A narcissist stagnates at level -1. They never admit when they're wrong. They don't learn from any of their mistakes. They don't try to be better. So to make the playing field equal for them their goal is to bring others down. Be it family, friends, coworkers, partners, etc. Learn from the experience. Let them go. Keep doing better everyday. The more you do that the better you will be growing away from level -1 and the further you will be away from them. And when you're at level 100+ or even if you're at 0 and they try to come back in to your orbit, just know that they're only there to try to bring you back to level -1 and that's not your level.
You know what I realize. In the past, I was once in the position that I discarded a great man. I didn’t know how to handle his love so I discarded him. He went with the flow. Wished me the best. And then I was left with feeling like I gave up on the best thing that ever happened to me. It was 10 years ago and I still kinda wish I didn’t do it. But his resilience taught me a huge deal, looking back. Now dealing with a narc knowing that going along w him is actually what hurts him the most. No opposition no friction just accepting his discard.
Be formless, shapeless, like water. 🌊 Great video! I’m 4 months into NC and I try to think of the process this way. I let my emotions flow freely and then keep moving forwards. Even if it’s painfully slow, it’s still progress. ❤️
The truth is that everything you need to know, the answers to every question you have, are already within you. I wish you well my fellow traveller 🙏💛✌️
@@joebhouse I have to admit that I worry a little every time it's been more than a few days. lol You're content is excellent and at the same time I find your voice really nice in calming and soothing ways especially! So please take it WELL when I tell you that I fall asleep to your videos that I've downloaded. I really hope I don't mess up your view/like ratio stats by doing that! Would I? Happy Sunny May, Super Joe! 😃🌞🐝🌸
I was doing so much better a few days ago when i went no contact ...today i fell hard i opened the phone and read all jis oast messages blaming me for the discard ...i text him saying Thinking of you.....he wrote back rather quickly YES i miss you too Second message he wrote Hello Deborah I didnt write back and all day i felt like shit and statted panicking again and having anxiety i feel i went backwards in just seconds I shut the phone off again
My technique with breached NC was to write a heartfelt first message, then change it to the exact opposite and decide 3 hours later if I wanted to send it or not. Worked wonders, stay strong and stubborn, you’ve got this!
Don't be hard on yourself. I understand your heartbreak. It took me 6 months to go no contact - turns out that I needed that time to find and gather the right information and discover some truths. As painful as it was, that time was a gift. Even though I was still "supplying" him through my suffering, I got the gift of self awareness and clarity as to my situation of being a victim of narcissistic abuse ALL of my life. Then I went No Contact 1000 percent with absolutely no qualms. Today is 3 years discard anniversary, or better yet, self love birthday. My healing road feels long, I'm 53, but at least I am here and inspired to keep on discovering and coming home to my true self. You've got this, I KNOW you do! Keep feeling, keep healing and know there is all the love you need -you will feel it when, as Joe says, you go with the flow. You will get there ❤❤❤❤❤
The concept is simple but the execution is far from. You need to loose all hope before you can start not giving a fuck if you don't know what to believe of your ex and if they've been in your life for a considerable amount of time, then it's very hard to reach this place because it feels like self abandonment and it's even worse when you do it for reasons that aren't actually known. But it very much depends also on the type of upbringing you had and what childhood trauma still exists.
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“You will search for me in another person. I promise. And you will never find me”
A narcissist stagnates at level -1. They never admit when they're wrong. They don't learn from any of their mistakes. They don't try to be better. So to make the playing field equal for them their goal is to bring others down. Be it family, friends, coworkers, partners, etc.
Learn from the experience. Let them go. Keep doing better everyday. The more you do that the better you will be growing away from level -1 and the further you will be away from them.
And when you're at level 100+ or even if you're at 0 and they try to come back in to your orbit, just know that they're only there to try to bring you back to level -1 and that's not your level.
The Reprobate mind. Arrested Development....Sometimes it felt like I was taking care of a 50 year old adolescent...😢
@@scottoz7891 Not even an adolescent. A toddler still in diapers. I hope now you are free.
Well said
@@heatherwagar5868 I give all glory to God. He blesses me with the knowledge. I hope those that need to hear it, get the message.
@@user56gghtf yes I am. Stay Educated AND Dedicated. THANK you..
Control-Alt-Delete
Power down, pull the plug, flip the breaker… go for a walk, run, drive and never look back.
Excellent comment.
You know what I realize. In the past, I was once in the position that I discarded a great man. I didn’t know how to handle his love so I discarded him. He went with the flow. Wished me the best. And then I was left with feeling like I gave up on the best thing that ever happened to me. It was 10 years ago and I still kinda wish I didn’t do it. But his resilience taught me a huge deal, looking back. Now dealing with a narc knowing that going along w him is actually what hurts him the most. No opposition no friction just accepting his discard.
I thank you Kindly Joe, you’ve helped me get through a very very tough time in my life.
Sending hugs 🤗 🧸
Manipulation. Conditioning...along with the whole TOXIC alphabet we have to learn =Radical Acceptance.. Stay Educated AND Dedicated....❤...
Be formless, shapeless, like water. 🌊
Great video! I’m 4 months into NC and I try to think of the process this way. I let my emotions flow freely and then keep moving forwards. Even if it’s painfully slow, it’s still progress. ❤️
Water can crash or it can flow. Be water my friend..Bruce Lee...❤❤
I’ve lost myself
The truth is that everything you need to know, the answers to every question you have, are already within you. I wish you well my fellow traveller 🙏💛✌️
I know,Hon. It took me a long time to get even a fraction of myself back. Please know you’re not alone and do adventurous things for yourself
Insidious experiences.
Thank you for peaceful protest ❤ Always amazing to listen to your thoughts and experience. Love and Respect from Russia 🇷🇺 God Bless
Good topic. I’m a professional narc detector. So I enjoy your topics.
How is that working?
Yay, you’re back!
You bet 😘
@@joebhouse I have to admit that I worry a little every time it's been more than a few days. lol You're content is excellent and at the same time I find your voice really nice in calming and soothing ways especially! So please take it WELL when I tell you that I fall asleep to your videos that I've downloaded. I really hope I don't mess up your view/like ratio stats by doing that! Would I?
Happy Sunny May, Super Joe! 😃🌞🐝🌸
@@SherriBodds oh Sherri, that is just the sweetest thing I've ever heard! Thank you so much 😘
@@joebhouse Ahhh, well it's meant. ☺️ You're welcome. 🫂
Here is Joe with his a new magical video ! Thank you , perfect as always ! 🤗❤
We just love this man don’t we ? ! 🤗🤗❤️❤️
@@Sarah_sunshine14 Yes Sarah, and his suiting voice is therapy itself. 🤗
@@lioubovgrant1935 definitely!! 👌🤗
@@lioubovgrant1935 definitely! 👌🤗
@@lioubovgrant1935 I was just writing about his lovely voice too. Ha
Great to hear your voice Joe
@Joe B House What happens after being discarded, no contact and a finalized divorce from a vulnerable Narc relationship?
Just love your analogies…your delivery…always giving words of wisdom…love you Joe….thankyou as always 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️
I just love your videos! Greetings from PA!
Thank you!
True words spoken.🙏🙏
I was doing so much better a few days ago when i went no contact ...today i fell hard i opened the phone and read all jis oast messages blaming me for the discard ...i text him saying Thinking of you.....he wrote back rather quickly
YES i miss you too
Second message he wrote
Hello Deborah
I didnt write back and all day i felt like shit and statted panicking again and having anxiety i feel i went backwards in just seconds
I shut the phone off again
My technique with breached NC was to write a heartfelt first message, then change it to the exact opposite and decide 3 hours later if I wanted to send it or not. Worked wonders, stay strong and stubborn, you’ve got this!
Joe once said..." Your job is to be their ghost". ..briliant
Don't be hard on yourself. I understand your heartbreak. It took me 6 months to go no contact - turns out that I needed that time to find and gather the right information and discover some truths. As painful as it was, that time was a gift. Even though I was still "supplying" him through my suffering, I got the gift of self awareness and clarity as to my situation of being a victim of narcissistic abuse ALL of my life. Then I went No Contact 1000 percent with absolutely no qualms. Today is 3 years discard anniversary, or better yet, self love birthday. My healing road feels long, I'm 53, but at least I am here and inspired to keep on discovering and coming home to my true self. You've got this, I KNOW you do! Keep feeling, keep healing and know there is all the love you need -you will feel it when, as Joe says, you go with the flow. You will get there ❤❤❤❤❤
True story
I was zapped on a hoover 2 mnths later (he said he slept well & I was drained), he tapered off after a few days again. 😢
I genuinely fell for him. 💔
You will get there Helen 💪💪💪💔🙏🙏🙏
Sounds like what I experienced. You got this! Be gentle with yourself. It takes a long time to heal ❤
Interesting way to look at things, thank you for your input; it’s helping me to shift my perspective on things!
Thank you Joe ❤
"Going with the flow."...means....stop giving a f**k. Yep, it's really just that simple.
It really is 👊
The concept is simple but the execution is far from. You need to loose all hope before you can start not giving a fuck if you don't know what to believe of your ex and if they've been in your life for a considerable amount of time, then it's very hard to reach this place because it feels like self abandonment and it's even worse when you do it for reasons that aren't actually known. But it very much depends also on the type of upbringing you had and what childhood trauma still exists.
Thanks!
You're the best Jen, thank you much appreciated 🙏
Amazing insight!
Ty 🕊️✨🙏🪽🫶
Deep one. Great job ❤😊
💯 % THANK YOU
U have 2 check in now imma let this 1 slide 😊 welcome back
sure thing mister
Can you do a blog on how narcissist mirror you
@@Deity697 on my list!
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Space doesn't exist. Not looking for agreement. Gravity is a theory btw.
Are you delusional mate? Get off whatever you’re smoking!🤣🤣🤣
Gravity doesent exist if it did then everything would be changing all the time around us its FIXED !
I agree, and the moon is just a projection.
Thank you, Joe!! 😊❤