I'm overwhelmed with my husband he is just like this. I don't know what to do? Anyone do u have any thoughts? Plz, we have been married for 16 yrs. We live in Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
For the first time today, I have seen some of the people that have worked on Hoarders since I started watching a dozen years ago - & seen how these people have obviously continued working. They have aged! And they have obviously not just been sitting around - but have been working at their craft even when not taping a show - I see the results in their eyes. Hoarding is a mental illness - folks that dedicate their lives healing those with mental illnesses are getting extra gold stars from the angels in heaven. Thank you...💕👏🏻
I can't remember what episode it was, but they did an interview with someone on the cleaning crew after he stormed out. He was really struggling to support his kids and his family and basically was like "I would kill to have a house like this and this person just treats it like a giant trash can" I really really felt for him
Tell him that my husband and I say our prayers for him and his family. He can make such an important impact on his granddaughter.......in a wonderful way!
This is so touching and moving. I am 74 and starting to declutter, and at first I felt a bit amused, since my mess is nowhere near as bad as his was. Soon I realized I was watching an incredibly moving and important human drama. Your work is wonderful and inspiring, and the video was a great end to a day when my wife and I hauled 8 bags of stuff to a donation box. Thank you.
Check out Ray from San Francisco. His brother Ray died right before the cleaning began and he couldn't get all the junk out fast enough. He's in the second episode in. "Hoarders Marathon Dorothy Part 2"
Cobra's son and daughter in law are very very lucky to have family land on which to put their new home. Cobra is a generous and kind father, father-in-law... and grandpa.
@@katkat4019 , they said a 3:31 that they are helping take care of him. Besides, generational land ownership/stewardship is not bad. That's why family farms are a thing.
@@Hermititis It's not bad at all. It's a blessing. A HUGE blessing for which to be thankful... even if you have to do a little caretaking. Small price to pay when you care about your parent AND getting SO much in return.
Well, but he's so combative/tactless? I mean, it is a gift with the understanding that it benefits both mutually, and it's kinda abrasive of him to say to new daughter-in-law, ``I'm in charge, not you?'' I would be snapping back at that, ``no one's the boss of me . . .''
The son's partner is so gentle in dealing with Cobra. Yes, she had concerns for her child but she agreed to move to this property right next to her FIL for Cobra's sake and for the son's sake. She's a good woman.
I was feeling really emotional, feeling compassion for him because you can see he is not right mentally. But when the scrapper guy says, "He's living in an imaginary world. His name is Fred. Not Cobra." I nearly fell out of my chair laughing. LOL
@@CatBrash No, not if they actually know eachother. I see his point that there might be a concern that Cobra/Fred may try to escape from issues trough the jargon of a persona created for showpurpose.
This is the most rewarding one I've seen, Cobra deserves the nice home he now has after caring for both his parents & slipping into a bit of a mess when he found himself alone. Well done Hoarders for giving us a pleasant cleanup with no drama, just a nice guy who needed help happily accepting it. All the best to him, his son & partner & his grandchild.
A person I used to know had a personal business card with the title of Collector, but if you have "hallways" in your living room, and not an inch to spare anywhere, you're a hoarder. He also had hundreds of WWII toy soldiers, tanks, etc. in display cabinets in his bedroom. I wonder what the ladies thought?
There is something so so special about Dorothy. I can sense B.S. a mile away, and this woman has none. She is compassionate and honest, and really amazing at her job. I would love to have a friend like her, who listens but does not judge. Kudos to Dorothy!! She is doing a lot of good in this world.
Yes, the wolves lived with us to warm our feet in exchange for scraps (yep I was there). Then, as they started to move on in to our cave, little by little they found if they protected us with howling/Bork borking to protect us from other animals at night (which they still do).. then the nurses suggested in time we could develop personal relationship their loyal presence may even alleviate our stress and our blood pressure decreased like magic. Anybody want to play along and makeup- half truths and carry on the story. I just found out my baby schnauzer Cami will most likely die before August. From lymphoma cancer. I'm heartbroken and I'm acting silly. But I'm pretty sure this is the start of my way of grieving.
I feel a kindred to Cobra. I lost my Dad in 2013, My Daddy (my Grandfather) in 2019, and my Mama (my Grandmother) a week ago. My Grandparents helped raise me. So they were Mama and Daddy. I helped care for my Mama for the past 2 years. She suffered from Altzeimers disease. I saw it slowly take my Mama away. And it has been a heart ache I could never explain in words. 💔
I am so sorry! My father has Alzheimers and i think it has to be the worst way to go. It destroys the soul of everyone. I hope you have found peace because I want to believe peace can be found...
@@nicoladawson2861 thank you. I have found peace in knowing they're together again on the other side. I send all my prayers your way for you and your father.
I've watched a lot of episodes but this one brought me to tears. Such a sweet old guy who's alone and feels that loneliness so badly that he let himself live in that filth. I hope he's doing well.
The son is so lucky to have such a great girlfriend. She is so loving and supportive. I've seen so many spouses on this show just be too disgusted and mad to even bother trying to actually help. The son and daughter-in-law both seem like great people. That's going to be a lucky little baby to have them for parents. Edit: Now that I've watched the episode in its entirety, let me add patience to the list of positive attributes of the son's girlfriend. She is extremely patient with Cobra, even though he doesn't seem to realize it. (I really hope either the son or daughter-in-law wind up reading these positive comments and it puts a little smile on their face. I really hope they know they did the right thing, even though it was the hard thing. Props to both of them. Seriously. I am a borderline hoarder myself. My home is nowhere near to the extent of these people's on the show, but it still isn't your average home. I sincerely wish I had people in my life that were this supportive and encouraging. I feel like if I did, I really could overcome this condition.)
Just clean one corner a day. One cabinet, or one drawer. That's all. Just one. You can do it. It is very much like cleaning up from a disaster like a hurricane, tornado or flood. It seems overwhelming, and it is. But you climb Mt. Everest one step at a time. Just throw out one long term item a day.
You need to find that support within yourself. You are the most important person in your life. Do for yourself whatever you would do for anyone important for you.
Not sure about any tips to deal with hoarding but I've been watching "A Hoarder's Heart" youtube channel. She's diagnosed with hoarding disorder and has chronicled her recovery on her channel for over 2 years. Like Polo Mare said, she's been tackling small sections of her house at a time and has made amazing progress!
When I struggled with my home filling up with stuff it was during a season of profound loss. It was as though I could not get rid of anything...even things that I knew I should...because deep down I felt I had lost so much already in ways I could not control. For me, this is a key to this hoarding deal. I am happy that chapter in my life is over.
Same way was for me, I was growing up unwealthy and wishful of everything. Once i got financially little better i stated holding onto things because of that poor mentality i had from before.. Now with help of God i see everything as blessing instead of material posession and it makes me happy to share it with others who are less fortunate
You are not alone in this way of handling grief. 😔I saved a sandwich roll in my fridge for 4 years because it was the last thing my grandmother bought for me. I could not bring myself to throw it out.
@@breezeh1127 This hit me in the heart. My Mom has Alzheimer's & she declined rapidly. The last thing she bought me was a bottle of coffee creamer (I don't drink coffee) & I kept in for months, just because. Grief is such a discombobulating emotion. I'm so sorry about your Loved One. Xo
Loss is hard to deal with. I was adrift for years after my mother died. My dad is doing poorly now, and his current wife is at the end of life, but I'm in a better place. I was my mother's caregiver at the end of her life, and I treasure those days. My dad sold the house, and dumped all the furniture on me. It still fills my garage. I recently realized that I don't have to keep it all. My mom wouldn't expect me to keep it, and my dad doesn't want it. I can let it all go. That revelation was huge. Big love to you, Maria. I've been in your shoes.
If, lord forbid, I ever got into that kind of situation, I'd want Dorothy's help! She seems like she really cares about the people she's helping! Glad Cobra is doing better!
Of all the hoarding shows I've watched, this man, Cobra (a.k.a. Fred Farmer) was THE MOST cooperative with the clean-up I've seen. What a nice, calm and gentle person he is.
I hope Cobra/Fred continued to get some therapy/mental health help. Something is seriously amiss with the guy. This isn't just being stuck in grief over his parents. I sure hope the little girl yet to be born has a safe and happy childhood there.
@@earnold1896 yes, but he speaks slowly and is quick to flare up, so I'm sure there is something else going on, like some sort of brain damage from injury or drugs or something. It's a lot more than just hoarding.
@@genwhite1175 Yeah it’s pills. Prescription pills I would wager. I was involved with pro wrestling for most of my youth and a lot of guys like him (local guys that kind of create their own little world cause they’re never going to get any bigger) have a tendency to wallow in that stuff. Not knocking him it’s just a sad reality. At his age I’m sure he gets plenty from the dr
What a wonderful man and am so glad he got the help.. I have grown up watching all the wrestlers due to my brothers and he was a great one. 👍 keep strong cobra 🐍
At ~8:00 finding the card William gave to his dad made me start ugly crying and brought back the migraine that was finally subsiding after 14+ hours. It reminded me of being 27 and going through our mom's things after she passed away and seeing what she kept from our childhoods. Then almost 2 years later doing the same for our dad. They each kept things that we forgot about until we saw them again.
I use to be a hoarder, it sucked! I came from a family of all hoarders and it was such a difficult childhood, but today I can truthfully say that I’m no longer a hoarder. It took years of therapy, hard work and consistency for me to overcome this disorder. Now I get anxiety if I feel like I have too much stuff! People CAN change!
You could tell that Cobra had just been struggling with such big losses and this was his way of coping. It takes a strong person to admit your faults and a stronger person to accept help to rectify them. What a great family all around! It's hard to break the cycle and get out of the downward spiral. Good on ya champion! This is why as family you have to stick together and see things through.
It should have been the SON not the daughter in law, talking to Cobra about the mobile home. She didn't need to do that. Son needs to man up on that one.
@@CatBrash William is not a simp he was doing other things and not invited to talk about the cars. Tykarra and cobra had previously talked about them so the crew just continued the conversation. Cobra actually responds to her better then is his bc tykarra isn't one to carry on a disagreement. That day she was tired, hot, swollen, and hungry so yes it was her day to snap.
The psychologist here was so much more effective and appropriate than those on other episodes of Hoarders! He said it from the start: "I'm here to support you AND to challenge you." Unlike other "professionals," he doesn't enable and reinforce the dysfunction by pandering to it. Cobra trusts him because he trusts Cobra by holding him accountable to reality. One bit I thought was missing that would have helped a lot was to help Cobra move from his internalized role of son and step into his role as father and grandfather. He will always be his parents' son, but he's also so much more. He has a lot to be proud of, and he has a fantastic family. He's so defensive, but he hasn't realized that he's the one disrespecting himself. When he claims his accomplishments and blessings as well as his ability to be a good father and grandfather, he's got everything he needs for a lifetime of happiness and fulfilment.
Watched the full episode on Monday on A&E. This one really punched me in the feels. Cobra is a good guy-he took care of both of his parents. I understand the hoard. I did the same thing for my Mom for several years and after they pass away, things just start to accumulate.
What an amazing transformation. Great job Cobra. Trauma of loosing someone so dear plus the lonliness had to be so much for him. I hope the rest of his days are filled with love.
Thia was a great episode. I really like how they incorporated his wrestling career into the process, the smile on his face when they gave him the belt made me smile too. You can see the load finally lift off of his shoulders after everything is done.
Dorothy has such a caring heart, she really knows how to connect and build trust with people. At the end of this episode you could see a brightness to Cobra's face. Best of wishes to this family💖✌😊
Although the psychologist set a pretty non-judgmental tone overall, I feel like Cobra was *told* to do a lot of things, which would overlook a lot of mental/emotional issues. For example, he was essentially forced to get rid of the cars, without actually receiving help to understand why exactly he is so attached to them. I hope Cobra got the emotional support and help he needed in this transition. Wish the psychologist could contribute more than just being an understanding host.
I agree definitely but I also think it’s possible that part of it wasn’t included in this video, it’s a lot shorter than most hoarders videos so they’re definitely cutting a lot of footage. Just a possibility 🤷♀️
He may have been attached to them , BUT they're rust buckets that can be a hazard to his grandchild, he NEEDED to have them gone theyre unsafe and he's not going to get any money out of them, so why keep them just to have them deteriorate further?
I'm happy for him. His grandbaby can spend time with him, and that's important. I think his folks would be proud. He took good care of them. He's a good son. He's going to be a loving grandpa.
I am so grateful he had David and Dorothy for this clean out. They were a beautiful and compassionate balance to help this kind man and good family. God bless them all💖
"There is only one Cobra and that's probably a good thing" had me in stitches. Apart from that; what a sweet, loving and caring family! I really enjoyed this episode 🥰🥰
I like the guy that came to take away the Mustang and the other car. He says, he isnt Cobra, his name is Fred, then he says Hey I was in here years ago and offered you good money for this car. Today I will take it away but you are gonna pay me to take it. He was not happy to be taking those cars. I think sometimes hoarders need to be dealt with in this fashion and like there was probably a large conversation between the auto salvage guy the doctors and Cobra/Fred. I think that should be shown on the show more, when people in the hoarders life actually make them realize something not just the psychologists or the organization experts.
One of my favourites. Top marks to everyone who does their bit on this show. Feel for the folk, well some of them and despite his bravado, he just felt lost without his parents and felt so sad without them. I hope he has found some peace. I keep memory boxes of those that have passed.
What a sweet family. Tykarra is quality, and they're lucky William found her. Cobra did a good job caring for his parents and preparing for his son's new family.
This was a great episode! I relate to how Cobra felt about his parents. He was blessed to have a huge support system. I don't have that and still feel so much sadness and miss my parents a lot. God Bless Him and his family on their future endeavors. Thank you for posting this episode.
Having his son, daughter in law and the little one close will hopefully lift his spirits and hopefully help him let go of his parents ashes in the pond so that their spirits live freely in the property and bring blessings to the new life. They seem very harmonious in spite of the physical and mental clutter, definitely wish them the best.
I watched this full episode waiting for someone to mention the animals, and not once did they. I feel terrible for Cobra, but I was also super concerned for his pets. One of the dogs' particular looked very poorly, and that was only from 3 seconds on the whole episode.
I am so happy for you Cobra. Happy for your family too. Your Mom and Dad are so proud of you. I wish you years of happiness. Thank you to each person that helped Cobra. 💕💜💕✌🏻🙏🏻⭐️👍🏻
This brings back memories of my own parents, who passed away within nine months of each other. After my mother's funeral the family was gathered in their beautiful home, and my brother spoke the difficult truth: We could not leave the house as a museum to their lives. He then took a painting off the wall, and that broke the spell that threatened to hold us back from doing the things needed to settle the estate.
It's rare I actually like the hoarder, it's even more rare I actually DO feel bad for them Wishing this family well. I'm not sure who hurt this guy, but I'm sorry for whatever they did
Oh my god. I used to think that wrestlers are most powerful, strong and very cruel people after watching few fights in WWF. But now I realised that they too are human and have heart and emotions buried deep inside it.
"My futures so bright, I gotta wear shades" (casually in a cool badass way, he looks right at the camera and puts said shades on!) (Thumbs up) "Cobra OUT"
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I think cobra is doing the right thing for his family. Good in u. I'm sorry about ur parents❕🕊🦋🕊💙🕊🦋
I'm overwhelmed with my husband he is just like this. I don't know what to do? Anyone do u have any thoughts? Plz, we have been married for 16 yrs. We live in Sydney Australia 🇦🇺
I love wrestling so much that i meet Kurt angle , Kelly Kelly , Ric flair , shane , Sasha banks
this is Satan in the flesh ...
I hope someone told Cobra, "You were a great son to take care of both of your parents before they died." He needs to hear that!
He had a son to take care of too....
The unsung heroes of this show are the people on the cleaning crew
For the first time today, I have seen some of the people that have worked on Hoarders since I started watching a dozen years ago - & seen how these people have obviously continued working. They have aged! And they have obviously not just been sitting around - but have been working at their craft even when not taping a show - I see the results in their eyes. Hoarding is a mental illness - folks that dedicate their lives healing those with mental illnesses are getting extra gold stars from the angels in heaven. Thank you...💕👏🏻
They seem to me like Angels indeed! ❤❤❤
Yes.
You can say that again. Gold medals for clearly all that, and much worse on some episodes .
I can't remember what episode it was, but they did an interview with someone on the cleaning crew after he stormed out. He was really struggling to support his kids and his family and basically was like "I would kill to have a house like this and this person just treats it like a giant trash can" I really really felt for him
I know Cobra personally, hes doing much better but still has some struggles. Thank you guys for helping this family I've known half my life 🙏
Can you tell me if he has more kids besides his son?
@@brittany7jeffrey4 i only know for sure that he has 1 son, ill ask him about it next time i see him
That makes me so happy :)
Tell him that my husband and I say our prayers for him and his family. He can make such an important impact on his granddaughter.......in a wonderful way!
Well they don't mention Cobra's baby's momma; I guess she has nothing to do with this?
Sweet man! Very rarely do you hear the words "thank you" from a hoarder after all the cleanup. He was genuinely thankful.
Usually the hoarders are in denial and will even chose their horde over their own family. This guy is so likable.
Usually the hoarders are in denial and will even chose their horde over their own family. This guy is so likable.
This is so touching and moving. I am 74 and starting to declutter, and at first I felt a bit amused, since my mess is nowhere near as bad as his was. Soon I realized I was watching an incredibly moving and important human drama. Your work is wonderful and inspiring, and the video was a great end to a day when my wife and I hauled 8 bags of stuff to a donation box. Thank you.
Good for you decluttering I hope you stay safe and healthy during these uncertain times. Have a great day 😃 👍
Wishing you, and your lady success and health.
It does motivate us all to not let our clutter get out of hand.🤗
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Bravo! It's a rollercoaster but keep at it. From a fellow struggler.
So far he's the most cooperative hoarder I've seen in this series..
Check out Ray from San Francisco. His brother Ray died right before the cleaning began and he couldn't get all the junk out fast enough. He's in the second episode in. "Hoarders Marathon Dorothy Part 2"
@KrazeeClark shannon in that episode was also awesome!! Shes my fave hoarder ive seen so far
Cobra's son and daughter in law are very very lucky to have family land on which to put their new home. Cobra is a generous and kind father, father-in-law... and grandpa.
@@katkat4019 , they said a 3:31 that they are helping take care of him.
Besides, generational land ownership/stewardship is not bad. That's why family farms are a thing.
@tykarra how is Cobra doing these days?
@@Hermititis It's not bad at all. It's a blessing. A HUGE blessing for which to be thankful... even if you have to do a little caretaking. Small price to pay when you care about your parent AND getting SO much in return.
Well, but he's so combative/tactless? I mean, it is a gift with the understanding that it benefits both mutually, and it's kinda abrasive of him to say to new daughter-in-law, ``I'm in charge, not you?'' I would be snapping back at that, ``no one's the boss of me . . .''
@@quickchris10 If she doesn't like it, she could buy her own property over which to "be in charge."
The son's partner is so gentle in dealing with Cobra. Yes, she had concerns for her child but she agreed to move to this property right next to her FIL for Cobra's sake and for the son's sake. She's a good woman.
seriously! she made a lot of sacrifices to care for him, even while she is pregnant/has so much else to worry about
she is also so well spoken, mature, and intelligent. she is such a catch
@POWERHOUSE no one cares about whether or not people are married anymore. your opinion is dated and irrelevant
Yeah she’s awesome.
She seems gentle, but able to be firm and not too prone to getting flustered
What a precious soul this man has. Bless his heart.
At least he already admits to having some issues
Yeah this one hit the heart
@@CWBTelly Agree, you can tell he's an amazing guy. Has a lot of heartache but was willing to make the change 😭
I was looking forward to the transformation on this one. Cobra seemed really receptive to change and receiving love. Yay Hoarders team!!!!
This cleaner and psychologist are my favorite. So compassionate and heartfelt but still motivated.
I was feeling really emotional, feeling compassion for him because you can see he is not right mentally. But when the scrapper guy says, "He's living in an imaginary world. His name is Fred. Not Cobra." I nearly fell out of my chair laughing. LOL
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 it was funny
Tony is MVP😆😄
it was rude in my mind and irked me
@@CatBrash No, not if they actually know eachother. I see his point that there might be a concern that Cobra/Fred may try to escape from issues trough the jargon of a persona created for showpurpose.
I didn't get it. Who is Fred ?
This is the most rewarding one I've seen, Cobra deserves the nice home he now has after caring for both his parents & slipping into a bit of a mess when he found himself alone.
Well done Hoarders for giving us a pleasant cleanup with no drama, just a nice guy who needed help happily accepting it.
All the best to him, his son & partner & his grandchild.
finally someone who admits he has issues. All those who say "I'm not a hoarder, I'm a collector" are just delusional.
A person I used to know had a personal business card with the title of Collector, but if you have "hallways" in your living room, and not an inch to spare anywhere, you're a hoarder. He also had hundreds of WWII toy soldiers, tanks, etc. in display cabinets in his bedroom. I wonder what the ladies thought?
i feel personally attacked by this comment lol
@@CatBrash Time to ‘adult’ and take responsibility for your actions….
There is something so so special about Dorothy. I can sense B.S. a mile away, and this woman has none. She is compassionate and honest, and really amazing at her job. I would love to have a friend like her, who listens but does not judge. Kudos to Dorothy!! She is doing a lot of good in this world.
I love how the dogs tails wag. They don’t see a downward spiral, just their papa.
I know, pets are so loyal with their love.🥰😘😍
@@crystalheart9 As in disgustingly codependent (wherever the food is )
Nice
Kell Brigan, After reading your comments I surmise that you are not a happy and positive person.
Yes, the wolves lived with us to warm our feet in exchange for scraps (yep I was there).
Then, as they started to move on in to our cave, little by little they found if they protected us with howling/Bork borking to protect us from other animals at night (which they still do)..
then the nurses suggested in time we could develop personal relationship their loyal presence may even alleviate our stress and our blood pressure decreased like magic. Anybody want to play along and makeup- half truths and carry on the story.
I just found out my baby schnauzer Cami will most likely die before August. From lymphoma cancer.
I'm heartbroken and I'm acting silly. But I'm pretty sure this is the start of my way of grieving.
At least Cobra has running water. A good sign!
You noticed the dripping tap in the background too?
I feel a kindred to Cobra. I lost my Dad in 2013, My Daddy (my Grandfather) in 2019, and my Mama (my Grandmother) a week ago. My Grandparents helped raise me. So they were Mama and Daddy. I helped care for my Mama for the past 2 years. She suffered from Altzeimers disease. I saw it slowly take my Mama away. And it has been a heart ache I could never explain in words. 💔
@Lost family dog I am also sorry for your loss as well. 💔
I am so sorry! My father has Alzheimers and i think it has to be the worst way to go. It destroys the soul of everyone. I hope you have found peace because I want to believe peace can be found...
@@nicoladawson2861 thank you. I have found peace in knowing they're together again on the other side. I send all my prayers your way for you and your father.
@@SHAYUPIVER thank you
Despite his rough appearance Cobra is a sweetie❤️
This will go down as one of my favorites…he really listened to what the professionals said and GOT IT DONE❣️Best wishes to this entire family
I've watched a lot of episodes but this one brought me to tears. Such a sweet old guy who's alone and feels that loneliness so badly that he let himself live in that filth. I hope he's doing well.
The son is so lucky to have such a great girlfriend. She is so loving and supportive. I've seen so many spouses on this show just be too disgusted and mad to even bother trying to actually help. The son and daughter-in-law both seem like great people. That's going to be a lucky little baby to have them for parents.
Edit: Now that I've watched the episode in its entirety, let me add patience to the list of positive attributes of the son's girlfriend. She is extremely patient with Cobra, even though he doesn't seem to realize it. (I really hope either the son or daughter-in-law wind up reading these positive comments and it puts a little smile on their face. I really hope they know they did the right thing, even though it was the hard thing. Props to both of them. Seriously. I am a borderline hoarder myself. My home is nowhere near to the extent of these people's on the show, but it still isn't your average home. I sincerely wish I had people in my life that were this supportive and encouraging. I feel like if I did, I really could overcome this condition.)
Just clean one corner a day. One cabinet, or one drawer. That's all. Just one. You can do it. It is very much like cleaning up from a disaster like a hurricane, tornado or flood. It seems overwhelming, and it is. But you climb Mt. Everest one step at a time. Just throw out one long term item a day.
@@polomare2027 Great analogy about like a disaster!! Perspective. My goal is one box at a time.
You need to find that support within yourself. You are the most important person in your life. Do for yourself whatever you would do for anyone important for you.
I wish you all the best. Hoarding destroys lives and you need to clear up, before the hoard overtakes you. ❤️❤️❤️
Not sure about any tips to deal with hoarding but I've been watching "A Hoarder's Heart" youtube channel. She's diagnosed with hoarding disorder and has chronicled her recovery on her channel for over 2 years. Like Polo Mare said, she's been tackling small sections of her house at a time and has made amazing progress!
Cobra's home was a picture of extraordinary grief. Best wishes to him and his family!
When I struggled with my home filling up with stuff it was during a season of profound loss. It was as though I could not get rid of anything...even things that I knew I should...because deep down I felt I had lost so much already in ways I could not control. For me, this is a key to this hoarding deal. I am happy that chapter in my life is over.
Same way was for me, I was growing up unwealthy and wishful of everything. Once i got financially little better i stated holding onto things because of that poor mentality i had from before.. Now with help of God i see everything as blessing instead of material posession and it makes me happy to share it with others who are less fortunate
You are not alone in this way of handling grief. 😔I saved a sandwich roll in my fridge for 4 years because it was the last thing my grandmother bought for me. I could not bring myself to throw it out.
@@breezeh1127 This hit me in the heart. My Mom has Alzheimer's & she declined rapidly. The last thing she bought me was a bottle of coffee creamer (I don't drink coffee) & I kept in for months, just because. Grief is such a discombobulating emotion. I'm so sorry about your Loved One. Xo
@@celticquestful I'm sorry for your loss as well😔. It is hard and confusing and we all react differently. No one should judge how we survive grief ❤❤💔
Loss is hard to deal with. I was adrift for years after my mother died. My dad is doing poorly now, and his current wife is at the end of life, but I'm in a better place. I was my mother's caregiver at the end of her life, and I treasure those days. My dad sold the house, and dumped all the furniture on me. It still fills my garage. I recently realized that I don't have to keep it all. My mom wouldn't expect me to keep it, and my dad doesn't want it. I can let it all go. That revelation was huge. Big love to you, Maria. I've been in your shoes.
Bless these people who specialize in helping people with this disorder, that must be a VERY hard job and they do very important good work!
Absolutely beautiful job they did. And Cobra being so open to getting rid of the stuff and trash.
Cobra is an amazing soul and it was nice to watch him open up and let go for the sake of the birth of his grandchild. 🥰
If, lord forbid, I ever got into that kind of situation, I'd want Dorothy's help! She seems like she really cares about the people she's helping! Glad Cobra is doing better!
Of all the hoarding shows I've watched, this man, Cobra (a.k.a. Fred Farmer) was THE MOST cooperative with the clean-up I've seen. What a nice, calm and gentle person he is.
I hope Cobra/Fred continued to get some therapy/mental health help. Something is seriously amiss with the guy. This isn't just being stuck in grief over his parents. I sure hope the little girl yet to be born has a safe and happy childhood there.
Yeah you may be right but loneliness is the key factor with hoarders which creates ocd.
@@earnold1896 yes, but he speaks slowly and is quick to flare up, so I'm sure there is something else going on, like some sort of brain damage from injury or drugs or something. It's a lot more than just hoarding.
@@genwhite1175 prob but something seems off about all three of them very cold very distant. He didn't get even a hug for the bassinet.
@@genwhite1175 Yeah it’s pills. Prescription pills I would wager. I was involved with pro wrestling for most of my youth and a lot of guys like him (local guys that kind of create their own little world cause they’re never going to get any bigger) have a tendency to wallow in that stuff. Not knocking him it’s just a sad reality. At his age I’m sure he gets plenty from the dr
@@audrab27 I'm guessing his son and the girlfriend have probably put up with a lot of weird behaviour.
I really like Cobra so much. What a gentle, generous soul. Wishing all best to him and his wonderful, growing, supportive family!
What a wonderful man and am so glad he got the help.. I have grown up watching all the wrestlers due to my brothers and he was a great one. 👍 keep strong cobra 🐍
Cobra is a very likable guy. And pretty cool also. I pray they are enjoying that new baby.
Even when he was upset he stayed calm and collected. I hope hes doing good ❤
@17:45 The picture on the left is called The Smithy by Paul Detlefsen I have most of the artist pictures. Great taste in vintage items.
At ~8:00 finding the card William gave to his dad made me start ugly crying and brought back the migraine that was finally subsiding after 14+ hours.
It reminded me of being 27 and going through our mom's things after she passed away and seeing what she kept from our childhoods. Then almost 2 years later doing the same for our dad. They each kept things that we forgot about until we saw them again.
there are meds for migraines so you don't have to suffer that long , I use Maxalt MLT and in about 2 hours it's gone
I use to be a hoarder, it sucked! I came from a family of all hoarders and it was such a difficult childhood, but today I can truthfully say that I’m no longer a hoarder. It took years of therapy, hard work and consistency for me to overcome this disorder. Now I get anxiety if I feel like I have too much stuff! People CAN change!
You could tell that Cobra had just been struggling with such big losses and this was his way of coping. It takes a strong person to admit your faults and a stronger person to accept help to rectify them. What a great family all around! It's hard to break the cycle and get out of the downward spiral. Good on ya champion! This is why as family you have to stick together and see things through.
Cobra seems like a genuinely good hearted person. It was really brave to share his story and I hope he is leading his happiest life ❤️
It should have been the SON not the daughter in law, talking to Cobra about the mobile home. She didn't need to do that. Son needs to man up on that one.
son seems like a simp
@@CatBrash William is not a simp he was doing other things and not invited to talk about the cars. Tykarra and cobra had previously talked about them so the crew just continued the conversation. Cobra actually responds to her better then is his bc tykarra isn't one to carry on a disagreement. That day she was tired, hot, swollen, and hungry so yes it was her day to snap.
@@momma4lyfe980 I didn't see her snap. Even when he was mean. She is gentle with him.
Honestly, Cobra seems like a kind soul. “Issues” or not, I feel like you can really tell he’s a good man. This was touching.
His fur babies are going to be so happy! ❤️
Looks amazing. But they always put white or beige rugs down. So impractical.
Vacuum and wash weekly and wear no shoes in the house
The psychologist here was so much more effective and appropriate than those on other episodes of Hoarders! He said it from the start: "I'm here to support you AND to challenge you." Unlike other "professionals," he doesn't enable and reinforce the dysfunction by pandering to it. Cobra trusts him because he trusts Cobra by holding him accountable to reality.
One bit I thought was missing that would have helped a lot was to help Cobra move from his internalized role of son and step into his role as father and grandfather. He will always be his parents' son, but he's also so much more.
He has a lot to be proud of, and he has a fantastic family. He's so defensive, but he hasn't realized that he's the one disrespecting himself. When he claims his accomplishments and blessings as well as his ability to be a good father and grandfather, he's got everything he needs for a lifetime of happiness and fulfilment.
Watched the full episode on Monday on A&E. This one really punched me in the feels. Cobra is a good guy-he took care of both of his parents. I understand the hoard. I did the same thing for my Mom for several years and after they pass away, things just start to accumulate.
I am sorry to hear that. I hope you can let go and get back to 'normal' little by little. You deserve to live.
That Dorothy is a real firecracker !
They don’t come any better than her!
She just glows from within!
The fly-paper did me in. I'm going to do some housework - right now!
Dorothy's warmth was evident in all of this.
Yesss! She's amazing!
What an amazing transformation.
Great job Cobra.
Trauma of loosing someone so dear plus the lonliness had to be so much for him. I hope the rest of his days are filled with love.
I bet Cobra is a fun guy. I hope he finds a partner to enjoy the rest of his life with.
What a beautiful man and his family are.. The very best of wishes to them and have a wonderful life with your new granddaughter Cobra. ❤️❤️❤️
Awe ... such a happy ending. Enjoy your new Grandbaby GrandaPa!!!♥️❤️♥️
He’s a sweetheart But Cobra? Never heard of him lol 😂 He’s a legend in his own mind
Aren't we all? 😁
Thia was a great episode. I really like how they incorporated his wrestling career into the process, the smile on his face when they gave him the belt made me smile too. You can see the load finally lift off of his shoulders after everything is done.
It's really sad he loved his parents so much but hes so depressed that his mothers ashes are in a pile. :( poor guy I hope hes doing better
Dorothy has such a caring heart, she really knows how to connect and build trust with people. At the end of this episode you could see a brightness to Cobra's face. Best of wishes to this family💖✌😊
This, I really liked. Cobra is such a sweetheart. His son and daughter in law beautiful people. Bless this family and bless this child . 💛💛💛💛
It’s so lovely that he loved his parents soo much. They must have been terrific people 🥰
Cobra is my fav reformed hoarder I have ever seen on this program, Go Cobra!
Although the psychologist set a pretty non-judgmental tone overall, I feel like Cobra was *told* to do a lot of things, which would overlook a lot of mental/emotional issues. For example, he was essentially forced to get rid of the cars, without actually receiving help to understand why exactly he is so attached to them. I hope Cobra got the emotional support and help he needed in this transition. Wish the psychologist could contribute more than just being an understanding host.
Same, they really did push the narrative in this one.
I agree definitely but I also think it’s possible that part of it wasn’t included in this video, it’s a lot shorter than most hoarders videos so they’re definitely cutting a lot of footage. Just a possibility 🤷♀️
It’s a two hour episode condensed into a short clip. Plus, the footage that didn’t make it into the episode that we didn’t see.
He may have been attached to them , BUT they're rust buckets that can be a hazard to his grandchild, he NEEDED to have them gone theyre unsafe and he's not going to get any money out of them, so why keep them just to have them deteriorate further?
beautiful! a family together, preparing to build memories,a present and a future, respecting the inheritance.
really good.
What ever they pay the cleaning crew it’s not enough
I Googled, seems the going rate is around $18 an hour for jobs like that which is 60% more than regular cleaning.
Cobra, you need one of the old 1950's chrome kitchen tables and chairs.I just LOVE your kitchen!!!!
I'm happy for him. His grandbaby can spend time with him, and that's important. I think his folks would be proud. He took good care of them. He's a good son. He's going to be a loving grandpa.
Wow, what a wonderful son,and his partner. So much love,support and care.💕
I'm glad cobra got his place cleaned up! Wish this family the best 😊
I am so grateful he had David and Dorothy for this clean out. They were a beautiful and compassionate balance to help this kind man and good family. God bless them all💖
That’s so nice that his son, daughter in law, and grandbaby are going to be on the property! ❤️
"There is only one Cobra and that's probably a good thing" had me in stitches. Apart from that; what a sweet, loving and caring family! I really enjoyed this episode 🥰🥰
I like the guy that came to take away the Mustang and the other car. He says, he isnt Cobra, his name is Fred, then he says Hey I was in here years ago and offered you good money for this car. Today I will take it away but you are gonna pay me to take it. He was not happy to be taking those cars. I think sometimes hoarders need to be dealt with in this fashion and like there was probably a large conversation between the auto salvage guy the doctors and Cobra/Fred. I think that should be shown on the show more, when people in the hoarders life actually make them realize something not just the psychologists or the organization experts.
That man had needed a real good hug and know one gave him one that made me upset !!!so I gave him one in spirit !!!!
Dorothy gave him one at the end! I good long hug🥰😊
Great work Cobra!!!! You did it my man!!!!
This man is so sweet. He's got issues but loves his family.
cobra is a sweetheart, his family is so lucky to have him
*if you’re reading this I wish nothing but wealth and health all 2021*
Thanks! I might not have all that I want but I have all that I need
Thank you Quintin...and the same to you friend!!!!♥️
I left my health in 2013 😩
One of my favourites. Top marks to everyone who does their bit on this show. Feel for the folk, well some of them and despite his bravado, he just felt lost without his parents and felt so sad without them. I hope he has found some peace. I keep memory boxes of those that have passed.
What a sweet family. Tykarra is quality, and they're lucky William found her. Cobra did a good job caring for his parents and preparing for his son's new family.
This was a great episode! I relate to how Cobra felt about his parents. He was blessed to have a huge support system. I don't have that and still feel so much sadness and miss my parents a lot. God Bless Him and his family on their future endeavors. Thank you for posting this episode.
Dorothy is a BEAST. Good gracious she’s efficient. 🔥
Having his son, daughter in law and the little one close will hopefully lift his spirits and hopefully help him let go of his parents ashes in the pond so that their spirits live freely in the property and bring blessings to the new life. They seem very harmonious in spite of the physical and mental clutter, definitely wish them the best.
I truly wish the effort was 5 days instead of 4 in order to reduce some of the stress level on the cleaning crews!
Cobra is probably the coolest guy who's been on this show. he really deserved the help
Let’s be honest no one wanted to buy that mustang 2 😂😂 the nova should’ve been kept tho
I watched this full episode waiting for someone to mention the animals, and not once did they. I feel terrible for Cobra, but I was also super concerned for his pets. One of the dogs' particular looked very poorly, and that was only from 3 seconds on the whole episode.
I really hope they kept that beautiful crafted antique couch.
I am so happy for you Cobra. Happy for your family too. Your Mom and Dad are so proud of you. I wish you years of happiness. Thank you to each person that helped Cobra. 💕💜💕✌🏻🙏🏻⭐️👍🏻
This brings back memories of my own parents, who passed away within nine months of each other. After my mother's funeral the family was gathered in their beautiful home, and my brother spoke the difficult truth: We could not leave the house as a museum to their lives. He then took a painting off the wall, and that broke the spell that threatened to hold us back from doing the things needed to settle the estate.
Oh this makes me so sad, such a lovely man and his losses have hurt him so badly
Tykara is lovely! These men are lucky to have her in their lives.
WHAT a sweetheart is this man! I wish you all the best Cobra!
I feel like they should take away the artificial deadline and just do the job until it’s done. That and starting therapy BEFORE the cleanup.
It's rare I actually like the hoarder, it's even more rare I actually DO feel bad for them
Wishing this family well. I'm not sure who hurt this guy, but I'm sorry for whatever they did
I don’t know…I’m not sure anyone hurt him. I think he honestly just loved his parents so much & he loves his son so much too. I liked him a lot too 🥰
🐼 Big Bear Hugs from a 67 yr old grandma in Kirby, Texas, USA 🐼
Awww that's so kind! Those are the best hugs 🤗. My mom is a Grammy too 💕
Oh my god. I used to think that wrestlers are most powerful, strong and very cruel people after watching few fights in WWF.
But now I realised that they too are human and have heart and emotions buried deep inside it.
I have to hand it to these people who clean up these hording situations.
Congratulations on your grandbaby! I hope you get to spend lots of time with them once your house is clean and usable. ❤️
So attached to his deceased parents bc his relationship with them was so great- while ruining the relationship with his living son 🤯
it never showed him reunited with the ashes
"My futures so bright, I gotta wear shades" (casually in a cool badass way, he looks right at the camera and puts said shades on!)
(Thumbs up)
"Cobra OUT"
I'm indonesian. I,m happy watching this program