Don't feel pressured to be alone in order to find yourself. Sometimes you are not aware of your triggers because you have no one pushing those buttons. Being alone is wonderful but you can see and feel the work you need to do when you are surrounded by people.
@@justintime6242 i wasn't speaking about intimate relationships. In my personal experience I am totally fine when I am by myself doing healing of my own. My personal growth has come from healing trauma I have with my mother. I can do all the work in the world but when I am around her I spiral into depression. So personally it is easy to be away from people. It's when you are around certain people. Wither it's friends, family , or random strangers, they will truly test the work you've put in. Thanks for the comment.
“When that inner emptiness, due to lack of self worth, is replaced by true self love, self respect and esteem, we no longer have to seek it in the world, for that source of happiness is within ourselves.”
Why does everything have to be within these days? My shower is outside of me, my yoga mat, my plants. Does that mean those can't make me happy? If all my happiness is within should I just try to stop connecting with people at all? Do any of my relationships matter? Or is it just me? Am I really the only thing that matters? Is that the world we're living in?
@@thepilot3156 you really didn't understand anything from what hitomi said if you're making this question. no one is saying you should live like a hermit by yourself. human connection is important. but you should seek happiness within yourself first otherwise you will always be codependent by others.
@@Alex-ir5jt it's not her I have an issue with. It's the whole concept of seeking happiness within. All I have in there are organs. Everything else is narrative.
"when I've dated people in the past who have said that they never cried or say that being sensitive or emotional is a feminine trait alone, I just kind of slowly face them out of my life" YES! Thank you for saying that
i used to be so co dependent. i grew out of it. then i had to work on alone time. i have been single and celibate for a little now, and its shown me that i tolerated way too much "on the floor" behavior. the things i want in a partner NOW compared to even two months ago is so different, so much healthier as well and magical. i am incredibly excited to find a healthy, conscious relationship whenever it may come.
I had the same experience! I was also so dependent and would put my partners needs above mine, but now that I‘ve changed (and I‘m still in a healthy relationship) I feel so much better and fulfilled!
Me always when I clean my room. Listening to her while cleaning my room feels like I’m cleansing my surroundings in a way that cleanses my mind too :) haha
My partner is in no way spiritual, but does breath work for mental health reasons and is plant based on their own. It’s so lovely to connect over these things while feeling respected and honoring our differences ✨
you shouldn't be totally the same with a partner but you should meet each other at a point you both can understand and support each other from unconditional love. if people are really opposites like a person with a scientist and practical mind vs an open and spiritual person things can go wrong. not saying this is your case but I just wanted to share my experience so other people can be aware. much love to you
@@Alex-ir5jt I agree! Its definitely person by person. I’m very grateful for the person I’m with. As Hitomi said in the video, gaslighting and spiritual by passing can be so real in the spiritual space. Dating someone outside of this space for me personally has had benefits. it’s been a really great experience to have a partner I can tell anything to and respects my opinion although it isn’t theirs. It’s helped me a lot on being on my own path but I’ve seen what you are talking about as well! ❤️ love right back to you✨
@@Beariecherrie i completely understand you and i’m happy you find a good person by your side! my experience with my ex partner i broke up just a week ago was different because he was more close minded i guess. he never judged me, he always supported me in what i liked. but not being really felt in something i’m so passionate about and that touches how i view life was the realization that person wasn’t meant for me. opposites attract each other but there’s always a line to be crossed
divine timing, I’m going to have to let this settle in. I fully realize that my fear of letting go is my ego trying to “protect”, but letting go of things that don’t serve you= growth, and although I still have no idea how I should let go of this relationship, I am deeply grateful for this video as it spoke to me deeper than may ever be known. Thank you light being.
im 33 years old and just starting to feel like I'm actually ready for a true spiritual partnership. spent a lot of time under a cloud of ignorance. im sure that I'm still amidst the cloud, but I can feel it thinning out.
"Do you love the person or do you love how they make you feel ? especially when you're bored" YES that's it ! Boredom is such an important factor, I hadn't noticed and you're so right ! This was beautiful and enlightening, thank you !
Yes I totally resonate with this as well!! I realized that a lot of my relationships were because of boredom and you could really show! The relationships didn’t last long nor made me happy
I used to constantly go on dates, almost like it was a hobby, and I realized that I was just going on dates to go on dates. I didn’t like any of the people I went on dates with and couldn’t figure out why. Now I spend my time and just take myself on dates and soooo much self discovery has been done!!! Now I have better idea as to what qualities I would want in someone
As a guy I can say that I appreciate being a guy who is open to non gender norms. I enjoy being expressive, appreciating everyone in my life. Appreciate your videos very much ❤️👌💪 I am growing in this journey we call life. Wishing everyone well in all you do. Peace & love to all
Spirit definitely lead me to watching this just to let myself know that I am going the right direction with a potential partner of mine. Feels like a weight has been lifted and that I don’t have to hold on to fear of what if’s and it just feels like “you’re in the right place at the right time. This is where you’re supposed to be right now.” Thank you so much Hitomi for being the messenger to ease my own spirit🧡
I'm open to meet new people when they stumble into my life. I don't feel the need to look for people because I'm comfortable with my people. Some people think that's weird but I'm not down to search or seek for something in my life that I don't know entirely if it's worth my time. Thank you so much Hitomi for this video again. I always feel incredibly grounded after watching it 💓
This makes me want to cry. I cannot tell you how proud I am of you for rising through all the muck and gaining new tools to move through the inner density. You are doing so good! Thank you for cherishing all the big and little wins, thank you for breathing deeply into it all, thank you for being here on this Earth to share your medicine
Amen to being your whole, healthy self before seeking a partner. I've been single for over 3 years and though I've dated, the real connection never clicked and I'm okay with that. Getting over others telling me I need to be with someone is what I'm working on now, it definitely makes me doubt myself and this single season.
I just got out a very difficult relationship where I felt that my partner may have been spiritually bypassing. They believed they new everything and insinuated that I wasn’t as evolved as they were because I wasn’t open to having multiple partners or tried putting a label. I will say that I wasn’t the best partner either and that relationship triggered so many things in me but even though that relationship was painful it helped me grow so much. I feel like dating apps dehumanizes the other person so I’m not keen on using them anymore either.
Self love and self care so important. I talk about it often. Love yourself and know you are worthy, you deserve the very best. And the best is yet to come. Sending love to our universe, sending healing to those in need, and sunscreen to enjoy our day. You are beautiful 🐎💛🌟🌟
Just started this video but I wanted to say for my experience, my spiritual journey came to a halt in my partnership because so much trauma and so many wounds resurfaced and I found myself becoming a worse version of myself with him. Ever since we've been trying to grow together but we've realized that we both suffer from mental illness and it makes it hard for me to navigate relationships. I want things to work with him but only if we can both grow. It's hard to know when that growth isn't going anywhere.
Love this video Hitomi! I love your life lesson and journey videos, your Spiritual Lessons was a joy as well, I shared it with so many people! I have a few video ideas/requests: 1) Top 5 books for early stages of your spiritual journey 2) Lessons on an ending of a relationship, dealing with rejection, breaking up with someone & doubting your decision, comparison, when your ex moves on before you, etc... people always talk about being broken up with but not about when you’re the one who ends it and then have a hard time! 3) when you’re feeling “stuck” in life - socially, romantically, at work, tidying up your space, fitness, just not having motivation to do things 4) Lead us in a guided meditation 5) Lead us in a yoga video!! Really enjoy your content & you definitely have a bright light that is inspiring and contagious! Thanks for sharing your growth and wisdom :)
In my experience, the gaslighting ALWAYS comes after the love bombing period. A lot of gaslighting happens as a defense mechanism. But it’s always interesting to me how the patterns always stays the same. Gas lighting won’t stop someone from leaving the relationship as long as it follows the love bombing stage.
I’m a dude on semen retention, & I practice fasting along with meditation. I’ve come across the idea of twin flames and all, but the most valuable knowledge I’ve come across is to fill myself up first, & then bring myself to whatever I encounter. All things seem to flow
I just spent one hour journaling about everything you said, thank you for your work your words and thoughts. It’s insane how you creating this connection with us make our connection with ourselves go deeper. Thank you 🤍✨
The spiritual ego is so real and I never knew....just came out of an experience with someone who pretty much had all the qualities you mentioned. Thank you for this video 🙏
I love dating (in a romantic way and also in a friendship way!)people who are spiritual in their being and don't even notice that they are so connected & spiritual.
thank you hitomi🙏 I've just watched an IG story from one of my past lovers (I don't follow him anymore but out of curiosity which was a HUUUGE mistake bc I am so not over it), who took a picture with him and his new girl. It hurts so insanely much so this video, your calming and positive aura, your wisdom just mean so much to me!
I've been alone for all of the 30 years I've been alive now. I just never found anyone of the same vibe that I feel good with and I was never a fan of just taking whatever comes along. But I now feel like I am so ultra independent that it might be almost impossible for someone else to enter my life...
While I do agree that a baseline of self love is really important, I found that learning to be open to receiving love from an intimate and safe partner was a huge part of healing from sexual trauma... I think we don’t have to be alone or single to have the space to look deeper within ourselves and seek personal and spiritual healing/growth. I am enjoying this journey WHILE I am also enjoying the company of my partner.
Hitomi, you always pull me out of a dark place. whenever i forget to take care of myself and feel numb, your videos help me. you are so wonderful and i am grateful for your content. thank you for this :)
i walk away from your videos able to form at least 5 new mantras/affirmations from your words that feel deeply healing or calming or empowering for me and that i write down and begin to use on the daily. "my desires and needs are worthy of being met". sometimes i feel guilty for yearning for love and a deep sexual relationship with someone since i haven't experiencded romantic love and my sexual experiences haven't been close to what i am looking for or worthy of. thank you for reminding me that it's more than okay to want those things (while still being love to myself). 🤍
It’s crazy how in every video you put out, at least one thing you say is in resonance with precisely what I’m meditating on presently. Thank you for sharing, thank you thank you thank you !
I love how you bring vulnerability into the dating process because from what I observe is that when it comes to dating usually people try to tell you that you need to be a certain way to play games. Plus I appreciate the honesty you bring to the conversation on dating and also making it a spiritual process because not many people talk about that part. Keep up with the awesome content. Positive vibes to you =)
There’s literally no one I am excited to watch on this platform more than you. What you talk about is exactly what I need in my life right now. Thank you ♥️
i came back to this after a number of months and its beautiful to resonate deeper with new parts of it. a reflection of my own growth. [although overall this entire video is timeless]. Thank You Hitomi x
This is insane. Hitomi must be telepathic or something. My boyfriend and I have been going through some rough patches these past few weeks and this is just what I needed to hear. Thank you!
You are truly a cosmic angel in this world, I’m so grateful for your journey and how our journeys have crossed paths (even if it’s virtually, it doesn’t matter lol). It’s like the universe listens to my thoughts, heart and soul and divinely connects it to your beautiful cultivating mind to share the messages that resonates with me so well, in what seemingly feels like perfect timing for me to listen. You are a blessing my dear and I cherish your presence 💛💛💛💛
I literally needed to hear this. thank you so you beautiful soul. I feel like I am at a similar stage and have had the same questions and realisations so its nice to know that your not alone on a path that can sometimes make you feel less connected with those around you and as a result more lonely. Keep doing what your doing and being your genuine authentic self Hitomi. We are here for all your growth so thank you for sharing.
I recently manifested the perfect partner a little under a month ago, and to my surprise, I wasn’t ready to receive it because I was still holding on to past trauma. I kept thinking, “It’s too good to be true.” However, now I know that it isn’t. I had to remind myself that I am deserving of love in all areas of my life. I took the time to know myself and grow, so it’s okay to allow someone to hold space for me. I appreciate this partnership because I needed it to flush out the residual limiting beliefs I had about love and relationships so that I could reach even higher levels of self-awareness. I just want to say make sure that you are ready when your partner arrives because you really do get what you desire. Sending love and light 💖
This is a beautiful new awareness, Crystal. There's no greater feeling than expressing love to someone, and having that person fully receive it. And it appears you are expanding your capacity to receive...so buckle up for the good stuff!
Hitomi girl I just wanna say I’m so happy I found you. Your videos actually helped me so much in my healing process, sometimes I rewatch some of them because your words are so powerful and true ! Keep doing what you do ❤️
this couldn’t have come at a better time, i just had a very deep and important conversation an hour ago with the person i’m seeing and this is helping me work through my thoughts. thank you hitomi! ✨ 🙏🏼
trying to focus on the video and it's so hard. I just can't. too many thoughts and feelings in me. I've fallen in a trap again. falling for yet again: another unavailable person. dear God, why do I do this to myself? I'm old now and I've never had love. never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship... the pain of this is so horrific, it truly rapes my soul.
TH-cam kept suggesting this video to me and I completely understand why. EVERY SINGLE THING you are saying is resonating with me. The peace and light in your spirit is so evident. Thank you for sharing your energy with us!
This is great , it is a very difficult thing to digest and it takes a lot of self love to reach this point but everything you’ve said is very precise and hit home
This video was so BEAUTIFUL and reassuring to me. I'm 23 and i often feel a freak because i look for someone like you've described, a deeper connection and a mature person to share experiences with, when anyone else is looking for sex or is satisfied with superficial conversations/bonds. I'm really happy to be alone until i find someone which i feel a deep connection with and after your video i know i'm not the only one ❤️❤️
deeply needed this today. i see my partner almost daily for the past year, and as of this week we will be seeing each other once a week for the next few months. i am having separation anxiety and find myself crying and feeling like i’m mourning a loss. i really truly need to nurture myself and get comfortable with being alone. thank you
Yesss I love the idea of showing up for yourself and finding a higher frequency in order to find someone worth connecting with. Trust in the unknown that is coming when you are not actively seeking someone to complete you.
Just the video I needed! I've been on a deep spiritual/ self-love journey. It can be hard to stay positive but I know eventually the divine will guide me to my person
Everytime I watch your video feels like a reality check. Unfortunately, it's so easy to forget how valuable we are, especially when you live alone, thank you for sharing your enlightenment 🙏
I saw the notification for this video but didn't watch it until I felt that I was in the right head space and vibration to accept the love and light. I swear watching Hitomi's videos have become so much more sacred and special and for that I'm truly grateful. Thank you sm for an amazing video as always, can't stop smiling!!
1. know yourself, your coping mechanisms, finding stability in consitency, and the season of life you're in, be alone and become your best friend. you'll find that its not worth it to force anything to make it work, everything should fall together 2. Know what you're looking for, the positive qualities and hard boundaries for you, as well as the way you want them to show up for you. write them a letter in the form of gratitude. the right person will meet you where you're at, you don't have to always pull someone up to your level, ya know? (highest form of gratitude) 3. be communicative and clear with that you want, soon 4. it's okay to love and be loved and worshipped. you are worthy, you are safe red flags: how in touch are they with their emotions and their sense of self. demonizing or dismissing emotions is a red flag? If you're being gaslit or love-bombed :) manipulation in general really, or denying your boundaries that make you question yourself how they speak about their moms, sisters, or exes spiritual ego- ppl thinking that they will heal you by being with them/not being teachable /being close minded You attract what you are so become what you want :) hope this helped
thanks hitomi! I can't believe we met in barcelona and i didn't have the time to spend the afternoon with you, it'd have been amazing. i still regret it!! thanks for everything you post!
you’re so wise, hitomi! sometimes i feel a little lost in my spiritual journey but your videos make me feel grounded and so happy to learn and evolve everyday
I just split with a person that felt like my eternity. It was great receiving your wisdom. It encouraged me to look into myself, work on my frequency and trust the process. Thank you for your being and sharing it with us.
Thank you so much for your videos! Struggling this morning and all your words helped me find some peace and compassion. I’ve been going to Ecstatic Dance for years (back to the Union Square Ballroom days!) And the Thursday night Kirtans have been bringing me so much peace recently. It felt so safe to hear these things from someone in my community ❤
Oh god it's night here in India.. and I was preparing to go to bed,nd thought will watch an old video of yours before bedtime..nd here u uploaded..love u sooooo much❤️❤️ I'm so happy 💃💃
I clicked on this video thinking it was going to make me feel insecure in my relationship. In the first few minutes I actually cried tears of joy and love, I sometimes forget that the bond I have with this person means so much to me and outside opinion does not "walk me home" as you said. My partner is more than I could ask for and I forget sometimes that our bond is sacred.
i love u. i really don't know how to put my feels towards u into words other than those. U CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER. people compliment my energy sm and i do it so effortlessly. u have a part in that. i love u and i'll meet u once, i know it
This is a great video 😇 I’d love more videos on more of “how” to get to this place of certainty, self love, etc so that we can implement these tips more fluidly. Love and light 🥰
this was a great reminder Hitomi! i just recently got broken up with with someone who had gaslit me in order to avoid holding space for my emotions. im still healing/mourning but trying to date! thank you for this video
Yes I agree totally✨ so glad I found your channel today ❤️ we must raise our frequency and be a reflection of who we want to attract into our lives. No need to rush but to just improve our self for the time being, until eventually we attract our love into our life. Aloha 🤙🏾 Mahalo ke akua
This video is so amazing to me and needed right now. Oh wow, I had to politely cut off a guy that said something out of pocket that he didn’t want to actually acknowledge how it might’ve come across even if he felt it was a joke. All this after claiming to have had a spiritual awakening and having some kind of higher consciousness or whatever. Also trying to blame that or something else said on the moon phase, like it rubbed me the wrong way and I couldn’t overlook it. Glad I took my own and my friend’s advice to not continue if it wasn’t sitting well. I currently prefer being alone and it’s a learning experience for sure. The videooooo 😩🌼
Don't feel pressured to be alone in order to find yourself. Sometimes you are not aware of your triggers because you have no one pushing those buttons. Being alone is wonderful but you can see and feel the work you need to do when you are surrounded by people.
Ty for putting my thoughts into words 💕
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Even better, just be alone because you like yourself and getting in a relationship with anyone would just be a bonus, the cherry on top.
You can be surrounded by family, coworkers, and friends. You don’t need a sexual relationship to spell out what’s wrong. You just sound codependent.
@@justintime6242 i wasn't speaking about intimate relationships. In my personal experience I am totally fine when I am by myself doing healing of my own. My personal growth has come from healing trauma I have with my mother. I can do all the work in the world but when I am around her I spiral into depression. So personally it is easy to be away from people. It's when you are around certain people. Wither it's friends, family , or random strangers, they will truly test the work you've put in. Thanks for the comment.
“When that inner emptiness, due to lack of self worth, is replaced by true self love, self respect and esteem, we no longer have to seek it in the world, for that source of happiness is within ourselves.”
david hawkins?
I love this
Why does everything have to be within these days? My shower is outside of me, my yoga mat, my plants. Does that mean those can't make me happy? If all my happiness is within should I just try to stop connecting with people at all? Do any of my relationships matter? Or is it just me? Am I really the only thing that matters? Is that the world we're living in?
@@thepilot3156 you really didn't understand anything from what hitomi said if you're making this question. no one is saying you should live like a hermit by yourself. human connection is important. but you should seek happiness within yourself first otherwise you will always be codependent by others.
@@Alex-ir5jt it's not her I have an issue with. It's the whole concept of seeking happiness within. All I have in there are organs. Everything else is narrative.
Not forcing connections as a form of escapism and learning to be complete while completely alone is so freaking important ugh❤️ So much wisdom here
Yess omg!! That’s why they always say „love yourself first before anyone else“❤️
"I believe that partnerships are here to help us grow, evolve and walk each other home to the purest form of unconditional Love"
I love that 🙏🏽🌱💯❤️🕉️
"when I've dated people in the past who have said that they never cried or say that being sensitive or emotional is a feminine trait alone, I just kind of slowly face them out of my life"
YES! Thank you for saying that
That’s the only right thing to do ⚡️⚡️
i used to be so co dependent. i grew out of it. then i had to work on alone time. i have been single and celibate for a little now, and its shown me that i tolerated way too much "on the floor" behavior. the things i want in a partner NOW compared to even two months ago is so different, so much healthier as well and magical. i am incredibly excited to find a healthy, conscious relationship whenever it may come.
I had the same experience! I was also so dependent and would put my partners needs above mine, but now that I‘ve changed (and I‘m still in a healthy relationship) I feel so much better and fulfilled!
YES, I love to see this!!!!!!!! Currently starting to recognize and go through similar work.
Does anyone else watch Hitomi's videos partly because her voice literally calms them down? No? Just me?
me before bed pretending this is a good night podcast :'))
yes :)
Me always when I clean my room. Listening to her while cleaning my room feels like I’m cleansing my surroundings in a way that cleanses my mind too :) haha
Omg same!!
I deleted all of my dating apps recently and it felt good. Currently dating myself until further notice.
Haha love this vibe!!!!
My partner is in no way spiritual, but does breath work for mental health reasons and is plant based on their own. It’s so lovely to connect over these things while feeling respected and honoring our differences ✨
you shouldn't be totally the same with a partner but you should meet each other at a point you both can understand and support each other from unconditional love. if people are really opposites like a person with a scientist and practical mind vs an open and spiritual person things can go wrong. not saying this is your case but I just wanted to share my experience so other people can be aware. much love to you
@@Alex-ir5jt I agree! Its definitely person by person. I’m very grateful for the person I’m with. As Hitomi said in the video, gaslighting and spiritual by passing can be so real in the spiritual space. Dating someone outside of this space for me personally has had benefits. it’s been a really great experience to have a partner I can tell anything to and respects my opinion although it isn’t theirs. It’s helped me a lot on being on my own path but I’ve seen what you are talking about as well! ❤️ love right back to you✨
@@Beariecherrie i completely understand you and i’m happy you find a good person by your side! my experience with my ex partner i broke up just a week ago was different because he was more close minded i guess. he never judged me, he always supported me in what i liked. but not being really felt in something i’m so passionate about and that touches how i view life was the realization that person wasn’t meant for me. opposites attract each other but there’s always a line to be crossed
This is so important!❤️ we don’t have to be the same because that would be boring otherwise 🙈
Isn’t plant based and breath work spiritual? Intentionally doing things to increase vibration…
divine timing, I’m going to have to let this settle in. I fully realize that my fear of letting go is my ego trying to “protect”, but letting go of things that don’t serve you= growth, and although I still have no idea how I should let go of this relationship, I am deeply grateful for this video as it spoke to me deeper than may ever be known. Thank you light being.
This comment really resonated with me. Thank you 💫
@@razaakeniola I am glad it did, wishing you love and light on your journey.
Yes this is so true ❤️ letting go is really hard but it’s the best thing that you can do in order to heal!
real actual conversations are just so much better then texting😭💕
Word 🙏🏼🙏🏼
im 33 years old and just starting to feel like I'm actually ready for a true spiritual partnership. spent a lot of time under a cloud of ignorance. im sure that I'm still amidst the cloud, but I can feel it thinning out.
I agree Lee Gaines! I am looking for the same
Same!!
How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you💓
Yessss this quote ⚡️
Projecting an idea of the person onto them is something I'm guilty of. Hitomi can put thoughts into words so elegantly.
Same!
"Do you love the person or do you love how they make you feel ? especially when you're bored" YES that's it ! Boredom is such an important factor, I hadn't noticed and you're so right !
This was beautiful and enlightening, thank you !
Yes I totally resonate with this as well!! I realized that a lot of my relationships were because of boredom and you could really show! The relationships didn’t last long nor made me happy
Literally just broke up with my what I thought soulmate. I really need this
Same here, sending u love✨
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@@normajeane507 I would really like that. I’m drinking and contemplating replying back to him and going back but I know I need to stay strong.
@@Stergia99 thank you 😔 likewise. We’ll be okay
@@mariatrucios1376 stay strong :)
Thank you Hitomi. "Not everyone loves in the same way, they can see the miracle that you are. Breathe that in."
i am manifesting hitomi into my life
“Be the frequency and have the qualities that you wish to find in someone else”. Love that
I used to constantly go on dates, almost like it was a hobby, and I realized that I was just going on dates to go on dates. I didn’t like any of the people I went on dates with and couldn’t figure out why. Now I spend my time and just take myself on dates and soooo much self discovery has been done!!! Now I have better idea as to what qualities I would want in someone
This is so inspiring! Thank you for sharing that ❤️
As a guy I can say that I appreciate being a guy who is open to non gender norms. I enjoy being expressive, appreciating everyone in my life. Appreciate your videos very much ❤️👌💪 I am growing in this journey we call life. Wishing everyone well in all you do. Peace & love to all
Spirit definitely lead me to watching this just to let myself know that I am going the right direction with a potential partner of mine. Feels like a weight has been lifted and that I don’t have to hold on to fear of what if’s and it just feels like “you’re in the right place at the right time. This is where you’re supposed to be right now.” Thank you so much Hitomi for being the messenger to ease my own spirit🧡
yes yes yes perfect timing, i feel hung up on someone and it’s messing with my head, i needed this!! much love 💞
Mmm feel that! Sending you love and clarity
I'm open to meet new people when they stumble into my life. I don't feel the need to look for people because I'm comfortable with my people. Some people think that's weird but I'm not down to search or seek for something in my life that I don't know entirely if it's worth my time. Thank you so much Hitomi for this video again. I always feel incredibly grounded after watching it 💓
Hitomi you have helped me though depression, im so greatful for you ♥️
This makes me want to cry. I cannot tell you how proud I am of you for rising through all the muck and gaining new tools to move through the inner density. You are doing so good! Thank you for cherishing all the big and little wins, thank you for breathing deeply into it all, thank you for being here on this Earth to share your medicine
I'm happy to hear that even though we're complete strangers 😅😁
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Your dating, relationship, sexuality advice is so healing! ✨🦋 Totally next level ☀️💕
Amen to being your whole, healthy self before seeking a partner. I've been single for over 3 years and though I've dated, the real connection never clicked and I'm okay with that. Getting over others telling me I need to be with someone is what I'm working on now, it definitely makes me doubt myself and this single season.
Hitomi just speaks in poems
You’re beautiful
I just got out a very difficult relationship where I felt that my partner may have been spiritually bypassing. They believed they new everything and insinuated that I wasn’t as evolved as they were because I wasn’t open to having multiple partners or tried putting a label. I will say that I wasn’t the best partner either and that relationship triggered so many things in me but even though that relationship was painful it helped me grow so much. I feel like dating apps dehumanizes the other person so I’m not keen on using them anymore either.
Self love and self care so important. I talk about it often. Love yourself and know you are worthy, you deserve the very best. And the best is yet to come. Sending love to our universe, sending healing to those in need, and sunscreen to enjoy our day. You are beautiful 🐎💛🌟🌟
Just started this video but I wanted to say for my experience, my spiritual journey came to a halt in my partnership because so much trauma and so many wounds resurfaced and I found myself becoming a worse version of myself with him. Ever since we've been trying to grow together but we've realized that we both suffer from mental illness and it makes it hard for me to navigate relationships. I want things to work with him but only if we can both grow. It's hard to know when that growth isn't going anywhere.
You’re doing great❤
Love this video Hitomi! I love your life lesson and journey videos, your Spiritual Lessons was a joy as well, I shared it with so many people! I have a few video ideas/requests:
1) Top 5 books for early stages of your spiritual journey
2) Lessons on an ending of a relationship, dealing with rejection, breaking up with someone & doubting your decision, comparison, when your ex moves on before you, etc... people always talk about being broken up with but not about when you’re the one who ends it and then have a hard time!
3) when you’re feeling “stuck” in life - socially, romantically, at work, tidying up your space, fitness, just not having motivation to do things
4) Lead us in a guided meditation
5) Lead us in a yoga video!!
Really enjoy your content & you definitely have a bright light that is inspiring and contagious! Thanks for sharing your growth and wisdom :)
In my experience, the gaslighting ALWAYS comes after the love bombing period. A lot of gaslighting happens as a defense mechanism. But it’s always interesting to me how the patterns always stays the same. Gas lighting won’t stop someone from leaving the relationship as long as it follows the love bombing stage.
I’m a dude on semen retention, & I practice fasting along with meditation. I’ve come across the idea of twin flames and all, but the most valuable knowledge I’ve come across is to fill myself up first, & then bring myself to whatever I encounter. All things seem to flow
I just spent one hour journaling about everything you said, thank you for your work your words and thoughts. It’s insane how you creating this connection with us make our connection with ourselves go deeper. Thank you 🤍✨
The spiritual ego is so real and I never knew....just came out of an experience with someone who pretty much had all the qualities you mentioned. Thank you for this video 🙏
Your timing is impeccable! Thank you Hitomi, you are a blessing to this earth🌿✨🌀🌏
I love dating (in a romantic way and also in a friendship way!)people who are spiritual in their being and don't even notice that they are so connected & spiritual.
thank you hitomi🙏 I've just watched an IG story from one of my past lovers (I don't follow him anymore but out of curiosity which was a HUUUGE mistake bc I am so not over it), who took a picture with him and his new girl. It hurts so insanely much so this video, your calming and positive aura, your wisdom just mean so much to me!
I've been alone for all of the 30 years I've been alive now. I just never found anyone of the same vibe that I feel good with and I was never a fan of just taking whatever comes along. But I now feel like I am so ultra independent that it might be almost impossible for someone else to enter my life...
Here's to stepping more into our power everyday
While I do agree that a baseline of self love is really important, I found that learning to be open to receiving love from an intimate and safe partner was a huge part of healing from sexual trauma... I think we don’t have to be alone or single to have the space to look deeper within ourselves and seek personal and spiritual healing/growth. I am enjoying this journey WHILE I am also enjoying the company of my partner.
Hitomi, you always pull me out of a dark place. whenever i forget to take care of myself and feel numb, your videos help me. you are so wonderful and i am grateful for your content. thank you for this :)
i walk away from your videos able to form at least 5 new mantras/affirmations from your words that feel deeply healing or calming or empowering for me and that i write down and begin to use on the daily. "my desires and needs are worthy of being met". sometimes i feel guilty for yearning for love and a deep sexual relationship with someone since i haven't experiencded romantic love and my sexual experiences haven't been close to what i am looking for or worthy of. thank you for reminding me that it's more than okay to want those things (while still being love to myself). 🤍
It’s crazy how in every video you put out, at least one thing you say is in resonance with precisely what I’m meditating on presently. Thank you for sharing, thank you thank you thank you !
I love how you bring vulnerability into the dating process because from what I observe is that when it comes to dating usually people try to tell you that you need to be a certain way to play games. Plus I appreciate the honesty you bring to the conversation on dating and also making it a spiritual process because not many people talk about that part. Keep up with the awesome content. Positive vibes to you =)
There’s literally no one I am excited to watch on this platform more than you. What you talk about is exactly what I need in my life right now. Thank you ♥️
I clicked faster than when gen z said: we going down for real
This made me laugh haha
@@HitomiMochizuki222 glad I made you laugh, because you make me happy.🙏
@@HitomiMochizuki222 Hey💓Girl💅😗🍦🍑🏩
as a gen z, i love this hahaha
Hannah where is it from? ik so many songs that say that im lost
I absolutely love this video. Self-love is really the best ingredient for healthy relationships with others!
never clicked faster. i swear ur relationship tips are my fav, whilst practicing spirituality and feeling full of love at the same time. xx
i came back to this after a number of months and its beautiful to resonate deeper with new parts of it. a reflection of my own growth. [although overall this entire video is timeless]. Thank You Hitomi x
you’re always serving what i’m needing when i need it most ugh love you
This is insane. Hitomi must be telepathic or something. My boyfriend and I have been going through some rough patches these past few weeks and this is just what I needed to hear. Thank you!
You are truly a cosmic angel in this world, I’m so grateful for your journey and how our journeys have crossed paths (even if it’s virtually, it doesn’t matter lol). It’s like the universe listens to my thoughts, heart and soul and divinely connects it to your beautiful cultivating mind to share the messages that resonates with me so well, in what seemingly feels like perfect timing for me to listen. You are a blessing my dear and I cherish your presence 💛💛💛💛
You’re my forever guide, teacher, and guardian angel, I love you ✨✨
It's funny that I've been single for almost a year, but I absolutely love watching these videos that feel so empowering. Thanks Hitomi ❤
I literally needed to hear this. thank you so you beautiful soul. I feel like I am at a similar stage and have had the same questions and realisations so its nice to know that your not alone on a path that can sometimes make you feel less connected with those around you and as a result more lonely. Keep doing what your doing and being your genuine authentic self Hitomi. We are here for all your growth so thank you for sharing.
I recently manifested the perfect partner a little under a month ago, and to my surprise, I wasn’t ready to receive it because I was still holding on to past trauma. I kept thinking, “It’s too good to be true.” However, now I know that it isn’t. I had to remind myself that I am deserving of love in all areas of my life. I took the time to know myself and grow, so it’s okay to allow someone to hold space for me. I appreciate this partnership because I needed it to flush out the residual limiting beliefs I had about love and relationships so that I could reach even higher levels of self-awareness.
I just want to say make sure that you are ready when your partner arrives because you really do get what you desire. Sending love and light 💖
This is a beautiful new awareness, Crystal. There's no greater feeling than expressing love to someone, and having that person fully receive it. And it appears you are expanding your capacity to receive...so buckle up for the good stuff!
@@Dominickq thank you so much for your kind words! I’m truly grateful for this experience, no matter how scary it appeared initially.
Hitomi girl I just wanna say I’m so happy I found you. Your videos actually helped me so much in my healing process, sometimes I rewatch some of them because your words are so powerful and true ! Keep doing what you do ❤️
this couldn’t have come at a better time, i just had a very deep and important conversation an hour ago with the person i’m seeing and this is helping me work through my thoughts. thank you hitomi! ✨ 🙏🏼
trying to focus on the video and it's so hard.
I just can't. too many thoughts and feelings in me.
I've fallen in a trap again.
falling for yet again: another unavailable person.
dear God, why do I do this to myself?
I'm old now and I've never had love.
never ever have I been in a real romantic relationship...
the pain of this is so horrific, it truly rapes my soul.
TH-cam kept suggesting this video to me and I completely understand why. EVERY SINGLE THING you are saying is resonating with me. The peace and light in your spirit is so evident. Thank you for sharing your energy with us!
I decided to clean up my room while listening to you and I’m loving both! Thank you for this.❤️❤️
Wow. I can't thank you enough for this video. It feels so validating and safe. Thank you, fellow earth angel, for reminding us 🦋
“Walk each other home” … I love the little Ram Dass love in this! 🥰✨⭐️
This is great , it is a very difficult thing to digest and it takes a lot of self love to reach this point but everything you’ve said is very precise and hit home
This video was so BEAUTIFUL and reassuring to me. I'm 23 and i often feel a freak because i look for someone like you've described, a deeper connection and a mature person to share experiences with, when anyone else is looking for sex or is satisfied with superficial conversations/bonds. I'm really happy to be alone until i find someone which i feel a deep connection with and after your video i know i'm not the only one ❤️❤️
I am just so in love with myself. Knowing myself intimately IS my ultimate lifegoal
deeply needed this today. i see my partner almost daily for the past year, and as of this week we will be seeing each other once a week for the next few months. i am having separation anxiety and find myself crying and feeling like i’m mourning a loss. i really truly need to nurture myself and get comfortable with being alone. thank you
Yesss I love the idea of showing up for yourself and finding a higher frequency in order to find someone worth connecting with. Trust in the unknown that is coming when you are not actively seeking someone to complete you.
Just the video I needed! I've been on a deep spiritual/ self-love journey. It can be hard to stay positive but I know eventually the divine will guide me to my person
"Full body yeses" I needed that.
Our scorpio fairygodmother 🥺💗
Hello Hitomi! I have a suggestion/ask: can you add some journal prompts so we can reflect? 🥰
I would love to start implementing this into every talking video I do!
@@HitomiMochizuki222 omg please do it
Yasss 💜
@@HitomiMochizuki222 Yessss! Thak you!!!
Everytime I watch your video feels like a reality check. Unfortunately, it's so easy to forget how valuable we are, especially when you live alone, thank you for sharing your enlightenment 🙏
you’re content is so amazing✨ I feel like we’re talking and you understand when I watch them!!
I saw the notification for this video but didn't watch it until I felt that I was in the right head space and vibration to accept the love and light. I swear watching Hitomi's videos have become so much more sacred and special and for that I'm truly grateful. Thank you sm for an amazing video as always, can't stop smiling!!
1. know yourself, your coping mechanisms, finding stability in consitency, and the season of life you're in, be alone and become your best friend. you'll find that its not worth it to force anything to make it work, everything should fall together
2. Know what you're looking for, the positive qualities and hard boundaries for you, as well as the way you want them to show up for you. write them a letter in the form of gratitude. the right person will meet you where you're at, you don't have to always pull someone up to your level, ya know?
(highest form of gratitude) 3. be communicative and clear with that you want, soon
4. it's okay to love and be loved and worshipped. you are worthy, you are safe
red flags:
how in touch are they with their emotions and their sense of self. demonizing or dismissing emotions is a red flag?
If you're being gaslit or love-bombed :) manipulation in general really, or denying your boundaries that make you question yourself
how they speak about their moms, sisters, or exes
spiritual ego- ppl thinking that they will heal you by being with them/not being teachable /being close minded
You attract what you are so become what you want :) hope this helped
thanks hitomi! I can't believe we met in barcelona and i didn't have the time to spend the afternoon with you, it'd have been amazing. i still regret it!! thanks for everything you post!
You’re a blessing to this world. Such a genuine and beautiful soul. You have such a way with your words. Thank you for making this a safe space 💖
Taking notes to date hitomichan✍🏼
Smart 😂
🤣🤣🤣
she's outta most people's leagues 😜
At least there’s no guess work here 😂
@@bellatrix9256 there's no leagues, just levels of conciousness
you’re so wise, hitomi! sometimes i feel a little lost in my spiritual journey but your videos make me feel grounded and so happy to learn and evolve everyday
I just split with a person that felt like my eternity. It was great receiving your wisdom. It encouraged me to look into myself, work on my frequency and trust the process. Thank you for your being and sharing it with us.
Thank you so much for your videos! Struggling this morning and all your words helped me find some peace and compassion.
I’ve been going to Ecstatic Dance for years (back to the Union Square Ballroom days!) And the Thursday night Kirtans have been bringing me so much peace recently. It felt so safe to hear these things from someone in my community ❤
I love you so much. I can feel your energy through the screen and feel like I'm listening to my grandmother. Thank you for all your help!
It’s amazing to see yourself in someone else. Highly connecting and highly vibrating. 💕
the guidance you share is truly next level. thank u queen
Oh god it's night here in India.. and I was preparing to go to bed,nd thought will watch an old video of yours before bedtime..nd here u uploaded..love u sooooo much❤️❤️
I'm so happy 💃💃
I clicked on this video thinking it was going to make me feel insecure in my relationship. In the first few minutes I actually cried tears of joy and love, I sometimes forget that the bond I have with this person means so much to me and outside opinion does not "walk me home" as you said. My partner is more than I could ask for and I forget sometimes that our bond is sacred.
Hitomi always tackles the best topics! Loving this!
i love u. i really don't know how to put my feels towards u into words other than those. U CHANGED MY LIFE FOREVER. people compliment my energy sm and i do it so effortlessly. u have a part in that. i love u and i'll meet u once, i know it
this is so wise Hitomi. you never fail to bring clarity in my life. its crazy how these always aline with my life atm....that cosmic flowwww
This is a great video 😇 I’d love more videos on more of “how” to get to this place of certainty, self love, etc so that we can implement these tips more fluidly. Love and light 🥰
this was a great reminder Hitomi! i just recently got broken up with with someone who had gaslit me in order to avoid holding space for my emotions. im still healing/mourning but trying to date! thank you for this video
Yes I agree totally✨ so glad I found your channel today ❤️ we must raise our frequency and be a reflection of who we want to attract into our lives. No need to rush but to just improve our self for the time being, until eventually we attract our love into our life. Aloha 🤙🏾 Mahalo ke akua
Here's to finally accepting, receiving, and advocating for what we're worth
In the middle of a death cycle right now and it’s been really hard, thank you for this beautiful video. It made my week ❤️
wow you perfectly described so many of the pitfalls of my first relationship..thank you for this
This video is so amazing to me and needed right now. Oh wow, I had to politely cut off a guy that said something out of pocket that he didn’t want to actually acknowledge how it might’ve come across even if he felt it was a joke. All this after claiming to have had a spiritual awakening and having some kind of higher consciousness or whatever. Also trying to blame that or something else said on the moon phase, like it rubbed me the wrong way and I couldn’t overlook it. Glad I took my own and my friend’s advice to not continue if it wasn’t sitting well. I currently prefer being alone and it’s a learning experience for sure. The videooooo 😩🌼
THIS!
to finally find someone who thinks, speaks & feels things the way I do is truly calming. ✨🌿