“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Is so ignorant and sexist, I can’t even. I know tons of emotional men and emotional women who don’t look at other human beings as objects. Granted there are people who are that way, it has nothing to do with gender. That’s a stereotype.
Yeah I don’t like how that statement reduces men to animals. They are generally fully developed human beings who have many different sides to them, so are women.
and this assuming and treating ALL men like they're all hungry criminal beasts that can't control themselves just because of the ones that are. that is not treating them as human. that's not the point of feminism. 🙄 we want equality not more unequality.
As a general rule, male sexuality is visually driven. That’s simply a fact. I’m not defending this video, but calling that statement an ignorant stereotype is just incorrect.
Not to mention that all creatures with working eyes are visual creatures and that she literally and immediately directly contradicts herself to claim men aren’t emotional creatures. If simply what they see is making them emotional (and I highly recommend she and males of her mindset look up “emotion”) then actually men _are_ the more emotional beings and being emotional is usually fine but being so emotional that you become dangerous or can’t handle existing next to fellow humans because of their body shapes, then you’re definitely the problem and need to get your emotions in check. Our species was not designed for the males to lose their shit over female bodies. Naked is our most natural state afterall.
especially the second one, as a girl who was raised very religious, my mom would constantly say that to me, ever since i was like 12. "all they think about is sex", "they think makeup is sExUaL". basically, if i put extra effort is how i look, i'll look "sexual" to men. 🤢 so glad i never believed her. edit: ok here's an example, when i was 16 i wanted to put on lip gloss that my friend got me as a gift & it had a little pink tint. my mom literally told me i couldn't wear it outside bc men would see it as sexual if i made my lips more colored. i was 16. 16!!!😐
Naseem R one of my teachers tried telling me that I should not wear makeup and certain clothes because little boys will be distracted ... I laughed in her face why doesn’t she tell little boys to control themselves
sirius my teacher kind of told me something like that but it's because i was fighting with this girl because she kept calling me a 'slut' and she told me if i didn't want to be called that to not dress like one and not to be seen with so many guys but i am sorry you had to go through something like that.
As a by-choice hijabi, modest clothes do not stop you from being sexualized. If males want to sexualize a woman, they will do it no matter how clothed she is. Rape and assault is always the rapist's fault, never the victim. I dress modestly because it makes me feel good and does somehow draw more respect.
I don’t dress “modestly,” but I don’t necessarily dress “immodestly” either. I simply wear what makes ME feel the most comfortable and confident. I wear shorts that you’d probably consider immodest, but I wear them because I like them and not for the purpose of being more sexually appealing. Just because some women choose to show more skin doesn’t mean they are doing it for the sole purpose of looking more enticing.
Franceska Marco she never said it was she just said she likes to wear what she wants and you should have no issue with that, no one else in the society has to care unless it’s hurting them or someone else
Athanasius Contra Marxism that’s very rude don’t call random people skanks, and people that are so closed minded and sexist shown by your past statement “LOL the definition of solipsistic is woman” like you aren’t a good source of information and you’re kinda acting like a child using insults like that:)
Ugh, I hate “dress like the woman you are” just because I don’t like crossings my legs 24/7, just because I wanna wear a crop too dosent make me less of a woman, it’s just me being me and being comfortable, I’m a tomboy and I shouldn’t be shamed for “not being ladylike” cause I’ll I’m doing is doing what I like to do
This is so true and not even that, girls who dress to girly are called girly girls and girls who dress like a Tom boy are called gross and weird, this video is terrible and is saying that you need to dress to please others and that’s not right and when she said that she wants to be known as a mother and wife, that’s just plain sad
Okay guys I get that you don't agreed with her. I don't. I disagree with everything she says in every video, but you gotta understand that's her way of living. She is Jewish, so I'm assuming she is just doing what is within her faith. She is dressing modestly because that's what's acceptable in her religion. I know many of the things she said in the video are highly disagreeable for you, but just accept that's her. If you don't like her, don't watch her videos. It's not that hard. Just ignore it. Don't comment anything hateful. She's just trying to educate people of what she believes is right, and you will NOT change her views by leaving hate comments or anything. Just stop. She seems like a nice person despite her beliefs, just listen to her and understand her point of view, not that hard. Again, if you don't like it you can leave
Men say things like that all the time. It's completely uncontroversial. This is the root of all sexism: masculine hyperagency and feminine hypoagency. If you suggest that a man will be judged based on how he dresses and presents himself, absolutely no one will bat an eye. Men are always held responsible for how other people treat them. Women, on the other hand, are treated as stupid, brainless children who can't be held responsible for their choices and actions. Which often means women can't be judged for their choices and actions. Thus if you say something like "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slob." to a man, everyone agrees that's fair. But if you say "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slut." to a woman, morons and idiots start screaming how that's sexist against women because how dare you assert that women aren't brainless morons who are incapable of understanding that others judge them based on how they dress.
@@rayweaver8295 Ray Weaver everyone, world authority on how women these days should dress, because in his day they were just more modest and seeing women's skin is just plain indecent.
She’s entitled to her opinion, but like??? After watching her “Don’t Believe All Women” video it’s obvious she’s just appealing to the conservative voters. And she’s paying, to have youtube advertise this. At this point her motives UNDER VALUE anything she may be genuinely trying to say. Its kind of gross.
I AM INDIVIDUAL You can’t blame normal individuals for media coverage... it’s not our fault the system is broken.. The only people who wanted him as the nominee are moderate Democrats that line their pockets with cash when the status quo is stabilized. Believe me, this unrest we are seeing will NOT be stopping if Biden is president. The American people are just more focused on the other dumpsterfire right now
But why doesn’t society police men’s clothing in the same way? Oh right, because women treat them with respect no matter how they dress. So shouldn’t we teach men to behave instead of control how women dress?
Right? Like this entire channel has been pushed SO HARD by TH-cam on my account, and no matter how many times I say I dont wanna see it TH-cam doesnt do crap.
@@Lurkerlady omg same. It pushed her Disney Opera video on me first. I downvoted it because she frankly doesn't sing operatically all that well, now this video popped up and I'm beyond repulsed.
This is discriminating against curvy women, calling their body type “slutty”. If I put on the same outfit as a conservative skinny woman It wouldn’t be considered conservative on me.
I'm currently working through trauma from being sexualized at 11 because I had boobs. I didn't wear skin tight clothes, I fit into the conservative religious mold I grew up in. But I was not allowed to participate in a lot of events in the summer or swimming because if I wore comfortable clothing, I was considered "rebellious" and a "bad influence". 🙄 Swim suits were either a two piece, which was never allowed because God forbid a middrift shows, or a one piece where it would fit but cleavage would be out, or it wouldn't fit and my bottom/down there would be exposed because it was too big. From 11. Because boobs. Tbh, the only creepy men who sexualized and groomed me were in churches who were extreme about modesty. I genuinely hope others experiences are much different than mine, because yikes.
Right like if ur skinny Nd wear the same thing as a thicker person to school- the thicker person is more likely to get in trouble about it Nd it’s rlly annoying
Right? Everytime I hear anyone talk about these things, they regard men like animals who can'y control themselves. Like, no, they're human and they think for themselves, if they can't handle seeing a woman in a dress then they have an issue!!
Okay so I literally hate this video, and a lot of what she said was disgustingly sexist. Buttttt she’s not wrong on that point. From a neurological standpoint men are physically wired differently than females and are in fact typically visually oriented, whereas females tend to come from a more emotional mental standpoint. That’s not sexist that’s just a genuine fact.
@@sandels5805 So do you think it's a baby's fault for getting sexually assaulted because it was obviously the babysuit that provoked the sexual thoughts? What about muslim women who wear covered top to toe. They get raped all the time. Rapists don't care what you wear. They only care about rape.
@@sandels5805 Instead of blaming clothing, let's blame the person who can't control himself in front of women hm? Would you really blame a baby in a nappy because of sick people that are attracted to kids?
She did say this right near the end: "I understand the pull to dressing immodestly, and I'm not looking down on anyone for it. I'm just offering you an alternative."
I don’t like the fact this argument not only degrades women as just “objects” but also degrades men as being carnal/animalistic creatures who can’t possibly control themselves if a woman decides to dress a little too “immodestly”. This is not the case. There are bad people and good people in the world. The solution is not to make things less “tempting” to a bad man (because this solution takes away women’s rights), it is to instead change the education system to teach boys in school to respect a woman and not to see her as just an object, as well as following through with the appropriate repercussions. Your argument places so much on emphasis on the validation from men, as if women need this to be valuable? If all a man can think about at a date is his date’s v-cut shirt, then it is on the man for being unable to look past his own primal urges to realize there is a individual human being before him. Not the woman. You made another point about women of an older age still dressing “immodestly” and asked the question ”At the age 50, would your rather be praised for your body or family?” First of all, why not both? Beauty can be expressed no matter how much clothes you wear! Do you look at a Greek statue and immediately sexualize it, or do you think to yourself “Wow, the artist perfectly captured the natural beauty of that human!”. If you think the former, then is it not your own mind that’s at fault or the sculptor? And why should women no longer dress how they wish at 50? They can love their bodies too! They are still human, no matter what age they turn, and expression doesn’t just vanish once you get into your 30s. I don’t know your story or how you’ve been influenced to think this way, so I’m not going to criticize you personally. However, please don’t try to push damaging messages to impressionable young girls that their bodies are inherently sexual, and they cannot be beautiful if a man looks at them a certain way. Have a good day 😊
You may need to know this, men aren't stupid dogs. They're humans who don't always have a super small attention span. Women don't need to dress for others. They can dress how they want. Just because they dress a way, doesn't mean anything.
I think u need a course in evolutionary psychology, there are evolutionary reasons for why men and women do certain things such as dress a certain way for example, these reasons are not always conscious
Don’t dress just for men, (or women, lesbians exist) dress in clothing that makes YOU happy. If you wanna go to the grocery store in sweats and flip flops, go right ahead. Same thing if you wanna go to the store with a dress and high heel boots. As long as you’re comfortable with what you’re wearing, knock yourself out. (Before people come after me, yes there are exceptions. Like, don’t wear pajamas or a bikini to a job interview, I’m just saying that clothing is a way to express oneself, and women should not be forced to wear unrevealing clothes so men are “able to focus”) edit: corrected an adjective
Here we go we are getting somewhere. For most people it is for them selfs and I makes them happy. O MY GOD. I feel like a religious and if u aren’t that is fine to take this out of prospective if u want I don’t care but if u think about it u are hiding god’s creation and in Adam and Eve the showed of their whole body but the apple that they ate was a sin witch is a sin made them aware of it so if u think about it god planned for us all to just walk around naked. Also in the Bible Jesus said if u see her and u doing the naughty ( I don’t know what he exactly said ) gouge your eyes out. There for Jesus doesn’t care he cool with it. So worry about your self this man knows what he is talking about.
Alex Thourot i was raised in a very religious family and you’re right. they say jesus said if a man looks at a woman and thinks of her in a sexual way, basically that’s his problem and if he can’t be respectful he should just gauge his eyes out because women aren’t responsible for their actions. christians like to forget that bit though, don’t they?
Yesss mam! I am a gay woman and if I can control myself when women are in tight clothes and a guy can’t.. then there is something more problematic than the clothes she wears
Yeah... I am a lady who usually dresses modestly but I do not see myself as better than someone who is more comfortable showing their body. You want to dress modestly do so, you want to flaunt what you got? Do so? Yes there are times where modesty is best church, work, court, etc. but any other time dress however you want. No way is better.
If you view someone as an object, it doesn’t matter how much clothing they put on, you’ll still view them as an object. So maybe the problem lies with you and not with them 🙃
So according to this logic a woman wearing extremely revealing clothing out in public is going to be sexualized the same amount if she dresses modestly? Yeah I don't think so.
Yeah, she saying men arent emotional creatures or whatever, all I can think of is what the fuck is wrong with her lol. Idk if she's ever had a chat with a guy or well, if she knows how emotions work. Really sucks too cause how men are told to repress their emotions and saying shit like that only makes it worst or just really shows the stigma of an emotional man. Really is fucked.
00:49 “men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” ??? she clearly thinks of men as animals and women as people who have to provide for them. neither of which are appropriate.
i could wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants to school and still have boys make comments about, it literally has nothing to do with modesty. there’s just boys that will sexualize anything and everything about me.
BRUH SHE SAID “IF YOURE AT A PARK WITH FAMILIES AND CHILDREN, YOU DONT WANT TO BE DISTRACTING” LIKE THEY ARE GROWN PEOPLE AND CHILDREN THEY REALLY SHOULD NOT BE LOOKING AND IF THEY DO ELECTRIC CHAIR EXCEPT THE KIDS edit: the electric chair is a joke. i don’t believe in that..... unless you’re a sexual abuser or a human trafficker bc you deserve death if you do that sorry
Women being overly sexualized is really the fault of men and women tbh. There’s men out their that just act like creeps to be funny and there’s also women that are overly self-conscious or are attention seeking constantly. It’s a two pronged issue.
@@flexibleskedulePatriarchy is the state of human society. Without it you wouldnt have food in your table and without it you wouldnt even be able to have sex with whoever you want without getting pregant. It has its downsides for women and men tho. For women it comes oversexualisation. Since you are the natural selectors, males interact with you because of sexual attention. This creates issues(rape,creeps and oversexualisation) For men it comes higher competition for mates,to the point where most of them will either be incompetent and die alone or either have to actively become far better than the mate they want to atract. Also this highly hierarchycal competence comes with more agressive and dangerous actions. So yes, technically they are less apreciatted,more likely to die and less likely to feel wanted. I always hear the "patriarchy" thing but if I am being honest no man or woman created it,its subconsequence of human nature so It cant really be changed. The invisible hierarchy in males is created by women by sexual selection of the "strongest" but it isnt women who created it,its the environment for humans to continute to exist,women MUST be selective thats why that hierarchy exists (it wasnt intentional) The notions of what society is will alwaus be based on and driven by biological motivation. Specially when it comes to surviving. Also dont blame the guys who sexualise you in their minds,a healthy human male with healthy dopamine receptors gets a dopamine rush when he sees naked woman that he finds attractive and most men find most women somewhat attractive. Your body objevtively isnt like the male body,due to sexual dimorphism so you cannot function logically with the same rules if you want efficiency. Patriarchy is not a system,it is the human society's evironment and driven by gender interactions. And no,nowadays in western world this environment is not trying to dominate women. People are fighting an enemy that doesnt exist instead of solving a problem breaking it down logically
Yes it is both the women's responsibility to not dress overly provocative and also the men's responsibility to turn their vision away and not stoop down to that level and feed onto that scream of attention from women
@@SophiaHernandez-fp2uuit’s the women responsibility only before they leave the house they know what there doing they look at themselves and know what being put on display to say men should just not look is foolish I guess men should just walk with their heads down women just hate accountability
its not about “attracting the right man” or “respecting other people”. its about respecting yourself. if you feel good being modest then go for it, if you feel good showing off you go for it. respecting yourself is sexy.
What if you walked around naked? Thats extremely disrespectful to the people around you. The way you dress also shows your character, you could make people think your a sl*t, no one wants to be known as that, its not something to be proud of.
Vee wolf I normally dress like a dude, are you gonna call me a dyke? Because no matter what the answer is, I still won't care. I'm not gonna live me life worried about other people's opinions of me. So if a person wants to show a little skin, let them. They do it for themselves, not for others. Naked and being clothed in a certain fashion are two completely different things, so comparing the two isn't gonna prove a point. But either way, nudists do have their own communities so they don't get charged with indecent exposure by the local Karen and Keith. In case you were wondering...
“When I’m 50, I hope people remember me for my accomplishments as a mother and as a wife... not my muscle tone.” Because of course the only women should be remembered for are there connections to a man. We should never to praised for our accomplishments on working hard for our own individuality and strength. 🙄🙄 This women is sexist and that’s a fact.
Oh and don't forget all the women over the years who HAVE dressed provocatively who we know for their accomplishments like Britney Spears and Beyonce and Rihanna and Shakira and I could really do this all day
First being remembered as a good mother is not about being connected to a man you can be a good mother without a husband. Second belittling those things and saying that being a good wife and mother are not “our own accomplishments” is insulting to stay at home moms they work hard to be a good mother and be good to their husband because they believe a beautiful family is an accomplishment and shows your strength as a woman and most definitely is hard work
“It’s about how men are visual creatures not emotional ones.” This is disgusting. Like honestly I hate people who assume men don’t have emotions. Besides that she criticizes people who dress ‘revealing’ and to be more ‘submissive and disgusted’ in themselves. Mainly women. And honestly who tf cares if you dress modestly. Sure men might stare at you, but most assume it’s normal. Besides that I’m so tired of how women are told to dress more ‘beautifully’ then ‘sexy’ like oh my god w h o c a r e s? And so tired of this ‘lady’ PLEASE stop recommending this ‘woman’
@@seaturtle5719 I dress very modestly according to most people's standards. I've attracted very toxic people, which is funny. Almost like maybe clothes aren't why toxic people target who they think would be vulnerable. Maybe stop victim blaming?
As a Christian, dressing modestly in not just about demanding respect to men. Our primary aim is to honor, please, and glorify God including the way we dress.
@@adeleisnamedafterme “dressing modestly is not just about demanding respect to men” babes men deserve NOTHING from women. keep in mind that you can be assaulted no matter what you wear 💕 even if u dress modestly u can still be harassed by a man. maybe instead of telling women to cover up, tell men to keep their eyes and hands to themselves.
@@CaptainBones222 people can wear what they're comfortable with. It's your responsibility to treat them like a human being regardless of what they're wearing
A woman’s body isn’t the only thing a woman is good for. Saying women should dress modestly is giving off the impression that women must do things for MEN, when we are the ones who have had to cover up for hundreds of years because of men.
Vanessa Singh or we can teach men not to think the world owes them everything. Women dress for themselves and no one else. She is implying that women dress only for men and attention. Maybe you should do your own research, both of you, on the sexualization of women and realize it’s not a womens issue it’s a mens issue
Dressing Modestly applies to men and women, it you’re not doing for someone else, you’re doing it for yourself to honour your body, and to honour God with how you dress, at least for me
Olivia Baer because all of us commenting triggers the algorithm that this video has high engagement, which means it’s going to push this video on more recommendation lists... and she will find her audience this wa
Women in the 19th century knew how to survive and keep society together in harsher circumstances than you will ever know. Maybe we should listen to them, instead of modern people choking on comfort-induced stupidity.
Well you can't have both in every occasion, you will have to choose. That's life. Abby didn't say you don't have the right to dress as you like, you do. She just expressed her opinion on why we should generally speaking dress adequately based on purpose. Sexy does not work everywhere, as well as modest, strict, and so on do not either. If you go to a park with your children what feelings do you want to arouse to other parents or children? Sexiness? Strict? Maybe something more neutral, casual, happy so neither sexy nor strict would work. If you go to a business meeting and have a deep cleavage what do you expect others will look at? I mean It is logical that the attention will be drawn there, both for men and women. The same would happen if a man came to a meeting with super tight shirt and shorts showing off his ripped muscles and abs. Most people would be distracted. Well it is okay if that is your ultimate purpose. But don't whine if people don't focus on what you say because you got their attention with something else. Choose what you want, but every choice has a result and a consequence and you cannot avoid it or ask for avoiding it. This would only be possible in a utopian world. Then as from a classical/conservative perspective she thinks that women (along as men) should be praised for their character, personality and achievements, not for their bodies or sexuality which only diminishes them to objects. She argues for praise and respect based on internal/profound traits vs. external/superficial ones. If we "still" believe in freedom of speech (which includes freedom of expression and opinion) then it should be okay for Abby to express her perspectives without being bullied for these or receiving false accusations. In a world where the other perspective is broadly accepted we should be open to listen to another. We do not all need to see things from the same perspective.
@Alexandra Gialama Yes, I think everyone in the comments believes in free speech. That’s why they’re voicing their own opinions and interpretations of what Abby said. If you share a perspective there are going to be conflicting perspectives and consequences.
Soooo a girl gets called a hoe for wearing a strapless shirt cuz it’s “distracting” but guys go around shirtless showing their muscles off... totally not distracting. “Guys minds work differently” is a petty excuse.
She keeps referring to 50 as the magic number where a woman's ONLY worth is husband/children. By the time she's 50, she will see how life will take her smugness down a notch or two.
I don't believe that's what her intent was behind that statement. To me, that statement's value was whether or not an older woman would like to be praised for her body or for her accomplishments. It's no secret that this woman is a conservative influencer, so for her, an accomplishment may be that she is able to marry and have children. This may be different for you, but the value of that statement was most definitely not that you worth is contingent on if you marry and have children or not.
Hope Fallerk the two Brown women she mentioned have had many accomplishments in their careers. To think that people’s heads are still exploding at that Super Bowl show is laughable. I don’t remember anyone taking out their pitchforks during the regular season when the Cheerleaders wore less than what was displayed at the Halftime show. I’m not judging them either. They are very beautiful entertainers as well. Getting married isn’t an accomplishment by any means. It’s something people decide to do. No one has gotten a participation trophy for getting married....just a certificate and a different tax bracket.
Athanasius Contra Marxism As a woman, the greatest and most important thing I can do is not having children. I can contribute a LOT mote to society than that. Any woman who doesn’t have kids doesn’t necessarily have cats, that’s a dumb assumption. Also the people who’ll be at my deathbed are family and friends.
@Athanasius Contra Marxism you do realoze mot everyone thinks like that tho? Many women think their greatest and most important accomplishment is to love a good life WITHOUT children.
The whole “women should do -this - so men don’t do -this-” thing is stupid. I feel like it’s harder to follow that than to just teach men at a young age how to behave...
Yeah if a hot man comes up to the mall dressed in hardly anything I'd like to see how all the ladies keep it in their pants. Our eyes are there for us to perceive the world around us. What you wear/ don't wear projects to society things about your personality whether you like it or not. Why do you think uniforms are a thing for most professions? Especially serious ones....???Can you imagine a doctor showing up in your room during an emergency dressed as a one-man-band??? TELL ME you wouldn't JUDGE THAT. lol Similar thing on a different level.
@@mikestarkly9226 i think anyone would understand with a braincell that dressing for work/clubbing/hanging out/date/visiting family...... Etc is different dumbass.
Mike Starkly I don’t condone ANYBODY sexualising anybody unless there is that level of consent. And uh yeah smart people don’t wear extremely revealing clothes in the work place. You act as if women are saying that they don’t want to be sexualised but they can sexualise others. The lesson here is to teach people to fucking keep it in their pants. Of course there’s certain places were there’s dressing etiquette. People know this. The way you’re talking is acting as if your clothes justify being sexually harassed. When we should teach EVERYBODY. From a young age that consent is needed for those kind of remarks. No form of sexual harassment is okay, so stop trying to justify one form of sexual harassment with sexual harassment. If I decide I want to wear something I feel comfortable enough wearing, whether it is revealing, or completely covering me. I can still get sexually harassed or assaulted. Instead of blaming it on clothing blame it on the education system that failed to teach our students about the importance in consent. If you remark something and the person looks uncomfortable or you two aren’t at that level of flirting whatsoever then don’t do it. It’s so easy. Teach all students to respect each other’s boundaries and consent. If there is no level of consent don’t do it. Especially if somebody tells you to stop or they look uncomfortable.
@@mikestarkly9226 Guys walk around without shirts or with low hanging bottoms, or with those tank tops where the under arms are cut all the way down, like, huh?? They don't usually get harassed or cat called, and that's literally what youre saying lmao. Also, not shit a doctor would be in a ✨uniform✨ because they're ✨required to✨, and dressing professionally in the work place is also a given, so idk what you were trying to prove with that
witttlewholesome this one showed up to me at the top of my home feed as an “ad”. People aren’t getting this content because it’s recommended to them, it’s getting pushed out because she paid for it to be an AD.
Ngl I feel like because victim blaming has become such a taboo (and very rightfully so), we tend go overreact when people are talking about clothes in a different context. She was talking about the attention you get and the impression you leave, not whether or not you are responsible for being sexually harassed.
This video is so disrespectful to men. You’re talking about not reducing ourselves as woman to sex objects while simultaneously saying men can’t control themselves and are going to think of us as sex objects. Don’t reduce men to animals. They are people.
Em Me I’ve literally been getting this ad EVERY SINGLE time I’ve been on TH-cam for what’s felt like an eternity smh my one source of comfort is that it’s wasting her money to be putting it there
@@metallovingmusicnerd6081 they can dress how. they want and at 50 years old it would be amazing to be praised for my fit healthy body that god created for me than to shame other women for being healthy and fit and proud say that with time they won"t look as good, and people do praise them for having a family. people are just looking for an excuse to hate on others
@@hihi-ug1fc I know I was born in the 21 century. I just think it's stupid to praise someone for being healthy and fit at an older age and then exploiting themselves on national television when it should be something all ages can watch with family.
Women listen, if a man is sexually attracted to you that's HIS responsibility not yours, if your exposure comes off to somebody as inappropriate that's THEIR responsibility. Your responsibility is to allow yourself to feel beautiful (whether modestly or not), your responsibility is to love yourself no matter what, and you responsibility is to understand your body is beautiful !
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Stop. Don’t throw all of them into a category. And, as a dancer of 15 years, “dancing in leotards,” has been the norm since the beginning.
Here's a thought: stop caring about how people present themselves and let them dress how they want. Perhaps people wear certain clothes because they, idk, like them.
Is she not allowed to share her opinion? She’s not telling people what to do, and even if she was, people are still entitled to make their own decisions.
Joanna Boll The title is literally called "Why YOU Should Dress Modestly" She's literally telling people how they need to dress, saying it's wrong for them to dress any other way, and even going as far as saying they look like "trash" if they don't dress the way she likes. I get her point about certain people being idiots who only care for tits and ass, but it's not her decision to make for others. I'm sure anyone who shows a little skin knows exactly what they're signing up for when going out in public, and has the courage to do so anyway despite those risks because that's what THEY like, not what they think others will like. If a person isn't completely naked or making public porn, then I don't see the issue. The way another person dresses isn't my problem to deal with, because to me, I'm the only person that matters. People need to stop focusing on how others live their lives and stay in their own lane. I dress basically as a dude with my oversized t-shirts, jackets and hoodies, and jeans and you don't see me getting peeved when a girl walks by in a crop top and booty shorts. I'll just think to myself how confident she is being in her own skin, not worrying about what those around her might think. And I respect that so much because honestly who gives af what others think? They can shove their opinions up their ass for all I care. This girl's opinion was just not needed, and outright disrespectful. I have absolutely no idea why this is showing up in everyone's recommended, but I'd say a majority of viewers can agree that she just needs to shut her pie hole according the the like/dislike ratio. If she cares so much about what others think of her, she could take the hint and take the video down. Or at least make an apology, because dear lord, she was insulting people left and right throughout this entire video who did not deserve those attacks.
Why can’t females just dress for themselves? Whatever makes a girl feel confident or happy is the best kind of self respect. Ladies, stop worrying about what men think of you. It’s all about what you think of yourself. ❤️ *EDIT* I just wanted to add on that any negative comments you receive about your choice of style is 100% NOT your fault; So do you!! Thanks for 700+ likes 😘
@CIA When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand. Deuteronomy 25:11-12
Because nobody dresses for themselves, we wear clothes for other people. If that was the case then why do people wear pajamas when they're at home? People that say "I dress for myself " are just lying to themselves.
Usually these types of conservatives are entirely ignorant to different cultures. They say certain things are a woman’s job and some are a man’s.... a woman’s to be modest and “ladylike” and a man’s to be a breadwinner and dominant. In my culture it’s very different.... it’s just so odd to see her preach the moral goodness of women covering up as if that’s not just her culture’s beliefs and actually a moral statement to something? Women in my grandparents country often wore nothing but “skirts” in English. We don’t go about preaching how they need to cover up or risk being mistreated by male attention... us men simply... don’t harass and objectify life givers??? It’s not hard at all. It’s not the woman’s responsibility when a bad person objectifies her. America is such an odd place
sippingmychai ya but her point is the opposite of what ur saying basically....... this lady is judging ppl based off what they wear, Nd just like u said u don’t judge her, she shouldn’t judge anybody
I just noticed a pattern. Women who tell others to dress modestly usually dress to impress men, to prove them that they are not sex objects. While women who dress revealingly usually just don't care about men, its all about her body, comfort and style.
One person's opinion cant be a pattern, some people dress modesty because they feel better "don't forget that", it has nothing to do with man. "It is about privacy,". I like to keep some of myself only to myself because it is my right to privacy. Some people feel naked when they are wearing revealing clothes some don't feel that. For some people regardless of men or woman clothes makes them feel safe because they are able to keep parts of themselves only to themselves not for everyone to see. hope you understand what I mean.
Chrisleen Robyn she literally pays for ads. if you don’t have personalized ads on, it possible to find her in your homepage, like me and many other people have
I know right! Men should be pissed about this video too. Seriously, she's insulting their self-control, men are able to control themselves, saying they can't is so insulting. Also, what if you are gay? And not looking for a man at all. She is so infuriating.
"Men are visual creatures, not emotional creatures." What the fuck? I know plenty guys who are just the opposite. Getting tired of her generalizations, seriously.
You can respect your body without dressing “modestly” I dress like this because I’m comfortable with how I look and I love looking in the mirror and going damn that’s me I look goooodddd
“Men are visual creatures not emotional” how freaking toxic! Stop putting your men in these gross boxes!!! Also you can be sexy dressed modestly this is stupid. Over it.
She’s not even being very clear... she could just be crazy. Just how modest is she really referring to? Does she also thunk denim jeans are too tight ? Tank tops are mischievous? Lol she’s probably repressing gay thoughts .. sounds like she’s looking at women as sexy objects 👀
Moodys Point Idk, she’s got the crazy eyes and that’s the main thing I noticed when I started seeing her videos advertised and I’ve literally avoided even clicking on her videos until just now because I just couldn’t believe this was getting positive comments or anything, and I was right to not believe lmao.
„I hope that when I‘m fifty I hope that people will be talking about my accomplishments as a mother and a wife and not my muscle tone“ man, imagine being only remebered in connection with other people that sounds so sad
Do you expect them to look the same when they're 80 and long retired from popular culture? The point she's making is that they'll only be remembered for their bodies if you focus on that aspect. Rosa Parks, Susan B Anthony, and Eleanor Roosevelt (to name a few fine females of history) probably had bangin' bodies at some point, but that's not the focus of the impact they left on the world. Those women went down in history for their minds and actions while J Lo will be remembered as the 50 year old with a nice ass dancing at the superbowl and Shakira will be remembered for her hips that don't lie.
Mistieria i HOPE you know you’re comparing women who were diplomats, social reformers, women rights activists, and civil rights pioneers (parks, anthony, roosevelt) to SINGERS and TV PERSONALITIES, who WORK to bring ENTERTAINMENT to you. just... think about it, smart stuff.
@@minminygyg My life and other American women's lives have been bettered by the existence of those three women and their accomplishments. What have J Lo and Shakira ever done for women? They can WORK to ENTERTAIN me all they want.
in the religious aspect of it, yes showing off your body is trying to get attention. When I say "trying to get attention" I don't just mean in a sexual way but you want to be noticed by what your wearing, you want people to look at you and think Oh she's cute, or I really love that dress or shirt. You want someone to look at you when you dress to show off. There isn't anything wrong with that because it does make people feel good when you comment on their clothing or how those jeans make your legs look good (in a non-sexual way) but to God, we aren't meant to be walking around showing off our bodies.
You can tell how much she's just repeating whatever Conservative-Christian propaganda she's told when you realize this Jewish woman is literally not followed Jewish modesty laws in this video. I can see your collarbone dear...
Also the fact that an entrepreneurial content-creating Jewish woman is telling the rest of us to stay at home in accordance to traditional Christian values feels insanely ridiculous. This video itself earned her a few thousand dollars in ad revenue lol
"Not criticizing anyone for it" "Let's dress like the _LADIES_ we are" Don't know about you, but sounds like she's throwing shade to the women who don't dress "classically"
Yeah, screw that... if I wanna wear the baggiest pants in my closet and a tshirt that’s what I’m gonna do. If I wanna wear short shorts and a tight tshirt that’s what I will freaking do. Try and stop me.
wore a thong around a bunch of mostly lesbian women and all i got was respectable compliments about my outfit. wore skinny jeans around men and got my ass slapped. maybe it’s just a men’s problem... 👀
THIS. I’m a lesbian and did theater in school, which meant constantly changing in front and with other women. I’ve never taken advantage or assaulted any of them. In fact, most of the time I just stared at the wall or looked down.
Skippy Kay same here, i’m a lesbian and a swimmer so i’m in a locker room with a bunch of girls changing and i’ve never even had the desire to do anything to them..
i was assaulted wearing jeans, a t shirt, & a jacket. it was winter & no skin was showing. the idea behind “the attention you get = what you’re wearing” is so. so. entirely. wrong.
I am pretty sure she means in attracting a potential mate/future husband. She isn't suggesting that someone should get assaulted because they wear something in particular. NO ONE SHOULD BE ASSAULTED FOR ANY REASON. EVER. I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. Hope you are doing okay. Love and hugs. God bless
The fact that we are ALL getting this as an AD and it only has 600,000 views.. means the majority isn't even clicking on it cause nobody fucking cares about this topic at this point and she's even bringing in views from people discussing her and doesn't even have 1 mil views. Girl talk about something that will help the planet but I don't think she has anything in her mind that actually would do any good.
I gotta say dressing modestly and dressing “provocatively” is DEFINITELY a preference. You’re making sound like women need to worry about how men view them which is SUPER SEXIST.
Sam Lee not exactly but yeah she is saying that all men are predators and we decide if we want to be an easy preys 🤢 which isn’t true, I feel like girls obsess over boys as much as boys obsess over girls and girls obsess over girls and boys over boys. Or they don’t obsess at all or not a lot. Ya know
@@ellakate3824 exactly, there's less sexual men and very sexual women as well. It's a fact men generally have a higher sex drive, doesn't mean he doesn't have morals tho
For Victorian people, what you dress is considered revealing and inappropriate. But not anymore, because the world has progressed, and you’re part of it…
Heather if you’re wearing something uncomfortable that’s basically disrespecting yourself and making yourself feel like you have to meet beauty standards. Wearing what makes you comfortable is a great way to show your personality and your interests. You wasted your time replying to me.
My fave response and I think I'll be adding my suitcase to your pile as well. Gonna just go ahead and move right along down the road to somewhere less conform-y.
I don't think she's saying it's your fault. I think she's just being realistic. Men see female bodies as objects due to evolutionary traits. You can pretend it's not true or use this knowledge to your advantage.
Sophia Troanska Yep! I agree, all of that is true, except the woman in the video is saying essentially that it’s your fault they think like that due to what you wear. Does that clear things up? If not, let me know :)
Sophia Troanska what you’re saying is “boys will be boys” and that it’s not an Evolutionary trait, it is a learned behavior due to centuries of oppression against women. Just cause SOME ‘men’ objectify your body doesn’t mean ALL men do. Just like not all women are blindly helping this men objectify women like the creator of this video is.
It doesn't work like that though. When you dress modestly, you don't attract that much attention from many people. But when you're dressed modestly, and attract people with your personality rather than your body. It just makes them imagine what kind of person you really are. Imagining doesn't always mean thinking about sexual things. I don't get what you immediately thought of that. And she explained it thoroughly in her video too.
@@lunaolivianoelle we are talking about men. My uncle even said men will get off by the littlest things like school skirts and tight high socks and shoulders. When i dressed "modestly" i still got unwanted attention and I know they want to fuck me only but i told them i have better things to do . So dressing modestly does nothing!
Foxy Wolf I get way less attention now that I dress in baggy clothes. You can’t deny that how you dress makes a difference in how much attention you get.
Respect, some people claim that men will sexualize you no matter what and this can be true, but the difference between dressing modestly and provocatively is the difference between having a do not trespass sign and having a welcome to all sign. Sure, some people will trespass no matter what, but if you say welcome to all then otherwise normal people who would normally not step into your house will trample all over it and feel justified. If you can’t distinguish between the effects of provocative dress and modest dress and you just pretend it’s the same because terrible people exist in the world, then you basically are a child who has no idea what surviving actually looks like. Surviving in a truly dangerous world means reducing risk of terrible stuff, you can’t escape it entirely. If you think men can escape the terrible stuff think again, we are always assessing how to avoid bad things happening to us. The world is dangerous, grow up, and realize that all we can do is our best to reduce our chances of terrible stuff, the rest is chance.
The female body is not always sexual. The female body is not always sexual. The female body is not always sexual.
THIS !! lmao perpetuation of modesty culture only enforces the idea that women’s body’s are inherently sexual. no thanks!
Female bodies are fetishized.
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK
Thank you.
If you feel confident in it wear it.
I AM INDIVIDUAL dont think thats what they ment . but ok
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Is so ignorant and sexist, I can’t even. I know tons of emotional men and emotional women who don’t look at other human beings as objects. Granted there are people who are that way, it has nothing to do with gender. That’s a stereotype.
Thank you for saying this. So true and I hate stereotypes
Yeah I don’t like how that statement reduces men to animals. They are generally fully developed human beings who have many different sides to them, so are women.
and this assuming and treating ALL men like they're all hungry criminal beasts that can't control themselves just because of the ones that are. that is not treating them as human. that's not the point of feminism. 🙄 we want equality not more unequality.
As a general rule, male sexuality is visually driven. That’s simply a fact. I’m not defending this video, but calling that statement an ignorant stereotype is just incorrect.
Not to mention that all creatures with working eyes are visual creatures and that she literally and immediately directly contradicts herself to claim men aren’t emotional creatures. If simply what they see is making them emotional (and I highly recommend she and males of her mindset look up “emotion”) then actually men _are_ the more emotional beings and being emotional is usually fine but being so emotional that you become dangerous or can’t handle existing next to fellow humans because of their body shapes, then you’re definitely the problem and need to get your emotions in check. Our species was not designed for the males to lose their shit over female bodies. Naked is our most natural state afterall.
1. Women aren’t here to satisfy men.
2. Men aren’t sex driven machines
Yes
especially the second one, as a girl who was raised very religious, my mom would constantly say that to me, ever since i was like 12. "all they think about is sex", "they think makeup is sExUaL". basically, if i put extra effort is how i look, i'll look "sexual" to men. 🤢 so glad i never believed her.
edit: ok here's an example, when i was 16 i wanted to put on lip gloss that my friend got me as a gift & it had a little pink tint. my mom literally told me i couldn't wear it outside bc men would see it as sexual if i made my lips more colored. i was 16. 16!!!😐
Naseem R one of my teachers tried telling me that I should not wear makeup and certain clothes because little boys will be distracted ... I laughed in her face why doesn’t she tell little boys to control themselves
sirius my teacher kind of told me something like that but it's because i was fighting with this girl because she kept calling me a 'slut' and she told me if i didn't want to be called that to not dress like one and not to be seen with so many guys but i am sorry you had to go through something like that.
It’s at 666 likes. I don’t wanna ruin it
As a by-choice hijabi, modest clothes do not stop you from being sexualized. If males want to sexualize a woman, they will do it no matter how clothed she is. Rape and assault is always the rapist's fault, never the victim. I dress modestly because it makes me feel good and does somehow draw more respect.
👏 thank u
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Yess queen. Thats why i love hijabis more. They know what modest means. Its about boundaries rather than doing it for protection
@@thepink3798 but the Qur'an literally says it's for protection.
@@thepink3798 hijabis in the west*
Here in the middle east they are the same if not worse than abby
(I am arab and know it)
I don’t dress “modestly,” but I don’t necessarily dress “immodestly” either. I simply wear what makes ME feel the most comfortable and confident. I wear shorts that you’d probably consider immodest, but I wear them because I like them and not for the purpose of being more sexually appealing. Just because some women choose to show more skin doesn’t mean they are doing it for the sole purpose of looking more enticing.
Could've sworn she said if that's what you like then do you.
Franceska Marco what are you even talking about?
Franceska Marco she never said it was she just said she likes to wear what she wants and you should have no issue with that, no one else in the society has to care unless it’s hurting them or someone else
Athanasius Contra Marxism that’s very rude don’t call random people skanks, and people that are so closed minded and sexist shown by your past statement “LOL the definition of solipsistic is woman” like you aren’t a good source of information and you’re kinda acting like a child using insults like that:)
Athanasius Contra Marxism wow, not even trying to hide our blatant sexism, are we?
Ugh, I hate “dress like the woman you are” just because I don’t like crossings my legs 24/7, just because I wanna wear a crop too dosent make me less of a woman, it’s just me being me and being comfortable, I’m a tomboy and I shouldn’t be shamed for “not being ladylike” cause I’ll I’m doing is doing what I like to do
No! She doesn’t mean crop tops... she’s talking about girls who are basically half naked! Showing your belly isn’t bad!
This is so true and not even that, girls who dress to girly are called girly girls and girls who dress like a Tom boy are called gross and weird, this video is terrible and is saying that you need to dress to please others and that’s not right and when she said that she wants to be known as a mother and wife, that’s just plain sad
Braylin Gisele if the way other women dress bothers you then i suggest you stop looking, mind your business, and work on being less judgemental
Braylin Gisele Honestly the way you dress does not warrant sexual harassment and sexualising of the body. You’re a fool to think it does.
@@brayg07 even if they dress half naked it's anybodys place to judge them and tell them that they're not "a woman"
Please stop advertising I’m almost certainly not the demographic you are looking for.
ROY G. BIV are you a guy lmbo
Chill 💀
Emma _ no
She’s targeting opposite of who would normally watch her 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Okay guys I get that you don't agreed with her. I don't. I disagree with everything she says in every video, but you gotta understand that's her way of living. She is Jewish, so I'm assuming she is just doing what is within her faith. She is dressing modestly because that's what's acceptable in her religion. I know many of the things she said in the video are highly disagreeable for you, but just accept that's her. If you don't like her, don't watch her videos. It's not that hard. Just ignore it. Don't comment anything hateful. She's just trying to educate people of what she believes is right, and you will NOT change her views by leaving hate comments or anything. Just stop. She seems like a nice person despite her beliefs, just listen to her and understand her point of view, not that hard.
Again, if you don't like it you can leave
“Ladies, you better treat your bodies with respect and start recognizing reality.” Imagine a man saying something like this...
Men say things like that all the time. It's completely uncontroversial. This is the root of all sexism: masculine hyperagency and feminine hypoagency. If you suggest that a man will be judged based on how he dresses and presents himself, absolutely no one will bat an eye. Men are always held responsible for how other people treat them. Women, on the other hand, are treated as stupid, brainless children who can't be held responsible for their choices and actions. Which often means women can't be judged for their choices and actions.
Thus if you say something like "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slob." to a man, everyone agrees that's fair. But if you say "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slut." to a woman, morons and idiots start screaming how that's sexist against women because how dare you assert that women aren't brainless morons who are incapable of understanding that others judge them based on how they dress.
Yall would call him a feminist ally. 🙄
Yeah it would still be the truth. You'd just whine about it more.
@@rayweaver8295 Ray Weaver everyone, world authority on how women these days should dress, because in his day they were just more modest and seeing women's skin is just plain indecent.
“Why it’s important and why it doesn’t mean looking like GArAbagE”
homegirl is wilding- i- yikes- it’s the “dressing modestly is feminine” for me
its the "more men will think of you as a sex object if you dress like one" for me
the fact that her whole channel is filled with stuff like this-
Phantom Royale it’s the “ getting treated like a sex object if u dress like one” for meee
it’s the judging women on how they dress yet wearing THAT fit for me 😬😬😬
It’s the marker filled eyebrows for me
She’s entitled to her opinion, but like??? After watching her “Don’t Believe All Women” video it’s obvious she’s just appealing to the conservative voters. And she’s paying, to have youtube advertise this. At this point her motives UNDER VALUE anything she may be genuinely trying to say. Its kind of gross.
I AM INDIVIDUAL You can’t blame normal individuals for media coverage... it’s not our fault the system is broken.. The only people who wanted him as the nominee are moderate Democrats that line their pockets with cash when the status quo is stabilized. Believe me, this unrest we are seeing will NOT be stopping if Biden is president. The American people are just more focused on the other dumpsterfire right now
I'm a conservative voter, and I'm not the least bit impressed by her.
Its gross for women to be walking around with everything hanging out.
@@Chocobear555 You're conservative yet you argue against dressing modestly? You're no conservative lol.
But why doesn’t society police men’s clothing in the same way? Oh right, because women treat them with respect no matter how they dress. So shouldn’t we teach men to behave instead of control how women dress?
Apparently “stop seeing this ad” means nothing to TH-cam.
Right? Like this entire channel has been pushed SO HARD by TH-cam on my account, and no matter how many times I say I dont wanna see it TH-cam doesnt do crap.
FR. i’ve seen her ads so much and i disagree with every single one of them.
Correct
@@Lurkerlady omg same. It pushed her Disney Opera video on me first. I downvoted it because she frankly doesn't sing operatically all that well, now this video popped up and I'm beyond repulsed.
@@ghintz2156 the video I keep seeing is what you need to know to be a good wife. Like wtf, are we suddenly back in the 50s?
This is discriminating against curvy women, calling their body type “slutty”. If I put on the same outfit as a conservative skinny woman It wouldn’t be considered conservative on me.
I'm currently working through trauma from being sexualized at 11 because I had boobs. I didn't wear skin tight clothes, I fit into the conservative religious mold I grew up in. But I was not allowed to participate in a lot of events in the summer or swimming because if I wore comfortable clothing, I was considered "rebellious" and a "bad influence". 🙄 Swim suits were either a two piece, which was never allowed because God forbid a middrift shows, or a one piece where it would fit but cleavage would be out, or it wouldn't fit and my bottom/down there would be exposed because it was too big. From 11. Because boobs.
Tbh, the only creepy men who sexualized and groomed me were in churches who were extreme about modesty. I genuinely hope others experiences are much different than mine, because yikes.
Right like if ur skinny Nd wear the same thing as a thicker person to school- the thicker person is more likely to get in trouble about it Nd it’s rlly annoying
exactly!
Exactly
She lives in her own world where women aren’t sexualices for just existing at ANY age
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” They’re human beings goddamn
Right? Everytime I hear anyone talk about these things, they regard men like animals who can'y control themselves. Like, no, they're human and they think for themselves, if they can't handle seeing a woman in a dress then they have an issue!!
Right!!! Like that’s actually kinda fucked up that she would even say that 🤦🏽♀️
Okay so I literally hate this video, and a lot of what she said was disgustingly sexist. Buttttt she’s not wrong on that point. From a neurological standpoint men are physically wired differently than females and are in fact typically visually oriented, whereas females tend to come from a more emotional mental standpoint. That’s not sexist that’s just a genuine fact.
girl i just like looking pretty, it's not for men lol
Categorizing genders by one factor separates ideals from human beings so I totally agree
You of all people should know that dressing modestly does not stop people from sexualising you.
And you think people would sexualize her the same amount if she didn't dress modestly? Braindead.
Greatly reduces the risk tho
@@sandels5805 So do you think it's a baby's fault for getting sexually assaulted because it was obviously the babysuit that provoked the sexual thoughts? What about muslim women who wear covered top to toe. They get raped all the time.
Rapists don't care what you wear. They only care about rape.
@@sandels5805that's true but it shouldn't haveto be like this.
@@sandels5805 Instead of blaming clothing, let's blame the person who can't control himself in front of women hm?
Would you really blame a baby in a nappy because of sick people that are attracted to kids?
This woman is talking down to every woman who dresses in a way that makes them feel comfortable that doesn't go along with what she thinks. No thanks.
Ho ho ho
PREACH
She did say this right near the end: "I understand the pull to dressing immodestly, and I'm not looking down on anyone for it. I'm just offering you an alternative."
she's looking down on men too. we need to have higher expectations of ppl(men and women), not lower expectations.
“the difference between beauty and sexiness,” being beautiful can be sexy, and being sexy can be beautiful....
Erin Choi yes
Yassss
yesss
Uh , wtf , that flew over my head
Yasssssss
I don’t like the fact this argument not only degrades women as just “objects” but also degrades men as being carnal/animalistic creatures who can’t possibly control themselves if a woman decides to dress a little too “immodestly”. This is not the case. There are bad people and good people in the world. The solution is not to make things less “tempting” to a bad man (because this solution takes away women’s rights), it is to instead change the education system to teach boys in school to respect a woman and not to see her as just an object, as well as following through with the appropriate repercussions. Your argument places so much on emphasis on the validation from men, as if women need this to be valuable? If all a man can think about at a date is his date’s v-cut shirt, then it is on the man for being unable to look past his own primal urges to realize there is a individual human being before him. Not the woman.
You made another point about women of an older age still dressing “immodestly” and asked the question ”At the age 50, would your rather be praised for your body or family?”
First of all, why not both? Beauty can be expressed no matter how much clothes you wear! Do you look at a Greek statue and immediately sexualize it, or do you think to yourself “Wow, the artist perfectly captured the natural beauty of that human!”. If you think the former, then is it not your own mind that’s at fault or the sculptor?
And why should women no longer dress how they wish at 50? They can love their bodies too! They are still human, no matter what age they turn, and expression doesn’t just vanish once you get into your 30s.
I don’t know your story or how you’ve been influenced to think this way, so I’m not going to criticize you personally. However, please don’t try to push damaging messages to impressionable young girls that their bodies are inherently sexual, and they cannot be beautiful if a man looks at them a certain way.
Have a good day 😊
THIS 👏
PERIODT
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Well said 👏🏽
Could NOT have been said any better nor more respectfully 😍
You may need to know this, men aren't stupid dogs. They're humans who don't always have a super small attention span. Women don't need to dress for others. They can dress how they want. Just because they dress a way, doesn't mean anything.
Try and show up at a job interview in your pyjama's and see how it goes.
She never said men were dogs where are you getting that from??!
how naive can a person be?
Actually it does mean something
I think u need a course in evolutionary psychology, there are evolutionary reasons for why men and women do certain things such as dress a certain way for example, these reasons are not always conscious
Don’t dress just for men, (or women, lesbians exist) dress in clothing that makes YOU happy. If you wanna go to the grocery store in sweats and flip flops, go right ahead. Same thing if you wanna go to the store with a dress and high heel boots. As long as you’re comfortable with what you’re wearing, knock yourself out. (Before people come after me, yes there are exceptions. Like, don’t wear pajamas or a bikini to a job interview, I’m just saying that clothing is a way to express oneself, and women should not be forced to wear unrevealing clothes so men are “able to focus”)
edit: corrected an adjective
i completely agree. nobody should dress for anybody. we should all just dress how we want because we feel comfortable in our clothes :)
I agree
Here we go we are getting somewhere. For most people it is for them selfs and I makes them happy. O MY GOD. I feel like a religious and if u aren’t that is fine to take this out of prospective if u want I don’t care but if u think about it u are hiding god’s creation and in Adam and Eve the showed of their whole body but the apple that they ate was a sin witch is a sin made them aware of it so if u think about it god planned for us all to just walk around naked. Also in the Bible Jesus said if u see her and u doing the naughty ( I don’t know what he exactly said ) gouge your eyes out. There for Jesus doesn’t care he cool with it. So worry about your self this man knows what he is talking about.
Sorry for all of the grammatical errors
Alex Thourot i was raised in a very religious family and you’re right. they say jesus said if a man looks at a woman and thinks of her in a sexual way, basically that’s his problem and if he can’t be respectful he should just gauge his eyes out because women aren’t responsible for their actions. christians like to forget that bit though, don’t they?
Alternative title: *downgrading woman to a Standard that men shouldn’t be held accountable and everything is our fault for 5 minutes and 4 seconds*
THIS SO TRUE WHAT ARE THESE ADS
yes! thank you!
YUP!!!!!!!
And agiesm
Real talk
So she’s really out here saying if woman don’t dress “ modestly” then we’re just asking to be identified as sex object??!
Yesss mam! I am a gay woman and if I can control myself when women are in tight clothes and a guy can’t.. then there is something more problematic than the clothes she wears
i hate that we have to treat men like rabid animals who we can’t tame it’s ridiculous
Yeah... I am a lady who usually dresses modestly but I do not see myself as better than someone who is more comfortable showing their body. You want to dress modestly do so, you want to flaunt what you got? Do so? Yes there are times where modesty is best church, work, court, etc. but any other time dress however you want. No way is better.
Silesia Johnson This is the way to think 100% 👍🏼
Silesia Johnson this
If you view someone as an object, it doesn’t matter how much clothing they put on, you’ll still view them as an object. So maybe the problem lies with you and not with them 🙃
No, I very much view a woman in a suit vs a woman in lingerie differently.
Tell that to your feminist friends who complain women are being "objectified" whenever they are cast/depicted in revealing clothing.
@wheresthelambsauce8273 Nope, they start the issue first when they wear certain clothing. If I dress up as a cop, you will think i'm a cop.
So according to this logic a woman wearing extremely revealing clothing out in public is going to be sexualized the same amount if she dresses modestly? Yeah I don't think so.
it's rape culture.. she's justifying rape culture
Why would you assume that all men are sex chasing emotionless animals-
men are not! BOYS are 😌
Yeah, she saying men arent emotional creatures or whatever, all I can think of is what the fuck is wrong with her lol. Idk if she's ever had a chat with a guy or well, if she knows how emotions work. Really sucks too cause how men are told to repress their emotions and saying shit like that only makes it worst or just really shows the stigma of an emotional man. Really is fucked.
They’re not, she never said that.
She's not.
00:49 “men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” ??? she clearly thinks of men as animals and women as people who have to provide for them. neither of which are appropriate.
i could wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants to school and still have boys make comments about, it literally has nothing to do with modesty. there’s just boys that will sexualize anything and everything about me.
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This tbh
So? That doesn't mean modesty and what you wear doesn't matter and doesn't result in different results.
orphanedhanyou but it doesn’t matter how much skin or how little you show, there will still be men to comment on you.
BRUH SHE SAID “IF YOURE AT A PARK WITH FAMILIES AND CHILDREN, YOU DONT WANT TO BE DISTRACTING” LIKE THEY ARE GROWN PEOPLE AND CHILDREN THEY REALLY SHOULD NOT BE LOOKING AND IF THEY DO ELECTRIC CHAIR EXCEPT THE KIDS
edit: the electric chair is a joke. i don’t believe in that..... unless you’re a sexual abuser or a human trafficker bc you deserve death if you do that sorry
the-the chair?
LOLOLOL I READ THIS WHEN SHE SAID THAT
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Women being overly sexualized is really the fault of men and women tbh. There’s men out their that just act like creeps to be funny and there’s also women that are overly self-conscious or are attention seeking constantly. It’s a two pronged issue.
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Do you know the word "patriarchy"?
@@flexibleskedulePatriarchy is the state of human society. Without it you wouldnt have food in your table and without it you wouldnt even be able to have sex with whoever you want without getting pregant.
It has its downsides for women and men tho.
For women it comes oversexualisation.
Since you are the natural selectors, males interact with you because of sexual attention.
This creates issues(rape,creeps and oversexualisation)
For men it comes higher competition for mates,to the point where most of them will either be incompetent and die alone or either have to actively become far better than the mate they want to atract. Also this highly hierarchycal competence comes with more agressive and dangerous actions. So yes, technically they are less apreciatted,more likely to die and less likely to feel wanted.
I always hear the "patriarchy" thing but if I am being honest no man or woman created it,its subconsequence of human nature so It cant really be changed.
The invisible hierarchy in males is created by women by sexual selection of the "strongest" but it isnt women who created it,its the environment for humans to continute to exist,women MUST be selective thats why that hierarchy exists (it wasnt intentional)
The notions of what society is will alwaus be based on and driven by biological motivation.
Specially when it comes to surviving.
Also dont blame the guys who sexualise you in their minds,a healthy human male with healthy dopamine receptors gets a dopamine rush when he sees naked woman that he finds attractive and most men find most women somewhat attractive.
Your body objevtively isnt like the male body,due to sexual dimorphism so you cannot function logically with the same rules if you want efficiency.
Patriarchy is not a system,it is the human society's evironment and driven by gender interactions.
And no,nowadays in western world this environment is not trying to dominate women.
People are fighting an enemy that doesnt exist instead of solving a problem breaking it down logically
Yes it is both the women's responsibility to not dress overly provocative and also the men's responsibility to turn their vision away and not stoop down to that level and feed onto that scream of attention from women
@@SophiaHernandez-fp2uuit’s the women responsibility only before they leave the house they know what there doing they look at themselves and know what being put on display to say men should just not look is foolish I guess men should just walk with their heads down women just hate accountability
its not about “attracting the right man” or “respecting other people”. its about respecting yourself. if you feel good being modest then go for it, if you feel good showing off you go for it. respecting yourself is sexy.
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What if you walked around naked? Thats extremely disrespectful to the people around you. The way you dress also shows your character, you could make people think your a sl*t, no one wants to be known as that, its not something to be proud of.
Vee wolf Nudist colonies and nude beaches exist. You can walk around naked there buckko
Vee wolf I normally dress like a dude, are you gonna call me a dyke? Because no matter what the answer is, I still won't care. I'm not gonna live me life worried about other people's opinions of me. So if a person wants to show a little skin, let them. They do it for themselves, not for others. Naked and being clothed in a certain fashion are two completely different things, so comparing the two isn't gonna prove a point. But either way, nudists do have their own communities so they don't get charged with indecent exposure by the local Karen and Keith. In case you were wondering...
“When I’m 50, I hope people remember me for my accomplishments as a mother and as a wife... not my muscle tone.” Because of course the only women should be remembered for are there connections to a man. We should never to praised for our accomplishments on working hard for our own individuality and strength. 🙄🙄 This women is sexist and that’s a fact.
Dont forget about the part where showing your curves should be left in the bedroom.
Oh and don't forget all the women over the years who HAVE dressed provocatively who we know for their accomplishments like Britney Spears and Beyonce and Rihanna and Shakira and I could really do this all day
I want to be remembered as a good person who stood for what they believe in
First being remembered as a good mother is not about being connected to a man you can be a good mother without a husband. Second belittling those things and saying that being a good wife and mother are not “our own accomplishments” is insulting to stay at home moms they work hard to be a good mother and be good to their husband because they believe a beautiful family is an accomplishment and shows your strength as a woman and most definitely is hard work
@@alissajackson2820 you're perfectly right but "classically abby" is just perfectly incorrect XD
“It’s about how men are visual creatures not emotional ones.”
This is disgusting. Like honestly I hate people who assume men don’t have emotions. Besides that she criticizes people who dress ‘revealing’ and to be more ‘submissive and disgusted’ in themselves. Mainly women.
And honestly who tf cares if you dress modestly. Sure men might stare at you, but most assume it’s normal. Besides that I’m so tired of how women are told to dress more ‘beautifully’ then ‘sexy’ like oh my god
w h o c a r e s?
And so tired of this ‘lady’ PLEASE stop recommending this ‘woman’
Thank you
Also thank you.
If you care not to attract toxic people, this definitely matters
@@seaturtle5719 I dress very modestly according to most people's standards. I've attracted very toxic people, which is funny. Almost like maybe clothes aren't why toxic people target who they think would be vulnerable. Maybe stop victim blaming?
Katie D Johnson AGDKSFDKFV- EXACTLY
As a Christian, dressing modestly in not just about demanding respect to men. Our primary aim is to honor, please, and glorify God including the way we dress.
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@@MaryLab2930 got a problem?
@@adeleisnamedafterme “dressing modestly is not just about demanding respect to men” babes men deserve NOTHING from women. keep in mind that you can be assaulted no matter what you wear 💕 even if u dress modestly u can still be harassed by a man. maybe instead of telling women to cover up, tell men to keep their eyes and hands to themselves.
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amen
“Dress like GARBAGE” “I’m not criticizing anyone who doesn’t dress modestly”
Bro. You know this one hate women who are sexier than her. She just mad.
I think she meant that most modest clothing can look bad, tbh.
so basically she’d be a victim blamer? If a man can’t control himself that sounds like it’s his fault
definitely his problem😭
It’s not about “controlling himself”. It’s about having respect for others.
man cant control himself? sounds like a personal problem to me 🤧💅
Its SOMETIMES a dual thing, but if she leaves signs saying no, then yeah, it's his fault.
Definitely a victim blamer!
I don’t think I can “dress in a way that doesn’t sexual use my body” because I’m not sexualizing it other people are.
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It is possible to sexualise your own body, but you can't know intent just from a person's appearance.
"men are visual creatures, not emotional ones"
men are human beings goddamn
But we still get attracted to women wearing revealing clothing.
@@CaptainBones222 yeah but you can still control it. You aren't an animal and you have emotions
@@mitskilover_jenna You can also control what you wear and if your clothing sexualizes your or not
@@CaptainBones222 people can wear what they're comfortable with. It's your responsibility to treat them like a human being regardless of what they're wearing
@@CaptainBones222 again, I'm criticizing her comment because its like she thinks men are animals
A woman’s body isn’t the only thing a woman is good for. Saying women should dress modestly is giving off the impression that women must do things for MEN, when we are the ones who have had to cover up for hundreds of years because of men.
Maybe that's the impression YOU got from the video because I didn't see it that way. I would suggest to rewatch the video and listen carefully.
Vanessa Singh well Sometimes I just wanna be confident and wear whatever the hell I want. That doesn’t mean I don’t deserve respect in public.
Vanessa Singh or we can teach men not to think the world owes them everything. Women dress for themselves and no one else. She is implying that women dress only for men and attention. Maybe you should do your own research, both of you, on the sexualization of women and realize it’s not a womens issue it’s a mens issue
Dressing Modestly applies to men and women, it you’re not doing for someone else, you’re doing it for yourself to honour your body, and to honour God with how you dress, at least for me
Lolidk Hello exactly
Sorry why is my gay lesbian dressing/femme dressing being recommended this
*youtube is dumb-*
SAME
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No clue man but I'm a gay too. I ain't trying to attract no man
They're trying to convert us 🥺
why is she still paying for ads when literally every single comment is telling her we don’t care and stop paying for ads?
Her brother is Ben Shapiro I’m sure he pays for them for her
why are you still watching her videos if the views support her content
Olivia Baer because all of us commenting triggers the algorithm that this video has high engagement, which means it’s going to push this video on more recommendation lists... and she will find her audience this wa
Wow it's so cool that we get to use time travel to give women from the 19th century an opportunity to vlog
Women in the 19th century knew how to survive and keep society together in harsher circumstances than you will ever know. Maybe we should listen to them, instead of modern people choking on comfort-induced stupidity.
The best comment lmao
I'm dead 😭
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“Do you want to be noticed for being beautiful or being sexy?” Eh- both. “For your body or your wisdom?” Hmm- both.
Yeah true! Why you gotta chose one!?
Well you can't have both in every occasion, you will have to choose. That's life. Abby didn't say you don't have the right to dress as you like, you do. She just expressed her opinion on why we should generally speaking dress adequately based on purpose. Sexy does not work everywhere, as well as modest, strict, and so on do not either. If you go to a park with your children what feelings do you want to arouse to other parents or children? Sexiness? Strict? Maybe something more neutral, casual, happy so neither sexy nor strict would work. If you go to a business meeting and have a deep cleavage what do you expect others will look at? I mean It is logical that the attention will be drawn there, both for men and women. The same would happen if a man came to a meeting with super tight shirt and shorts showing off his ripped muscles and abs. Most people would be distracted. Well it is okay if that is your ultimate purpose. But don't whine if people don't focus on what you say because you got their attention with something else. Choose what you want, but every choice has a result and a consequence and you cannot avoid it or ask for avoiding it. This would only be possible in a utopian world.
Then as from a classical/conservative perspective she thinks that women (along as men) should be praised for their character, personality and achievements, not for their bodies or sexuality which only diminishes them to objects. She argues for praise and respect based on internal/profound traits vs. external/superficial ones. If we "still" believe in freedom of speech (which includes freedom of expression and opinion) then it should be okay for Abby to express her perspectives without being bullied for these or receiving false accusations. In a world where the other perspective is broadly accepted we should be open to listen to another. We do not all need to see things from the same perspective.
@Betty White Everyone we meet starts off as a stranger. I want to look beautiful and sexy all the time because I never know who I might meet.
@Alexandra Gialama Yes, I think everyone in the comments believes in free speech. That’s why they’re voicing their own opinions and interpretations of what Abby said. If you share a perspective there are going to be conflicting perspectives and consequences.
Exactly. I got a great ass and a few college degrees.
Soooo a girl gets called a hoe for wearing a strapless shirt cuz it’s “distracting” but guys go around shirtless showing their muscles off... totally not distracting. “Guys minds work differently” is a petty excuse.
Men can control themselves. We shouldn’t have to worry about their “urges”. That’s bs
CIA wtf that makes no sense
@CIA So you are blaming women for some men being creepy?
@CIA so porn makes a man unstable and horny all the time? 😂 understandable, have a nice day
manda panda yes it does, it ain’t rocket science
They can, but women also don’t make it easy for them to not think that way when she’s basically half naked
1:12 maybe the people in that family shouldn’t be paying that much attention to your body in the first place 😭
“At 50 years old, do you want to be praised for your body or your family?” girl, why not both?
She keeps referring to 50 as the magic number where a woman's ONLY worth is husband/children. By the time she's 50, she will see how life will take her smugness down a notch or two.
For my body, i’m not having a family ty 💅🏼
How about praising people for their contributions to the world? Pretty sure that’s a hell of a lot more Christian than either of her options.
If i had a rocking bod at 50 and was still as athletic and good at dancing as JLO people better be talking about it cuz it's a DANG BIG ACCOMPLISHMENT
You cant have both, idiot
Youve been fed all these lies that you can have EVERYTHING and its sad
“At 50 do you want to be praised for your body...or your family??”
Why is my worth contingent on if I marry and have children?
I don't believe that's what her intent was behind that statement. To me, that statement's value was whether or not an older woman would like to be praised for her body or for her accomplishments. It's no secret that this woman is a conservative influencer, so for her, an accomplishment may be that she is able to marry and have children. This may be different for you, but the value of that statement was most definitely not that you worth is contingent on if you marry and have children or not.
There are many different types of families out there.
Hope Fallerk the two Brown women she mentioned have had many accomplishments in their careers. To think that people’s heads are still exploding at that Super Bowl show is laughable. I don’t remember anyone taking out their pitchforks during the regular season when the Cheerleaders wore less than what was displayed at the Halftime show. I’m not judging them either. They are very beautiful entertainers as well. Getting married isn’t an accomplishment by any means. It’s something people decide to do. No one has gotten a participation trophy for getting married....just a certificate and a different tax bracket.
Athanasius Contra Marxism As a woman, the greatest and most important thing I can do is not having children. I can contribute a LOT mote to society than that. Any woman who doesn’t have kids doesn’t necessarily have cats, that’s a dumb assumption. Also the people who’ll be at my deathbed are family and friends.
@Athanasius Contra Marxism you do realoze mot everyone thinks like that tho? Many women think their greatest and most important accomplishment is to love a good life WITHOUT children.
The whole “women should do -this - so men don’t do -this-” thing is stupid. I feel like it’s harder to follow that than to just teach men at a young age how to behave...
Yeah if a hot man comes up to the mall dressed in hardly anything I'd like to see how all the ladies keep it in their pants. Our eyes are there for us to perceive the world around us. What you wear/ don't wear projects to society things about your personality whether you like it or not. Why do you think uniforms are a thing for most professions? Especially serious ones....???Can you imagine a doctor showing up in your room during an emergency dressed as a one-man-band??? TELL ME you wouldn't JUDGE THAT. lol Similar thing on a different level.
@@mikestarkly9226 i think anyone would understand with a braincell that dressing for work/clubbing/hanging out/date/visiting family...... Etc is different dumbass.
Mike Starkly I don’t condone ANYBODY sexualising anybody unless there is that level of consent. And uh yeah smart people don’t wear extremely revealing clothes in the work place.
You act as if women are saying that they don’t want to be sexualised but they can sexualise others. The lesson here is to teach people to fucking keep it in their pants.
Of course there’s certain places were there’s dressing etiquette. People know this.
The way you’re talking is acting as if your clothes justify being sexually harassed. When we should teach EVERYBODY. From a young age that consent is needed for those kind of remarks.
No form of sexual harassment is okay, so stop trying to justify one form of sexual harassment with sexual harassment.
If I decide I want to wear something I feel comfortable enough wearing, whether it is revealing, or completely covering me. I can still get sexually harassed or assaulted.
Instead of blaming it on clothing blame it on the education system that failed to teach our students about the importance in consent. If you remark something and the person looks uncomfortable or you two aren’t at that level of flirting whatsoever then don’t do it. It’s so easy.
Teach all students to respect each other’s boundaries and consent. If there is no level of consent don’t do it. Especially if somebody tells you to stop or they look uncomfortable.
lem_ahn He’s a Men’s Rights activist probably, I bet if a woman complains about period cramps he would go “MEN HAVE PERIODS TOO!!!”
@@mikestarkly9226 Guys walk around without shirts or with low hanging bottoms, or with those tank tops where the under arms are cut all the way down, like, huh?? They don't usually get harassed or cat called, and that's literally what youre saying lmao. Also, not shit a doctor would be in a ✨uniform✨ because they're ✨required to✨, and dressing professionally in the work place is also a given, so idk what you were trying to prove with that
The dislikes according to the API stand at 157k.
All I ask is that TH-cam stop showing me this content, I don’t care, you’re not going to tell me what to do.
witttlewholesome I’m assuming you’ve learned by now that blocking doesn’t work. With all this negative attention, it won’t really matter that much.
witttlewholesome I have never clicked on this stuff or anything related and just got it recommended so...
witttlewholesome this one showed up to me at the top of my home feed as an “ad”. People aren’t getting this content because it’s recommended to them, it’s getting pushed out because she paid for it to be an AD.
this gives me “she was asking for it” vibes that i really don’t like. NEXT.
This whole video was just that but in a more bulshitty way
100% agree
Ngl I feel like because victim blaming has become such a taboo (and very rightfully so), we tend go overreact when people are talking about clothes in a different context. She was talking about the attention you get and the impression you leave, not whether or not you are responsible for being sexually harassed.
Her ads keep popping up and so I wanted to see what she was and she seems like she’s apart of a cult😬
Exactly. Victim shaming is horrible.
We dress “immodestly” for the girls and the gays that’s it
period
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Haha YES queen
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That’s it girl 😌
This video is so disrespectful to men. You’re talking about not reducing ourselves as woman to sex objects while simultaneously saying men can’t control themselves and are going to think of us as sex objects. Don’t reduce men to animals. They are people.
Why tf did youtube put this on my recommendations.
This is the second time on mine and I already went off in the comments👾🙄😒
Em Me Karen
I thought the exact same thing like TH-cam r u trying to tell me something like ruuuude
@@NataliesArt Karen for the other side😆 I not bein told how to dress no thank u
Em Me I’ve literally been getting this ad EVERY SINGLE time I’ve been on TH-cam for what’s felt like an eternity smh my one source of comfort is that it’s wasting her money to be putting it there
bruh if a boy can’t focus on my personality only my body then he belongs to the streets
And that’s on periodt. We date men, not boys. If they like you for your body and nothing else, they ain’t it sis.
HELL YEAH
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Go off sis PERIODT 💅🏽
“I’m not shaming anyone for not dressing modestly” she says after she shames shakira and j-lo.
So you haven't seen the super bowl?
@@metallovingmusicnerd6081 they can dress how. they want and at 50 years old it would be amazing to be praised for my fit healthy body that god created for me than to shame other women for being healthy and fit and proud say that with time they won"t look as good, and people do praise them for having a family. people are just looking for an excuse to hate on others
@@lilyoreilly842 basically saying that stripteases deserve to get praised wow that's sad
metal loving music nerd everyone deserves praise/respect. hun we live in the 21st century, catch up
@@hihi-ug1fc I know I was born in the 21 century. I just think it's stupid to praise someone for being healthy and fit at an older age and then exploiting themselves on national television when it should be something all ages can watch with family.
Women listen, if a man is sexually attracted to you that's HIS responsibility not yours, if your exposure comes off to somebody as inappropriate that's THEIR responsibility. Your responsibility is to allow yourself to feel beautiful (whether modestly or not), your responsibility is to love yourself no matter what, and you responsibility is to understand your body is beautiful !
Right because people can choose what turns them on. Unless they are gay. Then you jump up and down screaming that their homosexuality is not a choice.
@@Dennis-nc3vw bro. If you are turned on by a woman whereing a tank top. That’s kinda weird ngl
Yes ofcourse, all the responsability is on men ( sarcasm )
K, I'm just a teen who tried to spread some love, I see I failed miserably 💀💀💀
@@Gen_-6012 Um, no it's pretty reasonable.
It outlines their body more.
“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Stop. Don’t throw all of them into a category.
And, as a dancer of 15 years, “dancing in leotards,” has been the norm since the beginning.
Men are emotional. That’s so weird that she made that false statement.
This video somehow managed to be misogynistic and misandrist all at once.
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Same(the dancing part)!
like...I've heard men say this...and like...do they realize that they are insulting themselves...
Well, If a man can’t focus because your legs are showing or your clothes are revealing, he’s not worth it and it’s his problem. period
Here's a thought: stop caring about how people present themselves and let them dress how they want. Perhaps people wear certain clothes because they, idk, like them.
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PREACH INDEED
Is she not allowed to share her opinion? She’s not telling people what to do, and even if she was, people are still entitled to make their own decisions.
Or how about care about the parents and children thats shouldn't be seeing you half naked, guys too
Joanna Boll The title is literally called "Why YOU Should Dress Modestly"
She's literally telling people how they need to dress, saying it's wrong for them to dress any other way, and even going as far as saying they look like "trash" if they don't dress the way she likes. I get her point about certain people being idiots who only care for tits and ass, but it's not her decision to make for others. I'm sure anyone who shows a little skin knows exactly what they're signing up for when going out in public, and has the courage to do so anyway despite those risks because that's what THEY like, not what they think others will like. If a person isn't completely naked or making public porn, then I don't see the issue. The way another person dresses isn't my problem to deal with, because to me, I'm the only person that matters. People need to stop focusing on how others live their lives and stay in their own lane. I dress basically as a dude with my oversized t-shirts, jackets and hoodies, and jeans and you don't see me getting peeved when a girl walks by in a crop top and booty shorts. I'll just think to myself how confident she is being in her own skin, not worrying about what those around her might think. And I respect that so much because honestly who gives af what others think? They can shove their opinions up their ass for all I care. This girl's opinion was just not needed, and outright disrespectful. I have absolutely no idea why this is showing up in everyone's recommended, but I'd say a majority of viewers can agree that she just needs to shut her pie hole according the the like/dislike ratio. If she cares so much about what others think of her, she could take the hint and take the video down. Or at least make an apology, because dear lord, she was insulting people left and right throughout this entire video who did not deserve those attacks.
Oh nO! God forbid a girl wears a short skirt 😨😱😱
I mean, it's about basic respect to those around you in public. There's short and then there's SHORT
OMG THATS NOT THE FREAKING POINT
"I'm not criticizing anyone" 5 minutes earlier: "Dress modestly, not garishly"
Why can’t females just dress for themselves? Whatever makes a girl feel confident or happy is the best kind of self respect. Ladies, stop worrying about what men think of you. It’s all about what you think of yourself. ❤️ *EDIT* I just wanted to add on that any negative comments you receive about your choice of style is 100% NOT your fault; So do you!! Thanks for 700+ likes 😘
@CIA well shit. I guess if it's in the BIBLE, I better find myself a nice, modest potato sack immediately. (sarcasm, btw).
@CIA When men fight with one another, and the wife of the one draws near to rescue her husband from the hand of him who is beating him, and puts out her hand and seizes him by the private parts, then you shall cut off her hand. Deuteronomy 25:11-12
@CIA all of these are passage from bibles so i wouldn't exactly follow what the bible thinks is an appropriate outfit
CIA You sound brainwashed
Because nobody dresses for themselves, we wear clothes for other people. If that was the case then why do people wear pajamas when they're at home? People that say "I dress for myself " are just lying to themselves.
Everyone has different concepts of “modesty”. I think many Muslims would say you are not modest enough. I guess it’s all your perception.
Usually these types of conservatives are entirely ignorant to different cultures. They say certain things are a woman’s job and some are a man’s.... a woman’s to be modest and “ladylike” and a man’s to be a breadwinner and dominant. In my culture it’s very different.... it’s just so odd to see her preach the moral goodness of women covering up as if that’s not just her culture’s beliefs and actually a moral statement to something? Women in my grandparents country often wore nothing but “skirts” in English. We don’t go about preaching how they need to cover up or risk being mistreated by male attention... us men simply... don’t harass and objectify life givers??? It’s not hard at all. It’s not the woman’s responsibility when a bad person objectifies her. America is such an odd place
sippingmychai ya but her point is the opposite of what ur saying basically....... this lady is judging ppl based off what they wear, Nd just like u said u don’t judge her, she shouldn’t judge anybody
Anglo-Saxon In Asia what’s wrong with u
@sippingmychai she's Jewish
DAYUM shots fired
I just noticed a pattern. Women who tell others to dress modestly usually dress to impress men, to prove them that they are not sex objects. While women who dress revealingly usually just don't care about men, its all about her body, comfort and style.
One person's opinion cant be a pattern, some people dress modesty because they feel better "don't forget that", it has nothing to do with man. "It is about privacy,". I like to keep some of myself only to myself because it is my right to privacy. Some people feel naked when they are wearing revealing clothes some don't feel that. For some people regardless of men or woman clothes makes them feel safe because they are able to keep parts of themselves only to themselves not for everyone to see. hope you understand what I mean.
“"You probably won't want to attract a man that only wants you for one night."
I mean, I’m a lesbian so that’s kind of a given lol
Plus some women are into one night stands 🤷♀️
DonaBologna in fact, some woman would rather *not* listen to the patriarchal “advice” on this video regardless of orientation! Strange huh? 🤔
Good thing she's not forcing you to watch then 🙂
@@chrisleenrobyn4121 she is forcing them into our suggested videos!
Chrisleen Robyn she literally pays for ads. if you don’t have personalized ads on, it possible to find her in your homepage, like me and many other people have
stop buying ads i’m getting tired of having to click “stop seeing this ad”
Ikr, this is so annoying and sexist
Literally! I’ve said I don’t wanna see this like 20 times but I still get them. You’d think the algorithm would pick up that I hate this stuff by now.
Brooo i blocked her! and shes not gone
Fatima Aboubakar omg same im so sick of her
Right? Does she not realize she's destroying her TH-cam career by doing this? Now she'll never grow
This video manages to be insulting to men and women at the same time lol
I know right! Men should be pissed about this video too. Seriously, she's insulting their self-control, men are able to control themselves, saying they can't is so insulting.
Also, what if you are gay? And not looking for a man at all. She is so infuriating.
Most of them all.
"Men are visual creatures, not emotional creatures." What the fuck? I know plenty guys who are just the opposite. Getting tired of her generalizations, seriously.
Omg yes- as a trans dude I wasn't sure which part to be more insulted about-
I’ll just be non binary then...
Came here for a female Ben Shapiro and I wasn't disappointed
same
You can respect your body without dressing “modestly” I dress like this because I’m comfortable with how I look and I love looking in the mirror and going damn that’s me I look goooodddd
You dropped this 👑
We love confidence in this household
queen!
“Men are visual creatures not emotional” how freaking toxic! Stop putting your men in these gross boxes!!! Also you can be sexy dressed modestly this is stupid. Over it.
period katelyn
THANK YOU! Men are NOT ‘visual creatures’ they are human beings with minds and hearts!! Geez 😒
I am a male and I agree to what she said
?? What who said?
Exactly. It’s so harmful when men feel like they can’t express emotions. That’s why the male suicide rate is so high
Did she really just say “dress like a sex object” the level of ignorance in that statement and is appalling
She’s not even being very clear... she could just be crazy. Just how modest is she really referring to? Does she also thunk denim jeans are too tight ? Tank tops are mischievous? Lol she’s probably repressing gay thoughts .. sounds like she’s looking at women as sexy objects 👀
Time stamp?
Moodys Point Idk, she’s got the crazy eyes and that’s the main thing I noticed when I started seeing her videos advertised and I’ve literally avoided even clicking on her videos until just now because I just couldn’t believe this was getting positive comments or anything, and I was right to not believe lmao.
thats what goes on in a mans mind whether you believe it or not
zahra barez and? They should learn to control themselves
„I hope that when I‘m fifty I hope that people will be talking about my accomplishments as a mother and a wife and not my muscle tone“ man, imagine being only remebered in connection with other people that sounds so sad
You liar, she also said she wants to be known for HER values. She literally said it in the same breath.
“Time always wins” Right after shaming J-lo and Shakira for showing off their great bodies at 50.
Do you expect them to look the same when they're 80 and long retired from popular culture? The point she's making is that they'll only be remembered for their bodies if you focus on that aspect. Rosa Parks, Susan B Anthony, and Eleanor Roosevelt (to name a few fine females of history) probably had bangin' bodies at some point, but that's not the focus of the impact they left on the world. Those women went down in history for their minds and actions while J Lo will be remembered as the 50 year old with a nice ass dancing at the superbowl and Shakira will be remembered for her hips that don't lie.
Mistieria whyre you comparing jlo to rosa parks
Mistieria yeah they'll definitely be remembered for only their bodies. Not their acting or music. Just their bodies.
Mistieria i HOPE you know you’re comparing women who were diplomats, social reformers, women rights activists, and civil rights pioneers (parks, anthony, roosevelt) to SINGERS and TV PERSONALITIES, who WORK to bring ENTERTAINMENT to you. just... think about it, smart stuff.
@@minminygyg My life and other American women's lives have been bettered by the existence of those three women and their accomplishments. What have J Lo and Shakira ever done for women? They can WORK to ENTERTAIN me all they want.
can y’all stop buying this woman’s ads i’m tired of seeing them
RIGHT
Fucking same
Omg TH-cam has been pushing this crap on me forever.
Same! I hate her toxic videos
ikr these types of ads that piss me off are the only ones i get
People can dress modestly or show lots of skin but the stereotype that women are only showing skin to catch attention is stupid
in the religious aspect of it, yes showing off your body is trying to get attention. When I say "trying to get attention" I don't just mean in a sexual way but you want to be noticed by what your wearing, you want people to look at you and think Oh she's cute, or I really love that dress or shirt. You want someone to look at you when you dress to show off. There isn't anything wrong with that because it does make people feel good when you comment on their clothing or how those jeans make your legs look good (in a non-sexual way) but to God, we aren't meant to be walking around showing off our bodies.
@She took The kids I’m pretty sure she said she was catholic. I could be wrong
It’s fucking hot out let me wear a dress dammit
EdgarAllenHoe you can wear a dress if it’s hot out but not to the point where your basically showing off everything God gave you
@@Justashley802 What’s wrong with showing off my legs? Can’t people wear what they want?
Modesty is important for both women and men. Both genders can be a distraction to the opposite sex if they are immodest.
You can tell how much she's just repeating whatever Conservative-Christian propaganda she's told when you realize this Jewish woman is literally not followed Jewish modesty laws in this video. I can see your collarbone dear...
And she’s showing her hair even though she’s married 😬
Also the fact that an entrepreneurial content-creating Jewish woman is telling the rest of us to stay at home in accordance to traditional Christian values feels insanely ridiculous. This video itself earned her a few thousand dollars in ad revenue lol
"Not criticizing anyone for it"
"Let's dress like the _LADIES_ we are"
Don't know about you, but sounds like she's throwing shade to the women who don't dress "classically"
also, she called clothing that isn’t modest “trashy” like ???
@@lxnatic6561 missed that because I had the video at 1.75x speed
but she's "nOt CrItIcIzInG aNyOnE fOr iT"
Yeah, we know her game-
yes omg
Yeah, screw that... if I wanna wear the baggiest pants in my closet and a tshirt that’s what I’m gonna do. If I wanna wear short shorts and a tight tshirt that’s what I will freaking do. Try and stop me.
wore a thong around a bunch of mostly lesbian women and all i got was respectable compliments about my outfit. wore skinny jeans around men and got my ass slapped. maybe it’s just a men’s problem... 👀
stfu😂
Anita King or you just lying
THIS. I’m a lesbian and did theater in school, which meant constantly changing in front and with other women. I’ve never taken advantage or assaulted any of them. In fact, most of the time I just stared at the wall or looked down.
@@Animeow08
wait what?
Skippy Kay same here, i’m a lesbian and a swimmer so i’m in a locker room with a bunch of girls changing and i’ve never even had the desire to do anything to them..
"Men are visual creatures, not emotional"
That's not my problem that's the Man's problem
If you were any less delusional you'd see the flaw there
You people scream yourself hoarse homosexuality is not a choice, yet you think every other aspect of men can be remade in your image.
I don’t know why TH-cam recommended this to me, a Muslim man.
Wow, the comments are hot aids.
What?
@@متين-ج4ز happy eid! (Late tho)
iheart Animatins hes muslim and most Muslims cover their selfs anyways
Sweet Capri lmao what is that supposed to mean? stop spreading false information
i was assaulted wearing jeans, a t shirt, & a jacket. it was winter & no skin was showing. the idea behind “the attention you get = what you’re wearing” is so. so. entirely. wrong.
I’m so sorry people who think like that are awful
I am pretty sure she means in attracting a potential mate/future husband. She isn't suggesting that someone should get assaulted because they wear something in particular. NO ONE SHOULD BE ASSAULTED FOR ANY REASON. EVER.
I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. Hope you are doing okay. Love and hugs. God bless
i was wearing a baggy shirt and sweatpants in the summer i agree with your point completely
Chelsea Fletcher what if you don’t want to get married?
I’m sorry that someone would do such a terrible thing to you and I hope you’re doing okay despite what happened to you.
not her saying “we shouldn’t make everything about sexiness” but she’s the one making a whole video about it.
ooop! tea
It’s the internalized misogyny of this whole video for me 😌✨🧚♂️
This is how I imagined the reception in hell
@@marinpapillon1269 Well i dont believe in religion. Just saying.
Yeah lol same
perfectly said lol
The way she says this but would lose her mind after seeing a Muslim woman's Hijab...
Exactly
Exactly
RIGHT lmao
You know it 😒
🙄🙄
No matter what I do, I keep getting ads for this.
I hope no one is buying that this is the only way to live. Live your life the way you want to.
Its one of the only ads on my recommend page. I have blocked them 5 times and they keep coming back. How much is she paying for these???
I thought I was the only one
Bro same, I'm like?? What am I looking at that makes someone think I want/need to see?
The fact that we are ALL getting this as an AD and it only has 600,000 views.. means the majority isn't even clicking on it cause nobody fucking cares about this topic at this point and she's even bringing in views from people discussing her and doesn't even have 1 mil views. Girl talk about something that will help the planet but I don't think she has anything in her mind that actually would do any good.
She's so insecure it's insane
I gotta say dressing modestly and dressing “provocatively” is DEFINITELY a preference. You’re making sound like women need to worry about how men view them which is SUPER SEXIST.
Frrr, its stupid to dress for men
Sexist for both men and women, she basically said all men are predators and it's the woman's fault to be raped
Sam Lee not exactly but yeah she is saying that all men are predators and we decide if we want to be an easy preys 🤢 which isn’t true, I feel like girls obsess over boys as much as boys obsess over girls and girls obsess over girls and boys over boys. Or they don’t obsess at all or not a lot. Ya know
Sam Lee "Men are visual creatures and if wear something revealing they’ll see you as a sex object" She acts like men are animals or some shit
@@ellakate3824 exactly, there's less sexual men and very sexual women as well. It's a fact men generally have a higher sex drive, doesn't mean he doesn't have morals tho
For Victorian people, what you dress is considered revealing and inappropriate. But not anymore, because the world has progressed, and you’re part of it…
So by your logic why don't we just all go naked?
@@Dennis-nc3vw And by her logic we should not even show our ankles because conservative is so good, and she’s not conservative enough.
Progress gave us weapons capable of destroying the world many times over, I dont think that progress is always something good to brag about it
@@MyViolador That’s why I’m suggesting her to dress more “modest” like a Victorian🥺
ma’am quit telling everyone that dressing immodestly is dressing like garbage... let us wear what’s comfortable 😤
What's popular or comfortable isn't always right. Treat your body with respect and take care of yourself.
@@Heather-oj7ps We can dress however we want and still be treating ourselves with respect and taking care of ourselves y'know 💁♀️
Heather if you’re wearing something uncomfortable that’s basically disrespecting yourself and making yourself feel like you have to meet beauty standards. Wearing what makes you comfortable is a great way to show your personality and your interests. You wasted your time replying to me.
W h o r e 💙
Mary Lennardi if you’re talking about me then no, I’m a little bitch is what i am💅✨
There’s a lot to unpack here, but I’m just gonna throw the whole suitcase away.
Everything was shit on, to be fair.
strane æons???
My fave response and I think I'll be adding my suitcase to your pile as well. Gonna just go ahead and move right along down the road to somewhere less conform-y.
🤣🤣🤣
@@isabelsellers1533 YES
She’s saying that men not being able to see you as anything other than a sex object is YOUR fault for what you wear. Just no.
this comment right here is why i love women(as friends)
I don't think she's saying it's your fault. I think she's just being realistic. Men see female bodies as objects due to evolutionary traits. You can pretend it's not true or use this knowledge to your advantage.
Sophia Troanska that is exactly what she’s saying. “being realistic” idm what you’re wearing, bad things will still happen.
Sophia Troanska Yep! I agree, all of that is true, except the woman in the video is saying essentially that it’s your fault they think like that due to what you wear. Does that clear things up? If not, let me know :)
Sophia Troanska what you’re saying is “boys will be boys” and that it’s not an Evolutionary trait, it is a learned behavior due to centuries of oppression against women. Just cause SOME ‘men’ objectify your body doesn’t mean ALL men do. Just like not all women are blindly helping this men objectify women like the creator of this video is.
Wow she really blamed women for what men do with their own minds and bodies. We could be wearing a trash bag and men will still be creepy towards us
Still not an excuse to sexualize ur body, at least respect women and stop treating us as an object!
Abby: “Men are visual creatures” Blind Men: Ma’am this is an arby’s
@Azur You say that if you mom get harassed, tf
l. m. a. o.
POV: You’re reading the comments while a conservative women lectures you in the background
*Jewish oml.
Literally me
Nah I pause it she’s too annoying
Nah, I hit pause.
I’m literally just here to read all the awesome comments (and hit the like button on them)
@@InktoEcho sammee
girl no ones gonna be talking about you when you’re 50 years old regardless
LMAO
Oh my 💀
Yall the only people who look good in their 50s are Tom Cruise and Audrey Hepburn.
Saying that women are only seen as sexy when the dress immodestly lacks nuance. Women can be seen as sexy and beautiful and interesting all at once.
Did she seriously say men are “not emotional creatures” Wow.
Yeah, this is exactly the opposite of what they teach you in sex ed. Actually, they teach that such a stereotypical line of thought is harmful.
I know ,that was a VERY bold statement that can easily be argued
Her husband must be a great guy
You don’t want women to be seen as “sex objects” but you want women to dress modestly to “leave things for the imagination” for men???
I mean I’d cover myself up too if like her, I looked like Ben Shapiro
It doesn't work like that though. When you dress modestly, you don't attract that much attention from many people. But when you're dressed modestly, and attract people with your personality rather than your body. It just makes them imagine what kind of person you really are. Imagining doesn't always mean thinking about sexual things. I don't get what you immediately thought of that. And she explained it thoroughly in her video too.
@@lunaolivianoelle we are talking about men. My uncle even said men will get off by the littlest things like school skirts and tight high socks and shoulders. When i dressed "modestly" i still got unwanted attention and I know they want to fuck me only but i told them i have better things to do . So dressing modestly does nothing!
Foxy Wolf I get way less attention now that I dress in baggy clothes. You can’t deny that how you dress makes a difference in how much attention you get.
@@lunaolivianoelle But if people really cared about you they'll learn your personality anyway.
Honey I dress for the girls and the gays that’s it
Peroid!
Omg me too 😌💅🏽
PERIODT
Periodt poo
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Respect, some people claim that men will sexualize you no matter what and this can be true, but the difference between dressing modestly and provocatively is the difference between having a do not trespass sign and having a welcome to all sign. Sure, some people will trespass no matter what, but if you say welcome to all then otherwise normal people who would normally not step into your house will trample all over it and feel justified. If you can’t distinguish between the effects of provocative dress and modest dress and you just pretend it’s the same because terrible people exist in the world, then you basically are a child who has no idea what surviving actually looks like. Surviving in a truly dangerous world means reducing risk of terrible stuff, you can’t escape it entirely. If you think men can escape the terrible stuff think again, we are always assessing how to avoid bad things happening to us. The world is dangerous, grow up, and realize that all we can do is our best to reduce our chances of terrible stuff, the rest is chance.
Top comment. Not the basic “my body my confidence” crap. Completely went over their heads, but this is all we (conservative men) are saying