I've got nothing but love for you Alexander , i appreciate you for the way you carry yourself and how much you care , I think we could do with more Alexander L's in this world. Wishing the absolute best , good health & happiness to you & your loved ones. Blessings from Scotland. ❤🙏
Of course, you've always been that anarchist/rebel, and I've actually have felt similarly. But, in my older age, I'm finding that not being comfortable in society, or even in a smaller gathering or group, is mostly a reflection on one's inner brokenness and inner disconnection with oneself, than that with society (however, rotten - many qualities we harbor within ourselves, after all). A person at one with themselves would be quite comfortable by oneself or amid a group. In the end, I think a healthy psychology needs to find its people, however small or large. It is an essential element of human thriving. Even traditional, "healthy" hermits have a social connection with other hermits or with patrons who come to them for wisdom and advice. It's often a complaint of a hermit that s/he doesn't get enough solitude as a result - a solitude that's more about communing with the divine, not seeking isolation by running away from people - which never makes for a good hermit vocation ultimately.
I think BRIEF periods of hikikomori can be beneficial. Withdrawal from society indicates illness, spiritual or physical. Unless the period of withdrawal leads back to health, hikikomori could become unhealthy and difficult to pull out of. 🌻
I am going to throw this out there as an elderly person. I think a lot of the problem has to do with young people spending to much time on line and having to be out and interact with people. The more the isolation the more intese the isolation becomes. However, you can always find like minded people if you look.
Another way to look at it is that we need MORE nice, genuine people like you who don't want to be like those types. So it's really important for you to find like minded females to have children with. That's the only way to "even the playing field" so to speak.
Thank you for another good video. I can relate. I actually like to socialize, but it doesn’t happen very often now. After the convid, I find it somewhat difficult to have a connection with people who bought the whole narrative, and still are unable to admit they were fooled. I saw through the bullshit after just a few weeks in 2020. I was lucky to be dating an awakened and unjuiced guy last summer, but he went back to his ex. After that I haven’t been able to date one single gay man who didn’t take it. Even if fauci killed off gay men in the 80s with the three letters lethal cancer medicine, gay men still buy the same crap: «safe & effective». Did people stop thinking for themselves? The only thing we seem to learn from history is that we’ve have learned nothing. Greetings from Norway.
Guess I suffer from this. Let's be honest though....women today in America want 5 things from men but say they want these things at first. Here they are: 1. 6 figure guy 2. Pretty boy 3. Great personality 4.Great in bed 5. A moral or value guy If you can find these guys make sure they never find each other. Even girls think they are so much better because they can sleep with a guy and up their dating status or elevate their status. Then when men go overseas to marry women say men are PDF's or Pedialytes. Meaning men are dating too young. A man dates younger because older women have kids. Also women might have trauma and men don't want to be in a relationship with a broken person. Better make sure she doesn't have a jealous ex or you might be in a hospital. That is just in dating btw. I prefer to be by myself because even having friends usually meant I had to pay for everything. When you fall on hard times people that you thought were your friends......? Yeah. So what is the point? I'm 45 now and I live for me. Sounds kinda self centered but I'm on the other side of my life now. Friends? Friends? Nope. Most of mine are dead now because of drugs and other issues because they did drugs. Once they were there I distanced myself from them. So making friends today is mostly about what you can do for them. Been there done that. The other side of my life might be lonely but maybe I can wait it out just in case I do find a girl one day. If not I will be be alone. Been this way all my life why stop now.
That depends on your type. You should admit you need certain image. There are many ordinary women. Maybe you are not interested in that. Just think about it. I am not trying to proof anything. Hermann Hesse in Demian (closer to final part) wrote that love is also to be achieved, to match with your partner.
@@balsarmy Let's get down to it. People married in the past death due you part. Now it is marry until the other person gets a better job then leave because the other one has a better one or knows that she/he (mostly she) can get alimony. People don't grow apart. We choose to do so based on circumstances. In the past people had to depend on each other. Today the income of a household has the same value with 2 people working vs. a man working with a stay at home wife. There is no value in marriage in these times. Women can do the same as men so what is the value? Sex? That is all it seems and a woman can get that at any time. I'm not trying to throw women in the trash here ok but the world is different now. I never was a gamer or even played games. It wasn't until these women started having kids that they wanted a so called good man. Bill Maher asked the question once "Why are there so many people that are LGBTQIA on the East and West Coast now and the heart of America is mostly straight"? Answer is because the roles are reversed. I'm not saying a woman needs to stay in the kitchen but the opportunities are favorable for them. As a woman told me once "I don't need a man....I got something in my top drawer that can do what you can do". Almost 50 percent of men in this country are single and just like Japan the population is dropping. So no matter how you feel it doesn't change facts. Men built the world we live in and it seems that women in this country only need us for one thing. Reproduction.
I've got nothing but love for you Alexander , i appreciate you for the way you carry yourself and how much you care , I think we could do with more Alexander L's in this world. Wishing the absolute best , good health & happiness to you & your loved ones. Blessings from Scotland. ❤🙏
Of course, you've always been that anarchist/rebel, and I've actually have felt similarly. But, in my older age, I'm finding that not being comfortable in society, or even in a smaller gathering or group, is mostly a reflection on one's inner brokenness and inner disconnection with oneself, than that with society (however, rotten - many qualities we harbor within ourselves, after all). A person at one with themselves would be quite comfortable by oneself or amid a group. In the end, I think a healthy psychology needs to find its people, however small or large. It is an essential element of human thriving. Even traditional, "healthy" hermits have a social connection with other hermits or with patrons who come to them for wisdom and advice. It's often a complaint of a hermit that s/he doesn't get enough solitude as a result - a solitude that's more about communing with the divine, not seeking isolation by running away from people - which never makes for a good hermit vocation ultimately.
I think BRIEF periods of hikikomori can be beneficial. Withdrawal from society indicates illness, spiritual or physical. Unless the period of withdrawal leads back to health, hikikomori could become unhealthy and difficult to pull out of. 🌻
I am going to throw this out there as an elderly person. I think a lot of the problem has to do with young people spending to much time on line and having to be out and interact with people. The more the isolation the more intese the isolation becomes. However, you can always find like minded people if you look.
Another way to look at it is that we need MORE nice, genuine people like you who don't want to be like those types. So it's really important for you to find like minded females to have children with. That's the only way to "even the playing field" so to speak.
Thank you for another good video. I can relate. I actually like to socialize, but it doesn’t happen very often now. After the convid, I find it somewhat difficult to have a connection with people who bought the whole narrative, and still are unable to admit they were fooled. I saw through the bullshit after just a few weeks in 2020.
I was lucky to be dating an awakened and unjuiced guy last summer, but he went back to his ex. After that I haven’t been able to date one single gay man who didn’t take it. Even if fauci killed off gay men in the 80s with the three letters lethal cancer medicine, gay men still buy the same crap: «safe & effective». Did people stop thinking for themselves? The only thing we seem to learn from history is that we’ve have learned nothing. Greetings from Norway.
Guess I suffer from this. Let's be honest though....women today in America want 5 things from men but say they want these things at first. Here they are:
1. 6 figure guy
2. Pretty boy
3. Great personality
4.Great in bed
5. A moral or value guy
If you can find these guys make sure they never find each other. Even girls think they are so much better because they can sleep with a guy and up their dating status or elevate their status. Then when men go overseas to marry women say men are PDF's or Pedialytes. Meaning men are dating too young. A man dates younger because older women have kids. Also women might have trauma and men don't want to be in a relationship with a broken person. Better make sure she doesn't have a jealous ex or you might be in a hospital. That is just in dating btw. I prefer to be by myself because even having friends usually meant I had to pay for everything. When you fall on hard times people that you thought were your friends......? Yeah. So what is the point? I'm 45 now and I live for me. Sounds kinda self centered but I'm on the other side of my life now. Friends? Friends? Nope. Most of mine are dead now because of drugs and other issues because they did drugs. Once they were there I distanced myself from them. So making friends today is mostly about what you can do for them. Been there done that. The other side of my life might be lonely but maybe I can wait it out just in case I do find a girl one day. If not I will be be alone. Been this way all my life why stop now.
Stop blaming women for your life lol
@@Keurgui1 I'm not but the stats show that 80 percent of marriages that are filed are by women. Am I to say men screw up all the time? Kick rocks!
That depends on your type. You should admit you need certain image. There are many ordinary women. Maybe you are not interested in that. Just think about it. I am not trying to proof anything.
Hermann Hesse in Demian (closer to final part) wrote that love is also to be achieved, to match with your partner.
@@balsarmy Let's get down to it. People married in the past death due you part. Now it is marry until the other person gets a better job then leave because the other one has a better one or knows that she/he (mostly she) can get alimony. People don't grow apart. We choose to do so based on circumstances. In the past people had to depend on each other. Today the income of a household has the same value with 2 people working vs. a man working with a stay at home wife. There is no value in marriage in these times. Women can do the same as men so what is the value? Sex? That is all it seems and a woman can get that at any time. I'm not trying to throw women in the trash here ok but the world is different now. I never was a gamer or even played games. It wasn't until these women started having kids that they wanted a so called good man. Bill Maher asked the question once "Why are there so many people that are LGBTQIA on the East and West Coast now and the heart of America is mostly straight"? Answer is because the roles are reversed. I'm not saying a woman needs to stay in the kitchen but the opportunities are favorable for them. As a woman told me once "I don't need a man....I got something in my top drawer that can do what you can do". Almost 50 percent of men in this country are single and just like Japan the population is dropping. So no matter how you feel it doesn't change facts. Men built the world we live in and it seems that women in this country only need us for one thing. Reproduction.
@@ramaslambert7200 you seem really unhappy