I have someone in my life who has narcissistic tendencies, I have only just recently realised it. When they go on the attack nothing is spared, they will emotionally damage you and will walk away with no care of the injury that has been inflicted. What is even more disconcerting is they will return as if nothing has happened and will then pretend it is just overreaction on your part. It leaves you feeling guilty and that you are at fault, I have distanced myself but it does not relieve my guilt.
Recognizing their patterns is a strong first step. Remember, their actions are a reflection of them, not you. Distance is healthy, and guilt is normal, but it’s not yours to carry-focus on your well-being and self-respect.
I’m getting the silent treatment and you sharing how I need to deal with this helped so much. I was the one who drove over to my sisters house to talk about the problem so we could have a better relationship. After listening to you, I’m not doing it this time. You’ve helped me realize I don’t need this relationship that bad, I’m not benefiting anything from it because I can never please her! Thank you I feel so much better and I’m not going to second guess why she’s avoiding me! Who cares! 😂
You're absolutely right-relationships should bring mutual respect and growth, not constant stress. Letting go of trying to please someone who isn't willing to meet halfway is a powerful step. Keep focusing on your peace and well-being-you deserve it! 😊
Οσο και αν προσπαθησε για πολλα χρονια να με καταστρεψει,ειμαι εδω,απολαμβανω τη ζωη,ειμαι αυθεντικη,με ενσυναισθηση.Σε ευχαριστω.Καμια επαφη.Ο εαυτος μου ειναι σημαντικοτερος απο αυτο το χαος.
Again, this trope of stove pipe categorizing people is self serving and narcissistic ipsum. The vast majority of human interactions, both good, bad and indifferent - comprise a mixture of thought, speech and reaction - all of which vary greatly in circumstance and context that merely yield a temporary or transitory state of being. In other words: Perception of or portrayal of so-called narcissism is situational - it depends. Only the smallest minority of people are truly 'one thing' at the exclusion of 'all other things' and those people are rooted out sooner rather than later (think mass murderers, sociopaths, etc) For the rest of your life you will meet people, make friends, loose people and loose friends for a variety of reasons and those reasons are a compound of complex linkages - not just 'one' thing. Refrain from looking for 'the one straw' that breaks a friendship because if you do you will certainly find yourself totally alone.
again, everyone has their own opinions and their own problems, imagine a guest comes into your house and criticizes the things you bought for that house, you know that the things are your experience, but the guest doesn't. what would you do with this guest?
@@StoicTraining Seriously? That is your 'well thought out response' to my clear natural observation that people live in a complex world that necessarily cannot be easily stuffed into categories as a matter of rationalizing self serving fairy dust & unicorn lives? I am fairly confident that your idiotic example serves no one. You invited the guest for a variety of reasons and do you really believe that people are so thin skinned that they fold up like a cheap suit because someone criticizes 'things'? They are 'things' and things are not people. So what? Perhaps the guest had a bad day, perhaps God knows what is going on in their life that makes them say stupid stuff - people say stupid things all the time - but I am pretty sure that the stupid things people say do not launch 'scorched earth' all out warfare as the best response. I can see clearly that you are knee jerking with an idiotic example of nothing. Your self anointed stoic belief is to burn the other person to the ground - just because they said something - that you have decided is wrong. That person may actually be telling you something useful about your 'things'. Just keep doing your 'bridge burn' tactic every time you 'believe' someone says something you don't like and you will find yourself all alone in your 'wisdom'. Grow a pair.
@@StoicTraining Seriously? That is your 'well thought out response' to my clear natural observation that people live in a complex world that necessarily cannot be easily stuffed into categories as a matter of rationalizing self serving fairy dust & unicorn lives? I am fairly confident that your idiotic example serves no one. You invited the guest for a variety of reasons and do you really believe that people are so thin skinned that they fold up like a cheap suit because someone criticizes 'things'? They are 'things' and things are not people. So what? Perhaps the guest had a bad day, perhaps God knows what is going on in their life that makes them say stupid stuff - people say stupid things all the time - but I am pretty sure that the stupid things people say do not launch 'scorched earth' all out warfare as the best response. I can see clearly that you are knee jerking with an idiotic example of nothing. Your self anointed stoic belief is to burn the other person to the ground - just because they said something - that you have decided is wrong. That person may actually be telling you something useful about your 'things'. Just keep doing your 'bridge burn' tactic every time you 'believe' someone says something you don't like and you will find yourself all alone in your 'wisdom'. Grow a pair.
It seems to me that needing to impress others is okay in the case of a potential employer because of the need for money. True, it is my accomplishments which should be considered, not me, but all too often it is my first impression which is judged. The hiring person uses a mental short cut in accepting/dismissing my worth instead of thoughtful understanding. Granted, I can say "If that's how they operate, I won't work for them." However, in today's economy, setting that boundary could result in unemployment since few companies are hiring. I'm probably not seeing something right and would appreciate you or someone else pointing it out.
You make a valid point-first impressions do play a big role, especially in job interviews. It's not about compromising your integrity but showcasing your value effectively within the system. Striking a balance between authenticity and professionalism is key. Wishing you the best in navigating this challenge!
I have someone in my life who has narcissistic tendencies, I have only just recently realised it. When they go on the attack nothing is spared, they will emotionally damage you and will walk away with no care of the injury that has been inflicted. What is even more disconcerting is they will return as if nothing has happened and will then pretend it is just overreaction on your part. It leaves you feeling guilty and that you are at fault, I have distanced myself but it does not relieve my guilt.
Recognizing their patterns is a strong first step. Remember, their actions are a reflection of them, not you. Distance is healthy, and guilt is normal, but it’s not yours to carry-focus on your well-being and self-respect.
@ thank you!
I’m getting the silent treatment and you sharing how I need to deal with this helped so much. I was the one who drove over to my sisters house to talk about the problem so we could have a better relationship. After listening to you, I’m not doing it this time. You’ve helped me realize I don’t need this relationship that bad, I’m not benefiting anything from it because I can never please her! Thank you I feel so much better and I’m not going to second guess why she’s avoiding me! Who cares! 😂
You're absolutely right-relationships should bring mutual respect and growth, not constant stress. Letting go of trying to please someone who isn't willing to meet halfway is a powerful step. Keep focusing on your peace and well-being-you deserve it! 😊
Οσο και αν προσπαθησε για πολλα χρονια να με καταστρεψει,ειμαι εδω,απολαμβανω τη ζωη,ειμαι αυθεντικη,με ενσυναισθηση.Σε ευχαριστω.Καμια επαφη.Ο εαυτος μου ειναι σημαντικοτερος απο αυτο το χαος.
Your strength and authenticity shine through. Prioritizing your peace over chaos is a powerful choice-well done for choosing yourself!
Submission, yes! I agree!
Thank you so much, I am so happy that this video brings value to you. Wish you best! ❤
Again, this trope of stove pipe categorizing people is self serving and narcissistic ipsum. The vast majority of human interactions, both good, bad and indifferent - comprise a mixture of thought, speech and reaction - all of which vary greatly in circumstance and context that merely yield a temporary or transitory state of being. In other words: Perception of or portrayal of so-called narcissism is situational - it depends. Only the smallest minority of people are truly 'one thing' at the exclusion of 'all other things' and those people are rooted out sooner rather than later (think mass murderers, sociopaths, etc)
For the rest of your life you will meet people, make friends, loose people and loose friends for a variety of reasons and those reasons are a compound of complex linkages - not just 'one' thing. Refrain from looking for 'the one straw' that breaks a friendship because if you do you will certainly find yourself totally alone.
again, everyone has their own opinions and their own problems, imagine a guest comes into your house and criticizes the things you bought for that house, you know that the things are your experience, but the guest doesn't. what would you do with this guest?
@@StoicTraining Seriously? That is your 'well thought out response' to my clear natural observation that people live in a complex world that necessarily cannot be easily stuffed into categories as a matter of rationalizing self serving fairy dust & unicorn lives?
I am fairly confident that your idiotic example serves no one. You invited the guest for a variety of reasons and do you really believe that people are so thin skinned that they fold up like a cheap suit because someone criticizes 'things'? They are 'things' and things are not people. So what? Perhaps the guest had a bad day, perhaps God knows what is going on in their life that makes them say stupid stuff - people say stupid things all the time - but I am pretty sure that the stupid things people say do not launch 'scorched earth' all out warfare as the best response.
I can see clearly that you are knee jerking with an idiotic example of nothing. Your self anointed stoic belief is to burn the other person to the ground - just because they said something - that you have decided is wrong. That person may actually be telling you something useful about your 'things'.
Just keep doing your 'bridge burn' tactic every time you 'believe' someone says something you don't like and you will find yourself all alone in your 'wisdom'.
Grow a pair.
Thank you, God bless you, my friend ! ❤
@@StoicTraining You snowflake you deleted my response.
@@StoicTraining Seriously? That is your 'well thought out response' to my clear natural observation that people live in a complex world that necessarily cannot be easily stuffed into categories as a matter of rationalizing self serving fairy dust & unicorn lives? I am fairly confident that your idiotic example serves no one. You invited the guest for a variety of reasons and do you really believe that people are so thin skinned that they fold up like a cheap suit because someone criticizes 'things'? They are 'things' and things are not people. So what? Perhaps the guest had a bad day, perhaps God knows what is going on in their life that makes them say stupid stuff - people say stupid things all the time - but I am pretty sure that the stupid things people say do not launch 'scorched earth' all out warfare as the best response. I can see clearly that you are knee jerking with an idiotic example of nothing. Your self anointed stoic belief is to burn the other person to the ground - just because they said something - that you have decided is wrong. That person may actually be telling you something useful about your 'things'. Just keep doing your 'bridge burn' tactic every time you 'believe' someone says something you don't like and you will find yourself all alone in your 'wisdom'. Grow a pair.
I went into “Battle with the “ I was go disgusted I refuse to have any thing to do with her
Stay far away from these individuals.
The narcissist may answer that “you’re the cause of my deepest pain…”
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It seems to me that needing to impress others is okay in the case of a potential employer because of the need for money. True, it is my accomplishments which should be considered, not me, but all too often it is my first impression which is judged. The hiring person uses a mental short cut in accepting/dismissing my worth instead of thoughtful understanding. Granted, I can say "If that's how they operate, I won't work for them." However, in today's economy, setting that boundary could result in unemployment since few companies are hiring. I'm probably not seeing something right and would appreciate you or someone else pointing it out.
You make a valid point-first impressions do play a big role, especially in job interviews. It's not about compromising your integrity but showcasing your value effectively within the system. Striking a balance between authenticity and professionalism is key. Wishing you the best in navigating this challenge!
I prefer to avoid “The Narcissist in the room”.
Congratulations, I believe you will be much better in the future.❤
Sigh.... silence is not in their dictionary though.
Thank you, my pleasure if this knowledge helps you. ❤