I used to feel that as a female, I wasn’t allowed to take up space in a room, or express my feminine qualities because they were looked down upon by men. I would mask myself with more masculine qualities to make myself appear worthy and strong to others. Now I love and accept my divine feminine and want to take up space in a room. My energy is beautiful and sacred.
It was your own insecurities and mistakes, and you should not blame men for that if you really want to make real progress in your life. It's fashion for nowadays women to put blame on men for poor choices they made in their life.
@@TaiwanLife2024 I don’t think they were trying to blame men from them not being able to express their divine feminine. It is common for men to frown upon women who are loud spoken by sharing their own opinions, saying no unapologetically and not always agreeing with others. This happened to me growing up, but I learnt that it does attract faithful guys in your life when you’re in touch with your divine feminine. It’s definitely not easy to overcome being a people pleaser but it’s a mix of changing your surroundings, acknowledging your insecurities and not letting others bring you down. You always know yourself better than anyone else.
"I don't have to share my body with anyone I don't want to". It is incredibly frustrating how many times this is disrespected and how we are made feel bad because of saying no.
very tru. I used to date someone who would pressure me into sending him pictures because he lived an hour away. we were barley intimate, it only lasted 3 months and some very toxic on and off again months after. now I know the signs to look out for when being emotional manipulated into doing something I don’t want to. I also told his mom all the bs he did so it works out :)
it feels so surreal to hear someone telling me such simple things like how my body is my own and I shouldn't compromise it just so that I am "not rude". How many times have I been in a relationship with someone because they gave me attention and then dropped me once they were bored. The media has really taught us that we should value shallow things, not what people really are. I have yet to break my cycle of choosing partners to love who are damaged and toxic because some part of me thinks I can 'fix' them. It is still hard to tell what parts of my ideas are from my soul and what parts have been planted in my brain when I was young. Still working on un-brainwashing myself, and you are a lot of help Hitomi :)
I get what you say but I’d like to make a little note: no one’s ideas are totally theirs. Our ideas will always be a product of conditioning and external influences. We just need to choose the best influences for ourselves.
To everyone who needed more support that didn't receive it, I see you, I feel you, and in some way, I love you. You are NOT alone, though it can often feel that way.
YES. The bit about your house being a safe space for your children and family. Yes. Why is it normal in our society to invite people in who make us uncomfortable or could potentially hurt us?
I'm 52 years old, I want to thank you for all you have taught me in the short 6 months that I have been following your channel. Your bravely for such a young woman is amazing. I wish my younger self was so evolved. I am happy for the generations to follow that have young people like you to learn from . Namaste is
i really appreciate your advice. it seems so simple and like “common” sense yet the younger version of me couldn’t seem to grasp any of these concepts. i lived toxic cycles of people pleasing, ignoring my own intuition and failing to set boundaries. almost like i was addicted to the pain and instability. i really just want to thank you for being so transparent and vulnerable sharing your personal anecdotes and wisdom because it makes people like me feel seen, heard, understood. your really helping me unapologetically grow into being confident and free in being me. 💛
Reading "addicted to the pain and instability" hit close to home for me. If my life became peaceful I would start looking around the corner for pain and chaos.
i am the eldest child in my family tree, so i have always felt really lonely and anxious/scared but didn't tell anyone. i am shy, have an avoidant attachment style and am a huge introvert full of unnecessary guilt/regret. i have been in a really dark place for years now, probably most of my life, but ever since i found your channel, i have resonated with you, i see my higher self/ideal version of myself really similar to you and i want to thank you for that :) i hope you find your peace and happiness. thank you again!
I thought i forgave my parents for their bad parenting but now that I spent two months at home with them again i realized i didnt forgive shit 😭😂 sometimes it’s so so so difficult and it’s a work that you have to do voluntarily every day. Thank you for sharing your light and having given me the courage to start making my own TH-cam channel last year! :)) Forever grateful!
I would have really benefitted if my parents had taught me consent and had been more open about the sex talk in general. I had no idea how to turn down a guy if he had miraculously shown interest in me. I also didn't know much about sex besides what little they taught me in school. It also would have been helpful to learn how to express, name, and regulate my emotions. Pretty much any negative emotion was punished, no space was held for me when I was feeling sad, angry, scared etc. I understand now as an adult that my parents did not learn emotional regulation themselves as they had their own trauma from childhood where they were disciplined by being hit. Bodily autonomy was not taught to me either. I had no say in whether or not I could hug certain family members or wearing what I felt comfortable in. I had to do some deprogramming of what I thought was acceptable for women in beauty standards like you said; hairless legs, makeup, perfect hair. This video resonated with me so much!
I feel you on all of this, sister. The only thing I could possibly add to it is that being Mexican-American they added the extra layer of culture and catholic shame to add fuel to the fire.
@@MummyBrown omg YES. my family is from the middle East so they are very religious which influenced the way they saw women's roles, the standards of behavior as well as beauty standards. trying to break out of what they think is the ideal way for a woman to behave is still something I'm trying to free myself from. I'm glad we're not alone in this fight to be ourselves.
I love you so much. You take things that feel SO DAMN HEAVY... and make them feel understandable, relatable, and something we can move through as a community. Thank you.
I wish I was taught that being in a relationship wasn’t the only place that life was headed for me. That I was important enough that I could Go and grow without being attached to someone. Loved this video so much ! I could feel your energy and relate in so many ways . Namaste 🙏🏽
*i’ve had guys coerce me into giving them “favours” and I wish I saw the red flags sooner. I agree it’s important how they treat people they’re not attracted to. thanks for making this!*
thank u for talking abt masking + having to minimize urself this was so refreshing and needed ❦ i really hope this video reaches younger femmes + misogyny affected people, this video would have prevented me from sm trauma :)
I hope a kids does actually see this. This would have been so loving to see when I was younger. Thanks Hitomi, and I'm sorry you were hurt at a young age. 🧡
I tried to teach my daughter how to stand in her power and shine her light, but society was stronger. It broke her spirit and now I can only hope that she regains her self-worth and sees the beauty in herself and in the world someday.
You’re so strong and your power give me the self-confidence. I’m feeling so bad last few days because of my past relationship. Nice to hear some truth rn. Thank you
I don't know which higher power brought Hitomi to my recommended page all those years ago but I could not be more grateful. This channel is so healing to me in every possible way, I finally feel like I have that positive female connection for once, someone who understands, someone who doesn't have to use rigid and disgusted words to describe things. I love the way you describe the female body and pleasure and i always come back to this channel when my trauma brings me down and makes me feel gross and unwanted. Thank you for being you and being so open
Last night I was struggling to sleep because of anxiety, came on youtube to watch a sleep meditation but saw you uploaded so decided to watch this first. You have such a beautiful energy about you that I was completely calmed down within 5mins just listening to you talk, I was then able to sleep after 2hrs of laying awake panicking ❤️
Absolutely nailed it! I´m seriously so proud of you to say the things that go on inside most girls around boys and men and all that shit that we have to go back and unlearn. And so many of us don´t. Which is the real tragedy. Breaking ancestral trauma I swear is my purpose. Nailed it again Hitomi
The hair removal topic makes me so uncomfortable. When I discovered the reason people were more fond of hairlessness... I was disgusted. Of course it's fine if you don't like having body hair in certain places but personally I could not be completely hairless.
In my opinion it should be a thing as doing a licence for proper parenting. So many people would be happier these days! Thank you btw for being an inspiration of creating my own channel :)
i watched your first youtube video and i love it!! ur so pretty i love ur hair and your tattoos and your amazing energy. ooh and u have a good sense of humor haha. new subscriber!! we're rooting for u
Wow I needed this. I’m currently in a new province and I’m so alone and around people with so much more privilege than what I grew up with. I’m in my early twenties and healing my inner child and trauma and it’s so hard to not compare myself and feel isolated.
Hey, thank you for the upload, Hitomi. I was feeling quite overwhelmed as I just started university and it is a lot harder that I thought. I was sitting today in the library and for the moment everything felt so meaningless. I wish that I have learned earlier that I am not responsible for others people's emotions and I don't have to feel guilty for being just as I am. I was feeling really insecure and anxious earlier today as well, but I think I will just try to meditate and read for a bit now.
I FEEL LIKE U ARE ONE OF MY GUARDIAN ANGELS all of your videos make me so emotional and hit so hard and everything you share is so intelligent and beautiful I'm so thankful for your content . . . I love everything you said about boundaries and consent and being told your body is shameful because as a young girl I too had many experiences of sexual assault that I think I would have handled very differently if I wasn't taught as a little girl to just be polite and kind and not take up space and not make a fuss and to not talk about "these things" now learning that I had so much programming that told me that I couldn't say no or tell people that I didn't like something that they were doing to me. now Ive come along way and can clearly communicate my feelings and set all kinds of boundaries and u showed the way for a lot of that learning
This was so triggering but felt so good to be able to relate, makes the shame lighter, especially coming from Hitomi, thank you for being so educated and educational, it makes all the difference
I'd say that life is made up of all the artificial constructs that people create for various reasons and to realize you choose how you see life, how you see relationships, yourself, "good" and "evil", and so much more. The limit really just becomes imagination and how much you allow others to dictate your view of the world.
Hitomi you are going to be the greatest mother one day! I would like my inner child to know that i's ok to be different and take up space and be the miracle it is, and that being taken advantage of and being mistreated is abuse- it is not normal or something I deserve because I exist. Thank you for changing my life, I aspire to embody love fully just like you! Sending blessings to you Hitomi and to all fellow earth angels on this journey. It is going to get better, I love you
Thank-you so much Hitomi. I feel our hard lessons are very similar & I’m constantly reparenting. Others things I would have loved to be taught is that human bodies can get sick or injured or tired, we can’t control that and it’s nothing to be ashamed of or feel as though the illness is for some reason your fault & healing ways to get through these times. Also work/ life boundaries that you are not a slave to your work, similar to in relationships you can say ‘No’ thanks again, love everything you do! And it inspires me to be brave xx
I am still learning so many of these lessons. Still learning that it's okay to have different thoughts and expressions than those around me. Still learning that my emotions are valid, and should not be suppressed just to make other people more comfortable or to ignore realities within myself. It is such a process tapping into my feminine energy as well, because I do have certain masculine traits, but I am in the process of learning how to distinguish which traits truly come from within, and which traits were adopted as a defense mechanism or for me to appear "strong." As if femininity isn't a symbol of strength and wholeness in itself... Thank you for being a wonderful teacher Hitomi.
I've loved listening to you, truly deep thoughts I will remember to pass to my little kids while growing, it's so important to know yourself and not be damaged by what surrounds you and be capable to understand situations and make right choices. Thank you for sharing ❤
ive felt so lonley and in despair lately about things not getting better but I swear this video was a big hug that no one out of the few cold people in my life could ever give me. Thank you so much for being so wise and sharing it with us
I know this video was published a while ago now, but the relevance is never lost. This was so wonderfully comforting to watch for me, and I suspect the same for so many others. Thank you so much for sharing, and being so authentic. x
wow this video has completely shifted my mindset and i feel as though I have found the missing piece as to how I can become the version of myself i've been desiring for over 2 years. thank you hitomi!!
Hitomi this helped me so much you have no idea. I‘ve been realising how much I‘m letting others walk over me (in relationships and friendships) because of my lack in boundaries. And this is probably caused by the way I was raised and past trauma. All your advise resonated so much with me, thank you
I just want to say that I think ur very brave for breaking that cycle of family trauma, in order to safe urself and perhaps your future kids' perception of life. Love from me:)
Very insightful 28 year old physician a late bloomer...still learning the mistakes made by teens or by those in early 20s...there is a sense of relief after watching your videos
Saying no is definitely something I’ve had to learn as well. I’ve been practicing setting boundaries with people and if someone has a problem with my boundaries then I don’t need them anyway.
I lived a life where l was told what to do when to do and when l did not perform l would be in trouble so l never learnt to have opinions l looked at everybody to tell me who to be and l would morphe myself to their liking. I totally get you girl thank you for speaking up, thanks to an anxiety break my psyche broke and started relearning how to be, how to love myself and how to honour myself. Yes we are here to break the chains of ancestral karma and trauma by living our best lives and honouring our humanity through love and peace. Much love to you Hitomi by the way l can totally relate to you, even though l am not mixed race l could never understand my people l try now a bit😂
Last night I dreamt that you and I were friends, and I felt the loving and compassionate person that you are... I hope to one day find genuine souls like you to call friends. Until then, I will continue to work on being that light for myself and letting it attract other people like me. You are doing amazing things Hitomi, just by being yourself. You are so inspiring. ❤
Thank you for your vulnerability. You addressed SO many deep topics and I know that in order for you to speak on it, you had to experience great pain and that you're also doing the work to heal. This video was extremely refreshing. Thank you again.
my amazing relationship of three years just ended today. we both feel we are really meant to be together, but there's going to be months, maybe years, before we're together again. im feeling scared and i have no idea what my life will look like now. i needed this video. thank you.
your words make me feel butterflies, you remind me of how magical the living experience is. i appreciate your existence and being able to be alive in the same timeline as you are. sending you an infinite amount of love & peace, Hitomi ✨
Thank you so much, very powerful and inspiring! Thank you particularly about how my body is my own and I should believe, trust, love, listen, and be compassionate towards her. Hope you have a great rest of your day/night!
I am soo proud of you. I am also the change maker in my family and am proud that after so many generations , the pain and trauma of my family will and with me because of my love and awareness. Love you hitomi This video was amazing
i really needed this. i've been stuck in that cycle for more than a year now and it drains me so much. growth is so hard when you feel obliged to please everyone around you! but im determined to pull through - this journey is far from over.
so much love goes out to you beautiful star seed. :) thank you for sharing and opening your heart and for creating a safe space in which the entire collective can heal.
I see the video first thing in the morning and was so grateful to resonate with everything you shared. Your presence on this planet really warms my soul and existence. Sending lot's of love.💜☀️🙏
Very wide advise for all women but especially for your girls!! you are a good influence and loving person to share your moments of self doubt and behavior that is not healthy for YOU. xoxo
For sure speaking boundaries. I wished I learned that lesson sooner like you said. It’s so important to realise your self worth and that you are in fact allowed to say no. That there is no one that has this power over you except for yourself. Powerful video as always, thank you for sharing. 🤍
17:57 will return to what you say here when I’m having life ending thoughts. It’s like the non-patronising, honest pep talk I need when I’m in that space
thank you so much! I learn so much from you always, some of these points called out some past versions of me and some called out the present, all however are such important lessons to learn. thank you for existing 🌕
I watch all of your videos, but this one was different for me. I am 20 and everyone I’ve met has never understood or been able to relate to me when I talk about my experience with sending nudes so young and the trauma from that. Everyone is just like oh I never did that. It is so comforting and feels so safe to know that there are people who have had similar experiences and I’m not alone💚
So much love and experience you shared with us, thank you so much Hitomi. As the oldest I always struggled with the responsibilities. Been following along since early New York, thank you for sharing your light
I would say to my younger self that is normal to feel that you are not in «the good world», like to ask «what am i doing here in this world». That is normal that you don't fit in and that affects your relationship with friends. I didn't have a lot of friends, and even today i'm kind of a lonely wolf, but i lost every friends that i had. Work on yourself, your comfort zone, be good with yourself and the rest will follow one day. (sorry for my english! big hugs from quebec, canada!) :)
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I used to feel that as a female, I wasn’t allowed to take up space in a room, or express my feminine qualities because they were looked down upon by men. I would mask myself with more masculine qualities to make myself appear worthy and strong to others. Now I love and accept my divine feminine and want to take up space in a room. My energy is beautiful and sacred.
yes! exactly! i am still trying to remind myself to stand tall and keep my posture straight in public since I'm so used to trying to make myself small
I was just meditating on this ⭐️❤️ def resonate with that
Any male looking down on anyone is no man.
It was your own insecurities and mistakes, and you should not blame men for that if you really want to make real progress in your life. It's fashion for nowadays women to put blame on men for poor choices they made in their life.
@@TaiwanLife2024 I don’t think they were trying to blame men from them not being able to express their divine feminine. It is common for men to frown upon women who are loud spoken by sharing their own opinions, saying no unapologetically and not always agreeing with others. This happened to me growing up, but I learnt that it does attract faithful guys in your life when you’re in touch with your divine feminine. It’s definitely not easy to overcome being a people pleaser but it’s a mix of changing your surroundings, acknowledging your insecurities and not letting others bring you down. You always know yourself better than anyone else.
"I don't have to share my body with anyone I don't want to". It is incredibly frustrating how many times this is disrespected and how we are made feel bad because of saying no.
very tru. I used to date someone who would pressure me into sending him pictures because he lived an hour away. we were barley intimate, it only lasted 3 months and some very toxic on and off again months after. now I know the signs to look out for when being emotional manipulated into doing something I don’t want to. I also told his mom all the bs he did so it works out :)
it feels so surreal to hear someone telling me such simple things like how my body is my own and I shouldn't compromise it just so that I am "not rude". How many times have I been in a relationship with someone because they gave me attention and then dropped me once they were bored. The media has really taught us that we should value shallow things, not what people really are. I have yet to break my cycle of choosing partners to love who are damaged and toxic because some part of me thinks I can 'fix' them. It is still hard to tell what parts of my ideas are from my soul and what parts have been planted in my brain when I was young. Still working on un-brainwashing myself, and you are a lot of help Hitomi :)
Not compromising your body so you're not rude rlly hit😪❤️❤️
I get what you say but I’d like to make a little note: no one’s ideas are totally theirs. Our ideas will always be a product of conditioning and external influences. We just need to choose the best influences for ourselves.
I would tell my younger self to trust my instincts. No you’re not crazy. That’s your inner knowing. Allow it to protect you and guide you🙏🏼✨
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To everyone who needed more support that didn't receive it, I see you, I feel you, and in some way, I love you. You are NOT alone, though it can often feel that way.
thank you so much, i needed this
Thank you, love
YES. The bit about your house being a safe space for your children and family. Yes. Why is it normal in our society to invite people in who make us uncomfortable or could potentially hurt us?
I'm 52 years old, I want to thank you for all you have taught me in the short 6 months that I have been following your channel. Your bravely for such a young woman is amazing. I wish my younger self was so evolved. I am happy for the generations to follow that have young people like you to learn from . Namaste is
i really appreciate your advice. it seems so simple and like “common” sense yet the younger version of me couldn’t seem to grasp any of these concepts. i lived toxic cycles of people pleasing, ignoring my own intuition and failing to set boundaries. almost like i was addicted to the pain and instability. i really just want to thank you for being so transparent and vulnerable sharing your personal anecdotes and wisdom because it makes people like me feel seen, heard, understood. your really helping me unapologetically grow into being confident and free in being me. 💛
Reading "addicted to the pain and instability" hit close to home for me. If my life became peaceful I would start looking around the corner for pain and chaos.
Yes! Everything you said I completely agree with and relate to. She really is amazing.
you are so beautiful!!😍
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i love both of you 😚
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i am the eldest child in my family tree, so i have always felt really lonely and anxious/scared but didn't tell anyone. i am shy, have an avoidant attachment style and am a huge introvert full of unnecessary guilt/regret. i have been in a really dark place for years now, probably most of my life, but ever since i found your channel, i have resonated with you, i see my higher self/ideal version of myself really similar to you and i want to thank you for that :) i hope you find your peace and happiness. thank you again!
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Yess. I relate to everything you said so much 😭
We’re on the same boat 🥲
I thought i forgave my parents for their bad parenting but now that I spent two months at home with them again i realized i didnt forgive shit 😭😂 sometimes it’s so so so difficult and it’s a work that you have to do voluntarily every day. Thank you for sharing your light and having given me the courage to start making my own TH-cam channel last year! :)) Forever grateful!
Leave. Sometimes you just can’t forgive anymore and have to let it go.
Study pyschology. Disquised grief
I would have really benefitted if my parents had taught me consent and had been more open about the sex talk in general. I had no idea how to turn down a guy if he had miraculously shown interest in me. I also didn't know much about sex besides what little they taught me in school. It also would have been helpful to learn how to express, name, and regulate my emotions. Pretty much any negative emotion was punished, no space was held for me when I was feeling sad, angry, scared etc. I understand now as an adult that my parents did not learn emotional regulation themselves as they had their own trauma from childhood where they were disciplined by being hit. Bodily autonomy was not taught to me either. I had no say in whether or not I could hug certain family members or wearing what I felt comfortable in. I had to do some deprogramming of what I thought was acceptable for women in beauty standards like you said; hairless legs, makeup, perfect hair. This video resonated with me so much!
I feel you on all of this, sister. The only thing I could possibly add to it is that being Mexican-American they added the extra layer of culture and catholic shame to add fuel to the fire.
@@MummyBrown omg YES. my family is from the middle East so they are very religious which influenced the way they saw women's roles, the standards of behavior as well as beauty standards. trying to break out of what they think is the ideal way for a woman to behave is still something I'm trying to free myself from. I'm glad we're not alone in this fight to be ourselves.
I love you so much. You take things that feel SO DAMN HEAVY... and make them feel understandable, relatable, and something we can move through as a community. Thank you.
have you considered starting a podcast? i feel like i could listen to you talk for hours 🥰
I wish I was taught that being in a relationship wasn’t the only place that life was headed for me. That I was important enough that I could
Go and grow without being attached to someone. Loved this video so much ! I could feel your energy and relate in so many ways .
Namaste 🙏🏽
*i’ve had guys coerce me into giving them “favours” and I wish I saw the red flags sooner. I agree it’s important how they treat people they’re not attracted to. thanks for making this!*
You have been so helpful in my inner child healing.Thank you so much, you are a true goddess in disguise
thank u for talking abt masking + having to minimize urself this was so refreshing and needed ❦ i really hope this video reaches younger femmes + misogyny affected people, this video would have prevented me from sm trauma :)
I hope a kids does actually see this. This would have been so loving to see when I was younger. Thanks Hitomi, and I'm sorry you were hurt at a young age. 🧡
just when i felt like i need comfort in shape of another person - you uploaded, always so grateful for you 💛
I tried to teach my daughter how to stand in her power and shine her light, but society was stronger. It broke her spirit and now I can only hope that she regains her self-worth and sees the beauty in herself and in the world someday.
That’s so heartbreaking. I’m so sorry. I hope she finds her path to self love.
@@iCeleste7 Thank you 🙏
You’re so strong and your power give me the self-confidence. I’m feeling so bad last few days because of my past relationship. Nice to hear some truth rn. Thank you
you are going to be an amazing parent hitomi
There’s not a single thing you said that didn’t touch my feelings, wow, thank you!
I'm 17 and you're really helping me to focus on what my actual needs are and to grow day by day. Thank you
Hitomi I pray in one life that you are my mother. The maternal and nurturing energy you give off is so comforting.
*thanks for being the parent that we all probably needed lol*
I don't know which higher power brought Hitomi to my recommended page all those years ago but I could not be more grateful. This channel is so healing to me in every possible way, I finally feel like I have that positive female connection for once, someone who understands, someone who doesn't have to use rigid and disgusted words to describe things. I love the way you describe the female body and pleasure and i always come back to this channel when my trauma brings me down and makes me feel gross and unwanted. Thank you for being you and being so open
„There’s always someone who will pick them up if they need to go home“ THIS ❤️
Last night I was struggling to sleep because of anxiety, came on youtube to watch a sleep meditation but saw you uploaded so decided to watch this first. You have such a beautiful energy about you that I was completely calmed down within 5mins just listening to you talk, I was then able to sleep after 2hrs of laying awake panicking ❤️
I would tell my younger self she's perfect and doesn't need to change or act in a certain way in order to feel love or in order to love...
“please take up all the space that you need” THATS IT
1. Thank you Hitomi
Absolutely nailed it! I´m seriously so proud of you to say the things that go on inside most girls around boys and men and all that shit that we have to go back and unlearn. And so many of us don´t. Which is the real tragedy. Breaking ancestral trauma I swear is my purpose. Nailed it again Hitomi
I would love for you to make a video on emotional intelligence! Also your favorite books. I love your videos. I resonate so much with them 🧡
The hair removal topic makes me so uncomfortable. When I discovered the reason people were more fond of hairlessness... I was disgusted. Of course it's fine if you don't like having body hair in certain places but personally I could not be completely hairless.
In my opinion it should be a thing as doing a licence for proper parenting. So many people would be happier these days!
Thank you btw for being an inspiration of creating my own channel :)
just saw your first video and i love your energy, rooting for you!
@@forelskxt thank you so much that means the world to me!!!
i watched your first youtube video and i love it!! ur so pretty i love ur hair and your tattoos and your amazing energy. ooh and u have a good sense of humor haha. new subscriber!! we're rooting for u
@@sillycatsayshi sending love 🤍
Wow I needed this. I’m currently in a new province and I’m so alone and around people with so much more privilege than what I grew up with. I’m in my early twenties and healing my inner child and trauma and it’s so hard to not compare myself and feel isolated.
Hey, thank you for the upload, Hitomi. I was feeling quite overwhelmed as I just started university and it is a lot harder that I thought. I was sitting today in the library and for the moment everything felt so meaningless. I wish that I have learned earlier that I am not responsible for others people's emotions and I don't have to feel guilty for being just as I am. I was feeling really insecure and anxious earlier today as well, but I think I will just try to meditate and read for a bit now.
As soon as you mentioned the ancestral trauma I burst into tears 😭💚
Thank you for this beautiful content!!!
how you explain boundaries and access and respectful of physical boundaries - on point. Thank you
I FEEL LIKE U ARE ONE OF MY GUARDIAN ANGELS all of your videos make me so emotional and hit so hard and everything you share is so intelligent and beautiful I'm so thankful for your content . . . I love everything you said about boundaries and consent and being told your body is shameful because as a young girl I too had many experiences of sexual assault that I think I would have handled very differently if I wasn't taught as a little girl to just be polite and kind and not take up space and not make a fuss and to not talk about "these things"
now learning that I had so much programming that told me that I couldn't say no or tell people that I didn't like something that they were doing to me. now Ive come along way and can clearly communicate my feelings and set all kinds of boundaries and u showed the way for a lot of that learning
This was so triggering but felt so good to be able to relate, makes the shame lighter, especially coming from Hitomi, thank you for being so educated and educational, it makes all the difference
Saving this to show my daughter when she is older ☺️
I'd say that life is made up of all the artificial constructs that people create for various reasons and to realize you choose how you see life, how you see relationships, yourself, "good" and "evil", and so much more. The limit really just becomes imagination and how much you allow others to dictate your view of the world.
This made me cry in the best way, such a release and feeling of warmth. Thankyou sis ✨💛🙌🏼🙏🏼
Hitomi you are going to be the greatest mother one day! I would like my inner child to know that i's ok to be different and take up space and be the miracle it is, and that being taken advantage of and being mistreated is abuse- it is not normal or something I deserve because I exist. Thank you for changing my life, I aspire to embody love fully just like you! Sending blessings to you Hitomi and to all fellow earth angels on this journey. It is going to get better, I love you
i adore you hitomi! thank you so much for your presence
This felt like a soul hug. I appreciate you Hitomi 💓😇
You’re heaven sent. I love you & appreciate you. Thank you for being you and always speaking your beautiful truth with us.
Thank-you so much Hitomi. I feel our hard lessons are very similar & I’m constantly reparenting. Others things I would have loved to be taught is that human bodies can get sick or injured or tired, we can’t control that and it’s nothing to be ashamed of or feel as though the illness is for some reason your fault & healing ways to get through these times. Also work/ life boundaries that you are not a slave to your work, similar to in relationships you can say ‘No’ thanks again, love everything you do! And it inspires me to be brave xx
I am still learning so many of these lessons. Still learning that it's okay to have different thoughts and expressions than those around me. Still learning that my emotions are valid, and should not be suppressed just to make other people more comfortable or to ignore realities within myself. It is such a process tapping into my feminine energy as well, because I do have certain masculine traits, but I am in the process of learning how to distinguish which traits truly come from within, and which traits were adopted as a defense mechanism or for me to appear "strong." As if femininity isn't a symbol of strength and wholeness in itself... Thank you for being a wonderful teacher Hitomi.
I've loved listening to you, truly deep thoughts I will remember to pass to my little kids while growing, it's so important to know yourself and not be damaged by what surrounds you and be capable to understand situations and make right choices.
Thank you for sharing ❤
ive felt so lonley and in despair lately about things not getting better but I swear this video was a big hug that no one out of the few cold people in my life could ever give me. Thank you so much for being so wise and sharing it with us
I know this video was published a while ago now, but the relevance is never lost. This was so wonderfully comforting to watch for me, and I suspect the same for so many others. Thank you so much for sharing, and being so authentic. x
wow this video has completely shifted my mindset and i feel as though I have found the missing piece as to how I can become the version of myself i've been desiring for over 2 years. thank you hitomi!!
ahh in the period where I'm forgetting the magic-- needed to hear this. ty Hitomi!
So much respect, gratitude, and love for you. Best, Lore🍃🌿🌱
your videos quite literally have changed my life…thank you
Hitomi this helped me so much you have no idea. I‘ve been realising how much I‘m letting others walk over me (in relationships and friendships) because of my lack in boundaries. And this is probably caused by the way I was raised and past trauma. All your advise resonated so much with me, thank you
I just want to say that I think ur very brave for breaking that cycle of family trauma, in order to safe urself and perhaps your future kids' perception of life. Love from me:)
we are so lucky to have you sharing all this beautiful knowledge with the world.
i appreciate you, thank you for being vulnerable and letting people like me know we are still worthy of love and respect ❤️
Very insightful 28 year old physician a late bloomer...still learning the mistakes made by teens or by those in early 20s...there is a sense of relief after watching your videos
your presence is so comforting
Saying no is definitely something I’ve had to learn as well. I’ve been practicing setting boundaries with people and if someone has a problem with my boundaries then I don’t need them anyway.
I lived a life where l was told what to do when to do and when l did not perform l would be in trouble so l never learnt to have opinions l looked at everybody to tell me who to be and l would morphe myself to their liking. I totally get you girl thank you for speaking up, thanks to an anxiety break my psyche broke and started relearning how to be, how to love myself and how to honour myself. Yes we are here to break the chains of ancestral karma and trauma by living our best lives and honouring our humanity through love and peace. Much love to you Hitomi by the way l can totally relate to you, even though l am not mixed race l could never understand my people l try now a bit😂
Girl I really needed this talk right now. From the bottom of my heart Thank you! 🥰😭🥰😭
I never regret watching your videos, thank you
Last night I dreamt that you and I were friends, and I felt the loving and compassionate person that you are... I hope to one day find genuine souls like you to call friends.
Until then, I will continue to work on being that light for myself and letting it attract other people like me.
You are doing amazing things Hitomi, just by being yourself. You are so inspiring. ❤
All of this is really important yet a lot of people learn them throughout hardship. Much needed talk.
I love seeing you grow and glow. It is inspriring for my own journey.
hugging myself through this whole video, thank you sister
Thank you for your vulnerability. You addressed SO many deep topics and I know that in order for you to speak on it, you had to experience great pain and that you're also doing the work to heal. This video was extremely refreshing. Thank you again.
my amazing relationship of three years just ended today. we both feel we are really meant to be together, but there's going to be months, maybe years, before we're together again. im feeling scared and i have no idea what my life will look like now. i needed this video. thank you.
your words make me feel butterflies, you remind me of how magical the living experience is. i appreciate your existence and being able to be alive in the same timeline as you are. sending you an infinite amount of love & peace, Hitomi ✨
Thank you so much, very powerful and inspiring! Thank you particularly about how my body is my own and I should believe, trust, love, listen, and be compassionate towards her. Hope you have a great rest of your day/night!
You’re speaking straight wisdom through out this whole video, I LOVE YOU ❤️
I am soo proud of you. I am also the change maker in my family and am proud that after so many generations , the pain and trauma of my family will and with me because of my love and awareness. Love you hitomi This video was amazing
I love your energy and your way of expressing your thoughts. So humble, so beautifully vulnerable, so honest and respectful. Thank you ! ♥️
i really needed this. i've been stuck in that cycle for more than a year now and it drains me so much. growth is so hard when you feel obliged to please everyone around you! but im determined to pull through - this journey is far from over.
so much love goes out to you beautiful star seed. :) thank you for sharing and opening your heart and for creating a safe space in which the entire collective can heal.
I see the video first thing in the morning and was so grateful to resonate with everything you shared. Your presence on this planet really warms my soul and existence.
Sending lot's of love.💜☀️🙏
I love these sit down and chit chat videos they’re so enlightening and helpful
literally love listening to your videos. you make me feel seen.
I'm so grateful for this chat, really helped me think, and can be a jumping point for working through my blocks. Always a pleasure. 💜
You are so inspiring Hitomi and I love watching your personal growth over the years and how that's showing up in your followers
thank you so much for this gentle reminder
Very wide advise for all women but especially for your girls!! you are a good influence and loving person to share your moments of self doubt and behavior that is not healthy for YOU. xoxo
this whole video is SO IMPORTANT. thank you x100000000
For sure speaking boundaries. I wished I learned that lesson sooner like you said. It’s so important to realise your self worth and that you are in fact allowed to say no. That there is no one that has this power over you except for yourself. Powerful video as always, thank you for sharing. 🤍
Resonated with a lot you said in this video. Lives up to the title so we’ll do many things I wish I knew.
dreaming of the day hitomi starts a podcast because these words are so comforting.
I always go to you , when I need a breath of fresh air and to align myself and remember my truth 💝thank you I love you 🤍🧚🏻🌎💚🌅🦋🌻🌸
17:57 will return to what you say here when I’m having life ending thoughts. It’s like the non-patronising, honest pep talk I need when I’m in that space
thank you so much! I learn so much from you always, some of these points called out some past versions of me and some called out the present, all however are such important lessons to learn. thank you for existing 🌕
I watch all of your videos, but this one was different for me. I am 20 and everyone I’ve met has never understood or been able to relate to me when I talk about my experience with sending nudes so young and the trauma from that. Everyone is just like oh I never did that. It is so comforting and feels so safe to know that there are people who have had similar experiences and I’m not alone💚
So much love and experience you shared with us, thank you so much Hitomi. As the oldest I always struggled with the responsibilities. Been following along since early New York, thank you for sharing your light
this video is going to my favorites, i need to get reminded of this every once in a while. thank you so much!
I would say to my younger self that is normal to feel that you are not in «the good world», like to ask «what am i doing here in this world». That is normal that you don't fit in and that affects your relationship with friends. I didn't have a lot of friends, and even today i'm kind of a lonely wolf, but i lost every friends that i had. Work on yourself, your comfort zone, be good with yourself and the rest will follow one day. (sorry for my english! big hugs from quebec, canada!) :)