the top most important things that they look for... Not her college degree. No college degree has ever given a man an erection. Also, women who are highly career orientated are seen as being more masculine. Career women compete with other men daily. What does that do to a woman? If she is in a leadership position or wants to be in a leadership position, she may try to be more assertive, domineering, decisive, taking initiatives, and other more traditionally masculine traits... She is seen as more of a man and less of a lady. Men are attracted to feminine women. Far too many women are confused about what men want. Too many women think that men who are highly educated and have a high-paying career are attractive so if a woman does that too, she will also be highly attractive. Nothing is further from the truth. The things that make men and women attractive are different. Women cannot do the things that make men attractive and get the same results (and vice versa). Now, I'm not saying that women shouldn't have a job or get an education. No. Women can do what they want, but they need to be weary of not wasting too much of their prime years on things that matter less. Most women want a family and to have kids. There is a cost for women who hold off finding a man and having a family for too long. That cost is standards. The older she is, the less attractive she becomes, so the lower she is going to have to lower her standards. Like I said, many women are confused about what makes a woman attractive. Far too many older career have really high standards because they think they deserve a man who is on their economic level or higher. Women don't date down. Hypergamy is in their nature. These women don't realize that men of that economic level can go for younger and prettier women who are more feminine. You can be picky and have high standards if you are attractive but you can't be picky and have high standards if you are unattractive. You can't play hard to get when you are hard to want. I feel that what is missing in your video is these old career women telling us what their standards in men is. I think that would be interesting to see. Unlike women who are attracted to men who are around their own age, men no matter what the age are most attracted to young women. A 2017 study by Jan Antfolk titled "Age Limits: Men’s and Women’s Youngest and Oldest Considered and Actual Sex Partners" said that "Whereas women of all ages prefer slightly older sexual partners, men-regardless of their age-have a preference for women in their 20s." This is further evidence that men are fixated on young women. A lot of women think that when they are in their 30s or 40s, men around their age will want to date them. That's not true. These men would prefer a 21 year-old woman who probably has no college degree and is probably broke but has a cute face and nice body. Also, women find out that as they get older, the men they want to marry have already been taken off the marriage market by another woman. No woman is dumb enough to let go of a highly successful, handsome, and attractive man. And what about the older men who would date these old career women? They might come with more baggage and many of them probably have went through a divorce. You see, your parents are good parents. They did a great job saving your sister from being a cat lady/leftover woman. If you do not believe what I say about women becoming less attractive as they age, I invite you to conduct an experiment. Create 2 accounts on Tinder or any other dating app with 1 account of pictures of you at the age of 18-21 and the other account of you how you are currently. You can add your education and job at that age if you want. See which accounts receive more matches, likes, and messages. You'll see that more men prefer the younger version of you despite you having a higher education level or higher-paying job. You'll also notice that the younger version of you had the most access to wealthy men. You'll notice that the younger version of you had more offers for vacation trips and gifts from men. Wealthy men are literally ready to throw money at the younger version of you. You may realize that men see women as sex objects or beauty objects while women see men as success objects or walking ATMs. The things that make men and women attractive are different. We see dating, marriage and sex differently. Now, you may say that online dating just attracts shallow people. But I disagree. It brings out the shallowness in people. Most young people in Western countries have used online dating apps at least once in their life. In the United States and many other countries, a lot of women are encouraged to pursue their career and education and hold off marriage and having kids for as long as possible. The problem is, most women want children and most men want young women. Feminism tells women that they can have it all. Do you see the problem here and how damaging that is to women who want children? Now, I want women to have opportunities in their career but I am a realist and I do care about women's happiness. It blows my mind how many single old career women there are who never tell young women about their mistakes or warn them about the consequences of pursuing a career and holding off having a family. It's almost as if these older career women want these young women to suffer like they did. Perhaps they are unable to accept the fact that they are older and less attractive and that men prefer younger women. These older career women give bad advice. Don't take advice from miserable single women. I see women who are stay-at-home mothers so much happier than old career women who are single. A lot of these mothers fill more fulfilled in life.
@@TriLe-nz4oq A lot women are confused about why they become less attractive as they age. I try to be precise. This is a hard reality for many women to accept.
That's a very long comment about what makes your peepee happy and what doesn't. In real life, you'll notice that women have no issues to find a man when they want one, no matter their education or age. It's the men that are increasingly involuntarily celibate, desperate for a woman and turning to narratives such as "darling, if you don't settle for me now, you will be too old to find a man!" and "Don't pursue any higher education, there's nothing in it for you since it doesn't make my peepee happy!" You need to realise that women don't exist for your arousal or the possibility of a relationship with you. There is an endless supply of men that are better than you who swarm women, any woman in fact.
So she broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years because by year 8 he wanted to start raising a family. How did you date past year 1 not understanding this?
They don’t get married because they don’t want to. Get over it.
In a totalitary system you are not allowed to have an own opinion.
@@M.1.2.3.4.5. Not true. China is not North Korea. People in China have a lot more freedom that you think.
Not there's something else
Wouldn’t it be “left over men” if there’s 20 million more ?
exactly
The excess men are probably going to remain single for life
The ladies are spinsters or on the shelf and the men are surely the leftover ones?
O believe that’s because in their interpretation the men aren’t married because there are no marriageable women. And the women are considered they aren’t worth marrying to.
And even those men dont want those women, when u got 20million extra to pick from and still fall short even though u are looking makes u left over.
That park is like the section on sale - everything must go, in the stores.
My female cousins in the US are 29 ,26 living at home unmarried but, with careers. I think my uncle and aunt are disappointed but, thankful they make their own money. 🤷♀️ In Hispanic culture we say “ se le fue el tren” - “ her train left “ 🤦♀️
The train left the station I think the phrase is.
In other cultures there is is the cute saying " the train has left the station".
This was such a well edited and put together video! 👍🏼
Hahaha, this was the cutest documentary on the topic that I've come across
In general I think an arranged marriage or using a matchmaker to find the one is not a bad idea as parents and professionals can often judge who would be a good match.Provided the arrangement is voluntary I see it as just another way of meeting a mate.However in some societies I think parents and the society itself such as China,India and Pakistan put too much pressure on young women to marry,and should take a step back.
The last part with the older daughter was super adorable💕😭
What's the difference between a China Chinese and a Singaporean Chinese?
China Chinese tend to replace certain Chinese expression to English, just to show others that they are conversant with English.
Singaporean Chinese tend to replace certain Chinese expression to English when they are unsure of certain Chinese expressions.
Hahahhaahha 😂😂😂😂
BRO ARE YOU ME? I said that inside a bar where a women spoke like a singaporean
like yesterday OMG
its true, some idiots do speak like that, some even go to the extent to mix English- chinese and accidently use shanghainese to literally speak martian, its insane
You can date someone and still have a career and plan for marriage in your 30s. I met my wife at 25. We worked on our careers and made money and bought a house then traveled. Then we got married at 32 and kids by 37. Been together 20 years. My sister in law is 36. Asian. No husband or kids. Still lives at home. She is going through a meltdown. It’s the millennials who caused this. They though they could work on careers first.Then marry in their 30s. You can do both. I have seen women in their 30s find a husband. Most are divorced or have kids. This is where the women get picky. I have met many women in their 30s who are American and single. They all go on wine tasting tours and enjoy the single simple life. They have given up on looking for a husband.
Good point! Mike.
do you know any trusted site so that I can talk with lady and if possible I can marry too.
@@sumandas9487 ive used a few apps too many fake profiles, your better off meeting them in real life
Only 400 subs?? Awesome video Linda :) !!! Would be nice to hear more about chinese tradition and culture from a Chinese-American perspective!
So what? The worlds teeming with single people, what makes them special?
This is a great video about this topic. Thank you Linda and all the girls that participate in this video
"Wahhh" real life isn't a C-Drama. I know. It broke my heart as well to learn.
Why should they settle for someone who doesn't impress them sufficiently, though? Women have the upper hand there, they can choose who to be with, and whether they want to get married, which, lets be real, disproportionately puts THEM at a disadvantage.
@@franzschuhmacher2385 Your punctuation makes reading the sentence difficult. Too many commas. Also, my comment was sarcasm (note:the drama reference ).
@@Dryltd I think that's a "you" problem.
@@franzschuhmacher2385 Actually bad grammar means you failed to communicate. Now if your goal was to state gibberish then it is "my" problem. However, I assume you had a point to share and I can't understand because your sentence is terribly written. That's "your" problem. Based on your reply. I now know it is the former and you had nothing to say but gibberish. Therefore continuing to engage you is "my" problem as you have clearly stated in your last reply.
@@Dryltd You're too emotional. There's no need to, though. Everybody has weaknesses. Just work on your reading comprehension and I promise it will improve.
Nice video.
Good pacing good editing good video quality. The audio is at times a little lacking but overall very high standard.
Keep up the great work!
A memory of mine: I'll never forget this and my mother has yet for forgive me for it. Once my mum and I flew to Japan to visit her relatives. So we get there and what does she do? She sets me up on a date with her sisters friends daughter without telling me. This girl just showed up one day She looked like the Japanese version of a young Jennifer Connelly. Just gorgeous.. I was single and I was absolutely furious at my mom for trying this. My mum always wanted me to marry a nice traditional Japanese girl and have Japanese kids. But the last girl I brought home was an "Iowa Farmers Daughter".. I remember pointing at my mum and saying: "I can see right through this. Your not getting away with it!." So this girl and I went to this Indian restaurant a block away (In Hiroshima City, Japan) and I wanted to make sure this girl never wanted to talk to me again just to prove a point to my mum so in the middle of dinner I ripped the most massive, loud obnoxious fart I could muster and loudly moaned in front of all these people. I laughed my *ss off and when my mom heard I did that, she burst into flames and started yelling at me how embarrassed she was to her family. I remember at the end of that utter verbal whipping I got saying "Well that'll learn ya. Your not going to try this again !"
To this day my mom sometimes gives me a bad time about it.
u married now, brah?
Hekoki Master! Just kidding, bro.
That poor girl
Breaking wind is not very classy bro!
Crazy marriage market. For Asian women born in North America, this would be shocking, and a definite no go.
Good, then don't go.
It's a big problem for the uglier ones.
Why? What’s the point to rash. You can get married even in your 70s if you want.
Yes you are right miss
Absolutely
Hello 👋 Amanda.. How are you doing today?
Disgusting. Go be a creep elsewhere.
Hello Amanda
hi amanda. you can talk to me.
Do Chinese women enter menopause at 30?
Lol
No but it's late age to reproduce
My God! China 2021 parents pushing people to marry. Brazil (my country) my mom: "Don't get marry, don't have children, travel, enjoy your life, be happy".
Brazil: low growth, high criminality. China: high growth, low criminality. Way to go, Brazil.
@@2804Freedom China is a communist country. That's all I have to say.
@@2804Freedom Based on your name you are not chinese, even western even from a developed country. Based on your comment, you got very offended with my speech, in any moment I was talking about those things. So: You have low self confidence, you don't like people to be free (explained why you are defending China) but I didn't offended china in my comment🤔 What's left? From midle or africa living in china? Anyway...I don't wanna know. Goodbye!
Yeah, and then the wall hits 😝. And when you are 40 the only attention you will get will be from overweight gringos above 65 on Copacabana.
God bless you priestess the great for all you have done for me, l will forever recommend your great work my wife now love me more then ever💖💖
Happy ending for the sister. Did she find her husband herself or was she helped to find him by the parents?
As a human, I am worry that I am alone WITHOUT BLOOD FAMILY someday (first is husband as life partner and if God wants, kid(s)). So for me, honestly I want to have marriage which till the end and I never plan living alone in this world.
it not bad to be alone. at least you free!
@@andrewd5135 No, it's very sad because I am type human who needs at least 1 other fellow human (spouse) and of course I wish from God some biological kids
@@rinioktapianainggolanron4967 you should work on yourself in the mean time im sure you will be able to find a husband after, if your going to bring kids into poverty dont have them.
I love the video Linda!
Hell, I’ll take leftovers and sloppy seconds and thirds, for that matter!
Still waiting for more content like this.
I thought there was going to be a shortage of women because of the one-child rule and prospective parents aborting their unborn girls.
The guy in Chicago's loss, congratulations
Ohhhhh! So that's why the issue here, because of the one child policy and the preference for having daughters that was going on back then, right???
Urbanization reduces social pressure to get married and have kids.
They are NOT leftover they are just not married,and why should they be ?
Because, unfortunately, not being married in a third world country is akin to a death sentence. I know in the more up-to-date world women have nothing but governmental assistance and ancillary resources to behave autonomously but the same does not apply to places like China, Africa, Japan, etc. and that's just how it is. Not saying it's a good thing but it is the truth.
This is not America. Different culture and social system
Seeing the unhappy miserable older women of the west. I guess parents will also be really be worried.
Not only China but all SouthEast Asia region
Well high standards regarding beauty and putting technology over humans come at a price
It's more the rising standards to remain competitive against upcoming technological replacements. The "shèngnǚ" remain single mainly because they haven't found a man who has a high enough socioeconomic potential needed to have a life together going forward.
@@doujinflip So basically the Men don't earn enough money to these women?
Why there is a lot of women can't find or married? As I am a man, guy try to find a serious relationship but end up fall into a scam. Last year I fall into a scam and that how I realise that good woman hard to find there when I realised, it already too late. How are we going to trust when scammer everywhere and it is not safe anymore.
WOW!!! Amazing story, Boo 💕 U continue to Brighten My World Everyday 💖 Soooo Beautiful, Smart & Talented 😍 Stay safe 🙏🏼💞 and Hopefully I'll see U soon 😘💋🥰
I'm so in love with Chinese women! I seriously would love to wife one and treat her like a GODDESS
One of them is 35 and still picky. 🤷 I dont blame her though because in Asian culture failed marriages are looked down on.
I thought there was a shortage of women?
I don't understand, why don't those woman get married and have a career? You can do both.
They need to make their way to America.
🙌🏾 yes, they’ll be married in a heartbeat 💓
@@tabbypanda82 for sure in the land full of simps
9:00 at 33 this woman will NEVER get married - even in the USA 9:37 oops I was wrong, she did get married. And he’s a handsome guy. 😊
Hello I would like to discuss something with you on wechat.
The ending I felt sad. Pushing another wage slave into Earth. Repeating the same dumb cycle.
Y'all not tired of suffering here on this Earth?
Keeping it real 💯!
Someone with sense atleast. I don’t buy the “who will take care of you when you’re old?”
You have a beautiful family
A more traditional Chinese man. Also known as a man.
@ReplicantPhish
One of the Best !
They are old maids. Nothing new. Keeps the population down.
The boarders must open . ther eis aneed for all to travel in prefernce to a washing machine as they say in Whirpool
Great. Try it.
Judgement with out know is the issue also. i leverage this via foods and especially for the adult male 3 liters of mineraled water sloes to rivber and estruary then i change my foods for the head and the feet and the middle and the time is important to walk and not be insode if inside be better to take time out soide in the evening walking near treesad plants and nature and the morning also if possible. the army is ok they will know sense when they see the nature of life . turnig off the CPu screen is important and thhe phone eeds to be left at hom so walign with others integrated is a sign of l;eace not as a gang. teh army bows. as i and the female needs 2.5 liters for the feamle . keep you rseills and travel with to tested plans and join others sibgle or wotherwose life is fun. sometines there is arguemnt
shanghainese dont like outsiders, thats the reason
Interesting.
ifthe male is it and finds it difficult to bow then it can have a belt it is ot a death but not to bow with true respect is the hit not a death just a fact. a gun will kill me not a look to my death but a bow to open the tap for a drink huh ? a lion to the deer
Dear Linda, There are numerous scientific research that explains why parents worry about their daughters being "leftover women". It's not just because traditions. Here in my comment, I will present to you some of those scientific evidences and not just my own opinion. A lot of women may feel uncomfortable about these truths and some may even say that these truths are hateful; however, truths do not know hate or love. The truth sounds like hate to many people who hate the truth. The truth is just what it is. Many women will say that what I'm about to say is "harmful" and "damaging" but is it more damaging to tell women the fantasy that they want to believe or is it more damaging to tell women how reality really is? Think about it.
First, men are attracted to young women. Now, you're probably going to say that there are men who prefer older women. You're right, but think of a normal distribution where the x-axis is a woman's age and the y-axis is how attractive men find her in the dating market. The higher her attractiveness, the more options for men she has. In this normal distribution there is a "peak". This "peak" is the age in women that men find women most attractive. As women deviated away from that "peak", less men are attracted to women of that age. The vast majority of men prefer young women. The men who like old women are outliers. They are not the general population of men. It is similar to how women prefer tall men. Yes, there are women who prefer short men but they are outliers; they're not the general population of women. I'm talking about the majority of the population, not the rare exceptions. According to a 2018 study by Bruch and Newman, “the average woman’s desirability drops from the time she is 18 until she is 60. For men, desirability peaks around 50 and then declines.” Women hit their "peak" at a much younger age than men. Why? Men and women are attracted to different things. Because women peak at an early age, it makes sense for her to find a man and have a family at an early age. As a woman becomes older, her options in men dwindle away, she becomes more invisible to men, men are less tolerant of her bad behaviors, and men are less willing to put her on a pedestal. Think about it. It makes sense. As women become less fertile, they become less attractive. The purpose of life from a biological view is to reproduce and pass on your genes. Failure to do so will have your genes eliminated from the gene pool. It's called "sexual selection", and it is a form of natural selection.
In the same study by Bruch and Newman, they found that “desirability is associated with education most strongly for men, for whom more education is always more desirable. For women, an undergraduate degree is most desirable; postgraduate education is associated with decreased desirability among women.” Like I said earlier, men and women are attracted to different things. Men are valued by their resources and their ability to provide; not women. Men don't care about a woman's college degree, job title, how much money she makes, or what car she drives. It is women who cares about those things in a man, not the other way around. All through the millions of years of human history, men have been valued for their ability to provide. Men who were successful hunters and were able to bring back a lot of resources had the most sexual partners. Women have historically always relied on a man's resources for the survival of them and their offspring. This is especially true during their most vulnerable times - pregnancy and when their child is small, vulnerable, and needs resources. It is for this reason that women have evolved to seek a provider and men are evolved to seek young women who are fertile. A young women who has a small waist, large hips, and large breasts are some of the indicators that she is fertile and healthy for child bearing. This is why when it comes to finding a partner, men place physical appearance as one of the top most important things that they look for... Not her college degree. No college degree has ever given a man an erection. Also, women who are highly career orientated are seen as being more masculine. Career women compete with other men daily. What does that do to a woman? If she is in a leadership position or wants to be in a leadership position, she may try to be more assertive, domineering, decisive, taking initiatives, and other more traditionally masculine traits... She is seen as more of a man and less of a lady. Men are attracted to feminine women. Far too many women are confused about what men want. Too many women think that men who are highly educated and have a high-paying career are attractive so if a woman does that too, she will also be highly attractive. Nothing is further from the truth. The things that make men and women attractive are different. Women cannot do the things that make men attractive and get the same results (and vice versa). Now, I'm not saying that women shouldn't have a job or get an education. No. Women can do what they want, but they need to be weary of not wasting too much of their prime years on things that matter less. Most women want a family and to have kids. There is a cost for women who hold off finding a man and having a family for too long. That cost is standards. The older she is, the less attractive she becomes, so the lower she is going to have to lower her standards. Like I said, many women are confused about what makes a woman attractive. Far too many older career have really high standards because they think they deserve a man who is on their economic level or higher. Women don't date down. Hypergamy is in their nature. These women don't realize that men of that economic level can go for younger and prettier women who are more feminine. You can be picky and have high standards if you are attractive but you can't be picky and have high standards if you are unattractive. You can't play hard to get when you are hard to want. I feel that what is missing in your video is these old career women telling us what their standards in men is. I think that would be interesting to see.
Unlike women who are attracted to men who are around their own age, men no matter what the age are most attracted to young women. A 2017 study by Jan Antfolk titled "Age Limits: Men’s and Women’s Youngest and Oldest Considered and Actual Sex Partners" said that "Whereas women of all ages prefer slightly older sexual partners, men-regardless of their age-have a preference for women in their 20s." This is further evidence that men are fixated on young women. A lot of women think that when they are in their 30s or 40s, men around their age will want to date them. That's not true. These men would prefer a 21 year-old woman who probably has no college degree and is probably broke but has a cute face and nice body. Also, women find out that as they get older, the men they want to marry have already been taken off the marriage market by another woman. No woman is dumb enough to let go of a highly successful, handsome, and attractive man. And what about the older men who would date these old career women? They might come with more baggage and many of them probably have went through a divorce.
You see, your parents are good parents. They did a great job saving your sister from being a cat lady/leftover woman. If you do not believe what I say about women becoming less attractive as they age, I invite you to conduct an experiment. Create 2 accounts on Tinder or any other dating app with 1 account of pictures of you at the age of 18-21 and the other account of you how you are currently. You can add your education and job at that age if you want. See which accounts receive more matches, likes, and messages. You'll see that more men prefer the younger version of you despite you having a higher education level or higher-paying job. You'll also notice that the younger version of you had the most access to wealthy men. You'll notice that the younger version of you had more offers for vacation trips and gifts from men. Wealthy men are literally ready to throw money at the younger version of you. You may realize that men see women as sex objects or beauty objects while women see men as success objects or walking ATMs. The things that make men and women attractive are different. We see dating, marriage and sex differently. Now, you may say that online dating just attracts shallow people. But I disagree. It brings out the shallowness in people. Most young people in Western countries have used online dating apps at least once in their life.
In the United States and many other countries, a lot of women are encouraged to pursue their career and education and hold off marriage and having kids for as long as possible. The problem is, most women want children and most men want young women. Feminism tells women that they can have it all. Do you see the problem here and how damaging that is to women who want children? Now, I want women to have opportunities in their career but I am a realist and I do care about women's happiness. It blows my mind how many single old career women there are who never tell young women about their mistakes or warn them about the consequences of pursuing a career and holding off having a family. It's almost as if these older career women want these young women to suffer like they did. Perhaps they are unable to accept the fact that they are older and less attractive and that men prefer younger women. These older career women give bad advice. Don't take advice from miserable single women. I see women who are stay-at-home mothers so much happier than old career women who are single. A lot of these mothers fill more fulfilled in life.
U wrote way too much
@@TriLe-nz4oq A lot women are confused about why they become less attractive as they age. I try to be precise. This is a hard reality for many women to accept.
No college degree has ever given a man an erection. - I liked the entire comment. very well thought out
Feminism is the worst thing happened to females. It will destroy them and our society eventually.
That's a very long comment about what makes your peepee happy and what doesn't. In real life, you'll notice that women have no issues to find a man when they want one, no matter their education or age.
It's the men that are increasingly involuntarily celibate, desperate for a woman and turning to narratives such as "darling, if you don't settle for me now, you will be too old to find a man!" and "Don't pursue any higher education, there's nothing in it for you since it doesn't make my peepee happy!"
You need to realise that women don't exist for your arousal or the possibility of a relationship with you. There is an endless supply of men that are better than you who swarm women, any woman in fact.
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