The worst, is when the head narcissist gets your children to be their enablers. I have a covert mother, a malignant older brother and sister in law, an ex wife that is a covert narcissist, with a malignant narcissist ex mother in law. My kids have total loyalty to all of these abusive people over me, the scapegoat. Ironically, I was the only one that was totally devoted to them during their upbringing. The only one that showed them unconditional love. The only one that treated them with consistent levels of respect, as individuals with high regard and self worth. That loyalty to the abusive matriarch, is extremely hurtful and hard to understand.
My step monster was my spiritual predator. I was the scapegoat. She triangulated my father and his children. He had to choose her over his children. And he did, he is the one who lives with her after all. Love is letting go. My daughter and i have gone no contact with my father and his wife. This wife of my father demands to be his wife, manager, daughter, and mother. He sits by her side and says yep, uh ha, what ever she said. He is a shell of a man, spineless, along for the ride. She kicked out all three of his children. She never had to work, sits back, and collects Her inheritance. Forbids my father from helping or doing anything for his children or grandchildren. I felt alone my whole life trying to be a part of that toxic soup. Now, after no contact, I have peace, I'm healing, I'm single after 25 years of marriage, loving being on my own loving the source, my daughter and I. Moving forward at warp speed.
You've done so much inner work that a lot of people shy away from. I'm really proud of you. Your channel is really golden and I'm wishing you tons and tons of new subscribers. 11111111111111
flying monkeys don't want to get involved if you have an issue with the narc. But if the narc has an issue with you they Immediately get involved in the issue.
It's more comfortable for people to sit on the fence...i think that is why ...and narcs know they then have an endless supply...in my humble opinion at least.
You explained it all very well. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. All your suffering has caused you to become very wise. Keep walking the narrow path my brother. You have eyes to see amd ears to hear❤ Bless you
Enablers as in only for not wanting to maybe kill someone? Only because someone has no need to obtain a conceal and carry to be packing sometimes instead bear spray and a whistle and a flashlight that means they are automatiic according to you a 'gasp' 'scary' codependant? A so called codependant who did not instead risk being false accused of kdnapping their own children back after a legal kidnapping of their children? Woould you have called someone by the name of Elizabeth Smart both a codependant and a crazy cat lady too?
This comment sounds like projection. Research co dependency and enablers. If you’re in a church the pastor is an abusive narcissist they will see you get abused by the pastor and say nothing. Or they call you a liar. They usually have had narcissistic parents and then protect the narcissists. Elizabeth Smart was not an enabler or codependent she was a victim of kidnapping and sa. She was scared for her life. A lot of these enablers are scared of the narcissist scared to become the target. The way you do something is by opting out, helping the victims, and not denying the narcissists victims reality. They not only do nothing they tell the victims they are crazy. They also gaslight the victims with the narcissist. Also, look up Dr. Ramanis videos on the different types of enablers. Narcissists groom their enablers and wouldn’t be able to do as much damage without their help.
The worst, is when the head narcissist gets your children to be their enablers. I have a covert mother, a malignant older brother and sister in law, an ex wife that is a covert narcissist, with a malignant narcissist ex mother in law. My kids have total loyalty to all of these abusive people over me, the scapegoat. Ironically, I was the only one that was totally devoted to them during their upbringing. The only one that showed them unconditional love. The only one that treated them with consistent levels of respect, as individuals with high regard and self worth. That loyalty to the abusive matriarch, is extremely hurtful and hard to understand.
My step monster was my spiritual predator. I was the scapegoat. She triangulated my father and his children. He had to choose her over his children. And he did, he is the one who lives with her after all. Love is letting go. My daughter and i have gone no contact with my father and his wife. This wife of my father demands to be his wife, manager, daughter, and mother. He sits by her side and says yep, uh ha, what ever she said. He is a shell of a man, spineless, along for the ride. She kicked out all three of his children. She never had to work, sits back, and collects Her inheritance. Forbids my father from helping or doing anything for his children or grandchildren. I felt alone my whole life trying to be a part of that toxic soup. Now, after no contact, I have peace, I'm healing, I'm single after 25 years of marriage, loving being on my own loving the source, my daughter and I. Moving forward at warp speed.
@@roxannen-kr7bo I forgot to mention how my new life is also great. Loving my independence and freedom from abuse. God bless
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Damn right they do. When the Narc kicks off - watch them vanish & leave you.
Yup, it’s unfortunate
You've done so much inner work that a lot of people shy away from. I'm really proud of you. Your channel is really golden and I'm wishing you tons and tons of new subscribers. 11111111111111
Thank you, I literally just made a 111 video, we're all lined up it's crazy
flying monkeys don't want to get involved if you have an issue with the narc. But if the narc has an issue with you they Immediately get involved in the issue.
Yuuuup
It's crazy
Oh fuck ... very true. Ugh.
It's more comfortable for people to sit on the fence...i think that is why ...and narcs know they then have an endless supply...in my humble opinion at least.
Right
You explained it all very well. Thank you for sharing your wisdom. All your suffering has caused you to become very wise.
Keep walking the narrow path my brother. You have eyes to see amd ears to hear❤ Bless you
Thank you ❤️
Excellent…the truth! Great topic!
So glad I found what self/care is all about.
It does not involve enabling and people pleasing anymore.
❤️🔥💯
My parents were very abusive to me and my sister told me she does not care because she gets along with them.
Unfortunately this is how it goes a lot of the time
good information brother much love and God bless
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That video title is unique. I think it takes so long before you figure it out, because of them.
Unfortunately this is true
11:15 ignore the narcs, dont look at them, dont follw them, dont listen to them,they live off peoples attention, dont give them attention ,
Yep, this is a good strategy
6:20 they sound like an isfj meyers briggs but i might be wrong
Maybe, but I think these dynamics go across all the personality types
Enablers as in only for not wanting to maybe kill someone? Only because someone has no need to obtain a conceal and carry to be packing sometimes instead bear spray and a whistle and a flashlight that means they are automatiic according to you a 'gasp' 'scary' codependant? A so called codependant who did not instead risk being false accused of kdnapping their own children back after a legal kidnapping of their children? Woould you have called someone by the name of Elizabeth Smart both a codependant and a crazy cat lady too?
This comment sounds like projection. Research co dependency and enablers. If you’re in a church the pastor is an abusive narcissist they will see you get abused by the pastor and say nothing. Or they call you a liar. They usually have had narcissistic parents and then protect the narcissists. Elizabeth Smart was not an enabler or codependent she was a victim of kidnapping and sa. She was scared for her life. A lot of these enablers are scared of the narcissist scared to become the target. The way you do something is by opting out, helping the victims, and not denying the narcissists victims reality. They not only do nothing they tell the victims they are crazy. They also gaslight the victims with the narcissist. Also, look up Dr. Ramanis videos on the different types of enablers. Narcissists groom their enablers and wouldn’t be able to do as much damage without their help.